I’m retired and divorced. When my son and his family graciously asked me to stay with them, I made several two-week visits to see and feel how it is to be living with them. It was the nuances, the intended gestures to hurt your feelings, and their constant reminder that my ways are old and obsolete that brought me pain. So, I live alone peacefully now and without guilt.
Children now when you give them everything you work, save and hardly spend. Gradually when they are married, definitely forget you as a mother. Only they want you to live as a servant with them. They distance you, avoid, no visit, unwelcome, no love and of course unfilial. The hope we dream gone lonelyness, sadness, unhappy, though, misery, pain, as tears and years go bys. The worse pain is having a bad, evil, home breaker dil..! to break, destroy the whole family
It sounds like you made a thoughtful effort to stay with your son and his family, but it’s understandable that the experience was challenging. Living alone peacefully can be a source of comfort and freedom, especially when it means avoiding negativity and feeling respected. It’s important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, and finding peace on your own terms is a valuable choice.
those who dont care thier parent cant be success,coz theyre curse,the teaching of loving and caring your parents was God way to open blessing for you,,
So grateful I took care of my mom in her last days. I know that is why I can take care of myself and pay my own bills. I feel blessed and ask no one for help but the Lord.
When the birds fly the nest, they’re gone. Don’t expect them to come back and take care of you. Just like a man is not a plan, neither are kids. Times have changed. Get your own money and save for your old age, ladies!
I have 5 sons, I’m 64 and I see this happening to me, they’ve drained me to where I have nothing to give anymore, one-off my sons came into some moneys and didn’t offer me a dime and I’m not asking, God has away made for me, yes, it’s scary to not have no one care for you, thank God you had a home to sell, I have nothing, but I know God will make a way for me, I thank God that my first three aren’t here , they wish death upon me, and their wives,,, let’s just say God is good I have my strength and I’m not trying to live the rest of my days in prison doing time that way, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, He is all I have 🙏🏾❤
Be strong Mom, trust in God, He will take care of you. The Bible says Phillipians : 4-19 " But my God shall supply all my needs according to His riches in glory through Jesus Christ. God is faithful, He won't let you down. Praying for you. Love from Uganda.
@@TboneWTF That's what she said. You would do well to consider that you will die one day: where will you spend eternity? Have you been morally perfect? If not, then you will need someone to pay the penalty. God did something for guilty people 2,000 years ago so that you will not have to worry, too. I hope you will consider it.
I'm in tears reading all your stories about old age. As a daughter I never abandon my mom and dad. I support them to the very end. I love them so much that it hurt me a lot when they passed away. May God bless their souls and rest in peace. 🙏♥️🌷
Your devotion and love for your parents are truly touching. Supporting them through their lives and feeling their loss deeply is a testament to the strong bond you shared. Your care and compassion are a beautiful reminder of the importance of family and the love that endures. May their memories bring you comfort, and may you find peace in knowing you gave them your unwavering support and love. 🙏♥️🌷
You're right; it's wise not to rely entirely on others, even your own children, for support. Life can be unpredictable, and while it’s wonderful when children are there for their parents, it’s not something that can be guaranteed. By staying independent and preparing for your own future, you're ensuring that you can take care of yourself no matter what. This approach reflects the strength and self-reliance you've built throughout your life. It's always good to be prepared and self-sufficient, just as you’ve been.
It doesn’t sound like this story as, in this story, the woman seemed a good and kind person. But, it is also so, that some children are unfilial, because their parents were not good parents to them. They might’ve been abusive. Plus, when the next generation is doing worse than the previous, it shouldn’t be expected necessarily. You are not born indebted to your parents. You are not cattle to your parents. Caring for them is a gift.
Im retired in Danbury, CT. I made my stock money last about 8 yrs. Now, I'm on a fixed income. Thank God I have Section 8 for a studio or one bedrm. Im on long waiting lists for senior housing. It's pretty bad. I'll survive. I haveca daughter, in LA, but we dont always get along, and she never married. I worked for 36 yrs, so at least I have Social Security
It sounds like you've worked hard for many years, and now you're navigating retirement with resilience. Being on a fixed income can be challenging, but it's great that you have Section 8 housing to help. It's also a positive that you have Social Security to support you, given your long career. Even though relationships can be complicated, especially with family, it’s clear that you’ve managed to find ways to survive and adapt. I hope your situation with senior housing improves soon, and you continue finding strength in the resources you have.
This is exactly what happen to my sister and brother in law. His son from his first marriage was able to get alarge amount of money from my brother in law, they mortgage their house to give to the son. Now, the son is ignoring him keeping distance and not talking to him. Now, he's already 84 yrs old, he has no money, he returned to being a brick contractor in Australia and still he and my sister have to pay the mortgage at their old age. You can not really trust younger generations nowadays.
I'm really sorry to hear about your brother-in-law's situation. It’s disheartening when family dynamics lead to such outcomes, especially when trust and financial support are involved. The reality is that sometimes, people can act in ways that lead to unintended consequences, and it’s challenging when that impacts loved ones later in life. It’s a tough reminder of the importance of careful financial planning and the need to protect one’s own interests, especially as we age. Hopefully, your brother-in-law and sister can find a way to navigate their current challenges and gain some relief. If they need support or advice on managing their situation, there might be resources available to help them through this difficult time.
I read through the comments section, and I felt so low, thinking how desperate mothers and fathers suffer to make sure children have the best of everything. In return, they get abandoned or neglected .
