Grieving a loss? Here's what to do.

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  • Опубліковано 12 гру 2024

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  • @TooLazyToChoose
    @TooLazyToChoose 9 місяців тому +69

    I just lost my grandpa, and the only thing I’ve been doing is cry. He really meant a lot to me, and now… he’s gone. 😭

    • @crem44
      @crem44 8 місяців тому +4

      I realize how little time I have to spend with my grandparents, I wish you all the best. Everyone will deal with loss in their life.

    • @cynthiaestrella3791
      @cynthiaestrella3791 3 місяці тому +1

      hello may i ask if you are healed yet?

    • @TooLazyToChoose
      @TooLazyToChoose 3 місяці тому +4

      @@cynthiaestrella3791 you could say so. Still miss him a lot, but the pain isn’t as bad as before.

    • @wonxtyilei4594
      @wonxtyilei4594 2 місяці тому +3

      I feel you bro, I just lost my grandpa last month it hurt so bad now I’m learning to live with it

    • @thomastrainsmore2010
      @thomastrainsmore2010 22 дні тому

      I am really sorry to hear that

  • @andreasrubio
    @andreasrubio 10 місяців тому +111

    Don’t let them go. Keep them in your heart. Don’t forget that they’re always with you. I miss my best friend every single day. I hope to whoever is grieving to stay strong. You are not alone!

  • @XNonexistenceX
    @XNonexistenceX Рік тому +187

    I lost my mom 9/19/23 I’m broken. It hurts so bad. I can’t eat or sleep. I should have spent more time with her instead I took time for granted. I love my mom. Me and my 3 sisters are heartbroken. It was unexpected. The worst news to get on the phone while I am at work. Today me and my 3 sisters had to sign a paper for an agreement for mom to be cremated. I had to pick out a urn today for when they cremate her. This is the worst pain I have ever felt in my life and I am 40 years old. My wife and kids are my saviors without them I would have been done with life.

    • @generalalpha1
      @generalalpha1 Рік тому +13

      I lost my dad 25 hour after you losing yours 😢

    • @linjefferson6482
      @linjefferson6482 Рік тому +13

      Prayer to you and family I lost my mom 9/10/23 we are hanging in there .my dad is my main concern they were highschool sweethearts married 44 yr. I pray those who loss a love this year can continue to manage and some day soon find some peace and health and healing way to cope . I feel your pain wholeheartedly ❤

    • @jefferylawrence9812
      @jefferylawrence9812 Рік тому +3

      I pray your doing well!! I empathize with you friend!! It’s ok!! Right now my wife and kids are what I have now too!! There my everything!! Sending Love and prayers your way ❤

    • @generalalpha1
      @generalalpha1 Рік тому +1

      @@jefferylawrence9812 who did you lose recently?

    • @chaisandars1691
      @chaisandars1691 Рік тому +9

      I lost my dad less than a week ago… I’m so broken and shattered and have no idea how I’m gonna be able to withstand the day of his funeral when we cremate him… 😔🕊️

  • @mechanicallycreative9788
    @mechanicallycreative9788 Рік тому +40

    I never want to let go..

  • @chelseajones1686
    @chelseajones1686 Місяць тому +10

    I lost my 35 year old dad today I’m 11 and i have a 7 year old sister I am very sad and this video help me rest in peace mark I will always love you dad for ever❤💔🙏

  • @wrjsn231
    @wrjsn231 Рік тому +65

    Lost my husband - learning to live with half a heart. 💔

    • @deadtalkspodcast
      @deadtalkspodcast 10 місяців тому +4

      sending love ❤ if you’re ever looking for like minded people i’ve spoke to some amazing guest on the podcast here

    • @gailjordan3479
      @gailjordan3479 10 днів тому +2

      My husband is at home with hospice he has leukemia and they say he will be gone in a week my heart is breaking he’s my best friend I feel like I can’t. Breathe i hope we both can become stronger

  • @wolverineforce2068
    @wolverineforce2068 9 місяців тому +4

    Lost my mom when I was a JR In highschool back in 2017. Took me 6 yrs to move on. 2024 I'm 24 now and looking back I was lost without her in this world as a grown man. Knowing that same love I received will never come around in a day of my life. I accepted and now I can see clear now.

