These kinds of men that can have two wives are narcissists and the women who allows it have no self-respect. I don't feel sorry for any parties involved.
That’s not called good friend when she’s cheating with your man behind your back. Never be friends with ppl like that. Stay away from that type kind of gf because they will ruin you and your relationship they don’t care who they hurt. Worse friend ever is someone sleep with your partner.
You don't need to air your dirty business to the world for feedback. You accepted it when you heard about your friend and chose to stay. Life is about choices and consequences.
@@maipha8560 I agreed is not too late for her yet but she’s still married to him and cheating. Soon we’ll hear another case of “murder-suicide” . Sadly, these Hmong females are weak minded and always cry victim when they’re part of the problem. They need to leave toxic relationships and start loving themselves and have some self respect . 🤦🏻♀️
This story is so interesting You let your life drag on for so long with a niam yau. Why now cheat and leave now? Makes no sense even if you’re stronger now and tiam niam 🤦🏻♀️ It’s sad for you to allow this wrecker go on your honeymoon, she is dirty and so is your husband 😢
When you are in love and respect a man bc you didn’t know better, you can be blinded by love. Is ok… it’s never too late. Your friend is just wanting what you want, it’s like she’s doing everything you do.
Koj tu txiv hlub niam yau tshaj qhov nws tsis kam nrauj koj vim yog nws xav kom nws muaj niam loj niam yau xwb os....kav tsij mus zoo dua yog koj nyob ces tau so nws pob tw
What friend would ask to tag along on your honeymoon trip 😑 That should have been a red flag. Honeymoon is for you and your significant other to enjoy your time.
Wow! Y'all make it sound like he's the last guy on earth. I don't feel sorry for neither of you 3. Yall deserve each other. Feel sorry for the kids involved.
Tseem xav ntev xav ntau Tseem yuav tau qa quav qa zi xwb koj tseem tos ntev me ntsis thiab ces koj yeej yug los xiam tiam lawm .neej tsa kwv tij tsis nrog koj pw os.
I totally understand your feeling! We love them so we let them do it! But later we found out that we don’t love ourselves. So I am glad you out of there. Much love! We woman can do better.
Why are you letting your family dictate your life? It's YOUR life. YOU are the own author to your life, which means ALL decisions are made by you. Whether or not you stay with your cheating, scumbag hubby is YOUR decision. Don't EVER let your family make that decision for you.
Koj tu zoo phooj ywg lub siab dub tshaj plaws thiaj li tham koj tu txiv lo mas tsuas nros koj ruam ne...koj tu niam yau yeej saib koj ruam ruam ib txwm os
I guess some women like being in a toxic relationship and ok with sharing their man with another woman. I would've dump his @$$ the minute I knew he was cheating with my best friend. I suppose it's ok to use the excuse of love to remain in a relationship where your best friend and husband murder and kill you emotionally and not being able to be reborn until 20 years later. That's a long time wasted in a nasty and toxic relationship. Lastly, I don't understand this whole concept of running to your relatives when you are trying to find yourself and your happiness. I would think 20 years in a toxic relationship would've given you the courage to leave this loser at your own free will without seeking advice from the relatives. However, it sounds like your relatives know what's better for you than yourself. Please leave now!! The time is now!! Don't waste another second with this loser and break that cycle so your children don't follow your footsteps.
No matter how much I love him. I'll leave his ass the minute I found out. I rather hurt be hurt for a short while than spend a lifetime with him torturing myself.
I also don't get why couples always involve their clans. If I ask for advice, that's only through my parents and his parents to be on my side. If they are against any of my wishes then I will seek my own decisions and not let anyone dictate how my marriage is and who I should be with. The relatives only see a glimpse from the outside so they have no right to tell you to just take the bs.
