If You Allow People Take You for Granted You Will Be Grounded and Abandoned

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  • @OChem928
    @OChem928 5 місяців тому +76

    I gave my twin nephews full scholarships to study in a prestigious secondary school in SE , Nigeria where if you fail to get promoted to the next class, you either repeat or leave the school. I sternly told them that if any of them failed at any level, the person must LEAVE the school and their scholarship terminated immediately. One couldn’t pass JS1 and I terminated his scholarship immediately. I don’t even know the school he is attending now. The second one is going to SS2 at the prestigious school by September , and he is still enjoying my scholarship. Sometimes, you have to be very firm so people will respect your boundaries. Thank you , Dr Charles Apoki .

    • @chinwenzimako7771
      @chinwenzimako7771 5 місяців тому

      I agree with you.

    • @njoheve2012
      @njoheve2012 5 місяців тому +1

    • @kelvinosemeshan7798
      @kelvinosemeshan7798 4 місяці тому

      I am learning

    • @ogumuifeomashirley3940
      @ogumuifeomashirley3940 13 днів тому +4

      Good to know you are helping your nephews. I am appealing you reach out to the other twin, find out how he is faring except you know he is stubborn and unwilling to learn. Children have different learning abilities, some are slow learners. Give him some support within his academic ability.

  • @doreenakello-dora
    @doreenakello-dora Місяць тому +7

    Listening to Dr. Apoki helps me to manage people . Especially family members who think they are entitled.

  • @kingsleynwoke7338
    @kingsleynwoke7338 5 місяців тому +54

    Dr Apoki. Sir you are my kind of person. Because of this , my siblings criticise and blackmail me despite the fact that I trained many and brought two of my siblings and my mother abroad. Whatever you do is never enough. If you are not tough , people take you for granted and will mess you up. I am the first in my family and have sacrificed my life to the family , still it’s never enough. Create boundaries and put electric babwires in life. If not people will mess you up. You are 💯 percent Sir. I wish I could give you more one thumbs up. You speak the truth. I have saved this video and will always play it back. You will live long Sir with more grace. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @buravan1512
    @buravan1512 5 місяців тому +53

    *"What you allow, will continue."*

  • @jeedeh
    @jeedeh 5 місяців тому +36

    "We tolerate too much rubbish." -Dr. Charles Apoki. Thanks for the courage to tell it like it should be. Salute!

  • @mystykalmn4434
    @mystykalmn4434 5 місяців тому +23

    If you're too sweet people will eat you for breakfast, lunch and dinner... That's a fact Thanks Dr

    • @dudleyviban2764
      @dudleyviban2764 5 місяців тому +1

      Facts because you have turned into a candy.

    • @felixa6997
      @felixa6997 2 місяці тому

      True

    • @felixa6997
      @felixa6997 2 місяці тому

      Don’t make the mistake of letting people escape without feeling the impact of their bad behaviour. Next time they will take dressing !!

  • @daughterofzion4157
    @daughterofzion4157 5 місяців тому +35

    It,s unfortunate today that people mistake being strict to wickedness. Jesus Christ was and still strict. My late mom was very strict. It helped me tremendously. Human beings are meant to be strictly corrected. As a Christian you have to be wise as serpent.

  • @MenMatters-sk5wg
    @MenMatters-sk5wg 5 місяців тому +7

    "To present yourself as a vegetable people will eat you any how." my friend Dr Charles Apoki

  • @user-Whiteshadow
    @user-Whiteshadow 5 місяців тому +11

    Snow flakes melt under pressure. You must be tougher than nails. Don’t be nice, but be a good person. Personal policies. One must have boundaries.

  • @casmirifeanyi7788
    @casmirifeanyi7788 5 місяців тому +10

    So spot on. This is a message for me from God (Godwink). It Came at the very right time. i must admit that God have been using you to speak to me lately. That is, youve been one of my Godlinks
    Keep them coming

  • @Franc-scholly2519
    @Franc-scholly2519 5 місяців тому +12

    U re absolutely right, Dr. Apoki. Ppl take u for granted when u re not strict on the boundaries

  • @Immaella229
    @Immaella229 5 місяців тому +4

    😂😂😂😂I love hearing stories about his wife .., cracks me up eee😂😂😂

  • @Femilaalaa
    @Femilaalaa 3 місяці тому +2

    Sir,I am a victim.your message shocked me.i now I understand accountability and responsibility., boundaries.i am bearing the consequences of my humility to my wife and house.thank you sir

  • @kingscourt9184
    @kingscourt9184 15 днів тому

    May the Lord continue to strengthen you and enrich your wisdom.

