PERFECTIONISM EXPLAINED (+ The Cure For Perfectionists!) | Wu Wei Wisdom

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  • @WuWeiWisdom
    @WuWeiWisdom  3 роки тому +4

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  • @barbthegreat586
    @barbthegreat586 3 роки тому +9

    I'm a perfectionist for all the reasons that David mentions. I don't carry it as a badge of honour but I consider it a disability. It's not that people are successful because of perfectionism but DESPITE of it. Perfectionists are less productive or even unproductive because they just don't produce and send their work into the world because it's never good enough and could always be improved, so they polish, polish, polish. They are less likely to go beyond their comfort zone because They're terrified of failing.
    I'm working on it but that problem that I have right now is how good enough is still good enough? I have little reference and I still tend to catastrophise.

    • @arnieb3947
      @arnieb3947 3 роки тому

      You are not alone. This hits close to home for me. Be well.

    • @kunzang5136
      @kunzang5136 3 роки тому

      Try to strive for optimal or feasible instead of perfect. For example, you never find a perfect job, house, or mate. Do what it works.

    • @kunzang5136
      @kunzang5136 3 роки тому

      Because your need changes too. When you're fresh off college, you can care less about the salary because you are inexperienced, you almost should take any job that pays reasonably well unless you're from a top school. But as you get married and have kids, you need more money, the former feasible job might not be anymore.

  • @dianapaloma3102
    @dianapaloma3102 3 роки тому +9

    Thank you. Perfectionism is so exhausting and debilitating. I’m ready to release it. Thank you for your support. You two make the world a better place. Bless you. 🙏💕

  • @dianapaloma3102
    @dianapaloma3102 3 роки тому +5

    Emotional freedom vs. Emotional fear - I love that 💕

  • @keith1709
    @keith1709 Рік тому +2

    This is the best discussions I’ve heard on perfectionism. Thank you so much. It helped me greatly.

  • @lesleymcmillan1893
    @lesleymcmillan1893 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you. I made a mistake today and had major red light feelings. now realizing that perfectionism is a cruel way to treat myself. looking forward to learning how to change and be free of my harsh inner critic to whom I say “you’re fired!” :)

  • @sabitamohanty258
    @sabitamohanty258 2 роки тому +1

    Good night both of u excellent councils.so much helpful sir,mam

  • @runwiththewind3281
    @runwiththewind3281 3 роки тому +2

    Happy good Saturday morning to you wu wei wisdom

  • @Victoria0987
    @Victoria0987 3 роки тому +1

    I looooove the way Alex debates because every single word in every single video is what I would respond to in these conversations. This is soooooooo good. Such great debates.

  • @Gandalf_the_quantum_G
    @Gandalf_the_quantum_G 2 роки тому +1

    I never made that relation. I didn't even think of being super precise and good in my work was perfectionism - I just believed, that it has to be correct, otherwise it drives me nuts.
    Now I've to choose my thoughts about that in a new way, which will be more beneficial to me.

  • @kbell1418
    @kbell1418 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you, this has helped me a great deal

    • @WuWeiWisdom
      @WuWeiWisdom  2 місяці тому

      Hi @kbell1418,
      You're very welcome! I'm so glad to hear that the content has been helpful to you. Remember, you're always welcome to share any thoughts or questions you might have as you continue on your journey.
      Kind Regards,
      David

  • @pauljacobs2569
    @pauljacobs2569 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for this teaching, this one has hit home, such a powerful video for me 🙏

  • @dianelamorticella6053
    @dianelamorticella6053 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you David and Alexa!!!! this is very helpful!!! Im sending you both love from NJ, USA!

  • @DEEPbodylove
    @DEEPbodylove 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so
    much, work with women who use emotional eating to find the cause and work with beliefs to reframe and heal. This is brilliant and will be very helpful.

    • @WuWeiWisdom
      @WuWeiWisdom  8 місяців тому +1

      Hi @divinelyledliving,
      It's wonderful to hear that our content will be helpful in your work with women addressing emotional eating by finding underlying causes and reframing beliefs. Your dedication to supporting others in resolving these issues is commendable. If you or the individuals you work with are ever looking for additional support or a place to share experiences and insights, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is a welcoming space: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Keep up the brilliant work you're doing!
      Kind Regards,
      David

    • @DEEPbodylove
      @DEEPbodylove 8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much, grateful@@WuWeiWisdom

  • @yvonnemcaskill8895
    @yvonnemcaskill8895 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you both so much….for the first time I heard emotional safety….now I see this aspect of myself almost on overdrive..👏👏❤️

  • @cynthiapate9138
    @cynthiapate9138 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you both for sharing this wisdom.

  • @cindyviger8565
    @cindyviger8565 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much, this is really appreciated 😀

  • @Loopysquish
    @Loopysquish 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for making these videos!! 💖
    I've struggled with intense red lights all my life...😢
    & your Wu Wei teachings have been a huge comfort to me!🙂
    Indeed, I especially love this video about 'Perfectionism', as I've always struggled with it. ⭐
    Was hoping one day maybe you could make a video about the 'Sunk Cost Fallacy' & how it relates to Wu Wei Wisdom? As I also really struggle letting go of ‘sunk costs’ i.e. lost money, lost time, mistakes etc.😕
    I've watched your many videos about regret several times each. - All brilliant btw!💖- And I understand that I need to learn a life lesson. I just think maybe I've learnt the wrong life lesson. As I keep obsessing over past mistakes & trying to "compensate" for them in unhealthy ways, which tend to end up wasting even more time & money,.😟

  • @TPFoto59
    @TPFoto59 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for your clear explanations. To stress the link between perfectionism and criticism has been revealing to me. I find hard to follow the golden thead. What would you reccomend, especially whend you are far from childhood and your memories are somehow blurred? 🙏🏻

  • @arnieb3947
    @arnieb3947 3 роки тому

    I struggle with this as someone who has always sought external approval. If you aren’t accepted by others, you can’t get a job. If you don’t have the approval of others, you don’t keep your job. If you don’t have the acceptance and approval of others you don’t have friends or a relationship. Without the acceptance and approval of others you are alone and unemployed. I must be missing something very fundamental with this.

    • @kunzang5136
      @kunzang5136 3 роки тому +1

      You don't have to be perfect to be accepted and approved. As a matter of fact, if you are too perfect, you can't get friends. In job interviews, one question often asked is what is your weakness. Having a healthy confidence earns you jobs and friends.

  • @kunzang5136
    @kunzang5136 3 роки тому +1

    You're the creator not victim of your emotion.

  • @nattlo3107
    @nattlo3107 Рік тому +1

    I spent the whole day watching your videos , it change my way of seeing life completely , infinite gratitude for this content ❤‍🩹