Please share any resources, tips, or healing insights in the comments that you have found to be supportive for you. Please also acknowledge there are many variables to narcissism, and multiple ways this can be experienced for each person. Please be kind, compassion, and accepting that everyone is on their own healing journey with this theme, if it resonates with you. 💖
Dr Mark Ettensohn's book and YT channel. UNLEARN all these toxic stereotypes and untruths about NPD. Also Dr Craig Malkin, and Dr Ruth Ann Harpur. Please educate yourselves beyond these pop-psych "experts" who are quite narcissistic themselves, who are going off of decades-old, outdated theories and demonizing people for having a mental illness.
@@LadyMaryTalbot because their take on NPD is blatantly outdated, inaccurate, and very harmful. I wish they weren't the only voices that get heard. NPD is very treatable, and those folks absolutely can and do heal. They do have empathy. Etc etc. The 2 you mention speak of NPD from the far end of the disorder (malignant NPD) that leans heavily into actual psychopathy with Machevellian tendencies and severely diminished empathy. The vast majority of NPD folk are operating through unconscious coping mechanisms and masking tons of pain and fear with various destructive behaviors to themselves as well as others. Actual, currently practicing clinicians like Dr Mark Ettensohn and Dr Craig Malkin, and Dr Ruth Ann Harpur treat NPD patients daily and are vast wealths of accurate information that doesn't hobble people with this trauma-induced disorder by false claims that they are stuck and innately bad and unable to heal. Soooo untrue. And heartbreaking to observe the internet witchhunt based on inaccurate strerotypes, knowing that NPD folk have one of the highest su*c*de rates in the world of mental illnesses. Sigh.
Mum tried suiciding with me in her womb and beat me daily to remind me that she is a great and mighty prey warrior. Sorry Prayer warrior. Ive had adukt high school friends tell me how she found them and cursed them intensely. So... we need to make the dangerous people proper distance. @imm0rtalitypassi0n
Kudos to you Molly for delivering a " no nonsense tough but necessary message " to the Collective...Time for Empaths to throw away the "rose coloured glasses " and get real with these destructive energies. Love yourself and move on. Excellent video. Thanks Molly for all you do..❤
Thank you, Molly. I have a diagnosis of Complex PTSD as a consequence of childhood violence and abuse. My psychologist suspects that my father is a sociopath (and therefore a narcissist) and that my mother has multiple personality disorders including Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The harm and chaos that they have caused - and continue to cause - is absolutely horrific. For me, the most unforgivable part is that narcissists work to isolate us (the “character assassination” you talked about). They smear us to everyone. They even turn siblings against each other. It makes sure that you can’t seek outside help and that, sadly, if you do have the bravery to speak out… no one believes you. You’ve been so thoroughly discredited by the narcissist (“She’s crazy,” “She’s too sensitive,” etc) that people see THEM as the victim, the one deserving of pity. 😔 I’m no contact with both of my parents now. No contact has involved a great deal of grieving - for the childhood and family I didn’t have - because it signifies the final loss of hope. You realise that these personality types will NEVER change. They will never take responsibility. They will never have a conscience. The benefit of no contact, however, is that it helps to immobilise narcissists and limits the extent of harm that they can cause to us directly. If anyone is reading this and has a narcissist in their life, I’m sending so much love to you. They create a hell for us. I hope that you will be able to get away and start to build a sanctuary of peace and safety. 🕊️ x
I share a similar experience. I went no contact and I noticed I feel healthier despite the sadness or disappointment or wishing it was different. I'm grateful for this podcast. Thank you, and wishing all beings well-being and everlasting joy and peace.🙏 ❤
@@pimmspimms5462 exactly my experience. Both my alleged caregivers abused me in every which way. I've been rendered unlovable. My attempts at relationships are stillborn. Women run from me. I've never had a woman interested in me romantically. Romance for me is watching Emily Blunt and Olga Kurylenko in films
@@pimmspimms5462 sending you so much love! My parents were very traumatized, but not extremely malicious. I don’t understand how people could survive and stay even remotely sane, having both parents on thecluster B Spectrum.
my spiritual growth really kicked off when i accepted that i had strong narcissistic traits, after being unable to show up emotionally in my romantic relationships. its been a wild process, but i am so grateful for it!
I kind of feel like I'm in the minority - so thanks to you both for posting honestly. I used to always think I was surrounded by narcissists - but then I started wondering if it's me. Folks say that "I'm definitely not" but they are only seeing things from an outside perspective.
I give you all a lot of credit for working on yourselves too. I think this issue could actually be at the crux of what all this "shift" talk is really about. I feel more hope for humanity than I ever have before. 🙏
Ugh. So many lessons for me on this. Took me a lifetime to recognize the patterns and the connection to my mother. Now I get it!! And wish to be a single childless dog lady for the rest of my days! ✨
Saw a psychic the same day you released this and the first thing she told me was “you were abused for a long time and still haven’t come to terms fully &haven’t fully healed” I was confused why ur both bringing it up when I left it years ago but now I realize how much I didn’t know and the energy is still heavy on me. Time to rid of this!
Thank you for sharing this. As a survivor myself with parental Alienation, and thoughts of suicide. I just would like who is reading this to know, you can get through this!! I had no one for support. Only my therapist and God! I still have no friends but I do have spirit. I firmly believe God will send the right people. The mountain I am climbing is that it’s ok to feel good, it’s ok to do what is best for myself. I am aware that I need to take down the wall I put up for myself. To be softer. I’m looking forward to when I feel more joyous. Steps.. God Bless you all
I am a licensed psychotherapist and specialize in narcissistic abuse recovery. This video is spot on! So well done and truly helps one become self aware. This is an incredible educational piece of work! 🙏🙏🙏
Married one of these types. Ruined my family and almost killed me. But definitely ripped the wool off my eyes on this terrible dynamic and shone a light on how prevalent this was in my life since childhood. I’m healing but I will forever be changed.
Having been raised by a mother with narcissistic tendencies I developed them myself. It's earth-shattering when you realize that you were unknowingly passing it down to your own children. It went against all my beliefs and genuine desires to treat people with loving-kindness. Especially my beautiful, sweet, innocent child. Upon recognizing this behavior in myself, I immediately apologized and asked for forgiveness. In my case, I know my mother didn't wish to be this way. It was due to her father, my grandfather, that she developed these tendencies herself. Breaking generational behaviors and healing the trauma they cause is is so powerful! Thank you, Molly, for bringing awareness to this very important topic. Much love and abundant blessings to you and to all! 🙏🥰🙏
@@SCORPIUSANCTUM I think this has been going on between humans forever. What's different now is we have the internet. I never would have found my therapist, the helpful books I've read on this topic, astrology, videos that explain this issue plus support-group-like comment sections, and countless awesome people who aren't afraid to look the truth in the eye, if it wasn't for the web. I actually think we're ultimately going to be more healed in the future as a species, but getting through it is very rough. It's funny how this is happening in the macro of society as well right now. We'll see what happens. I'm on the edge of my seat.
My mother, father and my brother all literally destroyed me and my entire life. And that was the biggest gift ever because it harmed me so much that my ego crack opened and I remembered who I am, and that is a spirit being having an experience in a body. “Suffering is the key to enlightenment”.
This was an excellent talk, although very triggering. “Dead to me” is a MUST…only way to escape these very dangerous situations! Thank you for this talk, I pray that those that need to hear this actually hear it 🙏🏻
Dear Molly, what you said is so profound and true! My healing started with understanding the many ways they operate! When your drive is in your heart, you go down with the abuse you experienced! By understanding the way they operate, you shift your focus away from the pain in your heart! Over time you will become stronger! I felt the elephant in the room, no the whale in the room!😊
Molly-I cannot thank you enough for this message. I am in year 2 of going no-contact with my narc mother, and month 4 of no-contact with siblings and flying monkies. The triangulation and character assassination is (for me) impossible to cope with, and so the best way was no-contact. It is something that I wouldn't have seen coming in a million years, that this would be me, here, now, disconnected from an entire family over one person's actions and cruelty, but going forward I must walk my own path, in order to make room for the new energy. I have received so much from your podcasts over the years, and have felt that you have been such a tool in my healing journey, but this podcast really hit home at just the right time. I'm so grateful for the light shed here, for the support, for the information you've made available to the collective, and for your never-ending compassion for others. You are a light. Thank you! You are saving literal lives out here! Edited to add for others as resources: "Prepare to be Tortured: The price you will pay for being the family scapegoat." , by A B Jamieson, "How to Kill a Narcissist" by JH Simon, and " "Power, Surviving and Thriving after Narcissistic Abuse." by Shahida Arabi. Quora has also been the greates resource for me, where people discuss their own issues with Narcs, and how they cope. Dr. Ramani (from youtube) extremely helpful and informative, and anything else on UA-cam from trusted creators. Thank you again and hope this helps.
@@websurfer5772 you are welcome and I truly hope it helps. If you are traversing thru the realization that you are the “scapegoat” or have been a victim of narc abuse, and/or are experiencing a dark night of the soul (which any of the above could bring forth😬) i would love to also suggest Caroline Myss’ “sacred power” a 12 episode series on Gaia. I fully believe her words helped save my life. She may be here on UA-cam if you don’t have access to Gaia. Anyway best of luck to you, and sorry if you have discovered that you’re a scapegoat, or that you were betrayed by loved ones. It’s Hell but it gets easier, and as Molly says - claim it. Use it. Let it further empower you on your journey. Peace & Hugs friend💜
Another UA-cam channel is "Mental Healness." A clinically defined narcissist tells you what is going on from a narcissist's vantage point. A lot of it is jealousy.
