Oh, I really like that one! Thanks for sharing it. Another one I really like of a similar nature is “Our labours preserve us from three great evils - weariness, vice, and want. -Voltaire”
"You can change course as long as the next thing you do is equally or more difficult." Man what a thought. We are so used to take the easy way out. This is like a hook. Don't take the easy way out. Take the narrow road.
I agree completely. I actually tell this to a lot of people: "if it's easy, it's probably not the right thing to do" JBP has a lot of moments where I have to just sit for a minute to take in what he's said, so yes "what a thought!"
I want to be a writer but I am terrified. Terrified I’m not disciplined enough, not smart enough, not going to produce anything worthwhile…but two years ago I attacked it, and after many ups and downs I’m finally achieving the level of discipline required, as well as learning a bottomless amount. None of this I could have done if I didn’t go all in. What helped me; and maybe you, is the complete determination to do what you want for you, no one else. So long as I wrote 10 books I’m proud of before I die, I knew I’d be content.
Like Oscar Wilde once said: “If you know what you want to be, then you inevitably become it - that is your punishment, but if you never know, then you can be anything. There is a truth to that. We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing - an actor, a writer - I am a person who does things - I write, I act - and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a noun.”
About a year and a half ago, I became extremely (genuinely) determined and driven to "be great." My way of doing that was through rigorous physical activity and self-denial. Recently, I asked "why" and I couldn't find the reason. I didn't stop after the sacrifice nor the pain, but a "why." It's crazy how something that was so indescribably deeply connected to me was lost that easily.
I love when Jordan Peterson get's the opportunity to talk without getting interrupted. His logic and explanations gets a time to shine and we who haven't studied fancy degrees, can actually understand what he means.
I'm 44 and still looking for my purpose. The last time I had any purpose was over 15 years ago when I was an apprentice heavy equipment operator. I had to leave that job and move to the coast to take care of some family issues and after I was forced to move back to my home town and ended up on SSI due to a diagnosed mental illness, life lost all meaning. The last few years, especially during the pandemic, I found myself drifting into the realm of existential nihilism.
I got out of my depression via concentrating on my health. Only eating healthy foods. Exercise. Sleep. Water. I never thought getting my body healthy would stop my depression, but it did. I think we are as much as we eat as we are what we think. Now I eat lots of greens, meats and fats. No oil except olive oil. No fluids except water. (Btw I am 49). Never too late to start something new. Good luck friend.
Haha, you and me both Angelus. 😏 Delve into the philosophy of Absurdism and start to find your lack of agency a relief instead of a burden. 🤷♂️ I should have ended that sentence in a question mark but I'm firmly against self editing. Plus, I mean, nothing really matters anyway. This comment like so many others will be lost to the ether and I'll have forgotten it it... seriously like less than a minute. 😆
The only way out of exetensional nihilism is a meaningful life thats found in the adoption of responsibility. Therapy and Jordan Peterson got me out of that.
@@JoeBPedrosa Well, there's nothing out here for me to be responsible for other than my own speech and actions, which really doesn't bring any enrichment to one's life. As far as therapy is concerned, I tried that. I never had any idea what to talk about and the sessions ended up being short weekly check-ins to see how I was the last week so I gave up. I've been packing away my thoughts and emotions for so many years that it seems I lost the ability to talk about them.
I listen to you almost every day. Old classroom lectures, new interviews. You're still a badass. Always have been, I believe always will be. A man of your word. Not afraid to learn and change. Thank you.
A meaningful life can be extremely Satisfying even in the midst of Hardship whereas a meaningless life is a terrible ordeal no matter how comfortable it is. ‐Yuval Noah
@@raymondtendau2749 You're welcome. I didn't know the original quote but I've read Yuval's books and somehow doubted that he would possibly associate a meaningless life with satisfaction. It seems many people are repeating the same quote with the poor wording at the end unfortunately. It sends a confusing message or makes Yuval seem sloppy with words.
@@nebulouscalamity6338 The way you think is one of the motivations that keep me consistent in my reading habits. It really helps to catch the precision in language and also the underlying message hidden in writings. 😇
When I was a kid I remember thinking, that I only get one chance at life so it needs to be right... that was perfectionistic anxiety talking. I didn't commit to anything for years. I still struggle with that kind of thinking. It's severely life limiting
@@sonicmaths8285 Have you found that being perfectionistic made/makes you think you can't be very conscientious? I was convinced that I was low in conscientiousness because I couldn't start anything, and whatever I did start I hardly ever finished. It's strange that being really high in conscientiousness can result in _not_ getting things done.
@@letsgoBrandon204 Yes, it also staggered me how this could be! I am quite industrious (cannot deal unproductivity of any sort) and thus conscientious, but being also very perfectionistic made me do for example homework only if I could do it correctly. If not then I wouldn’t even begin with doing it and therefore get seldom things done. If I do not have enough material to learn something, even if only a tiny piece of information lacks, I immediately cannot tackle learning. When I’m doing my routine and I cannot get up at the exact time I planned I need to wake up, I immediately throw my routine away and do nothing. There is only do or do not and nothing in between which is a bit harmful as I noticed for me. Interesting and bad combination of personality traits. At the same time, I cannot handle doing nothing for a period of time. Even while resting I think about I need to do something god damn productive. It’s like pressure or weight on your mind which becomes heavier as you do nothing. That’s why I manage to do something which aren’t the things I should be doing and I’m going in these kind of directions way too far which ultimately leads to nothing truely productive. This might mean that I am low in dutifulness.
Yeah, I'm right there with you. Perfectionism sucks. It makes you feel like getting 95% of the way there is failure. And nobody likes failure so eventually you just stop trying, that's if you ever start. I find that I spend more time thinking about what I'd like to do than actually pursuing it. And that I have so many varied interests that it's impossible to excel at them all, but the perfectionist in me won't accept that. I also identify with your statement about how being high in conscientiousness can result in not getting things done. It seems a paradox, but I have come that conclusion as well.
It chose me , 13 years old and i fell in love with playing the drums , im 55 now , i sacrificed a hell of a lot to be the best i could be , i practiced everyday and still play today in a band, im not the best in the world , however there are not many better than me . if your going to do something , do it to the best of your ability if you can .
Getting tons of signs/ warnings, telling me that i should discipline myself through a form of apprenticeship. I keep ignoring that as if I'm hoping to stumble on a better sounding answer, that doesn't involve putting in the work. And then this JP clip comes along, hitting me right where it hurts 🎯. (sigh) Fine! I'll put in the work and see what happens.
