I take a picture every morning of what I wear out to work or on the weekend. Then I rate them of how I felt on that day in my clothes. Was I pulling this up or tugging on that ? How confident did I feel? Etc , and put it in a doc on my phone .
@@athag1 it's helped tremendously! For starters I have a whole folder of outfits on my phone to choose from on a daily basis. I also find I wear things more often (so say I have a shirt I'm iffy about, and it's hanging there , I test it with all my bottoms, and that way I figure out how I can wear it comfortably, maybe it's a tuck only thing, maybe it's something that only feels good loose on loose, it helps utilize the items I do have !) This also helps me to let go of things too, if I've bought something because I've been influenced, I love it for the sake of branding or color or maybe it's got something lacy that attracts me, but it just doesn't work, the proof is in the photo. And sometimes I end up donating or selling a piece because of it! You should give it a shot!
@@_inflection3209 Thanks for sharing. I’ve been taking photos of outfits I like, but they are kinda all over the place. I have to learn how to put them in a folder. Do you keep your folder organised in any way (you must have a lot of items in it) and refer to it or do you just remember the main things you’ve learned from your analysis?
After a substantial weight loss in 2019, I’m also altering (myself) many of my items that are now too big, instead of passing them on. My skills are improving all the time; I just took in the shoulders of my first blazer, my most complex alteration to date, it feels great!
I think this is the key to "effortless" style. If you have spent time carefully choosing items that you love, fit you well and reflect your style you might just throw them on in the morning in a tried and tested way. The effort and thought goes into buying and organising in order to make it seem "effortless" when it comes to getting dressed.
Also, take time to iron or steam everything that needs it in your closet. Can't tell you how many times I "haven't had something to wear" simply because I hadn't taken the time to iron my linen blouses or pants or whatever. Ridiculous but true 😆 Great video as always, Alyssa!
omg YES. This is HUGE and I completely forgot it - thank you for mentioning it because it is another "time" element that makes all the difference! Thank you for sharing! xx
Ok. Here come some truly eccentric advice. I have a lot of clothes, and I like it that way. Most are bought second hand, so I do not feel too bad about it. I am also a terrible insomniac. Now I have come up with a variant of «counting sheep» that works great for me. In my mind I mentally pick out one of those miserable «step-daughter» garments that never gets taken out for a spin, and then I try to combine it with whatever I can think of from my closet. I style it with different shoes, accessories, outerwear...whatever. All in my mind, of course! And then I try it out in real life whenever I find time. It does not always work out as imagined, but I do surprisingly often find a solutions for my «step-daughter» garments. And I always fall asleep....eventually! So two birds with one stone!
Great video and great insight, thank you. Actually I have come to realize that people who are good at something, and that means anything, including dressing, are good at it because they take the time and make an effort. It is as simple as that. Most things in life are not only about talent but about DOING it, practicing, learning, trying something and then try some more. And that is great. Because it means that being a good dresser is achievable.
I loved these tips, I took time for the first time the other evening to style a pair of lilac trousers I bought last year and had never worn because I thought they were only for “smart”. But I went over to my son’s in them and shopping with my hubby and they both commented on how nice and summery I looked.I’m getting better at unusual less boring pairings and dressing things down a bit!
I really love the core focus of these tips: how to build contentment with what you already have. This is the focus of all videos on this channel, but for some reason it really came though for me today. It's really easy to become obsessive about all the little "rules" when watching fashion content. It's easy to worry "am I doing this right?" When I give myself TIME to reflect on what I have that I love, it makes it easier to say "no" to a purchase - even one that would fit well into a "curated closet" - because I can say "I already have _______, which I love. I will find ways to wear that item more." When I see great fashion pieces (even on sustainable channels!) it's really easy for me to say "ooo, I want that, I'm going to look for that." Giving myself time to look at my closet, try on an outfit I love, or even write down 5 great outfits I already have curbs that impulse. It's been a journey, because this pandemic has lead me to seek out comfort, which lead to me into compulsive shopping practices, which lead me to have to address those practices. This channel helps me slow down and push back against the impulse!
Rachel thank you so much for sharing! I love the idea to write down 5 great outfits - another helpful tool! I'm so glad you find this content helpful xx
Hi Alyessa. Great tips. It was Coco Chanel who said to remove one item before leaving home. But she used to wear so many necklaces so when she removed one it wasn't much of a difference. I like to think that I did it the correct way in the first place so that I don't need to waste time removing anything. Great video.
Ciao Alessa, si lo ha detto Coco Chanel, ma in un' epoca in cui le donne uscivano con grandi cappelli decorati con piume e fiori e avere piu' gioielli significava ricchezza. E togliendo qualcosa che siamo arrivati agli accessori come li concepiamo adesso. Mi piaccono molto I tuoi video!
I also recommend that we should have a couple "go to" outfits put by for those days when we are really strapped for time. Thanks Alyssa! Always learn something from your channel!
Hi, your tips remind me of my eldest aunt, passed away 10 years ago at the age of 80, very self-conscious. Every time saisons changed she'd try on her whole wardrobe to see what fitted or not, still stylish etc. Always in her free time trying on her things and creating new outfits so that she would know what to wear, what looked good at any given moment without loosing time.
Snap photos? 🎯 Oh such a pure gold idea. My closet is so stuffed with “assembled “ outfits but I tend to forget what is there. Clever you. (It was Coco Chanel who said to look in the mirror, remove 1 item befor leaving home)
During my career, I always took the time to put together the next work day’s outfit, and properly care for the items I had worn that day. I’m not the sharpest tool in the box at 4:00 in the morning, so it really helped me.
Ciao Alyssa! I used to put outfits together for my work week on Sundays. Lately, I have just been looking for what's quick on a day to day basis. You're right! I felt so much more put together when I took the time to plan my outfits. Playing dress up is something I never got to do in my childhood. That leads me to think of how much I have let life control what I wear instead of making the time to really look at what I wear and how it can make a huge difference of how my clothes can make me feel more confident and more put together. Merci for this video.
