I'm An Incel. Ask Me Anything.
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What did you think you were accomplishing when you made that video?
I would love to hear a radical empathy podcast with this man as I keep having a hard time understanding him.
Would it be rude to ask a Feminist, “Who hurt you?”
You guys should release all the footage you have. I'm interested to see what else was said.
So basically he gets turned down by women and now wants to force them to submit to men
@Ethan Slicer no thats literally what he said lol
@Ethan Slicer How is that wrong
@Luís Andrade then he says I don't think a woman should be able to make those decisions for themselves and without woman, we are left with men meaning we have to put our privilege, trust, rights in a man and that is submitting
nope
He's insecure
I feel like calling yourself an incel just increases the amount of women that will try to avoid you.
yeah lol
Except if ure chad
Oh wait There are no chads incels, must be their good personality
Xdxdxdxdxe
not if i speed up my van 🚐😂👌
The woman face after "how we treat children that we love" got me (she also asked one of the best questions)
People just freak out when they hear women and children used in conjunction lol, I think he just meant however one treats a group that you love/don’t want to see being misguided cause the they don’t really have the capacity to consider that for themselves
@@att2075we freak put because women and children are grouped together and compared so much in society its genuinely concerning. We are praised when we have child-like characteristics, as grown women. And proven in your statement about misguidance, we are treated as though we don’t have the capacity for rational thought quite often. It’s exhausting.
@@att2075women dont like being treated as if we have the life experience of a child. we are not as easily misguided nor should we be treated as such. we have the capacity to think for ourselves, opposite to the implication of your comment
@@att2075 you literally just stated why people freak out when women and children are grouped together - "they don’t really have the capacity to consider that for themselves". women will understandably not like it and get rightfully upset when they are consistently told that they don't have the capacity for rational thought or the ability to make their own decisions. it's infuriating to hear especially when there's zero concrete evidence of this being true.
@@celestial260truth bitters
As a person who’s 17 and never had a girlfriend, I will never consider myself an incel. No matter what happens when I get older I’ll just use my rejections and shortcomings as motivation to improve my life mentally, physically, and financially.
“Pick up a useful skill, learn a trade, learn a language, improve your body, and take care of yourself as you’ll be more put together in the long run”
That was the advice I’d give myself at that age even if it wasn’t that long ago
And as long as you continue to work on yourself, and you keep that mindset and don't allow extremist ideologies take over you, I have no doubt that one day you will find a woman who sees your efforts and will love you for you.
You'll just be lying to yourself then.
@@Recluse616 No matter what I'm never going to associate myself with the incel community. They tend to have a negative outlook on life and women, and I don't want any of that negativity in my life.
I would also want you to know that what you are stating is something very common. There is plenty of people who are 17 and never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. I actually know lots of people (both guys and girls) who are older than that and never been in a relationship. I don't know you, but I would never consider someone an incel based in such situation. It's normal and you still have a long life ahead, just take your time
Rule #1 never mention a study of any kind unless you are 100% confident that it exists, you remember it and you can find it again
I mean it's easy to find with a quick google search. It's impossible to remember the source of every study you come across.
@@kat2282 i think he knew he was going to get casted in this video, he could have memorised a few of his sources
Okay L
Omg i love Ryuzaki 🥺
Steve Lauria Did they make the same study on men?
Middle ground: Women and Incels.
People in the comments section let’s make it happen
none of the incels would like to be exposed lmao thats why it doesnt happen
Its not just straight incels tho.. I met a gay incel the other day on discord and he was sooooo toxic
Y E S, destroy them incels.
Or better yet - incels and feminists
You can't find middle ground with irrational people. Stop trying. The fact that Jubilee has such a platform and doesn't realize that doing mainstreaming for fascists is an atrocious idea is mindbending to me.
“You wanna escape it. You wanna be something better.” Damn.
Want but does not actively and continuously improve.
@@sweetsendaedreamr "Tries to improve for years without success" is more like it
No one can make you better. People need to be better for themselves.
I wish they forced him to define an incel in his own words and why he has attached himself to that ideology. His answer to what drove him to research this as just "society" didn't go deep enough. It almost seemed like his ideology was framed because he got constantly rejected for finding a mate that he thought that controlling women would help him overcome that obstacle.
An incel is an involutary celibate, that's literally all there is to it
I feel like this guy has a lot more worse things to say then he is letting in
How is he supposed to open up and be honest when he’s being ridiculed for even being able to admit that he’s an incel? It’s hard to address and fix a problem when you’re constantly being shamed for having the problem in the first place.
@@NSander8 “incel “is a made up term
Used by certain men, who can’t handle rejection and have ZERO self awareness.
Your situation is not the fault of any person you have never met and that includes women!
These men have such hate and indifference toward women that is 100% unjustified.
@@johnsefton9340 My apologies. From reading that reply I realized there was a disconnect and I believe I misunderstood the original comment, which I agree with now.
@@johnsefton9340 dude, sexlessness amongst young men is at the highest it's ever been. Whilst for women a higher percentage of them are having sex. The majority of the women are chasing after a small minority of the men. This is an issue in society that needs to be addressed, incels are part of that wider issue. If you deny that then you're a fool. Young people arent coupling up and having families anymore. If you go back to when our grandfathers were young, sexlessness among young men was alnost a quarter of what it is now. That is a huge shift and cannot be ignored. Incels are a result of this phenomenon.
@@harrypike5140 some men cannot get laid. Big deal. What are you going to do? Force women to find them attractive?
"Who hurt you?" LMAO
Society: ....
*soyciety
"Who hurt you?"
The underlying assumption in saying that is, all healthy and correct opinions are those that conform to my standard and yours are invalid because they pose a threat to my own. It's spiteful, immature and it's a belittling tactic used to derail and delegitimize any further argument from the other person. Awful talking point IMO.
@Hi, Nice To Meet You what do you mean by "normal person"?
@Hi, Nice To Meet You You're the one asking me to communicate like a normal person. I'm asking you what you what you think is wrong with how I type online.
@Hi, Nice To Meet You so how would you prefer me to communicate while I'm online? In memes saying things like cringe normie? Text shorthand lyk dis? It just seems like an arbitrary standard plucked out of thin air as an excuse because you disagreed with my earlier comment. I honestly don't get it.
