I get a headache everytime people always say but they are your parents no they are egg and sperm donors, because parents don't mistreat their children, parent take care of all their children,
@@jeanetteporter8114no parents by definition from Merriam-Webster is "One that begets or brings forth offspring" so sperm and egg donors are parents, it's redundant to make that distinction. They don't have to be good parents, but they are parents.
She ended up getting married and not inviting her parents or brothers to her wedding, they were all upset but her entire family(outside of her parents and brothers) understood and supported her. The line she used was “my needs come before yours right now.” She also blocked her parents so they couldn’t contact her, and her mom went “poor me” mode all over FB, but her aunt stood up for her. Sorry if not all of that was completely accurate, I’m just going off memory.
@deadkitty5723 i bet the mother did the smae thing to the aunt or smth like that thats why she does it still i agree she does not deserve the gift of children
Here’s the full story for those who also got aggravated by this video lmao: Am I Wrong for Throwing a Line my Parents Always Used to Use On Me Back In Their Faces? Throwaway because I'm pretty certain my brothers have Reddit, and I don't want them to know my main.I (27F) have always been the kid who my parents didn’t give a crap about. As the middle child, it was always, “Oh, your sibling needs us more.” And my needs were quite often just not met. Any attempt to get my parents to do something with or for me was met with being called selfish and told my siblings needs came before mine right now. Neither of my siblings have special needs; they are just both kind of spoiled brats. My brothers (30 and 25) are the golden oldest child and their precious baby. I was the unwanted girl child in the middle. They made this clear in all sorts of ways, from not wanting to pay for my school supplies and wanting me to figure it out, to the way birthdays were treated, to Christmas. Forget them showing up to anything for me, but I was expected to drop everything to show up to any and everything my brothers did. Brothers both got brand new cars for their 16th birthdays, but I didn't need one. I got a rusty bike they found at a garage sale and told if I could fix it up, they guessed I could have it. I fixed it up, and they gave it to my brother instead. I moved in with my aunt on my 18th birthday. I’m getting married to a wonderful woman, and my parents just recently found out. They called me several kinds of butthurt as to why I hadn’t told them and then immediately started in on how I couldn't do certain things because of my brothers. I can’t have a nice chicken or fish dish; it has to be steak or pizza or they won't eat it. I can't be too affectionate because you know how guys get around two girls being together. I can't have a wedding party if they can't be involved. I finally snapped. I told them that neither they nor my apparently perverted brothers were invited. That for once, something was about me, not them. I told them that I had no interest in making my wedding about their crappy sons, who have achieved nothing in life so far because they babied them to the point of uselessness. My wedding was not about what they wanted. My mother cried, and my father asked why I was treating them so poorly. I said, “You’re just being selfish, my needs come before yours right now.” There was a stunned silence before my father told me that it wasn’t fair that I would say that to them because this was a different situation. I hung up and blocked them both, but my cousin, who I’m close to, said they were making a huge ordeal out of it. They’ve been calling other family members and then being surprised when they’re told yes, they can believe I’d not want them making my wedding about them or my brothers. My mother apparently posted a long woe is me, where did I go wrong post on FB but took it down after my aunt lit her up in the comments about where she went wrong. My older brother reached out just once to ask if he really wasn’t invited, and I said yeah, he really wasn’t. He seemed a little upset, but at this point, I don’t even care. All he said after that was that I shouldn’t have said what I did to our parents and that they are upset they aren’t invited to the wedding, and even if I didn’t invite him or our other brother, I should at least invite them. I refused and hung up. My parents and brothers don’t know when or where we’re getting married, I never intended to invite them, but eloping is starting to look pretty good right about now. My grandmother has reached out only once to say while she kind of understands why I don't want them there, it was kind of a blow low to throw the line they always used on me back in their faces. I thought maybe I'd get some 3rd party opinions here, but I don't think I was wrong.
OP focuses a lot on the parents (who are definitely in the very least verbally abusive and neglectful) but I wish they gave more detail on their relationship with their siblings. Im a middle child and while I’ve been neglected by my parents, I have an extremely close relationship with my younger brother who was spoiled by them.
I'm so proud of my brother the middle child . He pursued his acting career with no support & also lived overseas for 10 years . He also did styling , music ,modelling & worked in fashion without expecting any support as our parents were usually busy working . I'm from my dad's first marriage and the oldest & adore the other two siblings too . But it's the middle brother that inspires me endlessly 🙏🪽I'm sorry that the OP felt unwanted& unsupported .( As the stepdaughter I understand )!🙏🤍Middle children definitely deserve more recognition & support .
And the other family members who were like, "yeah, I understand why she wouldn't want y'all there too" when her mom was trying to cry to other family members about it
They treated OP like a servant while their brothers were like kings, and the parents are surprised that they're wrong? It sounds like they genuinely believe that they raised OP and their brothers the way each one deserved, if they think OP deserve to be treated like that it's obvious they're naive, irresponsible, and are children in adults' body, screw them, OP should try and completely cut ties with them
“Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child” I’m only saying this cause those parents sound like real pieces of work who just don’t want this poor girl, and she had to fend for herself basically her whole life ; it’s just sad how people can do this type of sh¡t and complete ignore a person who has feelings and needs taken care of.
The low blow is your family treating you as if you aren't apart of the family your entire childhood and then demanding to be apart if your adult life, while still wanting to treat you the exact same way! Low blow was HIGHLY deserved 🥰🥰
The favouritism continues into adulthood. Favourite child helps friend through final months of cancer, and is deemed to be kind and generous. A number of years later, I help friend in her final months of cancer, I am deemed to be selfish and should do more for her (mother). Yes, it really is just that obvious as to who the favourite child has always been... and still is.
I can relate to this in a way. A lot of my allowance that I earned working for my uncle was always given to my sisters for the dumbest stuff (like buying a dress or jewelry that they'll only wear once). And my mom will always guilt trip me if I dont give the money to them. Now my mother always wanders why me and my brothers never call her. Of corse, we still love her because she's our mom, but we've drawn our boundaries.
My parents are giving my brother a vr headset, and he treats everyone like they’re worthless. Like, he threw my clothes at me, screamed at me, told me I was stupid and useless for not wanting to talk to our parents… and despite all of this, he’s getting a vr headset??? I bet if I try to say something, he’ll just start crying and play victim. :/
Thinking their sons will get aroused about their sister showing affection at their wedding is the most disgusting thing ive ever heard and says all i need to know about how they raised their sons.. some people shouldn't be parents
Thank you! I was that middle girl child. My brothers got everything it didn't matter what. I believe the only reason I didn't get my brother's hand-me-downs was because my father didn't like girls wearing pants.
Op is a female. And the throwing back in their faces part is right at the beginning. The statement is not said at the beginning but is told later on in the story.
I can never understand the position of parents who are so twisted as this. We have always been accused by each of our 3 children that one or other is the 'Favourite' child. Now, whenever any child achieves something we joke about them being the favourite child. So sad, this affects people for life.
so i have a very light hearted version of the same situation. when i was little whenever my dad bought me food before i could eat any he would always say " Wait!" then he'd take a peice and say " I gotta make sure no ones trying to poison you " my naive ass believe he was saving my life till i was like 7 fast forward im in my 20's and i bought him some food he was so excited and about to eat and i shouted "WAIT!" and took and peice " i gotta make sure no ones trying to poison you" 😂😂😂 THE LOOK ON THAT MAN'S FACE IS SOMETHING I WOULD PAY TOP DOLLAR TO SEE AGAIN Y'ALL 😂😂😂
I’m the unwanted oldest child. My mother always said “I’ll think about” and that always meant no. My sister was the chosen one and got everything she wanted. She got to go shopping at the mall, I wore raggedy hand me downs that were 8 sizes too big. She could take a shower for 2 hours every day, I could shower for 10 minutes once a week. I asked for glasses, new clothes that fit and deodorant. It wasn’t until my zoology teacher asked why I was struggling so much and I told him that I couldn’t see, he asked why I didn’t have glasses, I told him I ask for glasses for my birthday and Christmas but my mom was too busy going on cruises (she totally was going on cruises). I got my glasses soon after that. And I was kicked out when I was 17 because I told my mom I’m straight and she was trying her hardest to make me a lesbian like her.
Am sorry that all happened to to no perant should do this not getting glasses?! Thats literally your need it shouldn't be something to get as a birthday present?! Also Some people are so disgusting and disappointing let people love who they love streight or gay.