  • @Tory-fd5gs
    @Tory-fd5gs 7 місяців тому +27

    My rabbit died yesterday and ive known her sjnce as long as i can remember and poeple say its just a bunny get over it but when they say that it makes me angry and i couldnt sleep at all last night i havent been happy since sunday i really miss her

    • @InTheLight54
      @InTheLight54 6 місяців тому +5

      Of course we grief about our animals and I have lost plenty over the last 20 years. They are part of the family and will be missed the same as a person at least in my family that's the case. 🫂

    • @edwardianspice1
      @edwardianspice1 2 місяці тому +5

      Oh bless you. I think it’s so important to talk about pet loss. People who say, ‘he/she is just a rabbit/ cat/ dog’ whatever are stupid and ignorant. No one can legislate for the bonds we form with animals

    • @briannab5296
      @briannab5296 6 днів тому +1

      Bless your heart, so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful bunny.
      For me, pet loss goes much deeper than people loss. Animals have the purest of souls and when they choose to love us humans is the greatest honor, and they get my unconditional soul-deep love, devotion, respect, commitment. Our connection is so much sweeter than with any human. . . but oh my gosh, how deeply it hurts when they suffer & die. The depth of our love will be the depth of our grief.

  • @CommonS3nse_
    @CommonS3nse_ 7 місяців тому +23

    I lost my best friend today 💔
    He was only 14
    I thank you for this video

    • @boatergirl4811
      @boatergirl4811 7 місяців тому +6

      I'm so sorry. I lost my sister last week 💔

    • @kathleenrivard2881
      @kathleenrivard2881 5 місяців тому +1

      I’m so sorry. ❤

    • @Mad-by9rd
      @Mad-by9rd Місяць тому +2

      I lost my best friend today too 💔

  • @taylorferreira2041
    @taylorferreira2041 11 місяців тому +16

    More ppl need this

  • @masraadvan961
    @masraadvan961 11 місяців тому +16

    Tomorrow I bury not only my only friend but the first one I ever made and I'm at a complete loss I've lost the only person I could talk to

  • @Indian-er6li
    @Indian-er6li 10 місяців тому +14

    I lost my dad in Jan 2024...i love him so much it hurts badly

    • @pretty_outkast
      @pretty_outkast 3 місяці тому +1

      I’m so sorry for your loss, i know the feeling I lost mine recently March 2024.. praying for healing and strength to get through this tough time ❤️‍🩹

    • @samia6888
      @samia6888 2 місяці тому +2

      @@pretty_outkast I also lost my dad in March 2024, I am so sorry for your loss as well as the original commenter 💔

    • @Aalvye
      @Aalvye 27 днів тому

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @beesknees213
    @beesknees213 7 місяців тому +5

    My oldest son died on March 12, 2024. I want to rest right now and tend to my plants. I don't want any more flowers... I just want to rest and not be rushed to do anything.

    • @briannab5296
      @briannab5296 6 днів тому

      So very sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. 😢
      I lost my 10 yr old furbaby boy Aug 17, 2024 (after also losing my sweet one yr old furbaby boy the year before...) and the way you articulate how you are feeling is exactly where i'm at.

  • @floh247
    @floh247 Рік тому +11

    Thank you. It is powerful to see and hear you say - it’s ok. I’m being honest for what I need to be in he moment. It helps not to fight it. To embrace the memory or put it away. Seeing my friend today helped too so I can see how strengthening my relationships is helping me ❤

  • @maunzee
    @maunzee Рік тому +24

    I lost my younger brother whose body had to wait almost a year to be shipped for burial. Next my dad and a cousin. Last week my cousin’s fiancé who who are both my friends and grew up with me. I’ve been trying to block all the memories and feelings. But this last brought everything back. I’m overwhelmed, emotionally broken and feel cursed and abandoned by God. It hurts so bad. 😢

    • @Xoxo_701
      @Xoxo_701 Рік тому

      Praying for you! ❤

    • @victoriadescalso6580
      @victoriadescalso6580 Рік тому +2

      So sorry for all your losses. I lost 3 loved ones in about a year. Although it’s heartbreaking 💔 my Faith believes they are RIP with God
      especially when they see we are doing things that makes us happy until we all meet again ... they are our Angels. Bless You and yours. 🙏❤️🕊🌎✨

    • @RFRKTRM
      @RFRKTRM Рік тому +1

      How are you holding up, brother?