Might have to listen to this one every day until its truth sinks in and packs around me and holds me upright. Commitment is hard, as it should be. But I've honestly had an easier time with commitment than I have making an initial decision. As a creative with a hundred things I love to do and can do, narrowing it down to one box has been excruciating.
@@hyperteleXii Well I don't think so. At best, you can extract the most common denominator and aim at that. As a creative person your interests might completely overwhelm you, because they are likely to be wide ranged.
Im currently going through a situation where i am forced to make something of myself, I have a talent in art, but i've placated to the whims of my family in terms of working a secure job position that is consistent. Through a series of events, i am now in a position where i am forced to use my talents to suppliment our income as best i can. And i love it. If divine intervention was present in this debocal, then it was neccessary to show my family that i can make this into something worthwhile, regardless of their doubts and fears.
47 years old here and gave up a career 18 years ago to study music and somehow make a life out of it. I've tried 'escaping' it many times (even moving to another country at one stage), just to experience a 'stable life' once again, but haven't been able to. Most recent endeavour was to become a music entertainer at retirement homes/care facilities - it's been my sole source of income for nearly 8 years, which got squashed by the events of the past 2 years. I think a lot of it comes down to personality; I feel like I've failed because I have nothing tangible to show for my work, have missed out on family, relationship, owing a home etc. It's been tough, and honestly I haven't wanted to carry on with life as a result. So in that regard maybe committing to a life purpose is better suited to certain people; as good as I am at my craft, I just can't let go of the feeling of loss, having missed out on a ''real life', whatever that is.
When I was about to be done with high school I was convinced I was going to be a game designer, was aiming to be a programmer and I was hit with a strong dose of reality one night as I was staying up and coming to terms with the fact that I have no sort of aptitude and motivation for it and I stayed on that part due to fear rather than want or desire. Cried that night because I know I was living something I so desperately wanted to be good at. Now aiming for something I’ve done since childhood and I am planning to see this to the very end.
I remember driving around the night before my first day of college basically wanting to cry. I didn’t want to be there, I had no guidance as a teen, I quit sports on numerous occasions, I was addicted to WoW like hard, was honestly just going so my girlfriend at the time would think I’m on a good trajectory so I wouldn’t lose her. That shit is way too expensive to be fucking around with - the type of schooling Jordan Peterson is talking about isn’t your average person’s experience of college - not even close - don’t just go to college, go to DO college or just don’t go. Edit: just realized you didn’t say anything about schooling but yeah you’re not gonna half ass your way through anything worthwhile
What are you aiming for now, if you don't mind me asking? I also thought I wanted to be a game designer but realized quickly that I didn't have the inclination or talent for the work involved in that field.
@@danfontaine8179 It depends on what you want to focus on within game dev. A lot of the roles certainly do, though the job content varies based on responsibility. The below is just me spewing out what I recall from me looking into it years ago. As of now, I'm still figuring things out. There are many roles within game development and design that one can take part in. Coding, art, writing, voice acting, music, business side( marketing/ accounting/ etc), and more. The actual game designers are what I understand to be more senior/ come from one of the game-building roles. Designers, from what I understand, try to guide everyone else to create the game they have in mind. Designers themselves can be divided up into different sections they're in charge of. For instance, level design or gameplay mechanics could be their domain. Coding is something that I found I could do, but wouldn't be happy with, in the long term, as I'm a very social type of person and need interaction. It would definitely require face-to-face time with a screen all day. Art is pretty straight forward with concept/ 3d/ illustration/ etc. These along with music and writing seem to be somewhat more contractual though permanent positions certainly exist. It seems to depend on the game/ studio. I like drawing, but not enough to draw all day. I don't have experience in music besides karaoke lol. Writing heavily depends on the game. Some require little others more so. A Writing position would be pretty cool since that would be the meat and potatoes of story-driven games. To get here, it would seem that more seasoned writers are taken on board to write a story that the lead game designers have in mind for games like god of war, etc. Other types of writers exist for different games. For instance, some are hired to write item descriptions for various objects in a mmo. Or another could be writing out the various dialog options in a game like divinity original sin. The requirement or skill of the writer is often based in proportion to the important story has to the game and what part of the game you're writing for. Item descriptions might not require GRRM for example.
im going to have to watch this clip again when i start basic training. i applied a little later in life but its been an interest of mine since childhood. thank you dr peterson for all that youve done for me these last 5 or so years
@@captainblackbeard7840 right on, it's when people think they're too old to live their life that wind up 40 year old children. Glad you're grabbing it by the horns man
You're right, committing to my purpose is terrifying. I love when Jordan said, "Make your box into a garden!" I just came to a decision to fight my anxieties and apply for a job I think I can do on the design side, but the people side is the hard part for me, especially with all the damage done in the last 2 years in everyone's lives. I do believe that if God knows I can do it, then I will get the job and He will give me what I need to excel at it, but I MUST depend of Him and not myself!!
When Jordan Peterson said that the jobs should go to those who are the most productive, I smiled and chuckled to myself. Being a hard worker all my life, pushing myself to the limits, fulfilling my own potential, jobs more often than not do NOT go to those who are the most productive. By these day's standards, doing my very best terrifies people and I don't get hired. That's why I just became an Entrepreneur instead and started my own businesses so that I can at least live up to my own expectations and standards, and not anyone else's. Because the sad reality of life is that you can work as hard and smart as you can and still end up with absolutely nothing, while people who couldn't care less end up having it all. So, although I'm all for committing to that ONE thing and sticking with it, don't take life too seriously either. Also, whatever you decide to do, remember that there's no magical recipe to happiness in life. There are cons and pros to everything. My advice, follow your true purpose in life and do stuff that is challenging and which makes you better in every possible way. You should also learn and educate yourself continuously. Do not care too much about what other people think either. Most people don't have the guts to be who they really want to be and just want to follow the mindless zombie herd. But I can promise you this, you will let your inner spirit and fire die, and you will never be truly free and happy. Only people who go all out and realize their full potential in life are truly happy. The miserable cunts stand on the sideline and judge the people who they secretly want to be. Fuck em all!
Hard work is not a guarantee. It's your best bet. If you ever play poker, you know that sometimes there's nothing you can do about the fact that you're going to lose, but good players choose the strategy that leads you to success most often. Hard work is the real life equivalent of that.
And yet, here you are. Needlessly wasting your time throwing shade. Clearly a lot of this wisdom wasn't that obvious, otherwise you'd probably have better things to do.
Perhaps that's true, but when one has such an extensive vocabulary as the Doctor, one must choose the best words (and all possible angles) to answer the questions. My vocabulary has grown very much listening to him.
Choosing to try and fulfill a purpose also means there is a risk you will not fulfill it. I have only recently started to understand what I need to do with my life, but I am always striving and updating on the path. I hope everyone gets to fulfill their meaning in some way.
