Us melanated women look younger longer. But we still are aging. I’m in menopause and nobody talks about that really. Hair turning grey down below hit me hard for a minute. Now I don’t worry about it. I think I’m oversharing. But I’m 60 and reaching this age I’ve stopped giving a bleep about what ppl think a long time ago. I’ve accepted aging. I take care of myself and enjoy my family and friends.
Thank you for sharing! I’m coming up on my 58th bday and I’m feeling off about how things just started drooping and greying. Not sure what looks appropriate any more. I want to have fun with it, this life is a gift!
As I started to grey in the early stages of my 30’s I buying hair dye faster than they could manufacture it. I finally gave up because the gray was winning and learned to embrace it and I love my gray now.
@@lynylyn316 I’m coming up on my 58th birthday too😊 I embrace my aging process because it’s a gift. “The outer man is perishing, but the inner man is renewed day by day.” Enjoy your up and coming birthday! 🎊 🎉
I’m almost 61 and have NEVER looked better! I eat seven servings of vegetables every day, and it is doing wonders for my skin and hair. My hair has actually stopped growing in gray! I work out, doing a combination of Pilates, weightlifting, and walking. Also, mobility and flexibility is high on my list. There is a 45 year old on my job who’s been chasing the hell out of me for the past three years 😅. Thankfully, I have a husband who can’t keep his hands off of me. If I can impart anything, ladies, it’s eat well and manage your insulin, even if you aren’t diabetic. You truly are what you eat. If at all possible, stay away from HRT. Do your research and use high-quality supplements to help balance your hormones and maintain your energy. Last tip… Increase your vitamin D. You’ll sleep better, and it will beautify your skin. Keep doing what you’re doing, Eva. You’re killing it!
What high quality supplements do you take to balance your hormones? Have you had any issues with chin hairs? If so, what do you do for them? I believe this is a hormone issue.
Great advice 🎉 I’m 49 years old and I’m trying to get a balance on my hormones, naturally. Can you share more about the supplements you use? I find it keeps those pesky pounds off when your hormones are balanced.
It's great to hear from you again Eva! Being a 53 year old man, who recently became engaged to a beautiful 48 year old woman, this information is helpful for me. I need to be understanding and considerate towards what she may end up going through during her aging process. Thank you for your transparency.
I'm 40. I've never lived alone, paid all my bills alone, or done much alone. I was tired of relationships that ended poorly and my last situationship broke me and the light came through. I live in a shelter with my children because I don't have family and my next step is to just begin to build my life. No more bf or kid's father's......I am ready to have my own.
I personally feel age is just a number. I know this is cliché, but I also truly believe we are as old as we feel. I turned 58 in December. I look damn good and feel damn good. I work out, eat healthy, I don’t do stress, I don't do gray hair, got a damn divorce and I am living my best damn single life. If I had to turn back the hands of time, I would not go back. Also, menopause for me was not bad at all because I was in the gym five days a week. I never had hot flashes, mood swings or any of the symptoms associate with menopause. Aging is inevitable, but how one take care of themselves in their younger years will largely dictate how one feel and look in their older years.
Lol about the menopause because I tell you, personally I am waiting for that moment to come cuz I'm so over it and besides, I've already got my kids so...I don't think I'd have anything major to worry about either in regards to symptoms. I never had any morning sickness during pregnancy with any of my children and the like or seem to experience typical ailments that women can experience as we age. I also work out daily and have been the same size throughout my adult life. I'm 46 going on 47 this year. I've also had the same approach to age. Really I've always embraced getting older in the same fashion because for one it's inevitable and for two I always feel more sophisticated and like there's more that I can do and explore with my life based on the knowledge that I've gained over the years.
I know that I’m not your target audience, I’m 31, but I have been watching your channel for years. It started off because of the perfume, but I stayed for the wisdom and the growth I’ve seen as you have changed your interests and hobbies. The gems you drop on here help me to navigate life far more effectively, and efficiently than a lot of my peers! Looking forward to aging just as joyously as you are! Loooove the chats!!
I’m 47 and aging has been difficult. Although I don’t look my age my body is definitely not the same. I am trying to be in a space where I’m grateful for my age because without it there would be no life. This was a great video
Exercise. Join a gym. Swim. Play a sport. Take a dance class. You will be amazed at how well a 47-year-old body responds to regular exercise. I'm 69 and just beginning to show some aging. I remember when I used to think I was hopelessly aging in my 40s. That's not true.
@@reneehenderson6134 thanks for the suggestions. I do exercise and have a very active lif. I was speaking from a mental point of view. Thanks for the feedback
@@Naturallyliz41 mental point of view I don't understand? Can you elaborate... But older women have the best options if they are slim built and if she wants a sex partner date much younger men like under 25 years old...just make your body as slim as possible..of you want marriage get slim and find men who are 59+... Your goal should be to have six pack abs
By 40 or 45, I had to work a teeny bit harder. I started making a paste of Ambi and olive oil and applying it (only) to frown lines that were starting at my nose. I started doing eye exercises daily gently tapping a little puffiness that wanted to turn into undereye bags. That was it for my face. Aging reversed. At 45, you are actually still young. Committed physical exercise will hold your body into your mid 60s. Now that I'm 68 (70 for all intents and purposes), I am finally beginning to see a change and a more mature look. At this stage I welcome it and It's not a big deal. I just wish women in their 40s realized that they have a long way to go before really beginning to show signs of aging. I remember when I was in my 40s and thought I was approaching over-the-hill. I was wrong. Just treat yourself with some extra kindness. I know several young women in their 30s who look quite a bit older than you. My 50 year-old daughter and my 44 year old daughter are mistaken for being 15 to 20 years younger than they actually are. You look great and there is a major element of truth in "black don't crack."
Sorry - long post. Must share. @Eva, you look fantastic!🤩 @Renee, I'd bet you do too. This spring (lord willing) I will have another age milestone soon. Now I realize how young 40s was. Sidebar. Eva, I paused watching your channel for a short time because your taste in fragrance in so good & INSPIRING. I was running out of room to display my perfume collection - thanks to you💅 My YT feed was becoming a bit too toxic, so I started missing your overall creative content & sense of feminine fashion, so I came back and you're still just as lovely, kind-hearted, upfront honest and very relatable👸🏽✨ Kudos. Back to aging. I rarely bring up age in a conversation but I notice how other people do (esp Non-blacks) tossing out their age first (related aches or illnesses) as bait to be comparative or just down right curious/nosey🙃 If I feel like playing the game they're usually very shocked & quickly change subjects😅 I'm blessed and grateful🙏🏾 BPeople know what that melanin do🖤✨ BDC BlackDontCrack. I have clear skin and like you Eva, last year I started noticing at angles very slight jaw/temple hollowing, marionette lines, 2 faint forehead lines getting deeper from cycling outdoors, changes that I wanted to do something about BEFORE they set in. I stay aprx 130lbs so it's not yoyo diet or weight related. It's post meno loss of collagen and loss of (good) face fat. I see it, but no one else does. I decided to be open-minded to go beyond BDC🖤✨ vaseline and shea butter skin care. I put on my investigative hat and discovered Dr Rajani's great UNbiased YT channel. Subsequently, I discovered a DIY anti-aging community and to no surprise it is predominantly NON-black folks. I looked for content from us/BW - NOTHING on the same mass scale as this community. The DIY community is a hidden treasure trove of info. Info boils down to collagen NOT race. It's more commonplace for WWomen to start their Botox & filler "tweakments" by age mid 20-30s. The average BWoman doesn't want/need such anti-aging treatment that early. However, the info is about how to preserve/build collagen/elastin (not race) so I decide to LEARN - without judgement _Eat the meat and spit out the bones_ Anyway, there's SAFE non-surgical options like various _threads_ and other topical & meso skin boosters that causes the body to boost its own lost collagen and elastin - without the two, a % of lower face droop is inevitable, esp post meno. With some treatments the dreaded puffy Filler-Face is avoidable🤡 I've not had filler - yet??🤔 but if a (non-celebrity) BW did choose it - more power to her _just a DAB_ of filler, PLLA sculptra can likely do wonders for melinated skin. Microneedling, Red/Blue light therapy can lift & tighten saggy skin. Threads of various composition PDO PLLA PCL also lift sag and/or rebuild lost collagen & elastin. HRT Hormone Replacement Therapy can address all the symptoms of meno. Flashes, low s3x drive, dry VJ, irritability, muscle loss, sleeplessness etc. I had no idea even after you stop flashing🔥POST meno symptoms can last more than TEN years beyond flashes, so for some women that's into mid 60s early 70s. No wonder we can feel funky at times. I've learned a LOT in a short time! Anyway, I was brave enough to place just two small pdo threads in each side of laugh lines. I had all this emotional drama hyping myself up and it was an uneventful dud. _It did NOT hurt at all!_ The next day, i saw a filling out of that hollow area😁 Not scared of the simple ones anymore. I bought a good eBay $250 home quality spa unit (5 attachments) to do my own RF cavitation etc. Works great! Although a good esthetician is very valuable. I discovered that a lot of expensive treatments and products ARE available to the public and can be LEGALLY done at home with good results & great $avings. Bottom line, I'm trying to _encourage BWomen to do their own research and to STOP allowing the BDC mindset to POLICE our beauty regimens_ I don't want to try looking 25/30 forever - can't, but I do want to stay looking my best and getting carded for buying wine at the grocery store🍷 There's NOTHING wrong with BWomen exploring their options to maintain their melaninated beauty - longer👸🏽 Ladies, do your research. DoYOU! _sorry the post was so long_
Thank you for sharing this inspirational story. I began my route of reinventing myself a year ago, and I'm now living healthier, more confident, and stronger, earning six figures, and having time to enjoy family and friends. I'm happier and live my life for myself. This is to encourage someone that "you can start anytime to have a reset it's worth it!" I'm striving hard to keep growing since it's a journey.
@@lunamoon448 Alter your thinking, read self-help books, broaden your knowledge, budget and avoid impulse spending, save, take your finances seriously, eat properly, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope you find it beneficial.
¿l learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.:)
Welcome back Eva! I'm 51 and for me being single has been the best anti aging remedy 😉! Eating well, exercising, and ridding myself of toxic people (even family members) is what has worked for me. Also, I've been sewing since I was 12 years old & I'm hoping once I retire, to have a hand made boutique of my own. Presently, designing & planning out my summer wardrobe. Hopefully I can make it all happen 🤞🏼. This is funny b/c I started following you as I am a perfume collector. And now to find out that you sew as well?!?!?👍🏼 Wishing you the best on your sewing journey!
