I've been out for seven years now. Did my time in the Infantry. Did less than some, and more than others. By no means, was I the most squared away dude. But out here it's hard not to notice the mediocracy. I learned real quick that I couldn't rely on anyone around me. I tried connecting with High School friends, but it became pretty clear that also wasn't going to work. In high school, I was a pushover, more of a follower than a leader. I'm a completely different person after 8 years and multiple combat deployments. I've been on my own since 2014, kinda sucks cause I'm a social person, but over the years I've grown accustomed to only rely on myself.
FYI, I HAD THE EXACT SAME ISSUE AS WHAT YOU STATED. MAY I SUGGEST A CHURCH? ONLY FRIENDS I FOUND THAT WERE WORTH ANYTHING WAS AT CHURCH. ALSO, READING THE HOLY BIBLE WILL BRING YOU GREAT PEACE INSIDE. I WISH I COULD DO IT OVER AGAIN, BECAUSE I WOULD HAVE NEVER GOT OUT OF THE SERVICE. CIVILIANS ARE JUST DIFFERENT. OFTEN LAZY AS CAN BE ON THE JOB, WHICH HAS BEEN HARD TO ACCEPT. 🌟BEST OF LUCK.
I feel ya. Same sorta boat for me. I take solice in the fact that I can go up to the bar. Start a conversation with complete strangers. Have just as much stimulation and fun than I could with "friends".
I'm doing that rn in highschool. I got no real friends there, but I'd rather be alone and wait for my gf to come back in to town than to hang with those idiots.
@@Willy_Tepes I agree. Tbh, my gf has really opened my eyes up on who true friends really are. She showed me that even tho I talk highly of them, they act like the complete opposite of a friend by putting me in terrible situations or even putting me in danger. True friends actually care about your health and well being.
@@Willy_Tepes I also learned that true friends don't stop being your friend just because you ain't like them. Ofc there's a line when you have your beliefs and friends, but for the most part, a true friend is cool with hanging with you, even if you make him or her cringe a lot or even if you've hurt them or cheated them. Their willing to forgive you and don't hold records of wrongs. Otherwise their probably just people using you.
Having been in both 3rd Batt and JSOC "back in the day" I can tell you I am closer to some of my buds than my own brothers. I can call one of these handful of friends and say "I need your help to bury a body." They will always say "do you need me to bring a shovel?" Now, that's how you know your true friends.
You're so full of it. On another video, you claim Rangers use the motto: "Who Dares Wins," a motto that is only used by the British SAS. What the hell does "back in the day" even mean? Are you claiming current Rangers aren't as good? And only good friends will help you cover up a murder? Do you really think people think you're cool lying to them, pretending to be something you're not? I guess 35 did...
I have friend who would ask me the same question. He was fully patche biker and it took a great deal to earn this level of respect. My answer to him is buy it with cash, no credit card to leave a trail.
@@flyingdutchman7585 That's the best you could come up with? Your lies perfectly align with your childish attitude. I served in the infantry and worked with elite units, so for you to try and bullshit into getting praise from random strangers is pathetic! There is no superior time frame of soldiers; the majority of the men are women serving are just as capable now, than in any other time in this country's history. Your perception of what a true "friend" is incredibly idiotic and irresponsible, since some people tend to believe in liars, like yourself. It's the job of those who can identify and call out frauds, like yourself, from having any kind of real traction.
I struggle with finding these elite friends, one of the reasons why I'm still thinking about joining. I, for the life of me, cannot settle on mediocrity, and I would want the same mindset in my friends and colleagues.
I’m a freshman in college and lot of people are friends due to the law of proximity unfortunately me too, this video opened my eyes and is what I needed to hear. Thanks
@@gcb345 It's an important observation and commentary. The closest principle to The Law of Proximity that may be more recognizable is "One bad apple can spoil the whole bunch."
You cant teach that because nobody can be better than anybody according to the staff and leaders we have these days. All are equal regardless of accomplishments.
I’ve been blessed with a group of guys all training for SOF careers. Night and day difference between the knuckleheads I used to hang around, now I’m surrounded by giants. Thankful everyday
Currently training for swedish SF. Born 2004 so going in soon so I'm training hard every day of the week. Glad to see you are too. My friends kinda don't have goals and it's a bummer
@@bobotee7072 Absolutely. I've been a nurse for 20yrs. You wouldn't believe the number of family stories I've heard about sons and daughters being destroyed by who they hung out with?
Sir! I say that as an E-4. I want to thank you for real! You’re advice… no… philosophy has had me thinking of how I should treat myself and how I should think about achieving my goals. Best officer tbh not just reaching many in the army but reaching the people of the world… ( also I’m drunk rn) your awesome sir!
