Success has a different meaning for everyone. Some women dream to become a mother, some others don’t want children. Others have fun with their careers/friends. It’s important to find what you want in life while also enjoying the journey. That applies to all of us regardless the age or stage of our life’s.
So true. For me, my success is measured by the success of my children. I gave up a career in my life and all this to fulfill my dream, to start a successful family and children. I'm quite educated and have a university degree and really wholeheartedly, I do not feel missed. At the moment, I am also involved in education and teaching children in school. I think I could not combine a career with mothers and preferred to pay the price by giving up my own career for the sake of the integrity of my family and children. My husband works shifts at the airport and is not at home much. I believe the woman is the heart and backbone of the home. So it is, that I have no regrets, or misses, loving my life as it is. To be honest, before I got married I traveled a lot around the world and lived in New York for two years, so I also did not miss it. For me, I have fulfilled myself and the greatest passion I have and still have, my dear husband and my children❤❤
@@viennala2528 My sweetheart, of course not. It is important to me that my children be happy and happy first and foremost and succeed in their own way. For me, everything is acceptable, do not pressure them on anything, let them progress at their own pace.
I think Jürgen and you are the kind of couple who always say “ naah we don’t want to get married” and then just suddenly run off and elope just the two of you 😂😂
So I'm absolutely your opinion, I mean you've been together for ten years and you don't have to prove anything to anyone. You guys have a a healthy, beautiful, stable and strong relationship. But what I personally love the most about you guys is: You grow together you have experiences together you can share your experiences and you get stronger and stronger. Guys ich lieb euch einfach. Bin ein Riesen Fan von euch. Liebe Grüße aus Stuttgart ❤️
this is SO refreshing to hear. I have always felt the same way! There is way too much societal pressure on marriage and children etc. Especially for women it can be so stressful and overwhelming to hear friends talk about marriage + kids when it isn't something in your radar!
I absolutely agree with everything both of you said. It's true that people can get offended if you have a different opinion, experience, or deviate from some standard rhythm. Sometimes, I regret that I can't honestly express my opinion among such people in most cases because I know they will be offended. I have been in a relationship for 12 and a half years, and everything is wonderful; we have no problems or difficulties, and people ,in our environment, have never taken us seriously because we don't carry the title of being ,,married''. A few days ago, he decided to propose to me, and friends bombarded us with questions like whether I'm pregnant, why we haven't planned the wedding, why after 12 years, why we waited so long, and sentences like "You'll see when you're pregnant" and similar remarks... I believe that due to so many expectations and the toxicity spreading through society at an alarming rate, many relationships fall apart, and that's sad. As you already said ,we all have our own pace, interests, and lives, and I would love to see that being more appreciated. I'm glad you made this video, glad that you have his support
I'd just like to drop you a line on the marriage topic: I've been feeling lately like I am at that period of my life where I should get married and think about kids, and I think this came to me more because of others' expectations than my own. I've been together with my boyfriend for 4 years and we've been living together (essentially just like a family whatsoever) since month 2. And I've never felt pressure to want marriage up until the moment more and more of my friends started making families and they've got their eyes on me like "soo when's your turn", which to me feels as if I was asking them "sooo when do you get a job? or start a business?" Funny, I am always the one who stands away from the crowd waiting to catch the bouquet and lately I'm finding myself lost in how things "should be" according to other people's mindset. Rather, just like you say it - success means different things for everybody and nobody should be forcing their ideas onto other people, be it marriage or business, or job, or family. Thanks for this reminder Xenia! xo
Totally agree with you that NO matter how progressive and evolved we’d like to think we are, society still has so many traditional expectations. Especially of women. The most difficult thing is that sometimes it’s an undercurrent and not as obvious on the surface. That’s the more dangerous pressure. I’ve been taking more time to consider things, question and try to be more intentional about everything!
Watching your videos makes me feel like I am hearing my own voices inside of my head. I couldn’t agree more with your opinion about success and the unnecessary need of having big goals. Keep doing what you do I really appreciate your honesty.
Totally agree with you. The pressure of society just make us not want to do things just to prove something. We all have different visions of life, we just have to accept it and let others live their lifes 🤷🏼♀️ love your honest content 🤍
Thank you!! I’m experiencing the same with the marriage thing.. “so, when’s your turn? For how long are you together now?” why do people I barely know, care about this? There’s so much more about me apart from my marital status. It’s like some people think you’re not complete without marriage / a relationship. I get the point, they want to see me happy. But then again - happiness is more than just marital status. And as I said, on some days some random people I see maybe twice a year annoy me with this question. As on the pill subject - I stopped taking it three years ago and I love how I got to know my body and it’s signals, especially during my cycle again. Love that you’re so focused on attire and love seeing you thriving! 💫 💕
SO TRUEEEE I couldn’t agree more. That’s why I joke that I am protesting against these ridiculous expectations. I am complete as I am and we as a couple are complete as we are. Sending u love
That was amazing 👏 like you just said everything I always thought but never said to anyone because everyone has those expectations that you should have life goals but we change so quickly. I wanted to be nurse when I was 15 and now I am studying finances.
