On the scrunchie one, the girl offered to give the little girl a headband. She was totally willing to share. But the whole point of sharing is that the owner has the choice in the matter, particularly about what things they choose to give to other people.
I think her parents are just being passive aggressive about the fact that she collects scrunchies and are trying to make it look like it's all about not giving one to the little girl. I totally understand why this person is upset.
Yeah she was happy to share, just not her favorite object which should be respected. Plus yeah the parent owns the house, but you are teaching your kids disrespect when you go rifle through their things without their permission
Exactly, I feel like her mother crossed a boundary by showing the girl the collection KNOWING it‘s something important to the daughter that she holds dearly and wouldn’t want to just give away. What makes it worse is that the daughter was already looking for a headband to give to the girl, so if the mother hadn’t taken the child to show her the scrunchies, she would’ve just gotten the headband and been fine without knowing „what she was missing“ and wouldn’t have started crying
My nephew (7 years at the time) visited once and saw my collection of plushie toys. He wanted one and picked my favorite. I compromised and offered a few he could choose. He picked one that looked similar but was smaller (and it meant less to me.) He was still stoked and i was told he packed it in his bag for school for a few weeks. If were the scrunchie poster, i wouldve acted sad and heartbroken.. and it would have been legitamate. kids are starting to understand that at 3 years old. Then i wouldve offered my least favorites or ones i know i can replace.
"Your hairband broke? Here, come shopping in my daughters room! Who cares that you're 3 and will probably forget about it or lose it within three days, who cares if you happen to pick out her favorite one, I've decided my daughter has enough so just take one"
The grandma is also ....... as a adult in the situation shouldn’t you be the one to stop your stupid friend from doing this to her daughters or maybe that’s just what kind of people the are
What really bothered me is that the mom asked her, the girl said no and was looking for an alternative, and then the mom ignored her and took the little girl upstairs to rifle through them completely without her daughter's permission. It was never hers to give away and she just did it anyway :/
the girl with the scrunchies said she started trying to find another hair tie for the little girl, but the mom took them to her room 🤷🏻♀️ girl isn’t in the wrong whatsoever, they couldn’t have a regular hair tie? they just had to try to give away HER scrunchies? nope 👎
Ikr. This was more about the mums ego trying to seem like she was a great person for giving away her daughters things. Doesn’t matter how small your things are in value. Your property is your property.
She should probably try to keep her scrunches in a lockbox, you never know what will happen if she goes outside and her parents being friends over... What if a few goes missing because of them?
I had a younger cousin try to take a toy away from me by telling my mom she wanted it, my mom looked at me and I threw it in the drawer and said “well I guess no one will play with it 🤷🏻♀️” and my mom goes “well it’s her toy...so...” like my mom would NEVER and it’s bizarre that a mom would try and force her kid to give something she cherishes away....
It’s like the mom was trying to make the daughter look bad. The mom could just not bring the little girl into her daughters OWN room and show her the scrunchies, and the 3 year old wouldn’t be upset.
The scrunchie thing happened to my mom back in the 60s, but with Barbies instead. My grandmother gave away my mom's entire Barbie collection (complete with a closet full of doll clothes and accessories) to a neighbor's kid. My mom was only like 10 or 11 years old and was very upset. Parents: Don't treat your kids like that.
Murphy McMittens they dont see the value in it, feel like if you dont play with it daily you lost interest, think of children as not deserving property, dont see children as seperate beings yet. Im in my twenties and hosted for my family a dinner my parents told my niece to take some of my things even though i dont live with them anymore. .. I guess they felt like itd be a bonding experience for the both of us ?
I made my husband watch that part of that episode so that when I tell him, our daughter, or our pets, that I'm gonna put them in the soup, he gets it. Makes me laugh every time!
In France children on social media are under the same legal regime as child actors, so there's a limit on the number of hours they can film, protections in place on their earnings etc.
This was very timely as my seven year old has started telling me she doesn't want me posting certain pictures of her on Facebook. My Facebook is private and I post pictures of her for family and friends. Now I don't post pictures unless she gives me the green light and we have had lots of conversations about the internet in general so it's been really good.
i'm really glad that you're respecting her wishes! personally, my mom never posted photos but she did talk about me and my brother on twitter a bit, referring to us as 'child 1' and 'child 2'. i'm pretty sure that i was kind of unhappy about that at the time, but we never had a real conversation about it since i guess she thought that she was in the clear by keeping it anonymous. so having that conversation and trying to explain as much as possible to her so that she can make informed decisions seems like a really great thing to do.
That's nice. I actually don't mind if my mom posts about me, since I don't have social media and I'm not allowed to, and also because we have tons of friends/family who don't live near us. I'm glad you're respective of her wishes and have talked about this with her.
See this is how I know my mother is toxic. When I was younger I was extremely camera shy and I requested my mom wouldn’t post pictures of me, she responded with “your MY daughter, I can post pictures of you whenever I want”. I wish she would have responded like this.
With the scrunchies the mom crossed her daughters boundaries--- and therefore put her on the spot. If she gave away her fave scrunchie she makes her parents look good to their guests, but her parents treat her like her opinions don't matter, and if she doesn't they're mad cuz she made them lose face. Believe me, the 3 year old isn't scarred for life, at that age they actually need boundaries (gently placed, but they need to know they don't get what they want all the time) Besides, before the mom offered up scrunchies that weren't hers to give, her daughter was already digging around for a regular hairband, trying to be helpful. Lmao me trigggggeeeerrrreddd
Yeah, there’s a scenario where the mom asks her to go grab a scrunchie as a favor, and the daughter has the chance to grab on of the more replaceable drug store ones without the three year old seeing the full bounty of scrunchies on offer. Of course when given the choice, the three year old is going to go for the most exciting shiny one!
I'm triggered by the bratty daughter who refused to share even one of her cheap scrunchies with a literal baby. Lol I guess we all have different opinions! 🤷♀️
3 yr old: she was already getting the kid a different headband to wear. The parents shouldn't have volunteered her collection up without her consent, especially when a solution was already in the works.
Wow I thought I was the only one, thank god Q_Q My parents used to tell me not to be spoiled as a tiny kid, but another kid cries and I have to be the mature one? Fuck that lol.
You guys mentioned "the youtuber couple bandwagon" and I think it would be really cool if you guys touched on the decision to have ben become more and more involved with the channel.
I'd like that, too. Also just skipping ahead: I feel like there's a difference between relationship content and content people do together, while happening to be in a relationship. And I think, Cristine and Ben are the latter. :)
@@rainyhaze2053 Yeah, it's not "look at us, a picture perfect couple". Ben just gradually had a bigger part in videos, until they did a podcast. And before the podcast a lot of posters wanted more Ben.
Right? I love my hubby's moustache (he's had it almost the whole 11 years we've been together and he looks strange without it) but it's still prickly and tickles to smooch him sometimes, lol.
Some celebrities actually wore the exact same clothing whenever they were in public so when the press took pictures of them they couldn’t profit off of those since they all looked like they were from the same day or something. Another thing that celebrities done were to wear some kind of holo sweaters and clothes so then the camera would be reflected in the pictures and the person couldn’t be seen in the pictures so it was useless to take pictures.
@@dawnthegoblin yeah, that’s where I got the wear the same clothing each day one from. It seems like a bunch of people who are famous did things like that. The reflective sweater was actually an Indian celebrity I think.
As a mom of a 3 yr old... kids don't get everything and they shouldn't be taught because they're young that they do. I would be ok as the mom if she wasn't willing to hand over something she cared about. I would also say I'll steal it back from my kid and return it the next day.
absolutely! and, most three year olds would love that scrunchie for like a day and then it would be old news, so i think she was right not giving it away
That last part. I would 100% attempt to level with the teen and be like "dude. I'll take it from her tonight before bed an bring it back tomorrow. Thanks for being a champ. Sorry your mom brought us here without your permission." and if she still wasn't okay with that, I'd also understand. We'd just find a rubber band or a piece of sting. Ndb.
I totally agree! My mom was very much like this and I’m glad she didn’t allow me to become kind of spoiled in that sense. I would also say maybe if the kid really wanted it, I would just say I’ll ask where the scrunchie came from and tell them where to buy their own. But in all seriousness, never feel ridiculous for not giving a kid your stuff. You aren’t obligated to give it away especially if it’s just someone who took fancy because it looked cool.
@@erica1800 Sounds like you had good parents. Entitled children breed entitled adults and as somebody who worked enough customer service in her life I, can't let that happen to my kid.
She shouldn’t have offered her daughters things to the child anyway and if the child cried just give her something else to tie her hair with and explain they were gifts so she can’t give them to others. Kids have to learn anyway when I was kid and my parents said no that was it end of story but for my brother he would cry and they would immediately take him/Us home or explain why we can’t have it and you could ether stop crying or go to your room they never let someone give us something just to shut us up.
My grandpa would give me our wine to drink when I was six, yep... Just sips of course, I was the one refusing it! I still don't reeeally like wine all that much, and my mother even used to sell brunello. And cookies or bread soaked in espresso too, that one I loved.
I'm French, so people always assume I've been drinking wine my whole damn life and to be fair... they're not wrong bc I started tasting the wine my parents were drinking when I was about 6 lol
Just wanna say, the video got recommended to me and I wanted to listen to something while doing my tasks. I have no idea who you are, but I listened through the whole thing and I really enjoyed it ☺️
So fun story time! I am engaged and when I moved in with my fiancé I brought most of my nail care products and polishes I had collected. Once a week I would go into our bathroom and watch your videos and tend to my nails. He got sooo fascinated with nail art and so one day I asked him if I could paint his toenails and take care of his extremely ✨overgrown✨ cuticles but he refused. I asked him why and he said “cause I’m not a girl?” so I challenged him by asking “what about self care and self expression is not for men?” He said “I don’t know,” and agreed to let me give him a pedicure. He was so cute when I told him that we could go to the store the day we were going to do it and he could pick out the color he wanted on his toes. I’ve never seen this man so invested in picking a color out, he asked me which brand was the best and which one was the best that we could get in store, (we had the lesson on what an indie polish is and what a drugstore polish is). He finally decided on a purple, we went home, and I got to work. We soaked our feet together, we did a nice buffing sugar scrub and gentle exfoliate on our calluses, (we both work in fields where we are on our feet all day). I painted his toes and he was like “how do I walk?!” He was so scared he’d smudge the polish and I almost peed myself laughing at him walking on his heels to avoid messing them up. After the first time I let him paint my toes and lord was that a bad idea. It was a blood bath 😂 polish was ✨EVERYWHERE✨ although I do have to say it is one of my favorite videos I have to date because I got to capture his laugh when he plopped a huge blob on my toe. So I really have to thank you for making one of my favorite memories happen.
Scrunchie: she's not the a-hole. I have lent out my favorite books to adults and friends and not ever gotten them back or gotten them back bent and damaged, I would not give something I value to a 3 year old.
I think another good point about child stars is when they’re on a set there is all these checks and balances (if they follow the rules) on how long they can work and be on set. But if they’re in their home and it’s up to the parents discretion they could potentially be filming for hours on end with no breaks
"People who clip their nails in public are monsters" Flashes back to when people in orchestra would clip their fingernails so often that my teacher brought in nail clippers and put them next to the trash can so people would stop clipping their nails at their seats
This is the most orchestra thing ever tbh. My director kept multiple nail clippers and sanitizer by a specified trash can for us and had the rule that if we had to clip in class, it had to be over the trash can and not at their seats, and to sanitize them after lol.
I might be a horrible person and im not saying I do clip my nails on the bus but... I honestly dont find clipped fingernails disgusting at all. And filing is especially not an issue for me... i mean the only reason i can imagine you doing either of them in public transport is because you have a tear or broken nail and I completely understand wanting to immediately fix that because that can get so much worse, for your nails for your clothes .. etc
I was the maid of honor at my friend's wedding and wore really nice white pants (she wore a green outfit in the style of her mom's ethnicity/culture and so wanted the rest of the bridal party to wear white) so I completely agree that people saying "ugh why aren't you wearing a dress to a wedding" is ridiculous. As long as you look appropriately nice for the situation the actual clothing items don't matter
@@tamhuy10 on teh other hand, presumeably if the parent is a good parent, they know the kid best and can amke them feel at ease the most and amke teh situation elss stressful, then again regulations in private atmospheres are hard to make...
