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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- 3 scares in 24 hours….. VANLIFE IS DANGEROUS if you’re not always vigilant!
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The incident at the gas station didn't have anything to do with van life, but real life. Thank you for the inspiring video. Safe travels, safe living.
You left your gas station situation totally vulnerable. Never leave your door open while pumping. It's a subliminal invitation towards uninvited attention.
Where were your keys? On you or in the van?
What would you have done had he jumped into your van? It's like leaving your front door open to strangers.
I actually lock my van while pumping gas.
I walk with a don't "f" with me attitude. Predators prey on young pretty women. Being nice is what they are hoping for - as you know.
Be more cautious & careful.
Trust no one! Toughen up!
You're incorrect about predators preying on pretty young women. Men are more likely to be mugged. And it's exactly because of you're walking around with a don't "F" with me attitude.
Some vans can’t be filled with the door closed , my Mercedes is an example
@@eyeintheskyakagodThanks for mentioning that. I did not realize that until recently.
@@chrisnolin3039 Muggers are after money. The creeps who go after young women are far more dangerous.
As a dad of two women about your age, some of this was hard to watch, but I'm glad you have taken steps for protection. In the case of the gas statin guy, don't be nice. He isn't. Always protect yourself and stay safe
So be rude and disrespectful to a crazy person? Men and boy will always hit 9n woman.
Exactly. Bad guys equate nice with being weak.
Sabre Gel pepper spray. Amazon 2/$30 .
Range 15 feet,solid stream,not a fan spray.Flip lid safety,no fumbling with switch type safety.
Works well on pitbulls/ etc etc.
Keep all threats at a distance.
How about a pitbull?🧐
Please stay safe!👍🙏👏🇸🇪
As a nice person, I had to learn to keep a poker face when dealing with strangers. Predators test people assessing their body language to determine if they’re an easy target. A straight face and eye contact goes a long way to scare off bad guys.
Good advice.
Your comment gave me chills because it reminded me of a peculiar encounter with a stranger that evoked similar feelings. I've experienced stranger situations, but it's true what they say about trusting your gut. There was an odd vibe. He stared at my outfit-cargo pants and boots, as if I were dressed for a hike, though I was merely strolling through a flea market. He complimented my boots and looked me in the eye. I thanked him and I broke eye contact, as compliments from strangers aren't unusual, but he lingered beside me, observing me, like he completely forgot why is he there in that flea market and hyperfocus on me which made me uncomfortable. Eventually, I met his gaze and asked, "Can I help you?" with a seriousness that implied I was prepared for confrontation. He slightly bowed his head, took a deep breath, gave me a final sidelong glance, and then hurried away. It's that weird feeling when people that looked good and well put together act that way to strangers. or maybe, I watched too much psychopath genre series lol
@@persona5305 Yikes what a creep! Yeah good call on taking an proactive approach. It's good to listen to your gut. It's been evolving for millions of years, so it ought to work most of the time. Better to risk being a little rude than being a victim.
Me too, and it's even worse because i was raised in the South where it's a cardinal sin to be rude. But after being in dangerous positions it gets easier to put up that "Back the F up" energy
Wear a fake ring on wedding finger. Say you're married. Don't need to placate and give a fake number. I'm a vanlifer and l do not dress to be cute because l'm not dealing with the consequences. Too many crazies out there.
Agree with you....
Or, at least, cover up more, when in the higher crime rate, etc.
I too don't get gas at night, I rarely go shopping at night either.. unfortunately, the way things are you have to be very careful, especially when by yourself and at night!. I would also put up the hair, especially as it's so long.... If you would have to fight it would or could get in the way. Please also get the better window covers for the back doors that match the others. I hope you have a really good lock on the back doors and they are secure. At one point driving, I thought I saw a space at the top of the doors between them...
I agree with other comments too.. especially, wait to post until out of the area, and be less specific.
Yeah, it's painfully obvious that shes trying to look cute.
That won’t matter is she’s found alone. What will a ring do. Smh.
@@Wesmancan It can ward of creeps who aren't willing to stoop to a certain level. Sure, if someone is going to assault her, they're just going to do it. But there's plenty of losers out there that won't try their usual tactics if they see a wedding ring. It's simply something to add to the mix of things she needs to work on.