I’m not sure how I would find people, let alone one person, as quality as your describing in this video. I like my friends, but now I’m realizing they’re not the kind of person your describing here.
So true,after I left the infantry I was shocked at the lack of professionalism,honor,character and motivation civilians have.People constantly late,a million excuses for everything,unreliable etc The quality of our society continually declines.Notice things just keep getting worse? Everytime we "progress" things get worse.
I am a lone wolf and I don't need anyone it's better this way, they'll just get in my way and distract me. Yes I will socialise and be friendly but friendship will be rare opportunity
I'd like to pose a counter argument, one I'm sure someone else has said here but I think bears repeating. There's a difference in having friends who are fairweather flights and are around when it's nice and fun, but having a team of trusted close friends is what this advice should go for. The social aspect of someone's life shouldn't be neglected and if you're a stronger person you should push them to achieve what their true potential is. Instead of starting from the peak of performance, build the people you're friends with so that steel can sharpen steel.
I was in military a few yrs. Got hurt and got out.went to college. Started life as a professional soldier,in another countries civil war.over 10 yrs I fought 4 times, 2 of the times,we picked the wrong side.stayed working for private security people. Getting old and have my med. issues so I moved home and started in the civilian working world. WOW, it’s been tuff and most of the people are so different,it sucks. I guess whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.I’m an architect now and I wouldn’t wanna have to trust these people with my life, no way.
Couldn't agree more with this entire video. Too many folks live in fear of missing out so they surround themselves with people who are anchors and not sails. I think a simple example of how your life is going.... Look at your Facebook friends list. If greater than 500 friends, I bet you're holding yourself back by being a people pleaser. 50-200 friends, you carefully select who's an asset to your life.
I retired in 2016, I chose to work in the private sector, thinking that an engineering firm would be full of highly educated and motivated individuals. What I found was not what I expected, these individuals while highly educated, lack motivation, organization, selfless service, or pride in their work. They're at the firm as a stepping stone to another job or just getting through the day for a paycheck. I did however looked into other firms and found the same, I'm at a loss, I don't want to turn into these people. What do I do?
Create your purpose. Face the adversities in solving an unique problem that nobody is doing anything about. Be a leader and give meaning to yourself and your work.
I love these videos I hope to one day join sasr (I'm Aussie) I've always been inspired by what the army has and can accomplish, both Australian and american forces.
Quality over quantity. Absolutely. Never doubt however the value to society and communities by spending some time... Being good company does not mean that can you can change people... However it is possible to influence people. To change their trajectories. Often even long after you have broken contact... your still affecting the situation and peoples lives in a positive direction. When it’s time to go... it’s time to go. Don’t be dragged down into quagmire. Don’t lose sight of your personal goals and aspirations. Don’t use other’s metrics of success to measure your successes. People have different interests, intentions and perspectives. The order of importance of various criteria is a important key to understanding what drives people. When things work out great the people who get all the credit rarely are the people who got it done. When things appear how ever they appear... it does not recognize the interactions between individuals that facilitated the outcomes. Everyone must take good care of themselves in order to be there for others. Stay Strong. Stay Healthy.
I've been out of the military 6 years now and I have only 1 person who fits this bill. Other than that I don't talk or hang out with anyone. The thing is he's a vet himself. In my time getting out I've found civilians to be flops.
I heard these message before. From a billionare obviously. Dan Peña. "Show me your friends and I'll show you your future." "Suround yourselfe with high performance people."
Not all “Civilians” are knuckleheads. I value friendship as one of my most important. I have all too often been there for people”( friends , family,coworkers etc. “) only to be used for their personal gain, no matter what the situation. I cannot say the same for many of them. (BTW; I am not someone who lives to please) I have found the vast majority of people are selfish, needy, argumentative etc. I now chose to be alone rather than be knee deep in snakes and rats. I envy the SF community for their bond.
I do what i want i have friends just because they have a certain lifestyle doesnt mean it changes mine. Every body gets married has kids thats the status quote but i figure theres 7.8 billion people on the planet no matter how exceptional you are when were dead were all not so exceptional mas well just enjoy your self now and live like an afterlife doesn't exist. I think its actually exceptional now a days not to play into the whole fast pace life ideal and just be your self robin williams, chester bennington, and kurt kobain are dead proof that money doesnt buy happiness.
Most time the colleagues in the company are the problem, especially when they are not loyal, selfish, fraudulent, backstabbing. It is hard to build that relationship of a top team as in the video mentioned in a company. This does not work.
