@banquetoftheleviathan1404That is creative af and I love it. Makes me want to write a story about it. It could also make a great superhero movie lol. Much respect to you
Yes. I had some neighbors once, where this was screamed very loudly by the wife ~'you don't beat / love me!'. Very disturbing. Worth pointing out there was some heavy drug use (he talked about formerly using meth), and they lived in significant poverty. Never really talked to her - she never seemed friendly. Also 99.9% sure this was an entirely 'offline' thing, not some modern phenomenon.
I think a lot of it has to do with thier parents being absuive to them or eachother. They grow up seeing parents being absuive and think thats the norm. When they grow up they are so messed up from it that's what they expect in thier own relationships.
Yeah i was thinking they’ve been in some really bad environments for relattionships if they’re thinking like that… to think the only way to have an interesting relationship is to abuse or become abused
My dad and I were watching a movie once and a guy asked a girl if he could kiss her to which she responded 'yes' and then they started kissing. My father, with a visibly displeased look on his face ironically yelled out "oh, are we gonna start requiring people to sign down consent papers now or something?!". I'm glad to see less of this mindset in the younger generation now.
There is nothing wrong with finding a partner who is willing to take control and just knows wordlessly when to make a move attractive. However, this dynamic requires a lot of bonding and discussion beforehand; expecting this level of camaraderie from the beginning is not only delusional, but *dangerous.*
As someone who prefers non-verbal consent, thank you. Most romances act like if it's true love, he'll know *exactly* what you want, how you want it, & to the extent it goes. Magically. These women make guys think they shouldn't take us at our word after all, it's frustrating.
@@Harudodo not really maybe I just don’t know the “definition” of the slang but it’s okay to interact with others and engage in conversation you’ll never know if you like someone if you’re too snobby to even speak
I agree. When guys do it, it's creepy and dangerous to women. When women do it, it's mostly cringe, but also dangerous to women. Because if most guys are alone with most women, there's little the woman can do to physically stop the man if he really doesn't care about her consent. Or is led to believe that you have to act like you don't because of some BS they read online.
That very first one though, like her: want a man who literally does all the work and buys me flowers every week. Also her: I'm not a damsel in distress. Listen, if you can't even do your own dishes, you're not escaping a dragon on your own, just saying.
It's weird cos naturally I agree with you, but when I consider my own relationship it defies that norm. My current partner of 3 years is only my partner cos he chased me for months. I was the epitome of putting walls up and pushing ppl away who got too close. Early on I told him I could never make him happy so he should move on, believing it fully. Since we fell in love and I've had therapy I'm grateful he never gave up, even if maybe he should have.
even if I KNEW she was "playing hard to get" I'd just leave her alone. We have at least three great titles released this year, so if I want to play games, I'll just boot up my PC.
Good communication is key in any relationship, so why penalize fast texting? Statements about high maintenance attracting wealth or introducing drama to "spice things up" seem misguided at best. I've learned that relationships are built on compatibility, shared goals, and mutual respect. Also, trust is fundamental; so not allowing your partner to have friends of the opposite sex or going through their phone is not only controlling but shows a lack of that basic trust. At this point in my life, I'm looking for something real and meaningful, not a relationship based on arbitrary rules or superficial judgments.
Right? Most social norms are already stupid, & they become dumber in the texting world. Who cares about responding immediately?? My forgetting to check my messages & not answering for hours or days must make me sexy as hell, then.
I've always found the whole "no female friends" or "no male friends" thing in straight relationships wild Obviously its toxic af to project that level of jealousy or insecurity (seriously, get therapy) but also I actually consider it more of a red flag if someone I'm interested in doesn't have friends of different genders. Fair enough if thats just how things have worked out for you friendship wise, but if you're intentionally not befriending people who have a different gender than you, it just seems like you're incapable of viewing them in a way that isn’t sexual and/or romantic and that you don't respect women or men or nb folks outside of your attraction to them
Hate that people actually are glorifying being high maintenance or playing mind games in relationship stuff. The whole “playing hard to get” bullshit has ruined people’s brains to think that a relationship should be a competition of who can pretend to care less, and also it puts the idea in creeps’ heads that every person who rejects them secretly loves them. Like I swear honest and sincere love or even infatuation is amazing when reciprocal. The fact that there’s actually people who get grossed out over a partner responding too quick to texts or something like that is wild. If I love someone and they’re somehow even more passionate abt me that’s like the greatest feeling, although like an equal level of passion is ofc the ideal
I really find it disturbing to think that someone could believe that if your lover isnt beating you it means they dont love you. What level of dysfunction do you need to hit to reach that line of rationale?
Growing up in a toxic and abusive environment where agression is praised probably. I live in a country where toxic masculinity is heavily praised and a lot young women especially the less educated ones unfortunately have very similar thoughts
I used to be one of these. Then I realized I am a non-binary lesbian in a conservative, rural area. So naturally, I doubled down. Then I started a new school and started an LGBTQIA+ club. Now I live in one of Europes most gay cities.
@dsfmdiya7500 cool! The reason I call Berlin "the most gay city" is because of a list constructed by a Swedish LGBTQIA+ magazine. They said the top 3 gayest cities in the world are Sydney, Berlin, and San Francisco. That was in 2015, tho, so it might have changed.
