Why do people always pick other people over their own children? Your children always be your #1 priority over anything. As a father or mother your job is to protect your children because they are young and still vulnerable. That is the ultimate sacrifice a parent can make for their children 😊
@ Tell me why a parent should even have to think about choosing their own children over someone else? I can see if your children are over 18 and can take care of defend themselves. But in this story, it’s a baby. This is the most crucial time when they need their parents love the most.. If your new spouse can’t even love your children what does that say about that person?
@@Nobodyxxx651 because we are not in his shoe so we will never know how hard it is. Besides he already have kids with her, should he leave those kids? I'm not saying it's right what he did but just saying that its not easy. It's the same thing with cheating and abusive relationship, why do ppl always forgive. Yes we on the outside will always say I will never tolerate that but when it happens to you, you will be blind as well.
It’s okay uncle. You did your best by giving her away.. don’t know why your son are mad at you. As a daughter if my step mother was torturing me and you had to give me away for a better life I wouldn’t even be mad but be happy for the decision… everything always happens for a reason..ya chill down, your not in the fathers shoes, you should never blame the father, all he did was give her a better life, a life he knew he would not be able to give her..
I agree! I don’t blame the father too much. He did what he can at that time but he has to carry that weight on his shoulder for the rest of his life because that was the route he chose for him and his daughter. It sounds selfish but she has a better life than living with him and evil step mother.
Faj lus rau tu me sister os.. kev tu siab mob siab kuv xav tia nej saws daws nyiaj yeej mobmob nyias txauv lawm 😢😢😢vim nyias muaj nyias kes nyuaj kuv nkag siab kj txiv kv kuj nkag siab nej cov me nyuam thiab .. txhob cia lig tshaj nos naws mog.😢😢😢
You made the right choice as a father when you married someone who loves only you and not your children. This decision doesn't mean you don't love your daughter or that you are giving her away; instead, it's to protect her from potential mistreatment by a stepmother. Choosing to marry someone like that is a difficult decision. If you prioritize your kids, your marriage may suffer. Conversely, if you favor your wife, your children might feel you have chosen the stepmother over them. In time, your daughter will understand your decision and will forgive you. May God bless you all, and have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Stop making excuses for yourself. As parents, it is your ultimate job to protect your children at all costs. No matter what the situation is. You failed your kids as a father. A wife or a husband can be replace but not your children. My heart aches and cry for your daughter.
Such a sad and bittersweet story 😭 My advice for the kids and the daughter is forgive your dad...he did what he could...we all can be upset at him for not choosing his kids but we don't wear his shoes and live his hardship..no one is perfect and we all make mistakes..but it doesn't mean he didn't love his kids. Not everyone make the smartest decision when living a life under pressure. But at least he apologized and owned up to his mistakes. Take the chance when you guys still have the time...and don't wait til it's too late. May you all find peace in yourselves 😢
Your sons and daughters don’t have to come to your aid because you were never been there for them when they really needed you and your protection from the evil stepmother…they owed you and your second wife…no heart feeling…I don’t think you deserve their love for what and your second wife did and tortured them when they were little, especially the baby daughter…sad…your wife can be replaced, but your kids can’t never be replaced…😩!
It's another story of "uv os, tsam koj txiv tsis muaj pojniam nawb". What a piece of shit you are as a father. The right thing to do was kick that wicked step-mother out the door and be a father to your children. Every decision you made has consequences so you need to accept their choices just like the choice you chose when you gave away your daughter.
Tus txiv ua tsi yog li os tug poj niam phem li phem twb tsi hlub yus tus me nyuam es tseem xum muab yus tu me nyuam tshem tawm xwb tus txiv dev no lim hiam
Your dad did what he thought was right at that time. He did what he can and I'm sure it was hard for him to. Both parties will never for get what's done but both parties has to for give eachother . don't let one of you closed your eyes because by then it's already to late to say or hear eacother . May the good Lord be by your side and heal all of you. Forgiveness is a act of courage and kindness ! Happy Thanksgiving from my family to everyone !
Awd ca tu siab ua lj kv mloog ce kv quaj nrog kj cov me nyuam zoo lm os qhov lawv cov nu muag sib hlub vim kj ua g tau txiv tiag yg lawv niam nyb ntshe lawv twb g raug sib cai
No matter how many excuses, bottom line, you chose the wicked stepmother over your daughter. And, you knew stepmother was wicked too, thats even more heartbreaking for your daughter.
She doesn't forgive you because you chose your new wife over her. What you should have done was divorce your new wife and keep your daughter with you....that's what a real father does!
Easier said now that we live in this modern world and not back then. How many hmong men back then would divorce their new wives and keep their kids? It's not the norm back then. It's easy to use our current circumstances and mentality now to judge decisions back then.
