MAURICE BENARD STATE OF MIND with MARCUS COLOMA
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- This week I'm joined by Marcus Coloma. You may know Marcus best from his current role on as Nikolas Cassadine on General Hospital. Marcus as had roles in tv series such as One Tree Hill, Major Crimes, Make It or Break It, Point Pleasant and South Beach and films like Material Girls and Beverly Hills Chihuahua 2 and 3.
Although I’ve only become close friends with Marcus in the last couple of months I feel like I’ve known him forever. With this conversation I think we each came out with a deeper perspective on what we’ve been through as we touch on topics like childhood, relationships, anxiety, depression, loss and there may even be a little singing at the end to lighten things up.
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I never cease to be amazed at how Maurice gets people to open up. Please bring back Marcus in future to update on his progress.
I like Him as Nicholas. Real substance behind the eyes
It’s like you’re a therapist for all your friends. ❤️
Marcus, It is one day at a time. Stay with it, watch it and grow with it. Don't look for the end, but enjoy the daily.
This was a beautiful interview, such openness and honesty. Marcus is a great actor, love him as Nikolas. Interesting to hear about how he grew up and his struggles. Maurice you never cease to amaze me, how you can get people to open up. God Bless you both 🥰
Marcus Coloma is so insightful and delves deeply into the issues! I loved hearing this discussion and I learned a lot.
“2 was better bc they brought me in”!!!! -Marcus 🙌🏻🙌🏻😂😂😂
Mr Bernard I just watched a podcast in which you discussed crying. I’ve noticed you get emotional sometimes. This happens to me also. I’ve had a breakdown due to a loss and I suffer from anxiety and depression. Others can be so cruel and you want to lash out at them especially when your grown children tell you that’s why no one wants to be around me. Enough already I am suffering here. Living alone they have their lives and only see you if they need you. I’m an only child and had unconditional love and now I feel as though I’m in the world with everyone passing by and they don’t see me. I really enjoy your podcasts I relate so much to them. Please keep it going. I’m going to try to find your book and read it. Thank you for opening up to those who understand
Hi You are not alone / I care/ I feel alone also.
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I’m at that point in my life too. Children can break your heart worse than anyone else
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You made me cry!! I feel you💜. I suffer from anxiety and depression also for over 15 years. I’ve been on medication for that long but nothing seems to really really work. Thank you for opening up about everything and trust me more of us than not can absolutely relate to you. Take care of yourself and thank you again. Happy 2022
Brenda…. Get a book, any book written by Wayne Dyer…. It could very well be life changing for you dear!
This was indeed an amazing conversation. These types of deep conversations is what links us together. My heart is giving love and appreciation to all of you. Thank you for letting me be a part of the most effective forum I've ever known. Soldier on and we are here to help you do just that. God bless you always. ♥
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Back porch paradise;
Your lovely comment is generously kind; it takes a beautiful individual to share as you have. Wishing you all the best. ❤️
@@brandycarter5706 Thank you so much. Wishing you the best, as well. ♥
@@strongstar9471 I am so sorry I took so long to reply. I understand social anxiety, though I did not have any problem being on-air in my wild radio days.
I think Marcus plays Nicholas very well. So glad he and Ava are together on the show. Please make sure Sonny plays nice with her. ❤️❤️
When my mom I never cried because I knew she was with my dad. She would always say she wanted to be with him. I was so happy for her. No more pain. She's dancing in heaven with my dad. ❤💙
Wow Maurice, another awesome interview, I love this, please get Maura West on here, she is my wife's favorite
I really enjoyed this particular interview. I have noticed in times of anxiety, I tend to dream about my childhood home. Mr. Benard when you said when you were dreaming you were happy and when you woke up you were like screwed. Oh my gosh that really hit home. I would have to say out of all your interviews this one was speaking to me. I so agree negative and toxic people will definitely affect your mood. It is so important to have the right people around you. The wrong person can literally make you physically ill, always observe people's energy. He is doing such a good job as Nikolas Cassadine. It is liberating to stand in ones truth. I really believe when a person puts mental illness on the table, they can be set free. Bravo Mr. Benard!