Hey Eva🥰I am 51...I am loving getting older...because a lot of people out here faced the alternative at a young age! I survived breast cancer...so I look at life much different....I feel absolutely GREAT! I look and feel better at 51 than I did at 31💯💯💯As women, we are so hard on ourselves...and we shouldn't be! We are BEAUTIFUL at EVERY age🥰 "Good Morning Gorgeous" by Mary J. Blidge is the song that tells it ALL🎵🎼🎶🎙
Indeed.✨💯 I’ve experienced women nearly twenty years younger being envious, especially women of other races. It’s a fact, we just get better with time.😇
@@bamarealist 🙏🏾 AMEN! Sis...I get "the look" everywhere I go....and these women are 20-30 years younger....and unfortunately, some look so sloppy...bonnet, slippers, pj's, 🙄🙄
Gurrrrrl, I am mourning my youth and beauty... for years now. I've been all over UA-cam looking for videos on this subject. I was like, this has to be a thing. I can't be alone... Yes, I call it mourning , because the old me is fading. It was very refreshing to hear you acknowledge your feelings. Thank you for your transparency.
One thing I've realized is that IF you truly lived a fulfilling life, then you wouldn't have to mourn the past years. It's harder when you feel like you gotta make up for some things you missed out on. At the end of the day, you gotta make peace with the fact that it's never too late for anything. Live your present life to the fullest.
Love this topic! Welcome back. I'm 65 and just now starting to see the affects of my aging. It's real. A lot of things DO change. I've had to be intentional in making sure I stay healthy and vibrate as I get older. I plan to live 40 more years, I've decided to make myself a priority over EVERYTHING else.
I'm turning 44 this year and I feel good about how I'm aging....I am not the women I saw who were this age when I was growing up....I could stand to lose a few pounds but luckily my body and mind have not betrayed me this far......
Hello Eva, I love your transparency am 46yrs and yes this video spoke my mind. When I came across your channel I saw myself in you. Right now when it comes to my marriage am having the exact thoughts I don’t feel wanted but rather needed been married for 12yrs and I have no child with him ….( me here over sharing) the only thing keeping me happy is my love for sewing . Every piece that I finish I feel so over joyed ❤. Thank you for sharing , please don’t stop over sharing it is some form therapeutic for some of us. I love you sending you love and light 💡
@lizofmpenzidesigns1862, Thank you so much for watching. This is why I over share, it's always nice to know we are not alone. Wishing you lots of Love, Peace and happiness🥰
Hi im sorry for asking this question but may I ask, have you not had children by choice or its other reasons? The reason I ask is that im 36 and have a 16 year old daughter. Im not married yet but if I get married I do not want anymore kids. Im just looking at the possibility of being married longterm with no kid with that man
@@melmel7011 oh I never mentioned but I have a beautiful daughter that I had at 19yrs when I was still younger , She is 27 yrs and she is the other thing that keeps me sane. In my marriage not having children was my own choice i made , I never wanted to have any other children. Thank you for asking.
I think the older a couple gets together that's just the natural order and evolution of the marriage as we age though. He IS going to need us for different things or reasons as his wife and same as we as wives get older and who better than our husband/wife of many years to help us through as we're growing old together? I think it's different if it were a man who played the field during his prime but suddenly decides to seek a woman to settle down with and find a place to nest once he's up in age and slowing down...maybe start to have failing health versus a man who was there to change your kids' diapers or even if there's no children between the couple, he showed his love, support, and devotion in various ways from the pursuit and throughout. In regards to "want" in relation to need in this context I guess it's the proverbial "I want to grow old with you" concept.
Many people talk about the physical challenges of aging but few talk about the mental challenges. Aging is a mental challenge. We spend the early parts of our life young and youthful, other people are the old people. Then one day you notice your reflection in the mirror and are stunned to see that YOU are aging, HOW can that be? Other people are old, not ME. Although we all know that we will age when it happens you are still surprised and some of us shocked by it. It becomes a mental challenge to accept that you are now one of the older ones at work, gym, waiting room.... I will turn 65 next month and I still can not believe that that number belongs to me. I have become more accepting of the fact that society now thinks of me as a senior citizen but Im still trying to accept it myself, even at 65. One other thing Eva if you read this, DO NOT BE AFRAID OF FAILURE, Life is an adventure. Don't be afraid of falling, its ok. Enjoy the ride. You go Girl !!!
I just celebrated 65, and I am SO grateful! I never thought I'd live to see this age or even past 30! So, I feel compelled to take special care of me as a result regardless of what others think! My hair started turning gray in my 20s, so I colored and colored to "fix" my issue, or what I considered was my problem: my grays. Then, I learned about the damage I was doing to myself as the chemicals of dying my hair and perming my hair were entering my body. So, I stopped everything. I went natural. I began eating plant based. I learned to embrace my natural, gray hair, and I ate well. Result: I am
The result of everything I've done is: I love my life, I love who I've become, I am happier, and my hair and skin are now healthy. I love who I am becoming. I am so happy that I stopped letting society tell me who I am to be and how I am to look. I have never been happier! Every day, I thank the Lord for my life!
Turning 70 this year and I eat healthy, stretch every morning, go to the gym couple of times a week, a facial routine morning and night and keep busy in my sanctuary ….office/sewing room … I just want to look my best as I age
@5:37 Aging is inevitable. No matter how we look, our internals tell on us. Our bones, joints, and internal organs know EXACTLY how old we are. Maintaining good health is the most anti-aging thing we can do.
Eva, Good to see you! I think a video SERIES on the different things women go through as they mature is a great idea! Also, A series on REINVENTING YOURSELF after 45 is another great one!
Hi Eva! This is 74 years young (had a birthday since I last texted you! First let me say, that I’m sooo proud of you!! Not just for your goals to take your sewing talents to another level, but the woman you are becoming! You are so open and honest about this thing that’s called life, and black women need to hear what you’re saying! I made a decision at 74, that I should have made at 24! Of course times were different then, but it’s never too late to search your soul and take a stand for who and what you are! Move forward in power Babygirl, I will be watching, I’m one of your biggest fans! Absolutely loved this video, it was so on time ❤️❤️❤️
Aging doesn’t bother me. This struggle for me has been body changes at 55. Breast cancer and removal of female parts has been hardest. Going through divorce now and I’m struggling so deep!
Thank you for this chat and discussing the realness of aging. I remember being the youngest person in my department and then it hit me that I have now become the older one . After one of the worst birthdays of my life last year I decided it’s time for change. I recently left my company of 15 years to start traveling for work and enjoying this new over 40 journey of my life. Kudos for stepping out and selling what you love for others to enjoy.
Being the oldest at work is hard. Just happened to me too. Also I’m tired of cubicle life and I’d love to start traveling for work. May I ask what you’re now doing for work?
Yes yes yes.. I wasn’t the youngest but I wasn’t the oldest.. and I was so horribly bullied and mistreated for the 6 years of working in my present company (in my 11th year now). I’ve been thru and have come thru quite a bit here… including had a child, and survived postpartum through the bullying. And I am READY for a reset. 😳 Sending love to you..
I’m embracing aging. I work out, eat healthy, and try to keep stress at a low level. I’m also a fan of going to the dermatologist. Botox, fillers, and chemical peels are helpful. A good dermatologist wants you to look natural and will not overdo procedures.
Thanks for sharing..I am 47 and actually hit me this year that I need to take better care for myself. I take vitamins now I workout a lil more now lol. I am having menopause symptoms now getting hot flashes and certain things that is changing within my body. I am learning to get up and out in the sun because when your body going through hormonal changes. The sun is natural vit D and it feel good to get out and walk and just listen to music. Mentally you have to take extra steps 🚶♂️ to feeling better when are aging gracefully.
Wow! Eva….what a gripping video. I went back and forth while watching …. do I want to like this video or unlike. I agreed so strongly in areas and so disagreed in others. I wasn’t even going to comment for fear strangers who I’m not even talking to will try to start drama. I ultimately liked it because that’s what your videos are supposed to do….inspire “divas of a more mature age” to dig deeper, and you certainly did with this one. I was always taught that we should never seek and make big decisions based on “happiness” because happiness is temporary and fleeting, and many people make major decisions looking for happiness, but ultimately miss out on long-term joy. I struggled with some of your reasoning, but concluded that you have to do what is best for you. I truly wish you the best because you have inspired me so much that I can’t help but want the best for you. I remember showing my mom one of your videos and keep in mind, I’m known as being the less than fashionable one in my family. It was your video about what every classy woman should have. You talked about having items like crisp white shirts and expensive sunglasses, etc. My mom knew I would never buy any of it, lol, but she was so happy I was following someone with style, and I now have a couple of very expensive sunglasses and a crisp white shirt, courtesy of your advice and my mom’s shopping habit. I say all that to say I admire you in so many ways , and I truly wish you long-term permanent happiness, however that looks for you. Bless you, Tamara
God sent! I was praying asking for help with the decisions on my marriage, I think it's time to get out, I'm mentally exhausted. I turned on UA-cam, and you popped up and I haven't seen a video in months. I always looked at women in their 50s when I was younger getting divorced, dedicating their lives, and leaving with nothing. I always said don't let that be me, and here I am. I have so many variables this is my second marriage 20 years in, I am running a business trying to get to where it needs to be, I don't want to disappoint my son and family members. All while feeling like a shell of myself and I have to save myself. I'm just praying for strength to do what's right for me. Secondly, you are aging so beautifully, At 55, I know exactly what you are going through. I didn't see much in my 40s, but 50s things are showing up. I've always said there is something special about you.
I'm 48 and need to come to terms with aging. I want to get older without looking older. How do I sign up for that? 😆 Peri-menopause came barreling through my door and I need to address that or these next few years are going to be hellified. Thank you for sharing. And don't worry about over-sharing. You've created a fantastic community, Eva, that is your (rare!) safe space...use it. 💗
Hello young lady. First let me say I’m 72 and dang well proud of it. So, watching this video and listening to the things you’re experiencing was as if I was in a matrix reliving the age you are thinking what the heck is my purpose so to you YOUR DESIGN WAS MADE LIVE IN IT AND WALK THROUGH don’t let anyone or anything trash your ambitions. Say focused be diligent in your endeavors and above all walk with God
Every person Ive met in my career ( over the past 20 yrs) who is aging very gracefully have the following in common: 1. They have or always seek to have balanced health- spiritual, physical and psychological 2. Have exercised consistently throughout their life. 3. Have some sort of hobby or career that requires them to use their energy for a bigger cause. They avoid toxic people and live life on their own terms. They dont live in a comparison state, but strive to become the best version of him/herself. Some of these people may or may not employ the ‘topical’ treatments ( i.e. anti-aging creams, botox, plastic surgery or cosmetic procedures). I work in one of the health care fields that people use to pursue antiaging advice. I have seen this for the past 20 yrs.
