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We have a German neighbor who bought a house along the beach. Everyone's boats are there along the beach because that's just how' it has always been. This German man thought he was the Barangay PTA or something and wrote everyone letters to remove their boats from the beaches. I'm the only other foreigner. So I guess they thought I could talk some sense into him that his request wasn't going to happen. I spoke nicely to him and told him he was not being reasonable. He told me he didn't care. He then threatened to put hole in the boats in writing. The real Barangay Police Chief didn't take to kindly to it and wrote a warrant for his arrest. He escaped back to Germany before they arrested him. That's our neighbor from hell experience.
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Yeah, don't get me going about his poor wife. I'm hoping she gets away from him. She's from somewhere north of Angeles. I guess she's 21 now, but she would have been 19 when he married her. He's around 70 now. He moved her as far away from her family as he could get her. She rarely ever left the house and when she did he would stand in the window or door staring and waiting on her. If he saw her talking to another Filipina and they spoke for too long he would be right there on top of them and saying she needed to come back to the house. If he thought she was speaking to another man or boy he was yelling from the door that he needed her help. As I said, the police captain told him in front of about everyone that he was going to write up warrants to let a judge decide what should happen and the man fled with his wife. We haven't seen them since May 2023, but we think about her every day and we worry about her. She's a sweet child who didn't know what she was getting into. I don't know anything about Germany and its benefits, but I pray it's worth it for her. It is a good lesson for my nieces that it's better to have some maturity and find yourself first before you give yourself away to someone. You never know if you're in a relationship with a monster until you live with them.
I was influenced NOT to go to Dramaguete because of UA-cam and all the drama I saw. I have been in S.E. Asia now for the better part of 14 years and I have never lived near expats. I live amongst the locals. It's how I've always been and always will be. If I wanted to hang out with Americans/Expats, I wouldn't have left the U.S. in the first place.
I agree with you ,i enjoyed older vloggers like old dog ,but I quit watching most channels because of all the petty bickering, gossiping and badmouthing ,I would never live in duma with all this drama ,it leaves a bad impression to those of us that are considering going there .grown people on both sides acting like preteens is unacceptable
Same here..... youtube taught me not to bother even visiting dramaguete 😂 a couple of other places to avoid too. Its all about that province life for me and my better half 😁 I love the province life so much peace and tranquility and beautiful scenery 🥰🥰
The beauty of the Philippines has always been the people and the landscape that God has blessed them with. I would never want to live there surrounded by foreigners like myself for me personally that would defeat my purpose for moving to the Philippines in the first place. Im sure you guys will flourish no matter where you are i just hope you can continue to share your blessings of encouragement with the rest of the world 🙏
This logic needs to apply EVERY country you move to including western countries. If you go there, you HAVE to assimilate or get out! Simple. Their needs to be a total assimilation policy in check.
Because American people think that if they pout and complain the Philippines government will change there economy according to there satisfaction 🤔🤣yea not going to happen.
The guy is a bully and picked his target while you were out. You should at least tell this guy not to bully your wife . You are obliged to protect your partner in a forceful but non violent manner.
Gary did just that when he talked to the guy. Gary even got the guy to admit he was being vengeful. The fact that he admitted that shows Gary was skilled and tactful in how he talked to the guy. Gary appears to have reduced the tension enough to enable an honest discussion between the two. I am not suggesting they are friends, but Gary confronted the neighbor in a way that is not only non-violent, but also encouraged some rapport. He is skillfully protecting his wife by doing that.
I love the family values that this channel espouses. I'm certainly not hating on any bloggers, and I'm not blaming them for the problems that anyone is experiencing in the Phillipines. If anything, I blame the foreigners moving into the Phillipines, but those local channels where they are talking about things that should only occur between a husband and wife and where the women are barely wearing any clothes, is going to attract the wrong kind of foreigners to the Phillipines! The very things that have made your channel popular are the values you talk about that decent people want to leave the West for. Thank you for espousing moral values. Warning to those who are not... It will ruin the Philippines just as it has the West❗️
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673The neighbor fits the stereotype who don't respect Filipinas. It is pretty funny Gary goes all the way across the world to find happiness and your wonderful home is uprooted by exactly what he tried to escape!!
I hope you find a place and your family find a wonderful place to live. As an American with a Filipina fiancé who hopes to one day retire in your amazing country I find it sad that fofeigners do not respect the laws of the Philippines. Good luck in your journey to find the perfect home.
There is a youtuber with name something like red zone mindenao who is exactly what you are talking about. He posts photos of mostly naked women as the thumbnail for his video and then tries to convince in the videos how he is all about helping the people and morals and integrity. I love this channel because they are very clear about their faith and you see it in their sweet kids and the way they treat each other. They are living what is meant by the phrase American Dream.
Yep, agree. The type content you put out is the type audience you will get. Put out useful/helpful information and good wholesome content and you will get the good respectable people. Put out content with eye candy click bait, drama, talking about sexual topics, dressing trashy in tight skimpy clothes for nothing more than attention and clicks&views, and you will attract the perverts, argumentative, rude and disrespectful type audience. A Filipina doing those things put her loyalty, faithfulness, and trust into question. Any foreigner with a Filipina that does those things should remind himself, he left his country to get AWAY from women with those behaviors, why fly half way around the world to end up with one. I mentioned those things on another Filipina's channel because she was doing those things and her channel had about 1K subscribers. After mentioning it she changed and started putting out useful info and dressed more conservatively and her channel has jumped up to almost 14K subscribers now in a couple months. The comments are mostly positive, some constructive criticism, but no longer just trashy comments. I gave the same constructive criticism on another channel and she continues to do the same thing and her channel has not grown at all.
When I was a kid Cebu was the most advertised city in the Philippines around the world. Now whenever you type in Philippines. Dumaguete is the first city that comes out on the search results on youtube. Dumaguete is the most advertised city around the world.
Gary, maybe the reason you guys found that house at a very good price is because you neighbors drove the old tenants out of the house just like they are driving you out. Before you leave you should talk to several area neighbors to see if they have had the same problems with those particular neighbors. If they have had problems, maybe you guys can collectively file a complaint with the local authorities against these neighbors. You may also ask your landlord how many tenants have left that house due to these neighbors. If these neighbors have caused other tenants to vacant, maybe the local authorities can see that these people need to be pressured to live in the province. Why should you guys, or any other neighbors, have to leave a house you are very comfortable in, just because you have some foreigners trying to force you guys to change your customs. Your wife and the other local Filipinos need to put their foot down, before this type of behavior from foreigners become an epidemic.
Sometimes, the best way to handle a neighbor like this when you have a party is to invite them. Even arrogant people are much more tolerant of people that they like.
Don’t give up just yet. He found the perfect house and hopefully this situation was a one and done thing. You were definitely the better man for yelling on speaking with him and hopefully he can see that as well. It was really nice to meet you at the coffee shop today but I just wanted to say thank you for the nice conversation.
"They come here and expect the Philippines to change to their culture" I'm sad to say this, but it's the same thing in Austria with the so-called "refugees" from middle-eastern countries, only difference is that here it's working for the foreigners. With Austria being a hypersocial state, we welcome all these people into our country with open arms, while they know nothing about our culture and they have no interest in learning about our culture, learning our language or our laws and traditions, and the governments provides them everything they need + more, all funded by taxpayers...
Yes, Western Society is destroying itself this way, same thing here in the US, everything for the foreigners, and depleting our resources, and to hell with the citizens.
@@peraakeoerneving1955 I think over the next 20-30 years, maybe 50, one of two things will happen. Either the governments will realize the threat (but if so, that has to happen soon) and establish stricter immigration policies instead of just accepting everyone. This would allow us to better control how many, and more importantly: what kind of people enter our country, and we could accept only the ones with a good background and only as many of them as we can afford. Or, and this is more likely knowing our government, we change nothing and watch what happens. And then in 50 years, the people from arabic/muslim background will no longer make up 10% but over 30%, maybe even 50% of our population because a lot of natives don't want to have kids any more while immigrants often have lots of kids. And then our whole society is going to completely shift away from the cultural norms and traditions we're used do.