He feels small, therefore he has to make others feel small. I think all of us can understand what that's like. We've all done that on occasion. Let's hope he manages to grow out of it-possibly with the help of a very patient and understanding partner.
Looks is the determining factor for your dating life and that is simply true there is no way around it ugly means you are going to have a rough time in the dating market stop blaming personality for it
@@anass4109 it's always both looks and personality, not one or the other.
It's looks, personality, and social status
@Baldo Sometimes, and then other times I don't. But I try to be aware of when I feel small and feel tempted to take it out on others, so that I can stop myself. That way even though I feel small, I don't act small (most of the time). :)
@@woutertron women judge you based off looks
Props to this guy for actually putting himself in the position to have discussions and hear different perspectives. At least then there is potential a seed could be planted
Lmao he changed, his not an incel anymore but he still supports the community
@@---------c5741 this mean he got laid? Lol
He says his reason for participating was to shed a more positive light on the incel community. He wasn’t there to have his opinion changed.
I agree it was brave of him. I also don't see anything this guy said as wrong. I really don't get the hate for him in the comments. He just seems like a normal everyday guy who wants to be in a relationship.
@@mary7256 female folks hating him bcz he has a different opinion
"women are important...
BUT..."
Love that.
nice, you quoted the video, awesome :)
i n t e n s e
Yes BRO , we live in a society . Stop playin!!
I think this says it all🤦🏾♂️
Imagine if he gets a girlfriend and then she eventually discovers all this.....
Imagine if he gets a girlfriend....
I’m pretty sure incels also don’t date because of their beliefs, but want to date and have relationships. I’m not sure tho
Cami’Jo Hillstrom im just saying imagine that’s all.
@@camijohillstrom4991 nah m8 an incel is an involuntary celibate thus they'd want to be in a relationship but are too bitchy betas a religious pious person is just a celibate till marriage voluntary
Now imagine. 😂 just keep imagining.
The problem that really irks me is that these devoted, DEVOTED believers in an idealogy, in this case their beliefs in that women will be happier in "traditional roles" and to which he even cites, never seem to think it a wise decision to take these alleged "studies", print them out IN FULL and use them as a point of reference. This is ESPECIALLY true when they are men like this fellow who was pre-arranged to do this. Yet he relies on the "I saw a study once, that I cant remember the name, or who did it, but I promise you it was real" 🙄
Just like CNN
Y'all are PREDATORS who literally cannot intellectually defend your positions. You are an opportunist!
proof: *trust me bro*
That’s because the “studies” are usually just a reddit post they saw a few years ago
Incel isn't the ideology - Red Pill is. Incel is a set of circumstances, whereas Red Pill is (seen as) the answer to their problems. This is where you get the fairly reactionary set of beliefs around returning to traditional gender roles and so on.
I had a classmate at college who had overweight, just like the guy in this video. He was empathetic and intelligent, he enjoyed reading and could hold interesting conversations. Later he became a professor and he's married now. Prior to his wife, he had many girlfriends.
Your made up anecdotes are meaningless.
@@Firegloyou should go out more bro
Betabuxxing
@@user-gu2rs3mu5rNo, his wife is an independent woman and his ex-girlfriends were college students. You see, the real problem of a guy like the one in this video is not his body but his mind.
@@MP-ui5vdoofy doofy lolz blackpill comes to collect you can't escape it.
He said “make friends with those lonely guys” but in the other video he said “guys can’t be friends with girls”
Avoid femoids friends too, they may have everything in common with you, the same everything, she may likes the things you like but she will choose to get fucked by an abusive chad/tyrone that doesnt even love her like you do. all femoids are the same. female friends just use you, avoid avoid avoid.
DeadlyNeedle ! Dude you really need to see the other video he is in (Men equal rights VS feminist) he says: ‘I can’t be friends with a woman.’ It not a lie, he says a lot of weird and sexist stuff like that. Everyone on both sides of the conversation hate this guy because he is blatantly sexist. Just look in the comments of the every video
Brick Parrot i watched it that’s why I said that he said in the other video about not being friends with women and here he says the opposite
DeadlyNeedle ! This is the only reply I’ll do. You have to admit there’s sexist things he says. Secondly you give me the idea your an incel. Lastly, if you switch up because of pressure you shouldn’t have been doing this interview let alone the other video he signed up and agreed to both videos, he has to accept he messed up
DeadlyNeedle ! There’s different forms of sexism, yes there are some who may not treat a woman the same as a man in a situation where that shouldn’t matter, but there’s also this; Believing and trying to justify that woman shouldn’t be leaders or biologically couldn’t be leaders is absolutely ridiculous, it just as pitiful of a excuse as when Christians would say that African americas were inferior in the name of god, to try and justify slavery.
Woman and men can be whoever they want to be and shouldn’t be defined by their gender. I understand that women and men are built different but if a woman wants to train and give it her all, maybe soon we’ll see the strongest person on earth be a woman, and if a man wants to be a more feminine than the average girl than so be it. People can do whatever they want to do, if that’s fitting or not fitting with their gender roles, whatever makes them feel comfortable for themselves, than that is just. The world is changing and women don’t want to be stay a home mother anymore, but if they do that is fine and accepted but NO woman should be forced to and people (like Derrick) who think this way often do, as with past generations, forced women to marry and have children when they didn’t want to. So I am weary of people like him, who carry the ideologies that women shouldn’t be befriended because of their gender and that they should go back to the way things were- where men were on top and women had to obey, because that’s all this really is, thats the real thinking behind this, I believe, and is mostly likely the reason why women tend to stray from him. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t think they’re equals, could be friends or both be leaders together, despite gender. Why else would men, but barley ANY women have this ideology? Because it puts men on top, women don’t want to go back to those days because it was terrible and made many unhappy, and had to be ‘the perfect house wife’.
We must recognize that it is hard for a woman to be big in this world because it has always been a mans world and we must recognize that. Women in 3rd world and 1st world can see this, if that is rising to power in work positions (being taken serious in a job)or trying to fight to be able to go to school like any other boy. Women have been oppressed in many society’s, socially and physically through history. Maybe life isn’t hard for the average 1st world woman of today but there is a history and it still affects the women of today, just as the history of slavery still affects the black people of today.
