Cancer Update #26. My second psychology session and how it relates to Papa Smurf.

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  • @dontworrybehappy5139
    @dontworrybehappy5139 Рік тому +44

    I can only hope that I am able to approach my last days in the same graceful way that you do. I feel cheated that I didn't have the opportunity to have you as a personal friend in this life. Your friends and family are so lucky.

    • @enigma_-_79
      @enigma_-_79 Рік тому +6

      I’m not going gracefully. I’m going as ungracefully as I can. 😂 I’m going to say and do things I’ve wanted to say all my life to some, both good and bad, and I’m going to dance and party till I drop.

    • @dontworrybehappy5139
      @dontworrybehappy5139 Рік тому +5

      @@enigma_-_79 I think there is an elegance and grace to authenticity which it sounds like you have an abundance of.

    • @oneseeker2
      @oneseeker2 Рік тому +5

      He may not be in his last days, was he told that. I've read up on this Cancer He has. It what I would say rare, and many things are done to treat it
      Of course what do I know, nothing, I am reading everything possible, he knows, his Drs Surgeons, Oncologist know.
      I adore his looks, his creative talent, writing, his voice, expressions, his knowledge. What isn't to dislike.
      I don't know him, I adore what I see, my perception.
      He himself is a seeker, A healer of sort.

    • @enigma_-_79
      @enigma_-_79 Рік тому +2

      @@dontworrybehappy5139
      Why thank you kind sir. You just made my week.

    • @dontworrybehappy5139
      @dontworrybehappy5139 Рік тому

      @@oneseeker2 I used a poor choice of words when trying to describe what I was thinking. I should have written "when I am facing potential death".

  • @angelak5160
    @angelak5160 Рік тому +35

    Thank you for including all of us in your legacy and sharing your wealth of wisdom and kindness!

  • @teresah5769
    @teresah5769 Рік тому +31

    Demolition derby driver and Go-Go dancer and great parents AND your fab tshirt? Oh, the analogies, Paul. I simply adore you. Thank you.

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +9

      Thanks Teresa. I only know how to be me. I'm the only person I've ever been.....

    • @enigma_-_79
      @enigma_-_79 Рік тому +5

      Right? 😂😂 Paul lives a very exciting life. I have never been a go-go dancer and I grew up in the 1960s. 😂 Who’d a thunk it?

    • @enigma_-_79
      @enigma_-_79 Рік тому +7

      @@PaulinPerth
      You are full of surprises. I never know what you’re going to say next. You must make the best dinner party guest ever. Good on yer mate (as we say in Manchester, UK) 😂👍🏻

  • @ritaweltevreden5596
    @ritaweltevreden5596 Рік тому +14

    I have said it before and I’ll say it again. Our encounter is not a coincidence. What an extraordinary human being you are. My psychologist said the same thing to me about how I am dealing with this diagnosis. I am happy that I am able to live a good life not dwelling on this stage IV OC that is hovering over me. When my time has come I will deal with it. I only make time to enjoy my life as it is right now.
    Thanks again Paul for a another glimpse of your life. Big hug and much love.
    Rita

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +4

      Thanks Rita. Big hugs and love back at ya.

  • @loriwilcox10
    @loriwilcox10 Рік тому +3

    Hi Paul… I wanted to tell you I read all your episodes about your young life. I am 65 and I got quite a kick out of your earlier years! I remember reading about your parents going to see you work at the bar, so when you just mentioned it I chuckled a bit. I have only been following you for a very short time, like a couple weeks perhaps and I must tell you, I often feel your words straight to my core. There is something about you…I will tell you this, if your updates stop for whatever reason and I am still here, I will remember you and the many talks you have shared. I hope someone will remember me in that way. You have a gift…keep sharing and teaching us. As a side note, I also grew up in the most loving, supportive and accepting Jewish family. I married a Catholic and raised the kids to make their own decisions. I practice Judaism in my own way. I do pray, why not…so I have been praying for you. 💙 Have a good night!

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Thank you Lori. Yes, it must have been a bit like reading a book and then seeing the movie, when I started talking about Mum and Dad at the club. Thank you for praying for me. Paul.

  • @rdo1231
    @rdo1231 Рік тому +2

    08:25 Wow. Wasn’t expecting that 🤣 Totally brilliant, Paul! Love your work and your indomitable spirit. Your videos help brighten the day and erase all the stupid, maddening stress we create for ourselves. It’s like having a good friend to listen to and learn from. Keep updating us on your amazing journey. You are not alone, my friend.

  • @johnstewart5754
    @johnstewart5754 Рік тому +8

    Paul, I stumbled across your videos as I have also experienced a personal disaster losing the function of my wrist in a serious car accident, I was a tennis player and 23 years old and now just lost my career. It's funny how life can be all smooth, but everything can change one second later. I think it's a very useful analogy that you use in this video that we need to try and influence things positively but we are never actually in control, but that desire for control can destroy us emotionally. What we try to control will just end up controlling us.
    I saw a video yesterday and it said no matter how many times you fall you get up. The resilient person just gets up one last time and that's the difference. I commend you for what you are doing, your outlook and your positive force for the world. It has inspired me to try and rebuild my life now even though it will be a very long, hard journey. I genuinely wish you all the best sir.

