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Thank you Anna for this video.. The only "correction" on a way to dress example would be to avoid small bags on the formal job interview.. It would seem weird and more evening appropriate..
Last summer i worked as an hostess in a five star luxury hotel, you cannot imagine how many people came to dinner in flip flops and short trousers, i mean if you can afford a five star hotel stay maybe you can afford some nice clothes too! I was embarassed to ask them to go and change because there was a dress code...
I'm born and raised in Tunisia, North Africa, and our weddings are very diffirent from what Anna talked about. In here, it's very common that the guests (the ladies) wear very flamboyant, sparkly and showy dresses. I think it's considered okay in here because the bride's dress and make up are usually super flamboyant, so she naturally outshines everyone. These cultural differences are very interesting so thank you Anna for the amazing content. ❤️
Yes, in countries where the bridal gown is white, one should avoid wearing white, ivory and cream.Light beige or light yellow is as close as you can go. In Eastern Europe where I live, showing up in the traditional national costume at a wedding is also ok. I was told by an Asian neighbor that their bridal color is red, so the guests should avoid red, but can wear pink or violet. He said white is for their funerals while black is for others. Every country has its traditions.
Even South Asian weddings are like that. The bride wears so much jewellery everyone knows who the bride is. Western brides are always so bare in comparison.
I took my daughter to the Nutcracker ballet when she was little, meant to be a wonderful fancy and fun thing to do as a little girl. People were there in ripped jeans and stained white tank tops. We had a fun time anyway, and she looked sweet in her elegant little dress, but it really was odd to see ppl dressed that way.
@@conchitasofia If nobody tells them, then what were their parents and grandparents doing? Some of these rules are absolute basics. Everyone needs to own at least one set of nice, conservative clothes, even the poorest people. [Sweatpants cost no less than fast fashion trousers.] You wear your nice clothing to worship, to ceremonial things, to big fancy events. People who go to more than 1-2 of these a year need more clothes. People who go to more expensive events need more expensive clothes. It's that simple.
I love the Nutcracker ballet but it's quite true that some people just don't know how to dress properly for events because they really don't bother, I always dress appropriately when going to the theatre.
I remember going to the nutcracker ballet when I was little myself actually. (I enjoyed it so much, I'm sure your daughter had a similar experience!) My mom would always dress super fabulously, and since it was winter, she would also have a matching elegant coat. And of course, she would dress me in these pretty princess like dresses and all of that. But I ALSO remember that while there were lots of people who were dressed beautifully, there would also be people who would come in with their casual clothes and sneakers, and these people a lot of times were the same people who didn't respect the other guests, like I remember one lady was sitting in front of us and brought out a CAMCORDER (probably with sound equipment too idk) with flash and everything. (this was back in like, 2008, so you couldn't record discreetly with a smartphone) I genuinely don't understand why people are like this, and its only gotten worse over the past decade
She is single handedly bringing back class and elegance and I am so grateful to her. More women need this than not. I can't believe what I see out there.
You have hit the nail on the head! My father always told me, if you’re not sure what you should wear, wear a dress. I’m 66 now and his words could not be more true. So many people today are slobs; the way they talk, eat and look. I refuse to fall into that mentality. Im sure some of your subscribers will come for me, but I stand by my words.
Excellent advice. I wear dresses a lot, even when I don't "have" to. A cute denim skirt with a sweater and flats is so much more elevated than a pair of jeans. And you don't feel underdressed when you go to lunch with your significant other or your friends.
I had a heated conversation with a friend of mine one time about dress codes. I argued that it is disrespectful to attend an event wearing clothing that clearly violates the dress code. She argued that it is silly to have to follow a dress code, that it is old-fashioned and rude to impose a dress code. Needless to say, I am not close friends with her anymore. Living in Utah (USA), many people do not dress up for work at all. I am a scientist, but that doesn't mean that I wear boring clothes (tee shirt and jeans) every day. I have more and more "Anna Bey" in my style: trousers, chic flats, cashmere sweaters and silk blouses, and nice blazer jackets.
Being from Utah myself I disagree I dressed in suits or pencil skirts for my sales job at Dillards. I wore dresses or skirts to church and I wore the required clothing to the specified event. Then I moved to New Jersey in 2006 and was put in complete culture shock . No one dresses appropriately for anything here.
I just don't get it, either. A few years ago, when living in Barcelona, I published a book and got the print version delivered to my home. I was in touch with a local woman online who'd gone through an online business course with me and we had been talking about meeting up, so we decided to go to an elegant beachfront restaurant for lunch to celebrate my new book. Of couse, it was only lunch, but I dressed appropriately - a nice dress, wedge shoes, hair neat and a little bit of jewellery and make-up... and my new friend turned up in a casual creased top and jeans, no make nor jewellery, hair a scruffy mess. I was quite taken aback! The restaurant waiter, a friend of mine, took a photo of us (with my new book) and, as I was using it to help promote my book, I photoshopped my friend's hair and makeup, and took the creases out of her top before publishing the photo online, hahaha. :D
I think events are a two way street when it comes to dressing. If someone has gone to the trouble of putting on an amazing event, that they have clearly spent time, money and effort to pull together.....the least you can do is make the effort to pull yourself together and wear something that says you care. 🤩
As someone who works as a lawyer, I've seen some make the mistake of wearing an expensive designer/branded clothes to an interview. Subconsciously, recruiters see it as 'well you don't need the job clearly'. Also, I'd go as far as saying do not wear designer clothes to a corporate job at all! This will affect your chances of being promoted (from experience) and your relationship with clients, as you're giving off a certain kind of image.
There's a fine line here. While all attorneys should wear (for example) a suit to a court appearance, the junior associate should not wear the same cost and quality suit as the senior partner in a billion dollar international firm. The best advice is to dress for the job you are interviewing for. The law student should not wear a $10,000 custom Italian suit, the managing director should.
@@lizcademy4809 I also do believe it depends on the firm culture/general culture of the country. I'm from the UK, and the culture generally in Europe is to stay away from obviously branded clothes in a corporate environment. An expensive suit is more than OK, just make sure there's no 'brand' on it. That's generally what I was saying. I sometimes treat myself to expensive pieces for work, I just make sure there's no logo/brand or any obvious sign that it is a designer.
@@lizcademy4809 at the company i work at no one wears brands with logos tbf where i'm from it's unprofessional i.e. i wouldn't show up in a chanel or ysl bag or red bottom heels. but a designer without a logo where someone wouldnt instantly know it's a designer is ok
@@mia94_ Agreed. I'm a web developer, so you'd think I could dress casual ... except I work for a high end investment house in an office with a lot of brokers. I dress on par with the senior brokers, but just a little bit quirky. [As in a fossil pendant on a gold chain, not a science fiction graphic tee.] I never liked branded items, and I avoid them at all costs.
I wish formal rules would return. Life would be so much easier; I spend so much time trying not to over-dress as scruffy is the rule in Australia. Not all the time but often.
I live in the US. Most people look like slobs. I'm always over dressed, because I refuse to look that way, even at home. I set my own dress code. You should too. You are not over dressed, they're under dressed. You may inspire some of them to put forth a little more effort.
A prudent man once told me "There is no such thing as overdressed". And it's true. Don't be afraid to shine your light just because others live in darkness.
I'm originally from Lithuania and I remember the first time I attended opera here in the UK. I was so surprised that not only the majority didn't make that much of effort, but some were even sitting with coats through the whole performance. I think when attending theatre we're celebrating art and someone's incredibly hard work. Why not dress the part for this occasion? Loved the video. You look so gorgeous Anna. Made me want to buy a ticket to something special 💕 Always a huge inspiration for my own channel
I totally agree. I think the artists of the theatre/opera deserve a well dressed audience. I find it so disrepectful for the artists if people wear outfits that are absolutely not appropriate for the occasion.
Dressing in business casual is good enough for this girl. I am paying to see a performance and they are not paying to see me. I get cold very easily - my coat will stay with me due to this in many cases (not a bulky one or long one) and you will not find me in super fancy dress, skirt, etc. I am very confident that my nice clothing choices to sit for a few hours comfortably means more. I would also feel ridiculous dressing too fancy. Where I live, people are not dressing up like they used to back in the day.
My best advice for being comfortable in formal clothes is this: Make sure that every piece fits you correctly. Not necessarily perfectly, but correctly. Nothing too big, and nothing too small. And this advice applies to every single piece of clothing being worn for a formal event, including the undergarments. If the undergarments don’t fit, you can still be very uncomfortable even while wearing clothes that should fit comfortably. Especially correctly fitting bras for ladies. A badly fitted bra is one of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever worn. You cannot be comfortable in your own skin if your undergarments are uncomfortable.
I couldn’t agree more to this video! I was 18 when I moved to Germany to study medicine and I will never forget my first experience at the opera there. My friend and me were most probably the poorest students in the public and yet we were the only ones wearing a dress and pumps. Literally everyone else was wearing jeans and sport shoes. And the worst of all was their judgement in the eyes just looking at us. As if we were the awkward ones?!? This left such a trauma in my life, that 10 years later I still travel abroad to enjoy opera although I am still living in the same city.