Molly, I’m 44 years old and this year and a half was recognizing Narc patterns in both my parents and being highly hurt by my mom, not realizing what I know now. I feel I’m growing to a point of allowing the “rock tumbler” consciously in order to allow my rock to be extra shiny and smooth. Your words made me tear up for the fact of being soooo proud of my growth through this trying time. Your words made me realize how much growth I have been through ❤ Thank you. Love the flying monkey analogy 😂.
I prepared to write a comment about how much stronger I am as I was not crying by listening about these dynamics. But reading a few comments I bursted in tears... And understood how much I needed to read the words of support. I am so grateful for those 🙏💜 And one thing I learned, they go only after powerful people! As a very long time, I believed I was so weak. But no they have no interest in weak people, only in strong and they feel much better when they destroy them. So all of you, beautiful and powerful souls, please, believe in yourselves. And be fully yourself, strong and powerful! And even stronger now. And I don't mean there are weak and strong people. All of us are strong. Only some of us were raised to believe that we are weak and must stay this way. But that's not true. Much Love to all ❤
That's new to me. Thank you for the support and the same back to you. I started tearing up when I read your reply, probably at the suggestion of it. I'm really a mess. 😥
@websurfer5772 You are not a mess! You are a beautiful, powerful soul with a strong desire to grow! And even if your life looks messy now, it will be sparkling after you finish with this part of your growth. ❤
@aaya77 I think sometimes I would describe it as light, it hurts their eyes and the light feels Uncomfortable. Having that light does make you strong but also feels soft and beautiful like a loving child. There is an innocence and purity to that light and a blessing. Let it grow in love for yourself.
Thank you for giving words to my experience Molly. When we're in it we can't verbalize it. I broke up with a narcissist last night. Of course they lost their minds over it. My phone was listening to the whole thing and the first thing it did was sent me your video, which is helping me immensely. Your work is so important.
I am in my 5th month of leaving a narcissistic marriage that I didn’t recognize I was in for 12 years. Emotional and financial abuse (yes I am an empath and always saw his potential which had me stay for so long). Thank you for the spiritual perspective, Molly ❤️
I’m going through the same thing. I’m in the second month of getting a divorce. I’ve been married for 13 years and I never realized how bad it was and how much my light dimmed until last year. It’s very difficult to break away but I’m doing it. Good luck to you. Stay strong. You are not alone! ❤❤❤
Just wow! I'm currently in a very long divorce trial after 13 years. He blindsided me last year, now 14 months later, I came out of the fog he put me in. I now see it for what it is. So grateful and im proud of anyone healing from this shit show 🙏
My stepdaughter is currently in the process of divorcing her husband who is a dangerous narcissist. They share 4 young children. It has been a very difficult path over the past 18 months. She and the kids are in therapy and getting stronger. Thank you for this message Molly. It’s so important that we all learn the importance of boundaries and our own strength ✨✨
Holy moly Molly❣️ Poo poo my whole family is this. Grrrr sad face Your show came thru after my meditation asking for help. This has been brought to my attention some time ago And... I did get love bombed Shoot this is ginormus Everyone has got to go 🤢 Thank you so much for being here in my corner. I love you❤
No one is in my corner. Literally everyone has turned the other way. I accept this fact and refuse to defend my integrity. However, the path has been long and difficult. Blessings to those in a similar situation. 🙏
Omg, wow!! I can not wait to watch this!! 😮😮 I was raised by 3 narcissistic women (we are all Aries suns, except my aunt who is a Scorpio) & astrology has been such a crucial tool in my mission of being the curse breaker. 12th house chart ruler, Scorpio Stellium in the 7th house & 6 Rx planets.
Molly, thank you for making this topic a priority. I hope you don't mind me name-dropping here, but her 12 week program brought me to my knees in my healing journey. I just thought I had a horrible childhood. This abuse is not our fault, it’s our programming. In order to heal we have to acknowledge what went wrong. All these terms Molly mentioned are accurate and serious, but how, when, and where do we feel it’s necessary to implement it? She lived it and as co-dependent it’s a lifelong healing journey. Her first book, “The Road Back to Me.” I highly recommend. Maybe follow her on UA-cam & see if she resonates with you.
@MollyMcCordAstrology you should be ashamed of yourself for this video and it's gross inaccuracies and dehumanization of a mentally ill population that actually has a very high su*c*de rate. I've been a die hard fan of your astrology for years and this is just shockingly uncalled for.
Thank you! Being understood in this situation is a very healing start. I grew up in a family of narcissistic people and it took a toll on my self esteem, life choices, and key relationships until I went cold turkey and moved to the other side of the country! This is a life battle but knowing were not alone is key. Your words are genuine and I appreciate your honesty.
Most of us have experienced this more than once. It is a very prolific problem and so beneficial to realize as soon as possible. Molly is 100% correct when she says that when your shadow work is complete, you will clearly see how much growth and understanding about ourselves and others has been accomplished and how much more we love and respect ourselves as a consequence. A very helpful and well presented topic Molly, thank you!
Really needed this podcast Molly! I have a NPD father and have previously had narcissistic friends. I finally am understanding detachment! Not easy at all when I identify as an HSP and Empath! Need to power up my Moon conjunct Neptune in Cap in the 7th house! I keep saying to myself that the abuse will not continue and I am stronger than that! I can do it on my own 🙏🏻 Thank you so much Molly for this right on time message 🙏🏻💗
What helped me the most is surrounding myself with healthy individuals. Seeing how healthy people respond and act and refinding a new “normal”. Along with a very deep realization that I can’t change an unhealthy relationship with someone with these kind of issues into a healthy relationship no matter how hard I try.
thank you molly! this is so helpful. and you're right, we grow so strongly and beautiful by overcoming these abusive patterns. what you describe as gaslighting i know as projection. gaslighting is even worse: they create a situation , for example telling a lie about you, or leaving your very little daughter alone at the unsecured balcony, and when you react and get emotional on this, they blame and devalue you for your ridiculous reaction. often its so subtle that you are not aware and drama becomes perfect for them. here the greyrocking(?) which you described could be a good solution. for a long time i lived in the illusion of: they can't be that bad! this cant be true. i misunderstood... but they are! those people exist! now i know. since i was young i was curious about understanding evil. now i know. i am surrounded by. its ok. i am not afraid. i focus on love. this helps a lot.
forgot an important conclusion: maybe everyone has narcistic, evil. aspects. its complicated...,the shadow(?), but through experiencing and detecting these patterns in relationships i think i could eliminate them in myself. know how i dont want to act, because its evil. 🤔
The bizarreness of their behaviours is beyond belief and that's what keeps us mesmerised by them. It creates cognitive dissonance and we question what our own eyes are seeing. Along with the gaslighting that's the crazy making process.
@@kathi6472we all have that potential to be evil because we have free will but most of us know how far to use our free will because we've developed a social conscience and 'winning' isn't our priority in life.
Just passing a 10 yr period of giving too much! Your words resonate. Molly you are so much an energy therapist! I am strong as an empath! I will stop giving energy to a dead energetic person! I will continue to love them in a space beyond human form!
Wish I understood this 40 years ago, I am very empathic and when young had experiences which resulted in low self esteem. Although my parents were not abusive I incorporated energetically their hidden pain. People with narcissistic tendecies have always been drawn to me. As I age it gets easier to recognize and move on. My husband doesnt have five of those tendencies but he does do some of those behaviors you illustrate . I never realized that they fell into the category of narcissism. I stopped feeding into it even though Im still with him. I learned to find my self worth within me (with help along the way).
This is such an important message to deliver to us Molly. It's been a long hard road and every day I seem to release a little more. I'm a sun, moon, Venus, mercury and Uranus Cancer and lost my home, kids and dream to a narcissist. Forty years of healing and with Pluto's help over the past 20 years I am coming out the other side of this trauma.❤
Venus in Aries an Mars in Aquarius. I feel like I've been surrounded by them my whole life. Family, relationships, toxic work dynamics. Until 2020. I finally became aware of the patterns and awakened fully to my astrology chart and spiritual purpose. I literally had to cut so many people out of my life and chose a path of self healing and isolation. The reprogramming has been extensive. It was like 5 years of constant dark knights of the soul to get untangled from that web. I thank Neptune for transmitting through my 7th house as it helped me take off those rose colored glasses. I also thank Molly and a few other Podcasters for the spiritual awakening guidance. Molly, you have truly been so uplifting and provided hope and renewal to your audience. Much love to you and everyone that has had to walk through this.. I can say, that there is light past it all but the only way out..is through. ❤
Wow! Molly this is such an important and timely message. It's only in the last couple of years that I fully identified a narcissist who was in my life and that narcissistic people have been almost a constant in my life's journey, beginning with my father. The last experience, a woman who was a friend, my employer and my landlady (she was maximising the arenas for control!!), was the most destructive and the one who ultimately 'woke me up' to the pattern, the facts about narcissism. Huge grief, loss, a sense of betrayal and learnings followed and it does require a complete cut off. And, importantly, identifying their flying monkeys, who, unwittingly, will also betray you. It is also a journey to understanding my self, the roles I played in these dysfunctional relationships throughout my life...the pleasing, feeling responsible for 'making things right', believing the BS that everything that went wrong was my fault. I was helping them to diminish me, who I am, who and what I can be, and that's been a big wake up lesson. Ongoing and finding the help to heal. Loved your presentation of this critically important topic, Molly, and sending the deepest love and respect to those awesome, courageous people out there who are dealing with and recovering from narcissistic relationships. You hold the Light 🙏💚✨🌿
this was amazing! I had most symptoms of a narcissist until I slowly and gradually broke out of that isolation, un-connectedness with reality, around 25. - it took years of a different kind of isolation, - the one who no one knew any longer, did not fit in with old friends, her class etc. , - yet I came out of it with more and deeper break-throughs to whom I really am, an over-empathic person, mother, grandmother, independent older single person, excited about a new day every morning, - yes and also allowing the suffering for others , my old pain stemming from old wounds, but now it goes more in the direction of Chiron, the wounded healer. Thank you, Molly!