isnt if funny, that we know, all this superficial stuff doesnt matter at all, but yet we keep on doing it... i love fancy things, clothes, makeup, cars, nice furniture or good hotel, but i have learned over the years, that beauty is nice, but its just glitter on the outside. really what matters is love, health, peace, joy, relationship with myself, family, partner and friends. we all will die, sooner than later, so make your life count, collect memories, not things
YES!! I wonder about this every day! I really really wonder. It’s like being a living paradox but I think it‘s very human to be paradoxical in many ways
I love hearing you voice out what you think abt different topics. It’s always refreshing watching these unedited/ raw UA-cam, and I definitely enjoyed watching🥰🥰🥰
I recommend to read the “Beyond the Pill” book by Jolene Brighten. When I quit the pill it helped so much to balance my hormones in a natural way. (I started to taking it for hormonal imbalance and was so stupid decision....) that book will help so much how to clear your body faster after the pill ☺️🙏🏻
Hey Gigi, I'm actually starting to take the pill because of my hormonal imbalance... would you like to share more about your expereience on that topic? :) it woul really help. But no pressure, if it's too personal.
@@hannabe2102 Hi Hanne, the pill will only flourish your hormonal imbalances and not make them actually better or go away. You will notice this once you stop taking the pill and it could be the case that your hormonal imbalances get even worse because you were on the pill for a while. The book Gigi is referring to is a very good read on this topic with a lot of facts, I suggest you read this book and take a look on some women platforms online where women share their experiences for more information. Hormonal imbalances can be helped with eating and cutting certain foods from your diet. Plants are absolutely the body's best medicine. Best regards, Lily
I love your videos and i could listen to you (both) for hours 🙌🏻 so many good arguments and its really refreshing that you say out loud what you honestly think. Thanks! 💕
Me and my partner of 4 years have a similar outlook on getting married. We don't care about the religious aspect or the formalities.We just want to have a party with all our friends and celebrate love. It won't change anything between us but we'll have a beautiful memory to look back on xx
Thank you for sharing, great video. Coming off the pill was the best thing I did! I’m still waiting for a period 1 year down the road but feeling hopeful it will return to normal soon ❤️
Xenia 2021 "ladi, ladi, la". 😂 It's so funny and inspiring listening to you. Even though sometimes I do not totally agree with what you say, anyway it makes me really think.
I totally get it ! Society expects individuals to get married at a certain age have kids at another age and it just makes lots of people focus on those milestones rather than enjoy life and be happy ❤️ and we all are different ... and that makes it more beautiful
Fühle ich so! Ich möchte weder Ehe noch Kinder noch überhaupt einen festen Partner haben, weil Karriere für mich vorgeht. Ich werde dieses Jahr 27 und ihr glaubt nicht, wie oft ich mich für meinen Standpunkt - der ja nur mich & mein Leben betrifft - rechtfertigen muss!
Ich kann dich total nachvollziehen. Hab genau die selbe Situation (werde bald 30). Seltsamerweise werde ich aber immer nur von meinen Freundinnen - also wirklich nur von Frauen - deshalb in eine Ecke gedrängt. Ich komme aus einem Dorf, wir (meine Freundinnen und ich) sind alle studiert, haben jahrelang in größeren bzw. Großstädten gelebt und dementsprechend freie/andere Lebensweisen auch gesehen und kennengelernt. Kaum sind wir nach und nach wieder zurück in der Heimat, hab ich das Gefühl, dass alle von ihnen das, was sie eigentlich ja in den Großstädten gesehen haben, vergessen und plötzlich zurück in die Denkweise von Hausfrauen aus den 60ern im Sinne von Engstirnigkeit zurück gestuft sind...es ist einfach nur ätzend. Von mir aus sollen sie machen, was sie wollen, sich für 40 Jahre verschulden für ein Haus, 2 Kinder bekommen, 20.000 Euro für eine Hochzeit ausgeben etc. Es ist mir scheiß egal, es ist ihr Leben. Aber mich mein Leben leben wie ich es will, das wird immer hinterfragt.
