I am 27 and I have been avoiding men all my life. My father was emotionally abusive towards me, made me not to trust men. I have never had any male friends or boyfriends or whatever... It's hard to mature and have grown up relationships even with my female friends.
Same I'm 16 and I still live with my parents. They're both emotionally abusive and don't care about my health, but what probably triggered my phobia was how boys treated me at school. When I was in middle school, people would call me names and make fun of me (especially boys). A male teacher made me and other girls uncomfortable by touching our hands, shoulders, and even thighs whenever he would talk to us. In high school, this guy would call me racial slurs, hit me, and make fun of me. He even cracked my fucking wrist before. I reported him but the administration didn't do shit. I just hope I don't get harassed by men anymore.
@@parissk5315 That's terrible! But you are stronger now, having faced all these shit 🙂 And the good thing is you are young and aware of your situation, so you have plenty of time to turn things around.
do what it takes to make YOURSELF feel safe you shouldn't do something you don't want to do from the pressure of friends cause if they were real they wouldn't pressure knowing your traumatic past
I was sexually harassed and now am afraid of men .. I keep having nightmares and when guy approch me I run away .. it so scary how the fear magnify and cloud your judgment you start to feel threatened by everyone and be anxious all time .
hey, i'm here if you need someone to talk to okay? no one deserves to go through this and they need proper help if they want to overcome it. if it becomes too much to handle, please open up to someone or get therapy.
@@DynastieArtistique only 47% ?? What the heck but at the same time that explains why only 1% of my family are male meanwhile I have tons of new and old female family members
I think im starting to develop this phobia. Since i was 10 it's been difficult for me to be around older men, (im 14) im pretty sure it's getting worse now because a good amount of the time when i go out i always make sure i dont wear anything to "bold" or any shorts and my mind is covered with ways to avoid men but even then i still feel so uncomfortable to the point where i start wanting to cry and if i see an older man i start talking loudly about my age and school and i even feel uncomfortable around male family members, half of the time it takes alot to hug them.
I really relate to what you’re saying and if you want to talk about it I’m here. I also feel this way and I would love to have conversations about it with people who go through the same thing( I’m 15 btw, so I’m assuming we’re the same age now too).
I can be with one guy and it's all good, but when I'm with a group of boys my anxiety levels go to the roof top to the point where I have sweaty palms and I start to shake. I've been treated very bad by men since i was little and it's very sad that there are some few that I can say are good (in my life of course). I hope to recover from this one day.
maximiliano de las mercedes i’m exactly like this, but once i was sexually assaulted in the street. i didn’t even notice it had really affected me, but i think subconsciously it did. just know that ur not alone, we can get through this it’ll just take time💗
@@lucygracie Thank you for your comment Lucy, and if I may, I'm so sorry for what happened to you. Like you said we WILL recover with time but also patience and love. Stay strong ✊❤🏵️
I really all of you can recover. It must've been very hard to go through that and it's sad that stuff like that is still happening and You both had to go through it. I feel sorry for you both. I hope you can recover from such things like that.👍
@Max Smith really? Cause its happened to me more than once and the last encounter was in march before schools closed , I'm in campus btw. I passed by a group of men and they were all looking at me and laughing, so what is that?
I think I have this too, but, like, I just kind of panic a little and I have some male friends, but they look really young and they are my friend’s friends too (it took me months to talk to them normally) Oh I forgot , I was “abused” when I was younger, I mean, it wasn’t that serious but I got a traumatized and even thought about killing myself when I was like 9 I’m 13 btw
I'm scared of men because I've been sexually harassed by my own step grandfather! He has done this when I was 8 and sometimes now It has happened for a very long time until I told my mom... She forgot about it so he never got in trouble... He is still at my grandmother's house and hasn't done anything bad to me until I woke up a little early and found him hugging me but in an uncomfortable way... He also always is asking me for hugs randomly or when I want something... I'm scared and when I feel good one day and wear a dress or skirt I always see a man looking at me I don't like it! I don't know if I should tell my mother or anyone else this right now because I'm afraid of them telling me " you should've told me sooner!" Even though I did.... I lose sleep because I feel like my brothers would do something bad to me! If I like a guy I quickly lose interest in them because I think they're going to do something bad to me! My dad when I was a baby would always try to hurt my mom and I would even get to the point where we would have to sleep in the car! My mom told me all the tragic stories that happened to her when my dad would hurt her... Thank God he doesn't live with us anymore
I’m similar I’ve never had a negative experience with a man unlike you but I feel like they’re all sexually attracted to me. I’m not even that attractive but I feel like they’re fantasising and they’re going to try something. This is literally every man I meet over 17 and it’s hell
What is that Yes, that’s true and I know that. It’s just the fear whenever you see one just makes you freeze up. They could be the most celibate and moral guy to ever exist but it would still make you terrified. It’s a shame really.
I've never had irl male friends or been comfortable talking or being around men , i wouldnt say its a full on phobia but the uneasiness is there. i dont trust their intentions and i feel like many men don’t view women with empathy
@Brock lesner if thats the case why are nearly 40 percent of female homicide victims killed by a domestic partner and why is domestic violence the leading cause of death for women ages 15-49 worldwide? why is there a multi million dollar sex traficking industry most victims which are female? why do women carry pepper spray when they go out and why are we told not to walk outside at night? maybe theres some good men but women generally live their lives in fear of men and millions of women die and suffer at the hands of men. "men protect women" is mostly a PR lie.
@Brock lesner majority of murder is done by men as well. and if women were treated as vip for all of history why was marital rape and domestic violence legal and why werent women allowed to have bank accounts or own property? women were treated as livestock. i agree pornography is bad and should be stopped, and the porn industry further proves my point that many men harm women in various ways, including media. but the root of the issue is deeper. sadly even before porn many men view women as objects and have no empathy to them, porn just feeds into that already existing male mindset. even before porn and media, rape and harrasment happened. women in the victorian era used to carry these long metal needles in their hats to ward off harassers. additionally, your point about the clothes doesnt make sense bc women fully covered get raped too, like in the middle east. theres even some studies that say women who are more covered may get raped more bc they are seen as more meek and submissive and out of sight. men may be destined to protect women but a good lot of them sure use unfair advantage to just control and hurt them. a lot of men just hate women as seen in how it manifests in real life violence and media portrayals and even music that brags about raping women. and i wish they didnt. id agree that men should be taught to view women as humans and not objects to help stop these issues as well as getting rid of porn.
@Brock lesner mothers who abuse their children are wrong and bad , yes. But you don’t see me trying to rationalize it and justify it whereas your trying to blame rape on something as insignificant as women’s clothing. Rape is a very bad crime and it’s not triggered by something as simple as clothing, and this mentality only blames the victim and takes away accountability from the bad guy so it’s contributing to the problem . If you think rape is bad and should stop , dont blame the victim. Additionally stop trying to rationalize or downplay the fact that women were oppressed in the past. Women couldn’t have credit cards until the 70s. Ruth baded Ginsburg graduated top of her class and she had trouble finding a job bc she was told women are too emotional to be in law. It’s important to acknowledge how bad things were in the past so if doesn’t happen again. Marital rape isn’t the solution to adultery , men need to control themselves.
@Brock lesner maybe your not justifying rape but your saying it’s caused by exposure of female body , which isn’t true , the human body is natural and before civilization in caveman times women weren’t covered head to toe. If the female body is presented in disrespectful and dehumanizing ways in media then yeah it will lead to disrespect, so society has to be taught to respect women. Also men giving their lives once every 100 years participating in wars started by other men doesn’t justify them to enslave all women lol
I am a homosexual boy and I too have serious androphobia. I have never had any male friends and I find it difficult to trust guys. I’m always afraid that they want to harm and harass me.
At first I thought it was because of my social anxiety and my introversion but it never happened when I'm in a girl group or surrounded with girls (I'm also a girl). I don't have any trauma I just started to notice it develope last year cause I would feel anxious around boys and men. Actually no one gets it that I can't have a normal talk with a boy without shaking or my heart pounding. But I'm working on my problem little by little if you have any advice please tell me 😊
I don’t think mine is severe but i am uncomfortable near any man relatives or not, and REFUSE to be alone with any guy aside from my grandpa and dad. The few times i was alone with men other than them i was very scared and tried to stay as physically away from them as possible. And idk why i have never been molested or abused it is just ingrained in me. 😢
one day I suddenly realize that I'm actually scared of men. there's been several signs and thoughts but I just kept ignoring them. because I don't want to feel abnormal and such. then the moment I found out I might have androphobia, I just realize that I can't keep escape any more. I have to face the fact and deal with it. this video has given me a lot of comfort, I'm greatful
I have been suffering from this phobia since I was four. It developed from my father whenever he comes home drunk and wants to cuddle. I always cry but my mother never understood why. I never wanted to get touched by a man, even my father and my brother without my consent. Gladly, it lessened due to my family has more male members. I learned how to get along with them and even had some guy friends. But never did I let them touch me because my androphobia gets triggered whenever I receive caress from any guy that I am not comfortable with, well I'm really not physically comfortable to guys. And the fact that I'm claustrophobic as well is also a problem for me. 😒
Jannie Garcia Same, my fear developed mostly due to not physical, but other trauma. No one believes how afraid I am with physical situations, especially with men.