    • @Aubrey2004-j4k
      @Aubrey2004-j4k 9 місяців тому +1

      Hi how are you holding up?

    • @razorsmum
      @razorsmum Місяць тому

      I understand. I lost 5 family members including, my husband and my dad and 3 lifetime friends, plus my dog in 2 years. Former friends are very distant and not understanding. I get it honey, I don't have any advice, I wish I did. Just know "You are not alone". I know that doesn't help. I wish you the best.

  • @antygona-iq8ew
    @antygona-iq8ew 9 місяців тому +13

    For last 3 months I just want stay in bad and cry. Life became overwhelming and I am falling in pieces. I feel like constantly beaten.

    • @boatergirl4811
      @boatergirl4811 5 місяців тому

      How are you managing now?

    • @antygona-iq8ew
      @antygona-iq8ew 5 місяців тому

      @@boatergirl4811 they are better and worse days, although sunny spels are rare and gloom can overtake really easy. I am sort of taming the pain, I dont desire so much to die maybe because I am bit by bit dying inside. Life became pointless and all efforts resemble Sysyphus' stone rolling, the stone will always fall down, despair always take over.

    • @Melanie.0345
      @Melanie.0345 3 місяці тому

      I just want to sleep and cry until I see her again

    • @antygona-iq8ew
      @antygona-iq8ew 3 місяці тому

      @@Melanie.0345 💔 is the person you are giving dead or alive?

    • @Melanie.0345
      @Melanie.0345 3 місяці тому

      @@antygona-iq8ew dead 😞 my only sister past away a month ago

  • @maryleahy895
    @maryleahy895 7 місяців тому +1

    You don't let go to a point you remember and cherish them.The ones you lost will always be a piece of your heart forever.Thier spirit will always be there to whisper to you.This is a informative post.

  • @shirleysarradet9486
    @shirleysarradet9486 Рік тому +23

    It's been over a year now!! I am very old... i wish I had words to tell how losing Paul has been for me...but...there are no words.. Paul died.

  • @ginacap100
    @ginacap100 7 місяців тому +7

    It’s so hard trying to maintain. Lost my son January 29th and my husband February 19th of this year 2024. I hurt so badly . I pray to God for some relief and I know it’s in His time. But Oh how I miss them both 💔💔

    • @FutureOfGameing
      @FutureOfGameing 6 місяців тому

      @ginacap100 🙏 rooting for you

    • @cherylsimpson5899
      @cherylsimpson5899 4 місяці тому +2

      ginacap🌺 l'm so sorry that your son💔 and husband died 💔. May our Heavenly Father wrap His arms around you. May He send angels 😇 to protect you, amen. My husband died 2 months ago 💔. I know how difficult the grieving process is.

    • @Abryldv
      @Abryldv 3 місяці тому

      May God continue to give you strength and comfort💔

  • @chidoriyama562
    @chidoriyama562 8 місяців тому +5

    I lost my boyfriend in a car accident back in December 2023. It hurts so much. He was my world and I felt like he was the only person who truly listened and understood me. I wish for him to come back everyday.

    • @Juicetv22
      @Juicetv22 8 місяців тому +3

      This is gonna be a long journey for you I lost the love of my life in 2007 I’m still in pain like it was last year I’m afraid of getting that close to someone again but remember we too are here but a short time also so live the best you can so you have lots of good stories to tell him when y’all reunite ❤

    • @jerryirick8953
      @jerryirick8953 Місяць тому +2

      Sorry for your lost. December had to been rough that’s right around the holidays.

  • @genevia7569
    @genevia7569 Рік тому +11

    I lose my husband March 1,2023. The Holidays are painful. God is helping me through this. 😢

    • @deadtalkspodcast
      @deadtalkspodcast 10 місяців тому

      you got this!

    • @Hhopiuygv
      @Hhopiuygv Місяць тому

      I'm sorry as well, my husband of 28 years. I just don't know what to do. He's going into hospice 😮❤

  • @kathleenrivard2881
    @kathleenrivard2881 5 місяців тому +2

    ❤ I’m reading “The Grass Dancer” by Susan Power. She writes about 2 kinds of grass dancers. One style prepares the powwow grounds by dancing and flattening the grass. And one style imitates the grass itself. I thought of it as a metaphor for grief. Being in it. But also controlling it.