If you find a new place, maybe try to buy extra land surrounding your place so you have some privacy. Also build a nice sound-proof karaoke room so you can sing your hearts out, relax and have a good time. Take the high road and move on. Life is too short to deal with people like your neighbor.
Sorry to hear! Thanks God my Canadian husband loves the rooster noise esp in the morning and karaoke doesn’t bother him at all, he loves it instead. When we visited my province, Bohol, we stayed at the resort for a month and there is karaoke every night and we loved it. Gives us good vibes. One time, we came back to the hotel without karaoke, it was so quiet and lonely.
I've never lived overseas, but I have lived all over the United States, north, south, and the east coast to the west coast. Even people who have lived in the US all of their lives are surprised by the difference in life styles and cultural differences in this country depending on where you live. (And a lot of them can't even adapt difference places in the states) I've never had difficulty adjusting to this difference. I'm very easygoing and have a great interest in different cultures, and I have been researching and learning everything I can about the Philippines, the good and the bad for several years now. So far, the good outweighs the bad by a large margin. Personally, I'm a simple Ozark hillbilly and love a simple lifestyle, in a more isolated setting and a life in the province is very intriguing and desirable to me. I don't do well in large crowded cities. Where I live now, the closest town is about ten miles away from me and has a population of about 3,000 people. The closest actual city is 64 miles away (Richmond Virginia) I will be retiring in two or three more years, and the philippines is number one on my list. I hope and pray that you two find a place soon that will be adequate for your lifestyle and still be able to enjoy the things that you enjoy. God bless and good luck.
I am used to it, however for some reason karaoke here has to be as loud as their music system allows. I think that is where the problem lies. Usually the singing and music can be heard pretty far away. It's not to say that the filipino neighbors are happy about it, they just don't want to start a problem and let it go.
That's a bummer...hope you find a place that makes you both comfortable. I understand what you mean. I am an American living in Korea. I have been here since 2002, and most problems have come from foreigners not Koreans. Happy holidays!
It's the bass that shakes the house that bothering me ,when you have 3 or 4 in your area one of them is almost a half mile away so loud, almost every day, but it happens 😊
Some people are so unhappy that the only time they feel better is when they can blame someone else loudly and angrily(cuz that makes them right). It is sad but misery loves company. I would not be surprised to learn that the "neighbor" has had this same experience at every place they have lived at. It's always someone else's fault that they have to act like that, I'm sure. Best of luck in the future, friends and best wishes to you and the family!
Philipino people are excellent neighbors in Canada, too. They’re like neighbors used to be 40 years ago. Respectful, generous, kind. I’ve lived in this neighborhood for 5 years and I’m not even on speaking terms with most of my Canadian neighbors. We just don’t know and we don’t care.
I'm only new to your vlog. Interesting topic you have here. I'm a fili still living outside the country, in a city and we have new noisy neighbours with teenage kids who are noisy. It doesn't bother me. Then we have another new neighbour who moved two blocks away who love parties. In the summer, they always have parties, loud music even up past 10 pm. Still it doesn't bother me as a Fili as I get used to it. But some of their neighbours get bothered. Sometimes I enjoyed listening their 80's 90's classic tunes whilst gardening at our backyard, lols.😁 People who can't adopt with much noise should move to rural less populated locations. Acquiring a big land and living in it allows more space away from neighbours. We were there in early 90's. My hubby is a westerner and we hung out with some few the expats living in Duma during those days, few of them living in the southern towns, couple of them passed away, there are few remaining. It's true the expat population there seemed have exploded. Dumaguete has been in the global retirement spotlight 4 times in nearly 2 decades. I remember the first publicity of Dumaguete as a retirement hub was in 2007 USA TODAY. Dumaguete was listed as one of the top 20 retirement places in the world, including Cayman Islands. So those western based publicity of Dgte in the past succeeding years now has seen results, has drawn retirees from around the world plus vlogging and online sites has contributed to the influx. However, Dumaguete is a smaller compact city, it's like a town, experiencing abrupt change within a shorter space of time. Updating the system anew is such a challenge for once was idyllic town of Duma. But the province of Negros Oriental is vast. It's easier to be away from foreigners when in the towns outside Dumaguete. We have a place uphill from Duma, but nearer Dgte, no house yet, without the traffic jam it's approx 20 minutes to the Robinson's mall. There was one expat living in the neighbourhood in 2003 when we bought the land, he is a quiet man living to himself and he passed away 7 years ago, he must be in his 90's. But 20 years onwards, to this day there are 3 expats guys living in the area. It doesn't bother us, in fact it's nice to have expat neighbours, when they're nice people, why not? 20 years ago, land prices in upper Valencia was only 80 to 150 pesos per sq meter. We were there looking for land in Apolong too. There was in Timbao Bacong, lands of 4 hectares to sell only for 20 pesos/ sq meter. But we already had commitment to the land we found. Anyway, it's good you move up there in Apolong. Wishing a happy move soon. It's a cooler living up there at higher elevation, lesser pollution. Thanks for sharing, I enjoyed your vlog.
while I was in the philippines i got my first experience with loud karaoke. it was a party next door while in the hotel. It was strange for me but my partner was like this is normal culture. In the end we both just went outside and stood on the balcony in the nice warm night weather and just listened and had a good time our selves. I think its important to try and adapt as best you can.
Leah and Gary, thank you for telling us the bad along with the good. I am sorry you have vengeful neighbors - that is not only stressful but dangerous because you never know what form their vengeance will take the next time. From what I have seen from you and other vloggers, the Philippines is more noisy than where I live and that is socially acceptable: roosters, dogs, home Karaoke, etc. It is a foreigner’s responsibility to adjust to their host country’s norms. If they can’t do that they should return to their home country.
This is why I could probably never live in the Philippines, unless it was out in the country with no close neighbors because that’s what I have now here in the United States, I am very noise sensitive, I don’t recall being this way as a child, but I certainly am now, I guess it’s a combination of many things along with PTSD, just for my mental health I need peace and quiet, but I would never get violent with anyone. I lived in cities and suburbs for most of my life, 11 years ago I searched out a place to find that peace and quiet and luckily I had the finances to be able to do it, I found a peaceful 5 acres, and a home in the country.😊
@@humpy936 Knowing what you like and need is half of the puzzle to happiness. I wonder how many expats move to the Philippines never knowing how important peace and quiet is for them, only to return home because they need it. You are fortunate to know this about yourself. Many don’t.
Hi guys.. Great video.. I appreciate your honesty and openness about what you going through.. I have lived next to roosters…. Then next to dogs…. Then next to pigs…. lol 😂 There is always something that is a negative, but often the positives outweigh the negatives.. it was great to bump into you around Duma… God bless..
Q: Am I the common denominator in the choices ( positive and negative ) that continue to show up in my life? A: In my experence the answer is unequivocally, YES!
If you are buying or renting a house here and don't want neighbor issues get something on a large lot and make sure the house is in the middle of the property so there's not a home right up on top of you. Subdivisions here have the same issues here. I will say my fiancee did have Philipino neighbor issues in her subdivision, so not all locals are well behaved and respectful.
Glad to find you, guys, here on YT. I am sorry Dumaguete did not work out for you. I live here and yes, it is full of foreigners, especially in Valencia. I just noticed most of them drive the motorcycles like maniacs. 😂
Im curious why kariokes have the volume up. Im a Manila local and when I go to the province I can hear karioke a mile away. Excuses abound but it's basically a lack of respect for others right to silence. Please turn the volume down and preserve the peace.
I've had drunken neighbors doing loud Karaoke all night into the next day - when they're not fighting and yelling! It's more fun in the Philippines - LOL!
@@rolosnickers8562 it’s so hard to listen to AC/DC with low volume, I use my headphones. You are right one of the best rock band ever. River Platte was one of the best concerts I’ve ever been to!