I heard him say once that the goal is a moveable target! What do you know when you start? so even if you have to update it's really not to be perceived as a waste of time but as the price you had to pay to get the information. I myself update on the path often as I get more and more clear about what I want to do and where I want to go
This was well done, you knew what type of guest you had and knew it was best to throw your question out and let the great mind before you tackle it. Good stuff.
Commitment to positive growth & being what we can be while loving ourselves is what matters. We can find purpose in work&life alike. With good discipline we can make impacts in society & on others, that most importantly, we ourselves should appreciate.
This message can also apply to choosing the right partner! I want to commit to a good man that would make a good husband. I’ll use these tips to make marriage work.
so refreshing, having done my own journey through shadow working, I understood, we often live lies coming from people with good intention (our own relatives) that prevented me to overcome my own delusions, at the same time, some of these, I created in the first place . When you wake up from this you see the damage, losses and the result of your own demise. Welcome to the partial collapse of identity that leaves you with amputated parts for a long while until you replace what's dead. No picnic at all. It's f*cking hurt. People faking toughness trying to impress look like adult children compare to this. When you get it, it is for sure that there's way worst than death cause at least death is temporary. What I fear more in case I don't find full redemption is eternal existence. For the moment, I'm still convinced I made n excellent choice of not having any children. Even though, I follow Jordan Peterson in the major part of his teaching.
Im 43 and i haven't even found my purpose. Im not even sure purpose is the right word. Purpose implies destiny and I'm not sure we are guided by destiny. Seems more random and we have the chance to exploit "opportunities". But either way, you have to be very driven to do the thing.
Well - take heart Hun. My husband only found his purpose in going to Uni. at 47 ...to study History..a subject he has always loved...and his Dad advised him to study Geography when leaving school - which he has always bemoaned about. He is doing - reaaaally well !! ;) It is important to 'know in your guts' what fills you with excitement and anticipation ..the subject you LOVE. Hope this helps..n ..all the best.
@NolanEP ..HEY ! I thought that three years ago..then taught myself the drums - at 61. !! I always get as excited as a KID ....when I think of a song to drum along to....as I RACE towards them... after pressing 'PLAY' - on UA-cam. ;))) HA ! ( Can ya tell I used to be a Nanny !?! )
One doesn’t need direction and great opportunity to find meaning. Speak the truth, treat others and yourself as someone you’d want cared for, and attack everyday as if it was the last. Life is precious and short. Don’t muddy the waters with lies, cruelty, and laziness.
I just gave up on a couple year goal the other day. I was going to teach abroad but I got overwhelmed to make the move. I tried to restart but can't get any momentum... Don't really know what else to do now but change course.
Love this video and dr. Peterson. Anyway i've noticed a little audio problem. Everytime dr. Peterson speaks his microphone starts to make a weird noise and the noise suddenly stops when he stop to talk, like a constant breath into the mic. Anyway great video.
The best way to recognize our progress in life is to listen to other people's interactions. Think of it like this, if you really think about not only what someone said to you.. But how they physically expressed themselves, the patterns of their facial idiosyncrasies. This information will tell you how YOU are being seen, through perception. Who that person is will also introduce a distinct mental bias that you must consider, very little of what we say is perfectly understood. So the bias comes into play when we recall exactly what was said, and by our own means of interpretation we encounter a sort of road block, it might be an error to assume someone was being viscious or deceitful. If you're on the wrong train of thought, well it's hard to turn a train around. I've been researching consciousness in my spare time, and how it relates to human ability. It's a very misunderstood topic, for example.. Synesthesia is a condition where people can see the color of sound!The world is a complex arrangement of systems and principles which operate autonomously, that is to say creatures and life functions via survival instincts, "drive". Inorganic matter on earth, minerals and chemicals, operates on a set of principles which are more chaotic at a glance, driven by flow and consequence of interactions with the environment. Finally, humans don't get an instruction manual for life on how to be, and what to expect. Everything must be learned, taught, and experienced. This is why I decided to research consciousness, writing was always my hobby. And now I've learned to focus on critical thinking, and write about my observations and opinions. I think it's super interesting how our brain creates reality in our mind, so we can make sense of it. The world you see and the world of another person are completely different, your instruction manual would only work for you, but what even is a COMPLETE human? I think the process of creating the manual through experience is the fabric of this world we live in. Cheers, this was fun to think about. Have a nice day, Jordan Peterson is a wise man, very sage like.
Constructive feedback: I love your content Chris. I like your interview style, your way of thinking and your mission to understand these issues. Your outro though, for the unedited stuff ... It comes across so try-hard and I cringe so hard, every time. Just my two pence.
Can anyone offer some advice? I had an opportunity to stay in a city greatly affected by the pandemic. I was even offered a “stable” job at the end of 2020. However, I was scared of committing myself to the job for fear of being isolated for an entire year, so I ended up moving to a different city to be closer to family and got a remote job instead. The problem is that I feel like I’ve missed my golden opportunity to make a difference in the previous city since the pandemic is waning down. However, the damage that was done to said city was so substantial that I feel personally responsible for letting the city down and I’m unsure of what use I’d be now. Should I go back? Should I stay where I am? How do I know it won’t be a waste of time?
Talking about changing course . . . SUCH THAT the next thing is " at least equally or more difficult. " In my life ( low level socially as it is ) . . . i have found that changing course is automatically at least as difficult as staying on the same path. Trying to make the change less stressful has always backfired for me. The harder i try to avoid stress . . . the more stressful the change becomes. Regardless of the new path or any other path. I think the word " PATH " is over used, over simplified, and under - defined and under - specified. Path can mean almost anything you want it to mean. I strongly suspect Dr. Peterson is using the term in a very narrow sense to refer only to a choice of major subject for undergrads or graduate students . . . rather than to a path in life in more general terms. Comments ?????????
Hmm, I think in context path is everything that you're doing to cause what you have fully committed to do make happen. So in this narrow sense not everything can be a path. It's only a path if it can definitely lead you where you are trying to go intentionally, as opposed to hoping happenstance just brings the thing you want to you. Yes it can be difficult to get off of a path you've committed to, bit many people turn back down the mountain when they see storm clouds ahead. Actually, I'd say we practically default to taking the easier "path" that is eventually harder and more damaging vs the harder path that eventually makes things better. This is due to our naturally discounting the future for the present. This is what we're trying to battle when going on a certain path gets hard in the short term
I think it would be helpful to know that you yourself build those walls, they aren’t preconstructed boxes. That helps me know that those are my walls and not someone else’s walls I’m living in.