I had this way worst than now when I was your age until I turned 13, what I did was making friends with girls who had male friends and trying to talk to her friends when she was there with me, you will have to speak to her friends more and more until you get comfortable talking to them alone, now I even went out with two of my friends who are male and it was totally fine, I felt comfortable and stuff. when unknown guys approach me I still panic a little but if I’m with one of my female friends I can manage it to the point where they can’t see that I’m panicking This will take some months or one year ok lol, it took me soooo much time to be friends with them, it had a lot of ups and downs, like, I thought I was their friend and I actually wasn’t, I thought it was normal for male friends to hit you and call you a bitch but it actually wasn’t, 3 of my friends ended up liking me (omg it was a mess) and I got so fucking insecure bcs I thought the group of boys I was “friends” with was just spending time with me bcs some boys had a crush on me and I was boring and no one would ever want to be friends with a boring person like me (I still think that sometimes ) and then I learnt that smiling too much when talking to a boy may seem that you’re flirting, all that just because I didn’t talk to boys before so I didn’t understand them at all but I’m ok, I have 3 male friends and 2 female friends now, I’m happy with them, I have fun when I’m with them and I guess that’s all that matters Sorry for my English I’m not fluent yet
I have a fear of men because of the traumatic experiences I have experienced with men. I was a victim of sexual assault by a ex guy friend I trusted. I was also stalked and harassed by strangers who were catcalling me all because I told them no I’m not interested. I usually feel safe with my boyfriend and family but sometimes I am fearful with them as well. For example, if they get mad at me it can sometimes trigger traumatic memories I had with men in the past. I have talked to my boyfriend about this but I haven’t really discussed this with my family. Im in therapy now so I’m still in the process of healing.
i think i developed this when i was about 6 years old. a man tried to maniupulate me and my friend to get into his car and we both ran away as fast as we could. then when i was 8 a man said he wanted me and my sister to see him piss and get into a toilet (LMAOO I KNOW BUT ITS DISGUSTING) and he and then me and my sister ran. when i was 12 i was walking home and a man came up to me coughing really loudly then ran after me and i ran home crying and scared. Since then ive been scared of men :/ but i do understand that not all men are bad but i am still a bit distant and im very uncomfortable with male teachers.
Same here, I was a dumb kid and was at a family party (Where random people walked in and out they were strangers) My dad was not the best looking after me and my sister so while he was talking to a bunch of dudes, this guy bends down and grabs the plastic cups behind us and said something in the lines of "Hey wanna catch some fireflys?" He seemed really friendly and he had this goofy voice which i thought was funny at the time. I was jumping up and down excited after being bored just sitting there waiting to go home. So we were trying to catch a few and all of a sudden he says "Theres not many over here, Let's go over there" And point's to the side of the house, But the weird thing was no one was over there and it was SUPER dark. from where i was standing i couldn't see any firefly's but he stuck his hand out saying "Lets go over there to catch some more" I was with my sister and she was 2 years older than me so obviously she knew this guy was weird. She grabed my hand and told me no but i was dumb and really wanted to catch a firefly. so she went to our cousin (she was a teenager so she wasn't much help) she told us not to go with him but was stuck on her phone. he was saying "Come on were just gona catch some really quick" still holding my hand. Thankfully after i actually started to give it thought, i had a weird feeling in my stomach and said "No" he looked REALLY disappointed and looked around for a bit then just randomly left. Like just up and left the party really mad. I'm thankful i have my sister who is there for me and lookes out for me. But now i have trust issues with men. It's gotten even worse over the years being physically harassed by my male classmates
@@iwuvpiesgaming9164 oh gosh im so sorry that mustve been so traumatizing for u :( that guy is sick im glad ur sister was there who knows what couldve happened
I hate having this fear. It stops me from living full life and I do want to mingle with men as they have a good sense of humor and it is very fun to hang out with men. I was sexually assaulted when I was 8 by 2 guys and in school I was bullied and sometimes beaten up by boys. Also my parental grandmother and my aunt would tell me that boys are dangerous and I should be careful around them. Today I am 26 and I have never had a male friend in my school or college. I wish androphobia would get the hell out of my life!
I get really anxious and freaked out around men and I feel like it’s holding me back in my friendships. I don’t hate men and I’m friends with some but the anxiety is real and I don’t know how to make it stop. If feels just like being in a dark room. I’m terrified of the dark.
This is really very traumatic I have been facing this since my childhood and I am now 27 and never had any male frd or boyfriend. Being a hypersensitive person instances of molestation has broken me from inside I don't know how I will spend my life in a country like India where a woman's life can't be imagined without marriage. I have faced lots of difficulty in my professional life and finally left it due male dominance in my organization. 😒😒
How should i treat my girlfriend, because she’s been a victim of such event and this phobia has got her still she’s with me happily but we can’t get ourselves physically involved as she’s been through a traumatic experience but I can’t let her live with her fears, even after marriage we’ve decided to adopt kids but still can’t let her live like this . Someone please help me, help me help her. 😔
Ari Berryy thank you very much for your concern but I’ve already asked her for that, maybe after a while i should. And i took it very positively 😊😊😊 thanks again.
@@akashsinghrathore2283 You're welcome... Just don't be forceful about it with her, if she isn't comfortable she won't be able to allow herself to get over it,, things can become complicated just keep her safe with kindness^^
I get anxious and scared when guys are around me, especially if I'm in a room alone with one or more guys, even with family members I get anxious and go to leave the room unless my mom or tía is there with me Idk if I have this but I think so...
@Brunzner Accepting feedback and criticism is one thing, but experiencing a mental aversion is something that requires healing, not condemnation through words like "stupid." Of course, people may criticize others for their aversions, as they cannot know the full extent of their lives. However, once they come to understand the reasons behind these reactions, there is no need for further meaningless criticism. At the very least, they should wish for their recovery and, if needed, offer help and support.
Not trying to show off or something but since I was small, I was attractive and u know I was one of that girl who all the boys loved😣. All the boys I knew were perverts and I think I'm having fears of it, it's just like I don't feel safe and I always feel uncomfortable😟😖. I wear non revealing clothes just to be out of their sight like long sleeves and appropriate clothes.I've been avoiding relationships and I feel like I'm really scared of boys.
Noora Bader That’s awful, I completely relate. I mean not all the boys love me but I’m pretty fine y’know. Hopefully it’ll wear off as you get older. My best wishes.
Noora Saifs, I just watched some videos on your main channel and tbh you’re not very attractive. Not trying to be rude that’s just my opinion. It’s kinda sad how there are so many narcissistic people nowadays that think they look very attractive or good while they don’t t.
I think it is inherent in more women than we think I wasn't abused as a kid I just can't be around men, I literally run walk/run away from men who try to approach me it's always been that way I can't even be alone with my own family. Yes my dad was an asshole ( not necessarily abusive) and any little thing would set him off but I can separate my feelings towards him from my feelings towards other men, except for the fact that at one time i didn't think men were capable of love it's a stupid opinion now but every now and then it pops up that's about the only real bias I have towards men I'm blaming my dad for that one.
I can't be alone in the same room as a man because in the past, the few men I hung out with always started touching me against my will. No matter how many times I tell them to stop they did not take me seriously, so now I avoid alone-time with men at all cost. I even avoid going to interviews where I know I will be interviewed by a man because the mere thought of going is just too horrifying. But the worst experiences is when it is with a friend and they make a move, even though I make it clear as hell that I only want to be friends. I hate how they always want something sexual to come out of it- why can't they ever 'just be friends'? I have gone to therapy multiple times, trying to get rid of or at least ease my fear, but nothing works. I don't trust men and probably have to live with this fear for the rest of my life.
@@giannitn6382 Look, we all know that. Issue is, there are so many men that sexually harass people that there's a decent chance any man you meet will have done something like that. It's like how not all spiders are poisonous, but people are still scared of all spiders. Besides, nobody ever said all men were the issue, we just said that we're afraid of all men.
I get scared of men.. Especially those who look bigger than me like heighted and have beard.. Uptil now i was young so boys at my school ... I didn't use to feel scared but now as i am growing into adult now boys of same age as me look so tall and muscular. So i feel scared of them. I don't know i just don't feel safe.. It's not that i had worst experience in past.. My experience in past were petty which almost every girl has to go through. I am just afraid that how will I takle all of this ... Eventually i will have to face the world. I can't just remain behind my parents forever.
im 15 and have a slight fear of men i think? like, i know not all men are bad, but when im around the opposite sex, i feel extremely uncomfortable. mainly because my (online) ex bf made really nasty innuendos(?) when i was just 13, and ive heard way too many stories of men doinh awful things to women. i cant be around men if they're even a little younger than me or much older. (so, for example, 14-however old is really old in your opinion.) there are a few men i feel comfortable around, however, like my dad or acting teacher, but thats it. its hard everyday to even be in school (when i even am in school) and be around the opposite sex. i feel sick everytime im around them for too long. it feels weird, but physically, i cant help it. im not sure if my situation is even valid, but thats my story.
I feel the gaze of them, the gaze that says that they believe that Im worthless. It's not like we are one kind anymore, it's pure mysoginy. I felt it all my life, the fear and the gaze. I want to overcome it because they don't deserve that power.
Its spelt 'misogyny' - left click on the mouse button to set-up 'check spelling' if done correctly a red squiggly line shows when incorrectly spelt, it will also predict three words as you type.// No one is worthless, you have the power to overcome your anxiety You Tube can help you.
Envying the male pride is worth it. I'm a male. Men lack the really small things that make them happy, but they're never appreciate them or satisfied when they finally get them. Stay rare and your value will significantly increase in power.
I think I might have this can anyone help me out? I’m 13 and have never had a negative interaction with a man but every time I see one my body goes into a fight or flight state and I freak out. I’m alright with ones 0-15 but any older I’m just uncomfortable. I see them as walking threats when they’re probably just really nice people. But that could just be my paranoia and perhaps just a fear of harassment? Idk someone please help me out
Lmao that sounds a lot like me, I’m 13 and while I’ve never been abused by anyone, when I see older men (like older than 18) I get really scared they’re going to assualt me. I feel really bad about it though, because it’s not their fault at all and they may be great people. Im sorry I can’t help you out, I mean if I knew how to feel better I wouldn’t have searched “I have an irrational fear of men”, however maybe I can make you feel a bit comfortable with knowing that there’s others in your situation. Just me knowing this is a real phobia made me feel more at ease personally, so seeing your comment made me feel even better about myself. I’m just scared this will go on forever and I’ll never feel comfortable around men :(
Queen 0 Absolutely! I’m like that around any man over 16 really. I’m always scared that they will (as you said) assault me or that they’re thinking about me sexually and it makes me so uncomfortable. However, I’m alright around men that are officially gay and I’m also fine around women that are Lesbians or anything else that involves attraction to other women. I suppose women just aren’t scary. No man has ever even made a sexual comment towards me but I suppose they have in dreams so perhaps that’s it. For some reason I’m fine around my peers even as they make more sexual comments than anyone else but I’m not scared. I think this started, or at least increased when I became religious. I’m big on waiting until marriage and getting assaulted would ruin that so maybe that’s the fear. I just hope that this will wear of when I get older and expand to men my own age. For example, when I’m twenty I’ll be fine around twenty year old men or maybe it’ll stay forever. I hope for the first, but suspect the latter.