Hi guys, sorry these problems are following you around. Personally I’m seriously considering moving there for many reasons and being around foreigners is not one of them. I choose to live a simple life here in Australia and people seem to feel sorry for me. I look forward to a province life style, simple and efficient. Anyway good luck and please keep us updated. Thanks.
I’m one who likes rock music, BUT it is all about respect, I absolutely love the Philippines and and the people, I’m in the process of buying a house now, but the one thing I did was make sure I’m living in an area that doesn’t have a lot of foreigners, I’m trying to get away from all the problems in my country so I don’t want to move to another country just to deal with the same thing, I wish you luck in finding your 2nd perfect home
My province girl and I visited Duma and Valencia in 2022 and the first thing my Filipina said was "There are SOOOOOO many foreigners here!" My retirement destination is Tagaytay and planning for 2027. We also want to visit Iloilo. That place is SUPER clean and not as many foreigners. Good luck to you guys, but moving out of Duma is not a bad idea.
Very sorry to hear that guys. As an American who's lived/worked in a few dozed countries I completely understand. The sense of entitlement of many westerners is crazy. We Expats need to remember that we are guests in their home and it is our job to learn, adapt and embrace the Philippine Culture. The People are the Philippines and I just can't understand why people who don't like the Philippine people and culture choose to come there in the first place ... it makes no sense to me. At all.
a change for the better can be a wonderful thing but an adopted japanese karaoke pastime certainly has not enhanced the philippines. ignorance is bliss. seeing something that is wrong and burying your head in the sand and doing nothing about it is a sin. people emigrate to other countries for many reasons but one of those reasons is that they recognise the potential that may exist. change comes from within but change cant occur if poor people want to lie that their life is great and that concerned foreigners should only be seen as guests. are the 3 million american filipino citizens just guests?
It sometimes is hard to love your neighbors. Maybe if you show them some perfect love like taking over a gift or inviting them to a barbecue. ❤️ Running may put right into a similar situation. ❤
I’m from the US and we have foreign communities and I grew up next to a Filipino community and had lots of Filipino friends and my favorite thing about hanging out with them was the feeling that I was in a foreign country. These foreign communities have their micro cultures and yes we can’t change the Philippines but we bring something to the Philippines to add to it’s uniqueness 🤷🏻♂️ there aren’t many foreigners where I live and I rarely see any and we have Filipinos that live behind us that are very loud and it was quite annoying but I took care of that issue by having rockwool insulation in the attic which reduced the noise and heat in our house significantly. Now we can enjoy living here and our neighbors music doesn’t bother us.
I really enjoy listening to Leah. A very good spirit, a sweet spirit, is shown in her. I hope y'all continue being blessed. I hope to be blessed in the same way. Sounds like those foreigners need to be taught some hillbilly justice 💪😂 Kudos to you Gary. I think I would have a much more difficult time, especially when someone comes over trying to handle the wife so rudely. I have a short fuse when someone attacks family. I start nothing but I like finishing it 😂
Dumaguete appears to be cheaper to rent in, but Valencia is a little closer to my ideals. I do not know if I got it in me, but if I ever do, I might very well land in Dumaguete, and settle in Valencia. Respect goes a long way wherever we go, and it is generally good policy to show others the respect they desire to be shown, save only that the truth is not betrayed in doing so.
Good guys ALWAYS finish last. I would love to have neighbors like you guys. Take care and I will pray that you find a good place. This place (Earth) is going bad, you moving may be the best. God is Sovereign and I am sure he moves you because he loves you guys and he is getting you out of bad situations. Take care.....
I go to ex pat groups and their rationale why they always complain is that they spend a lot of money and help the philippine economy so they can tell locals what to do
You are so right, Leah and Gary, when you say that foreigners should adjust to the locals and not the other way round. It is THEIR country and we are so lucky to be accepted there. We have the same problem here in Belgium (and the rest of Europe for that matter) with foreigners who won't adapt to our way of life. In our case, most of them are Muslims. They want to live here the way they did at home and stick to their rituals, while they want us to give up ours. And our politicians have been much too leniant in allowing this. Catholic schools that were named after a Saint have been renamed to accommodate the increasing number of Muslims being educated there. Why should we do that? It's our country and we have a Christian culture. Crucifixes have been removed from city halls and court houses because the government wanted to aim for religious nutrality, but at the same time Muslim women are allowed to work in these buildings wearing their traditional head covers. So aren't we replacing one religion with another? I have nothing against Muslims - as a matter of fact I respect every religion - but I don't agree that we are letting their religion, traditions and culture dominate our society. So people, when you move to the Philippines or any other country, don't do the things there that we dislike about foreigners in our home country.
I am so sorry that your going through this as Christian’s we must take everything to God in prayer 🤲 which I am sure you are doing. It is only a season that will pass, God has his reasons that are beyond our understanding but his plan for you is perfect may God bless you and guide you love you both my brother and sister in Christ Amen 🙏
So sorry to hear this Leah and Gary. How incredibly frustrating and annoying. I watched and enjoyed the ladies Xmas party and how the neighbors could find a problem with it is beyond me???? Huge kudos to you Gary for having the maturity sadly lacking with this next door afam. I wish that after talking to him they may simmer down. If not I do hope that you find something better. Yes all of the vloggers since lock down have put Dumaguete on the map for all the wrong reasons for quite a few foreigners. I truly hope that this turns around for the better. Kind regards, Adrian and Che.
I've been to Dumaguete a few times. I really don't get the fascination with the place. I would be in Cebú if I wanted to hang out with foreigners and wanted amenities.
Well, our neighbours do KTV until 1.00am, and I'm a foreigner and we didn't complain yet. We own our home so can't move, but that's life in the Philippines. Blessings to you and your family.
My brother and sister, it seems you're being a little reactionary. Please consider turning your situation over to the Lord. He's led you to your promised land, now let God fight the battle for you to keep it. Pray for your neighbor. Show them love. Don't surrender, but claim victory according to the Lord's will. I'm sure Andrew and your church will hold you both up in faith. Love you both.
I am moving to Dumaguete from Manila. Mainly from watching UA-cam videos. I just want to live somewhere more laid back. I understand people singing Karaoke. I don't see why some people have such a problem adapting to another country. Honestly I would rather live a little farther away from where any foreigners are staying. I was previously thinking about moving to Cebu. Hopefully meet someone to get married one day. Then get some land to have like a farm/homestead. I did ask a UA-camr for advice and she recommended Dumaguete over Cebu. So I purchased my ferry ticket to move at the end of the month. Well thank you both making and posting this video. This will give me something to think about when looking for a place.
I agree, the people having problems aren't able to adapt and change to their new environment, it's a different country, don't expect it to be just like home. Being in the military and stationed/deployed in many countries, I had to adapt and learn, it's not always easy, but it can be done. Your home should be your sanctuary and you shouldn't have to walk around on egg shells in it. This is one reason I would want to be in a place with as few foreigners as possible. We're creatures of habit, we stick to what we know, if you're around foreigners you will behave as a foreigner. If you're around locals you will have the chance to learn about the culture and adapt.
It’s so infuriating to hear of westerners moving to the Philippines and disrespecting the locals like this. I’m so sorry you had to experience that!! ❤
Really Interesting video. I didn't know Dumagete was so bad. It was on our list to check out when we move. When I moved to the Philippines I was all for integrating into the culture and love it more than my home country. I never see a foreigner where I live and don't really mind. I can't imagine living somewhere where foreigners expect people to fit in with them. They can go home. Also the negative UA-camrs who focus on negative stereotypes. done with them too.
It's not really bad here, we have just had some bad luck with foreign neighbours. Mostly the foreigners here are good people. Dumaguete is a good place to live but there are a lot of expats.