Yes please school people on how expensive it is to be a fashion designer. I am a designer and people think that we are supposed to cloth them for free because we are Gucci or Louis Vuitton. It is very hard work…love this video…I will be 40 this year and this video helped me gain some comfortability in my aging ❤️🙌🏽
That’s awesome. My mother moved to Canada from Portugal when she was 17yrs old. Back in Portugal she use to make her own clothes. Then when she had me she started making my clothes too. If you look at my early years pictures you’d think she bought them at a high end place. She always had me all dressy. She loves to sew, but she stopped because she realized that purchasing clothing was cheaper and no time spent. Your right, do what you love. I always say that we are only here for less then 100yrs each. So don’t go without being happy about ourselves. Yes, this thinking comes as we start aging.
Eva! I love what you've brought to your channel. Thank you for sharing. Your elevation elevates us!♥ I am a 62 YO woman who is aging well. I eat well, hydrate well, love well and move my body often. I have always enjoyed makeup, but at this season in my life I wear just enough. Keep loving on yourself Eva! I'm excited for you and happy for you!!
Congratulations and good luck on your clothing designs!!! I'll be turning 50 in April and the lack of energy and aching body is real. I'm deeply melanated so I look good...I just hurt lol. Oh and I'm getting married ❤️
I am EXCITED about the sale starting in March. Satin short set is what I need. I am 54 years old. Life questions hit when I turned 50 and received my first AARP MAGAZINE.
Eva, I think that you are helping a lot of women who do not have a sister or a mom to ask questions or provide some validation in the aging process. That is another way to think about the conversation we shared with you. You are providing a platform that is most necessary in addition to helping yourself.
This has been my thought process on aging, which started in my mid-forties. Im now 63. No surprise your in the midst of this right now. I started noticing some body parts going south, weight that wouldnt come off as easy as before, thinning hair, dryer skin, a little sag in the cheeks and so on and so forth. I made up my mind real quick, do the work to change it (exercise, better eating, blah, blah, blah) or accept that your aging and do it gracefully. NO bad-mouthing yourself. The way I saw it, I had my time in the sun since my teenage years, looking fab, being desired, being chased and having fun. I enjoyed myself to the max!! I'm in my 2nd marriage ( going on 30 yrs). I definitely keep myself presentable, but I'm not gonna chase youth, been there done that. I have loved, loved every passing decade. The wisdom, the peace, the I dont give a &%$# what anyone thinks just keeps getting better. My early 40's were my most self-critical years ever. I was unhappy and blaming it on everyone else (especially my hubby), until I realized it was me. I almost asked for a divorce - thats how unhappy I was feeling (mid- life crisis is real). I would have missed out on the best years of my marriage, even better than the earlier hot and heavy years). Everyone has a different back story so each will handle it differently. One thing though we each gotta do, get right with yourself. Take honest inventory, get counseling, start knowing yourself like never before, in mind and soul. Dig deep and clear out the past, or nothing or nobody is gonna make you happy. ❤❤❤❤ to all of us fabulous women on our aging journey!!
I’m engaged at a man 14 yrs older than me. We have been engaged for 2 years and ain’t talked about a dog gone thang. I’m a big communicator too and I’ve tried more than once to talk and communicate and this man just isn’t that way. I have also been married before so yes 1st time for love ❤️ second time for security and this communication or lack there of doesn’t make me feel secure at all. More than likely I will cut my losses and move on. I just don’t think it’s gonna work 😞. Thanks for sharing, because it helps me know my experience isn’t isolated ❤.
I personally appreciate the “over share”. I’m 41 and I notice changes and I’m working hard to make sure everything is at its best and considering upgrades if needed lol. Also thank you thank thank you for the few videos regarding May December and age gap relationships. I watch them on repeat and I need that wisdom! You speak from a real POV and you don’t over glamorize the experience. Thank you and keep sharing, we need this!!
I think being concerned about aging is a new privilege for Black women. I was single mom with no child support, so I had to focus on just making ends meet for 25 years. When I married my current husband money was no longer an issue. Suddenly I began to find flaws in my appearance. I’m now concentrating on counting my blessings & looking as best I can at my age. My best friends all died young, so the fact that I’m still here & healthy (with a few aches 😂 ) is a blessing! You are gorgeous. Take a look at your younger self & realize how beautiful you were & didn’t even know it. In 10 years you’ll feel that same way when you look at photos from today. Enjoy yourself!
Thank you for oversharing! I'm a few months older than you and 45 has been a struggle! There's been a shift in my mind, my body, my marriage and hearing that I'm not the only one is such a relief. On my 45th birthday I made a promise to myself to make the next 45 years my best 45 years, I just didn't realize that means deconstructing certain things, including my bad habits. I'm excited to see your pieces, I need to get my hands on an Eva exclusive!
Loved this video. About to turn 50 and I don’t understand how all of a sudden (!) this stuff is happening to my body, my face, my hair … Lord! I’m not recognizing myself … but I’m not going down without a fight. Lol I felt every word you said. Thanks for sharing.
I am at peace with ageing I love who I am and the F’s that I’ve lost along the way. I’ve been married, had the child, homes and responsibilities to match. At this time it’s just me and I love it. I come and go as I please. I get companionship on my terms and all is well ❤ There’s an expectation that we’re always serving. I opt out!
People hate when I say this but I’m marrying for BOTH love and security the 1st time!!! I’ve learned from watching other marriages to marry for both rather than one vs the other ❤ (still watching your video just wanted to leave this comment before I lost my thought 😂).
Let's stop counting numbers and just enjoy our journey!! We are all FABULOUS AND DESERVING OF EVERY STEP THAT WE MAKE AND TAKE AS THE QUEENS/GODDESSES THAT WE ARE!! Let's lift each other up and fix some crowns that slip I am my sisters keeper!!! Love you Eva and have missed you dearly 🌹🤗🌹🤗🌹🤗🌹🤗
Your sewing is outstanding and deserves to be as pricey as you need it to be. So glad to see this video today. My hair is changing with age and I now understand why my aunts chopped theirs and my mom chose locs. It’s like having 3 different textures arguing on my head! Lawdamercy! It’s thinner too! I’m trying to figure who I am in this. I’m gonna wind up being the crazy old broad with the wild hair. 😂
Great commentary Eva. I have missed you. Aging process…it is different for each of us. Based on lifestyle, girl we all have stuff going on. Marriage…I relate to you more than I’d like to admit. You said, I love him, but am not in love with him. To me that just means it is a varied, mature relationship where you care deeply, don’t want nothing bad to happen to each other, but you need some space to be you. Wifey can’t be his everything all the time. If he can respect that, it might be worth it to keep him. Lack of passion many times can be an issue on both sides. This is an indicator that a change of scenery & edifying love languages need work. Or…things may have run their course. I feel you on many levels. Pray about it & open your heart to do what the Lord leads you to do. 🌹✝️
I absolutely love when you do these videos, because this is were i am right now in life. I will be 44 this year and I'm currently in menopause and it seems like I'm in somebody else's body! It's so much more than hot flashes. I'm In the process of learning about the new me.
Hey Eva, It's been a long time! Got your notification, and a smile instantly appeared on my face. Contine to share your story and being a blessing to others along the way. We are here for you!
1st off your skin is gorgeous. This is the absolute truth, I’ve been an anti-aging skin care fanatic since childhood. I started using Olay products at the tender age of 7 , when the brand was aka Oil of Olay. I guess that because I first noticed gray hairs at the age of 15. But to answer your question, quite frankly I’m afraid of surgery, however since I’ve been into skin stuff practically all my life, I use a lot of the gadgets, like red light tech items, gua sha, cupping, and mechanical face massagers. But it’s the stressors that accelerate the aging process and lack of sleep has been kicking my arse.
@@evamonroe Thank you for asking. I just received the facial sculpture wand from Shani Darden, celeb aesthetician to the likes of Meghan Good. I also have the Nira Precision Laser. But you know consistency is key with these things. It been a challenge for me to keep up these days due FT work and being back in school.
Hey Lady! I have always appreciated your channel and content. I’m 41 and it really saddens me how women and young ladies aren’t embracing their femininity these days. Thank you for all that you add in this way. I am definitely rooting for you on this journey. I know it will be fabulous! Just like you. ❤
I love the outfits you have shared. I used to make money as a teenager sewing for people. I learned over 50yrs ago people don’t appreciate the value of your time. I wanted to to become a fashion buyer, however did everything but that. I’ve enjoyed my life and continue to enjoy life. My mother and aunts were the epitome of style. If you can see this journey through do not allow people to take the pleasure out of sewing. Peace and prosperity to you.
Eva, your announcement makes COMPLETE sense. It's literally a natural progression. For many of us, we see that you're obsessed with fashion lol (between your thrifting hauls, how to breath new life into different pieces, your ability to sew), and honestly, there are tons of designers that don't even know how to sew, so know that you are more than ready for this next phase. Looking forward to seeing your pieces!
Hi Eva, I really resonated with this video. I'm 47 and never been married and never had any children. And of course, I was made to feel bad about it, but I had to get over it. I was just thinking about the aging process and starting to stress out about it and then I came across your video. You look stunning as always and I know your new venture into fashion will be successful. Great video!! 💕🤗💕
Glad I found this content! I'm not 45 yet, but I started feeling the changes of my adult, womanly transition phase around 35 years old, which I hit a few years ago and when I was searching for resources, there weren't many Black women talking about it. Don't feel bad about UA-cam. White women get more views in almost every subject area: celebrity, beauty, commentary, etc. In my opinion, there probably aren't more Black women speaking on aging because we already have a number of "strikes" against us. We have to build ourselves and each other up from guys in the manosphere. We have to heal from our past traumas and figure out how to navigate continuing community trauma, we have to redefine what beauty is for ourselves. . .