Sim me neej no ua cas txiv tuag niam hlub tau niam tuag txiv hlub tsis tau siab kawg koj ua ib leeg koj tsis tiv thaiv tej me nyuam 1 tug tsis cuag 4 tug koj cov me nyuam ua ncaj ncees kawg lawv niam tuag lawv twb tsis xav ua neej es tseem raug tsim txom kuv pab koj tu siab
He saved his daughter from being tortured. Just like husband killing their wife to prevent her from being raped over 100 times by Japanese soldiers during the rape or Nanking. Does that make him an evil husband? Think about it dude
I think you were between a hard place and a rock so you made the best choice for the situation. Your kids should be more understanding, especially if your daughter turned out fine. I feel this is the same as the mothers who choose to give their kids up for adoption, due to their circumstances.
Cov txiv neej hmoob tsi hais tiam twg, los yog tam sim no, lawv yeej ua tsi tau txiv tsev tiag qhov lawv ua tau ces yog txiv dev hmo ntuj xwb, kuv pom coob 2 tus li lawv yeej coj tib tug cwj pwm xwb, tu siab kawg li os.
Different time, situations n place. Making choices are hard. Your dad was making choices for himself. It's ok to either love or not love him..lub ntuj won't judge u. He already made his own bed. Plus he got his other kids from his 2nd wife..he just wanted people to feel sorry n sad for him.. LoL
At the end, no one love you like your blood brother and sisters 😢. Thankful for the sister in law and brother in law for loving your daughter. For your kids that never forgot their baby sister.
Wow totally understand this story. Best advice for widowers men, don't married a single girl while u already have 3 to 4 kids. Of course the new wife not gonna love ur children. That is exactly the outcome for ur marriage. U can't blame ur wife bc she has her reason for herself.
Koj cov menyuam hlob hais yog lawm os. Your purpose was to marry someone to love your children but in the end you were selfish and let one of your child go to keep a poj dab. How are you putting your children first!? You didn’t protect them. They have all rights to not care about you. You don’t understand you were still being selfish! If your words were true you would of let the poj dab go. Poj niam zoo muaj coob. You reap what you sow.
You comment show how ignorant you are. The father did not have money nor government help during that time. It isn’t like now that you can just divorce and have a good chance to remarry. The father had to borrow money to marry his second wife. He had no more money or can’t borrow more money to remarry. Also, during that time it is extremely difficult to raise children by yourself. You can’t take care of your children while farming and doing awhile lot of things to survive. The children are the selfish ones. They are ungrateful that if their father did not love them he would not had fight to bring them to America. The let go daughter should be grateful that her pain was only missing her dad and siblings. She didn’t have to go hungry and be tortured. Listen to this story and put yourself in the father shoes in the old time. Our time now is different than during the war time.
@@nouslee1638 shows how ignorant you are to the children. Everyone here is bias towards one of these persons right to be tu siab. But this culture doesn’t care for children as much as they give rights to parents. Ultimately he was selfish despite the time he lived in. he made a decision to let go of his daughter. A daughter is not as valuable back in the day also. Js. She didn’t need to “go hungry and be tortured” if he let go of his wife but he choose to let his daughter go, because of “his own hardship”. So his marriage did not serve the purpose he so proudly talks about. Ill give him credit for trying because he does sound like thats all he could think to do in that situation but at the end of the day his choice was selfish. He chose to save his marriage (with the women who caused the whole issue of this story; she caused the issue of “to go hungry and to be tortured” omgeee!). He still reap what he sow, and it is unfortunate.
@@blueberrysmilie1 you failed to understand the situation and the time they live in. You failed to understand the lifestyle and needs and wants of their time. In their time (war time), marriage of two people provides a better chances of survival for the whole family than just one spouse. There for he made the best choice for his family, there for it was a selfless choice. You take his choice of his 2nd wife as an easy choice and a selfish one. Yet, you have very little understanding of the pain he endured when letting his child go. This man is the least selfish of all the people in this story. You talked about “rights.” Do you know that they lived in the mountains of Laos with very little civilization? These people had no real structure laws or processes of laws. They are the products of their time and we can not judge them because we don’t live in their times. There for your view of this is from the perspective of “now” instead of “then.” There for your argument is a fallacy due to lack of knowledge.
@@nouslee1638 I understand the time they lived in and all what they don’t have, but that doesn’t make a selfish decision not selfish. You only think about what the father went through. I still don’t agree with you, he made his decision. These kids have their rights to be tu siab at their father despite the time and situation. If you were understanding you’ll realize those kids lost more than him. It ultimately doesn’t matter. Agree to disagree.
Nej cov txiv neej ces tsuas ntshaw poj niam ob ceg xwb yeej hlub tsis tau me nyuam kiag li niam twb tuag lawm na es vim li cas koj twb yog txiv es tsis tiv thaiv cov me nyuam tseem via Luag tsim txom tej me nyuam twb yog yuav los hlub cov me nyuam ntag es tseem tsis hlub thiab ces tso mus mam yuav dua xwb!
Doesn’t matter what generation you’re in, I don’t understand how any parents could discard their children, especially at the request of someone else. You can’t compare your daughter’s love for her children to your love for her. What you did to your kids, you can’t expect or pressure them to let by gone be by gone. The lifetime trauma and damages you did to those kids are horrible.