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 17 днів тому

      Nice profile photo! It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?

  • @edwardianspice1
    @edwardianspice1 2 місяці тому

    That’s so helpful. Thank you. I think the essential conflict of grief is the pull push feeling of needing to remember and also let go. I lost my cat last year and I’m devastated. I feel that if I am enjoying life I’m betraying his memory

  • @alethiablanchard
    @alethiablanchard Рік тому +3

    Praying for God to guide and keep you in these days of sadness. Lord help us walk this new road that we would not have chosen and thank you for people like this person to help guide us, Amen.

  • @stopchildabuse7932
    @stopchildabuse7932 Рік тому +29

    I lost my husband one week ago I am beyond heartbroken and with so much guilt at times I don’t want to live no more the anxiety is killing me I never imagine this day would ever come God please help me to survive my mind is winning the war

  • @LilyMoore-xh1cv
    @LilyMoore-xh1cv 6 місяців тому +1

    U made my day thank you 🙏
    My auntie died in 2020 and we still don’t know why it was so sudden. She was only 26 R.I.P I will always remember making tik toks together and playing on the trampoline. I’m 12 now and I can’t believe I only knew her for 8 years 🪦

  • @muntahamajid
    @muntahamajid 9 місяців тому +2

    I lost my mom who was everything for me and she was my heaven since her death I am alone no one been there for me my sibling every one of them Moved on busy with their life so
    no one there when I need them but Allaha

  • @ArmenPaul
    @ArmenPaul 16 днів тому

    This is very real

  • @Jabo__Jabo
    @Jabo__Jabo Місяць тому

    Thank you. I need distraction right now …. not reminders….. thank you so much. We all will do it differently. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • @Delulubooklover
    @Delulubooklover 4 місяці тому

    I’m visiting my Oma’s house right now and it just became so real the moment I stepped in the door, I didn’t cry or feel sad but I really felt nostalgic and I could feel her around me, all the happy memories, the Christmas mornings, picnics in the yard in the summer

  • @justaphase
    @justaphase 5 місяців тому

    Wonderful thoughts. So, so true.

  • @__rachel___
    @__rachel___ 2 місяці тому

    thank you, strengthen existing relationships

  • @supernova652
    @supernova652 4 місяці тому

    I lost my grandmother last year in November. The pain is still so new. She loved me the most and I wasn’t there when she died. I was in a far away country and I still haven’t gone back. I couldn’t be there for her funeral rites too. The sadness, grief and the guilt is unbearable. The thoughts of what could have been is so overpowering. Now I am constantly scared about my parents because I have seen death and I know this is inevitable. The fear and sadness is real. I want the feeling to go but at the same time I don’t want it gone. My love and everything, my grandmother deserved it. If I let this feeling of sadness go then it feels as if I have let her go. I know accepting this would be so much better but I don’t want to. I cannot let her go ever.

  • @DavinaPBTP
    @DavinaPBTP Місяць тому

    Good advice - thank you.

  • @Jennifr1966
    @Jennifr1966 Рік тому +7

    I NEED ADVICE. You're saying it's okay if i use distractions. Yet they're saying because I'm having Contrast PTSD, i shouldn't be avoiding the pain. I CANNOT HANDLE THE PAIN RIGHT NOW! WHY won't they let me just ignore it, at least for a year? I lost my best / only friend to COVID. This year my mom. And now my husband is dying. PLEASE! WHY do i have to face the loss of my MOTHER, the ONLY person who was willing to LISTEN to me? PLEASE advise.

    • @Geekedpedagogy
      @Geekedpedagogy Рік тому

      How are you? I’m so sorry

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 17 днів тому

      Nice profile picture! It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?

  • @Makki4Nothing
    @Makki4Nothing Рік тому +34

    What if everything in your life reminds you of your loss? Because everywhere I look It reminds me of him.

    • @bikeguyhk
      @bikeguyhk 11 місяців тому +2

      Do the things you love to make him proud. Don't dwell on the past you cannot control.

    • @Makki4Nothing
      @Makki4Nothing 11 місяців тому +3

      @@bikeguyhk Its easier said than done.

    • @bikeguyhk
      @bikeguyhk 11 місяців тому +1

      @@Makki4Nothing My mom is currently dying. I know it my friend. You're not alone.

