Also, how manhy of the relatives or friends will care if it is a lavish wedding. They probably will talk about it for 10 minutes but the couples will have to pay for it for years. This seems to be an attention and validation seeking exercise for the couples.
😹😹😹😹: Hahaha ... It is true that this is an event that is only supposed to happen once in a lifetime ... But I do not think that spending a fortune will make this day something more beautiful or more solid, like family or friends, monnaie, it may be a solution as a problem, and it is the years, the times that give meaning to certain words and actions. It is a moral contract between two people and those around them to get the best rather than the worst ...
My girlfriend was asked the question about what is the most important thing during your wedding day. She replied: "The person I'm marrying to." Just hearing her say that, I know I'm blessed. 😌
Just hearing her say that, you know you want to give her a lavish wedding that she will never regret right? Right?? Even if it cost you a fortune right?
@@haliridzkin5745 even better! but imo still nothing wrong with spending a little more on your honeymoon instead of the wedding to make your spouse happy - one of the purposes of marriage in itself lol
@jyuean That's olden day tradition, nowadays people don't even want to talk to the boomer generation. Only those people who want to satisfy family members will cave in and have an expensive wedding. Otherwise, most couples will know to save money or spend it on something else.
i would also splurge on the honeymoon too. take the opportunity to do a full round trip across US or europe rather than just visiting 1 or 2 cities at a time.
My daughter got married last month. Due to go vid pandemic, I was not able to hold a wedding reception for her. Initially I paid deposit for a hall. But as the raging Co vid shows no sign of receding, the govt decreed that no wedding reception to be held. So the solemnisarion was done in Pejabbat agama. Then my son in law family came to my house for a small reception
It all boils down to the saving face culture especially among the Chinese Singaporeans. A successful Marriage is not defined by how grand the wedding is
This is why you don’t tell your love ones ur loaded. Just keep your big mouth shut. As my mentor always said, ‘Silence is golden’. And only the big guys out there know how and when to keep their big mouth shut.
Hahahaha true..after wedding alot of couples argue about financial expenses that lead to divorce. For a day of show, a lifetime of fustrations and arguements. Be wise. Work within your means.😉. Dont be fooled by insta shows and impress ppl becos what goes on behind the scenes when all this show is over leads to financial issues,arguements and divorces. Thats why the divorce rates are the shockingly high like tap water gushing out. Pls wake up and be realistic
Ultimately if you have the money, no issues going with a big wedding. Really depends on what you value. People get the misconception that the guests actually care about your wedding. They don’t, except your parents. If you have a hotel wedding, no offense to those who do, it’s going to be a generic wedding that’s going to be so forgettable because hotel weddings are so typical regardless of what performance that is put up. The only weddings I remembered are a ROM at a church, and a wedding dinner at a civil service club hall. (I’ve poor memory) Best bang for the buck really is to use the money and go for holidays, honeymoon. The memories from the holiday will be more memorable and last longer compared to those from the wedding where everything happens so fast. If you save $10K from a wedding you could go for so many holidays! Borrowing money for a big wedding is just silly.
most of the reason for this couple to spend on lavish wedding is "I want people to remember it". Realistically, people don't even cares about your wedding.
Divorce rate is around 33%. Someone you know is confirmed divorced before or currently divorced. My advice is pls pls spend within your means and don't take loans. Save the money for your house, renovation and for your child. Lastly, does the market rate wedding ANG bao matter? No. Just give what you can afford.
Don't lidat la. i only attend weddings of friends that are worth it. And to bless them I also hope to cover their expenses. My advice, if you're not close enough to want to at least cover expense for them, tell them you're not going. rather than go and then bao so little.
Really sad to start a marriage with debts. As if the renovation, house loan are not enough. Still remembered a local couple spent $100,000+ on wedding and nearly ended up divorce. It's reported in the news.
Yup. No point being saddled with debts just because of wedding reception. Just hold a reception according to your budget. And nobody would say about a small reception. People are preoccupied with their life and they have no time to talk bad about uou
My daughter asked how much I’d saved for her wedding. $40,000 USD. Not a penny more. She said there was a parcel of 500 acres of land where they wanted to build a home. She asked if she would buy the land, get married on the land and have a modest ceremony. That seemed a much wiser use of her money. It was a lovely wedding and now they built their home, paid cash and they own a great piece of land.
That's very sweet. We share different culture in Singapore tho. Usually its the couple that save up themselves and paid for their own wedding or took loan. The collected gift's money(Red packet with money known as Ang Paw from guests) would have a portion given to the bride's parents as an appreciation of raising the wonderful child and the rest of the portion would then be used to settle the banquet bills. Paying for child's wedding isn't a common practice here. But I heard China have the whole village of relatives to raise funds to play for the couple's lavish wedding of days of long feasts. Now that's really isn't practical.