As an unwanted girl I totally get this. My Brother is 35, he's the older child and has been given everything in life and yet hasn't had a job, still lives with my parents who are now in their 70s and dont work. He throws tantrums, threatens people, punches holes in walls and is completely useless... I have several degrees, a job, i haven't stopped working since i was 12 as i had to have a job back then if i wanted to have an education, things like deodorant, lunches, school uniforms. Yes it hurts. It would have been nice to have had loving parents, but their Karma is my useless brother who they basically created and now have to live with an deal with. If they die, i won't live with him or deal with him. I've told them this. He's their issue, they created the issue and I still wish to change my name and have nothing to do with these disgusting excuse for humans that my family are.
Just want to say that the food being prepared in this video is a hot brown. The hot brown is an open faced “sandwich” created at the Brown Hotel here in my hometown, Louisville, Ky. It’s better if you use leftover turkey carved off the bird instead of what looks like deli turkey slices. It does call for tomatoes, but an upgrade is to replace the regular tomatoes with fried green tomatoes. It adds a taste of yummy sourness whereas the fresh ripe tomatoes is overpowered by the mornay sauce
I'm so glad that my parents are ACTUALLY parents. Respectful, patient parents. My youngest brother has special needs, but they still make time for me and my twin Thanks mom and dad 😊
Me too! My siblings are your twin and younger brother combined. My twin has special needs. My mom always makes time for me, my twin, big brother, and big sister though 😊
The OP should've leave this information on FB just as her mother did. If her mother plays victim and blame OP , OP should stand for herself. Glad she stayed with her decision. It is common when You put boundries(when never did) people start to get angry bc they cannot push You around anymore 😁👍
I’m the middle child and yet I’m the favorite. The oldest abuses substances so he’s hated and the youngest just sorta is always in his room, I come downstairs to talk to my parents, actually accept to go on trips with them and generally share similar interests to both my dad and mom.
That's the same with me but a lil different. I'm the youngest and stay in my room the whole time, my sister ( the middle) abusees substances and no she is not hated bc my mother encourage her to and my brother is just like me. Off in the side. He's not the favorite or the hated he has been neglected for his whole life and mostly I'm the only one that hangs out with him. ( btw my brother is 18 still living with us and my sister is 16. I'm not saying my age for privacy reasons). Your comment is really relatable
@@user-wt2fu1in2z yeah it happens quite often. It’s the same with one of my friends, middle child yet the favorite. Older sister goes around with boys all the time and the youngest is a little trouble maker. Also my older brother is already 24 and lives with us. me and my younger brother do get along well though, often play games though me and him are only a year apart while my older brother is much older than either of us.
My lil sibling used to be the favorite all through out childhood, they babied her all the time. I at age 7 warned them she's being a bad kid and her attitude will get worse if they continued to baby her. They said they'll stop babying her when she turns 7 and that her attitude will get better as she grows up, spoiler alert, it didn't. She became more and more demanding. So they switched favorites. I should be happy that I'm now the favorite but rn I'm pretty sure my sister knows that I'm the favorite. I always thought that after she figured out I'm the favorite she'd hate me to death, but to my shock she only dislikes my parents and never hated me, I'm quite happy but sad for her.
My husband was like that.. he was considered in the middle and unwanted.. the older brother was a teacher and wanted.. the daughter on a daycare business. And baby brother was in the military.. my poor husband was shoved under the carpet.. they even got into a fight with each other.. Mr teacher and Mr military against my poor husband.. they lost the fight but I went up to the hospital ..with my husband because they split his mouth open.. I told my husband wants your mother passes away we are done with the family.. she was the most sweet person ever.. the kind of person you want to wrap up and hug.. we got a double slap in the face.. my mother passed away from cancer and then a few months later we lost his mother.. but we packed our bags and we left..
@@bethanysmith5856 21 years worth of marriage to.. yep the moment she left us so to speak we left.. he still has a scar on the lower part of his lip where they split him open.. I just can't believe that my husband actually won especially with his baby brother that was in the military.. two against one person.. that was not a fair fight but my husband still won the fight..
Definitely me. I'm the youngest, middle child was the baby to my mom but he also had health complications so it makes sense. My mom had even celebrated my birthday without me. I have cut her off and I've explained why (invisible more than just that) but it's been very liberating for me
Well to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of one's view's and by trying to make it objective, and by considering each and every one's valid opinion, I honestly believe that I completely forgot what I was going to say.
Sounds very familiar. It was only my brother and I growing up, I was always compared to him, why can't you get good grades like your brother or get in the National Honor Society, be popular, he got all new clothes at the start of the school year, I got 1 new pair of jeans and had to use clothes from the previous years, he got new Nikes, I got generic K-Mart blue light special. It wasn't until recently that I suspect that I was an accident or mom wanted another boy, not a girl. Nothing hurts more than the feeling of not being wanted or loved by your own mother and, growing up, couldn't understand why.
@@drunklink350 well, the dad I grew up with was my step-dad, I too, know how it feels to be abandoned by my dad. He took abandonment a step further, he left the country to avoid paying child support to my brother and I.
I’m the younger of two brothers and luckily for me I didn’t get that bad treatment. Everything I got was handmedowns but I never minded. However it was very evident that I wasn’t as liked as my brother. I always had significantly less problems than my brother both academically and socially but they just related more with him than they did me.
When you go out of your way to make sure someone knows they don’t matter to you in your life, don’t be surprised when the tables turn and you are on the receiving end of that sentiment. Opie is not the idiot and I hope that you go on to have a happy and wonderful loving life you deserve.
Ey middle child! I have severe ADHD .... i found out one year ago... when I finally "transfered my medical records to me... and not my parents...(whatever it's called.. hope you understand) I'm 25 I asked them why they didn't tell me.... I would have better grades and better "love for me (fellow ADHD would know)... BC I have believing I'm the worst person ever... They said "that I shouldn't have an excuse" and some other stuff..... WTF right? Edit - this is the first time I got more than 5 👍 WOW thank you 😊 New edit - holy $hityyy Mann the most likes ever, awesome.. thanks for Al the stories, I definitely feel less alone 😎😎😌😊
Holy shiz that’s horrible! I’m 19, and I can barely function without medication for my ADHD! It doesn’t help that depression often goes hand in hand with people with ADHD. Knowing what was different about yourself compared to others would definitely have made it easier to love yourself and be understanding. And I want to strangle your parents for daring to say they didn’t want it to be an excuse because as someone with ADHD who grew up knowing about it that thought process sticks with you (could also just be my depression speaking). But knowing the reason behind your struggles makes it easier to cope. They are definitely assholes in that regard (hopefully only in the regard of mental health). I hope you’re doing better now. ❤️❤️
I’m not 100% sure but that might be illegal as their keeping medical related stuff away from you, like I have autism and I MIGHT have adhd so I can kind of get what you’ve been through, still if you can find out if that was legal because I don’t think it is
@@Thebrightestdogday I think it could at most be considered a form of neglect/abuse. But I don’t believe parents are required to inform their children of their medical conditions (at least while they are minor)😕
It's in the full video, but "she can’t be too affectionate with her fianceé/wife at their wedding because you know how guys react to two girls." I'm gonna stop you right there. This is their sister, what the fuck are you talking about?
Maybe it's a common K!nk there, I guess, y'know, how some guys love watching intimacy between 2 females and wishing out loud to be invited to watch it directly. Ngl some of these guys don't think much abt who they're watching, as long as their perverted dream comes true.
As the middle child, I was lucky that I didn't grow up being ignored and treated like this, sadly my older sister will sometimes get the shaft, but a lot of that is her own cause, as she's self centered a lot of the times
Whenever me and my sister get into arguments i (jokingly) tell her im the reason our parents paid attention to her because by the time she was in like mid elementary school i was already a disappointment and a little beyond repair so they had enough attention for the middle child although i will admit it seems like lately (2-4 years) my parents have actually paid attention to all 3 of us so credit where credits due
@redfatseal2407 my little sister and I are less than a year apart, but she did get away with a lot more, and we were always at eachothers throats, but nothing out of the ordinary for siblings I think, we are a pretty close knit family
I grew up in a great household, and I was the middle child. My twin brother, Enzo, was younger by 12 minutes and my sister, Olivia, is older by 6 years. My parents were amazing to all of us, even though it was hard because my mother got cancer when I was 9, which she beat completely when I was 15. My parents fully supported my brother when he came out as gay and supported my sister when she joined the Marines, and they helped me pay for my first prosthetic leg. I was so lucky to grow up in such a loving household. Unfortunately, I only have my sister and my parents left. RIP, Enzo.