Kuv xav hai tia yog cov ruam li koj ce tseem yuav ua li koj ua thiab tiasi kuv ntseeg hai tia yuav muaj tawg lawm tsua yog cov uas nyob ntuj qub qab tseem muaj coob nawb uas ua ruamruam li koj ua xwb os me ntxhai
I'm with you there. The minute I knew my so best friend is pregnant without a boyfriend, red flags would be flying everywhere. Horrible example for their children. I suppose she's allowing her kids to have multiple wives.
I had a best friend who was interested in my boyfriend (husband now). Asked me his number, called and told him he need to let go of me saying I'm not faithful and should date her. My husband told her why would you do that to your own best friend? She then said I was only testing you, which was a cover up. My husband said he would never date a friend, a cousin or anyone related to me even if didn't work out. That's too awkward.
You can have a best friend but you don't have to tell them or involve them in everything and there should still be boundaries between your personal life and friends life. Don't put them into one big one.
Ntxov nrauj koj niag txiv dev ko ntxov zoo xwb os tus niam tsev aw...tsi tas mloog kwv tij tsi mloog neej tsa lawm kav tsij nrauj tsuag22 tsam tuag koj tau pam os niag ruam aw..hlub koj tus kheej thiab ma.
I have best friend but I’m not this stupid to let my best friend invited to my honeymoon and no way she can’t say anything about sharing my man with her. She knows I don’t play.
Thats crossing the line between friends. Sorry i prefer to be lonely with my kids and husband rather than having a best friend. Thats just my opinion. I seen what my mom went through enough.
Kj thiaj kam xw os kv ces hlu nws npaum twg lo kv ntsia tsi taus kv tus txiv nrog lwm tus pw li os kv xum uv qhov mob kv nrauj nws kv tsi xum uv nws ntsia nws puag lwm tus os
Yog lwm hnub koj mus ua tau lub neej tshiab lawm no ces ho muab tuaj hais rau peb mloog thiab tuaj qhia rau peb paub tias thaum neb mus tas lawm es see neb niag txiv nyob li Cas xwb os
I agree with you that your husband didn’t choose you he chose your friend afterwards so he loved her more. You can divorce your husband but still be there to support his physical and mental needs. Good luck sister. Hope you choose yourself!
Niag txiv dev lwj kas xwb tsi tag yuav khuv xim nyob nyuaj siab tag koj lub neej os sister aw...Koj tus phooj ywg yog poj dab haus ntshav xwb tsi yog friend li os... Niag txiv no siab phem tshaj plaws rau koj li tus sister pab koj tus siab tag koj lub neej li os.
Txawm Yuav Yog phooj ywg Zoo npaum li CAS Yeej koom Tsis Tau ib lub neej Nyob ua Ke li os lawv aw, yus Tus phooj ywg tsis txhob ntseeg2 TAs li os, Tus Yuav ntxeev Siab Rau yus CES Yog Yus phooj ywg ntag nawb 🙏 🙏🙏
Tsis care txog li os viv ncaus aw niam yau twb ntshaw2 koj Tus txiv es cia nkawv mus nkawv yuav ciaj tuag los tsis quav ntsej txog vim nws twb ua tau ua ntej lawm ces kav tsij npaj koj Lub peev xwm xwb,
Leave. You’re not obligated to stay. Your relatives don’t live your pain. Don’t waste anymore time. Don’t need to feel sorry for him he started this way before you two even got marry. Don’t need to explain yourself to the world.
Oh my, what a mess! You got played. Respect yourself enough to leave and divorce your husband. Why? Don’t let the mistakes you’ve made last your lifetime!
Vuad cas koj twb muaj me tub me ntxhai tag es koj tseem yuav nrauj koj tu txiv ma g yog Tsam no koj tu txiv mob xauj rain lawm es nws nrog g Tau koj pw es koj thiaj yuav nrauj nws saib koj twb Lau lawm thiab es nyob twj ywm Tsam koj g Tau chaws tuaj os
Koj tug txiv yog ib niag txiv dev xwb cas ho yuav thiab os twb hais tias kawm txawj kawm ntse no ua cas tseem tsuam npaum xyoo 75 thiab naj los niam hluas txawm ntiaj teb no txiv neej tuag tag lawm los yuav tsis tau lawm os mog
These kinds of men that can have two wives are narcissists and the women who allows it have no self-respect. I don't feel sorry for any parties involved.