    • @Makki4Nothing
      @Makki4Nothing 11 місяців тому +3

      @@bikeguyhk True, but at the age that I am in, death shouldn't be one thing in my life.

    • @bikeguyhk
      @bikeguyhk 11 місяців тому +2

      @@Makki4Nothing Stay positive pal I'm here with you. Just back from the hospital seeing my ailing mother... The pain 💔 is unbearable... I know.

  • @selenajosephina
    @selenajosephina 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for this video!

  • @Kaherodiego
    @Kaherodiego 7 місяців тому +2

    I lost my grandma wen I was around six and I’m 14 now and I still can’t get over it

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 5 місяців тому

      You never get it over. You learn to live with it. She will be in your heart forever❤

  • @dinacx
    @dinacx 9 місяців тому +3

    I just lost my brother and I’m honestly broken

  • @janeyrevanescence12
    @janeyrevanescence12 6 місяців тому +2

    I lost my fiancé to a car accident several years ago. At first I had a plethora of friends and family members supporting me. But after a month? They stopped calling me or coming over. They had lives to live and I wasn’t moving on fast enough.
    I got the message: I was dragging them down. So I isolated myself. 13 years later and I’m still alone and never talk about him because nobody cares.

    • @kristinebakke2442
      @kristinebakke2442 6 місяців тому +1

      I feel right now I will be like you. My son died a week ago.

  • @lookingupwithwonder
    @lookingupwithwonder 4 місяці тому

    Thank you. I'm going through it at the moment and just trying to work and parent my kids. Uuurgh.

  • @dawngartner1185
    @dawngartner1185 2 місяці тому

    Grief is a natural process that the body goes thru while processing what just happened and how your body deals with it. It starts with the thoughts that control the emotions that controls the actions.

  • @Alynxoxo-lovely
    @Alynxoxo-lovely 6 місяців тому +1

    My stepdad left us last night. I didn’t even get to say good bye and he didn’t die btw he literally left us and the worst part is😢😢😢 I came back from a sleepover with this news. I’m so sad. I don’t have ANY supportive dad no more

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 5 місяців тому

      I'm so sorry, Emmy. I wish I could give you a big hug.❤

    • @Alynxoxo-lovely
      @Alynxoxo-lovely 5 місяців тому

      @@sunshine9122it’s ok❤

    • @Alynxoxo-lovely
      @Alynxoxo-lovely 5 місяців тому

      @@sunshine9122I’m doin a little better knowing he might come back😊

  • @Bofferten-
    @Bofferten- 7 місяців тому +1

    My grandpa died last night, I'm still crying

  • @MadisonBriggsArtchick
    @MadisonBriggsArtchick 6 місяців тому +1

    One of my friends died on Friday. I had seen her the previous Saturday when I went to go attend another friend’s funeral. It’s been a really rough couple of weeks.

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 17 днів тому

      Nice profile picture! It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?

  • @Smiley35S
    @Smiley35S 5 місяців тому +1

    I just lost my best friend. This helps so much.

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 17 днів тому

      Nice profile picture! It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?

  • @Bubbles_Utonium
    @Bubbles_Utonium 10 місяців тому

    God I miss my grandfather so much. I was so not ready to lose him

  • @Islamheals-ih
    @Islamheals-ih Рік тому +4

    Please make a video on 'How to deal with Obsessive Slowness'?

  • @deadtalkspodcast
    @deadtalkspodcast Рік тому

    Interesting. Thank you!

  • @minervamariekirk1171
    @minervamariekirk1171 Рік тому +4

    My cousin passed away October 30 2023 he was only 20 years old he died from congenital Heart failure he died from a heart attack.😢💔😭

    • @Brett580
      @Brett580 17 днів тому

      Nice profile picture! It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?

  • @Spiritdove64
    @Spiritdove64 2 місяці тому

    being with people causes me more grief. I lost my mom my brother was no comfort. I did not want it anyways. He cried way more than I did. I got through it alone sitting zazen.