Your abundant communication skills and knowledge, voice expression, creativity and empathy towards others make you a truly beautiful person! Thank you Molly!
First house leo moon opp sun square uranus in 4th. I fight this all the time. I fit some of those but also have a narcissistic mother. She is jealous of my autistic son, his father fit a lot of the DSM-V categories too and took his own life. Its hard to recover and honor a first house leo moon and stay humble. Thanks for sharing ♡
WOW…..I ended a on again off again friendship of 30 years. Playing the game of being the bad friend. I finally cut it off and stopped responding back when she would actually contact me again. Which could be years later. That was over 10 years ago. And I can not believe how much I have grown with her not in my life anymore. She still tries to contact me every once in a while. But I never respond. She has even messaged my son. 🤬 I NEVER thought about narcissism. And when you started describing some of things my soul felt it! I felt a relief. 🥰 I did it all the right way. It took me years to do it. But I did it. 🙏🏻💜 Thank you once again for giving me the feels Molly. 😊
Rose coloured glasses are coming off but has taken a long time... confused between depth of compassion and too much self responsibility, and just seeing an ass being an ass. Thanks Molly xo
Molly you just described my relationship with my mom . I cut her out of my life due to well being. Now she has used my adult daughter as a flying monkey, and my character assignation too. This is such a great confirmation of what I had gone through since a child. My sun is in my 3 rd house Sagittarius which she would put me down in my character while out in public whenever anyone complimented me as a child how well behaved I was . She would say wow! But you don’t know her. She shamed me even in any compliment that came my way.
On ur healing or help techniques, luckily through my mentor I got the courage to face such people & situations n share my truth n leave gracefully. Many times people are not aware about such behavioural issues around them luckily at every steps whatever I chose to do universe kept on giving confirmation that I was on the right path & I could come out of it all. Since we humans are social animals we might keep meeting this in another person but now u become smart recognise it early on n u keep urself unharmed & protected from such stalkers n abusers. I went through this experience in my faith also. No form relationships are immune from this. Only we have to be smart n wise n navigate our way out n keep ourselves n our life moving positively & productively. ❤
I deal with a narcissistic sister daily! My mother was very narcissistic too. I have learned about setting boundaries, saying No without feeling guilty anymore. Making sure I have alone time and time away .
I don't deal anymore. My mom died in 2020 and I cancelled communication with my sister after she continued communicating with a convicted serial child abuser sibling, recently released from prison.
Thank you so much Molly this podcast is absolutely on time for me. I am an empath with what I now recognise as a narcissist neighbour. I've been at the end of my tether thank you for giving me the tools to cope.
Same here with a narcissistic neighbor who encroached upon our homestead years ago and has made our life a living hell. She failed to see how her actions impact others in the environment by mirroring our farm and seemingly competing with us after we established ourselves. She would get angry and be entitled about me and our neighbors not waving when she drove up the shared driveway to my neighbor's house and across the street from our home when we both have felt encroached upon. She would be coming and going multiple times each day, doing loud construction right across the street from us, and she expected me to give her attention everytime she drove by? We believe she has turned her family and acquaintances in the community against my family through lies about us. Most recently, she resorted to putting our weaknesses right in our face. I tried to reconcile with her at one point, resorting to us learning to work together and help each other since we are all closely connected and asked for help on our farm by utilizing one of their tractors to help us with farm work since we cannot afford one right now, in which we would reciprocate any way we can such as trade or barter. I'm looking at a tractor they put out for sale right outside my window, taunting us with something we need. Gah! I'm accepting the anger I've processed about this actually happening to us, that I'm not crazy and making this up because my gut instinct has been telling me she has ulterior motives. I'm finding some relief knowing other people are recognizing this type of abuse in their lives, too. I've day dreamed about writing a semi fiction novel about this lol😂
Molly, much needed truth. Fortunately the rebel in me protected me from believing the BS thrown. I knew better all along. Can’t say it doesn’t hurt though, because of my empathetic and sensitive nature. Going grey rock saved me, however very difficult to maintain with family members. Excellent content of truth to help all of us who are dealing with this. It’s a never ending journey of healing and staying strong, staying aware. Thank you so much Molly 🙏🫶💫 Looking forward to better days ahead.
It's honestly uncanny how the timing of you posting this links up with my own personal growth journey. I am relentless with my growth and have been since about 2015. Almost a decade of falling apart and putting myself back together .. better every time.. most of the time with your guidance. Thank you for doing what you do. I appreciate you so so much.
Thank you Molly for this insight from the astrology standpoint. I'm 31, I've grown up with two very different narcissistic parents on opposite sides of the spectrum, and it was just this past year that I was able to distance myself from them after finally making sure that I had no links to either one of them financially or otherwise in life. This is my first tip to everyone: work to become self-sufficient so they don't have leverage over you. Secondly, my emotional mastery is eventually what led to my liberation from them. (Though now my siblings have become the narcissistic supply) I am not no contact, as in the past that has resulted in intense slandering by my mother who is a well-known business woman and in drama that I have to work hard to repair. It's exhausting. I do something different. For those who are in a similar situation, I urge you to tune into how your narcissist engages with you. Because my mother numbs her emotion and can't feel it, she constantly pokes and prods it out of other people to feel connected and important, and this is where she gives me her power. When she reaches out looking to cause drama about how awful a daughter I am, I insist to her that everything is wonderful on my end, that she is the best mom, and that I am just too busy to talk. She can't feel empathy or my emotion and is locked in her patterns so she doesn't know otherwise. Because she is never looking to genuinely connect, this actually allows me to go months and months without hearing from her because I didn't fulfill what she was looking for. The more you think you can solve your relationship with whoever your narcissist is and get lost in the emotions of what's going on, the longer you will be in turmoil. This is just how my journey has gone. In the past year I've grown my finances and my worth significantly from going limited contact and not allowing those two anywhere near me, allowing me to start to heal my disorganized attachment and to feel safe in myself. I hope anyone out there dealing with this traumatic soul path can do the same, too. ❤
Molly your videos podcasts messages saved me helped me when I was going through darkest moments of my life. God bless you and this community and loving people etc etc .... Thank you😢😭❤😘
This is the hardest topic. I think for me the most important thing has been the realisation that each situation is a dynamic and everything takes two. Both contribute in some way and until yourself realises this and takes responsibly for your own side I don’t think healing can really happen.
Molly, you’re an Angel! Thank you so much for the extra podcasts recently 🙏🏼 My heart has been so hungry for insight, encouragement, support and you have delivered 😊 “Today’s not a release day” says my reason; “Just look” says my hope and hey Presto another topic we all really really needed 🥰 You’ve lit up my listening since 2018 🌟 gratitude and blessings 🙏🏼
Good Morning Molly! I am a empath and a light worker. I was in a relationship with a Covert Narcissist. Still trying to understand. Thank You. (2 hours later) Well I've been listening to this and I want to add that it's been just about a year since I packed up my belongings and left a 10 year relationship. Wow! how on point this reflection you have published, truly is. Very appreciative, very deep feelings!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart and the depth of my soul dear Molly. You are the greatest source of wisdom, inspiration, love and support. Thank you forever and eternity. I love you.
Thank you Molly! 🙏 ❤ This video was most encouraging and healing! I have gone "no contact" with my sibling... my only surviving family member... which has filled my heart with sadness, pain and grief! It's a journey to get through and it's not easy, but it has been necessary! I have chosen my wellbeing as a priority! (Mars in Cancer, Venus in Aries) Thank you for broaching this really complicated topic of narcissism! Blessings, Love and Light! 🙏❤️
Thank you Molly for this important message 🙏❤️🙏 It feels so right on time as I am not speaking to my mother as of a few days back.. I am really feeling that this time I am standing up for myself BUT it is not easy not connecting with her as she is very lonely (due to her relationship patterns and narcissism). I feel codependent in this and it is so ingrained in me that I need to care for her needs before mine.. Trying to be strong and thankfully I have siblings to talk to 🙏 A big thank you for all the information, enlightenment and care that you share with the world ❤️
Excellent video.... and as someone said earlier, about to be one of your most watched videos. Sorely needed. I particularly enjoying hearing your perspective on having been in such a relationship (many of us more than once), that it's part of our growth and consciousness. I see that now. Thanks again. Blessings ❤❤
Daaaaamn that was a complete explanation and I love it! Love going out to anyone who is trapped in this cycle. Listen to this podcast many times so you can awaken to the sickness and get yourselves out. Listen to Dr Ramani as well.