She is upset bc you’re still defending your wrong actions. You chose what made you happy instead of your daughter. Reminds me of @borti0n. Doing the wrong thing in the name of “I had no choice”. Just admit you were wrong!
Neb txhob tu2 siab os mog Kav Tsij lo sib zam txim nawb mog Tu txhaum ce Yog niag niam tshiab siab phem siab me Xwb es zam txim mog txhob cia txog hnub ib pa nqu Tsi tuaj lawm mam lo hai qhia thiab quaj ce lig2 lawm mog yu Tsi muaj niam lawm ce yu yeej ntxim2 ntxhub es txhob tu2 siab zam txim rau koj txiv os mog
Pojniam phem li ko muab nrauj xwb moj kj ces pluag pojnm dhaus lm ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb tej mes nyuam xwb kj yg txiv kj twb tiv thaiv g yau tej mes nyuam g tsim nyog hlub kj lm os
There are lots of comments blaming the father of this story. In my opinion, the father did his best given what he had to go through; war, no money, needing a partner to help the family survive. The children need to imagine themselves in a war torn situation and losing the love of their lives while stuck raising 4 children by themselves. The children would poop their pants if they were in their father’s shoes. This man should be celebrated for his perseverance in making sure his children survive and brought to a country of opportunity. His children should shower him with love instead of hate and resentment. There are plenty of children during that time that was left behind to die and children who lost their parents on their way to Thailand. These father’s children are ungrateful and selfish with a small heart. Hope these children will open their eyes and really try to understand their father and give him their love and respect m.
Txiv ces yeej xum nyoo poj niam ob ceg es cia tej me nyuam tu siab. Koj yeej ua tsi taus txiv koj hais tsi tau koj niag poj niam siab phem. Nws txawm phem npaum cas los koj pheej nyoo cia nws tsim koj cov me nyuam ces txhob tu siab. Kuv mas yog tsim kuv me nyuam mas kuv muab nws ncaws xwb yog tseem tsis nyoo ces muab tso mus xwb.
Txiv tuag ces muaj niam hlub niam tu, Yog niam tuag ces me nyuam tau lub kua muag..nim qhuav ntxim xwb mas ntuj os teb aw..kuv yog koj pab me nyuam los kuv yeej tsis k thiab ntuj mas txawj ua ntuj tshaj hehe😅ua ntuj tsaug tshaj os..
Heart breaking for both of them and their reasons are both right. There will always be the why but thru it all find forgiveness for urself and move past it. Theres worse endings. U cant change the past but u can change the present and future. Prayers to everyone in the family.
Yeej yog tim koj tus ua txiv 75% lawm thiab txawm koj cov mi nyuam tu siab rau koj los tsim nyog kawg lawm tsam no cia koj cov mi nyuam uas yug ntawm niam yau hlub koj xwb mas yawm txiv
Kuv tsis nkaj siab tias yog vim li cas es nej cov txiv neej ho xaiv tus pojniam tximtom nej tus me es ho tsis xaiv tus me nas kuv mas xav kom nej zoo22 nawb yeej tsim nyog koj cov menyuam tu siab rau koj thiab thaum koj pom koj tus pojniam ua phem rau koj pab menyuam lawv yog 4 leeg koj tus pojniam yog ib leeg xwb ua cas ho tsis tso nws mus zoo dua no mas txiv neej lub siab ces yeej xaiv tus pojniam xwb menyuam yuav txomnyem siab ntsws npaum cas los xij peem ces tsam no zoo li no mas txiv neej hmoob aw!!!
I'm on your kids side against you. Koj yog 1 leej txiv yuav 1 tug pojniam los tsim tag 1 pab menyuam. Tsimnyog koj tso 1 tug pobdab mus es cawm 1 pab. Koj yuav tau lwm tus pojniam tabsis yuav tsis tau koj pab menyuam.
Koj yog ib tug txiv neej ua tsis taus txiv. Tus pojniam twg tsis hlub koj cov me nyuam muab nws tso mus mam nrhiav dua tus tshiab xwb cas koj ho ua tsis tau es tseem xum muab koj tus me nyuam tso mus li ko. Koj tsis yog txiv neej yawg.
Cov me nyuam tsim nyog yuav zam txim rau nej txiv nawb ho tus niam hluas txiv hluas es tu tus me nyuam ntawv los tsis tsim nyog yuav txwv tus ntxhais vim neb twb yog tus niam hluas txiv hluas kiag
zam txim rau koj txiv thiab mog viv ncaus aw. koj txiv los tej zaum yeej txom nyem txaus lawm thiab os
Tu siab kawg li os tab siv mus saib koj txiv thiab nawb ua ntej thaum tseem muaj txhua yam os mog tus viv ncaus.
Your kids did the right thing. You chose your wife over your kids, and now they chose each other over you. To each their own.