Amen. Desperate, low self esteem, no self love or respect.
I completely agree!
the first wife was a bigger narcissist of the two, she's an enabler. he's a team player and a key master.
That’s not called good friend when she’s cheating with your man behind your back. Never be friends with ppl like that. Stay away from that type kind of gf because they will ruin you and your relationship they don’t care who they hurt. Worse friend ever is someone sleep with your partner.
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The man is just as bad as the friend. Because a man who truly love his woman will not sleep with another woman too
You don't need to air your dirty business to the world for feedback. You accepted it when you heard about your friend and chose to stay. Life is about choices and consequences.
But it's not too late to change direction to a new path. Break the cycle for your children.
@@maipha8560 I agreed is not too late for her yet but she’s still married to him and cheating. Soon we’ll hear another case of “murder-suicide” . Sadly, these Hmong females are weak minded and always cry victim when they’re part of the problem. They need to leave toxic relationships and start loving themselves and have some self respect . 🤦🏻♀️
This story is so interesting
You let your life drag on for so long with a niam yau. Why now cheat and leave now?
Makes no sense even if you’re stronger now and tiam niam 🤦🏻♀️
It’s sad for you to allow this wrecker go on your honeymoon, she is dirty and so is your husband 😢
When you are in love and respect a man bc you didn’t know better, you can be blinded by love. Is ok… it’s never too late.
Your friend is just wanting what you want, it’s like she’s doing everything you do.
The words "your closest friend can be your worst enemy." Never trust anyone fully.
Omg I’m speechless at this story. Truly I have no words
Koj ces ruam tshaj qhov ruam . Tsis paub hlub koj tus keej. Nrog koj tu siab .
Lub neej li ko mas lwj siab heev li
Koj tu txiv hlub niam yau tshaj qhov nws tsis kam nrauj koj vim yog nws xav kom nws muaj niam loj niam yau xwb os....kav tsij mus zoo dua yog koj nyob ces tau so nws pob tw
Wow, ruam tshaj ruam. In this life & time and with a college degree, y’all still allowed a niam yau in your life? 🤦🏻♀️
What friend would ask to tag along on your honeymoon trip 😑 That should have been a red flag. Honeymoon is for you and your significant other to enjoy your time.
I thought I was seriously stupid, but this sister is certainly more than me.
Wow! Y'all make it sound like he's the last guy on earth. I don't feel sorry for neither of you 3. Yall deserve each other. Feel sorry for the kids involved.
No, he's the unlucky man. He lived in a miserable life.
He is the last guy on earth for them. They can’t get anyone else!
Yog kawg. But the bad thing is that he's running out of bullets so they tried to leave him, knowing he will be shooting blanks in the future.
Koj tseem nyob nrog nws ces ua zoo tsam nws ntshav siab es nws lam muab koj tua nawb
Kav 2 lub nceb tsis yooj yim
Yog kuv tu txiv yuav niam yua cas Cia tuag zoo dua
Koj mam raum tiag tiag li os
This is why I don't make friends or have any female friend because you never know the future.
Life is very short. Please love yourself and leave the relationship.
Hais ko Koj tus txiv ua txiv hlob lo mas 😂 koj twb ua tau nws tus niam hlob tag los lawn nes
Tsi muaj paj hlwb li os me viv ncau aws xiam tiam lawm os kj na
This is why I don’t have best friends. I don’t keep any woman too close to me.
Yog.. tsis need phooj ywg li os tej phooj ywg ntawv Yog yus tej yeeb ncuab Thaum lawv ntxeev siab rau yus.
These are 2 educated women in USA!! Why? Choose me or I’m out! Sad life mob siab ntxhov plawv.