@@Cake-um7je yeah presumably. there are bad or selfish or just dumb parents out there, not saying there arent good parents. I was just saying that in the case of children actors, the audience know that they are playing a role, they know that what is on screen is not the real thing. In the case of Vlogs it "documents " real life, so ppl assume everything is real and not very doctored, so ppl think they know the child, their personallity, what they think or feel. its very differnt
@@a.c0tt0nball yeah me and my bf have all sorts of pet names (hah) for our cats, we love them, so of course we call them all sorts of sweet things... I'm pretty sure that is normal? LOL. Maybe this girl has never had an animal and doesn't understand the attachment, idk.
yeah but what this girl wasupset about was the bfcalling her and the cat the same names. but hey, im on your side, people, i mean, im single but if i had a bf, i know id call him "baby" and i also call my dog that, and thats not going to change soooo hahaha that girl was so weirdly insecure xD
@@mystiqueivy That wasn't all she was upset about really as Ben skipped over the part of the post where it said "It's also weird because now when he calls me "sweetie" I just think about how he calls his cat "sweetie" and it's gross cause it makes me think he wants to f**k his cat." This is a sign that this girl needs to take a serious, long hard look at herself. People call kids as well as pets sweetie all time. Its a term of affection not a term of wanting to have sex with them.
@@SueorSuzor lmaoooooo i did notice that i was like wtffffffff 😂😂😂😂😂 thats what im saying, she cray 😂 im sure the people on reddit let her know too hahaha. Imagine shes a fan of this podcast and saw this? Haha that must suck lol
As far as kids on UA-cam an child acting: with child actors, by law, a large part of the income is held in trust for the child until they're an adult, so they themselves will see compensation for their work; with kids on YT, there is no trust structure that will guarantee they will benefit from that labour. And let's be real here, having to be 'on' mentally for a camera IS work, and it's already deeply taxing for an adult, much less for a child who doesn't have the capacity to handle feeling like they're partly or completely responsible for their family's income. I personally really dislike family vlogging channels that focus on their children's lives instead of the adults experiences in parenting. I think there's a difference between a vlogger actively filming a kid's ups-and-downs and featuring them specifically as the main content of the channel (for eg. 'today Billy tried big boy pull ups for the first time and look how funny he didn't know how to use the toilet and wet himself') and a vlogger filming their own experiences as parents in the context of their children (for eg. 'today we started the potty training process, this is my view on it as a parent'). I understand the benefit of parenting channels as far as getting support or having parent-viewers feel like they're not alone and that's fine up to a certain point, but I think a lot of channels cross the line in to exploitation and treating their kids like content-farms.
I believe that there has actually been a case where it was recognized as child labor (and thus extremely limited - using child acting laws). Also, in many jurisdictions children do get right to object well before adulthood.
I’ve actually been thinking of starting a story time account bc my life has been nuts, but more to talk about my moms crazy life. I just lost her to a chronic illness and she dreamed of having a channel when she got better. It didn’t happen. She came out in the 80’s and lived through so much, I really want to tell her story. But I’d also want to tell stories about an abusive I’ve relationship I’ve been in, who also happens to be my kids dad. So that’s why I think I’d be faceless and nameless. We’ve worked hard and he’s become someone I really appreciate. He was a victim of horrific childhood abuse and didn’t have proper attachment with his to young parents. I think it’s an interesting story of forgiveness and dealing with the ramifications of abuse. Also how mental and verbal abuse can be just as destructive as physical abuse. It’s my story but I also would want to respect him and our child’s privacy so I would never say anything that gave any hint of who he is. And so I’d need to keep my info private. It’s a great story and integral to who I am now. It changed me, for awhile for the worse, even now I’m not nearly as confident as I used to be, but my life is what it is because of my relationship with him. Anyways I brung this up because I believe there are ways to tell your truth while also not hurting others. A caveat is that this is personal and a victim has a right to tell their story, but the fall out, emotionally, legally, it might not be worth it. So just some thoughts I’ve had about threading that needle. I think stories of abuse are important to be told. A lot of ppl don’t realize they are in abusive relationships bc often their partner gaslights them and they can’t see the truth. Hearing others experience and seeing themselves and their relationship reflected in someone who uses the word abuse, it’s important.
I sometimes get jealous when my cats snuggle with my husband or son, but for the same reason as Cristine - I'm jealous that the cats love them so much!!! Lol 💕💕💕
Hi! I know I am super late to the party but I am a Biology education researcher and I just wanted to give my two cents. There is no such thing as more masculine or feminine ways of teaching and there are many reasons why the gender gap within education exists and it actually greatly favors boys/men. Women are underrepresented in STEM (particularly women of color) and there are even studies that suggest that we start (sometimes unknowingly sometimes on purpose) discouraging girls from learning math around the fourth grade. There are many other things that impact educational outcomes and some seem to impact boys and girls differently, for example, low socioeconomic status seems to have a greater negative impact on boys than girls, however this has nothing to do with teaching methods (although teaching methods have a great influence on long-term concept retention and critical thinking but gender disparity is not so much a factor as much as low, medium and high performance and education level of the parents, this is known as the push and pull effect, while students with parents with some college experience are pulled and guided by their parents experiences first generation college students get pushed into education and therefore have a much harder time adapting and performing well in classes as well as having the confidence to approach professors when they need help). Lastly, while some studies indicate that more women than men enroll in college the attrition rate for women and underrepresented minorities is much larger than for white men which means that although more women enroll, more men get to graduate/work in their actual field. This is no hate at all, I just wanted to give my perspective because it is something I am passionate about since it is my field and I am a woman of color in STEM. Love you both and I enjoyed the podcast!
59:44 This is also an excellent way to approach racism. It always stops a person behaving in a discriminatory manner when you just say “well why is that?” Or “please explain that to me”
Honestly I wouldn’t like the idea of my husband starting a channel. The internet is not private anymore. People will find out anything and I don’t want to be involved in that. My husband feels the same way too because we are both super private.
I absolutely feel the same way about Cristen perspective on parents being more understanding. My parents are quite understanding about me going out, staying late, hang out with friends, as such. when they're being open about these kind of things, it kind of made me alot more mature about doing it responsibly and not being completely over the top and being reckless about it since i know they'll understand and allow it. especially the little things they said to me, like being careful, really stick with me more.
Replace “scrunchie” with a more common or valuable collectible and this wouldn’t even be a debate. Having a collection is a really popular hobby and they don’t need to validate that to anyone. They’re also not about the money. “My mom’s friend brought her daughter over and her toy broke while she was visiting so my mom brought her to look at my early 90’s Barbie collection to pick one.” It’s actually the same thing: kid broke kid thing, adults expect collector to give kid kid thing. Expect with a valuable doll, one can see how unreasonable it is.
A someone without kids, I don't have much of a leg to stand on for the discussion about whether you SHOULD post photos of your kids online, that is up to each individual set of parents. BUT when your child expresses to you that they don't want to be photographed on the internet, then it is your duty as their parent and guardian to respect that. There are things parents have to force their kids to do (brush your teeth, comb your hair, etc) things that foster good habits for them to have when they get older. Exploiting them on the internet isn't one of those things.
Just here to tell you that I'm from a city officially known as "moustache city" ("Bartebyen" - almost like Beyn!!) and I'm here to back Beyn up - if he wants to keep his moustache, he should! :D
i feel so bad for children of family vlogging channels. my mom ALWAYS took photos when i was younger, which i get because she wants to have the memories, but i remember distinctly being in like third grade and beyond, protesting having my photos taken since i knew they’d end up on facebook. despite saying i didn’t want to, i’d get reprimanded & my photo taken anyways. it’s better now but it got to the point where i was looking up what privacy options i had as a child.
I’m a relatively young mom with a toddler and so many people have told me to start a “family/mommy vlog” channel to make money and I’ve always told them that my child is not content. Once he’s old enough to have his own social media presence he can decide that all on his own. (within reason of course sksks) I just don’t want him to be upset with me or feel like I violated his privacy when he gets older.
My partner has different types of cats - one that looks like batman, a deaf one, a mute one, a sleazy one, and a blind one but I never called them "ugly".
Thank you so much for the chapters. So many times I dont have time for the full podcast then have to click through to find where I left off. I LOVE YOU
With the nail polish wife one I’ve had similar experiences with other people because my nephew likes nail polish as well as other flashy things and I would paint his nails sometimes and people I knew and at my church would be like “who did this” why would you do that” etc and I would have to tell them point blank, I did it and my nephew asked for it and it’s not any of your business nor your place to try to make it seem like there is something wrong with it. It is hard enough raising a boy in a world wear messages with misogyny and toxic masculinity are so common place but I refused for people who my nephew sees regularly to try to taint him about something as inconsequential as nail polish.
In Germany, the drinking age is 16(for non-hard alcohols), so kids don't really have that issue with trying to hide the drinking from their parents, sneaking off to parties or overdrinking to be rebellious etc., since the culture around drinking is far more lax. Of course there are exceptions to this, but seeing that from age 14 on you can legally also drink small amounts with parental supervision, teenagers get introduced slowly into drinking culture in what usually is a safe way. My first drinking experiences were at home with my parents, as were the first drinking experiences of most people I know.
I don't think OP's parents really support her in her collection of hair scrunchies. Every home has a collections of hair bands, or hair ties, and yet, the mom overstepped OP's boundries and took the toddler and grandma to her room, without her permission, and showed the both of them OP's collection. They are trying to make OP get rid of her collection, or trying to stop her from collecting these scrunchies. The parents are toxic, as hell. There is no doubt now that they had seen, or heard about the post, since it is all over social media. It's been a year, or two since it's been posted.
My boyfriend and I have a special kinda petname between us that is "lover," and its special to me but when he called his roommates cat "lover" I told him it feels weird for him to call the cat it, and he said "OK i understand where you're coming from and I won't anymore" and it was fine. If he said no, it would be okay i guess. We just respect each other's opinions even if it's something kinda dumb but it can be helped.
Well it depends on the kid, some just don't like having hair in their face (like adults have preferences). That's why you need an emergency scrunchie when you're watching a kid with long hair.
With the cat and the boyfriend nicknames, I don’t think the girl is jealous or insecure, I just think it makes her uncomfortable. I don’t think she’s nuts or crazy or values herself more than the cat, just that she doesn’t like being called the same name as his cat...
Re: drinking. I think parents that don’t perpetuate the mystery and mystic of drinking or getting drunk raise kids with better sense towards drinking. If it’s treated as a substance that impairs judgement but that can still be enjoyed, kids are more likely to take it seriously and not feel like their parents are hiding something from them.
I agree with Cristine about drinking. When I was a teenager my mom would offer me drinks and didn't care if I drank. Now I have a very healthy relationship with alcohol and don't really drink. For context I'm now 25 and I live in the states where the drinking age is 21
Among other issues, my mom used to give away my things to her friends' kids. When I got upset, she would guilt trip me. She wanted to appear to be a charitable person to other people at my expense, because she assumed I would always love her no matter what as her child. Now that I'm an adult she tries to be nice to me, but honestly it's just too late. I go through the motions of being a "good daughter," but I think she can tell underneath it all that our relationship is very shallow.
About the whole sharing videos and pictures of your children with the internet situation: I have been on some of these channels and I just sometimes worry that at a certain age the children start feeling like they have to perform in order to not diappoint their parents. It's just not a healthy dynamic. But maybe I'm reading way too much into these situations.
I think you guys slightly misinterpreted the unicorn skin question. The stepsister gets to use her stepmom's special nail polish at her other house on special occasions and the poster wants to buy that colour herself but is worried she'll spoil the specialness of stepsister sharing with her stepmom if she also gets to use it with her sister at her other house.
Having your kid drink in a safe environment is a brilliant idea, it removes the taboo and helps the young person to understand how their body responds to alcohol. My family was religious and very strict, when I finally got to drink, it became a problem for me. Restricting natural curiosity will often always backfire. Family bloggers should be regulated, no one is advocating for these kids to make choices for how their life is shared.
The story with scrunchie girl reminded me of something that happened to me. So when I was around 5 or 4 I was at my grandma's with my mom aunt and my 2 cousins, and we all bought those snacks with toys inside and my girl cousin didn't get a toy, so me and boy cousin got a toy and I got one of those things that expand in baths and guess what, boy cousin wanted my toy, I didn't wanna give it because I really wanted it and boy cousin doesn't even have a bath and I actually do and my mom gave it to him and I started to cry and my mom was like "girl cousin didn't get a toy and she's not crying so why are you?" And i kid you not he lost that toy like 10 mins later, and he now is a brat when girl cousin gets something that he wanted he cries he's 12 now which I think is a bit too old to cry over stuff like that
I saw this tik tok and a guy says "well we need masculine men to protect women." then a woman did a duet and said "protect women from who?" and that really stuck with me.
Don't you just love it hahaha. He doesn't even really hesitate to keep going, he's just like eh this one person might get mad but what are they gonna do. LOL.
i cackled like a crazy person in my empty apartment when he said that and then IMMEDIATELY started spilling the tea, as always haha xD IM HERE FOR IT! WE STAN YOU, BAE! XD
About the scrunchie thing - didn't the girl mention that she was looking for a regular hair band to give to the 3 year old? That means that no one needed to take the scrunchies since regular ones are easily accessible, which I think just doubles down on how much the narrator is not the Ah.
