Why complain about these stingy people?! If they are stingy to you, then be stingy right back to them; and if they complain, then tell them you are just treating them the way they treat you! No need to be kind to these stingy people!
Ua neeg is a lot of work and prep, esp if you are trying to feed your whole family clan. People get tired of these family events sometimes. My family have kept our ua neeg event small with just our family and uncle's family. Its no big deal!!!! This lady/person.... mind your own business. You dont have to worry about cooking/cleaning lots of dishes.
How do you know what goes on in someone else's household? Not everyone is blessed with money. You're family, either take them the way they are or just move on.
It’s 2024! Weekdays or weekends doesn’t matter. Just get it over with. Don’t care what people think! If they really want to come they will doesn’t matter what day.
Yes, this is 2025! Any family can choose what they want to do as long as it fit their time schedules and as long as they are able to handle all the work involved. Why do people still think shaman parties only need to perform during the weekends? People who think like this are the ones behind times. I say, as long as that family doing the parties during the weekdays does not complain that I did show up to help because I am busy during the weekdays, then I'm okay. A guy complaining like this is such a turn-off. Let that family do whatever they want. This niam ntxawm is not perfect, not the best, and I am not saying she is doing is right! You can't control people! You can only control yourself, so mind your own business.
It's obvious u missed the point of the story. It's not that they do jingle bells on weekdays. It's the fact that they are stingy people. Of course it's none of anyone's business, but it doesn't hurt to hear the story and learn from it. Why are u people so sensitive?
I get why the lady in this story is upset. There are ppl who always ask for help and need assistance, but they do not want to help anyone else. It’s one thing to be stingy and greedy but that should also mean you do not ask for anyone to help you with anything. Unfortunately, that is not the case with most of these ppl.
Cov neeg plaum no mas lawv yeej tsis hloov kiag li os..yus plaum plaum los yus siv yus li yus tug es txhob mus vam mus thov neeg pab li ces yeej zoo kawg... tabsis muaj ib feem mas plaum ciaj plaum tuag los mus kaus lwm tus li tag mav tsis kam nws li rau lwm tus hlo..
I don’t agree that these type of gatherings should be done on the weekends only, nor does it have to be big and extravagant. It is up to the family and their financial availability. The choice when to have the event and what size is really up to the family. People should not judge, criticize or pressure them to do it the way they want. If you care about the family then respect their choice and show up.
Lawv yuav ua neeb hnub twg los tsuav lawv muaj peev xwm ua tas ib thaj neeb xwb ma. Cas tseem mob nej siab thiab lau! Nej ces coj li me nyuam yaus tas tus.
Cov niag tib neeg phem li ob niag txiv qia dub li no qhia lub npe rau saum ntsuab ntug kom rau sawv paub kom tsi muaj leej twg pab ob niag qia dub no puab hmoob aw!! Nws yuav tuag ves nws mam EV mus rau dab yeb xwb os lawv. Nug peb peb qhia rau nej os lawv aw!!
My mom stopped me from marrying my husband due to their parents titile GREEDY too, but you can train them. My husband is not greedy like his parents. I have learn that its oo if they are greedy. I do not like it either, but they do not pay your bills. Do not borrow things from others just because they are families or friends. Everyone work hard for what they earn in their lives. Its ok for others to be greedy or stingy because you guys didn't pitch in for any of their things. The only thing I cannot stand is being greedy when it comes to food. I have never seen greedy people until I met my husband's side of the family especially when it comes to ua neeb.
Cov neeg nplaum no yeej tsis muaj luaj twg. Nws yim nplaum nws yim tsis vam meej xwb. Luag tej neeg noj nchuab lug luag ua neej nplua mias. Stop complaining and just treat them the way they treat you. Don’t go above and beyond for these people. It’s your choice to help or not help them but you choose to help them so it’s your own fault for helping.
I personally think it's ok to be a bit stingy. Hmong people especially old traditional, likes to get together and drink beer and alcohol mostly. Its okay to skip all the drinking alcohol and focus straight to the main spiritual needs, like these families where it last a few hours and not the whole wasted day. There's nothing wrong with it. You do you as long as it is done.
So what's so wrong with doing their gatherings on weekdays? They do it at their convenient. As long as it gets done. Why blame everything on the uncles' wife when the uncle are ok with it too?
