There's nothing to feel bad about, they're not privileging anyone, they're just not doing all the whims of the youngest, which is a great thing You're just dramatic, judgmental and terrible at common sense
yes this happen because the parents are the eldest children therefore they pay more attention to hajun because they are not noticed by their parents. so they think the first child gets less attention then they pay more attention to hajun. but they are wrong because they don't divide their attention equally. even though harin is the last child, but he feels what his parents felt when they were the eldest child, which was getting less attention
Exactly, and ,when Harin said everything he wear or use all from past down from his brother,he just small boy but know/think how said like that ,can tell how upset he is,really hope his parents buy new item for him even small thing kid always very happy .
I am a older sister, but I understand what Harin feels. My parents taught me to always look out for my younger sister. They taught me that siblings should have each other’s back. Our parents make sure we were treated equally.
Same here. I can feel the pain of Harin. But my parents treated me well when my elder sis didnt. But in Harin's case his parents are not reacting at the right time. If this continued will not be good time for long run.
@@modernbookpublication yes this happen because the parents are the eldest children therefore they pay more attention to hajun because they are not noticed by their parents. so they think the first child gets less attention then they pay more attention to hajun. but they are wrong because they don't divide their attention equally. even though harin is the last child, but he feels what his parents felt when they were the eldest child, which was getting less attention
I feel so sad for Harin 😢 They should’ve not compared him to his brother and should’ve atleast made him feel included like allowing him to atleast help in some other ways. The commentators and me are also the youngest siblings and we relate too much 🥹 I feel so bad that when Harin grows up, he will feel left out and will hate his brother so much
@@dookidoo nah he actually isn't spoiled but wants attention i know how exactly he feels as i too have an older brother and both my parents are eldest child in their respective families
Okay I felt so agitated watching this clip. Like dude come on 🤌 I like how Harin is vocal about his emotions at this young age and knows how he should be treated. The parents are too ignorant of their youngest child and they sure need some suggestions. This will ruin the bond between the brothers.
Nazia I felt exactly the same. I really don’t understand how both parents can’t see that they are undermining Harin. When he was in the corner on the floor wiping his tears after they said he couldn’t help to wash the dishes was pretty heartbreaking & the dad laughing when he witnessed this was incomprehensible to me. I found it cruel. He’s a great kid love how vocal & strong willed he is. My one hope is that when the parents watch this back or even have some of these comments relayed to them they realise that they are doing a huge disservice to their second son. It’s ridiculous that they kept comparing the two boys as not only are they two very different kids but there is a significant age difference too.
Yeees exactly! Listening and hearing are diffirent from understanding. To think that at a young age, Harin can communicate and express his feelings well is amazing. I hope after seeing their behaviors and treatment towards Harin in this episode will help them reflect on things that would better them as a family. 🥺 wishing them well💙🫂
I kindda feel like it's like mnet scripting. I mean if they just did everything perfectly then it wouldn't be fun to watch and no commentators getting all upset in the background lol,...
As an older sibling, I resonate with the eldest when it comes to the younger sibling not understanding boundaries (the games). It's my belongings. I don't have to share everything I have when *you* want them.
And to think he only told Harin to stop playing, then Harin grabbed his brother by the neck then proceeded to tell his parents. Manners should have been instilled initially in the first place.
This is wrong in so many ways. I felt what Harin felt as the youngest. I'm the youngest in my family & well an adult now but I'm reminded of my past. The words & actions they used on a young child can hurt and scar him for his entire life. And not knowing why he sulks when they're the ones not acknowledging his emotions & feelings is so wrong. I hope the parents realise that each child is different, and needs different kinds of attention & love.
This family is so good at communicating. I saw the following video and the way the parents get the youngest to articulate his grievances and recognize how they hurt him is so beautiful.
I'm also the first child but I understand how harin feels upset , He wants to be noticed too, even when playing he should be given the opportunity to do what he wants. And also his parents have to share their love equally so that no one feels he is being neglected.
Younger siblings who get neglected at a young age tend to keep these moments as core memories that keep affecting their relationship and judgement with their older relatives even during adulthood. I think it's critical that someone corrects the parents soon or things will only get worse.
I feel bad for Harin instead of comforting him ..his father laugh at him ... during basketball game they left him out.... They can play basketball altogether thou like brothers vs father.
as a youngest that getting nitpicked and bullied by my whole family, i grew up getting scarred and never opened up to anyone. i purposely went to boarding school and enrolled in a university far from my hometown. and now im more closed to my friends and their families than my own. something that seems small can traumatize a child.
‘Why must i get everything handed down to me’ oh it hits different💔💔i’m also second eldest and my parents and my sister don’t get it and thinks that i always sulk and blamed me 😭😭😭i relate it so much😭😭how can they say its natural we the younger ones are also they’re child not only the first child😭😭😭
Why can't Harin help mom wash the dishes? They can wash it together and interact more by doing that. To be honest I was really happy to see him wanting that even though it looked like he was just following his brother. But their reaction was bad. Also when playing basketball, why didn't dad give Harin a chance to play? he can't even touch the ball. Then about the bicycle, at first I thought it was a surprise gift for Harin.. but it wasn't.. even though I thought Harin could try using a new bicycle, the size was enough for Harin, not big. I didn't understand when dad said he gave love to Harin and let him do what he wanted. Is this really happening or just for show??