My husband proposed me with a ring at a place just he and myself. We celebrated our wedding at a buffet restaurant with 30 close family members and friends. We are happily married since 2011. The most important thing about wedding is to marry the right person.
spend so much for this 'once in a lifetime event', which 95% of the invited guests would have forgotten about it in a few months time, and 80% of the invited guests wished you hadn't invited them so they didn't have to waste money on a red bomb and their precious time which they rather spend sleeping at home. very worth it indeed.
During this covid pandemic period, It's a blessing in disguise for those who don't want to splurge on their wedding dinner. Many took the opportunity to skip this & just underwent customary tea ceremony.
true. my mom had big social circle and in wedding months, she could get like 3-4 wedding invitations per week end! imagine the money she has to spend for ang bao and the time!
What i learnt from going to 20 years of weddings: 1#Never give too much Hongbao to your close friends and family. When its your turn to marry, the same ppl will only gift you back half the amount due to life expenses such as mortgage and kids. 2#People are there for the food. 3#Weddings with no alcohol is a very boring wedding hahahhaaa 4#When the bride and groom are smiling and having a good time, the guests will too!
The wedding experiences that i talk about till today are those filled with joy tears, heart, feelings and sincerity, not the ooomph and poomph of any luxury whatsoever.
In the past, couples married within their means, and wedding angpows are meant to give the young a couple a financial foundation to start their married life with Nowadays, wedding angpows are factored in when counting the cost of the wedding itself
I went back to reservist. Heard a mate complained he is gonna use 70% of his hard earn life savings on his wedding. Pleasing his parents,relatives. Put on a show. Seriously think hard about life after wedding. The house expenses, kids, health,education,work and most of all working in singapore is already hard enough. Live simply and be happy. No wonder the rate of divorces are shockingly high. All this wedding packages, movies,advertisments are there to fool people. Be realistic and be simple😉 nobody cares after that what happens. But the most important is a healthy and financially strong family
This all happens because of the pressure of social media. Wedding is just a celebration. It's the lifetime marriage that actually matters. The eagerness to make the marriage work for life is what we should be investing. Not these glitz and glamour etc.
I had my wedding in a rather budget setting. A normal restaurant, ask my neighbor to drive and using his car. His wife, my wife's bride maid(they are damn nice people, deserve praise and heaven's special care). Everything simple. 13 tables of banquet. We had no stress paying the bills and we don't need our guests/ relatives to burden the bills. That's self worthy wedding you can face heaven and earth proudly. We used the Ang Baws and went on a Finland 10 days Aroura chasing Trip and still got some to top up on the new house expenses. We didn't even need to take a loan or deplete our savings down to 4 digits. A dream wedding? Something that don't give you nightmares after waking up is the REAL DREAM WEDDING...
my friend's wedding, Wedding car (rent from JB) Wedding Photographer - from Friend, (paid him red packet $50) for the day Wedding Suit for groom, rent from JB Wedding venue - Poolside at a Hotel in Joo Chiat area PA system for wedding - nil (used a $100 Hi fi system from Courts) Used self service buffet for wedding dinner instead. I applaud him for his budget wedding which he saved the money on lavish weddings, and went on a trip instead.
My wedding costs 5,000 NZD. It was my fairytale wedding with 80 guests. I did not ask for gifts, instead I just asked for their help with the preparation and everyone definitely helped.
My wedding reception cost me few thousand Ringgit Malsyia. And it was attended by my neighbours, relatives, friends. Around 1000 people attended my wedding reception. I paid for the catering, tent.
I think I have been kind enough to give angbao based on the market rate. But that does not mean couples should just opt for an expensive venue and expect the angbaos to cover your expenditure.
The question was why? The answer is because people (worldwide due to social media) are increasingly superficial (increasingly less practical). It's all about looking good to others and appear "successful".
@@monet23232 Aboslutely. And in a place like China with so many people competition is 100X more than other places like America or Europe. Life is difficult when you have so many competitors all fighting for the same stuff and all under the same pressure.
Money could always be earned back but you can't go back in time to make memories. However I think if the money was saved up first and invested, they would have been able to make more memories with that money and possible even more unique and valuable
I hope you all will focus on the marriage as much as your 4 hour of wedding bliss. The marriage is the most important part Many couples fight over wedding loans... and eventually divorce.
Ya, a super grand wedding that cost a few hundred thousand dollars and after one or two years couple find each other unbearable and go separate ways. What a waste of money. Sometimes couples with money to spare took stakes of photos of their wedding only to have them tuck away in the store room after their wedding. And usually at the cost of thousands of dollars. Usually couples would argue that its a once in a life time experience and they don't mind spending the money. Well, what a waste of funds. People around the world are dying of hunger.