Tell them your sorry and on your way running extremely late for your aids clinic appointment because your out of your prescription and will hv to wait 2 was for a reschedule.
Hopefully he still doesn't mind 😂😂😂
I'm a truck driver and the only state I've been messed with in is California. My advice, make a short list of things to see and then get the heck out.
I'm shut down near Stockton now so my pretrip inspection in the morning will be extra thorough. This isn't based on political views or opinions, it's based on experience. Be safe out here.
Agreed! I used to live in Lancaster CA and what's truly sad is that they are making it harder for ordinary citizens to arm themselves...
I’ve been to most the lower 48 states this year and the only incident I had was near LA. Definitely not a safe place to be.
So many stories of people defending themselves and getting prosecuted for it on the West Coast.
Totally agreed.safety always a issue in CA
Always trust your instincts if something telling you to get the hell out of there…GET OUT OF THERE!
There is a big difference between being adventurus and just plane foolish.
It's good to be happy, but it better when someone is happy because of you.
What you are doing can never be safe and OMG the constent stress. I hope you find someone that you click with that you can share in your dreams and you in theirs. Traveling in such a way would be much less stressful with another.
Not about the outfits. Wear what you want, you're beautiful and you don’t have to hide that. Like you said, either way we still get attention we don't want no matter what we're wearing. That guy was lame and way too close to you. No boundaries. Please don't be too nice! Love all of the ways you're staying safe. Thanks for sharing and showing the reality of the dangers in the world but going out there anyway. I'm doing the same thing. I love that you can explore, be prepared and look hot doing it. Woot. Happy new year!
It depends upon the area. I live in Los Angeles. In a place like Hollywood, where there are so many "street walkers," many of whom are also on drugs, dressing like that can attract the attention of guys that are selling them, like the guy who approached you at the gas station. It can also attract the attention of potential "johns" and/or the police, who might wonder if you are selling sex from your van.
However, dressing like that in the commercial area of Beverly Hills would not cause people to jump to such conclusions. You would just look like another young, fashion-conscious shopper and/or tourist.
So be careful how you dress until you know an area better, especially if you are trying to remain "stealth" in your van. It shouldn't be that way, but it is.
The best part about this video is learning that you have quite a few security measures in place! You sound very wise about knowing how to stay safe.
Of course, continue to take safety precautions and listen to your intuition! However, every "scary" situation you survive is a learning experience and great story to tell!! Summed up...be safe, have fun!!! ❤
Gotta be a warrior to do solo vanlife as a female. I'm a big, powerful, confident man, and a boxer, yet it's hard to avoid the crazies.
No, you have to be born into a culture with massive female privilege and wealth. I was born into a culture with my family of 7 living on $6/day. No electricity, no plumbing, grass roof and dirt floor. I served as a forward targeting observer with a mortar team in the war with ISIS at Marawi City. These privileged American women are not warriors, and they are not brave.
Also, lock your doors at the gas station- people will steal out of the passenger seat where some keep purses, etc
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So glad you found a safe place to stay for the night, Always keep your guard up and stay safe.
Glad you are taking protective measures to stay safe. Keep practicing your Karate as it will help you stay focused no matter what happens around you. Awareness is so important. Stay Safe and Happy New Year
When you were at the gas station, I was on the edge of my seat hoping for another "live demo" of your bear spray setup! That would go so viral. And we all would have cheered. Sorry you had to go through that and glad you're safe! I'm pretty much just going to boondock outside city limits.... you're way braver than me!
Good choice, Tory! I could see you grappling with the decision, but I'm a fit older dude and *I* wouldn't have slept there! Safety first :)
People with babies definitely break into vehicles. Never be nice. I would never do vanlife in a city like LA, Philly, or any of the deadzone cities. I looked up the Byrna thing, and that's interesting.
Stay safe.
I don't know if this would work or not: If you had a few magnetic "business" signs that you could keep swapping out on yor vehicle - signs that would deter people from wanting to have anything to do with your vehicle - such as "Lead Removal Service" or "Waste Oil Collection" or "Diaper Recycling". I Hope nothing bad every happens to you.