Xenia I can relate to you so much! Thank you for this video, I will send it to all of my friends who doesn't understand me hahah. I have been with my boyfriend for 15years and we aren't planning to get married or have children in the near future. Who knows what might happen, but at the moment we aren't planning it. I have just started my business and listening to you I feel that I can relate to it soooo much, Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I definitely agree that everybody has his own goals in life, his choices, and everybody is different and unique. But I don’t agree that only the simple things matter in life, and not the fancy ones, because in my opinion, first of all you need to have it all what you are dreaming about, in order understand what makes you really happy, you know what I mean ? Only when you have fancy and everything, here you’ll be able to choose what matters for you. So I think it’s also a super important experience
I totally get where you are coming from, good point, however I actually don’t think so - because if you look, there are tons of people who have this realization without reaching this point first. My fav person on the internet is Isabel Paige and she’s the best example of not needing a lot to be happy and experience life in its depth. I think you need to have the bases such as good health, a home, food, feeling safe and secure, which is all also part of being privileged but its also things that most of my audience, who watches me, have.. the rest is just an illusion. I knew this already before I became ‘wealthier’. For example, if I wasn’t materialistically successful I wouldn’t be an unhappy person as long as my base needs would be fulfilled. But I get your point and I think its worth a conversation :) xx
@@xeniaadonts Yes Xenia, I get you totally! I didn’t mean that we are not able to be happy in life without wealth. Of course, the basics are the most important ones and we should be grateful for everything in our life. But in my opinion wealth experience is definitely something of another level and needs also to be experienced in order to make more qualitative conclusions about what really matters in life. Not everyone is striving for wealth and it’s totally normal, everybody has his own goals. But those who want it, as myself, we need to achieve it first in order to make better conclusions about life. Really cool that you have achieved this level and that you are experiencing it! I’m sure it’s a goal for many of us here 💓 and may be we’ll experience it with different conclusions 🤩
I think I totally agree with you guys (although we are married for 10+ years - first bornes etc.... ) but now that we think about it we wouldn't get married if we would need to do it now. I think regarding the success it's very very valid and I agree , but i think this comes only when you are actually content with how you are and where you are in the place in life, I don't have goals but also we just purchased a house, got a Tesla and each of us got a promotion in their jobs, so I think that I agree but I can absolutely see how many people wouldn't agree with it as they are in a different places in life.
For me wedding or marriage (by my culture I’m Mexican) means finally go to live with the person you love by mean my boyfriend and to start a life together and not before that but I do understand that everyone has their own opinion, and also because of the time we’ve been together we need to get married now but the I realised I don’t even want to do it now even if everyone is telling me to do it. So my final advice is to do what’s best for you 🙌🏼
I share the same thoughts and feelings about success and marriage. I don’t want to get married or have kids because I am happy with this moment in time, if that changes one day maybe I’ll do it, if it doesn’t change then I won’t
I feel exactly the same way about marriage. It‘s nice and if I get married I want it to be perfect but I don’t need it at the moment and I don’t need it to be happy
You should read 'How the Pill Changes Everything' by Dr. Sarah E Hill. It was so informative and unlike any book on birth control I've ever read before - recommend it highly!!
I am a neurologist and I see often young women with stroke. Its poison and its a huge conflict of interest. If this was for men, it would be forbidden since years. Thank you for speaking about this
Great news about birth control! I mean I completely agree with you, the pill is shocking and should not be handed to women like candy, women do not ovulate and actually do not have real menstruation when taking it... our cycle is our 5th vital sign after all!
I've never understood why people spend thousands and thousands to prove to others they're in love...having a weeding for myself has never made sense but yes I also love weddings. I completely understand
My best friend is currently in the process of getting married and I thought it would really catch my but quite the opposite happened. It is so stressfull and freaking expensive and as you said, takes up so much headspace. And I can so relate to the 'we are already behaving like a married couple'. Right now its definitly not on my plan but we see what the future will bring. Btw, love your videos 🥰❤️
Hellooo guuys I looove youuu both ❤❤❤❤Success has a different meaning from person to person and every success is worthy now matter what !even the smallest one!! we're in a different journey and we have a different purpose in life the most important thing that it's contributing to live a peaceful life ❤❤❤❤❤
Love your thoughts on marriage. I wish having kids and getting married was on the same level of choosing to have a pet, now I feel it is on the level of having a job or being unemployed
Oh gott kann es so gut nachvollziehen dass du von den ganzen Kommentaren genervt bist und am liebsten aus protest nicht heiraten willst 😂 was ihr habt ist ein Bindung die sich viele nur erhoffen können! freue mich schon auf den Tag wenn ihr dann doch heiratet! 😍
I'd loooove to hear your brain explosion in minute 12 on what your friend should do for her business ! :) I want to take that step as well and unfortunately dont have 2 Business-BFFs :D
Totally agree with ur point of view of mariage .. but what happens if something happens to u or ur boyfriend ? Specially if u have such a successful business ! Do you want ur parents to own ur business ? In France taxes are 60% if you make a will to someone u are not married to .. (Just the legal point of view on wedding 🥰)
Yeah I think if something terrible happens this wouldn’t be the first worry. Attire is still in its baby shoes and its not a safe business idea. Not yet. I think we can think more seriously about it once it becomes bigger. U can’t have security in everything in life imo. But good point anyway ;D
I don’t mention it because I think everybody should consult with their doctor and find a solution that fits with their lifestyle! I don’t wanna be blamed for unexpected kiddos in the future ahahaha
And if you do get married, the next thing these same people will start asking you is, “ How’s married life?” As if there’s an answer besides ‘good.’ Then it’s, “When are you having kids?” Nosy people.
I want to say this as the daughter of two people who thought very similarly to you Xenia and because Life happens, never ended up getting married. They faced an even more conservative society then who put some pressure but now after everything even though they are still together they missed out on having this fun celebration. It is for you after all. Its your memories that you create. Its pictures and videos you will have later on. They dont have this.