Wedding is not a competition. It's about the union between 2 person and celebrating their love and marriage. Sadly, most people these days have unrealistic expectations and splurge too much on weddings.
right. My mom has a big social circle back in Indonesia. In the “lucky” months (after august till chinese new year), she could have 4 wedding invitations in one week end! It is exhausting and cost a lot too in the end (you are expected to bring gifts, and mostly stated they expect cash). and you can’t expect her to enjoy or to remember each wedding of the children of her friends anyway. My point is, not every guess enjoy your wedding 😂😂😋😂😂 .
Do whatever you want for this "once in a lifetime" BS. However don't except us to subsidies the cost. Don't start inviting everyone you know, even your primary school friends who you have not talked to for decades.
It’s interesting that Singapore has no international development agency like USAID (US), AusAid (Australia), JICA (Japan) of KOICA (Korean) while Singaporean couples spend crazy fat money on wedding.
I like that many people seem to think that "starting a new life together" also entails starting a new bank account together. In that, you drain everything and start from scratch. Well done. And the irony is, financial problems are one of the main reasons for divorce these days. So, you essentially screw your marriage before it even begins.
You can spend as much as you want but when you invite others , do it without expecting a cent back. Thats the only way to do it. I look down on people who expect their guests to cover their wedding. 😄
spending so much for a wedding to please other people is very shallow way of thinking, I suppose. I once caught a comment that i found very deep. The person said Save up and pay for the wedding yourself, don't start a marriage based on debt. Truly deep
It's absolute foolishness to spend money like this just to have photogenic memories and Instagram worthy pictures. There's no guarantee that the more you spend the longer your marriage will last . I'd rather save it and spend after first 10 years of marriage to celebrate a decade with him and then carry on every decade we complete together. The irony is the show matters the most. I'd rather save that money for renovations and baby expenses. The marriage day is not at all about anyone else other than the Bride and Groom , what others want or think doesn't matter at all . As far as they come to bless us genuinely that's all ...
Ahhh thanks CNA, I'm 21 with a +1 and we like many others have talked abt our future as a couple, we finally stumbled upon this informative video!! Thanks! Guess my comment can be added into your research as well:)
We broke even for our entire wedding, including the banquet. Just be firm on what you want and what you don't want. We ignore our photographer's black face when we declined a wedding album. We had a lunch, instead of dinner, reception. We chose the hotel in Changi Village for its beautiful environment. We kept the guest list to only our closest friends and family. Etc etc. And we paid a princely sum of $0 (maybe a bit of profit I can't remember liao) for the entire event. You can do it too! Don't bow to peer pressure! Most people would have forgotten your wedding even before leaving the banquet. But you will carrying on paying for it if you're not careful.
Looks like young couples get into debt before they start life together, no wonder divorce is climbing due to financial problems after the wedding. Couples fall for unrealistic pressures and the winners are the wedding services businesses!
Grooms, if you are spending mad $ to impress your future wife, remember that marriage is a partnership. You are a unit who should look out for one another, especially on frivolous spending. Even if you can afford it, your wife should have realistic expectations and steer you away from useless spending. Is it about your marriage or just one day of excess spending?!
The funny thing that turn norm is the couple spent sky figures on lavish wedding and housing then divorce in lightning speed within months of newly wed. Worth to drag others along to the slump?
Getting married is a bad decision. It is expensive and at the same time it is risky. Getting married is expensive but if it doesn't work out, along comes divorce. Divorce is even more expensive. So take my advise, stay single and enjoy your money and freedom.
Save your money on better things - for rainy days, for your retirement, for your house, for your future. It's honestly unnecessary to spend a tonne of money to impress people whom you barely know of or not having a sort of meaningful relationship, it's this culture in the Chinese community to "save face", the grander the better. Even if it's true that it's the only time when many families regard it to be a special family occasion and would even help with making it look spectacular like it's in the movies, I'd rather spend it on having a smaller intimate wedding banquet and not feel awkward about any guests on my list at all. It's gonna be fine even if your wedding isn't like what some celebrities or wealthy people do. Marriage is more important than the wedding's presentation. Take a chill pill and invest the energy into your marriage instead.
magnificient wedding (show) VS great marriage ?? tragically , it's SO irony that young couples view weddings as SHOW Case, trying to impress guests and to expect invited guests with a minimal 'angpaos' to cover your wedding costs ???? and many gets loans too ??? WOW
Asian and wedding ceremony is a big peer pressure, not only from yourself and your spouse, also from parents of both sides. Everyone wants to out perform their relatives and friends, it's always a competition, from day 1 of pre-k all the way to your wedding, then they compete on their children. lol. Not only the money, in recent year, there are massive trend on the couple performing on stage too, you'd be embarrassed if you can't pull off a nice song near perfect, gotta sign up for singing or dancing lesson several months ahead of your own show. LMAO~ the whole proposal is a joke, because it was already discussed in private and the actual process was orchestrated with intent to create a short film, hence explains the multiple cameras following them capturing the whole event.
unless you have a rich family, why not? if money isn't an issue, it's just another way to splash out money, also Indonesians tend to take wedding to the next level as well.