LIFE IS DANGEROUS if you’re not always vigilant! 😎
Consider buying a "cattle prod", which is like a long taser. If someone busts your side window to stick hand/arm in order to try and open the door, that prod can quickly be used to make them pull it back out, and it stuns them at same time. Great thing to have in dangerous area for vanlife.
You are a True Adventurer. So Brave. Stuff like what happened a the gas station is pretty normal anymorre really. it is sad. Thank you for sharing your adventures. I love to see what you are up to next.
It looks like a character from the movie The Strangers. Parking at Hollywood and Vine wasn’t smart. I call Hollywood Hollyweird. I’m glad you left. Stay safe. Don’t live your life in fear. Happy Holidays and New Years!
Love the storytelling aspect of this video. Stay safe!
thanks for sharing Tory and Welcome to California JUST BE VISUAL of your surroundings and you now the rest, enjoy your stay.
Life in the US is stressful for everyone.
You can use the seatbelts to secure the front doors. Then I’d disable the outside door handles for the back and side doors.
When I get back on the road I am planning to try to find people to travel with. Maybe could find someone to travel with or a group of people even. I wish people could just respect each other.
I didn't want to pay rent either. So we got a modest 15 year mortgage and paid it off in 12.
I've never been in a top that showed my midriff or my cleavage. So I'm just not cut out for van life.
These women know not what they are doing or how dangerous it really is. Staying the move is all I can suggest.
The Walmart guy is a certified Victorville moment 😬 I was sitting outside at an in n out burger there, looking at my atlas after finishing my food and someone asked me for money, but got quite upset when I said no. Needless to say I’ll be skipping that town on my next trip. Thanks for sharing your adventures with us again Tory! Keep up the great work 😁
Hi Tory, no disrespect but why are you traveling alone? Do you have a video explaining why? You mentioned your mother and grandmother stressing out about the interaction. For good reason. It could have been a terrible situation. I hope you the best of every situation.
Hi Tory, While it is good to be vigilant do not let these worries ruin your day. You would be at far more risk living in a flat and going out Friday and Saturday night to a club for drinks, the risk of spiking or just being abused while drunk are much higher. A risk of 1 in 176 in one area is not your risk as there will be people not taking any precautions and people being stupid with their safety, being drunk or buying and using drugs or just being out at 2am. The world is normally much safer than people think but where I am in Manchester hundreds of young people were injured and a number killed just leaving an Ariana Grande concert, my wife was working in the front corner of our garden just an hour before a car rolled and bounced snapping the fence posts to the ground where she had been, in 1996 the IRA bombed Manchester with a 1500Kg (3300lb) bomb in a lorry it did around the equivalent of $1.7 billon damage but they gave a 90 minute warning so 75000 people were evacuated with 200 injured and no fatalities. No where is absolutely safe and some places and some activities are more dangerous than others, the risks you are taking living your life are minimal.
Glad that you stayed in Orange County and had time for Disneyland. Thank you for sharing your journey.
In LA, security is wearing a bullet proof vest, a bodycam and daul wielding handguns.
It's not just for show either. They get active over there. 😂
Lol im over in the Midwest and met a guy recently who literally drove the entire way to get the hell out of comiefornia. Asked me about places to eat etc around the city. Also mentioned how good it felt to be back in America again. 😺 she doesn’t have a prayer out there. Even in a red state 💩 gets bad but its a whole lot better than where shes at. Why stick around to see if u can get kidnapped? Just get out. You’re already on the road!
Ahhh the joys of being a woman. Always having to be worried about unwanted attention and/or violence from men. Stay safe out there hon
Edited to add; You're a beautiful young woman so you need to be extra vigilant. I know we should be able to wear whatever we want, but it's just not :-(
Ran across your channel and am sitting here grimacing. If i was your mother i wld urge you to SERIOUSLY leave van life. You are coming across as too cavalier yet giddy anxious at the same time. That combination will MAKE you a target. My strong advise….go park in your parents driveway until you get reinforced locks installed on that van and make some serious security changes. I am not saying this to be nasty, but i was there at one time…it is no laughing matter when you have someone intent on getting in your van and once they do… what do you do???? Best of luck to you.
