How to Talk to Your 9 year old about her PERIOD! Vlog 019 - The Cunningham Family
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- Опубліковано 16 бер 2019
- How to Talk to Your Daughter about Her Period? When is the right time?
As a mom of two young girls, I know the time is coming VERY SOON. Nylah already experiencing body changes I decided it was time to have that discussion about periods, (we briefly touch on sex because I explained to her the egg process) and all that is involved. Today, I will share how I did it and tips that helped me and what was my process. Why is this important to me? hmmm at 35 years old I'm still waiting for my mother to have that talk.
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Videos I used to show her the process:
1. Menstrual Hygiene Education: Journey to Becoming a Woman. A Project Precious film • Menstrual Hygiene Educ...
2. What Is Periods? Simple Understanding Of Menstrual Cycle | Stages Of Periods • What Is Periods? Simpl...
3. The Menstrual Cycle
• Female Reproductive Sy...
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Deodorant - amzn.to/2HCHOKo
undies
leggings
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Wow, kudos to you because my 10 yr old got hers recently and I didn't know what to say. I simply explained her hygiene products, how to carry a purse with an emergency kit, and most importantly to BATHE GOOD EVERYDAY.
thank you. I wanted her to be prepared just in case
@@TheCunninghamFamily_ your a good mom! My mom refused to talk to me about, like it was a sin to have a period. My older sister was forbidden to speak about it. Had mine at 12 at school. Stayed in the bathroom till the end of day. Thought I was dying. I used rolled up toilet paper. From then on wore toilet paper & extra pair of shorts under my clothes. 5 yrs later, at 17 my mom calls me in her room, cut off all the lights, and with huge pause saying "u going to the doctor, somethings wrong with you. Something is supposed to happen to you". I said "ur talking about period?" She looked shock and I walked out. She still never bought me pads. Figured out how to buy then in school bathroom. Bought extra for the next time. But my 1st store bought product at 19 cause I could alone to the store then. Had to hide my pads in the back of my dresser not upset my mother. My daughter is 10. And I've been terrified about how to a cool caring about it. Till I saw ur video! Thank you for showing me how to help my baby girl in loving mothering way.😢☺️🙏
@@tinadhaliwal5191 this is so sad.. glad you're breaking the weird ass taboo
@@tinadhaliwal5191 OMG I had the exact same experience and it was a rough and lonely journey. My daughter is turning 10 and I already talked to her about it. I don't make it seem weird or evil like I was made to feel when I was a young girl
I honestly don’t think he should have had a say because you are a woman you saw the changes my daughter is 9 and she started but as soon as I saw my daughter changes I told her about it because if you don’t it’s period trauma. I’m still trying to find ways to educate her so thank you for this video
Right I disscuss women stuff with my daughter without permission and my husband takes care of our son. We both have our own roles when it comes to the kids. Me teaching our daughter how to be a woman and him teaching our son how to be a man.
Men don’t understand how awful it is to get your period and NOT BE PREPARED!!! It’s still shocking!
I don’t understand why you need his permission but it’d be nice to have him on board and supportive. Good job!
You did it perfectly mama. I started at 9. I noticed changes in my daughter and thought well I don’t want her to be caught off guard so I told her some but I am prepping with a glass of wine and your advice. I made her a little lotto show and teach her what’s up. Good mom award for you!
I think that’s wonderful. My mother taught me NONE of this … but she swears she raised somebody 🙄. Lol.
Amazing!! Her experience is going to be 10x better!
Thank you soooo much for your video 🙏🙏 I’ve been noticing changes in my daughter and wasn’t sure how to even start to talk to her ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hi there darling, so I stumbled across your video and was so excited. You are a beautiful black mother my age, our daughters are the same age and when I hit play and you started talking.....here it comes.....our daughters have the same name too (different spelling but still)..so Nailah felt like you were talking directly to her and she was super happy. Thank you so much for making this video. I will let you know how everything goes when it happens. Much love from Zimbabwe!!