Sorry you’re having to deal with that kind of neighbor, and that it’s happened to you in multiple locations. I hope you manage to find a place where you can quietly enjoy your home without having to move far from your social network. I’m sure your friends will miss you both. If it’s as ramshackle as you say, perhaps you should buy the house next door and evict them. ;)
There definitely has to be balance when two cultures meet as one. Give and take, live and learn and respect each others culture. As neighbors, to give and take, live and learn and respect each other especially when there are two cultures involved. Probably one of the negatives about living in the Philippines is Karaoke. I would think it is not being against Karaoke as much as how loud it can get. Hopefully, making every effort of getting to know your neighbors (and I think, there is only one that is of concern) and understanding that respect and kindness on both sides of the fence is the way to go. Don't move, you are so happy there, get to know and appreciate the neighbors and in turn let them appreciate and get to know you.
He could stay in a mad house. I know of only two: Mandaluyong Mental in Manila and SIH Mental in Cebu. If you are in Dumaguete, you need to travel. Cebu is just across Tanon Strait, so I recommend SIH.
If you know the owner maybe you could ask if they would consider not renewing the lease and then you could wait until it runs out, at least you would have a timescale to think about it, instead of having to move from your dream home.
Have you ever heard of earbuds? Just put them on, and all someone will hear is your voice. Karaoke is great for celebrating events but I suggest you invite your neighbors over next time. Respect works both ways.
I'm so sorry to hear this guys. I really enjoy having you around. I hope you can stay not too far from Dumaguete cause it would be sad to lose you. Thanks so much for your channel and your kind spirit. You both were used by God to direct me here and I'm so thankful to be free from the crazy life in California. God bless you as you follow Him where He leads. :)
A change of location will be a rest for you both. ( so sad to leave a tremendous yard, fruit trees, and nice house). The problem really is not singing karaoke, it is the volume knob; too bad people have to crank up the volume; why not throw away the microphone? Anyways, Gary, this could be a real positive for your family if you find a more rural setting with clean air to breath, and less traffic!
I really want to just start laughing because Ive never seen Leah get so worked up as your vlog progresses, shes pissed! Hahaha. I completely understand your frustration with this guy! I want you guys to understand I do know what your going through because it happened to me ! Im from the U.S. San Diego ,California . I live within walking distance of the beach so its a beautiful day, everyday. Myself and my fiancée are a bit like you in the fact Im 6'5", 270lbs and white and she's 5', 98lbs and Filapina. We have been LDR fo❤r the last four years. I go to the Philippines every four months for two months at a timde.? We where staying in a high rise in Mactan Newtown for three months until a couple weeks ago when I came back on December 8th. There was a German guy about 70yrs old with his 22yr old girlfriend living upstairs from us. With about one month to go in our three month we started hearing our own voices seemingly carrying on a conversation really loud about 3am in the morning. The next morning security had come to our unit and said there where complaints of our load lovemaking at all hours of the morning and afternoon!! I wish I where having sex all hours of the morning and afternoon, apparently everyday. Early the next morning I was having coffee and noticed the neighbor upstairs was lowering a microphone down to our open bedroom window. He was playing our own sex sessions very loudly on home stereo speakers so loud during the day to irritate us because we where keeping him up at knight and he wasn't getting any sleep because of us. It was the weirdest thing Ive encountered here. It took me about thirty minutes to realize I was hearing my own voice and various other sounds. WHAT A FREAK THIS GUY WAS.😊😊😊😊
70 years old with a 22 year old girlfriend. And he's upset that you have a love life. Sounds like he's jealous that you're having the kind of fun he can't have any more.
I don’t blame you both for this form of thinking. Dumaguete is not what it used to be. It has lost its lovely Filipino way of life. It has now been changed by the attitude of Foreigners, that will never except the way of the wonderful Filipino culture. They seem to have this drive to Americanise a country that has an older culture. The Foreigners can be rude, arrogant. This is all a pity, as a Kiwi, I know we can all learn so much from the Filipino people. This is our four trip here to the Philippines, but will be our last. I have been married to a wonderful Filipino Lady now for 11 years. We Wish you both all the best for your future.
Great video. I see the same thing in Thailand. It's especially hard for people to understand the culture of saving face and being patient. Hot-heads and arrogance prevail. Edit: Sounds like the guy is the kind that would cause problems for your family while you're gone. Sorry you have to move. Good decision, though.
On a different aspect of what y'all are experiencing, it's interesting that the Filipinos are the ones you have no trouble with. It's the opposite here. I would think that the foreigners would be more understanding and helpful in getting along, since you're in the same situation....being far from home and what you're used to. In America, I see the opposite usually. The neighborhoods of foreigners are usually more understanding and tolerant of each. Seems like it's opposite there I have thoughts/plans to retire in the Philippines and I was always concerned that it would be the opposite....that trouble would come from the locals, for whatever reason. Not saying the locals are bad. Just acknowledging that alot of people don't like "different" coming in. I enjoy your videos. Thanks to both of you for sharing things that can be helpful in my preparing and decisions.
Maybe invite them over for a cold San Miguel beer, quek quek, balot, Isaw , lechon, etc. They are just jealous. My Mexican neighbor also do the same but it’s ok.
I'm fortunate in that there are no foreigners in my vicinity - I've met/spoken to one in 5 years. We don't live in the boonies but nor do we live in an area popular with expats. We live on the edge of a ity which no one has heard of even though it's quite close to Manila. My wife and I have 3 residential properties in high-end neighbourhoods as well as commercial properties in a nearby town, business interests. I get on just fine with my neighbours and the local shopkeepers and the people in general. Our kids have a load of friends and there's always an adult somewhere in the vicinity keeping an eye on them for safety's sake. We join in with the karaoke when it kicks in but there is a consensus in our community that it shuts down at midnight at the latest. There's always going to be people who complain, but luckily they don't live near us.
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We have a German neighbor who bought a house along the beach. Everyone's boats are there along the beach because that's just how' it has always been. This German man thought he was the Barangay PTA or something and wrote everyone letters to remove their boats from the beaches. I'm the only other foreigner. So I guess they thought I could talk some sense into him that his request wasn't going to happen. I spoke nicely to him and told him he was not being reasonable. He told me he didn't care. He then threatened to put hole in the boats in writing. The real Barangay Police Chief didn't take to kindly to it and wrote a warrant for his arrest. He escaped back to Germany before they arrested him. That's our neighbor from hell experience.
@@americanandpinay WOW, Crazy!
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Back to america is good.
Nope!
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Yeah, don't get me going about his poor wife. I'm hoping she gets away from him. She's from somewhere north of Angeles. I guess she's 21 now, but she would have been 19 when he married her. He's around 70 now. He moved her as far away from her family as he could get her. She rarely ever left the house and when she did he would stand in the window or door staring and waiting on her. If he saw her talking to another Filipina and they spoke for too long he would be right there on top of them and saying she needed to come back to the house. If he thought she was speaking to another man or boy he was yelling from the door that he needed her help. As I said, the police captain told him in front of about everyone that he was going to write up warrants to let a judge decide what should happen and the man fled with his wife. We haven't seen them since May 2023, but we think about her every day and we worry about her. She's a sweet child who didn't know what she was getting into. I don't know anything about Germany and its benefits, but I pray it's worth it for her. It is a good lesson for my nieces that it's better to have some maturity and find yourself first before you give yourself away to someone. You never know if you're in a relationship with a monster until you live with them.
I was influenced NOT to go to Dramaguete because of UA-cam and all the drama I saw. I have been in S.E. Asia now for the better part of 14 years and I have never lived near expats. I live amongst the locals. It's how I've always been and always will be. If I wanted to hang out with Americans/Expats, I wouldn't have left the U.S. in the first place.
I agree with you ,i enjoyed older vloggers like old dog ,but I quit watching most channels because of all the petty bickering, gossiping and badmouthing ,I would never live in duma with all this drama ,it leaves a bad impression to those of us that are considering going there .grown people on both sides acting like preteens is unacceptable
ditto
dramaguete
Same here..... youtube taught me not to bother even visiting dramaguete 😂 a couple of other places to avoid too. Its all about that province life for me and my better half 😁 I love the province life so much peace and tranquility and beautiful scenery 🥰🥰
Sorry but hoping you will explore about Dumague because alot if foreigner choose to live here 😊
The beauty of the Philippines has always been the people and the landscape that God has blessed them with. I would never want to live there surrounded by foreigners like myself for me personally that would defeat my purpose for moving to the Philippines in the first place. Im sure you guys will flourish no matter where you are i just hope you can continue to share your blessings of encouragement with the rest of the world 🙏
This logic needs to apply EVERY country you move to including western countries. If you go there, you HAVE to assimilate or get out! Simple. Their needs to be a total assimilation policy in check.
