I was a rural kid in the 50's and 60's. I can remember thinking it was stifling, boring, aggravating. I wanted to break out, be free. I thought I'd die in that place. I hated the farm and the way everybody lived. I tried to hitchhike to Woodstock and failed that attempt miserably. Rules, expectations, dress codes, hair codes, church and all the other things you were supposed to believe. So what did I do? I joined the military and remained there for 10 years. Then I joined a police department and retired from there after 30 years. And the funny thing now is when I think back during my retired years, I remember the smell of pine trees and wood smoke, endless rows of corn, the sound of rain on our barn's tin roof and the sweet smell of magnolias. It's funny how time changes our perspectives.
I hope you were a good cop. Back in those day we had great cops who weren’t so eager to ruin our lives with petty infractions. We were always gathering at the “power lines” for keg parties and the most they would do was break it up. I miss those days…
I was born in '59 and lived in a small town in the Midwest. My grandparents had a farm, and I was there every weekend and during the week many times during summer break. I, too, remember thinking it was boring. Now I would love to be back there in the quiet surroundings (other than the sound of cows and ponies and coyotes and owls at night. Rows of corn to run through like a maze, and picking watermelons, strawberry, and turnips fresh from the garden. Riding in the back of the pickup truck and drive-in movies on weekends were THE best. It's too bad the kids today will never understand those simpler times (minus the control system and lack of nurturing in some families due to "cultural norms". The changes from the early 60s into the 70s and 80s was a confusing time for kids and, especially, teens and early adulthood. Looking back on those times with great fondness, especially because, as kids, we could leave home in the morning and return later in the day once dad came home from work and it was time for supper. Summertime, we could go back out to play with all the neighbor kids (playing football, baseball, tag, etc) and knew to go home at dusk. Lots of freedom and little crime, so we could ride our bikes endlessly and all over town. I spent all day on my bicycle, going to read at the library, riding around the town square, or riding the ten miles to my grandparents farm and back. Good times, mixed with some bad, but mostly good.
A lot of the young men who were tired of being told what to do and what to wear joined them military to get away from home… and that is all the military is, rules and uniforms. Young women tired of chores at home and not being able to hang out with friends got married, guess what happened?🤷♀️
It’s easy to scorn this video and it’s message but people today need to understand America had gone straight from the Great Depression to World War II. The 1950s were the first chance at some peace and normalcy in a long time.
Brandon G the war in korea is called the “forgotten war” for a reason. I didn’t mention that because the media didn’t report on it very much back then and not many knew about it. Plus, it was a far cry from world war 2 and was pretty insignificant compared to ww2. Now I’m not saying it didn’t exist. As someone interested in History I think those soldiers aren’t recognized enough and should be praised more for their service. However, not many knew a lot about it and it wasn’t on the same scale, so people were still happy that there was no major war.
Worse, from WWI, to the swing age, to the Great Depression, to WWII. They probably blamed the swing/speakeasy culture for the second war. WWI was a brutal war that left many believing it really was the war to end all wars, then a second war comes in, same enemy, you can't help but want a sense of control. We want to believe humans can be programmed and refuse to accept that we're just much more complex creatures.
Not everyone in the 1960s rebelled and "did their own thing." In fact only a small portion of the population were hippies and most everyone else were conformists despite how that decade is portrayed.
Me and my grandad watched this video, he said he recognized the clip of the boy getting ready but nothing else. He said that the people giving commentary were very ignorant to the way things were. They added yellow journalism to the video (which means an exaggeration of the real story) an example he gave was that women were not “ment to be seen but not heard” he could remember his father asking his mother about financial decisions, or would ask for advice on what to do about something going on at work, they were very involved just in different ways. Women had there role in the household and Men had there role in the household as well as the children. Everyone played a part
It was children who were to be seen and not heard. Not wives for sure. Lots of disinformation floating around. One blanket can't cover all. Generalizations always fail. 50s were the best for many.
Women were NOt quiet! Both my grandmothers (born circa 1900) were the decision makers in the home, chose the house, the budget and reared the children. Same with my mom's generation. This is propaganda! Feminists ruined civilization.
In the early 1980s I was in high school. One day while sitting in class, out of the blue, for reasons i cant recall, the school 16mm movie projector was rolled into the classroom. And they played for us several of these old, antiquated 1950s instructional films on how to date, how to be polite, how to behave, etc. My classmates laughed through them. The wooden acting, the cheap production values, the heavy handed preaching, the over politeness, the squeaky clean activities (a picnic, a carnival, a weenie roast, bike riding, a day at the park, dinner at home with the family, etc), the innocent slang of the time (gee, golly, swell, etc). I on the other hand, wasn't laughing. To the contrary. As someone who was being raised in a severely abusive, dysfunctional home, i found these films to be quite charming. A sort of a time capsule of a more innocent era. DON'T get me wrong. I had no illusions. I was well aware that the 1950s wasnt so perfect and innocent (no decade is). That there were negative things going on in the 1950s, such as child abuse, divorce, segregation, poverty, crime, corruption in government and private business, for examples. But still, it seems to me that there were SOME things in the 1950s they were doing so right back then that we were doing so horribly wrong in the early 1980s as well as today.
Exactly, Though I never had many hardships in my time..I still believe that this was the start of what would only drop from the 1950s and beyond to tommorow...revolting how we never got flying 1960s Cadillacs and Chevrolets in the era of tommorow and instead received bland and basic, uninteresting, subtle toned no good shapeless bodies of metal and plastic fit for luxury instead of appeal... Gee was a better time in the right time, not to mention someone getting overtly offended by any topic that crossed there manipulative minds now in days
This is so good to hear. People laugh at what they have until they don’t have it. I was luck to be raised in a loving family, but my best friend two doors down was with a single dad who was abusive. It blows my mind how immature people can be when viewing the benefits to aspiring for something better. It is not to deny that difficult situations arise in life, or be naive, rather, holding yourself and family to a higher standard and striving to make the best of life and be prepared in the event of hardship. Also, differentiating between hardship that is out of our control vs hardship brought on by our own poor choices. I wish these type of videos and PSA’s were the norm in our society instead of celebrating dis function.
I am over sixty and this gives me the „willies“- Public service films such as this were a creepy, insidious, institutional form of „sugar coated“ mind control. My mother, a talented and intelligent woman, told be how bored and frustrated she was in the role she felt was forced upon her by society. She said that as a young girl she thought it was really unfair that „Boys could be anything but girls could only be housewives, secretaries, school teachers or nurses.“ The adults did a lot of drinking and smoking then; probably to ease their panicked existential dread. There was also a lot of spousal abuse and child abuse, unheeded behind closed doors. I won‘t even touch on the obscenity of racial suppression. There was for the first time, and disgustingly still now, a nuclear arsenal capable of incinerating the entire world. I am sometimes nostalgic about these seemingly „simpler and gentler“ times but this is a dream and not the reality; after all, I was just a kid. The reality is that women, non-whites, non-christians, non-heterosexuals were repressed, disrespected, denigrated, ostracized and brutalized. Young men were raised to be „good“, to „make your bed and brush your teeth“, to „do your homework“, to never „chew gun in class“, to say: „How do you do?“, to bow and courtesy [O.K. So not the boys.], and to not „talk back to your elders“ and then, before they were even adults, they were sent off, against their will, by an authoritative government to die and kill in a horrible war. Is it any wonder that their parents and the established society had lost all credibility. The adults of the time were trained to love obedience, conformity and authority more than their own children. I think that under all the sweet pastel colored everything was brewing deep fear, frustration and rage. The children of the 60‘s burned the cage down. We are still groping with what should have replaced it. Civilization is a great experiment in how we can all happily live together without killing each other.
@@timjones7547 My father would get upset about a bad grade but would do absolutely nothing to help me get a better one. Dislike that man deeply to this day. Born in 59
@@765respect Born in '52...brought home a report card that had all B's on it...no congratulations, nothing even remotely like that...he said...maybe you can do better next time.....
My dad bought for me a new 1965 Mustang,then checked my mileage...but I never complained. We didn't do that.We obeyed our parents, the rewards were great. It was Love. *Elaine *
Anyone who is old enough to know about "the rules" of the 50s can also see our current society has just as many if not more societal rules. The rules are just different now.
7:16 This is just extremely good advice for any situation when your emotions start to get out of hand: Slow down--breathe and don't say or do anything. Pause. Calm down--breathe and still don't say or do anything. Pause. THINK---with your MIND: What are the consequences of my actions? This is called "self-control." Something that a lot of people today don't have.
Very true! And how people expect you to tolerate or even "respect" their way of acting, although a little self-control alone would work wonders in commuication and socializing.
Yup.. This is something the great traditions have taught us for millennia. The Golden Rule in the West, the Golden Mean in China. It's hard to be a better person and not treat others in a way you would never want to be treated unless you're trying to be calm, rational, and think of the other person's point of view and feelings. If you think it's your "right" or somehow soulful or authentic to just blurt out your anger and emotions, well, you are setting the bar very low as to your behavior and ideas of what it means to be a good person, a good friend, a good family member, or at all kind or understanding to anyone.
lol theyll have to go to school for another hmmm 8 years just to be able to POSSIBLY get a minimum wage job where theyll compete with hundreds of other applicants.
A H we already live in a society where everything is wrong even as as watching a bee collecting pollen from a flower, and from an emotional standpoint all we believe is betrayal and treasonable situations, so one track minded and socially the ones who take apart of a progressive movement like music are the ones who becomes successful fuck being like a movie you feel me live life like a movie I’m glad I’m young in this generation
That's true but there are better methods for shaping your children to be polite, respectful adults. Children should not be ignored when they ask questions. Everyday is a learning opportunity and refusing to explain the reasoning behind a demand doesn't help a child grow cognitively, emotionally, or spiritually.
You can thank Dr. Spock for ruining future generations. My mom thought he was nuts and still does. Needless to say my sister and i were raised very differently than anyone who listened to that guy
I was raised with love, structure, discipline, morals and decency. Family always had dinner together. I was genuinely glad to see Dad when he walked in the door. Raised my children the same. They are both grown decent, independent, productive adults.
or maybe before people bought into madeup terms pushed by propaganda. read propagnada by bernays, and combine with the fact "sibling rivalry", "teenager", and the way teens were so rebellious were MADE UP, as in these terms didn't exist and isn't really discussed: then BAM, these terms are introduced and suddenly "OMG its a epidemic!" The 60s and the hippie movement were also contrived and pushed by the CIA and others as a way to deaden the peoples spirit. Yeah, the 60s generation got high and rebelled, just like younger people protest and go on now--yet somehow people back in the 1800s and before, who had barely any access to current news, no access to instant communication were able to organize, show up, and WIN! Look at the battle of blair mtn during the labor movement,.....think any hippies or protestors would actually fight and suffer in the same way? Life is suffering, so it makes sense those who could suffer so much (war, the depression) and still succeed would be able to build something so great there had to be made-up problems like sibling rivalry
@@refractedcurvature3567 Except those societies aren't naturel. It means your point isn't absolute. Modern societies are a surreaction on most social point coming from those old times.
Yes, too many rules in the 1950s caused rejection of rules in the 1960s. No question about that. But there was another factor: fear of possible nuclear destruction brought about an attitude of "Live for today, because there may not be a tomorrow."
If the "Don't question authority" idea existed in America as commonly as this upload seems to imply, I may see part of why rebellion popped up. Surely the 50s can't be so dumb to not understand that a kid seeking to understand why a rule exists is not necessarily a bad thing... Can the 50s be so dumb as a whole?
I grew up in the 50’s and it was fun; fun for us and fun for our parent’s who didn’t need to hover over us constantly. The reason...we were expected to behave within the ‘rules’ if you will, guidelines set down by our adult family members and those ‘in authority.’ Our parents expected not absolute conformity, for example we wore crinolines under our ‘poodle’ skirts and buck shoes and all the ‘latest’ fads/fashions but also knew that a certain modesty was required within our lifestyles. We had standards of behaviors that we accepted because we knew we shared space in this world with others and those standards didn’t keep us from laughing at lot, fooling around with friends and studying for up coming exams. My mother trusted me and I treasured her trust in return. In the summer my mother’s over seeing my day went like this, “Have fun and be home before dark.” Period. It was a great childhood. I was a very lucky kid. Go figure.
I sort of grew up like this (millennial). And this could be fine, as long as your parents have unconditional love for you. And it sounds like your parents had that for you. What turns into a problem is when the rules become the condition of love, or even decency. My aunts and uncles grew up with rules they didn’t mind, but when they tested the boundaries, they didn’t get a loving but firm hand. They got beaten and bruised, and thrown into life situations they didn’t want. It’s when it stops becoming about the rules, and more about the “rulers”. Fun story, according to legend, my great grandmother would throw small animals that caused her problems in the dryer. Not a very fun story, but just shows what kind of situations some kids were in…
Looks like the same filmmaker of Refer Madness. This is an extreme stereotype of the times. I grew up in the 50's and 60's and my grandparents were never this rigid.
@@nossasenhoradoo871 That was a joke...but in the long run, that rebellion brought an end to stable families and opened the door to total societal anarchy.
@@nossasenhoradoo871 The virus is real, although I would not take it as seriously as many might. By anarchy I meant feminism and the unwillingness of women (and some men) to settle down.
I hear ya, pal. What they hear is someone else's opinion, or through a book, or the internet, but.....they didn't experience it, they didn't live through it, so......they don't know!!! We didn't live through the '20's either, but it's over, and as we moved along in life, things changed, people changed, and society as a whole, changed. Our lives were better simply because we worked hard and made it, others were not so 'lucky', but that's life, and life is NEVER perfect, and neither is it today, it's only different.
The TRUTH was different from this. This is my generation. Not born until the mid 1950's I realize now I was sandwiched between two worlds. I was unusual in that my parents never asked me to behave in a manner that wasn't what was modeled to me. We were taught the same values and rules that came before them. We were absolutely able talk about things and I was never seen but not heard! Far from it. But my dad never came home wanting to talk to me either. He worked his backside off as a building contractor and needed time to unwind at dinner and afterward with a newspaper. My parents were unusual in that they had a very good marriage and I remember them talking for an hour or so around dinner. It was the first generation though, in which most parents were making a lot more money than their parents and the were anxious to give these things to kids. That started the problems in some ways for some families. Things do not replace time spent as a family. We were lucky in that way and we did a lot together. We also were expected to help the adults with chores. We still had a lot of kids in the neighborhood to play with. Some were my cousins. I wouldn't trade those times with anyone. As it turns out, it was the only truly secure time of my life. .
Born '52. Every family in the 50s wasn't perfect. Women stayed in bad marriages because there were few if any options. You still had alcoholism, infidelity and domestic violence. We just didn't talk about it in the 50s. Every family wasn't like what we saw on TV.
I agree. This was not my experience at all. I never felt like less of a person. I was allowed to become my own person (although social norms were pretty restrictive for girls). I was taught to obey my parents, and I respected them as my authorities. But I always felt that they respected me as well, even when I was very young.
@almightyinferno What? One weird outcast individual makes an asinine claim about a caste system and now I have you telling me that kids that are taught to say ma'am and sir is wrong. I'm really happy that I don't have to deal with you awkward types in my life.
almightyinferno How is it wrong to teach kids to address you and other adults as ma’am or sir? I still say that to anyone I can see is older then me because I was taught to be respectful. But I suppose my dictator parents are to blame for that
I lived back then and these films are way over the top. Or maybe our area of the midwest wasn't as crazy. We had rules as kids, but I would have NEVER heard my Dad say "pick out the most popular kids and do like they do" pertaining to clothing or anything. My parents said to be the person you are and not mimic others to be popular. That really popped out at me!
I bet the school foods of the 50s - 60s were homemade and cooked fresh daily and tasted much better than today. *edit* Thank you all for sharing your stories... The good and the bad!
Heck yeah it was. I’ve been looking all over for that strange deep dish pizza thing they made with yellow cheese and ground beef with crust in the bottom. They called it pizza but it looked more like beef casserole. Was awesome! Apple crisp with cinnamon apples, crust crumbles and a slice of american cheese good, too! Now the kids get fake chicken nuggets. bleh!
My Grandparents didn’t have school lunches either and they didn’t have shoes. I have a picture of my grandmothers one room school house. All the grades were together and none of the kids had on shoes or socks. It must have been cook weather because they all had long sleeves and some had coats. They were white but lived in the country and were poor by today’s standards. They grew what food they ate. They took a lunch to school from home in a used syrup bucket. The school program happened after world war two in the 1950’s. Perhaps black schools, equal but separate they would say (although most were not really equal) may not have been given funds for the school lunch program. Just like many people don’t get things they need today. Seems like someone always getting left out and it isn’t always about color. But today we have coronavirus so I’m not worried about all these type things today. I’m just trying to stay safe and hope you and your family is too.