Damn,thry were the most spoiled kids ever.i feel you girl.just ignore your parents and brothers and give them the silent until they support you as much as they do for your brothers
I’m the youngest of my family, and I often forget that while favouritism is something my mother disagrees with, sometimes her words may come across differently by accident. My brother finally got a job, but I was sick, so when my brother told my mum she shortly congratulated him, then continued with talking about my care. She didn’t mean to do this, but u can tell how it came across. I understand the point of the video is not this, but I do want to remind that every child in the family can often be accidentally (or purposefully) treated differently. It isn’t always the stereotype u see online, as most of those vids come from a bias view. The youngest isn’t necessarily always favourited, the middle isn’t necessarily always forgotten, and the oldest isn’t necessarily always left with doing the most. These views we see are from particular places in sibling trees and are technically bias, as every sibling would view the situation differently and we never know what another is going through. I get that wasn’t the point, but anyways, just wanted to bring it up❤
Least favorite youngest child goes unnoticed because it’s not as common. Although I’m the favorite in the family both of my siblings get treated really well
Maybe it's because of where I'm from, but I think the story above is not simply about her being the middle child but also that she's the middle GIRL child. I mean I've seen this level of neglect to girl children no matter the order of birth unfortunately.
Thank you. I agree with the story, and I also totally agree with your point 💯 While I do have my own story abt being casted aside and later being favourited, I do believe that my parents were juggling between the seven of their children, so make sense certain situations may seem like favouritism was at play when we know they were only just two humans like all of us. And some of us even parent our own parents and that's life. Things may get difficult but that's just a levelling up stage. Some of us don't have childhood while others don't have social life, etc, etc. At the end of the day, we write our own story.
@@shievanisingh8543 that aspect definitely relate to you strongly, imma admit. I relate to that as well, and agree with what op decided to do. But at the same time, my parents still deserve love and care from me, and I don't want to forget that just because being treated unfairly was something I strongly relate with op. At the end of the day, while op can't forgive her family, I can forgive mine and not react too strongly to op's situation to further dismiss the graces that my parents had bestowed amidst the neglect I experienced. I think that's what the commenter is relaying 🙂
Im a middle child. I will admit that my parents didnt have time for all three of us. My older brother is incredibly smart. When he started anything, (high school, driving, college.) he would make it look so easy that a year later my mom would just put me in whatever and expect me to just 'get it'. Spending more time to prepare him. My younger sister was a miracle baby. She came into the world clinging to life. She has mild CP and has lived a normal life. (2 children, a husband) She has difficulty throwing a ball and doing advanced math, but the only way to tell she has it is to look creepily close. She will always have back trouble and will eventually be wheelchair bound. She is an incredible woman that has been in and out of hospitals her whole childhood. Of course my mom would spend most of her time helping my sister in her time of need. My dad had to work so many long hours to make ends meet. Although, he has made mistakes in his past, he has always cared. By the time he had time to spend with us, he had to catch up on who we were. Even harder when he had to be the main source of discipline. I could have become estranged with my family for a lack of time, effort or love that i was shown in my youth. The difference is that I knew the struggles they were going through. They were not showing favoritism towards anyone. They were doing what they could. They tried their best to raise us with the time and resources they had. The short stick usually was given to me, but it was never a lack of love.
I grew up in a unique situation where I was a planned child who was cast aside after the divorce. I lived with my father, and his catch phrase was, "I don't know, you figure it out." I felt that one.
Btw, that is domestic violence, that’s an actual fucking crime. They can be sent to jail for at least 3 years for child neglect and the fact that they did not give mental support adds more charges on to the already high charge they would have on domestic violence
I’m youngest but I still feel this. I’m the only girl and I have 2 older brothers. I was always told “Oh no your oldest brother needs us more, we need his grades to come up.” Or it was “You other brother needs us! He may get into another fight!” And if it wasn’t that it was “ your brother has a concert don’t be so selfish!” I got straight As for the first and last time and my parents never showed. Also at my first performance they couldn’t come because my brothers 5TH ONE MATTERED MORE!
Up until high school I was the middle child that apparently did everything wrong I was the scapegoat on my dads side of the family and my step mom at the time hated me for some reason but was fine with my younger and older sister my dad was always busy so he didn’t always notice but once I reached high school we moved to a different state and my dad had broken up with my step mom leaving her in our previous state. Now my older sister still lives with our grandparents despite being 25 and still gets spoiled by them even though she does absolutely nothing and is a b-word and my little sister lives with me and my dad but she also acts like a spoiled brat screaming and hitting whenever she doesn’t get her way and doesn’t do any of her school work. Me I’m about to graduate high school with a 3.1 gpa and I help my dad around the house with chores and such and take care of my little sister. My dad now says I’m his last hope lol
@@redfatseal2407 at least my youngest sibling is not, since we're 7 in total, any hint of selfishness would straightaway be extinguished to a point that I myself couldn't fathom what self-care really means 😂 But I do see my relatives being a spoilt brat they were even into their late 30s 😂 so I can't give you a solid justification. Sorry
I’m lucky my mom treats us the same, hearing these stories makes me so upset. My mom sometimes doesn’t treat us the same most of the time, but mostly she does. It’s just that my older siblings have to do less things and me and my sister (the youngest) have to do more stuff. Like cleaning and more stuff you know. I mean, I don’t mind it, but you know. My mom won’t even let me and my sister go out to hang out somewhere, or even somewhere near, not even with our friends or whatever. I wanna go out for once, by myself, with my sister or a few friends. My brothers get to go but whatever. Doesn’t matter if you’re the middle child, the youngest or the eldest, you can always explain how you feel about being treated differently, the internet shows that the youngest child is treated so good, the middle child is presented as invisible, and the eldest is just, normal or whatever. But does that mean it’s true? No. Everyone has a different life, it’s not all the same.
I was a middle child of my family and this mirrors my experience. The flip side is that the experience made me independent and I became good at making friends.
My life is exactly the same. Only girl, middle child, and two spoiled brothers. Younger brother has autism so i just tolerate him but he's spoiled, he knows what he's doing and since he's the youngest and has a disability my mom just gives into his wants. Not needs, his wants
Yeah I couldn’t help but to think that they treated her differently more likely because she was a girl than because she was a middle child. I am the older daughter of 3 siblings I have 2 younger brothers and I always had the responsibility of looking after them, we have a good relationship but I can definitely say I had more expectations, and the youngest one is the most spoiled as it usually turns out.
Completely unrelated to the story. My roommate used an ingredient I needed for cooking and I improvised the cheese sauce shown in this video, since I remembered it from another video. It hella slapped
"Low blow" to use the same line that they used??? Huh??? So how much lower of a blow is it for them to use it on a child in thr first place then??? I'll say pretty FLIPPIN low and disgusting to neglect their child the whole time, expect her to want any of them at her wedding, AND try to make her wedding about them. Thank the Lord for that aunt though, someone should've said that earlier.
As the eldest child and the only one with special needs (high functioning autism) I’ve always had a bit of a spoiled child upbringing (oh, we can’t do that, it’ll upset Magical!! Oh, Magical can’t handle it if you do that etc etc) and while I know I can still be a bit spoiled sometimes, at least I, an autistic individual, actually have the ability to not only see how my spoiledness affects those around me but actually change for the better. Honestly I don’t understand not being able to see one’s own flaws let alone having the fortitude to improve on yourself.. Apologies if that comes off as snobbish or obnoxious in any way, i do not mean it that way but i can’t figure out a better way to write what im trying to say and i can see how it could be taken as such :/
Its what it is but, to be honest, I really can relate to OP’s story. My parents were divorced and I’ve had to lived with my toxic and abusive mother for years, with older siblings who could care less about me and only about themselves. I’m the youngest daughter. They were always pushing or pressuring me and treated me like they hated me. My father used to also be an alcoholic and had a violent streak and would raise hand if he so gets angered (he had a short temper). I left that God forsaken household in 2022 and never looked back. The journey is lonely, but you never lose people who really love you… in the long run, I never had to hear people in my family tell me how I’ll never be good enough and that my mother wished I never existed.
I hope you are feeling better now. Please allways remember that every human is precious, has things he/she is good at and thinks that can be improved but EVERBODY DESERVES to be respekted and loved. Your story made me sad and angry. Making a child feel unwanted is a great sin. They had no right to treat you like that and that is not how people treat each other! Please don't think you deserve such treatment or that its normal or okay if someone does this to you again. Life can be hard, there are ups and downs. You will meet a lot of diffrent people. You cant chose family but you can choose everything else. So meet people and stay with those that respekt and value you. It is terrible that you had to experience how people definitly shouldn't act, but I hope that you manage to turn this bad experienes into something "good"; into becoming a strong women that can identify toxic behaver and good people and treats everyone with the respekt they deserve. I wish you a great life with lots of wonderful moments! It's yours.
