stop setting unrealistic expectations...
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- We are back with another Quality Conversation. We covered a lot of topics and gave out some free game so be sure to watch the whole video.
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ME!!!
Fills my hunger for knowledge and change 🤞🏾🕯
I’m obsessed with these 🧠. These are literally food for the brain. As a young adult (19yrs old) I’m grateful for this content because it allows me to mature internally before I encounter actual conflicts like these in my adulthood. Thank you Josh and Isi ! 🤎
I listen to them podcast style.
Me!! I really hope they continue with these cause they really are food for thought
If this were a podcast you would get different sponsors and get to double dip by also uploading to UA-cam. Maybe that will work for you guys. Gods many blessings!!
Yes like rickey and denzel they do both
I actually LOOOOOOOVEEEE the quality conversations and the length of them! they are so much fun to watch and listen to with great perspectives. I relate to you both so much.
I love Alice Walker's (Author of The Color Purple) quote: "Expect nothing. Live frugally on surprise." This doesn't mean to have low expectations. It means you release or surrender the expectations that you have made up in your mind. Then there's no disappointment because there is no expectation attached to the experience. This has helped me tremendously in my marriage and friendships.
I like "content creator" for if someone asks you what you do. it encompasses everything you do outside of UA-cam as well.
Josh talking about his God mother got me like: 🥺🥺
You can just feel how precious their bond seemed before he moved 😭
I love how these two can sit and talk about deep stuff and not sound like they’re just talking for the sake of talking. I don’t know if I’m the only one who sometimes catches this or I’m just overly critical but there are some people who get on record to “unpack” and the way they unpack makes you wish they’d just left the damn suitcase closed because they’re saying NOTHING 😩 !!! With Josh&Isi, it’s actual conversations, with flow and discovered wisdom along the way. It’s amazing, love y’all ! ❤️❤️❤️
I think high expectations and low expectations are equally dangerous. I think you set expectations based on what you know or experience in each interaction/situation. I feel you tho Josh disappointment is tough What I try to do is assess why I'm disappointed and get the learning from it and move forward fresh each day. Whether we like it or not we all have expectations it's just managing it and steering it into a productive end point. I absolutely appreciate you both. Blessings
I found myself falling into the flex culture as well and I think what helped me realize is, I asked myself, “ if this photo wasn’t going to be posted, would I still be doing/wearing this?” I ended up taking a social media break for a few weeks and for the most part, now I’m barely on social media. Sometimes it can become so toxic and I’ve just felt so much at peace being off of social media, best decision I’ve ever made to just live in the moment.
40:00-45:00 is LITERALLY what is happening with me. I’m a whole 16 year old learning and understanding the same things you are Isi!! 😩👍🏽
My highschool yearbook quote was “Expectations lead to disappointments”. There’s nothing wrong with having a vision or dreaming big, but not everyone has the same visions or dreams unless you voice that.
I NEEDED THIS SOOO BAD YOU GUYS CAN'T EVEN UNDERSTAND!!!! i didn't still hear the conversation and i now it will be good.
The love and support isi’s mom gave to her is exactly what I’ve craved from a parent my entire life 🥲🥺
I would love to hear your Grandma retell her history
Omg Josh! The exact same experience with me when it comes to promises. Hence, why I have zero expectations. It’s very interesting how even the ‘negative’ actions made by parents during a childhood can teach valuable lessons and have positive outcomes.
Everytime I see you guys with mics on a thumbnail I get so excited!!
Both of y’all’s hair look so soft 😍👏🏾
I used to keep a post it note on my computer at work which said lower your expectations. I worked at a hotel and I always had way higher expectations of my staff. I learned patience when I had kids. I had to get over my OCD’ness real quick🤣
Y’all are so underrated😪 definitely the best UA-cam couple 😭😭 I love these conversations ❤️
Man these quality conversations are so refreshing to watch and listen to and each one feels more and more relatable to me. This one felt like a worrrrddddd and I loved it!!!!
Been disappointed too many times by people, so my expectations of other people are on the floor, and that's been working for me so far.
Can y'all PLEASE make this a podcast??😭😭❤️
they definitely need a podcast!
Weekly 😩
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Yes 👏🏾
Isi and Josh you're so young and yet so wise. You all are speaking so much truth about everything. I really appreciate the 2 of you and your wonderful channel. I always look forward to these wonderful videos. Love your channel. Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 Speak on it. Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏.
The grandmother bit was deep. I calculated her birth year and it was 1932. Like damn she was really alive and a full adult in the civil rights times and the fact that she remembers her grandma as a slave just shows why people can never say “it was so long ago, just forget about it” when there are living people that still have those memories. History has also taught us the civil rights were further away than they are by all these black and white pictures when it’s not that far. It just shows how far yet so close we’ve come. This society obviously has better to do with handling systematic racism or covert racism and micro aggressions but it’s a lot better than segregation, Jim Crow and slavery times which weren’t as far off.