Marcus is amazing. Maurice it’s amazing how you get people to open up and talk about their life. It really was great to really get to know Marcus. Thanks again a Maurice. Your insight can really help people. Love love you. 💙💙
I freaking loved this. Such open, honest & spicy conversations. We need a guys panel episode, in the mood room!
I like him and Tyler both as Nick Cassidine. You have had some stupendous interviews…absolutely magnificent. Thank you for doing this Maurice. Both of my parents just passed…my father, blind 100 Combat disabled Korean War veteran..his wife left him on the bedroom floor for over 3😮 days and DID NOT CALL 911. He passed on Mother’s Day 2019 in the hospital after she had them give him morphine (which she knew he was allergic to) and my mom passed Jan 7, 2021 from Sepsis in a hospital where no one cared for her…they brought her in and left her in a bed after a fall where they never changed her clothing or anything. I felt powerless in both of those situations because the hospital (father’s wife was in control) no one listened to me & I was not in the same state when my mom passed to help her.
Great work here with everyone!!!
Thank you.
ChinaDoll of the Platters
Great interview. Marcus was so nice to share his insights about mental health. We see folks play all kinds of parts, but its great to get to know the person. Again, great interview !!!
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Thank you Maurice for doing this . I learn much from you.
So beautiful to see the unique way you connect with others & I believe these conversations open up doors & thoughts for all the listeners as well as the guests & yourself to explore.
It would be really special Maurice to hear you sing ( perhaps with about a dozen of your GH castmates )
The world needs Love...
Sweet Love
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By listening to Marcus' story, I can relate to this. Because I have had moments of anxiety, depression and suicidal moments hear and there. But I have started this mental state when I was in my teens and 20s. But when I look at it now, most of the time I have to remember to not let that stop me for what I want in the world that is in store for me.
This was a fantastic conversation. So much depth and insight about mental health and how it can be a spiritual journey if you are proactive about putting the right tools in place. So insightful! Thank you Marcus and Maurice. 💜
I agree! Had to reschedule my appointment from yesterday, to next week, due to illness. Meeting with a new therapist after not seeing one for a few years. Living in a College town, and having limited resources, due to being on disability, I just get in with a good therapist, and then they move on to better jobs.
I can’t believe I missed this conversation from two years ago, until now. So much of Marcus’s point of view was so relatable to me. Especially his thoughts on being in relationships. I hope to see him as a returning guest on SOM, someday.
Mr.Bernard THANK YOU so much for doing this show. I have Learned a lot.,,,, I do suffer from anxiety and depression: your show helps me,!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have Marcus back. Please. Opening, sharing, being vulnerable with each other in a way I have not witnessed on State of Mind. I love the questions that Marcus brings up in this interview, and how the walls come down. Marcus spoke about lessons he is learing from you, Maurice, so please let him come back to share his evolution with us.
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Always great & always an insight into how all our mental health is so important to our life journey whatever it may be! Thank you🙏🏻
Wow! This episode had a lot of “aha” moments for me. Maurice thanks for the reminder of shifting your thought process to looking at things as a gift & not another negative in your life. Marcus was fantastic, that dude really looks up to you, talk about a gift! He showed his vulnerable side & it was beautiful, let it out brother, you will feel so much better!! Could have listened to y’all for hours, please have him back again! Thanks for all you do!
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This was a good one, in depth and great topics of conversation. I like when the talks go longer than 30 min, I could really sit and watch a full hour of a good conversation when there is a lot to learn.