Before, I always thought it was just one ring - wedding ring. So, there's an engagement ring, that cost even hell more than the actual ring!? The heck...? Who came out with this rule?
@@brackpersian ahh I see. Thank you. No wonder that person who had be realised the existence of such a thing was talking about the carat of her engagement ring. All I can think was "what there's such a thing ad an engagement ring???". 😅😅
for me i will never ever get married. because i have been single all my life. i never ever have any relationship at all I was get rejected over and over again.
If u hv tons of money or super rich type u can spend hw u want it to be....fairytales wedding like in korea drama. But after all is not just hw lavish the wedding goes but in the end is the relationship between the couples whether it can last forever when oath says till death do us part. Relationship to last forever not just on materialism but patient n endurance as it goes along. Life changes every nw n then.....its a journey of life to spend together as husband n wife.
lol my dad offered to pay for my wedding but he gave me cash instead. I used that to buy our first house and just eloped =3 now my home grown 300k in value since i bought the house in 3 years
If you want to splurge on a fairytale wedding, its your money. But don't expect your friends and family to cover the cost with angbaos
Also, how manhy of the relatives or friends will care if it is a lavish wedding. They probably will talk about it for 10 minutes but the couples will have to pay for it for years. This seems to be an attention and validation seeking exercise for the couples.
Aware of it lah😄
😹😹😹😹:
Hahaha ... It is true that this is an event that is only supposed to happen once in a lifetime ... But I do not think that spending a fortune will make this day something more beautiful or more solid, like family or friends, monnaie, it may be a solution as a problem, and it is the years, the times that give meaning to certain words and actions. It is a moral contract between two people and those around them to get the best rather than the worst ...
The more fairytale the wedding, the less you should give in the angpow because they are too rich to need big angpows.
Correct. 100% agree with Tommy
My girlfriend was asked the question about what is the most important thing during your wedding day.
She replied: "The person I'm marrying to."
Just hearing her say that, I know I'm blessed. 😌
ClearlyMAD I think your gf might be a guy
@@tianmu5507 🤣🤣
You are truly blessed man.
Just hearing her say that, you know you want to give her a lavish wedding that she will never regret right? Right??
Even if it cost you a fortune right?
i'd rather splurge on the honeymoon. why waste it all for one day to impress people you rarely meet anyway?
You're right
I rather spurge it on the days for future house expenses or day to day after wedding
@@haliridzkin5745 even better! but imo still nothing wrong with spending a little more on your honeymoon instead of the wedding to make your spouse happy - one of the purposes of marriage in itself lol
@jyuean That's olden day tradition, nowadays people don't even want to talk to the boomer generation. Only those people who want to satisfy family members will cave in and have an expensive wedding. Otherwise, most couples will know to save money or spend it on something else.
i would also splurge on the honeymoon too. take the opportunity to do a full round trip across US or europe rather than just visiting 1 or 2 cities at a time.
This is a grown up version of peer pressure.
so is new iphone every year. lol
You got the point
My daughter got married last month. Due to go vid pandemic, I was not able to hold a wedding reception for her.
Initially I paid deposit for a hall. But as the raging Co vid shows no sign of receding, the govt decreed that no wedding reception to be held.
So the solemnisarion was done in Pejabbat agama.
Then my son in law family came to my house for a small reception
It all boils down to the saving face culture especially among the Chinese Singaporeans. A successful Marriage is not defined by how grand the wedding is
Not only Chinese...other races too...saving has nothing to do with race....
Kiasu culture!!! 😂
@Gap I reckon it is not possible to recoup most of it. The weddings far outweigh the hong paos I imagine!
Ikr singapore so small , it’s not a village like mainland China anymore now still got what dowry and gold some more? Daughter will run meh
Please also do coverage for cost of divorce per married couple in Singapore. Looking forward to it.
So bad. Hahaha
Way too expensive, costs 50% of your entire assets. Jeff Bezos can testify to it. 🤣
This is why you don’t tell your love ones ur loaded. Just keep your big mouth shut. As my mentor always said, ‘Silence is golden’.