As an adult, I have no obligation to “share” my items. Why should children? The girl said no- and that’s that. It doesn’t matter her age. They are hers.
I feel this. I still live at home but I have money to buy my own food/stuff I want. My mum says I *need* to share those things or whatever bullshit she comes up with.
@@hoziersexual as a parent, it’s something I had to come to terms with. I’m not going to force my child to give up a toy to another (who can play with any of the thousands of other toys- it’s 9x out of 10 they just want it bc someone else has it). Like, imagine if someone walked up to you and demanded you share your laptop (my idea of an adult “toy”). You’d laugh in their face! Well, that’s what my 9 yr old does when he is faced with the same thing. They are his items& no one has the right to demand access to it. Now, I do try and teach kindness and generosity- but I won’t force it on him. Sharing is just a way to control and placate children- which isn’t right bc I’m teaching my son to be an adult when he gets older, not a child.
I think to a certain maturity/understanding this is true. We need to force children to share in order to teach them its something that needs to be done. At some point they learn that while its okay to share, its also okay not too. Its about finding the difference between being selfish for better or worse. If someones in need, and you have that need then share. If someone has a want, and you have their want then you CHOOSE what to do.
Exactly. My mom taught us, not to share, but Wait turns. No, kids don’t want to share it with someone else when they’re already playing with it. If I wanted something one of my brothers had, I waited til he was done and played with something else during that time. I now teach that to my son. I tell him “you can share ONLY if you want to, but you shouldn’t share with people just because they told you should.” I stand by the fact that it’s his decision. And I’m perfectly fine with what he decides in the end.
@@inhaledexhaled5460 you shouldn’t force your child to do anything they don’t want to do when it’s not a necessity. Literally babies learn how to share without being forced, some naturally already do that. If you encourage that behavior then they won’t have to be forced to do anything later on. What should be forced is when a child wants something but someone else NEEDS it. Because they have to learn they need it more, however this can also be picked up on as a baby. It’s the same as you shouldn’t force your child to hug a family member just because they’re family. If they don’t wanna hug em, they don’t wanna hug em. Also saying things like “How was your time with grandma?” is a better question to ask instead of “Did you have a good time at grandma’s?” since that and similar patterning can actually just groom your child. Especially giving “pet” names to private parts. It’s actually more dangerous to do that than just straight up teaching them what their thing down there is, it makes it much harder for a predator to lure them in. Buuuut that’s another topic.
I kind of get why the boyfriend that sued his ex took it that far, cause is my ex was slandering me with my full name about something that serious on the internet where my boss or friends or family or even future lovers could see, I would too have done the exact same thing. Not to mention what all that hate directed right at someone might do to someone's mental health, like someone who already has a bad headspace could possibly take things to even worse place in their head where they could be thinking of taking their own life. He was totally in the right, if it was true that he didn't emotionally abuse her.
Not to mention that people that do this, will often do it again in the same way, if it doesn't have consequences. They could tell stories without naming the person, but they (allegedly) chose not, and have to face the consequences.
Yeah for sure, this kind of thing can cost you your job if it goes far enough, or job opportunities even years later. I perhaps would have offered to drop the court case if she made a video admitting wrongdoing, I don't think she should have her life destroyed over it either, but if she didn't take that out I'd do what I needed to do to protect my reputation. This of course provided we have an accurate account of what happened, the fact that his friends were saying he took it too far makes me a little suspicious.
i think, believing his side of course, him suing was completely fine. if she slandered him at a point where random people started harassing him online, it’s clearly defamation, BUT i don’t think he should’ve been constantly commenting under everything. at that point, it seems like he’s stuck on watching her videos and content and is a little obsessive, yknow?
@@LPSRed and what should he have done? kept it quiet? let people to continue to harass him? Because if he doesn't show he was right ( hence the comments he posted ) people would continue to believe the girl
My father gave away my entire Pokémon card collection to another boy my age because he said "I was too old for them" and the other boy would "get more out of them then you".... and there's where my issues with him started 🤣🤣🤣
I feel for you. My mum did something similar with my video cassettes when I was about 10. She gave them away because her friend's sister was pregnant and I was apparently too old for Disney movies. What annoyed me the most, apart from not being asked, was that her friend's sister had a boy, so she gave everything away to charity after the kid was born. 😭
@@sanskritigupta7980 No, actually, that's a very freaking good point. It means the dad had other issues with his son having pokemon cards, and that he lied.
i feel this! my mom just decided while i was at school one day i was too old for my 500+ Littlest Pet Shop collection. she gave away over 500 of MY toys id been collecting my whole life, some i got from friends, some from family who had passed, some were limited edition. im 18 now but still hurt about it simply because my mom had no respect for me🤷🏼♀️ now LPS can sell for like $400 each🥲
Just saying: real men wore floral embroidered colourful clothes, shoes with heels and powdered wigs for hundreds of years and robes (dresses) for thousands. So what is masculine?
being masculine is basically synonym to toughness or strength so anything that is considered those things im guessing would be. like if at the time embroidered brightly colored clothes were only limited to the rich, it would be a symbol of power and therefore masculine, at least that's how im assuming it could work.
So the song explanation for this is amazing, and available on UA-cam! - make sure you watch the video version. Song title: “The Creation of Man” from The 1997 Broadway hit “The Scarlet Pimpernel”
So I'm supposed to believe that the mom does not own 1 single hair elastic herself, seriously?! Parents need to respect their childrens boundaries, you don't just give away other peoples properties especially not when it's par of a collection
@M K as someone who has short hair, I keep my old elastics just because my hair may grow out and my friends have long hair and may need it. While it's definitely possible this woman doesn't have any personal elastics, she also has a daughter so odds are there are no less than 5 elastics somewhere in that house.
regardless of whether or not mom has her own hair ties, i find it ridiculous that she would offer up her child’s scrunchies AFTER she had explicitly said not to. and it wasn’t that OP didn’t want to help the girl, she was looking for a normal hair tie, she just didn’t want to give away any part of her sentimental collection which is entirely fair. mom’s the ahole here 🙄
She probably viewed her child as an extension of herself so in her mind, yes she did have hair ties, cuz her daughter has hair ties, and anything her daughter owns, so does she.
To me, the son going to the party and drinking at home beforehand, is INCREDIBLE parenting. Ofc he should have told his wife and made sure she was okay, but I wish more parents would try stuff like this out.
"if you're gonna be stupid, be smart. I'd much rather you drink at home with your family around then at a stranger's place and do something dangerous" - my older brother
I'm even more radical in this situation. I don't think the mom should have an opinion in this since it's not an opinion based situation. *It is a fact* that that was the safer option.
@@erikperhs_ I think one of her main issues was that she wasn’t there to also judge how the son reacted and couldn’t weigh in on her she thought he was acting at each number of beers later. Which is reasonable because what one person may think is totally drunk someone else may think is just kinda drunk but not dangerously. However the conclusion was a good number to settle on and the husband’s reasoning for not saying anything was understandable.
I’m autistic and just this episode realized the, “We were going to have X person on but ran out of time” was a joke. 🤦🏻♀️ I for real just thought they always ran out of time for their guests.
Regarding the mom that is a UA-cam and vlogger, I think the moment your kid no longer wants to be in the videos then it’s time to change your content, you should never force your kid into a uncomfortable issue.
For real! The fact that the parent tries to “negotiate” the teen into agreeing to appear online is so gross. It’s basically coercion and I can definitely imagine how some of those conversations went...
CONSENT!!! What are we teaching our children about consent as trusted adults in their lives if we are constantly violating their boundaries?! This goes for scrunchy girls parents too! This is a form of emotional abuse. Children whose parents constantly do this to them grow up choosing friends and partners who violate their boundaries and or opens them up to victimization. It’s just sad
I would never dream of putting my kids on UA-cam or any other social media in the first place, even if it could make me a lot of money. It's not fair on them, and it's not safe.
I’ve loved Christine for years, but nail art really isn’t my thing so I was not a big watcher, but these podcasts have sucked me in. I love you both, I love that you seem like great people and intelligent and rational and fun. I legit wish we had more people like you on public platforms 💗💗 This is now the channel that I always remember to watch for on Tuesday mornings, love you guys!
Hahah same. lol nail art is cool to look at but I rarely paint my nails. I love their personalities and how they view things in a sort of intellectual way.
I think a lot of us are here because we are Cristine and Ben fans, not nail art fans :) I also love how they use their platform for education and realism
A lot of parents think that every possession of their children are their's. My parents were divorced and my father always gave me money every two weeks after our week-end together and I bought some things like shoes, stationery etc.. but these objects regularly disappeared from my room and I founded them later with my mom's belongings and if I took them back she became furious and take everything back saying that I stole her and that I don't have the rights to use her possessions as mine because I already have everything I need. The robbery that hurt me the most was when she took my new pair of Dr Martens which cost me 159€ in sale (I saved money during one year to buy them). These shoes finish in her closet in no time. I bought them and never had a chance to wear them because the next day when I came back from school the Dr Martens were on her feet and the shoe box in her closet and she acted like everything was normal. When I asked her to give them back to me she became verbally violent, the next day when I returned from school I was shocked to see all my belongings in the garden, as a revenge she just threw all of my pens, books, trinkets, shoes, clothes, etc.. by the window of my room at the second floor of the house. The rain destroyed my books and various other things and I had to clean and tidy everything and when I was sitting on the floor, sorting what can be saved she came to me and said "I hope that this taught you to never be selfish again, you have everything you need and more" (she had a well-paid job at that time). She never show any kind of regrets and continued to still my belongings when she wanted and my big brother also did this and I didn't said anything because I was always the bad one. My mom was the most toxic and selfish person I ever met and I'm proud to be her exact opposite, she apologized when she was really sick on her hospital bed but it didn't mean anything to me even if she was dying, I needed a mother when I was younger, it was to late for the apologies.
My father is srt of the same. He doesn't see my possessions as his but whenever he buys me something and we later get into an argument he always threatens to take it away or says that he wants it back. Whenever he does a tiny thing for me that is actually a parent's duty (like buying food for your kid to eat) he will forever hold that over you and against you. How can I be so ungrateful when he does everything for me(he barely does the minimum, I mean I may live in his house rent free). He's recently been trying to apologise and be more active in my life but I needed a father when I was younger and don't need one now.
I’ve had my mom do this with money. She’ll give me $100 and then a month later she’ll owe me $30 and be like “well I gave you $100 earlier so that covers it!!!” Noo. That $100 is gone. It’s been a month. I had to buy a bus pass- $50, buy food $20, Uber $20-$30, and look the $100 is gone. Funny how money works
I wonder how true his story (the court case guy) is... because it sounds real and everything but to go to such an extreme as to sue someone is revelatory of an extreme personality... idk maybe he WAS emotionally abusive. He didn’t disclose why they broke up
@@rakamukherjee9070 If I were receiving death threats from strangers as a result of lies spread about a previously relationship, I might also go to some lengths to stop them from spreading more misinformation on their channel, and a lawsuit may be the most efficient way to do that. However, we only know one side of the story.
Y’all remember that post of the girl who wanted her boyfriend to rid of his cat because he was “too affectionate” towards it and everyone was like “you’re jealous of a cat...”
@Pastadudde (unneeded comment but i wanted to say it, this just reminded me of it) my friends all joke about eating their dog for christmas dinner or their birthday and it’s extremely worrying until i realize they’re kidding, lol
Knowing that Reddit picked up on this makes me feel better for the time I broke up with a boyfriend because he kept insisting I needed to get rid of my Service Dog because “The dog loved me more than it loved him”
@@TheEliseRodgers Ew, I'm so glad you were able to break up with him. That's so selfish of him. It reminds me of 2 of my exes. It started with, "Do you love your horse more than me"".... Duh. They knew the answer. "You love that horse more than you love me!" It's so weird. My dad and I nursed that animal back to health after being on the brink of death from starvation and neglect. My dad died a few years later and Comet was the link that kept me together and kept a connection to my dad. You'd hope people would be understanding about something like that or even just any pet. It's like getting jealous of your partner's child. I hope you find or found someone who is deserving of you AND your doggo. Definitely a big ol' red flag
When you were talking about clothing and some people’s thoughts that it’s “wrong” for a guy to wear a dress or nail polish, I thought about the conversations and disagreements that would have happened when women first began wearing pants or really when any major cultural changes have occurred. It’s normal for women now to be in pants but can you imagine the shock created when the first woman pulled on a pair of trousers and strolled around town!!!🤔
Same thing with bathing suits. Women's bathing suits becoming less fabric was a huge controversy. It's wild to think that even the old style (that covered most of the torso and with shorts) was considered too risque knowing how much more skin is shown in things like bikinis. Strict social gender roles are entirely arbitrary and we always have to acknowledge and question the need for them.