These women are all major red flags and as a woman I appreciate a level headed guy like you pointing it out. Not turning into a justification for misogyny or tarring all women with one brush like some incel channels do, but just encouraging everyone to take accountability for their shitty behaviour. Women are just as capable as men of being toxic and entitled. Justice for Andrew at 1:48 too cos he did not deserve that. That actually made me mad ngl. Poor guy :(
So many women get mad when I tell them I'm gay when they hit on me it's ridiculous cuz like I'm not saying you are ugly I'm just saying I don't like women
Idk if it's just me, but whenever someone refers to themselves as high maintenance that's a massive red flag. I want a partner that doesn't expect me to take care of them like i'm a babysitter, i want someone that knows how to take care of themselves
What’s crazy about this is that dating apps have become a common ground for this behavior. I’m so tired of carrying conversations just for one answer responses.
Hi Sam! Just wanted to pop in and say I just found your content not long ago and I absolutely adore listening to you! You have the most smooth and silky voice and I am truly enjoying going back through your older content. Thanks so much for continuing to create, despite the difficulties. You're an inspiration and it's trans creators like you who helped me find myself, even at over 30 years old. You're amazing, my dude. Thanks for everything. ❤
Hey sam I am new here and I just wanna thank you because of you I got to know that I am trans otherwise I was thinking that I was insane but things aren't better that much because I don't know what to do I am just scared and i don't know what to do I am just going through a really tough time right now but I know that everything is going to be but right now it's difficult but I will keep going through and I know will find a way just like you did so thank you so much again You are like a big brother to me love you ❤
Ah don't we love the digital world we live in where people of all genders have free rein to advertise themselves as they really are. But hey at least if they do that it can help you dodge a bullet. Lol these videos are so funny to me watching Sam Collins's videos are really some of the highlights of my days :)
I really feel for that guy whos been single for 3yrs-im in the same situation after my long term ex and i split thej took some time for myself and so i decided to try an app as well and wow, trying to get more than a one line response without it being somehow my fault! Lol i dunno, maybe ive just gotten old 😂
@@asole100 nice to know I'm not alone 😉 I've been dating a lovely Polish woman for the past month or so so maybe something will come of that-i hope so because the area of Scotland I live in isn't very big and I can't imagine there's much single women around my age left to try and talk to 🤣
@@asole100 yeah I think so-i mean we met on Friday and walked down to the river to sit in the sun intending to be there for the afternoon-we got there at 2pm then next thing we knew it was 7.30pm but we hadn't realised as we'd been talking for so long and just enjoying each others company 😂 and on Monday I asked if she'd like to meet again as she's off from work and I had the dentist (I said don't worry about it if you're busy or it's a bit soon) and I didn't think she'd want to since it was only Friday we last met but I asked anyway and she said she had intended on going to the gym as she's been missing going lately but would rather meet up with me so that seems promising. She's not came right out and said "I like you and want to be with you" though but she has a 15yr old boy and so I understand her wanting to be sure and she also told me the last guy she was with about a year ago was a total asshole to her and she later found out he'd been cheating with a couple different people at the same time. So I can totally understand her being cautious due to those things but as I said I THINK things are going in the right direction and she likes me. Unfortunately I can be kinda unsure of myself sometimes though and when I don't know exactly where I stand I sometimes worry but I like her and I think that break I had after my long term relationship helped so I'm going to give this time-the last thing I want to do is pressure her because I wouldn't want that done to me
Okay this has nothing to do with the actual content of the video but the lighting is absolutely gorgeous 💗 I don't know if that was intentional or just the sunlight coming through the window or something but it's super pretty!
‘Nice’ people on either side are horrible and manipulative and I’ve found that a lot of times the incel ‘nice person’ mindset coincides with general lack of respect for people, their boundaries and they’re usually groomers. Gross people
Love you Sam , wishing you a wonderful weekend., Sorry but I can’t watch anymore… I’m having a bad ADHD day and those sad excuses for people annoy me too much
“Nice guys” and “nice girls” are so annoying they think that Just because someone doesn’t want to date them or have preferences on who they date makes them a bad person. Like, it doesn’t mean they don’t like nice people they just don’t like you 💀
1:47 WTF? sure it's a silly photo, but I think he's handsome! probably out of my league too. god, some women suck. he was being so nice and had nothing to do with her.
I honestly hope that girl that feels “bored” in her relationship because he isn’t abusing her gets help and talks to him about it. This is sadly an extremely common thing for victims of abuse to experience in later, healthier relationships.
1:53 I would be so pressed if someone randomly texted my number I try to make them feel better for being ghosted and they called me ugly afterwards and the cherry is that I didn't even do anything That's the day I would have to clap back with some vile life destroying text just to balance the scales then block them
me when a girl called me a loser for trying to make sure I wasn’t assaulting her (I asked if she wanted to be touched and she launched into how sad that was)
4:42 OMG not the divine feminine energy discourse. It’s very Lululemon pole dancing class where the toxic students set the rules. P.S. The other person seemed chill.
13:23 Honestly, what I do to spice up my friendship is I get into their interests. Me and my friend watch different things, and recently, she told me I should watch Good Omens. I, at first disagreed. But I realised.. hey, I mean, why not. Something to talk about. Then I binged the show and now we talk about it. It’s nice.