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +7

      And I wish the best for you John. Our lives are different of course, but for what it is worth, at 19 I lost my right index finger tip. Later on in life I broke my tibia and fibula on my right leg. All the way along my life my close-up eyesight has been fading. My hearing is fading. My hairline is receding. And of course, now I have terminal cancer.
      Have you ever been lucky enough to meet a three-legged dog? They are always so excited and wanting to play. They aren't thinking about the leg they lost. They are thinking about the three legs they have left.
      Paul.

  • @helenfbo4111
    @helenfbo4111 Рік тому +8

    Because of you Paul I have found myself singing the banana splits song as I ride my bike here in Nottingham 🇬🇧

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Then this is a successful day. Cheers. Paul.

  • @deborahclaypool2349
    @deborahclaypool2349 Рік тому +1

    You show such grace in all of this ! You are so smart in so many things and this is silly but love your accent

  • @janemirandafitch6476
    @janemirandafitch6476 Рік тому +1

    Perth old girl here and love your use of our vernacular (here and on yr substack) of familiar times, events sequestered in my memory.
    And your youtube sharing is your circle of influence, on so many levels.
    Thank you.

  • @annettejarvis9830
    @annettejarvis9830 Рік тому +4

    You have affected my life profoundly and, in doing that, you have also affected the life of my son and on it goes….. much love to you xx

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Well, as long as it is a positive effect, then I am happy. I'm gonna assume it was. Much love to you too. Paul.

  • @CHClark895
    @CHClark895 Рік тому +3

    Some people are observers. Others are doers. You are definitely one of the latter. As more of an observer, I am enjoying your videos. ❤

  • @kimwalter6341
    @kimwalter6341 Рік тому +7

    Love listening to your life stories. You lived a life full of so many diverse experiences. I would rather listen to you talk than read a book. So happy to get to know you. You are a wonderful person.

  • @mattm8765
    @mattm8765 Рік тому +6

    Hi mate, Just thought I'd say hi. I'm a newcomer to your channel but have enjoyed getting to know you a bit. You seem like such a nice dude and, as horrible as it is to see you have to go through all this, It's incredibly inspiring and genuinely reassuring that, even when faced with such a difficult situation, it's possible to still continue to have moments of joy, fun and peace. I'm 35 but have lost both parents - my Dad to cancer 14 years ago and my Mum to covid 2 years ago. Both were very difficult experiences in different ways. I know though that they both had ups and downs during their illnesses. Obviously this is also true for non-life threatening illness but I guess, until your own future or the future of a loved one is cast into such doubt, you never really know how you'll handle it. Seeing how my parents handled themselves has given me something to aim for whenever my time comes (if I'm lucky enough to get some kind of warning). Similarly, your attitude is absolutely amazing and, although we should never ever give up hope, just the fact you're being forced to contemplate your own mortality but still managing to keep such a balanced view is awesome. I'm also inspired by how interesting and varied your life has been. I have felt, for most of my life, that I'm not really living it very deliberately. For years, due to various issues, I've really just been surviving instead of living. Your videos and attitude to life have changed something in me and the thought of being more like you in future actually excites me. (Demolition Derby looks awesome! 😄) 🙂Cheers for the philosophy and openness. Thank you so much for being yourself! Whenever my time comes, if I can say I've experienced half the stuff you've done I'll consider my life a success. (If you met me and spoke to me you'd probably say "Matthew, what are you doing?! Get out there and live!" I promise you I will start now.) Your videos are great - if you keep making them, I'll keep watching them. 👍✌🤘💟
    To Laugh Often And Much by Ralph Waldo Emerson
    To laugh often and much;
    to win the respect of the intelligent people
    and the affection of children;
    to earn the appreciation of honest critics
    and endure the betrayal of false friends;
    to appreciate beauty;
    to find the best in others;
    to leave the world a bit better
    whether by a healthy child, a garden patch,
    or a redeemed social condition;
    to know that one life has breathed easier
    because you lived here.
    This is to have succeeded.
    allpoetry.com/poem/14327880-To-Laugh-Often-And-Much-by-Ralph-Waldo-Emerson

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +2

      Matthew! What are you doing? Get out there and live! Just one word of advice with the demolition derby. Get a VERY GOOD neck brace and always wear it.
      Everyone dies, but not everyone lives. The choice is yours. Paul.

    • @mattm8765
      @mattm8765 Рік тому +1

      @@PaulinPerth This has made me smile 😀 Thanks for the reply! You just made my week 🙌🏻 I’ll take all your words to heart mate ✊🏻✅🤝🏻🫡 🤘🏻Sending you a bro hug 🤜🏻🤛🏻 * The screenshot of your reply will stay with me for as long as I’m around. 👍🏻 Thank you

  • @markbrown2749
    @markbrown2749 Рік тому +6

    Although I'm 25 years older I have indeed learned a lot from you. That in your earlier years you were a wild and crazy guy in the very best sense. That you are showing a gracefulness of life and a joie de vivre that all young people should take note of.

