My Spouse is Lying to Me | Dave and Ashley Willis

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  • @kellye6483
    @kellye6483 4 роки тому +32

    Let's not call it an "issue" and call it what it is, it is adultery. It is that serious and that devastating for both the adulterer and the spouse.

  • @carolamoore72
    @carolamoore72 4 роки тому +12

    Honesty is the best policy in marriage. Secrets will hurt your marriage and bring in so much distrust. It is better to be completely transparent with your spouse about everything. Like the bible says, that whatever is done in darkness, shall come to light. It is better to confess your sins, especially to your spouse, than to have your lies exposed I front of everyone! The truth will set you free!

    • @MBoykin1982
      @MBoykin1982 4 роки тому

      But what if I tell my pastor. My pastor helps me through it and I'm ok. It's not done in the dark then. There's other ways of avoiding darkness than by your wife

    • @carolamoore72
      @carolamoore72 4 роки тому +5

      @@MBoykin1982 That is true, because you have confessed it to someone. The only thing is, no matter what it is, if you are married, then your spouse has a right to know!

  • @missclaymsdavis8640
    @missclaymsdavis8640 2 роки тому +2

    So healthy! To be open with each other to "share" your struggles. This is great!

  • @crisriste814
    @crisriste814 4 роки тому +7

    Another thing that I need to address, my husband swears that pornography or lusting after anyone else was the reason for the last known and the most devastating time because he said it was less trouble to self pleasure than to try to please me sexually. This was very painful to me and has created a void in my tolerance of my husband in general

    • @lisaserrano1714
      @lisaserrano1714 4 роки тому +1

      Don't allow it. Leave. I lived that life of hell. You will never be enough as long as porn is in his life. It will destroy you

  • @tiaramora
    @tiaramora 2 роки тому +2

    Value transparency over personal privacy

  • @katiemann4837
    @katiemann4837 4 роки тому +6

    Holy crap I needed this today. An answer to prayer 🙏❤️❤️❤️

  • @georgew.5639
    @georgew.5639 4 роки тому +8

    My spouse lied to me and lied about me. This is worse.

  • @williamyoung5001
    @williamyoung5001 4 роки тому +4

    Great information

    • @donnawalker5673
      @donnawalker5673 3 роки тому

      Who knows, maybe your partner is sincere and will change. After all, nobody’s perfect, right?They even promised to marry you. So is it worth it?
      Marriage after infidelity is a tricky proposition. But if you love the person, forgive and forget, move on and live happily ever after. Just like in the movies. Marriage can be a blessing, but it can also break your heart, especially, if you think you've reached the end of the road. There's no easy path to divorce.
      So is it worth forgiving someone who cheated on you? Of course. Do it, living with hate is not a good way to live.
      Is it worth forgetting about it? No. Your experiences in life make you stronger (and hopefully smarter). It's time to examine your feelings about yourself and your marriage. It is understandable that you are hurt by what your husband did. However, he has apologized for it and stopped his relationship with her for you. Now, it is up to you to forgive. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It gives strength to move on.
      At this point you might have tried marriage counseling and probably hire a good lawyer, to best find the truth for proof in court I suggest you google search" hubtechhack ethical” to help you get proof from your partners device remotely for evidence. Sometimes it's worth saving a relationship and sometimes it isn't. Only you know the answer to the question of whether you should get a divorce or you're better off staying married.

  • @KayQhosa
    @KayQhosa 4 роки тому +2

    Soo good, thanks.

  • @dianac1411
    @dianac1411 4 роки тому +2

    Very timely

  • @junehoward3923
    @junehoward3923 4 роки тому +4

    Dr Doug Weiss who is also a minister has alot of books for both partners of sex addicts!

  • @normarobinson5956
    @normarobinson5956 4 роки тому +9

    If men only knew how much damaged pornography addiction brings to their marriage their soul and most importantly to the spouse they would think twice before doing it

  • @francessheeran7371
    @francessheeran7371 10 місяців тому

    I need help! Major help regarding my marriage. I don’t want to live this way in my marriage anymore 😢 Make it or break it!!

  • @normarobinson5956
    @normarobinson5956 4 роки тому +4

    It damages your spouse soul self stern n it’s the most horrific time of your life it also brings curses to your family or you inherit curse from your ancestors you got to break it off confess repent return to Christ be set free in Jesus Name he has the power to heal you ask for forgiveness talk n confess to your spouse she will forgive and help you God is your only judge not your spouse

  • @sophiaculler8723
    @sophiaculler8723 2 роки тому

    My husband doesn't want help he just doesn't think it's wrong

  • @tiaramora
    @tiaramora 2 роки тому

    It's even a lie that you can't tell me

  • @MomLifewithJerri
    @MomLifewithJerri 4 роки тому +1

    This!!! 👏👏👏

  • @DakotaRose-m6y
    @DakotaRose-m6y Рік тому

    What do you do when he is lying about time with another female who is in an affair with someone else?

