Guys, about confidence: You can’t trick yourself into being confident. You need to gain skills, build yourself, and achieve shit to have real confidence
Not necessarily true since you need confidence in order to persue those things in the first place, assuming you are starting from a place of really low self esteem, there's definitely going to be a "fake it till you make it" phase in the beginning which is essential in getting you started with perusing valuable skills and bigger goals
@@ilikepancakes2368 one of the best steps is to just start dressing better and have a good haircut, those two are like the best 2 things for confidence
Yes, and a person could probably do much more with a PhD in quantum physics and make money rather than be drained financially in a relationship. 1% science, 1% Theory, 1 % emotions, 1% art. The rest plane luck.
Once I had a talk with the creator and he granted me one wish. I told him to construct a bridge between Europe and America. He told me that's a lot of work, get another wish. I told him " a relationship with a woman who is not after money", he immediately told me, "How wide do you want your bridge, four lane or five lane"
@@realPuzzlingParanormal the shit in this video is basic relationship building. It's what guys do with their friends all the time. Just treat women like human beings because that's what they are. If you think simply listening when a woman talks, and not texting her all day every day is "work", you have issues.
Don’t make women so important in your life that you need to jump through all these hoops to attract them. Ignore them, do your own thing and a woman who is attracted to you for who you are will be with you without you driving yourself crazy by watching all these videos. Be a man. Be yourself. Respect yourself.
I had a woman on a first date one time and she said, "i don't have sex on the first date, remember that!" I replied, "Don't worry, i have to determine if i like you before i can determine if i want to have sex with you." She was speechless. Guess she thought that all guys have no self control, which is nonsense.
Well I think you shot yourself in the foot with your goodie-goodie reply. If a woman told me that on the first date, it would be a first but I would just smile and nod my approval and understanding instead of telling her basically that I don't know yet if I even like her. What she said translates in my mind to, "We can have sex on the second date because I want to fuck you, but I don't want to seem easy." Your prudish and principled reply just made her realise that she should probably put the brakes on and wait till the 5th or more date, by which time she might have decided that she does not want to have sex with you any more. That's why she was looking at you like you had just said you were a monk.
What Apollonia failed to mention is that sometimes you will be lucky enough to date women who have already decided that they want you sexually, so it's important to recognise the physical and verbal hints that they give you, otherwise you will frustrate and even annoy them and maybe miss your opportunity.
Girl told me that on a date once and I had her spread eagle by midnight. Women throw that rule out there as a shit test. If you play it cool and act unfazed she will feel more secure about opening up to you. Act nonchalant but don't be a choir boy either. You want her to feel like you have options if she doesn't put out. If she's not fucking by the 3rd date...dump her.
Ms. Apollonia, i started watching your video's due to my heart being broken. Dealing with the hurt and humiliation of opening my heart to someone only to be hurt, your video's have truly inspired me, really. I can't thank you enough for your insight, wisdom and lessons of how to really approach a woman in certain situations. I really wish i had watch these videos before i made the mistake that cost me a lot of pain, heartache and embarrassment. I am forever a fan. God bless and please keep doing this, we need you.
STOP being a "good man" and START being "good at being a man" ...the more you focus on becoming a man of excellence ..all of this other stuff goes away, including "the need to even WANT to turn a women on" ...a Man Of Excellence (not perfect but rather, in pursuit of) will attract quality women and ultimately this high school behavior/mentality of "chasing and attracting" women disappears. ...it just does
This is the thing. Guys, please start viewing this stuff with a new perspective. I know a lot of y'all been hurt and rejected. I have been too. It's alright to mention it and own up to it. Listen to the lady. Try to aproach everything. At least give it a try. If it don't work, then it don't. But I trust this lady on this stuff. Sounds right to me
@@ApolloniaPonti Ms. Apollonia, i started watching your video's due to my heart being broken. Dealing with the hurt and humiliation of opening my heart to someone only to be hurt, your video's have truly inspired me, really. I can't thank you enough for your insight, wisdom and lessons of how to really approach a woman in certain situations. I really wish i had watch these videos before i made the mistake that cost me a lot of pain, heartache and embarrassment. I am forever a fan. God bless and please keep doing this, we need you.