Even I , a middle child, felt bad for Harin. As a parent, you cannot just tell your kid, be it the youngest or not, thing like, "you cannot," "you are just," and things comparing him/her to his/her siblings. It really is bad. You might be talking to a kid, but (s)he can definitely understand and will remember it as (s)he grow up.
This might seem like a trivial matter but if they don't solve it now it will have a big effect on harin , actually those are the most painful memories ,just seeing this made me cry .
My father is the youngest from his family, he can really understand my younger sister and my mother was the oldest and she really under stands my older sister. Being stuck in the middle of three I know his pain and I now can understand being an older sibling and being a younger sibling. I will raise my future kids with much balance ❤
The parents need to stop emphasizing on he is the first born! They should be treated equally and give the little one more attention too. This kind of little things create stuff in kid’s minds. I’m a middle child and it makes me so happy when my younger siblings are happy and even if they get little more attention, I can understand as the older one but neglecting younger ones ain’t nice. Infact neglecting anyone isn’t cool cus we’re all human at the end of the day and have feelings wether younger or older!
i can just feel harin's pain. like he barely gets to do what he wants. for the games, i can understand but the basketball and bike ones, no, that is not fair on harin. the parents should include both their kids, give attention to both. the clothes, i can undertstand as well but buy harin some as well so he's not just getting hand me downs .
poor little brother,the father should carry him up to shoot the basketball to net at least once time or make team offer the the ball to one another at least everyone have chance play .really hope next time no seeing parents compare their kids to another sibling or other kids.
I understand Harin so much bc I’m a middle child (well technically no but yes at the same time bc I’m the second youngest, I have 3 other sisters) and I’m treated like one. In my case I can never open up about how I feel bc I once did and my mom said “why are u always so difficult, well let u use/get something later.” And that really hurt me. And I reason with the wanting new things too bc I ALWAYS get hammy downs, like the phone I’m using, it’s my second oldest sisters old phone. Most of my clothes are also hammy downs. But on my sisters side (even my youngest sister) they get anything they want, and my mom always buys them new things, without me. And when I ask her “can you buy me something too?” She says “oh I don’t have anymore money sorry sweetie” and I can never say anything bc then she would say “why are u like this, I don’t have money can you try to understand for once?” Etc Harins parents don’t know how much it can affect a kid. I’m only 14, so imagine how Harin would feel in a few years too..
I couldn’t help but laugh when they cut to the baby bike. How is he possibly supposed to ride that toddler bike?!😂 Maybe if he had a bike his size he’d ride it more. As a younger sibling I’ve had my fair share of hand me down’s and even as a 21-year-old I find myself scavenging through my older sisters stuff. I think the real issue is that for whatever reason he doesn’t feel like he’s being equally rewarded. I think if they aren’t willing to spend money on something new for him then they should put a little more effort into making each item feel more meaningful.
You shouldn’t give him free reign of what he wants. Let him handle a bit of responsibility. He can be the one in charge of setting the placemats for meals, or something similar that will be easy but still important to do. And not everything needs to be brand new, but it’s nice to have some things that are just your own. Like buying him a pair of socks with a cartoon that he likes. Or getting him a cool helmet that he can wear when he’s riding a bike.
I'm an older sister and I've always been giving my younger sis my stuff, both old and new, and she's always loved them - though I can completely understand Harin. First world problems but I do think there are always pros and cons of being older/younger 😅
At first I thought they were joking. This is definitely a serious issue if one of your children is crying and you sit and laugh and say you don’t understand the problem. Why don’t you sit and TRY to understand? No two kids are the same, you can’t treat them the same and expect the same result. One might need more care and attention or even an entire different parenting style.
This is how parents raises...sourpuss kids,serial killers,sad kids....when u have kids...try to be nice to both.... don't compare.. comparing is a diseases...
I used to whine about how o don't want things passed down to me as well.. I understand harin's frustration. I'm glad he is able to talk about it and get mad at his family for not paying attention. I love this . I hope he doesn't feel bitter about his sibling(s) in the future inshallah!
Toxic parenting. If you can't handle two child equally why decide to have another kids ? Just give birth to one person. It may seems funny to them, but this surely gonna effect his mental growth, there's a diff between teaching your child not to become a spoil brat and favouring one child. In this case, its favouring one child alone. Parents need to teach, explain and corrected child's mistake or misbehaviour not told them off every single time. Don't blame the kid when he start growing hatred or distancing himself from the family.