Don't be afraid to be rude. You have the right to be cute, but you shouldn't have to deal with unwanted attention. Don't engage! I act appalled when people approach me at a gas station or exiting a store or anywhere really. You're safer in the middle of nowhere. Criminals are opportunists. They don't go looking for victims outside of their stomping grounds which is in big cities.
I lived in a van for about a year after my house burned down. My greatest problem was the absolute lack of something USEFUL to do all day. I'm a man capable of looking after himself, so 'safety' wasn't an issue. (I also deceided early that the best place to park was between other vehicles on tree-lined SUBURBAN side-streets.) The local police (notified by a passing 'security operator') came to have a 'stern word' to me, but left after I pointed I had every right to park on a PUBLIC ROAD, as long as I was in a registered vehicle. Being wary is all well and good; bu not being seen as a 'pushover' goes a long way toward solving any problems.
@@CyberAndy_ Less than THREE years ago years actually. The rest of the drivel may be an american thing, but the coppers (usually) don't behave like that here in Oz. Moreover, they DID recognise my name (I had a long and violent anti-police history years ago) and stuck strictly to protocols. Funny ending: a sympathetic policewoman found me a villa unit (VERY good spot and virtually cost-free). When I refused to move in on principal they held a discussion and threatened to declare my van 'unroadworthy' (which it was, strictly speaking) which meant I couldn't use it on public roads.
1) swap your back doors out for doors that don't have windows. 2) get some sort of bulkhead between the cab and the back of the van. They make them with lockable doors that allow you to go back and forth between the cargo area and the cab without ever having to get out of the van. 3) your window coverings you put up at night are a glaring sign that says "somebody is in here sleeping" 4) I was glad you left hollywood. I've been on those streets. Unspeakable evil things go down there. Now that I'm an adult, I think that place is completely demonic.
Tory you definitely need a rottweiler. They do not bark, till attack. You will have company, feel much safer and can rest easier, since dog would wake you up. Once fully grown will protect you with own life. This is one of best protection you can get, unless you would decide for cougar.HAPPY MOTORING!.
As a Brit I have to ask myself WTF has happened to America ? 😱🇬🇧
As an American, I ask myself that everyday!
As am American, I ask you WTH has happened to the UK? Yours is turning for the worse also...
@@marigolds49 Agreed, we are a way behind you but we’re getting there 🤔🇬🇧
You should get a dash cam for security. They are great for recording anybody trying to break into your van, and also recording idiots while driving or if you get into an accident.
I was scared shitless in Texas cause they got some hill got eyes type of ppl there lol
I simply commend you for the way you face adversities. Keep it up, Tory.
You are a very talented and original blogger, onset and true to life and very compelling to follow .
Please be cautious be safe I care sending my love.🌹
Fair winds and safe harbors
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You do hang out in some really shady places, starting with living in your van XD
I am starting my traveling life full time this year. Maybe we'll cross paths. Stay safe and enjoy life. Good video
omg if i saw that whoever in the mask...I'd get the hell outta there so fast lol...
Drive safe and save!
🤣 I need that bumper sticker! hahahahahha ... I was thinking of Jenny's ;)
Nice to see you made it back home to mansion in hills ;)
altadena, burbank, la canada, tujunga... just some cities that have better camping opportunities in the LA area than hollywood. i live in pasadena, which is a no go because of overnight parking ban. but altadena doesnt have one. lots of great hiking there too.
I'm going to try something next time a guy doesn't take no for an answer. I will say no one time then if they keep hovering or keep asking I will simply say "I've already given you an answer and I stand by that answer".
Static palms melt your vibe. Midnight whisperings...
Malibu has some great overnight spots right next to the water
I got approached by a pushy guy once. I was wearing my pump. I told the guy it was my body cam. He backed off! I now wear a body cam! I was almost raped on my apartment by a law student who git keys to the buildings from the managers when they went on vacation too! My mouth saved me! We are never 100 % safe. Just try to be smart! Great podcast.