I can relate to this topic.....I lived that life with my ex-husband. Made all kinds of excuses why we should wait. Once I went through it, I decided to give it my all. It wasn't working, but before I walked away, I prayed and prayed about my marriage, asking God to show me, and he did. I had let it go.
I’ll be 33 at the end of the month and I got engaged on Christmas. I’ve been following you for a few years now and you are such a lovely role model. I wish you the best on your journey I know these clothes are going to be fabulous!
Hi Eva, nice to chat with you again 😘 I appreciate your honesty and openness, always! On the brink of 40, I still haven't figured out so much and it's strange how in my mind and spirit I'm still very young, but the material world tells me I'm middle aged already 😲 It is so helpful to have people like you who tell it like it is and are not afraid to speak their truth and share their experiences. Luv you, lady!
Eva, you r beautiful and will be fine. It sounds like u r on the right path. I turned 49 and I remember when I was 44 I was feeling overwhelmed because of the feature changes in My face and I use to feel so bad when I was around my twenty something niece's. Fast forward I have decided to say Thank You JESUS for each and every part of my body I just started to have a attitude of gratitude.
No such thing as oversharing. I watch your videos for guidance. Turning 36 in two days and a good friend of mines (of 17yrs) just stopped talking to me for no reason. Maybe a conversation on adult friendships as you get older? Have you made new friends? I also see changes in my body, but mainly because I stopped working out consistently. Going to buy more at home equipment. I started a good skin routine at 32 and it’s definitely payed off. You look amazing by the way.
If your long term friend has stopped talking to you reach out and ask if she can let you know what happened. If she fails to respond move on and mourn the loss. I promise you Our Heavenly Father God will bring new people into your life. He may even bring back that person into your life and the relationship could be different but better or you just may be at peace knowing there’s no beef between the 2 of you, but you may not have much communication anymore. At 36 you have a wonderful world ahead of you. I was so out of shape and unhealthy when I turned 44. I made a decision to go to college and go to the gym. I lost 40lbs. in 6 months and got my bachelors over a 4 year period. Take back control young lady ❤. I am now 62 and have reinvented myself a million times. God is good, Jesus is everything and He will get you through many struggles and bring joy and make life fun and worth it all.
Sweetheart, all my friends of 25-30 years drifted away from me and me from them about 5 years ago. I spent my 40th alone in Paris and travelled to Ghana a number of times as a solo traveller. Grieve & mourn the sisterhoods that have come to an end. Then embrace and enjoy yourself- yesterday I went for time out for myself (date night) with me. Take it one day at a time, God trust for the process... Be blessed and encouraged doll face x
This convo spoke to my soul brought tears to my eyes. I’m struggling with this exact thing in my relationship and have been putting off the tough decisions that come with the acknowledgement of this space I’m in. Thank you for your transparency. The hard work starts now. 💞
Can’t wait to support your line! ❤️❤️❤️ Yassss to bravely pursuing your best life, Queen!!! You inspire this 27 year old to make decisions that lead to me being a wise, still growing, still SHINING and creative lady like you at 45. May the beauty a truly gifted, real lady holds alwayssss be seen as a classic and timeless staple in our culture. Amen. lol xoxo #teamevadivasince2015
Ms. Eva. I've been sewing for a VERY long time, so I can speak on sewing for others. You are right, people do not respect the time, effort & care that goes into bespoke couture. That is why I rarely sew for others now. In other news - I like what you did with your fabric; wrapping it around boards and displaying it in fabric-store style👍🏾. You should create "Thee Eva Monroe Collection" with custom labels & everything. As for getting older...moisturize, moisturize, MOISTURIZE! Eat better and stay active, both mentally & physically. Looks like you have those things on lock! 🤩
Thank God for Grace. I'm 66, five years in AML remission, yes arthritis and his family visits often. But I say that to say this, take care of yourself, love yourself, pamper yourself and be thankful. Each morning regardless of the weather I step out on my patio and thank God for his unconditional love and for this gorgeous day. Oh yes marriage is business in loved. Let God be the CEO. Share the gift God gave you, consult God in all things not people. Blessings
I just love your content and I think that you’re aging gracefully. I will 39 in April of this year and I watch your content for tips to be classy like you.
Please stop doubting yourself the pieces you showed are Amazing 🤩 I’m proud of you 👏🏾 I’m getting ready to start my retail resale business and I’m absolutely afraid of failure it’s almost like the fright or flight syndrome And I got two more ventures I also want to do And creating my own clothing brand & making clothing by hand. Then owning my own curated Vintage Shop doing it all by myself is exciting and terrifying. Let the doubt be your motivation. Wishing you nothing but success ❤️💯🙏🏾
Lol 😂 I'm 62, just retired in September, but have gone through my trial and tribulations like most. One thing that changed for me as I have gotten older. I have made it a point to fall fully in love with myself and my talents 😌 💕 this has been the game changer 🥰🤣
Oh my God… your experience about doubts in your second attempt at marriage was my story. I knew better with the last one and did it anyway. Needless to say, I’m divorced…um single (and happy) again. Thank you, girl, for your honesty.
I love my mind at 56yrs young. I know discernment, hope and inner fulfillment. I am single, never married. Had a baby at 21yrs and raised him on my own, and made lots of sacrifices to be the best Mom. After my son left home, I was then free to travel spontaneously, take sabbatical and more focus on myself and am loving life. I work less, and rest, read and explore more. Every day is worth living however you choose to live. I love time with grandchildren. I think moderation is the key. Healthy diet, moderate exercise and enough sleep are also key. Forgive and let go, and move on
Hey Eva, Glad you're doing okay. I wish you so much success in your endeavors. You are alright with me twin sis( same bday). One thing about us is you really don't have to "wonder" anything because we will tell you. We do "over share" but I think we just be keeping it real. When we speak on our experiences it's how we feel at that moment. I'm about to write a Soliloquy 😂😂 so I'll spare you. But you do you. Be happy 🪴🌞🥰💓
Great video. We don’t talk about it. I was just asking an older friend about tips last night at an event because I don’t really have anyone to talk with about peri- menopause. This is my 45th year and I’m also looking forward to a reinvention. It’s been brewing in me. Great conversation and I personally think you should have more videos like this. And kudos on moving forward with your passion. Proud of you and for you. 😍
Girl you are speaking to me, I am going through the exact same thoughts in my marriage. God bless you for confirming that my feelings & thoughts aren't crazy. 🙏🏼
Thank you for this video. I just subscribed to your channel and I am grateful that I found you. We do not have enough women our age and color speaking our truth. I’ve been noticing that I have changed and have been changing since I turned 41. Now 45 I’ve realized that I am different and it’s ok. I have changed how I eat, make sure I get enough sleep, bi weekly facials, I exercise 5 days a week to include light weight lifting. Keep doing what you do. Keep getting the message out. I appreciate you
Eva, thanks for speaking on our aging challenges. Our mother’s/grandmother’s didn’t pass those needed pearls of wisdom. We appreciate you pulling back the veil of silence and encouragement for us to do the same. And having the courage to make those ‘adjustments’ to slow aging. I’m trying peels, retinol, vitamin C serum etc. tried blading. I thought about some minor face lifts, I don’t have wrinkles but the face does have a slight sag. Congratulations on your new ventures!
Hey Eva! Glad to hear that you are finding your happy. My 60th birthday hit me hard. Never had any concerns about my age before, but something about the 6-0 just sounded so freaking old. I still have my moments when I can't believe I'm in my 60's but it's better than the alternative and I still feel like I'm in my 30's. Having a hubby that's a few years younger doesn't hurt either!
55 and married almost 19 yrs, together almost 23. I'm the same, I'm vocal and want to know the goings on and he is opposite. Don't want to go nowhere or do shit. I'm over it. Am I leaving? No, I'm just about to start living MY life. Got 2 trips planned and soon as the weather break here in the Chi. I'm going outside.
I started watching your channel because I enjoyed learning about your perfume collection, and then I learned we both love gardening. But really what hits home lately is that overall you are such a creative + artistic person with a drive to be/stay happy + to get a lot out of life. Thank you also for sharing honestly about the aging process + relationships. I am a little older and am surprised equally by how freeing it is to « come into myself » and care less what people think while also being surprised by how this aging thing ain’t for wimps. You are brilliant-keep knowing that (I hope you charge at least $250-$400 for your handmade + stunning pieces).
Us melanated women look younger longer. But we still are aging. I’m in menopause and nobody talks about that really. Hair turning grey down below hit me hard for a minute. Now I don’t worry about it. I think I’m oversharing. But I’m 60 and reaching this age I’ve stopped giving a bleep about what ppl think a long time ago. I’ve accepted aging. I take care of myself and enjoy my family and friends.
Thank you for sharing! I’m coming up on my 58th bday and I’m feeling off about how things just started drooping and greying. Not sure what looks appropriate any more. I want to have fun with it, this life is a gift!
I too wish there were more discussions about menopause in these internet streets. We could benefit greatly from having them.
As I started to grey in the early stages of my 30’s I buying hair dye faster than they could manufacture it. I finally gave up because the gray was winning and learned to embrace it and I love my gray now.
@@lynylyn316 I’m coming up on my 58th birthday too😊 I embrace my aging process because it’s a gift. “The outer man is perishing, but the inner man is renewed day by day.” Enjoy your up and coming birthday! 🎊 🎉
I’m white and I started getting grey hair at 16 years old.
I’m almost 61 and have NEVER looked better! I eat seven servings of vegetables every day, and it is doing wonders for my skin and hair. My hair has actually stopped growing in gray! I work out, doing a combination of Pilates, weightlifting, and walking. Also, mobility and flexibility is high on my list. There is a 45 year old on my job who’s been chasing the hell out of me for the past three years 😅. Thankfully, I have a husband who can’t keep his hands off of me. If I can impart anything, ladies, it’s eat well and manage your insulin, even if you aren’t diabetic. You truly are what you eat. If at all possible, stay away from HRT. Do your research and use high-quality supplements to help balance your hormones and maintain your energy. Last tip… Increase your vitamin D. You’ll sleep better, and it will beautify your skin.
Keep doing what you’re doing, Eva. You’re killing it!
I love this!
@Sfrich36 Great advice, thanks for sharing.
What high quality supplements do you take to balance your hormones? Have you had any issues with chin hairs? If so, what do you do for them? I believe this is a hormone issue.
Great advice 🎉 I’m 49 years old and I’m trying to get a balance on my hormones, naturally. Can you share more about the supplements you use? I find it keeps those pesky pounds off when your hormones are balanced.
