This cycle is what most of my friends and male family members go through, it starts of great and as time goes on they become more insecure, possessive, jealous, controlling and manipulative and then invariably the girl leaves, I used to behave like this until I realized that by hanging out, having fun and hooking up, teasing girls in a playful way and letting them come and go as they please I get treated like a Rock Star, I'm not joking here, and I realized that this is much better than having a load of drama. EMOTIONAL SELF CONTROL is the KEY, it's very hard to master your emotions at least it was for me
Man I couldn't agree more, once you get to the point where it's not a cover up and you deal with your emotions quickly and move on to the next play you are cooking with gas, although I don't know about the age thing,I have come across a few older guys who have suffered from being involved with younger women due to not controlling their emotions
Tell me about it man, I've been there a few times, I am 48 but I'm glad I have been there, I'm glad I now understand that these things are sent to us by the Universe to grow, I got in the ring and lost a couple of fights at first, now I get some punches thrown at me and fiend them off and seem to be winning a lot more than loosing and learning all the time, you can't expect to get in the ring and not have a few punches thrown at you :)
I decided to read the comments for once to see if there's anything usefull. You sir just made my day, dand believe me when i say that its something you can be proud off :D.
Mfiguk thats exactly how my sweetheart left me..then I became a lil jealous, insecure and an idiot and she had to go.. 3 months of no contact..haven't heard from her .. remember me in your prayers.
How do you deal with jealousy and imagining that shes cheating on you without showing her that you doubt about her? Ive been dating a girl for two weeks only but I dont like that she goes out with another dude to eat lunch. I feel like shes cheating on me but whenever we meet we hook up, have fun and have sex. I dont want to be another dude in her rotation. Girls tend to tell you that you are unique and lots of personal stuff in order to make you become emotionally attached to her too soon. I need to keep it cool and meet other girls but I dont care no more about having sex I want a girl that only wants me. I want to tell her that I want to start a serious relation but if I do I will fuck it up and be seen as needy/creep.
i have been following coach corey , and other good coaches for a long time. Coach corey is hands down the best. To anyone new to his work , read his book ASAP and watch as much of his videos as possible. Your life will change for the better. Everyone deserves to have a great life with great people in it.
Corey, you're absolutely amazing. I was a basket case after a break up, and then I found your UA-cam channel. You have really helped me. I just say thank you for all you do!!!
this hits so hard. i had a girl who thought everything of me, but i kept putting myself down even when she loved me so much. i dumped her because i didn't think i was good enough. a year later she finally moved on with someone else and now i realize what a mistake i've made. but like Corey's said in this video. everything happened just the way it's supposed to. i recognize the lesson in all this. I've discovered several youtubers which have given me advice and perspectives i would have never been able to accept if not for this happening. if this didn't happen, i wouldn't have appreciated her the way she deserves to be. Ironically, by putting her on a pedestal, i hurt her, and eventually hurt myself once she moved on. I do wish I'd discovered all these resources earlier, but I've had books and friends who've given me this advice before, but I either forgot about or didn't take to heart their messages. now that this has happened, i'm able to do so. whether or not i can move on and be happy is up to me.
Hi mr. Corey. You may never know me. And yes this is another thank you note. I do hope you read this. I want to thank you for what you're doing for me and everyone else out there. A lot of people doubt my passion for understanding this work and don't want to hear about it when I'm so excited to tell them what I've learned today. Thank you for inspiring me to keep on doing what I'm doing and that I can see your work and my morals are the same and that I do not have to worry about me changing or my morals.
Corey, dating and relationship advice aside, of all your UA-cam videos I have viewed and listened to, this one is the most inspiring. You have found your life's purpose.
12:19 you made my day with your pureness. I gave a smile in respond to yours that is filled with love and so pure. I thought that part of me was somewhere not with me and not here and maybe I did not think it ever existed or just forgot about it. Thank you Corey. You make my days with your videos ;) New insights new new
Regret / What if Example: Yesterday while walking down the sidewalk I saw a girl that looked like me. It was only for a second before we passed on a busy sidewalk. That is often how I see girls I'm interested in and it is only for a second where I can react, which doesn't allow much time. It is normally turning a corner or something.