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 7 місяців тому

    Sharing my / " your favorite moments with other family members helps !! 😊❤

    • @annmarietrupia6650
      @annmarietrupia6650 7 місяців тому +1

      I agree.. unfortunately, I lost my family along with my parents.. They pretty much deserted me when my mother died and after the day of remembrance for Dad, I don't hear from anyone. No holiday invitations, nothing. This is not the family I grew up with. 😢 It's very hard to move on with life when there's no one to share the grief/memories with. I'm stuck on that day 5 yrs ago & can't move on by myself.. don't want to. No reason to.

  • @gtessgossage3867
    @gtessgossage3867 Місяць тому

    This was so helpful
    Im missing the "people coming to be w me"

  • @anaria
    @anaria 11 місяців тому

    Thank you ❤

  • @saynotothemeta993
    @saynotothemeta993 Рік тому +3

    But what happens when you lose your mum to a heart attack, and the person who has been helping me through it - my uncle (her brother) also dies of a heart attack 4 days ago. Both with zero warning and in good health and only 3 months apart?
    I've gone from staying strong for the sake of making my mum proud to completely numb. Logically thinking about it, I need to be careful to not turn cold hearted. But I just dont give a f-ck about anything at the minute. Life can be so brutal I can't even believe this has happened..
    I know some people have been through even worse than this but maybe people are just stronger and more resilient than I am. I just don't care about anything anymore and I'm either awake and struggling to sleep or asleep and struggling to wake up. Part of me feels like I'm ready to snap and part of me just thinks what's even the point

  • @freespirit8028
    @freespirit8028 Рік тому

    Thank-You!! 😢

  • @batlerushirmoyai
    @batlerushirmoyai Місяць тому

    I think grief is a moment where we learn we dont need anyone else to care about us if someone most important we considered cared about us more. We'll meet them in heaven someday.

  • @XicaD
    @XicaD 8 місяців тому +2

    This is hard. I will try.

  • @Augie..
    @Augie.. 3 місяці тому

    I just lost my grandmother today, the last grandparent I had. She practically raised me as a kid, I took time for granted and it’s killing me. I wish I just picked up the phone 😢

  • @jahwataa
    @jahwataa 7 місяців тому +1

    lost my grandma exactly one month ago 😢

  • @TheBettysDemon
    @TheBettysDemon 8 місяців тому +1

    Lost 3 of my four grandparents and just don’t know how to handle it anymore

  • @teralynda
    @teralynda 11 місяців тому +1

    It’s hard. The words MOVE ON, I’m starting to despise. Talking about it with certain ppl isn’t helping. Im finding out who doesn’t really relate or bother to understand. Don’t know if talking about it is helping. It’s so much.

  • @erinfletcher8234
    @erinfletcher8234 11 місяців тому

    Thank you

  • @catazoe7535
    @catazoe7535 5 місяців тому

    my grandma died in 2017, i was 15. 7 years later it hasn't gotten easier and i don't think it ever will

  • @dtmyco1044
    @dtmyco1044 2 місяці тому

    Lost my dad when I was 3, 2 of my brothers and my grandma. Buried 5 friends and no one knows how to help me. I work hard everyday. If I can thrive in this life so can you.

  • @sylviachege5279
    @sylviachege5279 Місяць тому

    I lost my mum and our rock on June 9th of this year, it was so fast one day she was here and then we were in hospital for a month we though she would get better she Deteriorated so fast and then she was gone. Honestly I have regrets because I wish I had spent last years Christmas and New year with her but instead I was selfish and she was alone. Mum loved us with all her heart and I am glad my sisters and I were there during her last days.
    Sometimes I am okay but most times I am in pain and I have not yet accepted, honestly I don't know how to move on, I am still stuck

  • @esibrian81
    @esibrian81 Рік тому +1

    I lost my closest cousin yesterday 10/13/2023. It hurts to know i couldn't spend more time with him. Feels like things could have been different.

  • @wewe-fx6un
    @wewe-fx6un Рік тому +3

    I was eating chocolate when i was called to see my father. I didn't know he died.
    Since then, I've been eating excessively. I eat when I'm stressed, angry, hungry, etc

    • @DonaldGerbino
      @DonaldGerbino Рік тому +3

      I do the opposing I can't eat I have to force myself, just had a great loss Oct 1 2023 and I'm forcing myself to eat so o don't waste away to nothing, I need to keep my muscle

  • @Meram444
    @Meram444 7 місяців тому

    I lost my uncle yesterday (28/04/24) due to cancer, and its sad cuz i only saw him for like 10 days total in my entire life and his poor kids are so young i feel like they havent had enough of him. He let too early

  • @GrayMeals
    @GrayMeals Місяць тому

    Lost my Dad three years ago, then two weeks ago my family dog died and a couple of days ago my first pet (on my own, a cat that got me through some of the roughest times) died suddenly in his sleep. I have a a serious flu, so I feel as if I am unable to have a break from everything. Life feels like it's been been rearranged in a way that I can't figure out how to continue going on.