“How do you talk to people?” I for real for real used to ask my mom this same question for years. It’s like you want to say something to someone, but for some odd reason, you just can’t. Something as simple as saying “hello” was difficult for me (can still be sometimes and I’m 27 years old). And the moment you feel the word about to come off your tongue, your heart starts beating really fast, you become self conscious and wonder in the back of your mind if you’re going to make a spectacle of yourself, and then the word just dies…right before your mind tells your tongue to move and say something. I used to be called anti social ALL THE TIME! And I always tried to tell people that I was not anti social. I wanted to be, I just didn’t know how to mentally grasp exactly how to do it. I love people-just like Marcus said. I just didn’t know how to understand myself around people. I felt so lonely that no one understood that about me-and even worse because I couldn’t understand me either-and would just withdraw into my own thoughts for days on end. I used to think it was a mental issue-like I was on the spectrum. And then one day, I was blessed to come across this personality type system called MBTI. I doubted the accuracy at first, but as I read on, I was blown away at how accurate it was. And ever since then, I had become aware of my strengths and weaknesses and I worked on them. I would constantly keep self improving and working on my communication skills. There are even times when I can feel the word about to die on my tongue and I force it out anyways. I’ve been getting so much better at it. So, I completely get where he’s coming from. I don’t know what his personality type is, but it sounds similar to mine. I don’t usually give myself titles, but that one thing really helped me to understand myself. As weird as it sounds, I was just as much an enigma to myself as I was to everyone around me.
My favorite one! Hoping they’ll be a part 2 with Marcus in the future 🤞🏽❤️
THANKS FOR BEING SO POSITIVE I WISH I COULD MEET YOU I'VE BEEN DEALING WITH DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY AND THESE CONVERSATIONS HAVE REALLY HELPED ME 💗
Amazing interview with Marcus & Maurice. It's amazing how Maurice can get people to open up. I learn so much about the actors and myself too.
Thank you for all the words of wisdom especially that going THROUGH the battles and struggles just makes us stronger and gives us wonderful gifts! Keep following light and love!😍
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Maurice I’ve enjoyed your State of Mind interviews but this one by Marcus is by far helpful to me and I can relate to. You both are amazing. Thank you and god bless ❤️🤗🙏👏🥰
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Very good SOM, as always. I would love to see Maura or Steve on next. I recommend that everyone buy your book on Audio, to hear you tell your own story. Hope Sonny gets back to acting like himself soon. Keep up the great work. Thank you for these weekly podcasts, they are wonderful❣️
Yes….I miss the gritty Sonny. Get Nina out of his system.
OMG I want a second part to this. This was absolutely fantastic. This is one best ones I have watched.
Best insightfully positive interview I’ve heard in a while.
My condolences to you and yours on the passing of your father. My prayers are with you. I also relate to you and yours as I’m a stable bipolar who has just lost my father He was 103 1/2 he was a wonderful father who told me I should have whatever I wanted lol. I just marked the sixth year anniversary of my only biological child. He was 29 years old and lost his third battle with cancer namely Berkets stage four lymphoma. Thank you for helpingsus handle of opportunities. Thanks
This is why we all want to hangout with Maurice. He truly is just nothing but a pure giant heart full of care and love. That is a true friend👏
Maurice, your intuitive talks with people we recognize being people we can relate to with you as the link has helped me continue my journey with reassurance I am not alone in this world.
Until we meet at His feet, journey on my brother in Christ who taught us God loves us.
Marcus, loved the honesty! Look into avoidant personality disorder, has to do with perfectionism. As in anything, can be on a spectrum.
Love all these!
Maurice brings things out from every shelf that we store things in a jar. I store my emotions especially my separation from my ex in a jar. He has helped bringing out the tears and pain. Thank you Maurice♥️
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Love how you can explain feelings of depression and anxiety that I can never find the words to explain it. You have me on tears over here. Hoping there will be a lite at the end of this tunnel.
It's amazing how you get your guests to open up. After listening to Marcus talk about . his pass . made me understand a lot about my self . experiencing the self sabotage relationships the fear not being good enough I'm wondering if there's something better out there. We all have flaws. And even the most confident person wonders am i good enough. Great interview. Have a great new years .peace love and happiness
Omg this has to be one of the best interview with Marcus and you Maurice 🤗❤️ I can really relate. Thank you and God Bless you both.
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Great interview. Very profound. You’re a great interviewer, because you listen. Your ears will never get you in trouble. This interview makes us realize that we are all interconnected in some way. We’re not alone in our anxieties. We all matter. 💙
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You two guys are such kindred spirits! This was one of my favorite episodes.