Kuv yog nej ces nws ua pog nplaum yawg nplaum ces yog nws muaj dabtsi ces cia nws ua nws tsis txhob mus ntshaw nws noj li maj. Cia nws noj nws yeej tsis ua li cas.
Stinginess and Selfishness, not easy to overcome. It usually stems from not having much at some time in the past, and then children models after. It is not the better way to peace and happiness, but sharing and giving is. In fact, just little sharing, and the overall satisfaction can surmount way pass a life time of stinginess. Take you pick, after all, it is your choice.🙂 Have a super day and it's better to share.
What is wrong with ua neeb on weekday. My family ua neeb on weekday. Who's care if we ua neeb on weekday. Extlcy koj twb coj nws coj tuaj hais nov ne. She was right.
Tus niam tsev es koj coj tuaj hais uas dab tsis nas. Nej tsev niag neeg cev phim kaus ob niag niam txiv nplaum no thiab xwb mas. Luag twb tsis care you es pheej tas zog mus ua rau luag thiab mus care txog luag nas. Tso nws ua txhuas yam xwb es txhob mus pab2 mas. Nej ces phim kaus Nkawv xwb es tseem pheej tuaj hais. You guys are the same as them or worse.
Lol cas ntxawm mas los yuav blaum ua luaj hos koj txiv yawg nej los cad twb nyob tiam 21th lawm los pheej mus involved nrog lwm tus li business .kuv pom coob2 tus neeg qia dub mas they have their own rights to be qia dub 😅
Tus niam tsev aw koj ruam los koj ntse na yog tias neb tus txiv Ntxawm MAs yog koj txiv yus kwv xwb es koj niam pog txiv yawg nkawv niam pog txiv yawg tsuas yog nej pog thiab yawg xwb nej tsis yog hu ua pog koob yawg koob lawm os cov yuav hu ua pog koob yawg koob no mas yog neb cov me nyuam hu lawm pob
Anyone who defends this stingy couple is either (1) stingy just like them, or (2) obviously doesn't have stingy family members so they don't know first hand and just saying what's pretty to hear for the ears.
Tus niam tsev..cas koj complain ua dab tsi nawb.. Ua neeb Weekends or weekdays is a personal choice. it doesn't matter. Puas yog koj xav2 mus nrog koj tus niam ntxawm noj mov ua neeb?.. We are living in a very busy world... I would rather people leave me alone on the weekends because I need the weekends to relax my mind.. If I were you, I would encourage people who want to ua neeb only do weekdays 😅... stop your complaint!!! They are not asking you to pay their bills for them... You sound like a complainer.
What your niamntxawm is willing to do is her business
Why complain about these stingy people?! If they are stingy to you, then be stingy right back to them; and if they complain, then tell them you are just treating them the way they treat you! No need to be kind to these stingy people!
Yes I agree
Ua neeg is a lot of work and prep, esp if you are trying to feed your whole family clan. People get tired of these family events sometimes.
My family have kept our ua neeg event small with just our family and uncle's family. Its no big deal!!!! This lady/person.... mind your own business. You dont have to worry about cooking/cleaning lots of dishes.
Totally agree
Tsi thab kiag li os hmoob aw cia kom nws sab txaus2 tso mam pab thiaj li muaj nuj nqes os lawv aw!!
Hmoob txoj kev ua neeb ua yag hu plig nooj haus mas so much work. Most of young peoples don’t like it anyway.
It's an Old people thing. Im hoping it'll change up a bit with the new generation
How do you know what goes on in someone else's household? Not everyone is blessed with money. You're family, either take them the way they are or just move on.
Well said. Clan just expected to throw a huge gathering.
mloog mas zoo lis koj khib txog koj tu niam ntxawm ua neeb weekdays heev it's her business she can do any day she wants not your business
It’s 2024! Weekdays or weekends doesn’t matter. Just get it over with. Don’t care what people think! If they really want to come they will doesn’t matter what day.
I think you meant 2025? Lol, and you're right? Why is he so butt hurt.
No wonder you agree with this nplaum family because your so behind, this is 2025 already.