please consult a doctor if you don't know whats causing this, thats mostly the best way to go :) i just can tell you that the media is also doing alot of damage, maybe it helps you to think about what movies etc you watched that programmed your brain into fearing men like this, sounds crazy i know, but media has a big impact on our brain. wishing you well
i feel like i am not normal. ever since i got into all girls boarding school, i found it hard to live or confront guys. i am shaking, and would have felt like im gonna throw up when a guy comes close or tries to talk to me. feel a bit guilty at some point bc some tasks required me to actually speak to them especially when it comes to group projects when i was doing my degree. even harder, now im working as an admin associate. yes, an admin. wth. how do i talk to them without those guys spewing nonsense pickup lines??? im nervous and sweating and all i thought was to run away far from them. i dont like that feeling of fear, the idea of them harming me and more. i hate when i felt smth was pushing things out from my stomach. i wrote this while crying bc i just want to feel safe and normal
Somehow my gay friends didnt trigger my phobia or gave me anxiety , i just think the more the male has "feminine features" or acts "girly" the more im comfortable talking with them
in my primary school (in year 4 or 5) i remember a boy being close to me, i was really uncomfortable, the reason why he was close to me was because someone told him that i was wearing extra knickers (i was wearing 2 knickers, 1 over my tights) i don't know if this is all in my mind but I'm pretty sure i was standing by a gate/fence and he got really close to me, idk if he touched me or anything, i can't remember... Also, another incident: I was at a party and a lot of my family members were there, i went outside a few hours after and i saw my half brothers talking to the rest of my family and i went up to talk to them... it was all going fine until... my half brother put his arm around me and one of his hands dropped at one of my breast, he didn't grab it his hand just dropped there... i was really uncomfortable but i acted like i was alright, ever since then, i hate when ppl make comments about my breasts or when someone gets too close to me...
My Friend have this phobia I asked her why are you scared of boys (she can't even breathe when a group of boys shows up) So she told me, "my father never let me talk to a boy" and her father has anger issues but he loves her but when he get angry he can't control but later he apologize as years passes my friend never talk to a boy she is a curious person she is always searching on Google and UA-cam and she is more scared of boys now And I tried to explain her all people are not the same she told me she knows but she still scared like someone going to do something bad to her. (•́︿•̀) she even scared of her own father now......
I don’t have any severe traumatic experiences but I am sent in an anxious spiral when I’m alone in a space with a group of men. I always have some irrational fear that I’m gonna get taken advantage of and get gang r*ped or something it’s horrible. I don’t hate all men and I have a bf but that unfortunately happens
As a male I think I've had phobia my whole life but never really had time to understand it because I was often with others. I do believe my fear comes from a male step-cousin who abused me as a young child. It's quite strange being gay and afraid to be around men. While I have had a handful of men in my life I do trust, I prefer being around less masculine presenting men. Currently doing my best to find a psychologist who specializes in brain spotting or EMDR because it definitely has become a louder issue this past year.
I'm scared of men I'm 13,sexually harassed by my brother, it's really bad that just being in a room with them or just texting is kinda... Awkward and scaring for me😅 I also really have a low self-esteem and really bad social anxiety which... Doesn't.. Help..
I’m so sorry this happened to you! 🥺 I hope you know you’re not alone, and I promise we will get through this! I love you and you’re loved and life will get better 💕💕🥺
+Yeah. Guys frighten the heck out of me. I have a few guy friends but I'm afraid of meeting other guys in fear they will do something creepy to me or worse, try to hurt or kill the people I love. I kissed a few guys but that was back when I was a teenager. I'm almost twenty-three and didn't have any romantic relationships with guys in almost four years. While the two guys I kissed and fell in love with were kind to me, I'm not sure I want to risk in getting in a relationship with another guy...
I’m not really sure if I have Androphobia, but I’m scared of guys if they intimidate me. I was sexually harassed by two boys, first when I was 6 (by someone who was 12 years old, maybe?) and in 3rd grade (they were the same age as me). I’m too scared to speak up about my sexual harassment anyway because I don’t think people will take it seriously. I’m afraid of guys I consider in my head, “cool” or something. I start twitching(?) around them and it’s really annoying because I can’t control it in any way. But guys I consider “gay” or less intimidating don’t really make me twitch. I don’t have this issue around girls, though. My dad also left me when I was younger, so I didn’t really ever have any male role models in my life. I really want all this to stop so badly. I know I shouldn’t be scared of guys because there are probably decent human beings that’re guys out there, but I can’t control it. I also have a lot of other issues but this is all I’ll say.
Hi there,I think you should talk about this with somebody you feel comfortable around or maybe with a therapist if you can.It's really important bc in life you have to be around men and you should overcome this feeling/phobia.I know exactly how it feels,I've been afraid of men most of my life.The way I smother my anxiety around men is that when I'm close to them I think about it is 'normal' to be around them,so I try to act like I have confidence and I don't care what gender they are and if you can persuade yourself ,you've won.Also you should find male friends.I have a lot and since then I'm more comfortable around them than I used to but it's always easier if they are gay...Trust me there are good men maybe if you know girls who have male friends you should befriend that guy too.But these are just advice,at least I hope I could help a little ^^ Best wishes
Thank you for saying that! It made me feel a lot better. I will listen to your advice and try what you told me! I hope that you also overcome this fear as well. Best wishes to you too.
I’ve gotten a whole lot better, thank You Jesus. I remember when I got clean, I was absent for a few years. A lot of abuse happened during that time. When I came back, I hated how nervous I was. Then noticed it was with men. Even trustworthy men in my family. That was about 2017. I still get nervous even around guys in church. Sometimes I’ll just force myself to say hi, cordially.
My father was really abusive towards me. He had slap me, kick me, smack me with his belt, squish my head with his foot, flick my ears, call me names (stupid, ugly, fat, dirty, prostitute), and after doing all that, he stopped talking to me for some quiet time until he forgot and start talking and acting like nothing ever happened between us. I really hate myself to be born as female, because once I tried to run away from him but he caught me and I can't do anything about or power's difference. My mother never really care about me so when my father did all of that, she's just pretending not to notice. The reason of why he's doing all of that was always because I tried to talk back to him, in the sense that I also want to be heard. I would have bruises all over my body after that, so when I'm going to school or going outside in general, I would always use sweater and long pants. In school, boys and girls make fun of me, calling me names, they left me alone when the teacher told us to make a group. I rely alot on movies and animes to heal the wound in my heart. But even until now (at the age of 27) I still can't move on from that past. I'm currently living alone renting a small room, work as a teacher, and have one cat. The existence of my cat help me a lot when I'm stressed out from everything, including the nagging from my parents who urge me to get married. The heck with getting married, I don't even have that many friend (only 5 and all females), never in a relationship, never even fall in love. I don't really bring much impact to the society anyway, should I just kill myself?
I tried talking to my mom about my fear, and she either laughs or says "Then why do I date", her solution is just dont date men. Now that my problem has a name, i want to explain it to her but i dont know how because she keeps beating me down.
It’s all because i was raised in saudi arabia .. i didn’t interact with any men! 20 y.o and i didn’t have any relationships before.. i feel attracted towards men but i always avoid them after returning back to my country and knowing new friends they started asking me why i always do this.. What makes it worse that i’m playing stupid dating games to feel better about myself :” wish me luck I’m starting my own way of treatment cause my family will think that this is useless ( they even think i’m like this cause i’m religious and it’s a good thing! ) .. I added the first man on facebook and we started chatting 2 months ago but 😂.. i couldn’t bear that feeling and i closed all my accounts on social media instead of blocking him cause he was really nice :( I came back again .. and i will try to do it Sorry for my English .. i just needed to talk about this with anyone..
i've dealt with this most if not all of my life, it hurts. I can't even have a husband because i'm so afraid. :'( I have Jesus and he takes care of me.
Yes, Jesus was a man. But let us not forget that Jesus was a figure who saved countless victims. I am not a Christian, but looking at the life of the 'man Jesus', it is clear that he worked to save the lives of many people, including many women. From both the modern male and female perspectives, Jesus is a figure worthy of respect in many ways. It is not at all surprising that the woman who left this comment feels a deep sense of comfort in Jesus.
@@scoot_black740 I met Jesus he’s my best friend. I love him. He saved me and he loves me and I love him too. He is gentle and kind and loving and protective and merciful and gracious and perfect and so many more things I could say. I love him so very much.
If you are willing to heal, the you will heal eventually. Though it will take very long time. In my case, it took me 20 years to be able to talk to guys and not to skittish with men. But I am still not fully recovered. I am still trying my best to heal and to accept whoever I am. Up to now, I never have any relationship. I am always single. I barely feel lonely for I barely understand the need of having a man next to your side when I can almost do anything by myself.
I'm just scared that said man will turn out to be a psychopath and/or an abuser.The domestic violence cases and murders are getting higher every year.So yeah,just another phobia to add to the list of why I can't seem to lead a normal life...yay
I realize that I have this phobia. I believe it began in my childhood by having no positive male role models in my life or a dad. My mom married a man who never interacted with me or my siblings in a positive way. When she wasn't around and was at work, he used to bully and intimidate me or yell at me for something I didn't do. He even broke my basketball goal for no reason just to take away from me something that I loved. I'll never forgive him or forget it. He tries to say hello to randomly, then walks past me the next time he sees me. Continuing the emotional abuse. I really don't know why he has a hatred towards me. The sad part, my mother sees it. And does nothing. I suppose if he was a pedophile she would turn away to. Like others do. God has something in store for him... Later in life, I was drugged and sexually assaulted just for going to the movies with someone I knew. After that I've avoided men permanently. They assume I'm just gay and prefer women but I'm actually just traumatized. I can't even take my son to the barbershop. It makes me very uncomfortable and anxious. I just take him inside and go sit in my car until he's done. Lastly, when men approach me or try to flirt with me I feel anxious and get away from them as quickly as possible or throw their numbers away. I don't think I could ever get married. Some men are just monsters. And when you're traumatized by one, you look at all of them the same and it's hard to distinguish who's good or bad, so you avoid them all due to your life experiences that have been bad involving them. Androphobia is trauma related.
