The Final Steps to Being Free From the Ego (Realizing Freedom From The Self)
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- The final steps to realizing freedom from the self are very subtle and nuanced.
In this video, mindfulness speaker, trainer, and coach, Matt Tenney offers simple instructions for how to practice mindfulness become increasingly free from the prison of the ego (the self).
Matt is answering the question of a person who was asking if they should "dis-identify" with intention in the final stages of the practice.
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Love you brother ❤
Excellent 💜🙏
Beautifull. Thank you 👍look at the looker - just pure emptiness welcoming everything.
There is no seer or seen object but just the "seeing"
Thanks for your kind words extazius.
35 seconds in, I realize that this is the video I should be watching. Never heard of you, but hopefully we can jump the same hurdle here. I just like to get in a room full of people who are close to the same level once more. Every time I bring this up I do scare somebody away. Or someone makes me feel guilty for going this route. I'm not trying to hurt anybody in the room or myself, I'm just trying to speak of truth. Hha oh well. At least I'm in the right place now.
I wonder if Matt studied the work and experiments of late Douglas Harding and the Headless Way. I get the impression that you know what you are talking about. Thank you for Clarity, much appreciated!
Thanks Vikas. I know of Harding and his work, although I haven't looked into it much. From what I do know, I believe he offers a skillful means for recognizing the illusory nature of the ego.
Service/kindness/n humility are great helps they take effort n practice at first then becomes natural
You can measure how you are doing by reflecting on your day and seeing where you were at peace and free from yourself and free from any practice
The truth will set you free
Practice reflect practice reflect until you dont need to anymore
Then service humility kindness dont exist as a practice they or life becomes a JOY💚🙏✌️💚
Thanks for the clear videos! :) I had one temporary awakening of "no self/all world" in decades of being a neurotic self-centered mess with Zen and self-inquiry. I read the words, "Life doesn't need you." and slipped into an effortless vibrantly alive world with no problems anywhere. I walked in town to check and could not find anything imperfect. What "me" there was was quietly alert, profoundly grateful, and amused that it was so easy. I saw everything as perfect/alive/God (though I'm not sure it was "One"). When mind came back, it pointed out numerous deficiencies, the most obvious being I didn't know (from personal experience) anything. Sages write about the void/turiya/turiyatita, maya/leela, consciousness, Awareness, the Absolute, beyond... I knew none of that and that was perfectly fine too (in that state). It also seems I also got it backwards: everyone says to do "only Self/no world:" look within, abide as the Self/Awareness, the world is maya/illusion ("take it as a dream and be done with it" - Nisargadatta). Looking within makes sense since Awareness is eternal (from what I read) and the world with its body/minds, real or not, are definitely impermanent, but in practice, self-inquiry has been horrible. Should I drop the self, live in effortless not-knowing and trust that other aspects of Reality will reveal themselves on their own or should I keep the false self so there seems to be something that can do Self-Inquiry - keep upping the stakes until I get all of Reality at once? How much of Reality must one know/experience to avoid future rebirths (this is the goal, not bliss)? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
Hi K.L. Thanks for sharing this, and your kind words. I think if you watch this video from time to time, it will help. More and more the practice becomes about "no practice." Just letting things be as they are. This doesn't mean we don't take time to be still or do walking practice. It means that during those times, "I" am not doing much of anything. Just letting things be as they are. The more we relax into this form of practice the more the false "me" naturally falls away and loses its sense of being something real. There is less of a sense of an "I" who "knows" the absolute. There is just "things as they are." Also, the sense of being a "me" who is not "awakened" right now, but hopes to be one day, drops away.
@@themindfulnessedge-withmat2631 Thanks very much for the reply.
Hi, nice to read this, I had that same experience once as well ( slipped into an effortless vibrantly alive world with no problems anywhere) It was amazing. I call it the day of no judgment. Or the day of Peace.
Excellent description. The best out there. Thank you for this
You can use negative feelings as an ALERT to look within and see how your thoughts are creating the negative feelings in the body
This will leed to taking responsibility for your feelings instead of blaming others or life for disturbing you this practice leeds to freedom
The Truth Will Set You FREE
Practicing taking responsibility for your feelings takes effort at first then becomes natural effortless and the truth takes over and you experience more n more Peace n freedom n LOVE💚🙏✌️🧘♂️
excellent stuff, mister tenney!
Thank you Matt for these videos - I have seen two so far! Will see more for sure!!
They are very clear! The subject of Anatta/No-self, is not easy...
It is amazing how many illusions that we believe in, that affects us...
I am glad you mention Ajahn Chah, one of the greatest Thai Monks/teachers of our time! Still Forest Pool is a great book!
Thanks again!
Thanks Jonas!