They give girls like me a bad rep, I'm literally drowning out here lol. Every guy in dating apps expect me to be a "nice girl" and they really don't believe when i don't care about height, just let people live lol
@@SupraMan38idk many women who give a shit about height, there were a couple in high school but when I started to make my own friends that bs has gone away. I think they probably gather in packs. That makes them easier to avoid 😂
I’m a 5’9” bi woman, so I’d prefer a taller partner, but height is not at all a dealbreaker for me, hell it’s not really that important. It’s a mild preference at most.
The way some of these people talk, it's like they're evaluating products for purchase. It's like that late capitalist CONSOOM mentality is so deeply pervasive that now we need our spouses and partners made to order. I don't understand this, i don't think I'd be able to date if I was ever single again.
i get the texting thing tbh because when you're a person who doesn't like texting and a dude immediately starts always texting you everyday all the time when you meet it puts such a power imbalance cause i feel the pressure to text at the same rate but i find it draining to always have to text someone back
I have to agree with the person above-just let the guy know and I'm sure a lot of the time they will understand and leave you to txt when you feel ready and if they don't you know the guy isn't for you. I just say "msg me whenever you're free and want to" because I find it easier on both people but a lot of guys think they are showing you their interest in you by texting like this that's all..so honestly just let them know and I'm sure things will be at least a little better 😊👍
I've been guilty of "why is this fat/less educated/attribute here" woman getting married and I can't even get laid. In my case, I was bullied as a teen and then ended up in therapy where they basically told me to "work on myself hard" to achieve my goals. So I lost weight, went back to school etc. Sometimes it's hard not to feel like one is working in vain and to express one's frustration with life not being fair - especially when the other type of nice girl, my friends who keep complaining that all men in their life secretely want to fuck them/ eventually hit on them, keeps reminding you/me of how unusual your experience is. Basically, I don't think fat, ugly, whatever people should/can find love/happiness, I just don't know what to do to increase my ability to achieve those things and wonder what they are doing different, because I am doing what society asks me to do and it hasn't been bearing fruit. Not meant to justify fat-shaming or whatver, just adding some perspective. I know I have low self-esteem, but going for years without any male attention while friends complain about it, just sucks.
Back in early 2000s I tried making an eharmony profile and got matched with a hippie girl who loves animals. After a few messages I read that eharmony got hacked and I thought, "you know... intimacy online really can't have privacy" and stopped dating online. I also don't sell my family albums to facebook etc. It's best if you don't take your dating app interactions beyond what you would say and do at a singles bar. Assume you are in a crowded environment and act accordingly but also remember that this way Sam would have less haters to hate on. 😄
The apples at the top of the tree analogy is weird. All that sunlight just means that they'll ripen first. That's it. Ladies, dont wait for a man to pick you. Fall directly onto his head. Just demolish his frontal and parietal lobe with your fruity majesty.
I used to describe myself as "high maintenance" because my exs described me that way, but I'm actually just autistic and disabled physically with something I'll be on chemo for the rest of my life for. (And i needed accommodations so i was treated even worse than the other women they dated that they hated) But I've also been guilty of judging people too early, taking things as red flags when they weren't, and i used to act out on my resentment towards men in relationships because I've always had a horrible life and struggled to stay housed and the only people that would "offer to help" me, were men that had bad intentions (which is how i was groomed and ended up in another country the moment i turned 18 to be with an incel.) My HOPE is that these people are young and still have learning and growing to do. My hope is they go to therapy and understand they're acting out and punching down. Im 27 now, long away from all that (i mean, it started young.) And the thought process back then was just normalized, conservative, heteronorms (also my mom reinforcedthat we're objects bc shes ex mormon and so has those awful beliefs.) Men treated me like an object> i treated them like a wallet. Obviously thats not a good way to live- i cringe at my old self. Im not excusing the behavior, im trying to unpack it. Kind of like how amabs who are incels, usually have a strange relationship with their mothers. A lot are children of pick me women, who were told by their mother to hate women. And there's a lot of other factors I've been thinking about recently. Again, doesn't excuse it but helps me to know where it started. (I'm Two Spirited and 4 years in the most healthy relationship I've had.)🪶
12:55 can’t people who want this just ask their partner to do roleplaying or something? They can act like the “drama” is happening but it won’t have any real consequences and won’t harm the relationship or her partner. You may need a good imagination and both would need at least some acting skills but it’s better than making a relationship toxic
"I don't do drama" Also no female friends, I have to be able to go through your phone, you'll always know I don't need you and could leave you anytime ......... yeah, alright then
The girl who's mad because the guy was gay... she said "all you guys do this to me" (in other words). Like... how many men have you slept with that then claimed to be gay?!?
"How will you handle being in a relationship with a woman who is significantly more successful and attractive than you"? If I were a dude on a first date with her, my response would be "I'll let you know when I find her." :P
My bisexual ass cpulw care less if my partner are in "masc or fem energy" two people can be fem lmafo and guys intune with his fem side is hot. And that from a fem woman soooo
08:49 you're absolutely right, they never deserved you, No one has cheated on me ..and I only dated guys. That means you're better than them.. and me(?)
Oh god I remember when my parents forced me to go to mormon church with them when I was young. That apple tree story was on the wall of the young women's classroom rip.