I understand that there’s having Christian or traditional values but people like him must understand that the is just not the way anymore and may be even offense to most women, because it trying to bring us back to a time we’re women were oppressed, socially and systematically, with trying and not being able to get a job on their own and make it in the world without a husband or being forced into marriage. If he finds a girl who is willing to have that type of relationship than that is fine, thats not my business. But to sit here and act like that thinking isn’t backwards is just a lie. I hope I don’t offend you or anything this is just what I and many others believe. :)
I don’t understand how he is an incel, when he was literally raised by a single mom-
it's a classic story actually, he might have developed hatred/insecurity towards women, reflecting every woman to his mother. Maybe his mom was abusive, irresponsible, an addict or neglectful to him and perhaps that created an image of women for him, that all women are like that, and he should be protected from them. Single mothers tend to have financial problems, unable to provide their families, and that could have created a "weak" image of a person for him. Notice he said "I love my mom, but I wouldn't consider her a role model" - a clear sign of dysfunction. Sometimes it can be a reflection of an abusive father - his dad could have abused his mom before he left, and he's influenced by his dads behaviour. Incels are a product of instability, very low-self esteem, daddy/mommy issues and loneliness. They blame their problems on a certain group, unwilling to change themselves instead, because it's always easy to move your responsibility over to someone else.
@@kamilyakadyr7063 This summed up their ideologies on a psychological standpoint PERFECTLY. Thank you so much for saying this!!
He didn’t have a father figure in his life and likely took out the anger of that on his mother. That translated into hating women. That’s my hypothesis
@@kamilyakadyr7063 in other interviews he was talking about how his mother was a good and loving parent tho.
@@kamilyakadyr7063 It isn't some single factor analysis that covers the entire story.
It's very clear he's been pushed to the margins of society for a long time and that led him down the path to these views, it doesn't just come from "mom bad I hate women now".
Isolating it to "just one bad experience" is just dismissing people with an actual issue. They're tossed aside by everyone, whether you think that's justified or not, and then they think like this. He says it himself in this very video, it isn't just rejection by women, it's wholesale rejection in most aspects of life, he probably didn't do well in school, he probably wasn't able to get a good job, he was unattractive so he couldn't find a partner, and this led him down this path of slowly regressing to a more traditionalist worldview.
If you want incels to get better, telling them they're bad people does not help, actually listening and trying to understand what they're saying does.
I say this about every group of people that society just dismisses, whether it's incels or nazis, they didn't just become one over night, there was a series of events that led them there, and usually there's a very human and realistic reason they got there that isn't just "mommy didn't love him enough" or "he got rejected by his crush in highschool".
If you think his traditionalistic worldview is bad, why not try to actually understand why he thinks that rather than just saying "you're sexist you hate women", or minimizing it to just him being a loser with mommy issues.
2:50 this girls facial expressions are fantastic
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@@wisenotwise2676she meant on 2:50 not 2:30
@@KlaudiaShaefferr yes my bad sorry
risada de deboche é argumento de puta
I didn't even notice it when I watched because I was focused on words being said. Did she come there to get opinion or to laugh at him. Women don't seem to understand that such actions will probably increase the hatred that some of them might have towards women. Can you give an opinion on that?
I’d say one of the biggest things that is keeping him an incel is him (on more than one occasion) comparing women to children, or otherwise placing them in that role. Furthermore, the overemphasis on male leadership that a lot of incels and “alpha-males” have is not realistic and is a big factor of what drives women away.
who else is watching this after the mens rights vs feminism video?
He seems like a remotely likeable person here (despite him still having some ridiculous views). He just seemed like a troll on the Middle Ground video
Same. I felt empathy towards him by the end of this video. Didn't know what "incel" was til before these 2 vids, but the characteristics which Derrick described them as, reminded me of some guys in high school who had kept to them self
Freda McGlade as soon as I saw Derrick isn’t the other video, I knew it was all downhill. And this video made it worse 😂
@@DjArtistoftheEU16 i relate
Same. I wanted to know more about Derrick. I feel like he’s a character. Like the Mad Hatter. He seems like a person I would hang out with even though we don’t have the same views. I hope he’s in more videos.
Did this guy just compare grown ass women to children
They are similar in lots of ways, especially judging by this comment section lmao.
Well... Many grown ass women (and men), are really not much more advanced or capable than children...
Maxim boy.... you mama raised you, a woman with a child’s mind wouldn’t be able to do that. Goodness me.
@Majin Gojira I'm assuming you are not a parent.
@@baseddepartment1645 how?
I'm currently doing some research on the incel community bc I might write my bachelors on it and the more you find out the more you pitty their mindset (not their actions tho),, I always had this picture that incels are overly confident men that hated women but in reality they're just self-destructive, isolated and desperate men that are sexually frustrated and search for a place to belong (a lot of them probably do hate women and 15 minutes on a incel forum had me question my faith in humanity lol)
This is what a lifetime of rejection looks like, and it's only getting worse unfortunately, I'm glad I grew up in a different time, we didn't worry about much and we enjoyed ourselves as much as possible, that doesn't seem to happen these days.
“so you’re an incel”
“yes”
“why would you sign up to do this”
I guess he meant do this episode. Not sign up to be an incel.
Abdullah Habib astagfirallah
@Abdullah Habib well that was unnecessary
He wanted to sit here and be questioned, just like the Joker did in the movie. This guy wanted to get his message out.
You copied what they said in the video we all just watched. Brilliant. You deserve a like for this great comment!
Girl in red: Who hurt you?
Derrick: *SOCIETY*
JOKER (2019)
😂😂 ahaha
Dont insult joker like that
My gay ass thought bout a different Girl in red lmao
@@Wasp1 SAME
@@Wasp1 meeee toooo
I saw him on another video and I really didn't like his attitude, but in this video he opened up better. I really respect his efforts.
What you feel is what you feed your brain with. And If your brain interprets that you're not safe it just makes you hurt more to protect you form the outside world radiation and keep home. This is the definition of being an incel . Basically you don't feel safe, and you are vulnerable.. And because of this you're not visible to others! You need to change this! You cannot change this by being a tougher guy. You need to define what your pain means to you and reestablish your safety zone in your mind. Once your brain calms down these viral thought cycles in your mind you will have the opportunity to grow and learn. Then you will be able to walk away from your pain an be you. I wish you the best!