Wow, this sounds like the office culture where I work. All these rules are the same. Obey management, don't question orders, show no emotion, don't bring up unpleasant subjects, all of it. Just replace the word "Normal" with "Professional", "Popular" with "Successful", and this film describes modern work place rules.
Maybe where you work. My company appreciates intellectual honesty. We have disagreements; a little too heated at times, and some aren't all perfectly altruistic (some people love sparing themselves or their department at times rather than upholding what is best for the entire firm. But the good outweighs the bad.) I can tell you from living on both sides of the fence, plenty of good management out there begs for front-line feedback from their subordinates, and get little to nothing. Questioning orders is also a great way to understand the intent of the orders. Front-line people sometimes need to make decisions, and the better they understand why things are the way they are, the better decisions they are in a position to make. Maybe my perspective is different because my industry can't afford to suffer do-nothings or morons at the ground level (unlike my wife's.)
Another thing about the 50's - we were so very grateful to have our fathers (and mothers) safe at home after the terrible war years - And tried to help and support those who lost family during that time get back on their feet.
i don’t care, having grown up in the 90s and beginning of the 21st century, i would kill to have had some stability and sense of pride this virtue is exemplifying. Life is a tumultuous hurricane for us today. Everyone picks a path of rebellion against everyone else and expects a nation to prosper. Impossible.
It’s growing pains. Society changes all the time, and you have good (civil rights) and bad (increasing greed) changes. People from all walks of life are either going for or against such changes, good or bad, and the result is what you get now. The world was never perfect or great, no matter how much we want to pretend it was. Be great full for what you get and work towards the future you want for yourself and the generations to come.
It all started in the 50s, what this video doesn’t show you is that after the 1929 crash, the strong socialist and worker union movement in this country said ENOUGH is ENOUGH and demanded that the rich start paying their fair share of taxes. FDR said that his greatest accomplishment in his 4 TERMS as president was saving capitalism from itself by obliging to the workers. You see, The 1940s were a time of hope and rebuilding and FDR gave us 4 terms of normalcy and consistency and progress. But by the time he passed, the elites were tired of all the progress and the growing middle class and the taxes being paid by them (the rich) in order to sustain the mass poverty that the depression had left behind so they opened the house of un American activities and began firing radio hosts, teachers, professors, elected officials who they deemed “not right wing enough” or “communist” and began censoring families and neighbors in order to institute societal control and prevent the kind of rebellions that led to the FDR era of progressiveness in the first place.
B Perez socialism kills people and doesn’t allow them to thrive. Looks at every single country that has dabbled in communism. Capitalism gave these boomers a rich life.
I was born in 1946, so I was a child of the 50's. I loved my childhood! We were such a happy family. There was so much love, laughter, and respect. Yes, my parents had high expectations of our getting good grades and being good kids, but we had no doubts that we were cherished. We weren't monetarily rich by any stretch of the imagination, but for some reason we felt rich. We had what we needed. We were encouraged to be outside playing and having fun. However, unlike today's children who seem to control the family with everything revolving around their wants and desires, our parents were the ones running the show. We were just "the kids"....and we were quite happy to be the kids. Yes, there were rules of behavior....make your bed everyday, do the dishes after dinner, be polite and never rude, do your very best in everything you do, be a good person, come when you are called, pick up after yourself. And, yes, we had dinner together as a family every evening at 6:00. After the dishes, we all gathered together in the living room and listened to the radio shows. I remember my Mom and Dad listening and dancing to Big Band music. We took rides in the car and sang songs and stopped and got ice cream cones. What a foundation for lives well lived. My own 3 kids were born between 1969 and 1975 and were raised in a very similar fashion. Yes, it was a very different era......but a simpler and very happy time. My grandchildren live very different lives.....they don't go "out to play" . It's too dangerous. They have scheduled play dates. They play sports and take piano, violin, and dance lessons. They have drills about what to do in the case of a school shooter. Homeless people are living in tents downtown and under bridges, or just sleeping on the streets. Syringes and excrement lay strewn on the sidewalks. Life is a rather complicated schedule around which the whole family must revolve. However different it may be, they are happy good kids.
One of the young guys was the actor from Bewitched. You got to remember that these folks in the film would not have reflected as it really was as a whole. People now put down the 50s but you could sleep with the window open and walk around at night by yourself without feeling fearful.
Joshua Williams don’t you wish you had those rules back? I loved the 50s. Even though I was born and raised in the 60s & 70s. I bet they mock the president like they do now! I don’t agree with the every move he makes, but won’t bash him.
mohammad amin I mean, there was the red scare, and Arabs and Pakistanis were viewed the same as blacks and Latinos (darker skinned Latinos). They weren’t specifically targeted.
Not so true. I was born early 50’s. We were taught to be good, decent and hardworking people and our parents were our examples. But, I don’t agree that we we taught to not think critically. We were taught to follow the laws but people absolutely talked about the issues of our times and to be active in our communities, elections...and not afraid to confront unfairness or tyranny.
Honestly, I'm surprised that they're accusing the generation that protested nationwide about Vietnam of not thinking critically. We never saw such protests about the Iraq and other Middle Eastern Wars.
I was a 70's child born to 50's style parents. My home life was pretty good, but my connection to society sucked because what I was taught at home didn't match what was being taught out in the world. A very confusing time to grow up in. Oddly enough, the 80s more closely reflected the 50s in a lot of ways so I did better as I entered my teen years.
I hear ya. When I was a kid my mother was so strict I wasn't allowed to watch Sesame Street for fear that I might believe in monsters. Yep the Cookie Monster was persona non grata in my home at that time. I was sheltered way to much.
@@realmichaud born in 1980s. Sometime in the 90s my mom got into a radical religious stuff(lasted a decade).. I couldn't have toy unicorns, unless she cut their horns off and turned them into ponies. 😅couldn't have tolls would probably be burned... But my mom loved sesame street 😅 I could have Elmo lol. Remember when I was finally allowed to trick or treat. My mom now tho is like the total opposite now. Super tolerant idk. It's weird actually.
One thing this film misses is the recessions after the war and the feeling of uncertainty rural families felt in a world where only the big cities had everything. Farm familis struggled well into the seventies to achieve the kind of comfort enjoyed by urban people.
The commentary mischaracterizes the relational dynamics that were present in the 1950s vs. today. Parents taught core values of respect, appreciation for how good things were, and having a path to success. The absence or standards such as those has clearly reduced the societal health of 21st century America. It was never about conformity but about doing the things that could bring success.
originnone These „core values“ like obeying authority are actually very unamerican and harmful. Kids should raised to be independent thinkers who are able to go their own path as individuals and are critical towards any authority. Teaching them to strictly follow what they were told produces moral cowards and makes them feel more attracted to authoritarian political ideologies.
Back then, conformity brought about success. But, society changes. It makes perfect sense that a generation who were taught to obey authority without question would give birth to children who questioned authority before obeying.
@@s_h136 These "core values" you scorn also taught people to think of others and their community first. I would heartily disagree that contemporary rampant narcissism and self-indulgence is a marked improvement.
My parents held on to those old beliefs, "Children should be seen and not heard", damage held onto for many years. I wanted to know what my children had to say, treated them as the individuals they are, with their own opinions.
Charles Cosimano I can confirm this. I used to work in an assistant living facility and the elderly would just wait for their families. It could be months, or years. It drives the elderly crazy.
Michelle B: My Dad was the same way. He and my mom came of age in the 50s and in my Dad's case, when his family sat down to dinner, there was total silence expected during the meal. That was how my Grandpa wanted it (presumably because it was similar to his own upbringing which was quite harsh). My Dad wanted to make sure we talked to one another at the table (or any time) and know what was going on and to know one another. I'm grateful for that. My Grandparents, for the record, were wonderful people but were products of their era, which was tougher than what subsequent generations would ever know.
Teenagers (especially girls) in the 50s had more freedom than any prior period in history. Girls in earlier times were never allowed to go anywhere with boys unchaperoned, let alone in a car. Dating was a product of the twentieth century and was common in the fifties. Hence the need for the videos. Young children in the fifties (years of my childhood) had so much more freedom than kids do today. When I was in elementary school, my siblings and I would pack a lunch, leave the house around 9:30 am, walk about a mile to the beach, swim all morning, have lunch at the park across the street, play on the swings and monkey bars, go back to the beach for more swimming and be home in time for dinner. No adults, no cell phone to check-in, no supervision at all. Can you imagine that today? The parents would be arrested. We actually spent much more time independent of our parents. We were expected to be obedient and show respect for them, but we were much more free.
@Dela Flowers It is a much more dangerous world and I did not allow my children the same amount of freedom I had. My comment was in response to the commentators who remarked about how controlled and how little freedom kids had back then.
@Dark Abyss Very true. I was not criticizing parenting that came after the fifties; I was responding to comments below that criticized the parenting and lifestyles of the fifties.
That's because the parents of the 50's and 60's actually behaved like they "believed" in our capabilities. They demanded our respect and that we establish boundaries and follow the rules. Once they had that established, we had the freedom to explore and have fun! Parents of today can't "believe" in their children's capabilities because they don't demand respect, establish boundaries, or teach their children to follow the rules. That's why they live in fear and are so dysfunctional... then they project all of THEIR INADEQUACIES on the past... when they're the ones who are actually inadequate.
Wow, completely different from my upbringing in the 1950s. I was encouraged to think, have an opinion and express it, question things. Through all that I was considered a "good" kid. I obeyed the rules (but only if they could be explained logically to me), felt safe everywhere (no matter where I went, adults were looking out for you), and enjoying life.
You were lucky then. I experienced a pretty terrible time..And I particularly remember how bad children with disabilities were treated...it was appalling. Many were sent away to live in institutions..I only remember a handful of them in Junior High and High School and they were cruelly bullied because none of us were educated about them..they were just " dummies" or " weirdos".. There was also no understanding of dyslexia, nobody understood that the poor readers could actually be very smart. They sat at the dummy table and didn't have friends. I also remember how conditions like epilepsy were treated like an embarrassment and kept hidden from neighbors ( my brother's condition was a strict family secret). And how things Iike toilet training were conducted.. our neighbors boys were whipped for bed wetting. Nobody thought that was abusive. It was not a good time for kids Yeah we played in the streets with our friends and could trick or treat without being accompanied by adults. Big deal. So much more was dark and just wrong.
I was born in 1953. Nobody I knew during my childhood ever paid these stilted "educational films" any attention. My parents weren't rule-making robots, neither were my friends' parents.
Good point, Chris Devol. This is just another attempt at making the '50's look like they were dreadful--and they weren't. Sure there were 'rules', but we have rules today, and I would not say culture is better now. In fact, since so many don't follow rules, things in many ways are worse.
He looked so cute I recognized him right away and I am a baby boomer and proud of it. All the rules my mom had for me kept me from harming myself or someone taking advantage of me at a young age mother's knows what will happen to us if we don't have rules. So many of baby boomers I knew growing up are dead. I will be 64 lord willing Sept 14
We seem to have a problem with balance in this country. We go from one extreme to another. We often throw the baby out with the bath water when we want to change something. I hope one day we look at things with nuance and realize few things are all good or all bad. It would have been nice if we could have just thrown out racism, and sexism, and kept all the great stuff like family values, respect, and basic decency.
Thrown out the hate of LGBT too. But that's where things come into conflict. If women have freedom to have sex freely then your 60's concepts of decency come into question. Is women kissing women not acceptable? Is casual sex not acceptable? White people today do respect black americans or poor people or mexican americans. We never had the respect back then and it's not much better now. Traditional values go against modern ideals of freedom and acceptance. You can't have traditional "family values" and the liberation of men and women to do as they please. To be a traditionalists is to inherently be sexist, racists, homophobic, anti sex, and pro greedy capitalism.
@@blasphimus absolutely moronic you can have the choice to be sex freely but not be brainwashed into thinking there are no adverse effects from that type of behavior
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Dude, don't bring up nuances... People are like brain dead sheep. You have to keep things simple with them or their brains overload on information and blow up.. This is why politicians never talk about meaningful, thoughtful things. What's the point? By the time you're halfway through your nuanced point, 90% of the sheep have lost attention...
It wasn't easier it was just different. Every time and generation has their own struggles. Things like respecting authority, knowing your neighbors names and being active in your community, taking pride in your appearance and being a hard worker should always be valued and the norm.
The tone almost implies that the values of the 50s were bad. But we're still stuck in the hangover of the 60s. People talk about sexual freedom like it's undeniably a good thing as though they've never heard of STDs. That's the thing about downward spirals, people enjoy the slide down
@@justathought973 Actually the repression of certain natural sexual behaviours leads to safer, less violent societies. Look into research done on polygamous societies as opposed to societies with culturally enforced monogamy if you're willing to have your mind changed.
except that those kinda poly relationships were also culturally enforced, just by a different culture. why cant you just leave people be and let them do what makes them the happiest?
Was a happily active teen back in the 70's. The only STD I got was after 2 yrs of marriage from my husband. I believe the sexual freedom I was able to enjoy and experience made me into the happy, content granny that my husband, children, their SOs, grandchildren, dog and cats love to be around. Always have been a requested addition to the work environment and all parties. (2 full retirements and a portfolio to make me not worry about money ever.) Still married to my STD giving husband, 40 yrs later! Gotta forgive and forget.
I am over sixty and this gives me the „willies“- Public service films such as this were a creepy, insidious, institutional form of „sugar coated“ mind control. My mother, a talented and intelligent woman, told be how bored and frustrated she was in the role she felt was forced upon her by society. She said that as a young girl she thought it was really unfair that „Boys could be anything but girls could only be housewives, secretaries, school teachers or nurses.“ The adults did a lot of drinking and smoking then; probably to ease their panicked existential dread. There was also a lot of spousal abuse and child abuse, unheeded behind closed doors. I won‘t even touch on the obscenity of racial suppression. There was for the first time, and disgustingly still now, a nuclear arsenal capable of incinerating the entire world. I am sometimes nostalgic about these seemingly „simpler and gentler“ times but this is a dream and not the reality; after all, I was just a kid. The reality is that women, non-whites, non-christians, non-heterosexuals were repressed, disrespected, denigrated, ostracized and brutalized. Young men were raised to be „good“, to „make your bed and brush your teeth“, to „do your homework“, to never „chew gum in class“, to say: „How do you do?“, to bow and courtesy [O.K. So not the boys.], and to not „talk back to your elders“ and then, before they were even adults, they were sent off, against their will, by an authoritative government to die and kill in a horrible war. Is it any wonder that their parents and the established society had lost all credibility. The adults of the time were trained to love obedience, conformity and authority more than their own children. I think that under all the sweet pastel colored everything was brewing deep fear, frustration and rage. The children of the 60‘s burned the cage down. We are still groping with what should have replaced it. Civilization is a great experiment in how we can all happily live together without killing each other.
It feels like all these people came back from the war and brought with them a militaristic mind set: Don't question authority; fit into the group; don't let emotion infect yourself and others. All of the rules apply in the military.
@@jgrif3856 Irony. The republicans screwed the middle class with trickle down and the way they got it was duping the authoritarian republicans that bought into the propaganda of the 50s that blacks were lazy welfare users when whites have always been the main users. You poor dumb bastards shot yourselves in the foot and fucked everything up for your kids and grandkids. Luckily the boomers are starting to decline and will lose power soon enough and we can fix their economic mess.
@@gubbil4852 You act like America is not better now than in the 1950s. Socially it is in a much better place. The middle class is messed up but that has to do with racist voting for the GOP and hurting their themselves by allowing trickle down policies to screw their pay.
@@poopycarrot Not really. That's suppressing emotions. Controlling emotions is understanding how and why you feel the way you do and having an appropriate response. We live in an age of emotional incontinence, and its very, very bad. With the rise of single motherhood, and them imparting hyper-emotionality in young boys, you get violence, homicides, and mass shooters.
Andrew Presley in the 50’s there was no difference between controlling and suppressing your emotions though. no one was trying to understand why they were feeling the way they did, they were only trying to keep the status quo. the hippie movement was literally a reaction to that. showing emotion isn’t a bad thing lmfao. obviously there are times when you need to be more mindful of how you act but i certainly wouldn’t say that today’s kids are LESS emotionally intelligent than kids in he 50’s who were told they were out of line because of normal human emotions.
One thing people are missing from these rules is that, these rules help you to be a structured individual. Being chaperoned and not having sex before marriage allows you to focus on the beauty of your girlfriend/boyfriend. And that beauty is both internal and external. Getting to know and really love them for who they are and not their body is extremely important.