No, it’s not that “parents” don’t understand, that’s a generic stereotype. It’s a human thing. Some humans firm attachments and have sentimental value in things and some don’t. I’m 45, 2 kids. I have and completely understand my irrational attachment to inanimate objects - ie, placing sentimental value on things. My mother and brother do not. One example, I can’t get rid of my Raggedy Ann doll and my mom took her engagement ring (she is still married to my father, the man who gave her the ring) and made it a pinky ring and wears a ring that isn’t hers as her engagement/wedding set. So, it’s not a parent thing, it’s a human thing.
@@christinamatzen4214 you're right, but there are also people who can't part with their own belongings but then think nothing of people's belonging even though they should understand. That said, sometimes I need someone to took away all the stuff I can't let go of because it's getting out of hand 😂, so I understand parent's position in this
yes, it was totally manipulative, they were trying to detract from the initial and valid critique. if it was really a problem, it could have been addressed later during a separate discussion.
I have to disagree about the story about the guy suing his ex, youtuber girlfriend, I don't think he took it too far by going through with the suit. Its one thing when people insult celebrities as they they tend to not be that close to them and can be dismissed, as well as the celebrity has a public platform that they can defend themselves on and a public history to give them credibility. If this guy is not a youtuber and if he wasn't in her videos all that much, then a court of law is the only place that he has a voice that will matter to the people harassing him. Her lies led to him being harassed and receiving death threats, I don't think that's a small thing. It would be one thing if her reaction to being sued was to say that she will take down the video, post a retraction, and tell her fans to back off; instead she posted more videos making him out to be the bad guy. This thing could have easily snowballed and going through with the suit was the only way for him to clear his name. I'm not a lawyer, but I believe that to win a slander case, you must not only prove that what's being said is untrue, but that the person saying these comments knew that they weren't true. She intentionally lied about him to make money and continued to make many more videos making him out to be a bad person. She gave him no other choice and any consequences to this are all on her.
I agree when I was little my dad would paint his toe nails because his girlfriend liked to paint them and I thought they looked cute in him and I we would match our nail polish It was really fun and a great bonding moment and I think this could have been a similar moment (sorry if I went on a but if a tangent)
She basically took it as, I don't wanna turn my husband gay by allowing him to paint his nails. I will never understand why so many people are concerned about other people's bodies. It is fine for men to wear nail polish, it is fine for women to have short hair, its fine to kids to play with the opposite sex's toys, its fine for girls to wear "boys" clothes and boys to wear dresses. We get so caught up in trying to fix a mold that is ultimately made up and stupid lol. You think nature gives a f*** if you wear a dress or paint your nails if you are a guy? No, its a random human idea we made up to fight over.
@@ImperialVideo You and all the rest of you. Thanks for being cool people. It's refreshing to see healthy perspectives once you step out of certain type of bubbles.
I hope child labor laws catch up to family vlogs and stuff. I think if the child is a part of bring in the income they should have a right to some of the money
In the perfect little world in my mind, the platform they post to would need to semi-regularly check in on the child and their willingness. It would also be awesome if their portion of the earnings were set aside for the children, only to be touched by them when they are of age. I look at people like the Ace family, obviously spending insane amounts of money, and wonder if their children will get anything out of this other than a public childhood. The way they blow money... I just hope they have a hefty savings built up just in case, for the kids.
France is working to provide UA-cam child stars with the same legal protection as child actors and models and I suspect that it will soon be expanded to the rest of the EU
In the vane of if only I had been there to have the argument with the mother on the girl's behalf, if the Mom thought it was alright for her to give the daughter's scrunchies away, then the girl should be able to give the mother's expensive jewelry away to anyone who throws a fit and wants it, including items gifted to her, like say her wedding / engagement ring
I had incredibly strict parents, like when I was in college and came home to visit my curfew was still on. All friends had to come in and meet them b4 I could leave and even as a 34 year old I feel odd drinkinging in front of my parents. I rebeled in college and developed a severe drug problem and landed in rehab. Luckily after a 10 year battle I am finally 3 years clean and sober but I find super strict parenting leads to major issues.
That’s what happened with my siblings. My parents were very strict and didn’t allow us to leave the house. They went to college and went nuts rebelling with drinking and drugs (only one did any of this). My mom’s parenting style shifted after a major health incident and seeing how my siblings reacted, so I was allowed to do more things. That kept me from reacting the same way, so I had a healthier approach when I left the house.
I'm so glad you got help. I do think super strict parenting can lead to major issues. That said, I have also known people with parents who let them drink at home as a teen who ended up having addiction issues, and believe their parents' position made it worse - if you drink at home, and you drink with your friends, you can end up just drinking a lot more than the average teenager. But I suspect that ultimately, the issues in both examples go deeper than just the parents' position on alcohol. I think a parent that is very controlling and strict about alcohol is very controlling and strict in other ways that are also unhealthy. And on the other hand, a parent who lets their kid drink to excess around them regularly, might be neglecting or enabling other problems too. (I'm not saying that's what the guy on Reddit did, but that's what was happening for the people I knew who ended up having problems.) I don't know where the happy medium is, it probably depends on the family. I do think it's important to make sure the kid knows you're going to love them no matter what, and that they can always call you if they need a ride home. Drunk driving kills too many young people.
LMAO WHAT! xD also, i thought when she said nail filings she didnt mean nail clippings, so, idk what you all think? i think i dont mind the dust from filing nails, but i do my the clippings of nails/toenails. Or is everything gross? what do you guys think?
Hahha yeah, even Caucasians! lol I’d be curious to know the statics on that in the US today. My guess would be that most people don’t move out at 18 anymore or that most people return at some point as an adult.
LMAOOOO i kept thinking during that whole segment (as it often happens in these podcasts haha): "as a latina, i intensely disagree with that statement" hahahaha we clearly did not have the same experiences AT ALL loool
@@haniyakhan8191 it's pretty common in "3rd world" countries lol i'm brazilian and most of my cousins could only afford moving out after like 26. and even then, most of them only left when they got married lol
It’s actually really sad thinking that this belief of “you can’t do that, it’s only for girls” thing still exists. I’m sorry, is makeup only for girls too because last time I checked makeup was originally worn by both rich men and women.... Like it’s... it’s messed up. It’s wrong to say someone can’t do something just because you’ve been told it’s wrong. WHY is it wrong? Give me an actual reason. If you can’t give me an actual logical reasonable reason for it, then the only thing wrong is your belief on the topic. (You is being used as a general term not specifically you, the person I’m responding to, in case I gotta make that clear cuz apparently that’s something most people don’t pick up on... irl or online...)
On the scrunchie one, the girl offered to give the little girl a headband. She was totally willing to share. But the whole point of sharing is that the owner has the choice in the matter, particularly about what things they choose to give to other people.
and the one the girl picked was a birthday gift! imagine telling your friend the birthday gift they gave you got given away!
I think her parents are just being passive aggressive about the fact that she collects scrunchies and are trying to make it look like it's all about not giving one to the little girl. I totally understand why this person is upset.
Yeah she was happy to share, just not her favorite object which should be respected. Plus yeah the parent owns the house, but you are teaching your kids disrespect when you go rifle through their things without their permission
Exactly, I feel like her mother crossed a boundary by showing the girl the collection KNOWING it‘s something important to the daughter that she holds dearly and wouldn’t want to just give away. What makes it worse is that the daughter was already looking for a headband to give to the girl, so if the mother hadn’t taken the child to show her the scrunchies, she would’ve just gotten the headband and been fine without knowing „what she was missing“ and wouldn’t have started crying
My nephew (7 years at the time) visited once and saw my collection of plushie toys. He wanted one and picked my favorite. I compromised and offered a few he could choose. He picked one that looked similar but was smaller (and it meant less to me.) He was still stoked and i was told he packed it in his bag for school for a few weeks.
If were the scrunchie poster, i wouldve acted sad and heartbroken.. and it would have been legitamate. kids are starting to understand that at 3 years old. Then i wouldve offered my least favorites or ones i know i can replace.
"Your hairband broke? Here, come shopping in my daughters room! Who cares that you're 3 and will probably forget about it or lose it within three days, who cares if you happen to pick out her favorite one, I've decided my daughter has enough so just take one"
The same type of parent who would give away the expensive jewelry that your now dead grandma gave your for your birthday
@@CheshieD uh oh
@@raincloud04 not a personal experience dw 😂😂 just somethin that I bet that that mom would 100% do lmao
The grandma is also ....... as a adult in the situation shouldn’t you be the one to stop your stupid friend from doing this to her daughters or maybe that’s just what kind of people the are
What really bothered me is that the mom asked her, the girl said no and was looking for an alternative, and then the mom ignored her and took the little girl upstairs to rifle through them completely without her daughter's permission. It was never hers to give away and she just did it anyway :/
the girl with the scrunchies said she started trying to find another hair tie for the little girl, but the mom took them to her room 🤷🏻♀️ girl isn’t in the wrong whatsoever, they couldn’t have a regular hair tie? they just had to try to give away HER scrunchies? nope 👎
The parents are definitely a holes, overstepping her boundaries and then being mean to her on top too.
Ikr. This was more about the mums ego trying to seem like she was a great person for giving away her daughters things.
Doesn’t matter how small your things are in value. Your property is your property.
She should probably try to keep her scrunches in a lockbox, you never know what will happen if she goes outside and her parents being friends over... What if a few goes missing because of them?
I had a younger cousin try to take a toy away from me by telling my mom she wanted it, my mom looked at me and I threw it in the drawer and said “well I guess no one will play with it 🤷🏻♀️” and my mom goes “well it’s her toy...so...” like my mom would NEVER and it’s bizarre that a mom would try and force her kid to give something she cherishes away....
It’s like the mom was trying to make the daughter look bad. The mom could just not bring the little girl into her daughters OWN room and show her the scrunchies, and the 3 year old wouldn’t be upset.
Whenever I hear Ben say "maybe I shouldn't say this..." I cackle in delight because I know he 100% about to give us the tea anyway 🍵
I revel in it.
Ben doesnt give ANY fucks
😆 Now THAT'S the tea ☕
Yes!!!
At 36:50 im really curious which yt couple he was talking about because none comes to mind xD 😭
The scrunchie thing happened to my mom back in the 60s, but with Barbies instead. My grandmother gave away my mom's entire Barbie collection (complete with a closet full of doll clothes and accessories) to a neighbor's kid. My mom was only like 10 or 11 years old and was very upset. Parents: Don't treat your kids like that.
I would have screamed bloody murder! My mom kindly keeps dragging it around with me at 25 :’)
my parents would never give my stuff away without asking first. . . i feel bad for anyone who has had that happen.
but why?
Murphy McMittens they dont see the value in it, feel like if you dont play with it daily you lost interest, think of children as not deserving property, dont see children as seperate beings yet. Im in my twenties and hosted for my family a dinner my parents told my niece to take some of my things even though i dont live with them anymore. .. I guess they felt like itd be a bonding experience for the both of us ?
My mom will always ask first because she knows I don't like other people even touching my things.
Anytime I hear the words “Reddit,” “cat” or “soup” I always think of the last time you guys did this and just think “IM GONNA PUT YOU IN THE SOUP”
First like lol
omg I forgot about this one I'm laughing so hard right now
I made my husband watch that part of that episode so that when I tell him, our daughter, or our pets, that I'm gonna put them in the soup, he gets it. Makes me laugh every time!
Everytime I see a soup can or bowl I always whisper or think "Cat soup" 😭
Me too. my mom was making soup and i said I'm gonna put the cat in the soup w/o thinking about it. we do not own a cat...
"oats can be delicious, nutricious, and hip" ok thanks dad
😂😂😂
In France children on social media are under the same legal regime as child actors, so there's a limit on the number of hours they can film, protections in place on their earnings etc.
This was very timely as my seven year old has started telling me she doesn't want me posting certain pictures of her on Facebook. My Facebook is private and I post pictures of her for family and friends. Now I don't post pictures unless she gives me the green light and we have had lots of conversations about the internet in general so it's been really good.
That's so wholesome. I really like this comment.
i'm really glad that you're respecting her wishes! personally, my mom never posted photos but she did talk about me and my brother on twitter a bit, referring to us as 'child 1' and 'child 2'. i'm pretty sure that i was kind of unhappy about that at the time, but we never had a real conversation about it since i guess she thought that she was in the clear by keeping it anonymous. so having that conversation and trying to explain as much as possible to her so that she can make informed decisions seems like a really great thing to do.