@@ApolloniaPonti Question. if there was a guy u found physically attractive ,face ,teeth body ,social skills that u were work acquaintances and he asked u for ur number and u asked him y and he said honestly I find u very attractive and I just wanna have sex with u, would u be offended or would u take it as a compliment if hes being direct but respectful. Also is it a turn on for women when I cute guy has confidence like that only if u find him attractive? I would like ur honest opinion as I'm currently debating whether I should do this with this girl I'm physically attracted to. Please be honest with ur response, thanks👍❤
I believe this to be true most of the time..instinctually men are doers not thinkers...im not religious by any means but go back to the adam and eve story where eve knew about the apple and then proceeded to get adam to eat it....alot of times you can be all those things and more a woman first has to be submissive to give sex otherwise its rape not every woman will put out if your almost perfect in everyway...these tips are all subjective based on the woman not every woman is the same vice versa for the man...the best way to get sex is be yourself with the right woman...
Ms. Ponti, thank you so much not only for making this video, but for all the relationship coaching you do. As a woman I thought, " how could men not know that they need to ' understand her values ' ? We're just human beings!" But then I read the comments and honestly kindof lost it at so many men thinking that this literal step by step TUTORIAL was somehow still "too complicated" for them. WE NEED YOU MS. PONTI. Keep on teaching these men out here that women just want them to treat us like HUMANS.
Thank you to all the guys who say it's all about the money, that it's easier to get a PhD, that there's no way to understand women, that you're fine the way you are, etc. You really make the few of us who do run the extra mile *stand out* and be valued by the women you all so dearly want
I never thought at 28 years old I'd be saying this, but I think I'm going to give up trying to find a relationship let alone sex. This video is beyond discouraging and when I reflect on my past failed relationships and dates, I begin to see a life alone without someone. Thanks for helping me choose between giving up or not.
I'm 30 and I'm on the same boat... I don't know how to not be a kind nice guy... I'm boring I can't create desire... I taught my self to cook play guitar Learn a new language work out and I still can't even get a text back...
Since I've started learning from Ms Apollonia, my wife, who wants a separation, has been more genial to me. Since I've accepted that a separation might be the best way to get myself back in track for myself, my wife, who said she couldn't stand for me to touch her, has accidentally held my hand in the car when driving home from work often. I don't know if she's a psychic, an empath, or if these lessons are already showing through, but I'm not afraid of her leaving anymore, I don't feel rejected anymore, I'm hopeful that we are right for each other, since we seriously rushed into our marriage, but if not, I'm hopeful that we can still be each other's best friends. Thank you Ms Apollonia!
MAKE A WOMAN WANT YOU SEXUALLY Confidence Respect Her values Ask questions Deeper questions Committing Pursue Consistent Safe ground Connection Intimate conversation Her wants Her likes Her family Impress Be sexy not hot/swagger Do little things Hickey Whisper Playful/flirting Don't be possessive Give her space Plan things Don't over text( morning, night, midday) Be spontaneous/ thrill Be different Don't be obvious Suprise her Make her miss you Be open/upfront Reciprocating Pay attention to physical needs Focus on how she responds it take two to tangle Oh God did our father Adam go through this? More commandments than the Bible, Jesus Christ. May God help us men. Apollonia Thanks..
Bullshit this lady is here to make slaves out of men. The title is a trick for this purpose as well as the indirect purpose of this video (getting paid). Guys be yourself, if it ain't this one its gonna be another one. Guys focus on yourself, not on women. Guys women are not princesses like they make us think. They aint holly. They do all kind of shit for less in the background. The exception confirns the truth. So much BS on youtube, It is time for me to start my youtube channel?
You're not satisfied with a direct step by step? Sounds like you just don't want to make an effort. Do you see how much constant effort women put into being attractive for men? We are literally trained for it as CHILDREN. All the way back to "cross your legs" and "don't be bossy".
Hahha I'm a strong believer in if you can listen to a woman's wants and needs and treat her well and kindly it's pretty simple after that. We're emotional creature and want to feel heard.
There's so much ways to interpret things. I think what she meant by that is that you show genuine attraction. And she's not talking about just simple sex friends or ONS, she's talking about stronger relationships.