Nearly every woman in my family has been raped/molested multiple times. I myself have been harassed and assaulted. And men have such little sympathy for others it makes me feel so scared and alone
7: domestically,verbally and physically abused by my dad 9: family runs away from dad 11: meets my best friend scared as heck of men and boys apart from my best friend best friend vows to protect me from any man who tries to hurt me gets pushed up against wall and gets forcefully kissed by school "cool guy" my best friend sees and gets into a massive fight..... MY BEST FRIEND IS AWESOME AND YES I AM STILL SCARED OF MEN AND THAT IS MY PIG OF A FATHER'S FAULT
feel sorry you, hope you get better. i understand your anger against your father, it was not fair and right what he did to you, but now you can take action, you can do it :)
I get anxiety when I’m around men or my crush, cause I didn’t grow up with a dad, idk much abt men but that’s the main reason I’m scared, also because they sometimes hurt women is a few ways ( will not be saying ) but I feel safe around men who don’t pay attention with me, or my friends that are boys but I gotta be close with them.
It takes me four years to finally having a relax and peace conversation with my boyfriend... I usually avoid his eyes, when we’re in conversation I’m having trouble to focus on whatever he said, but my anxiety was too worse i end up breaking our relationship abruptly without having a good explanation... i think I’ve become worse now.. i even feel disgust with my own father and male siblings.. i didn’t look at them in the eyes, I rarely spoke with them.. what worse my own younger brother throw me a lot of sarcasm for having a bad relationship with my own father.. it’s not like i hate them but I really hate it when they tried to talk to me..
*its a miracle that i finally got myself a boyfriend when i was 25... but my fear towards guys become worse than ever after breaking up with him... and now i thought that maybe I could survive my whole life without man..
For years as a preteen and teenager I told people around me that I was afraid of men and wanted actual help. I was blamed for "hating men." No one wants to hear about why anyone might distrust men, especially not women who desperately want male attention. Now I'm a recluse who's afraid of everyone. I'm not happy to be a human being on this planet.
I’m 16, I was sexually assaulted by two cousins when 5, when 8, I was sexually assaulted again by my stepdad, be was abusive to me and my till he was in jail, this caused a terrible fear of men and I would always get so scared when near a man or I would sweat and my eyes would starting tearing up and I would always refuse to walk past a man if u wasn’t with someone else.
I also feel scared and anxious when a boy is near me or even stare at me . I've been sexually harrased many times and now i don't even stay in a room in which there's a man . Everyone in my family hate me for.being like this and my mom forcec me to sleep with my uncle
Can androphobia also be for only new men? I feel okay comfortable with my father and two male teachers that I’ve known about a year now, though I don’t trust them fully. Any other male I will almost cry approaching
I don’t think there are ? But I’m androphobic and I dress “masculine” so I can speak for myself: Dressing masculine is what I like because it’s the kind of style I like, and I don’t think that style should only be available for men and I don’t think clothes should be gendered. Also it keeps men from staring at my body (not always unfortunately), and most of the times, if not always, with my short hair and hat they think I’m a man, so I know I have like 10% more chances of not getting whistled at or called kitty kitty in the streets or getting raped. It’s like a protection
I wanna die rn Last time when i had a comp lecture the whole 7th A ,B ,C was there in the av room but miss only found me to sit next to a boy as there were lessons of 1 hrs i was uncomfortable for 1 hr sitting next to him he even put hand on my chair i was sitting so uncomfortably when miss told to remove a pencil my hands were shaking and tom we again have a comp period im rlly scared
Stay close to men and try and interact with them. You will eventually build up the social skills required for having good interactions with men if you do that.
I’ve had it not because of any trauma but because a lot of young people get sexually harassed and abused by men and men about my age which really scares me no I’ve never been sexually harrsssed
😣😣Really I don't like to talk with a single gue ...ya I can handle one guy but if there is group I can't stay there or saw them . I fell irritating when I guy speaks likely with me ........ That's why I don't make friends in boy........😣 But I have lot of confidence to compete them.....but can't talk.😛
I had a physical abuseive Father He would always beat on me and my mom i would cry her face all bloody and as i get older i learned and practice fighting and one day I snapped at my dad and thats why i have the phoebia now
it's mostly trauma that they experienced from the past. but if you're talking about ppl who don't have trauma, maybe they feel intimidated by older men. And i mean their presence. Some men are arrogant, or short-tempered. Or they just get bad vibes from them? I got bad vibes from the janitor at my school, it wasn't weird since i don't have this phobia, but just think about ppl who have this phobia, they would probably ran away by now. But as for the fear of girls.. was there such a thing though? Maybe someone does, but it's very rare. They have no reason to get intimidated by us since it's mostly men who do that. Unless it's a physical abuse when they were a child (like a mom).
@@sarov7658 i think people fear Karens NOT because they are women but because they are white. It's a race thing . If it wasn't, there would be black/brown/Asianetc Karens too.
@@Booksfromthecloset people fear Karen’s because they are usually narcissistic and selfish, but I have seen some people on the internet who fixate on their race, but otherwise it’s because “Karen’s” are usually terrible people.
I was, or actually I still am, attacked by my brother. He's autistic and nonverbal, there's not much we can do, but every time I get better he beats me up for something ans then I go back to square one.
I think i have this bec i had bad experience with men, those men were strangers, not someone i knew, and now I'm not interested in relationships with men, i get triggered around men due to trauma, it sucks....
I am 27 and I have been avoiding men all my life. My father was emotionally abusive towards me, made me not to trust men. I have never had any male friends or boyfriends or whatever... It's hard to mature and have grown up relationships even with my female friends.
Same I'm 16 and I still live with my parents. They're both emotionally abusive and don't care about my health, but what probably triggered my phobia was how boys treated me at school. When I was in middle school, people would call me names and make fun of me (especially boys). A male teacher made me and other girls uncomfortable by touching our hands, shoulders, and even thighs whenever he would talk to us. In high school, this guy would call me racial slurs, hit me, and make fun of me. He even cracked my fucking wrist before. I reported him but the administration didn't do shit. I just hope I don't get harassed by men anymore.
@@parissk5315 That's terrible! But you are stronger now, having faced all these shit 🙂 And the good thing is you are young and aware of your situation, so you have plenty of time to turn things around.
You just described me and my childhood. I wasn't physically abused but my father yelled at me and criticized me all my life..
@Jules Juerez go to hell
do what it takes to make YOURSELF feel safe you shouldn't do something you don't want to do from the pressure of friends cause if they were real they wouldn't pressure knowing your traumatic past
I was sexually harassed and now am afraid of men .. I keep having nightmares and when guy approch me I run away .. it so scary how the fear magnify and cloud your judgment you start to feel threatened by everyone and be anxious all time .
hey, i'm here if you need someone to talk to okay? no one deserves to go through this and they need proper help if they want to overcome it. if it becomes too much to handle, please open up to someone or get therapy.
What's wrong with people I swear
Siara Aqua yeah ik
Don't be😊. 47% of the world are men and only 0.000000000000000000000000000001% are bad people.
@@DynastieArtistique only 47% ?? What the heck but at the same time that explains why only 1% of my family are male meanwhile I have tons of new and old female family members
I dont know if this is part of the phobia but whenever im around with bunch of mans i feel uncomtable o when a boy stares at ,me i feel a bit scared-
Yes it is part of it 😊 I get this to
@HERO I'm 11 maybe you're right-
@@Makaylastorm775 Ohhh
@ૅ.ે Oh Gosh-
@@Makaylastorm775 Oh- so what i'm feeling is part of Androphobia-?
I’m glad this actually acknowledges that men can still develop this phobia as well
me too, men do suffer from problem like this too.
Cause we are beautiful
@@mariejourdain1237 cringe
@@sarov7658 ikr
@@mariejourdain1237 If im being honest men look way better as they dont wear any makeup and still look good
I think im starting to develop this phobia. Since i was 10 it's been difficult for me to be around older men, (im 14) im pretty sure it's getting worse now because a good amount of the time when i go out i always make sure i dont wear anything to "bold" or any shorts and my mind is covered with ways to avoid men but even then i still feel so uncomfortable to the point where i start wanting to cry and if i see an older man i start talking loudly about my age and school and i even feel uncomfortable around male family members, half of the time it takes alot to hug them.
Jesus I rlly hope you get better soon 💚
I feel you...my experiences are the same as yours...its really hard... ❤️
I really relate to what you’re saying and if you want to talk about it I’m here. I also feel this way and I would love to have conversations about it with people who go through the same thing( I’m 15 btw, so I’m assuming we’re the same age now too).
@@dr.ksbitch1235 'Feel better' soon, you mean.
I want everyone who clicked on this video and/or feels this fear to know; "There is absolutely nothing wrong with YOU" !
I started feeling anxious just by watching this video
I started crying. I feel theres no hope for me. Ive never had a bf
I can be with one guy and it's all good, but when I'm with a group of boys my anxiety levels go to the roof top to the point where I have sweaty palms and I start to shake. I've been treated very bad by men since i was little and it's very sad that there are some few that I can say are good (in my life of course). I hope to recover from this one day.
maximiliano de las mercedes i’m exactly like this, but once i was sexually assaulted in the street. i didn’t even notice it had really affected me, but i think subconsciously it did. just know that ur not alone, we can get through this it’ll just take time💗
@@lucygracie Thank you for your comment Lucy, and if I may, I'm so sorry for what happened to you. Like you said we WILL recover with time but also patience and love. Stay strong ✊❤🏵️
I really all of you can recover.
It must've been very hard to go through that and it's sad that stuff like that is still happening and You both had to go through it.
I feel sorry for you both.
I hope you can recover from such things like that.👍
:I really hope all of you can recover I meant. Sry typo
@Max Smith really? Cause its happened to me more than once and the last encounter was in march before schools closed , I'm in campus btw. I passed by a group of men and they were all looking at me and laughing, so what is that?
Omg I have this I thought this was me just being a scaredy-cat I have this it’s just I’m only scared of men 13 or older
lyle stewart Same, I am not even sure if I have this phobia, but I am pretty sure I do.
im a 15 year old boy
I believe that is what you call a pedophile am I wrong?
I'm 12 ._.