After seeing comments ....to those who are saying things about uneven treatment gyus...watch the next vedio u will get how hard they tried to make harin happy...it's good he expresses what he has in his mind and parents tried to make up for it...this family is so loving and good at communicating ...i literally cried when wen father appear in aquarium[in next vedio]...
I feel bad for Harin. I'm an only child so I don't know how to be treated differently or equally with siblings. But many of my friends talk about their stories in their households. Whether they're the oldests or the youngests or the middle children, there's always this favouring thing I can feel in their stories. After hearing those and watching this kind of videos, I feel happy that I'm the only child because all my parents love, favoritism or literally everything goes to me. But at the same time, I feel very devastated that I don't have siblings. Can't help but feel envy and also happy at the same time whenever I see siblings together. Idk lmao. I have mixed feelings towards this sibling thing as an only child. And in this case, judging only by this video, I can't help but feel sad for Harin. Like the other comments said, this kind of things can affect this child's mental health and also the brothers' relationship. The younger boy will always be feeling left out and not worth of himself if this continues! Even an only child like me can feel his sadness but their parents can't?? Why favour only one child and leaving the other one like he's not capable of anything. Him being younger doesn't excuse parents behavior. He must be young. But you can include him in many things. You guys took him to play basketball but didn't let him play. I know children can't do what adults do. But the parents could have let him play 🥺 This is real life and real people. Parents should treat their children equally!
Getting used items from our elder sibling is just so relatable to me. Though I am a girl I wear ,I use my brother's clothes,items etc . BTW I love wearing boys clothes since they are oversized for me but I hate using my brother's items
Que horrible es cuando los padres siguen prestándole atención a solo uno de sus hijos y al otro dejándole completamente de lado. Esta bien que hagan actividades que le diviertan al mayor y que lo integren, pero no hay porque ignorar al pequeño, talvez el no puedo hacer lo que hace el mayor, ya que aún es muy pequeño, pero sino puede hacer una actividad no hay razón para llevarlo solo a ver y que no pueda hacer nada más que ver, solo se sentirá desintegrado y que no forma parte.
My older brother and I are six years apart. We share our toys whether it be a barbie doll or a voltes 5 robot. We watch anime together. We had fun playing by ourselves. I'm so lucky to have a brother who loves me a lot.
Many a times, when there is a big age difference between siblings, there is either overpampering of the younger child or neglect of understanding as all are grown up except him.
As the youngest of 5 I feel for Harin on the hand me downs but I understand where the parents are coming from. It's expensive raising children and the bike for Hajun they didn't even buy, sounds like they got it from someone else. So I feel bad for Harin but at the same time I do feel like he's slightly bratty at times. In this situation I think everyone has their faults at certain times.
As third pov, we can see how different the parents treat the first born and the youngest and the parents dont even realize it...well it reality when they said give same treatment to all their children but it was opposite
Ow ow ... dear Harin parents, please just give him a new something to boost his vigour, give him some new clothes as well, it's ok not to always give him new one(s), once you give him new in(s), you both will see to he changes in his vibes, the clearly only wants to be recognised to be more involved & included in, as if when you do the dishes, give him small part too, let him put the clean dishes to the drying rack, or let him wipe the plates or glasses.
As a younger sibling to parents who are older siblings I totally get the lil guy! They don’t understand what they’re doing and how it hurts your feelings. Hopefully the parents realize their baby needs a little more attention lol kids can be very dramatic at this age but sometimes it’s okay to indulge them, you gotta find the middle ground to love and support both kids. Telling him his older brother is more mature and that he should listen to him more is great, he needs to learn that respect BUT dishes? Basketball? They could’ve let him stand on a step stool and help dry the dishes under mom’s watch and das could’ve let him make at least one basket or offer up at least one “우아~ 하린 농구 잘해!” Or something lmao
You know what? When the time is come is when you being apart with your siblings that when you feel how lonely you're without someone is messing and fighting with you
On Harin's case, his parent can't relate his feelings because they were born as first child, 😂in my family,none of them feels me better cause they were born as the younger ones,that's why they end up on my little sister side👍😂
nowdays, kid can get early mental sickness. children cant control their own emotion and psychology, the pain if too overwhelming can be a trauma. parents should never take this matter so easily. children deserve to be love at the same rate. no matter how old are they
They should focus on both the child it's not how u treat ur child later he will hate them a grudge will always be there in his heart and those wounds will never heal .ik it's just a show but how the parents are ignoring harin and being careless is so hurtful to watch
Pobre nene, es raro para mí ver el trato por lo general le dan más atención al hijo más pequeño que al mayor. Pero el padre lo excluye en todo no lo deja participar en nada pobrecito.
Parenting sucks in this household.. Harin's parents words and actions are like sharp knives for a kid who's starting cognitive and emotional development.. People even Harin's family are saying he is bratty are horrible.. Come on! He is at the age of development, clearly he needs attention.. The more he's being ignored the more he find ways to ask for attention.. Also, comparing him to his brother will only leave a huge scar as he grows up.. Harin's parents should think about his concerns before it's too late.. Still thinking of having another child is ridiculous.. They can't even handle two..