If you love with two people chose the second one. If you truly loved the first person there wouldn’t be a second one.
Cas tav no koj mam hloov siab os koj paub hlub koj tus kheej lawm os ntshiav kev kaj siab rau koj zoo dua txoj sia thiaj ntev os
Txhob seev seev vim koj put koj tus nkeej into this life style.
Kawm ntxawm siab los ua niam hlob niam yau should be the title...lol
Koj ruam koj thiaj xav tia koj tu txiv hlub koj xwb yog nw hlub koj nw yeej tsi tham lwm tu li na
WOW, you have a degree and you can have any man. OMG
Tus txiv siab phem li ko nrauj zoo dua
Tseem xav ntev xav ntau Tseem yuav tau qa quav qa zi xwb koj tseem tos ntev me ntsis thiab ces koj yeej yug los xiam tiam lawm .neej tsa kwv tij tsis nrog koj pw os.
Ua poj nrauj kaj siab dua os cov mi niam loj thiab niam yau ruam aw...
Muab koj daim ntawv so qhov quav. Lam kawm tiav xwb tseem ruam kawg
I totally understand your feeling! We love them so we let them do it! But later we found out that we don’t love ourselves. So I am glad you out of there. Much love! We woman can do better.
So true!
It's 2023, change, and your happiness starts with you. You're already living with regrets. You can change your future. Best of luck to you.
Koj yeej nyiam nyob rau nws tsim tsis tim nkawv tim koj xwb nrauj tsis taus txhob ua kev mob siab rau txiv neej tsam muaj teebmeem loj tshaj ko lub neej txoj sia yog koj li cas pheej hais tías tim neej tsa kwvtij tsis tso koj nws yog tim koj xwb
Can’t believe we still have young people ok to get 2 wives or share 1 man in USA. Very ashamed
Tusneeg ruam ces laus hluas los yeej ruam
Why are you letting your family dictate your life? It's YOUR life. YOU are the own author to your life, which means ALL decisions are made by you. Whether or not you stay with your cheating, scumbag hubby is YOUR decision. Don't EVER let your family make that decision for you.
Wow two dogs eat one bone
Niam ntsuab teev koj cov neej neeg zoo mloog kawg o 66 siab hai rau peb mloog nawb
Koj tu zoo phooj ywg lub siab dub tshaj plaws thiaj li tham koj tu txiv lo mas tsuas nros koj ruam ne...koj tu niam yau yeej saib koj ruam ruam ib txwm os
Niam hlob niam yau ces yog maum dev txiv dev xwb mas
I guess some women like being in a toxic relationship and ok with sharing their man with another woman. I would've dump his @$$ the minute I knew he was cheating with my best friend. I suppose it's ok to use the excuse of love to remain in a relationship where your best friend and husband murder and kill you emotionally and not being able to be reborn until 20 years later. That's a long time wasted in a nasty and toxic relationship. Lastly, I don't understand this whole concept of running to your relatives when you are trying to find yourself and your happiness. I would think 20 years in a toxic relationship would've given you the courage to leave this loser at your own free will without seeking advice from the relatives. However, it sounds like your relatives know what's better for you than yourself. Please leave now!! The time is now!! Don't waste another second with this loser and break that cycle so your children don't follow your footsteps.
No matter how much I love him. I'll leave his ass the minute I found out. I rather hurt be hurt for a short while than spend a lifetime with him torturing myself.
@rle7622 same here. There's no future with these type of relationships. Eventually jealousy and malicious will take over and consume everything.
I also don't get why couples always involve their clans. If I ask for advice, that's only through my parents and his parents to be on my side. If they are against any of my wishes then I will seek my own decisions and not let anyone dictate how my marriage is and who I should be with. The relatives only see a glimpse from the outside so they have no right to tell you to just take the bs.
@MSMAIYANG right! Plus they're not one living a toxic misery marriage.
😳I’m surprise anyone is still willing to put up with this practice.