That's nice. I actually don't mind if my mom posts about me, since I don't have social media and I'm not allowed to, and also because we have tons of friends/family who don't live near us. I'm glad you're respective of her wishes and have talked about this with her.
See this is how I know my mother is toxic. When I was younger I was extremely camera shy and I requested my mom wouldn’t post pictures of me, she responded with “your MY daughter, I can post pictures of you whenever I want”. I wish she would have responded like this.
@@Aila8 Jeez, that's awful. You may not be able to, but have you considered telling her your concerns to see if that has any effect?
With the scrunchies the mom crossed her daughters boundaries--- and therefore put her on the spot. If she gave away her fave scrunchie she makes her parents look good to their guests, but her parents treat her like her opinions don't matter, and if she doesn't they're mad cuz she made them lose face.
Believe me, the 3 year old isn't scarred for life, at that age they actually need boundaries (gently placed, but they need to know they don't get what they want all the time)
Besides, before the mom offered up scrunchies that weren't hers to give, her daughter was already digging around for a regular hairband, trying to be helpful.
Lmao me trigggggeeeerrrreddd
Agreeeeeeed!
Exactly! The scrunchies weren’t the mom’s to give and she needed to respect the daughter’s choice.
no way would i give that kid my scrunchie and i would argue to the fact. i am also triggered lol
Yeah, there’s a scenario where the mom asks her to go grab a scrunchie as a favor, and the daughter has the chance to grab on of the more replaceable drug store ones without the three year old seeing the full bounty of scrunchies on offer. Of course when given the choice, the three year old is going to go for the most exciting shiny one!
I'm triggered by the bratty daughter who refused to share even one of her cheap scrunchies with a literal baby. Lol I guess we all have different opinions! 🤷♀️
3 yr old: she was already getting the kid a different headband to wear. The parents shouldn't have volunteered her collection up without her consent, especially when a solution was already in the works.
Seriously agree. Flashed me back to when my parents did this sort of thing all the time.
Wow I thought I was the only one, thank god Q_Q
My parents used to tell me not to be spoiled as a tiny kid, but another kid cries and I have to be the mature one? Fuck that lol.
@@someonenothere8818 like I get that I should share but I'm not sharing when there are other solutions
You guys mentioned "the youtuber couple bandwagon" and I think it would be really cool if you guys touched on the decision to have ben become more and more involved with the channel.
I'd like that, too.
Also just skipping ahead: I feel like there's a difference between relationship content and content people do together, while happening to be in a relationship. And I think, Cristine and Ben are the latter. :)
@@rainyhaze2053 Yeah, it's not "look at us, a picture perfect couple". Ben just gradually had a bigger part in videos, until they did a podcast. And before the podcast a lot of posters wanted more Ben.
I like Ben’s mustache. However, I do understand Cristine’s argument about not liking to kiss someone with a mustache - it’s very prickly.
Hard agree.
Jup haha
Right? I love my hubby's moustache (he's had it almost the whole 11 years we've been together and he looks strange without it) but it's still prickly and tickles to smooch him sometimes, lol.
@@missywoford1809 the sacrifices we make, right? Lol
agree
Alternate title: Why Cristine's dad is a cool guy.
“Lets call her Jane” is a good name for a nail polish ngl 👀💅
"lets call her Jade" and its a gorgeous emerald green holo taco! =O
A simply podlogical holo taco collection!!! I’d love that!!!
@@user-hello2 my name is Emily Rose lol
Or they “let’s call her Jane” and it’s green 😉😏🍃 jk I know that’s not really on brand lol
Any name is a good name when it’s from Hilo taco
Some celebrities actually wore the exact same clothing whenever they were in public so when the press took pictures of them they couldn’t profit off of those since they all looked like they were from the same day or something.
Another thing that celebrities done were to wear some kind of holo sweaters and clothes so then the camera would be reflected in the pictures and the person couldn’t be seen in the pictures so it was useless to take pictures.
didn't Justin Bieber get a reflective car for that sole purpose?
@@ishadalal9034 maybe!
Yeah Daniel Radcliffe did that.
@@dawnthegoblin yeah, that’s where I got the wear the same clothing each day one from. It seems like a bunch of people who are famous did things like that. The reflective sweater was actually an Indian celebrity I think.
Isha Dalal isnt that illegal ? It might cause accidents
As a mom of a 3 yr old... kids don't get everything and they shouldn't be taught because they're young that they do. I would be ok as the mom if she wasn't willing to hand over something she cared about. I would also say I'll steal it back from my kid and return it the next day.
absolutely! and, most three year olds would love that scrunchie for like a day and then it would be old news, so i think she was right not giving it away
That last part. I would 100% attempt to level with the teen and be like "dude. I'll take it from her tonight before bed an bring it back tomorrow. Thanks for being a champ. Sorry your mom brought us here without your permission." and if she still wasn't okay with that, I'd also understand. We'd just find a rubber band or a piece of sting. Ndb.
I totally agree! My mom was very much like this and I’m glad she didn’t allow me to become kind of spoiled in that sense.
I would also say maybe if the kid really wanted it, I would just say I’ll ask where the scrunchie came from and tell them where to buy their own.
But in all seriousness, never feel ridiculous for not giving a kid your stuff. You aren’t obligated to give it away especially if it’s just someone who took fancy because it looked cool.
@@erica1800 Sounds like you had good parents. Entitled children breed entitled adults and as somebody who worked enough customer service in her life I, can't let that happen to my kid.
She shouldn’t have offered her daughters things to the child anyway and if the child cried just give her something else to tie her hair with and explain they were gifts so she can’t give them to others. Kids have to learn anyway when I was kid and my parents said no that was it end of story but for my brother he would cry and they would immediately take him/Us home or explain why we can’t have it and you could ether stop crying or go to your room they never let someone give us something just to shut us up.
Ben talking about italian drinking at a younger age
Me, an italian: ah yes, they gave you wine when you are 6
Prosecco in my case, soda, no no, prosecco.
My grandpa would give me our wine to drink when I was six, yep... Just sips of course, I was the one refusing it! I still don't reeeally like wine all that much, and my mother even used to sell brunello. And cookies or bread soaked in espresso too, that one I loved.
I think I was about 6 too.
I was 5...nona said it was fruit juice and I believed her. Slept like a baby apparently lol
I'm French, so people always assume I've been drinking wine my whole damn life and to be fair... they're not wrong bc I started tasting the wine my parents were drinking when I was about 6 lol
Just wanna say, the video got recommended to me and I wanted to listen to something while doing my tasks. I have no idea who you are, but I listened through the whole thing and I really enjoyed it ☺️
So fun story time! I am engaged and when I moved in with my fiancé I brought most of my nail care products and polishes I had collected. Once a week I would go into our bathroom and watch your videos and tend to my nails. He got sooo fascinated with nail art and so one day I asked him if I could paint his toenails and take care of his extremely ✨overgrown✨ cuticles but he refused. I asked him why and he said “cause I’m not a girl?” so I challenged him by asking “what about self care and self expression is not for men?” He said “I don’t know,” and agreed to let me give him a pedicure. He was so cute when I told him that we could go to the store the day we were going to do it and he could pick out the color he wanted on his toes. I’ve never seen this man so invested in picking a color out, he asked me which brand was the best and which one was the best that we could get in store, (we had the lesson on what an indie polish is and what a drugstore polish is). He finally decided on a purple, we went home, and I got to work. We soaked our feet together, we did a nice buffing sugar scrub and gentle exfoliate on our calluses, (we both work in fields where we are on our feet all day). I painted his toes and he was like “how do I walk?!” He was so scared he’d smudge the polish and I almost peed myself laughing at him walking on his heels to avoid messing them up. After the first time I let him paint my toes and lord was that a bad idea. It was a blood bath 😂 polish was ✨EVERYWHERE✨ although I do have to say it is one of my favorite videos I have to date because I got to capture his laugh when he plopped a huge blob on my toe. So I really have to thank you for making one of my favorite memories happen.
This is so cute.
That is do cute!!!!! 🥰
This is so wholesome.
This is adorable
Scrunchie: she's not the a-hole. I have lent out my favorite books to adults and friends and not ever gotten them back or gotten them back bent and damaged, I would not give something I value to a 3 year old.
I think another good point about child stars is when they’re on a set there is all these checks and balances (if they follow the rules) on how long they can work and be on set. But if they’re in their home and it’s up to the parents discretion they could potentially be filming for hours on end with no breaks
"People who clip their nails in public are monsters"
Flashes back to when people in orchestra would clip their fingernails so often that my teacher brought in nail clippers and put them next to the trash can so people would stop clipping their nails at their seats
Eeeeeewwwwwwwww!!!
That’s reasonable. But if we’re on the bus, and your nail clippings get in my hair, you’re a monster.
Same for my piano teacher
This is the most orchestra thing ever tbh. My director kept multiple nail clippers and sanitizer by a specified trash can for us and had the rule that if we had to clip in class, it had to be over the trash can and not at their seats, and to sanitize them after lol.
I might be a horrible person and im not saying I do clip my nails on the bus but... I honestly dont find clipped fingernails disgusting at all.
And filing is especially not an issue for me... i mean the only reason i can imagine you doing either of them in public transport is because you have a tear or broken nail and I completely understand wanting to immediately fix that because that can get so much worse, for your nails for your clothes
.. etc
I was the maid of honor at my friend's wedding and wore really nice white pants (she wore a green outfit in the style of her mom's ethnicity/culture and so wanted the rest of the bridal party to wear white) so I completely agree that people saying "ugh why aren't you wearing a dress to a wedding" is ridiculous. As long as you look appropriately nice for the situation the actual clothing items don't matter
I think there is a difference between a child actor, that act a role, and a family vlogger, who shows personal and real life
Fra ottini yeah family vlogging is worse becauseit gets personal
@@tamhuy10 on teh other hand, presumeably if the parent is a good parent, they know the kid best and can amke them feel at ease the most and amke teh situation elss stressful, then again regulations in private atmospheres are hard to make...
@@Cake-um7je yeah presumably. there are bad or selfish or just dumb parents out there, not saying there arent good parents.
I was just saying that in the case of children actors, the audience know that they are playing a role, they know that what is on screen is not the real thing.
In the case of Vlogs it "documents " real life, so ppl assume everything is real and not very doctored, so ppl think they know the child, their personallity, what they think or feel. its very differnt
@@tamhuy10 that's a very good point, I wasn't trying to diminish that fact, dw I'm sorry if it came off that way
Look if you're jealous of your boyfriend calling his cat "sweetie" there are a lot of issues that need to get unpacked that aren't about the cat lol
@@a.c0tt0nball yeah me and my bf have all sorts of pet names (hah) for our cats, we love them, so of course we call them all sorts of sweet things... I'm pretty sure that is normal? LOL. Maybe this girl has never had an animal and doesn't understand the attachment, idk.
My husband and I both say in front of each other that we love our cat the most and give him kisses.
yeah but what this girl wasupset about was the bfcalling her and the cat the same names.
but hey, im on your side, people, i mean, im single but if i had a bf, i know id call him "baby" and i also call my dog that, and thats not going to change soooo hahaha that girl was so weirdly insecure xD
@@mystiqueivy That wasn't all she was upset about really as Ben skipped over the part of the post where it said "It's also weird because now when he calls me "sweetie" I just think about how he calls his cat "sweetie" and it's gross cause it makes me think he wants to f**k his cat." This is a sign that this girl needs to take a serious, long hard look at herself. People call kids as well as pets sweetie all time. Its a term of affection not a term of wanting to have sex with them.
@@SueorSuzor lmaoooooo i did notice that i was like wtffffffff 😂😂😂😂😂 thats what im saying, she cray 😂 im sure the people on reddit let her know too hahaha. Imagine shes a fan of this podcast and saw this? Haha that must suck lol
Get those "don't monetize me" and "no pictures without my consent" shirts for Menchie and Zyler.
As far as kids on UA-cam an child acting: with child actors, by law, a large part of the income is held in trust for the child until they're an adult, so they themselves will see compensation for their work; with kids on YT, there is no trust structure that will guarantee they will benefit from that labour. And let's be real here, having to be 'on' mentally for a camera IS work, and it's already deeply taxing for an adult, much less for a child who doesn't have the capacity to handle feeling like they're partly or completely responsible for their family's income.
I personally really dislike family vlogging channels that focus on their children's lives instead of the adults experiences in parenting. I think there's a difference between a vlogger actively filming a kid's ups-and-downs and featuring them specifically as the main content of the channel (for eg. 'today Billy tried big boy pull ups for the first time and look how funny he didn't know how to use the toilet and wet himself') and a vlogger filming their own experiences as parents in the context of their children (for eg. 'today we started the potty training process, this is my view on it as a parent'). I understand the benefit of parenting channels as far as getting support or having parent-viewers feel like they're not alone and that's fine up to a certain point, but I think a lot of channels cross the line in to exploitation and treating their kids like content-farms.