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well, I am here to cheer you up...... I would much rather spend time by myself in the woods 😁😁😁😁😁!!! Thus, feel hope that not all humanity is doomed! Yes, i am curently going extinct but at least i'm enjoying my life!😂😅😇😇😇😊😊😊😊
So whose gonna be the inspiration on those less deserving? I walk with the sheep cos the sheep need someone to show the way. But that dont make me a sheep...
I still just call them turds. I feel the same way. Rather do it alone than constantly be disappointed by turds constantly. Probably the wrong way to go about it. Ehh.
@@alastor8091 Pretty much everyone who's been in a clique. Racists, gatekeepers... If you can't think of someone who's acted that way you've led an amazingly sheltered life.
@@Brigand231 no ive met people like that, I'm just wondering why you felt the need to state the obvious. Edit: also, gatekeeping is good. You can do it poorly by being mean to people, but thats not all gatekeeping. Really tired of hearing this mindless take.
@@alastor8091 See, you're doing it too. You've set your perspective as superior and labeled anything else as "mindless". To rephrase, just because you don't agree with someone doesn't mean you should be a dick about it. Here's your chance to explain how or why it might be beneficial to seek out folks who share the same level of enthusiasm as you or state that there are some things that are easier to share with common experience or knowledge, but no, we'll just forego the benefit of the doubt and assume that the person you're talking to is only capable of an obvious and "mindless take" because they didn't explain with the amount of nuance and verbosity that you would have preferred. It wasn't an attempt to trollbait, but to suggest that people have value beyond being deemed unworthy and discarded or ignored.
@@Brigand231 smart people can make stupid mistakes. You don't have to be less than somebody to do something mindless. If you take offense at criticism, you've gotta check your ego. You aren't perfect, you can make mistakes, and you can be wrong. That doesn't mean you're less than.
I think people joining the military are committed, want to be there, pride, esprit de corps etc. In civvy st its about survival and getting by. Im sure some people have rewarding careers, but finding that kind of team spirit would be very hard.
The only issue that I have with this is that it confuses professionalism with character. The two don’t go hand in hand. I served with guys who had my back always even if we in a special operations group, however some of them were pure filth when it came to character. This really seems to imply ‘if someone shows professional characteristics then they are above common rabble’ when many professionals (yes even special operations soldiers) are very dedicated to the job and cause but lacking in overall moral character. Now I’m certainly not saying that is the case for everyone however the video just seems to imply that a professional can’t also be a crummy human being, which is just incorrect.
Thanks for this video. I’m a senior in high school right now and you just flipped the lightbulb in my brain. Even though I used to be more lonely, my work ethic was great etc. In high school I have made friends with people who are lazy and have bad habits for their health. I can now see that reflected in me, wasting my time and not working hard on homework. I also see the flipside, I didn’t work out that much at all before this year. I made friends with kids who are serious about weight lifting and made friends who are setting high goals in cross country. Now I workout 6 times a week and am conscience of eating healthy. Thanks for shinning a light on something in my life that I didn’t even know was happening.
True friends will tell you things to your face because they actually care about you! Everyone else could care less. Take a moment and think about anyone doing this to you right now. (Parents? Wife or girlfriend? Kids? Church? Anyone?)
So...that's your benchmark? We live in an day and age where everybody gets offended at the slightest criticism, and you somehow believe that 'true' friends will possess the excellent qualities of a leader by telling you when you're messing up? Why do I get the feeling that you constantly have a superiority complex?
@@iwishtobetexan6060 Your boss will tell you you're messing up to your face, so he must want to be your true friend and definitely not because you're a screw you, right? Because hindering work operations and costing the company money is the dream of every supervisor. How about people close to you that support your growth and promote your success? Or any valid criticism that makes you a better person? But, sure, keep the bad so low that anyone with any basic courtesy could be mistaken as a "true friend."
@@surq0784 your boss could just fire you, but instead, he gives you a warning and a chance to correct yourself. Are you saying that isn't kindness? Who knows how much money your costing him and his company?
Measured by those standards, I habe exceptional friends (also in my opinion of course). We do not live in the same city anymlre since 2014, but are still in contact, phone regularly and meet sometimes. There is one more aspect in the video even (though it was menti: We are in our mid 20s. Everyone has chosen a different career path, gained different experience when it comes from relationships and met different peolpe. We learned from that and we learn from each other. All of them could.be role models and in my opinion, most persons I have met should be more than my friends. Also, when paths splitted, me and one of my friends thought we did not want to find new friends, because we have the best we can imagine. They are also good friends, when it comes to just having a fun time.