  • @SUNDAYEZEAGU-e7q
    @SUNDAYEZEAGU-e7q 5 місяців тому +6

    "If people can disregard you without consequences you will soon be grounded"- Dr Charles Apoki. This is indeed an opener i learnt a lot, had to watch twice in a roll, Thank you sir you're indeed a blessing to this generation.👍

  • @ejuraaudu7297
    @ejuraaudu7297 19 днів тому +1

    I have so much admiration and respect for you Dr.

  • @miissso5881
    @miissso5881 2 місяці тому +2

    😅 Dr Apoki, you are very humorous 😂❤

  • @lanredegreat4542
    @lanredegreat4542 5 місяців тому +6

    Wow, Thank you so much sir for this piece. The young generation are proud of you, so much to learn from you

  • @BarristerZikora
    @BarristerZikora 5 місяців тому +14

    At the end of your video , I always join you to say “GOD BLESS YOU “ 😁🏆

  • @joeyken7791
    @joeyken7791 5 місяців тому +6

    Thanks for the gems and pearls of wisdom Dad! I must confess I was choking with laughter 🤣🤣throughout your presentation because of your impeccable sense of humour!
    Much love and respect from Kenya.

  • @abkaaar
    @abkaaar 5 місяців тому +3

    Your act of not giving a f*ck is commendable 💪🏻

  • @StellaOmughele-hs8gq
    @StellaOmughele-hs8gq 5 місяців тому +4

    Thank God we still have ppl like you grandpa. God bless you ijn amen 🙏🙏🙏

  • @felixa6997
    @felixa6997 2 місяці тому +3

    People must bear the consequences of their actions

  • @cie-cuche3302
    @cie-cuche3302 5 місяців тому +2

    Wow ... My mind has been empowered, thank you for sharing, I'm heading to go make account to my sister for her phone thst got damaged in my hands

  • @felixa6997
    @felixa6997 2 місяці тому +3

    Don’t be nice. Be a good man but don’t be nice. By Dr Akpoki

  • @horeshieevigoddess2972
    @horeshieevigoddess2972 5 місяців тому +2

    Papa is doing amazing. 100k soon 🎉🎉

  • @shagarikwasu6433
    @shagarikwasu6433 2 місяці тому

    🤣🤣 that “curse” part… Thank you for who you are sir 🙏

  • @franciszoechituwi3369
    @franciszoechituwi3369 4 місяці тому +2

    DON'T CELEBRATE RUDENESS! Thank you Sir!

  • @glantedavid9728
    @glantedavid9728 5 місяців тому +4

    Dr.Apoki, your mother reminds me of my grandmother . I still can't eat in people's homes long after she is gone.😂😂😂

  • @EngrEkezy
    @EngrEkezy 5 місяців тому +1

    I thought I was alone. I never knew I could found a disciplinary man like you in my page. We're in the same page 😅Kudos Dr. A!

  • @Iamrogie
    @Iamrogie 11 годин тому

    😂 You’re the best Sir

  • @applenwaolisa916
    @applenwaolisa916 5 місяців тому +5

    Brother and DR Charles APOKI my respect for you Sir.

  • @agufortunatekawisi-5068
    @agufortunatekawisi-5068 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you Sir. God just answered me through you. Be blessed!!!

  • @samuelakpan5143
    @samuelakpan5143 5 місяців тому +4

    I'm indeed overwhelmed by your broad experiences in life. Keep up the good work.

  • @joaneryan9962
    @joaneryan9962 5 місяців тому +1

    You are a very wise man Dr Apoki. Good principles and you speak the truth. You are passionate about your life. Blessings ro you. May i get more firn with my family in the name of Jesus🙏🙏🙏🙏Amen🙏

  • @richrich6950
    @richrich6950 5 місяців тому +4

    Sir I enjoyed the words of wisdom from you 🙌 thank you sir, when you said you curse your third leg that wanted to put you into trouble, I busted into a laugh 😃

  • @folashadeallidele9644
    @folashadeallidele9644 4 місяці тому +1

    Good evening sir thanks for your advice you are a great mentor God bless you sir

  • @BeatriceJoanAyironga
    @BeatriceJoanAyironga 2 місяці тому +1

    True we tolerate so much that's why Africans might not go far.
    We joke too much

  • @CliffAgboks-wc8wj
    @CliffAgboks-wc8wj 5 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so much sir
    You said it all nothing but the truth
    God bless you sir

  • @taiwosokan1018
    @taiwosokan1018 5 місяців тому +1

    You’re always saying the truth sir. God bless you sir.

  • @SimplyProductiveTino
    @SimplyProductiveTino Місяць тому +2

    My name is Dr Charles Apoki, I'm not a nice man😂😂😂

  • @queenblessed2633
    @queenblessed2633 5 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so much, Sir.

  • @oluwafemifalola1688
    @oluwafemifalola1688 5 місяців тому +1

    LIFE
    For every Action a consequence is attached.