I have the same opinion on marriage as you guys but when I decide to have children with my partner I would do it because I’ve seen friends who struggle e.g. when they travel with their child and it doesn’t have the same name and other legal stuff… I mean it sucks and maybe this will change but the legal system is still so conservative it sucks
Mein Mann und ich haben nach 15 Jahren einfach Einladungen zur Hochzeit geschickt - einfach weil wir es wollten. Alllle haben geantwortet ... boooahhhhh bekommt ihr ein Kind? Wir so ... hää wieso? Ja warum heiratet ihr sonst jetzt plötzlich ... so viel zum Thema Erwartungen!
Hi Jürgen and Xenia!!! I just discovered you literally friday night on tiktok and I already went through all your insta and your UA-cam videos. I completely understand what you mean, I just read a book that talks about it, its called "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" and basically talks about how its okay of not putting success to be "awesome" because maybe your kind of success was meant to be something else. For me literally I found what I want to be in 7 years (you) I am 23, about to graduate from my bachelor's Business administration and Im very confused of what to do now with my life. I want to do everything and I have always said that there is so much world and so little time... If you are looking for an intern or assistant of the assistant or a friend please give me a call hahahaha. Love, your most recent biggest fan Brenda, mexican 23.
Society want all of us running in a wheel, the same wheel for all, like robots. I personally ignore the voices of 'society', my life is mine and we all have different personalities and differents ways of living. Come one, we have to change it, we're free to choose how we want lo live life and we're all different
I don't ever want to get married because what's the point? I don't like the idea of marriage, how traditionally it is a selling of a woman to be some kind of a servant to her husband, a slave, child bearer and how the man is to be in charge of all the money. Of course the times have changed but even the concept of taking your husband's name. I don't feel a need to prove to the society that my relationship is valid and real. That I take my partner seriously. The pressure to get married is actually what pushes me even farther away from it. Besides it is so pricey. Why would I spend so much on a party? You can always elope of course, but again, why would I want to. If you love someone you do not need a silly-ass ceremony to prove it. Also the idea of being legally-bound to someone. If it makes you feel more secure, sure that your partner won't leave you maybe you should seriously rethink your relationship. I love the idea of being with someone for years because we love each other and not because we are married.
Wow ich habe gerade bemerkt, dass das mit der Pille und Migräne auch auf mich zutrifft. Ohne dich hätte ich das nie bemerkt! Hast du seit dem Absetzen weniger Migräne-Anfälle?
Success has a different meaning for everyone. Some women dream to become a mother, some others don’t want children. Others have fun with their careers/friends. It’s important to find what you want in life while also enjoying the journey. That applies to all of us regardless the age or stage of our life’s.
My point exactly.
So true. For me, my success is measured by the success of my children. I gave up a career in my life and all this to fulfill my dream, to start a successful family and children. I'm quite educated and have a university degree and really wholeheartedly, I do not feel missed.
At the moment, I am also involved in education and teaching children in school. I think I could not combine a career with mothers and preferred to pay the price by giving up my own career for the sake of the integrity of my family and children.
My husband works shifts at the airport and is not at home much. I believe the woman is the heart and backbone of the home. So it is, that I have no regrets, or misses, loving my life as it is. To be honest, before I got married I traveled a lot around the world and lived in New York for two years, so I also did not miss it. For me, I have fulfilled myself and the greatest passion I have and still have, my dear husband and my children❤❤
@@galitbenzaken2713 'My success is measured by the success of my children' please dont turn out to be a controlling toxic parent
@@viennala2528
My sweetheart, of course not.
It is important to me that my children be happy and happy first and foremost and succeed in their own way. For me, everything is acceptable, do not pressure them on anything, let them progress at their own pace.
I think Jürgen and you are the kind of couple who always say “ naah we don’t want to get married” and then just suddenly run off and elope just the two of you 😂😂
LOL PROBZ
My favorite blogger, the most authentic one in the game 💗💗
Awww ilysm!!!
So I'm absolutely your opinion, I mean you've been together for ten years and you don't have to prove anything to anyone. You guys have a a healthy, beautiful, stable and strong relationship. But what I personally love the most about you guys is: You grow together you have experiences together you can share your experiences and you get stronger and stronger. Guys ich lieb euch einfach. Bin ein Riesen Fan von euch. Liebe Grüße aus Stuttgart ❤️
Much love :))
Hey ich bin auch aus Stuttgart @Despina 🥰👋
this is SO refreshing to hear. I have always felt the same way! There is way too much societal pressure on marriage and children etc. Especially for women it can be so stressful and overwhelming to hear friends talk about marriage + kids when it isn't something in your radar!
I absolutely agree with everything both of you said.
It's true that people can get offended if you have a different opinion, experience, or deviate from some standard rhythm. Sometimes, I regret that I can't honestly express my opinion among such people in most cases because I know they will be offended.
I have been in a relationship for 12 and a half years, and everything is wonderful; we have no problems or difficulties, and people ,in our environment, have never taken us seriously because we don't carry the title of being ,,married''.
A few days ago, he decided to propose to me, and friends bombarded us with questions like whether I'm pregnant, why we haven't planned the wedding, why after 12 years, why we waited so long, and sentences like "You'll see when you're pregnant" and similar remarks...