I always thought I was so weird for taking pictures of my outfits! I’m not sure why it’s different than looking in the mirror but it really is. That’s how I decide on an outfit for a special event or a swimsuit. Thanks for making me feel (not) weird! 😊
I already have a huge wardrobe, so I’m trying to minimize shopping, which became became an expensive hobby (online shopping) during my 16-month+ isolation/lockdown. One thing I have been doing is rotating pieces “in” that I didn’t wear during that time. It satisfies that desire to have something new, because these items look fresh again, after their long rest in my closet. One thing I’m proud of: I didn’t buy any of that loungewear that brands were offering everywhere, I just wore my perfectly good extant leggings and knit tops, instead. I so wanted some of the matching sets! Compulsive shoppers like me have to start with baby steps, but I’m making progress, and you help a lot! Thanks🙂
Same journey here. I have been focusing in avoiding duplicates, I always think if I already have something too similar, if I do and I still love it then probably won't buy a new one.
Good for you for not caving into the marketing hype. I bought one matched set of loungewear (that’s supposed to be ok for going out too! Ha!) and will probably never wear the two pieces together again!! At least it’s not tie dye!
@@janienichols46 The horrifying reality is the people who should not wear ‘loungewear’ because it’s not forgiving or flattering , do wear it outside of the home to the grocery store, or drugstore. It’s scary and laugh-inducing, IMO!
This is so true. This another great videro. I already do this. So many of my colleagues thought I spent a lot of money on my clothing, but I spent time with my closet. I would plan my weekly school outfits and then finalize them the night before. I planned my outfit, my perfume, makeup, my accessories all the night before. I also tried everything on and can see if I need to mend or clean anything. I am not a morning person, so in the morning I just throw on what I planned and get so many compliments on my style at work.
“Lean into your creativity” is such a nice expression and i had never heard it, so don’t apologize cause you just made my english speaking skills better ;)
Hi, Alyssa. Re wearing things you are on the fence about: last week I put on a blouse I had been thinking of getting rid of and had not worn for almost a year. I love the way it looks but for some reason the particular fabric it's made of ALWAYS makes me sweat, regardless of the ambient temperature. I told myself that maybe I was exaggerating, that it goes with so much of the rest of my wardrobe that I should really give it another chance - but no, 2 hours in I was dripping wet. After this reminder, it went into the "donate" pile. If I hadn't taken the time to re-wear it, it would have continued to clutter my closet indefinitely :(
As a painter, I always take a picture of a work in progress. It really helps in evaluating where I am in the process. I didn’t think to do it with clothing! Fast forward to a family photo and I really got to ‘see’ what my outfit was about. Yippers!! Aahahaaa.
Alyssa, I "found" you not long ago, and I am very fascinated of you. Your personality, your charisma, the positive way you present your videos. you now have a new "fan" in Munich
I love the idea of taking time to organize your closet and plan your outfits.. I actually took that project on during the COVID lockdown when there was extra time. I would put on an outfit and try things with it. My husband would see me going back and forth between the closet and the mirror and say, "what are you doing?" And I would say, "I'm accessorizing."
Very useful tips! It happens so often that I want to go out the door and want to try something new and I just can't get it right, it takes so long before I'm ready to go out the door, it's sooooo frustrating. Your tip to create those outfits when you have the time and making pictures of it as a sort of reminder and also for checking the photo if it's really a good outfit for me, is the best tip ever.
I did this after reading a tip in a style book by Issac Mizrahi. He suggested taking a front, side, and back photo of each and every outfit combo you have. I did it for my work wardrobe and got my daughter to take the photos. I could see the colors that didn't work, a jacket in an unflattering length, necklines that looked bad, pants that didn't really fit. I also saw pieces that looked great! Then I could figure out what to keep, what to give to Goodwill, and as one of your other videos suggested...what to alter to make it worth keeping! Plus, you then know how to make better purchases to fill the holes from the stuff you let go. I wish I'd done it about a decade before.
Great timing. I’m attending a June wedding. I’m a last minute “what am I going to wear!”Today I will set time aside pulling items from my closet for that June wedding. And I will try the photos to help decide.
Loved your statement of “take time to try on clothing and take pictures in them” I have been doing that! It makes it so much easier to get dressed in the “hurried” mornings. I just scroll through my pics, and choose the outfit that is appropriate based on the weather and what I’m doing that day. 😀
When I worked in an office environment I had a colleague who arranged all her suits in a row in her closet. She would wear the one in front and then the end of the day place it at the back of rack. She had a very analytical personality and this technique worked for her because she never had to think about what to wear. I always marveled at this because I would choose my clothing for the day depending on what I felt like that day. To me, her technique felt like a straight-jacket but it worked for her.
The pandemic has really made me appreciate time more. I am happy staying at home and doing all the things I do now that previously I was too busy to do! This includes time and attention to my wardrobe. Over the past year, I have really thought about what I want, what I need and did a 'no new' buy challenge to make me really reflect and rediscover. This year I am doing a low buy (mostly thrifting) and I am selling or giving away what I have decided doesn't suit my lifestyle/style anymore. It is so satisfying!!!!! You and your channel are a big part of my journey! THANK YOU xx
I started by taking pictures of myself while shopping so my retail manager friend could help me decide if something looked good on me. I started being able to identify what I thought looked good myself. I love the idea of styling looks from my closet and doing the same.
Oh my that advice to wear something you are not sure of all day REALLY has helped! Sometimes I will just say, “For whatever reason, I just don’t feel great.” I’m often not sure quite why, but… go with it!
Thank you for your good advice. Pre-pandemic, I kept track of what I wore to work every day. I added notes if a look was successful or not, etc. I only recently discovered your channel. I enjoy the content of your vidoes and the length of them. Like many people, I'm spending long hours at my computer. When I need a break from my work - I brew a pot of tea and watch one of your wonderful, informative and fun videos. Many thanks.
I'm loving your videos! I don't have this problem of over consuming, actually the other way round. I find it really hard to find versatile pieces of clothing. I love feeling like myself on my clothes but really dislike fishing for those items; so your advice is really helpful and I'm slowly dedicating more time and putting mind on my outfits with thing I already have, and how to make those combinations beforehand. Love from argentina!
