My narc just started texting me, almost daily, roughly 5 weeks after the discard, which I accepted with grace and dignity. I suspect his new supply caught wind of his self-centered behavior patterns and told him to move on (he was seeing us both concurrently but discarded me to be exclusive with her). Now he is texting me day and night as though nothing happened; no explanation required. They are just so weak and exhausting.
Part of the reason why is they miss the supply and having that Supply ,so they need as much as they can get! Whether it's from you or from anyone else.. I hate to say that and I apologize if it sounds brutal but that's the truth ..I'm a self-aware narcissist and that's how things are with them. Please don't go back, please stay alone .Please let yourself heal from the narcissist... The ultimate goal is to ruin you, trust me on that.
@@noobsimdriver for sure they will eventually. but that does not mean that they will miss YOU. they do not. they will move on to the next supply just like they did before, most likely before the current one even sees it coming. they are one step ahead, always. because thats their strategy and they have optimized it all their life.
3:06 deep rooted, psychological issues, is almost a understatement. its hard for a normal, rational, thinking, mind, to wrap itself around the twisted mess that resides inside their head.
Today I got together with a narcissist specialist, I drove 3 hrs each way, it was out of state, cost me a total of 600 dollars for the day ( 2 hour session, gas, food etc, ) I like to talk face to face, so I went with it, I GOT NOTIONG from it, very pissed off and even more depressed, I was looking to clear my head. in fact when I got back to my home town I stopped at a pub and had a couple of drinks. I know that's not what I should I do, but I'm sick of the bullshit from all these so called therapists. I get more from videos like this. Thanks.
No they actually won't forget if you are now free they will absolutely hate it. It's their perceived loss of control that fundamentally lies at the route of that they don't think like proper people it's like a broken sub culture that aspires to be proper but lacks the required functionality
Thing is, if a narcissists target someone who genuinly does have low self esteem, they will probably work, the discard and hoovering, because the target is really desperate for some of those feelings back - breadcrumbing. I guess I've been through it myself at times, but eventually, it was my self-respect that won out in the end - why would I stick around for nothing but more abuse? So I picked up and walked away. And, even though it felt pretty bad, I just had the sense to realize I was better off this way, although, I can understand why some people don't, but these people really do have to swallow that nasty medicine and do what they have to do in the end, otherwise......
You've GOT to be talking about guys. The she-narcs have ENDLESS supply options. And more shame/social stigma if they're seen to be stringing around too many people instead of just acting out a single primary supply situation alone for show.
Ya, she-covert in my case. I know she lined up a guy before discarding me, and I'm sure that cycle has repeated many times, but she tells her friends that I was the only one and that she's been alone for over 5 years, not seeing anyone since me (ha! I know that's a lie)
My mother is 87 and has narcissistically abused me my entire life. she’s famous for the silent treatments. She will go months and months without answering the phone when we try to call her . She’s done this to my brother too, and my father who is now passed away. She will also triangulate constantly with the four people in the family. Someone has always under the bus. She will dig her heels to the point we all cave and go back. And sometimes even bring her something nice. Because that’s what our father told us that we have to do. We have to be nice to her. We have to call her. We have to take her to lunch and be her friend. She is a complete total evil, wretched monster. I even feel bad that I say that. But this is what I’ve had to put up with my entire life. 😢😢😢. I’m married to who treated me the same way. He’s even cheated on me and hit me. My brother joined a culture church. He works all week and gives big chunks of his salary over to these people. Just so they’ll be nice to him so he belongs and feels wanted somewhere even though he has to pay for it. Also, too, she is extremely hateful and jealous of me. I have to say this experience in my life has crushed me. All I ever wanted was love from her. And no matter what I did for her I could never ever have a loving relationship with her.
No matter how hard the narcissist tries or how much effort she puts into trying to convince me or others that she is a good person who is doing wonderful things on this earth it seems that most of us who really know her are not swayed. I would imagine that it’s a pretty lonely place to be…. although, they seem to have a lot of gullible sycophants who will give them all the adoration and approbation they need…. in reality, it seems quite empty…..
One thing I noticed about them - they're so shallow, actually quite simple, even feeble minded. They can fool stupid people, and sadly, there are many out there, but deep inside, it's just a angry, little child, that doesn't really know or understand much, or care too, almost sleep-walking in life, and dead inside.
Almost 3 months no contact and he still has me blocked on everything... maybe he has detached and moved on this time. Hes getting external validation from both women and gay men.