  • @Ayush_Is_straight
    @Ayush_Is_straight 4 місяці тому

    9 august 2024 lost my sister my uncle(bade papa,tau) i feel really bad 😞 for him but whatever i am justing learning to live without her stupidity rip💓 👑 queen

  • @realdragao6367
    @realdragao6367 4 місяці тому

    I lost my father in 2023, Biological father, was long separated from mother, yet still cared so much for me, he was falsely arrested, was about to be proven innocent until misunderstanding was resolved, and then the next day you just see the news and well, an riot. He died to a stray bullet, captured by cameras, which the prison claims they will show footage of once investigation is complete, miss him every day. Was on a phone call with him one day before it happened, it was basically a goodbye, some weeks before i was gonna visit him too.

  • @CG-no7js
    @CG-no7js Рік тому +1

    What to do when you don’t have extended family nearby to help? Unpacking 2nd move after death of hoarder LH. It’s a bit overwhelming

  • @mikeo9219
    @mikeo9219 4 місяці тому

    Not having someone to help with day to day necessary chores makes it more grievous. I'm trying to find help but it's very difficult

  • @r_xghxv
    @r_xghxv 3 місяці тому

    can you send me any website link or research paper behind it please
    I'm also currently working as a counselling psychologist for Grief and acceptance therapy

  • @lynnettemartos6699
    @lynnettemartos6699 11 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @sarathompson4909
    @sarathompson4909 2 роки тому +1

    hii Doctor Ali could u tell me something about the psychological aspect of Ad tech, targeted advertising and how companies might be able to collect ampel data on us to predict or know our behaviour pattern ( some advertisement that are recommended to me on youtube makes me feel like youtube got in my head and knew what i was thinking of )

  • @drali
    @drali  2 роки тому +2

    Watch the full video: ua-cam.com/video/f4kBPmLMSoM/v-deo.html

  • @SonamSingh-sp6ey
    @SonamSingh-sp6ey 10 місяців тому

    💙

  • @mkessler3421
    @mkessler3421 5 місяців тому

    i am 12 years old and in the past 5 monthe ive had all three of my great grandmas die my great uncle die and four familly friends die and o dont know how ro handle it because ive wwnt my whole life not having that many people die and having adhd makes it even harder

  • @centiandmice
    @centiandmice Рік тому

    When i was 12 years old one of my closest friends died suddenly. The shock of realising she could just pass the whickly without any knowledge of qn underlying condition scared me for too long.

  • @brotheralaric7177
    @brotheralaric7177 Місяць тому

    my last grandparent died almost a year ago, and i felt almost nothing,i knew she will never come and i will see her again, but i felt nothing , noo sadnes, no tears, nothing at all, i almost felt out of place, like i shouldn'dnt be here ...is that normal ?

  • @Marvelcomicsrules
    @Marvelcomicsrules 23 дні тому

    I just lost my grandpa today, I don't know what I should be feeling, I'm shaking but I'm not crying...I don't understand

  • @Kenzy67
    @Kenzy67 6 місяців тому

    Lost my dad
    We are not same anymore

  • @kittyco0n
    @kittyco0n 2 місяці тому

    How do you grieve someone who isn't dead yet? But equally lost? Someone important to me has been going through psychosis for years, he has severe delusions and paranoia and refuses treatment. Because of his intrusive thoughts and beliefs, he keeps pushing people away and even accuses them of things they have never said, says they are psychologically abusing him and calls them gaslighters even tho nobody lied to him. He has nobody left, no family, no friends, he pushed everyone away and cut contact. Since he would never physically harm anyone and refuses to seek help, nobody can help him. We can just watch him destroy his own life and he's suicidal and really suffers from his symptoms. I feel so helpless. How do you deal with the grief of losing a wonderful person to this illness? Knowing he's out there alone thinking everyone is after him and not being able to help himself out of this?