Kuv xav hai tia yog cov ruam li koj ce tseem yuav ua li koj ua thiab tiasi kuv ntseeg hai tia yuav muaj tawg lawm tsua yog cov uas nyob ntuj qub qab tseem muaj coob nawb uas ua ruamruam li koj ua xwb os me ntxhai
I would have folded that card long time ago. No questions asked.
I'm with you there. The minute I knew my so best friend is pregnant without a boyfriend, red flags would be flying everywhere. Horrible example for their children. I suppose she's allowing her kids to have multiple wives.
How can someone be so blind.
Mus xwb yeej yuav zoo tshaj!
Zoo ntxov zoo rov , niam hlob niam you cais yog ib pab tsiaj xwb , yog aub tsis yog lwm yam tsiaj vim nws txawj sib tog thiab pheej tsem tsem Kom luag hnov thiab !
Degrees of niam hlob niam yau..!
I would have folded that hand a long time ago.
Never have a best friend, because she/he would be your worse enemy.
Not always true but then again, you only know yourself, not the other person.
Agreed!
Best to not have one so u don't run the risk.
I had a best friend who was interested in my boyfriend (husband now). Asked me his number, called and told him he need to let go of me saying I'm not faithful and should date her. My husband told her why would you do that to your own best friend? She then said I was only testing you, which was a cover up. My husband said he would never date a friend, a cousin or anyone related to me even if didn't work out. That's too awkward.
You can have a best friend but you don't have to tell them or involve them in everything and there should still be boundaries between your personal life and friends life. Don't put them into one big one.
This is one sick story.!!! Lady I can’t believe u let ur husband married a second wife especially its ur best friend 🤬
Totally agreed 💯!
That is not niam hlob niam yau pem ntuj los yog Koj tus txiv saj tau koj tus muj lawm xwb 😭
Ca nej 3 tu dev no es yuav qias neeg ua luaj li
Koj ruam tshaj koj tus niam yau ces kav tsij nyob tu koj tu txiv Los zoo.
Ntxov nrauj koj niag txiv dev ko ntxov zoo xwb os tus niam tsev aw...tsi tas mloog kwv tij tsi mloog neej tsa lawm kav tsij nrauj tsuag22 tsam tuag koj tau pam os niag ruam aw..hlub koj tus kheej thiab ma.
I have best friend but I’m not this stupid to let my best friend invited to my honeymoon and no way she can’t say anything about sharing my man with her. She knows I don’t play.
It’s all in the Hmong women blood after all…😩!
Thats crossing the line between friends. Sorry i prefer to be lonely with my kids and husband rather than having a best friend. Thats just my opinion. I seen what my mom went through enough.
You keep involving your friend into your love life, thats why your bf end up dating you both. Even successfully married yall too
Nej ua tau lom zem kawg 2 2 2 li os !
Kj thiaj kam xw os kv ces hlu nws npaum twg lo kv ntsia tsi taus kv tus txiv nrog lwm tus pw li os kv xum uv qhov mob kv nrauj nws kv tsi xum uv nws ntsia nws puag lwm tus os
Yog lwm hnub koj mus ua tau lub neej tshiab lawm no ces ho muab tuaj hais rau peb mloog thiab tuaj qhia rau peb paub tias thaum neb mus tas lawm es see neb niag txiv nyob li Cas xwb os
Ntuj aws tsis tsimnyog yug los ua ib zaug neeg nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb no li lauj
I agree with you that your husband didn’t choose you he chose your friend afterwards so he loved her more. You can divorce your husband but still be there to support his physical and mental needs. Good luck sister. Hope you choose yourself!
Koj lam kawm ntawv siab xwb tiasi koi tsi ntses koj tseem ruamh heev
Ruam npaum ko ces txhob yws2 os, koj rov ua rau koj tu kheej xwb.
1 tug neeg kawm ntawv siab es nim yov kam ua niam hlob niam yau. Ntshe koj dag xwb.