Mine was always 3 months. Then he came back. But he's burning beneath my feet for eternity now. Had to lie to me as usual and then have a heart attack on the woman he was cheating with the entire time he and I were together. He had a whole harem when he went south. He was a malignant psychopath narcissist. Every single day he tormented me. Horribly. My brain will never be right. But it's peaceful without that sac of poo! Sadly. I found out horrible things after he left this earth. I can never forget how he told me all I meant to him was that I was a cancer pt.
Anybody that can cut off their children as if they don't exist is seriously ill, whether the marriage is over or not a parent is a parent! Truly sick, never will I trust again, he knows I know and he knows our children know, there will be no relationship with him ever again. He's happy with his new family, sick evil monster.
That’s what hurts the most after 10 years restraining order blaming for everything has all the rights she moved on straight away don’t see my little boy much when I’ve been there every single day of his life sick to people worried about my little boy
With my wife, I'm afraid of what happens if she is allowed to hit bottom, so I try and beg and plead that away. As far as the power, control and those sorts of reasons, my Uncle and his family called it "a defense mechanism". Yeah, I'll go with that. My Aunt was "girls just wanna have fun". I think she got that.
She keeps coming back and back and back, over and over, for years. I'm polite, but short with her. I'd block her, but there's no need. It is kind of sad. Her: "Happy birthday (or other excuse). I'd love to see you!" Me: "Thanks"
🎯 So true. My ex - covert narcissist never ever give up on trying to hoover me for 9 years and that was the years after I had left him after being into 10 years of toxic relationship with him. So I didn't got really free from him even if I had got NC t him💥👊 Then. He died abrupt in multiple of injuries of his alcoholism last year in February. So he really did his max of stalking and hoover for many years until he could not cause he died. In the beginning after his death I thougth: I wonder if he ever gonna stop if he was alive? But I had to put that thoughts aside. Cause I already know the answer: He wouldn't stop if he should bee alive thats for sure😒😎
Doesn't surprise me he had a alcohol problem. Did you drink a lot with him as well? Some people never over-come their addictions, hopefully, you did stop drinking with him, and but the inter-personal issues remained, right? I wouldn't bother anymore myself, just ignore them, hang up when they try to talk to you, even curse and shout at them to go away, I just don't care anymore, but that's my take on it.
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I ended it i blocked him everywhere and left in complete silence no warning nothing. He started intermittent silent treatments and being passive aggressive the day after I came back from spending 3 days with him. No reaction from me just silence no chasing him nothing just silence. I waited 3 days for an apology or explanation nope so I blocked him just over 5 weeks ago. Think he was expecting me to chase after him no chance he was very much mistaken.
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We dont walk with the enemy we walk with god. Let god fight your battles. They dont live in my head, so ultimately they are only tormenting themselves . Sounds like their living in a fantasy world. Obessing over and creating ways to try and desperately get a supply of attention. Pray they find peace. In some ways, i hope they are checking my social media there is lots of recommendations of good well infomed highly educated facts that will help them heal if they chose to do so.. peace and love.
My malignant narc is in hell. He remembers me for eternity. He wishes he had just one more time with me. To make things right. He wish he wouldnt have lied on the day he perished , about JANICE. Hell is full of regret. And hes stuck there into eternity. He had many chances to make things right but he loved those secret lives that he accused and tormented ME with. Glad the mf is beneath my feet.
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Do they have low self esteem or are they arrogant? It's so confusing. Everybody has a different take on what they're all about. Me, I want this covert narc to get out of my life and she absolutely will not take no for an answer. It continues in her asking after me and approaching me, smearing etc. There are former friends who got sucked into it. Third parties galore. I might have to move to Mars.
A narcissist has forgotten you already at the doorstep, maybe you are confused with an empath who can not forget about a narcissist and is devastated, confused, heartbroken and can not get this person out of their mind and heart that is not narcissism that is trauma bond
Ok so, I can possibly give you that just maybe she is MAYBE thinking about me and if so I say it would be because only that she is seeing a therapist other than that Doubtful cause it doesn’t make sense for her too. And on the other not that she will come back is Very Doubtful, she knows I seen the so called NARCISSIST COLLAPSE and it was VERY TERRIFYING to see. She was a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON, and that is just ONE of the REASONS I say she will NEVER come back alone with ALL the LIES she told to all this people including her FAMILY which include Narcissistic that are her FLYING MONKEYS and Burned Bridges. I Personally think that I just might be one of the Ones that will not EXPERIENCE a HOOVER or what have you PERIOD. I am Very Concerned about her due to her age 59 along with all the Severe Health Conditions and MENTAL DISORDER that she is going to Die alone with no one to be there for her and take care of her. She fled the state and and she has nobody there for her around the clock, including Family. This Worries me cause she knows good and well how I was always there for her no matter what at all cost and that how much I Loved her, and I pretty sure as well that she is TERRIFIED of Facing this people and Family that she Wronged and LIED TOO. So on that note the only way I see her return is by GODS Grace and her willingness, and I Actually do PRAY FOR THAT.
when you see the mask fall off, they know its over, no coming back from/fixing whatever they had done. plus side is u get the see the true inner ugly that was there all along, as a lil reminder to never go back.