Yes, this is 2025! Any family can choose what they want to do as long as it fit their time schedules and as long as they are able to handle all the work involved. Why do people still think shaman parties only need to perform during the weekends? People who think like this are the ones behind times. I say, as long as that family doing the parties during the weekdays does not complain that I did show up to help because I am busy during the weekdays, then I'm okay. A guy complaining like this is such a turn-off. Let that family do whatever they want. This niam ntxawm is not perfect, not the best, and I am not saying she is doing is right! You can't control people! You can only control yourself, so mind your own business.
It's obvious u missed the point of the story. It's not that they do jingle bells on weekdays. It's the fact that they are stingy people. Of course it's none of anyone's business, but it doesn't hurt to hear the story and learn from it. Why are u people so sensitive?
Sounds like this hater already hate this person in the beginning to end
Who cares about them. Just ignore them
There are handful of people like this but you have a choice to be involved with them or not. Im amazed some of these people have neeb.
I get why the lady in this story is upset. There are ppl who always ask for help and need assistance, but they do not want to help anyone else. It’s one thing to be stingy and greedy but that should also mean you do not ask for anyone to help you with anything. Unfortunately, that is not the case with most of these ppl.
@@molly24777exactly. Idky so many ppl in the comments don't understand this? Must be the new nyabs/niam tsev generation now.
@@maryly09 The ones that don’t understand in the comments section probably pissed at this story of how close it hit home 😅 They’re the greedy aunty.
Cov neeg plaum no mas lawv yeej tsis hloov kiag li os..yus plaum plaum los yus siv yus li yus tug es txhob mus vam mus thov neeg pab li ces yeej zoo kawg... tabsis muaj ib feem mas plaum ciaj plaum tuag los mus kaus lwm tus li tag mav tsis kam nws li rau lwm tus hlo..
Sister your outfit is so beautiful on you
muaj tseeb cov neeg qia dub yeej tsim tsis muaj ab tsi li.. ua ab tsi los qiv xwb xwb...
Ab luag tej laus ib txwm hais tia nplooj yoog kav noob yoog tsav no ne niam txiv qia dub li ca ce tub ntxhai yuav qia dub ib yam
I don’t agree that these type of gatherings should be done on the weekends only, nor does it have to be big and extravagant. It is up to the family and their financial availability. The choice when to have the event and what size is really up to the family. People should not judge, criticize or pressure them to do it the way they want. If you care about the family then respect their choice and show up.
Well said
Lawv yuav ua neeb hnub twg los tsuav lawv muaj peev xwm ua tas ib thaj neeb xwb ma. Cas tseem mob nej siab thiab lau! Nej ces coj li me nyuam yaus tas tus.
Cov niag tib neeg phem li ob niag txiv qia dub li no qhia lub npe rau saum ntsuab ntug kom rau sawv paub kom tsi muaj leej twg pab ob niag qia dub no puab hmoob aw!! Nws yuav tuag ves nws mam EV mus rau dab yeb xwb os lawv. Nug peb peb qhia rau nej os lawv aw!!
My mom stopped me from marrying my husband due to their parents titile GREEDY too, but you can train them. My husband is not greedy like his parents. I have learn that its oo if they are greedy. I do not like it either, but they do not pay your bills. Do not borrow things from others just because they are families or friends. Everyone work hard for what they earn in their lives. Its ok for others to be greedy or stingy because you guys didn't pitch in for any of their things. The only thing I cannot stand is being greedy when it comes to food. I have never seen greedy people until I met my husband's side of the family especially when it comes to ua neeb.
Cov neeg nplaum no yeej tsis muaj luaj twg. Nws yim nplaum nws yim tsis vam meej xwb. Luag tej neeg noj nchuab lug luag ua neej nplua mias.
Stop complaining and just treat them the way they treat you. Don’t go above and beyond for these people. It’s your choice to help or not help them but you choose to help them so it’s your own fault for helping.
I personally think it's ok to be a bit stingy. Hmong people especially old traditional, likes to get together and drink beer and alcohol mostly. Its okay to skip all the drinking alcohol and focus straight to the main spiritual needs, like these families where it last a few hours and not the whole wasted day. There's nothing wrong with it. You do you as long as it is done.
So what's so wrong with doing their gatherings on weekdays? They do it at their convenient. As long as it gets done. Why blame everything on the uncles' wife when the uncle are ok with it too?