Taking photos daily (or close to it) has been tremendously helpful for discovering what I find myself using over and over on a monthly basis! And looking back on things I’ve tried and realizing that it doesn’t compliment me the way I thought it did, but at least I was trying new things! I love the idea of “making a date” with your closet and really going over your inventory, planning outfits, coming up with creative outfits, and setting aside what you don’t reach for anymore. Scheduling time to reflect is genius!
I just watched this again tonight, 'cast from my phone to my TV ' (I taught myself this a year or so ago, woohoo!) Your advice is, of course, timeless. One of these days I'd like to join a group live, when my Australian time works with Canadian time. (Of course, when you come to Oz, you'll let us know.) X Kitty
Love the idea of snapping photos of myself to get another perspective (reality check!?) on how an outfit looks. Haven't done that, but will now. Thanks 👍👍👍
I use Stylebook to record my clothes, and they recently put up a video about how to turn yourself into a dress-up doll in the app. It might be fun for the photo taking suggestion you made 😊
Stylebook is amazing! You input your wardrobe into the app then make outfits. I don’t forget cute outfits I’ve made in the past, I can see what I never wear and I can plan outfits for the week or even trips I’ll be going on.
One of the best style video ever!!! Thank you so much for all your insights. I realised that I did you one of the tips (modified) in the past and it worked very well. I would wear work item that I have decided to declutter but feel on the fence about to work and I would pay attention to my reflection in the mirrors and windows. I would note how I feel and how comfortable the item is. By the end of the day, I usually will have a verdict.
Loving this video after busy day and sipping a glass of wine...it is so nice to hear this, as I also talk with my clients in nutrition about the value of putting aside time to think of what they are going to eat during the week... it seems like a similar idea - love it :)
The universe aligns. I was going to record by video every time I do an outfit idea. I've been organizing my closet lately. This is right on time! Pun intended! 😀
Just stumbled upon your video and loved it! I was planning to downsize and overhaul my wardrobe, but now I’m looking to re-assess what I have and see if I can style the items in a fresh new way, thank you! New subscriber here.
Totally agree. It wasn’t until I made the conscious decision to spend time focusing on wardrobe curation did I begin to develop “style.” The thing about time is that it allows for experimentation & mistakes. I started this process back in 2019 and after a lot of trial & error, I’m finally understanding what I truly enjoy wearing & what embodies my most authentic self :)
Watching this again on a rainy Saturday. You've motivated me to take the time to put my winter gear in perfect order for next year. I washed or dry cleaned my coats and jackets, which will be ready for action when needed. Now it's on to my winter wardrobe. We've hit reliably warm temperatures, so I'm switching things out with care. There's something special about your time theory. Thank you!
Hello from France! I discovered your one year ago and you helped me a lot. I found my style. J'ai trié mon dressing. Énormément. I love your videos when you show us how to wear a cloth 10 or 15 differents ways! When I see all the mix I can do will all my clothes, I say.... MERCI BEAUCOUP !
Yes I agree you have to spend time in your closet. I just did last night and I'm some things I was unsure of for my summer capsule. I think I will try that idea of wearing something I'm not comfortable in for a day to see if I really love it not love the item. Thank you Alyssa
Sometimes if I feel lazy or unmotivated, throwing on my accessories last minute or tweaking my outfit ready does help! Thank.you for the super helpful tips! 😊
Great tips! My favourites were, testing out an outfit you are unsure of, and those couple of minutes before heading out the door. I so agree about the "take off one accessory" rule, absolutes like that are not useful. I also loved your advice on looking at oneself critically and compassionately. That last one is so important!
Wonderful tips. I usually do outfit ideas a few times a year but this year I did it by season. I use an app to keep track of what I wear and it also helps with unnecessary repeat buying. I haven’t tried to video myself but I think I will give it a go to get the um 😐 backside view. The Italian definitely makes its presence there 🥴 I hopefully was able to get a spot for Saturday. I haven’t got the email instructions yet. Thank you 😊
Terrific video and you definitely nailed it. It does take time to be creative and I have also found that seeing yourself in a photo of the outfit makes a huge difference.
I agree, planning outfits and organizing your closet does take a bit of time and thought. Every morning while waking up and drinking my coffee in bed is the usual time I brainstorm and decide what I feel like wearing, what to put together etc. thx for this reminder. Without time to think, nothing creative is ever accomplished
I do all those things! Just styled a pair of pants yesterday this way. I love to play dress up in my closet. Nothing worse than trying to put an outfit together at the last minute.
This is so true. I will spend a good amount of time closet shopping an outfit for a special event but do not do this for daily every day outfits, and this is when I usually feel I have nothing to wear. This is a really useful tip Alyssa thank you.
Valuable suggestions! Thanks Alyssa! I will be taking photographs in future. Since ‘meeting’ you I have come to realize that I have a uniform. Jeans or trousers with a T-shirt or a shirt, a jacket and a scarf, earrings and a watch. Love from The Netherlands XOX.
Loved this video! I've been spending more time playing in my closet and you're right, it does pay off! I keep a photo file and in addition to giving me outfit ideas on the days I'm stuck, it also helps me see my progress in putting together better outfits that really suit my personal style! Thanks for sharing these insights Alyssa!
Patience is key! As a woman who is taller than average, it has taken me 2 years each time I try to replace a pair of non-denim pants that are long enough and accommodate my curves that are also secondhand.
I’m also a tall curvy woman, and I’ve had very good success finding pants that fit from NYDJ (for jeans) and from Canadian sellers Joseph Ribkoff (great versatile pieces also perfect for travel) and from Melanie Lyne/Laura clothing who often have pants that are quite long (read the product specs for length).
Great Tips. The photo documentation has been key for me. I just never fully understood "why" I liked certain garments until I started doing this. I discovered through this process that I have a couple of "uniforms" lean towards. Thanks for all these ideas and for all the inspiration.
Intriguing ideas! I'm often short on time, so I'm willing to try these ideas. It's lovely and stress reducing to have a few sure-fire success outfits waiting in the wings.