@@cccoster1281 thank you so much for your kind words. Really needed that. It still feels like yesterday when I just left. But im taking it one day at a time to heal ❤️🩹
@@jenjen_oreo You are verry welcome. I somehow had the strong feeling that I should write to you. I'm really happy that it seems to have had a positive effect. I wish you a lot of strength on your way and I hope that good friends will find you so that you can enjoy your life and have the support you need to overcome all the small and big obstacles you might encounter. Have a nice evening and feel warmly hugged! You will figure it out, whatever and however :)
My older sister has something similar. She told me because i had seizures, i got "loved and got more attention" because my seizures were more important. She basically blamed me for my parents not showing her affection and i tried telling her that theyre abusive, they literally try to pit us against each other and i WANT a respectful relationship but she just always is hateful and thinks shes better, yesterday we got into an argument and she told me i need to tell her what the problem was and i kept telling her its the same issue its always been. She doesnt listen, she doesnt care. She just is disrespectful and hateful and then expects me to love and cherish her. But when i return the same energy IM THE BAD GUY. its why i refuse to have a relationship with her now. I tried. She didnt. I dont care anymore.
Toxic behaviour. You need to be with people that have your back but ultimately, you need to be ok with yourself. It wasn’t great behaviour but don’t hold the grudge forever. I’m not saying to let them back in your life, just for your sake, come to terms with it and move forward secure in yourself.
I don't think he can easily move on and not hold any grudges. His entire childhood is messed up to the level he has only hatred for his family. He can cut ties forever because he was always unwanted and the parents clearly don't like let alone love the middle child.
I mean, you only got one childhood, and for your parents to just fuck it up like that is worthy of holding a grudge over. Matter of fact, if it ain't trauma, it's walking that fine line of being trauma. Plus, her parents were STILL doing that shit in her adulthood by telling her how she should run HER wedding so her BROTHERS don't get offended. Literally can't be called a grudge if it was happening up to that point 💀
lol no your not wrong. there things you just rolled over and take it like they always made you even to the point you had to stay with your aunt over this😂
I am am the youngest of 2 older brothers, and since I’m the only girl, my mom loves me to bits. She loves my brothers too, but I am closer to her because I spend most of my time with her. My eldest brother (17) is an extrovert, and has a job and a girlfriend and an extreme amount of friends, so he’s out of the house almost 24/7. On the other hand, my other brother (13) is the complete opposite. He is an introvert, and barely comes downstairs. When he comes downstairs, he barely talks or doesn’t talk at all. He has to be in the mood to talk. He has gotten better with talking to us whenever he comes downstairs, but he is still my introverted brother. I love both of my brothers very much. This is why my mom loves me so much. It’s because my brothers are never with her. Seeing how this family treats their daughter who they have basically neglected all her life makes me cringe so hard. What she did is right.
We really need to be having this conversation more. The intersection between parental favoritism and misogyny has ruined so many girls and AFAB people’s self-esteem; they feel like it’s something to do with them when it’s actually just plain bigotry.
Most people say they hate being the middle child (im the youngest and my sister is the oldest) and usually the youngest gets treated the best but not me i get in trouble more than my older sister all the time even if she does the same exact thing. I wouldn't say my parents exactly hate me but id say my sister is the favorite one.
I wasn’t a middle child. I was the youngest. And yet I completely understand what she went through. Even the part of my mom admitting she never wanted a girl to begin with. Well her only boy is messed up still. And me I’m doing well.
As the oldest child, I've been treated horribly. My brother, the middle child, is kind of ignored. My sister, the youngest, is the favorite, though she was also treated bad too. All of us were.
For me, that was the older siblings story, only I standed alone all the time acting just fine with everything even through all the hate I have towards everyone... I feel u, ik it hurts...
Im an only child and I unfortunately feel this from my mom. As an adult now I blocked any communication from her, so she reaches out to my dad. It's pathetic.
Grandma needs to realize that low blows can be highly deserved. This one was.
Yeah- and how is it a low blow if its EXACTLY the line her parents would throw at her
I get a headache everytime people always say but they are your parents no they are egg and sperm donors, because parents don't mistreat their children, parent take care of all their children,
It's not even a "low blow" it was the honest truth!!!
A wedding should be about the couple, not anyone else!!
@@frogoverlord3471right like it wasn't a low blow when they were saying it to their child? Ugh entitled parents are the worst
@@jeanetteporter8114no parents by definition from Merriam-Webster is "One that begets or brings forth offspring" so sperm and egg donors are parents, it's redundant to make that distinction. They don't have to be good parents, but they are parents.
She ended up getting married and not inviting her parents or brothers to her wedding, they were all upset but her entire family(outside of her parents and brothers) understood and supported her. The line she used was “my needs come before yours right now.” She also blocked her parents so they couldn’t contact her, and her mom went “poor me” mode all over FB, but her aunt stood up for her. Sorry if not all of that was completely accurate, I’m just going off memory.
tysm
Gurlllllllllll that mom aint deserving of children much less the gift of children
Well played
@deadkitty5723 i bet the mother did the smae thing to the aunt or smth like that thats why she does it still i agree she does not deserve the gift of children
Thank youu
Here’s the full story for those who also got aggravated by this video lmao:
Am I Wrong for Throwing a Line my Parents Always Used to Use On Me Back In Their Faces?
Throwaway because I'm pretty certain my brothers have Reddit, and I don't want them to know my main.I (27F) have always been the kid who my parents didn’t give a crap about. As the middle child, it was always, “Oh, your sibling needs us more.” And my needs were quite often just not met. Any attempt to get my parents to do something with or for me was met with being called selfish and told my siblings needs came before mine right now. Neither of my siblings have special needs; they are just both kind of spoiled brats. My brothers (30 and 25) are the golden oldest child and their precious baby. I was the unwanted girl child in the middle.
They made this clear in all sorts of ways, from not wanting to pay for my school supplies and wanting me to figure it out, to the way birthdays were treated, to Christmas. Forget them showing up to anything for me, but I was expected to drop everything to show up to any and everything my brothers did. Brothers both got brand new cars for their 16th birthdays, but I didn't need one. I got a rusty bike they found at a garage sale and told if I could fix it up, they guessed I could have it. I fixed it up, and they gave it to my brother instead. I moved in with my aunt on my 18th birthday.
I’m getting married to a wonderful woman, and my parents just recently found out. They called me several kinds of butthurt as to why I hadn’t told them and then immediately started in on how I couldn't do certain things because of my brothers. I can’t have a nice chicken or fish dish; it has to be steak or pizza or they won't eat it. I can't be too affectionate because you know how guys get around two girls being together. I can't have a wedding party if they can't be involved. I finally snapped. I told them that neither they nor my apparently perverted brothers were invited. That for once, something was about me, not them. I told them that I had no interest in making my wedding about their crappy sons, who have achieved nothing in life so far because they babied them to the point of uselessness. My wedding was not about what they wanted.
My mother cried, and my father asked why I was treating them so poorly. I said, “You’re just being selfish, my needs come before yours right now.” There was a stunned silence before my father told me that it wasn’t fair that I would say that to them because this was a different situation. I hung up and blocked them both, but my cousin, who I’m close to, said they were making a huge ordeal out of it. They’ve been calling other family members and then being surprised when they’re told yes, they can believe I’d not want them making my wedding about them or my brothers. My mother apparently posted a long woe is me, where did I go wrong post on FB but took it down after my aunt lit her up in the comments about where she went wrong.
My older brother reached out just once to ask if he really wasn’t invited, and I said yeah, he really wasn’t. He seemed a little upset, but at this point, I don’t even care. All he said after that was that I shouldn’t have said what I did to our parents and that they are upset they aren’t invited to the wedding, and even if I didn’t invite him or our other brother, I should at least invite them. I refused and hung up. My parents and brothers don’t know when or where we’re getting married, I never intended to invite them, but eloping is starting to look pretty good right about now.
My grandmother has reached out only once to say while she kind of understands why I don't want them there, it was kind of a blow low to throw the line they always used on me back in their faces. I thought maybe I'd get some 3rd party opinions here, but I don't think I was wrong.
tysm for writing that 😭🫶🙌
Granny calling the line a "low blow" makes me realize where the sour personalities come from
OP focuses a lot on the parents (who are definitely in the very least verbally abusive and neglectful) but I wish they gave more detail on their relationship with their siblings. Im a middle child and while I’ve been neglected by my parents, I have an extremely close relationship with my younger brother who was spoiled by them.