Brilliant! One of the clearest videos about the false sense of I that Ive seen. Would you like to do another one on this topic? What is intention if it is not ours? What about free will and purpose?
Many thanks!
Thanks for your kind words. Our in-person group should probably start again in the fall, and hopefully we'll record the Q&A. These sound like some good topics.
Nice sir!!
Thanks for your kind words.
Thank you for your insights. Really well stated! :)
My pleasure! Thanks.
Thank you!
My pleasure my friend.
I quite like these videos. You do a good job of explaining this stuff lol. Keep it up my friend 🙏🏻
Thanks for your kind words Antonio!
"I allow everything to be as it is," meaning that I don't repress or suppress my emotions, nor do I identify myself with the thoughts I'm having. I developed a heightened sense of awareness - I call it "hyper-awareness." I'm partially enlightened. The only thing that is getting in the way is my social anxiety issue - when I'm about to meet a person I get very tense and worried; my own mind wanders into the future. Or when I see a person appearing in front of me, I get a nagging feeling in my stomach area and my heart rate increases exponentially. I allow the anxiety to be there, and I even feel deeper into it - I've been doing this for a long time but it seems that the triggers of my anxiety issue are still within my subconscious. What can I do to solve my social anxiety issue and be at ease with myself in social situations? Thank you.
Try doing love and be friends with the anxiety. Let it be there as long as it wants too. And you just continue your daily live.
Hi as a fellow sufferer of social anxiety I have found thinking of others /kindness / service/ humility / n mindfulness all to be great helps
I hope this is helpful💚🙏✌️people who have suffered or suffer with social anxiety tend to have a lot of compassion it is good for the sufferer and the receiver to give that compassion away
BE KIND TO SELF N OTHERS💚🙏✌️ away
As long as you identify with the body and mind to be "you", you will continue to feel social anxiety. It is natural since "you" are so important to yourself that you fear and care for this "you".
You do not feel social anxiety for a fellow that has to make a public speach.
As Matt said in one video, when there is a "me", there will be suffering
thank you so much for these videos. i recently found your channel and i'm really trying my best to practice being more mindful in my day-to-day life. 8:20 this is the part that honestly gives me extreme anxiety lmao. the idea that we don't have to do anything or go anywhere, we just have to be...and then what? if we shouldn't identify with our desires or our thoughts...what exactly are we supposed to do all day? i guess im not understanding how it's possible to find balance between wanting to have positive experiences and not wanting to have negative experiences.
i'm sure that the way I'm thinking about this is skewed but detaching from everything seems...boring? for lack of a better word. like what's the point of being here or doing anything at all? is there even a difference between mindfulness and mindlessness after a certain point? brb, existential crisis loading...lol
just red your comment and I can only tell my thoughts on that. whats the point you ask? There is no point. its a realisation that puts life in perspective. This realisation made my cooping with daily life problems big and small easier to handle and in general made me happier. For me thats a good deal any day of the week. 😀
The point of the practice is to have the choice. Most people never find peace. They just experience a mild form of suffering at all times when not in the act of gratifying desires. The practice allows peace to be realized in all situations, and actually makes pleasant experiences even more enjoyable because there isn't a sense of lack when they end.
It's not boring at all but liberating to feel I no longer have to do anything to attract what I want nor to resist what I don't want to feel. What's liberating is being aware I don't have to do anything in particular to attract or avoid feeling. I feel free and easy whatever I do or don't. So if I come up with an idea or action that seems and feels good it's not so much that I came up with it but rather that it just appeared with the present context and fits for now. When the context of experience changes a little or a lot I am confident that natural intelligence will come up with what is fitting for this or that context of changing experience. Trying to know what should or shouldn't be done no longer creates anxiety. When I operate from any preconceived notion of what is good or bad I open the door to some anxiety whether I am aware of it or not. What's boring or sets up boredom is the sense that present is somehow lacking but the sense of lack can only thrive if I'm not free of the sense of lack. Feeling fine is when "now" is a liberated sense of open presence. To enjoy and trust being aware and natural intelligence is not boring or anxiety producing. What will be will be. Anxiety equals a conceived desire of not enough time or something. Boredom equals too much time without a conceived desire or something. To be now in love with space regardless of desire is liberating. Sometimes I'm fine with little obstacles or even with big projects that need facing depending a lot on sense of time and desire. At other times little obstacles disturb me or projects seem too much. I will adjust as best I can but when I carry desire and anxiety I blow the moment. Identification or seeming to know conceived good or bad (desire and value) fill my sense of present/time and mind is off to the races trying to know and control what is conceived of as good or lacking.
@Notthought I appreciate you (and the others that I seemed to miss) taking the time to respond to this more than you will ever know. Exactly what I needed to receive, when I needed to receive it. Thank you.