Yes Germany is very casual in general & I hate it sometimes. I'm German & love elegant clothes. Maybe that's the reason why many people first think i'm russian and not german 😂
Make that Ten times worse in the us. Germans dress way better than Americans. Here people look like slobs sometimes I can’t tell a homeless person from a regular guy with a house and a job
@@natalyaakselaleksander4502 yes I made this experience this year. I traveled to Washington state, California & Nevada this year & I agree with you, especially in Seattle I saw this all the time. Exactly what you described.
I also moved to Germany from Bulgaria and my style is basically lost already, jeans and T-shirt’s every day and I work in a corporate company. Life is so casual here that I have coworkers showing up in leggings and sportswear all the time, no make up, hair up in a messy bun. I used to dress up nicely before I came here, but now when I dress a little better people give you the dirty looks.
@@DeeDeeblonde I don't care anymore about the looks from other. I'm not overdressed or slutty, only like to look put together. & the fact is , most of the men like this look & I get many compliments.
Hi Anna, The best compliment I’ve received when traveling abroad is…you don’t look like a tourist. I’ve had tourists ask me for directions because they thought I was a native. I’ve always dressed appropriately for any situation. I’ve learned so much from you since finding your channel a few months ago. Signed, Elegant lady in training 😏 😉 ❤
Yes Anna, My Husband took me to Las Vegas for my Birthday some years ago. We had a lovely suite at the Venetian. He had purchased tickets to see 'Phantom'. He wore his Tuxedo, and I wore a formal tea length dress. We were stunned to see people standing in line wearing jeans, board shorts, tee shirts, etc. I still get upset thinking about it.
Las Vegas is the worst. My parents told me that back in the fifties, men had to wear a coat and tie and women had to wear dresses to the nightclubs. No more. Good for you, dressing well and properly! Now people make you feel like you are somehow trying to get above your station if you put on a pair of pumps.
You ought to be proud that you made the effort!! You were there to celebrate a special occasion ... I hope you rocked that tea length dress & your hubby rocked his tux!
No reason to be upset. Some people just don’t know how to dress for different occasions. Being gracious and understanding of their lack of knowledge is more classy than looking down on them.
I’m with you 100% on this Anna. People have become inappropriate in all situations these days. I think it’s a lack of pride. We are no longer being held accountable for our behaviour and presentation . Times have truly changed for the worst
I often feel low in spirit and self-esteem if I am not slightly dressed even at my non-formal work. You dress like a slob, you'll feel like a slob...I dunno but that is my humble opinion. I wonder if dressing slightly formal will help a bit with mental issue?
Something that really crashes my "dress-up mood" is when I arrive at a nice restaurant and see that almost nobody is well dressed, they are all wearing t-shirts, jeans, and casual clothes and it really has made me wonder if I am the weird one or the exaggerated one because it seems I am the one who is out of place, it is really sad that nowadays you will feel weird when being a little more overdressed than everyone else. It almost makes you want to underdress.
I felt overdressed when I went to the Symphony few months ago lol . But I didnt feel uncomfortable at all felt all eyes was on me and made me more confident
I remember as a young girl my mom told me that when you go to the ballet or any other type of event you dress up. Usually because that's what the royalty would watch and I've been dressing up since!
Personally I feel that being appropriately dressed is part of general etiquette. I find that young people who made lots of money quickly have not learned (or don’t care) how to present themselves. I love choosing an outfit for different occasions!
Thank you for talking about the lack of care and effort that so many people seem to lack in their appearance and behavior. I am 76 years old, I refuse to be "old and frumpy." I take pride in looking attractive, I look much younger than my age because I take the time to look as good and vibrant as possible. I dearly wish more of my lady friends would do the same. It makes ne sad to see people not caring how they present themselves or maybe not feeling like they deserve any self care.
This is a great attitude 👏🏻 My mom is 70 and actively rebels against the “old and frumpy” look that seems common as ladies age. She’s an inspiration for me - I’m 38 but working on putting habits in place now so I don’t fall into frumpiness either.
Indeed you are right, here in Greece it is considered inappropriate to enter a church in revealing clothes. And i agree with it, even if some people rebel against this rule. Either you are religious or not, you should respect the place and the people around you by being modest.. As always,great tips Anna!☺️✨
Not only in Greece. In Eastern Europe where I live, there are the same rules if you enter a church, temple,mosque or any kind of religious place, cemetery, museum, theater, opera house. One can break the rules but will be stared and even commented on by an elder...
The opera/theater one REALLY gets me. If "class" is considered old-fashioned, I'm happy to wear the label. Appropriate and modest dress conveys respect for yourself, for others, and an awareness of the occasion. In my family, we always say we'd rather be slightly overdressed than underdressed. How you carry yourself matters.
Thank you, Anna. The casualness of our society bothers me, too. Dressing well and appropriately is a sign of respect, both for yourself and others. It's as if all the respect has been drained from society. People no longer seem to care how they present themselves and often don't consider the appropriateness of their attire for the occasion. I think this has been caused partly by the mental illness epidemic in America (currently about 50% of us have a diagnosable mental illness, with anxiety, depression, and PTSD being by far the most common forms) and partly by the isolation and toxic self-focus the internet encourages. If you are isolated, self-focused, or feel disconnected from other people, you don't think about how others see you. You have no motive for engaging in respectful behavior. I worked hospital mental health. We had to teach most of our patients how to respect themselves and others, and we were very strict. Lack of respect increased patients' violent incidents, just as it does in non-patients. Ultimately, lack of respect is a form of hate and in most of us it''s also an expression of self-hate. We never talk about the epidemic of self-hate in America, but that's THE reason most people are so miserable. Anna, videos like yours are good teaching tools for showing why respectful behavior, manners, and dress are so important. Keep up the good work!
@@mementomori1022 Good points. Most people who need help don't think they need it, not even the alcoholic waking up in the ER for the fourth, fifth, tenth time. Denial is another elephant in the room!
I was taught in Music Appreciation classes that one should show respect to the performers on stage. Notice how the performers take care about their appearance...it is a sign of respect not only to the performers but also to the arts. Audience should always show the same by dressing with the same respect.
@@hh3046 "I don't care" "I wear what I want" "Clothes have no rules". Those things had destroyed good manners and proper dressing. OK,you have the right to dress as you want... taking into account the surroundings. I think that's common sense and respect for other people.
I was invited to a wedding, and I was going to wear something like the light blue wrap dress😍 While searching for wedding guest dresses, I saw too many dresses with slits on the waist and exposing too much cleavage, and a lot were just slips that are better off layered under a blazer than worn on their own. It was just tough to find something decent that was also charming!
Dear Anna so happy you addressed the "theatre dresscode" because even if it not formal it is a SOCIAL event and you have to be proper. I love going to musicals and ballet, and looking nice at such events it makes it even more special!!! Also, people complaining they have to cover up when going into a Church as their are wearing mini skirts and crop tops. However, going to othe religious buildings they respect the dresscode. That is so disrespectful to Christians. 😥 29 and on my way to become a lady thanks to you 🥰
This is a very important vid, Anna! I am so sick of people showing up at funeral home calling hours or churches looking like they just changed the oil in their cars or just left the strip club. How much does it take to spend a few extra minutes to put on something that is more dressed up and respectful to the situation. And if that means you are, in fact, a tiny bit less “comfortable”, well, too darn bad. It’s so incredibly sad how slovenly everyone has become. It’s not limited to a particular country because it’s everywhere!!! I can say I saw a bit of hope in a couple of designer fashion shows this Fall. Ralph Lauren’s especially was all pure elegance and a bit of a throwback to the good parts of the 1960’s (Audrey Hepburn looks, etc.). If I were younger, I would start a business teaching the 20-something women and men how to dress up elegantly even for casual situations. Once they do it they will experience that incredible great sense of niceness that comes along with it. Those peers of theirs who might mock what they’re doing will begin to change themselves because it just makes you feel a little extra special. Keep up the “elegance” Anna. It’s very important and so, so needed. God Bless!!!!❤
I was raised in the south with good manners and a certain etiquette. Most of the time, I’m shocked by what people are wearing or not wearing! I think we’ve gotten too comfortable and most of us have forgotten what is appropriate clothing for certain events. The other problem is that parents aren’t teaching their kids manners or etiquette either. Your videos are so great and totally helpful!
It's not only you Anna who's so confused with people on Tiktok wearing whatever that's not supposed to be for entertainment if they to entertain. Especially young people think it's COOL. I think it embodies a generational decay. Glad we have you to teach us better.
Yes it's amazing how people just don't care how they look anymore and very sad actually. Back in the 40s/50s people really used to take pride in how they looked and they never left the house looking sloppy. I think we can take a lesson from them. Not saying we have to dress in that style, just start taking pride in how we look and making sure we are appropriate for the places we go. Great video Anna ;)
My parents were not rich or into society but they always taught me manners and to dress propperly according to the occasion no matter the budget. Specially for church and restaurants. It is all about common sense and respect for the other person or culture! Thank you for this excellent reminder Anna.