You two were awesome together!!! I was totally meant to tune in to this episode as I spent most of today crying. For no reason even commercials made me cry today then you talk about how important it truly is. Wow!! Thank you!!! I so needed to hear your words.🎁🎁
Excellent interview...Marcus is a great actor...love him as Nicholas...Very inspirating conversation about struggles of young people. Maurice is a wonderful person and a great family man...
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The art of real conversation. We all have a story. We need to stop and listen to each other. Everything is energy! ❤
Hmm… I’m a Pisces ♓️ - I’ve always wanted to be a social worker/helping others! - can’t express either to my daughter’s throughout life and just starting now through texts to open the door then easier in person. Now since the younger one moved out, I tried one day to reach out my arms and hug her and surprised how the next time she walked up to me wanting that hug 😢 what I’ve missed all these years. - depression/suicidal thoughts history here and so when my daughter doesn’t come over often and I’m not financially well off thoughts creep up over and over. - I went back to church again when didn’t want to by myself but did. Anxiety kicks in hard but glad at the end I went. I’ve been there 28+ years on & off but made decision to be my mission💪🏽🙏🏽 - Thank you and your guests what you do! Blessings to you and wife for supporting it all. 💛 - waiting for “Sonny & Carly” hehe 😜 but open to see what happens. Have a great week. 👋🏽
Wow These talks are amazing!! Maurice you are so good at this! You should do more motivation speaking. My mom died of Alzheimer’s and I can relate so much to your ideas about life and death. I love Marcus and you together. Second interview with him I watched.and now I follow him on IG and realize how talented he is. He’s a great great Nicolas. Every State of mind gets better and better. 🙌😍
Maureen Jones: Your concluding sentence grips at me so strongly.🤝🤝
Did you notice the camera fading while Marcus was talking? I believe there was a spirit (energy) in the interview. Men don't usually talk about their feelings. Thank you, Maurice, for helping others. Magnificent. Love the three hawks. And you were paying attention to the sign. Love this interview!! Love General Hospital too!!
I Loved how Marcus was so attentive and open to what you had to say. It was so nice for him to share his experience as well. Well done Gentleman. ❤
Wow! Of all the topics of discussion today, this lined up with EXACTLY what I was dealing with in my own life today. Went on a beautiful hike with a friend who never seems to understand my mental health so I don’t show my struggles. In the middle of the hike, I feel tremendous anxiety and realized that my anxiety is due in part my the stress I feel around friends and family who don’t understand my mental struggles. What do I do? Do I bring them to a therapy session? I felt like running out of the woods screaming! Maurice… I cannot begin to tell you how therapeutic these videos are. Please keep doing what you’re doing. I’m not a big reader but I think I’m going to pick up your book. Wishing you a peaceful 2022!
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READ HOW PPL REACT WHEN YOU TRY TO TELL THEM YOU LIVE WITH OR LOVE A NARCISSIST!
Thank you Maurice & Marcus. I am blessed by this conversation. My husband passed away from COVID on August 22. Age 55. It was sudden & unexpected. He was doing well & about to be released from the hospital. Thank you Maurice for sharing about the gifts they leave us. It was a great reminder for me. His passing is somewhat of a blessing. That has been hard for me to reconcile. He suffered from anxiety & depression & would not get help of any kind. The last 5 years have been hell. Men out there with depression: please get help!! Don’t suffer needlessly & don’t make your family & friends suffer. There is hope. Thank you Maurice for speaking out, for sharing your story. We all need to be willing to be vulnerable. Our story will bless someone out there. Marcus you are so right. We do need each other. We need a partner. A teammate. It’s codependency if it’s unhealthy & both people aren’t participating. Love to you both💕 & blessings in this new year.
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Wow, Maurice talking about his dad passing away and how he dealt with it. My Mom passed away 3 months tomorrow and I miss her terribly but listening to his perspective will help me deal with her loss. Thank you, Maurice.
One of the most enjoyable upbeat State of Minds, I’ve had the pleasure to watch, during my many nights of insomnia! And not just because Marcus’ Dad was here at BYU, since I live in Provo! LOL!
