And people can't seem to understand why I have chosen to remain single after my divorce. I don't even date and I'm happy. My first marriage was to a mentally, emotionally and physically abusive man. But now, giving years of my life is too much of a sacrifice for someone to just wake up and decide they no longer want to be married. I am happy, content, doing extremely well and living my best life all by myself!
I’m 48, never married, no kids. I think one of the reasons why I never did was all the divorce around me. But yet I still keep the option open even at my age. I’m healthy, fit, non smoker, financially set, Christian faith, an accomplished man. But I watch videos like this, and see the realities. I struggle as a Christian man with simply being male and wanting companionship but then being married in today’s day an age scares me. Perhaps I’m too set in my ways and the ship has done sailed away. I’m coming to terms with that. I’ve gone on dates of recent but due to my political views ladies are turned off. Of recent since I’m hesitant to get the vax, the lady said “that’s a deal breaker.” Absolutely crazy to me how things are now. I’m thinking to myself, lady, I can change your life and not getting a vax right now is a deal breaker for you? It’s crazy out there.
@@Smuggler169 If it is your heart's desire to be married, ask God to bring your future wife into your life. He will give you someone to whom your political views and refusal to be vaccinated won't be a deal breaker. Never close a door that God never meant to be shut because when one door closes, another will open. Remember, God's promises are yes and Amen.
@@Smuggler169 Most women shouldn’t even know your political views when you’re just dating unless she goes out her way and asks. If you’re the type of guy who watches 2+ hours of Fox News per day and is defined by who he votes for, like that’s 90% of your personality and you own a MAGA hat and walk around with it in public, you’re probably going to die alone. Politics should become LESS important as you get older, not more. My dads views are likely in line with yours and it’s ruined him. He’s even quit doing things he once enjoyed because he made it political (football, going to the movies). Life takes enough things away from you naturally with age without you giving it away. What woman wants to willingly sign up for having a European trip canceled because EU leaders made fun of trump?
The children would have already know their parents weren't a good match. I know a couple where the grown kids encouraged the parents to get divorced. They never fought. He was just controlling everyone. They are divorced and happier.
My mom was going to divorce my dad, and then she got Parkinson’s at 63. My dads taken care of her for 15 years. So hopefully those children know what they could potentially be signing up for. Dad or mom gets sick, it’s now on the kids. I don’t have the type of lifestyle where I can just take an unpaid leave for months to take care of an elderly person with a broken hip, nor do I know anyone who does.
I sure hope that the women does not automatically get the house, savings, alimony, half of pension and all the bills are given to the man. At that age the house should be sold and everything split 50 50...... everything, including any debt.
If you’re leaving your partner in old age because of arguments about politics or something equally as stupid, you’ve lost the plot. Those senior dating app hookups are not going to take care of you if you get Alzheimer’s or Parkinson’s or even just fall and hurt yourself.
As a therapist, we do not need to have experienced everyone's reality to provide care and to become knowledgeable on the human experience. I've counselled thousands of people, couples, and families through multiple walks of life and from different backgrounds. It would be impossible for a single therapist to have experienced everything their clients do. Nor is it necessary to provide insight. But thank you for watching and for your comment. Keep smiling!
There is no price for peace of mind. Can't stay miserable for the extended family. They too have to live their own lives. If everyone knows the couple don't have a good marriage who are they fooling by staying together. We live this life once. Make it the best life.
@@eileenwatt8283 Oh, there is definitely a price, the question is who is going to be stuck paying the bill. The men are usually stuck with the financial bill. The kids, extended family, and friends are stuck with the social bill. The bill must always be paid.
@@suebotchie4167 The subject is "the cost of divorce" not the roles played by people during the marriage. But since you went there, what free labor are you talking about? A stay-at-home wife may not generate income but she still lives off the family income generated by her husband, same as he does. And if she decides to walk out she gets half of the assets they built up. But (in most cases) she also gets to have her ex-husband support her forever as though he is still her husband, even though she doesn't want him as her husband and he gets no benefit from her as a wife. She's like some special needs child that must be supported forever because she can't ever take care of herself.
Divorce is not a laughing matter. No Tracy, this was not that fascinating. If abuse (and I mean real abuse) is the issue and/or infidelity with no repentance from the behavior, that's one thing. But divorce because someone does not meet my needs or the spouse is not likeable, is no good reason to divorce.