Nah dude, it's because to keep up good relationships you have to make an effort even when you don't really feel like it. For example, if you turn down your friends' invitations every time you feel a bit too tired or lazy to want to go, they'll stop inviting you pretty fast. Sometimes people go their entire lives without really getting to know their parents because whenever they have a chance to talk to them they're too tired or wanna do something else more. Then the years fly by and the parent passes on. The point of the advice there is that you should give time to your family even if you sometimes don't feel like it. It's important practice for later in life. If you ignore your spouse whenever you're too tired or lazy to deal with them you won't be married very long.
It's not lieing back in that day dads were men with kids, now dads are guys with kids. A lot of these dads fought in the war earned respect and came back to start a family. The work was harder back then less machines and no computer to aid in their work. They wanted to make a perfect world for their family by setting the ground rules. Now children are lucky enough to know their dads let a lone know enough to have a opinion about them.
At least fathers were there, tho--usually. Some did abuse wife/kids or run off. And fathers had rules to follow to be considered a good dad. Spend time with the kids, talk to them, raise them up to be good neighbors and citizens. Your children and their behavior and how they turned out, was a reflection on you as parents. Most tried hard to raise good kids with manners, who did well in school.
Elisabeth_D Just because some use their phones too much doesn’t mean there’s some correlation. Technology is not bad, and people are not somehow worse for using it.
After the deprivation of the Depression and WW2's posponement of domestic life, people were glad to have a decade of peace. My grandfather wasn't an authoritarian or discipinarian (my grandma was, but that's another story) but there was no room for time-wasting. You wore what your parents gave you, and parents didn't give their kids piles of money to spend.
@Untrepid One You don't think, "Former Hippie" is a funny occupation? I'm sorry you didn't get joy from it like others did. I also don't understand if you are defending hippies or slamming them?
First thing I noticed was that her last name is "Rasberry". I mean, I GUESS that can be a legit last name? But I immediately thought of like, Strawberry Shortcake characters or something. :P
breaking the status quo was just not allowed back then, there's a difference between bring forced to conform and act neat and polite and being encouraged to act neat and polite
It's not looked upon as wrong to have things in order, it's looked upon as wrong to force your ideas on what "order" looks like onto other people. Nobody is being penalized for having organization, but at least now people have the option not to be.
Something about the 1950s that I don't like. It's the conformity and fear of being different. The 30s and 40s must have been so rough and traumatizing, that people became fearful of being different. I think people today act radical, but I don't think strict conformity is good either. The 80s seemed like a balanced decade.
because lack of rules and conformity is working so well today? the parents of the 50s grew up in the great depression and two world wars. this kind of living was a dream come true for them. then in the 60s the next generation did a complete 180. you learn a lot when your starving. you try to make a better life for your kids. your kids rebel because they never had to live with it. then they make their own mistake. its been the story for every generation. and mine is really screwing up.
We always clean up for supper. Nobody wants to eat their food next to a dirty, smelly sweat hog covered in the grime of a work day. Most of these rules were about making others feel valued and respected if not loved. Only a broken down society like the one we currently have would think that being considerate to others is something laughable or shameful. I greet my husband at the door or even the back gate every evening. He works very hard to support our home and deserves a wife who looks nice and happy to see him, a home that's clean and comfortable, a hot supper on the table and willing help in making our future better. In return we are well provided for, loved, cherished and respected, protected from the ugliness and evil out in the world. Every single day when its time to be finished with the things that don't matter we have a place to go that is a good place to be. That's the point of these old vodeos. Everything is backwards now. These days its every person for themselves at any cost and it's only "me&you" until one of us changes our minds. All because common courtesy isn't hip. 😢 its actually really sad
"Pick out the most popular people in school... Try to figure out why people like them.. not that you'll ever be like anyone of them 😁🤣 welp see you at dinner."
I’m 17 and I watch those educational videos all the time I’ve seen almost all of them showed in here.. I don’t see what’s wrong with them they are actually very helpful a lot of that good common sense and life skills don’t get taught anymore
@@OpusTheLeftie sometimes I'll watch these old videos, and while some of the advice is outdated or poor advice in general, there are some bits and pieces that are still useful to Today's Youth™
@@firewizzard86 some are pretty timeless (budget time/money, treat others with respect, eat healthy, etc) but some aged like milk (wash hair twice/month, antiquated ways to introduce someone, the idea that jello/aspic belongs in food etc)
Dick York was in at least one more of these instructional videos. And why is someone complaining about a person commenting that they recognized an actor?
4 isn't "Don't think about sex," it's CONTROL YOURSELF and don't do it "just because it feels good." Plenty of overindulgence in sugar "feels good" until you're fat and unhealthy if not dying from obesity. It's sad that some of those 50s kids didn't listen to the "Control yourself" message, they wouldn't have died to AIDS in the 80s and 90s.
This was the way I was raised and I have always kept the values my father taught me. I was lucky because we were allowed to be in moods. Dad would say go write it down and explain your feelings - then let it go. I don't drink.
The 50's were never as wonderful and carefree as conservatives claim and they weren't as formalistic and dreadful as the left claims. These videos are depicting an idealized view of life, which everyone knew accept apparently the former hippies that were interviewed. While the media likes to focus on hippies and antiwar protesters from the baby boomers, the reality is that on campus the best selling books were focused on the stock market and conservative politics. These matters are never as simplistic as the media claims.
One thing that is glossed over in every film were the prolonged recession following the war. Lots of families that I talked to, especially farm families lagged far behind.
@@dlee3710 for manufacturing there was a 2ish year recession following the war followed by a boom caused by a return of a normalized economy coupled with American businesses rebuilding Europe and Asia as well as lack of competition from abroad due to the war. Farming in the 50s continued its transformation from small family farms to big agriculture firms. I have no doubt those families continued to hurt and it's one reason why rural people from the south, midwest and plains continued to move to cities in the 50's.
If my spouse was always putting on a mask and supressing their true feelings, I would hate it. I would want them to be emotionally open with me in a healthy way rather than pretend they're okay.
Sounds like you have been brainwashed, using words like "supressing their true feelings" and "emotionally open." You even think it is unhealthy. Have you ever wondered where you got those ideas from? I bet it isn't through your own experiences. It came from the bogus psycology crap they are feeding you these days.
That's *not* the point of the original film, or at least, it should not be. It seems it was _specifically_ saying, *"Control* your emotions so you don't express your feelings in some violent way that angers who you're trying to talk with." Considering I've angered my Dad when I could have avoided it, suppressing the attitude of being a mad bull *would* have helped.
I grew up in the 1950's and remember it well, and was a teenager during the changes of the early 60's. I understand the comments that the 1950's were conventional and conformist but I really am at a loss to understand how the brutalistic hell of a society we live in now is somehow an enlightened improvement. It's different, yes, but it's certainly not better. The patronising commentary of this video, which sneers at the mores of the past, really annoys me.
Exactly so, Al Tudy. If you ignore the unhelpful rhetoric trying to persuade you in the video and actually listen to what the videos from the 1950s are saying, it becomes quite apparent that these are agreeable facets of society that help us function: don't make rash decisions, be courteous and loving even when you don't feel like it because the world doesn't revolve around you, balance social confidence with self-discipline, respect the sacrifices your parents make, don't be promiscuous. Maybe the way they presented it is outdated, but that's only through our retrospective lens. It is ridiculous how a handful of people who just had bad experiences with their families are trying to brand their entire era as antiquated and oppressive, and are documenting it as fact.
"Never think of sex, ever" is NOT what the video says. I'm saying that as an ex sexophobe whose parents were kids in the 50s. The video says don't jump in just because you think it feels good. That's solid advice. Similarly, Drug Casualties agree; "We are dead!"
I was born in 1955. My parents gave us everything we needed including what we needed most, being Vietnam. Thanks The Fifties, yes, easier but its own farce. Today? Not so easy but still it's own farce.
Nahhh, I don't think he found out until after they were married, and even then he was totally worried about what everybody would think, so he didn't want her to use witchcraft! Can you imagine marrying somebody who could do magic and telling them not to because you were worried what the neighbors would think?!!!
It all changed with JFKs assassination. The end of innocence. Then Vietnam, and battle lines were drawn. In a span of just a few years, we went from: Leave it to Beaver, to Beatles, to Woodstock, to Kent State. Amazing how quickly things changed. The hippie thing kind of fizzled out though, because, at some point, you've got to be sober and responsible enough to support yourself. So, I think that middle ground happened in the late 70s, more relaxed than the 50s, but back down to earth from the 60s (but I just HATED disco!) I just couldn't stand it.
@@mtntime1 I grew up in the 70's. There was a damned if you do and damned if you don't attitude in the suburb I lived in. Your skirt had to be the exact length dictated by fashion otherwise if it was just an inch shorter you were called a slut or tart and if it was an inch longer you were seen as a prude or square. You had to lie about your age to get into pubs but you weren't allowed to get drunk or even a bit tipsy.
The narrator is subtly biased. There were rules but of course you could ask questions. You respected Authority but it was your job to ask questions if you thought the authority was not in the right. It was about personal responsibility. And Society was a lot better for each individual taking their own personal responsibility. Humans function better when assuming responsibility for themselves, rather than making excuses and accepting the role of the helpless and hapless victim. If something isn't right, then set about trying to make it better without blaming everyone else in the process. That is how you change the world and make it a better place.
I couldn’t agree with you more. The bias is evident. The people who made this documentary are cowards that harbor secret resentment towards a society that has given them peace, security and the opportunity to prosper.
Absolutely: lack of accountability is the biggest problem I see in society. The more I study the ills of this world, the more I understand this to be a reality. *GOD BLESS* *JESUS IS LORD*
I was raised with 1950s mentality, but in the 1970s and 80s. We were not allowed to ask questions. Parents imposed everything. Socializing with the opposite sex wasn't allowed.
@@drift318 Except nobody is actually doing that so-called "trend". You were successfully duped into giving attention to Tiktok clout chasers while the algorithm benefited them with millions of views and follows.
" anger is a violent behavior" ?? No. Anger is an emotion. Emotion is not behaviors. Anger is a valid, normal and often needed emotion. It is often a reaction to a wrong that has been done.
I agree, weren't most of the guys sent off to Normandy pretty angry. Angry at Hitler and wanted to personally kill him, or angry at the government for getting them involved. Either way I can bet there was plenty of anger to go around. Hypocritical of the narrator and those who produced the video.
The point is to control your anger, yeah thats great that anger is a normal emotion but it also gets people killed, especially when we arent taught how to control our emotions and are instead taught to let it all out.
Christopher Michaud Yep . I am starting to question the institution of armys being controlled and sent to war by one leader or by a government. Probably necessary but there is a whole lot of room for abuse, oppression and needles war and death when the leaders head is not on the line for his / her decision to send men off to kill and be killed
Say whatever you wants but the 1950s were a much better decade in so many ways and even though they were not perfect (and nothing will ever be) the people of the 50´s did raise their kids in a much better way, the raised kids without so many mental issues, stronger kids, with much more character and better priorities, the results are there for everybody to see for many years now.
Unthinking, uncritical conformity is not the right way. Nevertheless, the attitude of the late sixties -- "Let it all hang out," "If it feels good, do it," "Do your own thing," "Don't trust anyone over thirty," is worse. Those educational films, as hokey as they may seem today, were an attempt at teaching youth such virtues as good manners, positive attitudes, even tempers, respect for authority, and strong morals. I think that today's relativistic society has lost something.
tee jaymz so the 50's weren't 100 % great. There was unfair treatment of a large group of people and respect for authority only works if that authority respect you back. For a large group of Americas both whites and blacks and other minorities. This is why rebell happen in the 60's. The 60's did bring some good things but for the most part I think it was the democrats that really cause the downfall of our society with their destructive policy during this era.
I tend to agree. There has to be a balance between deadening 1950’s conformity and the far worse breakdown of civility that followed. I think that today we are going through a second 60’s-style rebellion. This time it involves anti-government, anti-media people. Gun nuts, people who reject wholesale whatever mainstream institutions have told them all their lives. Universities, intellectuals, statesmen, the Walter Conkrites - all that is under attack. We turn instead to Trump who lacks sensitivity, refinement, or intelligence. Brute force is the way to go. How long will this go on before there is yet another swing of the pendulum?
What you must understand is that the social norms of the 60s were the fruits of the seeds sown in the social idealism of the 50s. The 50s were hokey, and the divide between youth and adulthood was a bit more black and white. This may have come as a result of a sense of renewal after the war ended in thd mid-40s. It's like when you get a new car: at first, you take super extra-special care of it. But in trying to retain a wholesome society, there is quite a bit of underlying pretense which the endeavor rests upon. Because, well, there really are no rules. Rules are arbitrary. And politically, the 50s in the US was full of the Red Scare, and this concoction on of political apprehension and paranoia paired with trying to keep the kids straightened out created sort of a mistrust between parents and children. Elia Kazan explored this taboo in his film Rebel Without A Cause. Adolescents were, in general, being oppressed of their natural tendencies by the structuralized family lifestyle that everyone felt they needed to conform to. Maybe out of fear that if you were to cut against the grain of conformity you might appear as deplorable or even be suspected as a Commie. But children tend to take a more honest approach to these superficialities. This is nothing new, as we see it in folklores such as the Emperor's New Clothes. And the flipside of politeness is honesty. So to be caught in a culture that presses onto its members a code of obnoxiously polite behavior, it causes a great tension of repressed honesty within the collective psyche. Next thing you know, you have rockabilly haircuts, images of Elvis Presley's hips swinging on television, and rebels with no apparent cause.
I was born 72 (gen X) to parents born in the Silent Generation. I was rather "rebellious" in their eyes. I was supposed to be silent. There was a feeling of "child are supposed to be seen, not heard". My parents had this "us vs. them mentality I thought was strange even as a kid. I didn't feel loved or wanted. Even asking why their were certain rules was "wrong". My parents took it as a challenge to their authority and forgot children could simply be curious. I was told "why can't I be normal" when I disobeyed. I spent hours a day in a make believe world where I was happy. But... When I decided to do some research on Silent Generation, I discovered that my parents, who were born during WW2, who had parents who witnessed WW1. They were raised ( along with others of that generation) with a fear questioning authority. They were told to be silent. Just like in this video. It let me forgive them a bit.
@Mandi Hale To add to this, when we had relatives visit us in the 1950's my parents would send me to my bedroom and let my sister stay and visit. It took me awhile to figure they thought I was too inquizative.
starrystarrynight52 I am truly saddened at the Silent Generation. The fact that the kids grew up in the “Seen not heard” world really makes me down. They could not share their thoughts and had to follow the “Code” at the time. It makes me feel truly blessed that I am living in a time where my views are respected and I could truly state how I truly feel.
As the son of a diplomat, I grew up in 5 different countries (in the US, Europe and Asia). When you move around like that as a kid (age 0-23), you realize that there seem to be JUST AS MANY unwritten rules today. For example, moving from the US to Sweden as a 16 year old, I was struck by the feeling of a thousand new rules, attitudes and beliefs I was "supposed" to have to be acceptable and these were often distinct from the US. For example, by the time I moved to Sweden, my peer group in the US thought that cigarettes were "really bad" but smoking pot was "ok." In Sweden it was the exact opposite. Smoking cigarettes was "very cool" but smoking pot was "disgusting" and for "degenerates and losers." On the other hand, Swedish teens FERVENTLY believed that a "real man" drinks LOTS of alcohol, proving himself by drinking straight vodka until he throws up. Also, 'the rules' in Sweden is that leftists are "smart, good and moral" and anyone who is not a leftist is "racist, xenophobic, materialistic, shallow and stupid"
If advice like "women should appear attractive and presentable before dinner" or "avoid showing your emotions in public" is what you call advice that is "sorely missing from today" than yeah, you're wrong. Not only are you wrong but history shows you're wrong.
@@aristrudel8017 yes because emotions in the streets have been so helpful and productive today and cities tooooooootally aren't being burnt to the ground because of adult temper-tantrums. History. Gotcha.
It seems like the fifties were a more decent time. Rules weren't created to spoil everyone's fun, but to set boundaries & keep people safe so that all could enjoy life. There was more respect in that time period than there is today.
Lucky for me, my mom (born 1930) had been raised with similar expectations to the 1950's, which she saw no good reason for. She was very certain about values but welcomed questions and tolerated rebellion, as long as we did it within a certain range. Dad let Mom set the rules for raising us, on most day-to-day issues. In the 60's, as a teen, I never bought into "if it feels good do it." Too many consequences. The kids who did drugs, etc. kept it hidden from the kids who didn't. I could see 2 groups of hippies in the country: political ones and flower children. Both used drugs (not that all hippies used drugs), but later hippies were all grouped together, which is like saying Jane Fonda and Janis Joplin were identical people. Or Vanilla Ice and Frank Kappa were identical. Or the Monkees and the Rolling Stones. A lot of the 1960s were about having a conscience or not.