👑 you dropped this
"Low blow"? More like poetic justice!
I'm so proud of my brother the middle child . He pursued his acting career with no support & also lived overseas for 10 years . He also did styling , music ,modelling & worked in fashion without expecting any support as our parents were usually busy working . I'm from my dad's first marriage and the oldest & adore the other two siblings too . But it's the middle brother that inspires me endlessly 🙏🪽I'm sorry that the OP felt unwanted& unsupported .( As the stepdaughter I understand )!🙏🤍Middle children definitely deserve more recognition & support .
Stories like this always reminds me the saying “A child rejected by their parents would burn them alive to feel their warmth”
Dayum.
WOW, that's deep 🙏✌️
A variance of the adage "a child not embraced by the village would burn it down to feel it's warmth". And I'd say it's true time and time again.
@@AshenWolfe-xh3ry That’s the other one I’ve heard too, I just like the parent and child one better because it makes just as much sense
Damn, that whole “fixing the bike” part was just not right
The whole ignoring your daugther is just wrong
Well, yea the whole thing is bad, but I just thought that part was the worst
It's a fake story from reddit
At least shes not Win Streak.
@@bigchungus5435 and chanses r it's happened to some family before
Bless the aunt who lit em up!!!
very happy when external family is supportive in an internally and potentially abusive relationship.
you have 666 likes
And the other family members who were like, "yeah, I understand why she wouldn't want y'all there too" when her mom was trying to cry to other family members about it
I took this in the wrong way at first I thought you meant she set them on fire
@@sevensecondsago LoL! I guess I can see how you or anyone could think that! LoL!
That parents did this to themselves, it is absolutely disgusting to treat any child this way
I have the power to make it 554 to 555
Same as me
I sincerely hope that this story is just one of those "searching for free Karma" fake stories because it being TRUE makes this infinitely worse.
@@n8zog584 it's very likely to be extremely exagerated if not completely fake.
This story is from reddit the chance of it being real is less then 1% and even if it is real its most likely highly overexagerated
WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT HOW *GOOD* THAT FOOD LOOKS 😭😭😭
I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT😭😭
Same
Yea it looks so good bro I’m so hungry now
were you not listening to that awfully sad story
@@theshadowhunterknight why listen to the story when we have food, literally the whole point of the food being there
They treated OP like a servant while their brothers were like kings, and the parents are surprised that they're wrong? It sounds like they genuinely believe that they raised OP and their brothers the way each one deserved, if they think OP deserve to be treated like that it's obvious they're naive, irresponsible, and are children in adults' body, screw them, OP should try and completely cut ties with them
Oh, but ShE Is jUsT A GiRl and BoYs ArE JuSt dIfFeReNt
Bravo! So proud of OP for standing up for herself and using her parents favorite line against her?! Chef's kiss. Beautifully done. 5 stars
Lol
What does op mean?
@@user-uw5sc8cp1k Original Poster
@@user-uw5sc8cp1k original poster or something close to that
@@user-uw5sc8cp1koriginal poster
“Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child”
I’m only saying this cause those parents sound like real pieces of work who just don’t want this poor girl, and she had to fend for herself basically her whole life ; it’s just sad how people can do this type of sh¡t and complete ignore a person who has feelings and needs taken care of.
It’s fake
@@nothingtoseehere309 got any proof?
@@nothingtoseehere309well even if this story is fake there are real examples of this b******* happening
@@nothingtoseehere309I doubt it, a lot of kids unfortunately live this experience
I am really getting annoyed by reading this overused line every frickin time.
The low blow is your family treating you as if you aren't apart of the family your entire childhood and then demanding to be apart if your adult life, while still wanting to treat you the exact same way! Low blow was HIGHLY deserved 🥰🥰
why r u trying so hard the story isnt even ream
@@SilverSnakeMemesyou do know these get read from reddit posts right? Of people telling what happened to them
@@MimiSimps yea, they are fake
@@SilverSnakeMemesreal*☝️🤓
@@SilverSnakeMemesthey arent sometimes..
The favouritism continues into adulthood. Favourite child helps friend through final months of cancer, and is deemed to be kind and generous. A number of years later, I help friend in her final months of cancer, I am deemed to be selfish and should do more for her (mother). Yes, it really is just that obvious as to who the favourite child has always been... and still is.
I can relate to this in a way. A lot of my allowance that I earned working for my uncle was always given to my sisters for the dumbest stuff (like buying a dress or jewelry that they'll only wear once). And my mom will always guilt trip me if I dont give the money to them.
Now my mother always wanders why me and my brothers never call her. Of corse, we still love her because she's our mom, but we've drawn our boundaries.
My parents are giving my brother a vr headset, and he treats everyone like they’re worthless. Like, he threw my clothes at me, screamed at me, told me I was stupid and useless for not wanting to talk to our parents… and despite all of this, he’s getting a vr headset??? I bet if I try to say something, he’ll just start crying and play victim. :/
Thinking their sons will get aroused about their sister showing affection at their wedding is the most disgusting thing ive ever heard and says all i need to know about how they raised their sons.. some people shouldn't be parents
People who can relate (regardless of middle, youngest or eldest), virtual hugs are coming your way 🤗
Tyy❤
🥺 thankyou ❤️
Thx!
Thank you! I was that middle girl child. My brothers got everything it didn't matter what. I believe the only reason I didn't get my brother's hand-me-downs was because my father didn't like girls wearing pants.
IMAGINE YOUR STANDING AT THEIR DEATHBED AND SAY “it’s because you were always on that damn phone!”
Crazyyyyyyyyyyyy
“You dare to use my own spells against me, Potter!”
@@Lynnywhereuat007lmao thats so perfect xD
I'd say you don't need my help you can figure it out yourself (even if I had 1 cent only to my name or of I was a trillianair
I love the part where he threw his parents favorite line back at thier faces when they were having a argument.
Fr though I didn’t see any part of that in the short
Op is a female. And the throwing back in their faces part is right at the beginning. The statement is not said at the beginning but is told later on in the story.
I can never understand the position of parents who are so twisted as this. We have always been accused by each of our 3 children that one or other is the 'Favourite' child. Now, whenever any child achieves something we joke about them being the favourite child.
So sad, this affects people for life.
so i have a very light hearted version of the same situation. when i was little whenever my dad bought me food before i could eat any he would always say " Wait!" then he'd take a peice and say " I gotta make sure no ones trying to poison you " my naive ass believe he was saving my life till i was like 7 fast forward im in my 20's and i bought him some food he was so excited and about to eat and i shouted "WAIT!" and took and peice " i gotta make sure no ones trying to poison you" 😂😂😂 THE LOOK ON THAT MAN'S FACE IS SOMETHING I WOULD PAY TOP DOLLAR TO SEE AGAIN Y'ALL 😂😂😂
HAHAHA 🤣
that is not a low blow that is a sufficiently level blow
Thats more so a family/inside joke. Sounds funny tho
I like this story better haha love that
That's actually adorable and I would 100% do it with my kids
I’m the unwanted oldest child. My mother always said “I’ll think about” and that always meant no. My sister was the chosen one and got everything she wanted. She got to go shopping at the mall, I wore raggedy hand me downs that were 8 sizes too big. She could take a shower for 2 hours every day, I could shower for 10 minutes once a week. I asked for glasses, new clothes that fit and deodorant. It wasn’t until my zoology teacher asked why I was struggling so much and I told him that I couldn’t see, he asked why I didn’t have glasses, I told him I ask for glasses for my birthday and Christmas but my mom was too busy going on cruises (she totally was going on cruises). I got my glasses soon after that. And I was kicked out when I was 17 because I told my mom I’m straight and she was trying her hardest to make me a lesbian like her.
Lesbian here: We don’t claim this woman.
Am sorry that all happened to to no perant should do this not getting glasses?! Thats literally your need it shouldn't be something to get as a birthday present?! Also Some people are so disgusting and disappointing let people love who they love streight or gay.