---This is SUPER SENSATIONALIZED!!!! I've been van dweller 3 yrs now in Oregon with NO problems!!! But then I dont dress like a street walker & sleeping over night on actual Hollywood streets is TOTAL INSANITY; I would NOT even sleep at Walmart in So. California. I lived in Anaheim for 20 yrs too long so I KNOW the social conditions/van dwelling situations if one doddles anywhere in Southern California... YOU are asking for trouble!!! And looks like you're getting exactly what you are dressed for!!!
called the number ,, lol,, good one .. stay safe out there ....
And Walt Disney is from Missouri.....Born and Raised.....
If you like animals, you should consider getting a dog as your companion. I would recommend a medium size dog. Something along the lines of a blue healer, or a Rottweiler. I have had both of those, and nobody will ever approach my vehicle. They get within 20 feet, and my dog starts barking, and they start backing up.
Nobody will ever try to get in your van with you.
Be safe and have fun😊
I always have an AirPod in my ear and my phone and say I’m sorry but I’m on a phone call or on the phone with my husband and you have to talk firmly and strong. Body language must be hard core and not make yourself look weak even when your dressed nice. I do Lyft and take breaks by talking a small walk or pumping gas and I deal with strangers asking for change or drugs. I live in the area and drive all over LA so it’s an all day thing. Can’t show weakness or vulnerability.
I know LA well and know where to park and drive.
The problem people are too paranoid and afraid when they visit other places. People are usually good and nice by nature, it's usually the visitor who are dangerous from the locals. The locals are protecting themselves too so being nice is still the best way to protect yourself even if you are uncomfortable.
My dear Tory, it's surprising to notice a sense of fear in your videos, particularly in the vibrant city of LA. What concerns me the most is the frequency of your apprehension in various videos. I've had the opportunity to travel extensively across Europe in a camper van (almost the same), experiencing a fear-free journey throughout the continent. It makes me wonder about the current situation in the USA. I mean, isn't the essence of van life about embracing freedom rather than constantly being on guard?
I never knew how many women never felt safe. I'm a larger man I'm very strong I have a 1000lb deadlift I'm very bold and very direct people get the idea that I clearly have the ability to defend and hurt people if I have to but I'm a very very gentle easy-going person with a great sense of humor I've worked with Street people and including street people. You should always have always have in purse a couple tools of quarters and a sock. This is a very effective defensive weapon. It works better when you are moving backwards
Used it will break arms skulls and bones very wicysmd effectively. I teach these basic weapon systems now if you have the quarters of the socks and you stopped by a plolice. It is an illegal weapon but side by side it is nothing.
Gangs attack in groups of 2 or more! So be extra safe over confidence can get you to relaxed!❤❤
No offense but I stay the hell away from cities because that's where all the crazies are (despite what you see in all the teen road trip horror movies lol). The country is gorgeous and full of friendly people and perfect for aiding you on a life of blissful seclusion and peace ✌️😎
Indeed
😂 Girrrlll you gotta beef this up a bit get secure lol...for starters let's pull that blanket down and get you some proper covers buy em diy em....idc just get something else that doesn't scream girl hanging in the window
Exactly what I thought.... A large black bath towel would be better than the cat towel... Would probably need two, but better would be the covers that are in the other windows
We are going to start an RV service we live on an acre land and will be able to have people stay here a few days while they work on their Vans or take a break and then leave the van here and go traveling somewhere
I'm reading all the comments and I'm dumbfounded by the fact that everyone wants to make suggestions but you gotta realize that Hollywood is a weird place to be in. I mean, it's not the area. It's the people. Especially since there's a lot of homeless people and creeps who are not from there.
What was the guy talking about at 5:49? The transcription reads:
Creep: "I'm all happy cuz I got paid today I
got like $1,000 do you want to make some like
money and stuff mind cooking up with
some cash too now."
Tory: "Oh no that's that's
okay but thank you."
Not sure why you would ever want to stay there or any other big city. Go out in nature and see some beautiful scenery. This way is way to dangerous.
Lol, "do they know if I am a girl?", then she peaks out of the hyper girly cat blinds...I think they know lol...
I'm afraid Tory if I looked like you I'd be scared too. It's nice to want to look cute for yourself, and as you do consider why bees visit the prettiest flowers. Also you may want to check the statistics before selecting your overnight camping spot. I enjoy your videos, but please keep safe.