Hi there! I know you did this video a while ago, but it is still very much relevant today. Thank you for making this video. I am a mom of a 10 year old and now have explain this wonderful thing our bodies do to make Life happen. I love how your daughter is so calm through the whole process. Once again thank you.❤
Thank you. Normalizing talking about things to our kids that is a part of life😆
YOU ARE AN AMAZING MAMA!!!! Thank you, thank you for sharing🙇♀️
Thank you so much! I was stressing out on how to explain it without scaring her.
Thank god you’re paying attention!🥰
Way to go mama. I kind of felt like that's what I would be doing but my sisters or her titi coming to the rescue to help her make her little bag.
Honestly my mom never talked to me about my period. And I feel like I’m a Hispanic household it’s almost taboo to even talk about it. Now that I’m older and have kids myself. I really wish I had someone to guide me or have that openness relationship with my mom. And have someone to tell me what’s true and what’s not. I had friends try to teach me. Not knowing it wasn’t true. Im definitely talking to my daughter as soon as she’s 8 just so she’s prepared and educated. And I want her to feel like she can talk to me about anything
🙏🙏 There you go mum!!
Please check with pediatrician on feminine wipes and wash for their tender skin. I went with baby wipes for my 9 year old. Thank you so much for the bit on talking with her dad about it. Sadly, well it’s sweet too, but my hubby is in denial that his baby is becoming a woman as well.
Thank you for posting this
Super educational THANKS!!!
I'm with u on this 1, I had mine and it happened in school, I panicked since my mom never told me or prepared me that as a girl I will bleed someday. So while at school I was too scared to open up to a teacher or classmate or to the school nurse, I had to wait till am home. When I got home my mom helped me and that's the start of me embracing the change. Just a lesson learned it's best to know about it b4 it starts than not knowing since as a girl emotions go high especially the younger teens.
Thank you dear Sis you have given me the leap to jump up and do with, I didn't have the courage to go through it with my daughter
You are so welcome. Don't be afraid. Just think about all the things you wish you knew at her age and be open and let her be secure comfortable about
Thx i have uad my period since thr start of year five so i was still nine almost ten and (i watched this on my phone but mine is broke so i borrowed my dads but thx for the tips)
Great work mama!
Thank you
LIFESAVER!!! I didn’t know where to start with my 8 year old. It is imminent, not here yet but seeing the boobs take off!! Thanks for sharing!!! I plan to do better than the talk my mom gave me!!! When we know better, we do better!!!❤️
@@GracieTodd Same to you!! Thanks for sharing!!
I do love love love this video. However it didn’t help me on how to actually talk to my daughter, what words to use. This was helpful in some ways but not what I needed. Thank you for this video. You and your girls are beautiful.
I totally 💯 agree with you mommy. Best to be prepared 👍🏽
My mom thought me about it when I was nine with the book called the care and keeping if you I know y’all know what I’m talking about
Very helpful. Thank you for sharing!
I think its good to have the conversation with her husband. Im a father and its clear that the father wasnt emotionally ready. He is not a woman but that is his child. He should know whats going on and have a "say". I think after the initial shock he will be ready to listen.
Hi i had 10 years old daughter and i explained already to her about the menstrual then now she had her first day of menstrual i didn't see her shes scared she told me oh i didn't know i had now and she's excited to use pads because i show her how to use it and how to rake care of her self and teaching her how to clean her private its really hard to explain for tge 10 years old kids about the menstrual because they stull a baby
But thank you i saw your video and its help for me and to all moms here share all the experience for the early menstrual
You are a great mom ❤️
Thank you so much!
My baby just got her yesterday and still can't believe!!!! Lawddddd a mucyyyy😢🇯🇲. Teen yrs gonna be hell!!!
My daughter just turned 9 and is developing breast pretty rapidly over the last 6 months. Since she was very little we had conversations about her body, body parts, and as she grew age appropriate conversations on upcoming changes. I never hid my periods or made her feel shame for anything.
I can tell u that when she started getting breast buds and armpit/pubic hair she didn’t bat an eye. She was totally prepared and expecting the changes.
No idea when she will get her actual period but I think she’ll be ok.
Parents need to not be secretive and give age appropriate information.