Yes, it's really hurting... but it's really happening.. Take care of yourself and Trust our Heavnly Father, Jehovah to give us the strength to go on and not relying on others for help.. Or else, you be just disappointed..After all, obligations given , then time for self care and take care of ourselves and yourselves.. and do good to others without any expectation in return..in doing so, you feel good inside and make our Heavenly Father God happy too..as the joy of Jehovah is our strength...
Your perspective is both uplifting and wise. Relying on faith and focusing on self-care can indeed provide strength and resilience. By doing good for others without expecting anything in return, you enrich your own life and uphold the values that bring inner peace. It’s a powerful way to navigate life’s challenges and find fulfillment. Take care of yourself, and may your faith continue to guide and sustain you.
You do not need a large amount of property. You need to own the place you live , have low taxes. Low expenses. Own just one property or 2 it could be a duplex. That rent would or should cover your expenses. It would be the best thing to purchase something like that at a young age. Get it paid off , get everything paid off before retirement. If you get caught unaware at a young age quickly sell off any property you can’t afford. Buy something cheap low taxes. Like a homestead with a small camper or tiny house. Find a few streams of low income. Like selling online or cleaning a house 1 or 2 days a week. Or caring for an older person. Be a sitter or use a still you have to earn money. You need 3-5 small income streams to pay low taxes and maintain something small to live in, buy food and keep insurance. And sure something like raising chickens selling eggs and chickens is an income stream. Or make Jams or candles to sell at a flea market. If you have wood working skills make things. You may not live like everyone else but who wants to live like everyone else. Live differently and rise above your circumstances. It can be done. I did it. Prayer 🙏🏻 helps a lot !
My tip would be this - even if you move - don/t sell your house or houses. Let tenants pay the mortgage & when you retire - you can sell the properties or use the income over & above the payment to live on. It is the easiest retirement fund - keeping any home you buy until you are needing the money the increase in value brings.
Im akenyan 64yrs,l took care of my mother until her death,l helped my older sister and my two brothers, unfortunately l got sick they all left me,and my only son took care, 15yrs ago l transfered my house to my son thinking that he will take care of me, as l did to my mother bt my son doesn't care abt me anymore,my friends chip in now and then.lm abit worried, trusting God to see me through.
This story is so pathetic. I am sure many old people got trapped in such situation. I am more confident now not to rely on our children. They have their own life, their own problems. Nothing to do with being filial but their jobs family etc already bog them down with not much time left for us. Must really rely on our healthy selves. Amen 💕
It sounds that this story is in China. Usually Chinese people look after their old parents. It is custom and culture. I am also retired, I have good pension incomes and go out every day for food and exercise and socialise. So I don't cook much. I was also told by my daughter-in-law to be that I had to look after their baby. I said why, what are you going to do? She said - work. Well, It didn't happen. She has not worked for many, many years and the baby is now 14. My son is earns enough. But we had helped them in the past, gave them good money . She also thought that I should cook and do housework for them. Well, I live in my own house. Husband and I both worked very hard and we have our own house and our own savings. I give them good money but I am now going to cut down. I am going to spend on travelling and myself. Yes, they come less and less now. I got the message. This is how they treat you when you are old. We worked and feed them and privately educated them. This is your reward. I can relate to the lady in the story. God bless us all. Be independent. Yuan is Chinese money.
As for me, it's still much better to live in countryside rather than in the city, when one is too old for work cuz, in that countryside anyone in his old age could plant vegetables, fruits, raising chickens and hogs even @ least for personal consumptions and daily subsistence! At least in that place you could smell the fresh air, the beauty of greeneries, hear the chirping of the birds, the rustling of leaves and the morning sunlight which could contribute to one's life longevity! Best of all, each of us should anticipate that there will come a time when getting old is a reality and must be pre planned ahead for our remaining years by not being dependent on your children and to others. Another thing is, living in the city is much more expensive in everything is being spent with money unlike in the countryside one can survive with the simplicity of one's daily life with just the availability of what surrounds us with a harvests of fruits, vegetables, raising eggs, chickens, hogs and many more! God Bless everyone who are in this predicament of being in that stage in life! Pray Always, cuz God never abandons anyone in old age.
@@maritessalaba5672 I quite agree about country versus city, although it’s difficult for elderly to garden ground level if raised beds aren’t an option, once in need of a walker or wheelchair. I have also seen that country folk seem to be more community minded towards others, than many city people. Chickens are good for eggs, goats for milk, rabbits for meat, but carpel tunnel and arthritis make skinning and cleaning a challenge. Hogs are a bit too dangerous, unless a small breed is an option, but sheep are gentle enough, although often sickly… If I’m killed for food, I’d prefer to die in the country.
I wish to live on the farm one day when I'm old no one to take care of me I luv gardening and yes it's better than the city u can some how make a meal from the farm in the city u have to everything
An old widowed friend of mine lived alone in a farm for years. All her children left to live in overseas. One day she fall and passed out, no one was there for her. Finally one neighbors who lives not far from her, came for a visit. Shocked, she saw her on the kitchen floor. Quickly contacted the police. Ambulance came to take her body. Ended children fighting for her property and money. So sad, no one was there for her !?