    • @RustyShakleford1
      @RustyShakleford1 Рік тому

      Most young people are dead inside from video games and social media lol I wish they had a love of life

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +3

      Thank you Mark. Everyone dies, but not everyone lives. I made sure I lived. Paul.

  • @kateford8649
    @kateford8649 Рік тому +11

    Nice to meet you Paul. Now all caught up since you came into my feed a couple of days ago. Such wisdom and insight - I think when you face mortality it brings out the most wonderful depth of character that is fascinating to me. It's a privilege to listen in as you share and unravel your deep innermost thoughts, understandings and curiosities. Will keep tuning in. Thanks Paul for your honest heart. Love and respect to you... x

  • @betnz
    @betnz Рік тому +8

    Love and respect, my thoughts are with you Paul ❤

  • @jimmgold5610
    @jimmgold5610 Рік тому +2

    Sir with all due respect, and I've seen your videos, I want to say that Iove you in a personal friendly way. You've helped me to grow. I cannot thank you enough.

  • @PluviophileTraveller
    @PluviophileTraveller Рік тому +3

    You just exude light and warmth! It's a constant, no matter what seems to be going on. Light and warmth from your soul. :)

  • @brucekerl5139
    @brucekerl5139 Рік тому +7

    The algorithm brought me to you at about Cancer Update #11. Since then, I've watched them all (and several car vids too). I'm a fan mate! You are touching many lives. You've touched mine. Thank you.

  • @cydtaylor
    @cydtaylor Рік тому +1

    I would love to read your audio biography ❤ you're fascinating.

  • @karengrigg9077
    @karengrigg9077 Рік тому +3

    A purely inspiring man you are young Paul. I may be healthier and be on this mortal coil a little longer than you (but who really knows for sure?) but what you have mentored and the legacy you are forming is phenomenal
    I watch for you every day and nestle in with my coffee and like a million others feel you are my brother…✨✨✨

  • @cheylingarber5886
    @cheylingarber5886 Рік тому +4

    You hit the nail on the head with the “demolition derby”. When my 2 children were going through cancer treatments I told my husband “ I feel like I have a front row seat at a demolition derby”.❤

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Yeah, I'm quite happy with the analogy. You don't control your car. You merely influence it. And by the same logic, you don't control your life. You merely influence it.
      I hope it turned out well for your two children.
      Paul.

  • @julienelson8162
    @julienelson8162 Рік тому +3

    Such generosity of spirit is moving. Your legacy lies within all of us. May we also leave such a legacy.

  • @XOXYESOXO
    @XOXYESOXO Рік тому +2

    Wow, gentle warrior! I just found your channel! I'll be around here checking on you! Greets from Florida!

  • @tamiewert808
    @tamiewert808 Рік тому +11

    Paul, you are an extraordinary human being! I truly look forward to every video you produce, and I am very much enjoying experiencing your journey, along with you. I also have an inquisitive mind, and I think your Psychologist is giving you valuable perspective and peace of mind. Even though you are going through a health struggle, you still care about Legacy. Most people would turn inward and focus on their own mental and physical self, and yet you take your time and use it to better others, most of whom you do not personally know! How remarkable is that! What an incredible legacy you are creating, perhaps without knowing how much impact you are making. ❤ From 🇨🇦

  • @heidi1651
    @heidi1651 Рік тому +3

    I love your inquiring mind and can relate to your curious analytical way about things. My top interest is end of life living and how profound that time can be. How to hold a life experience, the aging body, and the transition to the spiritual world is just so amazing. It sounds like you had a wonderful psychology session. Your racing clip and analogy is so excellent. ☺👏⭐🧸

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +2

      That's really interesting. Why do you think it is that you are so interested in end of life living? Paul.

    • @heidi1651
      @heidi1651 Рік тому

      I think death, grief, and spirituality have been highlighted in a big way my whole life and it brought me to living in such a place which I now see things. I also love science and come from a family of undertakers so really am interested in all things related. I could go on and on. ❤️✨

  • @sebby756
    @sebby756 Рік тому +2

    Really enjoyed listening to your video Paul, very insightful! Sending you lots warmth.

  • @blissbliss3531
    @blissbliss3531 Рік тому +1

    hi, from Florida on my laptop now Gentle Warrior...amazing you are sharing and preparing us too....such generosity....we all all just walking each other home.......

  • @doncapo732
    @doncapo732 Рік тому +3

    Paul, I recently stumbled upon your channel, and I want to begin by expressing my deepest sympathies. Your videos evoked a profound emotional response within me, prompting deep reflection on the past, present, and future. They instilled in me a newfound appreciation for the blessings in my life, especially my family and the precious commodity of time.
    When I was just twelve years old, I found myself hospitalized due to a condition that doctors initially misdiagnosed as cancer. They delivered the devastating news that my time was limited. In that solitary hospital room, waves of sadness, panic, and anger were the only things that I felt. However, I soon recognized that this was the hand I had been dealt in life, and there was no way altering that reality. This realization swiftly reminded me of the paramount importance of family, friends, and the value of time.
    Your videos served as a poignant reminder of these fundamental truths. Now, at the age of thirty-six, I find great inspiration in your courage, unwavering spirit, and the profound lessons you impart to others. Your legacy will undoubtedly be one of inspiration and guidance.
    As an avid car fan, I am eager to delve deeper into your channel, eager to uncover the multitude of lessons you have graciously captured and shared with the global audience. I extend my heartfelt gratitude to you, and I wish you strength and a profound sense of happiness, knowing that millions of viewers who engage with your videos will gain knowledge, be inspired, and find solace through the profound inspiration you have provided. Thank you immensely.