I've been making my baby who is now 10, carry a purse for a out 2 years now. Just to make sure she can change any soiled undies while at school...NOW, we are massaging her chest as they are very sore, and she's been having stomach pains...I think it's about to happen. I thank u for this video...although, I would opt out of the always brand and use something a lil more modern and chemical free...also, Honest wipes is unscented and organic I believe...I let my baby use those and a slice of lemon to dab under her arms for freshening up
Here in 2021 November .My daughter is 10 and going through the change very fast . How is your daughter doing ? has she started her period yet ? Hopefully if she has she was at home . I am hoping my daughter will be at home when she starts . Thank you for the video
my sister started harmonal changes, she is 8. We are worried how to tell her, dr says in a year or two she will start her periods
What are the videos that you watched on you tube?
I just had the talk with my daughter who is is 9. She started her period a month later.
Great video😊
I'm 9 years old and I'm very embarrassed to tell my mom or dad😖 I'm very scared what will they react
I just woke up with blood in my pj's there was ALOT of blood coming out
I don't really have stomach pain yet but
my beasts has been growing and growing
And I already have pubic hair
It's normal for a age like you
I'm 9 but I have the symptoms you shouldn't be scared just tell your mom ONLY dads won't understand
@Rose edits it's ok just tell your mom ask her is you guys could talk she would mostly be happy you are a woman so yeah I got mine and she didn't care she just was happy sorry if this is long
I didn’t get it yet
Yvette Folkes then you are lucky
Thank you so so much dear its really very helpful information, I have some questions I don't know where to start, I need some help from all mom's who's daughter got period first time, my daughter is 7 years 9 months she got her first period yesterday she developed her beast and she became tall also but I don't know what to do now because I was mentally not prepare she is in grade 3, yesterday I was so worried how to handle this, to all ladies I have request please help me what products to use for my daughter and what to send in school, I'm very very upset that I didn't explain and prepared my daughter and even my self 😢 I should send her school or not? And what I can inform her class teacher about her period? Please help me I'm blank 😔 🙏 😭
The way he was acting crazy 🤣
I was 7, i have twins, one was 7 the other 8, as soon as she turned eight!
When did your daughter actually start!? Update on how it went please. This video was blessing, Oliver's reaction was a little triggering. I do understand he wasn't coping well.
Hey, she started last year (2022) summer. We were at home and I was so happy about that. She came right to me, and we went through it again. Her cycle is all over the place right now as far as length, so I have her track it in the APP on the phone and then like 5-7 days before I have to start wearing liners. But overall, it's going well. She doesn't complain of any cramps, so I'm so thankful for that as well. I never experienced cramps either. Thanks
My mom Introduced me to training Bras Like this so it's a kind of funny story I was walking home with my friends and 1 of them just says out of nowhere Shouldn't you be wearing bras by now and my mom said ummmmmmmmm Then since I love all my shopping She told me that I could go on amazon and pick up my own So I did and she ordered them and then she taught me how to wear it and then stay I work to school And it was fine
Thanks
Maybe Oliver needs the talk!
Oliver got on my nerves lol
If u know she needs that and that the information would be essential to her and for her why consult him about it ??
She is starting her period
Oh good I thought 9 years olds getting period was not normal and I thought I was the only one
Xx MimixWeebxX I’m nine about to turn ten and I’m starting to discharge brown stuff
Wait..
I am nine and I have developed some experience of. That stuff but like I really don’t have my pet now like I said I have experience some things and I also have deodorant and my no breast or starting to grow and a lot more stuff is going on my mom actually had her period at nine years old so I hope I don’t get mine I got age probably around 12 or 11 or 10 something like that I wish I would get it but if I would get it at this nine-year-old Road
Don't rush it
My mother talked to me about period while is was in the shower and now im scared for period and if im in school and it happens how will i tell my teacher so now every day i bring a pad with me (-_-)
I started my periods just a few months after I turned 10, and I will say that I would mention the changes not only to your maturing daughter, but also to the younger children in your family or household. Even if the younger children are unable, or are too embarrassed to ask questions about the changes in their older sibling, they most likely have them. "Why is Jake's voice sounding so weird lately?" "Why does Sarah get so sad and angry so easily now?" "Why is Jordan getting so tall so fast?" "Why doesn't Alex want to play with the toys I like anymore?" Please explain that these changes are completely normal, happen to ALL kids, and that they can come to you if they have any questions.