@Debbie Hilton lol I tweeze mine.
It's great to hear from you again Eva! Being a 53 year old man, who recently became engaged to a beautiful 48 year old woman, this information is helpful for me. I need to be understanding and considerate towards what she may end up going through during her aging process. Thank you for your transparency.
Im happy for you to find love
That was sweet 😍
That’s beautiful you are and willing to help her on her growth journey. Especially since you have traveled those roads to aging already. Much respect!
I'm 40. I've never lived alone, paid all my bills alone, or done much alone. I was tired of relationships that ended poorly and my last situationship broke me and the light came through. I live in a shelter with my children because I don't have family and my next step is to just begin to build my life. No more bf or kid's father's......I am ready to have my own.
You got it sis 💜
I wish you the best.
You will
Do well🤞🏾📿
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I hope everything you wish for become true❤❤❤
I personally feel age is just a number. I know this is cliché, but I also truly believe we are as old as we feel. I turned 58 in December. I look damn good and feel damn good. I work out, eat healthy, I don’t do stress, I don't do gray hair, got a damn divorce and I am living my best damn single life. If I had to turn back the hands of time, I would not go back. Also, menopause for me was not bad at all because I was in the gym five days a week. I never had hot flashes, mood swings or any of the symptoms associate with menopause. Aging is inevitable, but how one take care of themselves in their younger years will largely dictate how one feel and look in their older years.
This is truly an amazing comment. Congrats on getting & keeping it all together lovely! I’m now even more inspired.💯✨🌸
Lol about the menopause because I tell you, personally I am waiting for that moment to come cuz I'm so over it and besides, I've already got my kids so...I don't think I'd have anything major to worry about either in regards to symptoms. I never had any morning sickness during pregnancy with any of my children and the like or seem to experience typical ailments that women can experience as we age. I also work out daily and have been the same size throughout my adult life. I'm 46 going on 47 this year. I've also had the same approach to age. Really I've always embraced getting older in the same fashion because for one it's inevitable and for two I always feel more sophisticated and like there's more that I can do and explore with my life based on the knowledge that I've gained over the years.
Like that
So true
I know that I’m not your target audience, I’m 31, but I have been watching your channel for years. It started off because of the perfume, but I stayed for the wisdom and the growth I’ve seen as you have changed your interests and hobbies. The gems you drop on here help me to navigate life far more effectively, and efficiently than a lot of my peers! Looking forward to aging just as joyously as you are! Loooove the chats!!
I’m 47 and aging has been difficult. Although I don’t look my age my body is definitely not the same. I am trying to be in a space where I’m grateful for my age because without it there would be no life. This was a great video
Exercise. Join a gym. Swim. Play a sport. Take a dance class. You will be amazed at how well a 47-year-old body responds to regular exercise. I'm 69 and just beginning to show some aging. I remember when I used to think I was hopelessly aging in my 40s. That's not true.
@@reneehenderson6134 thanks for the suggestions. I do exercise and have a very active lif. I was speaking from a mental point of view. Thanks for the feedback
@@Naturallyliz41 mental point of view I don't understand?
Can you elaborate...
But older women have the best options if they are slim built and if she wants a sex partner date much younger men like under 25 years old...just make your body as slim as possible..of you want marriage get slim and find men who are 59+...
Your goal should be to have six pack abs
By 40 or 45, I had to work a teeny bit harder. I started making a paste of Ambi and olive oil and applying it (only) to frown lines that were starting at my nose. I started doing eye exercises daily gently tapping a little puffiness that wanted to turn into undereye bags. That was it for my face. Aging reversed. At 45, you are actually still young. Committed physical exercise will hold your body into your mid 60s.
Now that I'm 68 (70 for all intents and purposes), I am finally beginning to see a change and a more mature look. At this stage I welcome it and It's not a big deal. I just wish women in their 40s realized that they have a long way to go before really beginning to show signs of aging. I remember when I was in my 40s and thought I was approaching over-the-hill. I was wrong. Just treat yourself with some extra kindness. I know several young women in their 30s who look quite a bit older than you. My 50 year-old daughter and my 44 year old daughter are mistaken for being 15 to 20 years younger than they actually are. You look great and there is a major element of truth in "black don't crack."
Sorry - long post. Must share.
@Eva, you look fantastic!🤩 @Renee, I'd bet you do too. This spring (lord willing) I will have another age milestone soon. Now I realize how young 40s was. Sidebar. Eva, I paused watching your channel for a short time because your taste in fragrance in so good & INSPIRING. I was running out of room to display my perfume collection - thanks to you💅 My YT feed was becoming a bit too toxic, so I started missing your overall creative content & sense of feminine fashion, so I came back and you're still just as lovely, kind-hearted, upfront honest and very relatable👸🏽✨ Kudos. Back to aging. I rarely bring up age in a conversation but I notice how other people do (esp Non-blacks) tossing out their age first (related aches or illnesses) as bait to be comparative or just down right curious/nosey🙃 If I feel like playing the game they're usually very shocked & quickly change subjects😅 I'm blessed and grateful🙏🏾 BPeople know what that melanin do🖤✨ BDC BlackDontCrack.
I have clear skin and like you Eva, last year I started noticing at angles very slight jaw/temple hollowing, marionette lines, 2 faint forehead lines getting deeper from cycling outdoors, changes that I wanted to do something about BEFORE they set in. I stay aprx 130lbs so it's not yoyo diet or weight related. It's post meno loss of collagen and loss of (good) face fat. I see it, but no one else does. I decided to be open-minded to go beyond BDC🖤✨ vaseline and shea butter skin care. I put on my investigative hat and discovered Dr Rajani's great UNbiased YT channel. Subsequently, I discovered a DIY anti-aging community and to no surprise it is predominantly NON-black folks. I looked for content from us/BW - NOTHING on the same mass scale as this community. The DIY community is a hidden treasure trove of info. Info boils down to collagen NOT race. It's more commonplace for WWomen to start their Botox & filler "tweakments" by age mid 20-30s. The average BWoman doesn't want/need such anti-aging treatment that early. However, the info is about how to preserve/build collagen/elastin (not race) so I decide to LEARN - without judgement _Eat the meat and spit out the bones_ Anyway, there's SAFE non-surgical options like various _threads_ and other topical & meso skin boosters that causes the body to boost its own lost collagen and elastin - without the two, a % of lower face droop is inevitable, esp post meno. With some treatments the dreaded puffy Filler-Face is avoidable🤡 I've not had filler - yet??🤔 but if a (non-celebrity) BW did choose it - more power to her _just a DAB_ of filler, PLLA sculptra can likely do wonders for melinated skin. Microneedling, Red/Blue light therapy can lift & tighten saggy skin. Threads of various composition PDO PLLA PCL also lift sag and/or rebuild lost collagen & elastin. HRT Hormone Replacement Therapy can address all the symptoms of meno. Flashes, low s3x drive, dry VJ, irritability, muscle loss, sleeplessness etc.
I had no idea even after you stop flashing🔥POST meno symptoms can last more than TEN years beyond flashes, so for some women that's into mid 60s early 70s.
No wonder we can feel funky at times. I've learned a LOT in a short time! Anyway,
I was brave enough to place just two small pdo threads in each side of laugh lines. I had all this emotional drama hyping myself up and it was an uneventful dud. _It did NOT hurt at all!_ The next day, i saw a filling out of that hollow area😁 Not scared of the simple ones anymore.
I bought a good eBay $250 home quality spa unit (5 attachments) to do my own RF cavitation etc. Works great! Although a good esthetician is very valuable. I discovered that a lot of expensive treatments and products ARE available to the public and can be LEGALLY done at home with good results & great $avings.
Bottom line, I'm trying to _encourage BWomen to do their own research and to STOP allowing the BDC mindset to POLICE our beauty regimens_ I don't want to try looking 25/30 forever - can't, but I do want to stay looking my best and getting carded for buying wine at the grocery store🍷 There's NOTHING wrong with BWomen exploring their options to maintain their melaninated beauty - longer👸🏽 Ladies, do your research. DoYOU!
_sorry the post was so long_
Thank you for sharing this inspirational story. I began my route of reinventing myself a year ago, and I'm now living healthier, more confident, and stronger, earning six figures, and having time to enjoy family and friends. I'm happier and live my life for myself. This is to encourage someone that "you can start anytime to have a reset it's worth it!" I'm striving hard to keep growing since it's a journey.
Best wishes, sis! Thank you for inspiring others with your tale; I'd love to learn from you as well.
@@lunamoon448 Alter your thinking, read self-help books, broaden your knowledge, budget and avoid impulse spending, save, take your finances seriously, eat properly, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope you find it beneficial.
@@carlcindy5427 How did you get to 6 figures? This year, I'm attempting to improve my personal finances.
@@carlcindy5427 Congratulations to you Cindy keep it going👍
¿l learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.:)
Welcome back Eva! I'm 51 and for me being single has been the best anti aging remedy 😉! Eating well, exercising, and ridding myself of toxic people (even family members) is what has worked for me. Also, I've been sewing since I was 12 years old & I'm hoping once I retire, to have a hand made boutique of my own. Presently, designing & planning out my summer wardrobe. Hopefully I can make it all happen 🤞🏼. This is funny b/c I started following you as I am a perfume collector.
And now to find out that you sew as well?!?!?👍🏼 Wishing you the best on your sewing journey!
@m.richelle, This is amazing. You have been sewing a very long time. your boutique will be amazing. I would love to visit a handmade boutique!
51, Would love to learn to sew, Eva, you are the friend I wish I had,❤ love your channel. 3 months in Invaisalign.
Hey Eva🥰I am 51...I am loving getting older...because a lot of people out here faced the alternative at a young age! I survived breast cancer...so I look at life much different....I feel absolutely GREAT! I look and feel better at 51 than I did at 31💯💯💯As women, we are so hard on ourselves...and we shouldn't be! We are BEAUTIFUL at EVERY age🥰 "Good Morning Gorgeous" by Mary J. Blidge is the song that tells it ALL🎵🎼🎶🎙
Indeed.✨💯 I’ve experienced women nearly twenty years younger being envious, especially women of other races. It’s a fact, we just get better with time.😇
@@bamarealist 🙏🏾 AMEN! Sis...I get "the look" everywhere I go....and these women are 20-30 years younger....and unfortunately, some look so sloppy...bonnet, slippers, pj's, 🙄🙄
@@hmm-zoolol YES!! You're so right 💯💯❤❤
Gurrrrrl, I am mourning my youth and beauty... for years now. I've been all over UA-cam looking for videos on this subject. I was like, this has to be a thing. I can't be alone... Yes, I call it mourning , because the old me is fading. It was very refreshing to hear you acknowledge your feelings. Thank you for your transparency.