And only the big guys out there know how and when to keep their big mouth shut.
Hahahaha true..after wedding alot of couples argue about financial expenses that lead to divorce. For a day of show, a lifetime of fustrations and arguements. Be wise. Work within your means.😉. Dont be fooled by insta shows and impress ppl becos what goes on behind the scenes when all this show is over leads to financial issues,arguements and divorces. Thats why the divorce rates are the shockingly high like tap water gushing out. Pls wake up and be realistic
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Ultimately if you have the money, no issues going with a big wedding. Really depends on what you value.
People get the misconception that the guests actually care about your wedding. They don’t, except your parents.
If you have a hotel wedding, no offense to those who do, it’s going to be a generic wedding that’s going to be so forgettable because hotel weddings are so typical regardless of what performance that is put up. The only weddings I remembered are a ROM at a church, and a wedding dinner at a civil service club hall. (I’ve poor memory)
Best bang for the buck really is to use the money and go for holidays, honeymoon. The memories from the holiday will be more memorable and last longer compared to those from the wedding where everything happens so fast. If you save $10K from a wedding you could go for so many holidays!
Borrowing money for a big wedding is just silly.
I go for the Suckling Pig, not for the Wed. :D
I honestly don’t like public proposals, they are scary 🤦🏻♀️
Me too. I l prefer a private proposal. Its more intimate.
Public proposal?
Like kneeling and ask the girl to marry you?
Imagine what a moron you would be if she turns down your proposal in public
most of the reason for this couple to spend on lavish wedding is "I want people to remember it". Realistically, people don't even cares about your wedding.
A good man is priceless. An expensive proposal or wedding is useless.
A wedding vow comes from the heart not how much money you spent to satisfy your spouse.
@@clementwang7097 I mean that's already a red flag
Divorce rate is around 33%.
Someone you know is confirmed divorced before or currently divorced. My advice is pls pls spend within your means and don't take loans. Save the money for your house, renovation and for your child.
Lastly, does the market rate wedding ANG bao matter? No. Just give what you can afford.
Don't lidat la. i only attend weddings of friends that are worth it. And to bless them I also hope to cover their expenses. My advice, if you're not close enough to want to at least cover expense for them, tell them you're not going. rather than go and then bao so little.
Really sad to start a marriage with debts. As if the renovation, house loan are not enough. Still remembered a local couple spent $100,000+ on wedding and nearly ended up divorce. It's reported in the news.
Yup.
No point being saddled with debts just because of wedding reception.
Just hold a reception according to your budget.
And nobody would say about a small reception.
People are preoccupied with their life and they have no time to talk bad about uou
My daughter asked how much I’d saved for her wedding. $40,000 USD. Not a penny more. She said there was a parcel of 500 acres of land where they wanted to build a home. She asked if she would buy the land, get married on the land and have a modest ceremony. That seemed a much wiser use of her money. It was a lovely wedding and now they built their home, paid cash and they own a great piece of land.
That's very sweet. We share different culture in Singapore tho. Usually its the couple that save up themselves and paid for their own wedding or took loan. The collected gift's money(Red packet with money known as Ang Paw from guests) would have a portion given to the bride's parents as an appreciation of raising the wonderful child and the rest of the portion would then be used to settle the banquet bills. Paying for child's wedding isn't a common practice here. But I heard China have the whole village of relatives to raise funds to play for the couple's lavish wedding of days of long feasts. Now that's really isn't practical.
My husband proposed me with a ring at a place just he and myself. We celebrated our wedding at a buffet restaurant with 30 close family members and friends. We are happily married since 2011. The most important thing about wedding is to marry the right person.
Please consider including Malay and Indian couples too.
spend so much for this 'once in a lifetime event', which 95% of the invited guests would have forgotten about it in a few months time, and 80% of the invited guests wished you hadn't invited them so they didn't have to waste money on a red bomb and their precious time which they rather spend sleeping at home. very worth it indeed.
The worst is traveling to a wedding and never saying more than a few words to the bride and groom.
What is a "red bomb"?
Ikr $200 per Ang Pao is crazy
The idea of a wedding gives me anxiety because I prefer to stay out of the spotlight.
Let me give you guys my budget,
Wed band 700
ROM registry 100
Most expensive part of my wedding is the time spend to go down to ROM which is 1.5hr
the last couple is the winner! cheers!
Hedonistic lifestyle, don't buy lifestyle that u can't afford.
Think about it, it's about wedding or marriage?
It’s about showing off 😅
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@@PP-vf1kx my married life is happily ever after. Got house, car and no debts.
I only spend around 5K for close friend and family for dinner.