*When I say pain, I mean pain, loneliness is painful. Feeling stuck is painful.
A hair cut, exercise, sunlight and some therapy would turn this guy's life around. Women are actually incredibly easy to get when you're a likeable human being. But women won't like you if you actively demean/degrade/hate them. He needs to fix himself. He's the problem, not women.
@Mabus Nero Uh oh, looks like I found the incel 🤣 Did my comment strike a nerve?
@Mabus Nero What did I say that was wrong? Can you answer that, "Enlightened One"?
"Just get a haircut bro"
"Just workout bro"
"Just touch grass bro"
"Just see a therapist bro"
"Just be nice to women bro"
Bluepilled platitudes that are only theoretical but won't work for those at the bottom like us.
@@pyophyo8901 The truth is difficult to swallow, but the problem is you. Better yourself and you'll see a change. After you've done that, come back and thank me 👍
Lol the "enlightened one" never responded to prove me wrong 🤣 typical. I guess I scared him away by suggesting he fix himself.
To summarize:
We live in a society.
Literally. Like are we supposed to feel bad for him 🙄
@@Stella3014 then how do we solve it? By pushing them under the societal rug until they end up taking someone's innocent life???
Cake Cake Cake have you ever felt lonely in your miserable life?
You're really in touch with the memes. Did you learn this from twitter?
Cake Cake Cake so are we supposed to penalize him for being who he is?
This guy really said “we live in a society” to the second girl lmao
I think thats why he laughed
WinterWonderland joker lookin ass lmAo
these kind of people wanna ruin the joker now
WinterWonderland how many women find a lack of confidence attractive? They just need to man up and behave like normal people.
@@arvidtonning6348 who behaves like normal people and who cares about how normal people behave?
they aren’t even involuntarily preventing it at this point. they’re literally saying all the things that push women away
Props to this guy having the balls to say this on cam without face blur. Hopefully he knew the fallout that having this up would cause for any potential future dates...
I honestly feel for this guy. I don't know how many guys have confided their toxic beliefs to me in private. Most of them have a common issue of having an extremely low tolerance for rejection.
Dates, professional future...He's either really brave or doesn't have idea of the repercutions this can cause.
@@Luuhpanor could just care less
@@theholyjosh5384 Maybe he doesn't have anything to lose - this describes a lot of guys currently.
I like how the video just starts with
"I do think women are very important, *BUT*-"
That "BUT-" had so much echo, I already knew what I was in for haha
@@jeanchristophegatien But we never got a continuation to that thought.
Santorini - loo worse than an incel?
*Grabs popcorn* This shall be fun :3
I’m not supposed to give my opinion, *BUT-*
The whole concept of "Incel" is really weird. A bunch of rejects came together and said let's make and name our club one day and it took off from there.
For real
@jaredleisure I mean atleast they get laid
It started as a support network created by a lesbian, and for a few years it was actually pretty wholesome, mostly being focused around self-help and forming supportive networks that could help people to get out of a situation they really didn't want to be in. Then there was a period where the modern incels were becoming more common, but they were still only just a small core within a larger positive community. Eventually the original community just decided it was a lost cause, and that their time and energy should be spent on helping people, not clinging onto a sinking ship.
@@RevOwOlutionary There are plenty of incel communities out there that just focus on loneliness. That's probably the vast majority of incel communities.
Like feminists right now
When a chad is friendless, he is a lone wolf.
When a normie/sub5 is friendless he is antisocial.
over for einsteincels
i know many sub5s w/ girlfriends and extremely handsome men who are hated because of their personalities. the halo effect is real but up to a certain point its just ur fault if u are a disgusting person.
😔🥀⛓️ so sad. Sigma NPC soyjak L 💯
The incel seems to be most humane and insightful individual here
I thought the word "incel" was an insult.. I didn't know people actually identified with it
Actually same tho
Me too
Me too, just like the term ‘queer’
It means involuntarily celibate
Man, it's insane how you all are obsessed with incels and know nothing about them.
"Who hurt you?" Girl went straight to the point😭😭😭
All the woman who didn’t like his point of view
@@vieiradaniele4405 Not only women tho. 😂
he should of just asked her first
@@vieiradaniele4405 if you don't see the problem with the whole "control them lovingly" thing, you probably have some problems with your worldview, no normal person would look at that and think that's an OK view of how things should be
@@CuriousWanderer_ exactly
It's not necessarily that they hate women, if at all, it's that women don't like them and so they don't like them back - well, the ones that don't like them for no particular reason. These people who say 'Who hurt you!?' are either trolling, they're people pleasing by taking a socially acceptable point of view or they've got their head in the sand.
...
guy had a point with the whole "brighten up the day of someone lonely without having to date them". confident/extroverted people should aspire to do that.
BUT
there's an undeniable majority of incels who complain about the friendzone to an unreasonable degree. they misread genuine friendly behavior as flirting, get their hopes up and get really mad later, insulting and antagonizing the woman. and although the big majority wouldn't resort to violence or some other kind of sabotage, the risk is always there.
although many women are shallow and just want to lead men on, there's also a logical reason why many of us don't usually give compliments/strike a friendly conversation with guys, unless we intend to sleep with them.
>they misread genuine friendly behavior as flirting
How is that their fault?
>get their hopes up and get really mad later, insulting and antagonizing the woman.
Not in the blackpill, no.
It's like saying "I am not racist but I don't like Asians
Many Americans during COVID.
Wow. So brave.
Asian is not a fcking race
@@ahmadmaknunh.9420 😂😂😂😂😂
Wait sorry if i piss anyone off or any asians who see this (im not really educated that well with different races) but isnt being asian an ethnicity, not a race?
"I believe there was a study"
Proceeds to not give any information about the study... 🤦
There is literally a study for everything. That’s why meta-analysis are so important. I don’t believe anyone who’s like “I read this ONE study”
Every reactionary ever
Literally. We all know if the roles were reversed and women were saying this about men, he would not be happy.