So hard to listen to when it’s too true to you Thank you for trying to keep gentle and not scorn the personally which makes upsets me looking at it peeling the bandaid off
OMG a truly divinely inspired message, thank you for sharing! My current experiences are playing this out from past and current events and particular people. I’m being challenged to mindfully accept this and work through it while I’m looking for support to assist me down this path.
Thx Molly. That was really well done ❤️🙏🏻. Being someone who hates labels , it took me a while to fully acknowledge that an 8 year relationship was with a narcissist. He quite literally ticked all nine boxes. 🫣I say this because when I did own the situation the next thought was ‘shit, now what do I need to know about myself so that this never happens again?” I really had to accept accountability for allowing the dynamic before I could fully heal it. So I’d just like to send love and encouragement for those that might be on that healing path ❤❤❤
I adore you, Molly… you know how many videos I have listened to in the past 4 years and this is truly one of the best ones I have heard on the subject to date, if not the absolute best… you have an amazingly insightful way of explaining and inspiring… I’m forwarding it to everyone I know affected by narcissism and am so grateful for you… sending hugs and love 😍
Holy moly Molly! You detailed this unlike I have ever heard. I have experienced this in my family, and others. I would take it personally. Breaking my heart.
Amazing timing as I've been navigating thru this.... And back in May went cold turkey from a best friend who turned out to be this way after I spent more time with her for a few months.... Part of me wonders if by not talking to her was also narcissistic.... But I am not looking elsewhere for validation. I see her doing that allll the time and when I started triggering her she hated it. I do out of love as much as possible. But she was unwilling to change her unhealthy habits. Blames everyone else for them. My ex's and dad were the same way. I also had to leave my dad's house in December. It's been a interesting year so far. Now I'm trying to form new connections and I am really struggling with trust, analyzing my every move and thoughts
It took Pluto going into my 8th (using Whole House) in March last year to find out that l suffered from C-PTSD. My sperm-donor died 6 weeks before, my alleged mutha died about 6 weeks after. It was March 23rd, her birthday was the 18th of March. I was the cause of her forced marriage, everyone in my family hated me. She worked in the _get money for sex_ industry. She didn't love me and left me to be beat up by a tyrnt bisexual. I was _every-type-of-abused_ by both sexes. She thought it was funny to allow her fellow-workers to make me *perform* intimate acts for them. I was gutturally devestated and humiliated. The next day the tyrant would ram timber dowel up me. He inflicted terrible stuff on me. His Pluto was exact my Sun. He left when Saturn was conjunct my Sun. I have Sun in 1st H, Moon in the 7th and and a Stationary Direct Neptune in the 4th. Pretty much child abuse. As well as Mars conjunct Pluto in the House of Siblings; l got beaten for their misdeeds as well. In adult life I've badically been rejected by women. I've never met a woman interested in me. The only relationship I've really had l chased her so hard. But l was emotionally stunted. Cancer Sun n Ascendant thwarted by the Moon being in early Aquarius (7th in Placidus). 97% of Cancer men love their mums/moms. I didn't got to her funeral neither did my siblings I read charts for women and they love my understanding. But relationships are a no-go for me. The rejections are so bad l feel like I've SA'ed them justing asking someone out. I'll die unloved because my whole life I've been unloved. I have no self esteem. That abuse shaped me. I exist between two songs: _"I am a Rock, I am an Island"_ (Simon) and _*"A Series of Dreams"*_(Dylan) The closest l get to a relationship is women rebutting my advances. Rejection is good ....... *apparently*
Woew just breaking up with a narcisist....i asked for proffessional help and in that session i understood what i was involved in....i wd have never expecred u speaking about this😮 and i'm so happy to hear you....thanks a lot
I only managed to leave “toxic” relationship pattern repeating on and on once I fully owned that in order to be in toxic relationship I had to be toxic as well.
@@gunarasnaca6130 I grew up with parents that were also toxic so it made sense to me that I would attract that in a partner...since I left him I feel a huge sigh of relief but it's a little unnerving living by yourself for the first time ever being in my late 50's. Thankfully I'm not feeling the toxicity anymore. Opposites do attract, he was toxic, I was not.
This was a clear answer to the struggle I am having with my daughter 😢 I have to let her go or she will burn down my world for a fourth time. 😭 Thank you Molly for bringing direct messages from our Guides to affirm our own intuitive knowings. We love you so much ❤
This is confirmation from the universe for me. Thank you. Been in the process of letting go and establishing boundaries and healing for the last 2 months. I will love them from a safe distance energetically. But I won't be sucked back in.
Thank you. Greatly appreciated I needed to hear this today. I wish I could file a claim on my broken heart to be repaid for these damages. No one deserves this type of treatments. It is deadly.
If what you wrote is an original work--you need to go write and publish it. I'm certain that your story is worth a read and will potentially help others in their journey.
This is so heavy for me. It may take me a long time to get through this video so I want to say now, after only reading the first paragraph under the video, and having not watched it yet, THANK YOU, MOLLY!! I need this support and you are a gem! ✨💎✨ I'm very curious to see what you have to say about the astrological placements and aspects involved in NPD.
ETA: I just went to make notes in my Astro notes folder and I'm on p. 363 Guess what my last notes were on p. 362? 362._What_Molly_Mccord_is_saying_about_my_Uranus_Pluto_in_Virgo_Opposite_Chiron_and_Saturn_in_Pisces_Generation That one is so amazing I've recently watched it a few more times again. You are Rockin' it, Molly!!
It's cool that you say the Universe knows what's going on with us because just yesterday I finally realized that God is intelligent enough to know the truth about me, myself, and my life. And I figured out that God, Jesus, Mother Mary, my guardian angels, and my higher self all know the truth. Everyone I just listed knows more about the truth than I do, so they're definitely not going to fall for the lies, or stretched and twisted truths like nearly everyone else in my life has. One day, as I was studying my chart, I realized that for me, the answer is my North Node which is in Cancer in the 1st house. I'm supposed to do everything you listed in this video. I'm supposed to stay focused on myself and in my case, stay home, and feel my feelings. Now, how odd is it that I've been mostly bedridden since my NN kicked in at age 33? My NN may sound easy to some people but I mostly hate it. However, I'm doing it and I really appreciate videos like yours Molly, because you reinforce what I've been learning elsewhere on how to find my peace of mind again, and you tie in the astrology of it all beautifully.
Wow, this really nailed it. Exactly what is happening in my life with that narcissist. I'm determined to leave soon. I did everything possible wrong up till now. But, now I'm stronger and understand better, and even though we're still sharing the same place, I feel that,yes, he's dead for me. He's exactly like you described it. This video is a true diamond for the soul. Thanks so much ❤
The timing of this podcast was incredible as a narcissist "friend" I had released had just popped back up after 6 months. I feel so supported by your words Molly, thank you! xx
Divine Timing Molly, im currently in a 14 plus months divorce process from this monster/coward. Very abuse people (if they are even human) 13 years and the marriage was a complete LIE. Be careful with "changes" in their behavior because my soon X husband pretended to change but it was temporary
Please share any resources, tips, or healing insights in the comments that you have found to be supportive for you. Please also acknowledge there are many variables to narcissism, and multiple ways this can be experienced for each person. Please be kind, compassion, and accepting that everyone is on their own healing journey with this theme, if it resonates with you. 💖
Dr. Ramani and Richard Grannon are wonderful resources.
Dr Mark Ettensohn's book and YT channel. UNLEARN all these toxic stereotypes and untruths about NPD. Also Dr Craig Malkin, and Dr Ruth Ann Harpur. Please educate yourselves beyond these pop-psych "experts" who are quite narcissistic themselves, who are going off of decades-old, outdated theories and demonizing people for having a mental illness.
@@imm0rtalitypassi0nwhy don’t you recommend Richard Grannon and Dr Ramani? I’m curious 😊
@@LadyMaryTalbot because their take on NPD is blatantly outdated, inaccurate, and very harmful. I wish they weren't the only voices that get heard. NPD is very treatable, and those folks absolutely can and do heal. They do have empathy. Etc etc. The 2 you mention speak of NPD from the far end of the disorder (malignant NPD) that leans heavily into actual psychopathy with Machevellian tendencies and severely diminished empathy. The vast majority of NPD folk are operating through unconscious coping mechanisms and masking tons of pain and fear with various destructive behaviors to themselves as well as others. Actual, currently practicing clinicians like Dr Mark Ettensohn and Dr Craig Malkin, and Dr Ruth Ann Harpur treat NPD patients daily and are vast wealths of accurate information that doesn't hobble people with this trauma-induced disorder by false claims that they are stuck and innately bad and unable to heal. Soooo untrue. And heartbreaking to observe the internet witchhunt based on inaccurate strerotypes, knowing that NPD folk have one of the highest su*c*de rates in the world of mental illnesses. Sigh.
Mum tried suiciding with me in her womb and beat me daily to remind me that she is a great and mighty prey warrior. Sorry Prayer warrior. Ive had adukt high school friends tell me how she found them and cursed them intensely.
So... we need to make the dangerous people proper distance.
@imm0rtalitypassi0n
Kudos to you Molly for delivering a " no nonsense tough but necessary message " to the Collective...Time for Empaths to throw away the "rose coloured glasses " and get real with these destructive energies. Love yourself and move on. Excellent video.
Thanks Molly for all you do..❤
I just bought a pair of yellow colored glasses - I'm movin' on up! 😎
Thank you, Molly. I have a diagnosis of Complex PTSD as a consequence of childhood violence and abuse.