I have to agree with everything that you say sir. I am 54 years old. I was in the military, what and where I did it? That is my business. When I got out of the military I looked at the friends that I had before and walked away. I walk the path of my own making. When I go out, I go unnoticed. I do not go to places where I know danger might be present. I have bathed in the sunlight of victory, I have also lost myself within the darkness. I only trust two people in my life. Everyone else is the untrusted. Everyone that has our shared experience? We are wolves around Sheep! Your civilian friends will never understand what you went through. But yet we get a “thank you” for your service. At my age I no longer want to be thanked, I would like to be understood. There’s only one person in my life who understands me. That woman is a saint. She’s been with me for 20 years and have seen my evil side come out. The only person that was never scared of it. Sorry for the babble and maybe going off subject. Once you go through high intensity military training? There’s no going back to what you were.
3:15 to 3:55 is right on point my man. I thought I was the only one that felt that way when I got out the service now I know it's not just me. Thank you for your service and thank you for your service sir 💪👍💪
Superlative video on life lessons! As a brother 18A (graduated the Q-Course in 1982…BG (RIP) Toney was our class leader) who served in conventional and SFODA units and when the Cold War ended went into civilian life. I quickly learned to spot unrecognized talent and surrounded myself with people with character and respectful candor. I recognized that there are MANY people with fantastic teamwork traits who never served in the military and there are even some 18 series people we chaptered out of the Army for conduct. But more than anything, as a retired Reserve 18A I can spot people who are true team players, have talent and have character. We can run circles around our competition and once we can defeat corruption and institutional cronyism founded upon ingratiating sycophants we can soar as I work towards my 3rd retirement! Even in personal choices….didn’t marry until I was 32 but 31 years later I still have the only woman I ever married. Life as an 11 and 18 taught me a lifetime of skills that I continue to refine to this day. In education, I even earned 2 MA degrees. Outstanding video!
My opinion of this is not very appropriate to share. It is self admittedly biased. I may have improved with making lousy comments but I've still have room to improve. I know I AM alone.
Better to be alone than in bad company. Truer words have never been spoken 👏
indeed! agreed. which is why I spend most of my time in the woods looking for BigFoot! 😋🤪 (just kidding about BigFoot....or am I?)
I've been out for seven years now. Did my time in the Infantry. Did less than some, and more than others. By no means, was I the most squared away dude. But out here it's hard not to notice the mediocracy. I learned real quick that I couldn't rely on anyone around me. I tried connecting with High School friends, but it became pretty clear that also wasn't going to work. In high school, I was a pushover, more of a follower than a leader. I'm a completely different person after 8 years and multiple combat deployments. I've been on my own since 2014, kinda sucks cause I'm a social person, but over the years I've grown accustomed to only rely on myself.
I hope you find some good friends soon, but there’s no problem being alone
You will find good friends eventually. I used to have a lot of friends. Now I have 2 or 3. Life is better that way, quality over quantity
FYI, I HAD THE EXACT SAME ISSUE AS WHAT YOU STATED. MAY I SUGGEST A CHURCH? ONLY FRIENDS I FOUND THAT WERE WORTH ANYTHING WAS AT CHURCH. ALSO, READING THE HOLY BIBLE WILL BRING YOU GREAT PEACE INSIDE. I WISH I COULD DO IT OVER AGAIN, BECAUSE I WOULD HAVE NEVER GOT OUT OF THE SERVICE. CIVILIANS ARE JUST DIFFERENT. OFTEN LAZY AS CAN BE ON THE JOB, WHICH HAS BEEN HARD TO ACCEPT. 🌟BEST OF LUCK.
👍👍
I feel ya. Same sorta boat for me.
I take solice in the fact that I can go up to the bar. Start a conversation with complete strangers. Have just as much stimulation and fun than I could with "friends".
"I'd rather be alone than in the company of knuckleheads"
-Me in 4th grade.
I am 51 years old now and so glad I made that decision.
You were a very wise 4th grader
I'm doing that rn in highschool. I got no real friends there, but I'd rather be alone and wait for my gf to come back in to town than to hang with those idiots.
@@iwishtobetexan6060 If you sleep with dogs, you get fleas. Many people are dragged down by their "friends" and never reach their potential.
@@Willy_Tepes I agree. Tbh, my gf has really opened my eyes up on who true friends really are. She showed me that even tho I talk highly of them, they act like the complete opposite of a friend by putting me in terrible situations or even putting me in danger. True friends actually care about your health and well being.
@@Willy_Tepes I also learned that true friends don't stop being your friend just because you ain't like them. Ofc there's a line when you have your beliefs and friends, but for the most part, a true friend is cool with hanging with you, even if you make him or her cringe a lot or even if you've hurt them or cheated them. Their willing to forgive you and don't hold records of wrongs. Otherwise their probably just people using you.
Having been in both 3rd Batt and JSOC "back in the day" I can tell you I am closer to some of my buds than my own brothers. I can call one of these handful of friends and say "I need your help to bury a body." They will always say "do you need me to bring a shovel?" Now, that's how you know your true friends.