@Nunya Bidness Well If your making very false claims about a group of people, you should have provided evidence or proof. He can't say he read multiple studies and can't even name one. It's also very clear the little to no women feel "happier" that way.
It should be easily remembered.
@@eliadahhaile1436 well look at it this way. Women are always on "my body my choice" wen a dude judges their body but then wen a woman judges a man's body, everyone there laughs at that and no one points out how wrong it is and that is why men get angry. The same reason women get angry for men judging their bodies is the same way men feel wen women are judging their bodies and that's why we use ur guy's logic against u. I can say the same thing abt men. If a man has sex with 5 ppl, we as a society praise him but when a woman does the same with the same amount society shames her and it's only angry women that go off to defend her(much like the last situation I stated). At the end of the day, those angry men are justified in the same way of those angry women because we both know if the roles were reversed in these situations no one wud care and everyone would laugh their asses off
idk why so many ppl in the comments are like,"why would ppl talk to you if you hate women?" i dont think he hates women, he said it himself, nor does the definition of incel says they hate women.
You understand
Based Indian foid
HALF CURRYLET IS SENDING ME@@halfcurrylet
He equates women to children. Sure, he says he doesn’t hate women, but he has no respect for them at all. He wants a world where men are in charge and women are subordinate. We’ve been there and done that- half the world didn’t like it very much.
Women who can't get chad: 😭😭😭
so basically "incel" are just people mad that they can't get a relationship.
Edit: lmaoaoo I rlly didn't expect full convos with evidence but thanks for the info and for the likes ;)
Yes.
It’s stands for “involuntarily celibate,” so that’s basically what it is.
@Garett Crook ... What about the incels that really are unattractive?
No
@Garett Crook A lot of them also tended to bat way above their leagues and got their feelings hurt but lack the confidence and drive to make any personal changes
dear the first girl who flat out started it with, “who hurt you” i hope your having a good day
🤣🤣🤣
On God 💀💀💀
this the sound clip for the negative xp song lmao
you’re all mean. That’s why he has problems.
@@louvretreekay12_ cry about it
nothing that gym , a haircut , better clothes and learning how to talk to women cant fix
@@mabusnero5282It's true
COPE!!!
Creating an Incel starts from rejection and childhood trauma. And when rejection is constant and you're basically singled out as an unattractive individual, you tend to form this self-hatred mindset and you blame your issues on the opposite gender because of constant rejection.
His views are understandable, a simple "hi" or just acknowledging someone's existence can really brighten someone's day. Loneliness sucks and people are desperate to find a way to fill that void.
It's unfortunate he's stuck in this mindset, it's not easy to overcome.
@@chrisredfield8542did you just ignore the first part of what the comment said???? He obviously has been rejected many times in his life and thats whats led to being like this, and ik its hard to do but show others respect this dude is a loser lol
@@chrisredfield8542 ''entitled to women’s bodies, time, and respect.'' - why you assume that? From what facts?
@@alekbane6048 source : trust me bro
@@chrisredfield8542Ain’t nobody askin for your respect
Yeah a lot of people don't know what it is like to face constant rejection from everyone and everything
"We control them but we control them lovingly."
He basically said grown women are comparable to children lmao
I know! He compares women to children and then complains how he can't get intimate with one! Creepy!
We’re all comparable to children
and thats true! trans women beat women at everything
Свен Каллуров because your an Incel who hates women because you know they are too strong for u
Pete Holmes but they wanna be women which is funny 😂 and nobody is better than the other we are all equal and if u can’t get past that then your a sorry human being and the problem with today’s sexism
derrick looks like the way you’d think he‘d look if you didn’t see him
revelthot ً Lol
@@AlexA-qx9pn Ok Derrick we know it's you.
@@AlexA-qx9pn you're trying to drum up sympathy for this "kid" while simultaneously age-shaming women? FOH lol
Right!
This doesn't help the problem, you know that right?
im an ince/
tall hot guy version
where is that video? lol
Its so over
@@hirohiro5034didnt even start
ROFL
Brootal
Shame, that some people approach him in such an attacking way/attitude. That's not how to start a respectful dialogue.
Women.
@@alas6260 you an incel? Anyway, no. Both genders. Thankfully most are nice and open for the answers Derrick might give.
Gotta give it to Derrick. But i dont think he is a real incel. Just a young fellow not yet succesful with the lady's. Perhaps now after 3 years, he aint no virgin anymore. So i hope for him.
@Roy 🌱⃠ guess it depends on what you want from it. Do you want to play the blame game? Or you trying to understand him? He is still a kid btw..
@@alas6260Gee I wonder why! Oh why would the evil women do this to the poor sexist incel!
There was never an intent for respectful dialogue except on the incense part. He's not going to change his mind, so it's much better to use the opportunity to satisfy your curiosities
This man is definitely a reddit moderator
And a discord one too
BitchChill true😂
Reddit no longer allows even slightly conservative people to speak freely. I suggest the girl with the notepad is probably a reddit moderator though.
@Andromeda T I think the same. While I do not agree with those people, the marketplace of ideas should always be free, only that way can people learn and become wise.
@Andromeda T Thank you.
That one girl: “who hurt you?”
The Awesome M ya that was kinda rude to just open a question like that.
Fluffy Tail I thought it was really funny, but probably not the best way to ask questions and figure out why he is the way he is
The Awesome M it would’ve been funny to me but her tone was really condescending.
Someone Special that doesn’t make sense. You can’t say someone is right from a question, you need the answer. That’s like “what’s your favorite color?” And then you say “well your not wrong” makes no sense
Someone Special how can a question be wrong?
"I'm always a little mean to men cuz if you're nice to them, they think you wanna sleep with them" - a wise girl.
@Jimmy based.
@Jimmy THAT IS BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU
Gay men too?Asexuals too?
@Jimmy based 💯
@user-zf7go1xs2q dude c'mon.
😢this makes me sad. For him and for everyone. I wish he wasn’t in pain and I wish people could talk openly like this always. No fighting just listening and hope.
You feel bad for the guy?
@@ottiliaschale5875 I do as well. He's just a child inside. Look at his body language.
Kid needs help and empathy. He needs to learn to love himself.