Agree
2 grocery bags are a lot of fish. Borrowing the boat, come on! That’s expensive. Don’t be borrowing other’s expensive stuff
CIA NWS UA NWS MAS, TSIS K LI OS. HE HE HE! KUJ TSIS TAU NEEG QIA DUB NPAUM NO THIAB LAIV.
Nws tsis aivxaim yus ces tsum xwb mas.
Kuv yog nej ces nws ua pog nplaum yawg nplaum ces yog nws muaj dabtsi ces cia nws ua nws tsis txhob mus ntshaw nws noj li maj. Cia nws noj nws yeej tsis ua li cas.
Stinginess and Selfishness, not easy to overcome. It usually stems from not having much at some time in the past, and then children models after. It is not the better way to peace and happiness, but sharing and giving is. In fact, just little sharing, and the overall satisfaction can surmount way pass a life time of stinginess. Take you pick, after all, it is your choice.🙂
Have a super day and it's better to share.
Sounds like there’s a lot of jealousy
So did they do her funeral on the weekday?
Kuv xav hais tias tej teeb meem no yog luag lub neej xwb luag yuav li cas los xij luag, yus ua yus neej txhob bother luag heev. yus twb paub hais tias nws qia qia dub yus tseem pheej yuav xav mus nrog nws noj mus thov nws ua luaj li thiab na.
Phem sib xws. Yog tag nrho nej tsev neeg zoo es nws ib leeg phem ces nej yeej ua tau good role models rau nws xyaum.
Xyov ua li cas es cov neeg qia dub mas thiajbli yuav qia dub tshaj plaws li os. Leejtwg tsis tau pom mas Leejtwg tsis paub naw. Dhuav siab tiag2 li
Ahya.. tej zaj neej neeg zoo li no tsis tsim nyog muab los hais os tus niam tsev aw.. peb ua neeg nyob yog leej twg coj tsis haum yus ces yus txav kom deb lawv xwb. Muaj cov haum yus coob coob es tsis tas yuav coj lawv tuaj thuam rau ntiaj teb hnov mas. Koj nkawg xaiv rau cov txheeb ze koj xwb twb txaus dhau lawm.
What is wrong with ua neeb on weekday. My family ua neeb on weekday. Who's care if we ua neeb on weekday. Extlcy koj twb coj nws coj tuaj hais nov ne. She was right.
Tus niam tsev es koj coj tuaj hais uas dab tsis nas. Nej tsev niag neeg cev phim kaus ob niag niam txiv nplaum no thiab xwb mas. Luag twb tsis care you es pheej tas zog mus ua rau luag thiab mus care txog luag nas. Tso nws ua txhuas yam xwb es txhob mus pab2 mas. Nej ces phim kaus Nkawv xwb es tseem pheej tuaj hais. You guys are the same as them or worse.
Lol cas ntxawm mas los yuav blaum ua luaj hos koj txiv yawg nej los cad twb nyob tiam 21th lawm los pheej mus involved nrog lwm tus li business .kuv pom coob2 tus neeg qia dub mas they have their own rights to be qia dub 😅
Tus niam tsev aw koj ruam los koj ntse na yog tias neb tus txiv Ntxawm MAs yog koj txiv yus kwv xwb es koj niam pog txiv yawg nkawv niam pog txiv yawg tsuas yog nej pog thiab yawg xwb nej tsis yog hu ua pog koob yawg koob lawm os cov yuav hu ua pog koob yawg koob no mas yog neb cov me nyuam hu lawm pob
Cas nej ho yuav nqhis lawv cov zaub mov ua luaj thiab na?
Phem sibxws
Anyone who defends this stingy couple is either (1) stingy just like them, or (2) obviously doesn't have stingy family members so they don't know first hand and just saying what's pretty to hear for the ears.
Tus niam tsev..cas koj complain ua dab tsi nawb.. Ua neeb Weekends or weekdays is a personal choice. it doesn't matter. Puas yog koj xav2 mus nrog koj tus niam ntxawm noj mov ua neeb?.. We are living in a very busy world... I would rather people leave me alone on the weekends because I need the weekends to relax my mind.. If I were you, I would encourage people who want to ua neeb only do weekdays 😅... stop your complaint!!! They are not asking you to pay their bills for them... You sound like a complainer.