09:40 those last few bumper stickers scream "I'm the cool girl" 12:30 this screams alot of things let me list them off 1. A comment on Kennie JDs video on the Asylum film Bound saying "being in a healthy relationship is a kink but y'all don't want to talk about that 2. They seem to have soaped too much toxic romance from fictional stories And 3. Alot...ALOT of internalized misogyny Also 4. No seriously this is why people call out toxic relationships portrayed as romantic in fiction because it leads TO SHIT LIKE THIS
If you're a person, who is so hungry for drama in your life that you willingly would hurt your partner by cheating on them you are a maniac. How can you acively chase the" drama" and the stress when you can just live a good live? You either have to be super young and stupid (we all know that special being young kinda dumbness), super insecure or just have a seveare case of "I am the main character"-itis... Or: maybe you're just a shitty person
I mean, all cringe aside...the poster has a point. Dating a mystical fruit wizard who can create 6 pieces of fruit at a time (figs no less!) without expending a spell slot (this happens at least 1 day a week presumably spontaneously, so it's a cantrip), knows our personal boundaries and calls us beautiful is something that ticks of relationship goals for pretty much everyone. I mean fig wizardry is the hardest school of magic but also the most powerful and second only to hedge wizardry.
6:45 If he's anything like me, then 127lbs is only "pretty" if she's also under 5 feet tall. I'd be much happier with a woman like in the picture than a woman who's skinny. Of course it depends on a lot of factors, like how no matter what she weighs, a person that shames others without any provocation, you're a 0 in my eyes
to be fair if a man is able to MAKE figs out of thin air wouldnt that make him a god? Shit I want a man that can manifest stuff at will
I wish I could
@banquetoftheleviathan1404That is creative af and I love it. Makes me want to write a story about it. It could also make a great superhero movie lol. Much respect to you
If I could manifest stuff at will, I'd manifest a girlfriend lol
Six ENTIRE figs?? King shit
Being upset because your boyfriend doesn't abuse you or cheat on you is INSANE.
Yes. I had some neighbors once, where this was screamed very loudly by the wife ~'you don't beat / love me!'. Very disturbing. Worth pointing out there was some heavy drug use (he talked about formerly using meth), and they lived in significant poverty. Never really talked to her - she never seemed friendly. Also 99.9% sure this was an entirely 'offline' thing, not some modern phenomenon.
i know someone who is attracted to someone BECAUSE they are a rapist. What the fuck
I think a lot of it has to do with thier parents being absuive to them or eachother. They grow up seeing parents being absuive and think thats the norm. When they grow up they are so messed up from it that's what they expect in thier own relationships.
@@thegoblinking. Probably. Also probably a history of that in their lives.
Yeah i was thinking they’ve been in some really bad environments for relattionships if they’re thinking like that… to think the only way to have an interesting relationship is to abuse or become abused
My dad and I were watching a movie once and a guy asked a girl if he could kiss her to which she responded 'yes' and then they started kissing. My father, with a visibly displeased look on his face ironically yelled out "oh, are we gonna start requiring people to sign down consent papers now or something?!". I'm glad to see less of this mindset in the younger generation now.
Wait but I'm confused. It is wrong to ask or something 😂
@@seun5338older generations can see it as a mood killer. They seem to think they can read everyone in every instance. It's ridiculous lol
@@seun5338no it isn’t but normally in films they don’t ask
People are soooo weird about that LOL some ppl just like to ask to kiss instead of going for it! Cmon dad
@@parker4340 I hope that will become more frequent in media. It sets a nice example for the viewers
Gosh I hate consent it’s SUCH a huge turn off 🙄
Consent? More like cringe-sent ( I’m sorry )
@@idkwhattohaveasausername5828I laughed. Don’t worry
😂 but there is something about it😏
BRING 🔈BACK 🔈 NO 🔈 CONSENT
@@SupraMan38💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
There is nothing wrong with finding a partner who is willing to take control and just knows wordlessly when to make a move attractive. However, this dynamic requires a lot of bonding and discussion beforehand; expecting this level of camaraderie from the beginning is not only delusional, but *dangerous.*
Agreed
say it louderrrrrr
As a bottom, yeah 💀 communiction and trust is the key to pretty much every relationship
The stories tell us to expect this.
As someone who prefers non-verbal consent, thank you. Most romances act like if it's true love, he'll know *exactly* what you want, how you want it, & to the extent it goes. Magically. These women make guys think they shouldn't take us at our word after all, it's frustrating.
The sad part is that a lot of women see no issue with being a “nice girl”. It’s mind blowing lol
They gotta clean 🧼 it up
It’s an issue to be nice to someone? Wow
@@torosbarrio4853 Please tell me you’re being sarcastic 😭
@@Harudodo not really maybe I just don’t know the “definition” of the slang but it’s okay to interact with others and engage in conversation you’ll never know if you like someone if you’re too snobby to even speak
@@torosbarrio4853he described what it means in the beginning of the video i think but also you can look it up.
God the amount of ego these people have is not only annoying af but it's extremely hurtful mostly to themselves 😭✋️
So yucky
😂😂
I agree. When guys do it, it's creepy and dangerous to women.
When women do it, it's mostly cringe, but also dangerous to women.
Because if most guys are alone with most women, there's little the woman can do to physically stop the man if he really doesn't care about her consent.
Or is led to believe that you have to act like you don't because of some BS they read online.
That very first one though, like
her: want a man who literally does all the work and buys me flowers every week.