I remember back in the 50’s we would get a complete freshly cooked meal with desert and milk for twenty cents. Yes that only two dimes and if we wanted a extra milk that was two cents more . Milk back in those days came in small glass bottles. No card board cartons were available then at my school..
I grew up in the 70's and we were required to go out for at least one sport, learn an musical instrument, attend 4-H, take swimming lessons, attend vacation bible school, attend church school, help farm (to learn how to work, which is good). But, one time my father caught my brother and I with a Playboy, he took it from us, looked at the centerfold and said, "Don't let your mother find out." It was an odd time. I do miss them dearly.
When people cast off all restraints they become enslaved by their own desires. When people have self disciple there is much more freedom to explore that which truly matters.
@@drpsionic to each his own opinions, however, Socrates would highly disagree. Since the time of the Epicureans Hedonism has always been attacked throughout history as an ill means of living a good life. It can further be argued that hedonism will lead to nihilism to which the implications will be devastating if followed to their conclusions in a few generations.
@@drpsionic That's not _entirely_ true. I'm sure there have been pedophiles who were tempted to rape a kid, *but* they actually refused to do it, because they know it's terrible. Self discipline has its merits, and do you hear of the ones who didn't do it at all, then got away to no longer be that way?
In the '50s, there were too many rules. In the late '60s, with the rise of the hippie movement, there were really no rules, anything went. As I see it, what we need today is a middle ground. But I think the country never recovered from the tumultuous events of '68, '69, '70.
I think, what many people seem overlook about the life of women in the 1950s, is that they were never really allowed to relax & unwind in their own homes, like their husbands got to do after work. What I mean is that, women were constantly expected to do all the cooking, housekeeping, childcare, & on top of that, were *also* expected to fetch & carry anything for their husbands (drinks, food, etc), be ready to "please" him whenever he was in the mood (god forbid if she said no to him in those days), & make herself look pretty for when he got home. Every day! Having to be constantly mentally switched on all of the time, every day, for years, sounds absolutely EXHAUSTING! No wonder so many women at the time were hooked on stimulants. Anyone in that position would be mentally drained by that point. No human being is capable of sustaining that without going crazy. And I would know because I work in Social Care. Even though I have the luxury of clocking in, clocking out, & being paid for what I do, something that was not afforded to 50s housewives, the shifts I work can *still* be mentally draining sometimes. I have to have days off in between any long shifts. Otherwise, I burn out. To think women in the 50s had to live like this, & be happy about it, or at least pretend to be, honestly sounds like a living nightmare.
@Max Powers not true it still is. He wants to know how to fit in society because he doesn't want to be judged by society's norms. That's another problem with his era. All just fake fake fake
Max Powers read Kinsey’s work. People were miserable and lied about who they were. Sounds horrible and repressive, and in fact it’s what North Korea does today.
I adore these vintage videos. I watch them frequently and share them with my kids. I think a balance between understand how to behave properly and growing as an individual is a great way to grow up well.
I'm ten years above you born in '90 and I definitely wish my teen years were in the 90's. I'm still pretty happy all things considered, things didn't really start getting crappy till smartphones hit
@@22lilacsky And if you did have a cell phone you were super badass and it was a big ole clunky thing. Got my info from Saved by the Bell. No one in my school had one. Broome High school Class of 1992 rules!
With all the problems we have today, I'm infinitely grateful I didn't grow up in this era. The ethics in psychology were practically nonexistent. I would have been lobotomized.
Mind trap: With respect it’s not just American, it’s the characteristic of those who think things through everywhere - providing they live in a culture that allows them to do this, and have the resources to implement it. If u live in country without welfare & have no external resources to draw on (ie an allowance from your parents etc.) u work 24/7 just to get enough money to survive - u have no time, money or energy left over to protest. As someone in authority I once knew said “The proof of success of a democracy is when citizens have the time, money, energy and freedom to protest against it if they choose to - & know they’ll likely live through the experience” I agree. Just to be clear I do not advocate violent protest. As a women with a mind, heart, career and views of my own I’m glad I don’t live in the 1950’s. I don’t desire or need to be financially dependent on a man, or to be considered a second class citizen just because I happen to have been born female.
I call it security. My family didn't go in for this blind conformity bit, but there were rules of conduct and certain expectations. We moved from place to place quite often, and at least this provided some degree of stability and identification in all that. So many kids now look so lost; no wonder they seem to live in a world defined by their electronic devices.
It is true that children of the 50's were "seen and not heard," for the most part. Communication from parents consisted of orders. "Clean up your room. Wash your hands. Get dressed. Do your homework." At least in my life, there was never a "talk" with mom or dad about sex, popularity, bullying, feelings, etc. Parents did not seem comfortable with it, and brushed it aside with some unhelpful remark. "You shouldn't even be thinking about this. You should be focusing on your school work." The most frequent thing I remember hearing was, "Go outside and play."
@@Abby_Doodles I don't know why exactly, but your comment genuinely, unironically made me chuckle, my friend. I can only imagine what dealings you must've had with 'boomers' and 'zoomers' to come to such a conclusion and though I couldn't, with confidence, say the same about any generation, I could probably understand, to some extent. I guess it kind of depends on context and culture. In my bubble, where I'm from, I've had awesome and not-so-awesome interactions with people of all generations. Thankfully, regarding 'boomers', the majority of my interactions have been pleasant to awesome, in my experience. There have been times when even some potentially nasty interactions, have turned out quite... nice. I've found with boomers in general - at least where I'm from - a bit of graciousness goes quite a long way but I presume that's true of any generation/individual, really. How do you respond to less-than-pleasant 'boomers' and zoomers?
@Chad Tyrone ok, but in the future when you're old and sickly, whose going to care for you? whose going to remind you of all the good times you've had together? commitment can be scary, but sometimes it's better to take the risk, especially if you care for that person
@Chad Tyrone Your goal in life is to reproduce and have children and then raise those children to be respectful, law-abiding citizens who will then go on to reproduce and do the whole thing all over again. If you're White/European descended, this is especially true, as those birth rates are dropping quickly and that is not good. MGTOW and Feminism are different faces of the same coin. They're both fucking retarded.
Anyone I ever met that grew up or lived during the 1950s always went on & on about how great life was then. I was born in 64 and came of age in the 80s , compared to today it was heaven but at the time we knew the country declined on every level compared to the 50s
If more kids were taught to obey, respect authority, and control their emotions, there would be fewer behavior issues in the classroom, including school shootings and bullying. If parents gave kids serious consequences for actions, instead of pampering them and making accuses for their actions.
Private Citizen I do agree that the U.S did have a good discipline system at the time and I loved how kids really did respect their parents. The problem was that almost everyone had to follow a certain “Code”. You had to do what society wanted you to do, and you usually could not follow your dreams to do what your heart truly desired. Add on the racism and homophobia at the time and it was not a good time to live in. While kids still need to respect their parents nowadays, I am truly grateful to be living in a time where my dreams are encouraged and where others who are of different skin (as well as homosexuals) are accepted. This is not a hate comment on you though. I’m just sharing my perspective. I respect your opinion.
In the West if someone even tries to teach children how to do that then the media or other people or the left would think you’ve gone mad or mental or your evil
If more kids were taught to obey, respect authority, and control their emotions, they would live a dull life, hating every single second they are living, leading them to self killing or (haha!) school shootings and bullying. Explaining consequences of actions to children is essential to their ability to understand the surroundings and the world. But instructing them to obey rules just gives them the way to behave without explaining anything. It's like believing in science and a god. I believe in science (hopefully this explains my pov)
I agree 💯 the Bible book of Proverbs c 22 v 6 Train up a boy Girl In the way he she should go even when he grows old it will not depart from him peace to you Eileen
I was a rural kid in the 50's and 60's. I can remember thinking it was stifling, boring, aggravating. I wanted to break out, be free. I thought I'd die in that place. I hated the farm and the way everybody lived. I tried to hitchhike to Woodstock and failed that attempt miserably. Rules, expectations, dress codes, hair codes, church and all the other things you were supposed to believe. So what did I do? I joined the military and remained there for 10 years. Then I joined a police department and retired from there after 30 years. And the funny thing now is when I think back during my retired years, I remember the smell of pine trees and wood smoke, endless rows of corn, the sound of rain on our barn's tin roof and the sweet smell of magnolias.
It's funny how time changes our perspectives.
What cool time to be alive.
That was a beautiful description at the end. It sounds like you’ve made peace with it or at least can find the silver linings in it.
I hope you were a good cop. Back in those day we had great cops who weren’t so eager to ruin our lives with petty infractions. We were always gathering at the “power lines” for keg parties and the most they would do was break it up. I miss those days…
I was born in '59 and lived in a small town in the Midwest. My grandparents had a farm, and I was there every weekend and during the week many times during summer break. I, too, remember thinking it was boring. Now I would love to be back there in the quiet surroundings (other than the sound of cows and ponies and coyotes and owls at night. Rows of corn to run through like a maze, and picking watermelons, strawberry, and turnips fresh from the garden. Riding in the back of the pickup truck and drive-in movies on weekends were THE best. It's too bad the kids today will never understand those simpler times (minus the control system and lack of nurturing in some families due to "cultural norms". The changes from the early 60s into the 70s and 80s was a confusing time for kids and, especially, teens and early adulthood. Looking back on those times with great fondness, especially because, as kids, we could leave home in the morning and return later in the day once dad came home from work and it was time for supper. Summertime, we could go back out to play with all the neighbor kids (playing football, baseball, tag, etc) and knew to go home at dusk. Lots of freedom and little crime, so we could ride our bikes endlessly and all over town. I spent all day on my bicycle, going to read at the library, riding around the town square, or riding the ten miles to my grandparents farm and back. Good times, mixed with some bad, but mostly good.
A lot of the young men who were tired of being told what to do and what to wear joined them military to get away from home… and that is all the military is, rules and uniforms.
Young women tired of chores at home and not being able to hang out with friends got married, guess what happened?🤷♀️
It’s easy to scorn this video and it’s message but people today need to understand America had gone straight from the Great Depression to World War II. The 1950s were the first chance at some peace and normalcy in a long time.
True. People were just happy there was no war anymore
True
Korea?
Brandon G the war in korea is called the “forgotten war” for a reason. I didn’t mention that because the media didn’t report on it very much back then and not many knew about it. Plus, it was a far cry from world war 2 and was pretty insignificant compared to ww2. Now I’m not saying it didn’t exist. As someone interested in History I think those soldiers aren’t recognized enough and should be praised more for their service. However, not many knew a lot about it and it wasn’t on the same scale, so people were still happy that there was no major war.
Worse, from WWI, to the swing age, to the Great Depression, to WWII. They probably blamed the swing/speakeasy culture for the second war. WWI was a brutal war that left many believing it really was the war to end all wars, then a second war comes in, same enemy, you can't help but want a sense of control. We want to believe humans can be programmed and refuse to accept that we're just much more complex creatures.
Not everyone in the 1960s rebelled and "did their own thing." In fact only a small portion of the population were hippies and most everyone else were conformists despite how that decade is portrayed.
I hung out with musicians. Lol.
The silent majority weren’t loud enough
Probably why they didn't end up on tv
@@KoolT damn yall old
They weren’t “conformists” they just weren’t stupid enough to think that smoking weed and growing out your hair would somehow change the world
Me and my grandad watched this video, he said he recognized the clip of the boy getting ready but nothing else. He said that the people giving commentary were very ignorant to the way things were. They added yellow journalism to the video (which means an exaggeration of the real story) an example he gave was that women were not “ment to be seen but not heard” he could remember his father asking his mother about financial decisions, or would ask for advice on what to do about something going on at work, they were very involved just in different ways. Women had there role in the household and Men had there role in the household as well as the children. Everyone played a part
It's also possible your grandfather had a good dad.
It was children who were to be seen and not heard. Not wives for sure. Lots of disinformation floating around. One blanket can't cover all. Generalizations always fail. 50s were the best for many.
@@googiegress That grandfather was no exception. He was the norm.
Women were NOt quiet! Both my grandmothers (born circa 1900) were the decision makers in the home, chose the house, the budget and reared the children. Same with my mom's generation. This is propaganda! Feminists ruined civilization.
@@thegeeg1751 In your opinion.
In the early 1980s I was in high school. One day while sitting in class, out of the blue, for reasons i cant recall, the school 16mm movie projector was rolled into the classroom. And they played for us several of these old, antiquated 1950s instructional films on how to date, how to be polite, how to behave, etc.
My classmates laughed through them. The wooden acting, the cheap production values, the heavy handed preaching, the over politeness, the squeaky clean activities (a picnic, a carnival, a weenie roast, bike riding, a day at the park, dinner at home with the family, etc), the innocent slang of the time (gee, golly, swell, etc).
I on the other hand, wasn't laughing. To the contrary. As someone who was being raised in a severely abusive, dysfunctional home, i found these films to be quite charming. A sort of a time capsule of a more innocent era.
DON'T get me wrong. I had no illusions. I was well aware that the 1950s wasnt so perfect and innocent (no decade is). That there were negative things going on in the 1950s, such as child abuse, divorce, segregation, poverty, crime, corruption in government and private business, for examples.
But still, it seems to me that there were SOME things in the 1950s they were doing so right back then that we were doing so horribly wrong in the early 1980s as well as today.
Man I am glad I wasn't the only one ACTUALLY paying attention- and for exactly the same reasons. /another kid in the back of the room
@@edgregory1 *blue haired lol
Nailed it.
Exactly, Though I never had many hardships in my time..I still believe that this was the start of what would only drop from the 1950s and beyond to tommorow...revolting how we never got flying 1960s Cadillacs and Chevrolets in the era of tommorow and instead received bland and basic, uninteresting, subtle toned no good shapeless bodies of metal and plastic fit for luxury instead of appeal... Gee was a better time in the right time, not to mention someone getting overtly offended by any topic that crossed there manipulative minds now in days
This is so good to hear. People laugh at what they have until they don’t have it. I was luck to be raised in a loving family, but my best friend two doors down was with a single dad who was abusive. It blows my mind how immature people can be when viewing the benefits to aspiring for something better. It is not to deny that difficult situations arise in life, or be naive, rather, holding yourself and family to a higher standard and striving to make the best of life and be prepared in the event of hardship. Also, differentiating between hardship that is out of our control vs hardship brought on by our own poor choices. I wish these type of videos and PSA’s were the norm in our society instead of celebrating dis function.
Watching in 2018 as a 17 year old blows my mind.
why. you'll be old one day
Same here
I am over sixty and this gives me the „willies“- Public service films such as this were a creepy, insidious, institutional form of „sugar coated“ mind control. My mother, a talented and intelligent woman, told be how bored and frustrated she was in the role she felt was forced upon her by society. She said that as a young girl she thought it was really unfair that „Boys could be anything but girls could only be housewives, secretaries, school teachers or nurses.“
The adults did a lot of drinking and smoking then; probably to ease their panicked existential dread. There was also a lot of spousal abuse and child abuse, unheeded behind closed doors. I won‘t even touch on the obscenity of racial suppression. There was for the first time, and disgustingly still now, a nuclear arsenal capable of incinerating the entire world.
I am sometimes nostalgic about these seemingly „simpler and gentler“ times but this is a dream and not the reality; after all, I was just a kid. The reality is that women, non-whites, non-christians, non-heterosexuals were repressed, disrespected, denigrated, ostracized and brutalized. Young men were raised to be „good“, to „make your bed and brush your teeth“, to „do your homework“, to never „chew gun in class“, to say: „How do you do?“, to bow and courtesy [O.K. So not the boys.], and to not „talk back to your elders“ and then, before they were even adults, they were sent off, against their will, by an authoritative government to die and kill in a horrible war. Is it any wonder that their parents and the established society had lost all credibility. The adults of the time were trained to love obedience, conformity and authority more than their own children. I think that under all the sweet pastel colored everything was brewing deep fear, frustration and rage. The children of the 60‘s burned the cage down. We are still groping with what should have replaced it. Civilization is a great experiment in how we can all happily live together without killing each other.
francesco lops pewdiepie sucks. Let’s be real.
@@qui_etes_vous all he said was he watching it in 2018 as 17 we're all going to be old one day bozo .
Haha... my mom told us to always "wait until Dad has finished his evening Martini before telling him you got an F in math." ;^)
Better make that 2 double martinis 🍸 for an F.