My psychologist suspects that my father is a sociopath (and therefore a narcissist) and that my mother has multiple personality disorders including Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
The harm and chaos that they have caused - and continue to cause - is absolutely horrific. For me, the most unforgivable part is that narcissists work to isolate us (the “character assassination” you talked about). They smear us to everyone. They even turn siblings against each other. It makes sure that you can’t seek outside help and that, sadly, if you do have the bravery to speak out… no one believes you. You’ve been so thoroughly discredited by the narcissist (“She’s crazy,” “She’s too sensitive,” etc) that people see THEM as the victim, the one deserving of pity. 😔
I’m no contact with both of my parents now. No contact has involved a great deal of grieving - for the childhood and family I didn’t have - because it signifies the final loss of hope. You realise that these personality types will NEVER change. They will never take responsibility. They will never have a conscience. The benefit of no contact, however, is that it helps to immobilise narcissists and limits the extent of harm that they can cause to us directly.
If anyone is reading this and has a narcissist in their life, I’m sending so much love to you. They create a hell for us. I hope that you will be able to get away and start to build a sanctuary of peace and safety. 🕊️ x
thank you for sharing. My parents are like yours. They are horrible people. Nice to know I am not alone. Hope you are doing ok.
I understand this experience too. I'm proud of you for putting yourself first 💕
I share a similar experience. I went no contact and I noticed I feel healthier despite the sadness or disappointment or wishing it was different.
I'm grateful for this podcast. Thank you, and wishing all beings well-being and everlasting joy and peace.🙏 ❤
@@pimmspimms5462 exactly my experience. Both my alleged caregivers abused me in every which way. I've been rendered unlovable. My attempts at relationships are stillborn. Women run from me. I've never had a woman interested in me romantically. Romance for me is watching Emily Blunt and Olga Kurylenko in films
@@pimmspimms5462 sending you so much love! My parents were very traumatized, but not extremely malicious. I don’t understand how people could survive and stay even remotely sane, having both parents on thecluster B Spectrum.
my spiritual growth really kicked off when i accepted that i had strong narcissistic traits, after being unable to show up emotionally in my romantic relationships. its been a wild process, but i am so grateful for it!
Me too!
@@michellem737 🤍
I kind of feel like I'm in the minority - so thanks to you both for posting honestly. I used to always think I was surrounded by narcissists - but then I started wondering if it's me. Folks say that "I'm definitely not" but they are only seeing things from an outside perspective.
I give you all a lot of credit for working on yourselves too. I think this issue could actually be at the crux of what all this "shift" talk is really about. I feel more hope for humanity than I ever have before. 🙏
@@websurfer5772 Tysm. It’s such an uncomfortable shift, but I’m doing my best! Appreciate you!
Ugh. So many lessons for me on this. Took me a lifetime to recognize the patterns and the connection to my mother. Now I get it!! And wish to be a single childless dog lady for the rest of my days! ✨
Me too
Totally understand and empathize. Methinks there are soooo many of us!
@@adubx all my days, my nights, my time are spent wishing l had a partner. But that ain't gonna happen
Me too! Dog lady strong!!! 💪 ❤🐾🐾🐾🐾
Same! 50yo amazing woman with an even more amazing 10yo English Bulldog "Maddie Eleanor." My bff!! ❤❤❤
Saw a psychic the same day you released this and the first thing she told me was “you were abused for a long time and still haven’t come to terms fully &haven’t fully healed” I was confused why ur both bringing it up when I left it years ago but now I realize how much I didn’t know and the energy is still heavy on me. Time to rid of this!
Thank you for sharing this. As a survivor myself with parental Alienation, and thoughts of suicide. I just would like who is reading this to know, you can get through this!! I had no one for support. Only my therapist and God! I still have no friends but I do have spirit. I firmly believe God will send the right people. The mountain I am climbing is that it’s ok to feel good, it’s ok to do what is best for myself. I am aware that I need to take down the wall I put up for myself. To be softer. I’m looking forward to when I feel more joyous. Steps.. God Bless you all
God bless you ❤❤❤
I am a licensed psychotherapist and specialize in narcissistic abuse recovery. This video is spot on! So well done and truly helps one become self aware. This is an incredible educational piece of work! 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for your work to help heal people. My condolences on the loss of your precious son. I subbed you.
Married one of these types. Ruined my family and almost killed me. But definitely ripped the wool off my eyes on this terrible dynamic and shone a light on how prevalent this was in my life since childhood. I’m healing but I will forever be changed.
Having been raised by a mother with narcissistic tendencies I developed them myself. It's earth-shattering when you realize that you were unknowingly passing it down to your own children. It went against all my beliefs and genuine desires to treat people with loving-kindness. Especially my beautiful, sweet, innocent child. Upon recognizing this behavior in myself, I immediately apologized and asked for forgiveness. In my case, I know my mother didn't wish to be this way. It was due to her father, my grandfather, that she developed these tendencies herself.
Breaking generational behaviors and healing the trauma they cause is is so powerful!
Thank you, Molly, for bringing awareness to this very important topic.
Much love and abundant blessings to you and to all! 🙏🥰🙏
Is about to be your most watched video Molly ❤
for sure...much needed! Dr Ramani stated she feels these types are causing a public health crisis and I wholeheartedly agree
@@SCORPIUSANCTUM I think this has been going on between humans forever. What's different now is we have the internet. I never would have found my therapist, the helpful books I've read on this topic, astrology, videos that explain this issue plus support-group-like comment sections, and countless awesome people who aren't afraid to look the truth in the eye, if it wasn't for the web.
I actually think we're ultimately going to be more healed in the future as a species, but getting through it is very rough.
It's funny how this is happening in the macro of society as well right now.
We'll see what happens. I'm on the edge of my seat.
My mother, father and my brother all literally destroyed me and my entire life. And that was the biggest gift ever because it harmed me so much that my ego crack opened and I remembered who I am, and that is a spirit being having an experience in a body. “Suffering is the key to enlightenment”.
It broke up open to our authentic self. Well said.
Thank you Molly really supporting insight❤❤❤❤. Sending hugs ❤
This was an excellent talk, although very triggering. “Dead to me” is a MUST…only way to escape these very dangerous situations! Thank you for this talk, I pray that those that need to hear this actually hear it 🙏🏻
Dear Molly, what you said is so profound and true! My healing started with understanding the many ways they operate! When your drive is in your heart, you go down with the abuse you experienced! By understanding the way they operate, you shift your focus away from the pain in your heart! Over time you will become stronger! I felt the elephant in the room, no the whale in the room!😊
Molly-I cannot thank you enough for this message. I am in year 2 of going no-contact with my narc mother, and month 4 of no-contact with siblings and flying monkies. The triangulation and character assassination is (for me) impossible to cope with, and so the best way was no-contact. It is something that I wouldn't have seen coming in a million years, that this would be me, here, now, disconnected from an entire family over one person's actions and cruelty, but going forward I must walk my own path, in order to make room for the new energy. I have received so much from your podcasts over the years, and have felt that you have been such a tool in my healing journey, but this podcast really hit home at just the right time. I'm so grateful for the light shed here, for the support, for the information you've made available to the collective, and for your never-ending compassion for others. You are a light. Thank you! You are saving literal lives out here!
Edited to add for others as resources: "Prepare to be Tortured: The price you will pay for being the family scapegoat." , by A B Jamieson, "How to Kill a Narcissist" by JH Simon, and " "Power, Surviving and Thriving after Narcissistic Abuse." by Shahida Arabi. Quora has also been the greates resource for me, where people discuss their own issues with Narcs, and how they cope. Dr. Ramani (from youtube) extremely helpful and informative, and anything else on UA-cam from trusted creators. Thank you again and hope this helps.
Thank you for your first book suggestion. I haven't heard of it before and it looks perfect for my situation.
@@websurfer5772 you are welcome and I truly hope it helps. If you are traversing thru the realization that you are the “scapegoat” or have been a victim of narc abuse, and/or are experiencing a dark night of the soul (which any of the above could bring forth😬) i would love to also suggest Caroline Myss’ “sacred power” a 12 episode series on Gaia. I fully believe her words helped save my life. She may be here on UA-cam if you don’t have access to Gaia. Anyway best of luck to you, and sorry if you have discovered that you’re a scapegoat, or that you were betrayed by loved ones. It’s Hell but it gets easier, and as Molly says - claim it. Use it. Let it further empower you on your journey. Peace & Hugs friend💜
Another UA-cam channel is "Mental Healness." A clinically defined narcissist tells you what is going on from a narcissist's vantage point. A lot of it is jealousy.
Molly, I’m 44 years old and this year and a half was recognizing Narc patterns in both my parents and being highly hurt by my mom, not realizing what I know now. I feel I’m growing to a point of allowing the “rock tumbler” consciously in order to allow my rock to be extra shiny and smooth. Your words made me tear up for the fact of being soooo proud of my growth through this trying time. Your words made me realize how much growth I have been through ❤ Thank you. Love the flying monkey analogy 😂.
I prepared to write a comment about how much stronger I am as I was not crying by listening about these dynamics. But reading a few comments I bursted in tears... And understood how much I needed to read the words of support. I am so grateful for those 🙏💜 And one thing I learned, they go only after powerful people! As a very long time, I believed I was so weak. But no they have no interest in weak people, only in strong and they feel much better when they destroy them. So all of you, beautiful and powerful souls, please, believe in yourselves. And be fully yourself, strong and powerful! And even stronger now. And I don't mean there are weak and strong people. All of us are strong. Only some of us were raised to believe that we are weak and must stay this way. But that's not true. Much Love to all ❤
That's new to me. Thank you for the support and the same back to you.