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Thanks Don, well, most of my car videos are specific to BL Mazda 3s. 2009 to 2013. I do recommend that model if you are looking for a new (second-hand) car. And my videos cover all the common fixes required to keep the car on the road.
      Thank you for the insight into your personal life journey. You are a deep thinker, like me. Keep enquiring. Keep being curious. It feels good.
      Paul.

  • @zaixai9441
    @zaixai9441 Рік тому +1

    God you're just a lovely guy. It's lovely seeing you happy describing and talking about your demo derby days.

  • @threeqtrtime
    @threeqtrtime Рік тому +1

    I could listen to you for hours.. ❤

  • @justmemandalee
    @justmemandalee Рік тому +5

    I consider myself lucky to be able to say I know Paul!!! I look forward to each of your videos, Iv done my exploring to learn more about you ( because you mentioned tid bits in a previous update), Iv been reading your Wingman content and with all that said- cheers to your parents! You are a hellova human! I believe some psychologists are lucky to have the honor of sitting with certain patients and it doesn’t happen by mistake, much like my doctors are lucky to have me, yours are too🤷🏼‍♀️😂

  • @raymaster
    @raymaster Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing with us.

  • @seasheleyes
    @seasheleyes Рік тому +3

    Thank you for sharing so much…it is valuable to me.

  • @Community_Italiana_Anti_Cringe

    You are a strong man❤ keep it on!

  • @jacquelinemcgrath3168
    @jacquelinemcgrath3168 Рік тому +1

    You go Paul sending best of wishes to you and thank you ❤❤❤

  • @lauraodle5816
    @lauraodle5816 Рік тому +4

    Your message touched my heart in ways you will never know. Loved the ride. Much love, Paul. ❤

  • @oneseeker2
    @oneseeker2 Рік тому +1

    I hope more viewers read your stories! Love them!

  • @stuartchandler9585
    @stuartchandler9585 Рік тому +3

    The YT algorithm sent me a recommendation to one of your Mazda3 videos recently. As a Mazda-driving Serpy local this seemed quite serendipitous, given that almost all of the other car-related media I watch comes from the other side of the world! I am subscribed not for your car stuff though: the approach you have taken towards your cancer diagnosis is the reason. Though it’s a hackneyed word nowadays, you are truly ‘inspirational’ in respect to the grace, courage and perspective you have so clearly communicated in your Cancer Update videos. I don’t have cancer but the randomness of the disease is that any one of us can ‘win’ this morbid lottery at any time. So your story is relevant to all of us, Paul. I wish you all the very best with it, mate.

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Thanks Stuart. And say hi to Brendan and Lisa the next time you are up at Speedy Spanners. That's my old garage. Paul.

  • @MoesyOnOver
    @MoesyOnOver Рік тому +5

    Gosh I’m a sucker for a great analogy! So timely for me and I thank you. I’d like to take from todays update and add it to my arsenal. You’re a treasure ❤

  • @ellenh9381
    @ellenh9381 Рік тому +1

    Really interesting how our parents acceptance of others can help us later in life when difficulty arises. Good food for thought. And … Even though I know nothing about cars, I started looking at some of your other videos, ha, I like them. Thanks, as always. ❤️

  • @noobifest2413
    @noobifest2413 Рік тому +2

    I just found this channel randomly, and I'm sad that I may have found it too late! I hope you're doing well, I can't imagine what you're going through, nor can I fathom having a horrible condition and being so graceful and humble. Hope you get better soon, I'm glad to have met you.

  • @Adrienne884
    @Adrienne884 Рік тому +1

    Wishing you all the best

  • @alanmillbrowprivate
    @alanmillbrowprivate Рік тому +3

    Hi Paul, you are an inspiration. I don’t know how to word it any other way right now. Wishing you all the best in the coming months.

  • @jenjackmarcucci
    @jenjackmarcucci Рік тому +1

    As I listen intently, I catch myself tearing up when you tear up and smiling when you smile. I thank the Algorithm gods for placing you in my feed. Love always from my heart to yours.

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Hi Jen, well, buckle up honey. Coz we are in for plenty of both tears and smiles. I'll even put in some laughs. But the journey is what the journey is. And I don't know how it goes. But I'm pretty sure I know how it ends. Paul.

    • @jenjackmarcucci
      @jenjackmarcucci Рік тому

      @PaulinPerth Remember though...the ending may be the beginning of something glorious.

  • @laurencehenne2540
    @laurencehenne2540 Рік тому +1

    OK Paul let's do this. You'll be my guide in tackling death and your help is much needed as it is a subject I've come to realise through experience ( unfortunately ) that I can't fathom. Hopefully with your kind insight I'll be able to move on on this subject and with my life. Thank you for being there Paul.