Wow that's hard to hear 😔 hope you're doing okay now, you deserve so much better ❤️❤️
At that point she isn't lesbian anymore
@@LakeofCrystalclanI agree as one as well
As an unwanted girl I totally get this. My Brother is 35, he's the older child and has been given everything in life and yet hasn't had a job, still lives with my parents who are now in their 70s and dont work. He throws tantrums, threatens people, punches holes in walls and is completely useless... I have several degrees, a job, i haven't stopped working since i was 12 as i had to have a job back then if i wanted to have an education, things like deodorant, lunches, school uniforms. Yes it hurts. It would have been nice to have had loving parents, but their Karma is my useless brother who they basically created and now have to live with an deal with. If they die, i won't live with him or deal with him. I've told them this. He's their issue, they created the issue and I still wish to change my name and have nothing to do with these disgusting excuse for humans that my family are.
What country do you live in if you don’t mind me asking?
Preach! As you should, im so proud of you for all your degrees and pushing through with those ignorant creatures!!! Love from California
Man I love people who get revenge as they should, good job 👍
Do u mind if i ask your name? U dont have to-
Do you blame the brother or the parents
Just want to say that the food being prepared in this video is a hot brown. The hot brown is an open faced “sandwich” created at the Brown Hotel here in my hometown, Louisville, Ky. It’s better if you use leftover turkey carved off the bird instead of what looks like deli turkey slices. It does call for tomatoes, but an upgrade is to replace the regular tomatoes with fried green tomatoes. It adds a taste of yummy sourness whereas the fresh ripe tomatoes is overpowered by the mornay sauce
No that line was perfect for them and didn't elope that will make them think you feel guilty
WE’RE NOT CREDITING VIDEO CREATORS WITH THIS ONE 🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥
@zach_choi
Real asf
? Look above the title of the video, it shows the real video title next to a play button
@@TheBlitzer1939I only see the Reddit story title next to the play button for myself.
The shrinkage of that bacon was more upsetting than the story.
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bruh🤡💀
Run cold water over the bacon before cooking, it helps stop the shrinkage.
I'm so glad that my parents are ACTUALLY parents.
Respectful, patient parents.
My youngest brother has special needs, but they still make time for me and my twin
Thanks mom and dad 😊
Me too! My siblings are your twin and younger brother combined. My twin has special needs. My mom always makes time for me, my twin, big brother, and big sister though 😊
I am sorry you weren't parented well. I thank God you persevered. You now are in control of your life. I pray you have healed old wounds. Live well.
The OP should've leave this information on FB just as her mother did. If her mother plays victim and blame OP , OP should stand for herself. Glad she stayed with her decision. It is common when You put boundries(when never did) people start to get angry bc they cannot push You around anymore 😁👍
I’m the middle child and yet I’m the favorite. The oldest abuses substances so he’s hated and the youngest just sorta is always in his room, I come downstairs to talk to my parents, actually accept to go on trips with them and generally share similar interests to both my dad and mom.
This is so relatable wth
That's the same with me but a lil different. I'm the youngest and stay in my room the whole time, my sister ( the middle) abusees substances and no she is not hated bc my mother encourage her to and my brother is just like me. Off in the side. He's not the favorite or the hated he has been neglected for his whole life and mostly I'm the only one that hangs out with him. ( btw my brother is 18 still living with us and my sister is 16. I'm not saying my age for privacy reasons). Your comment is really relatable
@@user-wt2fu1in2z yeah it happens quite often. It’s the same with one of my friends, middle child yet the favorite. Older sister goes around with boys all the time and the youngest is a little trouble maker. Also my older brother is already 24 and lives with us. me and my younger brother do get along well though, often play games though me and him are only a year apart while my older brother is much older than either of us.
My lil sibling used to be the favorite all through out childhood, they babied her all the time. I at age 7 warned them she's being a bad kid and her attitude will get worse if they continued to baby her. They said they'll stop babying her when she turns 7 and that her attitude will get better as she grows up, spoiler alert, it didn't. She became more and more demanding. So they switched favorites. I should be happy that I'm now the favorite but rn I'm pretty sure my sister knows that I'm the favorite.
I always thought that after she figured out I'm the favorite she'd hate me to death, but to my shock she only dislikes my parents and never hated me, I'm quite happy but sad for her.
lmao why not help him?
"How DARE you use my own spells against me, Potter."
My husband was like that.. he was considered in the middle and unwanted.. the older brother was a teacher and wanted.. the daughter on a daycare business. And baby brother was in the military.. my poor husband was shoved under the carpet.. they even got into a fight with each other.. Mr teacher and Mr military against my poor husband.. they lost the fight but I went up to the hospital ..with my husband because they split his mouth open.. I told my husband wants your mother passes away we are done with the family.. she was the most sweet person ever.. the kind of person you want to wrap up and hug.. we got a double slap in the face.. my mother passed away from cancer and then a few months later we lost his mother.. but we packed our bags and we left..
Sounds like you chose the best choice
@@bethanysmith5856 21 years worth of marriage to.. yep the moment she left us so to speak we left.. he still has a scar on the lower part of his lip where they split him open.. I just can't believe that my husband actually won especially with his baby brother that was in the military.. two against one person.. that was not a fair fight but my husband still won the fight..
@@KarenLee-bs5ms apparently having good parents is not normal so I feel fortunate of having caring parents
Definitely me. I'm the youngest, middle child was the baby to my mom but he also had health complications so it makes sense. My mom had even celebrated my birthday without me. I have cut her off and I've explained why (invisible more than just that) but it's been very liberating for me
Well to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of one's view's and by trying to make it objective, and by considering each and every one's valid opinion, I honestly believe that I completely forgot what I was going to say.
Sounds very familiar. It was only my brother and I growing up, I was always compared to him, why can't you get good grades like your brother or get in the National Honor Society, be popular, he got all new clothes at the start of the school year, I got 1 new pair of jeans and had to use clothes from the previous years, he got new Nikes, I got generic K-Mart blue light special. It wasn't until recently that I suspect that I was an accident or mom wanted another boy, not a girl.
Nothing hurts more than the feeling of not being wanted or loved by your own mother and, growing up, couldn't understand why.
I know the feeling only my father made it clear from birth by abandoning me. Then I was the outcast when my mother remarried and had 2 more children.
@@drunklink350 well, the dad I grew up with was my step-dad, I too, know how it feels to be abandoned by my dad.
He took abandonment a step further, he left the country to avoid paying child support to my brother and I.
I’m the younger of two brothers and luckily for me I didn’t get that bad treatment. Everything I got was handmedowns but I never minded. However it was very evident that I wasn’t as liked as my brother. I always had significantly less problems than my brother both academically and socially but they just related more with him than they did me.
@@msbigdog1460 things like this make me feel fortunate of having caring parents and also having my biological dad
When you go out of your way to make sure someone knows they don’t matter to you in your life, don’t be surprised when the tables turn and you are on the receiving end of that sentiment. Opie is not the idiot and I hope that you go on to have a happy and wonderful loving life you deserve.
Ey middle child! I have severe ADHD .... i found out one year ago... when I finally "transfered my medical records to me... and not my parents...(whatever it's called.. hope you understand) I'm 25
I asked them why they didn't tell me.... I would have better grades and better "love for me (fellow ADHD would know)... BC I have believing I'm the worst person ever...
They said "that I shouldn't have an excuse" and some other stuff..... WTF right?
Edit - this is the first time I got more than 5 👍 WOW thank you 😊
New edit - holy $hityyy Mann the most likes ever, awesome.. thanks for Al the stories, I definitely feel less alone 😎😎😌😊
Holy shiz that’s horrible!
I’m 19, and I can barely function without medication for my ADHD! It doesn’t help that depression often goes hand in hand with people with ADHD. Knowing what was different about yourself compared to others would definitely have made it easier to love yourself and be understanding.
And I want to strangle your parents for daring to say they didn’t want it to be an excuse because as someone with ADHD who grew up knowing about it that thought process sticks with you (could also just be my depression speaking). But knowing the reason behind your struggles makes it easier to cope.
They are definitely assholes in that regard (hopefully only in the regard of mental health). I hope you’re doing better now. ❤️❤️
Why would you gatekeep that information from the person who needs it? Hope you're doing well 🥺
I’m not 100% sure but that might be illegal as their keeping medical related stuff away from you, like I have autism and I MIGHT have adhd so I can kind of get what you’ve been through, still if you can find out if that was legal because I don’t think it is
@@Thebrightestdogday I think it could at most be considered a form of neglect/abuse. But I don’t believe parents are required to inform their children of their medical conditions (at least while they are minor)😕
@@sylverplatinuim5655 Unless it’s vital, I don’t think so.
This is sad to hear, since I'm a middle child. My parents loved all three of us.
Kids deserve parents but parents dont always deserve kids.
It's in the full video, but "she can’t be too affectionate with her fianceé/wife at their wedding because you know how guys react to two girls."