During this covid pandemic period, It's a blessing in disguise for those who don't want to splurge on their wedding dinner. Many took the opportunity to skip this & just underwent customary tea ceremony.
Wedding is about the future for a new couple. Save the money for more important things is wiser.
no wonder there are ppl who avoid wedding invitation like a plague..
Ahah, I am one such person
true. my mom had big social circle and in wedding months, she could get like 3-4 wedding invitations per week end! imagine the money she has to spend for ang bao and the time!
You know it's too expensive when Rai's eyes get bigger lol
What i learnt from going to 20 years of weddings: 1#Never give too much Hongbao to your close friends and family. When its your turn to marry, the same ppl will only gift you back half the amount due to life expenses such as mortgage and kids. 2#People are there for the food. 3#Weddings with no alcohol is a very boring wedding hahahhaaa 4#When the bride and groom are smiling and having a good time, the guests will too!
Jordan.. The expression on my wife face money cannot buy.. Ironic statement because money made it possible
Wait till you see the face when she finds out how much it costs.
omg yaaaa!!!
The wedding experiences that i talk about till today are those filled with joy tears, heart, feelings and sincerity, not the ooomph and poomph of any luxury whatsoever.
In the past, couples married within their means, and wedding angpows are meant to give the young a couple a financial foundation to start their married life with
Nowadays, wedding angpows are factored in when counting the cost of the wedding itself
How can that women let her fiance's hard earned savings for a mere quick wedding ceremony...
After divorce, everything down the drain and throw away
Win for the last couple. Their wedding seems fun. In the end, that's all that matters.
the last wedding looks cool and fun ! money better off spending elsewhere (like home , travel, kids)
I went back to reservist. Heard a mate complained he is gonna use 70% of his hard earn life savings on his wedding. Pleasing his parents,relatives. Put on a show. Seriously think hard about life after wedding. The house expenses, kids, health,education,work and most of all working in singapore is already hard enough. Live simply and be happy. No wonder the rate of divorces are shockingly high. All this wedding packages, movies,advertisments are there to fool people. Be realistic and be simple😉 nobody cares after that what happens. But the most important is a healthy and financially strong family
70% ? Really bad financial decision
I spent $1000 on my wedding and still feel it was too much.
Lakshmi Kimmu it also depends on your financial status and spending power. There’s no right or wrong.
At least u can retire without regrets
@@123samanthastar more like getting married without regrets
This all happens because of the pressure of social media. Wedding is just a celebration. It's the lifetime marriage that actually matters. The eagerness to make the marriage work for life is what we should be investing. Not these glitz and glamour etc.
Is more of social pressure to not get 'look down' for being cheapo :/
ur so right and to show off...but they give lots of BS reasons lol
I had my wedding in a rather budget setting. A normal restaurant, ask my neighbor to drive and using his car. His wife, my wife's bride maid(they are damn nice people, deserve praise and heaven's special care). Everything simple. 13 tables of banquet. We had no stress paying the bills and we don't need our guests/ relatives to burden the bills. That's self worthy wedding you can face heaven and earth proudly. We used the Ang Baws and went on a Finland 10 days Aroura chasing Trip and still got some to top up on the new house expenses. We didn't even need to take a loan or deplete our savings down to 4 digits. A dream wedding? Something that don't give you nightmares after waking up is the REAL DREAM WEDDING...
my friend's wedding,
Wedding car (rent from JB)
Wedding Photographer - from Friend, (paid him red packet $50) for the day
Wedding Suit for groom, rent from JB
Wedding venue - Poolside at a Hotel in Joo Chiat area
PA system for wedding - nil (used a $100 Hi fi system from Courts)
Used self service buffet for wedding dinner instead.
I applaud him for his budget wedding which he saved the money on lavish weddings, and went on a trip instead.
My wedding costs 5,000 NZD. It was my fairytale wedding with 80 guests. I did not ask for gifts, instead I just asked for their help with the preparation and everyone definitely helped.
My wedding reception cost me few thousand Ringgit Malsyia.
And it was attended by my neighbours, relatives, friends. Around 1000 people attended my wedding reception.
I paid for the catering, tent.
I think I have been kind enough to give angbao based on the market rate. But that does not mean couples should just opt for an expensive venue and expect the angbaos to cover your expenditure.
Why am I watching this, I'm already married, damage done 😂
Divorce is cheaper than these weddings
The question was why? The answer is because people (worldwide due to social media) are increasingly superficial (increasingly less practical). It's all about looking good to others and appear "successful".
Some Chinese did it to please their parents. Some parents are very competitive and want to show off their children’s success.
@@monet23232 Aboslutely. And in a place like China with so many people competition is 100X more than other places like America or Europe. Life is difficult when you have so many competitors all fighting for the same stuff and all under the same pressure.