  • @williamokhoayejethro7952
    @williamokhoayejethro7952 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank Dr Charles, you just make me know my very right more in anywhere and everywhere enjoy watching you more grace sir.

  • @gibsononoriode4581
    @gibsononoriode4581 5 місяців тому +1

    God keep keeping you my mentor.... migwo Sir

  • @dudleyviban2764
    @dudleyviban2764 5 місяців тому +4

    The problem is some have allowed others to weaponise the Holy Writings against them. They literally follow Jesus' advice of 'turning the left cheek'. When salesmen disrespected his dad's house, he didn't cajole them; he whipped and drove them away. Don't let unscrupulous individuals use God's mercies to enslave you.

  • @AndrewMutieMulandi-o8d
    @AndrewMutieMulandi-o8d 5 місяців тому +2

    True intense realism 😊

  • @priscadavid8507
    @priscadavid8507 9 днів тому

    Back to sender😂😂😂

  • @daughterofzion4157
    @daughterofzion4157 5 місяців тому +16

    I also hate spending money for burial.

  • @AndrewabianuruNwaosu
    @AndrewabianuruNwaosu 5 місяців тому

    Proph Aboki you are a Christmastime teacher ,if they will understand , you are great remain blessed . from prophet Nwosu Andrew from Imo state .

  • @beatriceogola6363
    @beatriceogola6363 5 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for the message Sir it's life changing watching from kenya ❤

  • @MajorPaneIntl
    @MajorPaneIntl 5 місяців тому +1

    People set boundaries "if" you set them. Thats deep

  • @molesnnamdi
    @molesnnamdi 5 місяців тому +3

    Great advice Doc!

  • @xxxyyy-iy4hf
    @xxxyyy-iy4hf 5 місяців тому +1

    Blessings Grandpa.

  • @EfosaAhuwan
    @EfosaAhuwan 4 місяці тому

    I thank Bishop Fiano coltis for bringing you to us. I wish I knew you before now, thank you sir.

  • @omenukolifestyle8058
    @omenukolifestyle8058 5 місяців тому +2

    Worth listening to..

  • @tomilayoademola5584
    @tomilayoademola5584 5 місяців тому

    this is the messages that should be echoed

  • @kingsleyugwu8564
    @kingsleyugwu8564 5 місяців тому +2

    Ride on sir

  • @SimplyProductiveTino
    @SimplyProductiveTino Місяць тому +1

    15:02 in Business, there's a period of attraction, retention, addiction and rejection.

  • @Seb_Oti
    @Seb_Oti 5 місяців тому

    Thanks, watching from Nbi kenya

  • @JohnsonObalichi
    @JohnsonObalichi 5 місяців тому +2

    Thanks you sir 🙏

  • @SPinspirationaltv
    @SPinspirationaltv 4 місяці тому +1

    Koboko warrior lool.thank you sir

  • @wummyjackson7841
    @wummyjackson7841 3 місяці тому

    What am going to with trustful honesty great man, am jut laughing like crazy here, love you sir, yes you're a nice man with dignity and policies.

  • @americarefines1135
    @americarefines1135 5 місяців тому +2

    FACTS!!

  • @godisfaithfultv7254
    @godisfaithfultv7254 5 місяців тому

    Thank you sir.

  • @abiyejoshua9363
    @abiyejoshua9363 5 місяців тому +15

    Anyone who doesn't have value for your time, will not want to be accountable to keeping appointments....

  • @ngoziuche5159
    @ngoziuche5159 5 місяців тому +1

    Yes yes sir 🙏,u ar right sir 🤙

  • @kelvinsnewsupdate7653
    @kelvinsnewsupdate7653 5 місяців тому +4

    Society has given a wrong narrative about Righteousness, mistaking/confusing it for Holiness, too bad 90% Christians and many other naive people are oblivious of the fact that fact. We're the eyes of the light (God), We're awareness. So many humans are yet to be awakened sir.

  • @orodedoherty1098
    @orodedoherty1098 25 днів тому

    If I hear “pim”😂😂😂

  • @obiomaogwuegbu433
    @obiomaogwuegbu433 2 місяці тому

    Back to sender 😅😅😅

  • @igweogba6774
    @igweogba6774 5 місяців тому +3

    Same with America's Iraq war, no one was held accountable

  • @fedogaboy
    @fedogaboy 5 місяців тому

    Daddy well spoken l taught l was the only one with this crazy mentality

  • @CHRIST_ENTOURAGE_NETWORK
    @CHRIST_ENTOURAGE_NETWORK 5 місяців тому +3

    Wisdom

  • @orumeemmans8289
    @orumeemmans8289 5 місяців тому +2

    Facts

  • @briankadwala682
    @briankadwala682 5 місяців тому +3

    Wisdom 🤝

  • @TohyeebAliyu
    @TohyeebAliyu 5 місяців тому +1

    Greater height by GOD Grace sir

  • @philominaakhigbe3816
    @philominaakhigbe3816 4 місяці тому

    You too get wisdom. Na man you beeee.