I felt like he wanted to wash, rinse and repeat with me. A hamster wheel! I wouldn't have it! He couldn't wrap his head around my refusal to play along and had to get himself arrested.
Silence is their biggest enemy 🖤
Thank God!!
True.. well said
it destroys them. especially if u dump them, before the dump you. 0 contact!
@@lilfairycupcake true..
Indeed . I am gray rocking right now
My narc just started texting me, almost daily, roughly 5 weeks after the discard, which I accepted with grace and dignity. I suspect his new supply caught wind of his self-centered behavior patterns and told him to move on (he was seeing us both concurrently but discarded me to be exclusive with her). Now he is texting me day and night as though nothing happened; no explanation required. They are just so weak and exhausting.
Part of the reason why is they miss the supply and having that Supply ,so they need as much as they can get! Whether it's from you or from anyone else.. I hate to say that and I apologize if it sounds brutal but that's the truth ..I'm a self-aware narcissist and that's how things are with them. Please don't go back, please stay alone .Please let yourself heal from the narcissist... The ultimate goal is to ruin you, trust me on that.
once they have a new supply SAVE - you are forgotten within a second and never been thought of again.
I disagree. Eventually they get bored of the new supply.
That's not true
@noobsimdriver Exactly!!!!
I totally agree
@@noobsimdriver for sure they will eventually. but that does not mean that they will miss YOU. they do not. they will move on to the next supply just like they did before, most likely before the current one even sees it coming. they are one step ahead, always. because thats their strategy and they have optimized it all their life.
3:06 deep rooted, psychological issues, is almost a understatement. its hard for a normal, rational, thinking, mind, to wrap itself around the twisted mess that resides inside their head.
Today I got together with a narcissist specialist, I drove 3 hrs each way, it was out of state, cost me a total of 600 dollars for the day ( 2 hour session, gas, food etc, ) I like to talk face to face, so I went with it, I GOT NOTIONG from it, very pissed off and even more depressed, I was looking to clear my head. in fact when I got back to my home town I stopped at a pub and had a couple of drinks. I know that's not what I should I do, but I'm sick of the bullshit from all these so called therapists. I get more from videos like this. Thanks.
Therapists are only there to convince you,you are crazy…Otherwise they will be without a job
Would you like online counseling? At $40?
They might forget me, but they won't forget my money 🤑
No they actually won't forget if you are now free they will absolutely hate it. It's their perceived loss of control that fundamentally lies at the route of that they don't think like proper people it's like a broken sub culture that aspires to be proper but lacks the required functionality
Sooooo true.
So true. 😂
and all the gets money provided.
😂😂😂
I needed this humor. Thanks for this comment. It's so true, she hurt me in many ways but she'll remember the 🤑
I love her titles and captions! Great stuff!
Thing is, if a narcissists target someone who genuinly does have low self esteem, they will probably work, the discard and hoovering, because the target is really desperate for some of those feelings back - breadcrumbing. I guess I've been through it myself at times, but eventually, it was my self-respect that won out in the end - why would I stick around for nothing but more abuse? So I picked up and walked away. And, even though it felt pretty bad, I just had the sense to realize I was better off this way, although, I can understand why some people don't, but these people really do have to swallow that nasty medicine and do what they have to do in the end, otherwise......
You've GOT to be talking about guys. The she-narcs have ENDLESS supply options. And more shame/social stigma if they're seen to be stringing around too many people instead of just acting out a single primary supply situation alone for show.
Ya, she-covert in my case. I know she lined up a guy before discarding me, and I'm sure that cycle has repeated many times, but she tells her friends that I was the only one and that she's been alone for over 5 years, not seeing anyone since me (ha! I know that's a lie)
I love shrooming and listening to you ❤
omg! put the shrooms down. lol
My mother is 87 and has narcissistically abused me my entire life. she’s famous for the silent treatments. She will go months and months without answering the phone when we try to call her . She’s done this to my brother too, and my father who is now passed away. She will also triangulate constantly with the four people in the family. Someone has always under the bus. She will dig her heels to the point we all cave and go back. And sometimes even bring her something nice. Because that’s what our father told us that we have to do. We have to be nice to her. We have to call her. We have to take her to lunch and be her friend. She is a complete total evil, wretched monster. I even feel bad that I say that. But this is what I’ve had to put up with my entire life. 😢😢😢. I’m married to who treated me the same way. He’s even cheated on me and hit me. My brother joined a culture church. He works all week and gives big chunks of his salary over to these people. Just so they’ll be nice to him so he belongs and feels wanted somewhere even though he has to pay for it. Also, too, she is extremely hateful and jealous of me. I have to say this experience in my life has crushed me. All I ever wanted was love from her. And no matter what I did for her I could never ever have a loving relationship with her.