Money could always be earned back but you can't go back in time to make memories. However I think if the money was saved up first and invested, they would have been able to make more memories with that money and possible even more unique and valuable
I hope you all will focus on the marriage as much as your 4 hour of wedding bliss. The marriage is the most important part Many couples fight over wedding loans... and eventually divorce.
16:00 "you can't buy with money" , you just spend over 5 digits, that's not money? Ironic...
Meanwhile his pant for interview is quite pathetic, 😁
Wedding price surpasses our expectation. I often image how I can do for my children by using this money.
Ya, a super grand wedding that cost a few hundred thousand dollars and after one or two years couple find each other unbearable and go separate ways. What a waste of money. Sometimes couples with money to spare took stakes of photos of their wedding only to have them tuck away in the store room after their wedding. And usually at the cost of thousands of dollars. Usually couples would argue that its a once in a life time experience and they don't mind spending the money. Well, what a waste of funds. People around the world are dying of hunger.
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2020 and 2021 were our memorial years ever. No wedding dinner to attend. We saved lots of angpow money. Thank you COVID-19.
They will spend all this money on an elaborate party, but sit at an IKEA furniture in their home. 🤷🏻♂️ Priorities? #ThoughtsOfAnID
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Buy a house.... then have a small reception there!
Wedding is not a competition. It's about the union between 2 person and celebrating their love and marriage. Sadly, most people these days have unrealistic expectations and splurge too much on weddings.
Mine will be church wedding with buffet. No banquet, no flowers boys or girls, no fanciful set up, no 过大礼.
过大礼 is ancient Chinese rural kampong tradition, I’m glad u don’t practice it ! Cheers
imagine spending a 100k only to get divorced....
I pity the social media generation
right. My mom has a big social circle back in Indonesia. In the “lucky” months (after august till chinese new year), she could have 4 wedding invitations in one week end! It is exhausting and cost a lot too in the end (you are expected to bring gifts, and mostly stated they expect cash). and you can’t expect her to enjoy or to remember each wedding of the children of her friends anyway. My point is, not every guess enjoy your wedding 😂😂😋😂😂 .
Do whatever you want for this "once in a lifetime" BS. However don't except us to subsidies the cost. Don't start inviting everyone you know, even your primary school friends who you have not talked to for decades.
Good idea. Sensible
It’s interesting that Singapore has no international development agency like USAID (US), AusAid (Australia), JICA (Japan) of KOICA (Korean) while Singaporean couples spend crazy fat money on wedding.
The wedding I will remember as a guest is definitely the last one. Looked so fun!
I like that many people seem to think that "starting a new life together" also entails starting a new bank account together. In that, you drain everything and start from scratch. Well done.
And the irony is, financial problems are one of the main reasons for divorce these days. So, you essentially screw your marriage before it even begins.
You can spend as much as you want but when you invite others , do it without expecting a cent back. Thats the only way to do it. I look down on people who expect their guests to cover their wedding. 😄
spending so much for a wedding to please other people is very shallow way of thinking, I suppose. I once caught a comment that i found very deep. The person said Save up and pay for the wedding yourself, don't start a marriage based on debt. Truly deep
It's absolute foolishness to spend money like this just to have photogenic memories and Instagram worthy pictures. There's no guarantee that the more you spend the longer your marriage will last . I'd rather save it and spend after first 10 years of marriage to celebrate a decade with him and then carry on every decade we complete together. The irony is the show matters the most. I'd rather save that money for renovations and baby expenses. The marriage day is not at all about anyone else other than the Bride and Groom , what others want or think doesn't matter at all . As far as they come to bless us genuinely that's all ...
Ahhh thanks CNA, I'm 21 with a +1 and we like many others have talked abt our future as a couple, we finally stumbled upon this informative video!! Thanks! Guess my comment can be added into your research as well:)
We broke even for our entire wedding, including the banquet. Just be firm on what you want and what you don't want. We ignore our photographer's black face when we declined a wedding album. We had a lunch, instead of dinner, reception. We chose the hotel in Changi Village for its beautiful environment. We kept the guest list to only our closest friends and family. Etc etc. And we paid a princely sum of $0 (maybe a bit of profit I can't remember liao) for the entire event.
You can do it too! Don't bow to peer pressure! Most people would have forgotten your wedding even before leaving the banquet. But you will carrying on paying for it if you're not careful.
Just remember the divorce rate is high. Use the money help the poor better 🧘🏿♂️
$50k is enough for a nice apartement down payment and $ 17k left for start new life together as a couple..