You're so full of it. On another video, you claim Rangers use the motto: "Who Dares Wins," a motto that is only used by the British SAS. What the hell does "back in the day" even mean? Are you claiming current Rangers aren't as good? And only good friends will help you cover up a murder? Do you really think people think you're cool lying to them, pretending to be something you're not? I guess 35 did...
@@surq0784 haha...."back in the day" in your case would mean two years ago when you were still wearing diapers. "Lighten up Francis".
@@surq0784 Same Motto is also used by the Australian SASR, i believe.
I have friend who would ask me the same question. He was fully patche biker and it took a great deal to earn this level of respect. My answer to him is buy it with cash, no credit card to leave a trail.
@@flyingdutchman7585 That's the best you could come up with? Your lies perfectly align with your childish attitude. I served in the infantry and worked with elite units, so for you to try and bullshit into getting praise from random strangers is pathetic! There is no superior time frame of soldiers; the majority of the men are women serving are just as capable now, than in any other time in this country's history. Your perception of what a true "friend" is incredibly idiotic and irresponsible, since some people tend to believe in liars, like yourself. It's the job of those who can identify and call out frauds, like yourself, from having any kind of real traction.
I feel attacked: I married a local :) Her english is excellent now and we are in love! Great videos dude!
Did u keep her in that area?
I struggle with finding these elite friends, one of the reasons why I'm still thinking about joining. I, for the life of me, cannot settle on mediocrity, and I would want the same mindset in my friends and colleagues.
I can relate to that
Same here
Do it, it be the best decisions of your life. To live is to risk it all. And I truly hope you'll find what you are searching for.
Amen same
This. I feel this.
I’m a freshman in college and lot of people are friends due to the law of proximity unfortunately me too, this video opened my eyes and is what I needed to hear. Thanks
*LiaSO,* your in-depth explanation of *"The Law of Proximity"* should be taught in every high school. *This nemesis has been revealed!*
High school is too late! Middle school is better because they are old enough to get it, but still young enough to make use of it!
@@gcb345 It's an important observation and commentary. The closest principle to The Law of Proximity that may be more recognizable is "One bad apple can spoil the whole bunch."
You cant teach that because nobody can be better than anybody according to the staff and leaders we have these days. All are equal regardless of accomplishments.
I’ve been blessed with a group of guys all training for SOF careers. Night and day difference between the knuckleheads I used to hang around, now I’m surrounded by giants. Thankful everyday
Currently training for swedish SF. Born 2004 so going in soon so I'm training hard every day of the week. Glad to see you are too. My friends kinda don't have goals and it's a bummer
OORAH!
Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are
@@k.lionmotivation4185 tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are...
@@bobotee7072 Absolutely. I've been a nurse for 20yrs. You wouldn't believe the number of family stories I've heard about sons and daughters being destroyed by who they hung out with?
Sir! I say that as an E-4. I want to thank you for real! You’re advice… no… philosophy has had me thinking of how I should treat myself and how I should think about achieving my goals. Best officer tbh not just reaching many in the army but reaching the people of the world… ( also I’m drunk rn) your awesome sir!
I’m not sure how I would find people, let alone one person, as quality as your describing in this video. I like my friends, but now I’m realizing they’re not the kind of person your describing here.
Honestly with these standards you will end up having no friends. I suppose it depends on your social environment.
God bless the American special operations from Australia
So true,after I left the infantry I was shocked at the lack of professionalism,honor,character and motivation civilians have.People constantly late,a million excuses for everything,unreliable etc The quality of our society continually declines.Notice things just keep getting worse? Everytime we "progress" things get worse.
I come back to many of Mr. Littlestone's videos. Very good reminders and extremely helpful in life.
Thanks for the insight. You video have great timing, thanks for all you do.
I am a lone wolf and I don't need anyone it's better this way, they'll just get in my way and distract me. Yes I will socialise and be friendly but friendship will be rare opportunity
I'd like to pose a counter argument, one I'm sure someone else has said here but I think bears repeating. There's a difference in having friends who are fairweather flights and are around when it's nice and fun, but having a team of trusted close friends is what this advice should go for. The social aspect of someone's life shouldn't be neglected and if you're a stronger person you should push them to achieve what their true potential is. Instead of starting from the peak of performance, build the people you're friends with so that steel can sharpen steel.
Agreeable. But I think what he might have been talking about was when making new friends.
Nevertheless, I do agree to your idea of leading by example.