One thing I've realized is that IF you truly lived a fulfilling life, then you wouldn't have to mourn the past years. It's harder when you feel like you gotta make up for some things you missed out on. At the end of the day, you gotta make peace with the fact that it's never too late for anything. Live your present life to the fullest.
We sew, we garden, we overshare 🥺 I love it here 💚
Eva, I believe there is NOTHING you can't do. I'm a huge fan and I'm a 66 year old white woman so your messages transcend age and race.
Love this topic! Welcome back. I'm 65 and just now starting to see the affects of my aging. It's real. A lot of things DO change. I've had to be intentional in making sure I stay healthy and vibrate as I get older. I plan to live 40 more years, I've decided to make myself a priority over EVERYTHING else.
You have been missed, Eva! So happy to see you again! 💜💜💜
I'm turning 44 this year and I feel good about how I'm aging....I am not the women I saw who were this age when I was growing up....I could stand to lose a few pounds but luckily my body and mind have not betrayed me this far......
Hello Eva, I love your transparency am 46yrs and yes this video spoke my mind. When I came across your channel I saw myself in you. Right now when it comes to my marriage am having the exact thoughts I don’t feel wanted but rather needed been married for 12yrs and I have no child with him ….( me here over sharing) the only thing keeping me happy is my love for sewing . Every piece that I finish I feel so over joyed ❤.
Thank you for sharing , please don’t stop over sharing it is some form therapeutic for some of us.
I love you sending you love and light 💡
@lizofmpenzidesigns1862, Thank you so much for watching. This is why I over share, it's always nice to know we are not alone. Wishing you lots of Love, Peace and happiness🥰
Hi im sorry for asking this question but may I ask, have you not had children by choice or its other reasons?
The reason I ask is that im 36 and have a 16 year old daughter. Im not married yet but if I get married I do not want anymore kids.
Im just looking at the possibility of being married longterm with no kid with that man
@@melmel7011 oh I never mentioned but I have a beautiful daughter that I had at 19yrs when I was still younger , She is 27 yrs and she is the other thing that keeps me sane. In my marriage not having children was my own choice i made , I never wanted to have any other children. Thank you for asking.
I think the older a couple gets together that's just the natural order and evolution of the marriage as we age though. He IS going to need us for different things or reasons as his wife and same as we as wives get older and who better than our husband/wife of many years to help us through as we're growing old together? I think it's different if it were a man who played the field during his prime but suddenly decides to seek a woman to settle down with and find a place to nest once he's up in age and slowing down...maybe start to have failing health versus a man who was there to change your kids' diapers or even if there's no children between the couple, he showed his love, support, and devotion in various ways from the pursuit and throughout. In regards to "want" in relation to need in this context I guess it's the proverbial "I want to grow old with you" concept.
Many people talk about the physical challenges of aging but few talk about the mental challenges. Aging is a mental challenge. We spend the early parts of our life young and youthful, other people are the old people. Then one day you notice your reflection in the mirror and are stunned to see that YOU are aging, HOW can that be? Other people are old, not ME. Although we all know that we will age when it happens you are still surprised and some of us shocked by it. It becomes a mental challenge to accept that you are now one of the older ones at work, gym, waiting room.... I will turn 65 next month and I still can not believe that that number belongs to me. I have become more accepting of the fact that society now thinks of me as a senior citizen but Im still trying to accept it myself, even at 65. One other thing Eva if you read this, DO NOT BE AFRAID OF FAILURE, Life is an adventure. Don't be afraid of falling, its ok. Enjoy the ride. You go Girl !!!
I just celebrated 65, and I am SO grateful! I never thought I'd live to see this age or even past 30! So, I feel compelled to take special care of me as a result regardless of what others think! My hair started turning gray in my 20s, so I colored and colored to "fix" my issue, or what I considered was my problem: my grays. Then, I learned about the damage I was doing to myself as the chemicals of dying my hair and perming my hair were entering my body. So, I stopped everything. I went natural. I began eating plant based. I learned to embrace my natural, gray hair, and I ate well. Result: I am
The result of everything I've done is: I love my life, I love who I've become, I am happier, and my hair and skin are now healthy. I love who I am becoming. I am so happy that I stopped letting society tell me who I am to be and how I am to look. I have never been happier! Every day, I thank the Lord for my life!
Turning 70 this year and I eat healthy, stretch every morning, go to the gym couple of times a week, a facial routine morning and night and keep busy in my sanctuary ….office/sewing room … I just want to look my best as I age
@5:37 Aging is inevitable. No matter how we look, our internals tell on us. Our bones, joints, and internal organs know EXACTLY how old we are. Maintaining good health is the most anti-aging thing we can do.
This is very true. It starts on the inside!!
Eva, Good to see you! I think a video SERIES on the different things women go through as they mature is a great idea! Also, A series on REINVENTING YOURSELF after 45 is another great one!
Yes! I’d love to see it ❤
Hi Eva! This is 74 years young (had a birthday since I last texted you! First let me say, that I’m sooo proud of you!! Not just for your goals to take your sewing talents to another level, but the woman you are becoming! You are so open and honest about this thing that’s called life, and black women need to hear what you’re saying! I made a decision at 74, that I should have made at 24! Of course times were different then, but it’s never too late to search your soul and take a stand for who and what you are! Move forward in power Babygirl, I will be watching, I’m one of your biggest fans! Absolutely loved this video, it was so on time ❤️❤️❤️
Wow, aunty, lm Turing 24 years in April, but l wish to reach to reach your age by God's grace 💖💖 in 50 years time.
Aging doesn’t bother me. This struggle for me has been body changes at 55. Breast cancer and removal of female parts has been hardest. Going through divorce now and I’m struggling so deep!
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for this chat and discussing the realness of aging. I remember being the youngest person in my department and then it hit me that I have now become the older one . After one of the worst birthdays of my life last year I decided it’s time for change. I recently left my company of 15 years to start traveling for work and enjoying this new over 40 journey of my life. Kudos for stepping out and selling what you love for others to enjoy.
Being the oldest at work is hard. Just happened to me too. Also I’m tired of cubicle life and I’d love to start traveling for work. May I ask what you’re now doing for work?
Yes yes yes.. I wasn’t the youngest but I wasn’t the oldest.. and I was so horribly bullied and mistreated for the 6 years of working in my present company (in my 11th year now). I’ve been thru and have come thru quite a bit here… including had a child, and survived postpartum through the bullying.
And I am READY for a reset. 😳 Sending love to you..
I am still in awe of that DIY water fall you made...you made it look easy...home, fashion and gardening.
I’m embracing aging. I work out, eat healthy, and try to keep stress at a low level. I’m also a fan of going to the dermatologist. Botox, fillers, and chemical peels are helpful. A good dermatologist wants you to look natural and will not overdo procedures.
Thanks for sharing..I am 47 and actually hit me this year that I need to take better care for myself. I take vitamins now I workout a lil more now lol. I am having menopause symptoms now getting hot flashes and certain things that is changing within my body. I am learning to get up and out in the sun because when your body going through hormonal changes. The sun is natural vit D and it feel good to get out and walk and just listen to music. Mentally you have to take extra steps 🚶♂️ to feeling better when are aging gracefully.
These are the videos I love from you. No one else is making this kind of content. And I LOVE your gardening videos. It’s how I found you. 😊
Wow! Eva….what a gripping video. I went back and forth while watching …. do I want to like this video or unlike. I agreed so strongly in areas and so disagreed in others. I wasn’t even going to comment for fear strangers who I’m not even talking to will try to start drama. I ultimately liked it because that’s what your videos are supposed to do….inspire “divas of a more mature age” to dig deeper, and you certainly did with this one.
I was always taught that we should never seek and make big decisions based on “happiness” because happiness is temporary and fleeting, and many people make major decisions looking for happiness, but ultimately miss out on long-term joy. I struggled with some of your reasoning, but concluded that you have to do what is best for you.
I truly wish you the best because you have inspired me so much that I can’t help but want the best for you.
I remember showing my mom one of your videos and keep in mind, I’m known as being the less than fashionable one in my family. It was your video about what every classy woman should have. You talked about having items like crisp white shirts and expensive sunglasses, etc. My mom knew I would never buy any of it, lol, but she was so happy I was following someone with style, and I now have a couple of very expensive sunglasses and a crisp white shirt, courtesy of your advice and my mom’s shopping habit.
I say all that to say I admire you in so many ways , and I truly wish you long-term permanent happiness, however that looks for you.
Bless you,
Tamara
I'm glad you decided to comment. Your words are very true. Happiness is indeed fleeting and a very small part of marriage.❤
Powerful🔥 I just had to read your 2nd paragraph again!✨
God sent! I was praying asking for help with the decisions on my marriage, I think it's time to get out, I'm mentally exhausted. I turned on UA-cam, and you popped up and I haven't seen a video in months. I always looked at women in their 50s when I was younger getting divorced, dedicating their lives, and leaving with nothing. I always said don't let that be me, and here I am. I have so many variables this is my second marriage 20 years in, I am running a business trying to get to where it needs to be, I don't want to disappoint my son and family members. All while feeling like a shell of myself and I have to save myself. I'm just praying for strength to do what's right for me. Secondly, you are aging so beautifully, At 55, I know exactly what you are going through. I didn't see much in my 40s, but 50s things are showing up. I've always said there is something special about you.
I'm 48 and need to come to terms with aging. I want to get older without looking older. How do I sign up for that? 😆 Peri-menopause came barreling through my door and I need to address that or these next few years are going to be hellified. Thank you for sharing. And don't worry about over-sharing. You've created a fantastic community, Eva, that is your (rare!) safe space...use it. 💗
Hello young lady. First let me say I’m 72 and dang well proud of it. So, watching this video and listening to the things you’re experiencing was as if I was in a matrix reliving the age you are thinking what the heck is my purpose so to you YOUR DESIGN WAS MADE LIVE IN IT AND WALK THROUGH don’t let anyone or anything trash your ambitions. Say focused be diligent in your endeavors and above all walk with God
Every person Ive met in my career ( over the past 20 yrs) who is aging very gracefully have the following in common:
1. They have or always seek to have balanced health- spiritual, physical and psychological
2. Have exercised consistently throughout their life.
3. Have some sort of hobby or career that requires them to use their energy for a bigger cause.
They avoid toxic people and live life on their own terms. They dont live in a comparison state, but strive to become the best version of him/herself.