Just realized the other day that I am poor and unaccomplished because I never specialized. Specializing brings financial success, which grows your options and enlarges your box. You must voluntarily enter a small box before you can occupy a big box. It's true.
03.:54 " Every body knows this" Self discipline ( self parenting ) , find your " thing" to commit to, be puntucual, hard works..works, Paradise is a walled garden ( Box ) so box yourself in to the thing that you have committed yourself too. Clean your room, stand up straight, hold solid virtues Keep your word, be honest to yourself , speak up and say the truth, dont wait as it WILL be TOO late. even if you dont know what to do ... Just do something anything and even if you do it badly the first few times keep doing it but JUST DO IT.... Oh and check out Jordan Petersons Self Authoring Program... Writting your thoughts about yourself to find YOUR way.... but hey..Every body knows this.......
Can someone please explain what Peterson meant when he mentioned the Patriarchy here? I've listened to that part again and again but it doesn't make sense to me
He was using it as an example of a disciplinary process. That we need to subjugate ourselves to a disciplinary process because that allows us to focus ourselves on a single line, to aim. He also explains why the bashing of a patriarchal system shouldn't be so quick, since he suggests that we need a disciplinary process, and some people believe that it is an oppressive system and that we don't need a disciplinary process.
Why would I live a life experiencing just one thing?? People are different. There's people that can be happy doing just one thing for 60 years. This is the kind of people that have been born in their era. The era of Industrial Revoluion and capitalism. Where you are highly valuable if you are an expert in just one thing. Then there's people lik me that can focus on learning things to an expert level, but that have difficulty mastering it because of their hunger to know more about the world. We are the multipotentilites. People that want to experience as many trades as possible. People that get bored when they are super good at something. This kind of people don't live in the right society. Maybe in the future, when robots will replace all the experts it will be time for creative people, people that understand the process of cration from different perspectives, I think it will be our time. When I'm old, I want to say "I'm glad I learned all the different things I learned instead of focusing on just one thing and ignoring the rest".
I don't think Committing to your purpose isnt whats terrifying, rather the terrifying part is that you don't know what you get or will lose in the process. In my case there is so much i want to do and usually i commit myself to something, i do it and i end up with "It was a fun journey, but im not enjoying this anymore" So it's not that im terrified about commiting myself, there is so much thing i want to do that i can't. Specially if i don't find it enjoyable anymore. Rather its, im terrified about not having enough time to do what i want which in the end means i can't commit myself to one thing. This year i will turn 25.
I see that with a lot of people there is doubt in themselves to try and commit to their "purpose." However, when they do take action it seems to me that they truly enjoy what they are doing. So I've learned that, It is better to do something you like and fail at it, then to try something you hate doing and fail at that too. I'm terrified of not taking that action, I'm terrified of thinking of an action so much I never take it. Time is never wasted, I just have to prioritize where I put it.
@@sophiabynico Yeah thats the thing. To me i feel like sleeping is a waste of time and i always do things i like and want to but yeah idk, i feel like time is short
@@marcuspvxea I’be always tried to not sleep, even now I only get 6 hours or less because I want to stay up and be productive. But after doing a ton of research with the psychodynamic perspective in mind, Ive accepted to rest my mind and body when I can, maybe not always but still I should
Watch the full episode with Jordan - ua-cam.com/video/laSK7Pxh0_8/v-deo.html
Great episode. Thank you Chris for doing this interview and thank you Jordan for accepting!
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“Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.”
Victor Frankl
Oh, I really like that one! Thanks for sharing it. Another one I really like of a similar nature is “Our labours preserve us from three great evils - weariness, vice, and want. -Voltaire”
Work will set you free...
"You can change course as long as the next thing you do is equally or more difficult."
Man what a thought. We are so used to take the easy way out. This is like a hook.
Don't take the easy way out. Take the narrow road.
I agree completely. I actually tell this to a lot of people: "if it's easy, it's probably not the right thing to do" JBP has a lot of moments where I have to just sit for a minute to take in what he's said, so yes "what a thought!"
I want to be a writer but I am terrified. Terrified I’m not disciplined enough, not smart enough, not going to produce anything worthwhile…but two years ago I attacked it, and after many ups and downs I’m finally achieving the level of discipline required, as well as learning a bottomless amount. None of this I could have done if I didn’t go all in. What helped me; and maybe you, is the complete determination to do what you want for you, no one else. So long as I wrote 10 books I’m proud of before I die, I knew I’d be content.
Keep going buddy, nothing is easy!
How did you manage to overcome thst resistance, I too currently feel the same way with the career path I've chosen😔
10? I aim for 1. Because every one of them from my past doesn't feel as good as the next one.
Like Oscar Wilde once said: “If you know what you want to be, then you inevitably become it - that is your punishment, but if you never know, then you can be anything. There is a truth to that. We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing - an actor, a writer - I am a person who does things - I write, I act - and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a noun.”
@Caleb Newman92 Glad I could share valuable information for you
About a year and a half ago, I became extremely (genuinely) determined and driven to "be great." My way of doing that was through rigorous physical activity and self-denial. Recently, I asked "why" and I couldn't find the reason. I didn't stop after the sacrifice nor the pain, but a "why." It's crazy how something that was so indescribably deeply connected to me was lost that easily.
I get it. But the happiness is found in the anticipation of achieving something great. So don’t give up on your happiness
I love when Jordan Peterson get's the opportunity to talk without getting interrupted. His logic and explanations gets a time to shine and we who haven't studied fancy degrees, can actually understand what he means.
"Get yourself disciplined well why ?
well not so you are a slave but so that you could be a master"
Powerful and inspiring words to live by!
I'm 44 and still looking for my purpose. The last time I had any purpose was over 15 years ago when I was an apprentice heavy equipment operator. I had to leave that job and move to the coast to take care of some family issues and after I was forced to move back to my home town and ended up on SSI due to a diagnosed mental illness, life lost all meaning. The last few years, especially during the pandemic, I found myself drifting into the realm of existential nihilism.
I got out of my depression via concentrating on my health. Only eating healthy foods. Exercise. Sleep. Water. I never thought getting my body healthy would stop my depression, but it did. I think we are as much as we eat as we are what we think. Now I eat lots of greens, meats and fats. No oil except olive oil. No fluids except water. (Btw I am 49). Never too late to start something new. Good luck friend.
@@BenMJay Thanks for the tips.
Haha, you and me both Angelus. 😏
Delve into the philosophy of Absurdism and start to find your lack of agency a relief instead of a burden. 🤷♂️ I should have ended that sentence in a question mark but I'm firmly against self editing.
Plus, I mean, nothing really matters anyway.