@@timjones7547 My father would get upset about a bad grade but would do absolutely nothing to help me get a better one. Dislike that man deeply to this day. Born in 59
@@765respect Born in '52...brought home a report card that had all B's on it...no congratulations, nothing even remotely like that...he said...maybe you can do better next time.....
@@robertallen6710 Ugh, I feel ya!
My dad bought for me a new 1965 Mustang,then checked my mileage...but I never complained. We didn't do that.We obeyed our parents, the rewards were great. It was Love. *Elaine *
Anyone who is old enough to know about "the rules" of the 50s can also see our current society has just as many if not more societal rules. The rules are just different now.
More. Just look at this pandemic crisis.
Yes more societal rules to allow in all evil and not judge it. There’s no more modesty or strong sense of morals anymore.
Yes more societal rules to allow in all evil and not judge it. There’s no more modesty or strong sense of morals anymore.
Rusty Nails Yeah political correctness rules, which we all now are never ending
The rules of today’s political correctness are the most onerous and tyrannous of any era.
My parents grew up in the 50’s and they look back on their childhoods as stable and pleasant.
Anecdotal…ask a black or a woman that wanted to work for equal pay.
@@nibsvkh My mother worked. Because she wanted to. And she made more money than my father.
Mine too
@@nibsvkhwell my Black grandmother enjoyed her life in her Black community
@@ocpersonofinterest but weren't women fired from their jobs when they got pregnant?
7:16 This is just extremely good advice for any situation when your emotions start to get out of hand:
Slow down--breathe and don't say or do anything.
Pause.
Calm down--breathe and still don't say or do anything.
Pause.
THINK---with your MIND: What are the consequences of my actions?
This is called "self-control." Something that a lot of people today don't have.
Very true! And how people expect you to tolerate or even "respect" their way of acting, although a little self-control alone would work wonders in commuication and socializing.
Yes I need to do this when I open the fridge ... but I don't 😄
Sometimes my fuse blows and it’s quite short.
This is some good advice for people like me with a short fuse. Hopefully I can slowly diffuse it!
Yup.. This is something the great traditions have taught us for millennia. The Golden Rule in the West, the Golden Mean in China. It's hard to be a better person and not treat others in a way you would never want to be treated unless you're trying to be calm, rational, and think of the other person's point of view and feelings. If you think it's your "right" or somehow soulful or authentic to just blurt out your anger and emotions, well, you are setting the bar very low as to your behavior and ideas of what it means to be a good person, a good friend, a good family member, or at all kind or understanding to anyone.
In a way, it's what meditation teachers advise now: feeling the emotion; let it pass; don't be attached to it, and don't shun it.
"This boy and girl, coming home from school, look quite content with life."
So much has changed already 6 seconds into the video...
@@HA-gu1qk neoliberalism didnt happen for certain people until 1964
lol theyll have to go to school for another hmmm 8 years just to be able to POSSIBLY get a minimum wage job where theyll compete with hundreds of other applicants.
A H we already live in a society where everything is wrong even as as watching a bee collecting pollen from a flower, and from an emotional standpoint all we believe is betrayal and treasonable situations, so one track minded and socially the ones who take apart of a progressive movement like music are the ones who becomes successful fuck being like a movie you feel me live life like a movie I’m glad I’m young in this generation
A H I’m just being open minded my g
Life is SO much better now
Politeness, kindness and respect should never go out of style, what does is the way we teach them.
Love the God allows U-turns name. Please explain your point of view to Trump's lack of manners and respect.
Yup.
Exactly
That's true but there are better methods for shaping your children to be polite, respectful adults. Children should not be ignored when they ask questions. Everyday is a learning opportunity and refusing to explain the reasoning behind a demand doesn't help a child grow cognitively, emotionally, or spiritually.
You can thank Dr. Spock for ruining future generations.
My mom thought he was nuts and still does.
Needless to say my sister and i were raised very differently than anyone who listened to that guy
I was raised with love, structure, discipline, morals and decency. Family always had dinner together. I was genuinely glad to see Dad when he walked in the door. Raised my children the same. They are both grown decent, independent, productive adults.
what happens when all your parents were traumatized by repetetive wars, had mandatory military service as teens and were children in the depression
You "sleep" with a gun under your pilllow, adhere to a schedule and either pray for or prey upon the weak.
"I lived through the Depression. My dream was indoor plumbing."
- Don Draper - "Mad Men"
or maybe before people bought into madeup terms pushed by propaganda. read propagnada by bernays, and combine with the fact "sibling rivalry", "teenager", and the way teens were so rebellious were MADE UP, as in these terms didn't exist and isn't really discussed: then BAM, these terms are introduced and suddenly "OMG its a epidemic!" The 60s and the hippie movement were also contrived and pushed by the CIA and others as a way to deaden the peoples spirit. Yeah, the 60s generation got high and rebelled, just like younger people protest and go on now--yet somehow people back in the 1800s and before, who had barely any access to current news, no access to instant communication were able to organize, show up, and WIN! Look at the battle of blair mtn during the labor movement,.....think any hippies or protestors would actually fight and suffer in the same way? Life is suffering, so it makes sense those who could suffer so much (war, the depression) and still succeed would be able to build something so great there had to be made-up problems like sibling rivalry
father of a stolen child nah
@@refractedcurvature3567 Except those societies aren't naturel.
It means your point isn't absolute.
Modern societies are a surreaction on most social point coming from those old times.
Yes, too many rules in the 1950s caused rejection of rules in the 1960s. No question about that. But there was another factor: fear of possible nuclear destruction brought about an attitude of "Live for today, because there may not be a tomorrow."
It's true, in Philadelphia we didn't even worry about surviving or what it would be like after we were at Ground Zero no survivors
And it's getting worse.
If the "Don't question authority" idea existed in America as commonly as this upload seems to imply, I may see part of why rebellion popped up. Surely the 50s can't be so dumb to not understand that a kid seeking to understand why a rule exists is not necessarily a bad thing... Can the 50s be so dumb as a whole?
I wonder if the counter culture movement was even organic.
I grew up in the 50’s and it was fun; fun for us and fun for our parent’s who didn’t need to hover over us constantly. The reason...we were expected to behave within the ‘rules’ if you will, guidelines set down by our adult family members and those ‘in authority.’ Our parents expected not absolute conformity, for example we wore crinolines under our ‘poodle’ skirts and buck shoes and all the ‘latest’ fads/fashions but also knew that a certain modesty was required within our lifestyles. We had standards of behaviors that we accepted because we knew we shared space in this world with others and those standards didn’t keep us from laughing at lot, fooling around with friends and studying for up coming exams. My mother trusted me and I treasured her trust in return. In the summer my mother’s over seeing my day went like this, “Have fun and be home before dark.” Period. It was a great childhood. I was a very lucky kid. Go figure.
old ah jit
Yes. You’re right.
I sort of grew up like this (millennial). And this could be fine, as long as your parents have unconditional love for you. And it sounds like your parents had that for you.
What turns into a problem is when the rules become the condition of love, or even decency. My aunts and uncles grew up with rules they didn’t mind, but when they tested the boundaries, they didn’t get a loving but firm hand. They got beaten and bruised, and thrown into life situations they didn’t want.
It’s when it stops becoming about the rules, and more about the “rulers”.
Fun story, according to legend, my great grandmother would throw small animals that caused her problems in the dryer.
Not a very fun story, but just shows what kind of situations some kids were in…
That's not a product of the '50s. That continues to this day, behind closed doors. What HAS changed are the rules themselves.
Looks like the same filmmaker of Refer Madness. This is an extreme stereotype of the times. I grew up in the 50's and 60's and my grandparents were never this rigid.
@@nossasenhoradoo871 family traditions...
@@nossasenhoradoo871 That was a joke...but in the long run, that rebellion brought an end to stable families and opened the door to total societal anarchy.
@@nossasenhoradoo871 The virus is real, although I would not take it as seriously as many might. By anarchy I meant feminism and the unwillingness of women (and some men) to settle down.
@@nossasenhoradoo871 ok. You are either insane or a troll. In either case, I see no point in continuing
I hear ya, pal. What they hear is someone else's opinion, or through a book, or the internet, but.....they didn't experience it, they didn't live through it, so......they don't know!!! We didn't live through the '20's either, but it's over, and as we moved along in life, things changed, people changed, and society as a whole, changed. Our lives were better simply because we worked hard and made it, others were not so 'lucky', but that's life, and life is NEVER perfect, and neither is it today, it's only different.
The TRUTH was different from this. This is my generation. Not born until the mid 1950's I realize now I was sandwiched between two worlds. I was unusual in that my parents never asked me to behave in a manner that wasn't what was modeled to me. We were taught the same values and rules that came before them. We were absolutely able talk about things and I was never seen but not heard! Far from it. But my dad never came home wanting to talk to me either. He worked his backside off as a building contractor and needed time to unwind at dinner and afterward with a newspaper. My parents were unusual in that they had a very good marriage and I remember them talking for an hour or so around dinner. It was the first generation though, in which most parents were making a lot more money than their parents and the were anxious to give these things to kids. That started the problems in some ways for some families. Things do not replace time spent as a family. We were lucky in that way and we did a lot together. We also were expected to help the adults with chores. We still had a lot of kids in the neighborhood to play with. Some were my cousins. I wouldn't trade those times with anyone. As it turns out, it was the only truly secure time of my life. .
Born '52. Every family in the 50s wasn't perfect. Women stayed in bad marriages because there were few if any options. You still had alcoholism, infidelity and domestic violence. We just didn't talk about it in the 50s. Every family wasn't like what we saw on TV.
That sounds so nice. Everything fell apart after that. Now it’s so draining and cold. Technology was our downfall.
I agree. This was not my experience at all. I never felt like less of a person. I was allowed to become my own person (although social norms were pretty restrictive for girls). I was taught to obey my parents, and I respected them as my authorities. But I always felt that they respected me as well, even when I was very young.
Welcome to the present, now we put off everything to work even more.
this was the truth for a lot of people. the united states is a big country, of course many people will have different experiences.
It is great to have family dinners. It is great to have respect for parents. In every decade teens will rebel a little.
Paola Valtierra this is control though. A caste system
@@ohiosfinest5889 "this is control though. A caste system" How so? This is definitely one of the dumbest comments I've read in weeks. Congrats, moron.
@almightyinferno What? One weird outcast individual makes an asinine claim about a caste system and now I have you telling me that kids that are taught to say ma'am and sir is wrong. I'm really happy that I don't have to deal with you awkward types in my life.
almightyinferno How is it wrong to teach kids to address you and other adults as ma’am or sir? I still say that to anyone I can see is older then me because I was taught to be respectful. But I suppose my dictator parents are to blame for that
And now we have fun loving Antifa and aoc.
I lived back then and these films are way over the top. Or maybe our area of the midwest wasn't as crazy. We had rules as kids, but I would have NEVER heard my Dad say "pick out the most popular kids and do like they do" pertaining to clothing or anything. My parents said to be the person you are and not mimic others to be popular. That really popped out at me!
I bet the school foods of the 50s - 60s were homemade and cooked fresh daily and tasted much better than today.
*edit* Thank you all for sharing your stories... The good and the bad!
Heck yeah it was. I’ve been looking all over for that strange deep dish pizza thing they made with yellow cheese and ground beef with crust in the bottom. They called it pizza but it looked more like beef casserole. Was awesome! Apple crisp with cinnamon apples, crust crumbles and a slice of american cheese good, too! Now the kids get fake chicken nuggets. bleh!
My mom states that the school lunches back then were very good (home made)
@@tankster5826 Wish my grandparents could, but they were black
Yeah because women were barely in the workplace lol - majority of women were pressured into being housewives
My Grandparents didn’t have school lunches either and they didn’t have shoes. I have a picture of my grandmothers one room school house. All the grades were together and none of the kids had on shoes or socks. It must have been cook weather because they all had long sleeves and some had coats. They were white but lived in the country and were poor by today’s standards. They grew what food they ate. They took a lunch to school from home in a used syrup bucket. The school program happened after world war two in the 1950’s. Perhaps black schools, equal but separate they would say (although most were not really equal) may not have been given funds for the school lunch program. Just like many people don’t get things they need today. Seems like someone always getting left out and it isn’t always about color. But today we have coronavirus so I’m not worried about all these type things today. I’m just trying to stay safe and hope you and your family is too.
Wow, this sounds like the office culture where I work. All these rules are the same. Obey management, don't question orders, show no emotion, don't bring up unpleasant subjects, all of it. Just replace the word "Normal" with "Professional", "Popular" with "Successful", and this film describes modern work place rules.
Shiba Lover How were workplaces in the 1950s?
Your brilliant and it is just as you say!
That’s so true it’s scary
That’s how it SHOULD be. Chain of command is so important
Maybe where you work. My company appreciates intellectual honesty. We have disagreements; a little too heated at times, and some aren't all perfectly altruistic (some people love sparing themselves or their department at times rather than upholding what is best for the entire firm. But the good outweighs the bad.) I can tell you from living on both sides of the fence, plenty of good management out there begs for front-line feedback from their subordinates, and get little to nothing. Questioning orders is also a great way to understand the intent of the orders. Front-line people sometimes need to make decisions, and the better they understand why things are the way they are, the better decisions they are in a position to make. Maybe my perspective is different because my industry can't afford to suffer do-nothings or morons at the ground level (unlike my wife's.)
"dinner with the family"
ME "Wtf is that?"
I have dinner with my family (not asian tho, lol)
Nate River im Asian and I still don’t eat dinner with my family
Nate River same. It’s nice 👍
@@girlzwithguns That is impossible
Im glad that's normal! Lol
Another thing about the 50's - we were so very grateful to have our fathers (and mothers) safe at home after the terrible war years - And tried to help and support those who lost family during that time get back on their feet.
i don’t care, having grown up in the 90s and beginning of the 21st century, i would kill to have had some stability and sense of pride this virtue is exemplifying. Life is a tumultuous hurricane for us today. Everyone picks a path of rebellion against everyone else and expects a nation to prosper. Impossible.
It’s growing pains. Society changes all the time, and you have good (civil rights) and bad (increasing greed) changes.
People from all walks of life are either going for or against such changes, good or bad, and the result is what you get now.
The world was never perfect or great, no matter how much we want to pretend it was. Be great full for what you get and work towards the future you want for yourself and the generations to come.
It all started in the 50s, what this video doesn’t show you is that after the 1929 crash, the strong socialist and worker union movement in this country said ENOUGH is ENOUGH and demanded that the rich start paying their fair share of taxes. FDR said that his greatest accomplishment in his 4 TERMS as president was saving capitalism from itself by obliging to the workers. You see, The 1940s were a time of hope and rebuilding and FDR gave us 4 terms of normalcy and consistency and progress. But by the time he passed, the elites were tired of all the progress and the growing middle class and the taxes being paid by them (the rich) in order to sustain the mass poverty that the depression had left behind so they opened the house of un American activities and began firing radio hosts, teachers, professors, elected officials who they deemed “not right wing enough” or “communist” and began censoring families and neighbors in order to institute societal control and prevent the kind of rebellions that led to the FDR era of progressiveness in the first place.
@@elgee1976 ok antifa
Agreed.....follow your path
B Perez socialism kills people and doesn’t allow them to thrive. Looks at every single country that has dabbled in communism. Capitalism gave these boomers a rich life.
I was born in 1946, so I was a child of the 50's. I loved my childhood! We were such a happy family. There was so much love, laughter, and respect. Yes, my parents had high expectations of our getting good grades and being good kids, but we had no doubts that we were cherished. We weren't monetarily rich by any stretch of the imagination, but for some reason we felt rich. We had what we needed. We were encouraged to be outside playing and having fun. However, unlike today's children who seem to control the family with everything revolving around their wants and desires, our parents were the ones running the show. We were just "the kids"....and we were quite happy to be the kids. Yes, there were rules of behavior....make your bed everyday, do the dishes after dinner, be polite and never rude, do your very best in everything you do, be a good person, come when you are called, pick up after yourself. And, yes, we had dinner together as a family every evening at 6:00. After the dishes, we all gathered together in the living room and listened to the radio shows. I remember my Mom and Dad listening and dancing to Big Band music. We took rides in the car and sang songs and stopped and got ice cream cones. What a foundation for lives well lived. My own 3 kids were born between 1969 and 1975 and were raised in a very similar fashion. Yes, it was a very different era......but a simpler and very happy time. My grandchildren live very different lives.....they don't go "out to play" . It's too dangerous. They have scheduled play dates. They play sports and take piano, violin, and dance lessons. They have drills about what to do in the case of a school shooter. Homeless people are living in tents downtown and under bridges, or just sleeping on the streets. Syringes and excrement lay strewn on the sidewalks. Life is a rather complicated schedule around which the whole family must revolve. However different it may be, they are happy good kids.