I believe that due to so many expectations and the toxicity spreading through society at an alarming rate, many relationships fall apart, and that's sad. As you already said ,we all have our own pace, interests, and lives, and I would love to see that being more appreciated. I'm glad you made this video, glad that you have his support
This calmed me down🥰 Thank you Xenia and Jürgen, that was beautiful and humble.
I agree soooo much with your opinion on these topics!
And I loved the unedited, casual video style! 💕
Thank uuuu so happy u like it , its my fav video format tbh
Keep flowing with it 🥰
I'd just like to drop you a line on the marriage topic: I've been feeling lately like I am at that period of my life where I should get married and think about kids, and I think this came to me more because of others' expectations than my own. I've been together with my boyfriend for 4 years and we've been living together (essentially just like a family whatsoever) since month 2. And I've never felt pressure to want marriage up until the moment more and more of my friends started making families and they've got their eyes on me like "soo when's your turn", which to me feels as if I was asking them "sooo when do you get a job? or start a business?" Funny, I am always the one who stands away from the crowd waiting to catch the bouquet and lately I'm finding myself lost in how things "should be" according to other people's mindset. Rather, just like you say it - success means different things for everybody and nobody should be forcing their ideas onto other people, be it marriage or business, or job, or family. Thanks for this reminder Xenia! xo
You’re an amazing soul. My Aquarius soulmate. Absolutely!💕
Aquarius energy ;)
Totally agree with you that NO matter how progressive and evolved we’d like to think we are, society still has so many traditional expectations. Especially of women. The most difficult thing is that sometimes it’s an undercurrent and not as obvious on the surface. That’s the more dangerous pressure. I’ve been taking more time to consider things, question and try to be more intentional about everything!
Watching your videos makes me feel like I am hearing my own voices inside of my head. I couldn’t agree more with your opinion about success and the unnecessary need of having big goals. Keep doing what you do I really appreciate your honesty.
I LOVE YOUR OPINION GIRL!! Also loved this was so natural felt like I was talking to you myself !!🥺💕💕
Totally agree with you. The pressure of society just make us not want to do things just to prove something. We all have different visions of life, we just have to accept it and let others live their lifes 🤷🏼♀️ love your honest content 🤍
Thank you!! I’m experiencing the same with the marriage thing.. “so, when’s your turn? For how long are you together now?” why do people I barely know, care about this? There’s so much more about me apart from my marital status. It’s like some people think you’re not complete without marriage / a relationship. I get the point, they want to see me happy. But then again - happiness is more than just marital status. And as I said, on some days some random people I see maybe twice a year annoy me with this question.
As on the pill subject - I stopped taking it three years ago and I love how I got to know my body and it’s signals, especially during my cycle again.
Love that you’re so focused on attire and love seeing you thriving! 💫 💕
Ps: you’re not part of any problem! You’re helping so many people out with your honesty!
SO TRUEEEE I couldn’t agree more. That’s why I joke that I am protesting against these ridiculous expectations. I am complete as I am and we as a couple are complete as we are. Sending u love
That was amazing 👏 like you just said everything I always thought but never said to anyone because everyone has those expectations that you should have life goals but we change so quickly. I wanted to be nurse when I was 15 and now I am studying finances.
Seeee, and that’s what makes life so exciting! There is not just ‘one way’ :)
Love the honesty and transparency ❤️
isnt if funny, that we know, all this superficial stuff doesnt matter at all, but yet we keep on doing it... i love fancy things, clothes, makeup, cars, nice furniture or good hotel, but i have learned over the years, that beauty is nice, but its just glitter on the outside. really what matters is love, health, peace, joy, relationship with myself, family, partner and friends. we all will die, sooner than later, so make your life count, collect memories, not things
YES!! I wonder about this every day! I really really wonder. It’s like being a living paradox but I think it‘s very human to be paradoxical in many ways
This was much better than most of the motivational ted talks 💕💕💕
awww thank u!
@@xeniaadonts you made my day 🥰🥰💕💕
I love hearing you voice out what you think abt different topics. It’s always refreshing watching these unedited/ raw UA-cam, and I definitely enjoyed watching🥰🥰🥰
In the beginning I am like: Please sit down Xenia! hahahaha
I agree! I couldn't pay attention 🙈
love to hear this. I feel like i’m in your room right there being part of the conversation. loveeeee your videos!!!
I recommend to read the “Beyond the Pill” book by Jolene Brighten. When I quit the pill it helped so much to balance my hormones in a natural way. (I started to taking it for hormonal imbalance and was so stupid decision....) that book will help so much how to clear your body faster after the pill ☺️🙏🏻
Hey Gigi, I'm actually starting to take the pill because of my hormonal imbalance... would you like to share more about your expereience on that topic? :) it woul really help. But no pressure, if it's too personal.