Because American people think that if they pout and complain the Philippines government will change there economy according to there satisfaction 🤔🤣yea not going to happen.
You two are so nice! I would have told the guy to F off while my wife laughed at him.
The guy is a bully and picked his target while you were out. You should at least tell this guy not to bully your wife . You are obliged to protect your partner in a forceful but non violent manner.
Gary did just that when he talked to the guy. Gary even got the guy to admit he was being vengeful. The fact that he admitted that shows Gary was skilled and tactful in how he talked to the guy. Gary appears to have reduced the tension enough to enable an honest discussion between the two. I am not suggesting they are friends, but Gary confronted the neighbor in a way that is not only non-violent, but also encouraged some rapport. He is skillfully protecting his wife by doing that.
Foreigner complains about seeing other foreigners. haha. Im still in love with Leah😍😍
Pointing speakers toward their neighbors home, blaring AC/DC from 3 to 9 is outright harassment.
I love the family values that this channel espouses. I'm certainly not hating on any bloggers, and I'm not blaming them for the problems that anyone is experiencing in the Phillipines. If anything, I blame the foreigners moving into the Phillipines, but those local channels where they are talking about things that should only occur between a husband and wife and where the women are barely wearing any clothes, is going to attract the wrong kind of foreigners to the Phillipines!
The very things that have made your channel popular are the values you talk about that decent people want to leave the West for. Thank you for espousing moral values. Warning to those who are not... It will ruin the Philippines just as it has the West❗️
That's so true, they will make Filipina look bad And attract the wrong expat.
Thank you for watching!🫡❤
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673The neighbor fits the stereotype who don't respect Filipinas. It is pretty funny Gary goes all the way across the world to find happiness and your wonderful home is uprooted by exactly what he tried to escape!!
I hope you find a place and your family find a wonderful place to live. As an American with a Filipina fiancé who hopes to one day retire in your amazing country I find it sad that fofeigners do not respect the laws of the Philippines. Good luck in your journey to find the perfect home.
There is a youtuber with name something like red zone mindenao who is exactly what you are talking about. He posts photos of mostly naked women as the thumbnail for his video and then tries to convince in the videos how he is all about helping the people and morals and integrity. I love this channel because they are very clear about their faith and you see it in their sweet kids and the way they treat each other. They are living what is meant by the phrase American Dream.
Yep, agree. The type content you put out is the type audience you will get. Put out useful/helpful information and good wholesome content and you will get the good respectable people. Put out content with eye candy click bait, drama, talking about sexual topics, dressing trashy in tight skimpy clothes for nothing more than attention and clicks&views, and you will attract the perverts, argumentative, rude and disrespectful type audience. A Filipina doing those things put her loyalty, faithfulness, and trust into question. Any foreigner with a Filipina that does those things should remind himself, he left his country to get AWAY from women with those behaviors, why fly half way around the world to end up with one.
I mentioned those things on another Filipina's channel because she was doing those things and her channel had about 1K subscribers. After mentioning it she changed and started putting out useful info and dressed more conservatively and her channel has jumped up to almost 14K subscribers now in a couple months. The comments are mostly positive, some constructive criticism, but no longer just trashy comments. I gave the same constructive criticism on another channel and she continues to do the same thing and her channel has not grown at all.
Who would've thought importing large numbers of foreign causes problems for the native population?
The age old problem... you can't choose your neighbours and you can't choose your family. Both of these can make life a pain. Good luck guys.
You can choose your neighbors. It's called moving. It's just difficult.
True, true.
When I was a kid Cebu was the most advertised city in the Philippines around the world. Now whenever you type in Philippines. Dumaguete is the first city that comes out on the search results on youtube. Dumaguete is the most advertised city around the world.
Gary, maybe the reason you guys found that house at a very good price is because you neighbors drove the old tenants out of the house just like they are driving you out. Before you leave you should talk to several area neighbors to see if they have had the same problems with those particular neighbors. If they have had problems, maybe you guys can collectively file a complaint with the local authorities against these neighbors. You may also ask your landlord how many tenants have left that house due to these neighbors. If these neighbors have caused other tenants to vacant, maybe the local authorities can see that these people need to be pressured to live in the province. Why should you guys, or any other neighbors, have to leave a house you are very comfortable in, just because you have some foreigners trying to force you guys to change your customs. Your wife and the other local Filipinos need to put their foot down, before this type of behavior from foreigners become an epidemic.
Oh! Yes! Sic the HOA on them! Lol, talk about a Karen response.
Maybe, maybe, maybe.....@@TheBeatenGeneration
Very. Cheerfull
Sometimes, the best way to handle a neighbor like this when you have a party is to invite them. Even arrogant people are much more tolerant of people that they like.
Don’t give up just yet. He found the perfect house and hopefully this situation was a one and done thing. You were definitely the better man for yelling on speaking with him and hopefully he can see that as well. It was really nice to meet you at the coffee shop today but I just wanted to say thank you for the nice conversation.
Listen to yourselves. Talk about contradictions. Very hypocritical. Sad.
"They come here and expect the Philippines to change to their culture" I'm sad to say this, but it's the same thing in Austria with the so-called "refugees" from middle-eastern countries, only difference is that here it's working for the foreigners. With Austria being a hypersocial state, we welcome all these people into our country with open arms, while they know nothing about our culture and they have no interest in learning about our culture, learning our language or our laws and traditions, and the governments provides them everything they need + more, all funded by taxpayers...
Yes, Western Society is destroying itself this way, same thing here in the US, everything for the foreigners, and depleting our resources, and to hell with the citizens.
Same problem in Sweden, i wounder how this will end?
@@peraakeoerneving1955 I think over the next 20-30 years, maybe 50, one of two things will happen. Either the governments will realize the threat (but if so, that has to happen soon) and establish stricter immigration policies instead of just accepting everyone. This would allow us to better control how many, and more importantly: what kind of people enter our country, and we could accept only the ones with a good background and only as many of them as we can afford.
Or, and this is more likely knowing our government, we change nothing and watch what happens. And then in 50 years, the people from arabic/muslim background will no longer make up 10% but over 30%, maybe even 50% of our population because a lot of natives don't want to have kids any more while immigrants often have lots of kids. And then our whole society is going to completely shift away from the cultural norms and traditions we're used do.
@@TomHenksYT I totally agree with you.
From. Usa wars IN. Mid. East.
So lesson to learn in the Philippines if you want a peaceful life don’t have neighbours got it 👍🏿
Ted here, Elvie's husband, this is why I live in northwest Bohol where there are few foreigners and things are mostly peaceful.
I will live in center of Bohol island
If you find a new place, maybe try to buy extra land surrounding your place so you have some privacy. Also build a nice sound-proof karaoke room so you can sing your hearts out, relax and have a good time. Take the high road and move on. Life is too short to deal with people like your neighbor.
Yep sound proofing and double glazed windows are a must in the Philippines. That's why hotel rooms are so insulated from the traffic noise.
Sorry to hear! Thanks God my Canadian husband loves the rooster noise esp in the morning and karaoke doesn’t bother him at all, he loves it instead. When we visited my province, Bohol, we stayed at the resort for a month and there is karaoke every night and we loved it. Gives us good vibes. One time, we came back to the hotel without karaoke, it was so quiet and lonely.
Thanks! don't let others take your joy away. Best of luck!!
Thank you
This is very informative. God bless!
I've never lived overseas, but I have lived all over the United States, north, south, and the east coast to the west coast.
Even people who have lived in the US all of their lives are surprised by the difference in life styles and cultural differences in this country depending on where you live. (And a lot of them can't even adapt difference places in the states)
I've never had difficulty adjusting to this difference.
