Advice to Newly Married & Engaged Couples
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children[a] of one's youth.
Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
Psalm 127 v 3-5
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Amen! I love this and so happy I've found people that have the same values as me. I quit my job to be a homemaker over a month ago and even some of the Christians at my husband and myselfs church has questioned that, but I know God is so grateful we did and so ready to bless us even further! It definitely isn't decisions people are really like "oh great job, I am so proud of you", but pleasing God is more important.
I understand completely! It is really sad that world we live in where the work from home isn't seen as true and important work, it's unbelievable! Praise God for the decisions you make and although it may not feel like it, many of those people want what you're doing, they just haven't seen it!
"We've lost the glory of the home." You said it sister 👏🏽
I feel so convicted. I’m currently 26 & engaged. I’ve been saying all the excuses you listed as to why to delay starting a family. I didn’t even think that struggling to have a kid in a couple of years from now can be a reality. I think I took my “ability” to have children as a woman for granted. Thank you
Children are a reward. I had four children they are the most wonderful people you would ever meet. Iam 69 years old and they are my life.
What a beautiful testimony! Thank you for sharing Carol, God bless you!
Our home is such a mission field and it is easy to overlook that bc the focus has been placed on missions elsewhere. I know I got stuck in that in my 20’s.
Yess, it really is sad how it's overlooked!
Yes. The longing of our hearts is to have children. Some people prefer to hide their longing to avoid being perceived as a failure.
Yess, amen.
@@ScottandKelli great
So I was a girl that wanted to do all of the travel and my husband has always been a homebody. I left my job to be home with the kids and we’ve seen God provide over and over again. About a year ago, my husband accepted a job that gets him to travel and he teaches civilians to respond medically to active shooter type of events (Refuge Training). Our two children (3 & 5 years old) and I, travel with him everywhere. We homeschool and get to see the entire country. Yahweh didn’t only provide for my longing of traveling, but also the funds to do so and now, we are teaching our children via experiences. Also, the job allows us to live life on mission and minister to people along the way! It has been such a blessing! Your channel is very uplifting, and I pray that the Heavenly Father blesses you with many children! Keep doing His good work!!!
How amazing! I love this, thanks for sharing it!!
Yes! I’ve always wanted to be a young grandparent so that I can be more involved with my grandbabies. I pray my kids have kids young!!!-Brenna
Yess Brenna!! Amazing and you guys have such a beautiful family!!
I’m a homemaker - I do work part time as an independent contractor cleaning vacation homes to bring in a little extra and we mostly use that toward our horses which are a family activity and we also work using them from time to time. I am currently also working on my masters degree in child psychology and my undergrad is in human development and family science. I am able to fit in my studies around my home making and I will then, Lord willing, be doing my PhD with a Christian school online. We have 5 children so far. My plan is, to slowly plug away at my education while I have children and then I will be equipped to help other children in a Christian based mental health setting. I am also a perinatal nutrition counselor, lactation consultant and childbirth educator. I think it is possible for homemakers to become educated and to do good works outside the home but not at the expense of your family. I can only have children during these fertile years . I am 34 now and have a 4 month old daughter,18 month old daughter, 9 year old stepdaughter and 11 and 12 year old sons. We would welcome more, as to His will.
God also says to not be reckless when planning for kids and the future in general.
I believe you message is powerful and great. I believe that God has blessed you to be at point where it monitarily possible from a single income house hold. You two are blessed to grow up in safe home. I not saying God will not provide ,he will ! I was not born into a home with a variety of abuse and neglect. My work ethic and education gave me the ability to escape my abusers. I am married now and grateful to have such a great husband and I struggle with weather or not I should stop working. I have provided in all way of our marriage. My husband does have headship and is growing into a superb leader. I also know for a fact that when medical emergency arise . My paycheck is needed. For example, my mom got Covid and had a heart attack. She had a triple bypass and lived with us for two month because she had no one else. I worked extra shifts to pay for her bills and my house hold. This was a great blessing to my mom ,but couldn't have been taken on so easily,if I didn't work and we were not childless. I also come from a physically/sexually abusive and neglectful home. I have had to work and get educated to survive. I don't believe mother hood is the only path for a woman. I was told it would be nearly impossible for me to conceive at 26 yes old ,one year after marriage. I am a paramedic and God has given me a different family. I still have joy and hold out in faith that God provide for me. I love your channel and pray God's blessing over you.