And then parents tell the younger children that they love them all equally I feel really sad about that and they don't even think they separate us She's always their favorite and I'm always the bad guy for my mental health it became bad because of this and got angry quickly and in the end they forget everything they did and remember my anger and my complaining and my jealousy why would I change if it was treated equally
The father says they let Harin do whatever he wants but from the actions in this video it’s very clear that’s not the case at all. Harin wants to help with the dishes yet his parents tell him off and say he would just be in the way. Harin wants to play basketball but his father tells him he should just be ref instead. How is that letting your kid do what the kids want. It’s very clear Harin wants to be included in activities too just like his older brother, but his family clearly don’t want to adapt to Harin’s level because it’s to much of a nuisance for them. His parents could have easily let Harin do another chore or maybe even let him do the dishes with his brother so that he could learn to work together with his brother as well as feel included. I find the father especially childish, laughing so openly because your child is upset. I know that from an adults point of view it’s sometimes funny to see your kid get upset about something that seems so trivial to you, but understand that from the child’s perspective this isn’t something trivial at all. Mocking their feelings so openly is really upsetting. The parents exclude him from activities because he’s not on the same level as his brother and they don’t want to adapt to his level and then they wonder why he’s upset. I really hope that this is just a one time thing or that the parents improve their parenting skills. Otherwise i wouldn’t be surprised if Harin one day just gives up and stops trying to be included in family activities.
i think they are being biassed i know that older people loves to play with people they know that was like in their level or can somehow rich their capacity of doing something but the child or the second child needs attention too he needs to experience being favoured not very often but it doesnt mean you should not include him in some activities i think thats why there are some jealousy or that is why jealousy is sometimes building on some childs mind because that age is really the age of you know like they can feel lots of emotion and can be sensitive they want attention not being left out and also being compared is not giving a motivation or inspiration to a child its worse to compare youre child to another well you can make them understand in a better way without comparing them because it sometimes lower their confidence and soon or in the future you might see them isolating themselves because of that i mean that could be one of the reason but yeah it is only my opinion i feel bad for harin 🙂
Not only in Korea , even in India too, as I am younger all the older ones comes to me even my brother, brother in law~ whenever their shirts are tight to use for them they give their belongings to me. My father whenever his t-shirts not fit even those comes to me. I always ask them , am I the only one that everyone gives their belongings when they don’t fit. But one thing was always ask me before they give it to me and they give the new ones. They bring new things and put aside after years they really don’t fit then it comes to me 😂😂😂😂
//He keeps on sulking like 8 times A day// Wow Parents are Babo that they dont know how to treat both of them equally.... They should've stopped with 1st child... hope they Attend Some parenting class🚶♂️🚶🏿♀️🚶
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I feel so bad for Harin. Even if the family aren’t aware why he’s constantly getting upset, I don’t think this is something to just brush off. :(
Ya, and they wonder why he keeps sulking, but the reason is because of them favoriting the older sibling :
There's nothing to feel bad about, they're not privileging anyone, they're just not doing all the whims of the youngest, which is a great thing
You're just dramatic, judgmental and terrible at common sense
yes this happen because the parents are the eldest children therefore they pay more attention to hajun because they are not noticed by their parents. so they think the first child gets less attention then they pay more attention to hajun. but they are wrong because they don't divide their attention equally. even though harin is the last child, but he feels what his parents felt when they were the eldest child, which was getting less attention
Exactly, and ,when Harin said everything he wear or use all from past down from his brother,he just small boy but know/think how said like that ,can tell how upset he is,really hope his parents buy new item for him even small thing kid always very happy .
I feel my heart hurt when they keep ignoring him then they wonder why he's sad:c
I am a older sister, but I understand what Harin feels. My parents taught me to always look out for my younger sister. They taught me that siblings should have each other’s back. Our parents make sure we were treated equally.
Same here. I can feel the pain of Harin. But my parents treated me well when my elder sis didnt. But in Harin's case his parents are not reacting at the right time. If this continued will not be good time for long run.
@@modernbookpublication yes this happen because the parents are the eldest children therefore they pay more attention to hajun because they are not noticed by their parents. so they think the first child gets less attention then they pay more attention to hajun. but they are wrong because they don't divide their attention equally. even though harin is the last child, but he feels what his parents felt when they were the eldest child, which was getting less attention
@@modernbookpublication where they born in Korean
I feel so sad for Harin 😢 They should’ve not compared him to his brother and should’ve atleast made him feel included like allowing him to atleast help in some other ways. The commentators and me are also the youngest siblings and we relate too much 🥹 I feel so bad that when Harin grows up, he will feel left out and will hate his brother so much
You should check out the entire episode
@@coco_jaee where can i watch the full episodes
he so spoiled
@@dookidoo none of them are
@@dookidoo nah he actually isn't spoiled but wants attention i know how exactly he feels as i too have an older brother and both my parents are eldest child in their respective families
Okay I felt so agitated watching this clip. Like dude come on 🤌 I like how Harin is vocal about his emotions at this young age and knows how he should be treated. The parents are too ignorant of their youngest child and they sure need some suggestions. This will ruin the bond between the brothers.