O think a lot of older adults are considering Gray Divorce because they realize that you only have a finite amount of time in their lives and the want to make every.momment count. No anger, no resentment or abuse. They just want to live to the fullest and being married just doesn't fulfill that plan.
Hi Dee B, there is no question that Divorce can be a very painful process, regardless of what age it happens at. It takes 2 for Marriage, and 2 to Divorce, so neither is completely within the control of one person, in terms of how it goes. It's a choice for sure; some couples are able to Divorce amicably, while other endure more distress. Amicable Divorce can still be substantial loss of many things, even it's the 'right' thing to do. Unmet needs are or not feeling love (or positive) towards a partner are the main reasons relationships end, because they are essential for the relationship to survive. It does not have to be an extreme situation, such as abuse, infidelity, etc. Needs have always changed. What is new is that now both men and women have the freedom to choose. Thank you so much for watching and your comment.
Yes a traditional marriage almost killed me. Abuse manipulation financial abuse. I was not staying in this generational curse. My daughter deserved to see different❤
You are delusional🤪 if you think that women are divorcing after 25 or more years of marriage so that they can get on dating websites! 🙄Far from it… At this point in our lives, we are looking to enjoy our friends, our family, our grandchildren, peace, Indulge in hobbies, and pamper ourselves🧘🏽♀️. That does not include involving a man or jumping back into a relationship. After being in a long-term marriage for decades, the last thing most of us are thinking about is getting tied down or entangled with a 👴🏾senior citizen or anyone else. 🙄
And people can't seem to understand why I have chosen to remain single after my divorce. I don't even date and I'm happy. My first marriage was to a mentally, emotionally and physically abusive man. But now, giving years of my life is too much of a sacrifice for someone to just wake up and decide they no longer want to be married. I am happy, content, doing extremely well and living my best life all by myself!
I’m 48, never married, no kids. I think one of the reasons why I never did was all the divorce around me. But yet I still keep the option open even at my age. I’m healthy, fit, non smoker, financially set, Christian faith, an accomplished man. But I watch videos like this, and see the realities. I struggle as a Christian man with simply being male and wanting companionship but then being married in today’s day an age scares me. Perhaps I’m too set in my ways and the ship has done sailed away. I’m coming to terms with that. I’ve gone on dates of recent but due to my political views ladies are turned off. Of recent since I’m hesitant to get the vax, the lady said “that’s a deal breaker.” Absolutely crazy to me how things are now. I’m thinking to myself, lady, I can change your life and not getting a vax right now is a deal breaker for you? It’s crazy out there.
@@Smuggler169 If it is your heart's desire to be married, ask God to bring your future wife into your life. He will give you someone to whom your political views and refusal to be vaccinated won't be a deal breaker. Never close a door that God never meant to be shut because when one door closes, another will open. Remember, God's promises are yes and Amen.
@@mindqt thank you for your words. I appreciate that.
@@Smuggler169
Most women shouldn’t even know your political views when you’re just dating unless she goes out her way and asks. If you’re the type of guy who watches 2+ hours of Fox News per day and is defined by who he votes for, like that’s 90% of your personality and you own a MAGA hat and walk around with it in public, you’re probably going to die alone.
Politics should become LESS important as you get older, not more. My dads views are likely in line with yours and it’s ruined him. He’s even quit doing things he once enjoyed because he made it political (football, going to the movies). Life takes enough things away from you naturally with age without you giving it away. What woman wants to willingly sign up for having a European trip canceled because EU leaders made fun of trump?
The children would have already know their parents weren't a good match. I know a couple where the grown kids encouraged the parents to get divorced. They never fought. He was just controlling everyone. They are divorced and happier.
My mom was going to divorce my dad, and then she got Parkinson’s at 63. My dads taken care of her for 15 years.
So hopefully those children know what they could potentially be signing up for. Dad or mom gets sick, it’s now on the kids. I don’t have the type of lifestyle where I can just take an unpaid leave for months to take care of an elderly person with a broken hip, nor do I know anyone who does.
I’m a gen x er…married to a boomer. I finally grew weary of his abuse and manipulation. Glad I left ❤
I sure hope that the women does not automatically get the house, savings, alimony, half of pension and all the bills are given to the man. At that age the house should be sold and everything split 50 50...... everything, including any debt.