May God bless you for continuing to speak the truth.
Thank you Sarah and God bless you!
Stumbled upon your channel today and I’m so thankful the Lord led me here. Such an encouragement to see a couple with the same values as my husband and mine. Thank you for being candid about your fertility journey. My husband and I are blessed to have gotten married early and hope to add children to our family soon. Blessing to y’all and your ministry❤️
Bless you both. You are so right and wish you had a church in the UK.
I'm not religious but I always love to hear your point of view. It is always interesting interesting me. Thank to both of you for sharing sharing this
Thank you always Emma!
Great insights here. I have a feeling the legacy you both leave will benefit not only your children but others as well. Keep up your message. Our people need it!
Thank you so much for sharing this! So refreshing to hear. My husband and I have been praying about when to start growing our family and I really felt like this video was part of the confirmation we have been feeling lately that now is the time.
Ah praise God and God bless you both!
Amen! Excellent message.
Thank you Yvette! God bless you
Bright and cheerful home! Like your vlog, my children says mum these are your people- old school. Do you already have children? They must be very lucky.
Amen to this video and God bless you both! 🥰
Thank you Hilary! God bless you!
Beautiful couple God bless thanks for ur ministry
8:00 ditto. Every sister who announces shes pregnant makes my wife cry
I loved this so much and I'm glad you guys did this together and you did this in a loving way. As a mother of 5 and in my 30rd I learned from this talk. As that I'm so much more for my children then a snack getter and house cleaner! Lol thank you for this beautiful video!
Thank you Stevie Jean! God bless you and your family!!
Wow, hi Kelly.
I am thanking our God sooo much to have come across our channel. You are doing absolutely everything I have in my dreams to do for my future family.
I know you must be a busy woman, but would be so honored if you would be able to talk to me on the phone, I just have some questions and I really believe you could help.
God bless you and your family ❤️❤️
Your video is spot on. Talking from 23 years of marriage and 4 kiddos. Our oldest just graduated home school and youngest Is starting kindergarten! We have been homeschooling for almost 10 years. Keep doing what y'all are doing! It's refreshing to see young married couples speak truth! With God, all things are possible!
Thank you so much Katie, your testimony is so encouraging, God bless you and your family!
@@ScottandKelli ❤Prayers for your journey! We truly understand being in the same position. We started off being told we wouldn't have children. After lots of prayer, loss, almost adopting, natural family planning and holistic support over the course of these 23 years we are where we are now. "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Just followed Scott on Twitter. God bless!
As an 18 yr old Im so grateful for God revealing to me at such a young age not to chase this world and to live by His holy word and standards and i’m also super grateful for likeminded people like you guys on youtube who live for God wholeheartedly in ways that a lot of Christians don’t even grasp.
Hi Reagan! I'm so thankful you are encouraged and that at such a young age you have a great head on your shoulders! Praying for you, that God brings you a God fearing husband, God bless you sister!
New subscriber! I am learning how to be a better Christian wife and mother.
Thank you for sharing your input and experiences!
Thank you Sunny, God bless you!
Thank-you for being bold and share to the world the direction to happy life and blessed living with your spouse.Never stop
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Love this!!💗💗
Thank you Melissa!!
Amen
Yes and amen!
Hi, great video :) I would really like to chat about how to go about breaking away from job slavery..
But I’m autistic and I’m a Christian, and autism is very hereditary. Plus my mother and my sister died from giving birth. Do I HAVE to give birth because it’s an excuse?
What church do you guys belong to? I feel like soo many churches nowadays don’t talk about the raw truth. I do like the messages but it’s very passive. I want to attend a church that isn’t afraid to talk about real world problems and the truth.
My boyfriend and I are planning to get engaged and married in the next year or so and I don't know how to tell him I truly feel called to be a SAH wife and mother. But I also don't want to have kids just to have them raised by someone else so I can still work. I'm struggling with how to approach this as we are constantly discussing marriage and kids. Any advice?
Please do tell him! It’s very important to be on the same page before committing your life to someone. I told my husband I wanted to be a homemaker and raise our kids shortly before we got engaged. He was honestly a bit skeptical but said he would support him if that’s what I really want. I think deep down a lot of men would like this, but financial fears get in their heads. Make sure to show him how much of a blessing you staying home would be to him. Truly show with your actions and words that you will be successful and happy at home. If he is skeptical like my husband was, this will truly help. In general just be patient. I’m a Christian so a lot of prayer was involved!! Lol but in general remember to trust in your boyfriend and give him the respect to make his own opinions and the space to think about it. I hope this helps! 💕
Oh and I forgot he has totally come around now!! He is very excited for me to raise our kids and to take care of him. He works a very physically demanding job and he can’t do much around the house anymore because of it, he’s too tired. He sees how much of a blessing it would be for me to stay home and we are both doing everything we can to financially get there.