I started tearing up when I read your reply, probably at the suggestion of it. I'm really a mess. 😥
@websurfer5772 You are not a mess! You are a beautiful, powerful soul with a strong desire to grow! And even if your life looks messy now, it will be sparkling after you finish with this part of your growth. ❤
@@IamAya7 Thank you!
I wish you peace, health, and happiness on your journey through this life.
@aaya77 I think sometimes I would describe it as light, it hurts their eyes and the light feels Uncomfortable. Having that light does make you strong but also feels soft and beautiful like a loving child. There is an innocence and purity to that light and a blessing. Let it grow in love for yourself.
Thank you for giving words to my experience Molly. When we're in it we can't verbalize it. I broke up with a narcissist last night. Of course they lost their minds over it. My phone was listening to the whole thing and the first thing it did was sent me your video, which is helping me immensely. Your work is so important.
I am in my 5th month of leaving a narcissistic marriage that I didn’t recognize I was in for 12 years. Emotional and financial abuse (yes I am an empath and always saw his potential which had me stay for so long). Thank you for the spiritual perspective, Molly ❤️
It will get better, I promise. Take this time for self love.
I’m going through the same thing. I’m in the second month of getting a divorce. I’ve been married for 13 years and I never realized how bad it was and how much my light dimmed until last year. It’s very difficult to break away but I’m doing it. Good luck to you. Stay strong. You are not alone! ❤❤❤
@@KKSMITH626 sending you love ❤️. We will shine through this!
@@srm-72yes we will! ❤
Just wow! I'm currently in a very long divorce trial after 13 years. He blindsided me last year, now 14 months later, I came out of the fog he put me in. I now see it for what it is. So grateful and im proud of anyone healing from this shit show 🙏
Thanks Molly. A different type of podcast but surly needed.
My stepdaughter is currently in the process of divorcing her husband who is a dangerous narcissist. They share 4 young children. It has been a very difficult path over the past 18 months. She and the kids are in therapy and getting stronger. Thank you for this message Molly. It’s so important that we all learn the importance of boundaries and our own strength ✨✨
What a great stepmom you are to be worried about her!
Holy moly Molly❣️
Poo poo my whole family is this.
Grrrr sad face
Your show came thru after my meditation asking for help.
This has been brought to my attention some time ago
And... I did get love bombed
Shoot this is ginormus
Everyone has got to go 🤢
Thank you so much for being here in my corner.
I love you❤
No one is in my corner. Literally everyone has turned the other way. I accept this fact and refuse to defend my integrity.
However, the path has been long and difficult. Blessings to those in a similar situation. 🙏
Blessing back to you. I agree with what you say in your video on Modern Day Slavery and I subbed you.
I will listen to this 1,000 times.❤
Omg, wow!! I can not wait to watch this!! 😮😮 I was raised by 3 narcissistic women (we are all Aries suns, except my aunt who is a Scorpio) & astrology has been such a crucial tool in my mission of being the curse breaker. 12th house chart ruler, Scorpio Stellium in the 7th house & 6 Rx planets.
Whoa!! You've got a lot of powerful stuff going on astrologically.
I love your username! lol
That sounds like a Cinderella story, feel for you
Molly, thank you for making this topic a priority. I hope you don't mind me name-dropping here, but her 12 week program brought me to my knees in my healing journey. I just thought I had a horrible childhood. This abuse is not our fault, it’s our programming. In order to heal we have to acknowledge what went wrong. All these terms Molly mentioned are
accurate and serious, but how, when, and where do we feel it’s necessary to implement it? She lived it and as co-dependent it’s a lifelong healing journey. Her first book, “The Road Back to Me.” I highly recommend. Maybe follow her on UA-cam & see if she resonates with you.
Thanks Molly, very insightful as always. ❤
Thank you for your kind donation 🙏🥰✨
@MollyMcCordAstrology you should be ashamed of yourself for this video and it's gross inaccuracies and dehumanization of a mentally ill population that actually has a very high su*c*de rate. I've been a die hard fan of your astrology for years and this is just shockingly uncalled for.
Every word of this is pure GOLD!! Thank you for taking the time to break all this down so expertly 💙🙏🏼
Thank you! Being understood in this situation is a very healing start. I grew up in a family of narcissistic people and it took a toll on my self esteem, life choices, and key relationships until I went cold turkey and moved to the other side of the country! This is a life battle but knowing were not alone is key. Your words are genuine and I appreciate your honesty.
I have been wanting to do this exact topic on my channel. I am so grateful you did it justice as it is such an important topic!
Most of us have experienced this more than once. It is a very prolific problem and so beneficial to realize as soon as possible. Molly is 100% correct when she says that when your shadow work is complete, you will clearly see how much growth and understanding about ourselves and others has been accomplished and how much more we love and respect ourselves as a consequence. A very helpful and well presented topic Molly, thank you!
Thankful for the lessons. The triggers are still a surprise after two decades. Love self first...it isn't a selfish thing to do.
So Grateful for you Molly ❤ For your beautiful presence and your wealth of knowledge and wisdom and education. We Love You!
Really needed this podcast Molly! I have a NPD father and have previously had narcissistic friends. I finally am understanding detachment! Not easy at all when I identify as an HSP and Empath! Need to power up my Moon conjunct Neptune in Cap in the 7th house! I keep saying to myself that the abuse will not continue and I am stronger than that! I can do it on my own 🙏🏻
Thank you so much Molly for this right on time message 🙏🏻💗
What helped me the most is surrounding myself with healthy individuals. Seeing how healthy people respond and act and refinding a new “normal”. Along with a very deep realization that I can’t change an unhealthy relationship with someone with these kind of issues into a healthy relationship no matter how hard I try.
thank you molly! this is so helpful. and you're right, we grow so strongly and beautiful by overcoming these abusive patterns.
what you describe as gaslighting i know as projection. gaslighting is even worse: they create a situation , for example telling a lie about you, or leaving your very little daughter alone at the unsecured balcony, and when you react and get emotional on this, they blame and devalue you for your ridiculous reaction. often its so subtle that you are not aware and drama becomes perfect for them. here the greyrocking(?) which you described could be a good solution.
for a long time i lived in the illusion of: they can't be that bad! this cant be true. i misunderstood...
but they are! those people exist! now i know.
since i was young i was curious about understanding evil. now i know. i am surrounded by. its ok. i am not afraid. i focus on love. this helps a lot.
forgot an important conclusion: maybe everyone has narcistic, evil. aspects. its complicated...,the shadow(?), but through experiencing and detecting these patterns in relationships i think i could eliminate them in myself. know how i dont want to act, because its evil. 🤔
...and learned how to not serve the evil...😊
@@kathi6472 I like your conclusion. 👍
The bizarreness of their behaviours is beyond belief and that's what keeps us mesmerised by them. It creates cognitive dissonance and we question what our own eyes are seeing. Along with the gaslighting that's the crazy making process.
@@kathi6472we all have that potential to be evil because we have free will but most of us know how far to use our free will because we've developed a social conscience and 'winning' isn't our priority in life.
Just passing a 10 yr period of giving too much! Your words resonate. Molly you are so much an energy therapist! I am strong as an empath! I will stop giving energy to a dead energetic person! I will continue to love them in a space beyond human form!
Wish I understood this 40 years ago, I am very empathic and when young had experiences which resulted in low self esteem. Although my parents were not abusive I incorporated energetically their hidden pain. People with narcissistic tendecies have always been drawn to me. As I age it gets easier to recognize and move on. My husband doesnt have five of those tendencies but he does do some of those behaviors you illustrate . I never realized that they fell into the category of narcissism. I stopped feeding into it even though Im still with him. I learned to find my self worth within me (with help along the way).
This is such an important message to deliver to us Molly. It's been a long hard road and every day I seem to release a little more. I'm a sun, moon, Venus, mercury and Uranus Cancer and lost my home, kids and dream to a narcissist. Forty years of healing and with Pluto's help over the past 20 years I am coming out the other side of this trauma.❤
That's awful, we've all got our horror stories, love to you and us all💚🌺🌻
🫂 I am so sorry to hear that. May you find peace of mind and happiness in spite of it all.
Venus in Aries an Mars in Aquarius. I feel like I've been surrounded by them my whole life. Family, relationships, toxic work dynamics. Until 2020. I finally became aware of the patterns and awakened fully to my astrology chart and spiritual purpose. I literally had to cut so many people out of my life and chose a path of self healing and isolation. The reprogramming has been extensive. It was like 5 years of constant dark knights of the soul to get untangled from that web. I thank Neptune for transmitting through my 7th house as it helped me take off those rose colored glasses. I also thank Molly and a few other Podcasters for the spiritual awakening guidance. Molly, you have truly been so uplifting and provided hope and renewal to your audience. Much love to you and everyone that has had to walk through this.. I can say, that there is light past it all but the only way out..is through. ❤
Wow! Molly this is such an important and timely message. It's only in the last couple of years that I fully identified a narcissist who was in my life and that narcissistic people have been almost a constant in my life's journey, beginning with my father.