Very sad😢WOW! What a great message- when your kid is able to work and earn a living that's when you start saving money for yourself. Don't rely on something that will not produce and wasted time.❤😊
Im a South African mum who has a daughter and a son i went through many ups and downs in life even when my husband was unemployed i still paid the rent and provided for my kids eventual managed to by my home with the hope that my son would be there for us nevertheless at the age of 19 he decided to take to move on in his life and take 15 year old girlfriend and live and tells me they are big enough and no what they doing and my daughter lives with her family
It sounds like you've been through a lot and worked hard to provide for your family despite various challenges. It must be tough to see your son make decisions that differ from what you had hoped for, especially after all you've done for him and your family. It's important to recognize the strength and dedication you've shown in providing for your children and creating a home. Even though your children have chosen different paths, it doesn't diminish the love and effort you've put into raising them. As you navigate this phase of your life, focusing on your well-being and finding fulfillment in your own journey is crucial. If you’re feeling isolated or struggling with these changes, reaching out for support from friends, community groups, or professional counselors can be beneficial. Your resilience and dedication are admirable, and finding ways to care for yourself and build new connections can help you move forward positively.
In my opinion parents have the responsibility to take care of children like birds they take care of their chicks. Once they started flying on their own the parents must forget and start living their life on their own without expecting for their children to help. Learn from nature. Do not repent later.
Got inspiration went to grave yard. Found some side walk lamps...then went to lumber yard. Found scraps then bought a gross of AA batteries....I made table lamps with the parts...cant build enough. Fast enoufgh ....To say that the lamps could be set in the sun... Then taken in to run all evening....I'm getting money... now. With little over head. 😊😊😊 there's always a way😊😊
That’s fantastic! It’s impressive how you’ve turned your inspiration into a successful venture. Your creativity and resourcefulness in repurposing materials and creating a product with minimal overhead are truly commendable. It’s great to hear you’re seeing positive results and finding ways to thrive. Keep up the great work! 😊😊😊
In my religion teaching , children should love their parents until the end of their life. Paradise is under their sole. So we are happy and natural to live together with our old parents. We don't feel bother one of another. Rarely we find old people stranded.
There are some financial advisors lately advising couples and parents to first pay off high interest debts, build emergency funds, get a life insurance policy, set up retirement plans & start savings and investing early. Setting up a college fund for your kids should come last because they might either decide not to go to college also alternatively, they can sign up for financial aid assistance being loans, grants & scholarships to fund their education. It makes sense since higher living costs means that your kids may not be financially secure by the time you approach retirement.
That’s a solid approach. Financial advisors often recommend focusing on high-interest debts and building an emergency fund first because these steps provide immediate relief and create a stronger financial foundation. Here’s a breakdown of why this strategy makes sense: 1. Paying off high-interest debts: High-interest debt, like credit card balances, can accumulate quickly and become a significant financial burden. Eliminating these debts reduces financial stress and frees up more money for savings and investments. 2. Building emergency funds: An emergency fund acts as a safety net for unexpected expenses, such as medical emergencies or car repairs. Having this fund in place helps prevent the need to take on additional debt when crises arise. 3. Life insurance and retirement plans: Securing life insurance ensures that your dependents are financially protected if something happens to you. Retirement plans and savings are crucial for ensuring you have enough funds to maintain your lifestyle in your later years. 4. Investing early: Investing early can leverage the power of compound interest, allowing your money to grow over time. This is especially important for long-term financial goals. 5. College funds: While supporting your children’s education is important, it often makes sense to prioritize your own financial security first. College costs can be managed through financial aid, scholarships, and loans, which can help reduce the financial burden on parents. By focusing on these priorities, you’re setting up a stable financial future for yourself, which can ultimately benefit your family as well. It’s a balanced approach that ensures you’re prepared for both immediate needs and long-term goals.
I’m 70 this year and my child wouldn’t help if I needed it! It’s ok she believes I have nothing because of her “partner “ lol. So I had my will redone and she gets nothing!
You should never have given all the money away. Only give if you can easily afford. Look after number one esp. with no savings and no pension and not much income. Not sure I want to be in the city if I have been in the country all my life. What about your friends? This Yuan money sounds like China money. Is it right? Another thing is that if they don't come and visit, don't give. Spend it on yourself, pamper your self. Have a good life!
Whenever my parents need my support the doctor tells me to come home Good i have pension and farm income I support grandchildren Several families built their house in my lots I wish people do also to ease hardship
It sounds like you’ve managed to create a supportive and secure environment for yourself and your family. It's great that you have a pension and farm income to help with your needs and support your grandchildren. Having families build houses on your property can be a practical way to provide for others while also easing your own financial burden. It’s wonderful to hear how you’re navigating these responsibilities and challenges. If you ever need to discuss anything or just want to chat, I'm here for you!
@@BuddhaZenWishdom thanks guro Its controlled by my parents and relatives and friends. I treasure their insights. Wealth also is inherent If one knows to value it and not use it for self gratification
I never had kids by choice i just retired at 62 with a bigstack my home small piad for my ss covers all my bills,,,im a positive redpill Christian mgtow high value male, i live like a king,,,because,, god,, bible.,, Jesus,,mgtow,,frugality, voluntary simplicity,, i help good poor peeps,,,and have been generous all my life in a balanced way,,god has blessed me. My home and wallet,,my hands and my life,,, follow your own road.
It sounds like you’ve crafted a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself. Your approach to living simply, generously, and in line with your values is inspiring. It’s great to hear that you’re content and feel blessed by your choices.
Where I live many of the older people in rural areas work extremely hard and live frugal lives to leave as much as they can to their children who live in the towns and cities. Frequently, the first thing the children do on the death of their parents is sell their parents' property to buy flashy new cars and be extravagant. I have seen this on several occasions.