Why do people always pick other people over their own children? Your children always be your #1 priority over anything. As a father or mother your job is to protect your children because they are young and still vulnerable. That is the ultimate sacrifice a parent can make for their children 😊
Easier said then done. Just saying
@ Tell me why a parent should even have to think about choosing their own children over someone else? I can see if your children are over 18 and can take care of defend themselves. But in this story, it’s a baby. This is the most crucial time when they need their parents love the most.. If your new spouse can’t even love your children what does that say about that person?
He let her go so she wouldnt have to suffer abuse from the stepmom.
@@Nobodyxxx651 because we are not in his shoe so we will never know how hard it is. Besides he already have kids with her, should he leave those kids? I'm not saying it's right what he did but just saying that its not easy. It's the same thing with cheating and abusive relationship, why do ppl always forgive. Yes we on the outside will always say I will never tolerate that but when it happens to you, you will be blind as well.
Because he saved his daughter from being tortured. Easy for you to say cause you don’t know ship
It’s okay uncle. You did your best by giving her away.. don’t know why your son are mad at you. As a daughter if my step mother was torturing me and you had to give me away for a better life I wouldn’t even be mad but be happy for the decision… everything always happens for a reason..ya chill down, your not in the fathers shoes, you should never blame the father, all he did was give her a better life, a life he knew he would not be able to give her..
I blame the sister n law for not letting the siblings see each other and cutting ties too.
@@dohcvtecboywhy? She has every right to not let them see baby sister again.
I agree! I don’t blame the father too much. He did what he can at that time but he has to carry that weight on his shoulder for the rest of his life because that was the route he chose for him and his daughter. It sounds selfish but she has a better life than living with him and evil step mother.
Remember he said he kept the older ones because lawv txawj2 ua teb lawm. That’s mean the kids probably suffered alot
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Faj lus rau tu me sister os.. kev tu siab mob siab kuv xav tia nej saws daws nyiaj yeej mobmob nyias txauv lawm 😢😢😢vim nyias muaj nyias kes nyuaj kuv nkag siab kj txiv kv kuj nkag siab nej cov me nyuam thiab .. txhob cia lig tshaj nos naws mog.😢😢😢
You made the right choice as a father when you married someone who loves only you and not your children. This decision doesn't mean you don't love your daughter or that you are giving her away; instead, it's to protect her from potential mistreatment by a stepmother. Choosing to marry someone like that is a difficult decision. If you prioritize your kids, your marriage may suffer. Conversely, if you favor your wife, your children might feel you have chosen the stepmother over them. In time, your daughter will understand your decision and will forgive you. May God bless you all, and have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Stop making excuses for yourself. As parents, it is your ultimate job to protect your children at all costs. No matter what the situation is. You failed your kids as a father. A wife or a husband can be replace but not your children. My heart aches and cry for your daughter.
Such a sad and bittersweet story 😭
My advice for the kids and the daughter is forgive your dad...he did what he could...we all can be upset at him for not choosing his kids but we don't wear his shoes and live his hardship..no one is perfect and we all make mistakes..but it doesn't mean he didn't love his kids. Not everyone make the smartest decision when living a life under pressure. But at least he apologized and owned up to his mistakes. Take the chance when you guys still have the time...and don't wait til it's too late. May you all find peace in yourselves 😢
Zam txim rau koj txiv os mog. Thiab muab lub sib Hawm no mus hlub koj txiv 1 zuag es koj thiab tsis tu siab mus txoj hnub tsis muaj koj
Oh yo txiv neej ces kawg xaiv tus niam xwb yeej tsis yuav tus ntxhais ib zaug li os nej cov txiv neej nas
Yog kawg
It's very hard decision to let ur child go. U made the right choice at that time. Hopefully ur children can forgive u someday
Thaub laus aws, koj tsis txhob keb2 os. Koj nim ua cuag li nws ib leeg thiaj li muaj khoom pojniam thiab yog pojniam nyob hauv ntiaj no xwb. Koj yog txiv koj twb tsis tiv thaiv koj cov menyuam es leejtwg thiaj li yuav tivthaiv lawv na? Koj cov menyuam yeej tsim nyog tu siab rau koj lawm os. Hais ntau los yeej tsis muaj leejtwg qhuas koj li.
me viv ncaus aw txhob tu siab thiab o tej zaum kj txiv yeej tag txoj hau kev lawm thiab o
tus txiv tsev no ce tuag zoo dua vim nw xav txg nw txoj kev zoo nyob xb
Your sons and daughters don’t have to come to your aid because you were never been there for them when they really needed you and your protection from the evil stepmother…they owed you and your second wife…no heart feeling…I don’t think you deserve their love for what and your second wife did and tortured them when they were little, especially the baby daughter…sad…your wife can be replaced, but your kids can’t never be replaced…😩!
Those who agree with this OG are no different than him. Neeg ruam tsis muaj siab ntsws.
It's another story of "uv os, tsam koj txiv tsis muaj pojniam nawb". What a piece of shit you are as a father. The right thing to do was kick that wicked step-mother out the door and be a father to your children. Every decision you made has consequences so you need to accept their choices just like the choice you chose when you gave away your daughter.