Im 44 and I personally dont own jeans and trackpants for example so thats why I resonated with Anna's channel immediately. Its sad that people dont like getting dressed up these days, I get dressed up just to go shopping.
Same, growing up my mom and aunties would all gather to go shopping together on certain dates of the month. And they would dress up like fine ladies and dress us children up too. Now I see people going shopping in sweatpants, bicycle leggings and what not. Those belong in the gym or morning run at the park.
I'm from Switzerland but have been living for 35 years in the USA. You are absolutely right about dressing accordingly for the occasion. Here in the states the American man is unable to separate him self from his base ball cap no matter what the occasion. I think Americans are quite known over the world to be bad dressers and some times I think they dress theme selves just so they don't have to walk around naked.
Dear Anna, how right you are. I keep seeing people very often, who either have no idea about dress codes or then they think " I need to be comfortable ". I used to know someone, who often said she wants to feel comfy and free. No make-up, no style, nothing. Her basic idea was: " Why should I bother? If people do not like the way I look and dress, they do not need to meet me. This is my natural look,- take it or leave it." How can it be made clear to a person already 33 yrs old, what appearance means? Thank you again for an interesting and extremely needed video. Stay happy and safe.
Yeah I mean, I get that we should all accept each other as we are, but I actually feel *less* comfortable if I’m in comfy clothes with my hair just doing whatever, etc. I don’t even dress up much - jeans and a nice top, bit of makeup, etc - but I feel way more comfortable overall that way than if I had just rolled out of bed.
I love your videos, Anna! You teach etiquette that is rare to find nowadays & contrary to what our society often teaches. I appreciate this etiquette being “normalized”.
I spent a year in Berlin in the mid-seventies, and went to the opera many, many times. The dress code was absolutely evening dress, which I was delighted to comply with. It was also fun travelling to the opera via the U-Bahn, with all the opera-goers in evening dress mixed in with the commuters in their work or office clothes. Fond memories!
My strangest experience at the theater in NYC was being seated next to a couple dressed in tees and jeans who also had their grocery shopping with them !!!
You nailed it. It makes me so sad to see that people don't care to dress up anymore!! Call me old fashion, but every place has a dress code in my opinion. People just choose to ignore it. 😥
People have always told me ‘it’s not a fashion show! It’s just the grocery store, school, work etc..’ For me it’s not about showing off, it’s about dressing appropriately for the event or situation.
Thank you!!!! 🙌 100000 times agree! ❤❤ Wearing a sweatpants or frumpy clothes to the opera, or elegant restaurant is a just sign of lack respect and being uneducated and ‚simple’ person. This is sad and disturbing how people show no effort, neither respect to themselves, others, art and public in general. Especially after pandemic, it seems that standards in society dropped so dramatically 🙄🙈😢 why we accept this trend of wearing messy, dirty or inapropriate clothes?!! 🤯
It's the Hollywood celebrities setting this trend and making it "acceptable." The "no matter how famous I am I dress like a homeless." It's awful, and it's degrading whole generations of people who accept it as the "hot trend." We live in an upside down world.. We on here have to support each other and keep our common sense. 🙂
Totally agree Anna. I think most people have developed a “who cares” attitude which they don’t realize makes their way into every area of their life. I forget if it was Jim Rohn or Tony Robbins who said “how you do some things is how you do everything” meaning you can’t have a who cares attitude in some areas and a 100% attitude in other areas.
YES TO THIS!!!! A great example is how people dont care about spelling and grammar on social media and it bleeds into their professional life when they write memos,emails, signs, papers. It's embarassing. I learned as an actor " How you rehearse it is how it will look in the show"
Well...I have a good example of dressing inappropriately. I attended an "out door wedding" a few years back and I was completely mortified by the attire of one of the close personal friends. She arrived on her bicycle wearing cycling shorts and and a t-shirt. Every one thought she had packed appropriate clothing to change into but she was not carrying a bag of any kind. She popped off her helmet and nonchalantly entered the wedding tent. The worse part of all this, is that she was in many of the wedding pictures. Every one else was in summer garden attire and she just stood out like a sore thumb....the sad part is....I don't think she realised her mistake.
I twice had people come to a job interview in shorts, once the man was even wearing flipflops! I work in a job where we can be (smart) casual on most days and dress up for events and meetings. However shorts in a job interview context definitely gives the impression that one doesn’t care nor took the time to prepare.
Thank you Anna for speaking about Comfort clothes and i do agree with you, it really just an excuse for laziness, and yes we have stores that sells nice clothes with cheaper price, sometimes i do trift stuff because you can get a good quality clothes cheaper so i am still on budget.
I don't see a point in having pretty clothes and not wearing them. I wear my pretty dresses and skirts whenever I have the chance to. Dressing up is so much fun!
There is something to be treasured and valued in dressing with etiquette. You really live with less regret and exposure. Thank you for making these videos!
This was an excellent video Anna! Even before Covid, people were dressing in a sloppy, comfy style. The generations have changed in their style of dress, for sure, and not necessarily for the better. The way one dresses shows you have respect for yourself, as well as the event you are attending.
Anna I love you! I agree with the Opera dress code. My mother and I had a tradition of going to the Nutcracker during the Christmas season. We loved the experience because it was a wonderful time to get dressed up and behave gracefully. The first time I got a let-down with live events was when I went to see “O” in Vegas. The tickets were over $200 yet people dressed horribly. They also drank and ate in the seats while getting up often to get more snacks. So tacky. I resist so many live events now due to the lowered dress requirements.
This is the video I needed. I went with my friend to see "The Phantom of the Opera" over the summer in NYC and 95% of the people looked like they just left the gym and decided to catch a show. My friend and I both wore dresses, heels and small handbags. We looked out of place, but we felt good. My other friend who goes to the theater often on her birthday usually wears a gorgeous ballgown, because she says she wants to show respect to the hard work of the performers and it would be rude to show up in gym clothes or casual wear.
Wonderful. There are so few guides out there for young men and women - I am so happy you included what to wear for an interview. I think one point that needs to be made is that people have forgotten to respect themselves; to enjoy looking their best. To say "I'm worth it " and I deserve to make this a special occasion by wearing something flattering and not lazy. I do believe more videos like this that are not fast fashion - but simple guidelines to looking polished and 'worth it' will benefit so many people who simply don't know where to get this info. Thank you for empowering people !
That’s because they believe dressing nicely equals being uncomfortable and they believe they are honoring themselves by dressing comfortably. Of course there are plenty of clothes that look good and are comfortable.
Thank you for talking about dress codes. I think people got too comfortable and chose unappreciated clothing. Some don’t even get out of their pajamas when they leave the house!
I am delighted to see over a million subscribers which hopefully means that over a million people will start dressing properly. Anna, you are such a class act, no young women should be allowed out in public without completing your course, I am a grandmother and can no longer go to the beach with my sons as the trend is thongs ? or whatever it is they don't wear !! with their entire backside exposed, its revolting
@@hikerhobby1204 people dress according to what they truly value. Were they to meet their favorite celeb I’m sure they’d make an effort to look presentable. Unfortunately though being in the house of the King of Kings isn’t a reason to dress up in their mind. Again, priorities…
You know I think I lot of "discomfort" in a lot of clothes (not shoes, shoe construction can be very uncomfortable for people who aren't used to high heels) comes down to people not understanding their actual sizes after living in super stretchy sweats and buying clothes that are too small, short or tight. And also bad posture. If you are slouching in a stiffer fabric, it will pinch, it will pull at the neck because it's not supposed to stretch.
Hello and thank you for yet another well prepared lesson on etiquette. I, too, believe people nowadays are in need of clear, simple examples and also plenty of reminders that there are far better choices for dressing than the so called trendy laid back style. The older I am the more sensitive I find myself to be concerning what feels appropriate and what feels off. Thank you again for all your efforts in educating us to a more elegant existence and helping us build our own intuitive knowing about it.
7:33 I remember that when I was little they didn't let into the Milan cathedral if you weren't wearing appropriate clothes. If people wore a top, for example, they would give a plastic cape to put on their shoulders. Today this doesn't happen anymore, but for me it was right. In a sacred place you have to be respectful. If you want to go to churches or similar places you have to dress in a certain way.
And it is so easy to just carry a big scarf when travelling, which doesn’t take a lot of space and can be used for places of worship, as a cover up for the cold, a blanket in the plane, etc.
I’m so glad you talked about these common sense dress codes! I thought it was only in America that people have no sense of what to wear even on a daily basis! People wear things that wasn’t made for that purpose! Soccer shorts are not worn for sports! Bike shorts aren’t worn for cycling! Yoga pants, well you get the idea! 😂😂
Such a great video and I agree with everything you said. I live in California where everyone is SUPER casual. I made reservations at the Four Seasons Beverly Hills for my girlfriends and they showed up in bike shorts, sweats and tennis shoes. I call today's dressing "Thrift Store Adjacent."