Also her: I'm not a damsel in distress.
Listen, if you can't even do your own dishes, you're not escaping a dragon on your own, just saying.
LMFAOOOO TRU
Literallyyyy and clearly she DOES actually care if she stays single. Otherwise why even be on the app
5:20 i hate women who say this kind of stuff bc then men believe we're just playing "hard to get" when we say no when all we want is to be left alone
YES
So true!
It's weird cos naturally I agree with you, but when I consider my own relationship it defies that norm. My current partner of 3 years is only my partner cos he chased me for months. I was the epitome of putting walls up and pushing ppl away who got too close. Early on I told him I could never make him happy so he should move on, believing it fully. Since we fell in love and I've had therapy I'm grateful he never gave up, even if maybe he should have.
even if I KNEW she was "playing hard to get" I'd just leave her alone.
We have at least three great titles released this year, so if I want to play games, I'll just boot up my PC.
Good communication is key in any relationship, so why penalize fast texting? Statements about high maintenance attracting wealth or introducing drama to "spice things up" seem misguided at best. I've learned that relationships are built on compatibility, shared goals, and mutual respect. Also, trust is fundamental; so not allowing your partner to have friends of the opposite sex or going through their phone is not only controlling but shows a lack of that basic trust. At this point in my life, I'm looking for something real and meaningful, not a relationship based on arbitrary rules or superficial judgments.
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Right? Most social norms are already stupid, & they become dumber in the texting world. Who cares about responding immediately?? My forgetting to check my messages & not answering for hours or days must make me sexy as hell, then.
I've always found the whole "no female friends" or "no male friends" thing in straight relationships wild
Obviously its toxic af to project that level of jealousy or insecurity (seriously, get therapy) but also I actually consider it more of a red flag if someone I'm interested in doesn't have friends of different genders. Fair enough if thats just how things have worked out for you friendship wise, but if you're intentionally not befriending people who have a different gender than you, it just seems like you're incapable of viewing them in a way that isn’t sexual and/or romantic and that you don't respect women or men or nb folks outside of your attraction to them
Yeah, or they have trauma they haven't yet dealt with. Either way, their perspective is gonna be narrow.
Hate that people actually are glorifying being high maintenance or playing mind games in relationship stuff. The whole “playing hard to get” bullshit has ruined people’s brains to think that a relationship should be a competition of who can pretend to care less, and also it puts the idea in creeps’ heads that every person who rejects them secretly loves them. Like I swear honest and sincere love or even infatuation is amazing when reciprocal. The fact that there’s actually people who get grossed out over a partner responding too quick to texts or something like that is wild. If I love someone and they’re somehow even more passionate abt me that’s like the greatest feeling, although like an equal level of passion is ofc the ideal
I really find it disturbing to think that someone could believe that if your lover isnt beating you it means they dont love you. What level of dysfunction do you need to hit to reach that line of rationale?
Growing up in a toxic and abusive environment where agression is praised probably. I live in a country where toxic masculinity is heavily praised and a lot young women especially the less educated ones unfortunately have very similar thoughts
Thank you for the reminder that cringe transcends gender 🙏
Nice girls are just how incels/nice guys think all women are 🤔
Normally people have to go underwater to find pearls but now all you have to do is go on dating apps
I used to be one of these. Then I realized I am a non-binary lesbian in a conservative, rural area. So naturally, I doubled down. Then I started a new school and started an LGBTQIA+ club. Now I live in one of Europes most gay cities.
and that city is? i kinda wanna move there
@@TheJasperEffect Berlin! But Amsterdam is better from my understanding. I just don't speak dutch :/
@@SammyLammy1D I live in Rotterdam and half my friends are gay lol
@dsfmdiya7500 cool! The reason I call Berlin "the most gay city" is because of a list constructed by a Swedish LGBTQIA+ magazine. They said the top 3 gayest cities in the world are Sydney, Berlin, and San Francisco. That was in 2015, tho, so it might have changed.
@miky_mika Yeah, I have seen more gay clubs in my Stadtteil than in my entire city back in Sweden.
These women are all major red flags and as a woman I appreciate a level headed guy like you pointing it out. Not turning into a justification for misogyny or tarring all women with one brush like some incel channels do, but just encouraging everyone to take accountability for their shitty behaviour. Women are just as capable as men of being toxic and entitled. Justice for Andrew at 1:48 too cos he did not deserve that. That actually made me mad ngl. Poor guy :(
Consent?I think he should be a mind reader ಥ_ಥ
Me too
Sam's blank stare after seeing the Ohio liscense plate is the best thing ive seen all day lmao
6:03 Ok, this ‘Replying fast is desperate’ s**t needs to stop. I like responding fast so I don’t wait 5 hours to remember I had to send a message
responding fast is so attractive to me. I hate bad texters, not replying for 5 hours every time is a deal breaker for me.
Yeah I am a fast texter too and it's for everyone, not just in a dating situation.
@@mimi19932irrelevant, but damn your pfp is so cute
@@amiable_monster Haha thanks 😊
Some of these gals are clearly just closeted lesbians 😭😭😭
As a bi person. I gotta watch out for both sides of them. 😭
I’m rooting for u
It's hard for us out here 😭
As a pan person I gotta watch out for all three
Not sure what exactly the third side is, but I bet it exists
same my experince with both boys and girls have been awful thankfully i have a good girlfriend now
I'm genderfluid, nonbinary and pan, im fcked💀.