I think I have this too, but, like, I just kind of panic a little and I have some male friends, but they look really young and they are my friend’s friends too (it took me months to talk to them normally)
Oh I forgot , I was “abused” when I was younger, I mean, it wasn’t that serious but I got a traumatized and even thought about killing myself when I was like 9
I’m 13 btw
I'm scared of men because I've been sexually harassed by my own step grandfather! He has done this when I was 8 and sometimes now It has happened for a very long time until I told my mom... She forgot about it so he never got in trouble... He is still at my grandmother's house and hasn't done anything bad to me until I woke up a little early and found him hugging me but in an uncomfortable way... He also always is asking me for hugs randomly or when I want something... I'm scared and when I feel good one day and wear a dress or skirt I always see a man looking at me I don't like it! I don't know if I should tell my mother or anyone else this right now because I'm afraid of them telling me " you should've told me sooner!" Even though I did.... I lose sleep because I feel like my brothers would do something bad to me! If I like a guy I quickly lose interest in them because I think they're going to do something bad to me! My dad when I was a baby would always try to hurt my mom and I would even get to the point where we would have to sleep in the car! My mom told me all the tragic stories that happened to her when my dad would hurt her... Thank God he doesn't live with us anymore
Not all men are the same there are good and bad
I’m similar I’ve never had a negative experience with a man unlike you but I feel like they’re all sexually attracted to me. I’m not even that attractive but I feel like they’re fantasising and they’re going to try something. This is literally every man I meet over 17 and it’s hell
Haha I hate dresses/shorts
What is that Yes, that’s true and I know that. It’s just the fear whenever you see one just makes you freeze up. They could be the most celibate and moral guy to ever exist but it would still make you terrified. It’s a shame really.
Tell your mom NOW my dad abused me and you HAVE TO TELL. That's the mistake I made so I loved with it for 7 years. Save yourself now and TELL
I've never had irl male friends or been comfortable talking or being around men , i wouldnt say its a full on phobia but the uneasiness is there. i dont trust their intentions and i feel like many men don’t view women with empathy
@Brock lesner well then , the world needs more men like that
@Brock lesner if thats the case why are nearly 40 percent of female homicide victims killed by a domestic partner and why is domestic violence the leading cause of death for women ages 15-49 worldwide? why is there a multi million dollar sex traficking industry most victims which are female? why do women carry pepper spray when they go out and why are we told not to walk outside at night? maybe theres some good men but women generally live their lives in fear of men and millions of women die and suffer at the hands of men. "men protect women" is mostly a PR lie.
@Brock lesner majority of murder is done by men as well. and if women were treated as vip for all of history why was marital rape and domestic violence legal and why werent women allowed to have bank accounts or own property? women were treated as livestock. i agree pornography is bad and should be stopped, and the porn industry further proves my point that many men harm women in various ways, including media. but the root of the issue is deeper. sadly even before porn many men view women as objects and have no empathy to them, porn just feeds into that already existing male mindset. even before porn and media, rape and harrasment happened. women in the victorian era used to carry these long metal needles in their hats to ward off harassers. additionally, your point about the clothes doesnt make sense bc women fully covered get raped too, like in the middle east. theres even some studies that say women who are more covered may get raped more bc they are seen as more meek and submissive and out of sight. men may be destined to protect women but a good lot of them sure use unfair advantage to just control and hurt them. a lot of men just hate women as seen in how it manifests in real life violence and media portrayals and even music that brags about raping women. and i wish they didnt. id agree that men should be taught to view women as humans and not objects to help stop these issues as well as getting rid of porn.
@Brock lesner mothers who abuse their children are wrong and bad , yes. But you don’t see me trying to rationalize it and justify it whereas your trying to blame rape on something as insignificant as women’s clothing. Rape is a very bad crime and it’s not triggered by something as simple as clothing, and this mentality only blames the victim and takes away accountability from the bad guy so it’s contributing to the problem . If you think rape is bad and should stop , dont blame the victim. Additionally stop trying to rationalize or downplay the fact that women were oppressed in the past. Women couldn’t have credit cards until the 70s. Ruth baded Ginsburg graduated top of her class and she had trouble finding a job bc she was told women are too emotional to be in law. It’s important to acknowledge how bad things were in the past so if doesn’t happen again. Marital rape isn’t the solution to adultery , men need to control themselves.
@Brock lesner maybe your not justifying rape but your saying it’s caused by exposure of female body , which isn’t true , the human body is natural and before civilization in caveman times women weren’t covered head to toe. If the female body is presented in disrespectful and dehumanizing ways in media then yeah it will lead to disrespect, so society has to be taught to respect women. Also men giving their lives once every 100 years participating in wars started by other men doesn’t justify them to enslave all women lol
I am afraid of almost every man that shows me interest 😞
Become cannibal then
I am a homosexual boy and I too have serious androphobia. I have never had any male friends and I find it difficult to trust guys. I’m always afraid that they want to harm and harass me.
same too
I am so sorry this happened to You
Hope we can all recover someday 😢
You are not alone
we girls are here for you
just dont be gay
At first I thought it was because of my social anxiety and my introversion but it never happened when I'm in a girl group or surrounded with girls (I'm also a girl). I don't have any trauma I just started to notice it develope last year cause I would feel anxious around boys and men. Actually no one gets it that I can't have a normal talk with a boy without shaking or my heart pounding. But I'm working on my problem little by little if you have any advice please tell me 😊
Thanks for your courage to share.
Same 😬
I thought it was just me but it turns out...
your never alone
I’m terrified of men, i’m so glad i’m not the only one like this
This is an update. Turns out i’m not scared of men, just realized i’m just a lesbian.
@@minty4106 🤣🤣🤣
I'm scared of men in general but whenever I'm near an old man i get even more scared, idk if i have androphobia though
Bc old men are ugly. Just start off being around teenagers
@@scoot_black740 thats just straight up rude um..ok
@Astrea A same
I love androphobia
I don’t think mine is severe but i am uncomfortable near any man relatives or not, and REFUSE to be alone with any guy aside from my grandpa and dad. The few times i was alone with men other than them i was very scared and tried to stay as physically away from them as possible. And idk why i have never been molested or abused it is just ingrained in me. 😢
Oh god it’s so nice to know that I’m not alone in this
one day I suddenly realize that I'm actually scared of men. there's been several signs and thoughts but I just kept ignoring them. because I don't want to feel abnormal and such. then the moment I found out I might have androphobia, I just realize that I can't keep escape any more. I have to face the fact and deal with it.
this video has given me a lot of comfort, I'm greatful
this start in highschool where a bunch of guys laughing and bullying me. (sorry for my grammar)
I'm also afraid of man .I'm nearly 20 and yet I never had a boyfriend or a boy-friend and I'm scared to even talk to them or be near them🥺🥺🥺
I'm 15. But same. Honestly in like five years I'll come back and comment right here for an update(spoiler: it will be the same)
@@netflixbinger8753 I’m 15 too and my fear of men is annoying . I genuinely feel so uncomfy and anxious just being around boys in my year at school
@@dr.ksbitch1235 Ok not necessary seeking attention, but more like they may make fun of that person.
@@netflixbinger8753 wdym
@@dr.ksbitch1235 Like basically its difficult to share my feel of guys because people will make fun of me. I also over think a lot. so you know
I have been suffering from this phobia since I was four. It developed from my father whenever he comes home drunk and wants to cuddle. I always cry but my mother never understood why. I never wanted to get touched by a man, even my father and my brother without my consent. Gladly, it lessened due to my family has more male members. I learned how to get along with them and even had some guy friends. But never did I let them touch me because my androphobia gets triggered whenever I receive caress from any guy that I am not comfortable with, well I'm really not physically comfortable to guys. And the fact that I'm claustrophobic as well is also a problem for me. 😒
Jannie Garcia Same, my fear developed mostly due to not physical, but other trauma. No one believes how afraid I am with physical situations, especially with men.
@@aetherr5102 the fact that it's so hard to overcome this kind of phobia. It's scary, they are scary.
@@janniegarcia3181 uh hello im scary
oh.. Now i understand why i was never comfortable with my male friends.
I don’t really have physical trauma having to do with men, and I might have this phobia of men 13 or older.
I’m 11.
Nice.
Is there any reason ?
Why?
I had this way worst than now when I was your age until I turned 13, what I did was making friends with girls who had male friends and trying to talk to her friends when she was there with me, you will have to speak to her friends more and more until you get comfortable talking to them alone, now I even went out with two of my friends who are male and it was totally fine, I felt comfortable and stuff. when unknown guys approach me I still panic a little but if I’m with one of my female friends I can manage it to the point where they can’t see that I’m panicking
This will take some months or one year ok lol, it took me soooo much time to be friends with them, it had a lot of ups and downs, like, I thought I was their friend and I actually wasn’t, I thought it was normal for male friends to hit you and call you a bitch but it actually wasn’t, 3 of my friends ended up liking me (omg it was a mess) and I got so fucking insecure bcs I thought the group of boys I was “friends” with was just spending time with me bcs some boys had a crush on me and I was boring and no one would ever want to be friends with a boring person like me (I still think that sometimes ) and then I learnt that smiling too much when talking to a boy may seem that you’re flirting, all that just because I didn’t talk to boys before so I didn’t understand them at all
but I’m ok, I have 3 male friends and 2 female friends now, I’m happy with them, I have fun when I’m with them and I guess that’s all that matters
Sorry for my English I’m not fluent yet
I have a fear of men because of the traumatic experiences I have experienced with men. I was a victim of sexual assault by a ex guy friend I trusted. I was also stalked and harassed by strangers who were catcalling me all because I told them no I’m not interested. I usually feel safe with my boyfriend and family but sometimes I am fearful with them as well. For example, if they get mad at me it can sometimes trigger traumatic memories I had with men in the past. I have talked to my boyfriend about this but I haven’t really discussed this with my family. Im in therapy now so I’m still in the process of healing.
My Androphobia is only getting worse, I can even stay around my family if their men because of what my immediate family did.