@@miss.paula1111 Agreed. I've found some decent items at thift shops on occasion so def not strictly opposed. I've had to do deep dives to find something great there though since the bulk of items isn't ideal (at least not to me). Since I can afford to shop where I want, I prefer not to spend time sifting through undesirable items.
I'd know a snippet of Sierra Boggess singing "Think of Me" anywhere! I let out a little squeal when you showed the theatre clips! I 100% agree about ppl not dressing up for the opera. It's so sad and weirdly cheapens the experience bcos the opera is so amazing and transcendent!
You touched on my favorite subject dress codes ! It’s so disappointing that people don’t make effort when going out ! I never do what the majority do I follow my instincts and go by the dress code . Better to be classy and a bit over dressed than not 😄
Totally agree with you. The most important thing is if you expect to be respected you have to respect all people around you, the way you dress accordingly and appropriately is a way of being respectful. Thank you beautiful lady. Blessings from Perú.
Hi Anna, I just wanted to thank you for your tips, I constantly keep on upgrading. I'm going to university and some friends joke that I dress like I could financially support the entire friend group😂 Lots of love from Germany
Anna, thank you for the on-point advice that is much needed in modern times. This is one of my favorite and most generally applicable etiquette videos on youtube. I appreciate your focus on manners that demonstrate respect for others and the situations we are in. The dress you are wearing is stunning! Bravo all the way around!
Thank you Anna 🙏🏼♥️🧿 Etiquette has gone out the window nowadays. I’am 33 & I can’t fathom the mentality that the elegant & classy dressing, Is looked at as if it’s what you should wear in your late 40-50’s. For example the class Anna shows here. It’s like, more flesh the better & EVERYTHING is sexualised nowadays. It’s just ridiculous, I watch your videos with my daughter & shes 11. She love’s you & looks forward to watching these video’s. As she learns in a more detailed manner, she learns how to carry herself & talk too in a fun way. Thank you for being so inspiring, there’s not many people out there with platforms that do what you do, to make positive change. At funeral’s, if I’am honest I just wear elegant pearl earrings, my wedding rings & that’s it. Depends on whatever culture funeral I’am attending. I make sure I ask/research! what is worn out of respect & make sure I wear what other culture’s do. Once I borrowed my friends headscarf & asked her to put it on correctly for me. As I didn’t know & I didn’t want to disrespect anyone Simple. I love visiting different places of worship when we travel & depending on whatever country & place of worship, my husband & I make sure not only he & I, but our children are dressed appropriately. Even our children who are 13 & 11 ask to do so & research prior to going away too, which is lovely. As for Oprah I’ve always wanted to go & I noticed some people don’t dress how I thought. So I think, when I go I hope if I dress up I don’t get starred at, as if there’s something wrong with me. I think Oprah should remain classy like before, I mean you don’t get to enter Savoy/Ritz to even go for a drink, if your wearing sneaker’s. I understand, so would be nice if Oprah house put dress codes into place. Thank you so much. Sending you so much positivity, love & gratitude always 🙏🏼🧿♥️
Anna, you are so funny, the part about a grandpa staring down someone's cleavage. I usually am not a fan of stock footage, but the way you used it here with the old man holding the champaign was hilarious.
Thank you for this video! Wonderful guidance. I think an inclusive rule for all dress codes that often people forget: do not wear ill fitting clothes! If you attend any event and your clothes are skintight or sloppy baggy, you will look unsophisticated and inappropriately dressed.
I moved to the USA recently, and this type of things have been a full shock to me, I was taught to wear appropriate clothes for the ocassion, even if it is going for groceries, you can't do that in your pijamas or home clothing. But now living in Arkansas everyday people stare at me and judge me because I don't wear sweatpants and sweatshirts for everything. Even if it is just a simple dress and pretty flats, they would look at me weird. I know I'm doing the right thing, but being in a different country without friends, sometimes you really want to fit in.
Same here, I'm in Canada. Please keep it up, the right people will find you. It's much worse if you try to fit in and end up downgrading and losing yourself.
Wonderful video Anna! I hate the lack of respectful dressing esp to these places you mentioned. I feel like many people just blindly follow what everyone else is doing, and dress poorly
I love and appreciate the fact you explained with examples of the mistakes/ what is inappropriate as well as what is acceptable and appropriate. Thank you so much Anna, you help upgrade us. And a special thank to you, for addressing my request for suggested dress codes for special occasions(and I’m sure many would have requested this.. a much needed one! )👏
I have seen so many obnoxious people - unfortunately mainly Americans, go to places of worship with hot pants! I mean it’s so disrespectful. Also I totally understand the Opera scenario. I hate that people don’t dress up when they go ..
I’m tired of seeing women and young girls booty cheeks everywhere I go. It’s not appropriate anywhere other than the beach imo. I truly can’t believe so many parents allow their young daughters (some girls not even teens not that it really matters either way) to wear clothing with literally their buttcheeks hanging out the bottom. I’m truly flabbergasted and disgusted by it!
I guess I am old fashion but I love the 30s and 40s where people wore really nice clothes all the time even hats. Men wore suits and women wore suits also or dresses and heels with hats. I always have people tell me you look so nice today where are you going?? I’m not going anywhere. I just step up my game because life’s too short not to look great!
I totally agree with you! It’s part of the degeneration of society these days. I decided to completely ignore that trend and dress as best as I can to suit the occasion. By the way most trends are stupid.
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Thank you Anna for this video.. The only "correction" on a way to dress example would be to avoid small bags on the formal job interview.. It would seem weird and more evening appropriate..
Thank you for addressing this as these are standard traditional rules. Saying oh but everything's different now... THATS NOT AN EXCUSE
Make a video titled: “the misconception of simplicity” or “the annoying simplicity”
That dress you are wearing is stunning 👏👏👏
I saw a man in SHORTS- top & Cowboy Hat, at a FUNERAL.
Can we pls bring back etiquette and dressing to the occasion! It’s up to us ladies! We must re-introduce the trends
My husband says this every time we fly. He said men used to wear suits because it was such a privilege to fly but now people wear pajamas
Say it loudly enough so those who wear pajamas as outerwear can hear you.
@@AmberlyPerez, does he have a cousin?
Yes please 🤗🤗
We ?
Anna is helping me become a LADY, slowly but surely! Just turned 29 yesterday and I’m very ready to step up my game😅
Happy birthday my dear elegant lady 🎉🎊❤️
I just turned 30 and so am I. Ready to adopt a new classy look and persona💃🏽👠💄👗Good luck girlie 💖
@@Amy_omer aw🫶🏼thank u💖
Happy birthday 🎉
I’m right there w you girl! Happy bday- we 29 & fine! ✨✨✨
Last summer i worked as an hostess in a five star luxury hotel, you cannot imagine how many people came to dinner in flip flops and short trousers, i mean if you can afford a five star hotel stay maybe you can afford some nice clothes too! I was embarassed to ask them to go and change because there was a dress code...
Nobody tells them at the door. That's why more people do it.
Hence the saying, "Money doesn't buy class."
@@deborahquirantes676 Very true
The company you worked for should’ve had a dress code. One of my first jobs at a luxury hotel, the restaurant had a no shorts policy.
Unless the hotel has a dress code for dining, what are you gonna do?
I'm born and raised in Tunisia, North Africa, and our weddings are very diffirent from what Anna talked about.
In here, it's very common that the guests (the ladies) wear very flamboyant, sparkly and showy dresses. I think it's considered okay in here because the bride's dress and make up are usually super flamboyant, so she naturally outshines everyone.
These cultural differences are very interesting so thank you Anna for the amazing content. ❤️
Yes, in countries where the bridal gown is white, one should avoid wearing white, ivory and cream.Light beige or light yellow is as close as you can go. In Eastern Europe where I live, showing up in the traditional national costume at a wedding is also ok. I was told by an Asian neighbor that their bridal color is red, so the guests should avoid red, but can wear pink or violet. He said white is for their funerals while black is for others. Every country has its traditions.
Good point.
As Algerian I totally understand you especially when it comes to wearing sexy clothes, it's totally normal in north Africa
Even South Asian weddings are like that. The bride wears so much jewellery everyone knows who the bride is. Western brides are always so bare in comparison.
@@yoselynlyn2759 we sure do love flashy weddings 😆
I took my daughter to the Nutcracker ballet when she was little, meant to be a wonderful fancy and fun thing to do as a little girl.
People were there in ripped jeans and stained white tank tops.
We had a fun time anyway, and she looked sweet in her elegant little dress, but it really was odd to see ppl dressed that way.
Nobody tells them.
@@conchitasofia If nobody tells them, then what were their parents and grandparents doing?
Some of these rules are absolute basics. Everyone needs to own at least one set of nice, conservative clothes, even the poorest people. [Sweatpants cost no less than fast fashion trousers.] You wear your nice clothing to worship, to ceremonial things, to big fancy events.
People who go to more than 1-2 of these a year need more clothes. People who go to more expensive events need more expensive clothes.
It's that simple.