I'm very easygoing and have a great interest in different cultures, and I have been researching and learning everything I can about the Philippines, the good and the bad for several years now.
So far, the good outweighs the bad by a large margin.
Personally, I'm a simple Ozark hillbilly and love a simple lifestyle, in a more isolated setting and a life in the province is very intriguing and desirable to me.
I don't do well in large crowded cities. Where I live now, the closest town is about ten miles away from me and has a population of about 3,000 people.
The closest actual city is 64 miles away (Richmond Virginia)
I will be retiring in two or three more years, and the philippines is number one on my list.
I hope and pray that you two find a place soon that will be adequate for your lifestyle and still be able to enjoy the things that you enjoy.
God bless and good luck.
if your music is loud enough to bother your neighbor be a good neighbor and turn it down
I am used to it, however for some reason karaoke here has to be as loud as their music system allows. I think that is where the problem lies. Usually the singing and music can be heard pretty far away. It's not to say that the filipino neighbors are happy about it, they just don't want to start a problem and let it go.
Hapy are the Peace makers. do not be conquered by evil , 1Peter 3:9 not paying injury for injury . I hope you can stay and the peace will return .
That's a bummer...hope you find a place that makes you both comfortable. I understand what you mean. I am an American living in Korea. I have been here since 2002, and most problems have come from foreigners not Koreans. Happy holidays!
It's the bass that shakes the house that bothering me ,when you have 3 or 4 in your area one of them is almost a half mile away so loud, almost every day, but it happens 😊
Thanks for this video. I learned how to avoid tht problem.
Some people are so unhappy that the only time they feel better is when they can blame someone else loudly and angrily(cuz that makes them right). It is sad but misery loves company. I would not be surprised to learn that the "neighbor" has had this same experience at every place they have lived at. It's always someone else's fault that they have to act like that, I'm sure. Best of luck in the future, friends and best wishes to you and the family!
Philipino people are excellent neighbors in Canada, too. They’re like neighbors used to be 40 years ago. Respectful, generous, kind. I’ve lived in this neighborhood for 5 years and I’m not even on speaking terms with most of my Canadian neighbors. We just don’t know and we don’t care.
I'm only new to your vlog. Interesting topic you have here. I'm a fili still living outside the country, in a city and we have new noisy neighbours with teenage kids who are noisy. It doesn't bother me. Then we have another new neighbour who moved two blocks away who love parties. In the summer, they always have parties, loud music even up past 10 pm. Still it doesn't bother me as a Fili as I get used to it. But some of their neighbours get bothered. Sometimes I enjoyed listening their 80's 90's classic tunes whilst gardening at our backyard, lols.😁 People who can't adopt with much noise should move to rural less populated locations. Acquiring a big land and living in it allows more space away from neighbours. We were there in early 90's. My hubby is a westerner and we hung out with some few the expats living in Duma during those days, few of them living in the southern towns, couple of them passed away, there are few remaining. It's true the expat population there seemed have exploded. Dumaguete has been in the global retirement spotlight 4 times in nearly 2 decades. I remember the first publicity of Dumaguete as a retirement hub was in 2007 USA TODAY. Dumaguete was listed as one of the top 20 retirement places in the world, including Cayman Islands. So those western based publicity of Dgte in the past succeeding years now has seen results, has drawn retirees from around the world plus vlogging and online sites has contributed to the influx. However, Dumaguete is a smaller compact city, it's like a town, experiencing abrupt change within a shorter space of time. Updating the system anew is such a challenge for once was idyllic town of Duma. But the province of Negros Oriental is vast. It's easier to be away from foreigners when in the towns outside Dumaguete. We have a place uphill from Duma, but nearer Dgte, no house yet, without the traffic jam it's approx 20 minutes to the Robinson's mall. There was one expat living in the neighbourhood in 2003 when we bought the land, he is a quiet man living to himself and he passed away 7 years ago, he must be in his 90's. But 20 years onwards, to this day there are 3 expats guys living in the area. It doesn't bother us, in fact it's nice to have expat neighbours, when they're nice people, why not? 20 years ago, land prices in upper Valencia was only 80 to 150 pesos per sq meter. We were there looking for land in Apolong too. There was in Timbao Bacong, lands of 4 hectares to sell only for 20 pesos/ sq meter. But we already had commitment to the land we found. Anyway, it's good you move up there in Apolong. Wishing a happy move soon. It's a cooler living up there at higher elevation, lesser pollution. Thanks for sharing, I enjoyed your vlog.
while I was in the philippines i got my first experience with loud karaoke. it was a party next door while in the hotel. It was strange for me but my partner was like this is normal culture. In the end we both just went outside and stood on the balcony in the nice warm night weather and just listened and had a good time our selves. I think its important to try and adapt as best you can.
Most in the PH can NOT sing. It can be loud annoying and you’d think being shy they’d be embarrassed. Nope. Oh well ear plugs are cheap.
Leah and Gary, thank you for telling us the bad along with the good. I am sorry you have vengeful neighbors - that is not only stressful but dangerous because you never know what form their vengeance will take the next time. From what I have seen from you and other vloggers, the Philippines is more noisy than where I live and that is socially acceptable: roosters, dogs, home Karaoke, etc. It is a foreigner’s responsibility to adjust to their host country’s norms. If they can’t do that they should return to their home country.
This is why I could probably never live in the Philippines, unless it was out in the country with no close neighbors because that’s what I have now here in the United States, I am very noise sensitive, I don’t recall being this way as a child, but I certainly am now, I guess it’s a combination of many things along with PTSD, just for my mental health I need peace and quiet, but I would never get violent with anyone.
I lived in cities and suburbs for most of my life, 11 years ago I searched out a place to find that peace and quiet and luckily I had the finances to be able to do it, I found a peaceful 5 acres, and a home in the country.😊
@@humpy936 Knowing what you like and need is half of the puzzle to happiness. I wonder how many expats move to the Philippines never knowing how important peace and quiet is for them, only to return home because they need it. You are fortunate to know this about yourself. Many don’t.
@@beachkid1
Most cities in the USA the police will never even show up for noise complaints, I suggest you turn your caps off.
Hi guys..
Great video.. I appreciate your honesty and openness about what you going through..
I have lived next to roosters…. Then next to dogs…. Then next to pigs…. lol 😂
There is always something that is a negative, but often the positives outweigh the negatives..
it was great to bump into you around Duma… God bless..
Q: Am I the common denominator in the choices ( positive and negative ) that continue to show up in my life? A: In my experence the answer is unequivocally, YES!
If you are buying or renting a house here and don't want neighbor issues get something on a large lot and make sure the house is in the middle of the property so there's not a home right up on top of you. Subdivisions here have the same issues here. I will say my fiancee did have Philipino neighbor issues in her subdivision, so not all locals are well behaved and respectful.
thanks for sharing ! important to know!!
You guys are great together, sad that others ruin your piece of paradise.
Good luck finding somewhere more suitable :)
Glad to find you, guys, here on YT. I am sorry Dumaguete did not work out for you. I live here and yes, it is full of foreigners, especially in Valencia. I just noticed most of them drive the motorcycles like maniacs. 😂
Im curious why kariokes have the volume up. Im a Manila local and when I go to the province I can hear karioke a mile away. Excuses abound but it's basically a lack of respect for others right to silence. Please turn the volume down and preserve the peace.
Ohhhh. And i live in a block of apartments in downtown. no noise, dogs, cats, roosters. quiet.
My heart goes out to the 2 of you and your family.
Great video guys,you are keeping it real good or bad. :-) Thanks
I've had drunken neighbors doing loud Karaoke all night into the next day - when they're not fighting and yelling! It's more fun in the Philippines - LOL!
The neighbors were playing ACDC one of the greatest rock bands ever, but yes everyone should be respectful of eachother
@@rolosnickers8562 it’s so hard to listen to AC/DC with low volume, I use my headphones. You are right one of the best rock band ever. River Platte was one of the best concerts I’ve ever been to!