“No expectations” that is a note to myself. I am also a Virgo that’s definitely a Virgo thing we’ll sit there and create in our mind what we want the outcome to look like and if it’s not exactly that way then we feel some type away about it all
Recommending you guys to watch the Forgiveness series from Transformation Church :) It talks about taking offensive, forgiving yourself and more!
• Listen! I am here for the elders and ima stick by ‘em. Especially the ones who are open minded, equally willing to exchange wisdom. 🙏🏽
• Experiencing disappointment and vice versa at a young age definitely plays a huge role in how you perceive expectations as an adult and because of that I’ve always tried to live by, “Your word is your bond”, “Don’t say what you don’t mean” and “Don’t make promises you can’t keep”. I’d prefer someone say that they’ll try, rather than tell me that they will do something and not do it. But sometimes you might have to simply hope for the best and expect the worse.
• It’s very interesting to hear y’all’s individual dynamic growing up and how it’s shaped you two into who you are now. Even amidst y’all’s dissimilarities, y’all remain on the same page, love that for you guys. 💞
Everything about this is beautiful. Yall are more impactful than you know ❤️
The title alone had me IMMEDIATELY CLICK. I love Kitchen and Kocktails. To be a Dallas native how exciting that he's making it a franchise. I've been twice and was Hella pissed that we arrived moments after 50 cent had left.
I totally understand Isi with the expectation thing. It’s so hard because you set an expectation that something will happen the way you want it and when it doesn’t you’re hurt.
As someone who pays absolutely zero money for any streaming service whatsoever I was struggling to find something to watch scrolling and scrolling. Saw you two and screamed YEP and instantly clicked. Just want to send thank you on behalf of all of us broke b's out here. Your content is NEEDED! 😂💓💕
Constantly audit every aspect of your life - health, relationships, business, etc! That's a whole entire word! Geesh!
“money talks but wealthy whisper”.
I can relate not having not one living grandparent 😢 but that’s why I make sure my daughter spend quality time with her grandparents ❤️❤️
"I'd Rather Let My Bank Account do the TALKING when push come to shove... FREE GAME!!!!
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I would love you guys to get her story on camera. It’s important these children know; segregation and slavery was NOT that long ago.
I really really needed to hear this. I knew i didn't wanna fall into the flex culture when i was younger but when i got older and started working the people around me and social media influenced how i dress. Now before i buy someone I'll ask myself why.
Yea I feel josh on having low expectations like Isi said it was a way to guard my heart. Because when something was promised or told to me and would not come to light, it hurt so now it’s become to the point that I don’t like to hope or don’t want to look forward to something that could potentially be taken away, because then I’ll be hurt. So unless, I got that item or thing I wished for I’ll celebrate once I’ve received it/achieve it. It’s something I got to work on and dig deep on cause I’m all about growing and being a better person. But when it comes to people I expect, respect, truth, etc. the bare minimum as a human being with interactions but as we get closer I expect there to be more like support, etc. Life is all about growing, and I really admire these deep dives that allow me to recognize that I’m not the only dealing with this and I’m not the only one with this mindset of growing and being real 🤎
Omg you almost made me cry Isi. The expectation thing may be a Virgo thing. I literally was telling my fiancée that my disappointments in the relationship comes from my expectations. I thought something was the only one, I thought something was wrong with me.
Not “the kids entering the group chat” I’ve never heard that term before lol
I love this phase of growth and these QualLITy conversations are bomb! Thanks and take yall time!
The way josh look at expectations is exactly how I do it. I feel part of it is an Aquarius this but then again I’ve experienced the same let down of promises. So I do my best to be a woman of my word but expect people to be people. Beautifully flawed
Holding things in is definitely one of those things. I am working on doing it in the moment. Im not petty tho .
Aunty Isi, Uncle Josh, can we please get a podcast? I just cooked a whole meal listening to this and can I say THERAPY!