@@hannabe2102 Hi Hanne, the pill will only flourish your hormonal imbalances and not make them actually better or go away. You will notice this once you stop taking the pill and it could be the case that your hormonal imbalances get even worse because you were on the pill for a while. The book Gigi is referring to is a very good read on this topic with a lot of facts, I suggest you read this book and take a look on some women platforms online where women share their experiences for more information. Hormonal imbalances can be helped with eating and cutting certain foods from your diet. Plants are absolutely the body's best medicine. Best regards, Lily
No edit is the best edit KISSSS
I honestly love it haha
I love your videos and i could listen to you (both) for hours 🙌🏻 so many good arguments and its really refreshing that you say out loud what you honestly think. Thanks! 💕
Love you
Me and my partner of 4 years have a similar outlook on getting married. We don't care about the religious aspect or the formalities.We just want to have a party with all our friends and celebrate love. It won't change anything between us but we'll have a beautiful memory to look back on xx
Thank you for sharing, great video. Coming off the pill was the best thing I did! I’m still waiting for a period 1 year down the road but feeling hopeful it will return to normal soon ❤️
the BEST! So happy for u!
Xenia 2021 "ladi, ladi, la". 😂
It's so funny and inspiring listening to you. Even though sometimes I do not totally agree with what you say, anyway it makes me really think.
I totally get it ! Society expects individuals to get married at a certain age have kids at another age and it just makes lots of people focus on those milestones rather than enjoy life and be happy ❤️ and we all are different ... and that makes it more beautiful
So much more beautiful and more interesting. We should celebrate our different life paths and not try to fit in!
I like that you are honest about your opinions. It’s Totally ok. Love you🥰😍🙌🏻
Hahaha I can’t help it!! Love u tooo!!!
When do you upload the video about the rhinoplasty? :)
Only love to you thank you for all this honesty and rawness ❤️
Excited to watch this! 🤍
I think success isn’t defined by business or anything. It is succeeding in what YOU want, whatever that may be!
Fühle ich so! Ich möchte weder Ehe noch Kinder noch überhaupt einen festen Partner haben, weil Karriere für mich vorgeht. Ich werde dieses Jahr 27 und ihr glaubt nicht, wie oft ich mich für meinen Standpunkt - der ja nur mich & mein Leben betrifft - rechtfertigen muss!
Ich kann dich total nachvollziehen. Hab genau die selbe Situation (werde bald 30). Seltsamerweise werde ich aber immer nur von meinen Freundinnen - also wirklich nur von Frauen - deshalb in eine Ecke gedrängt. Ich komme aus einem Dorf, wir (meine Freundinnen und ich) sind alle studiert, haben jahrelang in größeren bzw. Großstädten gelebt und dementsprechend freie/andere Lebensweisen auch gesehen und kennengelernt. Kaum sind wir nach und nach wieder zurück in der Heimat, hab ich das Gefühl, dass alle von ihnen das, was sie eigentlich ja in den Großstädten gesehen haben, vergessen und plötzlich zurück in die Denkweise von Hausfrauen aus den 60ern im Sinne von Engstirnigkeit zurück gestuft sind...es ist einfach nur ätzend. Von mir aus sollen sie machen, was sie wollen, sich für 40 Jahre verschulden für ein Haus, 2 Kinder bekommen, 20.000 Euro für eine Hochzeit ausgeben etc. Es ist mir scheiß egal, es ist ihr Leben. Aber mich mein Leben leben wie ich es will, das wird immer hinterfragt.
So wahr & so verrückt! Manchmal frag ich mich, in welchem Jahr wir sind ;D xx
Xenia I can relate to you so much! Thank you for this video, I will send it to all of my friends who doesn't understand me hahah. I have been with my boyfriend for 15years and we aren't planning to get married or have children in the near future. Who knows what might happen, but at the moment we aren't planning it. I have just started my business and listening to you I feel that I can relate to it soooo much, Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I definitely agree that everybody has his own goals in life, his choices, and everybody is different and unique. But I don’t agree that only the simple things matter in life, and not the fancy ones, because in my opinion, first of all you need to have it all what you are dreaming about, in order understand what makes you really happy, you know what I mean ? Only when you have fancy and everything, here you’ll be able to choose what matters for you. So I think it’s also a super important experience
I totally get where you are coming from, good point, however I actually don’t think so - because if you look, there are tons of people who have this realization without reaching this point first. My fav person on the internet is Isabel Paige and she’s the best example of not needing a lot to be happy and experience life in its depth. I think you need to have the bases such as good health, a home, food, feeling safe and secure, which is all also part of being privileged but its also things that most of my audience, who watches me, have.. the rest is just an illusion. I knew this already before I became ‘wealthier’. For example, if I wasn’t materialistically successful I wouldn’t be an unhappy person as long as my base needs would be fulfilled. But I get your point and I think its worth a conversation :) xx
@@xeniaadonts Yes Xenia, I get you totally! I didn’t mean that we are not able to be happy in life without wealth. Of course, the basics are the most important ones and we should be grateful for everything in our life. But in my opinion wealth experience is definitely something of another level and needs also to be experienced in order to make more qualitative conclusions about what really matters in life. Not everyone is striving for wealth and it’s totally normal, everybody has his own goals. But those who want it, as myself, we need to achieve it first in order to make better conclusions about life. Really cool that you have achieved this level and that you are experiencing it! I’m sure it’s a goal for many of us here 💓 and may be we’ll experience it with different conclusions 🤩
I think I totally agree with you guys (although we are married for 10+ years - first bornes etc.... ) but now that we think about it we wouldn't get married if we would need to do it now. I think regarding the success it's very very valid and I agree , but i think this comes only when you are actually content with how you are and where you are in the place in life, I don't have goals but also we just purchased a house, got a Tesla and each of us got a promotion in their jobs, so I think that I agree but I can absolutely see how many people wouldn't agree with it as they are in a different places in life.