I'm gonna stop you right there. This is their sister, what the fuck are you talking about?
Maybe it's a common K!nk there, I guess, y'know, how some guys love watching intimacy between 2 females and wishing out loud to be invited to watch it directly.
Ngl some of these guys don't think much abt who they're watching, as long as their perverted dream comes true.
As the middle child, I was lucky that I didn't grow up being ignored and treated like this, sadly my older sister will sometimes get the shaft, but a lot of that is her own cause, as she's self centered a lot of the times
What about the younger child
Whenever me and my sister get into arguments i (jokingly) tell her im the reason our parents paid attention to her because by the time she was in like mid elementary school i was already a disappointment and a little beyond repair so they had enough attention for the middle child although i will admit it seems like lately (2-4 years) my parents have actually paid attention to all 3 of us so credit where credits due
@redfatseal2407 my little sister and I are less than a year apart, but she did get away with a lot more, and we were always at eachothers throats, but nothing out of the ordinary for siblings I think, we are a pretty close knit family
@@thomasbarnett2425 wait, like you guys are at least over 9 months apart, right?
@redfatseal2407 I was born in October a week after my mom turned 22, my sister was born in September a week before my mom turned 23
I grew up in a great household, and I was the middle child. My twin brother, Enzo, was younger by 12 minutes and my sister, Olivia, is older by 6 years. My parents were amazing to all of us, even though it was hard because my mother got cancer when I was 9, which she beat completely when I was 15. My parents fully supported my brother when he came out as gay and supported my sister when she joined the Marines, and they helped me pay for my first prosthetic leg. I was so lucky to grow up in such a loving household. Unfortunately, I only have my sister and my parents left. RIP, Enzo.
Nahh what happened to bro 😢
Are you telling the truth or are you trying to hit all the points that get you more likes
@@quandal1633what makes you think they made this up
@@quandal1633think this is true
@@ToJiBlAde I’m waiting for the man who made this to respond
Damn,thry were the most spoiled kids ever.i feel you girl.just ignore your parents and brothers and give them the silent until they support you as much as they do for your brothers
I hear stories like this and i know i never want to be like this 😢
I’m the youngest of my family, and I often forget that while favouritism is something my mother disagrees with, sometimes her words may come across differently by accident. My brother finally got a job, but I was sick, so when my brother told my mum she shortly congratulated him, then continued with talking about my care. She didn’t mean to do this, but u can tell how it came across. I understand the point of the video is not this, but I do want to remind that every child in the family can often be accidentally (or purposefully) treated differently. It isn’t always the stereotype u see online, as most of those vids come from a bias view. The youngest isn’t necessarily always favourited, the middle isn’t necessarily always forgotten, and the oldest isn’t necessarily always left with doing the most. These views we see are from particular places in sibling trees and are technically bias, as every sibling would view the situation differently and we never know what another is going through. I get that wasn’t the point, but anyways, just wanted to bring it up❤
Thank you for this. I often wonder if what we're getting here isn't a bit one-sided and blind to all sorts of interactions over the years.
Least favorite youngest child goes unnoticed because it’s not as common. Although I’m the favorite in the family both of my siblings get treated really well
Maybe it's because of where I'm from, but I think the story above is not simply about her being the middle child but also that she's the middle GIRL child. I mean I've seen this level of neglect to girl children no matter the order of birth unfortunately.
Thank you. I agree with the story, and I also totally agree with your point 💯
While I do have my own story abt being casted aside and later being favourited, I do believe that my parents were juggling between the seven of their children, so make sense certain situations may seem like favouritism was at play when we know they were only just two humans like all of us.
And some of us even parent our own parents and that's life. Things may get difficult but that's just a levelling up stage. Some of us don't have childhood while others don't have social life, etc, etc. At the end of the day, we write our own story.
@@shievanisingh8543 that aspect definitely relate to you strongly, imma admit. I relate to that as well, and agree with what op decided to do.
But at the same time, my parents still deserve love and care from me, and I don't want to forget that just because being treated unfairly was something I strongly relate with op.
At the end of the day, while op can't forgive her family, I can forgive mine and not react too strongly to op's situation to further dismiss the graces that my parents had bestowed amidst the neglect I experienced. I think that's what the commenter is relaying 🙂
I am so sorry that you grew up this way. It sounds as if you are in a good place now. Be happy. You are not wrong!
I loved the part with the line
Dude just watch the first comment
@@hazerarebachoudhury5159 *read
Just cant handle that one click to the whole story huh bud
Exactly 😒😒😒
I'm sorry you were treated this way. It's horrible. You deserve better ❤
Im a middle child. I will admit that my parents didnt have time for all three of us. My older brother is incredibly smart. When he started anything, (high school, driving, college.) he would make it look so easy that a year later my mom would just put me in whatever and expect me to just 'get it'. Spending more time to prepare him.
My younger sister was a miracle baby. She came into the world clinging to life. She has mild CP and has lived a normal life. (2 children, a husband) She has difficulty throwing a ball and doing advanced math, but the only way to tell she has it is to look creepily close. She will always have back trouble and will eventually be wheelchair bound. She is an incredible woman that has been in and out of hospitals her whole childhood. Of course my mom would spend most of her time helping my sister in her time of need.
My dad had to work so many long hours to make ends meet. Although, he has made mistakes in his past, he has always cared. By the time he had time to spend with us, he had to catch up on who we were. Even harder when he had to be the main source of discipline.
I could have become estranged with my family for a lack of time, effort or love that i was shown in my youth. The difference is that I knew the struggles they were going through. They were not showing favoritism towards anyone. They were doing what they could. They tried their best to raise us with the time and resources they had. The short stick usually was given to me, but it was never a lack of love.
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I grew up in a unique situation where I was a planned child who was cast aside after the divorce. I lived with my father, and his catch phrase was, "I don't know, you figure it out." I felt that one.
Who else was more focused on the dish (background video) than the story😹😹
It's zach choi's
It's stolen content lol
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Btw, that is domestic violence, that’s an actual fucking crime. They can be sent to jail for at least 3 years for child neglect and the fact that they did not give mental support adds more charges on to the already high charge they would have on domestic violence
I’m youngest but I still feel this. I’m the only girl and I have 2 older brothers. I was always told “Oh no your oldest brother needs us more, we need his grades to come up.” Or it was “You other brother needs us! He may get into another fight!” And if it wasn’t that it was “ your brother has a concert don’t be so selfish!”
I got straight As for the first and last time and my parents never showed. Also at my first performance they couldn’t come because my brothers 5TH ONE MATTERED MORE!
Yep this is a good all case of
"Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child"
I love when you use your parents favorite line back on them
Up until high school I was the middle child that apparently did everything wrong I was the scapegoat on my dads side of the family and my step mom at the time hated me for some reason but was fine with my younger and older sister my dad was always busy so he didn’t always notice but once I reached high school we moved to a different state and my dad had broken up with my step mom leaving her in our previous state. Now my older sister still lives with our grandparents despite being 25 and still gets spoiled by them even though she does absolutely nothing and is a b-word and my little sister lives with me and my dad but she also acts like a spoiled brat screaming and hitting whenever she doesn’t get her way and doesn’t do any of her school work. Me I’m about to graduate high school with a 3.1 gpa and I help my dad around the house with chores and such and take care of my little sister. My dad now says I’m his last hope lol
This person is literally the true middle child
I’m so happy there’s a link to the full story
Nursing home sounds real nice for these parents.
Sounds too good to be true. Call me whatever, but these two pricks should fend for themselves in the later age.
That's a cool aunt right there!
W aunt. Allow the rest of us to help you like she did
Definitely a boss queen 🎉👑
@@marzsyarqowy6933 is it really true that the youngest childs act like the way they are portrayed on social media?
@@redfatseal2407 at least my youngest sibling is not, since we're 7 in total, any hint of selfishness would straightaway be extinguished to a point that I myself couldn't fathom what self-care really means 😂
But I do see my relatives being a spoilt brat they were even into their late 30s 😂 so I can't give you a solid justification. Sorry
@@marzsyarqowy6933 ah i see, thanks for sharing
I’m lucky my mom treats us the same, hearing these stories makes me so upset. My mom sometimes doesn’t treat us the same most of the time, but mostly she does. It’s just that my older siblings have to do less things and me and my sister (the youngest) have to do more stuff. Like cleaning and more stuff you know.
I mean, I don’t mind it, but you know. My mom won’t even let me and my sister go out to hang out somewhere, or even somewhere near, not even with our friends or whatever. I wanna go out for once, by myself, with my sister or a few friends. My brothers get to go but whatever.