This comment like so many others will be lost to the ether and I'll have forgotten it it... seriously like less than a minute. 😆
The only way out of exetensional nihilism is a meaningful life thats found in the adoption of responsibility. Therapy and Jordan Peterson got me out of that.
@@JoeBPedrosa Well, there's nothing out here for me to be responsible for other than my own speech and actions, which really doesn't bring any enrichment to one's life. As far as therapy is concerned, I tried that. I never had any idea what to talk about and the sessions ended up being short weekly check-ins to see how I was the last week so I gave up. I've been packing away my thoughts and emotions for so many years that it seems I lost the ability to talk about them.
I listen to you almost every day. Old classroom lectures, new interviews. You're still a badass. Always have been, I believe always will be. A man of your word. Not afraid to learn and change. Thank you.
A meaningful life can be extremely Satisfying even in the midst of Hardship whereas a meaningless life is a terrible ordeal no matter how comfortable it is.
‐Yuval Noah
It would make more sense to replace the last instance of "satisfying" with the much weaker notion of "pleasurable".
@@nebulouscalamity6338 Thanks man.Its actually " Comfortable".I checked and corrected it.Much Respect 🙏🏾 👏
@@raymondtendau2749 You're welcome. I didn't know the original quote but I've read Yuval's books and somehow doubted that he would possibly associate a meaningless life with satisfaction. It seems many people are repeating the same quote with the poor wording at the end unfortunately. It sends a confusing message or makes Yuval seem sloppy with words.
Oof. I'm quick to existential crisis as it *is* Raymond. 🙄
@@nebulouscalamity6338 The way you think is one of the motivations that keep me consistent in my reading habits. It really helps to catch the precision in language and also the underlying message hidden in writings. 😇
When I was a kid I remember thinking, that I only get one chance at life so it needs to be right... that was perfectionistic anxiety talking. I didn't commit to anything for years.
I still struggle with that kind of thinking. It's severely life limiting
Feel ya, being highly conscientious and simultaneously perfectionistic in that way is painful
@@sonicmaths8285 Have you found that being perfectionistic made/makes you think you can't be very conscientious? I was convinced that I was low in conscientiousness because I couldn't start anything, and whatever I did start I hardly ever finished.
It's strange that being really high in conscientiousness can result in _not_ getting things done.
@@letsgoBrandon204 Yes, it also staggered me how this could be!
I am quite industrious (cannot deal unproductivity of any sort) and thus conscientious, but being also very perfectionistic made me do for example homework only if I could do it correctly. If not then I wouldn’t even begin with doing it and therefore get seldom things done.
If I do not have enough material to learn something, even if only a tiny piece of information lacks, I immediately cannot tackle learning.
When I’m doing my routine and I cannot get up at the exact time I planned I need to wake up, I immediately throw my routine away and do nothing.
There is only do or do not and nothing in between which is a bit harmful as I noticed for me.
Interesting and bad combination of personality traits.
At the same time, I cannot handle doing nothing for a period of time. Even while resting I think about I need to do something god damn productive. It’s like pressure or weight on your mind which becomes heavier as you do nothing. That’s why I manage to do something which aren’t the things I should be doing and I’m going in these kind of directions way too far which ultimately leads to nothing truely productive. This might mean that I am low in dutifulness.
Yeah, I'm right there with you. Perfectionism sucks. It makes you feel like getting 95% of the way there is failure. And nobody likes failure so eventually you just stop trying, that's if you ever start. I find that I spend more time thinking about what I'd like to do than actually pursuing it. And that I have so many varied interests that it's impossible to excel at them all, but the perfectionist in me won't accept that.
I also identify with your statement about how being high in conscientiousness can result in not getting things done. It seems a paradox, but I have come that conclusion as well.
I suffer from the opposite so if there's a happy medium.. we both missed it friend. 😅
It chose me , 13 years old and i fell in love with playing the drums , im 55 now , i sacrificed a hell of a lot to be the best i could be , i practiced everyday and still play today in a band, im not the best in the world , however there are not many better than me . if your going to do something , do it to the best of your ability if you can .
Getting tons of signs/ warnings, telling me that i should discipline myself through a form of apprenticeship. I keep ignoring that as if I'm hoping to stumble on a better sounding answer, that doesn't involve putting in the work. And then this JP clip comes along, hitting me right where it hurts 🎯. (sigh) Fine! I'll put in the work and see what happens.
Uugh. Me too but I *hate* doing stuff. 😩
Rather leave internet comments. 🤷♂️
Might have to listen to this one every day until its truth sinks in and packs around me and holds me upright.
Commitment is hard, as it should be. But I've honestly had an easier time with commitment than I have making an initial decision. As a creative with a hundred things I love to do and can do, narrowing it down to one box has been excruciating.
You can always combine all of it into a cross-disciplinary work.
I got the adhd goin so excruciating barely covers it. 🤦♂️
@@hyperteleXii Well I don't think so. At best, you can extract the most common denominator and aim at that. As a creative person your interests might completely overwhelm you, because they are likely to be wide ranged.
Im currently going through a situation where i am forced to make something of myself, I have a talent in art, but i've placated to the whims of my family in terms of working a secure job position that is consistent. Through a series of events, i am now in a position where i am forced to use my talents to suppliment our income as best i can. And i love it. If divine intervention was present in this debocal, then it was neccessary to show my family that i can make this into something worthwhile, regardless of their doubts and fears.
"Pick your damn box." Absolutely love Jordan
Does that have anything to do with Boxing day?
That's always confused me. 🤔
47 years old here and gave up a career 18 years ago to study music and somehow make a life out of it. I've tried 'escaping' it many times (even moving to another country at one stage), just to experience a 'stable life' once again, but haven't been able to. Most recent endeavour was to become a music entertainer at retirement homes/care facilities - it's been my sole source of income for nearly 8 years, which got squashed by the events of the past 2 years. I think a lot of it comes down to personality; I feel like I've failed because I have nothing tangible to show for my work, have missed out on family, relationship, owing a home etc. It's been tough, and honestly I haven't wanted to carry on with life as a result. So in that regard maybe committing to a life purpose is better suited to certain people; as good as I am at my craft, I just can't let go of the feeling of loss, having missed out on a ''real life', whatever that is.
How are you now?
When I was about to be done with high school I was convinced I was going to be a game designer, was aiming to be a programmer and I was hit with a strong dose of reality one night as I was staying up and coming to terms with the fact that I have no sort of aptitude and motivation for it and I stayed on that part due to fear rather than want or desire. Cried that night because I know I was living something I so desperately wanted to be good at. Now aiming for something I’ve done since childhood and I am planning to see this to the very end.
