Thank you for sharing this interview. The section from about 10:50 to 16:52 explored the idea that during a dialogue between two people who disagree, "I need to care more about you than about changing you" as Adam summarized it. Tara articulated well how curiosity and calm listening by a person, whether it's called "motivational interviewing" or "Humble Inquiry" (great book by Edgar Schein), can help uncover a belief which may be hurting the believer. By creating a kind, accepting space, her friend helped Tara understand that she didn't even like holding onto those unkind ideas. She was able to change and maintain her integrity. Thank you for highlighting such important elements.
I believe it's disrespectful to be late when you have made arrangements with someone. I agree with Tara and her approach to humanity and not trying to prove herself 'right' in the face of others' skepticism.
Read her book. What a rough series of events she had survived through between the abuse and car accidents (no seatbelts). Her father had interesting concepts but also seemed to possess unwarranted paranoia. Very interesting individual Tara turned out to be.
Hmmm. Adam Grant: I'm not late "if something important is dependent on me." Are you saying that the person you are late for is not that important? Are you assuming they are not depending on you being on time? IMVHO being late is a form of stealing another person's time and/or options for that period of time. They put off and changed other events to be there on time for you. Just because you feel great when someone is late and you use that time on the computer and phone does not mean it is the same for them. Deeply disrespectful.
Thank you for sharing this interview. The section from about 10:50 to 16:52 explored the idea that during a dialogue between two people who disagree, "I need to care more about you than about changing you" as Adam summarized it. Tara articulated well how curiosity and calm listening by a person, whether it's called "motivational interviewing" or "Humble Inquiry" (great book by Edgar Schein), can help uncover a belief which may be hurting the believer. By creating a kind, accepting space, her friend helped Tara understand that she didn't even like holding onto those unkind ideas. She was able to change and maintain her integrity. Thank you for highlighting such important elements.
I believe it's disrespectful to be late when you have made arrangements with someone. I agree with Tara and her approach to humanity and not trying to prove herself 'right' in the face of others' skepticism.
Read her book. What a rough series of events she had survived through between the abuse and car accidents (no seatbelts). Her father had interesting concepts but also seemed to possess unwarranted paranoia. Very interesting individual Tara turned out to be.
This is a good interview 😊
Tara, why do you rarely give interviews?❤❤❤
Very interesting. Comment to interviewer - examine your own narcissism and/or need to control others re: being on time
[00:20:47] Tara Westover:
The Power of Influence. -->Does anyone know the author of the book she recommends???
Being late is really disrespectful to the person who is waiting for you.
I think conspiracy theories make narcissists feel special. They know the secrets.
‘You can’t waste my time’ - wastes everyone else’s. FYI - guess what being late has in common with conspiracy theories?
Hmmm. Adam Grant: I'm not late "if something important is dependent on me." Are you saying that the person you are late for is not that important? Are you assuming they are not depending on you being on time? IMVHO being late is a form of stealing another person's time and/or options for that period of time. They put off and changed other events to be there on time for you. Just because you feel great when someone is late and you use that time on the computer and phone does not mean it is the same for them. Deeply disrespectful.
Interesting to frame it in terms of property rights. Do you like anthropology? I think it's cool
This guy has a real problem epathizing with people who believes things he thinks are incorrect
Disappointed with Adam Grant