I literally ask myself this question many times per day: "If I'm on my deathbed, will I be able to smile remembering this moment?" Lately, the answer has been "yes" more and more
Seth macfarlane missed his flight because of his hangover. That flight was one of the 9/11 planes. He admittedly is an alcoholic lol. Crazy! He talks about this on Howard stern
Why does a guy cheat on a good girl? A girl he told he loved to death, wanted to marry. He was cheating on me and yet saying I made him happy. It was a 5 month intense relationship. We didn't have sex thank God. He constantly lied to me. One time I basically unknowingly forced him to tell me something and he told me about a secret he had kept from me, and said he didn't tell me bc he was scared. He really didn't want to tell me that. He started to cry a little bit but now i wonder if it was crocodile tears. I was certainly crying. He told me in the beginning that he wasn't going anywhere and that he didn't think we would go to other people. He would say forever. To find out he cheated and for i believe just about the entire time, disturbs me. It makes ZERO sense. I did so much for him. Being with him costed me a LOT emotionally and i changed a lot of my life for him. He knew id never cheat. Hell he knew he was the only guy i ever talked to. I always felt like he was hiding something and id tell him that. he would always assure me that i knew everything. I dont know if it was bc he was scared to tell me or if he just didnt care enough about me and wanted to just use me as a crutch to get out back into the dating world he spent 2 yrs out of prior to me. The fact that i always addressed my suspicions to him and fears- that were actually valid- and he was able to use me anyways.lie to me. And then to cheat on me and end it like a coward. He never told me he did of course, I just found out on my own. I wonder just WHY? why he cheated on me. Why wasn't i good enough.I was wayy better than him (not to sound harsh or narcissistic) But i was above him in all aspects, even felt sorry for him in a adorable way. And somehow he ended up destroying my self-esteem n a manipulative sort of way.. I never confronted him on his cheating. it hurt too much to even look at him. He "officially" entered into his new relationship just barely a week after he dumped me. I heard he bragged one time to a couple guys that he "got away with it." Cheating on me.. This pisses me off a little bit. Because our relationship was real and meaningful to me and it seemed to have been for him. more so in the beginning but still. Could it really have meant nothing to him? Could he really watch me struggle in the relationship and lie to my face everyday? He knew i was innocent and naive. Why would he hurt the one who literally only loved him and helped him? Should I have confronted him after it was over.Letting him know I know he cheated. Asking, like i wanted to so bad, WHY he did it. What i possibly did wrong to have contributed to this. Its been almost 3 months since its ended. he never tried to contact me and i didnt him. I thought id move on by now but it still hurts and makes me fearful if he ever tries to contact me in person. And him talking all sorts of shit. People believing his bs lies. Should i have embarrassed the hell out of him like i could have? It is like he got away with murder. I just dont know what I should do. Or what ive done wrong. Was ignoring him completely the wrong way. I avoided eye contact and everything. didn't say a word about it after that. I deserve an explanation. I deserve so much. and he acts like he did nothing wrong, it makes me sick.
If its the guys in relationships who have everything to live for who always get their heads blown off, then why are we trying to get into relationships ! lol
A spiritual perspective and thinking that everything has a meaning is magical thinking. What about all the people on the plain who died? One baby survived therefore there is some magical being directing things? Come on coach, it's childish. Please read The God Delusion because Dawkins goes through several examples like what you give here.
I agree with you! Although the guy in the email shouldn't have showed his emotions in that moment. I feel it is only sincere and real to cry once in awhile..
You don't start crying around women youre trying to date. That's what your friends an fam are for. Coach mentioned that in a couple vids. Of course people cry. Jus not around chicks you're not dating or wanna hook up with.