I remember driving around the night before my first day of college basically wanting to cry. I didn’t want to be there, I had no guidance as a teen, I quit sports on numerous occasions, I was addicted to WoW like hard, was honestly just going so my girlfriend at the time would think I’m on a good trajectory so I wouldn’t lose her.
That shit is way too expensive to be fucking around with - the type of schooling Jordan Peterson is talking about isn’t your average person’s experience of college - not even close - don’t just go to college, go to DO college or just don’t go.
Edit: just realized you didn’t say anything about schooling but yeah you’re not gonna half ass your way through anything worthwhile
Cheering you on, brother! You got this.
What are you aiming for now, if you don't mind me asking? I also thought I wanted to be a game designer but realized quickly that I didn't have the inclination or talent for the work involved in that field.
@@Dante-ot8xg doesn’t it basically come down to whether or not you have the personality that wants to work at a computer all day?
@@danfontaine8179
It depends on what you want to focus on within game dev. A lot of the roles certainly do, though the job content varies based on responsibility. The below is just me spewing out what I recall from me looking into it years ago. As of now, I'm still figuring things out.
There are many roles within game development and design that one can take part in. Coding, art, writing, voice acting, music, business side( marketing/ accounting/ etc), and more. The actual game designers are what I understand to be more senior/ come from one of the game-building roles. Designers, from what I understand, try to guide everyone else to create the game they have in mind. Designers themselves can be divided up into different sections they're in charge of. For instance, level design or gameplay mechanics could be their domain.
Coding is something that I found I could do, but wouldn't be happy with, in the long term, as I'm a very social type of person and need interaction. It would definitely require face-to-face time with a screen all day.
Art is pretty straight forward with concept/ 3d/ illustration/ etc. These along with music and writing seem to be somewhat more contractual though permanent positions certainly exist. It seems to depend on the game/ studio. I like drawing, but not enough to draw all day. I don't have experience in music besides karaoke lol. Writing heavily depends on the game. Some require little others more so.
A Writing position would be pretty cool since that would be the meat and potatoes of story-driven games. To get here, it would seem that more seasoned writers are taken on board to write a story that the lead game designers have in mind for games like god of war, etc. Other types of writers exist for different games. For instance, some are hired to write item descriptions for various objects in a mmo. Or another could be writing out the various dialog options in a game like divinity original sin. The requirement or skill of the writer is often based in proportion to the important story has to the game and what part of the game you're writing for. Item descriptions might not require GRRM for example.
im going to have to watch this clip again when i start basic training. i applied a little later in life but its been an interest of mine since childhood. thank you dr peterson for all that youve done for me these last 5 or so years
What branch are you going into and how old are you?
@@tylerborgen3882 37 and armoured crewman, army
@@captainblackbeard7840 right on, it's when people think they're too old to live their life that wind up 40 year old children. Glad you're grabbing it by the horns man
@@andycraig6905 thank you brother
Good luck … basic kinda sucks but you will be so proud when you make it!
Exactly what I needed to hear today. Just started a new job and training has been really tough, but it's going to be worth it.
A box is a fortress indeed! I love that 👏
Best spent 7 minutes of the day
Meaningful comittment often requires us to look at parts of ourselves that are deeply uncomfortable
@E R I N A 👇 ...PARDON ?!
You're right, committing to my purpose is terrifying. I love when Jordan said, "Make your box into a garden!" I just came to a decision to fight my anxieties and apply for a job I think I can do on the design side, but the people side is the hard part for me, especially with all the damage done in the last 2 years in everyone's lives. I do believe that if God knows I can do it, then I will get the job and He will give me what I need to excel at it, but I MUST depend of Him and not myself!!
When Jordan Peterson said that the jobs should go to those who are the most productive, I smiled and chuckled to myself. Being a hard worker all my life, pushing myself to the limits, fulfilling my own potential, jobs more often than not do NOT go to those who are the most productive.
By these day's standards, doing my very best terrifies people and I don't get hired. That's why I just became an Entrepreneur instead and started my own businesses so that I can at least live up to my own expectations and standards, and not anyone else's.
Because the sad reality of life is that you can work as hard and smart as you can and still end up with absolutely nothing, while people who couldn't care less end up having it all. So, although I'm all for committing to that ONE thing and sticking with it, don't take life too seriously either.
Also, whatever you decide to do, remember that there's no magical recipe to happiness in life. There are cons and pros to everything. My advice, follow your true purpose in life and do stuff that is challenging and which makes you better in every possible way. You should also learn and educate yourself continuously.
Do not care too much about what other people think either. Most people don't have the guts to be who they really want to be and just want to follow the mindless zombie herd.
But I can promise you this, you will let your inner spirit and fire die, and you will never be truly free and happy. Only people who go all out and realize their full potential in life are truly happy. The miserable cunts stand on the sideline and judge the people who they secretly want to be.
Fuck em all!
Hard work is not a guarantee. It's your best bet. If you ever play poker, you know that sometimes there's nothing you can do about the fact that you're going to lose, but good players choose the strategy that leads you to success most often. Hard work is the real life equivalent of that.
I live like a maharaja compared to 95% of the world.
Personally I find that as awesome as it is demotivating.
How much does a person need anyway? 🤷♂️
@NolanEP not being pedantic in UA-cam comments
*couldn’t care less
@@tomclark15 ;-)
This is a really nice question to ask. Thanks, Chris!
Thank you Chris Forearms Williams for such knowledge packed interview.
That box analogy was great
Insightful conversation. 👍🏻 thanks for sharing.
This man always finds a way to say something simple with as many words as possible
He spells it out slowly and clearly because it's not as simple for everyone as it is for you.
A thought is not just a thought. Its quality comes from the way you express it, from the context in which you embed it.
And how simple is life and/ or our perceptions reality rlly lobster
And yet, here you are. Needlessly wasting your time throwing shade. Clearly a lot of this wisdom wasn't that obvious, otherwise you'd probably have better things to do.
Perhaps that's true, but when one has such an extensive vocabulary as the Doctor, one must choose the best words (and all possible angles) to answer the questions. My vocabulary has grown very much listening to him.
A gold standard lesson here. Amazing!
I am in love with Jordan Peterson's suit
Loved this piece. Good content. Thanks.
This is exactly the type of video I needed to see as I put my plans for my life and emotion and start having anxiety about it.
Choosing to try and fulfill a purpose also means there is a risk you will not fulfill it. I have only recently started to understand what I need to do with my life, but I am always striving and updating on the path. I hope everyone gets to fulfill their meaning in some way.