  • @triciabyrne7761
    @triciabyrne7761 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for the life lessons, Paul. They mean a lot to me. Still walking along with you ... 💚💛🧡☘☘☘

  • @ugabuga1361
    @ugabuga1361 Рік тому +1

    im glad i found your channel. i hope death isn't the end. im so scared of it. you showing this journey is great for everyone. "passing on the knowledge"

  • @annerwin4277
    @annerwin4277 Рік тому +4

    Gotta say, this old gal wishes she could have seen you dance!
    Hate what you're having to go through, but am feeling fortunate to be educated by you.

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому

      Well, the first picture in this story was taken one night I was dancing. Enjoy. wingmanwilcoxx.substack.com/p/iyktyk-ep-09-storm-in-a-d-cup

    • @WESSERPARAQUAT
      @WESSERPARAQUAT Рік тому

      @@PaulinPerth Hey Man , i just read your story there :))))

    • @WESSERPARAQUAT
      @WESSERPARAQUAT Рік тому

      @@PaulinPerth Poetry worthy of Kipling or Oscar Wilde :P

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      @@WESSERPARAQUAT Or Penthouse Black Label......

  • @mindgamesnl
    @mindgamesnl Рік тому +2

    Paul; you are such a beautiful man. You're commited to what you preach, about inclusiveness, openess, and sharing your findings from the present and the past is something that makes you feel like an old friend, and one whom I desprately want to support at that. Your videos and messages you share are beautiful and your words are ones that I would love to show to my children if I ever had any. If there was such thing as an internet dad, then that man would be you.
    I hope you're having a good day today sir, can't wait to see you again in your next post :)

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      An Internet Dad...... I suppose I'm happy with that. Sure! Paul.

  • @chanteldaley5074
    @chanteldaley5074 Рік тому +1

    ❤Thank You for your insight for into life,🥰 you are a great person and I will be greatful for all your openness ❤

  • @sallyblanc8841
    @sallyblanc8841 Рік тому +5

    Your parents sound like beautiful accepting people and I really do admire that!
    I always look forward to your videos and I am always sending you positive good healing vibes I am not a religious person but I continue to pray to whoever is listening so look after yourself and I know its hard sometimes but try not to stress. Fresh fruit juice every day is good maybe add some ginger and tumeric.I am sure I speak for everyone on your channel when I say that we are all here for you Paul! cheers from Sydney!❤

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому

      Hi Sally, yes turmeric features in CU17. I'm onto it! Paul.

  • @joannemates6367
    @joannemates6367 Рік тому +2

    Another brilliant video, Paul. You have led such a colourful life. We are all learning so much from you. I love your analogy on life. Sometimes shit happens. And sometimes the bottom of your world falls out, no matter how much we try to control things. Sending so much love, strength and peace, from Country Victoria. Xx

  • @AbbyKuusisto-wp7bc
    @AbbyKuusisto-wp7bc Рік тому +1

    My thoughts are with you!

  • @jaelancaster5506
    @jaelancaster5506 Рік тому

    You are simply a Gift Paul….❤

  • @mrsANGRYh
    @mrsANGRYh Рік тому

    I drove in a demolition derby here in NZ called Smashfest. I was one of 6 females amongst 66 drivers. I was driving a Nissan Maxima and made it into the top 8. I can totally relate to the first impact, all trepidation disappears and the fight for survival begins. Boom boom smash! So much fun… love your charisma. You are a total inspiration.

  • @watchingreviews528
    @watchingreviews528 Рік тому +1

    You’ve had quite an interesting life so far.

  • @Seanc34911
    @Seanc34911 Рік тому +1

    Can’t wait to see update #2600!

  • @marieess3469
    @marieess3469 Рік тому +4

    Come on. We got a snippet of video of you being crowned King Papa Smurf, yet no video evidence of you go-go dancing?! 😄I enjoyed watching you face when you talked about the therapist, not letting you know anything you of course didn’t about yourself, but saw you. Your face was like a kid’s. I finished cancer treatment last July, and am currently NED. I enjoy your videos. You’re very real.

    • @marieess3469
      @marieess3469 Рік тому

      *your face

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +2

      Hi Marie, the first picture in this story was taken at my go-go dancing job. wingmanwilcoxx.substack.com/p/iyktyk-ep-09-storm-in-a-d-cup
      Enjoy!
      And may you stay NED.

    • @marieess3469
      @marieess3469 Рік тому +1

      @@PaulinPerth Love it!! You, um, looked great, and like you were having a lot of fun. 😃
      Thank you.

  • @NEGAN_JaneMisimovic
    @NEGAN_JaneMisimovic Рік тому +3

    Hey Paul.
    My one demo derby was with a large tree. My Ford Laser and I lost, badly!😅😅

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Hmmmm. Well, if the tree wasn't moving for more than 30 seconds, then the tree is disqualified. You may still have a (Pyrrhic) victory. Paul.

  • @angelak5160
    @angelak5160 Рік тому +2

    Great analogy of life and the Demo derby! Thank you😊

  • @tockdsc
    @tockdsc Рік тому

    Hang in there, Dear Paul. Greetings to you from Poland. You're an inspiration.

