Voted "Broker With The Fastest Withdrawal 2023", Octa is the literally the fastest place to trade. Download the Octa Trading app at bit.ly/Octa_TheDailyKetchup, and use our promo code “KETCHUP100” to get a 100% deposit bonus!
Something I that has made it much easier to let go of small things (relatively) that irk me instead of “tolerating” is understanding that traits that I appreciate of my partner are the same reasons for my perception of their shortcomings. E.g. My partner tends to be a more chill type of person. So, when we are rushing for time, he doesn’t have the same ugency as I do in getting out of the house. While that frustrated me for a while, I realised this calm nature is the same reasons he is able to be so even tempered and calm when I am stressed or emotional, which I appreciate greatly. In the same way, I too have traits that are advantageous in some situations and a challenge in others. Thus, instead of thinking he should change this aspect, I was better able to appreciate and accept this as a part of him and if I want him to continue to be so calm and patient with me, I too have to accept this other side. Hence, instead I focus on working on a way together that supports both of our priorities, personalities, values, etc. E.g. Now, we plan better to ensure we ensure we havr sufficient time when we are leaving together.
Gosh, Denise is too logical yet finds the most unconventional yet perfect solution facing every situation! That "God will pray for you" answer is just chef's kiss!
If you trust the other person and they have the best intentions for you - then you won't have so many issues. It all comes down to how much you trust the person. Been married 20+ years.
For number 3 i agree that serious talks or fights should mostly be done in person not even on the phone unless overseas or whatever but i also see the point of having to write it down to fully flush out your thoughts and in a calm manner and i prefer that but i think it should just be written down but said in person
Totally for denise's way in managing conflict. I tink i often was working on that direction. Becuz we dont stay tgt, we could still summarise our feelings n emotions with realisations n reasoning through text. I absolutely hate f2f confrontation. The right words just comes to my head too late. Totally agree that through text we could try to cover more grounds. That could help in a better prevention i guess. Not settle through text 100% but at least voice out 100% through text. No attacking but reasoning. Then settle f2f on things that its not settled within text. To jon, it very impt to try to uds ur partner's feelings. Pls dont take it for granting feelings will be gone overtime or healed overtime. U have to uds to avoid it from happening again or it will be a tiring cycle. #3 prob i guess the solution would be for one person to tahan n be the better person to balance it out. Its like when one is very angry and u r not that angry. The not that angry one can tahan abit out of love n try to rebalance. If its not controlled well not angry also become very angry then it will be 2 lions trying to talk which wont work. Love is the key. About flirting i guess it does not have to be sexting. It could teasing yet could be taken as compliment. Like ur partner can say wah his actor build is such a specimen. U can be but u r hotter to me. Hahaha😅 sexting could include playing w stickers tok these days. There r a few playful stickers actually. 😂
For almost all couples out there, #3 is harder than scaling Mt. Everest as a non-climber. Nowadays, men always seem to be "emotionally unavailable" and women always seem to be "hysterical". My take is that, if your partner is the type to avoid serious conversations, take that red flag for what it is.
i came on to utube to listen to a podcast, but cant help realising that the beginning of your podcast these days is so dramatised like a trailer of a movie...why? why overdo it with the music
![[ENG] MBL Regular Season 2024 | G9 | Ns Matrix Deers vs Johor Southern Tigers](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/Ln7N52dbcqs/mqdefault.jpg)
![[ENG] MBL Regular Season 2024 | G9 | Ns Matrix Deers vs Johor Southern Tigers](/img/tr.png)
Voted "Broker With The Fastest Withdrawal 2023", Octa is the literally the fastest place to trade. Download the Octa Trading app at bit.ly/Octa_TheDailyKetchup, and use our promo code “KETCHUP100” to get a 100% deposit bonus!