Niag txiv dev lwj kas xwb tsi tag yuav khuv xim nyob nyuaj siab tag koj lub neej os sister aw...Koj tus phooj ywg yog poj dab haus ntshav xwb tsi yog friend li os... Niag txiv no siab phem tshaj plaws rau koj li tus sister pab koj tus siab tag koj lub neej li os.
Tham kiag ntag
wow this is stupid i cant even post in here?
This is the new OG generation of niam hlob niam yau.
What a crazy story just divorce each other and go all your own ways geesh what a headache!
Hmong woman just don't know when to let go and move on..
Txawm Yuav Yog phooj ywg Zoo npaum li CAS Yeej koom Tsis Tau ib lub neej Nyob ua Ke li os lawv aw, yus Tus phooj ywg tsis txhob ntseeg2 TAs li os, Tus Yuav ntxeev Siab Rau yus CES Yog Yus phooj ywg ntag nawb 🙏 🙏🙏
Tsis care txog li os viv ncaus aw niam yau twb ntshaw2 koj Tus txiv es cia nkawv mus nkawv yuav ciaj tuag los tsis quav ntsej txog vim nws twb ua tau ua ntej lawm ces kav tsij npaj koj Lub peev xwm xwb,
Leave. You’re not obligated to stay. Your relatives don’t live your pain. Don’t waste anymore time. Don’t need to feel sorry for him he started this way before you two even got marry. Don’t need to explain yourself to the world.
Py zoo yog yeeb ncuab loj
Txov tav no koj mam paub kuv mas ntxub kawg ruam thiaj kam nws yuav niam yau
It’s time to find your happiness!
Koj zaj neej neeg no noog ces npau taws rau koj xwb os tus niam koj lob koj xwb os
Nej pab niag dev tsov
Best friend not loyal omg lol 😅😅😅
Oh my, what a mess! You got played. Respect yourself enough to leave and divorce your husband. Why? Don’t let the mistakes you’ve made last your lifetime!
Who’s go to their friend honey moon?
Do you! He able to have 2, so can you. Different world with different rules now! Yes, find someone new. Your kids will understand.
Vuad cas koj twb muaj me tub me ntxhai tag es koj tseem yuav nrauj koj tu txiv ma g yog Tsam no koj tu txiv mob xauj rain lawm es nws nrog g Tau koj pw es koj thiaj yuav nrauj nws saib koj twb Lau lawm thiab es nyob twj ywm Tsam koj g Tau chaws tuaj os
Txiv neej tuag tag lawm es koj thiaj zov 2 niag niam txiv dev ntawv txog tav no. Nyob teb chaws no twb tsis pub yuav niam yau cas koj yov ruam ua luaj.
This is the tale of the two evil wives!
Tell us when ur 40 & have made up your mind to leave. No one can’t make you stay with your husband. You are still there because u still love him .
Koj mas siab zoo dhau lawm kuv twb pab koj chim siab yog kuv ces yuav ib tug txiv yau lawm ntxiv koj niag phooj ywg Kom yuav Pam Liam kawg
Wow that's so nasty to share a husband. Koj tus txiv ko tsis hlub koj os. Tus neeg hlub koj tiag2 nws yeej hlub tsis taus lwm tus pojniam ntxiv na.
Sister, this man does not love you. Your friend and husband betrayed you. Let them go.
Koj tug txiv yog ib niag txiv dev xwb cas ho yuav thiab os twb hais tias kawm txawj kawm ntse no ua cas tseem tsuam npaum xyoo 75 thiab naj los niam hluas txawm ntiaj teb no txiv neej tuag tag lawm los yuav tsis tau lawm os mog
Let him go now, you’ve tortured him and you long enough. Be free from this pain. Hmong men are not the only ones on earth.
Stopped having best friends people
Lub neej dev ces thov txim tsis Xav mloog os vim zoo lis nej tsis nyob rau teb chawm Vam meej nej ruam los cas .