Hi guys, sorry these problems are following you around. Personally I’m seriously considering moving there for many reasons and being around foreigners is not one of them. I choose to live a simple life here in Australia and people seem to feel sorry for me. I look forward to a province life style, simple and efficient. Anyway good luck and please keep us updated. Thanks.
I’m one who likes rock music, BUT it is all about respect, I absolutely love the Philippines and and the people, I’m in the process of buying a house now, but the one thing I did was make sure I’m living in an area that doesn’t have a lot of foreigners, I’m trying to get away from all the problems in my country so I don’t want to move to another country just to deal with the same thing, I wish you luck in finding your 2nd perfect home
My province girl and I visited Duma and Valencia in 2022 and the first thing my Filipina said was "There are SOOOOOO many foreigners here!" My retirement destination is Tagaytay and planning for 2027. We also want to visit Iloilo. That place is SUPER clean and not as many foreigners. Good luck to you guys, but moving out of Duma is not a bad idea.
I travel the world and see this all the time. Respect and kindness sometimes is not enough for these dopes.
Very sorry to hear that guys. As an American who's lived/worked in a few dozed countries I completely understand. The sense of entitlement of many westerners is crazy. We Expats need to remember that we are guests in their home and it is our job to learn, adapt and embrace the Philippine Culture. The People are the Philippines and I just can't understand why people who don't like the Philippine people and culture choose to come there in the first place ... it makes no sense to me. At all.
a change for the better can be a wonderful thing but an adopted japanese karaoke pastime certainly has not enhanced the philippines. ignorance is bliss. seeing something that is wrong and burying your head in the sand and doing nothing about it is a sin. people emigrate to other countries for many reasons but one of those reasons is that they recognise the potential that may exist. change comes from within but change cant occur if poor people want to lie that their life is great and that concerned foreigners should only be seen as guests. are the 3 million american filipino citizens just guests?
Phenomenal video. Thanks, my wife, and I want to live in the province areas. Ready to leave the US
Leah looks worked up hehe. Good luck to you both.
It sometimes is hard to love your neighbors. Maybe if you show them some perfect love like taking over a gift or inviting them to a barbecue. ❤️ Running may put right into a similar situation. ❤
Its all about that province life for me 🥰 i love being in the province me and my partner are currently looking to move
I’m from the US and we have foreign communities and I grew up next to a Filipino community and had lots of Filipino friends and my favorite thing about hanging out with them was the feeling that I was in a foreign country. These foreign communities have their micro cultures and yes we can’t change the Philippines but we bring something to the Philippines to add to it’s uniqueness 🤷🏻♂️ there aren’t many foreigners where I live and I rarely see any and we have Filipinos that live behind us that are very loud and it was quite annoying but I took care of that issue by having rockwool insulation in the attic which reduced the noise and heat in our house significantly. Now we can enjoy living here and our neighbors music doesn’t bother us.
we were not impressed with Dumaguette the day we visited. Just trying to find the shopping mall was a pain. Crazy traffic too.
I really enjoy listening to Leah. A very good spirit, a sweet spirit, is shown in her. I hope y'all continue being blessed. I hope to be blessed in the same way.
Sounds like those foreigners need to be taught some hillbilly justice 💪😂
Kudos to you Gary. I think I would have a much more difficult time, especially when someone comes over trying to handle the wife so rudely. I have a short fuse when someone attacks family. I start nothing but I like finishing it 😂
Dumaguete appears to be cheaper to rent in, but Valencia is a little closer to my ideals. I do not know if I got it in me, but if I ever do, I might very well land in Dumaguete, and settle in Valencia. Respect goes a long way wherever we go, and it is generally good policy to show others the respect they desire to be shown, save only that the truth is not betrayed in doing so.
Good guys ALWAYS finish last. I would love to have neighbors like you guys. Take care and I will pray that you find a good place. This place (Earth) is going bad, you moving may be the best. God is Sovereign and I am sure he moves you because he loves you guys and he is getting you out of bad situations. Take care.....
I go to ex pat groups and their rationale why they always complain is that they spend a lot of money and help the philippine economy so they can tell locals what to do
You are so right, Leah and Gary, when you say that foreigners should adjust to the locals and not the other way round. It is THEIR country and we are so lucky to be accepted there. We have the same problem here in Belgium (and the rest of Europe for that matter) with foreigners who won't adapt to our way of life. In our case, most of them are Muslims. They want to live here the way they did at home and stick to their rituals, while they want us to give up ours. And our politicians have been much too leniant in allowing this. Catholic schools that were named after a Saint have been renamed to accommodate the increasing number of Muslims being educated there. Why should we do that? It's our country and we have a Christian culture. Crucifixes have been removed from city halls and court houses because the government wanted to aim for religious nutrality, but at the same time Muslim women are allowed to work in these buildings wearing their traditional head covers. So aren't we replacing one religion with another? I have nothing against Muslims - as a matter of fact I respect every religion - but I don't agree that we are letting their religion, traditions and culture dominate our society. So people, when you move to the Philippines or any other country, don't do the things there that we dislike about foreigners in our home country.
I am so sorry that your going through this as Christian’s we must take everything to God in prayer 🤲 which I am sure you are doing. It is only a season that will pass, God has his reasons that are beyond our understanding but his plan for you is perfect may God bless you and guide you love you both my brother and sister in Christ Amen 🙏
Come to Siquior guys! Here is a peaceful island with lovely people and you are always welcome!
So sorry to hear this Leah and Gary. How incredibly frustrating and annoying. I watched and enjoyed the ladies Xmas party and how the neighbors could find a problem with it is beyond me???? Huge kudos to you Gary for having the maturity sadly lacking with this next door afam. I wish that after talking to him they may simmer down. If not I do hope that you find something better. Yes all of the vloggers since lock down have put Dumaguete on the map for all the wrong reasons for quite a few foreigners. I truly hope that this turns around for the better.
Kind regards,
Adrian and Che.
I've been to Dumaguete a few times. I really don't get the fascination with the place. I would be in Cebú if I wanted to hang out with foreigners and wanted amenities.
Well, our neighbours do KTV until 1.00am, and I'm a foreigner and we didn't complain yet. We own our home so can't move, but that's life in the Philippines. Blessings to you and your family.
My brother and sister, it seems you're being a little reactionary. Please consider turning your situation over to the Lord. He's led you to your promised land, now let God fight the battle for you to keep it. Pray for your neighbor. Show them love. Don't surrender, but claim victory according to the Lord's will. I'm sure Andrew and your church will hold you both up in faith. Love you both.
I am moving to Dumaguete from Manila. Mainly from watching UA-cam videos. I just want to live somewhere more laid back. I understand people singing Karaoke. I don't see why some people have such a problem adapting to another country. Honestly I would rather live a little farther away from where any foreigners are staying. I was previously thinking about moving to Cebu. Hopefully meet someone to get married one day. Then get some land to have like a farm/homestead. I did ask a UA-camr for advice and she recommended Dumaguete over Cebu. So I purchased my ferry ticket to move at the end of the month. Well thank you both making and posting this video. This will give me something to think about when looking for a place.
Leah you also said you have been told before to turn the music down. So maybe also show respect and keep music down so you dont annoy others.
Over my 20 years living and working overseas I’ve found the differences make the experience better.
I agree, the people having problems aren't able to adapt and change to their new environment, it's a different country, don't expect it to be just like home. Being in the military and stationed/deployed in many countries, I had to adapt and learn, it's not always easy, but it can be done. Your home should be your sanctuary and you shouldn't have to walk around on egg shells in it. This is one reason I would want to be in a place with as few foreigners as possible. We're creatures of habit, we stick to what we know, if you're around foreigners you will behave as a foreigner. If you're around locals you will have the chance to learn about the culture and adapt.
That is the way of the Philippines dogs singing chickens there is all can of noise that's ways I'm glad my girlfriend lives out in the Province ❤❤❤
I didn't go to Dumaguete because of...You Tube. Try finding a place on the map that you've never heard of. You'll be so much happier.