"Syringes and excrement lay strewn on the sidewalks". You must live in Southern California 😆
not if you weren’t white
@@itsjack1218 Give me a break! Although economics were harder for non-whites back then family life was much better than today.
I grew up slightly later than you. There is no way I would have wanted to grow up any later than I did.
time to move out of San Fransisco. The first part inspiring, the last frightening.
One of the young guys was the actor from Bewitched. You got to remember that these folks in the film would not have reflected as it really was as a whole. People now put down the 50s but you could sleep with the window open and walk around at night by yourself without feeling fearful.
Dick York! I thought I recognized him.
Or Dick Sargent. They almost looked alike.
4:23 It's Dick York.
@@jeffduncan9140 No they didn't look alike.
I still do.
As a fatherless young man I watch those 50's videos and see the true wisdom in them. I am thankful somebody put the time in to make them.
In the 50s there were To many rules but now it's like people have no rules
Joey Shabadoo swinging back where?
People often mistake rules with that of government rules, but family rules... you are correct. There are none brother.
Joshua Williams don’t you wish you had those rules back? I loved the 50s. Even though I was born and raised in the 60s & 70s. I bet they mock the president like they do now! I don’t agree with the every move he makes, but won’t bash him.
Joey Shabadoo What does liberals have to do with any of this? Your just sounding like a grumpy jabroni
mohammad amin I mean, there was the red scare, and Arabs and Pakistanis were viewed the same as blacks and Latinos (darker skinned Latinos). They weren’t specifically targeted.
Not so true. I was born early 50’s. We were taught to be good, decent and hardworking people and our parents were our examples. But, I don’t agree that we we taught to not think critically. We were taught to follow the laws but people absolutely talked about the issues of our times and to be active in our communities, elections...and not afraid to confront unfairness or tyranny.
Honestly, I'm surprised that they're accusing the generation that protested nationwide about Vietnam of not thinking critically.
We never saw such protests about the Iraq and other Middle Eastern Wars.
did you guys learn about the bible?
Back when Men were Men and Women were Women. Nowadays are messed up.
There was a hell of alot more critical thinking taught them than today.
And don't forget the racism
I was a 70's child born to 50's style parents. My home life was pretty good, but my connection to society sucked because what I was taught at home didn't match what was being taught out in the world. A very confusing time to grow up in. Oddly enough, the 80s more closely reflected the 50s in a lot of ways so I did better as I entered my teen years.
I hear ya. When I was a kid my mother was so strict I wasn't allowed to watch Sesame Street for fear that I might believe in monsters. Yep the Cookie Monster was persona non grata in my home at that time. I was sheltered way to much.
Same here.
@@realmichaud yeah if you were Biden from Sesame Street you’re way too sheltered
@@realmichaud born in 1980s. Sometime in the 90s my mom got into a radical religious stuff(lasted a decade).. I couldn't have toy unicorns, unless she cut their horns off and turned them into ponies. 😅couldn't have tolls would probably be burned... But my mom loved sesame street 😅 I could have Elmo lol. Remember when I was finally allowed to trick or treat. My mom now tho is like the total opposite now. Super tolerant idk. It's weird actually.
One thing this film misses is the recessions after the war and the feeling of uncertainty rural families felt in a world where only the big cities had everything. Farm familis struggled well into the seventies to achieve the kind of comfort enjoyed by urban people.
The commentary mischaracterizes the relational dynamics that were present in the 1950s vs. today. Parents taught core values of respect, appreciation for how good things were, and having a path to success. The absence or standards such as those has clearly reduced the societal health of 21st century America. It was never about conformity but about doing the things that could bring success.
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These „core values“ like obeying authority are actually very unamerican and harmful. Kids should raised to be independent thinkers who are able to go their own path as individuals and are critical towards any authority. Teaching them to strictly follow what they were told produces moral cowards and makes them feel more attracted to authoritarian political ideologies.
Back then, conformity brought about success. But, society changes. It makes perfect sense that a generation who were taught to obey authority without question would give birth to children who questioned authority before obeying.
@@s_h136 These "core values" you scorn also taught people to think of others and their community first. I would heartily disagree that contemporary rampant narcissism and self-indulgence is a marked improvement.
Full of shit.
Well said. Thank you!
My parents held on to those old beliefs, "Children should be seen and not heard", damage held onto for many years. I wanted to know what my children had to say, treated them as the individuals they are, with their own opinions.
Thank you Michelle.
David Hoffman - filmmaker
There are a lot of old folks alone in nursing homes dying wondering why their children left them and never spoke to them again.
Charles Cosimano I can confirm this. I used to work in an assistant living facility and the elderly would just wait for their families. It could be months, or years. It drives the elderly crazy.
hear hear!
Michelle B: My Dad was the same way. He and my mom came of age in the 50s and in my Dad's case, when his family sat down to dinner, there was total silence expected during the meal. That was how my Grandpa wanted it (presumably because it was similar to his own upbringing which was quite harsh). My Dad wanted to make sure we talked to one another at the table (or any time) and know what was going on and to know one another. I'm grateful for that. My Grandparents, for the record, were wonderful people but were products of their era, which was tougher than what subsequent generations would ever know.
Teenagers (especially girls) in the 50s had more freedom than any prior period in history. Girls in earlier times were never allowed to go anywhere with boys unchaperoned, let alone in a car. Dating was a product of the twentieth century and was common in the fifties. Hence the need for the videos.
Young children in the fifties (years of my childhood) had so much more freedom than kids do today. When I was in elementary school, my siblings and I would pack a lunch, leave the house around 9:30 am, walk about a mile to the beach, swim all morning, have lunch at the park across the street, play on the swings and monkey bars, go back to the beach for more swimming and be home in time for dinner. No adults, no cell phone to check-in, no supervision at all. Can you imagine that today? The parents would be arrested.
We actually spent much more time independent of our parents. We were expected to be obedient and show respect for them, but we were much more free.
@Dela Flowers It is a much more dangerous world and I did not allow my children the same amount of freedom I had. My comment was in response to the commentators who remarked about how controlled and how little freedom kids had back then.
I could only go as far as my walkie talkie could transmit to my parents (Around 2003-2007).
You can still do exactly that even during this pandemic. The only difference is you need permits and shit to carry your firearm with you.
@Dark Abyss Very true. I was not criticizing parenting that came after the fifties; I was responding to comments below that criticized the parenting and lifestyles of the fifties.
That's because the parents of the 50's and 60's actually behaved like they "believed" in our capabilities. They demanded our respect and that we establish boundaries and follow the rules. Once they had that established, we had the freedom to explore and have fun! Parents of today can't "believe" in their children's capabilities because they don't demand respect, establish boundaries, or teach their children to follow the rules. That's why they live in fear and are so dysfunctional... then they project all of THEIR INADEQUACIES on the past... when they're the ones who are actually inadequate.
Wow, completely different from my upbringing in the 1950s. I was encouraged to think, have an opinion and express it, question things. Through all that I was considered a "good" kid. I obeyed the rules (but only if they could be explained logically to me), felt safe everywhere (no matter where I went, adults were looking out for you), and enjoying life.
I like this balanced approach. Appreciate the rules/traditions, but always know WHY you appreciate and keep them! 👍
"I obeyed the rules (but only if they could be explained logically to me)"
I sooooooooo feel that :)
You were lucky then. I experienced a pretty terrible time..And I particularly remember how bad children with disabilities were treated...it was appalling. Many were sent away to live in institutions..I only remember a handful of them in Junior High and High School and they were cruelly bullied because none of us were educated about them..they were just " dummies" or " weirdos".. There was also no understanding of dyslexia, nobody understood that the poor readers could actually be very smart. They sat at the dummy table and didn't have friends.
I also remember how conditions like epilepsy were treated like an embarrassment and kept hidden from neighbors ( my brother's condition was a strict family secret).
And how things Iike toilet training were conducted.. our neighbors boys were whipped for bed wetting. Nobody thought that was abusive.
It was not a good time for kids
Yeah we played in the streets with our friends and could trick or treat without being accompanied by adults. Big deal. So much more was dark and just wrong.
I was born in 1953. Nobody I knew during my childhood ever paid these stilted "educational films" any attention. My parents weren't rule-making robots, neither were my friends' parents.
Chris Devol so, you were a teen in the 60s, not the 50s as depicted here.
Good point, Chris Devol. This is just another attempt at making the '50's look like they were dreadful--and they weren't. Sure there were 'rules', but we have rules today, and I would not say culture is better now. In fact, since so many don't follow rules, things in many ways are worse.
@@rabbitfishtv , the film doesn't say you had to be a teen in the '50's.
I was born seven years later, 1960.
@@W7DSY But almost all the Main people in the film were teenagers.. 🤷🏽♂️ Idk if you got the hint.
At 4:40 the “Fit In With The Group” kid was the first Darren on “Bewitched !“ You’ve got to be an oldee like me to remember that!
Dick York.
1950s: Gee. I can be like the other fellas.
1960s: SAMANTHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!
Thank you!
I know this as a millennial. Are we old now? Lol with the events of 2020 I sure feel old.
He looked so cute I recognized him right away and I am a baby boomer and proud of it. All the rules my mom had for me kept me from harming myself or someone taking advantage of me at a young age mother's knows what will happen to us if we don't have rules. So many of baby boomers I knew growing up are dead. I will be 64 lord willing Sept 14
Florida Gal Looking more closely at his face I can see it!
We seem to have a problem with balance in this country. We go from one extreme to another. We often throw the baby out with the bath water when we want to change something. I hope one day we look at things with nuance and realize few things are all good or all bad. It would have been nice if we could have just thrown out racism, and sexism, and kept all the great stuff like family values, respect, and basic decency.
18 minutes in, and I'm already gonna say, Amen brother, you've hit the nail on the head!
Thrown out the hate of LGBT too. But that's where things come into conflict. If women have freedom to have sex freely then your 60's concepts of decency come into question. Is women kissing women not acceptable? Is casual sex not acceptable? White people today do respect black americans or poor people or mexican americans. We never had the respect back then and it's not much better now. Traditional values go against modern ideals of freedom and acceptance.
You can't have traditional "family values" and the liberation of men and women to do as they please. To be a traditionalists is to inherently be sexist, racists, homophobic, anti sex, and pro greedy capitalism.
@@blasphimus absolutely moronic you can have the choice to be sex freely but not be brainwashed into thinking there are no adverse effects from that type of behavior
Dude, don't bring up nuances... People are like brain dead sheep. You have to keep things simple with them or their brains overload on information and blow up.. This is why politicians never talk about meaningful, thoughtful things. What's the point? By the time you're halfway through your nuanced point, 90% of the sheep have lost attention...
I think there was balance in the 80s and 90s. But that was thrown out the window.
It wasn't easier it was just different. Every time and generation has their own struggles. Things like respecting authority, knowing your neighbors names and being active in your community, taking pride in your appearance and being a hard worker should always be valued and the norm.
The tone almost implies that the values of the 50s were bad. But we're still stuck in the hangover of the 60s. People talk about sexual freedom like it's undeniably a good thing as though they've never heard of STDs. That's the thing about downward spirals, people enjoy the slide down
@@justathought973 Actually the repression of certain natural sexual behaviours leads to safer, less violent societies.
Look into research done on polygamous societies as opposed to societies with culturally enforced monogamy if you're willing to have your mind changed.
except that those kinda poly relationships were also culturally enforced, just by a different culture. why cant you just leave people be and let them do what makes them the happiest?
JustAThought maybe the hyper openness you preach has led to all of the problems we now face
Broski Kovalski. Very well said. Thank you!
Was a happily active teen back in the 70's. The only STD I got was after 2 yrs of marriage from my husband. I believe the sexual freedom I was able to enjoy and experience made me into the happy, content granny that my husband, children, their SOs, grandchildren, dog and cats love to be around. Always have been a requested addition to the work environment and all parties. (2 full retirements and a portfolio to make me not worry about money ever.) Still married to my STD giving husband, 40 yrs later! Gotta forgive and forget.
I am over sixty and this gives me the „willies“- Public service films such as this were a creepy, insidious, institutional form of „sugar coated“ mind control. My mother, a talented and intelligent woman, told be how bored and frustrated she was in the role she felt was forced upon her by society. She said that as a young girl she thought it was really unfair that „Boys could be anything but girls could only be housewives, secretaries, school teachers or nurses.“
The adults did a lot of drinking and smoking then; probably to ease their panicked existential dread. There was also a lot of spousal abuse and child abuse, unheeded behind closed doors. I won‘t even touch on the obscenity of racial suppression. There was for the first time, and disgustingly still now, a nuclear arsenal capable of incinerating the entire world.
I am sometimes nostalgic about these seemingly „simpler and gentler“ times but this is a dream and not the reality; after all, I was just a kid. The reality is that women, non-whites, non-christians, non-heterosexuals were repressed, disrespected, denigrated, ostracized and brutalized. Young men were raised to be „good“, to „make your bed and brush your teeth“, to „do your homework“, to never „chew gum in class“, to say: „How do you do?“, to bow and courtesy [O.K. So not the boys.], and to not „talk back to your elders“ and then, before they were even adults, they were sent off, against their will, by an authoritative government to die and kill in a horrible war. Is it any wonder that their parents and the established society had lost all credibility. The adults of the time were trained to love obedience, conformity and authority more than their own children. I think that under all the sweet pastel colored everything was brewing deep fear, frustration and rage. The children of the 60‘s burned the cage down. We are still groping with what should have replaced it. Civilization is a great experiment in how we can all happily live together without killing each other.
Chris Lieding Wow, well said! I'm in my seventies and the years have shown me that there's good, bad, and indifferent in every era.
It feels like all these people came back from the war and brought with them a militaristic mind set: Don't question authority; fit into the group; don't let emotion infect yourself and others. All of the rules apply in the military.
James Wells , Well said James.
@@jgrif3856 Irony. The republicans screwed the middle class with trickle down and the way they got it was duping the authoritarian republicans that bought into the propaganda of the 50s that blacks were lazy welfare users when whites have always been the main users. You poor dumb bastards shot yourselves in the foot and fucked everything up for your kids and grandkids. Luckily the boomers are starting to decline and will lose power soon enough and we can fix their economic mess.
@@gubbil4852 You act like America is not better now than in the 1950s. Socially it is in a much better place. The middle class is messed up but that has to do with racist voting for the GOP and hurting their themselves by allowing trickle down policies to screw their pay.
3:04
CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
This one needs a comeback
If there were more controlled emotions, there would be fewer regretted words to have to take back, violence in the heat of passion tamed a little.
nah, that’s how you get high suicide rates.
Judy Beasley-Tapp Your thought process is extremely skewed.
@@poopycarrot Not really. That's suppressing emotions. Controlling emotions is understanding how and why you feel the way you do and having an appropriate response. We live in an age of emotional incontinence, and its very, very bad.
With the rise of single motherhood, and them imparting hyper-emotionality in young boys, you get violence, homicides, and mass shooters.
Andrew Presley in the 50’s there was no difference between controlling and suppressing your emotions though. no one was trying to understand why they were feeling the way they did, they were only trying to keep the status quo.
the hippie movement was literally a reaction to that. showing emotion isn’t a bad thing lmfao. obviously there are times when you need to be more mindful of how you act but i certainly wouldn’t say that today’s kids are LESS emotionally intelligent than kids in he 50’s who were told they were out of line because of normal human emotions.
One thing people are missing from these rules is that, these rules help you to be a structured individual. Being chaperoned and not having sex before marriage allows you to focus on the beauty of your girlfriend/boyfriend. And that beauty is both internal and external. Getting to know and really love them for who they are and not their body is extremely important.
*AMEN* VERY WELL SAID!
Fornication is a killer.
*JESUS IS LORD*
@Ophius Macone shut up nerd
@@kp2855 hail Satan. Don’t need Jesus to know sex before marriage isn’t ideal for your future and development of personal relationships.
@@kp2855 There are rabbits having sex in my yard as I speak, pretty sure they aren't married.
Most importantly to avoid unwanted pregnancies.
In Britain now dating rules are buy her two Bacardi breezers and she will ride you like seabiscuit.
Ahh, a representative of our Mother Country weighs in. Thank you so much for bringing clarity and class to the discussion.