Nazia I felt exactly the same. I really don’t understand how both parents can’t see that they are undermining Harin. When he was in the corner on the floor wiping his tears after they said he couldn’t help to wash the dishes was pretty heartbreaking & the dad laughing when he witnessed this was incomprehensible to me. I found it cruel. He’s a great kid love how vocal & strong willed he is. My one hope is that when the parents watch this back or even have some of these comments relayed to them they realise that they are doing a huge disservice to their second son. It’s ridiculous that they kept comparing the two boys as not only are they two very different kids but there is a significant age difference too.
Yeees exactly! Listening and hearing are diffirent from understanding. To think that at a young age, Harin can communicate and express his feelings well is amazing. I hope after seeing their behaviors and treatment towards Harin in this episode will help them reflect on things that would better them as a family. 🥺 wishing them well💙🫂
You should watch the next clip they recognized it and admit it and help him put words on his feelings
@@sonyg9018 exactly 💯
I kindda feel like it's like mnet scripting. I mean if they just did everything perfectly then it wouldn't be fun to watch and no commentators getting all upset in the background lol,...
As an older sibling, I resonate with the eldest when it comes to the younger sibling not understanding boundaries (the games). It's my belongings. I don't have to share everything I have when *you* want them.
And to think he only told Harin to stop playing, then Harin grabbed his brother by the neck then proceeded to tell his parents. Manners should have been instilled initially in the first place.
It's because the older sibling always gets the better toy and cooler game/toy
This is wrong in so many ways. I felt what Harin felt as the youngest. I'm the youngest in my family & well an adult now but I'm reminded of my past. The words & actions they used on a young child can hurt and scar him for his entire life. And not knowing why he sulks when they're the ones not acknowledging his emotions & feelings is so wrong. I hope the parents realise that each child is different, and needs different kinds of attention & love.
You should check out the entire episode
@@coco_jaee hey, where do you watch the full episode?
Harin just wants to be included but his parents do not acknowledge his feelings and neglect him 😭😭😭
This family is so good at communicating. I saw the following video and the way the parents get the youngest to articulate his grievances and recognize how they hurt him is so beautiful.
That's cuz the producers stepped in as counsellors after reading our comments😅
They didn't have to say all that, even comparing both of the boys. Poor boy...
I'm also the first child but I understand how harin feels upset , He wants to be noticed too, even when playing he should be given the opportunity to do what he wants. And also his parents have to share their love equally so that no one feels he is being neglected.
Younger siblings who get neglected at a young age tend to keep these moments as core memories that keep affecting their relationship and judgement with their older relatives even during adulthood. I think it's critical that someone corrects the parents soon or things will only get worse.
As the youngest one in my family I truly agree with you
As a middle child this is giving me war flashbacks. 😅 I’m 30 now but the inner child in me is still hurt.
I feel bad for Harin instead of comforting him ..his father laugh at him ... during basketball game they left him out....
They can play basketball altogether thou like brothers vs father.
as a youngest that getting nitpicked and bullied by my whole family, i grew up getting scarred and never opened up to anyone. i purposely went to boarding school and enrolled in a university far from my hometown. and now im more closed to my friends and their families than my own. something that seems small can traumatize a child.
firs time i see the older sibling getting everything, it's usally the youngest who gets all the intention
Me too as a older Sister I have always felt like the harin
‘Why must i get everything handed down to me’ oh it hits different💔💔i’m also second eldest and my parents and my sister don’t get it and thinks that i always sulk and blamed me 😭😭😭i relate it so much😭😭how can they say its natural we the younger ones are also they’re child not only the first child😭😭😭
do they not realize that this may go wrong so easily
Why can't Harin help mom wash the dishes? They can wash it together and interact more by doing that. To be honest I was really happy to see him wanting that even though it looked like he was just following his brother. But their reaction was bad.
Also when playing basketball, why didn't dad give Harin a chance to play? he can't even touch the ball.
Then about the bicycle, at first I thought it was a surprise gift for Harin.. but it wasn't.. even though I thought Harin could try using a new bicycle, the size was enough for Harin, not big.
I didn't understand when dad said he gave love to Harin and let him do what he wanted.
Is this really happening or just for show??
Hajun is pretty! Poor harin lol 😆 Dad please play with him
There isn’t enough love going around in this household 😂😂❤❤
Even I , a middle child, felt bad for Harin. As a parent, you cannot just tell your kid, be it the youngest or not, thing like, "you cannot," "you are just," and things comparing him/her to his/her siblings. It really is bad. You might be talking to a kid, but (s)he can definitely understand and will remember it as (s)he grow up.
This might seem like a trivial matter but if they don't solve it now it will have a big effect on harin , actually those are the most painful memories ,just seeing this made me cry .