You always have such great advice! Sometimes when I have a special event or plans, I always want to buy something new! But after watching your videos, now I take a moment to really look into my closet and see what can I pair together in a new way! Love your videos! 💕
Sundays afternoon I have an appointment with you ! Than, at night I have an appointment with my closet , to plan the week . And funny is that it’s a recent habit ❤️
When I buy something new, I always do a closet check with it and put together as many outfits as I can think of. If I can make at least 5 without much effort and another 5-10 with a bit more thinking, I’ll keep it. It also has to fit perfectly on it’s own. If it has to be combined with something specific to look good, it’s going back to the store. Pants need to work with different types of shoes etc etc
Totally agree on your perspective on the take off one accessory quote! As someone who can NEVER remember or be bothered to accessorize, the opposite holds true for me! On most days that last look in the mirror is when I will remember to at least put on a pair of earrings or a watch!
My daughter and I started sending outfit pictures to each other during lockdown because at least we were getting dressed and it replaced the check in texts. I wear test outfits to the grocery store! The freezers make great full length mirrors lol. Once a season I put together “just in case “ outfits for last minute dressing. I make casual, dressy and edgy/street outfits with two temperature options and take pictures. This has saved me lol. The occasions are much less now so when an opportunity presents itself, I want to be ready 😉
Thank you, this makes so much sense! Today is my birthday and my family bought me your necklace for a present! It's SO pretty and it was fun seeing your name on the pouch it comes in. I hope they used your link! In any case, it's so lovely and was a beautiful gift. 🌷
LOVE this! Thank you Alyssa! Never thought of it like this, and yet, I an see the truth of this principle in my writing and coaching practice. We just give anything we love our time, focus, and attention and we learn to observe with a certain quality of attention and to notice more. Thanks for this reminder! Hope you're staying warm during this cold spell. Big hugs, N🌺
Such great information. I will certainly be incorporating these tips. Baby steps, I'm a baby step type person. If not, I get totally overwhelmed and nothing gets done.🤷♀️
Alyssa, I’m listening to this video in the supermarket and you said “make sure you have a lint brush on hand” and I looked to my right and my shoulder is covered in cat hair 😅😅 i feel attacked 🤣🤣🤣 Ps. Awesome video ♥️♥️♥️
Hey, Alyssa! You are speaking my language and I totally agree with you. First of all, let me say that your hair looks gorgeous parted down the middle with that low ponytail. Secondly, I love how you encourage the idea of spending more time experimenting with the items in your wardrobe. When I did that #parisianstyle10x10 with Jessica Harumi, I was in a huge style rut and it kind of blew me away to see how many outfits I could get out of just 10 things. It made me realize I have way too much and more than enough! Thanks for sharing your tips and wisdom. XO, Bri
Oh wait, did you cut your hair? I love it! You look so vibrant. Thank you for this video Alyssa. I am learning a lot about how to revamp my personal style without making extra expenses.
Now that I shop my closet. I enjoy dark top with light pants or visa versa...it may not sound like much...but it is for me as someone who always wore dark clothing.
I love trying out "new to me" outfits and making little videos. Then when I share them on my Instagram or wherever I get other's feedback, too, which helps.❤
thank you for your very interesting tips ! I already began to collect photos of looks I like to inspire me, and put some combinaisons in little excel spreadsheet - photo taking is a good idea, I have a little experienced it to have a bank of outfits as you say, but not so muche I will try again - thank you again for your nice work !!
amen sister, I think you are on to something. time the needed/missing ingredient of so many things in life. my wardrobe is not my 'job' per se, but it is a hobby, and i do spend time choosing, letting go, buying, maintaining, tracking, mending clothes. it goes in my schedule. if you don't have a *lady's maid* (haha) it has to, eh? (just adding my own Canadian stereotype :)
I take a picture every morning of what I wear out to work or on the weekend. Then I rate them of how I felt on that day in my clothes. Was I pulling this up or tugging on that ? How confident did I feel? Etc , and put it in a doc on my phone .
i LOVE that! Thank you for sharing! xx
That’s very interesting. How has this practice change the way you approach your outfit choices?
@@athag1 it's helped tremendously! For starters I have a whole folder of outfits on my phone to choose from on a daily basis.
I also find I wear things more often (so say I have a shirt I'm iffy about, and it's hanging there , I test it with all my bottoms, and that way I figure out how I can wear it comfortably, maybe it's a tuck only thing, maybe it's something that only feels good loose on loose, it helps utilize the items I do have !)
This also helps me to let go of things too, if I've bought something because I've been influenced, I love it for the sake of branding or color or maybe it's got something lacy that attracts me, but it just doesn't work, the proof is in the photo. And sometimes I end up donating or selling a piece because of it!
You should give it a shot!
@@_inflection3209 Thanks for sharing. I’ve been taking photos of outfits I like, but they are kinda all over the place. I have to learn how to put them in a folder. Do you keep your folder organised in any way (you must have a lot of items in it) and refer to it or do you just remember the main things you’ve learned from your analysis?
@@athag1 get a life
After a substantial weight loss in 2019, I’m also altering (myself) many of my items that are now too big, instead of passing them on. My skills are improving all the time; I just took in the shoulders of my first blazer, my most complex alteration to date, it feels great!
I want to learn to do that. Would you have any video recommendations?
Oh wonderful! Can you post a tutorial? That is a great way to save money and keep pieces you love ..
I think this is the key to "effortless" style. If you have spent time carefully choosing items that you love, fit you well and reflect your style you might just throw them on in the morning in a tried and tested way. The effort and thought goes into buying and organising in order to make it seem "effortless" when it comes to getting dressed.
Also, take time to iron or steam everything that needs it in your closet. Can't tell you how many times I "haven't had something to wear" simply because I hadn't taken the time to iron my linen blouses or pants or whatever. Ridiculous but true 😆 Great video as always, Alyssa!
omg YES. This is HUGE and I completely forgot it - thank you for mentioning it because it is another "time" element that makes all the difference! Thank you for sharing! xx
So true
Ok. Here come some truly eccentric advice. I have a lot of clothes, and I like it that way. Most are bought second hand, so I do not feel too bad about it. I am also a terrible insomniac. Now I have come up with a variant of «counting sheep» that works great for me. In my mind I mentally pick out one of those miserable «step-daughter» garments that never gets taken out for a spin, and then I try to combine it with whatever I can think of from my closet. I style it with different shoes, accessories, outerwear...whatever. All in my mind, of course! And then I try it out in real life whenever I find time. It does not always work out as imagined, but I do surprisingly often find a solutions for my «step-daughter» garments. And I always fall asleep....eventually! So two birds with one stone!