Koj tus me nyuam los yeej ua yog lawm hos koj tus ua txiv los yeej ua yog lawm thiab os mog ❤😢
Tus txiv ua tsi yog li os tug poj niam phem li phem twb tsi hlub yus tus me nyuam es tseem xum muab yus tu me nyuam tshem tawm xwb tus txiv dev no lim hiam
Stop making excuses. Blame yourself
Txoj dab neeg no tu siab tshaj li hos lawv ❤❤❤
Thaub txhob dag li ko ma, nws tsis yog qhov ua koj muab koj tus ntxhais tso mus lawm, nws yog tias cov ua nrog koj nyob koj yeej tsis pab es cia niam tshiab tsim lawv es lawv thiaj tu2 siab tsis xav hlub neb, tamsi koj tsis piav txog tej ntawv koj tsuas tias lawv tsis hlub koj vim lawv chim txog lawv tus muam xwb.
Koj hais yog tshaj plaw
Your dad did what he thought was right at that time. He did what he can and I'm sure it was hard for him to. Both parties will never for get what's done but both parties has to for give eachother . don't let one of you closed your eyes because by then it's already to late to say or hear eacother . May the good Lord be by your side and heal all of you. Forgiveness is a act of courage and kindness ! Happy Thanksgiving from my family to everyone !
I agreed! 😢🥺🥺🥺
She was inconvenient for his new life. Typical man.
Awd ca tu siab ua lj kv mloog ce kv quaj nrog kj cov me nyuam zoo lm os qhov lawv cov nu muag sib hlub vim kj ua g tau txiv tiag yg lawv niam nyb ntshe lawv twb g raug sib cai
No matter how many excuses, bottom line, you chose the wicked stepmother over your daughter. And, you knew stepmother was wicked too, thats even more heartbreaking for your daughter.
He chose the mushroom he licked
Txiv neej ces kawg ntshai tsi dhau hmo li koj xwb os ib tus mi nyuam xwb xum yuav tus rshiab 😢😢😢😢
😢😢😢😢cas tus siab ua li o
Txiv neej ce tsi muaj tu niam lawm ce yeej zoo li no twb ntsib lawm tu2siab li o
Txiv neej tsis muaj noob res ces yog tus no
She doesn't forgive you because you chose your new wife over her. What you should have done was divorce your new wife and keep your daughter with you....that's what a real father does!
Easier said now that we live in this modern world and not back then. How many hmong men back then would divorce their new wives and keep their kids? It's not the norm back then. It's easy to use our current circumstances and mentality now to judge decisions back then.
Sim me neej no ua cas txiv tuag niam hlub tau niam tuag txiv hlub tsis tau siab kawg koj ua ib leeg koj tsis tiv thaiv tej me nyuam 1 tug tsis cuag 4 tug koj cov me nyuam ua ncaj ncees kawg lawv niam tuag lawv twb tsis xav ua neej es tseem raug tsim txom kuv pab koj tu siab
Cas yuav tau 1 niag poj dab los ua koj tus niam tsev os Brother aw...Tu siab tshaj mog
Yawg dab ces tau poj dab mos
Tsis muaj leej twg paub yog tsis yog nws lub neej. Tu siab tshaj li. Vajtswv thiaj paub xwb.
You failed as a father. How can you live with yourself? Nobody can love your kids more than you.
He saved his daughter from being tortured. Just like husband killing their wife to prevent her from being raped over 100 times by Japanese soldiers during the rape or Nanking. Does that make him an evil husband? Think about it dude
Yes! Don’t have kids if you can’t protect and provide for them.
He's a dead beat dad...
I think you were between a hard place and a rock so you made the best choice for the situation. Your kids should be more understanding, especially if your daughter turned out fine. I feel this is the same as the mothers who choose to give their kids up for adoption, due to their circumstances.
He didn’t have to choose her. He could have chosen a wife who could love or at least accept all his kids.
Koj cov menyuam ua yog lawm, nej cov txiv neej yeej xum xaiv neej cov poj me cab xwb haum nkau xwb.
Kj ces tuag tau lm os
Niag tsov tom laus no yeej yuav tiag tsis qi muag ntag. Nws twb lees zoo zoo tias nws tsuas ntshai tib qhov uas pw tsis dhau hmo xwb. Tsis tag li, thaum twb tuaj laus tag rau tebchaws no lawm los nws twb yeej tsis nrhiav tsis nug tus menyuam hmoo vim nws tsis xav koj nws lus niag nceb laus chim xwb.
😢lost of words. So sad glad your sons are 5x a better man than their father.
Ntuj os lawv kv tseem mloog ncaj thaum kv noj mov thiab mas kv yuav luag daig caj pas os cas yuav mob siab tu siab ua luaj
They are just some un grateful children
Koj twb tsis hlub lawv yeej tsim nyog lawv tsis hlub koj lawm mog
Cov txiv neej hmoob tsi hais tiam twg, los yog tam sim no, lawv yeej ua tsi tau txiv tsev tiag qhov lawv ua tau ces yog txiv dev hmo ntuj xwb, kuv pom coob 2 tus li lawv yeej coj tib tug cwj pwm xwb, tu siab kawg li os.