I lived in bacong and it was ok but lacked interstructure
Where I live, Eastwood City... No drama :-) 1% foreigners. We have very restricted smoking areas which makes me happy.
That sucks, thanks for the info.
It’s so infuriating to hear of westerners moving to the Philippines and disrespecting the locals like this. I’m so sorry you had to experience that!! ❤
dunno about other western nations, but I sure wish foreigners that come to the U.S. would respect U.S. customs and laws more often!
I have never commented before. I live in Utah. My town is quite concervative.
I like Bocolod. Not many foreigners there. It has everything you could want. Rents aren't outrageously high. Thats going to be my retirement place.
Really Interesting video. I didn't know Dumagete was so bad. It was on our list to check out when we move. When I moved to the Philippines I was all for integrating into the culture and love it more than my home country. I never see a foreigner where I live and don't really mind. I can't imagine living somewhere where foreigners expect people to fit in with them. They can go home. Also the negative UA-camrs who focus on negative stereotypes. done with them too.
It's not really bad here, we have just had some bad luck with foreign neighbours. Mostly the foreigners here are good people. Dumaguete is a good place to live but there are a lot of expats.
I'll have to visit and see what it is like@@americanchristianinphilipp960
Sorry you’re having to deal with that kind of neighbor, and that it’s happened to you in multiple locations. I hope you manage to find a place where you can quietly enjoy your home without having to move far from your social network. I’m sure your friends will miss you both. If it’s as ramshackle as you say, perhaps you should buy the house next door and evict them. ;)
Oui, c'est une bonne idée, contacter le propriétaire et acheter la maison, le voisin sera expulsé
There definitely has to be balance when two cultures meet as one. Give and take, live and learn and respect each others culture. As neighbors, to give and take, live and learn and respect each other especially when there are two cultures involved. Probably one of the negatives about living in the Philippines is Karaoke. I would think it is not being against Karaoke as much as how loud it can get. Hopefully, making every effort of getting to know your neighbors (and I think, there is only one that is of concern) and understanding that respect and kindness on both sides of the fence is the way to go. Don't move, you are so happy there, get to know and appreciate the neighbors and in turn let them appreciate and get to know you.
He could stay in a mad house. I know of only two: Mandaluyong Mental in Manila and SIH Mental in Cebu. If you are in Dumaguete, you need to travel. Cebu is just across Tanon Strait, so I recommend SIH.
If you know the owner maybe you could ask if they would consider not renewing the lease and then you could wait until it runs out, at least you would have a timescale to think about it, instead of having to move from your dream home.
Have you ever heard of earbuds? Just put them on, and all someone will hear is your voice. Karaoke is great for celebrating events but I suggest you invite your neighbors over next time. Respect works both ways.
I hear Iloilo is a clean, safe town.
I'm so sorry to hear this guys. I really enjoy having you around. I hope you can stay not too far from Dumaguete cause it would be sad to lose you. Thanks so much for your channel and your kind spirit. You both were used by God to direct me here and I'm so thankful to be free from the crazy life in California. God bless you as you follow Him where He leads. :)
The neighborhood is the most important think to look at. I will „settle down in Dauin“ soon - hope there is no Karaoke / Dogs / Roosters / Pigery :)
Come on over to Bacolod and hang out with this Canadian Foreigner ;)
You always have a chance to get a BAD neighbor no matter WHERE you live in the world! So good luck!
Question is who is the bad neighbor what’s good for the goose is good for the gander
A change of location will be a rest for you both. ( so sad to leave a tremendous yard, fruit trees, and nice house). The problem really is not singing karaoke, it is the volume knob; too bad people have to crank up the volume; why not throw away the microphone? Anyways, Gary,
this could be a real positive for your family if you find a more rural setting with clean air to breath, and less traffic!
I really want to just start laughing because Ive never seen Leah get so worked up as your vlog progresses, shes pissed! Hahaha. I completely understand your frustration with this guy! I want you guys to understand I do know what your going through because it happened to me ! Im from the U.S. San Diego ,California . I live within walking distance of the beach so its a beautiful day, everyday. Myself and my fiancée are a bit like you in the fact Im 6'5", 270lbs and white and she's 5', 98lbs and Filapina. We have been LDR fo❤r the last four years. I go to the Philippines every four months for two months at a timde.? We where staying in a high rise in Mactan Newtown for three months until a couple weeks ago when I came back on December 8th. There was a German guy about 70yrs old with his 22yr old girlfriend living upstairs from us. With about one month to go in our three month we started hearing our own voices seemingly carrying on a conversation really loud about 3am in the morning. The next morning security had come to our unit and said there where complaints of our load lovemaking at all hours of the morning and afternoon!! I wish I where having sex all hours of the morning and afternoon, apparently everyday. Early the next morning I was having coffee and noticed the neighbor upstairs was lowering a microphone down to our open bedroom window. He was playing our own sex sessions very loudly on home stereo speakers so loud during the day to irritate us because we where keeping him up at knight and he wasn't getting any sleep because of us. It was the weirdest thing Ive encountered here. It took me about thirty minutes to realize I was hearing my own voice and various other sounds. WHAT A FREAK THIS GUY WAS.😊😊😊😊
I was serious while reading your comment but LOL 🤣😂
70 years old with a 22 year old girlfriend. And he's upset that you have a love life. Sounds like he's jealous that you're having the kind of fun he can't have any more.
I don’t blame you both for this form of thinking. Dumaguete is not what it used to be. It has lost its lovely Filipino way of life. It has now been changed by the attitude of Foreigners, that will never except the way of the wonderful Filipino culture. They seem to have this drive to Americanise a country that has an older culture. The Foreigners can be rude, arrogant. This is all a pity, as a Kiwi, I know we can all learn so much from the Filipino people. This is our four trip here to the Philippines, but will be our last. I have been married to a wonderful Filipino Lady now for 11 years. We Wish you both all the best for your future.
We're glad that you understand our point in this video. Thanks for watching! All the best for you and your beautiful wife.
Great video. I see the same thing in Thailand. It's especially hard for people to understand the culture of saving face and being patient. Hot-heads and arrogance prevail. Edit: Sounds like the guy is the kind that would cause problems for your family while you're gone. Sorry you have to move. Good decision, though.
Hmmm... Your neighboir is trying to impose his ways on you. Fair enough. But aren't you trying to impose your ways on him?
On a different aspect of what y'all are experiencing, it's interesting that the Filipinos are the ones you have no trouble with. It's the opposite here.
I would think that the foreigners would be more understanding and helpful in getting along, since you're in the same situation....being far from home and what you're used to.
In America, I see the opposite usually. The neighborhoods of foreigners are usually more understanding and tolerant of each. Seems like it's opposite there
I have thoughts/plans to retire in the Philippines and I was always concerned that it would be the opposite....that trouble would come from the locals, for whatever reason. Not saying the locals are bad. Just acknowledging that alot of people don't like "different" coming in.
I enjoy your videos. Thanks to both of you for sharing things that can be helpful in my preparing and decisions.
Leah doesn't seem convinced to me. Make sure that you are not just trying to make Gary happy. Tough choices ahead.
Maybe invite them over for a cold San Miguel beer, quek quek, balot, Isaw , lechon, etc. They are just jealous. My Mexican neighbor also do the same but it’s ok.
Shay is amazing
I'm fortunate in that there are no foreigners in my vicinity - I've met/spoken to one in 5 years. We don't live in the boonies but nor do we live in an area popular with expats. We live on the edge of a ity which no one has heard of even though it's quite close to Manila. My wife and I have 3 residential properties in high-end neighbourhoods as well as commercial properties in a nearby town, business interests. I get on just fine with my neighbours and the local shopkeepers and the people in general. Our kids have a load of friends and there's always an adult somewhere in the vicinity keeping an eye on them for safety's sake. We join in with the karaoke when it kicks in but there is a consensus in our community that it shuts down at midnight at the latest. There's always going to be people who complain, but luckily they don't live near us.