This was awesome. He seems like such a good person at heart. Wonderful actor. I went through very similar experiences as a young kid and teen. Very uncomfortable in my own skin. Shy and introverted to a ridiculous degree. I hated that about myself but couldn’t seem to change it. Way better as an adult, but it’s still inside me. Still, it never got bad enough to bring suicidal feelings or thoughts. Makes my heart hurt for the younger him. So glad he has made it to a better place now. I’ve dealt with anxiety in my adult life but not to the level that you’ve experienced, Maurice, thank God. Anxiety, even as much as I’ve experienced with it, is absolutely a horrible thing. So I can’t even explain how much my heart goes out to you. Happy you have Paula and your family and that you are constantly rising above it and now helping others. It says so much about the good hearted person that you are.
One of the best interviews Maurice has ever done…. love this one. So very insightful.
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Aaammaaazing Sunday Maurice and Marcus. I love watching you grow Maurice and how comfortable people are opening up to you the student has become the teacher, ❤️ And yes Marcus toxic people can make you ill make you make wrong decisions anyway stay away from toxicity and negativity listen to your heart and you will be fine
Come on guys y’all are tearing me up😢
I can feel the friendship between you guys.
I wish I could have a relationship like this.
Thank you Maurice & Marcus💪🏽😢
I have always thought that crying shows strength in that you can just be in the moment.
Great interview. Love Marcus Coloma
Thank you Maurice for always taking from the heart 💜
Marcus need to be back on for a part 2 he gave us a lot to think about. Maurice always gets the best out of the people he is talking to
I loved both of you today, Maurice and Marcus a beautiful combination ♥️ I just want to say there is a difference in being co-dependent (desperation) and needing that person in your life. We all need someone but we shouldn’t be dependent on them for our survival, and I think that’s the difference. Maurice, you are so right. The world needs more love. We are failing as humans because we lack the gift of love. Maurice, read the five love languages and you will find that touch is not everyone’s love language. You said you’re not affectionate but you have so much love in your heart and it’s shown in other ways. Don’t put yourself down because of it. Thank you again, Maurice and Marcus for this wonderful interview. It’s really great getting to know the person behind the star. Happy New Year and blessing for health, joy, peace and so so much love for 2022 ♥️
Great interview. Grit is such a good word for relationships. What you may be desiring Marcus is not co dependency but true commitment to one person thru thick and thin. It is hard but you have no guarantees of a lasting relationship. It is trusting the process with that person. I have been married for 34 years and we have gone through so much. Loss of a child, him having pancreatic cancer and various other trials. And with Covid-19, I am thankful he is the person I am home with. We know each other so well, it is quite beautiful. I hope you reach that point.
Thank you Maurice & Marcus for such an eloquent, perfect interview. So much of what you and Marcus said has really resonated with me & all my feelings are so much the same views. Truly love you & such a fan of you both! Huge GH fan & will always be. You really bring out the humanity in these interviews & I cherish it! :)
This is point on by both of you about anxiety! I struggle with it everyday Thankfully I have a doctor who help me with it!
Good to see Sonny and Nicholas are getting along.
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I wanted so much to join this conversation !
Awesome! Definitely needs a PART 2!!
Another great conversation. I agree the world needs love. In the words of Ozzy .. Crazy, but that's how it goes, Millions of people living as foes, Maybe it's not too late, To learn how to love, And forget how to hate
Learn to be dependent upon one's self and the rest will follow. I think it only benefits the duo of 2 people . Learn that laundry process Maurice 😊 What a great hour I just watched .👍
Love you both! Such great actors!
I always see a part of myself in everyone of these interviews and get a new/different perspective. Thank you.
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Happy Sunday Maurice...
Much appreciated for your sharing the early start of your relationship~marriage ..The separation has been tugging on your heart .. Maurice couldn't live ~ be without Paula ..
Loved this. Marcus is so relatable. I’m so curious how he felt about recasting the other Nicholas.
Amazing interview. You guys touched on a lot of areas that I am dealing with. As far as marriage goes, love is commitment. You take the good as well as the bad. Abuse is never right. Thanks for being so transparent. You never know whose life you may have helped. You guys are great on GH!!