69 likes... nice
Thank God we fought for independence
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@@TheSergio1021 you forsake god far more than we
“These boys greet their dad as if they had really missed him” because they needed to put on a show? Rule number 1 : lying is good
Nah dude, it's because to keep up good relationships you have to make an effort even when you don't really feel like it. For example, if you turn down your friends' invitations every time you feel a bit too tired or lazy to want to go, they'll stop inviting you pretty fast. Sometimes people go their entire lives without really getting to know their parents because whenever they have a chance to talk to them they're too tired or wanna do something else more. Then the years fly by and the parent passes on. The point of the advice there is that you should give time to your family even if you sometimes don't feel like it. It's important practice for later in life. If you ignore your spouse whenever you're too tired or lazy to deal with them you won't be married very long.
It's not a lie. It's a fiction which is enacted. We don't always feel like behaving, so we fake it. And sometimes it becomes real.
It's not lieing back in that day dads were men with kids, now dads are guys with kids. A lot of these dads fought in the war earned respect and came back to start a family. The work was harder back then less machines and no computer to aid in their work. They wanted to make a perfect world for their family by setting the ground rules. Now children are lucky enough to know their dads let a lone know enough to have a opinion about them.
At least fathers were there, tho--usually. Some did abuse wife/kids or run off.
And fathers had rules to follow to be considered a good dad. Spend time with the kids, talk to them, raise them up to be good neighbors and citizens.
Your children and their behavior and how they turned out, was a reflection on you as parents. Most tried hard to raise good kids with manners, who did well in school.
@@manu3733 if you dont feel like it you already have a trash relationship smh being fake isnt putting effort into anything but stress
“The idea of normal is kind of a vegetative state where nothing happens.”
Like life today. Nothing happens except in your stupid phone.
it is delusional to think that there isn't a lot of that now, maybe not in the same way, but conformity definitely exists in various subtle ways.
Elisabeth_D Just because some use their phones too much doesn’t mean there’s some correlation. Technology is not bad, and people are not somehow worse for using it.
Seems like my household when i lived with my siblings and parents
@@ElsjeD bitch nah
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After the deprivation of the Depression and WW2's posponement of domestic life, people were glad to have a decade of peace. My grandfather wasn't an authoritarian or discipinarian (my grandma was, but that's another story) but there was no room for time-wasting. You wore what your parents gave you, and parents didn't give their kids piles of money to spend.
Excuse me is no one going to talk about the “Former Hippie” line under the last woman’s name
Right! I was cracking up with that.
@Untrepid One You don't think, "Former Hippie" is a funny occupation? I'm sorry you didn't get joy from it like others did. I also don't understand if you are defending hippies or slamming them?
First thing I noticed was that her last name is "Rasberry". I mean, I GUESS that can be a legit last name? But I immediately thought of like, Strawberry Shortcake characters or something. :P
She looks like a troubled soul. Her letting it all hang out didn't help her none.
@@robinchesterfield42 There were no strawberry shortcake dolls until the 80's. They were for the children of the "hippies". My daughter got one.
love how being polite and having things in order is looked at as wrong by so many. congrats on the unruly world you created.
breaking the status quo was just not allowed back then, there's a difference between bring forced to conform and act neat and polite and being encouraged to act neat and polite
It's not looked upon as wrong to have things in order, it's looked upon as wrong to force your ideas on what "order" looks like onto other people. Nobody is being penalized for having organization, but at least now people have the option not to be.
Have no idea where you got that idea..I've never heard of a single person who says being polite and keeping things in order is " wrong".
Something about the 1950s that I don't like. It's the conformity and fear of being different. The 30s and 40s must have been so rough and traumatizing, that people became fearful of being different. I think people today act radical, but I don't think strict conformity is good either. The 80s seemed like a balanced decade.
Yeah for the '80s, it was fun too.
because lack of rules and conformity is working so well today? the parents of the 50s grew up in the great depression and two world wars. this kind of living was a dream come true for them. then in the 60s the next generation did a complete 180. you learn a lot when your starving. you try to make a better life for your kids. your kids rebel because they never had to live with it. then they make their own mistake. its been the story for every generation. and mine is really screwing up.
Conformity is the key to a harmonious and decent society. Look what happened to society when we decided we didn't need to please anyone but ourselves.
You don't know what the 1950s were really like unless you lived through them.
Sorry buddy, but I have to respectfully disagree with you!! It was a GREAT era to grow up in. This is propaganda, of the worst kind.
Imagine cleaning yourself up for dinner. When i come home i put on dirty comfy shorts and a t-shirt with holes in it
We always clean up for supper. Nobody wants to eat their food next to a dirty, smelly sweat hog covered in the grime of a work day. Most of these rules were about making others feel valued and respected if not loved. Only a broken down society like the one we currently have would think that being considerate to others is something laughable or shameful. I greet my husband at the door or even the back gate every evening. He works very hard to support our home and deserves a wife who looks nice and happy to see him, a home that's clean and comfortable, a hot supper on the table and willing help in making our future better. In return we are well provided for, loved, cherished and respected, protected from the ugliness and evil out in the world. Every single day when its time to be finished with the things that don't matter we have a place to go that is a good place to be. That's the point of these old vodeos. Everything is backwards now. These days its every person for themselves at any cost and it's only "me&you" until one of us changes our minds. All because common courtesy isn't hip. 😢 its actually really sad
@@stalstonestacy4316 Hmmm just not really my kind of lifestyle tho
Ew, you pig!
@@stalstonestacy4316 well said!
@@frigglebiscuit7484 my husband is a coal miner who comes home filthy every night from doing real work. Judgemental? Look in the mirror.
"Pick out the most popular people in school... Try to figure out why people like them.. not that you'll ever be like anyone of them 😁🤣 welp see you at dinner."
Lmao baby boomers are fucking dinks
That was a young Dick York from way before his Bewitched Days. Wow !
And later he goes to school and sees all the "most popular people" being all cocky and rowdy and calling each other hoes and sluts and stuff
10/10 parenting lmao
I think he meant like you can't exactly be like another person so if you want to conform, then be yourself while doing it
I’m 17 and I watch those educational videos all the time I’ve seen almost all of them showed in here.. I don’t see what’s wrong with them they are actually very helpful a lot of that good common sense and life skills don’t get taught anymore
Kissass lol
@@OpusTheLeftie sometimes I'll watch these old videos, and while some of the advice is outdated or poor advice in general, there are some bits and pieces that are still useful to Today's Youth™
You Have to be the most fun kid in school!!
@@momsspaghetti7888 Do these morals age or are they timeless?
@@firewizzard86 some are pretty timeless (budget time/money, treat others with respect, eat healthy, etc) but some aged like milk (wash hair twice/month, antiquated ways to introduce someone, the idea that jello/aspic belongs in food etc)
"these boys greet their dad AS THOUGH they are genuinely glad to see him" :D :D :D
omfg, dead xD
I believe that was Dick York at 4:25 ...who played Darrin on Bewitched.
i think that WAS him!
It is.
Dick York was in at least one more of these instructional videos. And why is someone complaining about a person commenting that they recognized an actor?
SunEagle Cherokee Why do you think it's worthless that someone made mention of an actor they'd noticed?
Yeah no, that is Dick York
So here are the rules:
1. Obey authority
2. Control your emotions
3. Fit in with the group
4. Don't even think about sex.
They were having sex left to right that's why its called baby boomer
4 isn't "Don't think about sex," it's CONTROL YOURSELF and don't do it "just because it feels good." Plenty of overindulgence in sugar "feels good" until you're fat and unhealthy if not dying from obesity. It's sad that some of those 50s kids didn't listen to the "Control yourself" message, they wouldn't have died to AIDS in the 80s and 90s.
@@Steve_305 No , husbands were returning from wwII.
And nearly all had children the next year!
Read your history!
@Féline-Odré Mercier if you are waiting for marriage you wont marry
a loose woman , and virgins don't really look for loose men.
Yes, the rules. That's how it was!!! It was really not a problem. We didnt learn bad words till TV, AND you knew not to say them. *Elaine *
This was the way I was raised and I have always kept the values my father taught me. I was lucky because we were allowed to be in moods. Dad would say go write it down and explain your feelings - then let it go. I don't drink.
The 50's were never as wonderful and carefree as conservatives claim and they weren't as formalistic and dreadful as the left claims. These videos are depicting an idealized view of life, which everyone knew accept apparently the former hippies that were interviewed. While the media likes to focus on hippies and antiwar protesters from the baby boomers, the reality is that on campus the best selling books were focused on the stock market and conservative politics. These matters are never as simplistic as the media claims.
@D&B yes, I can believe it. There are any number of women who would much rather stay at home with their children and care for them and their husband.
One thing that is glossed over in every film were the prolonged recession following the war. Lots of families that I talked to, especially farm families lagged far behind.
@@dlee3710 for manufacturing there was a 2ish year recession following the war followed by a boom caused by a return of a normalized economy coupled with American businesses rebuilding Europe and Asia as well as lack of competition from abroad due to the war. Farming in the 50s continued its transformation from small family farms to big agriculture firms. I have no doubt those families continued to hurt and it's one reason why rural people from the south, midwest and plains continued to move to cities in the 50's.
What do they read on campus nowadays? They all seem like loony tunes to me
The 50's were wonderful and carefree, but only for white men. Sucked for everyone else.
If my spouse was always putting on a mask and supressing their true feelings, I would hate it. I would want them to be emotionally open with me in a healthy way rather than pretend they're okay.
Sounds like you have been brainwashed, using words like "supressing their true feelings" and "emotionally open." You even think it is unhealthy. Have you ever wondered where you got those ideas from? I bet it isn't through your own experiences. It came from the bogus psycology crap they are feeding you these days.
@@EdgeOfEntropy17 You sound very negative and angry.
@@soulscanner66 No, just educated.
@@EdgeOfEntropy17 Nope. You are disparaging without offering rational discourse.
That's *not* the point of the original film, or at least, it should not be. It seems it was _specifically_ saying, *"Control* your emotions so you don't express your feelings in some violent way that angers who you're trying to talk with." Considering I've angered my Dad when I could have avoided it, suppressing the attitude of being a mad bull *would* have helped.
I grew up in the 1950's and remember it well, and was a teenager during the changes of the early 60's. I understand the comments that the 1950's were conventional and conformist but I really am at a loss to understand how the brutalistic hell of a society we live in now is somehow an enlightened improvement. It's different, yes, but it's certainly not better. The patronising commentary of this video, which sneers at the mores of the past, really annoys me.
Exactly so, Al Tudy. If you ignore the unhelpful rhetoric trying to persuade you in the video and actually listen to what the videos from the 1950s are saying, it becomes quite apparent that these are agreeable facets of society that help us function: don't make rash decisions, be courteous and loving even when you don't feel like it because the world doesn't revolve around you, balance social confidence with self-discipline, respect the sacrifices your parents make, don't be promiscuous. Maybe the way they presented it is outdated, but that's only through our retrospective lens. It is ridiculous how a handful of people who just had bad experiences with their families are trying to brand their entire era as antiquated and oppressive, and are documenting it as fact.
"Never think of sex, ever" is NOT what the video says. I'm saying that as an ex sexophobe whose parents were kids in the 50s. The video says don't jump in just because you think it feels good. That's solid advice. Similarly, Drug Casualties agree; "We are dead!"
Our society is in tatters. But at least we have spiritual freedom, something lacking in Uncle Sam's 1950s America.
Well I grew up in the Today's and everything you say about today is wrong. So what?
I was born in 1955. My parents gave us everything we needed including what we needed most, being Vietnam. Thanks
The Fifties, yes, easier but its own farce. Today? Not so easy but still it's own farce.
Darin rebelled by growing up and marrying a witch! SAMANTHA! 🙅♀️
I noticed him too!
Nahhh, I don't think he found out until after they were married, and even then he was totally worried about what everybody would think, so he didn't want her to use witchcraft! Can you imagine marrying somebody who could do magic and telling them not to because you were worried what the neighbors would think?!!!
He rebelled so much he tried to force her to be NORMAL 🙄
MissFit86 I know right!? What the heck was he thinking! 😂
@@gregusmc2868 Darrin was a hypocrite.
I wish their was some middle ground between the rules of the 50s and the wildness of the 60's. I think the 60's went to far in the other direction.
It all changed with JFKs assassination. The end of innocence. Then Vietnam, and battle lines were drawn. In a span of just a few years, we went from: Leave it to Beaver, to Beatles, to Woodstock, to Kent State. Amazing how quickly things changed. The hippie thing kind of fizzled out though, because, at some point, you've got to be sober and responsible enough to support yourself. So, I think that middle ground happened in the late 70s, more relaxed than the 50s, but back down to earth from the 60s (but I just HATED disco!) I just couldn't stand it.
@@mtntime1 I grew up in the 70's. There was a damned if you do and damned if you don't attitude in the suburb I lived in. Your skirt had to be the exact length dictated by fashion otherwise if it was just an inch shorter you were called a slut or tart and if it was an inch longer you were seen as a prude or square. You had to lie about your age to get into pubs but you weren't allowed to get drunk or even a bit tipsy.
I agree. Now me as a teenager it's weird that I have two parents. Its "weird" that I believe in values at all.
The narrator is subtly biased. There were rules but of course you could ask questions. You respected Authority but it was your job to ask questions if you thought the authority was not in the right. It was about personal responsibility. And Society was a lot better for each individual taking their own personal responsibility. Humans function better when assuming responsibility for themselves, rather than making excuses and accepting the role of the helpless and hapless victim. If something isn't right, then set about trying to make it better without blaming everyone else in the process. That is how you change the world and make it a better place.
Pamela G exactly right
I couldn’t agree with you more. The bias is evident. The people who made this documentary are cowards that harbor secret resentment towards a society that has given them peace, security and the opportunity to prosper.
Absolutely: lack of accountability is the biggest problem I see in society. The more I study the ills of this world, the more I understand this to be a reality.
*GOD BLESS*
*JESUS IS LORD*
I was raised with 1950s mentality, but in the 1970s and 80s. We were not allowed to ask questions. Parents imposed everything. Socializing with the opposite sex wasn't allowed.
@@jeancorriveau8686 That doesn't sound like the 1950's mentality. Just your parent's.
Rules are necessary to keep society from hurting themselves.
I agree!
I think we should, on occasion, allow society to hurt itself…NyQuil chicken for example…if your dumb enough to try it…maybe we should let you
@@drift318 Except nobody is actually doing that so-called "trend". You were successfully duped into giving attention to Tiktok clout chasers while the algorithm benefited them with millions of views and follows.
@@thundark3736 yeah, and nobody did the tide-pod challenge either...
@@thundark3736 I eat NyQuil chicken every Friday
" anger is a violent behavior"
??
No. Anger is an emotion. Emotion is not behaviors.
Anger is a valid, normal and often needed emotion. It is often a reaction to a wrong that has been done.
He said "anger is a violent emotion" not "violent behaviour"
I agree, weren't most of the guys sent off to Normandy pretty angry. Angry at Hitler and wanted to personally kill him, or angry at the government for getting them involved. Either way I can bet there was plenty of anger to go around. Hypocritical of the narrator and those who produced the video.
The point is to control your anger, yeah thats great that anger is a normal emotion but it also gets people killed, especially when we arent taught how to control our emotions and are instead taught to let it all out.
deee Thanks. Didn't catch that. it seemed to imply that anger was violence and bad.
Christopher Michaud Yep . I am starting to question the institution of armys being controlled and sent to war by one leader or by a government. Probably necessary but there is a whole lot of room for abuse, oppression and needles war and death when the leaders head is not on the line for his / her decision to send men off to kill and be killed
Say whatever you wants but the 1950s were a much better decade in so many ways and even though they were not perfect (and nothing will ever be) the people of the 50´s did raise their kids in a much better way, the raised kids without so many mental issues, stronger kids, with much more character and better priorities, the results are there for everybody to see for many years now.
were the 1950s better or 1900s?
I eat breakfast and dinner on the go, sometimes skip lunch, would love sit down with family.
do it!
I never grew up with it and felt it wasn't normal.
@@honkhonk8009I'm 47 your right . Most don't eat together .
Unthinking, uncritical conformity is not the right way. Nevertheless, the attitude of the late sixties -- "Let it all hang out," "If it feels good, do it," "Do your own thing," "Don't trust anyone over thirty," is worse. Those educational films, as hokey as they may seem today, were an attempt at teaching youth such virtues as good manners, positive attitudes, even tempers, respect for authority, and strong morals. I think that today's relativistic society has lost something.
tee jaymz so the 50's weren't 100 % great. There was unfair treatment of a large group of people and respect for authority only works if that authority respect you back. For a large group of Americas both whites and blacks and other minorities. This is why rebell happen in the 60's. The 60's did bring some good things but for the most part I think it was the democrats that really cause the downfall of our society with their destructive policy during this era.