That's such a heartbreaking reality, and it happens more often than we think. Many parents sacrifice so much for their children, only to see their hard-earned assets quickly spent. It's why stories like Aunt Fang’s are so important-they remind us of the need for balance and self-reliance, even in old age. Providing for your children is natural, but ensuring your own security and well-being should come first. It’s about finding that strength to care for yourself while still offering support when you can
Single parent of three never had maintenance form their fathers took care of them and even university,and help them get jobs, m almost 60 lost job,all abondened me, struggling to survive
I'm so sorry you're going through this. You’ve done so much as a single parent, raising your children and supporting them through school and into jobs-that’s an incredible accomplishment, especially without help. It must feel deeply hurtful to have given so much and now be left struggling. Remember that your strength is undeniable; you’ve survived and thrived through so much. Have you looked into community support services or local resources that could help you with the next steps? There might be options available that you haven't considered yet.
The mom should not give all her money. House decors are not important. The son should find extra work for all his needs. This is the problem of parents getting old.
Thank you so much for your generous contribution. Wishing you a happy and healthy retirement, filled with joy and well-being. Your kindness is truly appreciated
You did exactly what I would you went trough but a little bit sooner, do not let anyone run your life like a piece of garbage. Congrats and never look back to remember the dummies that made you feel like a beggar when you did nothing , but the best for your only comes from inside you , and listen to your brain.
Thank you for those words of wisdom! It's true that strength and self-worth come from within, and it's important to trust your own instincts, especially when others fail to recognize your efforts. Moving forward without looking back at those who undervalued you is the right way to live-your future is shaped by your resilience and self-respect. You've got an incredible journey ahead!
Sad but true you end up alone on your own, so be it; we come into this world alone we leave it alone. Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be blessed.
We are a childless couple,i am planning my retirement plan,Because that's the only thing i can rely on,My Wife can't pay the contribution for her retirement plan,We are at late 40s of age now, Enough time to plan because of no liability.Financial is semi easy for us because of no kids only Pets.Even thought we have no liability? Prices go up because of inflation in the World today,You have to really plan ahead on what's coming in life,But most important is we have to settle the 10 years contribution of our retirement plan,To have a easy life here in the Philippines once we age 60 and above.By now,i have technical skills to fix things to earn a few bucks
and what will you do if one, if not both of your parents, are in a home for people with dementia that costs $7,000 per month and you don't have the money to pay for it and neither do they?
But she'll eventually get too old to be a janitor. What then? Maybe she saved the money from her farm and hopes it won't run out once that happens. But she doesn't seem very secure to me.
Yes indeed. If she didn't give her money to buy a house, she could be having her savings safe. She thought she was helping a clever son little did she know he was stupid. She was not relying on him
Have you considered Social security payments, welfare and food stamps? How about also finding part time employment? it's a shame you never pursued any type basic education to fall back on. On the "plus" side life in 3rd world countries is short at best.
I’m retired and divorced. When my son and his family graciously asked me to stay with them, I made several two-week visits to see and feel how it is to be living with them. It was the nuances, the intended gestures to hurt your feelings, and their constant reminder that my ways are old and obsolete that brought me pain. So, I live alone peacefully now and without guilt.
great, thats the way to go.
Children now when you give them everything you work, save and hardly spend. Gradually when they are married, definitely forget you as a mother. Only they want you to live as a servant with them. They distance you, avoid, no visit, unwelcome, no love and of course unfilial. The hope we dream gone lonelyness, sadness, unhappy, though, misery, pain, as tears and years go bys. The worse pain is having a bad, evil, home breaker dil..! to break, destroy the whole family
It sounds like you made a thoughtful effort to stay with your son and his family, but it’s understandable that the experience was challenging. Living alone peacefully can be a source of comfort and freedom, especially when it means avoiding negativity and feeling respected. It’s important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, and finding peace on your own terms is a valuable choice.
Welcome to Africa,lets
enjoy life and peace of mind🤗🤗
@@Aqualastic The best lesson of my life. Thank you
A mother can care for 5 children but 5 children can not care for 1 mother
Well said--
So true no how much difficulties we go through we never fail to want to do the best for our kids
I know what you are talking about
So right
those who dont care thier parent cant be success,coz theyre curse,the teaching of loving and caring your parents was God way to open blessing for you,,
So grateful I took care of my mom in her last days. I know that is why I can take care of myself and pay my own bills. I feel blessed and ask no one for help but the Lord.
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
Amennnn
The same here . I am so happy that I helped my mom.
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When the birds fly the nest, they’re gone. Don’t expect them to come back and take care of you. Just like a man is not a plan, neither are kids. Times have changed. Get your own money and save for your old age, ladies!
This story is so true when your children get older they move on so don't give your hard working money away and let them go
Better to be independent and leave them a small inheritance.
YES! Let them go! For crying out loud, the boy was an adult!!! If anything, he should have been sending money to her!
I have 5 sons, I’m 64 and I see this happening to me, they’ve drained me to where I have nothing to give anymore, one-off my sons came into some moneys and didn’t offer me a dime and I’m not asking, God has away made for me, yes, it’s scary to not have no one care for you, thank God you had a home to sell, I have nothing, but I know God will make a way for me, I thank God that my first three aren’t here , they wish death upon me, and their wives,,, let’s just say God is good I have my strength and I’m not trying to live the rest of my days in prison doing time that way, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, He is all I have 🙏🏾❤
Well at least you have gad to help you right?
Be strong Mom, trust in God, He will take care of you. The Bible says Phillipians : 4-19 " But my God shall supply all my needs according to His riches in glory through Jesus Christ. God is faithful, He won't let you down. Praying for you. Love from Uganda.
AMEN 🙏 PRAISE THE LORD.