  • @omaopa6923
    @omaopa6923 Рік тому +2

    Your inquiring mind I feel has taken you on so many different paths it’s fascinating to listen to you

  • @hannahhaircut
    @hannahhaircut Рік тому +1

    Always a pleasure to see your updates, Paul. Thank you for sharing your memories from your demolition derby days!

  • @CoolInOlympia
    @CoolInOlympia Рік тому +2

    I love this little video! Cheers to you, Paul!❤❤❤❤

  • @mariannedressler6784
    @mariannedressler6784 Рік тому +1

    What important beautiful information you share so eloquently! ❤

  • @ChrisCoombes
    @ChrisCoombes Рік тому +2

    This was fantastic thanks Paul!

  • @ADRCATS
    @ADRCATS Рік тому +1

    I love listening to your life stories Paul!😊❤️

  • @BReelz28
    @BReelz28 Рік тому +2

    I want to commend and thank you for putting this content out. When I first stumbled across your videos it was just purely out of coincidence thanks to the UA-cam algorithm. But now, I'm eating up this wisdom like it's a pie, I can't get enough. You've heard it from others here, but it must still be said: it's a remarkable thing that-faced with a difficult situation-you turn and radiate your energy outward, versus keeping it inward. You're a solid mentor, and a wonderful person! Cheers and support from Canada!
    P.S. Love the shirt!

  • @thelmab.1516
    @thelmab.1516 Рік тому +1

    The more I learn about you, Paul, the more fascinated I am in how your past influences your reactions on your current health journey. You are very analytical. You seek purpose in life's events, try to seek meaning to these events, and then share with others to help them on their own journey. Paul, you are a remarkable person. And I appreciate being able to follow you for what I have learned about myself. Thanks for being you...❤
    Thelma
    (USA)

  • @nsmccoy2345
    @nsmccoy2345 Рік тому +1

    What a great analogy of life! So many things in life that we can’t control but we can control how we react or respond!
    It is hard to believe that u r sick because u look healthy and u have such a positive attitude! It’s inspiring! I continue to pray for u and the days ahead😍🙏🏻

  • @sandyhewitt7935
    @sandyhewitt7935 Рік тому +2

    Love the demolition derby analogy! I am an analogy person too, Paul. I totally get that life unfolds for you in a way that requires you to make daily manouvres to keep you going generally in the desired direction but, as you say, sometimes obstacles can knock us temporarily out of action or force us to take completely different tacks. I guess our challenge is, when it gets really tough, to have an attitude of acceptance and to not lose our sense of hope. Thanks so much for sharing, Paul 😊

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Yep. Sometimes my car got spun 180 degrees. Completely out of my control. I didn't get upset. I accepted it, and worked out how to get back into the race.

  • @ja12367
    @ja12367 Рік тому +1

    Always fascinating and knowledgeable. Thanks so much for sharing. It’s always a learning experience of some sort when you share a video. Thanks so much. Much love and prayers. 🙏 ❤

  • @myraparis
    @myraparis Рік тому +1

    Sending love Paul. What a wonderful chat….we all want to know you sir! 🙋🏼‍♀️💕

  • @threepurrs
    @threepurrs Рік тому +1

    Demolition Derby with the painted Smurf going around that circle made me smile… what a delightful mind you have Paul. It sounds like you have lived a joyful life while being an inquisitive person as well. Keep up the stories of your journey through life and share the lessons you have learned. Very interesting and amusing too.
    Sending healthy vibes to you from Canada. 🇨🇦. Wendy

  • @3138302
    @3138302 Рік тому +1

    Your plan for a demolition derby reminded me of the quote from the boxer Mike Tyson, "Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the face". It is great you are making these videos and documenting your life experiences, such as winning a demo derby, dancing, working on vehicles, etc. Some day, hopefully it will be many, many years down the road, your family will be able to watch these and learn more about you or rehash memories of you. Thank you for sharing your stories.

  • @laurenanderson9752
    @laurenanderson9752 Рік тому +1

    You are a fantastic and very positive role model

  • @cflores9275
    @cflores9275 Рік тому +1

    Inquiring minds lead to more adventures and life lessons. I am learning so much from following your cancer journey, Paul. Thank you for openly sharing. ☮️💜🙏🏼

  • @Ania-cd2sh
    @Ania-cd2sh Рік тому

    I just found you a few days ago and already feel so blessed to be able to learn what I have so far from you. You are an incredible person! Thank you for doing what you are doing, because you didn’t have to share…so thank you again ❤

  • @safaridreamer5831
    @safaridreamer5831 Рік тому +1

    You have lived a very interesting life in the choices you’ve made….sounds like your parents taught you well with being so accepting ……we can all learn from that!!
    Prayers to you 🤗🙏❤️🤗🙏❤️🤗🙏❤️🙏