I tend to agree. There has to be a balance between deadening 1950’s conformity and the far worse breakdown of civility that followed. I think that today we are going through a second 60’s-style rebellion. This time it involves anti-government, anti-media people. Gun nuts, people who reject wholesale whatever mainstream institutions have told them all their lives. Universities, intellectuals, statesmen, the Walter Conkrites - all that is under attack. We turn instead to Trump who lacks sensitivity, refinement, or intelligence. Brute force is the way to go. How long will this go on before there is yet another swing of the pendulum?
What you must understand is that the social norms of the 60s were the fruits of the seeds sown in the social idealism of the 50s. The 50s were hokey, and the divide between youth and adulthood was a bit more black and white. This may have come as a result of a sense of renewal after the war ended in thd mid-40s. It's like when you get a new car: at first, you take super extra-special care of it.
But in trying to retain a wholesome society, there is quite a bit of underlying pretense which the endeavor rests upon. Because, well, there really are no rules. Rules are arbitrary. And politically, the 50s in the US was full of the Red Scare, and this concoction on of political apprehension and paranoia paired with trying to keep the kids straightened out created sort of a mistrust between parents and children.
Elia Kazan explored this taboo in his film Rebel Without A Cause. Adolescents were, in general, being oppressed of their natural tendencies by the structuralized family lifestyle that everyone felt they needed to conform to. Maybe out of fear that if you were to cut against the grain of conformity you might appear as deplorable or even be suspected as a Commie.
But children tend to take a more honest approach to these superficialities. This is nothing new, as we see it in folklores such as the Emperor's New Clothes. And the flipside of politeness is honesty. So to be caught in a culture that presses onto its members a code of obnoxiously polite behavior, it causes a great tension of repressed honesty within the collective psyche. Next thing you know, you have rockabilly haircuts, images of Elvis Presley's hips swinging on television, and rebels with no apparent cause.
Cause people in their 30s are old creepy farts
@@herbertwoodersons2024 Says a T "man" just like the T's on screen telling natural kids how 2 behave when T's are the degenerate lot...
I was born 72 (gen X) to parents born in the Silent Generation. I was rather "rebellious" in their eyes. I was supposed to be silent. There was a feeling of "child are supposed to be seen, not heard". My parents had this "us vs. them mentality I thought was strange even as a kid. I didn't feel loved or wanted. Even asking why their were certain rules was "wrong". My parents took it as a challenge to their authority and forgot children could simply be curious. I was told "why can't I be normal" when I disobeyed. I spent hours a day in a make believe world where I was happy. But...
When I decided to do some research on Silent Generation, I discovered that my parents, who were born during WW2, who had parents who witnessed WW1. They were raised ( along with others of that generation) with a fear questioning authority. They were told to be silent. Just like in this video. It let me forgive them a bit.
starrystarrynight, it's great that you took the time to understand why your parents probably had their mindset.
@Mandi Hale To add to this, when we had relatives visit us in the 1950's my parents would send me to my bedroom and let my sister stay and visit. It took me awhile to figure they thought I was too inquizative.
starrystarrynight52 I am truly saddened at the Silent Generation. The fact that the kids grew up in the “Seen not heard” world really makes me down. They could not share their thoughts and had to follow the “Code” at the time. It makes me feel truly blessed that I am living in a time where my views are respected and I could truly state how I truly feel.
My parents told me:
Back then men would pull the chair out for a woman to sit down, open the door for her to walk in/out, and kids were disciplined.
As the son of a diplomat, I grew up in 5 different countries (in the US, Europe and Asia). When you move around like that as a kid (age 0-23), you realize that there seem to be JUST AS MANY unwritten rules today. For example, moving from the US to Sweden as a 16 year old, I was struck by the feeling of a thousand new rules, attitudes and beliefs I was "supposed" to have to be acceptable and these were often distinct from the US.
For example, by the time I moved to Sweden, my peer group in the US thought that cigarettes were "really bad" but smoking pot was "ok." In Sweden it was the exact opposite. Smoking cigarettes was "very cool" but smoking pot was "disgusting" and for "degenerates and losers." On the other hand, Swedish teens FERVENTLY believed that a "real man" drinks LOTS of alcohol, proving himself by drinking straight vodka until he throws up. Also, 'the rules' in Sweden is that leftists are "smart, good and moral" and anyone who is not a leftist is "racist, xenophobic, materialistic, shallow and stupid"
This video plays to my old soul. A lot of this advice is good and sorely missing from today.
Agree
How did you get the opposite message that this video was trying to send
@@aristrudel8017 You assume that I missed something. It might serve you better to understand that some people might simply disagree.
If advice like "women should appear attractive and presentable before dinner" or "avoid showing your emotions in public" is what you call advice that is "sorely missing from today" than yeah, you're wrong. Not only are you wrong but history shows you're wrong.
@@aristrudel8017 yes because emotions in the streets have been so helpful and productive today and cities tooooooootally aren't being burnt to the ground because of adult temper-tantrums. History. Gotcha.
"Nonconformity is fine, as long as we all do it together". Frank Burns
It seems like the fifties were a more decent time. Rules weren't created to spoil everyone's fun, but to set boundaries & keep people safe so that all could enjoy life. There was more respect in that time period than there is today.
Lucky for me, my mom (born 1930) had been raised with similar expectations to the 1950's, which she saw no good reason for. She was very certain about values but welcomed questions and tolerated rebellion, as long as we did it within a certain range. Dad let Mom set the rules for raising us, on most day-to-day issues. In the 60's, as a teen, I never bought into "if it feels good do it." Too many consequences. The kids who did drugs, etc. kept it hidden from the kids who didn't. I could see 2 groups of hippies in the country: political ones and flower children. Both used drugs (not that all hippies used drugs), but later hippies were all grouped together, which is like saying Jane Fonda and Janis Joplin were identical people. Or Vanilla Ice and Frank Kappa were identical. Or the Monkees and the Rolling Stones. A lot of the 1960s were about having a conscience or not.
“Woke”, or the original meaning. You are basically saying the 60s is when people became woke.
I remember back in the 50’s we would get a complete freshly cooked meal with desert and milk for twenty cents. Yes that only two dimes and if we wanted a extra milk that was two cents more . Milk back in those days came in small glass bottles. No card board cartons were available then at my school..
I grew up in the 70's and we were required to go out for at least one sport, learn an musical instrument, attend 4-H, take swimming lessons, attend vacation bible school, attend church school, help farm (to learn how to work, which is good). But, one time my father caught my brother and I with a Playboy, he took it from us, looked at the centerfold and said, "Don't let your mother find out." It was an odd time. I do miss them dearly.
When people cast off all restraints they become enslaved by their own desires. When people have self disciple there is much more freedom to explore that which truly matters.
Only thing is the only that truly matters is your own desires. The rest is a load of bull.
@@drpsionic to each his own opinions, however, Socrates would highly disagree. Since the time of the Epicureans Hedonism has always been attacked throughout history as an ill means of living a good life. It can further be argued that hedonism will lead to nihilism to which the implications will be devastating if followed to their conclusions in a few generations.
Needs to be a balance, either way too much is a disaster.
@@drpsionic That's not _entirely_ true. I'm sure there have been pedophiles who were tempted to rape a kid, *but* they actually refused to do it, because they know it's terrible. Self discipline has its merits, and do you hear of the ones who didn't do it at all, then got away to no longer be that way?
Did anyone else notice the boy at about 4 minutes into this? He is Dick York, first husband in the Bewitched series.
....and GAY as a Billiard Ball!!
thaddeus buttmunch: Wrong. Dick Sargent, the second Darrin, was gay.
Yes I noticed that. I saw the side of his face and thought that looked like him, then I saw him dead on.
In the '50s, there were too many rules. In the late '60s, with the rise of the hippie movement, there were really no rules, anything went. As I see it, what we need today is a middle ground. But I think the country never recovered from the tumultuous events of '68, '69, '70.
You can’t deny something has been stolen from us and destroyed
Rules and restraint were substituted by anarchy and confusion.
Ikr, North America was a pristine country until the European ppl showed up, now look at it!
@@Fyyt look at how much was built in 400 years compared to the civilizations prior
@@tassosplatis2143 I stand by my first comment!
It was. It really was.
I think, what many people seem overlook about the life of women in the 1950s, is that they were never really allowed to relax & unwind in their own homes, like their husbands got to do after work.
What I mean is that, women were constantly expected to do all the cooking, housekeeping, childcare, & on top of that, were *also* expected to fetch & carry anything for their husbands (drinks, food, etc), be ready to "please" him whenever he was in the mood (god forbid if she said no to him in those days), & make herself look pretty for when he got home.
Every day!
Having to be constantly mentally switched on all of the time, every day, for years, sounds absolutely EXHAUSTING!
No wonder so many women at the time were hooked on stimulants. Anyone in that position would be mentally drained by that point. No human being is capable of sustaining that without going crazy.
And I would know because I work in Social Care. Even though I have the luxury of clocking in, clocking out, & being paid for what I do, something that was not afforded to 50s housewives, the shifts I work can *still* be mentally draining sometimes. I have to have days off in between any long shifts. Otherwise, I burn out.
To think women in the 50s had to live like this, & be happy about it, or at least pretend to be, honestly sounds like a living nightmare.
Wow. Basically put on a mask, Don't be different, put on a smile even if you're not actually happy, always be positive.
Yep it was pure propaganda, almost Nazi like.
@Max Powers I'm not saying you should do that but you should at least be allowed to show signs that you're not feeling well.
@Max Powers not true it still is. He wants to know how to fit in society because he doesn't want to be judged by society's norms. That's another problem with his era. All just fake fake fake
Same shit today
Max Powers read Kinsey’s work. People were miserable and lied about who they were. Sounds horrible and repressive, and in fact it’s what North Korea does today.
I adore these vintage videos. I watch them frequently and share them with my kids. I think a balance between understand how to behave properly and growing as an individual is a great way to grow up well.
Im happy I grew up in the 80s and a teen in the 90s.
Same here, the best.
I'm ten years above you born in '90 and I definitely wish my teen years were in the 90's. I'm still pretty happy all things considered, things didn't really start getting crappy till smartphones hit
@@cflo1386 I think so. We got to experience some great things. Grunge music and alternative music breakthroughs. No cell phones in high school.
@@aschraub9897 u saying crappy smartphones but u probley on one right now😂
@@22lilacsky And if you did have a cell phone you were super badass and it was a big ole clunky thing. Got my info from Saved by the Bell. No one in my school had one. Broome High school Class of 1992 rules!
With all the problems we have today, I'm infinitely grateful I didn't grow up in this era. The ethics in psychology were practically nonexistent. I would have been lobotomized.
I get where the videos were cheesy and a bit ridiculous, but there were reasons for a lot of the "rules". Some of them had some useful advice.
I like the way you said "some" of them had useful advice. I think that is logical.
Yes, boys should never tell Father they are coming out in that 5 minutes before dinner.
Rebelling against authority is quintessentially American
Mind trap: With respect it’s not just American, it’s the characteristic of those who think things through everywhere - providing they live in a culture that allows them to do this, and have the resources to implement it.
If u live in country without welfare & have no external resources to draw on (ie an allowance from your parents etc.) u work 24/7 just to get enough money to survive - u have no time, money or energy left over to protest.
As someone in authority I once knew said “The proof of success of a democracy is when citizens have the time, money, energy and freedom to protest against it if they choose to - & know they’ll likely live through the experience”
I agree.
Just to be clear I do not advocate violent protest.
As a women with a mind, heart, career and views of my own I’m glad I don’t live in the 1950’s. I don’t desire or need to be financially dependent on a man, or to be considered a second class citizen just because I happen to have been born female.
Mind Trap, no. Rebelling against unjust authority is. The children of the 60s were unamerican.
No. You have authority confused with tyranny; they are not synonymous.
@@carsonianthegreat4672 but arent those the same people who are uber conservative today?
vianjelos no
You call it rules. I call it moral compass.
I call it security. My family didn't go in for this blind conformity bit, but there were rules of conduct and certain expectations. We moved from place to place quite often, and at least this provided some degree of stability and identification in all that. So many kids now look so lost; no wonder they seem to live in a world defined by their electronic devices.
@Ari GSD That's not the point but thanks for bringing up the detail, no sarcasm intended.
There’s nothing moral about stepford
What you call a moral compass, I call an abandonment of morality. Listen to beatnik poetry, and you'll hear what this immorality did to people.
I call it oppressive
It is true that children of the 50's were "seen and not heard," for the most part. Communication from parents consisted of orders. "Clean up your room. Wash your hands. Get dressed. Do your homework." At least in my life, there was never a "talk" with mom or dad about sex, popularity, bullying, feelings, etc. Parents did not seem comfortable with it, and brushed it aside with some unhelpful remark. "You shouldn't even be thinking about this. You should be focusing on your school work." The most frequent thing I remember hearing was, "Go outside and play."
America was hardly alone in this. If anything, we probably still had fewer rules than most countries.
Nope we in the netherlands where fine
I had dinner every night with my family in the 70-90s
Video shows 'rules' about people considering the other people in their family.
Narrator: The rule was "obey authority"
Some of the kindest, accepting, moral, temperate, wisest people I’ve ever met are from this era.
Most of them call me slurs
@@cranberryjuice1589 That is terrible my friend, sorry to hear. How do you respond?
@@Lazdinger just with awkward smiles…I’m not brave enough to confront people 😅😅
@@Abby_Doodles I don't know why exactly, but your comment genuinely, unironically made me chuckle, my friend. I can only imagine what dealings you must've had with 'boomers' and 'zoomers' to come to such a conclusion and though I couldn't, with confidence, say the same about any generation, I could probably understand, to some extent. I guess it kind of depends on context and culture.
In my bubble, where I'm from, I've had awesome and not-so-awesome interactions with people of all generations. Thankfully, regarding 'boomers', the majority of my interactions have been pleasant to awesome, in my experience. There have been times when even some potentially nasty interactions, have turned out quite... nice.
I've found with boomers in general - at least where I'm from - a bit of graciousness goes quite a long way but I presume that's true of any generation/individual, really.
How do you respond to less-than-pleasant 'boomers' and zoomers?
Well look how good it did us turning 180 on all these rules.
@Chad Tyrone ok doomer
@Chad Tyrone ok, but in the future when you're old and sickly, whose going to care for you? whose going to remind you of all the good times you've had together? commitment can be scary, but sometimes it's better to take the risk, especially if you care for that person
@Chad Tyrone Your goal in life is to reproduce and have children and then raise those children to be respectful, law-abiding citizens who will then go on to reproduce and do the whole thing all over again. If you're White/European descended, this is especially true, as those birth rates are dropping quickly and that is not good.
MGTOW and Feminism are different faces of the same coin. They're both fucking retarded.
Rules are boundaries put in place to keep people from getting hurt - not to keep you from having fun.
Especially the last one, could litteraly ruin your life to have a kid outside of marriage back then. Waiting a few more years isn't going to hurt
Anyone I ever met that grew up or lived during the 1950s always went on & on about how great life was then.
I was born in 64 and came of age in the 80s , compared to today it was heaven but at the time we knew the country declined on every level compared to the 50s
what a beautiful world before feminists and liberals destroyed it.
If more kids were taught to obey, respect authority, and control their emotions, there would be fewer behavior issues in the classroom, including school shootings and bullying. If parents gave kids serious consequences for actions, instead of pampering them and making accuses for their actions.
Private Citizen I do agree that the U.S did have a good discipline system at the time and I loved how kids really did respect their parents. The problem was that almost everyone had to follow a certain “Code”. You had to do what society wanted you to do, and you usually could not follow your dreams to do what your heart truly desired. Add on the racism and homophobia at the time and it was not a good time to live in. While kids still need to respect their parents nowadays, I am truly grateful to be living in a time where my dreams are encouraged and where others who are of different skin (as well as homosexuals) are accepted. This is not a hate comment on you though. I’m just sharing my perspective. I respect your opinion.
In the West if someone even tries to teach children how to do that then the media or other people or the left would think you’ve gone mad or mental or your evil
If more kids were taught to obey, respect authority, and control their emotions, they would live a dull life, hating every single second they are living, leading them to self killing or (haha!) school shootings and bullying. Explaining consequences of actions to children is essential to their ability to understand the surroundings and the world. But instructing them to obey rules just gives them the way to behave without explaining anything. It's like believing in science and a god. I believe in science (hopefully this explains my pov)
You definitely know nothing about psychiatry
I agree 💯 the Bible book of Proverbs c 22 v 6 Train up a boy Girl In the way he she should go even when he grows old it will not depart from him peace to you Eileen