I am tired of casual relationships, I want to find a better relationships that will be longer lasting. Thanks for the better way of getting to a higher level.
Wow! That's what I do! It's true! I bring one over when I want, but, my cousin is telling me that prostitutes are still less stress and it would be an improvement. I am cool right here. Sleep with one every now and again and she goes home...
I love Apollonia!! She's helped me for a long time now!! So smart!! I know what to do, but when I need a reminder I keep coming back since 2016. Thanks Apollonia 😊
Good advice. I've been with the same women for 22 year's. Women are special and would take much more than any quick UA-cam video can deliver. But a big help for a guy that has no clue how to go about it.
Sometimes I have watched your videos over and over to get more from them I'm not the smartest person in the world. It's to understand more. I love your videos Apollonia, great job thank you!
I matched with this girl on Hinge during the pandemic in Britain. We’ve been talking a month, I wanted to get her out quickly, but I was patient and waited until she was comfortable. So we began using voice notes and had a phone call and we agreed to meet last weekend. Bearing in mind that she didn’t stop laughing on the phone or when we’ve been texting, we have also been flirting and teasing each other, making the interactions fun. So, we finally met, I took the train and she met me at the station in her car. Immediately I went for the physical so I said “come on let’s have a hug”. We went for a good walk where we talked about life in general and I teased her a lot e.g. she knew the area, but one of the paths was incredibly muddy so I said “if it’s really bad I know who to blame”. She didn’t stop laughing at the things I was saying. We went to the store to buy ingredients to cook that night and even that was fun. I made sure I led the way, taking the basket etc. We went back to hers where I cooked a spaghetti Bolognese and where we teased each other and it just genuinely felt like we knew each other already. I went for the kiss, rubbed her nose before and gave her a quick kiss but she seemed shocked and went red so I pulled back. We ate dinner where she found out I liked country and she seemed really into it plus she didn’t stop asking me questions, had a game of scrabble where the banter was flying about how bad the other’s words were. We were making references about future plans. She said something like “well next time I’ll use my dictionary”. Anyway, I kept putting my leg on hers, initiating touch. She took me to the station and before I left, we shared a few kisses where both of us leaned in. She even touched my chest saying “you’re really warm”. I thought bingo. Got home, sent her a jokey message about her car because she’s got her own personalized number plate and then I said “I enjoyed myself today, especially winning at Scrabble with a gooseberry gin” to which she replied “Gooseberry gin was good, Scrabble hmmm…Company wasn’t bad though” with a smiley, cheeks blushing emoji. I replied “10/10 choice by me getting the gooseberry, bet you were sole destroyed at losing”. She’s a shoemaker so I always shoe puns with her to tease. But, she hasn’t replied. She did say she was meeting her friends the day after, but she read my message at 8:30am and was online for most of the day and I didn't get a reply. I truly thought I did everything right. Until she gave me the "let's just be friends" speech. Maybe I wasn't sexual enough or flirty enough, I don't know
To be fair, the inflection meant "You don't have to be the **most** confident man, all you **need** is confidence." That distinction makes a difference.
Guys this advice is right on! These are the things I do and it works. Many of these women have been dumped, cheated on and disrespected. They need to feel safe when with you and respected.
With in the first minute and a half. Exactly what I'm looking for. I want her to be mine, my partner, my lover, my friend, my family. My solace, my guilty pleasure. My equal and everything
Just kinda weird how Ms. Ponti decides to like a comment that states a woman as a "good thing", in this quote. Women being a "thing" which can be gained by way of purchase with hard work and some time. Not the best quote to use in my opinion, but hey I'm just a guy
Seduction depends on many things in a man's personality ...and his smell 😍 is so important And it's also important for the woman ..her smell and her way in speaking
Women are fucking children dude, they’re the most insecure, looking for a dad to buy them and provide everything for them. That’s a big turn off to me which is why I can walk by the prettiest women and be like, they’re not worth my time
I somehow ended up in this channel due to my insomnia and i have to say that I actually learned something new this morning. This coach video is amazing and enjoyed the tips the host provided. Definitely will be giving it a try sometime soon.