+Toby Bradley IMO, being emotional is a feminine characteristic, so yeah, being upset is acting like a woman. There's nothing inherently wrong with that though, it's when you OVERDO it and let it cloud your judgement that it's a bad thing. Same with the "masculine" quality of being too logical and closed off. Overdo that and you might be too emotionally unstable and lose people who once cared about you. It's all about balance? at least that's what i got out of it.
Being upset on the inside is fine, but you have to have control over your emotions. Don't let what you feel take you off center.(maintain your masculine core). As men, we are the mountain that doesn't flinch. Crying is only really acceptable when someone close to you dies. Feel the pain and let it pass.
This cycle is what most of my friends and male family members go through, it starts of great and as time goes on they become more insecure, possessive, jealous, controlling and manipulative and then invariably the girl leaves, I used to behave like this until I realized that by hanging out, having fun and hooking up, teasing girls in a playful way and letting them come and go as they please I get treated like a Rock Star, I'm not joking here, and I realized that this is much better than having a load of drama. EMOTIONAL SELF CONTROL is the KEY, it's very hard to master your emotions at least it was for me
Man I couldn't agree more, once you get to the point where it's not a cover up and you deal with your emotions quickly and move on to the next play you are cooking with gas, although I don't know about the age thing,I have come across a few older guys who have suffered from being involved with younger women due to not controlling their emotions
Tell me about it man, I've been there a few times, I am 48 but I'm glad I have been there, I'm glad I now understand that these things are sent to us by the Universe to grow, I got in the ring and lost a couple of fights at first, now I get some punches thrown at me and fiend them off and seem to be winning a lot more than loosing and learning all the time, you can't expect to get in the ring and not have a few punches thrown at you :)
I decided to read the comments for once to see if there's anything usefull. You sir just made my day, dand believe me when i say that its something you can be proud off :D.
Mfiguk thats exactly how my sweetheart left me..then I became a lil jealous, insecure and an idiot and she had to go.. 3 months of no contact..haven't heard from her ..
remember me in your prayers.
How do you deal with jealousy and imagining that shes cheating on you without showing her that you doubt about her? Ive been dating a girl for two weeks only but I dont like that she goes out with another dude to eat lunch. I feel like shes cheating on me but whenever we meet we hook up, have fun and have sex. I dont want to be another dude in her rotation. Girls tend to tell you that you are unique and lots of personal stuff in order to make you become emotionally attached to her too soon. I need to keep it cool and meet other girls but I dont care no more about having sex I want a girl that only wants me. I want to tell her that I want to start a serious relation but if I do I will fuck it up and be seen as needy/creep.
i have been following coach corey , and other good coaches for a long time. Coach corey is hands down the best. To anyone new to his work , read his book ASAP and watch as much of his videos as possible. Your life will change for the better. Everyone deserves to have a great life with great people in it.
Corey, you're absolutely amazing. I was a basket case after a break up, and then I found your UA-cam channel. You have really helped me. I just say thank you for all you do!!!
this hits so hard. i had a girl who thought everything of me, but i kept putting myself down even when she loved me so much. i dumped her because i didn't think i was good enough. a year later she finally moved on with someone else and now i realize what a mistake i've made. but like Corey's said in this video. everything happened just the way it's supposed to. i recognize the lesson in all this. I've discovered several youtubers which have given me advice and perspectives i would have never been able to accept if not for this happening. if this didn't happen, i wouldn't have appreciated her the way she deserves to be. Ironically, by putting her on a pedestal, i hurt her, and eventually hurt myself once she moved on. I do wish I'd discovered all these resources earlier, but I've had books and friends who've given me this advice before, but I either forgot about or didn't take to heart their messages. now that this has happened, i'm able to do so. whether or not i can move on and be happy is up to me.
my exact story too, bro :/ but we're here now. And it's the only way it could be.
mindmaurader767 hang in there bro. it gets better
I went through the same thing brother I believe my life would be way better than it is now if I didn't quit on her smh it happens to the best of us
Mate at least u have someone I'm 21 years old and never had a girlfriend
Hi mr. Corey. You may never know me. And yes this is another thank you note. I do hope you read this. I want to thank you for what you're doing for me and everyone else out there. A lot of people doubt my passion for understanding this work and don't want to hear about it when I'm so excited to tell them what I've learned today. Thank you for inspiring me to keep on doing what I'm doing and that I can see your work and my morals are the same and that I do not have to worry about me changing or my morals.