Yog kawg kuv tus txiv kiag twb coj tau qia neeg li no thiab mas xyov peb cov txiv neej hmoob yeej zoo li nolo
Zam txim rau koj txiv mog txhob tu siab koj rau txiv es hlub koj txiv mog koj txhob ua li kuv vim tu siab rau txiv heev kuv tsis zam txim nws es hnub kuv txiv tuag kuv mam pom nws txoj hlub twb lig rau kuv lawm
Different time, situations n place. Making choices are hard. Your dad was making choices for himself. It's ok to either love or not love him..lub ntuj won't judge u. He already made his own bed. Plus he got his other kids from his 2nd wife..he just wanted people to feel sorry n sad for him.. LoL
At the end, no one love you like your blood brother and sisters 😢. Thankful for the sister in law and brother in law for loving your daughter. For your kids that never forgot their baby sister.
Niag txiv dev ntawm ko cov me nyuam tsis tsim nyog ua txiv hnub rau li os
Từ siab heev peb cov tsis muaj niam xav muaj niam uas yug seb niam ho hlub li cas pom luaj tej muaj niam yug e mus ua neej.muaj niam noos moo 😢
Zoo kawg uas cov me nyuam txawj tu siab koj tus niam tshiab neb ces nyuam qhuav haum xwb
Wow totally understand this story. Best advice for widowers men, don't married a single girl while u already have 3 to 4 kids. Of course the new wife not gonna love ur children. That is exactly the outcome for ur marriage. U can't blame ur wife bc she has her reason for herself.
Koj cov menyuam hlob hais yog lawm os. Your purpose was to marry someone to love your children but in the end you were selfish and let one of your child go to keep a poj dab. How are you putting your children first!? You didn’t protect them. They have all rights to not care about you. You don’t understand you were still being selfish! If your words were true you would of let the poj dab go. Poj niam zoo muaj coob. You reap what you sow.
Yes!
You comment show how ignorant you are. The father did not have money nor government help during that time. It isn’t like now that you can just divorce and have a good chance to remarry. The father had to borrow money to marry his second wife. He had no more money or can’t borrow more money to remarry. Also, during that time it is extremely difficult to raise children by yourself. You can’t take care of your children while farming and doing awhile lot of things to survive.
The children are the selfish ones. They are ungrateful that if their father did not love them he would not had fight to bring them to America. The let go daughter should be grateful that her pain was only missing her dad and siblings. She didn’t have to go hungry and be tortured.
Listen to this story and put yourself in the father shoes in the old time. Our time now is different than during the war time.
@@nouslee1638 shows how ignorant you are to the children. Everyone here is bias towards one of these persons right to be tu siab. But this culture doesn’t care for children as much as they give rights to parents. Ultimately he was selfish despite the time he lived in. he made a decision to let go of his daughter. A daughter is not as valuable back in the day also. Js. She didn’t need to “go hungry and be tortured” if he let go of his wife but he choose to let his daughter go, because of “his own hardship”. So his marriage did not serve the purpose he so proudly talks about. Ill give him credit for trying because he does sound like thats all he could think to do in that situation but at the end of the day his choice was selfish. He chose to save his marriage (with the women who caused the whole issue of this story; she caused the issue of “to go hungry and to be tortured” omgeee!). He still reap what he sow, and it is unfortunate.
@@blueberrysmilie1 you failed to understand the situation and the time they live in. You failed to understand the lifestyle and needs and wants of their time. In their time (war time), marriage of two people provides a better chances of survival for the whole family than just one spouse. There for he made the best choice for his family, there for it was a selfless choice. You take his choice of his 2nd wife as an easy choice and a selfish one. Yet, you have very little understanding of the pain he endured when letting his child go. This man is the least selfish of all the people in this story. You talked about “rights.” Do you know that they lived in the mountains of Laos with very little civilization? These people had no real structure laws or processes of laws. They are the products of their time and we can not judge them because we don’t live in their times. There for your view of this is from the perspective of “now” instead of “then.” There for your argument is a fallacy due to lack of knowledge.
@@nouslee1638 I understand the time they lived in and all what they don’t have, but that doesn’t make a selfish decision not selfish. You only think about what the father went through. I still don’t agree with you, he made his decision. These kids have their rights to be tu siab at their father despite the time and situation. If you were understanding you’ll realize those kids lost more than him. It ultimately doesn’t matter. Agree to disagree.
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Nej cov txiv neej ces tsuas ntshaw poj niam ob ceg xwb yeej hlub tsis tau me nyuam kiag li niam twb tuag lawm na es vim li cas koj twb yog txiv es tsis tiv thaiv cov me nyuam tseem via Luag tsim txom tej me nyuam twb yog yuav los hlub cov me nyuam ntag es tseem tsis hlub thiab ces tso mus mam yuav dua xwb!