The last experience, a woman who was a friend, my employer and my landlady (she was maximising the arenas for control!!), was the most destructive and the one who ultimately 'woke me up' to the pattern, the facts about narcissism. Huge grief, loss, a sense of betrayal and learnings followed and it does require a complete cut off. And, importantly, identifying their flying monkeys, who, unwittingly, will also betray you. It is also a journey to understanding my self, the roles I played in these dysfunctional relationships throughout my life...the pleasing, feeling responsible for 'making things right', believing the BS that everything that went wrong was my fault. I was helping them to diminish me, who I am, who and what I can be, and that's been a big wake up lesson. Ongoing and finding the help to heal.
Loved your presentation of this critically important topic, Molly, and sending the deepest love and respect to those awesome, courageous people out there who are dealing with and recovering from narcissistic relationships. You hold the Light 🙏💚✨🌿
this was amazing! I had most symptoms of a narcissist until I slowly and gradually broke out of that isolation, un-connectedness with reality, around 25. - it took years of a different kind of isolation, - the one who no one knew any longer, did not fit in with old friends, her class etc. , - yet I came out of it with more and deeper break-throughs to whom I really am, an over-empathic person, mother, grandmother, independent older single person, excited about a new day every morning, - yes and also allowing the suffering for others , my old pain stemming from old wounds, but now it goes more in the direction of Chiron, the wounded healer. Thank you, Molly!
Wow I don't know what made you todo this video right now but it's very timely for me. So good. Thank you so much Molly ❤❤❤
Your abundant communication skills and knowledge, voice expression, creativity and empathy towards others make you a truly beautiful person! Thank you Molly!
First house leo moon opp sun square uranus in 4th. I fight this all the time. I fit some of those but also have a narcissistic mother. She is jealous of my autistic son, his father fit a lot of the DSM-V categories too and took his own life. Its hard to recover and honor a first house leo moon and stay humble. Thanks for sharing ♡
WOW…..I ended a on again off again friendship of 30 years. Playing the game of being the bad friend. I finally cut it off and stopped responding back when she would actually contact me again. Which could be years later. That was over 10 years ago. And I can not believe how much I have grown with her not in my life anymore. She still tries to contact me every once in a while. But I never respond. She has even messaged my son. 🤬 I NEVER thought about narcissism. And when you started describing some of things my soul felt it! I felt a relief. 🥰 I did it all the right way. It took me years to do it. But I did it. 🙏🏻💜 Thank you once again for giving me the feels Molly. 😊
Rose coloured glasses are coming off but has taken a long time... confused between depth of compassion and too much self responsibility, and just seeing an ass being an ass. Thanks Molly xo
Molly you just described my relationship with my mom . I cut her out of my life due to well being. Now she has used my adult daughter as a flying monkey, and my character assignation too. This is such a great confirmation of what I had gone through since a child. My sun is in my 3 rd house Sagittarius which she would put me down in my character while out in public whenever anyone complimented me as a child how well behaved I was . She would say wow! But you don’t know her. She shamed me even in any compliment that came my way.
On ur healing or help techniques, luckily through my mentor I got the courage to face such people & situations n share my truth n leave gracefully. Many times people are not aware about such behavioural issues around them luckily at every steps whatever I chose to do universe kept on giving confirmation that I was on the right path & I could come out of it all. Since we humans are social animals we might keep meeting this in another person but now u become smart recognise it early on n u keep urself unharmed & protected from such stalkers n abusers. I went through this experience in my faith also. No form relationships are immune from this. Only we have to be smart n wise n navigate our way out n keep ourselves n our life moving positively & productively. ❤
I deal with a narcissistic sister daily!
My mother was very narcissistic too.
I have learned about setting boundaries, saying No without feeling guilty anymore.
Making sure I have alone time and time away .
I don't deal anymore. My mom died in 2020 and I cancelled communication with my sister after she continued communicating with a convicted serial child abuser sibling, recently released from prison.
Thank you so much Molly this podcast is absolutely on time for me. I am an empath with what I now recognise as a narcissist neighbour. I've been at the end of my tether thank you for giving me the tools to cope.
Same here with a narcissistic neighbor who encroached upon our homestead years ago and has made our life a living hell. She failed to see how her actions impact others in the environment by mirroring our farm and seemingly competing with us after we established ourselves. She would get angry and be entitled about me and our neighbors not waving when she drove up the shared driveway to my neighbor's house and across the street from our home when we both have felt encroached upon. She would be coming and going multiple times each day, doing loud construction right across the street from us, and she expected me to give her attention everytime she drove by? We believe she has turned her family and acquaintances in the community against my family through lies about us. Most recently, she resorted to putting our weaknesses right in our face. I tried to reconcile with her at one point, resorting to us learning to work together and help each other since we are all closely connected and asked for help on our farm by utilizing one of their tractors to help us with farm work since we cannot afford one right now, in which we would reciprocate any way we can such as trade or barter. I'm looking at a tractor they put out for sale right outside my window, taunting us with something we need. Gah! I'm accepting the anger I've processed about this actually happening to us, that I'm not crazy and making this up because my gut instinct has been telling me she has ulterior motives. I'm finding some relief knowing other people are recognizing this type of abuse in their lives, too. I've day dreamed about writing a semi fiction novel about this lol😂
Molly, much needed truth. Fortunately the rebel in me protected me from believing the BS thrown. I knew better all along. Can’t say it doesn’t hurt though, because of my empathetic and sensitive nature. Going grey rock saved me, however very difficult to maintain with family members. Excellent content of truth to help all of us who are dealing with this. It’s a never ending journey of healing and staying strong, staying aware.
Thank you so much Molly 🙏🫶💫 Looking forward to better days ahead.
"the rebel in me protected me" - Yes! I thank God for my Scorpion Moon all the time. Kick out the Jams Brothers and Sisters!!
You have illuminated my understanding of my father in this video. As usual your insights come at exactly the right time.
It's honestly uncanny how the timing of you posting this links up with my own personal growth journey. I am relentless with my growth and have been since about 2015. Almost a decade of falling apart and putting myself back together .. better every time.. most of the time with your guidance. Thank you for doing what you do. I appreciate you so so much.
Thank you Molly for this insight from the astrology standpoint. I'm 31, I've grown up with two very different narcissistic parents on opposite sides of the spectrum, and it was just this past year that I was able to distance myself from them after finally making sure that I had no links to either one of them financially or otherwise in life. This is my first tip to everyone: work to become self-sufficient so they don't have leverage over you.
Secondly, my emotional mastery is eventually what led to my liberation from them. (Though now my siblings have become the narcissistic supply) I am not no contact, as in the past that has resulted in intense slandering by my mother who is a well-known business woman and in drama that I have to work hard to repair. It's exhausting. I do something different. For those who are in a similar situation, I urge you to tune into how your narcissist engages with you. Because my mother numbs her emotion and can't feel it, she constantly pokes and prods it out of other people to feel connected and important, and this is where she gives me her power. When she reaches out looking to cause drama about how awful a daughter I am, I insist to her that everything is wonderful on my end, that she is the best mom, and that I am just too busy to talk. She can't feel empathy or my emotion and is locked in her patterns so she doesn't know otherwise. Because she is never looking to genuinely connect, this actually allows me to go months and months without hearing from her because I didn't fulfill what she was looking for. The more you think you can solve your relationship with whoever your narcissist is and get lost in the emotions of what's going on, the longer you will be in turmoil. This is just how my journey has gone.
In the past year I've grown my finances and my worth significantly from going limited contact and not allowing those two anywhere near me, allowing me to start to heal my disorganized attachment and to feel safe in myself. I hope anyone out there dealing with this traumatic soul path can do the same, too. ❤
Molly your videos podcasts messages saved me helped me when I was going through darkest moments of my life. God bless you and this community and loving people etc etc ....
Thank you😢😭❤😘
This is the hardest topic. I think for me the most important thing has been the realisation that each situation is a dynamic and everything takes two. Both contribute in some way and until yourself realises this and takes responsibly for your own side I don’t think healing can really happen.
Thank you for this. So grateful for this podcast and your energy.
GIVE THEM YOUR BLESSINGS
AND ALLOW THEM TO HEAL THEIR OWN OUTCOME.
GREAT VIDEO MOLLY. THIS IS A RAY OF LIGHT TO MANY. THANK YOU. JULY 29 2024.
I will most certainly be listening to this again. Thank you for this brave and courageous content.
Thank you so much for addressing this topic.
Molly, you’re an Angel! Thank you so much for the extra podcasts recently 🙏🏼 My heart has been so hungry for insight, encouragement, support and you have delivered 😊 “Today’s not a release day” says my reason; “Just look” says my hope and hey Presto another topic we all really really needed 🥰 You’ve lit up my listening since 2018 🌟 gratitude and blessings 🙏🏼
Good Morning Molly! I am a empath and a light worker. I was in a relationship with a Covert Narcissist. Still trying to understand. Thank You. (2 hours later) Well I've been listening to this and I want to add that it's been just about a year since I packed up my belongings and left a 10 year relationship. Wow! how on point this reflection you have published, truly is. Very appreciative, very deep feelings!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart and the depth of my soul dear Molly. You are the greatest source of wisdom, inspiration, love and support. Thank you forever and eternity. I love you.