I see a kid in your future!!! God bless you guys, Amen sending love ❤️ ❤️❤️ Amen!!!
Thank you and God bless you!!
For Christians you sure are judgemental to people who do not think the way you do. What if God has not put it in someone's heart to marry or have kids. Did not Jesus not marry or have kids and Christians are supposed to be like Him?
People need to be free to do ehatever they want! Wanting to impose your views is stupid and pointless. As a woman who couldnt care less about kids your point of view is wrong. If this lifestyle makes YOU happy good, but do not generalise!!
I agree. Although I'm not keen on your aggressive tone, I'm even less keen on this couple's smug self righteousness and judgemental attitude, that pre-supposes that everyone should be on board with complementarianism. Truth is many couples simply can't afford one income marriages even if they wanted to live like this, even when they are not extravagant. Second some women would be bored rigid and feel trapped with the SAH lifestyle and prefer more out of their lives than domestic work and baby rearing. It's not for everyone and I am appalled they would deny their daughters a good higher education. Furthermore, the Bible is full of examples of women who are not the submissive type. God made all kinds of people and he loves them all.
What annoys me most is that many complementarian women are only happy with that role in life, because they once did go to college - like this lady has, once did have a career and gave it all up. Without feminism which they claim to dismiss as damaging and unwelcome, they would not have a choice to live that way as they do, it would be imposed on them whether they liked it or not. It's one thing choosing to submit willingly as a happ wife, quite another being forced to submit to an abusive husband.
They don't know they're born.
Love this video! I am 55 my husband is 61. I became a single mom of two boys when they were 9 and 10 years old. God blessed me with an amazing man to step in and be the father that we needed in that stage of our life. I was a stay at home mom prior to becoming a single mom went back to work and then met him. he is a godly man and knew the value of having his wife and the children’s mother at home. I did go back to work after they were in school and finished my degree and work in healthcare now. What I have discovered at 55 is that I was so busy trying to raise respectable children and giving them things that I missed many moldable moments and making of memories. I now have grandchildren and very proud of my two grown sons. Their wives are amazing homemakers and are career minded women. I am proud of them for these qualities as well. Even at 55 I see the value in me staying at home and being my husbands helper. In December and January respectively my husband broke his ankle and I fell and broke my back. Both my boys and their wives and grandchildren came and stayed with us for 16 weeks and took turns taking care of us and buying groceries for us. They did all of my house work and I saw that these boys grew up to be responsible and giving men. Moms take note there is no better investment than in your children. Single women take note do not marry until you have found the godly man that has values and lifts his wife in prayer and thanksgiving in serving the Lord and providing for their family. God has a plan and a purpose for men and women. You have challenged me at 55 to still be that proverbs 31 woman. Thank you so much
Thank you so much for sharing this Kim, it's amazing to see the goodness of God in your life. God bless you and your family!
So refreshing to see a Young Married Couple share their experience. I hope it will inspire all those who desire Marriage at any age. It is never to late. Be courageous.
Amen, thank you Marcella!
Love this! This is so encouraging! My husband and I are about to have our 1st anniversary here soon. I'm 22 years old and he's about to turn 25. We've been blessed in our young age to have me home while my husband provides and so I've been learning as much as I can this first year. Lately I can't help but feel a desire to be a mom but fears are definitely holding me back. Finances is a big one, like you mentioned, but also maturity levels. I feel like we got a lot more growing up to do and can't help but wonder if bringing a baby into the mix would make marriage harder than what it already is. Another fear is pregnancy itself. I am so afraid of getting sick and the pain that comes with child birth. I will be praying a lot more about this subject because I really deep down inside want to be a mom so bad, but so many fears hold me back. Thank you for the encouragement to trust in the Lord 💕
Hi Destiny!