@@TboneWTF That's what she said. You would do well to consider that you will die one day: where will you spend eternity? Have you been morally perfect? If not, then you will need someone to pay the penalty. God did something for guilty people 2,000 years ago so that you will not have to worry, too. I hope you will consider it.
@@dinahdiamond3431exactly
So true, even your shadows leave you in darkness,so don't rely on anyone but your own strength..
Trust God. I trust Jesus.
I'm in tears reading all your stories about old age. As a daughter I never abandon my mom and dad. I support them to the very end. I love them so much that it hurt me a lot when they passed away. May God bless their souls and rest in peace. 🙏♥️🌷
Your devotion and love for your parents are truly touching. Supporting them through their lives and feeling their loss deeply is a testament to the strong bond you shared. Your care and compassion are a beautiful reminder of the importance of family and the love that endures. May their memories bring you comfort, and may you find peace in knowing you gave them your unwavering support and love. 🙏♥️🌷
is very common nowadays..very sad...is like norm for children to just abandon their parent....
Too true.
My daughter said that she “taught herself” as a child in school, and now has contempt for me.
Yes, it started happening with the boomer gen. It’s hopeless now.
Everyone, listen up and take heed. Follow the warnings and wisdom in this video.
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
Don't count on the support of your children. It's not 100% certain that they will care for you.
Agree
agree totally....
Very true
You're right; it's wise not to rely entirely on others, even your own children, for support. Life can be unpredictable, and while it’s wonderful when children are there for their parents, it’s not something that can be guaranteed. By staying independent and preparing for your own future, you're ensuring that you can take care of yourself no matter what. This approach reflects the strength and self-reliance you've built throughout your life. It's always good to be prepared and self-sufficient, just as you’ve been.
It doesn’t sound like this story as, in this story, the woman seemed a good and kind person. But, it is also so, that some children are unfilial, because their parents were not good parents to them. They might’ve been abusive. Plus, when the next generation is doing worse than the previous, it shouldn’t be expected necessarily. You are not born indebted to your parents. You are not cattle to your parents. Caring for them is a gift.
Im retired in Danbury, CT. I made my stock money last about 8 yrs. Now, I'm on a fixed income. Thank God I have Section 8 for a studio or one bedrm. Im on long waiting lists for senior housing. It's pretty bad. I'll survive. I haveca daughter, in LA, but we dont always get along, and she never married. I worked for 36 yrs, so at least I have Social Security
It sounds like you've worked hard for many years, and now you're navigating retirement with resilience. Being on a fixed income can be challenging, but it's great that you have Section 8 housing to help. It's also a positive that you have Social Security to support you, given your long career. Even though relationships can be complicated, especially with family, it’s clear that you’ve managed to find ways to survive and adapt. I hope your situation with senior housing improves soon, and you continue finding strength in the resources you have.
@@BuddhaZenWishdomSS may not be around much longer if Harris gets installed as president. Find something else to help your income.
I only trust three people in this world.
1. Me
2. I
3. Myself
@@szvqorwnpstahskypfwmp9821 🤣 true
Definitely And absolutely 💯
It's really correct that your children will care for you when they can have something have inherent from you.
@@haydeeobedoza8313
Yes, follow the money.
Agree with you
Trust NO ONE
Rely on NO ONE
dont depend on any one. Dont give all money to any one
Excellent?!truly real / you cannot rely on nobody but prayers are powerful . Amen 👍
This is exactly what happen to my sister and brother in law. His son from his first marriage was able to get alarge amount of money from my brother in law, they mortgage their house to give to the son. Now, the son is ignoring him keeping distance and not talking to him. Now, he's already 84 yrs old, he has no money, he returned to being a brick contractor in Australia and still he and my sister have to pay the mortgage at their old age. You can not really trust younger generations nowadays.
I'm really sorry to hear about your brother-in-law's situation. It’s disheartening when family dynamics lead to such outcomes, especially when trust and financial support are involved. The reality is that sometimes, people can act in ways that lead to unintended consequences, and it’s challenging when that impacts loved ones later in life.
It’s a tough reminder of the importance of careful financial planning and the need to protect one’s own interests, especially as we age. Hopefully, your brother-in-law and sister can find a way to navigate their current challenges and gain some relief. If they need support or advice on managing their situation, there might be resources available to help them through this difficult time.
Even if you could trust them life happens and can make repayment in a timely manner impossible.
I read through the comments section, and I felt so low, thinking how desperate mothers and fathers suffer to make sure children have the best of everything. In return, they get abandoned or neglected .
Hold on tight to Jesus...He is a Friend who sticks closer than A brother..HE IS ABSOLUTEY KIND N LOVING
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You are right because even your savings could be gone too but Jesus never
Wow! What a heart touching story. Contains very good lesson for us all.
Truly an eye opener
Thanks!
Yes, it's really hurting... but it's really happening..
Take care of yourself and Trust our Heavnly Father, Jehovah to give us the strength to go on and not relying on others for help..
Or else, you be just disappointed..After all, obligations given , then time for self care and take care of ourselves and yourselves.. and do good to others without any expectation in return..in doing so, you feel good inside and make our Heavenly Father God happy too..as the joy of Jehovah is our strength...
Your perspective is both uplifting and wise. Relying on faith and focusing on self-care can indeed provide strength and resilience. By doing good for others without expecting anything in return, you enrich your own life and uphold the values that bring inner peace. It’s a powerful way to navigate life’s challenges and find fulfillment. Take care of yourself, and may your faith continue to guide and sustain you.