  • @veronicanaumov2981
    @veronicanaumov2981 Місяць тому

    I lost my dog on Monday, it’s Friday and it still hurts

  • @janefairless
    @janefairless 2 місяці тому

    What if your closest family don't want to know about your grief..?

  • @yagrudgamingv2
    @yagrudgamingv2 Рік тому

    I lost my aunt on the 11th of November 2023. Today as I’m writing this comment and we are heartbroken

    • @Aubrey2004-j4k
      @Aubrey2004-j4k 11 місяців тому

      Me too

    • @Aubrey2004-j4k
      @Aubrey2004-j4k 11 місяців тому

      Lost my dear aunt this year just before i moved to a new country

    • @Aubrey2004-j4k
      @Aubrey2004-j4k 11 місяців тому

      As im writing this im practically drowning in grief. I hope you are doing better than I am

  • @Averseinsomniac
    @Averseinsomniac 7 місяців тому

    Wait, why would you wanna strengthen existing relationships? So you could experience even more loss later?

    • @chickemsanwich
      @chickemsanwich Місяць тому

      Same thought. I dont want to be this close to anyone if this is how much pain it wil cause me in the future. I wanna outdie all of the loved ones I have

  • @Lifetouch6387
    @Lifetouch6387 6 місяців тому

    Y’all I lost my uncle today and I just can’t breathe. How tf am I supposed to watch him being buried 6ft into the ground when I saw him yesterday, when he was alive? HOW? How tf did he die? How tf am I supposed to feel as if everything’s normal when the man I’ve always seen when visiting my cousins is now GONE? HOW.

  • @kitchenkiing
    @kitchenkiing 29 днів тому

    Lost my father on fathers day

  • @vinalight9709
    @vinalight9709 11 місяців тому

    When i told my mother that my bf unalived himself, she said how weak he was to do that, and she hopes i’m not too weak to do it too😢

    • @Aubrey2004-j4k
      @Aubrey2004-j4k 11 місяців тому

      Sheesh😢

    • @Aubrey2004-j4k
      @Aubrey2004-j4k 11 місяців тому

      That’s not ok. 😢

    • @andreasrubio
      @andreasrubio 10 місяців тому

      that’s not okay to say! even though i’m a stranger from the internet, if you ever need to talk, i’m here! i’m no stranger to grief and loss… i lost my best friend to a drug overdose and it was/still is so painful to overcome but it does get better with time.

  • @JeanetteZilli-r3d
    @JeanetteZilli-r3d 10 місяців тому +1

    Im finding life so hard right now and cant talk about it

  • @moorlock2003
    @moorlock2003 2 місяці тому

    When you lose your spouse there’s no one to turn to.

  • @NewDoigChallengeMyself
    @NewDoigChallengeMyself Рік тому

    So common sense

  • @Ghost_599.
    @Ghost_599. Рік тому +1

    does this count for dogs?

    • @b.694
      @b.694 Рік тому +2

      After just losing mine, I would say absolutely yes. Loss and grief is what it is. It's down to the relationship and emotional bond. Lots of people have a stronger relationship with their animals than they do other people in their life. 💔

  • @veenam3441
    @veenam3441 2 місяці тому

    You give examples like if you need a distraction then go for it . ButWhat is you feel you “need” to do things that aren’t good for you lol.

  • @priortokaraew7569
    @priortokaraew7569 7 місяців тому

    🙄

  • @missyTL
    @missyTL Місяць тому

    My sister and I talked, but since the death of brother abruptly our relationship has been going different paths... my sister is selfish ..still is... i believe my brother's death was based on stressed and heart failure....and I believe my sister is blaming others instead pointing fingers at herself... i also blame myself for my brother's death... it's a long story. We're supposed to be close.. but you can't be close with someone who is selfish, self centered and don't care about nobody except herself

  • @Grandma_80yrs
    @Grandma_80yrs 12 днів тому

    I lost my grandma Yesterday and just found out 10 minutes ago and i’ve just been griefing it out as much as i Can i mean she was the best,sweetest,nicest,you know the person everyone loves just dies❤❤❤😭😭😭😖😖😣😩😩😔😔🙁🙁😕😟😭😭😭😭😡😡😡😤😤😩☹️😟🙁🙁😟😔😔😟