Ho yau mob hlwb dhau lawm hlub neb ob txiv tub ib yam nkaus
Txij hnub kv hnov kv txiv qhia kv txiv lub siab txoj kev tusiab rau kv tas ces kv npaj siab hlub kv txiv kom txaus xwb os. Txhua zaj neej neeg me nyuam ntsuag ces yeej quaj tas li xwb os. 😭😭😭 Txoj kev ua ntsuag tsi muaj leej twg xav tau. 😭😭😭
npaum li no los hmoob twb tsis txawj sib hlub kom hmoob muaj teb chaws los mas
Tu2 Sian mloog ces kuv kua muag los2
Tu siab tshaj li os 😢😢😢
Doesn’t matter what generation you’re in, I don’t understand how any parents could discard their children, especially at the request of someone else. You can’t compare your daughter’s love for her children to your love for her. What you did to your kids, you can’t expect or pressure them to let by gone be by gone. The lifetime trauma and damages you did to those kids are horrible.
She is upset bc you’re still defending your wrong actions. You chose what made you happy instead of your daughter. Reminds me of @borti0n. Doing the wrong thing in the name of “I had no choice”. Just admit you were wrong!
Koj cov menyuam kuj tsis phem thiab os kwvtij
Cas poj niam muaj coob os cas yuav hlub tsis tau koj tej menyuam os cas kuv yuav pab hlub ua luaj os
Neb txhob tu2 siab os mog Kav Tsij lo sib zam txim nawb mog Tu txhaum ce Yog niag niam tshiab siab phem siab me Xwb es zam txim mog txhob cia txog hnub ib pa nqu Tsi tuaj lawm mam lo hai qhia thiab quaj ce lig2 lawm mog yu Tsi muaj niam lawm ce yu yeej ntxim2 ntxhub es txhob tu2 siab zam txim rau koj txiv os mog
Ib leej txiv ntxim ntxub tshaj plaws kuv zoo siab kuv txiv tsi coj li koj os kuv niam tshiab ua phem rau peb kuv txiv muab peb niam tshiab ntaus kiag xwb hov
Sad story. Makes me cried. Missed my mom.
Koj yog ib tug txiv qaug qeb heev
Luag tias ua tsis taus txiv ces zoo li ko tiag.
Tsej muaj txiv neej dev. Koj tob pojniam qab tiab xwb.
Pojniam phem li ko muab nrauj xwb moj kj ces pluag pojnm dhaus lm ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb tej mes nyuam xwb kj yg txiv kj twb tiv thaiv g yau tej mes nyuam g tsim nyog hlub kj lm os
If you made a decision to protect your children from your wicked evil wife, you would not have to give your baby girl away.
Cas es yuav tu siab kawg os lawv aw hlub koj tus ntxhais os lawv aw
There are lots of comments blaming the father of this story. In my opinion, the father did his best given what he had to go through; war, no money, needing a partner to help the family survive. The children need to imagine themselves in a war torn situation and losing the love of their lives while stuck raising 4 children by themselves. The children would poop their pants if they were in their father’s shoes. This man should be celebrated for his perseverance in making sure his children survive and brought to a country of opportunity. His children should shower him with love instead of hate and resentment.
There are plenty of children during that time that was left behind to die and children who lost their parents on their way to Thailand. These father’s children are ungrateful and selfish with a small heart. Hope these children will open their eyes and really try to understand their father and give him their love and respect m.
Kheev kuv lam muaj ib tug.
Txiv ntxawm nws yog hmoo os nawb. Nej cov me nyuam kav tsik tu siab tiag.. lwm hnub mas kawg yuav hnov los lus paub li... thov kom koj ntsib kev noj qab nyob zoo nawb. Txhob xav ntau ntau thiab.
Most men always pick new women over their own kids 😢😢
You can always find a wife, but a child you never will again.
Yog koj hlub ces koj yeej tso tus pojniam phem ntawm mus. Vim koj yeej hlub tus poj niam ntawm tshaj koj cov menyaum. Rau qhov tus poj niam ntawd muaj lub pov haum rau koj hmo ntuj ces yeej muab tus ntxhais mus kom koj txhob pom tus me ntxhais raug tsim txom ntawm koj ib qhov muag xwb
Txiv ces yeej xum nyoo poj niam ob ceg es cia tej me nyuam tu siab. Koj yeej ua tsi taus txiv koj hais tsi tau koj niag poj niam siab phem. Nws txawm phem npaum cas los koj pheej nyoo cia nws tsim koj cov me nyuam ces txhob tu siab. Kuv mas yog tsim kuv me nyuam mas kuv muab nws ncaws xwb yog tseem tsis nyoo ces muab tso mus xwb.
Tu siab kawg li os .
Hopefully oneday your children will understand your struggles and pain, and they will forgive you and love you
Txiv tuag ces muaj niam hlub niam tu,
Yog niam tuag ces me nyuam tau lub kua muag..nim qhuav ntxim xwb mas ntuj os teb aw..kuv yog koj pab me nyuam los kuv yeej tsis k thiab ntuj mas txawj ua ntuj tshaj hehe😅ua ntuj tsaug tshaj os..