I love the Nutcracker ballet but it's quite true that some people just don't know how to dress properly for events because they really don't bother, I always dress appropriately when going to the theatre.
Are you American by chance?
I remember going to the nutcracker ballet when I was little myself actually. (I enjoyed it so much, I'm sure your daughter had a similar experience!) My mom would always dress super fabulously, and since it was winter, she would also have a matching elegant coat. And of course, she would dress me in these pretty princess like dresses and all of that. But I ALSO remember that while there were lots of people who were dressed beautifully, there would also be people who would come in with their casual clothes and sneakers, and these people a lot of times were the same people who didn't respect the other guests, like I remember one lady was sitting in front of us and brought out a CAMCORDER (probably with sound equipment too idk) with flash and everything. (this was back in like, 2008, so you couldn't record discreetly with a smartphone)
I genuinely don't understand why people are like this, and its only gotten worse over the past decade
Anna is bringing culture back. Thank you 🙏🏻
She is single handedly bringing back class and elegance and I am so grateful to her. More women need this than not. I can't believe what I see out there.
Yeah - why people dress down nowdays?
@@tiramisuni1 Because wearing extravagant clothes is a waste of money and effort. What matter more is what we do and who we are, not what we wear.
@@LookupintheAER why are you here?
@@LookupintheAER clothes says many thing about the person cause first impression is the last impression
You have hit the nail on the head! My father always told me, if you’re not sure what you should wear, wear a dress. I’m 66 now and his words could not be more true. So many people today are slobs; the way they talk, eat and look. I refuse to fall into that mentality. Im sure some of your subscribers will come for me, but I stand by my words.
No, we're all with you, Judith! D
Excellent advice. I wear dresses a lot, even when I don't "have" to. A cute denim skirt with a sweater and flats is so much more elevated than a pair of jeans. And you don't feel underdressed when you go to lunch with your significant other or your friends.
We'll not come for you, but to support you!
That's actually good advice
@@lisabeaumont Too sweet. Thank you. And I miss my father every day. He was a fantastic father.
I had a heated conversation with a friend of mine one time about dress codes. I argued that it is disrespectful to attend an event wearing clothing that clearly violates the dress code. She argued that it is silly to have to follow a dress code, that it is old-fashioned and rude to impose a dress code. Needless to say, I am not close friends with her anymore.
Living in Utah (USA), many people do not dress up for work at all. I am a scientist, but that doesn't mean that I wear boring clothes (tee shirt and jeans) every day. I have more and more "Anna Bey" in my style: trousers, chic flats, cashmere sweaters and silk blouses, and nice blazer jackets.
Being from Utah myself I disagree I dressed in suits or pencil skirts for my sales job at Dillards. I wore dresses or skirts to church and I wore the required clothing to the specified event. Then I moved to New Jersey in 2006 and was put in complete culture shock . No one dresses appropriately for anything here.
I just don't get it, either. A few years ago, when living in Barcelona, I published a book and got the print version delivered to my home. I was in touch with a local woman online who'd gone through an online business course with me and we had been talking about meeting up, so we decided to go to an elegant beachfront restaurant for lunch to celebrate my new book.
Of couse, it was only lunch, but I dressed appropriately - a nice dress, wedge shoes, hair neat and a little bit of jewellery and make-up... and my new friend turned up in a casual creased top and jeans, no make nor jewellery, hair a scruffy mess. I was quite taken aback!
The restaurant waiter, a friend of mine, took a photo of us (with my new book) and, as I was using it to help promote my book, I photoshopped my friend's hair and makeup, and took the creases out of her top before publishing the photo online, hahaha. :D
I think events are a two way street when it comes to dressing. If someone has gone to the trouble of putting on an amazing event, that they have clearly spent time, money and effort to pull together.....the least you can do is make the effort to pull yourself together and wear something that says you care. 🤩
I think dress codes to a certain extent should not be very strict. They should be a bit loose but it depends case by case.
@@SevenAnomone224 E X A C T L Y! I love you you worded it.
As someone who works as a lawyer, I've seen some make the mistake of wearing an expensive designer/branded clothes to an interview. Subconsciously, recruiters see it as 'well you don't need the job clearly'. Also, I'd go as far as saying do not wear designer clothes to a corporate job at all! This will affect your chances of being promoted (from experience) and your relationship with clients, as you're giving off a certain kind of image.
There's a fine line here.
While all attorneys should wear (for example) a suit to a court appearance, the junior associate should not wear the same cost and quality suit as the senior partner in a billion dollar international firm.
The best advice is to dress for the job you are interviewing for. The law student should not wear a $10,000 custom Italian suit, the managing director should.
@@lizcademy4809 I also do believe it depends on the firm culture/general culture of the country. I'm from the UK, and the culture generally in Europe is to stay away from obviously branded clothes in a corporate environment. An expensive suit is more than OK, just make sure there's no 'brand' on it. That's generally what I was saying. I sometimes treat myself to expensive pieces for work, I just make sure there's no logo/brand or any obvious sign that it is a designer.
so true! i work at a finance company and wearing branded clothes is a big no no. I leave the designer bags at home haha
@@lizcademy4809 at the company i work at no one wears brands with logos tbf where i'm from it's unprofessional i.e. i wouldn't show up in a chanel or ysl bag or red bottom heels. but a designer without a logo where someone wouldnt instantly know it's a designer is ok
@@mia94_ Agreed. I'm a web developer, so you'd think I could dress casual ... except I work for a high end investment house in an office with a lot of brokers. I dress on par with the senior brokers, but just a little bit quirky. [As in a fossil pendant on a gold chain, not a science fiction graphic tee.]
I never liked branded items, and I avoid them at all costs.
I wish formal rules would return. Life would be so much easier; I spend so much time trying not to over-dress as scruffy is the rule in Australia. Not all the time but often.
Exactly my thoughts. I wish I was born during an era where people still dressed fashionably as it was the normal thing to do.
I live in the US. Most people look like slobs. I'm always over dressed, because I refuse to look that way, even at home. I set my own dress code. You should too. You are not over dressed, they're under dressed. You may inspire some of them to put forth a little more effort.
Amen
A prudent man once told me "There is no such thing as overdressed". And it's true. Don't be afraid to shine your light just because others live in darkness.
@@leporellothegoldfinch very wise words. ☺️
I'm originally from Lithuania and I remember the first time I attended opera here in the UK. I was so surprised that not only the majority didn't make that much of effort, but some were even sitting with coats through the whole performance.
I think when attending theatre we're celebrating art and someone's incredibly hard work. Why not dress the part for this occasion?
Loved the video. You look so gorgeous Anna. Made me want to buy a ticket to something special 💕
Always a huge inspiration for my own channel
I totally agree. I think the artists of the theatre/opera deserve a well dressed audience.
I find it so disrepectful for the artists if people wear outfits that are absolutely not appropriate for the occasion.
I love being “over” dressed. 💅
Fellow Lithuanian living in UK here 🥰🥰🥰
Dressing in business casual is good enough for this girl. I am paying to see a performance and they are not paying to see me. I get cold very easily - my coat will stay with me due to this in many cases (not a bulky one or long one) and you will not find me in super fancy dress, skirt, etc. I am very confident that my nice clothing choices to sit for a few hours comfortably means more. I would also feel ridiculous dressing too fancy. Where I live, people are not dressing up like they used to back in the day.
@@Kikiconsilience labas, Diana 💕malonu
My best advice for being comfortable in formal clothes is this: Make sure that every piece fits you correctly. Not necessarily perfectly, but correctly. Nothing too big, and nothing too small. And this advice applies to every single piece of clothing being worn for a formal event, including the undergarments. If the undergarments don’t fit, you can still be very uncomfortable even while wearing clothes that should fit comfortably. Especially correctly fitting bras for ladies. A badly fitted bra is one of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever worn. You cannot be comfortable in your own skin if your undergarments are uncomfortable.
Excellent comment about the badly fitting bra
Underwear is so often overlooked as a key piece in a wardrobe. If you don’t get the foundations right, the building won’t hold up 😅.
I couldn’t agree more to this video!
I was 18 when I moved to Germany to study medicine and I will never forget my first experience at the opera there. My friend and me were most probably the poorest students in the public and yet we were the only ones wearing a dress and pumps. Literally everyone else was wearing jeans and sport shoes. And the worst of all was their judgement in the eyes just looking at us. As if we were the awkward ones?!?
This left such a trauma in my life, that 10 years later I still travel abroad to enjoy opera although I am still living in the same city.
Yes Germany is very casual in general & I hate it sometimes. I'm German & love elegant clothes. Maybe that's the reason why many people first think i'm russian and not german 😂
Make that Ten times worse in the us. Germans dress way better than Americans. Here people look like slobs sometimes I can’t tell a homeless person from a regular guy with a house and a job
@@natalyaakselaleksander4502 yes I made this experience this year. I traveled to Washington state, California & Nevada this year & I agree with you, especially in Seattle I saw this all the time. Exactly what you described.