Hope you are doing well 😢
I am with you ☺ If you want to talk I am here 🤗
i think i developed this when i was about 6 years old. a man tried to maniupulate me and my friend to get into his car and we both ran away as fast as we could. then when i was 8 a man said he wanted me and my sister to see him piss and get into a toilet (LMAOO I KNOW BUT ITS DISGUSTING) and he and then me and my sister ran. when i was 12 i was walking home and a man came up to me coughing really loudly then ran after me and i ran home crying and scared. Since then ive been scared of men :/ but i do understand that not all men are bad but i am still a bit distant and im very uncomfortable with male teachers.
Same here, I was a dumb kid and was at a family party (Where random people walked in and out they were strangers) My dad was not the best looking after me and my sister so while he was talking to a bunch of dudes, this guy bends down and grabs the plastic cups behind us and said something in the lines of "Hey wanna catch some fireflys?" He seemed really friendly and he had this goofy voice which i thought was funny at the time. I was jumping up and down excited after being bored just sitting there waiting to go home. So we were trying to catch a few and all of a sudden he says "Theres not many over here, Let's go over there" And point's to the side of the house, But the weird thing was no one was over there and it was SUPER dark. from where i was standing i couldn't see any firefly's but he stuck his hand out saying "Lets go over there to catch some more" I was with my sister and she was 2 years older than me so obviously she knew this guy was weird. She grabed my hand and told me no but i was dumb and really wanted to catch a firefly. so she went to our cousin (she was a teenager so she wasn't much help) she told us not to go with him but was stuck on her phone. he was saying "Come on were just gona catch some really quick" still holding my hand. Thankfully after i actually started to give it thought, i had a weird feeling in my stomach and said "No" he looked REALLY disappointed and looked around for a bit then just randomly left. Like just up and left the party really mad. I'm thankful i have my sister who is there for me and lookes out for me. But now i have trust issues with men. It's gotten even worse over the years being physically harassed by my male classmates
@@iwuvpiesgaming9164 oh gosh im so sorry that mustve been so traumatizing for u :( that guy is sick im glad ur sister was there who knows what couldve happened
@@pearlslast Thank you for your kind words. I also hope you are doing well from your traumatizing experience ❤️
Did he bait you with candy?
@@mtithewoodentank4817 no with his puppy actually
I hate having this fear. It stops me from living full life and I do want to mingle with men as they have a good sense of humor and it is very fun to hang out with men. I was sexually assaulted when I was 8 by 2 guys and in school I was bullied and sometimes beaten up by boys. Also my parental grandmother and my aunt would tell me that boys are dangerous and I should be careful around them. Today I am 26 and I have never had a male friend in my school or college. I wish androphobia would get the hell out of my life!
"Uncontrollable thoughts of men harming you or your loved ones" exactly...
I get really anxious and freaked out around men and I feel like it’s holding me back in my friendships. I don’t hate men and I’m friends with some but the anxiety is real and I don’t know how to make it stop. If feels just like being in a dark room. I’m terrified of the dark.
This is really very traumatic I have been facing this since my childhood and I am now 27 and never had any male frd or boyfriend. Being a hypersensitive person instances of molestation has broken me from inside I don't know how I will spend my life in a country like India where a woman's life can't be imagined without marriage. I have faced lots of difficulty in my professional life and finally left it due male dominance in my organization. 😒😒
How you doing now
And that's on crying when a man yells at you (and not when a women does)
Glad I'm a lesbian
Sameeeee lesggoooo
sameeeeeeee
I’m glad not everyone is a lesbian or the world would fall apart
Eww
@@lordofanime7540 It wouldn’t exist though, which is good.
How should i treat my girlfriend, because she’s been a victim of such event and this phobia has got her still she’s with me happily but we can’t get ourselves physically involved as she’s been through a traumatic experience but I can’t let her live with her fears, even after marriage we’ve decided to adopt kids but still can’t let her live like this . Someone please help me, help me help her. 😔
You should visit a therapist, hope it turns out well, take it positively
Ari Berryy thank you very much for your concern but I’ve already asked her for that, maybe after a while i should. And i took it very positively 😊😊😊 thanks again.
@@akashsinghrathore2283 You're welcome... Just don't be forceful about it with her, if she isn't comfortable she won't be able to allow herself to get over it,, things can become complicated just keep her safe with kindness^^
Ari Berryy sure thing, I’ll take care of her at the best of me.
Ok i would recommend not hugging her or something like that ifyou see shes not comfortable with it. Wish you guys the best!
I get anxious and scared when guys are around me, especially if I'm in a room alone with one or more guys, even with family members I get anxious and go to leave the room unless my mom or tía is there with me
Idk if I have this but I think so...
Same
I overcame it by convincing myself that their judgement doesn't matters
That’s stupid, since you’re gonna deny any criticism you get from them, and won’t be able to become a better person by learning from feedback
@@Brunzner to judge is different than valid critism...
@@Brunzner judging and criticism are both different. so what if someone calls you a whore do you become a better person after that?
@@jodie1090 judgement and criticism are basically the same thing. And not everyone will call you a whore, that would be insulting
@Brunzner Accepting feedback and criticism is one thing, but experiencing a mental aversion is something that requires healing, not condemnation through words like "stupid." Of course, people may criticize others for their aversions, as they cannot know the full extent of their lives. However, once they come to understand the reasons behind these reactions, there is no need for further meaningless criticism. At the very least, they should wish for their recovery and, if needed, offer help and support.
Not trying to show off or something but since I was small, I was attractive and u know I was one of that girl who all the boys loved😣. All the boys I knew were perverts and I think I'm having fears of it, it's just like I don't feel safe and I always feel uncomfortable😟😖. I wear non revealing clothes just to be out of their sight like long sleeves and appropriate clothes.I've been avoiding relationships and I feel like I'm really scared of boys.
Noora Bader That’s awful, I completely relate. I mean not all the boys love me but I’m pretty fine y’know. Hopefully it’ll wear off as you get older. My best wishes.
@Max Smith lolol true,
boys aren't perverts, at some point they'r brains just go: *H O R N Y*
Noora Saifs, I just watched some videos on your main channel and tbh you’re not very attractive. Not trying to be rude that’s just my opinion. It’s kinda sad how there are so many narcissistic people nowadays that think they look very attractive or good while they don’t t.
@@Brunzner you're right but i'm afraid you're ato get anichilated
Watching this video makes my body hurt and shake...
Me too
I am very shy when i am sit and stand next to the boys..
I'm scared of men 20 through 60 I'm 13
Same...
being afraid of a jacked dude is natural
Franek RB Lol
I think it is inherent in more women than we think I wasn't abused as a kid I just can't be around men, I literally run walk/run away from men who try to approach me it's always been that way I can't even be alone with my own family. Yes my dad was an asshole ( not necessarily abusive) and any little thing would set him off but I can separate my feelings towards him from my feelings towards other men, except for the fact that at one time i didn't think men were capable of love it's a stupid opinion now but every now and then it pops up that's about the only real bias I have towards men I'm blaming my dad for that one.
I can't be alone in the same room as a man because in the past, the few men I hung out with always started touching me against my will. No matter how many times I tell them to stop they did not take me seriously, so now I avoid alone-time with men at all cost. I even avoid going to interviews where I know I will be interviewed by a man because the mere thought of going is just too horrifying. But the worst experiences is when it is with a friend and they make a move, even though I make it clear as hell that I only want to be friends. I hate how they always want something sexual to come out of it- why can't they ever 'just be friends'?
I have gone to therapy multiple times, trying to get rid of or at least ease my fear, but nothing works. I don't trust men and probably have to live with this fear for the rest of my life.
2:09- been 10 years and counting for me
Are you okay...I’m sorry..your not alone..☺️
@@Mochitears All men are not the same, dont campare every boys are same... but still u should learn to defend urself from suspicious ppl
What is that I know..but most just want me for my body..I never really talked to my dad...almost never..so...
@@giannitn6382 Look, we all know that. Issue is, there are so many men that sexually harass people that there's a decent chance any man you meet will have done something like that. It's like how not all spiders are poisonous, but people are still scared of all spiders. Besides, nobody ever said all men were the issue, we just said that we're afraid of all men.
I get scared of men.. Especially those who look bigger than me like heighted and have beard.. Uptil now i was young so boys at my school ... I didn't use to feel scared but now as i am growing into adult now boys of same age as me look so tall and muscular. So i feel scared of them. I don't know i just don't feel safe.. It's not that i had worst experience in past.. My experience in past were petty which almost every girl has to go through. I am just afraid that how will I takle all of this ... Eventually i will have to face the world. I can't just remain behind my parents forever.
im 15 and have a slight fear of men i think? like, i know not all men are bad, but when im around the opposite sex, i feel extremely uncomfortable. mainly because my (online) ex bf made really nasty innuendos(?) when i was just 13, and ive heard way too many stories of men doinh awful things to women. i cant be around men if they're even a little younger than me or much older. (so, for example, 14-however old is really old in your opinion.) there are a few men i feel comfortable around, however, like my dad or acting teacher, but thats it.
its hard everyday to even be in school (when i even am in school) and be around the opposite sex. i feel sick everytime im around them for too long. it feels weird, but physically, i cant help it. im not sure if my situation is even valid, but thats my story.
I'm not exactly scared, but I find manly-looking people intimidating. I like girly and young looks like my own face.
I get it. I too feel scared of manly guys. I try to escape from the surrounding with such people.
Me too
I feel the gaze of them, the gaze that says that they believe that Im worthless. It's not like we are one kind anymore, it's pure mysoginy. I felt it all my life, the fear and the gaze. I want to overcome it because they don't deserve that power.
Its spelt 'misogyny' - left click on the mouse button to set-up 'check spelling' if done correctly a red squiggly line shows when incorrectly spelt, it will also predict three words as you type.// No one is worthless, you have the power to overcome your anxiety You Tube can help you.
@@hookbeak3516 Thank you very much. Althouth I will only try this on the computer.
Envying the male pride is worth it. I'm a male. Men lack the really small things that make them happy, but they're never appreciate them or satisfied when they finally get them.
Stay rare and your value will significantly increase in power.