Heart breaking for both of them and their reasons are both right. There will always be the why but thru it all find forgiveness for urself and move past it. Theres worse endings. U cant change the past but u can change the present and future. Prayers to everyone in the family.
Koj Yog ib niag txiv dev laus. Kuv xum cia koj lub nceb lim hiam tsim txom koj cov menyuam koj tsis xum tiv thaiv lawv. Qhov kev tusiab ntawd cov menyuam tsis Yog vim koj xaiv koj lub nceb ho Yog vim koj xib tim rua muag plias ntsia ntsoov koj pojniam tsim txom lawv.
The truth is, you can't be a good father in my eyes...😂😂😂
Yeej yog tim koj tus ua txiv 75% lawm thiab txawm koj cov mi nyuam tu siab rau koj los tsim nyog kawg lawm tsam no cia koj cov mi nyuam uas yug ntawm niam yau hlub koj xwb mas yawm txiv
Ua tsis taus txiv, ntshai yus hmo ntev es tsis muaj peevxwm tiv thaiv yus tej menyuam. Koj yug kiag koj twb tsis yuav koj tseem xum muab rau koj tus niam hluas txiv hluas tu, hnub no koj txhob tu siab txawm lawv tsis hlub koj los koj txhob tu siab
Kuv tsis nkaj siab tias yog vim li cas es nej cov txiv neej ho xaiv tus pojniam tximtom nej tus me es ho tsis xaiv tus me nas kuv mas xav kom nej zoo22 nawb yeej tsim nyog koj cov menyuam tu siab rau koj thiab thaum koj pom koj tus pojniam ua phem rau koj pab menyuam lawv yog 4 leeg koj tus pojniam yog ib leeg xwb ua cas ho tsis tso nws mus zoo dua no mas txiv neej lub siab ces yeej xaiv tus pojniam xwb menyuam yuav txomnyem siab ntsws npaum cas los xij peem ces tsam no zoo li no mas txiv neej hmoob aw!!!
I'm on your kids side against you. Koj yog 1 leej txiv yuav 1 tug pojniam los tsim tag 1 pab menyuam. Tsimnyog koj tso 1 tug pobdab mus es cawm 1 pab. Koj yuav tau lwm tus pojniam tabsis yuav tsis tau koj pab menyuam.
Cov niag txivneej uas cia nws niag pojniam tshiab tsim txom nws cov menyuam ces khib nyeob dhau lawm. Cov niam tshiab uas tsim txom lwm tus menyuam ces muab coj mus hlob kav hlau kiag xwb.
Koj yog ib tug txiv neej ua tsis taus txiv. Tus pojniam twg tsis hlub koj cov me nyuam muab nws tso mus mam nrhiav dua tus tshiab xwb cas koj ho ua tsis tau es tseem xum muab koj tus me nyuam tso mus li ko. Koj tsis yog txiv neej yawg.
Tsis paub tias uas cas txiv neej es pojniam nyuam qhuav tuag tau ib, ob hlis xwb txiv neej twb mus yuav duas lwm tus pojniam los tsim txom tej me nyuam lawm. Koj xav tias tus niam hluas thiaj hlub tau koj tus ntxhais, es cas koj tsis xav tias twb tsis yog tus txiv hluas yug nws puas yuav hlub mas? Koj yug kiag koj twb hlub tsis tau. Koj twb tiv thaiv tsis tau ces txhob tus siab. Dhuav cov txiv neej tsis muaj peev xwb, ntshais tib qhov tsam poj niam tshiab tsis pub nrog pw uas kes ces thiaj cias tej menyuam raug tsim txom xwb.
Koj Yog ib niag txiv dev laus. Kuv xum yuav lub nceb lim hiam koj tsis xum tiv thaiv koj cov menyuam.
Koj cov tub tsis nyob koj qhov chaw lawv tsis nkag siab koj txoj kev xav
Me ntxhais kuv Koj Los zam txim pub koj Txiv thiab kuv yog ib tug Phauj hmoob tsis txheeb nej nawv mog es Koj ho Tig mus hlub Koj thiab nawv mog hauv lub ntiaj teb no tsis muaj ib tug zoo li yus txiv lawm mog
Cov me nyuam tsim nyog yuav zam txim rau nej txiv nawb ho tus niam hluas txiv hluas es tu tus me nyuam ntawv los tsis tsim nyog yuav txwv tus ntxhais vim neb twb yog tus niam hluas txiv hluas kiag
Yus txiv xaiv luag ces yj tu sb tshaj
Koj yog ib leej txiv siab phem heev tsis tsim nyog hlub koj li os
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Kuv tau taub koj cov me nyuam txoj kev tus siab. Koj yeej tsis tiv thaiv koj cov me nyuam😢😢. Txhob muab2 txim rau me nyuam ev, vim koj twb tsis tiv thaiv koj tus ntxhais thaum nws pab tsis taunws tus kheej.
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