Why self-hatred is difficult to treat
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
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Hi, I really found it helpful and yes I feel I have been earlier associated with such "coaches" that wanted to me change the BELIEF to get me going and they provided me with certain Affirmations etc. The thing is, I agree with your viewpoint here.. to reflect on the video, I have been self-hating and even punishing myself to an extent that I caused physical harm to myself for repeating certain mistakes, I never looked deeply that why am I inclined to committing mistakes knowingly and what am I really doing by punishing and cursing myself etc etc, I just kept on digging and evaluating, I started writing journals of my behaviour on any specific even and thereby my emotion associated with it. I don't know if I had reached anywhere, but I realise I am less hateful and harsh on myself than I was earlier, rather than following certain excercise or whatever to work on the belief system the clarity on the perpetuating issue is better.
So if I understood correctly, journaling (Self reflection) without any specific action alone made you mentally healthier person?
@@peeteri95 No, action was there, I didn't had to force myself for the "right" action, as I found clarity.. within myself, my current actions and thereby what would be the next healthier actions. Ofcourse still I had to push myself a little bit, as laziness and old-routined actions were acting unconsciously, but with deeper clarity about it too and a little resistance against them, I gradually placed myself into a postive loop, from a negetive loop. And also here there's a big role of 'trial and error', so the HONEST (factual/non-emotional) reflection part deals with feedback part efficiently.
@@ayushpratap8837 This sounds super interesting, can you go deeper into how you did this in practice? Maybe with an example?
I thought the lecture was well organized and easy to follow. He defined terms, had discernible sections of discussion, and concluded with practical applications. The unifying principle was how doctors can underestimate the deep emotional intensity within those who suffer from BPD. As someone applying for Grad school in counseling, I found this lecture very helpful and easy to understand.
My self-hate can't be fixed, I'm too damaged in the head.
My childhood and teen hood as well as now have destroyed my self-esteem to where I got surgeries to help my confidence and I'm still not happy. I tried getting help and it hasn't worked. I'm just damaged goods... :(
You have a peaceful tone
Link that meta-study, buddy!
I was really looking forward to listening to your commentary as l have the self-hatred issue but was unsure how to approach that super long lecture without falling asleep. However your tone of voice when you refer to the lecturer is slightly…disrespectful? Idk, it rubbed me the wrong way. There are tons of ways to disagree with a person respectfully without thrashing them. Especially when they work in your field and might be called a colleague of sorts.
i have no respect for the status quo psychology that is right
@@JoinAnimus that sounds like a 14 yo who just bought a tshirt F*CK THE SYSTEM
@@mariiadivavina3737 is it eff the system or eff the perpetuation of lies by people who don't have the intellectual resources to tell the truth; subtle but important difference