Glad to see you're making new videos, though probably not gonna go the sof path myself this info is still entertaining
I was in military a few yrs. Got hurt and got out.went to college. Started life as a professional soldier,in another countries civil war.over 10 yrs I fought 4 times, 2 of the times,we picked the wrong side.stayed working for private security people. Getting old and have my med. issues so I moved home and started in the civilian working world. WOW, it’s been tuff and most of the people are so different,it sucks. I guess whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.I’m an architect now and I wouldn’t wanna have to trust these people with my life, no way.
Couldn't agree more with this entire video. Too many folks live in fear of missing out so they surround themselves with people who are anchors and not sails.
I think a simple example of how your life is going.... Look at your Facebook friends list.
If greater than 500 friends, I bet you're holding yourself back by being a people pleaser.
50-200 friends, you carefully select who's an asset to your life.
So true. Thank you! 🙏
I retired in 2016, I chose to work in the private sector, thinking that an engineering firm would be full of highly educated and motivated individuals. What I found was not what I expected, these individuals while highly educated, lack motivation, organization, selfless service, or pride in their work. They're at the firm as a stepping stone to another job or just getting through the day for a paycheck. I did however looked into other firms and found the same, I'm at a loss, I don't want to turn into these people. What do I do?
Maybe try an innovative start-up
Create your purpose. Face the adversities in solving an unique problem that nobody is doing anything about. Be a leader and give meaning to yourself and your work.
Start your own business and build something that is in your vision
So true, I been paying for it in spades.
I love those qoutes from the SCRIPTURES
inspiring video
I wish I had friends like this in University.
Thanks for this very interesting and instructive video 👍
Great advice to live by.
God bless America. 🇺🇸
I love these videos I hope to one day join sasr (I'm Aussie) I've always been inspired by what the army has and can accomplish, both Australian and american forces.
Thanks for sharing and being honest.
my wife… I blessed myself with a awesome teammate . 🙏🏼🇺🇸⚓️ .
Life after LIFE .
Amen, brother.
Great talk thank you sir and thank you for your service!
great teaching and amazing content as always. God bless
Quality over quantity. Absolutely.
Never doubt however the value to society and communities by spending some time...
Being good company does not mean that can you can change people...
However it is possible to influence people.
To change their trajectories.
Often even long after you have broken contact...
your still affecting the situation and peoples lives in a positive direction.
When it’s time to go...
it’s time to go.
Don’t be dragged down into quagmire.
Don’t lose sight of your personal goals and aspirations.
Don’t use other’s metrics of success to measure your successes.
People have different interests, intentions and perspectives.
The order of importance of various criteria is a important key to understanding what drives people.
When things work out great the people who get all the credit rarely are the people who got it done.
When things appear how ever they appear...
it does not recognize the interactions between individuals that facilitated the outcomes.
Everyone must take good care of themselves in order to be there for others. Stay Strong. Stay Healthy.
Totally true... But where can i find people Like this? I think they are really rare
I agree with the knucklehead argument. People who experience no commitment and no structure behave accordingly.
Extraordinary 🇺🇸🦅‼️
Thanks for the video sir!
video helped me realize I was raised right
Once again, I'm left to re-think all my current relationships
Good timing.
This video gives great advice on socializing 🤔
Honorable people help those less fortunate rather than turn their back on them because they're not "elite" enough for them...
Thank you kind sir
I guess I have to elevate myself to their level if I want them to want to be around me
me and my friends can be goofballs but when we need to be we're like a spec ops group ( kinda thing is that makes sense )
I thought I was the only one that feels this way.
3:10 Yessir. I still am.
Inspirational...
I need friends like this but it's seriously hard in Algeria
I've been out of the military 6 years now and I have only 1 person who fits this bill. Other than that I don't talk or hang out with anyone. The thing is he's a vet himself. In my time getting out I've found civilians to be flops.
Wow cool 😎 & second
awesome video
Comparison subject of the highest class 💪. Name of the song in the first portion of the video???
Danger is night vision we should replaced night vision by invisible flashlight or ir or UV flash light
Never had friends in college
Here's a good question:
If no one wants to be around me because I'm always after it, then what does that say about me?
I heard these message before.
From a billionare obviously. Dan Peña.
"Show me your friends and I'll show you your future."
"Suround yourselfe with high performance people."
That guy always try to show himself as a hero! While we don't know even his name!
special creates duty
Not all “Civilians” are knuckleheads. I value friendship as one of my most important. I have all too often been there for people”( friends , family,coworkers etc. “) only to be used for their personal gain, no matter what the situation. I cannot say the same for many of them. (BTW; I am not someone who lives to please) I have found the vast majority of people are selfish, needy, argumentative etc. I now chose to be alone rather than be knee deep in snakes and rats. I envy the SF community for their bond.