  • @TattooedGranny
    @TattooedGranny Рік тому +4

    Paul, I couldn’t help but draw parallels with our childhoods and how our parents approached child rearing in such a positive way. My mom was an atheist, Dad Catholic and it was just fine. They were opposite politically…also fine. Mom was a soft spoken, shy person but when she heard her own father utter a poor taste racist joke she confronted him in front of an entire family gathering. My first best friend was a person of color…the only one in our segregated neighborhood. Also fine. My parents used to take us to different neighborhoods to play with children of different ethnicities and socioeconomic backgrounds on Sunday after church. At age 12 we no longer had to attend church. We were told to make up our own minds going forward. It was more to learn what my Dad believed in. When my brother came out as gay…fine. Mom cried because of fear for him but loved him exactly the same…we all did. I remember distinctly at age 4 asking a nun…”what about evolution?” When she explained that God made all of the animals. Her answer? “We are not going to talk about that now.” This began my atheism that for *me* has three parts…curiosity, critical thinking and compassion. I call them my three C’s of atheism…lol. The first time I desperately felt I needed therapy was when mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I have been going ever since and find it so very helpful and a thing that I wish I had started much earlier in life…it has been a sounding board for so many life challenges and a safe space for self work. I wish more people worked out their psyches as they do their bodies. World travel is also a mind expanding thing that I have been so very fortunate to have experienced. I never chose to have children or get married and the extra income saved has allowed me to explore wilderness all over the world. Nature is my bliss. You know Paul…you have a way of being that makes a total stranger want to open up to you. You are a gift to this world and as I like to muse…”the pepper on the salad.” I see you. Was that Santa at the demolition derby I saw? 😁Liza

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +2

      Hello Liza, yes, our childhoods do have some lovely parallels. My psych session today has made me appreciate even more what a wonderful gift my parents gave me when they brought me up to be inclusive of all cultures, colours, religions and sexualities. It was a total blessing. I've known it for a while, but the words of the psych today really drove it home.
      Yes, that was Santa at the demo derby. But he is a BAD Santa! You might notice that the soundtrack was wiped out in a couple of sections. That's because Santa said some rude words that I had to remove. BAD SANTA!!!!
      Paul.

    • @joeandgod1
      @joeandgod1 Рік тому

      ​@@PaulinPerthPaul , I don't know if you'll read this, but let me tell you real quick. I think you're making a huge mistake by listening to the mainstream doctors. I'm not talking about conspiracies, l'm talking about science if you would do your own research. There are many ways to treat cancer, many. The subject of cancer is so crazy that the great majority of doctors don't even know what it really is. I hope you consider looking in other directions. Looking into Fenbendazole is a great start. Good luck.🙏

  • @margaretskinner6972
    @margaretskinner6972 Рік тому +1

    My goodness you’ve done a lot !

  • @sharondotson9378
    @sharondotson9378 Рік тому +1

    What a fantastically interesting life you have had! And what insight your parents had during a time in history when acceptance and tolerance were no guarantee!

  • @deborahdavis8769
    @deborahdavis8769 Рік тому +1

    Paul, to say your the most interesting an complex man ive ever met is a huge understatement. When you start to speak, im 💯 invested. No distractions. Im really listening, learning, visualizing an taking it all in. Im not just entertained by your amazing life story an the way you embraced an lived it, i want to hear more. Im very grateful to have met you Paul. Your a amazing man with so much compassion an a heart of pure gold. I believe you are right Paul, your parents non judgemental way of accepting an embracing others had a huge amazing effect on you growing into the Man your are today. Youve given me a gift Paul an your dont even realize it.

  • @loistallini3609
    @loistallini3609 Рік тому

    Thankyou for such a wonderful video loved it and learnt much from your wisdom what a legacy but you aren't going anywhere just ❤💚💙💜🤟💕💯🤠🏆💟🙏yet

  • @sarruecherose9399
    @sarruecherose9399 Рік тому +1

    Your channel and perspective on life and death is certainly intriguing. I love that your focus is to pass on knowledge through wonderful stories and analogies. You are unique and a very interesting listen. Wishing you all good things ❤

  • @Tomas-major
    @Tomas-major Рік тому +1

    Lots of love Paul, you have so grown on me for your gentleness and kindness but mostly your sensitivity and openness x
    My husband Paul lost a two year two month battle with inoperable liver cancer. I think that you are dealing with this so stoically is your complete honestly in opening your life to us.
    I pray for a miracle for you everyday x

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому

      Hi Carol, thank you for praying for me. My chemotherapy starts tomorrow. Paul.

    • @Tomas-major
      @Tomas-major Рік тому

      @@PaulinPerth I do believe that miracles can happen especially to those that want to teach and help others . Unfortunately that was not my Paul’s case he was very high up at a telecoms and also taught people to dive at high level, he took so much knowledge with him but he also left a lot behind. The only thing that must be a comfort is the law in Perth that you have options if and when you have had enough.
      One question I would ask my Paul was would he do the same again, with the treatment side of things. The only symptom he had was a tiredness that was all encompassing and not like normal where you had a sleep and felt better.
      His was found by accident with a routine health scan , as soon as he knew he had cancer we went to the Maldives, but although it was lovely the future loomed rather scarily, but we still had some good times and some laughs.
      I will continue to hold you to my prayers and wish I could give you a big hug and notice the creepy way lol xx

  • @mymax43
    @mymax43 Рік тому +1

    Your video describes you as an exceptional person. You are not like most people. 😊