Doesn’t matter if you’re the middle child, the youngest or the eldest, you can always explain how you feel about being treated differently, the internet shows that the youngest child is treated so good, the middle child is presented as invisible, and the eldest is just, normal or whatever. But does that mean it’s true? No. Everyone has a different life, it’s not all the same.
I got to say the full video is well worth listening to
You can wait years for it. But the immense feeling of satisfaction when you do can make it all worth while. Don’t back down.
I was a middle child of my family and this mirrors my experience. The flip side is that the experience made me independent and I became good at making friends.
My life is exactly the same. Only girl, middle child, and two spoiled brothers. Younger brother has autism so i just tolerate him but he's spoiled, he knows what he's doing and since he's the youngest and has a disability my mom just gives into his wants. Not needs, his wants
Yeah I couldn’t help but to think that they treated her differently more likely because she was a girl than because she was a middle child. I am the older daughter of 3 siblings I have 2 younger brothers and I always had the responsibility of looking after them, we have a good relationship but I can definitely say I had more expectations, and the youngest one is the most spoiled as it usually turns out.
I'm the youngest, and I can relate
I’m the youngest and luckily I don’t relate. I’m sorry that the media is always portraying you as the spoiled brat.
I loved the part where she told her parents their favourite line, life changing.
That fixed the bike line had me who team in howling 😮
Sad story. But you will be fine! Much love!
Completely unrelated to the story.
My roommate used an ingredient I needed for cooking and I improvised the cheese sauce shown in this video, since I remembered it from another video. It hella slapped
Sweet!
"Low blow" to use the same line that they used??? Huh??? So how much lower of a blow is it for them to use it on a child in thr first place then??? I'll say pretty FLIPPIN low and disgusting to neglect their child the whole time, expect her to want any of them at her wedding, AND try to make her wedding about them. Thank the Lord for that aunt though, someone should've said that earlier.
soooo many parents do this to their daughters. they only care about you when you’re doing something for them. daughters are raised, not loved.
So..... all that uh... "Middle child is the hated one"? I NEVER KNEW IT WAS REAL!!! Oh my gosh. I couldn't IMAGINE not treating my kids equally
I love the part where they say what made their parents aggravated
Bro this is so relatable :)
As the eldest child and the only one with special needs (high functioning autism) I’ve always had a bit of a spoiled child upbringing (oh, we can’t do that, it’ll upset Magical!! Oh, Magical can’t handle it if you do that etc etc) and while I know I can still be a bit spoiled sometimes, at least I, an autistic individual, actually have the ability to not only see how my spoiledness affects those around me but actually change for the better. Honestly I don’t understand not being able to see one’s own flaws let alone having the fortitude to improve on yourself..
Apologies if that comes off as snobbish or obnoxious in any way, i do not mean it that way but i can’t figure out a better way to write what im trying to say and i can see how it could be taken as such :/
Its what it is but, to be honest, I really can relate to OP’s story. My parents were divorced and I’ve had to lived with my toxic and abusive mother for years, with older siblings who could care less about me and only about themselves. I’m the youngest daughter. They were always pushing or pressuring me and treated me like they hated me. My father used to also be an alcoholic and had a violent streak and would raise hand if he so gets angered (he had a short temper).
I left that God forsaken household in 2022 and never looked back.
The journey is lonely, but you never lose people who really love you… in the long run, I never had to hear people in my family tell me how I’ll never be good enough and that my mother wished I never existed.
I hope you are feeling better now. Please allways remember that every human is precious, has things he/she is good at and thinks that can be improved but EVERBODY DESERVES to be respekted and loved. Your story made me sad and angry. Making a child feel unwanted is a great sin. They had no right to treat you like that and that is not how people treat each other! Please don't think you deserve such treatment or that its normal or okay if someone does this to you again. Life can be hard, there are ups and downs. You will meet a lot of diffrent people. You cant chose family but you can choose everything else. So meet people and stay with those that respekt and value you. It is terrible that you had to experience how people definitly shouldn't act, but I hope that you manage to turn this bad experienes into something "good"; into becoming a strong women that can identify toxic behaver and good people and treats everyone with the respekt they deserve.
I wish you a great life with lots of wonderful moments! It's yours.
@@cccoster1281 thank you so much for your kind words. Really needed that. It still feels like yesterday when I just left. But im taking it one day at a time to heal ❤️🩹
@@jenjen_oreo You are verry welcome. I somehow had the strong feeling that I should write to you. I'm really happy that it seems to have had a positive effect. I wish you a lot of strength on your way and I hope that good friends will find you so that you can enjoy your life and have the support you need to overcome all the small and big obstacles you might encounter.
Have a nice evening and feel warmly hugged!
You will figure it out, whatever and however :)
I’m convinced most of these are just people who didn’t get their way living out their wildest dreams.
My older sister has something similar. She told me because i had seizures, i got "loved and got more attention" because my seizures were more important. She basically blamed me for my parents not showing her affection and i tried telling her that theyre abusive, they literally try to pit us against each other and i WANT a respectful relationship but she just always is hateful and thinks shes better, yesterday we got into an argument and she told me i need to tell her what the problem was and i kept telling her its the same issue its always been. She doesnt listen, she doesnt care. She just is disrespectful and hateful and then expects me to love and cherish her. But when i return the same energy IM THE BAD GUY. its why i refuse to have a relationship with her now. I tried. She didnt. I dont care anymore.
As an oldest who is treated this way i can say its not fun and if i ever bring it up im the problem and being disrespectful
NTA - Using that line was PERFECT! Lots of luck and good fortune to you and your wife in the future.
Toxic behaviour. You need to be with people that have your back but ultimately, you need to be ok with yourself. It wasn’t great behaviour but don’t hold the grudge forever. I’m not saying to let them back in your life, just for your sake, come to terms with it and move forward secure in yourself.
I don't think he can easily move on and not hold any grudges. His entire childhood is messed up to the level he has only hatred for his family. He can cut ties forever because he was always unwanted and the parents clearly don't like let alone love the middle child.
I mean, you only got one childhood, and for your parents to just fuck it up like that is worthy of holding a grudge over. Matter of fact, if it ain't trauma, it's walking that fine line of being trauma.
Plus, her parents were STILL doing that shit in her adulthood by telling her how she should run HER wedding so her BROTHERS don't get offended. Literally can't be called a grudge if it was happening up to that point 💀
I got you I know how that feel
lol no your not wrong. there things you just rolled over and take it like they always made you even to the point you had to stay with your aunt over this😂
Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child.
I am am the youngest of 2 older brothers, and since I’m the only girl, my mom loves me to bits. She loves my brothers too, but I am closer to her because I spend most of my time with her. My eldest brother (17) is an extrovert, and has a job and a girlfriend and an extreme amount of friends, so he’s out of the house almost 24/7. On the other hand, my other brother (13) is the complete opposite. He is an introvert, and barely comes downstairs. When he comes downstairs, he barely talks or doesn’t talk at all. He has to be in the mood to talk. He has gotten better with talking to us whenever he comes downstairs, but he is still my introverted brother. I love both of my brothers very much. This is why my mom loves me so much. It’s because my brothers are never with her. Seeing how this family treats their daughter who they have basically neglected all her life makes me cringe so hard. What she did is right.
We really need to be having this conversation more. The intersection between parental favoritism and misogyny has ruined so many girls and AFAB people’s self-esteem; they feel like it’s something to do with them when it’s actually just plain bigotry.
Most people say they hate being the middle child (im the youngest and my sister is the oldest) and usually the youngest gets treated the best but not me i get in trouble more than my older sister all the time even if she does the same exact thing. I wouldn't say my parents exactly hate me but id say my sister is the favorite one.
I wasn’t a middle child. I was the youngest. And yet I completely understand what she went through. Even the part of my mom admitting she never wanted a girl to begin with. Well her only boy is messed up still. And me I’m doing well.
Fr this is actually so true for me
As the oldest child, I've been treated horribly. My brother, the middle child, is kind of ignored. My sister, the youngest, is the favorite, though she was also treated bad too. All of us were.
that not being the least favourite anymore. they treat you worst than strangers.
I love the part about the argument
I love the part when it talks about the arguement!!
For me, that was the older siblings story, only I standed alone all the time acting just fine with everything even through all the hate I have towards everyone... I feel u, ik it hurts...
Im an only child and I unfortunately feel this from my mom. As an adult now I blocked any communication from her, so she reaches out to my dad. It's pathetic.
That is when I would probably run away.
She had every right to be like that I watched the full story