Whatever you do, DO NOT talk to the older child about how their behavior is making the younger children in your family or household feel! It's more than likely that they themselves may sometimes be able to pinpoint or explain why they are acting in this way, and making their behavior about your or other people's feelings might only make them feel more resentful. You can simply remind the younger children in your home or family that this behavior might just be a part of the changes that your older child is experiencing, and so they (older child) may need a lot more patience, understanding, and space. Explain that with time, the older child's behavior will likely settle down, and almost all will be well.
Think of it this way. Imagine if you were going through a major life event (such as a move, the loss of a friend or family member, a friend or family member in the hospital, divorce/break up, etc.), and the stress of the event was affecting your work performance or behavior, and your boss would constantly reprimand you about how your behavior was affecting your coworkers, customers, clients, etc. You are most likely already going through a lot, and your boss making your behavior about their or others' feelings might only add to your already high stress levels. But now imagine if months to years later, one of your coworkers was going through a similar life event, and it was affecting their work performance or behavior toward coworkers, customers, clients, etc. Only this time, instead of reprimanding the coworker about their behavior or work performance, your boss simply explained to you and your other coworkers, "he is going through (add major life event here), so we all just need to show him patience and understanding." To top it all off, maybe your boss was well aware that you had younger children, individuals with disabilities or medical conditions, elderly individuals, or other individuals in the mix who may have only added to your stress, or may be more deeply affected by the event, whereas with your coworker, it's only them and their partner (and yes, your boss is well aware of this as well). Or maybe your boss is well aware that your coworker has a lot of friends and family who are able and willing to help them through the event, whereas you barely had anybody to help you out (and yes, your boss was well aware of that as well). In the event of a move, maybe your boss was well aware that your coworker is only moving to a different home in the same neighborhood, and likely was likely already going to know many of their neighbors when they moved in, whereas when you moved, you were moving to a completely different town/city, and/or neighborhood, and were likely going to know very few (if any) of your new neighbors (and yes, your boss was well aware of this as well).
Me to
I think you and your daughter to talk about it.
can someone help ._.
I was 10 when I started
the dad tho in the video he's like " *nuh uh* "
🤣 he sure was
@@TheCunninghamFamily_ lol
My 10-year-old just got hers yesterday and I don't know what to do
Talk to her, show her, and let her know it's nothing to be embarrassed about. Teach how to wear, dispose and clean herself. You got this😘
Breast buds swollen and when it’s about to happen she will get discharge. My daughter got hers one week before ninth bday. Myself, son, and husband were completely on board with the joggers, Tylenol, pads, extra chonies.
Men’s opinion on women is irrelevant. In her back pack she has to have pads, chonies, and black leggings. You can start at 6/7
I also let the teacher know it was coming.
Let her know it’s completely normal to discharge before the start of the cycle.
I’m going through this right now with my almost 9 year old. I feel like this is so young! Grade 3 😢
The father in this video is beyond immature and ridiculous. Support your baby girl geez
my nine years old sister have her period
I'm 9..I have *A LOT* of symptoms that I'm getting my period soon...my mom hates talking about it and legit thinks that you have to be *at least* twelve to get it! I'm scared because i also live wth my grandma and grandpa! HELP!
Have you found help yet? Ask a friends mom maybe? I’m praying for young ladies with no help❤️
@@Fogstep_WC I havent really found any people to help,but I've really educated myself!I have a legit plan on what to do if I get it lol.Also thanks for asking and caring!
Am 9
WHY do you need his permission to have the talk with her?? You're her mom!
I agree!!!!!!!!!! Their relationship is toxic in this video.
When it comes to this kind of conversation with my daughter's, it will be me and up to me how and when it goes. I'm the female of the house , so this is on me. My daughter is 9 and just started today (hence searching this video) she knew what it was and I just had to explain it to her. It's all ok.