Thank you for encouraging us to be ourselves! ❤️
For me wedding or marriage (by my culture I’m Mexican) means finally go to live with the person you love by mean my boyfriend and to start a life together and not before that but I do understand that everyone has their own opinion, and also because of the time we’ve been together we need to get married now but the I realised I don’t even want to do it now even if everyone is telling me to do it. So my final advice is to do what’s best for you 🙌🏼
Thank you for your honesty, Xenia.
This was such a great video!
I share the same thoughts and feelings about success and marriage. I don’t want to get married or have kids because I am happy with this moment in time, if that changes one day maybe I’ll do it, if it doesn’t change then I won’t
I feel exactly the same way about marriage. It‘s nice and if I get married I want it to be perfect but I don’t need it at the moment and I don’t need it to be happy
Xenia, what camera do you use? This vlog video quality is incredible!
aww I love the comparison to Rue in the end
I am a new follower of yours and so inspired by your passions! Woof :)))))
Hiiii ily :)
You should read 'How the Pill Changes Everything' by Dr. Sarah E Hill. It was so informative and unlike any book on birth control I've ever read before - recommend it highly!!
I am a neurologist and I see often young women with stroke. Its poison and its a huge conflict of interest. If this was for men, it would be forbidden since years. Thank you for speaking about this
Great news about birth control! I mean I completely agree with you, the pill is shocking and should not be handed to women like candy, women do not ovulate and actually do not have real menstruation when taking it... our cycle is our 5th vital sign after all!
oh and ps. please do share all of the tips, tricks, books etc. for entrepreneurship! I'd love to know :)
Strongest woman I know 💖
I've never understood why people spend thousands and thousands to prove to others they're in love...having a weeding for myself has never made sense but yes I also love weddings. I completely understand
My best friend is currently in the process of getting married and I thought it would really catch my but quite the opposite happened. It is so stressfull and freaking expensive and as you said, takes up so much headspace. And I can so relate to the 'we are already behaving like a married couple'. Right now its definitly not on my plan but we see what the future will bring.
Btw, love your videos 🥰❤️
Hahaha love this, I think everybody is so different and that’s what should be celebrated instead of expecting everybody to behave the same way ;)
Hellooo guuys I looove youuu both ❤❤❤❤Success has a different meaning from person to person and every success is worthy now matter what !even the smallest one!! we're in a different journey and we have a different purpose in life the most important thing that it's contributing to live a peaceful life ❤❤❤❤❤
Love your thoughts on marriage. I wish having kids and getting married was on the same level of choosing to have a pet, now I feel it is on the level of having a job or being unemployed
Oh yes, seriously. I feel bad for every person who feels pressure from outside! YOU DO YOU
@@xeniaadonts 💛💛!
Looove your image quality, it is so much better than big youtubers I look, can you share your set ?
„I tooootally know what you mean“
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LOL
You are soo smart and real!
Heyy xania what do you use to edit your vids??
Which books have you read or can you recommend regarding hormones?
Would you share the books you read on hormones and the pill? Thank you!
Oh gott kann es so gut nachvollziehen dass du von den ganzen Kommentaren genervt bist und am liebsten aus protest nicht heiraten willst 😂 was ihr habt ist ein Bindung die sich viele nur erhoffen können! freue mich schon auf den Tag wenn ihr dann doch heiratet! 😍
Please restock the new attire!!!
I'd loooove to hear your brain explosion in minute 12 on what your friend should do for her business ! :) I want to take that step as well and unfortunately dont have 2 Business-BFFs :D
Hi!! where is your sweater from??
Omg 15 years with pills! It’s not good... I’m glad you stopped
Totally agree with ur point of view of mariage .. but what happens if something happens to u or ur boyfriend ? Specially if u have such a successful business !
Do you want ur parents to own ur business ?
In France taxes are 60% if you make a will to someone u are not married to ..
(Just the legal point of view on wedding 🥰)
Yeah I think if something terrible happens this wouldn’t be the first worry. Attire is still in its baby shoes and its not a safe business idea. Not yet. I think we can think more seriously about it once it becomes bigger. U can’t have security in everything in life imo. But good point anyway ;D
@@xeniaadonts really hope it will become a huge brand! You have such a great style, ideas.. wish u the best !
What method of contraception are you using now?
I don’t mention it because I think everybody should consult with their doctor and find a solution that fits with their lifestyle! I don’t wanna be blamed for unexpected kiddos in the future ahahaha
SAME THOUGHTS on both topics. Really. :-)
Yay I’m not the only one haha
So how do you prevent pregnancy now ?