Praise the Lord 🙏
You do not need a large amount of property. You need to own the place you live , have low taxes. Low expenses. Own just one property or 2 it could be a duplex. That rent would or should cover your expenses. It would be the best thing to purchase something like that at a young age. Get it paid off , get everything paid off before retirement. If you get caught unaware at a young age quickly sell off any property you can’t afford. Buy something cheap low taxes. Like a homestead with a small camper or tiny house. Find a few streams of low income. Like selling online or cleaning a house 1 or 2 days a week. Or caring for an older person. Be a sitter or use a still you have to earn money. You need 3-5 small income streams to pay low taxes and maintain something small to live in, buy food and keep insurance. And sure something like raising chickens selling eggs and chickens is an income stream. Or make Jams or candles to sell at a flea market. If you have wood working skills make things. You may not live like everyone else but who wants to live like everyone else. Live differently and rise above your circumstances. It can be done. I did it. Prayer 🙏🏻 helps a lot !
You are absolutely correct. I'm living it and happy takking care of me 😊
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
My tip would be this - even if you move - don/t sell your house or houses. Let tenants pay the mortgage & when you retire - you can sell the properties or use the income over & above the payment to live on. It is the easiest retirement fund - keeping any home you buy until you are needing the money the increase in value brings.
Truly happens. A lesson to learn in life's journey.
Indeed!
Im akenyan 64yrs,l took care of my mother until her death,l helped my older sister and my two brothers, unfortunately l got sick they all left me,and my only son took care, 15yrs ago l transfered my house to my son thinking that he will take care of me, as l did to my mother bt my son doesn't care abt me anymore,my friends chip in now and then.lm abit worried, trusting God to see me through.
Never give, lend or help anyone by pulling money out of your retirement savings which is the only reliable source to support yourself in old age.
Well said, very good advice.
That's true. You can trust no one nowadays.
Very good story,self reliance is the best way.
Tale or real,it is so sad.i believe many go through this as they grow older.
This story is so pathetic. I am sure many old people got trapped in such situation. I am more confident now not to rely on our children. They have their own life, their own problems. Nothing to do with being filial but their jobs family etc already bog them down with not much time left for us. Must really rely on our healthy selves. Amen 💕
It sounds that this story is in China. Usually Chinese people look after their old parents. It is custom and culture.
I am also retired, I have good pension incomes and go out every day for food and exercise and socialise.
So I don't cook much.
I was also told by my daughter-in-law to be that I had to look after their baby. I said why, what are you going to do? She said - work. Well, It didn't happen. She has not worked for many, many years and the baby is now 14. My son is earns enough. But we had helped them in the past, gave them good money .
She also thought that I should cook and do housework for them. Well, I live in my own house. Husband and I both worked very hard and we have our own house and our own savings.
I give them good money but I am now going to cut down. I am going to spend on travelling and myself.
Yes, they come less and less now. I got the message. This is how they treat you when you are old.
We worked and feed them and privately educated them. This is your reward.
I can relate to the lady in the story.
God bless us all. Be independent. Yuan is Chinese money.
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@wendybrierley5412 ohh, so this is really true happenings when we got to this age! God bless you.
Trapped? A 40 plus year trap? Everyone is going to get old, so prepare for it on your first paycheck.
Honor thy parents to have long and prosperous life
As for me, it's still much better to live in countryside rather than in the city, when one is too old for work cuz, in that countryside anyone in his old age could plant vegetables, fruits, raising chickens and hogs even @ least for personal consumptions and daily subsistence! At least in that place you could smell the fresh air, the beauty of greeneries, hear the chirping of the birds, the rustling of leaves and the morning sunlight which could contribute to one's life longevity! Best of all, each of us should anticipate that there will come a time when getting old is a reality and must be pre planned ahead for our remaining years by not being dependent on your children and to others. Another thing is, living in the city is much more expensive in everything is being spent with money unlike in the countryside one can survive with the simplicity of one's daily life with just the availability of what surrounds us with a harvests of fruits, vegetables, raising eggs, chickens, hogs and many more! God Bless everyone who are in this predicament of being in that stage in life! Pray Always, cuz God never abandons anyone in old age.
Thank you. May God give you strength.
@@maritessalaba5672 I quite agree about country versus city, although it’s difficult for elderly to garden ground level if raised beds aren’t an option, once in need of a walker or wheelchair. I have also seen that country folk seem to be more community minded towards others, than many city people.
Chickens are good for eggs, goats for milk, rabbits for meat, but carpel tunnel and arthritis make skinning and cleaning a challenge. Hogs are a bit too dangerous, unless a small breed is an option, but sheep are gentle enough, although often sickly…
If I’m killed for food, I’d prefer to die in the country.
I wish to live on the farm one day when I'm old no one to take care of me I luv gardening and yes it's better than the city u can some how make a meal from the farm in the city u have to everything
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
An old widowed friend of mine lived alone in a farm for years. All her children left to live in overseas. One day she fall and passed out, no one was there for her. Finally one neighbors who lives not far from her, came for a visit. Shocked, she saw her on the kitchen floor. Quickly contacted the police. Ambulance came to take her body. Ended children fighting for her property and money. So sad, no one was there for her !?
When you cry, you cried ALONE! When you laugh, the whole world laughs with you. "Just another day in paradise!"
If u retire in Philippines they will take care of you we have home for the aged and abandoned we take care of elders...