I believe that there has actually been a case where it was recognized as child labor (and thus extremely limited - using child acting laws). Also, in many jurisdictions children do get right to object well before adulthood.
Where did the dadstache go, BEYN??
I’ve actually been thinking of starting a story time account bc my life has been nuts, but more to talk about my moms crazy life. I just lost her to a chronic illness and she dreamed of having a channel when she got better. It didn’t happen. She came out in the 80’s and lived through so much, I really want to tell her story. But I’d also want to tell stories about an abusive I’ve relationship I’ve been in, who also happens to be my kids dad. So that’s why I think I’d be faceless and nameless. We’ve worked hard and he’s become someone I really appreciate. He was a victim of horrific childhood abuse and didn’t have proper attachment with his to young parents. I think it’s an interesting story of forgiveness and dealing with the ramifications of abuse. Also how mental and verbal abuse can be just as destructive as physical abuse. It’s my story but I also would want to respect him and our child’s privacy so I would never say anything that gave any hint of who he is. And so I’d need to keep my info private. It’s a great story and integral to who I am now. It changed me, for awhile for the worse, even now I’m not nearly as confident as I used to be, but my life is what it is because of my relationship with him. Anyways I brung this up because I believe there are ways to tell your truth while also not hurting others. A caveat is that this is personal and a victim has a right to tell their story, but the fall out, emotionally, legally, it might not be worth it. So just some thoughts I’ve had about threading that needle. I think stories of abuse are important to be told. A lot of ppl don’t realize they are in abusive relationships bc often their partner gaslights them and they can’t see the truth. Hearing others experience and seeing themselves and their relationship reflected in someone who uses the word abuse, it’s important.
I see you
I sometimes get jealous when my cats snuggle with my husband or son, but for the same reason as Cristine - I'm jealous that the cats love them so much!!! Lol 💕💕💕
Yay, Taco Tuesday and my nails are sparkling with Missed Shift and linear Holo Taco!
I'm wearing menchie the cat with dots in one-coat black 😏🤗
Im currently painting my nails with cheap champagne
Love it! I ordered the Kitty duo and one coat black this weekend, cant wait to try it!!
@@babypoof That sounds so fun, out of context, lol
@@andie2439 yeah is someone doesnt know it's an actual shade theyll be real confused lol
Hi! I know I am super late to the party but I am a Biology education researcher and I just wanted to give my two cents. There is no such thing as more masculine or feminine ways of teaching and there are many reasons why the gender gap within education exists and it actually greatly favors boys/men. Women are underrepresented in STEM (particularly women of color) and there are even studies that suggest that we start (sometimes unknowingly sometimes on purpose) discouraging girls from learning math around the fourth grade.
There are many other things that impact educational outcomes and some seem to impact boys and girls differently, for example, low socioeconomic status seems to have a greater negative impact on boys than girls, however this has nothing to do with teaching methods (although teaching methods have a great influence on long-term concept retention and critical thinking but gender disparity is not so much a factor as much as low, medium and high performance and education level of the parents, this is known as the push and pull effect, while students with parents with some college experience are pulled and guided by their parents experiences first generation college students get pushed into education and therefore have a much harder time adapting and performing well in classes as well as having the confidence to approach professors when they need help). Lastly, while some studies indicate that more women than men enroll in college the attrition rate for women and underrepresented minorities is much larger than for white men which means that although more women enroll, more men get to graduate/work in their actual field.
This is no hate at all, I just wanted to give my perspective because it is something I am passionate about since it is my field and I am a woman of color in STEM. Love you both and I enjoyed the podcast!
cat can be ugly but also deserving of love
me: not only cat 💧👁👄👁💧
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This is also an excellent way to approach racism. It always stops a person behaving in a discriminatory manner when you just say “well why is that?” Or “please explain that to me”
I would like to hear their opinions on the Malicious Compliance thread on Reddit.
Honestly I wouldn’t like the idea of my husband starting a channel. The internet is not private anymore. People will find out anything and I don’t want to be involved in that. My husband feels the same way too because we are both super private.
There are UA-camrs who don't show their face and they live completely separate lives.
@@erikperhs_ that’s fine if that’s the case but the original post made it seem like she would be filming herself.
I absolutely feel the same way about Cristen perspective on parents being more understanding. My parents are quite understanding about me going out, staying late, hang out with friends, as such. when they're being open about these kind of things, it kind of made me alot more mature about doing it responsibly and not being completely over the top and being reckless about it since i know they'll understand and allow it.
especially the little things they said to me, like being careful, really stick with me more.
Replace “scrunchie” with a more common or valuable collectible and this wouldn’t even be a debate. Having a collection is a really popular hobby and they don’t need to validate that to anyone. They’re also not about the money.
“My mom’s friend brought her daughter over and her toy broke while she was visiting so my mom brought her to look at my early 90’s Barbie collection to pick one.” It’s actually the same thing: kid broke kid thing, adults expect collector to give kid kid thing. Expect with a valuable doll, one can see how unreasonable it is.
i’m so curious who the youtuber is that got sued 🤔
same
I was hoping someone in the comments knew and would post it 😂
@@Atomicqueen9 same here 😂😂
Someone speculated that it was jenna and maxnosleeves... I have no idea how true that is
i literally only just realize the "sorry to x we were gonna have them on today" is a bit... legit every week i thought it was legit 😭💀
A someone without kids, I don't have much of a leg to stand on for the discussion about whether you SHOULD post photos of your kids online, that is up to each individual set of parents. BUT when your child expresses to you that they don't want to be photographed on the internet, then it is your duty as their parent and guardian to respect that. There are things parents have to force their kids to do (brush your teeth, comb your hair, etc) things that foster good habits for them to have when they get older. Exploiting them on the internet isn't one of those things.
Just here to tell you that I'm from a city officially known as "moustache city" ("Bartebyen" - almost like Beyn!!) and I'm here to back Beyn up - if he wants to keep his moustache, he should! :D
i feel so bad for children of family vlogging channels. my mom ALWAYS took photos when i was younger, which i get because she wants to have the memories, but i remember distinctly being in like third grade and beyond, protesting having my photos taken since i knew they’d end up on facebook. despite saying i didn’t want to, i’d get reprimanded & my photo taken anyways. it’s better now but it got to the point where i was looking up what privacy options i had as a child.
Watching the drinking section from the UK where we get drunk at like 13 is mad
Now I'm curious who's the UA-camr
Me too. Was scrolling through comments hoping someone posted.
Same
Yea same i still dont know 😭
Haha same update me pls
i was having the worst day ever and then i saw this and just lit up 😌 i love this podcast so much!
I’m a relatively young mom with a toddler and so many people have told me to start a “family/mommy vlog” channel to make money and I’ve always told them that my child is not content. Once he’s old enough to have his own social media presence he can decide that all on his own. (within reason of course sksks) I just don’t want him to be upset with me or feel like I violated his privacy when he gets older.
My partner has different types of cats - one that looks like batman, a deaf one, a mute one, a sleazy one, and a blind one but I never called them "ugly".
Thank you so much for the chapters. So many times I dont have time for the full podcast then have to click through to find where I left off. I LOVE YOU
Also Ben calling Cristine "Muff" is hilarious 😂😂😂😂
With the nail polish wife one I’ve had similar experiences with other people because my nephew likes nail polish as well as other flashy things and I would paint his nails sometimes and people I knew and at my church would be like “who did this” why would you do that” etc and I would have to tell them point blank, I did it and my nephew asked for it and it’s not any of your business nor your place to try to make it seem like there is something wrong with it. It is hard enough raising a boy in a world wear messages with misogyny and toxic masculinity are so common place but I refused for people who my nephew sees regularly to try to taint him about something as inconsequential as nail polish.
In Germany, the drinking age is 16(for non-hard alcohols), so kids don't really have that issue with trying to hide the drinking from their parents, sneaking off to parties or overdrinking to be rebellious etc., since the culture around drinking is far more lax. Of course there are exceptions to this, but seeing that from age 14 on you can legally also drink small amounts with parental supervision, teenagers get introduced slowly into drinking culture in what usually is a safe way. My first drinking experiences were at home with my parents, as were the first drinking experiences of most people I know.
I don't think OP's parents really support her in her collection of hair scrunchies. Every home has a collections of hair bands, or hair ties, and yet, the mom overstepped OP's boundries and took the toddler and grandma to her room, without her permission, and showed the both of them OP's collection.
They are trying to make OP get rid of her collection, or trying to stop her from collecting these scrunchies.
The parents are toxic, as hell.
There is no doubt now that they had seen, or heard about the post, since it is all over social media. It's been a year, or two since it's been posted.
Sarah baska is the only “storytime” youtuber I watch/enjoy and believe cause she doesn’t actually drag people
My boyfriend and I have a special kinda petname between us that is "lover," and its special to me but when he called his roommates cat "lover" I told him it feels weird for him to call the cat it, and he said "OK i understand where you're coming from and I won't anymore" and it was fine. If he said no, it would be okay i guess. We just respect each other's opinions even if it's something kinda dumb but it can be helped.
The scrunchie/headband one baffles me. The whole thing could've been avoided, because is a headband necessary? 🤔 Lol
Right lol brush the girls hair and make her wear it down
Well it depends on the kid, some just don't like having hair in their face (like adults have preferences). That's why you need an emergency scrunchie when you're watching a kid with long hair.
With the cat and the boyfriend nicknames, I don’t think the girl is jealous or insecure, I just think it makes her uncomfortable. I don’t think she’s nuts or crazy or values herself more than the cat, just that she doesn’t like being called the same name as his cat...
Re: drinking. I think parents that don’t perpetuate the mystery and mystic of drinking or getting drunk raise kids with better sense towards drinking. If it’s treated as a substance that impairs judgement but that can still be enjoyed, kids are more likely to take it seriously and not feel like their parents are hiding something from them.
I agree with Cristine about drinking. When I was a teenager my mom would offer me drinks and didn't care if I drank. Now I have a very healthy relationship with alcohol and don't really drink. For context I'm now 25 and I live in the states where the drinking age is 21
Among other issues, my mom used to give away my things to her friends' kids. When I got upset, she would guilt trip me. She wanted to appear to be a charitable person to other people at my expense, because she assumed I would always love her no matter what as her child. Now that I'm an adult she tries to be nice to me, but honestly it's just too late. I go through the motions of being a "good daughter," but I think she can tell underneath it all that our relationship is very shallow.
I was looking forward to this after the other reddit episode!!!
About the whole sharing videos and pictures of your children with the internet situation:
I have been on some of these channels and I just sometimes worry that at a certain age the children start feeling like they have to perform in order to not diappoint their parents. It's just not a healthy dynamic. But maybe I'm reading way too much into these situations.
Cristine: *talks about strict parents*
Me: *cries in 23 y/o Filipina*
I think you guys slightly misinterpreted the unicorn skin question. The stepsister gets to use her stepmom's special nail polish at her other house on special occasions and the poster wants to buy that colour herself but is worried she'll spoil the specialness of stepsister sharing with her stepmom if she also gets to use it with her sister at her other house.
Having your kid drink in a safe environment is a brilliant idea, it removes the taboo and helps the young person to understand how their body responds to alcohol. My family was religious and very strict, when I finally got to drink, it became a problem for me. Restricting natural curiosity will often always backfire.
Family bloggers should be regulated, no one is advocating for these kids to make choices for how their life is shared.
When you're so early that simply hasn't even posted a story on snapchat
The story with scrunchie girl reminded me of something that happened to me.
So when I was around 5 or 4 I was at my grandma's with my mom aunt and my 2 cousins, and we all bought those snacks with toys inside and my girl cousin didn't get a toy, so me and boy cousin got a toy and I got one of those things that expand in baths and guess what, boy cousin wanted my toy, I didn't wanna give it because I really wanted it and boy cousin doesn't even have a bath and I actually do and my mom gave it to him and I started to cry and my mom was like "girl cousin didn't get a toy and she's not crying so why are you?" And i kid you not he lost that toy like 10 mins later, and he now is a brat when girl cousin gets something that he wanted he cries he's 12 now which I think is a bit too old to cry over stuff like that
I saw this tik tok and a guy says "well we need masculine men to protect women." then a woman did a duet and said "protect women from who?" and that really stuck with me.
We need masculine men to protect us from men. Makes sense lol
Thanks for this
Yea!
Thanks!
Fucking RIGHT
I don’t think there’s an episode without Ben saying “maybe I shouldn’t say this, but...” lol
Don't you just love it hahaha. He doesn't even really hesitate to keep going, he's just like eh this one person might get mad but what are they gonna do. LOL.