Where is the Pullover from ?♥️
Yeah it’s gorgeous fit( I think it is Attire
🤣🤣🤣 I also don't wanna get married because of protest I swear all the married ones will get divorced soon while we are on our 15th year 🤣🤣🤣
And if you do get married, the next thing these same people will start asking you is, “ How’s married life?” As if there’s an answer besides ‘good.’ Then it’s, “When are you having kids?” Nosy people.
I subscribed because you always make me 😂
I enjoy your authentic and fun way of being! Can you recommend your favorite books for business, please? 🤗 greetings from berlin ;)
I have the same opinion about marriage as you have!!
Yassss I’m not alone ;D
I think marriage is more like symbolical
I want to say this as the daughter of two people who thought very similarly to you Xenia and because Life happens, never ended up getting married. They faced an even more conservative society then who put some pressure but now after everything even though they are still together they missed out on having this fun celebration. It is for you after all. Its your memories that you create. Its pictures and videos you will have later on. They dont have this.
The thumbnail got me. Where's that cute turtleneck from?
I have the same opinion on marriage as you guys but when I decide to have children with my partner I would do it because I’ve seen friends who struggle e.g. when they travel with their child and it doesn’t have the same name and other legal stuff… I mean it sucks and maybe this will change but the legal system is still so conservative it sucks
Yeah I think for kids and ensuring the opposite partner gets money in the will getting married is worth it
I feel you 😘
Ich glaub ich bin echt nur hier um mein Leben zu genießen und das kann ich sehr gut ❤️🔥🌞🧚🏻♀️😎
Mein Mann und ich haben nach 15 Jahren einfach Einladungen zur Hochzeit geschickt - einfach weil wir es wollten. Alllle haben geantwortet ... boooahhhhh bekommt ihr ein Kind? Wir so ... hää wieso? Ja warum heiratet ihr sonst jetzt plötzlich ... so viel zum Thema Erwartungen!
Hi Jürgen and Xenia!!! I just discovered you literally friday night on tiktok and I already went through all your insta and your UA-cam videos. I completely understand what you mean, I just read a book that talks about it, its called "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" and basically talks about how its okay of not putting success to be "awesome" because maybe your kind of success was meant to be something else. For me literally I found what I want to be in 7 years (you) I am 23, about to graduate from my bachelor's Business administration and Im very confused of what to do now with my life. I want to do everything and I have always said that there is so much world and so little time... If you are looking for an intern or assistant of the assistant or a friend please give me a call hahahaha.
Love, your most recent biggest fan
Brenda, mexican 23.
I feel like Xenia is my bestie, even we never met 💐💕
Hi bestie!!
hiiiii ❤️❤️❤️❤️
You can also be just engaged for years 😋
Yes... but can u imagine how many people would ask ‚BuT wHeN iS tHe WeDDiNg‘ ;D
Xenia please put time codes 🙏🏻
Love you Xenia 🥰🥰🥰
LOVE U
You are sooooo cute!! Aquarius like 100% :))) Amaaazing mind though!
Omg I am the epitome of an Aquarius lol
Society want all of us running in a wheel, the same wheel for all, like robots. I personally ignore the voices of 'society', my life is mine and we all have different personalities and differents ways of living. Come one, we have to change it, we're free to choose how we want lo live life and we're all different
And omg I love Lou Lou too!! The veal Ragu is 🤤🤤🤤
I don't ever want to get married because what's the point? I don't like the idea of marriage, how traditionally it is a selling of a woman to be some kind of a servant to her husband, a slave, child bearer and how the man is to be in charge of all the money. Of course the times have changed but even the concept of taking your husband's name.
I don't feel a need to prove to the society that my relationship is valid and real. That I take my partner seriously. The pressure to get married is actually what pushes me even farther away from it.
Besides it is so pricey. Why would I spend so much on a party? You can always elope of course, but again, why would I want to.
If you love someone you do not need a silly-ass ceremony to prove it.
Also the idea of being legally-bound to someone. If it makes you feel more secure, sure that your partner won't leave you maybe you should seriously rethink your relationship.
I love the idea of being with someone for years because we love each other and not because we are married.
Success is so overrated
Wow ich habe gerade bemerkt, dass das mit der Pille und Migräne auch auf mich zutrifft. Ohne dich hätte ich das nie bemerkt! Hast du seit dem Absetzen weniger Migräne-Anfälle?
Ich hatte noch keinen einzigen!!!!! So crazy
@@xeniaadonts Wahnsinn!!! Verrückt, dass kein Arzt/ Ärztin einen darauf hinweist ... Ich war schon bei so vielen!
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If I invite you to my wedding in United States in like 10 years will you come?😂(I have no boyfriend yet though)
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I really hate that only a few doctors talk (or even know) about the adverse effects of pills and they just put it out there as the only option 😒
ME TOOOOOOOO I even had to ‘quit on my own’ bc none of 3 doctors wanted to let me off the pill. How sick
OMG. You Two. Just LOL!
Seriously