This the man that asked some girl in a discord server out and she rejected it.
discord? XDXDXD
Rejected IT 😆
As a member of the discord community, we do not claim him.
@@tdchloe7182 ha ha ostracizing a depressed guy is really compassionate.
He has a wife lol
Post Malone's cousin really out here wildin'.
//SuperAsh4U// never disrespect post malone like that ever again😂
He really be vibing tho
@barb looks like he needs to find his own sunflower
@@bleedthebeat he has a personality of an unsalted chicken wing from a small town KFC
@@tavit1987 I a Polly pocket gize
I’m not going to lie everyone went in hard on this guy immediately and already had pre prepared crunched up faces to any responses he gave before even listening to all of it.
They wouldn't have done that if he was tall, had a square jawline, and hunter eyes lol.
@@andreanderson3845 but they didn’t even know how he looked, calling yourself an incel is enough to deserve a reaction like that
@@andreanderson3845if he had all of those features he wouldn't be here in the first place
@@andreanderson3845there was a literal curtain between them😭
well damn i sure do wonder why 💀
I love all the comments here hating this guy... It just proves the level of narcissism out there and incels are only calling it out
says the guy who thinks he's entitled to women's bodies
@@denizbluemusic If I were to meet that incel in this video in person, I would become his best buddy, because I have something called empathy
Empathy? For this disgusting guy? Save your empathy for somebody who deserves it instead of this nasty dude
@@denizbluemusicit's crazy how ugly dudes arent entitled to love but women deserve everything from everyone
@soandso5058 you are delusional if u think almost everyone is average
“Who hurt you?”
Question of the year 😭
This is the most important question really. Everyone has gotten rejected once or twice for a date and he just took that really hard
No seriously, that is the question of the year for every incel. Rejection is something that makes people feel entitled when it’s not handled properly. It takes a huge toll on a person’s mental process.
*Sounds like Rihanna to me*
Cindy in the 3rd grade...
Probably a few who's and also some 'why wasn't anyone there to teach you a healthier way?'.
Damn that one girl was ready with a notepad and everything lol
FreakyFigs she came strapped 😂
A lil too extra lmao
probably a reporter or somethin
anderson I’d feel safer around her than the incel
Lmao!!!
It's parts of what he say that makes me sympathetical. But then it comes back to wanting women to be the way HE want them to be, not accept and include HIM for what he is.
Also tip for any lonely guy: I have always gone the extra mile to talk to those lonely guys. Most of the time it's fine but if you do want to have a culture where that is permitted you can't feel hostility towards the woman when she later on is not interested in romance or sex.
Doesn’t feminism do the same ?
I wanted to watch one video about incels, just one I picked because it seemed on a surface level to be the most wholesome one. To me this just reinforced my viewpoint about people in general being absurdly inept in every way possible, and this guy seems to be a very high-quality person surrounded by utter dimwits, its profound how high quality of a person he is considering the difficult he presumably is under in life. He needs to get into an active group of people that are outside and doing active stuff like partying etc. He might maybe have developed a superiority complex that prevents him from doing that though
Outside for sure, but perhaps not partying. Heck I'd argue to avoid anything erotic or hedonistic in general for a while.
Find instead some form of group work, especially the kind that helps others.
@@Lonaticus Valid
These are the comments that I look for 💯
Just confess that Derrick is a paid actor. PLEASE.
LOL
he has a wife now lmao
Why? He’s not bad at all. The only thing I didn’t really get was the part about treating women like children, the whole control love part.
He has been in other interviews and he's actually an incel :(
Claire what a shame now he never finds out about love
Labelling yourself an “incel” is probably the most effective way to remain an incel.
AmSuch Niceness honestly😂they’ve made it a big part of their identity smh
Is it better to lie to yourself?
@@smashmusique
You can change the fact that you're an incel by thinking of women as normal human beings and not labeling yourself as one, obviously
@@imaginarychip4916
I don't think he talked to girls about how the ''past oppression is like controlling children in a loving way''.. It's not something that naturally comes up in a friendly flirty conversation. He was probably rejected mostly because of his look and a little bit because of his personnality.. but appearance is the most important factor.
I think it's crucial to be honest to yourself and if you see a problem ( like being an incel ) work to change it, like he said he's already trying.
Sometimes, people are ugly, it doesn't help to think '' I'm a 10/10, I'm already perfect the way I am.'' It's better to be realistic and find a solution.
@@imaginarychip4916 Incel is more of a state than a mindset. Like being naturally introverted or extroverted, it's a state, you don't really choose to be.
If you desire to be in a reliationship and you can't because you're not so well with women, whether you like it or not, you are an incel.
It's good that you seem to see the problems that caused this. I wish you good luck, have a good day.
I think this goes back to what I think ever one was taught in kindergarten just treat people how you want to do treated I know there’s a lot of layers to a lot of things but I think it all comes back to that
80% of this guys problems could been fixed with a shower and a gym membership
He has been working out though.
He is being surprisingly polite but I still disagree with him
edit: wow 1.8k likes in a day? thank you? I don't know how to react.
Why is it a surprise?
@@smashmusique Bc i fee like incels would try to forcefully force their ways onto you.
Azura Forestglen same
@@COVID--kf3tx Is that discrimination? Like assuming black people would try to steal things?
That’s part of it- when people think like that, they tend to remain “calm and rational.” Then the other side seems more volatile than them.
"we control them, but we control them lovingly" ok so you manipulate them ?
When you add lovingly it’s just so toxic
Frr.... like why should men control women
not only that, she asked about other minorities too, and he straight up said they weren't opressed
@@1litreluna423 what other minorities are oppressed?
@@cheems4699 are you for real? people of color, LGBTQ people, Muslims (in many non Muslim countries), neurodivergent people, I could go on
honestly I like him, he can be better, he's getting in the gym, self improving, W honestly
I’ve personally known dudes way uglier than him have multiple girlfriends. He’s just lazy get some better clothes, choose a haircut that fits your face, go to the gym, take care of your skin, TAKE A DAMN SHOWER he looks dirty bro. I used to be like that feeling sorry about myself because I’m not the best looking guy. But one of my girl friends told me something that changed my whole worldview. “Attractiveness is a skill, you can practice it and improve it and all you need to do is put in the effort” looks are only about 40-50% of the battle your personality, sense of humor, style, and above all CONFIDENCE. He’s the perfect example of this he sits there complaining about not getting women but he’s not willing to change anything about himself. Clearly his views on women are holding him back but he’s so prideful that he’d rather blame women because they don’t want to be around him than just become a better person.