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This is my first time watching this channel. I’m not sure how they usually communicate about sensitive issues but he seemed kind of nervous or uncomfortable talking about his little girl LOL. I’ve been married 25yrs and I often tell my husband when I’m about to talk to our daughter about sensitive subjects. I do that just so he will be prepared if she says something to him about it. He may grunt or shake his head NO meaning IM NOT READY YET but I still have the talk LOL 😂!!
As her mother I’m basically preparing two people LOL. I told him about her bras before I had a talk with her. She often shows him her new bras when I buy some. We are a very comfortable, open and free talking about our bodies. She’s forming early she’s 7 about to be 8 so I may have to have the period talk earlier.
As far as his reaction I’ve seen that before. Some men react in an angry, nervous, and/or passive aggressive way because they are not ready to hear it. My husband is completely different though only because of how I handle conversations now.
Maybe because he is her parent too. And he has a right to have a decision in the childs upbringing?!!!!!
I dont wanna start my period:((((((((((
My daughter just turn 9 Jan 6, 2024. Her period start Feb.22,2024
Oh wow. Keep talking to her mom and let her know what it all means. And practice good hygiene ☺️🙏🏾
I haven’t got mines until I was 13 lol
I’m 9- finna turn 10
Omg i just got my just know ewwww blood everywere
I got mine yesterday and I started crying 😂
Does it hurt when you have your periods..?
It can because of cramps 😖
Can we see nila
My mom told me it was crazy times lol
lol
I have a question how long do periods last?
It can last between 3-7days but it can be shorter or longer your mood and stress can effect even your flow and how long it last
About 3-4 days
7 days per month
@@siarraallen2203 3-7 days but it depends
@@user-oh1xw2sl4e sometimes
Helpful video. . . Is your husband Caribbean? Maybe thats why he is in denial. Certain men from backgrounds act so weird about it.
Typical Jamaican man 😆. His heart is in the right place but just keep on discussing with him.
lol im here searching these things because my mom won't teach me things even if i have things going on and i tell her she's like "okay" she's nice dont hate on her tho im just saying i legit need help rn lol
@iicloudyAlixia 😂😂
Well I’m glad I could offer a little assistance.
Growing up my mom didn’t teach me either but didn’t want that for my daughter. It shouldn’t be an uncomfortable conversation
What couldn’t you understand?
@@TheCunninghamFamily_ By the way my mom told me a few days later about it after I told her what's going on with my body :)
Honestly am awoman and I think it's just ahard topic honestly really hard ughhh:you don't even know where to begin with.
Is Oliver okay? He seems so dismissive.
OMG he is...smh.
I hate to say this sis but women's issues are not men's issues he doesn't want to hear it because he's not a woman or girl. My husband is pretty open-minded my daughter is eight and she just started her period today I'm pretty open-minded so we got to do what we got to do these dudes need to wake up. I'm very disappointed in how he was acting. I'm also very disappointed for my daughter who her childhood is now pretty much ruined early in my opinion.
im nine and i got it today :(
Rlly
How I'm 9 and I wanna get mine so i can get a glow up:(
@@Rvxiie its painful and you gotta eat 24/7 you gotta take pain pills and all
@@user-ro3wt9sr6c oof ik but then like I will get to buy more blankets pillows and fit in with my 11yr old bff
I’m 10 but we apart of the pain squad 😭
I deserve more subscribers
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I thought she pulled out her belt
I have bras with padding in them SHOOT IM GETTING MY PERIOD SOON AT 9!! OR 10
Kaylee Plays ikr
SIS SPILL you don’t know what I’m talking about
Ok im saying you will have discharge and other symptoms not just boobs
Everyone is different. Boobs doesn't mean your getting your period but its good to know what to do if you do. My sister got her period at 9 and she didn't have breast. I didn't get my period until 16. Also neither one of us had unusual discharge days prior it just happened. Some young ladies do get warning signs and some don't.
@@TheCunninghamFamily_ I got mine at 7
why is this in my recommendation thing, I’m a boy ;-;
oop-
lol