Great video and great insight, thank you. Actually I have come to realize that people who are good at something, and that means anything, including dressing, are good at it because they take the time and make an effort. It is as simple as that. Most things in life are not only about talent but about DOING it, practicing, learning, trying something and then try some more. And that is great. Because it means that being a good dresser is achievable.
I loved these tips, I took time for the first time the other evening to style a pair of lilac trousers I bought last year and had never worn because I thought they were only for “smart”. But I went over to my son’s in them and shopping with my hubby and they both commented on how nice and summery I looked.I’m getting better at unusual less boring pairings and dressing things down a bit!
I really love the core focus of these tips: how to build contentment with what you already have. This is the focus of all videos on this channel, but for some reason it really came though for me today. It's really easy to become obsessive about all the little "rules" when watching fashion content. It's easy to worry "am I doing this right?" When I give myself TIME to reflect on what I have that I love, it makes it easier to say "no" to a purchase - even one that would fit well into a "curated closet" - because I can say "I already have _______, which I love. I will find ways to wear that item more."
When I see great fashion pieces (even on sustainable channels!) it's really easy for me to say "ooo, I want that, I'm going to look for that." Giving myself time to look at my closet, try on an outfit I love, or even write down 5 great outfits I already have curbs that impulse. It's been a journey, because this pandemic has lead me to seek out comfort, which lead to me into compulsive shopping practices, which lead me to have to address those practices. This channel helps me slow down and push back against the impulse!
Rachel thank you so much for sharing! I love the idea to write down 5 great outfits - another helpful tool! I'm so glad you find this content helpful xx
Alyssa you're allowed to self-plug without linking to your competitors!
SAM THANK YOU xx I do think those gals are doing great things and appreciate your permission nonetheless - i need it! :):)
Yes!! Let's normalize self-promotion.
Totally!!! You are worthy of your talents! Let us keep gleaning from that gift:)
You are in business and you should be proud of it! No need to be sorry! I celebrate your success with you!
Hi Alyessa. Great tips. It was Coco Chanel who said to remove one item before leaving home. But she used to wear so many necklaces so when she removed one it wasn't much of a difference. I like to think that I did it the correct way in the first place so that I don't need to waste time removing anything. Great video.
Ciao Alessa, si lo ha detto Coco Chanel, ma in un' epoca in cui le donne uscivano con grandi cappelli decorati con piume e fiori e avere piu' gioielli significava ricchezza. E togliendo qualcosa che siamo arrivati agli accessori come li concepiamo adesso. Mi piaccono molto I tuoi video!
I also recommend that we should have a couple "go to" outfits put by for those days when we are really strapped for time. Thanks Alyssa! Always learn something from your channel!
Hi, your tips remind me of my eldest aunt, passed away 10 years ago at the age of 80, very self-conscious. Every time saisons changed she'd try on her whole wardrobe to see what fitted or not, still stylish etc. Always in her free time trying on her things and creating new outfits so that she would know what to wear, what looked good at any given moment without loosing time.
Snap photos? 🎯 Oh such a pure gold idea. My closet is so stuffed with “assembled “ outfits but I tend to forget what is there. Clever you. (It was Coco Chanel who said to look in the mirror, remove 1 item befor leaving home)
During my career, I always took the time to put together the next work day’s outfit, and properly care for the items I had worn that day. I’m not the sharpest tool in the box at 4:00 in the morning, so it really helped me.
haha i dont think any of us are at that time in the AM! Great suggestion Kimberly!
Ciao Alyssa! I used to put outfits together for my work week on Sundays. Lately, I have just been looking for what's quick on a day to day basis. You're right! I felt so much more put together when I took the time to plan my outfits. Playing dress up is something I never got to do in my childhood. That leads me to think of how much I have let life control what I wear instead of making the time to really look at what I wear and how it can make a huge difference of how my clothes can make me feel more confident and more put together. Merci for this video.
The “take one accessory of” is by Coco Chanel, if I remember correctly.
Ur correct
it was her! Thank you for sharing! xx
True!
Great rule! I think it is the concept which counts. Don’t over accessorizing.
That is correct
I always thought I was so weird for taking pictures of my outfits! I’m not sure why it’s different than looking in the mirror but it really is. That’s how I decide on an outfit for a special event or a swimsuit. Thanks for making me feel (not) weird! 😊
I already have a huge wardrobe, so I’m trying to minimize shopping, which became became an expensive hobby (online shopping) during my 16-month+ isolation/lockdown. One thing I have been doing is rotating pieces “in” that I didn’t wear during that time. It satisfies that desire to have something new, because these items look fresh again, after their long rest in my closet. One thing I’m proud of: I didn’t buy any of that loungewear that brands were offering everywhere, I just wore my perfectly good extant leggings and knit tops, instead. I so wanted some of the matching sets! Compulsive shoppers like me have to start with baby steps, but I’m making progress, and you help a lot! Thanks🙂
Same journey here. I have been focusing in avoiding duplicates, I always think if I already have something too similar, if I do and I still love it then probably won't buy a new one.
Good for you for not caving into the marketing hype. I bought one matched set of loungewear (that’s supposed to be ok for going out too! Ha!) and will probably never wear the two pieces together again!! At least it’s not tie dye!
@@janienichols46 The horrifying reality is the people who should not wear ‘loungewear’ because it’s not forgiving or flattering , do wear it outside of the home to the grocery store, or drugstore. It’s scary and laugh-inducing, IMO!
This is so true. This another great videro. I already do this. So many of my colleagues thought I spent a lot of money on my clothing, but I spent time with my closet. I would plan my weekly school outfits and then finalize them the night before. I planned my outfit, my perfume, makeup, my accessories all the night before. I also tried everything on and can see if I need to mend or clean anything. I am not a morning person, so in the morning I just throw on what I planned and get so many compliments on my style at work.