They want control and thats why they don't want to forget you and then blaming on us..
mine tried sh it testing me, and it blew up in her face like a nuclear bomb. then, of course, it was all my fault. good riddance, to her, and her bs.
No matter how hard the narcissist tries or how much effort she puts into trying to convince me or others that she is a good person who is doing wonderful things on this earth it seems that most of us who really know her are not swayed.
I would imagine that it’s a pretty lonely place to be…. although, they seem to have a lot of gullible sycophants who will give them all the adoration and approbation they need…. in reality, it seems quite empty…..
One thing I noticed about them - they're so shallow, actually quite simple, even feeble minded. They can fool stupid people, and sadly, there are many out there, but deep inside, it's just a angry, little child, that doesn't really know or understand much, or care too, almost sleep-walking in life, and dead inside.
@@dcikaruga True words, my friend!
Almost 3 months no contact and he still has me blocked on everything... maybe he has detached and moved on this time. Hes getting external validation from both women and gay men.
Mine was always 3 months. Then he came back. But he's burning beneath my feet for eternity now. Had to lie to me as usual and then have a heart attack on the woman he was cheating with the entire time he and I were together. He had a whole harem when he went south. He was a malignant psychopath narcissist. Every single day he tormented me. Horribly. My brain will never be right. But it's peaceful without that sac of poo! Sadly. I found out horrible things after he left this earth. I can never forget how he told me all I meant to him was that I was a cancer pt.
Why do you care?
blocked is a good thing!
@ericlee419 I'm still detaching I guess...
@@lilfairycupcake that's true... I have space and distance from his toxicity
They only come back if you let them. Block them everywhere or you are leading them on.
They come back lol, mine re contact me after almost 2 years but not going back. They always eventually circle back. Some just take longer then others.
Anybody that can cut off their children as if they don't exist is seriously ill, whether the marriage is over or not a parent is a parent! Truly sick, never will I trust again, he knows I know and he knows our children know, there will be no relationship with him ever again. He's happy with his new family, sick evil monster.
That’s what hurts the most after 10 years restraining order blaming for everything has all the rights she moved on straight away don’t see my little boy much when I’ve been there every single day of his life sick to people worried about my little boy
@@jimscott-w1vit's heartbreaking ❤
With my wife, I'm afraid of what happens if she is allowed to hit bottom, so I try and beg and plead that away. As far as the power, control and those sorts of reasons, my Uncle and his family called it "a defense mechanism". Yeah, I'll go with that. My Aunt was "girls just wanna have fun". I think she got that.
She keeps coming back and back and back, over and over, for years. I'm polite, but short with her. I'd block her, but there's no need. It is kind of sad.
Her: "Happy birthday (or other excuse). I'd love to see you!"
Me: "Thanks"
🎯 So true. My ex - covert narcissist never ever give up on trying to hoover me for 9 years and that was the years after I had left him after being into 10 years of toxic relationship with him. So I didn't got really free from him even if I had got NC t him💥👊
Then. He died abrupt in multiple of injuries of his alcoholism last year in February.
So he really did his max of stalking and hoover for many years until he could not cause he died. In the beginning after his death I thougth: I wonder if he ever gonna stop if he was alive? But I had to put that thoughts aside.
Cause I already know the answer: He wouldn't stop if he should bee alive thats for sure😒😎
Doesn't surprise me he had a alcohol problem. Did you drink a lot with him as well? Some people never over-come their addictions, hopefully, you did stop drinking with him, and but the inter-personal issues remained, right? I wouldn't bother anymore myself, just ignore them, hang up when they try to talk to you, even curse and shout at them to go away, I just don't care anymore, but that's my take on it.
They always come back, even if its 20 years later!
Please don’t say that.. it’s been 16 years and he knows I’ll never ever give him the benefit of the doubt..
For real…..they just can’t move on with their lives. Ain’t nobody looking for them😂…..but 👍
perpetual fu ck ups.