My father is the youngest from his family, he can really understand my younger sister and my mother was the oldest and she really under stands my older sister. Being stuck in the middle of three I know his pain and I now can understand being an older sibling and being a younger sibling. I will raise my future kids with much balance ❤
The parents need to stop emphasizing on he is the first born! They should be treated equally and give the little one more attention too. This kind of little things create stuff in kid’s minds. I’m a middle child and it makes me so happy when my younger siblings are happy and even if they get little more attention, I can understand as the older one but neglecting younger ones ain’t nice. Infact neglecting anyone isn’t cool cus we’re all human at the end of the day and have feelings wether younger or older!
Harin looks like an adopted son
Not enough love comparing to his brother
i can just feel harin's pain. like he barely gets to do what he wants. for the games, i can understand but the basketball and bike ones, no, that is not fair on harin. the parents should include both their kids, give attention to both. the clothes, i can undertstand as well but buy harin some as well so he's not just getting hand me downs .
This was so hard to watch. That poor boy :(
poor little brother,the father should carry him up to shoot the basketball to net at least once time or make team offer the the ball to one another at least everyone have chance play .really hope next time no seeing parents compare their kids to another sibling or other kids.
Poor baby. Harin needs love and attention
Poor harin... I'm here for hajoon because he looks good. But now I feel so sad for harin after watching this.
i understand how he feels, as the younger sibling i had everything handed down to me, i hadly had everything new
I understand Harin so much bc I’m a middle child (well technically no but yes at the same time bc I’m the second youngest, I have 3 other sisters) and I’m treated like one. In my case I can never open up about how I feel bc I once did and my mom said “why are u always so difficult, well let u use/get something later.” And that really hurt me. And I reason with the wanting new things too bc I ALWAYS get hammy downs, like the phone I’m using, it’s my second oldest sisters old phone. Most of my clothes are also hammy downs. But on my sisters side (even my youngest sister) they get anything they want, and my mom always buys them new things, without me. And when I ask her “can you buy me something too?” She says “oh I don’t have anymore money sorry sweetie” and I can never say anything bc then she would say “why are u like this, I don’t have money can you try to understand for once?” Etc Harins parents don’t know how much it can affect a kid. I’m only 14, so imagine how Harin would feel in a few years too..
For mom and dad, just give a chance for Harin what ever he want to do, because this kids need love and attention to..
I couldn’t help but laugh when they cut to the baby bike. How is he possibly supposed to ride that toddler bike?!😂 Maybe if he had a bike his size he’d ride it more. As a younger sibling I’ve had my fair share of hand me down’s and even as a 21-year-old I find myself scavenging through my older sisters stuff. I think the real issue is that for whatever reason he doesn’t feel like he’s being equally rewarded. I think if they aren’t willing to spend money on something new for him then they should put a little more effort into making each item feel more meaningful.
poor harin🤣🤣 the only maknae in a family of firstborns hahahaha
It’s not funny
@@ilovemyself._1 It is, Esther, you can either try to laugh a little or stay miserable, either way the world doesn't revolve around your sulking.
You shouldn’t give him free reign of what he wants. Let him handle a bit of responsibility. He can be the one in charge of setting the placemats for meals, or something similar that will be easy but still important to do.
And not everything needs to be brand new, but it’s nice to have some things that are just your own. Like buying him a pair of socks with a cartoon that he likes. Or getting him a cool helmet that he can wear when he’s riding a bike.
Well, Harin is right. They shouldn't have another child because they don't have enough love to give. Should've stopped at one.
I'm an older sister and I've always been giving my younger sis my stuff, both old and new, and she's always loved them - though I can completely understand Harin. First world problems but I do think there are always pros and cons of being older/younger 😅
At first I thought they were joking. This is definitely a serious issue if one of your children is crying and you sit and laugh and say you don’t understand the problem. Why don’t you sit and TRY to understand? No two kids are the same, you can’t treat them the same and expect the same result. One might need more care and attention or even an entire different parenting style.
This is how parents raises...sourpuss kids,serial killers,sad kids....when u have kids...try to be nice to both.... don't compare.. comparing is a diseases...
I bet after growing up harin is gonna hate his family because of the childhood comparing that leaves trauma trust me.
I used to whine about how o don't want things passed down to me as well.. I understand harin's frustration. I'm glad he is able to talk about it and get mad at his family for not paying attention. I love this . I hope he doesn't feel bitter about his sibling(s) in the future inshallah!
Toxic parenting. If you can't handle two child equally why decide to have another kids ? Just give birth to one person. It may seems funny to them, but this surely gonna effect his mental growth, there's a diff between teaching your child not to become a spoil brat and favouring one child. In this case, its favouring one child alone. Parents need to teach, explain and corrected child's mistake or misbehaviour not told them off every single time. Don't blame the kid when he start growing hatred or distancing himself from the family.
shut up. you dont know anything
True and i think it will Became more worse if they having another children... He will always feel left out...