I know a few spots to park safe a few days ...short walk from great beach or Mulholland 15 minute hike to spot overlooking ocean you can see 3 islands it's on border Los Angeles and Ventura county
I called the number LOL🎶 NEVER GONNA GIVE YOU UP 🎶
Hey girl new sub. Okay I just had to pause the video to try that number too funny please tell me why I'm going to change one of my voicemails to play in that 😂😂😂😂😂 thanks LOL Stay safe!
you should buy bear spray and a smaller pocket sized pepper spray, that really helps me personally.
The Michael Keaton film the founder is an interesting watch about the founding of McDonalds if you haven’t watched it.
This girl is legit gonna get kidnapped & her van taken. 💯
My guess is SF or somewhere along the PCH. If she even wanders into Bakersfield or central valley, its a wrap 💯
Oh, Tory, calling the cops is only useful in the places they actually come. 😂
should have told him your number was 11
Do not sleep in Hollywierd! It's not what everybody thinks, it's unsafe and dirty. If you want a safer place to park for an evening, try Santa Clarita, near Magic Mountain.
Just dont pump gas in neighborhood where a lot of blacks and Hispanics live bc there are always something going on and there are so many criminals. While pumping gas try not to be too cautious like looking around too often. It looks like you're too afraid that can actually attract criminals so look around occasionally and act like normal.
Most people that ride around in the van or some kind of camper they usually got a dog or a cat with them
I plan and schedule casino night stays free food room comps but you hv to register with license. The parking lot hv security patrols and nights. You hv free stay just sleep with the others in the lot if you are a vanlifer with no free room. So many advantages by using the casinos as a tool in van life. Free drinks ice climate control security 24/7/365
One year 21 or 22 i landed a free weekend stay that amazingly saved me fr a ice shutdown of the states involved and i had no worries cozied up in my free room for 3 days with free wifi, tv, safe, ice, shower, toilet, fridge, microwave and my airfryer. The sun came out on checkout day melting the frozen highways just in time for me to checkout 11am
Security being one of the most important female need I hope you got what is necessary for you to protect yourself, something like a gun for example. Now in California it was a kind of difficult to carry. In the state where I live we have constitutional carry, no permit needed. I will also say something politically incorrect but you need to find a man in your life. One of the main thing that a man can provide is protection. As long as he is not of the woke kind and is a real man.
You got lucky 🍀 😮😮😮😮 your a very beautiful 😻 and attractive young woman please be safe and get some type of defense 😊😊😊😊!!!!! Love ❤️ your channel and your van new to your channel love ❤️ to see your whole van build 😊.
Please this time have a bathroom in your van house.
In one of the last few videos, she said she was adding one this time
@@aspirationrecords ok, 😊
Telling him you were going to work was good but also say you work at the local police station lol.
Her body count is probably higher than the miles on her van lol
do not keep your door open while pumping. Keep it locked. stand with back to vehicle and watch surroundings. and yes you can act loud and state go away and if you have to go back to the convenience store
Sleep hospital lot well lit parking garages or cracker barrel some hotel lots but pre scout and go late leave early truck stops good safe are most of time
Hi Tory...I am a fan of three female van lifer's and the one thing they have in common is a dog...just saying..❤
That phone number is awesome! I'm gonna start using it, LMAO 🤣 😂
Maybe in retrospect it might seem that acting nice was the wrong choice and even though people say hindsight is 20/20, it actually isn't always that easy to know what is the best way to act. Some characters might get aggressive when you are rude or mean to them. In most cases it's best to go with your intuition and trust yourself to do what's right in the moment.
I can relate to how feeling cute and dressing that way is somehow motivating. I was wondering if you also feel more vulnerable that way? Not just because it attracts attention but also like emotionally or something?
Tory!! Have you watched The Founder? It's a really good movie about how McDonald's was founded. I just watched it and was screaming when I saw that old McDonald's sign!! Then you talked about it!! You have to watch it- it has a twist to it!!
Next time they ask for your phone number to tell him to say it's 911
That’s not a thing that’s getting bad around California, especially San Francisco are people breaking into cars it’s getting so bad people are leaving their trunks open when their cars are parked to let everyone see that there’s nothing in it worth stealing