You are confident, you are cute, you are not handsome but confident, you show respect, you show you are trying to pursue her, you are emotional. But if you show that you are too emotional and available and possessive, she doesn't like it. Sick and tired of this shit. Like I really don't wanna get married for a few good nights and then all this Bullshit. They are gonna sleep around and then act real disciplined and emotional. My head is aching
Woman's heart never break. Women don't have heart. Women simple go and find another man and leave you heart broken. The heart of woman is money and material.
@@ApolloniaPonti Reference to that Black Book seduction. I have to say, some women dont want to be romatically desired. Some sexual impulse are more driven. Plz, can you give a video on that department
I will say that communication with different woman is different Some woman expect to hear from you often and others it's more like what Ponti describes
Absolutely. All good advice. Women want fulfillment - and they look for recognition - with the man they find interesting. Confidence is the number one attraction that can draw the woman of your dreams into your life. If you believe you need great riches, good looks, or some other quality or asset to draw a woman to you - then you've missed the overall message of the female mind. Satisfy a woman (again - Mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually) and she'll find you nearly irresistible. Of course, it's up to you to decide how not to be a jackass. Loved the video. With women, some information we men hear (no matter how many times we've been told before) is like looking at our watch - we do it often because in our world - some things need to be checked - rechecked - and checked again. With us men, reminders that we need to "share" life with the women we find interesting is something we need reminding of constantly. Knowing how to rock her world in bed - once you're in a committed relationship - is something every man should be a master of -with his particular woman. The more open and willing you are to please her - the more willing and joyful she'll be, to please you. (that goes for mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and "Physically" - as well.) Again - loved the video. Keep them coming. Men always need to know more when it comes to attracting, meeting and maintaining the women we find interesting.
It's actually really important - because women often feel like they are losing something when they show and tell their man they want him, and would often rather not validate him - anyone had that experience?
Public comment. Very good information. Respect and care and commitment in words and taught and deeds. Serving the true purpose. Moral values and self control and self reflection.
Apollonia, you remind me so much of my step mom. You look a lot like her and have similar beautiful personality. You are both awesome. Appreciate you, much respect.
Mel, Ugh, great question! Once you understand how they operate it gets better. But trust me both male and females feel this way. I mean at the end of the day when you find the one that is supposed to be yours it's not always this hard. These are the lessons before you get "the one". :) Best, Apollonia
Women think on emotions , basically no logic when emotions are involved. Us men are logical , so it’s often a communication barrier that gets lost in translation. So it’s more do about communicating with them. A woman needs a reason to have sex , all us men need is a place to have sex. Stay on your grind , don’t argue with women , get your point across without actually telling her , do it through action and if she ain’t for you , keep that shit moving until you find the woman for you . It ain’t really complicated
She’s speaking 80% facts if you guys would listen. It’s not about money, it’s more so about being different from all other guys. Be a great communicator, be spontaneous, be confident, be observant of her, be funny and fun, smell good, and have good hygiene, be neat, and don’t be too nice or passive. Compliment her, but don’t be thirsty. You can take her on a cheap date but be creative. Be different. Do theses few things and a woman will return it back to u ten fold. Don’t talk about sex if she hasn’t introduced you to the conversation of sex. It will happen if she likes you. Women are not complicated. I’m financially stable, but there were times when I wasn’t and still got baddies by being honest and showing them my potential and drive to get back to stable or well off. They will lead you, help you, guide you and more if you show you have their best interest as a friend or lover. Be 100 - be honest. Don’t boast about yourself or money. Some of you guys set yourself up for a woman to dig into your gold cus you talk like you got gold and ready to spend. FACTS. Again, initial confidence and conversation turns the key or not. Then what you do after will or will not keep her intrigued. Most of the time it’s a man’s conversation or approach that turns a woman off.