Be celibate. Turn to the light.
Personality will get you girls not looks
Yeah I do all of that and still an incel lol so what's the next excuse?
@@Recluse616 if your an incel and you have put in the effort to look better and you still get no bitches it’s probably because of your worldview. The incel view of women is genuinely creepy and disrespectful and chances are you are being creepy and disrespectful towards women so they don’t like you. The first step in self improvement is leaving the goddamn redit forums dude 🤦🏾♂️
@@Ben-hi3dfwait a minute...... How women can detect ur an incel without even showing ur personality???? Maybe everything is about looks and ur coping
"A loving domestic" .... that's exactly how slaves owner would sound
Literally, omgggg
Damn I miss those days
@@masteroogway2438 miss what days? The slavery days??🧏🏾♀️
@@masteroogway2438 what now 🏊
How about we changed roles and then we could talk. Let's see if he still considers it "loving control ".
“I don’t think women are equal to men.”
“How come I can’t get a girlfriend?”
at the end its all about getting laid lol
I kinda see his point on that, I as a women am never treated exactly as a guy. I think there are some social norms within American and other societies that unfortunately make women not equal to men. I mean, I think our value is priceless, but we inherently different in some ways.
Women aren't equal to men and men aren't equal to women. Realizing that we are different and accepting the fact that it's not a problem is what people are missing. How boring would the world be if everything would taste the same? It's the same with people. The word equal is a synonym for same.. And every time I say men and women aren't equal someone is screaming back at me saying I don't believe in equal rights and assume I put women down. But equal always needs another word to attach a meaning, equal rights, equal income, equal weight, equal height, equal health, equal sex, equally beautiful,.. And by that no men and women are very different and that's good.. Both have their strengths and weaknesses and the good thing is that a lot of them are on the opposite side meaning that by getting together we either better ourselves and help each other with our strengths or we destroy each other with our weakness
Truhandle91 I think you’re missing the point, we are equal to men because we are all equal as human beings in general.
chloe faith Yeah I agree with you
3:25 He's likely referencing the study titled "The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness" by Betsey Stevenson & Justin Wolfers which would pretty much substantiate his position lightly
So an incel is just a simp who’s tired of rejection?
Yeah lol
nope an incel is a guy/girl who thinks that they're the victim because they got rejected and they feel that they deserve everything. some also feel that if they're nice to a girl then she needs to 'put out'.
DLIP DLIP damn....I mean....that’s how I would define a simp.
DLIP DLIP yeah I know that by the actual definition but honestly it works both ways💀😂😂
@DLIP DLIP yep same with girls incel can go both ways
“The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”
African Proverbs 101 schools in session.
Origin? Nice truism.
ifonlyicouldstop they call it an “African proverb”. Apparently it comes from Africa. 🤷♂️
@@ifonlyicouldstop OK I apologize.
Nope this guy just hates women
He’s the most well spoken intel I’ve ever seen
Imagine if a 6’3 chad said the same exact thing about women. The comments would be way different.
Yah these comments and the ppl in the video are making him look bad whereas he was just normal.
in a year I wanna see a video of this guy with a new title.. "I USED to be an incel, ask my anything"
@alec probably not gonna happen, unfortunately
He is actually livestreaming his own suicide right now and I'm not kidding
@@patrisco8448 wHAT
@@patrisco8448 this can't be true wtf
@@rustyshackleford3428 i literally watched it live. he cut the stream after trying once which seemed legit but he cut the stream before trying a second time cause either it didnt work or he was lying or he got spooked. my opinion, seemed like the whole thing was contrived
This is just depressing. I don’t even have a joke.
I have one. He needs to get laid and that'll solve it (not really a joke tbh)
@@belle2464 Some people might just be forever alone (AKA me).
Yet u still made me laugh w/ this comment
@@belle2464 That isn't the solution to someone's happiness.. Having meaningless sex and having the woman blow the depressed guy off after can put him in a worse state than he was before. especially if th sex was awkward etc...
You're being dramatic. He was quite calm. It's fine to disagree with people lol
Next: misiandrist woman. Ask her anything.
He's not an incel out of coincidence, he's just a terrible person.
@@vnolan633 bruh
Are you a psychiatrist?
Thank you. Men will rush to defend him as if there arent TONS of people who were bullied, hurt, etc and STILL did not become hateful assholes.
@@the_katerina Are you angry?
@@mikioni why would I be? Just pointing out the obvious 😘
This guy has probably talked to more women in this video than he probably has in the past 3 years
LMAOOO
LMBOOO
What’s so funny?
@@imperatorscotorum6334
Its fun because it's true
@@imperatorscotorum6334 nah we're not laughing, we're just typing laughing reactions while having blank face irl.
3:00 "Men should treat women like we treat children. We control them but we control them lovingly"
6:10 "We all deserve someone that is loving and respectful towards us like their equal"
hmmmm doesn't quite add up there, bud
I dont think hes thought about this very much himself, and formed his own sort of mentality on the subject. These things he says seems like talking points you'd find online. Hes just repeating what he's heard, not what he's come to terms with in his own mind.
yo, he also said to one of the girls to be kind and make friends with them or whatever (when she asked of ways to support and help) and... in another video went on to say that men and women cannot be friends? like wtf??
@@thesleepydragon9780 same, I was so confused by that statement
Talk about some contradictions there
@@silversalmon9909 this, for sure. No doubt he romanticizes older eras when he wasn't even born, thinking of loving mothers who stay home all day baking cookies, doting on their men, and of course being sexually available at his every whim. Everyone wants to be the main character with the rest of life existing as the backdrop to our own personal story, blah blah blah.
I love how you cut him off before he can answer on a video about asking questions
I am late to this but how is no one talking about his response to the question about women, women of colour and the LGBTQ+ community?? - “we control them, but we control them lovingly” 😨
Incels are legends
@@geraldtherat618 oh..
@@geraldtherat618 You're one?