I first pick the hero piece and build my outfit around that piece so I always have an great outfit to wear. 😊😊
“Lean into your creativity” is such a nice expression and i had never heard it, so don’t apologize cause you just made my english speaking skills better ;)
Hi, Alyssa. Re wearing things you are on the fence about: last week I put on a blouse I had been thinking of getting rid of and had not worn for almost a year. I love the way it looks but for some reason the particular fabric it's made of ALWAYS makes me sweat, regardless of the ambient temperature. I told myself that maybe I was exaggerating, that it goes with so much of the rest of my wardrobe that I should really give it another chance - but no, 2 hours in I was dripping wet. After this reminder, it went into the "donate" pile. If I hadn't taken the time to re-wear it, it would have continued to clutter my closet indefinitely :(
As a painter, I always take a picture of a work in progress. It really helps in evaluating where I am in the process. I didn’t think to do it with clothing! Fast forward to a family photo and I really got to ‘see’ what my outfit was about. Yippers!! Aahahaaa.
Alyssa, I "found" you not long ago, and I am very fascinated of you. Your personality, your charisma, the positive way you present your videos. you now have a new "fan" in Munich
Fantastic advice. I’ll try the advice tomorrow like taking photos and putting outfits together. Life was easier when I had hardly any clothes.
Love the idea of spending the day at home in an outfit of which you are unsure.
I love the idea of taking time to organize your closet and plan your outfits.. I actually took that project on during the COVID lockdown when there was extra time. I would put on an outfit and try things with it. My husband would see me going back and forth between the closet and the mirror and say, "what are you doing?" And I would say, "I'm accessorizing."
Lol I love this image! We tend to leave men scratching there heads alot,us women! A price we pay for lookin' fabulous!!
Very useful tips! It happens so often that I want to go out the door and want to try something new and I just can't get it right, it takes so long before I'm ready to go out the door, it's sooooo frustrating. Your tip to create those outfits when you have the time and making pictures of it as a sort of reminder and also for checking the photo if it's really a good outfit for me, is the best tip ever.
I did this after reading a tip in a style book by Issac Mizrahi. He suggested taking a front, side, and back photo of each and every outfit combo you have. I did it for my work wardrobe and got my daughter to take the photos. I could see the colors that didn't work, a jacket in an unflattering length, necklines that looked bad, pants that didn't really fit. I also saw pieces that looked great! Then I could figure out what to keep, what to give to Goodwill, and as one of your other videos suggested...what to alter to make it worth keeping! Plus, you then know how to make better purchases to fill the holes from the stuff you let go. I wish I'd done it about a decade before.
Great timing. I’m attending a June wedding. I’m a last minute “what am I going to wear!”Today I will set time aside pulling items from my closet for that June wedding. And I will try the photos to help decide.
Ooh i love that you'll get to put these tips in practice! I'm sure you'll look amazing! xx
Loved your statement of “take time to try on clothing and take pictures in them” I have been doing that! It makes it so much easier to get dressed in the “hurried” mornings. I just scroll through my pics, and choose the outfit that is appropriate based on the weather and what I’m doing that day. 😀
When I worked in an office environment I had a colleague who arranged all her suits in a row in her closet. She would wear the one in front and then the end of the day place it at the back of rack. She had a very analytical personality and this technique worked for her because she never had to think about what to wear. I always marveled at this because I would choose my clothing for the day depending on what I felt like that day. To me, her technique felt like a straight-jacket but it worked for her.
The pandemic has really made me appreciate time more. I am happy staying at home and doing all the things I do now that previously I was too busy to do! This includes time and attention to my wardrobe. Over the past year, I have really thought about what I want, what I need and did a 'no new' buy challenge to make me really reflect and rediscover. This year I am doing a low buy (mostly thrifting) and I am selling or giving away what I have decided doesn't suit my lifestyle/style anymore. It is so satisfying!!!!! You and your channel are a big part of my journey! THANK YOU xx
I started by taking pictures of myself while shopping so my retail manager friend could help me decide if something looked good on me. I started being able to identify what I thought looked good myself. I love the idea of styling looks from my closet and doing the same.
Oh my that advice to wear something you are not sure of all day REALLY has helped! Sometimes I will just say, “For whatever reason, I just don’t feel great.” I’m often not sure quite why, but… go with it!
Thank you for your good advice. Pre-pandemic, I kept track of what I wore to work every day. I added notes if a look was successful or not, etc. I only recently discovered your channel. I enjoy the content of your vidoes and the length of them. Like many people, I'm spending long hours at my computer. When I need a break from my work - I brew a pot of tea and watch one of your wonderful, informative and fun videos. Many thanks.
I especially love the two-minute once-over suggestion. Thank you!
I'm loving your videos! I don't have this problem of over consuming, actually the other way round. I find it really hard to find versatile pieces of clothing. I love feeling like myself on my clothes but really dislike fishing for those items; so your advice is really helpful and I'm slowly dedicating more time and putting mind on my outfits with thing I already have, and how to make those combinations beforehand. Love from argentina!
Thank you! You still are one of my favourite people on YT.
aw Kasia thank you very much for the kind words!
Great tip on taking a photo/video of yourself in an outfit. Love this idea! I’m a Canadian, too! 🙌😁🥂
Taking photos daily (or close to it) has been tremendously helpful for discovering what I find myself using over and over on a monthly basis! And looking back on things I’ve tried and realizing that it doesn’t compliment me the way I thought it did, but at least I was trying new things!
I love the idea of “making a date” with your closet and really going over your inventory, planning outfits, coming up with creative outfits, and setting aside what you don’t reach for anymore. Scheduling time to reflect is genius!
I just watched this again tonight, 'cast from my phone to my TV ' (I taught myself this a year or so ago, woohoo!) Your advice is, of course, timeless. One of these days I'd like to join a group live, when my Australian time works with Canadian time. (Of course, when you come to Oz, you'll let us know.) X Kitty
Love the idea of snapping photos of myself to get another perspective (reality check!?) on how an outfit looks. Haven't done that, but will now. Thanks 👍👍👍
Just had to stop into the comments to say thank you for your fantastic content! I love videos and find them so helpful.
that is so kind Justine thank you! xx
I use Stylebook to record my clothes, and they recently put up a video about how to turn yourself into a dress-up doll in the app. It might be fun for the photo taking suggestion you made 😊
Thank you for the suggestion Kelly! xx
Stylebook is amazing! You input your wardrobe into the app then make outfits. I don’t forget cute outfits I’ve made in the past, I can see what I never wear and I can plan outfits for the week or even trips I’ll be going on.