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Gracias Anoushka
I ended it i blocked him everywhere and left in complete silence no warning nothing. He started intermittent silent treatments and being passive aggressive the day after I came back from spending 3 days with him. No reaction from me just silence no chasing him nothing just silence. I waited 3 days for an apology or explanation nope so I blocked him just over 5 weeks ago. Think he was expecting me to chase after him no chance he was very much mistaken.
It's crazy how no one is talking about Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest. This book has secrets that could change everything, but people seem blind to it. Wake up and see for yourself!
Tell me more please
We dont walk with the enemy we walk with god.
Let god fight your battles.
They dont live in my head, so ultimately they are only tormenting themselves .
Sounds like their living in a fantasy world. Obessing over and creating ways to try and desperately get a supply of attention.
Pray they find peace.
In some ways, i hope they are checking my social media there is lots of recommendations of good well infomed highly educated facts that will help them heal if they chose to do so.. peace and love.
My malignant narc is in hell. He remembers me for eternity. He wishes he had just one more time with me. To make things right. He wish he wouldnt have lied on the day he perished , about JANICE. Hell is full of regret. And hes stuck there into eternity. He had many chances to make things right but he loved those secret lives that he accused and tormented ME with. Glad the mf is beneath my feet.
their entire existence is based on hate.
I’m taking them to court. Game Over.
It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!
They dont ALWAYS come back, some just dont care and move on, maybe is just MY experience, but this is NOT true
I thought this too
But sure enough he did.
Never saw it coming
If you know my situation, you would never believe he would come back either
@AlwaysHope2019 Thats YOUR experience, but some people just dont care
@@GenTrueWisdom I didn’t care either
Just stated my facts!!
Ja Anouska jeg ved udmærket hvad du taler om det er vi enig om,ha en god aften 👍😉
Want to play a crazy game 😮
And win a stupid prize 😂
My doesn’t care if I live or die 😢
It's as real can be , don't matter how I tell her to leave me alone ,go to your new supply , poor him
Because I’m his big supply . He can’t go any where .
35 years of a ‘Merry Xmas’ card after separating from a past violent an emotional abusive marriage. Yes, 35 weird years!
Do they have low self esteem or are they arrogant? It's so confusing. Everybody has a different take on what they're all about.
Me, I want this covert narc to get out of my life and she absolutely will not take no for an answer. It continues in her asking after me and approaching me, smearing etc. There are former friends who got sucked into it. Third parties galore. I might have to move to Mars.
i say yes, and no; on this topic.
A narcissist has forgotten you already at the doorstep, maybe you are confused with an empath who can not forget about a narcissist and is devastated, confused, heartbroken and can not get this person out of their mind and heart that is not narcissism that is trauma bond
my husband comes back every month 😂😂😂
Ok so, I can possibly give you that just maybe she is MAYBE thinking about me and if so I say it would be because only that she is seeing a therapist other than that Doubtful cause it doesn’t make sense for her too. And on the other not that she will come back is Very Doubtful, she knows I seen the so called NARCISSIST COLLAPSE and it was VERY TERRIFYING to see. She was a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON, and that is just ONE of the REASONS I say she will NEVER come back alone with ALL the LIES she told to all this people including her FAMILY which include Narcissistic that are her FLYING MONKEYS and Burned Bridges. I Personally think that I just might be one of the Ones that will not EXPERIENCE a HOOVER or what have you PERIOD. I am Very Concerned about her due to her age 59 along with all the Severe Health Conditions and MENTAL DISORDER that she is going to Die alone with no one to be there for her and take care of her. She fled the state and and she has nobody there for her around the clock, including Family. This Worries me cause she knows good and well how I was always there for her no matter what at all cost and that how much I Loved her, and I pretty sure as well that she is TERRIFIED of Facing this people and Family that she Wronged and LIED TOO. So on that note the only way I see her return is by GODS Grace and her willingness, and I Actually do PRAY FOR THAT.
when you see the mask fall off, they know its over, no coming back from/fixing whatever they had done. plus side is u get the see the true inner ugly that was there all along, as a lil reminder to never go back.
She enjoyed my money..... Wow I could send her money at will😮😮😮
Hey I'm a narcissist send me some money ,LOL
@@JOHN-tk8eb I enjoy your keeping your money..
My ex is a dismissive avoidant and we were gay does he think of me after I did a bad thing to him ?
I need to cover this on my channel but of course- they always want to think about you and rehash the past.. Half their life is living in the past.
I felt like he wanted to wash, rinse and repeat with me. A hamster wheel! I wouldn't have it! He couldn't wrap his head around my refusal to play along and had to get himself arrested.
the old hamster wheel, is all they know.
She’s looking at my LinkedIn account under her father’s name
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