I heard him say once that the goal is a moveable target! What do you know when you start? so even if you have to update it's really not to be perceived as a waste of time but as the price you had to pay to get the information. I myself update on the path often as I get more and more clear about what I want to do and where I want to go
Opportunity compounds over time, so get at it while you have your health!
Jordan Peterson is my Internet Dad 😄
Do you even lift?!
1:02 this shot choice was creative, and it was rightfully used just a little bit
This was well done, you knew what type of guest you had and knew it was best to throw your question out and let the great mind before you tackle it. Good stuff.
Great content from Dr. Peterson as usual. I also just want to shout out the videographers! They gave this a whole cinematic look 👏🏾
“Teach yourself discipline not to be a slave but to be a master” 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Commitment to positive growth & being what we can be while loving ourselves is what matters. We can find purpose in work&life alike. With good discipline we can make impacts in society & on others, that most importantly, we ourselves should appreciate.
This is so true! Thanks!
This message can also apply to choosing the right partner! I want to commit to a good man that would make a good husband. I’ll use these tips to make marriage work.
Dr P gifting tales of wisdom as usual.
so refreshing, having done my own journey through shadow working, I understood, we often live lies coming from people with good intention (our own relatives) that prevented me to overcome my own delusions, at the same time, some of these, I created in the first place .
When you wake up from this you see the damage, losses and the result of your own demise.
Welcome to the partial collapse of identity that leaves you with amputated parts for a long while until you replace what's dead. No picnic at all. It's f*cking hurt. People faking toughness trying to impress look like adult children compare to this.
When you get it, it is for sure that there's way worst than death cause at least death is temporary. What I fear more in case I don't find full redemption is eternal existence. For the moment, I'm still convinced I made n excellent choice of not having any children. Even though, I follow Jordan Peterson in the major part of his teaching.
"You want to be in a box." Jordan Peterson knows me very well...
This was a great interview Chris
Love this man
Im 43 and i haven't even found my purpose. Im not even sure purpose is the right word. Purpose implies destiny and I'm not sure we are guided by destiny. Seems more random and we have the chance to exploit "opportunities". But either way, you have to be very driven to do the thing.
Well - take heart Hun. My husband only found his purpose in going to Uni. at 47 ...to study History..a subject he has always loved...and his Dad advised him to study Geography when leaving school - which he has always bemoaned about. He is doing - reaaaally well !! ;) It is important to 'know in your guts' what fills you with excitement and anticipation ..the subject you LOVE. Hope this helps..n ..all the best.
@NolanEP very well said! I feel exactly the same way.
@@suzesinger6762 thats a great encouraging perspective! Thanks for sharing!
@NolanEP ..HEY ! I thought that three years ago..then taught myself the drums - at 61. !!
I always get as excited as a KID ....when I think of a song to drum along to....as I RACE towards them... after pressing 'PLAY' - on UA-cam. ;))) HA ! ( Can ya tell I used to be a Nanny !?! )
One doesn’t need direction and great opportunity to find meaning. Speak the truth, treat others and yourself as someone you’d want cared for, and attack everyday as if it was the last. Life is precious and short. Don’t muddy the waters with lies, cruelty, and laziness.
Love you!
"Paradise is a walled garden."
I just gave up on a couple year goal the other day. I was going to teach abroad but I got overwhelmed to make the move. I tried to restart but can't get any momentum... Don't really know what else to do now but change course.
Gr8 job you all, mad props
The wisdom of JP!
Of course. Listening to him speak really does allow for some interesting thoughts to flow in, sometimes it's calming.
Love this interview man. Thanks for uploading.
We're certainly more than our nationalities as well
But if the box is suffocating and you know you can fight the snakes for a while until you get the bigger box.
Fight.
Fight for your life.
The right pursuit has a expiration date
yo what if there’s no such thing as purpose? it’s okay to just be and do the best you can, just live your life to the fullest.
Nothing is more terrifying than living without a purpose or should I say trying to find or making one but end up nothing in the end.
Love this video and dr. Peterson. Anyway i've noticed a little audio problem. Everytime dr. Peterson speaks his microphone starts to make a weird noise and the noise suddenly stops when he stop to talk, like a constant breath into the mic. Anyway great video.
Correct.
The absolute timing
The best way to recognize our progress in life is to listen to other people's interactions. Think of it like this, if you really think about not only what someone said to you.. But how they physically expressed themselves, the patterns of their facial idiosyncrasies.
This information will tell you how YOU are being seen, through perception. Who that person is will also introduce a distinct mental bias that you must consider, very little of what we say is perfectly understood. So the bias comes into play when we recall exactly what was said, and by our own means of interpretation we encounter a sort of road block, it might be an error to assume someone was being viscious or deceitful. If you're on the wrong train of thought, well it's hard to turn a train around.
I've been researching consciousness in my spare time, and how it relates to human ability. It's a very misunderstood topic, for example.. Synesthesia is a condition where people can see the color of sound!The world is a complex arrangement of systems and principles which operate autonomously, that is to say creatures and life functions via survival instincts, "drive". Inorganic matter on earth, minerals and chemicals, operates on a set of principles which are more chaotic at a glance, driven by flow and consequence of interactions with the environment. Finally, humans don't get an instruction manual for life on how to be, and what to expect. Everything must be learned, taught, and experienced. This is why I decided to research consciousness, writing was always my hobby. And now I've learned to focus on critical thinking, and write about my observations and opinions.
I think it's super interesting how our brain creates reality in our mind, so we can make sense of it. The world you see and the world of another person are completely different, your instruction manual would only work for you, but what even is a COMPLETE human? I think the process of creating the manual through experience is the fabric of this world we live in.
Cheers, this was fun to think about. Have a nice day, Jordan Peterson is a wise man, very sage like.
Excellence is what I’m going for Insha’Allah
Haha the ring closeups, interesting thoughts!
Constructive feedback: I love your content Chris. I like your interview style, your way of thinking and your mission to understand these issues. Your outro though, for the unedited stuff ... It comes across so try-hard and I cringe so hard, every time. Just my two pence.
This is true, I am going to become a Dr in a few months and it really scares me
... It is simple.... Don Juan, of the Carlos Castaneda books, said to choose a path with a heart.
Can anyone offer some advice? I had an opportunity to stay in a city greatly affected by the pandemic. I was even offered a “stable” job at the end of 2020. However, I was scared of committing myself to the job for fear of being isolated for an entire year, so I ended up moving to a different city to be closer to family and got a remote job instead. The problem is that I feel like I’ve missed my golden opportunity to make a difference in the previous city since the pandemic is waning down. However, the damage that was done to said city was so substantial that I feel personally responsible for letting the city down and I’m unsure of what use I’d be now. Should I go back? Should I stay where I am? How do I know it won’t be a waste of time?