I think I might have this can anyone help me out? I’m 13 and have never had a negative interaction with a man but every time I see one my body goes into a fight or flight state and I freak out. I’m alright with ones 0-15 but any older I’m just uncomfortable. I see them as walking threats when they’re probably just really nice people. But that could just be my paranoia and perhaps just a fear of harassment? Idk someone please help me out
Lmao that sounds a lot like me, I’m 13 and while I’ve never been abused by anyone, when I see older men (like older than 18) I get really scared they’re going to assualt me. I feel really bad about it though, because it’s not their fault at all and they may be great people. Im sorry I can’t help you out, I mean if I knew how to feel better I wouldn’t have searched “I have an irrational fear of men”, however maybe I can make you feel a bit comfortable with knowing that there’s others in your situation. Just me knowing this is a real phobia made me feel more at ease personally, so seeing your comment made me feel even better about myself. I’m just scared this will go on forever and I’ll never feel comfortable around men :(
Queen 0 Absolutely! I’m like that around any man over 16 really. I’m always scared that they will (as you said) assault me or that they’re thinking about me sexually and it makes me so uncomfortable. However, I’m alright around men that are officially gay and I’m also fine around women that are Lesbians or anything else that involves attraction to other women. I suppose women just aren’t scary. No man has ever even made a sexual comment towards me but I suppose they have in dreams so perhaps that’s it. For some reason I’m fine around my peers even as they make more sexual comments than anyone else but I’m not scared. I think this started, or at least increased when I became religious. I’m big on waiting until marriage and getting assaulted would ruin that so maybe that’s the fear. I just hope that this will wear of when I get older and expand to men my own age. For example, when I’m twenty I’ll be fine around twenty year old men or maybe it’ll stay forever. I hope for the first, but suspect the latter.
your brain just goes: "they could kick your ass so bad you would die", and that's natural.
Franek RB No it’s not like that.
please consult a doctor if you don't know whats causing this, thats mostly the best way to go :) i just can tell you that the media is also doing alot of damage, maybe it helps you to think about what movies etc you watched that programmed your brain into fearing men like this, sounds crazy i know, but media has a big impact on our brain. wishing you well
i feel like i am not normal. ever since i got into all girls boarding school, i found it hard to live or confront guys. i am shaking, and would have felt like im gonna throw up when a guy comes close or tries to talk to me. feel a bit guilty at some point bc some tasks required me to actually speak to them especially when it comes to group projects when i was doing my degree. even harder, now im working as an admin associate. yes, an admin. wth. how do i talk to them without those guys spewing nonsense pickup lines??? im nervous and sweating and all i thought was to run away far from them. i dont like that feeling of fear, the idea of them harming me and more. i hate when i felt smth was pushing things out from my stomach. i wrote this while crying bc i just want to feel safe and normal
@remy how is that even possible £?@&!! 🙄
@@leedonghun6831 The issue i have with this is if a men said what you said he would loose his job. No not you. Understand your privileges
Now I am suffering with androphobia and I get tears when boys are near to me and I am so much terrified
I think it might be anxiety around men and your just shy
Somehow my gay friends didnt trigger my phobia or gave me anxiety , i just think the more the male has "feminine features" or acts "girly" the more im comfortable talking with them
Me too
in my primary school (in year 4 or 5) i remember a boy being close to me, i was really uncomfortable, the reason why he was close to me was because someone told him that i was wearing extra knickers (i was wearing 2 knickers, 1 over my tights) i don't know if this is all in my mind but I'm pretty sure i was standing by a gate/fence and he got really close to me, idk if he touched me or anything, i can't remember...
Also, another incident:
I was at a party and a lot of my family members were there, i went outside a few hours after and i saw my half brothers talking to the rest of my family and i went up to talk to them... it was all going fine until... my half brother put his arm around me and one of his hands dropped at one of my breast, he didn't grab it his hand just dropped there... i was really uncomfortable but i acted like i was alright, ever since then, i hate when ppl make comments about my breasts or when someone gets too close to me...
My Friend have this phobia
I asked her why are you scared of boys (she can't even breathe when a group of boys shows up)
So she told me, "my father never let me talk to a boy" and her father has anger issues but he loves her but when he get angry he can't control but later he apologize as years passes my friend never talk to a boy she is a curious person she is always searching on Google and UA-cam and she is more scared of boys now
And I tried to explain her all people are not the same she told me she knows but she still scared like someone going to do something bad to her. (•́︿•̀) she even scared of her own father now......
I don’t have any severe traumatic experiences but I am sent in an anxious spiral when I’m alone in a space with a group of men. I always have some irrational fear that I’m gonna get taken advantage of and get gang r*ped or something it’s horrible. I don’t hate all men and I have a bf but that unfortunately happens
As a male I think I've had phobia my whole life but never really had time to understand it because I was often with others. I do believe my fear comes from a male step-cousin who abused me as a young child. It's quite strange being gay and afraid to be around men. While I have had a handful of men in my life I do trust, I prefer being around less masculine presenting men. Currently doing my best to find a psychologist who specializes in brain spotting or EMDR because it definitely has become a louder issue this past year.
I'm scared of men I'm 13,sexually harassed by my brother, it's really bad that just being in a room with them or just texting is kinda... Awkward and scaring for me😅 I also really have a low self-esteem and really bad social anxiety which... Doesn't.. Help..
Omg girl are you okay?! If you need someone to talk to, add me on discord arielle#1661
I’m so sorry this happened to you! 🥺 I hope you know you’re not alone, and I promise we will get through this! I love you and you’re loved and life will get better 💕💕🥺
Same 🙂😔
+Yeah. Guys frighten the heck out of me. I have a few guy friends but I'm afraid of meeting other guys in fear they will do something creepy to me or worse, try to hurt or kill the people I love. I kissed a few guys but that was back when I was a teenager. I'm almost twenty-three and didn't have any romantic relationships with guys in almost four years. While the two guys I kissed and fell in love with were kind to me, I'm not sure I want to risk in getting in a relationship with another guy...
I’m not really sure if I have Androphobia, but I’m scared of guys if they intimidate me. I was sexually harassed by two boys, first when I was 6 (by someone who was 12 years old, maybe?) and in 3rd grade (they were the same age as me). I’m too scared to speak up about my sexual harassment anyway because I don’t think people will take it seriously. I’m afraid of guys I consider in my head, “cool” or something. I start twitching(?) around them and it’s really annoying because I can’t control it in any way. But guys I consider “gay” or less intimidating don’t really make me twitch. I don’t have this issue around girls, though. My dad also left me when I was younger, so I didn’t really ever have any male role models in my life. I really want all this to stop so badly. I know I shouldn’t be scared of guys because there are probably decent human beings that’re guys out there, but I can’t control it. I also have a lot of other issues but this is all I’ll say.
Hi there,I think you should talk about this with somebody you feel comfortable around or maybe with a therapist if you can.It's really important bc in life you have to be around men and you should overcome this feeling/phobia.I know exactly how it feels,I've been afraid of men most of my life.The way I smother my anxiety around men is that when I'm close to them I think about it is 'normal' to be around them,so I try to act like I have confidence and I don't care what gender they are and if you can persuade yourself ,you've won.Also you should find male friends.I have a lot and since then I'm more comfortable around them than I used to but it's always easier if they are gay...Trust me there are good men maybe if you know girls who have male friends you should befriend that guy too.But these are just advice,at least I hope I could help a little ^^ Best wishes
Thank you for saying that! It made me feel a lot better. I will listen to your advice and try what you told me! I hope that you also overcome this fear as well. Best wishes to you too.
this is why im lesbian
Lol
Scared of men lol
Lol
I’ve gotten a whole lot better, thank You Jesus. I remember when I got clean, I was absent for a few years. A lot of abuse happened during that time. When I came back, I hated how nervous I was. Then noticed it was with men. Even trustworthy men in my family. That was about 2017. I still get nervous even around guys in church. Sometimes I’ll just force myself to say hi, cordially.
My father was really abusive towards me. He had slap me, kick me, smack me with his belt, squish my head with his foot, flick my ears, call me names (stupid, ugly, fat, dirty, prostitute), and after doing all that, he stopped talking to me for some quiet time until he forgot and start talking and acting like nothing ever happened between us. I really hate myself to be born as female, because once I tried to run away from him but he caught me and I can't do anything about or power's difference.
My mother never really care about me so when my father did all of that, she's just pretending not to notice. The reason of why he's doing all of that was always because I tried to talk back to him, in the sense that I also want to be heard.
I would have bruises all over my body after that, so when I'm going to school or going outside in general, I would always use sweater and long pants.
In school, boys and girls make fun of me, calling me names, they left me alone when the teacher told us to make a group. I rely alot on movies and animes to heal the wound in my heart. But even until now (at the age of 27) I still can't move on from that past.
I'm currently living alone renting a small room, work as a teacher, and have one cat. The existence of my cat help me a lot when I'm stressed out from everything, including the nagging from my parents who urge me to get married.
The heck with getting married, I don't even have that many friend (only 5 and all females), never in a relationship, never even fall in love.
I don't really bring much impact to the society anyway, should I just kill myself?
I tried talking to my mom about my fear, and she either laughs or says "Then why do I date", her solution is just dont date men. Now that my problem has a name, i want to explain it to her but i dont know how because she keeps beating me down.
Hope you are doing well ☺
@@nurulsikder8849 thanks :)
@@timxhx1832 Stay safe and you know that you are strong ☺
Man If I met someone who was androphobic, first thing I would be confused first and think if it was said something.
I have had this since I was born. My mom said I HATED men, except my dad and my grandpa.
I have been suffering from androphobia for a long time. I was pursued by my home-room teacher when I was a high school student.
does it count of me having the phobia if im mostly only scared of men 13 and older?
@@Brunzner that's.. quite rude..
@@Brunzner i do not care if it was a joke, it's still rude
Geez calm down
Idk since when giving an opinion is rude but whatever
@@Brunzner you're telling me to calm down when you were being rude first
It’s all because i was raised in saudi arabia .. i didn’t interact with any men!
20 y.o and i didn’t have any relationships before.. i feel attracted towards men but i always avoid them
after returning back to my country and knowing new friends they started asking me why i always do this..
What makes it worse that i’m playing stupid dating games to feel better about myself
:” wish me luck
I’m starting my own way of treatment cause my family will think that this is useless ( they even think i’m like this cause i’m religious and it’s a good thing! ) .. I added the first man on facebook and we started chatting 2 months ago but 😂.. i couldn’t bear that feeling and i closed all my accounts on social media instead of blocking him cause he was really nice :(
I came back again .. and i will try to do it
Sorry for my English .. i just needed to talk about this with anyone..
i've dealt with this most if not all of my life, it hurts. I can't even have a husband because i'm so afraid. :'( I have Jesus and he takes care of me.