So many women get mad when I tell them I'm gay when they hit on me it's ridiculous cuz like I'm not saying you are ugly I'm just saying I don't like women
Idk if it's just me, but whenever someone refers to themselves as high maintenance that's a massive red flag. I want a partner that doesn't expect me to take care of them like i'm a babysitter, i want someone that knows how to take care of themselves
I’m pretty sure if someone called me their only princess I’d either die or marry them
I clicked so fast that im proud of myself
I’m proud too
What’s crazy about this is that dating apps have become a common ground for this behavior. I’m so tired of carrying conversations just for one answer responses.
U can say the best of both worlds to genderfluids cause we embrace that Hannah Montana lifestyle
Hi Sam! Just wanted to pop in and say I just found your content not long ago and I absolutely adore listening to you! You have the most smooth and silky voice and I am truly enjoying going back through your older content. Thanks so much for continuing to create, despite the difficulties. You're an inspiration and it's trans creators like you who helped me find myself, even at over 30 years old. You're amazing, my dude. Thanks for everything. ❤
Hey sam I am new here and I just wanna thank you because of you I got to know that I am trans otherwise I was thinking that I was insane but things aren't better that much because I don't know what to do I am just scared and i don't know what to do I am just going through a really tough time right now but I know that everything is going to be but right now it's difficult but I will keep going through and I know will find a way just like you did so thank you so much again You are like a big brother to me love you ❤
This was a very unique Subreddit! Nice Guys is Blumhouse Productions, Nice Girls is A24 Horror Movie.
Ah don't we love the digital world we live in where people of all genders have free rein to advertise themselves as they really are. But hey at least if they do that it can help you dodge a bullet. Lol these videos are so funny to me watching Sam Collins's videos are really some of the highlights of my days :)
I really feel for that guy whos been single for 3yrs-im in the same situation after my long term ex and i split thej took some time for myself and so i decided to try an app as well and wow, trying to get more than a one line response without it being somehow my fault! Lol i dunno, maybe ive just gotten old 😂
😂😂😂 I can relate. .
@@asole100 nice to know I'm not alone 😉 I've been dating a lovely Polish woman for the past month or so so maybe something will come of that-i hope so because the area of Scotland I live in isn't very big and I can't imagine there's much single women around my age left to try and talk to 🤣
@@teethgrinder83 Likewise!! Has she indicated that she may like you?
@@asole100 yeah I think so-i mean we met on Friday and walked down to the river to sit in the sun intending to be there for the afternoon-we got there at 2pm then next thing we knew it was 7.30pm but we hadn't realised as we'd been talking for so long and just enjoying each others company 😂 and on Monday I asked if she'd like to meet again as she's off from work and I had the dentist (I said don't worry about it if you're busy or it's a bit soon) and I didn't think she'd want to since it was only Friday we last met but I asked anyway and she said she had intended on going to the gym as she's been missing going lately but would rather meet up with me so that seems promising. She's not came right out and said "I like you and want to be with you" though but she has a 15yr old boy and so I understand her wanting to be sure and she also told me the last guy she was with about a year ago was a total asshole to her and she later found out he'd been cheating with a couple different people at the same time. So I can totally understand her being cautious due to those things but as I said I THINK things are going in the right direction and she likes me.
Unfortunately I can be kinda unsure of myself sometimes though and when I don't know exactly where I stand I sometimes worry but I like her and I think that break I had after my long term relationship helped so I'm going to give this time-the last thing I want to do is pressure her because I wouldn't want that done to me
Okay this has nothing to do with the actual content of the video but the lighting is absolutely gorgeous 💗 I don't know if that was intentional or just the sunlight coming through the window or something but it's super pretty!
I saw the title and spilled my coffee.
Is there anymore left
@@SupraMan38 Just enough to start the day.=)
‘Nice’ people on either side are horrible and manipulative and I’ve found that a lot of times the incel ‘nice person’ mindset coincides with general lack of respect for people, their boundaries and they’re usually groomers. Gross people
Love you Sam , wishing you a wonderful weekend.,
Sorry but I can’t watch anymore… I’m having a bad ADHD day and those sad excuses for people annoy me too much
Thank u u too ❤
“Nice guys” and “nice girls” are so annoying they think that Just because someone doesn’t want to date them or have preferences on who they date makes them a bad person. Like, it doesn’t mean they don’t like nice people they just don’t like you 💀
PEARL in the little thumbnail preview thing was SUCH A JUMPSCARE DID ANYONE ELSE SEE THAT
hey dont diss emos thats not very nice guy of you samuel
I am an emo 😢
I love how Sam was just casually mentioning his trauma and then says something like "👏😃 well that's it for story time"
1:47 WTF? sure it's a silly photo, but I think he's handsome! probably out of my league too. god, some women suck. he was being so nice and had nothing to do with her.
I honestly hope that girl that feels “bored” in her relationship because he isn’t abusing her gets help and talks to him about it. This is sadly an extremely common thing for victims of abuse to experience in later, healthier relationships.
I love fig newtons so 6 figs aren't enough...
watching this at the gym bro trying not to lose my marbles
Lose them
1:53 I would be so pressed if someone randomly texted my number I try to make them feel better for being ghosted and they called me ugly afterwards and the cherry is that I didn't even do anything That's the day I would have to clap back with some vile life destroying text just to balance the scales then block them
“Every fucking time” ma’am where are you trying to pick up men?