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that was a great show you guys thank you. all we need is to remember to love one another. God bless you
I love hearing you guys talk about energy. I'm an empathetic soul and peoples energy has such an impact on my heart. It could be really great. Or really bad. I also have chronic broad spectrum anxiety since I was 13. I'm 50 now. Energy has been my lifeline for the past 5 years. If someones energy takes me down I'm out of there! I think it's important to protect our peace!❤💪
Two amazing men sharing on very relatable topics. The struggle is real. Your conversation really hit home and brought encouragement.
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Finally gonna catch up! Since october i have gone through alot. In the hospital for days had sepsis and was a very scary situation ups n downs in between mys son brok his arm now we both have covid. But thank God my son only had on day of symptoms 🙏 🙌
Maurice thank you again for state of mind its really help me so much.
Love this interview!!! So open!!! Thank both of you for being so open! Look forward to next week.
God bless all you do! Know that you are so appreciated
Maurice, you and Marcus hit on some really tough issues. Thanks to the both of you! Can't wait until the next one.
I cannot say enough ur the best Maurice, great conversation with Marcus..and ur looking good with the self and pepper look 😀❤️ wonder what Buddy thinks..have a great one and thanks Marcus for sharing with us 👏🏽👏🏽❤️
So I don’t know if Marcus will see this, but coming from me being a female how I knew my husband could be the right guy he stuck by me when I had a mental episode from getting of my meds. He never talked down to me or let his mom and friends badmouth me. He was able to help distract me from the panic attacks I was dealing with while going through them and if he couldn’t get them to back off he never got pissed at me when I would have a meltdown. He has this way of calming me down when I’m spiraling out of control. He respects me and makes me laugh is the added bonus. When we dated for 6 months and he wanted to get married I wasn’t ready, but after dating nearly 3 years and him seeing me at my lowest; not running away screaming in the other direction I realized he can handle whatever life throws at us. We’ve been married since September of 2005 and are still content with our life together.
Two GOATS
Marcus only 5 minutes into the conversation talking openly about having what I think was selective mutism. Death in the family, when you're so close to the deceased is like someone ripped it right out of your chest. Now I'm going to have another tension headache from crying my eyes out. This is raw and deep stuff that never comes up in typical interviews.
Great interview!maurcus is a great Nicklaus and a real sweet guy hope he finds his Paula 😍
Noticed Marcus when he guested on the series Major Crimes. He was amazing in that, too.
This really has to be right up there with Christian LeBlanc this was my favorite so open honest an wow just wow made me connect some dots that were not connected you do so much for me moe I know this is your calling happy sunday!!!
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patiently waiting for Maura!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh man this was awesome, I’ve dreamed of being a soap actress,, you have the best job in my eyes,. Living in the small town Cleveland Tn that’s not likely to happen 😆 you two are so talented and I love you both💞
He’s a brilliant actor and a wonderful person,. Very easy on the eyes 😆 So are you Maurice 🥰
This was awesome, I get so much out of listening to you both! I only wish there would have been something like this in 2014, when I was at my absolute lowest time in my life. Maurice, you talk about crying, I did more than my fair share of that. In fact, my first night in the Mental Hospital, I couldn't stop crying. I BEGGED God to take my life. I ended up sleeping in a recliner in the TV room, because I didn't want to disturb my roommate. I maybe slept 20 minutes that night.
Marcus spoke about toxic people, and how that affects our self worth. That's a trigger, I've had to walk away from people I thought were "friends," because I had so much anxiety whenever I was with them.
Anyway, Maurice, keep doing what you're doing, I think you're helping more people than you realize. And,LOVE IS the answer❣
I loved this interview. It's tough to fill the shoes of someone like TC, but I have loved Marcus on gh!
Another great State of Mind! Thank you!
Thanks for sharing your life with us you both are very talented it's nice to know that I'm not the only one going through this listing to you both is very helpful
Mr. Bernard..Paula is your Angel! You are blessed to have her in your corner!
Man these SOM episodes really are like a form of therapy to me and I get something out of every single one I watch. 😬❤️🥰
I allow myself an hr to feel down then do some physical exercise turning off any thoughts , except to control my breathing . I learned this method in a pain management class 🙃 hugs maurice