@@Shortestcoment Yes
@@geraldtherat618 ooh it all makes sense now
I don’t understand, he literally talks like a reasonable person but his words are outrageous
this confused me too
I agree. Hes really misguided
i believe you can see him doubting his on words as hes speaking, but he is in denial. this video seriously made me sad, especially when he straight up said they just need help and loving support. its even sadder when you know they dig their own graves and praise each other for that just to feel like they belong somewhere
Well that's because he believes what he says. I fully disagree with him and think the incel community is dangerous, but he certainly believes what he says.
I think it's important to realize that the people you disagree with politically usually believe what they say, especially regular citizens. Maybe less so if they're getting paid to have a certain opinion. But I think generally, people are not going around deliberately doing bad things, like in a video game or a superhero movie. They think they're being reasonable and doing the right thing.
He even said in a previous video that his mom is a single mother- imagine raising a kid that hates women when you raised him BY YOUR SELF.
That was interesting. Maybe his mother is to blame for his mindset. This is why it’s important for all kids to have a father at home.
He is one ungrateful child she raise him on her own but then he disrespects women like that if I was his mum I would be disappointed
sorry to come by like this but your pfp is just- who is itttt😭😭
ZYA - Yea and that loving parent could be a man. What? You don’t think there are deadbeat women out there? You don’t think there are many women that are a shitty parent? Think again.
@@shyeline5007it's jungkook
thats sam sulek before he hopped on steroids
I cant lie I pity these people - constant rejection from society has led these people down a dark path creating a degrading mindset and they can't seem to blame themself. I'm glad the guy in the video is improving himself because that's the only way you can stop being an incel.
Incel means involuntarily celibate.
It doesn't mean misogynist .
Improving yourself all day is not going to guarantee a chick will find you sexually/romantically attractive.
@@kennylanqua6512 Completely agree!
@@kennylanqua6512I agree. I just think it happens to be a trend in many incel communities that misogyny runs rampant. Not all incels are misogynistic, many are, and what’s ironic is a lot of them stopped being doomers and angry at women all the time, they might cease being incel.
@@lunarlightasmr4660 the last sentence.... not being angry doesn't mean a woman is automatically just going to find you romantically and sexually appealing.
notice how he never considers that maybe it has has to do with his personality, he just talks about losing weight and getting a job because he thinks that’s all women care about
I used to kind of look like him before I started working out. I’ve walked in his shoes. You don’t know what it’s like to be invisible to the gender you’re attracted to. No matter your personality, if you look like this guy the majority of women won’t even consider you as a potential partner
SnowFrog most women will consider you. There are ways to attract women without having good looks. Appearance is apart of it. We won’t want to date someone who doesn’t care about their hygiene. However, we also care about how we are treated and whether the person respects our boundaries.
@@omniomelet1472 hahahaha, nice one
(Respectfully) In Some circumstances that is what most "people in general" care about.
I'm just saying.....
I'm not that type of guy tho.
@@omniomelet1472 ur wrong lol there attracted to the top 20 percent of men and date men that look like what your talking about when they need to settle and live somewhere.
They should have also done a separate AMA with his mom
"I Raised an Incel. Ask Me Anything"
n40798 i doubt his mom knows he’s an incel ... she prolly just sees him as a nerdy kid that stays home a lot and works out . With a lot of online friends.
Or his Dad.
i can already tell his dad was out of the picture his whole life probably.
@@rodgod82 yes
Yeesss
I think being an incel is a mindset and whether or not the wanna admit it it’s a group they chose to be in. I know kind and respectful men who have never had sex and they aren’t bitter or angry at women about it 🤷🏾♀️
Those kind and respectful men you mentioned are by definition incels, since incel means that someone cannot get laid. People assume the word incel with evil person or misogynist etc. Most people approaching conversations with incels are ignorants and assume they are evil. This is why this guy is so hated in the comment senction.
incel is just a categorization term for a class of people that one can be part of without even knowing of the term's very existence
It's the same like being a Feminist!
@@Batmonk no it’s not lol
Nope, being an incel, is determined at birth. Don't talk about something you don't understand and will never experience.
Dude seems chill just really depressed.
I'm getting a "reject them before they can reject me" kinda vibe here
Well is that not an honest and justified human reaction to any repeated hurt that they experience? Would you continue to cut yourself with a knife in a belief that it's good for you even after seven cuts deep into your flesh? Is he not justified to reject potential hurt based on his previous experiences 'just in case' they dont repeat this time??
Yeah, but that thing he said about a women being president, just wtf. Man are not natural leaders, no one sex is a natural at whatever. Women are not caregivers.
@Bazzralic no one cares that you're racist
@@relentlesslytalkingtoapc7115 Yeah but no one is cutting you psychically or mentally. Rejection is everywhere. When you learn to take it and move on because there are so many different women out there, you won't get 'hurt'.
Bro when this vid was fist uploaded people were so chill, like. He’s actually so chill and not what I’d expect. Something like that
He hates women because they show no interest in him. This whole thing of his is simply him retaliating. Lol
When did he say that he hates women?
He was asked the question "Do you hate women?" and he said no. Stop putting words in his mouth lol
So he is the equivalent of a female feminist
@@erickcarvajal8180 wtf how is that the equivalent?
@@TeamWhatvr i never said that he said it... so in turn maybe dont put words in my mouth? Also if you read my first reply on here you'd see I corrected myself. None the less his stance and how he see women is pathetic and its amazing how you're defending him. You're kinda sus lol
from a psychology standpint this is both horrifying & fascinating.
I love the comments to this video. Completely missing the guy's point and judging him, then telling him his worldview isn't shaped by their behaviour and that he's just bitter and lonely.
Such a lack in cognitive dissonance from people.
Exactly! Shows peoples intellect, doesn't it!
That's the truth, I feel like people don't want to see that their misguided views stem from the societal standards and various traumatic events that these people go through. They often have abusive or neglectful parents, get bullied at school which destroys their social skills and suffer from mental disorders which affect so many areas in life.
@@Dzidzgkorn617 Yup, and then these people will take to social media and 'support' mental illness in their twitlonger virtue signaling posts (conveniently linking their brand/paypal in the comments).
Life is such a farce.