Harin i can feel you. Come to noona. I can buy for you hihi..
lowkey felt bad on how they're all ganging up on the lil guy:
Good thing he seems to be an outspoken and positive child
at 1:12 when his parents are going side by his brother I know exactly how he feels.
As a younger sibling, I completely understand Harin
Being a youngest i can feel his pain
After seeing comments ....to those who are saying things about uneven treatment gyus...watch the next vedio u will get how hard they tried to make harin happy...it's good he expresses what he has in his mind and parents tried to make up for it...this family is so loving and good at communicating ...i literally cried when wen father appear in aquarium[in next vedio]...
I feel bad for Harin. I'm an only child so I don't know how to be treated differently or equally with siblings. But many of my friends talk about their stories in their households. Whether they're the oldests or the youngests or the middle children, there's always this favouring thing I can feel in their stories. After hearing those and watching this kind of videos, I feel happy that I'm the only child because all my parents love, favoritism or literally everything goes to me. But at the same time, I feel very devastated that I don't have siblings. Can't help but feel envy and also happy at the same time whenever I see siblings together. Idk lmao. I have mixed feelings towards this sibling thing as an only child.
And in this case, judging only by this video, I can't help but feel sad for Harin. Like the other comments said, this kind of things can affect this child's mental health and also the brothers' relationship. The younger boy will always be feeling left out and not worth of himself if this continues! Even an only child like me can feel his sadness but their parents can't?? Why favour only one child and leaving the other one like he's not capable of anything. Him being younger doesn't excuse parents behavior. He must be young. But you can include him in many things. You guys took him to play basketball but didn't let him play. I know children can't do what adults do. But the parents could have let him play 🥺 This is real life and real people. Parents should treat their children equally!
it's makes me cry cuz I know how he feel
I feel bad for Harin, theres a huge age difference too and it doesnt help.
I understand you, Harin, my parents used to do the same to me and they still do, but it's something you'll get used to sooner or later.
I remember watching this episode and crying without even knowing.I guess I could easily get him as I am also the youngest one.
Harin cute.
Getting used items from our elder sibling is just so relatable to me. Though I am a girl I wear ,I use my brother's clothes,items etc . BTW I love wearing boys clothes since they are oversized for me but I hate using my brother's items
Aigooo i feel soo sad for harin he's sucha cutie 😩🤍
The parents should watch this back and see where they have gone wrong in handling those situations. They have consistently alienated their youngest.
I can understand Harin 100% maybe this things happen everywhere around the globe
Que horrible es cuando los padres siguen prestándole atención a solo uno de sus hijos y al otro dejándole completamente de lado. Esta bien que hagan actividades que le diviertan al mayor y que lo integren, pero no hay porque ignorar al pequeño, talvez el no puedo hacer lo que hace el mayor, ya que aún es muy pequeño, pero sino puede hacer una actividad no hay razón para llevarlo solo a ver y que no pueda hacer nada más que ver, solo se sentirá desintegrado y que no forma parte.
My older brother and I are six years apart. We share our toys whether it be a barbie doll or a voltes 5 robot. We watch anime together. We had fun playing by ourselves. I'm so lucky to have a brother who loves me a lot.
dia matang and rase kesian juga, walaupun aku ank sulung... stay strong dikk
It break my heart for him.
Many a times, when there is a big age difference between siblings, there is either overpampering of the younger child or neglect of understanding as all are grown up except him.
As the youngest of 5 I feel for Harin on the hand me downs but I understand where the parents are coming from. It's expensive raising children and the bike for Hajun they didn't even buy, sounds like they got it from someone else. So I feel bad for Harin but at the same time I do feel like he's slightly bratty at times. In this situation I think everyone has their faults at certain times.
they remind me of junwoo and junseo from the return of superman
Poor young brother
Where is the next clip of this.
I want to watch it.
Young parents these really think that they are good at parenting skills when they are not.
as a second child, i totally understand harin
I can feel you harin❤
Second child probs. I feel you, Harin-ah. 🤝🏻
Hajun 💗
As third pov, we can see how different the parents treat the first born and the youngest and the parents dont even realize it...well it reality when they said give same treatment to all their children but it was opposite
Ow ow ... dear Harin parents, please just give him a new something to boost his vigour, give him some new clothes as well, it's ok not to always give him new one(s), once you give him new in(s), you both will see to he changes in his vibes, the clearly only wants to be recognised to be more involved & included in, as if when you do the dishes, give him small part too, let him put the clean dishes to the drying rack, or let him wipe the plates or glasses.
As a younger sibling to parents who are older siblings I totally get the lil guy! They don’t understand what they’re doing and how it hurts your feelings. Hopefully the parents realize their baby needs a little more attention lol kids can be very dramatic at this age but sometimes it’s okay to indulge them, you gotta find the middle ground to love and support both kids. Telling him his older brother is more mature and that he should listen to him more is great, he needs to learn that respect BUT dishes? Basketball? They could’ve let him stand on a step stool and help dry the dishes under mom’s watch and das could’ve let him make at least one basket or offer up at least one “우아~ 하린 농구 잘해!” Or something lmao
Harin aaaa
I feel your pain🥺😭
Gosh this was too difficult to watch.. poor baby boy
Why do they have another child if they aren't gonna treat them equally...its like they intentionally hurt the young one..