Some of these people may or may not employ the ‘topical’ treatments ( i.e. anti-aging creams, botox, plastic surgery or cosmetic procedures).
I work in one of the health care fields that people use to pursue antiaging advice. I have seen this for the past 20 yrs.
Yes please school people on how expensive it is to be a fashion designer. I am a designer and people think that we are supposed to cloth them for free because we are Gucci or Louis Vuitton. It is very hard work…love this video…I will be 40 this year and this video helped me gain some comfortability in my aging ❤️🙌🏽
Love your content Ms. Eva. I’m 31 going on 32 and appreciate your wisdom and advice. 💓
That’s awesome. My mother moved to Canada from Portugal when she was 17yrs old. Back in Portugal she use to make her own clothes. Then when she had me she started making my clothes too. If you look at my early years pictures you’d think she bought them at a high end place. She always had me all dressy. She loves to sew, but she stopped because she realized that purchasing clothing was cheaper and no time spent. Your right, do what you love. I always say that we are only here for less then 100yrs each. So don’t go without being happy about ourselves. Yes, this thinking comes as we start aging.
I'm 53 and I been in menopause for years and I'm still learning. My biggest thing is my gray hair but wigs work every time, 😆 🤣
Eva! I love what you've brought to your channel. Thank you for sharing. Your elevation elevates us!♥ I am a 62 YO woman who is aging well. I eat well, hydrate well, love well and move my body often. I have always enjoyed makeup, but at this season in my life I wear just enough. Keep loving on yourself Eva! I'm excited for you and happy for you!!
Congratulations and good luck on your clothing designs!!!
I'll be turning 50 in April and the lack of energy and aching body is real. I'm deeply melanated so I look good...I just hurt lol.
Oh and I'm getting married ❤️
I am EXCITED about the sale starting in March. Satin short set is what I need. I am 54 years old. Life questions hit when I turned 50 and received my first AARP MAGAZINE.
Eva, I think that you are helping a lot of women who do not have a sister or a mom to ask questions or provide some validation in the aging process. That is another way to think about the conversation we shared with you. You are providing a platform that is most necessary in addition to helping yourself.
This has been my thought process on aging, which started in my mid-forties. Im now 63. No surprise your in the midst of this right now. I started noticing some body parts going south, weight that wouldnt come off as easy as before, thinning hair, dryer skin, a little sag in the cheeks and so on and so forth. I made up my mind real quick, do the work to change it (exercise, better eating, blah, blah, blah) or accept that your aging and do it gracefully. NO bad-mouthing yourself. The way I saw it, I had my time in the sun since my teenage years, looking fab, being desired, being chased and having fun. I enjoyed myself to the max!! I'm in my 2nd marriage ( going on 30 yrs). I definitely keep myself presentable, but I'm not gonna chase youth, been there done that. I have loved, loved every passing decade. The wisdom, the peace, the I dont give a &%$# what anyone thinks just keeps getting better. My early 40's were my most self-critical years ever. I was unhappy and blaming it on everyone else (especially my hubby), until I realized it was me. I almost asked for a divorce - thats how unhappy I was feeling (mid- life crisis is real). I would have missed out on the best years of my marriage, even better than the earlier hot and heavy years). Everyone has a different back story so each will handle it differently. One thing though we each gotta do, get right with yourself. Take honest inventory, get counseling, start knowing yourself like never before, in mind and soul. Dig deep and clear out the past, or nothing or nobody is gonna make you happy. ❤❤❤❤ to all of us fabulous women on our aging journey!!
I’m engaged at a man 14 yrs older than me. We have been engaged for 2 years and ain’t talked about a dog gone thang. I’m a big communicator too and I’ve tried more than once to talk and communicate and this man just isn’t that way. I have also been married before so yes 1st time for love ❤️ second time for security and this communication or lack there of doesn’t make me feel secure at all. More than likely I will cut my losses and move on. I just don’t think it’s gonna work 😞. Thanks for sharing, because it helps me know my experience isn’t isolated ❤.
@Sweetpea222, Communication is HUGE! And a major red flag that I ignored.🥰
Finally, someone talking about marriage and keeping it real! Thank you , new subbie
I personally appreciate the “over share”. I’m 41 and I notice changes and I’m working hard to make sure everything is at its best and considering upgrades if needed lol. Also thank you thank thank you for the few videos regarding May December and age gap relationships. I watch them on repeat and I need that wisdom! You speak from a real POV and you don’t over glamorize the experience. Thank you and keep sharing, we need this!!
I’m new here and was wondering What is May/December?
@@annette1674 When one partner is much older than the other... typically an entire generation or more older.
@@thegardeningwriterTT thank you!
I think being concerned about aging is a new privilege for Black women. I was single mom with no child support, so I had to focus on just making ends meet for 25 years. When I married my current husband money was no longer an issue. Suddenly I began to find flaws in my appearance. I’m now concentrating on counting my blessings & looking as best I can at my age. My best friends all died young, so the fact that I’m still here & healthy (with a few aches 😂 ) is a blessing! You are gorgeous. Take a look at your younger self & realize how beautiful you were & didn’t even know it. In 10 years you’ll feel that same way when you look at photos from today. Enjoy yourself!
Thank you for oversharing! I'm a few months older than you and 45 has been a struggle! There's been a shift in my mind, my body, my marriage and hearing that I'm not the only one is such a relief. On my 45th birthday I made a promise to myself to make the next 45 years my best 45 years, I just didn't realize that means deconstructing certain things, including my bad habits. I'm excited to see your pieces, I need to get my hands on an Eva exclusive!
Loved this video. About to turn 50 and I don’t understand how all of a sudden (!) this stuff is happening to my body, my face, my hair … Lord! I’m not recognizing myself … but I’m not going down without a fight. Lol I felt every word you said. Thanks for sharing.
I am at peace with ageing I love who I am and the F’s that I’ve lost along the way. I’ve been married, had the child, homes and responsibilities to match. At this time it’s just me and I love it. I come and go as I please.
I get companionship on my terms and all is well ❤
There’s an expectation that we’re always serving. I opt out!
People hate when I say this but I’m marrying for BOTH love and security the 1st time!!!
I’ve learned from watching other marriages to marry for both rather than one vs the other ❤ (still watching your video just wanted to leave this comment before I lost my thought 😂).
I agree.
Let's stop counting numbers and just enjoy our journey!! We are all FABULOUS AND DESERVING OF EVERY STEP THAT WE MAKE AND TAKE AS THE QUEENS/GODDESSES THAT WE ARE!! Let's lift each other up and fix some crowns that slip I am my sisters keeper!!! Love you Eva and have missed you dearly 🌹🤗🌹🤗🌹🤗🌹🤗
Your sewing is outstanding and deserves to be as pricey as you need it to be. So glad to see this video today. My hair is changing with age and I now understand why my aunts chopped theirs and my mom chose locs. It’s like having 3 different textures arguing on my head! Lawdamercy! It’s thinner too! I’m trying to figure who I am in this. I’m gonna wind up being the crazy old broad with the wild hair. 😂
Great commentary Eva. I have missed you. Aging process…it is different for each of us. Based on lifestyle, girl we all have stuff going on. Marriage…I relate to you more than I’d like to admit. You said, I love him, but am not in love with him. To me that just means it is a varied, mature relationship where you care deeply, don’t want nothing bad to happen to each other, but you need some space to be you. Wifey can’t be his everything all the time. If he can respect that, it might be worth it to keep him. Lack of passion many times can be an issue on both sides. This is an indicator that a change of scenery & edifying love languages need work. Or…things may have run their course. I feel you on many levels. Pray about it & open your heart to do what the Lord leads you to do. 🌹✝️
I absolutely love when you do these videos, because this is were i am right now in life. I will be 44 this year and I'm currently in menopause and it seems like I'm in somebody else's body! It's so much more than hot flashes. I'm
In the process of learning about the new me.
I think I’m in pre menopause. This stage of life is a learning experience for me.
Hey Auntie Eva! You look AMAZING 😍
Hey Eva,
It's been a long time! Got your notification, and a smile instantly appeared on my face. Contine to share your story and being a blessing to others along the way.
We are here for you!
Heeeyyyyy Spicerack! So good to see you here! Thank You!🥰
Me too
You look sooooooooooo BEAUTIFUL Mrs. Eva Monroe - good to see you
Noool... you're so beautiful and your face is gorgeous; your skin looks very young. You clearly look after yourself. Please keep aging gracefully ....
1st off your skin is gorgeous. This is the absolute truth, I’ve been an anti-aging skin care fanatic since childhood. I started using Olay products at the tender age of 7 , when the brand was aka Oil of Olay. I guess that because I first noticed gray hairs at the age of 15. But to answer your question, quite frankly I’m afraid of surgery, however since I’ve been into skin stuff practically all my life, I use a lot of the gadgets, like red light tech items, gua sha, cupping, and mechanical face massagers. But it’s the stressors that accelerate the aging process and lack of sleep has been kicking my arse.
d. shidon, Thank You! I am looking into some different gadgets, maybe you could recommend some of your faves!
@@evamonroe Thank you for asking. I just received the facial sculpture wand from Shani Darden, celeb aesthetician to the likes of Meghan Good. I also have the Nira Precision Laser. But you know consistency is key with these things. It been a challenge for me to keep up these days due FT work and being back in school.
@@d.shidon which gadget do you think has given you the best results?
Hey Lady! I have always appreciated your channel and content. I’m 41 and it really saddens me how women and young ladies aren’t embracing their femininity these days. Thank you for all that you add in this way. I am definitely rooting for you on this journey. I know it will be fabulous! Just like you. ❤
I love the outfits you have shared. I used to make money as a teenager sewing for people. I learned over 50yrs ago people don’t appreciate the value of your time. I wanted to to become a fashion buyer, however did everything but that. I’ve enjoyed my life and continue to enjoy life. My mother and aunts were the epitome of style. If you can see this journey through do not allow people to take the pleasure out of sewing. Peace and prosperity to you.
Eva, your announcement makes COMPLETE sense. It's literally a natural progression. For many of us, we see that you're obsessed with fashion lol (between your thrifting hauls, how to breath new life into different pieces, your ability to sew), and honestly, there are tons of designers that don't even know how to sew, so know that you are more than ready for this next phase. Looking forward to seeing your pieces!