  • @carolescharacters
    @carolescharacters Рік тому +2

    Wow what an interesting session you had with your physiologist I should imagine it’s really helping you make sense of a lot of things. Your parents sound like they were wonderful human beings, no wonder you turned out so well 😉 you certainly have lived life to the fullest and crammed in so much more than the average person your age.
    I learnt at a very young age (around 8 years old) not to worry about things that we have no control of….. I was on my way to school on a warm summers afternoon without my coat and one of my friends Mums said “why haven’t you brought your coat it’s going to rain later, you’ll get wet on the way home” well I worried myself sick all afternoon which is laughable because I lived a hop, skip and a jump away from my primary school. Anyway I worried all afternoon and guess what …. It never rained! BUT I learnt I huge life lesson right there and then and it’s something I have never forgotten 😊
    Take care Paul, look forward to your next update xx

  • @askyrl6179
    @askyrl6179 Рік тому +2

    You have very unique stories

  • @Marsha_B
    @Marsha_B Рік тому +1

    Paul you are truly an amazing man. I love hearing your stories and learning more about you my friend. Love your outlook and thoughts about life! ❤

  • @MsVivian99
    @MsVivian99 Рік тому

    Awesome

  • @snufflinghedgehog8595
    @snufflinghedgehog8595 Рік тому +1

    I LOVE your friendly smurf car :) Can really relate to all you say about mental health (severe OCD)
    I'm glad you have a good connection with your psychologist x
    Warm wishes to you 🌸🌻🌸
    PS I'm definitely one of those who would read the newspaper - but you are such a good teacher xx

  • @skooshy621
    @skooshy621 Рік тому +1

    Thank you very much, Paul. Your psychologist sounds like the real deal. I am really happy for you, as that is worth its weight in Papa Smurf demolition derby cars! Seriously, your sessions sound meaty and meaningful. An inquiring mind really is a gift for life. (By the way, when you mention your go-go dancing, the song, Male Stripper, from 1987, always fires up in my head! Do you know it?)

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому

      Yeah, I know the song. Here it is: ua-cam.com/video/y9-xBZxqQi0/v-deo.html
      There was a men's only night, and that song most likely got played on one of those nights.
      But boy, the 80s electronica is so different to the 90s rave music. Luckily, I like both.

    • @skooshy621
      @skooshy621 Рік тому

      @@PaulinPerth
      I like both too. I'm 61. I still go out dancing and will keep dancing till I can't. My music and music-to-dance-to tastes are very broad. From 'classic dance music', I LOVE 70s funk, soul, and disco. Wish we could dance up a storm together, but I'm in the UK. Boogie on 🕺💃

  • @broonage
    @broonage Рік тому +1

    Love the shirt! My partner's favourite flick

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      Really? Does he have any pet lambs? If he does........ run.

    • @broonage
      @broonage Рік тому +1

      @@PaulinPerth haha i hope she doesn't ;)

  • @zeva66
    @zeva66 Рік тому +1

    BTW, my family was the same! I grown up in an artist family- i, myself am a painter, my dad was a surrealist artist, my mom a very esotheric woman!- and though i was born as a hungarian, i was growing up in Germany, travelled a lot, lived in the USA- Colorado- and France and Austria and Netherlands. I never had a "normal" job, just art or dancing and singing in rock / punk bands. I am a 57yrs old female but full of tattoes (on face too!) and piercings and i like different cultures and have gay and trans friends as well. (now living in Hungary which is not very great these days....) I like that you're also a free minded man with an interesting past. I found your vlog because it popped up and after i was listen to you i found you an interesting person and , my dad had cancer , so i started to follow - but it's GREAT that you are also from similar background with your parents and life like me, i also had lots of "wild" parties before in the 90's....

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому +1

      You must write about your wild parties!! I want to read the stories! I recommend Substack as a blogging platform. It is free for you, and free for the readers.
      You sound like a very interesting person. I wish I was cancer-free so I could meet people like you. Interesting people are The BEST!
      Paul.

    • @zeva66
      @zeva66 Рік тому

      @@PaulinPerth Wow, thank you , it is a good idea!

  • @ChristoKiwi
    @ChristoKiwi Рік тому

    Love the shirt!

  • @lucywilkinson6045
    @lucywilkinson6045 Рік тому +1

    Hey paul, i just want to let you know your a very positive role model to us all, we can take alot from you, i love watching your videos, your smile and happiness is great to see, especially with what your going through so thankyou for that. Love the papa smirf car :) i loved the smirfs christmas cd lol everyone looks at me like im stupid when i play it lol im coming up 38 but il never grow up lol ❤

    • @PaulinPerth
      @PaulinPerth  Рік тому

      I used to sing the Smurf song at work; often without realising it. Tra La La-La La La, Sing a happy song...... The girls just learnt to look at me and laugh. I never stopped doing it. If anything, I sang louder.
      ua-cam.com/video/67dL1ISZKH8/v-deo.html

  • @annmcgee8960
    @annmcgee8960 Рік тому +1

    you a beautiful kind good and gracefull man Paul.
    My belief is only the body dies we transform much like my favourite being the butterfly .Hope I am right but it will be OK either way Paul.❤❤❤