I also moved to Germany from Bulgaria and my style is basically lost already, jeans and T-shirt’s every day and I work in a corporate company. Life is so casual here that I have coworkers showing up in leggings and sportswear all the time, no make up, hair up in a messy bun. I used to dress up nicely before I came here, but now when I dress a little better people give you the dirty looks.
@@DeeDeeblonde I don't care anymore about the looks from other. I'm not overdressed or slutty, only like to look put together. & the fact is , most of the men like this look & I get many compliments.
Hi Anna,
The best compliment I’ve received when traveling abroad is…you don’t look like a tourist. I’ve had tourists ask me for directions because they thought I was a native. I’ve always dressed appropriately for any situation. I’ve learned so much from you since finding your channel a few months ago.
Signed,
Elegant lady in training 😏 😉 ❤
When in Rome ...
Yes Anna, My Husband took me to Las Vegas for my Birthday some years ago. We had a lovely suite at the Venetian. He had purchased tickets to see 'Phantom'. He wore his Tuxedo, and I wore a formal tea length dress. We were stunned to see people standing in line wearing jeans, board shorts, tee shirts, etc. I still get upset thinking about it.
If you’re still “upset” move on.
Las Vegas is the worst. My parents told me that back in the fifties, men had to wear a coat and tie and women had to wear dresses to the nightclubs. No more. Good for you, dressing well and properly! Now people make you feel like you are somehow trying to get above your station if you put on a pair of pumps.
You ought to be proud that you made the effort!! You were there to celebrate a special occasion ... I hope you rocked that tea length dress & your hubby rocked his tux!
No reason to be upset. Some people just don’t know how to dress for different occasions. Being gracious and understanding of their lack of knowledge is more classy than looking down on them.
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I’m with you 100% on this Anna. People have become inappropriate in all situations these days. I think it’s a lack of pride. We are no longer being held accountable for our behaviour and presentation . Times have truly changed for the worst
I often feel low in spirit and self-esteem if I am not slightly dressed even at my non-formal work. You dress like a slob, you'll feel like a slob...I dunno but that is my humble opinion. I wonder if dressing slightly formal will help a bit with mental issue?
I absolutely agree!
Something that really crashes my "dress-up mood" is when I arrive at a nice restaurant and see that almost nobody is well dressed, they are all wearing t-shirts, jeans, and casual clothes and it really has made me wonder if I am the weird one or the exaggerated one because it seems I am the one who is out of place, it is really sad that nowadays you will feel weird when being a little more overdressed than everyone else. It almost makes you want to underdress.
I felt overdressed when I went to the Symphony few months ago lol .
But I didnt feel uncomfortable at all felt all eyes was on me and made me more confident
Thats the way I feel as well
I remember as a young girl my mom told me that when you go to the ballet or any other type of event you dress up. Usually because that's what the royalty would watch and I've been dressing up since!
Personally I feel that being appropriately dressed is part of general etiquette. I find that young people who made lots of money quickly have not learned (or don’t care) how to present themselves. I love choosing an outfit for different occasions!
Thank you for talking about the lack of care and effort that so many people seem to lack in their appearance and behavior. I am 76 years old, I refuse to be "old and frumpy." I take pride in looking attractive, I look much younger than my age because I take the time to look as good and vibrant as possible. I dearly wish more of my lady friends would do the same. It makes ne sad to see people not caring how they present themselves or maybe not feeling like they deserve any self care.
This is a great attitude 👏🏻 My mom is 70 and actively rebels against the “old and frumpy” look that seems common as ladies age. She’s an inspiration for me - I’m 38 but working on putting habits in place now so I don’t fall into frumpiness either.
Indeed you are right, here in Greece it is considered inappropriate to enter a church in revealing clothes. And i agree with it, even if some people rebel against this rule. Either you are religious or not, you should respect the place and the people around you by being modest..
As always,great tips Anna!☺️✨
Not only in Greece. In Eastern Europe where I live, there are the same rules if you enter a church, temple,mosque or any kind of religious place, cemetery, museum, theater, opera house. One can break the rules but will be stared and even commented on by an elder...
The opera/theater one REALLY gets me. If "class" is considered old-fashioned, I'm happy to wear the label. Appropriate and modest dress conveys respect for yourself, for others, and an awareness of the occasion. In my family, we always say we'd rather be slightly overdressed than underdressed. How you carry yourself matters.
Thank you, Anna. The casualness of our society bothers me, too. Dressing well and appropriately is a sign of respect, both for yourself and others. It's as if all the respect has been drained from society. People no longer seem to care how they present themselves and often don't consider the appropriateness of their attire for the occasion. I think this has been caused partly by the mental illness epidemic in America (currently about 50% of us have a diagnosable mental illness, with anxiety, depression, and PTSD being by far the most common forms) and partly by the isolation and toxic self-focus the internet encourages. If you are isolated, self-focused, or feel disconnected from other people, you don't think about how others see you. You have no motive for engaging in respectful behavior.
I worked hospital mental health. We had to teach most of our patients how to respect themselves and others, and we were very strict. Lack of respect increased patients' violent incidents, just as it does in non-patients. Ultimately, lack of respect is a form of hate and in most of us it''s also an expression of self-hate. We never talk about the epidemic of self-hate in America, but that's THE reason most people are so miserable. Anna, videos like yours are good teaching tools for showing why respectful behavior, manners, and dress are so important. Keep up the good work!
Jane, your comment is so insightful.
@@elipotter369 Thank you so much! 😁
@@mementomori1022 Good points. Most people who need help don't think they need it, not even the alcoholic waking up in the ER for the fourth, fifth, tenth time. Denial is another elephant in the room!
You are so right!
@@daisy4750 Thank you, Daisy!
I was taught in Music Appreciation classes that one should show respect to the performers on stage. Notice how the performers take care about their appearance...it is a sign of respect not only to the performers but also to the arts. Audience should always show the same by dressing with the same respect.
I find it SUPER disrespectful when someone goes underdressed to somebody else’s event
It is.
You are absolutely correct. Unfortunately, this happens all the time in "don't-care" America these days.
I see people in jeans at weddings - it’s just plain rude.
all these bought comments lol....her hubby is a Freemason and hires some big PR teams. Nothing special- just PR
@@hh3046 "I don't care" "I wear what I want" "Clothes have no rules". Those things had destroyed good manners and proper dressing.
OK,you have the right to dress as you want... taking into account the surroundings. I think that's common sense and respect for other people.
I was invited to a wedding, and I was going to wear something like the light blue wrap dress😍 While searching for wedding guest dresses, I saw too many dresses with slits on the waist and exposing too much cleavage, and a lot were just slips that are better off layered under a blazer than worn on their own. It was just tough to find something decent that was also charming!
You have just described all dresses on ASOS.
Be careful with light blue as apparently in photos it can show up as white
Dear Anna so happy you addressed the "theatre dresscode" because even if it not formal it is a SOCIAL event and you have to be proper. I love going to musicals and ballet, and looking nice at such events it makes it even more special!!!
Also, people complaining they have to cover up when going into a Church as their are wearing mini skirts and crop tops. However, going to othe religious buildings they respect the dresscode. That is so disrespectful to Christians. 😥
29 and on my way to become a lady thanks to you 🥰
This is a very important vid, Anna!
I am so sick of people showing up at funeral home calling hours or churches looking like they just changed the oil in their cars or just left the strip club. How much does it take to spend a few extra minutes to put on something that is more dressed up and respectful to the situation. And if that means you are, in fact, a tiny bit less “comfortable”, well, too darn bad.
It’s so incredibly sad how slovenly everyone has become. It’s not limited to a particular country because it’s everywhere!!! I can say I saw a bit of hope in a couple of designer fashion shows this Fall. Ralph Lauren’s especially was all pure elegance and a bit of a throwback to the good parts of the 1960’s (Audrey Hepburn looks, etc.). If I were younger, I would start a business teaching the 20-something women and men how to dress up elegantly even for casual situations. Once they do it they will experience that incredible great sense of niceness that comes along with it. Those peers of theirs who might mock what they’re doing will begin to change themselves because it just makes you feel a little extra special.
Keep up the “elegance” Anna. It’s very important and so, so needed. God Bless!!!!❤
… Some people request to wear certain colours or clothes to their funeral though and this is when you should respect their wishes …
I was raised in the south with good manners and a certain etiquette. Most of the time, I’m shocked by what people are wearing or not wearing! I think we’ve gotten too comfortable and most of us have forgotten what is appropriate clothing for certain events. The other problem is that parents aren’t teaching their kids manners or etiquette either. Your videos are so great and totally helpful!
It's not only you Anna who's so confused with people on Tiktok wearing whatever that's not supposed to be for entertainment if they to entertain. Especially young people think it's COOL. I think it embodies a generational decay. Glad we have you to teach us better.