Literally 😂
Right
me when a girl called me a loser for trying to make sure I wasn’t assaulting her (I asked if she wanted to be touched and she launched into how sad that was)
😂😂😂 TBH that sounds creepy at best
4:42 OMG not the divine feminine energy discourse. It’s very Lululemon pole dancing class where the toxic students set the rules.
P.S. The other person seemed chill.
13:23 Honestly, what I do to spice up my friendship is I get into their interests. Me and my friend watch different things, and recently, she told me I should watch Good Omens. I, at first disagreed. But I realised.. hey, I mean, why not. Something to talk about. Then I binged the show and now we talk about it. It’s nice.
I was just thinking I wanted to watch you and then I got the notifications!! Perfect timing!
Yay!
They give girls like me a bad rep, I'm literally drowning out here lol. Every guy in dating apps expect me to be a "nice girl" and they really don't believe when i don't care about height, just let people live lol
U are rare w the height part
@@SupraMan38that’s so sad to me personally. I think hot people are simply hot, caring about height removes too many hot people from my options 😂
@@SupraMan38idk many women who give a shit about height, there were a couple in high school but when I started to make my own friends that bs has gone away. I think they probably gather in packs. That makes them easier to avoid 😂
I’m a 5’9” bi woman, so I’d prefer a taller partner, but height is not at all a dealbreaker for me, hell it’s not really that important. It’s a mild preference at most.
I don’t know any sane person who cares about height!🤣
Your hair in this video reminds me of the roblox shaggy hair
5:26 First of all, we don’t live in Regency England where men woo you till you say yes to a miserable marriage.
"How will you deal with dating someone more successful and attractive than you?"
"I don't know. Why, where is she?" 😅
13:00 Me over here like "PLEASE TELL ME THIS IS SATIRE"
The way some of these people talk, it's like they're evaluating products for purchase. It's like that late capitalist CONSOOM mentality is so deeply pervasive that now we need our spouses and partners made to order. I don't understand this, i don't think I'd be able to date if I was ever single again.
As an aroace person, I'm so glad I will rarely have to deal with people like this
i assume by high maintenance she means a girl who takes a lot to “maintain”, like demands a lot, has high standards etc? makes no sense still but slay
6:43 HOW MANY POUNDS ???? ( Sorry NCT 127 reference I had to )
i get the texting thing tbh because when you're a person who doesn't like texting and a dude immediately starts always texting you everyday all the time when you meet it puts such a power imbalance cause i feel the pressure to text at the same rate but i find it draining to always have to text someone back
Then why not just let the other person know this? You're making life hard on your self for no reason 😂
I have to agree with the person above-just let the guy know and I'm sure a lot of the time they will understand and leave you to txt when you feel ready and if they don't you know the guy isn't for you. I just say "msg me whenever you're free and want to" because I find it easier on both people but a lot of guys think they are showing you their interest in you by texting like this that's all..so honestly just let them know and I'm sure things will be at least a little better 😊👍
These kinds of people really exists??? Crazy
I've been guilty of "why is this fat/less educated/attribute here" woman getting married and I can't even get laid. In my case, I was bullied as a teen and then ended up in therapy where they basically told me to "work on myself hard" to achieve my goals. So I lost weight, went back to school etc. Sometimes it's hard not to feel like one is working in vain and to express one's frustration with life not being fair - especially when the other type of nice girl, my friends who keep complaining that all men in their life secretely want to fuck them/ eventually hit on them, keeps reminding you/me of how unusual your experience is.
Basically, I don't think fat, ugly, whatever people should/can find love/happiness, I just don't know what to do to increase my ability to achieve those things and wonder what they are doing different, because I am doing what society asks me to do and it hasn't been bearing fruit. Not meant to justify fat-shaming or whatver, just adding some perspective. I know I have low self-esteem, but going for years without any male attention while friends complain about it, just sucks.
Do you have a crush on someone?
3:14-3:18 jumpscare warning
Dont eat while watching and don't watch in the dark you will be scared.🤗
I should’ve put one tbh
Back in early 2000s I tried making an eharmony profile and got matched with a hippie girl who loves animals. After a few messages I read that eharmony got hacked and I thought, "you know... intimacy online really can't have privacy" and stopped dating online. I also don't sell my family albums to facebook etc. It's best if you don't take your dating app interactions beyond what you would say and do at a singles bar. Assume you are in a crowded environment and act accordingly but also remember that this way Sam would have less haters to hate on. 😄
"Please go the door"
The apples at the top of the tree analogy is weird. All that sunlight just means that they'll ripen first. That's it.
Ladies, dont wait for a man to pick you. Fall directly onto his head. Just demolish his frontal and parietal lobe with your fruity majesty.
I used to describe myself as "high maintenance" because my exs described me that way, but I'm actually just autistic and disabled physically with something I'll be on chemo for the rest of my life for. (And i needed accommodations so i was treated even worse than the other women they dated that they hated)
But I've also been guilty of judging people too early, taking things as red flags when they weren't, and i used to act out on my resentment towards men in relationships because I've always had a horrible life and struggled to stay housed and the only people that would "offer to help" me, were men that had bad intentions (which is how i was groomed and ended up in another country the moment i turned 18 to be with an incel.)