I do what i want i have friends just because they have a certain lifestyle doesnt mean it changes mine. Every body gets married has kids thats the status quote but i figure theres 7.8 billion people on the planet no matter how exceptional you are when were dead were all not so exceptional mas well just enjoy your self now and live like an afterlife doesn't exist. I think its actually exceptional now a days not to play into the whole fast pace life ideal and just be your self robin williams, chester bennington, and kurt kobain are dead proof that money doesnt buy happiness.
I guess I need a better team
Most time the colleagues in the company are the problem, especially when they are not loyal, selfish, fraudulent, backstabbing. It is hard to build that relationship of a top team as in the video mentioned in a company. This does not work.
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I feel slightly attacked by this video :)
Ik I fucked up im a Poole getting ready to leave for Marine Bootcamp and I was hanging with friends and I ended up taking some eascty
I graduated Marine Corps bootcamp
@@NFLYoungBoy223 congrats!
HooYaH......
well, I am here to cheer you up...... I would much rather spend time by myself in the woods 😁😁😁😁😁!!! Thus, feel hope that not all humanity is doomed! Yes, i am curently going extinct but at least i'm enjoying my life!😂😅😇😇😇😊😊😊😊
"or visual stimulation" well guess i'll stop your video there and turn off my pc now. Time for the treadmill anyway.
So whose gonna be the inspiration on those less deserving?
I walk with the sheep cos the sheep need someone to show the way. But that dont make me a sheep...
Problem is, these problems are common place in BiG Army
French Foreign Legion 25 Years
🏆✨👉👏SOF
I still just call them turds. I feel the same way. Rather do it alone than constantly be disappointed by turds constantly. Probably the wrong way to go about it. Ehh.
How old are you my man? You sound like a 25-30 years old... But I know I'm wrong😅😅
Nope, I'm a drunk in a high risk job. Stop taking the fun out of it pal.
There’s no weak link
There's ALWAYS a weak link!
@@RoyG. weak link are already weed out during selection
He/She ? WTF ? I thought only men were SF soldiers, anyway, there’s a while this channel has becoming too politically correct.
2:03 ‘my elite friends and I’ lmao cringe
as long as your friends are loyal it shouldn’t matter how stupid they are
To be clear, just because someone isn't chosen to be part of your inner circle doesn't mean to be a dick to them.
Who said that?
@@alastor8091 Pretty much everyone who's been in a clique. Racists, gatekeepers... If you can't think of someone who's acted that way you've led an amazingly sheltered life.
@@Brigand231 no ive met people like that, I'm just wondering why you felt the need to state the obvious. Edit: also, gatekeeping is good. You can do it poorly by being mean to people, but thats not all gatekeeping. Really tired of hearing this mindless take.
@@alastor8091 See, you're doing it too. You've set your perspective as superior and labeled anything else as "mindless".
To rephrase, just because you don't agree with someone doesn't mean you should be a dick about it.
Here's your chance to explain how or why it might be beneficial to seek out folks who share the same level of enthusiasm as you or state that there are some things that are easier to share with common experience or knowledge, but no, we'll just forego the benefit of the doubt and assume that the person you're talking to is only capable of an obvious and "mindless take" because they didn't explain with the amount of nuance and verbosity that you would have preferred.
It wasn't an attempt to trollbait, but to suggest that people have value beyond being deemed unworthy and discarded or ignored.
@@Brigand231 smart people can make stupid mistakes. You don't have to be less than somebody to do something mindless. If you take offense at criticism, you've gotta check your ego. You aren't perfect, you can make mistakes, and you can be wrong. That doesn't mean you're less than.
I think people joining the military are committed, want to be there, pride, esprit de corps etc. In civvy st its about survival and getting by. Im sure some people have rewarding careers, but finding that kind of team spirit would be very hard.
🤣🤣 not everyone pal
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The only issue that I have with this is that it confuses professionalism with character. The two don’t go hand in hand. I served with guys who had my back always even if we in a special operations group, however some of them were pure filth when it came to character. This really seems to imply ‘if someone shows professional characteristics then they are above common rabble’ when many professionals (yes even special operations soldiers) are very dedicated to the job and cause but lacking in overall moral character. Now I’m certainly not saying that is the case for everyone however the video just seems to imply that a professional can’t also be a crummy human being, which is just incorrect.
Very small minority my friend
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@@jbird4165 bs
@@jbird4165 You would be surprised. Definitely not a small minority
Your exactly right!
Thanks for this video. I’m a senior in high school right now and you just flipped the lightbulb in my brain. Even though I used to be more lonely, my work ethic was great etc. In high school I have made friends with people who are lazy and have bad habits for their health. I can now see that reflected in me, wasting my time and not working hard on homework. I also see the flipside, I didn’t work out that much at all before this year. I made friends with kids who are serious about weight lifting and made friends who are setting high goals in cross country. Now I workout 6 times a week and am conscience of eating healthy. Thanks for shinning a light on something in my life that I didn’t even know was happening.