  • @tinastanley1051
    @tinastanley1051 4 роки тому +2

    Amen 💜

  • @tiaramora
    @tiaramora 2 роки тому

    Continue to get it out

  • @nataliasolakian6717
    @nataliasolakian6717 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this and please pray that he comes out and is open with me. IN Jesus' name, amen!!! Please pray that there there's transparency in our marriage and that He feels vulnerable with me so that we could BOTH HEAL!!! In Jesus' name, AMEN!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌💛💛💛

  • @mirrorcheck7273
    @mirrorcheck7273 4 роки тому +1

    I've been divorced and I started a new relationship. I told her all about my past marriage and then we started to have problems. When she would come to me to tell me about how I hurt her she would always use what I told her to try to see it better but it only hurt me and caused me to stop talking to her. She said I wasn't validating her feelings and making it about me. I don't know what we are supposed to do and her resolve to every problem has been to completely cut me off. I'm hurting and she's hurting can we fix this. We both believe in God and his word can we be helped? Can we become a married couple or are we done? What do I need to do?

    • @richardstanard480
      @richardstanard480 4 роки тому +3

      ths person's mean streak is showing by using against you your good faith efforts with her...mean streaks do not go away except by miracle you can pray for...otherwise, i encourage you to search for somebody who has no mean streak nor looks for trouble...they do exist 💥

    • @mirrorcheck7273
      @mirrorcheck7273 4 роки тому +2

      @@richardstanard480 thank you for your comment and it is mean. I don't feel that's her intention but she's so determined to make her point that she just doesn't get that this is not the way and a betrayal of my trust. She can't seem to see past her own hurt and she's so caught up on her hurt feelings that nothing else matters until she feels her feelings have been validated. She's not a bad person at all but she has learned to put walls that don't look like walls to her. She doesn't know how to deal with her feelings just like me.

    • @brianwoo8620
      @brianwoo8620 4 роки тому +2

      Walk with Christ and model that walk too. There are other issues here unsaid that also need to be addressed.

    • @mirrorcheck7273
      @mirrorcheck7273 4 роки тому

      @@brianwoo8620 yes, and that has been a never ending battle. We both stay in prayer and we were even praying together.

    • @brianwoo8620
      @brianwoo8620 4 роки тому +2

      @@mirrorcheck7273 , walk in love, study love, etc. Do this until you are tired 😫 of it and then do it more. May His joy be your strength.

  • @ajlouviere202
    @ajlouviere202 4 роки тому +1

    The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
    Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
    The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
    Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
    The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
    Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
    Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way they word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not under bondage," which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, when this is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 has the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand that the abandoned husband in 1 Corinthians 7:11 is expected to also remain unmarried, in order to be reconciled with his wife. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that he has issued an opposing command.
    Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
    The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
    The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
    Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.

  • @tiaramora
    @tiaramora 2 роки тому

    Get it out. Bring sin out to God bring sin out to spouse

  • @MBoykin1982
    @MBoykin1982 4 роки тому +2

    Just to correct something that was said that's not biblical. If your wife asks you, then yes, tell the truth. But the Bible says confess to one another so that you may be healed. You can confess to your brothers in Christ or your pastor and walk out that healing. If you can truly confess and walk away then it's still biblical. I'm not saying to hide anything but healing doesn't come from specifically telling a specific person

    • @markwhipkey778
      @markwhipkey778 4 роки тому +2

      I believe in my GOD, Jesus. I believe 100% that you have to come before GOD, confess, and explain too him what you have done.confess by showing humility and remorse. The Bible teaches us that marriage is the sacred bond created by God. We are to always treat it as such with the same humility, compassion, honesty and forgiveness.

    • @MBoykin1982
      @MBoykin1982 4 роки тому

      @@markwhipkey778 right that's true. Biblically accurate.
      Repent- means turn away
      Congress confess your sins... that's it

    • @mirrorcheck7273
      @mirrorcheck7273 4 роки тому +3

      I have been told constantly and I'm starting to agree that you can't share everything with your wife.

    • @MBoykin1982
      @MBoykin1982 4 роки тому +1

      @@mirrorcheck7273 if you have a brother in Christ that you trust and will hold you accountable and it's nothing too serious where you are actually making effort to hide it from her, then no i don't think she needs to know everything. Most things yes

    • @mirrorcheck7273
      @mirrorcheck7273 4 роки тому +1

      @@MBoykin1982 working in integrity but realizing that something's can be easily misunderstood or misinterpreted or just seen as wrong.