Thanks for sharing all of your processing's. There are two books I would recommend about both topics, for the maturity thing, have you ever read Created to be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl... I'm not sure specifically what you mean in regards to maturity, but this book has greatly blessed me and our marriage! And another great book is called Childbirth Without Fear by Grantly Dick-Reed
@@ScottandKelli Thank you so much for the book recommendations! I will certainly check them out :)
Dont be afraid! My husband and i just had our first baby and i was afraid too but when u hold that sweet baby all the fear and pain and memory of it goes away!
This was beautiful to read! My fiancé and I just had our first baby and I was so afraid of child birth. that fear QUICKLY goes away when you’re holding your baby in your arms❤️
I am a Quranist Muslim and I find the advise in all your videos to be very helpful and valuable. Thank you for all the good work that you are doing and I pray that you are blessed with beautiful and healthy children.
Thank you so much, God bless you!
You guys are a such a blessing to me! I love watching your videos. I completely agree. I got married at 21 to my high school sweetheart. We’re now 27 & 28 with 3 children. God has always provided for us. It’s been such an awe inspiring journey because we have been dirt poor and still have always had enough. I’m praying for God’s will over your life, future children or not, that He continues to bless you both! Wish I had likeminded friends like this in real life, so if you’re ever in Indiana, hello!! 😂😂👍🏼
Hi Allie, what a beautiful testimony! Praise God and thank you for your prayers! God bless you and you're husband and children!
Thanks again for another great video. I totally agree with your assessment of how culture misleads young women and I was definitely one of those. I moved to go to university in Scotland and partied and got the degree. Spent many years building a career & social life. Didn’t take seriously finding the right man and thinking about having children. Eventually I found my husband to be at 35 and we had a child when I was 36. His birth wasn’t easy & I got ill afterwards. Thank the lord he is healthy & athletic and perfect. But it put me off trying for more and I had always wanted 2 children. I’m 41 now & have decided against trying for more. There is a lot of guilt I hold around not giving him a sibling but I thank the Lord that we had a healthy, beautiful son. I pray for you both and hope you are both blessed with children soon. You are a beautiful couple and ignore the haters on here. A lot of people really appreciate your message and I wish I had seen it when I was in my early 20’s! 😊
Thank you Rachael! and God bless
Amen!! Yes!! Today’s generations want to do all the things and all at the same time and see kids as something to consider once all their ducks are in a row. When God changed my heart to want kids young we had all four in 3.5 years close together and they’re bestest of friends and it’s loads of fun as they’re all under 9 currently. Worth it all!! Kids are not a liability, they’re an asset. We so appreciate this and your videos! God bless you both!!!
What an amazing testimony, thanks so much for sharing and God bless you and your family!
Have you seen women all over social media declaring they don’t want children? It’s so sad. Some say it’s because the world is so messed up and there’s already too many people on the planet. It’s completely nuts!
Solid, thanks guys. Blessings
Thank you and God bless you!
We come from very different Christian backgrounds, but I am always very grateful to hear these thoughts from you that we hold very much in common.
i’m muslim and find so much wisdom in your words and even so many shared values God bless you and your family 💕
Praying for you on your journey to conceive! 🙏🏼
This may seem to be an all over comment there are several things I’d like to touch on that you talked about. First off, bless you both for what God has called you to do. Bless you for the burden you have for the younger generations. I am a 45 year old mother and grand mother. I have 3 children. My oldest is 27 with 3 children of her own. My middle daughter is 18 (ASD, ID and DDX3X). She will be with mom and dad as long as we live. My baby, a son, just turned 6 (CHARGE Syndrome). His future is really unknown at this time. He has had 15 different surgeries and procedures. He is deaf. But they are my most wonderful gifts from God. I quit my bank job when my oldest was 7 to be at home where I belong. Look at our Society and what it has become. I firmly believe it is because mothers are not at home teaching their children morals and values. Our government is teaching our children and look at where it has gotten us. Yes we live from paycheck to paycheck but I’d rather do that than have this world raising my children. Again God bless you both. I will definitely be praying for y’all.
Wow, what an amazing message! I know my purpose lies in being a wife, homemaker, and mother. I’ve always known in my heart that working a full-time corporate job was not my purpose and that God had placed a different calling on my heart. How to make the shift to me quitting my job seems impossible where we live, but I’m trusting that God will provide and make our next steps known!
Do you have recommendations for books about building a home economy?
Soo good 👍
It is an honor to be a wife and mother. Not everyone wants that honor, and not everyone wants to be a husband and father. It shouldn’t take away from what they have chosen to fill their life with instead.