One of the best style video ever!!! Thank you so much for all your insights.
I realised that I did you one of the tips (modified) in the past and it worked very well.
I would wear work item that I have decided to declutter but feel on the fence about to work and I would pay attention to my reflection in the mirrors and windows. I would note how I feel and how comfortable the item is.
By the end of the day, I usually will have a verdict.
yes! I really believe in that process. Glad you find it helpful too marina!
Loving this video after busy day and sipping a glass of wine...it is so nice to hear this, as I also talk with my clients in nutrition about the value of putting aside time to think of what they are going to eat during the week... it seems like a similar idea - love it :)
Planning my weekly meals or food choices and buying all of it before the week begins has been my key to success in weight loss.
The universe aligns. I was going to record by video every time I do an outfit idea. I've been organizing my closet lately. This is right on time! Pun intended! 😀
haha love it!
Just stumbled upon your video and loved it! I was planning to downsize and overhaul my wardrobe, but now I’m looking to re-assess what I have and see if I can style the items in a fresh new way, thank you! New subscriber here.
Oh my gosh!! Love reading this! Thank you so much for subbing and I'm so glad you'll give your closet another once over! Have fun with it! xx
Totally agree. It wasn’t until I made the conscious decision to spend time focusing on wardrobe curation did I begin to develop “style.” The thing about time is that it allows for experimentation & mistakes. I started this process back in 2019 and after a lot of trial & error, I’m finally understanding what I truly enjoy wearing & what embodies my most authentic self :)
Watching this again on a rainy Saturday. You've motivated me to take the time to put my winter gear in perfect order for next year. I washed or dry cleaned my coats and jackets, which will be ready for action when needed. Now it's on to my winter wardrobe. We've hit reliably warm temperatures, so I'm switching things out with care. There's something special about your time theory. Thank you!
yes! There really is - i'm so glad you like the idea :)
Hello from France!
I discovered your one year ago and you helped me a lot.
I found my style.
J'ai trié mon dressing. Énormément.
I love your videos when you show us how to wear a cloth 10 or 15 differents ways!
When I see all the mix I can do will all my clothes, I say.... MERCI BEAUCOUP !
Yes I agree you have to spend time in your closet. I just did last night and I'm some things I was unsure of for my summer capsule. I think I will try that idea of wearing something I'm not comfortable in for a day to see if I really love it not love the item. Thank you Alyssa
Sometimes if I feel lazy or unmotivated, throwing on my accessories last minute or tweaking my outfit ready does help! Thank.you for the super helpful tips! 😊
Great tips! My favourites were, testing out an outfit you are unsure of, and those couple of minutes before heading out the door. I so agree about the "take off one accessory" rule, absolutes like that are not useful. I also loved your advice on looking at oneself critically and compassionately. That last one is so important!
Wonderful tips. I usually do outfit ideas a few times a year but this year I did it by season. I use an app to keep track of what I wear and it also helps with unnecessary repeat buying. I haven’t tried to video myself but I think I will give it a go to get the um 😐 backside view. The Italian definitely makes its presence there 🥴 I hopefully was able to get a spot for Saturday. I haven’t got the email instructions yet. Thank you 😊
Terrific video and you definitely nailed it. It does take time to be creative and I have also found that seeing yourself in a photo of the outfit makes a huge difference.
thank you i'm so glad you liked this video! xx
Loved this video.....timeless information 👏🏾. I will definitely start taking photos of outfits that I like and use those for future reference 😀 Thanks
I agree, planning outfits and organizing your closet does take a bit of time and thought. Every morning while waking up and drinking my coffee in bed is the usual time I brainstorm and decide what I feel like wearing, what to put together etc. thx for this reminder. Without time to think, nothing creative is ever accomplished
thanks for sharing Ingrid, I agree!
I do all those things! Just styled a pair of pants yesterday this way. I love to play dress up in my closet. Nothing worse than trying to put an outfit together at the last minute.
This is so true. I will spend a good amount of time closet shopping an outfit for a special event but do not do this for daily every day outfits, and this is when I usually feel I have nothing to wear. This is a really useful tip Alyssa thank you.
yay! I'm so glad you found it helpful Tatiana :)
Valuable suggestions! Thanks Alyssa! I will be taking photographs in future. Since ‘meeting’ you I have come to realize that I have a uniform. Jeans or trousers with a T-shirt or a shirt, a jacket and a scarf, earrings and a watch. Love from The Netherlands XOX.
I'm so glad you liked those ideas Rita :) Love that you have a uniform! Hugs from Canada! xx
Loved this video! I've been spending more time playing in my closet and you're right, it does pay off! I keep a photo file and in addition to giving me outfit ideas on the days I'm stuck, it also helps me see my progress in putting together better outfits that really suit my personal style! Thanks for sharing these insights Alyssa!
Patience is key! As a woman who is taller than average, it has taken me 2 years each time I try to replace a pair of non-denim pants that are long enough and accommodate my curves that are also secondhand.
Can you recommend any brands? I'm also taller than average and own exactly zero non-denim pants.
YES - patience is key. Thank you for sharing! xx
I’m also a tall curvy woman, and I’ve had very good success finding pants that fit from NYDJ (for jeans) and from Canadian sellers Joseph Ribkoff (great versatile pieces also perfect for travel) and from Melanie Lyne/Laura clothing who often have pants that are quite long (read the product specs for length).
I hear you! Looking right now for non denim pants. I wish it were easier.
@@Vittolf Ulla Johnson makes some nice pant options for tall and curvier ladies. Try looking on The Real Real or ThredUp.