Exactly!!! Could even pay for renovation and furniture and appliances
Yes indeed going for a wedding dinner is a darn expensive thing
Looks like young couples get into debt before they start life together, no wonder divorce is climbing due to financial problems after the wedding. Couples fall for unrealistic pressures and the winners are the wedding services businesses!
Grooms, if you are spending mad $ to impress your future wife, remember that marriage is a partnership. You are a unit who should look out for one another, especially on frivolous spending. Even if you can afford it, your wife should have realistic expectations and steer you away from useless spending. Is it about your marriage or just one day of excess spending?!
The funny thing that turn norm is the couple spent sky figures on lavish wedding and housing then divorce in lightning speed within months of newly wed. Worth to drag others along to the slump?
The last one is probably the most memorable of all.
I wonder how many of these couples are still stay married?? please do a followup.
A good marriage is more important than a lavish wedding 💒
Getting married is a bad decision. It is expensive and at the same time it is risky. Getting married is expensive but if it doesn't work out, along comes divorce. Divorce is even more expensive. So take my advise, stay single and enjoy your money and freedom.
Save your money on better things - for rainy days, for your retirement, for your house, for your future. It's honestly unnecessary to spend a tonne of money to impress people whom you barely know of or not having a sort of meaningful relationship, it's this culture in the Chinese community to "save face", the grander the better. Even if it's true that it's the only time when many families regard it to be a special family occasion and would even help with making it look spectacular like it's in the movies, I'd rather spend it on having a smaller intimate wedding banquet and not feel awkward about any guests on my list at all. It's gonna be fine even if your wedding isn't like what some celebrities or wealthy people do. Marriage is more important than the wedding's presentation. Take a chill pill and invest the energy into your marriage instead.
Borrowing money for a big wedding is just insanity as give it 10 years and will soon all be over anyway and the lawyers fighting for housing rights..
magnificient wedding (show) VS great marriage ??
tragically ,
it's SO irony that young couples view weddings as SHOW Case,
trying to impress guests and to expect invited guests with a minimal 'angpaos' to cover your wedding costs ????
and many gets loans too ??? WOW
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Asian and wedding ceremony is a big peer pressure, not only from yourself and your spouse, also from parents of both sides. Everyone wants to out perform their relatives and friends, it's always a competition, from day 1 of pre-k all the way to your wedding, then they compete on their children. lol. Not only the money, in recent year, there are massive trend on the couple performing on stage too, you'd be embarrassed if you can't pull off a nice song near perfect, gotta sign up for singing or dancing lesson several months ahead of your own show. LMAO~ the whole proposal is a joke, because it was already discussed in private and the actual process was orchestrated with intent to create a short film, hence explains the multiple cameras following them capturing the whole event.
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The lady who won’t marry w/o marry proposal? Let her wait. 😂
unless you have a rich family, why not? if money isn't an issue, it's just another way to splash out money, also Indonesians tend to take wedding to the next level as well.
Before, I always thought it was just one ring - wedding ring. So, there's an engagement ring, that cost even hell more than the actual ring!? The heck...? Who came out with this rule?
Because mostly people just want “face”. The more grand the wedding is, the more the face their parents has to “show off”
@@brackpersian ahh I see. Thank you. No wonder that person who had be realised the existence of such a thing was talking about the carat of her engagement ring. All I can think was "what there's such a thing ad an engagement ring???". 😅😅
2:41 something is very wrong with his fiancee.
I feel nauseated
for me i will never ever get married. because i have been single all my life. i never ever have any relationship at all I was get rejected over and over again.
10:56, people will always forget it anyways but your bank account won't
If u hv tons of money or super rich type u can spend hw u want it to be....fairytales wedding like in korea drama. But after all is not just hw lavish the wedding goes but in the end is the relationship between the couples whether it can last forever when oath says till death do us part. Relationship to last forever not just on materialism but patient n endurance as it goes along. Life changes every nw n then.....its a journey of life to spend together as husband n wife.
What a waste of $ on proposals n weddings.
Imagine the overseas trips you could've taken over the years with those money..
$50k, could’ve travelled around the world 😅😅😅
Endless and wonderful memories can also be made after the marriage ceremony.
Splurge one day then divorce after after a year...what a waste
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The best way is to stayed single and avoid relationship.
All this is really an extravagant show. And so much for the concern about the carbon footprint on the climate!
3 words....don't do it!
lol my dad offered to pay for my wedding but he gave me cash instead. I used that to buy our first house and just eloped =3 now my home grown 300k in value since i bought the house in 3 years
Smart.
Wait, $2000 customized RENTAL wedding gown 😱? All that money just to wear it for several hours?
That’s crazy right? Welcome to Singapore where “face” matters :)
@@brackpersian It truly is another level of “keeping the face"!
I think it’s far wiser to save up for retirement in this covid era