Its my favorite thing to hear!
and we love it lmao
i cackled like a crazy person in my empty apartment when he said that and then IMMEDIATELY started spilling the tea, as always haha xD IM HERE FOR IT! WE STAN YOU, BAE! XD
That phrase would make for great Pod merch 😉
Petition to send this girl some holo taco unicorn skin
YES!!!! lol
*signs vigorously*
Yes!
I support this!
Yes! I hope she follows and gets in contact. Such a sweet story.
About the scrunchie thing - didn't the girl mention that she was looking for a regular hair band to give to the 3 year old? That means that no one needed to take the scrunchies since regular ones are easily accessible, which I think just doubles down on how much the narrator is not the Ah.
I’m feeling really sorry for her ... her parents are giant AHs
That and her mum allowed/encouraged this kid to enter OPs personal space to see/steal her belongings. So wrong.
I agree.
Hard agree
Agree like everyone else here. No respect of boundaries in that household it seems.
As an adult, I have no obligation to “share” my items. Why should children? The girl said no- and that’s that. It doesn’t matter her age. They are hers.
I feel this. I still live at home but I have money to buy my own food/stuff I want. My mum says I *need* to share those things or whatever bullshit she comes up with.
@@hoziersexual as a parent, it’s something I had to come to terms with. I’m not going to force my child to give up a toy to another (who can play with any of the thousands of other toys- it’s 9x out of 10 they just want it bc someone else has it). Like, imagine if someone walked up to you and demanded you share your laptop (my idea of an adult “toy”). You’d laugh in their face! Well, that’s what my 9 yr old does when he is faced with the same thing. They are his items& no one has the right to demand access to it. Now, I do try and teach kindness and generosity- but I won’t force it on him. Sharing is just a way to control and placate children- which isn’t right bc I’m teaching my son to be an adult when he gets older, not a child.
I think to a certain maturity/understanding this is true. We need to force children to share in order to teach them its something that needs to be done. At some point they learn that while its okay to share, its also okay not too. Its about finding the difference between being selfish for better or worse. If someones in need, and you have that need then share. If someone has a want, and you have their want then you CHOOSE what to do.
Exactly. My mom taught us, not to share, but Wait turns. No, kids don’t want to share it with someone else when they’re already playing with it. If I wanted something one of my brothers had, I waited til he was done and played with something else during that time. I now teach that to my son. I tell him “you can share ONLY if you want to, but you shouldn’t share with people just because they told you should.” I stand by the fact that it’s his decision. And I’m perfectly fine with what he decides in the end.
@@inhaledexhaled5460 you shouldn’t force your child to do anything they don’t want to do when it’s not a necessity. Literally babies learn how to share without being forced, some naturally already do that. If you encourage that behavior then they won’t have to be forced to do anything later on. What should be forced is when a child wants something but someone else NEEDS it. Because they have to learn they need it more, however this can also be picked up on as a baby.
It’s the same as you shouldn’t force your child to hug a family member just because they’re family. If they don’t wanna hug em, they don’t wanna hug em. Also saying things like “How was your time with grandma?” is a better question to ask instead of “Did you have a good time at grandma’s?” since that and similar patterning can actually just groom your child. Especially giving “pet” names to private parts. It’s actually more dangerous to do that than just straight up teaching them what their thing down there is, it makes it much harder for a predator to lure them in. Buuuut that’s another topic.
I kind of get why the boyfriend that sued his ex took it that far, cause is my ex was slandering me with my full name about something that serious on the internet where my boss or friends or family or even future lovers could see, I would too have done the exact same thing. Not to mention what all that hate directed right at someone might do to someone's mental health, like someone who already has a bad headspace could possibly take things to even worse place in their head where they could be thinking of taking their own life. He was totally in the right, if it was true that he didn't emotionally abuse her.
Not to mention that people that do this, will often do it again in the same way, if it doesn't have consequences.
They could tell stories without naming the person, but they (allegedly) chose not, and have to face the consequences.
Yeah for sure, this kind of thing can cost you your job if it goes far enough, or job opportunities even years later. I perhaps would have offered to drop the court case if she made a video admitting wrongdoing, I don't think she should have her life destroyed over it either, but if she didn't take that out I'd do what I needed to do to protect my reputation. This of course provided we have an accurate account of what happened, the fact that his friends were saying he took it too far makes me a little suspicious.
i think, believing his side of course, him suing was completely fine. if she slandered him at a point where random people started harassing him online, it’s clearly defamation, BUT i don’t think he should’ve been constantly commenting under everything. at that point, it seems like he’s stuck on watching her videos and content and is a little obsessive, yknow?
@@LPSRed and what should he have done? kept it quiet? let people to continue to harass him? Because if he doesn't show he was right ( hence the comments he posted ) people would continue to believe the girl
Does anyone know who this UA-camr is?
My father gave away my entire Pokémon card collection to another boy my age because he said "I was too old for them" and the other boy would "get more out of them then you".... and there's where my issues with him started 🤣🤣🤣
I feel for you. My mum did something similar with my video cassettes when I was about 10. She gave them away because her friend's sister was pregnant and I was apparently too old for Disney movies. What annoyed me the most, apart from not being asked, was that her friend's sister had a boy, so she gave everything away to charity after the kid was born. 😭
how dare he!!
Maybe I’m dumb, but if the boy was the same age why would he give them away?
@@sanskritigupta7980 No, actually, that's a very freaking good point. It means the dad had other issues with his son having pokemon cards, and that he lied.
i feel this! my mom just decided while i was at school one day i was too old for my 500+ Littlest Pet Shop collection. she gave away over 500 of MY toys id been collecting my whole life, some i got from friends, some from family who had passed, some were limited edition. im 18 now but still hurt about it simply because my mom had no respect for me🤷🏼♀️ now LPS can sell for like $400 each🥲
Just saying: real men wore floral embroidered colourful clothes, shoes with heels and powdered wigs for hundreds of years and robes (dresses) for thousands. So what is masculine?
being masculine is basically synonym to toughness or strength so anything that is considered those things im guessing would be. like if at the time embroidered brightly colored clothes were only limited to the rich, it would be a symbol of power and therefore masculine, at least that's how im assuming it could work.
Just as Karolina said :) ua-cam.com/video/roPQKEZK2X4/v-deo.html
@@missrobinhoodie exactly ;)
@@missrobinhoodie I mentioned her in another comment. But don't comment that often. Good to know you can share a link to the video like that!
So the song explanation for this is amazing, and available on UA-cam! - make sure you watch the video version.
Song title: “The Creation of Man” from The 1997 Broadway hit “The Scarlet Pimpernel”
So I'm supposed to believe that the mom does not own 1 single hair elastic herself, seriously?! Parents need to respect their childrens boundaries, you don't just give away other peoples properties especially not when it's par of a collection
@M K as someone who has short hair, I keep my old elastics just because my hair may grow out and my friends have long hair and may need it. While it's definitely possible this woman doesn't have any personal elastics, she also has a daughter so odds are there are no less than 5 elastics somewhere in that house.
@M K oh hard agree, having them and being able to find them are two separate issues lol
regardless of whether or not mom has her own hair ties, i find it ridiculous that she would offer up her child’s scrunchies AFTER she had explicitly said not to. and it wasn’t that OP didn’t want to help the girl, she was looking for a normal hair tie, she just didn’t want to give away any part of her sentimental collection which is entirely fair. mom’s the ahole here 🙄
She probably viewed her child as an extension of herself so in her mind, yes she did have hair ties, cuz her daughter has hair ties, and anything her daughter owns, so does she.
Ben trying to convince people Oats aren't just for the elderly: "Oats can be hip"
Me: Oooh so close XD
I think Ben was purposefully joking when he said that
Oats are hip if you need a hip replacement.
(Jk. Although I don't really like oats. Love oat milk tho, best milk.)
To me, the son going to the party and drinking at home beforehand, is INCREDIBLE parenting. Ofc he should have told his wife and made sure she was okay, but I wish more parents would try stuff like this out.
My parents do this, and it’s actually pretty cool
"if you're gonna be stupid, be smart. I'd much rather you drink at home with your family around then at a stranger's place and do something dangerous" - my older brother
I'm even more radical in this situation. I don't think the mom should have an opinion in this since it's not an opinion based situation. *It is a fact* that that was the safer option.
@@erikperhs_ I think one of her main issues was that she wasn’t there to also judge how the son reacted and couldn’t weigh in on her she thought he was acting at each number of beers later. Which is reasonable because what one person may think is totally drunk someone else may think is just kinda drunk but not dangerously. However the conclusion was a good number to settle on and the husband’s reasoning for not saying anything was understandable.
@@Chelsea-dq9og THOSE ARE MY PARENTS WORD FOR WORD
Family vloggers: I think that when a child reaches the point of being able to withhold consent, and chooses to do so, then you need to respect that.
I hear you but try to explain this to a narcissistic person... That story broke my heart.
I’m autistic and just this episode realized the, “We were going to have X person on but ran out of time” was a joke. 🤦🏻♀️ I for real just thought they always ran out of time for their guests.
Oh my goodness you know how long it took me?? It was bad xD
I was today years old when I realized that, and only after reading your comment. lol
Some times I fell for it too 😂
I'm not autistic but the same thing happened to me
It’s actually a long standing late night show gag! Jimmy Kimmel used to say that about Matt Damon on every show.
Regarding the mom that is a UA-cam and vlogger, I think the moment your kid no longer wants to be in the videos then it’s time to change your content, you should never force your kid into a uncomfortable issue.
For real! The fact that the parent tries to “negotiate” the teen into agreeing to appear online is so gross. It’s basically coercion and I can definitely imagine how some of those conversations went...
CONSENT!!! What are we teaching our children about consent as trusted adults in their lives if we are constantly violating their boundaries?! This goes for scrunchy girls parents too! This is a form of emotional abuse. Children whose parents constantly do this to them grow up choosing friends and partners who violate their boundaries and or opens them up to victimization. It’s just sad
@@makeupmymind3264 I so agree, just like how we force hugs and stuff on kids makes them think affection is mandatory
@@makeupmymind3264 100% this for both of those stories
I would never dream of putting my kids on UA-cam or any other social media in the first place, even if it could make me a lot of money. It's not fair on them, and it's not safe.
*We dont have childern,*
Menchie and Zyler: Are we a joke to you?
I’ve loved Christine for years, but nail art really isn’t my thing so I was not a big watcher, but these podcasts have sucked me in. I love you both, I love that you seem like great people and intelligent and rational and fun. I legit wish we had more people like you on public platforms 💗💗 This is now the channel that I always remember to watch for on Tuesday mornings, love you guys!
Hahah same. lol nail art is cool to look at but I rarely paint my nails. I love their personalities and how they view things in a sort of intellectual way.
I think a lot of us are here because we are Cristine and Ben fans, not nail art fans :)
I also love how they use their platform for education and realism
Their conversations are encapsulating
@@stapels22 do you mean captivating? Or what do they encapsulate?
A lot of parents think that every possession of their children are their's. My parents were divorced and my father always gave me money every two weeks after our week-end together and I bought some things like shoes, stationery etc.. but these objects regularly disappeared from my room and I founded them later with my mom's belongings and if I took them back she became furious and take everything back saying that I stole her and that I don't have the rights to use her possessions as mine because I already have everything I need. The robbery that hurt me the most was when she took my new pair of Dr Martens which cost me 159€ in sale (I saved money during one year to buy them). These shoes finish in her closet in no time. I bought them and never had a chance to wear them because the next day when I came back from school the Dr Martens were on her feet and the shoe box in her closet and she acted like everything was normal. When I asked her to give them back to me she became verbally violent, the next day when I returned from school I was shocked to see all my belongings in the garden, as a revenge she just threw all of my pens, books, trinkets, shoes, clothes, etc.. by the window of my room at the second floor of the house. The rain destroyed my books and various other things and I had to clean and tidy everything and when I was sitting on the floor, sorting what can be saved she came to me and said "I hope that this taught you to never be selfish again, you have everything you need and more" (she had a well-paid job at that time). She never show any kind of regrets and continued to still my belongings when she wanted and my big brother also did this and I didn't said anything because I was always the bad one. My mom was the most toxic and selfish person I ever met and I'm proud to be her exact opposite, she apologized when she was really sick on her hospital bed but it didn't mean anything to me even if she was dying, I needed a mother when I was younger, it was to late for the apologies.