+Stephan van der Westhuizen good job
I absolutely share your spiritual view. Cool to know there are guys like you!
thanks honey
Zuzana according to Corey you r fucking gorgeous
This one hits home for me, I found that love of my life and fucked it up!!!! So bad, went full nut job for sure! Thanks CCW! You are the man!!
Me too man, I fucked it up before we got into a relationship
Getting deep coach, great insights.
Corey, dating and relationship advice aside, of all your UA-cam videos I have viewed and listened to, this one is the most inspiring. You have found your life's purpose.
I love the way Coach look at things.
12:19 you made my day with your pureness. I gave a smile in respond to yours that is filled with love and so pure. I thought that part of me was somewhere not with me and not here and maybe I did not think it ever existed or just forgot about it. Thank you Corey. You make my days with your videos ;) New insights new new
This video made me anxious ...it can be a sign I have something to work on. Thank you coach, I admire your knowledge :)
Im a women and i love your advice!
Regret / What if Example: Yesterday while walking down the sidewalk I saw a girl that looked like me. It was only for a second before we passed on a busy sidewalk. That is often how I see girls I'm interested in and it is only for a second where I can react, which doesn't allow much time. It is normally turning a corner or something.
Awesome stuff Corey! Thanks for spreading these ideas.
"You can play connected dots" HAHAHHAHAH This guy is the best
LOVE the spiritual angle to this!
Thanks for the enlightenment - would LOVE to see more of these :)
Thanks Coach!
thanks for being the mentor you are
I literally ask myself this question many times per day: "If I'm on my deathbed, will I be able to smile remembering this moment?"
Lately, the answer has been "yes" more and more
Ouzo is an Anise flavored liquor, tastes like black licorice and is usually around 50% abv. You should give it a try Corey
mountedpatrolman ouzo is a fucking devil in a bottle, great stuff.
Never had it...is it like Jager?
Neurofibromatosis was brought to light by the movie THE ELEPHANT MAN. Joseph Merrick had a severe version of this disease.
Good video Corey, thanks :)
Seth macfarlane missed his flight because of his hangover. That flight was one of the 9/11 planes. He admittedly is an alcoholic lol. Crazy! He talks about this on Howard stern
Why does a guy cheat on a good girl? A girl he told he loved to death, wanted to marry. He was cheating on me and yet saying I made him happy. It was a 5 month intense relationship. We didn't have sex thank God. He constantly lied to me. One time I basically unknowingly forced him to tell me something and he told me about a secret he had kept from me, and said he didn't tell me bc he was scared. He really didn't want to tell me that. He started to cry a little bit but now i wonder if it was crocodile tears. I was certainly crying. He told me in the beginning that he wasn't going anywhere and that he didn't think we would go to other people. He would say forever. To find out he cheated and for i believe just about the entire time, disturbs me. It makes ZERO sense. I did so much for him. Being with him costed me a LOT emotionally and i changed a lot of my life for him. He knew id never cheat. Hell he knew he was the only guy i ever talked to. I always felt like he was hiding something and id tell him that. he would always assure me that i knew everything. I dont know if it was bc he was scared to tell me or if he just didnt care enough about me and wanted to just use me as a crutch to get out back into the dating world he spent 2 yrs out of prior to me. The fact that i always addressed my suspicions to him and fears- that were actually valid- and he was able to use me anyways.lie to me. And then to cheat on me and end it like a coward. He never told me he did of course, I just found out on my own. I wonder just WHY? why he cheated on me. Why wasn't i good enough.I was wayy better than him (not to sound harsh or narcissistic) But i was above him in all aspects, even felt sorry for him in a adorable way. And somehow he ended up destroying my self-esteem n a manipulative sort of way.. I never confronted him on his cheating. it hurt too much to even look at him. He "officially" entered into his new relationship just barely a week after he dumped me. I heard he bragged one time to a couple guys that he "got away with it." Cheating on me.. This pisses me off a little bit. Because our relationship was real and meaningful to me and it seemed to have been for him. more so in the beginning but still. Could it really have meant nothing to him? Could he really watch me struggle in the relationship and lie to my face everyday? He knew i was innocent and naive. Why would he hurt the one who literally only loved him and helped him? Should I have confronted him after it was over.Letting him know I know he cheated. Asking, like i wanted to so bad, WHY he did it. What i possibly did wrong to have contributed to this. Its been almost 3 months since its ended. he never tried to contact me and i didnt him. I thought id move on by now but it still hurts and makes me fearful if he ever tries to contact me in person. And him talking all sorts of shit. People believing his bs lies. Should i have embarrassed the hell out of him like i could have? It is like he got away with murder. I just dont know what I should do. Or what ive done wrong. Was ignoring him completely the wrong way. I avoided eye contact and everything. didn't say a word about it after that. I deserve an explanation. I deserve so much. and he acts like he did nothing wrong, it makes me sick.