"You don't want a box without walls; it's nothing but snakes!"
“I want a box without walls. No you don’t, it’s nothing but snakes!” ❤️
~ Jordan Peterson
Talking about changing course . . . SUCH THAT the next thing is " at least equally or more difficult. " In my life ( low level socially as it is ) . . . i have found that changing course is automatically at least as difficult as staying on the same path. Trying to make the change less stressful has always backfired for me. The harder i try to avoid stress . . . the more stressful the change becomes. Regardless of the new path or any other path. I think the word " PATH " is over used, over simplified, and under - defined and under - specified. Path can mean almost anything you want it to mean. I strongly suspect Dr. Peterson is using the term in a very narrow sense to refer only to a choice of major subject for undergrads or graduate students . . . rather than to a path in life in more general terms. Comments ?????????
Hmm, I think in context path is everything that you're doing to cause what you have fully committed to do make happen. So in this narrow sense not everything can be a path. It's only a path if it can definitely lead you where you are trying to go intentionally, as opposed to hoping happenstance just brings the thing you want to you. Yes it can be difficult to get off of a path you've committed to, bit many people turn back down the mountain when they see storm clouds ahead. Actually, I'd say we practically default to taking the easier "path" that is eventually harder and more damaging vs the harder path that eventually makes things better. This is due to our naturally discounting the future for the present. This is what we're trying to battle when going on a certain path gets hard in the short term
Ooh boy. You really need to figure that out for yourself friend.
What do you want to accomplish before the water wars?
Isn't that the question. 🤔
Tuuurtuututž
I think it would be helpful to know that you yourself build those walls, they aren’t preconstructed boxes. That helps me know that those are my walls and not someone else’s walls I’m living in.
Dude JP is basically becoming a freestyle poet
Chris what happened with the gate effect on his voice? Isotope RX works wonders to clean the noise in the background without the pumping
Just realized the other day that I am poor and unaccomplished because I never specialized. Specializing brings financial success, which grows your options and enlarges your box. You must voluntarily enter a small box before you can occupy a big box. It's true.
Stay hard 💪
The fact that he uses the word dispersant is a testament to his incredible vocabulary.
but I don't like chosing a box and being in a box :( but I feel like that advice is true, I hate boxes man
cool studio
“I act as if God exists, and I’m terrified he might.” ~ Jordan Peterson
03.:54 " Every body knows this" Self discipline ( self parenting ) , find your " thing" to commit to, be puntucual, hard works..works, Paradise is a walled garden ( Box ) so box yourself in to the thing that you have committed yourself too. Clean your room, stand up straight, hold solid virtues Keep your word, be honest to yourself , speak up and say the truth, dont wait as it WILL be TOO late. even if you dont know what to do ... Just do something anything and even if you do it badly the first few times keep doing it but JUST DO IT.... Oh and check out Jordan Petersons Self Authoring Program... Writting your thoughts about yourself to find YOUR way.... but hey..Every body knows this.......
Can someone please explain what Peterson meant when he mentioned the Patriarchy here? I've listened to that part again and again but it doesn't make sense to me
He was using it as an example of a disciplinary process. That we need to subjugate ourselves to a disciplinary process because that allows us to focus ourselves on a single line, to aim. He also explains why the bashing of a patriarchal system shouldn't be so quick, since he suggests that we need a disciplinary process, and some people believe that it is an oppressive system and that we don't need a disciplinary process.
I was thinking about this today what a coincidence and now i hear him speak if it
I have bodybuilding & piano. In that order
Ooh. Not to state the obvious but you should get into piano moving.
2 birds and whatnot.
god protect this man.
As 1st King of the continent I've gotten rid of state and national boarders. We share the land now.
I can't find a direction in life because my personality and other problems doesn't seems to fit anywhere. No direction - No clear goals.
Why would I live a life experiencing just one thing?? People are different. There's people that can be happy doing just one thing for 60 years. This is the kind of people that have been born in their era. The era of Industrial Revoluion and capitalism. Where you are highly valuable if you are an expert in just one thing.
Then there's people lik me that can focus on learning things to an expert level, but that have difficulty mastering it because of their hunger to know more about the world. We are the multipotentilites. People that want to experience as many trades as possible. People that get bored when they are super good at something. This kind of people don't live in the right society. Maybe in the future, when robots will replace all the experts it will be time for creative people, people that understand the process of cration from different perspectives, I think it will be our time.
When I'm old, I want to say "I'm glad I learned all the different things I learned instead of focusing on just one thing and ignoring the rest".
Don't know if you do , but if you worked for yourself full time or part time or gave time to others that maybe the bit your missing , just a thought
So how I can find my life purpose
I don't think Committing to your purpose isnt whats terrifying, rather the terrifying part is that you don't know what you get or will lose in the process.
In my case there is so much i want to do and usually i commit myself to something, i do it and i end up with "It was a fun journey, but im not enjoying this anymore"
So it's not that im terrified about commiting myself, there is so much thing i want to do that i can't. Specially if i don't find it enjoyable anymore. Rather its, im terrified about not having enough time to do what i want which in the end means i can't commit myself to one thing.
This year i will turn 25.
I see that with a lot of people there is doubt in themselves to try and commit to their "purpose." However, when they do take action it seems to me that they truly enjoy what they are doing. So I've learned that, It is better to do something you like and fail at it, then to try something you hate doing and fail at that too. I'm terrified of not taking that action, I'm terrified of thinking of an action so much I never take it. Time is never wasted, I just have to prioritize where I put it.
@@sophiabynico Yeah thats the thing. To me i feel like sleeping is a waste of time and i always do things i like and want to but yeah idk, i feel like time is short
@@marcuspvxea I’be always tried to not sleep, even now I only get 6 hours or less because I want to stay up and be productive. But after doing a ton of research with the psychodynamic perspective in mind, Ive accepted to rest my mind and body when I can, maybe not always but still I should
yeah, i guess so
Minimun Effort
Maximin Reward
& it must b fun.
"Get yourself disciplined.
Why ?
Well not so that you can be a slave but, so that you can be a master"
What about jacks of all trades?
I have my goals but I have problem with committing to them. How to commit to them? Any ideas.
Stop doing other things.
@@hyperteleXii Can you please elaborate?
@@akhlaqansari8628 Commitment is in practice about time, energy, and attention. Turn all three towards the thing, and commitment builds up.
As a highly creative person, a box with walls sounds so unrealistic and a recipe to kill my curiosity
love jp
same
Pick your box then figure out how to make your way into the garden. “I WANNA BOX WITHOUT WALLS.” No you don’t it’s nothing but snakes. 🐍 💯