Very sad😢WOW! What a great message- when your kid is able to work and earn a living that's when you start saving money for yourself. Don't rely on something that will not produce and wasted time.❤😊
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
A lesson to learn for us
Im a South African mum who has a daughter and a son i went through many ups and downs in life even when my husband was unemployed i still paid the rent and provided for my kids eventual managed to by my home with the hope that my son would be there for us nevertheless at the age of 19 he decided to take to move on in his life and take 15 year old girlfriend and live and tells me they are big enough and no what they doing and my daughter lives with her family
It sounds like you've been through a lot and worked hard to provide for your family despite various challenges. It must be tough to see your son make decisions that differ from what you had hoped for, especially after all you've done for him and your family.
It's important to recognize the strength and dedication you've shown in providing for your children and creating a home. Even though your children have chosen different paths, it doesn't diminish the love and effort you've put into raising them.
As you navigate this phase of your life, focusing on your well-being and finding fulfillment in your own journey is crucial. If you’re feeling isolated or struggling with these changes, reaching out for support from friends, community groups, or professional counselors can be beneficial. Your resilience and dedication are admirable, and finding ways to care for yourself and build new connections can help you move forward positively.
In my opinion parents have the responsibility to take care of children like birds they take care of their chicks. Once they started flying on their own the parents must forget and start living their life on their own without expecting for their children to help.
Learn from nature. Do not repent later.
Exactly best way😅
Absolutely agree. Everyone please relies on himself. Very important.
Got inspiration went to grave yard. Found some side walk lamps...then went to lumber yard. Found scraps then bought a gross of AA batteries....I made table lamps with the parts...cant build enough. Fast enoufgh ....To say that the lamps could be set in the sun... Then taken in to run all evening....I'm getting money... now. With little over head. 😊😊😊 there's always a way😊😊
That’s fantastic! It’s impressive how you’ve turned your inspiration into a successful venture. Your creativity and resourcefulness in repurposing materials and creating a product with minimal overhead are truly commendable. It’s great to hear you’re seeing positive results and finding ways to thrive. Keep up the great work! 😊😊😊
Praise Jesus Christ! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!!
In my religion teaching , children should love their parents until the end of their life. Paradise is under their sole. So we are happy and natural to live together with our old parents. We don't feel bother one of another. Rarely we find old people stranded.
There are some financial advisors lately advising couples and parents to first pay off high interest debts, build emergency funds, get a life insurance policy, set up retirement plans & start savings and investing early. Setting up a college fund for your kids should come last because they might either decide not to go to college also alternatively, they can sign up for financial aid assistance being loans, grants & scholarships to fund their education. It makes sense since higher living costs means that your kids may not be financially secure by the time you approach retirement.
That’s a solid approach. Financial advisors often recommend focusing on high-interest debts and building an emergency fund first because these steps provide immediate relief and create a stronger financial foundation. Here’s a breakdown of why this strategy makes sense:
1. Paying off high-interest debts: High-interest debt, like credit card balances, can accumulate quickly and become a significant financial burden. Eliminating these debts reduces financial stress and frees up more money for savings and investments.
2. Building emergency funds: An emergency fund acts as a safety net for unexpected expenses, such as medical emergencies or car repairs. Having this fund in place helps prevent the need to take on additional debt when crises arise.
3. Life insurance and retirement plans: Securing life insurance ensures that your dependents are financially protected if something happens to you. Retirement plans and savings are crucial for ensuring you have enough funds to maintain your lifestyle in your later years.
4. Investing early: Investing early can leverage the power of compound interest, allowing your money to grow over time. This is especially important for long-term financial goals.
5. College funds: While supporting your children’s education is important, it often makes sense to prioritize your own financial security first. College costs can be managed through financial aid, scholarships, and loans, which can help reduce the financial burden on parents.
By focusing on these priorities, you’re setting up a stable financial future for yourself, which can ultimately benefit your family as well. It’s a balanced approach that ensures you’re prepared for both immediate needs and long-term goals.
Exactly what I live and advise as well. 👍
Always!
Everybody should save money for his old age.
This happens a lot when you are widowed especially. I personally trust in the Lord; he helps me daily.
I’m 70 this year and my child wouldn’t help if I needed it! It’s ok she believes I have nothing because of her “partner “ lol. So I had my will redone and she gets nothing!
Good 👍
You should never have given all the money away. Only give if you can easily afford.
Look after number one esp. with no savings and no pension and not much income.
Not sure I want to be in the city if I have been in the country all my life. What about your friends?
This Yuan money sounds like China money. Is it right?
Another thing is that if they don't come and visit, don't give.
Spend it on yourself, pamper your self.
Have a good life!
Whenever my parents need my support the doctor tells me to come home
Good i have pension and farm income
I support grandchildren
Several families built their house in my lots
I wish people do also to ease hardship
It sounds like you’ve managed to create a supportive and secure environment for yourself and your family. It's great that you have a pension and farm income to help with your needs and support your grandchildren. Having families build houses on your property can be a practical way to provide for others while also easing your own financial burden. It’s wonderful to hear how you’re navigating these responsibilities and challenges. If you ever need to discuss anything or just want to chat, I'm here for you!
@@BuddhaZenWishdom thanks guro
Its controlled by my parents and relatives and friends. I treasure their insights.
Wealth also is inherent
If one knows to value it and not use it for self gratification
Oh my goodness and she gave her son everything! Shame on him 😢
I never had kids by choice i just retired at 62 with a bigstack my home small piad for my ss covers all my bills,,,im a positive redpill Christian mgtow high value male, i live like a king,,,because,, god,, bible.,, Jesus,,mgtow,,frugality, voluntary simplicity,, i help good poor peeps,,,and have been generous all my life in a balanced way,,god has blessed me. My home and wallet,,my hands and my life,,, follow your own road.