1 Corinthians 15 33 - Do not be fooled: “Bad friends will ruin good habits."
You have an exceptional way of making someone nostalgic over missions with a great team.
True friends will tell you things to your face because they actually care about you! Everyone else could care less. Take a moment and think about anyone doing this to you right now. (Parents? Wife or girlfriend? Kids? Church? Anyone?)
So...that's your benchmark? We live in an day and age where everybody gets offended at the slightest criticism, and you somehow believe that 'true' friends will possess the excellent qualities of a leader by telling you when you're messing up? Why do I get the feeling that you constantly have a superiority complex?
@@surq0784 why don't you elaborate on that a bit.
@@iwishtobetexan6060 Your boss will tell you you're messing up to your face, so he must want to be your true friend and definitely not because you're a screw you, right? Because hindering work operations and costing the company money is the dream of every supervisor. How about people close to you that support your growth and promote your success? Or any valid criticism that makes you a better person? But, sure, keep the bad so low that anyone with any basic courtesy could be mistaken as a "true friend."
@@surq0784 your boss could just fire you, but instead, he gives you a warning and a chance to correct yourself. Are you saying that isn't kindness? Who knows how much money your costing him and his company?
Even if he did fire you, but he told you what you did wrong, now you know what not to do at your next job site.
Measured by those standards, I habe exceptional friends (also in my opinion of course). We do not live in the same city anymlre since 2014, but are still in contact, phone regularly and meet sometimes. There is one more aspect in the video even (though it was menti: We are in our mid 20s. Everyone has chosen a different career path, gained different experience when it comes from relationships and met different peolpe. We learned from that and we learn from each other. All of them could.be role models and in my opinion, most persons I have met should be more than my friends. Also, when paths splitted, me and one of my friends thought we did not want to find new friends, because we have the best we can imagine. They are also good friends, when it comes to just having a fun time.
Thanks for your wisdom and prayers . Change that game .Alone .
I love your videos. Much support from Poland.
Agree 100% better to go alone than to just go along in life. I wish I could tell the 13 year old me….
Thanks again for all of your awesome content and for your service ..❤️👍👍🇺🇸
Awesome video man. Just subscribed.
This reinforces what I believe in. Just to think that it was me with the problem 😂 Thank you, sir!
So tired of lessons and feeling crappy when you have toxicity all around you.. how in the world can I focus!
I have to agree with everything that you say sir. I am 54 years old. I was in the military, what and where I did it? That is my business. When I got out of the military I looked at the friends that I had before and walked away. I walk the path of my own making. When I go out, I go unnoticed. I do not go to places where I know danger might be present. I have bathed in the sunlight of victory, I have also lost myself within the darkness. I only trust two people in my life. Everyone else is the untrusted. Everyone that has our shared experience? We are wolves around Sheep! Your civilian friends will never understand what you went through. But yet we get a “thank you” for your service. At my age I no longer want to be thanked, I would like to be understood. There’s only one person in my life who understands me. That woman is a saint. She’s been with me for 20 years and have seen my evil side come out. The only person that was never scared of it.
Sorry for the babble and maybe going off subject. Once you go through high intensity military training? There’s no going back to what you were.
3:15 to 3:55 is right on point my man. I thought I was the only one that felt that way when I got out the service now I know it's not just me. Thank you for your service and thank you for your service sir 💪👍💪
“Bad bfs become bad husbands..” why didn’t you also say bad gfs become bad wives?
It seems pretty implied, don’t complain about good advice!
Superlative video on life lessons! As a brother 18A (graduated the Q-Course in 1982…BG (RIP) Toney was our class leader) who served in conventional and SFODA units and when the Cold War ended went into civilian life. I quickly learned to spot unrecognized talent and surrounded myself with people with character and respectful candor. I recognized that there are MANY people with fantastic teamwork traits who never served in the military and there are even some 18 series people we chaptered out of the Army for conduct. But more than anything, as a retired Reserve 18A I can spot people who are true team players, have talent and have character. We can run circles around our competition and once we can defeat corruption and institutional cronyism founded upon ingratiating sycophants we can soar as I work towards my 3rd retirement! Even in personal choices….didn’t marry until I was 32 but 31 years later I still have the only woman I ever married. Life as an 11 and 18 taught me a lifetime of skills that I continue to refine to this day. In education, I even earned 2 MA degrees. Outstanding video!
My opinion of this is not very appropriate to share. It is self admittedly biased. I may have improved with making lousy comments but I've still have room to improve. I know I AM alone.