Anaïs L. Sorry that happened to you
i’m so sorry that happened to you :(
My father is srt of the same. He doesn't see my possessions as his but whenever he buys me something and we later get into an argument he always threatens to take it away or says that he wants it back. Whenever he does a tiny thing for me that is actually a parent's duty (like buying food for your kid to eat) he will forever hold that over you and against you. How can I be so ungrateful when he does everything for me(he barely does the minimum, I mean I may live in his house rent free). He's recently been trying to apologise and be more active in my life but I needed a father when I was younger and don't need one now.
My heart goes out to you
I’ve had my mom do this with money. She’ll give me $100 and then a month later she’ll owe me $30 and be like “well I gave you $100 earlier so that covers it!!!” Noo. That $100 is gone. It’s been a month. I had to buy a bus pass- $50, buy food $20, Uber $20-$30, and look the $100 is gone. Funny how money works
Lol the youtuber girl from the court case one is the reason why the dude from the beginning didn’t want to date a UA-camr
I wonder how true his story (the court case guy) is... because it sounds real and everything but to go to such an extreme as to sue someone is revelatory of an extreme personality... idk maybe he WAS emotionally abusive. He didn’t disclose why they broke up
@@rakamukherjee9070 If I were receiving death threats from strangers as a result of lies spread about a previously relationship, I might also go to some lengths to stop them from spreading more misinformation on their channel, and a lawsuit may be the most efficient way to do that. However, we only know one side of the story.
@@ava_lavender I’d probably do the same honestly. Especially if my name would come up in google search results etc.. z
@Charlotte Cornett He didn't try though. He sued her and won lol
Maybe he's putting it on reddit to get some validation b/c he did say friends and such said that he had gone to far with a sue.
Y’all remember that post of the girl who wanted her boyfriend to rid of his cat because he was “too affectionate” towards it and everyone was like “you’re jealous of a cat...”
I remember this post too! Everyone was making fun of her for being jealous over a cat. She deserved it. Lol
@Pastadudde Op is not talking about a post they discussed on the podcast, but about a famous reddit post!
@Pastadudde (unneeded comment but i wanted to say it, this just reminded me of it) my friends all joke about eating their dog for christmas dinner or their birthday and it’s extremely worrying until i realize they’re kidding, lol
Knowing that Reddit picked up on this makes me feel better for the time I broke up with a boyfriend because he kept insisting I needed to get rid of my Service Dog because “The dog loved me more than it loved him”
@@TheEliseRodgers Ew, I'm so glad you were able to break up with him. That's so selfish of him. It reminds me of 2 of my exes. It started with, "Do you love your horse more than me"".... Duh. They knew the answer. "You love that horse more than you love me!" It's so weird. My dad and I nursed that animal back to health after being on the brink of death from starvation and neglect. My dad died a few years later and Comet was the link that kept me together and kept a connection to my dad. You'd hope people would be understanding about something like that or even just any pet. It's like getting jealous of your partner's child. I hope you find or found someone who is deserving of you AND your doggo. Definitely a big ol' red flag
When you were talking about clothing and some people’s thoughts that it’s “wrong” for a guy to wear a dress or nail polish, I thought about the conversations and disagreements that would have happened when women first began wearing pants or really when any major cultural changes have occurred. It’s normal for women now to be in pants but can you imagine the shock created when the first woman pulled on a pair of trousers and strolled around town!!!🤔
Not to mention that men largely used to wear dresses, skirts, heels wigs and makeup before, so in reality it's not that weird.
Yeah it’s crazy to think that somewhere somehow all of a sudden there became very strict rules about what a woman could wear and what a man could
Same thing with bathing suits. Women's bathing suits becoming less fabric was a huge controversy. It's wild to think that even the old style (that covered most of the torso and with shorts) was considered too risque knowing how much more skin is shown in things like bikinis. Strict social gender roles are entirely arbitrary and we always have to acknowledge and question the need for them.
I feel like, a lot of parents don’t understand sentimental value In stuff.
They do unless it's about kids.
No, it’s not that “parents” don’t understand, that’s a generic stereotype. It’s a human thing. Some humans firm attachments and have sentimental value in things and some don’t. I’m 45, 2 kids. I have and completely understand my irrational attachment to inanimate objects - ie, placing sentimental value on things. My mother and brother do not. One example, I can’t get rid of my Raggedy Ann doll and my mom took her engagement ring (she is still married to my father, the man who gave her the ring) and made it a pinky ring and wears a ring that isn’t hers as her engagement/wedding set. So, it’s not a parent thing, it’s a human thing.
@@christinamatzen4214 you're right, but there are also people who can't part with their own belongings but then think nothing of people's belonging even though they should understand.
That said, sometimes I need someone to took away all the stuff I can't let go of because it's getting out of hand 😂, so I understand parent's position in this
Also, they kinda feel entitled to their kids belongings.
That roommate 100% used filing nails in the livingroom to distract from them being a poor dog owner.
yes, it was totally manipulative, they were trying to detract from the initial and valid critique. if it was really a problem, it could have been addressed later during a separate discussion.
Totally whataboutism.
I agree, the roommate is disgusting, leaving the dog to pee and crap in the house. Poor animal and poor roommates.
Yeah that dog owner was just kinda a terrible owner for sure.
I have to disagree about the story about the guy suing his ex, youtuber girlfriend, I don't think he took it too far by going through with the suit. Its one thing when people insult celebrities as they they tend to not be that close to them and can be dismissed, as well as the celebrity has a public platform that they can defend themselves on and a public history to give them credibility. If this guy is not a youtuber and if he wasn't in her videos all that much, then a court of law is the only place that he has a voice that will matter to the people harassing him. Her lies led to him being harassed and receiving death threats, I don't think that's a small thing. It would be one thing if her reaction to being sued was to say that she will take down the video, post a retraction, and tell her fans to back off; instead she posted more videos making him out to be the bad guy. This thing could have easily snowballed and going through with the suit was the only way for him to clear his name. I'm not a lawyer, but I believe that to win a slander case, you must not only prove that what's being said is untrue, but that the person saying these comments knew that they weren't true. She intentionally lied about him to make money and continued to make many more videos making him out to be a bad person. She gave him no other choice and any consequences to this are all on her.
The anti nail polish mom is really rude, she just demeaned her husband instead of taking this as a bonding moment. 😒
I agree when I was little my dad would paint his toe nails because his girlfriend liked to paint them and I thought they looked cute in him and I we would match our nail polish It was really fun and a great bonding moment and I think this could have been a similar moment (sorry if I went on a but if a tangent)
I heard it like Boy come be my husband i want that kind of involvement in my nail polish
She basically took it as, I don't wanna turn my husband gay by allowing him to paint his nails. I will never understand why so many people are concerned about other people's bodies. It is fine for men to wear nail polish, it is fine for women to have short hair, its fine to kids to play with the opposite sex's toys, its fine for girls to wear "boys" clothes and boys to wear dresses. We get so caught up in trying to fix a mold that is ultimately made up and stupid lol. You think nature gives a f*** if you wear a dress or paint your nails if you are a guy? No, its a random human idea we made up to fight over.
@@ImperialVideo You and all the rest of you. Thanks for being cool people. It's refreshing to see healthy perspectives once you step out of certain type of bubbles.
Yeah... It's almost certainly fake... Almost all of AITA posts are fakes for likes and awards.
I hope child labor laws catch up to family vlogs and stuff. I think if the child is a part of bring in the income they should have a right to some of the money
In the perfect little world in my mind, the platform they post to would need to semi-regularly check in on the child and their willingness. It would also be awesome if their portion of the earnings were set aside for the children, only to be touched by them when they are of age.
I look at people like the Ace family, obviously spending insane amounts of money, and wonder if their children will get anything out of this other than a public childhood. The way they blow money... I just hope they have a hefty savings built up just in case, for the kids.
Have you seen how old some of these politician's are? Some of them probably think of YT as a bunch of home movies.
France is working to provide UA-cam child stars with the same legal protection as child actors and models and I suspect that it will soon be expanded to the rest of the EU
For the scrunchies, the mom should’ve known better than to offer a toddler something she might have to take back.
the mom had NO intention of taking it back
@@pvic6959 absolutely. Wish she had as much respect for her daughter’s belongings as I’m sure she has for her own!
In the vane of if only I had been there to have the argument with the mother on the girl's behalf, if the Mom thought it was alright for her to give the daughter's scrunchies away, then the girl should be able to give the mother's expensive jewelry away to anyone who throws a fit and wants it, including items gifted to her, like say her wedding / engagement ring
I think it shows how distant the parent and their kid are, cuz the parents should know that their kid has sentimental value for their scrunchies
I love imagining Ben searching “holo,” “cat,” “nail polish,” “UA-cam,” etc. to find these 😹
i still can't get over how soothing beyyn's voice is, it's crazy
bruh it's true! Is it his pitch? It's like he was born to be talking in these microphones
He could make audiobooks if he’s tired of UA-cam 😁
love ben
@@MeanPsyduck iiyy
@@MeanPsyduck iiyyi
I had incredibly strict parents, like when I was in college and came home to visit my curfew was still on. All friends had to come in and meet them b4 I could leave and even as a 34 year old I feel odd drinkinging in front of my parents. I rebeled in college and developed a severe drug problem and landed in rehab. Luckily after a 10 year battle I am finally 3 years clean and sober but I find super strict parenting leads to major issues.
Congratulations on being clean and sober for 3 years! :)
That’s what happened with my siblings. My parents were very strict and didn’t allow us to leave the house. They went to college and went nuts rebelling with drinking and drugs (only one did any of this). My mom’s parenting style shifted after a major health incident and seeing how my siblings reacted, so I was allowed to do more things. That kept me from reacting the same way, so I had a healthier approach when I left the house.
I know this post is super old but congratulations 🎊 on your 3 possible 4 yrs now of sobriety! It’s a tough journey and you made it!!!
Thank you soooooo much!!!!!!
I'm so glad you got help. I do think super strict parenting can lead to major issues. That said, I have also known people with parents who let them drink at home as a teen who ended up having addiction issues, and believe their parents' position made it worse - if you drink at home, and you drink with your friends, you can end up just drinking a lot more than the average teenager.
But I suspect that ultimately, the issues in both examples go deeper than just the parents' position on alcohol. I think a parent that is very controlling and strict about alcohol is very controlling and strict in other ways that are also unhealthy. And on the other hand, a parent who lets their kid drink to excess around them regularly, might be neglecting or enabling other problems too. (I'm not saying that's what the guy on Reddit did, but that's what was happening for the people I knew who ended up having problems.)
I don't know where the happy medium is, it probably depends on the family. I do think it's important to make sure the kid knows you're going to love them no matter what, and that they can always call you if they need a ride home. Drunk driving kills too many young people.
Ben: this is gross behavior when you have roommates
Cristine: but what about homeless people
LMAO WHAT! xD also, i thought when she said nail filings she didnt mean nail clippings, so, idk what you all think? i think i dont mind the dust from filing nails, but i do my the clippings of nails/toenails. Or is everything gross? what do you guys think?
@@mystiqueivy yeah I wouldn’t mind filing but I would mind clipping or anything related to toes 😂
"Until you're 18 or move out" *my hispanic parents LAUGH*
Hispanic, indian, asian...i think most non caucasians....lol
Oh even Caucasian parents lol I'm almost 40 and my mom still tries to dictate what I do / eat 🙃
Hahha yeah, even Caucasians! lol I’d be curious to know the statics on that in the US today. My guess would be that most people don’t move out at 18 anymore or that most people return at some point as an adult.
LMAOOOO i kept thinking during that whole segment (as it often happens in these podcasts haha): "as a latina, i intensely disagree with that statement" hahahaha we clearly did not have the same experiences AT ALL loool
@@haniyakhan8191 it's pretty common in "3rd world" countries lol i'm brazilian and most of my cousins could only afford moving out after like 26. and even then, most of them only left when they got married lol
You should make a Polish named “let’s call her Jane.” 🥰
A new shade of Unicorn Skin 🦄
or a creme called "Plain Jane"
I feel so sad for the man who’s wife refused to paint his toe.
meanwhile im here trying to convince my boyfriend to let me paint them
It’s actually really sad thinking that this belief of “you can’t do that, it’s only for girls” thing still exists. I’m sorry, is makeup only for girls too because last time I checked makeup was originally worn by both rich men and women....
Like it’s... it’s messed up. It’s wrong to say someone can’t do something just because you’ve been told it’s wrong. WHY is it wrong? Give me an actual reason. If you can’t give me an actual logical reasonable reason for it, then the only thing wrong is your belief on the topic.
(You is being used as a general term not specifically you, the person I’m responding to, in case I gotta make that clear cuz apparently that’s something most people don’t pick up on... irl or online...)
I will paint fingernails but I hate feet 😂 that grosses me out 💀
@@arielseescoral2607 tbf he didnt want HER to do it, he wanted to paint his own toenail with her nail polish