It sounds like you’ve crafted a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself. Your approach to living simply, generously, and in line with your values is inspiring. It’s great to hear that you’re content and feel blessed by your choices.
Big mistake. She should have let her son learn to work hard to achieve things on his
own. I knew the ending before it happened.
That's no help for those of us who don't have a house to sell and don't have the chops to work at a job.
This is powerful and mind openers 😮
Exactly.I am grateful to Allah I have enough at this age to live my life.I am not rich but enough to live.
I'm also thank god
Where I live many of the older people in rural areas work extremely hard and live frugal lives to leave as much as they can to their children who live in the towns and cities. Frequently, the first thing the children do on the death of their parents is sell their parents' property to buy flashy new cars and be extravagant. I have seen this on several occasions.
That's such a heartbreaking reality, and it happens more often than we think. Many parents sacrifice so much for their children, only to see their hard-earned assets quickly spent. It's why stories like Aunt Fang’s are so important-they remind us of the need for balance and self-reliance, even in old age. Providing for your children is natural, but ensuring your own security and well-being should come first. It’s about finding that strength to care for yourself while still offering support when you can
It reminds me of the Buddha's story of the two acrobats.
Wonderful and inspiring.
That's true..build your own finances ..
Single parent of three never had maintenance form their fathers took care of them and even university,and help them get jobs, m almost 60 lost job,all abondened me, struggling to survive
I'm so sorry you're going through this. You’ve done so much as a single parent, raising your children and supporting them through school and into jobs-that’s an incredible accomplishment, especially without help. It must feel deeply hurtful to have given so much and now be left struggling.
Remember that your strength is undeniable; you’ve survived and thrived through so much. Have you looked into community support services or local resources that could help you with the next steps? There might be options available that you haven't considered yet.
May God help me🙏🙏🙏
A person’s retirement and well being should be prioritized before marrying, Children, lifestyle.
The mom should not give all her money. House decors are not important. The son should find extra work for all his needs. This is the problem of parents getting old.
Very Very good lessons .God bless
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Thank you so much for your generous contribution. Wishing you a happy and healthy retirement, filled with joy and well-being. Your kindness is truly appreciated
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Glad it was helpful!
I love the beautiful photos of Germany 🇩🇪 ❤!!
Simple way to live in gurudawara take breakfast lunch and dinner and also take benefit for sewa to others The best to live
True;
Tks. much
I will try my level best not to encounter such problems
LOVE ONE ANOTHER;
Jesus said, as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
What a sad story & unfortunately, 🤔not uncommon either!
Gorgeous German landscapes😅 We use Euro, instead of Yuan😮
Yuan is Chinese dollar.
Is it German or is it French sceneries?
@@wendybrierley5412 Germany
Jesus never fails even when every other fails but Jesus never
You did exactly what I would you went trough but a little bit sooner, do not let anyone run your life like a piece of garbage. Congrats and never look back to remember the dummies that made you feel like a beggar when you did nothing , but the best for your only comes from inside you , and listen to your brain.
Thank you for those words of wisdom! It's true that strength and self-worth come from within, and it's important to trust your own instincts, especially when others fail to recognize your efforts. Moving forward without looking back at those who undervalued you is the right way to live-your future is shaped by your resilience and self-respect. You've got an incredible journey ahead!
Am 75th year old stroke survivor and no SSS pension😢 any body advise me
It can never be me 😢
Sad but true you end up alone on your own, so be it; we come into this world alone we leave it alone. Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be blessed.
We are a childless couple,i am planning my retirement plan,Because that's the only thing i can rely on,My Wife can't pay the contribution for her retirement plan,We are at late 40s of age now, Enough time to plan because of no liability.Financial is semi easy for us because of no kids only Pets.Even thought we have no liability? Prices go up because of inflation in the World today,You have to really plan ahead on what's coming in life,But most important is we have to settle the 10 years contribution of our retirement plan,To have a easy life here in the Philippines once we age 60 and above.By now,i have technical skills to fix things to earn a few bucks
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Wtf kind of son do that to their parents?
How lack of affection was your childhood?
Really want to spoil my parents when i can
and what will you do if one, if not both of your parents, are in a home for people with dementia that costs $7,000 per month and you don't have the money to pay for it and neither do they?
Please give HINDI TRANSLATION
Sounds like a self inflicted injury to me.
The disadvantage of not educating people on bible principles
God's character and his righteousness
47 homeless, i beg to survive
All my problems are caused by other people...
Move to California
Parenting at times seems like other form of slavery nowadays.
But she'll eventually get too old to be a janitor. What then? Maybe she saved the money from her farm and hopes it won't run out once that happens. But she doesn't seem very secure to me.
To my children no savings
Why would you think you could, or should rely on your kid? Retirement is your responsibility, not your kid’s.
Yes indeed. If she didn't give her money to buy a house, she could be having her savings safe. She thought she was helping a clever son little did she know he was stupid. She was not relying on him
You should have same in your life..
this is total crap !!!!!!!, im so depressed just listening to it, nobody deserves that from her own son !
Have you considered Social security payments, welfare and food stamps? How about also finding part time employment? it's a shame you never pursued any type basic education to fall back on. On the "plus" side life in 3rd world countries is short at best.
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Very pathetic
Spell that CON - SHTRUC - SHEN.
Me too no pension relying
She mad
😂😂😂 yes u cannot rely on nobody😢😢😢 so ashamed
Depending on your adult children? 😆😀
60. Old age?😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