  • @agnesowo5099
    @agnesowo5099 5 місяців тому +3

    😂😂😂 Most of us wish to have someone we can run to. Thanks DR.
    I run a school too. I'm the front and the back. Any attempt to involve my husband will result in an early fold up. 😢
    Your wife is very fortunate.
    Thanks for the pep talks.

  • @elsierajo3555
    @elsierajo3555 5 місяців тому +1

    More of Allah's blessings 🙌

  • @valentinenkem9193
    @valentinenkem9193 5 місяців тому +1

    I totally agree with you , if you were not responsible or loyal with money the first time , you likely not be the second time. If we do not start calling people to order the world will be very difficult to live in.

  • @olusesanfesobi5219
    @olusesanfesobi5219 Місяць тому

    Negative marking is also applicable to civil aviation exams for pilots, engineers and indeed all aviation professionals. If you are not sure of the answer DO NOT GUESS.

  • @felixa6997
    @felixa6997 2 місяці тому

    Don’t reward rude people

  • @ayodejiareo
    @ayodejiareo 5 місяців тому

    Dr. Charles Apoki, everything you said is correct except for your reference to US politics.

  • @GodssentGodwin
    @GodssentGodwin 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much sir! If snake did not act like snake children will use it for rope. I'm just laughing when you are telling the story about you and mummy when she browed you money. ( Back to sender got me laughing) You're funny sir! But everything you're teaching us is true. I appreciate you sir.

  • @japhethodudu6445
    @japhethodudu6445 5 місяців тому +3

    ACCOUNTABILITY IS ALSO VALID IN RELATIONSHIPS, BECAUSE YOU CREATE A FAMILY FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN CREATE A COMMUNITY "

  • @seussmajor
    @seussmajor 5 місяців тому +4

    Legend

  • @eugeneatigua5688
    @eugeneatigua5688 5 місяців тому

    Dr Aboki is my guy.
    Correct guy.

  • @worldsyoursent.1635
    @worldsyoursent.1635 12 днів тому

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏

  • @kwakuemma8382
    @kwakuemma8382 2 місяці тому

    Actually, most women, if not all, hate men who really think. Most also hat accountability.

  • @jnn8551
    @jnn8551 Місяць тому

    Listening to the first part of this video just made me realise that Nigerians don’t read… if we did most people will realise that the first 6mins of this video are without facts but just talk.

  • @chimakalu5195
    @chimakalu5195 5 місяців тому

    Okay

  • @blessingpereye1258
    @blessingpereye1258 5 місяців тому +2

    Koboko warrior 😂😂😂

  • @uyordestiny8075
    @uyordestiny8075 5 місяців тому

    20 minutes walk

  • @pelumiayo927
    @pelumiayo927 5 місяців тому +3

    Daddy pls I need you to really look into the issue with donald trump
    It's not what it seems

    • @chimnanuukaejiofo4154
      @chimnanuukaejiofo4154 5 місяців тому

      Agreed. He is wrong on the Donald Trump issue. But i get his overall advice

    • @abiodungeorge9115
      @abiodungeorge9115 3 місяці тому

      I live in America, and i have been a Republican for over 10 years now. Donald Trump is not an exemplary leader. He is a time bomb waiting to explode.
      His second term will be a disaster ​for America. Trump is a typicalAfrican politician( ruler) @chimnanuukaejiofo4154

  • @lejoserex
    @lejoserex 5 місяців тому +14

    I was literally talking to my wife about this and how I feel I let people get away with too much for the sake of peace.
    When I get tired and start tearing into people, I'm the bad guy, and now thats ok.

  • @AshuEposi
    @AshuEposi 2 місяці тому

    😂😂😂koboko warrior

  • @veekay9900
    @veekay9900 5 місяців тому +3

    Lol @ may you never stand up if its not my wife.

  • @EugeoGlobalLimited
    @EugeoGlobalLimited 5 місяців тому

    😅😮😊

  • @josephdavies9795
    @josephdavies9795 5 місяців тому +4

    There's a paradigm shift in Nigeria after the protest which a lot of people have not realized yet.
    It's high time we change our ways of doing things and each person should be held accountable for his or her actions.
    This should apply to all human endeavour.
    There should also be consequences for our actions and inactions.

  • @Wudikwe
    @Wudikwe 5 місяців тому +3

    Stick to motivational speeches and leave politics aside. American politics is different, what you are saying about Donald Trump is the result of the media programming you get from listening to CNN.