Yes it's amazing how people just don't care how they look anymore and very sad actually. Back in the 40s/50s people really used to take pride in how they looked and they never left the house looking sloppy. I think we can take a lesson from them. Not saying we have to dress in that style, just start taking pride in how we look and making sure we are appropriate for the places we go. Great video Anna ;)
My parents were not rich or into society but they always taught me manners and to dress propperly according to the occasion no matter the budget. Specially for church and restaurants. It is all about common sense and respect for the other person or culture! Thank you for this excellent reminder Anna.
Im 44 and I personally dont own jeans and trackpants for example so thats why I resonated with Anna's channel immediately. Its sad that people dont like getting dressed up these days, I get dressed up just to go shopping.
This is ridiculous! You can still look good in jeans and you're only going shopping so why do you need to get dressed up?
@@phi-losiphy2038 Exactly! Don’t own jeans? Jeez. Bit too much. Hope you don’t have leggings too in your closet ;)
@@mel_smythe8154 there's nothing wrong with leggings either🙄!
Same, growing up my mom and aunties would all gather to go shopping together on certain dates of the month. And they would dress up like fine ladies and dress us children up too. Now I see people going shopping in sweatpants, bicycle leggings and what not. Those belong in the gym or morning run at the park.
@@phi-losiphy2038 Yeah I wear them both, jeans and leggings are my essentials.
I'm from Switzerland but have been living for 35 years in the USA. You are absolutely right about dressing accordingly for the occasion.
Here in the states the American man is unable to separate him self from his base ball cap no matter what the occasion.
I think Americans are quite known over the world to be bad dressers and some times I think they dress theme selves just so they don't have to walk around naked.
Same observation here 💯
As a fellow Swiss, I agree
I’m 20 and I’ve been watching Anna since I was 12! This information has helped me so much into becoming a young lady!
Love you Anna!
Dear Anna, how right you are. I keep seeing people very often, who either have no idea about dress codes or then they think " I need to be comfortable ". I used to know someone, who often said she wants to feel comfy and free. No make-up, no style, nothing. Her basic idea was: " Why should I bother? If people do not like the way I look and dress, they do not need to meet me. This is my natural look,- take it or leave it." How can it be made clear to a person already 33 yrs old, what appearance means? Thank you again for an interesting and extremely needed video. Stay happy and safe.
Yeah I mean, I get that we should all accept each other as we are, but I actually feel *less* comfortable if I’m in comfy clothes with my hair just doing whatever, etc. I don’t even dress up much - jeans and a nice top, bit of makeup, etc - but I feel way more comfortable overall that way than if I had just rolled out of bed.
I love your videos, Anna! You teach etiquette that is rare to find nowadays & contrary to what our society often teaches. I appreciate this etiquette being “normalized”.
I spent a year in Berlin in the mid-seventies, and went to the opera many, many times. The dress code was absolutely evening dress, which I was delighted to comply with. It was also fun travelling to the opera via the U-Bahn, with all the opera-goers in evening dress mixed in with the commuters in their work or office clothes. Fond memories!
I love how you started putting suggestions along with what not to wear!
My strangest experience at the theater in NYC was being seated next to a couple dressed in tees and jeans who also had their grocery shopping with them !!!
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A girl, living in NYC, said, she could leave the house wearing pajamas, no one would look twice.
Welcome to USA!
You nailed it. It makes me so sad to see that people don't care to dress up anymore!! Call me old fashion, but every place has a dress code in my opinion. People just choose to ignore it. 😥
People have always told me ‘it’s not a fashion show! It’s just the grocery store, school, work etc..’ For me it’s not about showing off, it’s about dressing appropriately for the event or situation.
Thank you!!!! 🙌 100000 times agree! ❤❤ Wearing a sweatpants or frumpy clothes to the opera, or elegant restaurant is a just sign of lack respect and being uneducated and ‚simple’ person. This is sad and disturbing how people show no effort, neither respect to themselves, others, art and public in general. Especially after pandemic, it seems that standards in society dropped so dramatically 🙄🙈😢 why we accept this trend of wearing messy, dirty or inapropriate clothes?!! 🤯
It's the Hollywood celebrities setting this trend and making it "acceptable." The "no matter how famous I am I dress like a homeless." It's awful, and it's degrading whole generations of people who accept it as the "hot trend." We live in an upside down world.. We on here have to support each other and keep our common sense. 🙂
@@rusalkanyc4670 absolutely! ❤️
Totally agree Anna. I think most people have developed a “who cares” attitude which they don’t realize makes their way into every area of their life. I forget if it was Jim Rohn or Tony Robbins who said “how you do some things is how you do everything” meaning you can’t have a who cares attitude in some areas and a 100% attitude in other areas.
YES TO THIS!!!! A great example is how people dont care about spelling and grammar on social media and it bleeds into their professional life when they write memos,emails, signs, papers. It's embarassing. I learned as an actor " How you rehearse it is how it will look in the show"
@@chanelsdollstudio1423 so true!
Well...I have a good example of dressing inappropriately. I attended an "out door wedding" a few years back and I was completely mortified by the attire of one of the close personal friends. She arrived on her bicycle wearing cycling shorts and and a t-shirt. Every one thought she had packed appropriate clothing to change into but she was not carrying a bag of any kind. She popped off her helmet and nonchalantly entered the wedding tent. The worse part of all this, is that she was in many of the wedding pictures. Every one else was in summer garden attire and she just stood out like a sore thumb....the sad part is....I don't think she realised her mistake.
I twice had people come to a job interview in shorts, once the man was even wearing flipflops! I work in a job where we can be (smart) casual on most days and dress up for events and meetings. However shorts in a job interview context definitely gives the impression that one doesn’t care nor took the time to prepare.
Thank you Anna for speaking about Comfort clothes and i do agree with you, it really just an excuse for laziness, and yes we have stores that sells nice clothes with cheaper price, sometimes i do trift stuff because you can get a good quality clothes cheaper so i am still on budget.
I don't see a point in having pretty clothes and not wearing them. I wear my pretty dresses and skirts whenever I have the chance to. Dressing up is so much fun!
There is something to be treasured and valued in dressing with etiquette. You really live with less regret and exposure. Thank you for making these videos!
This was an excellent video Anna! Even before Covid, people were dressing in a sloppy, comfy style. The generations have changed in their style of dress, for sure, and not necessarily for the better. The way one dresses shows you have respect for yourself, as well as the event you are attending.
Anna I love you! I agree with the Opera dress code. My mother and I had a tradition of going to the Nutcracker during the Christmas season. We loved the experience because it was a wonderful time to get dressed up and behave gracefully. The first time I got a let-down with live events was when I went to see “O” in Vegas. The tickets were over $200 yet people dressed horribly. They also drank and ate in the seats while getting up often to get more snacks. So tacky. I resist so many live events now due to the lowered dress requirements.
This is the video I needed. I went with my friend to see "The Phantom of the Opera" over the summer in NYC and 95% of the people looked like they just left the gym and decided to catch a show. My friend and I both wore dresses, heels and small handbags. We looked out of place, but we felt good. My other friend who goes to the theater often on her birthday usually wears a gorgeous ballgown, because she says she wants to show respect to the hard work of the performers and it would be rude to show up in gym clothes or casual wear.
Wonderful. There are so few guides out there for young men and women - I am so happy you included what to wear for an interview. I think one point that needs to be made is that people have forgotten to respect themselves; to enjoy looking their best. To say "I'm worth it " and I deserve to make this a special occasion by wearing something flattering and not lazy. I do believe more videos like this that are not fast fashion - but simple guidelines to looking polished and 'worth it' will benefit so many people who simply don't know where to get this info. Thank you for empowering people !
That’s because they believe dressing nicely equals being uncomfortable and they believe they are honoring themselves by dressing comfortably. Of course there are plenty of clothes that look good and are comfortable.
That blue silk dress is gorgeous
Thank you for talking about dress codes. I think people got too comfortable and chose unappreciated clothing. Some don’t even get out of their pajamas when they leave the house!
¡I'm obsessed with Anna's dress! It's so beautiful 😍
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What brand is your beautiful black dress pls ☺️
My beautiful Anna, I agree with absolutely everything you just taught us. Good job once again!! Thank you! ❤
I am delighted to see over a million subscribers which hopefully means that over a million people will start dressing properly.
Anna, you are such a class act, no young women should be allowed out in public without completing your course, I am a grandmother and can no longer go to the beach with my sons as the trend is thongs ? or whatever it is they don't wear !! with their entire backside exposed, its revolting
Yes Anna, here in the US church attire has become to lax. I was always taught to wear my very best to church and now everyone wears jeans 😱.
It's happening even in the Caribbean. Jeans, hoodie and flip flops is the go to even at church.
I’m so happy they’re in church no matter what they have on. Jesus wore sandals and sack cloth.
Yes, there was a term often used "wearing your Sunday best". Going into the house of God you were expected to be modestly well dressed.
@@JuliaSophia52 However, that’s man’s expectation not Gods.
@@hikerhobby1204 people dress according to what they truly value. Were they to meet their favorite celeb I’m sure they’d make an effort to look presentable. Unfortunately though being in the house of the King of Kings isn’t a reason to dress up in their mind. Again, priorities…
Please show us elegance around the world!!! There are sooo many variations of elegant style.