M D all relationships end. You dodged a bullet. Work on you. Move on.
Hey coach, could you post a video about how to deal with things after a co-worker stops dating you and dumps you?
THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE
going thru the what-if stage rn. just need to keep off social media
Hilarious!! You can grab on to my spots!! Lol
😂😂😂
Doctor can u please help me I'm 21 years old and never had a girlfriend
Corey, you're a fucking saint! Thank you
Hey coach
What's your opinion on MGTOW?
Pause at 19:40
"I'm a lizard man baby" lol !
That freckle part got me 🤣🤣🤣
Connect the dots. 😂
comedy and self-help!!!!!
Bongani Tejane Best combo :D
I need to inject this into my brain.
We dont come into this world..we come out of it..like apples off a tree.
I think he's being too harsh on him
You list me with the spiritual talk to be honest. Why would anyone choose parents that do horrible shot or are absent lol? Makes no sense
Lost^ shit*^
Yep. Seth McFarland had a destiny. That was not by accident.
Hey Corey, ur videos are GOLD. But damn, makes me feel like a fucking idiot, I made all mistakes u ever mention.....
If its the guys in relationships who have everything to live for who always get their heads blown off, then why are we trying to get into relationships ! lol
I love you Corey Wayne, no homo.
A spiritual perspective and thinking that everything has a meaning is magical thinking. What about all the people on the plain who died? One baby survived therefore there is some magical being directing things? Come on coach, it's childish. Please read The God Delusion because Dawkins goes through several examples like what you give here.
"You gave yourself permission to act like a fucking fruit loop" ... lol
19:38 Hahahaha
Being upset is acting like a women? What's your point? Can't a man ever be upset and cry? Apparently not.
I agree with you! Although the guy in the email shouldn't have showed his emotions in that moment. I feel it is only sincere and real to cry once in awhile..
Jeremy Langford The guy in the email sounded pathetic. I just take issue with the whole 'boys don't cry' rhetoric.
You don't start crying around women youre trying to date. That's what your friends an fam are for. Coach mentioned that in a couple vids. Of course people cry. Jus not around chicks you're not dating or wanna hook up with.
+Toby Bradley IMO, being emotional is a feminine characteristic, so yeah, being upset is acting like a woman. There's nothing inherently wrong with that though, it's when you OVERDO it and let it cloud your judgement that it's a bad thing. Same with the "masculine" quality of being too logical and closed off. Overdo that and you might be too emotionally unstable and lose people who once cared about you. It's all about balance? at least that's what i got out of it.
Being upset on the inside is fine, but you have to have control over your emotions. Don't let what you feel take you off center.(maintain your masculine core). As men, we are the mountain that doesn't flinch. Crying is only really acceptable when someone close to you dies. Feel the pain and let it pass.
it's pronounced Oozo!
Not bad... but the guy F bombs too much for me. Detracts from the info and not necessary.
Cry more