Hi Eva, I really resonated with this video. I'm 47 and never been married and never had any children. And of course, I was made to feel bad about it, but I had to get over it. I was just thinking about the aging process and starting to stress out about it and then I came across your video. You look stunning as always and I know your new venture into fashion will be successful. Great video!! 💕🤗💕
Glad I found this content! I'm not 45 yet, but I started feeling the changes of my adult, womanly transition phase around 35 years old, which I hit a few years ago and when I was searching for resources, there weren't many Black women talking about it. Don't feel bad about UA-cam. White women get more views in almost every subject area: celebrity, beauty, commentary, etc. In my opinion, there probably aren't more Black women speaking on aging because we already have a number of "strikes" against us. We have to build ourselves and each other up from guys in the manosphere. We have to heal from our past traumas and figure out how to navigate continuing community trauma, we have to redefine what beauty is for ourselves. . .
So true…people don’t think they look older but they really do
I can relate to this topic.....I lived that life with my ex-husband. Made all kinds of excuses why we should wait. Once I went through it, I decided to give it my all. It wasn't working, but before I walked away, I prayed and prayed about my marriage, asking God to show me, and he did. I had let it go.
Eva you're simply beautiful. Never doubt that
Thank you for this conversation. I appreciate your honesty.
I’ll be 33 at the end of the month and I got engaged on Christmas. I’ve been following you for a few years now and you are such a lovely role model. I wish you the best on your journey I know these clothes are going to be fabulous!
Congrats🎊
Hi Eva, nice to chat with you again 😘 I appreciate your honesty and openness, always! On the brink of 40, I still haven't figured out so much and it's strange how in my mind and spirit I'm still very young, but the material world tells me I'm middle aged already 😲 It is so helpful to have people like you who tell it like it is and are not afraid to speak their truth and share their experiences. Luv you, lady!
Eva, you r beautiful and will be fine. It sounds like u r on the right path. I turned 49 and I remember when I was 44 I was feeling overwhelmed because of the feature changes in My face and I use to feel so bad when I was around my twenty something niece's. Fast forward I have decided to say Thank You JESUS for each and every part of my body I just started to have a attitude of gratitude.
No such thing as oversharing. I watch your videos for guidance. Turning 36 in two days and a good friend of mines (of 17yrs) just stopped talking to me for no reason. Maybe a conversation on adult friendships as you get older? Have you made new friends? I also see changes in my body, but mainly because I stopped working out consistently. Going to buy more at home equipment. I started a good skin routine at 32 and it’s definitely payed off. You look amazing by the way.
Girl I am going through the same thing with my Friend of 14 yrs😢you are not alone 🤗
If your long term friend has stopped talking to you reach out and ask if she can let you know what happened. If she fails to respond move on and mourn the loss. I promise you Our Heavenly Father God will bring new people into your life. He may even bring back that person into your life and the relationship could be different but better or you just may be at peace knowing there’s no beef between the 2 of you, but you may not have much communication anymore. At 36 you have a wonderful world ahead of you. I was so out of shape and unhealthy when I turned 44. I made a decision to go to college and go to the gym. I lost 40lbs. in 6 months and got my bachelors over a 4 year period. Take back control young lady ❤. I am now 62 and have reinvented myself a million times. God is good, Jesus is everything and He will get you through many struggles and bring joy and make life fun and worth it all.
@@lisabullock987 Thank you so much for such kind words. I will do just that and continue to pray and ask God for guidance!
@@lailai285 I hope you are doing well 💕
Sweetheart, all my friends of 25-30 years drifted away from me and me from them about 5 years ago. I spent my 40th alone in Paris and travelled to Ghana a number of times as a solo traveller. Grieve & mourn the sisterhoods that have come to an end. Then embrace and enjoy yourself- yesterday I went for time out for myself (date night) with me. Take it one day at a time, God trust for the process... Be blessed and encouraged doll face x
This convo spoke to my soul brought tears to my eyes. I’m struggling with this exact thing in my relationship and have been putting off the tough decisions that come with the acknowledgement of this space I’m in. Thank you for your transparency. The hard work starts now. 💞
Can’t wait to support your line! ❤️❤️❤️ Yassss to bravely pursuing your best life, Queen!!! You inspire this 27 year old to make decisions that lead to me being a wise, still growing, still SHINING and creative lady like you at 45. May the beauty a truly gifted, real lady holds alwayssss be seen as a classic and timeless staple in our culture. Amen. lol xoxo #teamevadivasince2015
Ms. Eva. I've been sewing for a VERY long time, so I can speak on sewing for others. You are right, people do not respect the time, effort & care that goes into bespoke couture. That is why I rarely sew for others now. In other news - I like what you did with your fabric; wrapping it around boards and displaying it in fabric-store style👍🏾. You should create "Thee Eva Monroe Collection" with custom labels & everything. As for getting older...moisturize, moisturize, MOISTURIZE! Eat better and stay active, both mentally & physically. Looks like you have those things on lock! 🤩
Thank God for Grace. I'm 66, five years in AML remission, yes arthritis and his family visits often. But I say that to say this, take care of yourself, love yourself, pamper yourself and be thankful. Each morning regardless of the weather I step out on my patio and thank God for his unconditional love and for this gorgeous day. Oh yes marriage is business in loved. Let God be the CEO. Share the gift God gave you, consult God in all things not people. Blessings
Can you resend
I just love your content and I think that you’re aging gracefully. I will 39 in April of this year and I watch your content for tips to be classy like you.
@Blairillionaire09, Thank You for that and I Thank You for watching.😍
Please stop doubting yourself the pieces you showed are Amazing 🤩 I’m proud of you 👏🏾 I’m getting ready to start my retail resale business and I’m absolutely afraid of failure it’s almost like the fright or flight syndrome And I got two more ventures I also want to do And creating my own clothing brand & making clothing by hand. Then owning my own curated Vintage Shop doing it all by myself is exciting and terrifying. Let the doubt be your motivation. Wishing you nothing but success ❤️💯🙏🏾
Lady I feel this video was just for me. Thank you for being a blessing
Lol 😂 I'm 62, just retired in September, but have gone through my trial and tribulations like most. One thing that changed for me as I have gotten older. I have made it a point to fall fully in love with myself and my talents 😌 💕 this has been the game changer 🥰🤣
Proud of you, Eva! 👏 Missed you!!
I love this! Female patterned hair loss is real! Lol. That’s my struggle. I’m on it though.
It ALL resonated with me and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this, Eva! God bless you!
You all the way up Queen! 🎵
So happy you’re back Ms. Eva…congratulations on not only pursuing but also sharing your talent and passion. Nuff respect ❤
Girl there is NO oversharing, we all a mess so might as well just link with others suffering
Oh my God… your experience about doubts in your second attempt at marriage was my story. I knew better with the last one and did it anyway. Needless to say, I’m divorced…um single (and happy) again. Thank you, girl, for your honesty.
Loved this discussion, and you look amazing Eva!!! Thank you for sharing!!!
I love my mind at 56yrs young. I know discernment, hope and inner fulfillment. I am single, never married. Had a baby at 21yrs and raised him on my own, and made lots of sacrifices to be the best Mom. After my son left home, I was then free to travel spontaneously, take sabbatical and more focus on myself and am loving life. I work less, and rest, read and explore more. Every day is worth living however you choose to live. I love time with grandchildren. I think moderation is the key. Healthy diet, moderate exercise and enough sleep are also key. Forgive and let go, and move on
Hey Eva, Glad you're doing okay. I wish you so much success in your endeavors. You are alright with me twin sis( same bday). One thing about us is you really don't have to "wonder" anything because we will tell you. We do "over share" but I think we just be keeping it real. When we speak on our experiences it's how we feel at that moment. I'm about to write a Soliloquy 😂😂 so I'll spare you. But you do you. Be happy 🪴🌞🥰💓
Welcome back and thanks for sharing my sister stay blessed
Great video. We don’t talk about it. I was just asking an older friend about tips last night at an event because I don’t really have anyone to talk with about peri- menopause. This is my 45th year and I’m also looking forward to a reinvention. It’s been brewing in me. Great conversation and I personally think you should have more videos like this. And kudos on moving forward with your passion. Proud of you and for you. 😍
Girl you are speaking to me, I am going through the exact same thoughts in my marriage. God bless you for confirming that my feelings & thoughts aren't crazy. 🙏🏼
Thank you for this video. I just subscribed to your channel and I am grateful that I found you. We do not have enough women our age and color speaking our truth. I’ve been noticing that I have changed and have been changing since I turned 41. Now 45 I’ve realized that I am different and it’s ok. I have changed how I eat, make sure I get enough sleep, bi weekly facials, I exercise 5 days a week to include light weight lifting. Keep doing what you do. Keep getting the message out. I appreciate you
Eva, thanks for speaking on our aging challenges. Our mother’s/grandmother’s didn’t pass those needed pearls of wisdom. We appreciate you pulling back the veil of silence and encouragement for us to do the same. And having the courage to make those ‘adjustments’ to slow aging. I’m trying peels, retinol, vitamin C serum etc. tried blading. I thought about some minor face lifts, I don’t have wrinkles but the face does have a slight sag. Congratulations on your new ventures!
Hey Eva! Glad to hear that you are finding your happy. My 60th birthday hit me hard. Never had any concerns about my age before, but something about the 6-0 just sounded so freaking old. I still have my moments when I can't believe I'm in my 60's but it's better than the alternative and I still feel like I'm in my 30's. Having a hubby that's a few years younger doesn't hurt either!
55 and married almost 19 yrs, together almost 23. I'm the same, I'm vocal and want to know the goings on and he is opposite. Don't want to go nowhere or do shit. I'm over it. Am I leaving? No, I'm just about to start living MY life. Got 2 trips planned and soon as the weather break here in the Chi. I'm going outside.
I started watching your channel because I enjoyed learning about your perfume collection, and then I learned we both love gardening. But really what hits home lately is that overall you are such a creative + artistic person with a drive to be/stay happy + to get a lot out of life. Thank you also for sharing honestly about the aging process + relationships. I am a little older and am surprised equally by how freeing it is to « come into myself » and care less what people think while also being surprised by how this aging thing ain’t for wimps. You are brilliant-keep knowing that (I hope you charge at least $250-$400 for your handmade + stunning pieces).