My HOPE is that these people are young and still have learning and growing to do. My hope is they go to therapy and understand they're acting out and punching down.
Im 27 now, long away from all that (i mean, it started young.) And the thought process back then was just normalized, conservative, heteronorms (also my mom reinforcedthat we're objects bc shes ex mormon and so has those awful beliefs.) Men treated me like an object> i treated them like a wallet. Obviously thats not a good way to live- i cringe at my old self.
Im not excusing the behavior, im trying to unpack it.
Kind of like how amabs who are incels, usually have a strange relationship with their mothers. A lot are children of pick me women, who were told by their mother to hate women. And there's a lot of other factors I've been thinking about recently.
Again, doesn't excuse it but helps me to know where it started.
(I'm Two Spirited and 4 years in the most healthy relationship I've had.)🪶
Why can't people just be normal. is it really that hard?
personally sam i think u rock the emo goth spencers hair cut
13:39 - 13:57 doesn't have an image showing, it's just a white image.
I can’t help but notice how there are no threats of rxxx or murder or a mass shxxxing. I guess men and women really are different.
i saw ur instagram story a few hours ago and i hope youre okay sam ily
Thank u so much ❤
9:55 The person who put the stickers is still stuck in early 2010s Facebook.
Your videos have become such a highlight for me! Thanks for sharing your energy ❤
Sam Collins with Dad Jokes? A wild combination to drive the crowd wild 🔥
11:30 SAM COLLINS BARES IT ALL: Backwards Cap, Dope Rapping and being sponsored by Margot Robbie.
That if a guy never beat u then he doesnt love u? Wat???
YA WHAT
12:55 can’t people who want this just ask their partner to do roleplaying or something? They can act like the “drama” is happening but it won’t have any real consequences and won’t harm the relationship or her partner. You may need a good imagination and both would need at least some acting skills but it’s better than making a relationship toxic
Nice Girls make me cringe. It's like another version of a Pick Me.
I think high maintenance women need more frequent oil refills and tire changes right?
"I don't do drama"
Also no female friends, I have to be able to go through your phone, you'll always know I don't need you and could leave you anytime
......... yeah, alright then
I’m high maintenance in that I have severe ADHD, ptsd, and depression. All that requires a lot of maintenance. Like a used car with a lot of miles 😂
*me lurking in the comments to find people who aren't using the term "high maintenance" to justify ableism 👀
I'm talking to a new guy right now and replies super quickly. I actually love it and feel so fucking spoiled. ❤
The girl who's mad because the guy was gay... she said "all you guys do this to me" (in other words). Like... how many men have you slept with that then claimed to be gay?!?
Ok but you look so much cuter with he backwards cap.
Awh thank u ☺️
"How will you handle being in a relationship with a woman who is significantly more successful and attractive than you"?
If I were a dude on a first date with her, my response would be "I'll let you know when I find her." :P
Sam smiling at his fig joke made my entire day ✌️
At 13:48 ish you’ve got a blank screen Sam.
I’m not sure what ‘quality’ I am… doughy maybe? 🥖
My bisexual ass cpulw care less if my partner are in "masc or fem energy" two people can be fem lmafo and guys intune with his fem side is hot. And that from a fem woman soooo
08:49
you're absolutely right, they never deserved you,
No one has cheated on me
..and I only dated guys.
That means you're better than them.. and me(?)
9:54 NOT OHIO😭😭 also am I the only Ohioan who actually finds the Ohio jokes funny?💀
Oh god I remember when my parents forced me to go to mormon church with them when I was young. That apple tree story was on the wall of the young women's classroom rip.
09:40 those last few bumper stickers scream "I'm the cool girl"
12:30 this screams alot of things let me list them off
1. A comment on Kennie JDs video on the Asylum film Bound saying "being in a healthy relationship is a kink but y'all don't want to talk about that
2. They seem to have soaped too much toxic romance from fictional stories
And 3. Alot...ALOT of internalized misogyny
Also 4. No seriously this is why people call out toxic relationships portrayed as romantic in fiction because it leads TO SHIT LIKE THIS
I would never cheat on you Sam :)
If you're a person, who is so hungry for drama in your life that you willingly would hurt your partner by cheating on them you are a maniac. How can you acively chase the" drama" and the stress when you can just live a good live? You either have to be super young and stupid (we all know that special being young kinda dumbness), super insecure or just have a seveare case of "I am the main character"-itis... Or: maybe you're just a shitty person
I mean, all cringe aside...the poster has a point. Dating a mystical fruit wizard who can create 6 pieces of fruit at a time (figs no less!) without expending a spell slot (this happens at least 1 day a week presumably spontaneously, so it's a cantrip), knows our personal boundaries and calls us beautiful is something that ticks of relationship goals for pretty much everyone. I mean fig wizardry is the hardest school of magic but also the most powerful and second only to hedge wizardry.
I just remembered when Sam like had Alcohol on his table cuz everyone thought he was 14 or something like tyat
6:45
If he's anything like me, then 127lbs is only "pretty" if she's also under 5 feet tall.
I'd be much happier with a woman like in the picture than a woman who's skinny.
Of course it depends on a lot of factors, like how no matter what she weighs, a person that shames others without any provocation, you're a 0 in my eyes