You know I think I lot of "discomfort" in a lot of clothes (not shoes, shoe construction can be very uncomfortable for people who aren't used to high heels) comes down to people not understanding their actual sizes after living in super stretchy sweats and buying clothes that are too small, short or tight. And also bad posture. If you are slouching in a stiffer fabric, it will pinch, it will pull at the neck because it's not supposed to stretch.
I am loving your rant about sweatpants! I love that you don't come off as just snobby. You're just reasonable and elegant
The new hairstyle suits her so well! It's beautiful
Hello and thank you for yet another well prepared lesson on etiquette. I, too, believe people nowadays are in need of clear, simple examples and also plenty of reminders that there are far better choices for dressing than the so called trendy laid back style. The older I am the more sensitive I find myself to be concerning what feels appropriate and what feels off. Thank you again for all your efforts in educating us to a more elegant existence and helping us build our own intuitive knowing about it.
I just realized you can write off your wardrobe as a business expense! Lol 😂
Absolutely! 😅
7:33 I remember that when I was little they didn't let into the Milan cathedral if you weren't wearing appropriate clothes. If people wore a top, for example, they would give a plastic cape to put on their shoulders. Today this doesn't happen anymore, but for me it was right. In a sacred place you have to be respectful. If you want to go to churches or similar places you have to dress in a certain way.
And it is so easy to just carry a big scarf when travelling, which doesn’t take a lot of space and can be used for places of worship, as a cover up for the cold, a blanket in the plane, etc.
I’m so glad you talked about these common sense dress codes! I thought it was only in America that people have no sense of what to wear even on a daily basis! People wear things that wasn’t made for that purpose! Soccer shorts are not worn for sports! Bike shorts aren’t worn for cycling! Yoga pants, well you get the idea! 😂😂
I love talking about dressing appropriately!! Sometimes it seems like no one cares anymore!
Such a great video and I agree with everything you said. I live in California where everyone is SUPER casual. I made reservations at the Four Seasons Beverly Hills for my girlfriends and they showed up in bike shorts, sweats and tennis shoes. I call today's dressing "Thrift Store Adjacent."
@@miss.paula1111 Agreed. I've found some decent items at thift shops on occasion so def not strictly opposed. I've had to do deep dives to find something great there though since the bulk of items isn't ideal (at least not to me). Since I can afford to shop where I want, I prefer not to spend time sifting through undesirable items.
Let’s call it shabby chic dressing then
Or better yet, dumpster diving fashion
@@miss.paula1111 Most of my beautiful clothes are thrifted.
I'd know a snippet of Sierra Boggess singing "Think of Me" anywhere! I let out a little squeal when you showed the theatre clips! I 100% agree about ppl not dressing up for the opera. It's so sad and weirdly cheapens the experience bcos the opera is so amazing and transcendent!
You touched on my favorite subject dress codes ! It’s so disappointing that people don’t make effort when going out ! I never do what the majority do I follow my instincts and go by the dress code . Better to be classy and a bit over dressed than not 😄
Totally agree with you. The most important thing is if you expect to be respected you have to respect all people around you, the way you dress accordingly and appropriately is a way of being respectful. Thank you beautiful lady. Blessings from Perú.
It’s as though many people rebel against getting dressed up. I enjoy getting dressed up for an event.
I love how transparent you are
I wouldn't pass on any opportunity to dress up especially to the opera, weddings and dining out 😊😅
Hi Anna, I just wanted to thank you for your tips, I constantly keep on upgrading. I'm going to university and some friends joke that I dress like I could financially support the entire friend group😂 Lots of love from Germany
Anna, thank you for the on-point advice that is much needed in modern times. This is one of my favorite and most generally applicable etiquette videos on youtube. I appreciate your focus on manners that demonstrate respect for others and the situations we are in. The dress you are wearing is stunning! Bravo all the way around!
Thanks god i'm following you at 18 and not a late age, that will help me so much to avoid any dress codes violations or anything like that ❤
Thank you Anna 🙏🏼♥️🧿 Etiquette has gone out the window nowadays. I’am 33 & I can’t fathom the mentality that the elegant & classy dressing, Is looked at as if it’s what you should wear in your late 40-50’s. For example the class Anna shows here. It’s like, more flesh the better & EVERYTHING is sexualised nowadays. It’s just ridiculous, I watch your videos with my daughter & shes 11. She love’s you & looks forward to watching these video’s. As she learns in a more detailed manner, she learns how to carry herself & talk too in a fun way. Thank you for being so inspiring, there’s not many people out there with platforms that do what you do, to make positive change.
At funeral’s, if I’am honest I just wear elegant pearl earrings, my wedding rings & that’s it. Depends on whatever culture funeral I’am attending. I make sure I ask/research! what is worn out of respect & make sure I wear what other culture’s do. Once I borrowed my friends headscarf & asked her to put it on correctly for me. As I didn’t know & I didn’t want to disrespect anyone Simple. I love visiting different places of worship when we travel & depending on whatever country & place of worship, my husband & I make sure not only he & I, but our children are dressed appropriately. Even our children who are 13 & 11 ask to do so & research prior to going away too, which is lovely.
As for Oprah I’ve always wanted to go & I noticed some people don’t dress how I thought. So I think, when I go I hope if I dress up I don’t get starred at, as if there’s something wrong with me. I think Oprah should remain classy like before, I mean you don’t get to enter Savoy/Ritz to even go for a drink, if your wearing sneaker’s. I understand, so would be nice if Oprah house put dress codes into place.
Thank you so much. Sending you so much positivity, love & gratitude always 🙏🏼🧿♥️
Anna, you are so funny, the part about a grandpa staring down someone's cleavage. I usually am not a fan of stock footage, but the way you used it here with the old man holding the champaign was hilarious.
My heart skipped a beat when I saw the clips from the Phantom of the Opera. I always thought that the role of Christine is very elegant 💓
For dressing up I loved my recent Cunard cruise. Everyday dressing for formal tea and then in the evening Gala dinner.
Thank you for this video! Wonderful guidance. I think an inclusive rule for all dress codes that often people forget: do not wear ill fitting clothes! If you attend any event and your clothes are skintight or sloppy baggy, you will look unsophisticated and inappropriately dressed.
Watching Miss Anna's video is not only helping me being and becoming an elegant lady also she is an inspiration to me. ❤
I moved to the USA recently, and this type of things have been a full shock to me, I was taught to wear appropriate clothes for the ocassion, even if it is going for groceries, you can't do that in your pijamas or home clothing. But now living in Arkansas everyday people stare at me and judge me because I don't wear sweatpants and sweatshirts for everything. Even if it is just a simple dress and pretty flats, they would look at me weird. I know I'm doing the right thing, but being in a different country without friends, sometimes you really want to fit in.
Same here, I'm in Canada. Please keep it up, the right people will find you. It's much worse if you try to fit in and end up downgrading and losing yourself.
Thank you for speaking about this. It is very upsetting in some situations to see how some people are dressed
Wonderful video Anna! I hate the lack of respectful dressing esp to these places you mentioned. I feel like many people just blindly follow what everyone else is doing, and dress poorly
Anna, thank you for this video. I absolutely agree-people need to show some self respect and take care of themselves.
I love and appreciate the fact you explained with examples of the mistakes/ what is inappropriate as well as what is acceptable and appropriate. Thank you so much Anna, you help upgrade us. And a special thank to you, for addressing my request for suggested dress codes for special occasions(and I’m sure many would have requested this.. a much needed one! )👏
The balck formal attire and the funeral dress suits you so well, its a prrfect contrast to your hair colour. The cut is also very sheek and elegant
Thanks for sharing these tips, Anna! I'm really done with ugly trends that come up every year.
I adore your ‘fessing up to messing up in the past. A good teacher therefore. You’ve come along way and those mistakes were the making of you.
I have seen so many obnoxious people - unfortunately mainly Americans, go to places of worship with hot pants! I mean it’s so disrespectful. Also I totally understand the Opera scenario. I hate that people don’t dress up when they go ..
I’m tired of seeing women and young girls booty cheeks everywhere I go. It’s not appropriate anywhere other than the beach imo. I truly can’t believe so many parents allow their young daughters (some girls not even teens not that it really matters either way) to wear clothing with literally their buttcheeks hanging out the bottom. I’m truly flabbergasted and disgusted by it!
Love what you share Lady Anna❤Some things seems to me have become too casual. Communication, Dressing up, etc
Going through my town or anywhere, basically, I think: " They need an Anna Bey in their life. Glad I found her. "
I guess I am old fashion but I love the 30s and 40s where people wore really nice clothes all the time even hats. Men wore suits and women wore suits also or dresses and heels with hats. I always have people tell me you look so nice today where are you going?? I’m not going anywhere. I just step up my game because life’s too short not to look great!
Is way too short not to look your best in deed x
I totally agree with you! It’s part of the degeneration of society these days. I decided to completely ignore that trend and dress as best as I can to suit the occasion. By the way most trends are stupid.