Thank you Molly! 🙏 ❤ This video was most encouraging and healing! I have gone "no contact" with my sibling... my only surviving family member... which has filled my heart with sadness, pain and grief! It's a journey to get through and it's not easy, but it has been necessary! I have chosen my wellbeing as a priority! (Mars in Cancer, Venus in Aries) Thank you for broaching this really complicated topic of narcissism! Blessings, Love and Light! 🙏❤️
I also have Mars in Cancer & Venus in Aries 😊
Thank you Molly for this important message 🙏❤️🙏 It feels so right on time as I am not speaking to my mother as of a few days back.. I am really feeling that this time I am standing up for myself BUT it is not easy not connecting with her as she is very lonely (due to her relationship patterns and narcissism). I feel codependent in this and it is so ingrained in me that I need to care for her needs before mine.. Trying to be strong and thankfully I have siblings to talk to 🙏 A big thank you for all the information, enlightenment and care that you share with the world ❤️
Excellent video.... and as someone said earlier, about to be one of your most watched videos. Sorely needed.
I particularly enjoying hearing your perspective on having been in such a relationship (many of us more than once), that it's part of our growth and consciousness. I see that now. Thanks again.
Blessings ❤❤
Molly. Once more I am absolutely floored by the personal relevance this has to my life. Thank you for the affirmation I need just when I needed it! ❤
Impeccable timing as usual!
Daaaaamn that was a complete explanation and I love it! Love going out to anyone who is trapped in this cycle. Listen to this podcast many times so you can awaken to the sickness and get yourselves out. Listen to Dr Ramani as well.
So hard to listen to when it’s too true to you Thank you for trying to keep gentle and not scorn the personally which makes upsets me looking at it peeling the bandaid off
OMG a truly divinely inspired message, thank you for sharing!
My current experiences are playing this out from past and current events and particular people.
I’m being challenged to mindfully accept this and work through it while I’m looking for support to assist me down this path.
So so potent and helpful. Thank you
Thx Molly. That was really well done ❤️🙏🏻. Being someone who hates labels , it took me a while to fully acknowledge that an 8 year relationship was with a narcissist. He quite literally ticked all nine boxes. 🫣I say this because when I did own the situation the next thought was ‘shit, now what do I need to know about myself so that this never happens again?” I really had to accept accountability for allowing the dynamic before I could fully heal it. So I’d just like to send love and encouragement for those that might be on that healing path ❤❤❤
I adore you, Molly… you know how many videos I have listened to in the past 4 years and this is truly one of the best ones I have heard on the subject to date, if not the absolute best… you have an amazingly insightful way of explaining and inspiring… I’m forwarding it to everyone I know affected by narcissism and am so grateful for you… sending hugs and love 😍
Holy moly Molly! You detailed this unlike I have ever heard. I have experienced this in my family, and others. I would take it personally. Breaking my heart.
This video was so enlightening - thank you!🔥✨
Amazing timing as I've been navigating thru this.... And back in May went cold turkey from a best friend who turned out to be this way after I spent more time with her for a few months.... Part of me wonders if by not talking to her was also narcissistic.... But I am not looking elsewhere for validation. I see her doing that allll the time and when I started triggering her she hated it. I do out of love as much as possible. But she was unwilling to change her unhealthy habits. Blames everyone else for them. My ex's and dad were the same way. I also had to leave my dad's house in December. It's been a interesting year so far.
Now I'm trying to form new connections and I am really struggling with trust, analyzing my every move and thoughts
It took Pluto going into my 8th (using Whole House) in March last year to find out that l suffered from C-PTSD.
My sperm-donor died 6 weeks before, my alleged mutha died about 6 weeks after. It was March 23rd, her birthday was the 18th of March.
I was the cause of her forced marriage, everyone in my family hated me. She worked in the _get money for sex_ industry. She didn't love me and left me to be beat up by a tyrnt bisexual. I was _every-type-of-abused_ by both sexes. She thought it was funny to allow her fellow-workers to make me *perform* intimate acts for them. I was gutturally devestated and humiliated. The next day the tyrant would ram timber dowel up me.
He inflicted terrible stuff on me. His Pluto was exact my Sun. He left when Saturn was conjunct my Sun. I have Sun in 1st H, Moon in the 7th and and a Stationary Direct Neptune in the 4th. Pretty much child abuse. As well as Mars conjunct Pluto in the House of Siblings; l got beaten for their misdeeds as well.
In adult life I've badically been rejected by women. I've never met a woman interested in me. The only relationship I've really had l chased her so hard. But l was emotionally stunted. Cancer Sun n Ascendant thwarted by the Moon being in early Aquarius (7th in Placidus). 97% of Cancer men love their mums/moms. I didn't got to her funeral neither did my siblings
I read charts for women and they love my understanding. But relationships are a no-go for me. The rejections are so bad l feel like I've SA'ed them justing asking someone out.
I'll die unloved because my whole life I've been unloved. I have no self esteem. That abuse shaped me.
I exist between two songs: _"I am a Rock, I am an Island"_ (Simon) and _*"A Series of Dreams"*_(Dylan) The closest l get to a relationship is women rebutting my advances.
Rejection is good ....... *apparently*
Thank you for this blessed important message.❤
Woew just breaking up with a narcisist....i asked for proffessional help and in that session i understood what i was involved in....i wd have never expecred u speaking about this😮 and i'm so happy to hear you....thanks a lot
Thank you so much for this great explanation....left a 40 yr toxic relationship from a narcissist this year, now on a healing journey from it.🙏❤🩹🙏
Hallelujah!!! NEVER AGAIN!!!
I only managed to leave “toxic” relationship pattern repeating on and on once I fully owned that in order to be in toxic relationship I had to be toxic as well.
@@gunarasnaca6130 I grew up with parents that were also toxic so it made sense to me that I would attract that in a partner...since I left him I feel a huge sigh of relief but it's a little unnerving living by yourself for the first time ever being in my late 50's. Thankfully I'm not feeling the toxicity anymore. Opposites do attract, he was toxic, I was not.
This was a clear answer to the struggle I am having with my daughter 😢 I have to let her go or she will burn down my world for a fourth time. 😭
Thank you Molly for bringing direct messages from our Guides to affirm our own intuitive knowings. We love you so much ❤
Truth. Thank you, Molly. Please take care everyone. Good journey into you! 💙🙏🌄
This presentation is right on time ❤
This is confirmation from the universe for me. Thank you. Been in the process of letting go and establishing boundaries and healing for the last 2 months. I will love them from a safe distance energetically. But I won't be sucked back in.
Stay Strong and Hold the Line, ConfusedCitizenNo.9!! ✊
Good morning 🌞 I needed this message so much ❤❤❤ thank you 😊
Thank you. Greatly appreciated I needed to hear this today. I wish I could file a claim on my broken heart to be repaid for these damages. No one deserves this type of treatments. It is deadly.
If what you wrote is an original work--you need to go write and publish it. I'm certain that your story is worth a read and will potentially help others in their journey.
This is so heavy for me. It may take me a long time to get through this video so I want to say now, after only reading the first paragraph under the video, and having not watched it yet, THANK YOU, MOLLY!! I need this support and you are a gem! ✨💎✨ I'm very curious to see what you have to say about the astrological placements and aspects involved in NPD.
ETA: I just went to make notes in my Astro notes folder and I'm on p. 363
Guess what my last notes were on p. 362?
362._What_Molly_Mccord_is_saying_about_my_Uranus_Pluto_in_Virgo_Opposite_Chiron_and_Saturn_in_Pisces_Generation
That one is so amazing I've recently watched it a few more times again.
You are Rockin' it, Molly!!
It's cool that you say the Universe knows what's going on with us because just yesterday I finally realized that God is intelligent enough to know the truth about me, myself, and my life. And I figured out that God, Jesus, Mother Mary, my guardian angels, and my higher self all know the truth. Everyone I just listed knows more about the truth than I do, so they're definitely not going to fall for the lies, or stretched and twisted truths like nearly everyone else in my life has.
One day, as I was studying my chart, I realized that for me, the answer is my North Node which is in Cancer in the 1st house. I'm supposed to do everything you listed in this video. I'm supposed to stay focused on myself and in my case, stay home, and feel my feelings. Now, how odd is it that I've been mostly bedridden since my NN kicked in at age 33?
My NN may sound easy to some people but I mostly hate it. However, I'm doing it and I really appreciate videos like yours Molly, because you reinforce what I've been learning elsewhere on how to find my peace of mind again, and you tie in the astrology of it all beautifully.
So wonderful to have so many videos this week ❤
You are pure Silver Molly, and you are one of those friends to me.
Thank you
Wow, this really nailed it. Exactly what is happening in my life with that narcissist.
I'm determined to leave soon.
I did everything possible wrong up till now. But, now I'm stronger and understand better, and even though we're still sharing the same place, I feel that,yes, he's dead for me.
He's exactly like you described it. This video is a true diamond for the soul.
Thanks so much ❤
Thanks for confirming insights!
💜✌🏽✨💐
GREAT VIDEO MOLLY THAT MANY WILL COME BACK TO IN THE YEARS TO FOLLOW.
JULY 29 2024.
The timing of this podcast was incredible as a narcissist "friend" I had released had just popped back up after 6 months. I feel so supported by your words Molly, thank you! xx
Such an important message. Thank you, Molly.❤
Divine Timing Molly, im currently in a 14 plus months divorce process from this monster/coward. Very abuse people (if they are even human) 13 years and the marriage was a complete LIE. Be careful with "changes" in their behavior because my soon X husband pretended to change but it was temporary
Thank you Molly so much resonates with me
This was the right message at the right time. Thank you, Molly.