I had to get a notebook and take notes, Josh and Isi you have no idea how knowledge and growth you add into our lives, Thank you so much.❤❤
Another Quality Convo. ♥️ We love you Josh and Isi. #qualitycrew
Okay Virgo ♍️ twin and josh y’all playing👀! Bc you guys definitely need to get in y’all RED PODCAST BAG💰 lol. Honestly it’s giving QUALITY 🔥‼️🥰
These conversations make me feel like I’m listening to an older brother and sister I love it 🤗
Ahhh yes I have been waiting I had a feeling you were gonna post today you both look so good Isi is beautiful the hair the glowing skin yes
Edit: just a suggestion can you do 1 or more of these quality conversations with Mama Edeko cause I know she will preach and I can speak for a lot of us we love Mama Edeko she's such a earth angel
Rewatching this because I always learn something from you all no matter how many replays✊🏾✊🏾 funny thing is all my friendships( currently 1 true best friend like I would call her if I needed some one to help me wipe if god forbid something were to happen) I have always had an unwarranted contract talk before we like start being “friends”if that makes sense.. obviously one stood true but I thought I was weird for having those convos of expectations, boundaries and the flaws I’m working on that may impact our friendship at some point.. listening to y’all tells me that I was on to something not even knowing…I appreciate the confirmation 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Josh "Money talks but wealth whispers"
Me ***scrambles to find a pen and paper***
More quality conversations please ❤️ puts my spirit at ease
And with expectations I'm the same with Josh because growing up a lot of false promises were made and after awhile to protect my heart and my mind I have 0 expectations on everything. But I do know my worth and will not settle for BS from anyone.
WOW . this was something I needed to hear at this exact moment. THANK YOU!
that's so crazy because i literally picked up ingredients to make jerk lamb chops 2 days ago!
im so ready to know what books Josh is reading. I am trying to start my book game up
Everyone when they’re younger believes the same way their house is ran, is the same as everyone else and it can be a rude awakening when you realize that’s not the case
So well said yes!🔥🔥🔥
Josh and Isi with another quaaaaality conversation 😏😉
I love these conversations!!! Its so refreshing, helping me step into my young adulthood.
Super dope young people. Bravo 👏🏾
This video was so on point !! & really had me thinking! It was like a teaching session ! Y’all are two very wise and intelligent individuals! I pray for the best in y’all lives and more to come ! 🤍
Yesss I relate so much and am currently going through this. Wrote it on my mirror during that higher self conversation. I wrote “Trade expectations for peace”. I’ve been disappointed by ppl and it’s caused internal turmoil. This past weekend, I realized I am guarding my heart above all.
I’ve been waiting all morning for this video, we love u guys
I really understand Joshs view of expectations. I’m 17 and I still live with my parents. My mom gets so mad when I don’t believe her promises but it’s like my whole childhood mostly from my parents but also friends no one ever keeps their promises so my expectations of people are just naturally low.
it's refreshing to see other ppl my age think the same as me. My boyfriend is so into crypto and investing and i have a growing small business and presence on tiktok. Everyone around me questions the way i spend my money lol. they clown me because I have a 05 chevy cavalier. *shrugs* it still runs great and im really investing and growing my business. material things are not important to me. so glad you guys are putting these bugs into other people's ears
Yeeessssss I needed this💕 my fav Chicago UA-camrs ❤️
i love these videos! even if it does become a podcast, i’d still watch just bc i love see y’all’s energy! doing great!
Im all the way locked in to this channel!! love yall!
I genuinely love the way you guys think . this pod is truly quality
Keeps me sane... I swear y'all!! God bless you
You should teach us how to increase our social media following. I appreciate the advice you give it helps me a lot. Love your videos
Okay y’all talking about the red light honking … i get slow too 🤣🤣 that’s how you get them straight
I really love these chats. The only thing I personally disagree on (and I don't think you guys are wrong, I just feel differently) is that when someone takes time to bring up something that's bothering them, I think it actually is a great time to bring up grievances that you may have and in the opposite role I usually provide the opportunity and hope that they would take it to be real with me about their feelings and ways that they may feel slighted by me.
I definitely agree that when confronted you have to first digest what's said and put your ego aside to acknowledge their feelings and try to make it right. But once you have given it a listen and talked it thorough to come to an amicable conclusion, I think it's a great time to just get everything out so that you can be on a level field again. I would hate if I tell someone they hurt me and they didn't tell me that they were also hurt by me. We just need to respect each other's sides.
These quality convos are so amazing. Gives me so much to reflect on in my own life and new perspectives on things I experience.
The sense of self and unity is strong here. So inspiring!!!!
Can you guys please upload these conversations to Spotify? I would LOVE to listen on my commutes, or even when doing things around the house :)
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This whole conversation was a word
Isi, sis ima let you know right now it is not just a you thing it's a virgo thing because I AM THE SAME WAY GIRL, like I have these unrealistic expectations of things and get upset or hurt or frustrated when they don't happen or aren't how I intended. Even something as simple as I planned on doing x, y, and z today and If I for whatever reason don't complete it I feel like a failure and I get real sad and ik it's not healthy and I'm working on it but it's definitely a learning process and your not alone babe! Also love you both yall like my big brother and sister. I'm 23 by the way❤❤❤
I love these videos it’s entertaining and packed it’s so much useful and relatable information….