@Matt why is it important not to write things down? That statement caught my attention.
Some realized individuals re cabale of writing down their ideas.
But it is a very tricky thing because like any food touched by the tong get spoiled, so is any writing down these subtle ideas.
Only special souls are capable
I have quite bad anxiety and I just listened to this, I have been meditating for a long time and tried lots of things, I struggle just letting it be there when my anxiety is high like now. The other day I was practicing the noticing thing but didn’t like it because it made me think of my anxiety and I just wanted to be lost in what I was doing rather than noticing how I was feeling
That sounds like a good experiment. It's fine to try different things to see what works best for you. The trick with the noticing is to stay with the sensations, noting thoughts but going right back to noticing sensations. The thoughts are the cause of the anxiety so the practice is about letting go identification with those thoughts.
This I your speaking on behalf is completely an illusion, you must not identify with any senses. Simply remain aware of being aware, “it made “me” think of “my anxiety” this me is also not real and is claiming “my anxiety” which isn’t real just a thought
remove word my mind.. you dont have mind, remove word i have.. you have nothing.. you true self is the watcher.. the observer.. say to yourself the name like to other people.. dont say i am.. or my name is. if you have anxiety mind just say he is have anxiety mind.. dont say i have anxiety mind.. and you will liberation...
just surrender to life
HI mate, great video.
I have a couple of questions: How does the ego lure and captivate/attach to awareness? What kind of mechanism does it have to actually bond, so to speak. I can see that ego is part of awareness itself, I don't know if awareness created it or if there's some kind of outside frequency/vibration overlapping the vibration of the collective awareness. Interested to know your thoughts.
Cheers,
Mike
Thanks for the kind words. I think that both the ego and the sense of identification with it are both illusions. There's a felt sense that it's there, and that "I" am the ego, but these are both illusions. They are only "real" in the way that a dream is real, just created by the mind, which is an aspect of awareness / consciousness.
I'm not sure if there's an aspect of awareness that is vibrating a certain way to create this illusion. That's beyond my level of awareness / understanding.
However, I'm not sure that knowing that would be of much help. I feel pretty confident that deepening our realization of the fact that the ego and the sense of being an ego are both illusions is a very good place to spend our energy. The more deeply this experienced / known, the more free the mind and body become, which is a benefit to all beings.
@@themindfulnessedge-withmat2631 I agree. Thanks for the answer mate, have a great day.
Can you please give ideas about how to overcome illusions because in my mind thoughts and emotions comes and what I have learned till now from that I am not the thougts and whatever it is projecting and it is just illusion but it feels so real like the sensations in the body that make me believe that is is real that’s why I am feeling it what should I do to get rid of this
Also in this video you explained Jst be as it is so does it mean if we r doing something and negative or positive thoughts comes and the sensations come should we ignore it and keep doing whatever we were doing??
Plz help@@themindfulnessedge-withmat2631 Thanks for the reply sir
@@themindfulnessedge-withmat2631 sir here as you said we should understand that the ego and the sense of ego we must considere as illusions so when that illusion come and the sensations comes in the body good or bad then we try to avoid it then what should be done at that moment
Should we allow it fully to be there and it will diminish after sometime or what should be done to get rid of it?
why gold truth like this only few wacting.. can you explain?
Thanks for your kind words!
🙏 🙏 🙏
Funny.
You talk about „no intention. No will“.
Yet you want to be free from the „ego“?
Sounds like a pretty big intention to me 😊
Wishing you a wonderful day 🍀🙏🏻
It’s an oxymoron.
The ego wants to be free of the ego.
In seeking this, it is discovered there is no separate self to be free from.
Which, paradoxically, there never was in the first place.
In a way, liberation is the realisation there is no need for liberation.
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🤔.. is this Enlightenment?
One definition of enlightenment is the realization that the ego is an illusion. However, it's important to note that one moment of enlightenment doesn't result in much transformation. Transformation is the result of spending more and more time "being" with the absence of ego. Thus, the body and mind gradually reflect our true nature more and more, and the body and mind becoming increasingly at peace and kind.
@@themindfulnessedge-withmat2631 thank you for this explanation(: truly appreciated
Oh! This is the kind of thinking that's making all these kids say they're enlightened. If enlightenment is just moments spent not aware of self, I Guess we're all enlightened on occasion. Someone should tell Buddha he's doing it wrong.
@@Perditionsit’s more like that there is awareness with no self.
It’s realised there never was a self to not be aware of in the first place.
But you are also right. “We” are all enlightened, because there is no “we”
Just awareness of a mental construct that gives the impression there is a separate self.
In some ways, it is too simple.