It’s called an increase in narcissism
Narcissists have always been numerous. Throughout history, slavery, child abuse ... Lots of demons on two legs.
emotional physicalAbuse/ abandonment /staying for the kids/ .....You're a man right?
These people going thru grey divorce need to point out which child will be reaponsible for elderly care. Cause itll prov be the responsible one.
Men don’t like more attention and affection shown to the grandchildren than to him.
If you’re leaving your partner in old age because of arguments about politics or something equally as stupid, you’ve lost the plot. Those senior dating app hookups are not going to take care of you if you get Alzheimer’s or Parkinson’s or even just fall and hurt yourself.
Senior dating, yuk, disgusting, and very delusional. Dating is for the young.
You are so simple.....you really think a woman is going to leave because of politics ...DUH
unless this woman is "grey divorce age" she doesnt know what she is talking about.
As a therapist, we do not need to have experienced everyone's reality to provide care and to become knowledgeable on the human experience. I've counselled thousands of people, couples, and families through multiple walks of life and from different backgrounds. It would be impossible for a single therapist to have experienced everything their clients do. Nor is it necessary to provide insight. But thank you for watching and for your comment. Keep smiling!
Before doing a divorce. think of the financial and extended family complications.
There is no price for peace of mind. Can't stay miserable for the extended family. They too have to live their own lives. If everyone knows the couple don't have a good marriage who are they fooling by staying together. We live this life once. Make it the best life.
@@eileenwatt8283 Oh, there is definitely a price, the question is who is going to be stuck paying the bill. The men are usually stuck with the financial bill. The kids, extended family, and friends are stuck with the social bill. The bill must always be paid.
@Wednesday's Child - that is an excellent point that we could have delved more into with more time.
@@magsteel9891 while the women did years, if not decades, of free labor.
@@suebotchie4167 The subject is "the cost of divorce" not the roles played by people during the marriage. But since you went there, what free labor are you talking about? A stay-at-home wife may not generate income but she still lives off the family income generated by her husband, same as he does. And if she decides to walk out she gets half of the assets they built up. But (in most cases) she also gets to have her ex-husband support her forever as though he is still her husband, even though she doesn't want him as her husband and he gets no benefit from her as a wife. She's like some special needs child that must be supported forever because she can't ever take care of herself.
Divorce is not a laughing matter. No Tracy, this was not that fascinating.
If abuse (and I mean real abuse) is the issue and/or infidelity with no repentance from the behavior, that's one thing. But divorce because someone does not meet my needs or the spouse is not likeable, is no good reason to divorce.
But often a necessity ....
O think a lot of older adults are considering Gray Divorce because they realize that you only have a finite amount of time in their lives and the want to make every.momment count. No anger, no resentment or abuse. They just want to live to the fullest and being married just doesn't fulfill that plan.
Narcissism
Hi Dee B, there is no question that Divorce can be a very painful process, regardless of what age it happens at. It takes 2 for Marriage, and 2 to Divorce, so neither is completely within the control of one person, in terms of how it goes. It's a choice for sure; some couples are able to Divorce amicably, while other endure more distress. Amicable Divorce can still be substantial loss of many things, even it's the 'right' thing to do. Unmet needs are or not feeling love (or positive) towards a partner are the main reasons relationships end, because they are essential for the relationship to survive. It does not have to be an extreme situation, such as abuse, infidelity, etc. Needs have always changed. What is new is that now both men and women have the freedom to choose. Thank you so much for watching and your comment.
Yes a traditional marriage almost killed me. Abuse manipulation financial abuse. I was not staying in this generational curse. My daughter deserved to see different❤
Over 60 and you divorce?. For a woman that is insane 😮😮😮😮. Good luck ma'am 😮 STD rates in old people are high
Skanky seniors.
You are delusional🤪 if you think that women are divorcing after 25 or more years of marriage so that they can get on dating websites! 🙄Far from it… At this point in our lives, we are looking to enjoy our friends, our family, our grandchildren, peace, Indulge in hobbies, and pamper ourselves🧘🏽♀️. That does not include involving a man or jumping back into a relationship. After being in a long-term marriage for decades, the last thing most of us are thinking about is getting tied down or entangled with a 👴🏾senior citizen or anyone else. 🙄