I really like these sit down videos … lol please keep doing them
My hubby is the same way when it comes to dressing up 🤗
I would say friend meetings are very important!! I started them w/ my closest friends that I’ve developed as of late cause we had lotssss of things that were subliminal issues that never got resolved or we didn’t understand something after trying to address it too many times. And yes it can sometimes seem like it’s trying to be avoided because ppl don’t like confrontation they think it’s a g@ng up moment. But the way we hit the nails in the wall for all the issues that have crept up is we ask everyone’s input even if it was maybe one person that we needed to address more at the time, just so it doesn’t seem like we’re tag teaming up on one person as if we all can’t work on things. Things fester up so everyone needs something to reflect on, to in turn work on.
This is my first time watching this type of content of yours and I’m blown away. I definitely have leftovers for thought! 🤔 wow.
Please never get rid of quality conversations
I will be missing this....I'm here tearing up, I really thought y'all would have stayed with us till the end mayne
Another Qualitty Conversation! So here for it 😍 Let me grab my wine & tune in . Love you guys sm!
what if changing your thought process after expectations aren't met? who says they have to be set low, maybe setting them high and preparing properly for things if you receive a low outcome... maybe knowing how to pivot after your high expectations aren't met may work also. To the point where you don't let it affect you negatively, and possibly being able to pick up and carry on better after...yall got my mind thinking thts all... i love these talks w/ y'all SO MUCH. They are so neutering to multiple aspects of a persons life.. 💎s
Please make this a podcast!!🥲
This conversation was so good! I was listening while getting ready and continued to hear it in the car on my way to work!! 🚗 (on my internet data 😅)
I love how Isi you were so transparent about "living on your edge" and admiting certain things! It was so humble 👌🏾
I love how Josh you talked about why you have low expectations from people/things. I related to those broken promises I had when I was young.
Keep the good work 💪🏾 #quality
Watching you from Montreal Canada 🇨🇦
I’ve always like your channel and content.. but this video/ podcast made me love the channel and subscribe! I thought these things were just in my head.. but y’all feel me. The communication, the respect, solution, being heard and seen, expectations, accountability, and so much more. Thank you both and God bless you! ❤️
I went to kitchen and cocktails in Dallas it SO GOOD😍😛
This was one the best quality convos🤌🏾❤️
So many gems, but now you got me thinking about expectations lol it might be a Virgo thing 🥴🥴
This was a QUALITY epsd tbh super beneficial convo and gems. Thanks guys :)
“Sometimes you need to have time for the drama”
Real s***
I'm so happy I listened to this QC!
I love your vlogs but the QC are lit. Alot of the things discussed here are alot of the thoughts I have within. You'll are young but your wealth of knowledge is exceptional. This is definitely Quality Conversations 👌 that anyone can learn from. I am your #1 Quality Listener!
Omg I wanna do a video documentation with my grandmother too, but I don’t know exactly what questions to ask. 😭🤦🏾♀️
Thank you to for this conversation especially the last bit on adult friendships and expectations because I'm currently dealing with that situation with my friend group since highschool and I would love to try and get them all together to talk about it and be like okay once and for all but they hate conflict and I'm getting tired or being the peacemaker. I'm just trying to figure out my words and you guys placed a bit of what I wanted to say I may just send this video to my friends and be like yup we do this so let's talk. Thank you for the quality conversation it's always a learning and growing process especially bringing up how some people don't want others to succeed cause it's so true!
I'm not fully done watching yet but I have to say, Isi I feel you on the expectations stuff!😭💯 It very much could be a Virgo thing (my birthday sep 4😜). I think it's because we're "perfectionist" and we crave for everything around us to work out the way we see as "perfect".
Down to the littlest things of how you want someone to move or how you'd like a situation to pan out. I've been trying to be more realistic and realize that everyone is their own person and react different but I still find myself upset sometimes.
Lol I use to think it was also because I'm a hopeless romantic because being one I've noticed I take what I'd consider love from what I've seen and make my own personal fantasies. There would be certain ways I'd want my partner to react to me or say things in a certain way but it never played out as such.
It's a process but I think if we just don't think about it and get over worked, our wants and essentially our fantasies will play out in its own unique way. The way it's suppose to be if that makes sense.✨
Learn something from you guys. Thank you
Please get your grandmother on camera about the history I love that Type of stuff
Quality Convos!!! My day!!!
I cannot standddddd when the person behind me honks as soon as the light turns green. Whenever that happens, I put my car in park and wait for the next green light. I'm not in a rush, but they probably are. Bet they wished they would've been a little bit more patient huh? Light be green for ONE millisecond and you wanna start honking your horn. Well now I'm about to make your morning a little less enjoyable babes🤷🏾♀️😘 My mom tells me I should stop doing this though because one day I'll really piss off the wrong person. I'm working on it but sometimes its so hard to fight that reaction.