And filming yourself when you play dress up! Since I made some videos I am so happy that I can look back at them. Love your tips 🧡
yes! Absolutely - I'm so glad you like that tip! xx
Great Tips. The photo documentation has been key for me. I just never fully understood "why" I liked certain garments until I started doing this. I discovered through this process that I have a couple of "uniforms" lean towards. Thanks for all these ideas and for all the inspiration.
Intriguing ideas! I'm often short on time, so I'm willing to try these ideas. It's lovely and stress reducing to have a few sure-fire success outfits waiting in the wings.
You always have such great advice! Sometimes when I have a special event or plans, I always want to buy something new! But after watching your videos, now I take a moment to really look into my closet and see what can I pair together in a new way! Love your videos! 💕
Sundays afternoon I have an appointment with you ! Than, at night I have an appointment with my closet , to plan the week . And funny is that it’s a recent habit ❤️
When I buy something new, I always do a closet check with it and put together as many outfits as I can think of. If I can make at least 5 without much effort and another 5-10 with a bit more thinking, I’ll keep it. It also has to fit perfectly on it’s own. If it has to be combined with something specific to look good, it’s going back to the store. Pants need to work with different types of shoes etc etc
Time, time to enjoy the closet! Loved it, thanks!
Great video, as always!
As a person with three cats, I want to hug the person who invented the lint brush.
haha yes ME TOO! Lucky you with three cats!
I agree, I have two golden retriever and two cats... love my lint brush :)
Totally agree on your perspective on the take off one accessory quote! As someone who can NEVER remember or be bothered to accessorize, the opposite holds true for me! On most days that last look in the mirror is when I will remember to at least put on a pair of earrings or a watch!
My daughter and I started sending outfit pictures to each other during lockdown because at least we were getting dressed and it replaced the check in texts.
I wear test outfits to the grocery store! The freezers make great full length mirrors lol.
Once a season I put together “just in case “ outfits for last minute dressing. I make casual, dressy and edgy/street outfits with two temperature options and take pictures. This has saved me lol. The occasions are much less now so when an opportunity presents itself, I want to be ready 😉
This is such a great idea! Thank you for sharing! xx
Seriously a fantastic idea!
Loved this video! I really needed a reminder like this to get me back on track! Thank you Alyssa!
Thank you, this makes so much sense! Today is my birthday and my family bought me your necklace for a present! It's SO pretty and it was fun seeing your name on the pouch it comes in. I hope they used your link! In any case, it's so lovely and was a beautiful gift. 🌷
LOVE this! Thank you Alyssa! Never thought of it like this, and yet, I an see the truth of this principle in my writing and coaching practice. We just give anything we love our time, focus, and attention and we learn to observe with a certain quality of attention and to notice more. Thanks for this reminder! Hope you're staying warm during this cold spell. Big hugs, N🌺
Such great information. I will certainly be incorporating these tips. Baby steps, I'm a baby step type person. If not, I get totally overwhelmed and nothing gets done.🤷♀️
Planning outfits for the week ahead 😍 I will get there at some point...
practice not perfection :) xx
Alyssa, I’m listening to this video in the supermarket and you said “make sure you have a lint brush on hand” and I looked to my right and my shoulder is covered in cat hair 😅😅 i feel attacked 🤣🤣🤣
Ps. Awesome video ♥️♥️♥️
hahaha the only reason I said that was because I am the exact same as you! cat hair is like a new accessory lol
@@AlyssaBeltempo 🤣🤣🤣
Very !!! Helpful 🤗thanks 4 sharing.
Agreed 100% when I learned this important detail my life became so much easier, I used to do this every sunday and is life changing.
Didn’t know you are Canadian even though I have heard you promote Canadian brands. Love ya even more now. 🇨🇦 representing across the world we rock!!
Hey, Alyssa!
You are speaking my language and I totally agree with you. First of all, let me say that your hair looks gorgeous parted down the middle with that low ponytail. Secondly, I love how you encourage the idea of spending more time experimenting with the items in your wardrobe.
When I did that #parisianstyle10x10 with Jessica Harumi, I was in a huge style rut and it kind of blew me away to see how many outfits I could get out of just 10 things. It made me realize I have way too much and more than enough!
Thanks for sharing your tips and wisdom.
XO,
Bri
Oh wait, did you cut your hair? I love it! You look so vibrant. Thank you for this video Alyssa. I am learning a lot about how to revamp my personal style without making extra expenses.
Now that I shop my closet. I enjoy dark top with light pants or visa versa...it may not sound like much...but it is for me as someone who always wore dark clothing.
I love trying out "new to me" outfits and making little videos. Then when I share them on my Instagram or wherever I get other's feedback, too, which helps.❤
I really liked your tips in this video, i’ve seen many videos on this topic but I really find your point of view unique 😊 Thx for sharing! 🌷☀️
thank you so much for the kind comment Amanda i'm glad you liked it!
Great Ideas! Have a super show on the weekend! Xoxo J🌎🌏🌍🌹🌹🌹
thank you for your very interesting tips ! I already began to collect photos of looks I like to inspire me, and put some combinaisons in little excel spreadsheet - photo taking is a good idea, I have a little experienced it to have a bank of outfits as you say, but not so muche I will try again - thank you again for your nice work !!
I'm so glad you liked those tips Agnes and love that you already do them! xx
Somehow I missed this a year ago! It's really great and full of reminders and ideas. Thanks
It was Coco Chanel who said that you should take off one purse of accessories before leaving home.
I like your tips. Time ❤️
I love your dresser!!
Love these ideas Alyssa! Great video as always💚💚💚
Wow, great insight! 👍 I never thought about this but it’s so obvious in hindsight
Loved this video Alyssa....informative and funny. By the way it was Coco Chanel wo coined the phrase, "Before you go out always remove on thing."
amen sister, I think you are on to something. time the needed/missing ingredient of so many things in life. my wardrobe is not my 'job' per se, but it is a hobby, and i do spend time choosing, letting go, buying, maintaining, tracking, mending clothes. it goes in my schedule. if you don't have a *lady's maid* (haha) it has to, eh? (just adding my own Canadian stereotype :)
You are spot on!!! Great tips
Great video Alyssa! Time is the ULTIMATE luxury!🤗
thank you! I'm so glad you liked this video! xx
This was terrific!