You know what? When the time is come is when you being apart with your siblings that when you feel how lonely you're without someone is messing and fighting with you
That pain be hitting right into the past
On Harin's case, his parent can't relate his feelings because they were born as first child, 😂in my family,none of them feels me better cause they were born as the younger ones,that's why they end up on my little sister side👍😂
where can i watch full ep???????
ppl pleaaaase watch the entire program or episodes to understand
nowdays, kid can get early mental sickness. children cant control their own emotion and psychology, the pain if too overwhelming can be a trauma. parents should never take this matter so easily. children deserve to be love at the same rate. no matter how old are they
Boys are so good looking
They should focus on both the child it's not how u treat ur child later he will hate them a grudge will always be there in his heart and those wounds will never heal .ik it's just a show but how the parents are ignoring harin and being careless is so hurtful to watch
Older brother or sister should allow youngest to involve in wash dishes . Youngest will not left out. Will help him to develop for the future.
Pobre nene, es raro para mí ver el trato por lo general le dan más atención al hijo más pequeño que al mayor. Pero el padre lo excluye en todo no lo deja participar en nada pobrecito.
Parenting sucks in this household.. Harin's parents words and actions are like sharp knives for a kid who's starting cognitive and emotional development.. People even Harin's family are saying he is bratty are horrible.. Come on! He is at the age of development, clearly he needs attention.. The more he's being ignored the more he find ways to ask for attention.. Also, comparing him to his brother will only leave a huge scar as he grows up.. Harin's parents should think about his concerns before it's too late.. Still thinking of having another child is ridiculous.. They can't even handle two..
Limitless love 🤣🤣🤣
The way they're treating Harin can affect his character development and who will he be in the future.
And then parents tell the younger children that they love them all equally I feel really sad about that and they don't even think they separate us She's always their favorite and I'm always the bad guy for my mental health it became bad because of this and got angry quickly and in the end they forget everything they did and remember my anger and my complaining and my jealousy why would I change if it was treated equally
I feel you HARIN😭😭😭
حتى لو مزعج م يصير يتجاهلونه ويهمشونه 😢
Ese niño va a crecer con un montón de inseguridades:(
The father says they let Harin do whatever he wants but from the actions in this video it’s very clear that’s not the case at all. Harin wants to help with the dishes yet his parents tell him off and say he would just be in the way. Harin wants to play basketball but his father tells him he should just be ref instead. How is that letting your kid do what the kids want. It’s very clear Harin wants to be included in activities too just like his older brother, but his family clearly don’t want to adapt to Harin’s level because it’s to much of a nuisance for them. His parents could have easily let Harin do another chore or maybe even let him do the dishes with his brother so that he could learn to work together with his brother as well as feel included.
I find the father especially childish, laughing so openly because your child is upset. I know that from an adults point of view it’s sometimes funny to see your kid get upset about something that seems so trivial to you, but understand that from the child’s perspective this isn’t something trivial at all. Mocking their feelings so openly is really upsetting.
The parents exclude him from activities because he’s not on the same level as his brother and they don’t want to adapt to his level and then they wonder why he’s upset. I really hope that this is just a one time thing or that the parents improve their parenting skills. Otherwise i wouldn’t be surprised if Harin one day just gives up and stops trying to be included in family activities.
i think they are being biassed i know that older people loves to play with people they know that was like in their level or can somehow rich their capacity of doing something but the child or the second child needs attention too he needs to experience being favoured not very often but it doesnt mean you should not include him in some activities i think thats why there are some jealousy or that is why jealousy is sometimes building on some childs mind because that age is really the age of you know like they can feel lots of emotion and can be sensitive they want attention not being left out and also being compared is not giving a motivation or inspiration to a child its worse to compare youre child to another well you can make them understand in a better way without comparing them because it sometimes lower their confidence and soon or in the future you might see them isolating themselves because of that i mean that could be one of the reason but yeah it is only my opinion i feel bad for harin 🙂
Not only in Korea , even in India too, as I am younger all the older ones comes to me even my brother, brother in law~ whenever their shirts are tight to use for them they give their belongings to me. My father whenever his t-shirts not fit even those comes to me. I always ask them , am I the only one that everyone gives their belongings when they don’t fit. But one thing was always ask me before they give it to me and they give the new ones. They bring new things and put aside after years they really don’t fit then it comes to me 😂😂😂😂
//He keeps on sulking like 8 times A day// Wow Parents are Babo that they dont know how to treat both of them equally.... They should've stopped with 1st child... hope they Attend Some parenting class🚶♂️🚶🏿♀️🚶
Thing like this cause jealousy even bigger when they are grow older if the parent cant do the monitor