But if u met him you would be scared would you not. Especially if his voice sounds like what they said it sounds like. I'll send a link
But Jesus is a man, lol
Yes, Jesus was a man. But let us not forget that Jesus was a figure who saved countless victims. I am not a Christian, but looking at the life of the 'man Jesus', it is clear that he worked to save the lives of many people, including many women. From both the modern male and female perspectives, Jesus is a figure worthy of respect in many ways. It is not at all surprising that the woman who left this comment feels a deep sense of comfort in Jesus.
@@scoot_black740 I met Jesus he’s my best friend. I love him. He saved me and he loves me and I love him too. He is gentle and kind and loving and protective and merciful and gracious and perfect and so many more things I could say. I love him so very much.
@@Turquoiseaxolotl Jesus is the spirit we must worship him as such he is God he is Lord. He is wonderful and perfect and I love him.
If you are willing to heal, the you will heal eventually. Though it will take very long time. In my case, it took me 20 years to be able to talk to guys and not to skittish with men. But I am still not fully recovered. I am still trying my best to heal and to accept whoever I am. Up to now, I never have any relationship. I am always single. I barely feel lonely for I barely understand the need of having a man next to your side when I can almost do anything by myself.
I'm just scared that said man will turn out to be a psychopath and/or an abuser.The domestic violence cases and murders are getting higher every year.So yeah,just another phobia to add to the list of why I can't seem to lead a normal life...yay
@LANDON SHUCK absolutely,Im just speaking from my point of view as a woman.Abuse doesn't have a gender.
I realize that I have this phobia. I believe it began in my childhood by having no positive male role models in my life or a dad. My mom married a man who never interacted with me or my siblings in a positive way. When she wasn't around and was at work, he used to bully and intimidate me or yell at me for something I didn't do. He even broke my basketball goal for no reason just to take away from me something that I loved. I'll never forgive him or forget it. He tries to say hello to randomly, then walks past me the next time he sees me. Continuing the emotional abuse. I really don't know why he has a hatred towards me. The sad part, my mother sees it. And does nothing. I suppose if he was a pedophile she would turn away to. Like others do. God has something in store for him... Later in life, I was drugged and sexually assaulted just for going to the movies with someone I knew. After that I've avoided men permanently. They assume I'm just gay and prefer women but I'm actually just traumatized. I can't even take my son to the barbershop. It makes me very uncomfortable and anxious. I just take him inside and go sit in my car until he's done. Lastly, when men approach me or try to flirt with me I feel anxious and get away from them as quickly as possible or throw their numbers away. I don't think I could ever get married. Some men are just monsters. And when you're traumatized by one, you look at all of them the same and it's hard to distinguish who's good or bad, so you avoid them all due to your life experiences that have been bad involving them. Androphobia is trauma related.
I get very anxious when there’s any boys or men around me, I’m pretty sure it’s because of my past.
It's the worst feeling ever I thought I was alone its feels less lonely knowing someone understands 😔
Nearly every woman in my family has been raped/molested multiple times. I myself have been harassed and assaulted. And men have such little sympathy for others it makes me feel so scared and alone
7: domestically,verbally and physically abused by my dad
9: family runs away from dad
11: meets my best friend scared as heck of men and boys apart from my best friend
best friend vows to protect me from any man who tries to hurt me
gets pushed up against wall and gets forcefully kissed by school "cool guy" my best friend sees and gets into a massive fight.....
MY BEST FRIEND IS AWESOME AND YES I AM STILL SCARED OF MEN AND THAT IS MY PIG OF A FATHER'S FAULT
feel sorry you, hope you get better. i understand your anger against your father, it was not fair and right what he did to you, but now you can take action, you can do it :)
now you blame an entire sex for the actions of one Man? that's sexist
@@Shhehwhsi24 ikr. She will probably grow up to be one of those purple haired misandristic feminist snowflake
I get anxiety when I’m around men or my crush, cause I didn’t grow up with a dad, idk much abt men but that’s the main reason I’m scared, also because they sometimes hurt women is a few ways ( will not be saying ) but I feel safe around men who don’t pay attention with me, or my friends that are boys but I gotta be close with them.
It takes me four years to finally having a relax and peace conversation with my boyfriend... I usually avoid his eyes, when we’re in conversation I’m having trouble to focus on whatever he said, but my anxiety was too worse i end up breaking our relationship abruptly without having a good explanation... i think I’ve become worse now.. i even feel disgust with my own father and male siblings.. i didn’t look at them in the eyes, I rarely spoke with them.. what worse my own younger brother throw me a lot of sarcasm for having a bad relationship with my own father.. it’s not like i hate them but I really hate it when they tried to talk to me..
*its a miracle that i finally got myself a boyfriend when i was 25... but my fear towards guys become worse than ever after breaking up with him... and now i thought that maybe I could survive my whole life without man..
Omg that’s why my relationship with my dad sucks
Same as you :( I really want this to stop...i really am suffering
you just a sexist gurl.
@@Blue-lc5np became aoem kids don't get closer to their father sad
The thought of my friends going out on dates with men and feeling totally at ease with them is bizarre to me. I wouldn't be able to relax 😅
For years as a preteen and teenager I told people around me that I was afraid of men and wanted actual help. I was blamed for "hating men." No one wants to hear about why anyone might distrust men, especially not women who desperately want male attention. Now I'm a recluse who's afraid of everyone. I'm not happy to be a human being on this planet.
I swear I have this bro. Have y’all seen what they’re doing because of Jada? I’m terrified✨
the emoji makes it look sarcastic.
Franek RB huh-
@@swanlaked I think she's talking about the sparkle emoji
Thats me,i have this phobia ;)
I’m 16, I was sexually assaulted by two cousins when 5, when 8, I was sexually assaulted again by my stepdad, be was abusive to me and my till he was in jail, this caused a terrible fear of men and I would always get so scared when near a man or I would sweat and my eyes would starting tearing up and I would always refuse to walk past a man if u wasn’t with someone else.
I also feel scared and anxious when a boy is near me or even stare at me . I've been sexually harrased many times and now i don't even stay in a room in which there's a man . Everyone in my family hate me for.being like this and my mom forcec me to sleep with my uncle
Can androphobia also be for only new men? I feel okay comfortable with my father and two male teachers that I’ve known about a year now, though I don’t trust them fully. Any other male I will almost cry approaching
im scared of all men but the ones with beards are terrifying
Get over yourself and talk to a bearded guy
your not scared your shy
@@JordanPooIe who are you to talk?
Hi to all the girls, I'm a men and I'm also a human just like you😉. Don't be afraid
story of my life
Im a boy with androphobia
Is there a correlation between being androphobic and accidentally dressing masculine?
I don’t think there are ? But I’m androphobic and I dress “masculine” so I can speak for myself: Dressing masculine is what I like because it’s the kind of style I like, and I don’t think that style should only be available for men and I don’t think clothes should be gendered. Also it keeps men from staring at my body (not always unfortunately), and most of the times, if not always, with my short hair and hat they think I’m a man, so I know I have like 10% more chances of not getting whistled at or called kitty kitty in the streets or getting raped. It’s like a protection
I wanna die rn
Last time when i had a comp lecture the whole 7th A ,B ,C was there in the av room but miss only found me to sit next to a boy as there were lessons of 1 hrs i was uncomfortable for 1 hr sitting next to him he even put hand on my chair i was sitting so uncomfortably when miss told to remove a pencil my hands were shaking and tom we again have a comp period im rlly scared
I studied in
a Girls school and now find difficult to talk to any guy!!!!!😑 how to overcome this problem
Stay close to men and try and interact with them. You will eventually build up the social skills required for having good interactions with men if you do that.
@@Silverswitch1 yes im in a coed college now. improved a lot :))
I’ve had it not because of any trauma but because a lot of young people get sexually harassed and abused by men and men about my age which really scares me no I’ve never been sexually harrsssed
😣😣Really I don't like to talk with a single gue ...ya I can handle one guy but if there is group I can't stay there or saw them . I fell irritating when I guy speaks likely with me ........ That's why I don't make friends in boy........😣
But I have lot of confidence to compete them.....but can't talk.😛
Are there jobs men free???
I had a physical abuseive Father He would always beat on me and my mom i would cry her face all bloody and as i get older i learned and practice fighting and one day I snapped at my dad and thats why i have the phoebia now
I dont know why are some people afraid of male or female...???
it's mostly trauma that they experienced from the past. but if you're talking about ppl who don't have trauma, maybe they feel intimidated by older men. And i mean their presence. Some men are arrogant, or short-tempered. Or they just get bad vibes from them? I got bad vibes from the janitor at my school, it wasn't weird since i don't have this phobia, but just think about ppl who have this phobia, they would probably ran away by now. But as for the fear of girls.. was there such a thing though? Maybe someone does, but it's very rare. They have no reason to get intimidated by us since it's mostly men who do that. Unless it's a physical abuse when they were a child (like a mom).
@@jodie1090 say that to those manipulate karen and women they suck as much as some men
@@sarov7658 i think people fear Karens NOT because they are women but because they are white. It's a race thing . If it wasn't, there would be black/brown/Asianetc Karens too.
@@Booksfromthecloset people fear Karen’s because they are usually narcissistic and selfish, but I have seen some people on the internet who fixate on their race, but otherwise it’s because “Karen’s” are usually terrible people.
Yah thats me....37 single
"I'm afraid of men."
Man here.
You should be.
Nah shut up
@@senjukawarag1 haha scared of God's creation
Ur mom is the one who created u. She's a woman. Keep ur voice low, ur impotence is showing
@@mahiya.05 queen energy u radiate
@@suhanimishra5344 inspired by u
Im afraid of 20 and older.
Honestly, I wanna trust men more. I want a good man who loves me :( (and who’s around my age of course)
I was, or actually I still am, attacked by my brother. He's autistic and nonverbal, there's not much we can do, but every time I get better he beats me up for something ans then I go back to square one.
I think i have this bec i had bad experience with men, those men were strangers, not someone i knew, and now I'm not interested in relationships with men, i get triggered around men due to trauma, it sucks....