Something I that has made it much easier to let go of small things (relatively) that irk me instead of “tolerating” is understanding that traits that I appreciate of my partner are the same reasons for my perception of their shortcomings. E.g. My partner tends to be a more chill type of person. So, when we are rushing for time, he doesn’t have the same ugency as I do in getting out of the house. While that frustrated me for a while, I realised this calm nature is the same reasons he is able to be so even tempered and calm when I am stressed or emotional, which I appreciate greatly. In the same way, I too have traits that are advantageous in some situations and a challenge in others. Thus, instead of thinking he should change this aspect, I was better able to appreciate and accept this as a part of him and if I want him to continue to be so calm and patient with me, I too have to accept this other side. Hence, instead I focus on working on a way together that supports both of our priorities, personalities, values, etc. E.g. Now, we plan better to ensure we ensure we havr sufficient time when we are leaving together.
EP300 ya’ll 🎉🎉
Gosh, Denise is too logical yet finds the most unconventional yet perfect solution facing every situation!
That "God will pray for you" answer is just chef's kiss!
If you trust the other person and they have the best intentions for you - then you won't have so many issues. It all comes down to how much you trust the person. Been married 20+ years.
CONGRATSSS ON 300 EPS🎉🎉🗣🗣
"me and my partner" = John's head starts ringing
Rewatching this episode. It's becomes refreshing once again. Great episode to rewatch n learn. Something that can revisit over and over again
Finally all hosts together in the same episode for a long time?
man JP, good job. you're nailing it.
wah yall should do more 50+ mins videos, really enjoyed it.
Always enjoy your podcast. Each of u has your perspective n very wisely said
enjoyed this ep!! can really relate to some of the things yall mentioned and thats v interesting to me
Love this episode! Part II please!
For number 3 i agree that serious talks or fights should mostly be done in person not even on the phone unless overseas or whatever but i also see the point of having to write it down to fully flush out your thoughts and in a calm manner and i prefer that but i think it should just be written down but said in person
Totally for denise's way in managing conflict. I tink i often was working on that direction. Becuz we dont stay tgt, we could still summarise our feelings n emotions with realisations n reasoning through text. I absolutely hate f2f confrontation. The right words just comes to my head too late. Totally agree that through text we could try to cover more grounds. That could help in a better prevention i guess. Not settle through text 100% but at least voice out 100% through text. No attacking but reasoning. Then settle f2f on things that its not settled within text.
To jon, it very impt to try to uds ur partner's feelings. Pls dont take it for granting feelings will be gone overtime or healed overtime. U have to uds to avoid it from happening again or it will be a tiring cycle.
#3 prob i guess the solution would be for one person to tahan n be the better person to balance it out. Its like when one is very angry and u r not that angry. The not that angry one can tahan abit out of love n try to rebalance. If its not controlled well not angry also become very angry then it will be 2 lions trying to talk which wont work. Love is the key.
About flirting i guess it does not have to be sexting. It could teasing yet could be taken as compliment. Like ur partner can say wah his actor build is such a specimen. U can be but u r hotter to me. Hahaha😅 sexting could include playing w stickers tok these days. There r a few playful stickers actually. 😂
oh my goodness i also 100% feel like you should do it over text first and then AAR after!!! I thought I was aloneeeeee
For almost all couples out there, #3 is harder than scaling Mt. Everest as a non-climber. Nowadays, men always seem to be "emotionally unavailable" and women always seem to be "hysterical".
My take is that, if your partner is the type to avoid serious conversations, take that red flag for what it is.
Once you start typing, whatever you are trying to bring about in the multi-dimensional spectrum is only reduced to zeros and ones. Just like now...
Number 1 step to all these; find out your partner's conflict type, confrontational or avoidant.
whats the other 2 rules?
Johnathan gonna try some lines with pat ... ... HAHAHA
Lol @ John’s crisis😂
This is the best episode
THIS IS SPARTA !!~
Me: Sydney Sweeney is so hot her body is always bodying
My bf: but she's not that pretty actually
END OF STORY 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Oh why isn’t bullying included in one of the rules? lol….
"non confrontational" is just an excuse imo
😬first time, the first viewer
Algooooooooooooooooooooo
👌✊✊🎉
i came on to utube to listen to a podcast, but cant help realising that the beginning of your podcast these days is so dramatised like a trailer of a movie...why? why overdo it with the music