"Mental stimulation is more important than physical penetration." I was amazed how I was able to achieve this through "intellectually stimulating" conversation. One of a woman's need is conversation. They want to be led on sightseeing mental journey. They want a man who knows how a story goes. This is a dangerous weapon to use. Lead her on a journey and you provide the guidance. Ask leading questions and let her lead, and you follow. This means a brother must know some info to share. This one tool only, if you master, you unlock the door to her heart. This is what I've experienced. It worked like magic
Very true. I used to do this very well. I then got in an 8 yr relationship, and after 5/6 yrs in I began to lose what made me, became insecure, cared way too much, and became needy. She left, and I'm left feeling like I lost myself and shes constantly on my mind meanwhile shes already dating someone else. Makes me enraged but I need to do me. Any tips on how to get back to form?
@@iinrodwetrust this is stupid man.This way you are not your self. Stay in form you get paid , loose your form you loose the contract. You are not in the NBA. Or another top sport.
too much hassle and insanity for nothing (I signed off especially when she was saying how she recommended one of her clients to arrange a horseback riding on a beach for a girl ..... ) The relationships these days have become a one way street, and women feel they are automatically entitled to all these without reciprocating; not much value in relationships for men anymore than just sex.
I think that this is probably all GREAT advice, it's coming from a woman with significant experience and emotional intelligence as well as anecdotal evidence and a read on her clients. I think what is lost in translation with the rendering of this advice is the fact that Apollonia isn't a man, so she can and does feel compelled to give advice that suggests EVERYTHING a woman would want without having to, being inclined to or even knowing what men think about all of these female desires. I'd urge her to consider if the roles were reversed, if she'd be willing to work so hard for a man. The truth is that the only men who are going to endure this are men who are looking for primarily sexual relationships with women who they view as trophies, but don't expect or even want anything long term.
I give you credit for such a big job because it seems like you understand more men thinking 🤔 than women . Every body is so unique and God say love you wife or you woman not understand you woman? And the rest will be easier .
Once you have already had sex with a woman it’s okay to loosen your purse strings and spend money on dating activities like Skydiving etc... but men NEVER do extravagant dates like this until you have slept with a woman. She will put in a provider box if you do this the other way around. I can speak from many years of personal experience
Hey Apollonia, can you make a posting about how to manage to secure a long distance relationship? That can be hard :) would love some pointers on that subject. Great channel by the way 🕺
True, But not all the time, Some times they want all youre money and put you in the bullshit just Friend spot and sleep around with the cheap ass people with not much money.some times when you have money,just they use you for their next steps.women can be very shady.
Hey Apollonia I've been following your videos and I find them extremely helpful. I was trying to download the 20 questions manual and I can't seem to able to get it sent through to my email. Thanks
Married nearly 35 years. I remember my grandfather telling me the worst part of being a grandfather is having to sleep with a grandmother. Too true. Probably 1st 10 years were the best. Downhill from there. Very painful living with women because most I know are locked in a time warp. They never improve themselves by never learning any new talents. It is like living with a child that never grows up. If you are lucky you might get one that can cook and clean. Most won't even do that anymore. You end up stuck with a lifelong dependent.
Brother I just split 40 years worth of work with one. Now on the payments monthly for life if she dont remarry. Dont think that her not being intimate is she dont want it. Mine has put out more the last year trying to come back than any year of the last 35 they will turn up the wick and shine. I would have stepped out all alongif I had known she played me from the first date
Much easier to build 25 story building than to build a single woman relationship. Building a lady relationship requires, your time, your money, your attention and more than common sense
Guys, about confidence: You can’t trick yourself into being confident. You need to gain skills, build yourself, and achieve shit to have real confidence
Underrated comment
I literally ss yo comment bro this really meant a lot 6 months later thank you
This sucks man. I’m 24 and I wish I can gain confidence now just so I can get finally get laid. Being a virgin sucks.
Not necessarily true since you need confidence in order to persue those things in the first place, assuming you are starting from a place of really low self esteem, there's definitely going to be a "fake it till you make it" phase in the beginning which is essential in getting you started with perusing valuable skills and bigger goals
@@ilikepancakes2368 one of the best steps is to just start dressing better and have a good haircut, those two are like the best 2 things for confidence
Basically it’s much easier to get a Ph.D in quantum mechanics.
How many times has this been said?
YES!!!! EXACTLY!!..and a winning lotto ticket would help!!
Yes, and a person could probably do much more with a PhD in quantum physics and make money rather than be drained financially in a relationship. 1% science, 1% Theory, 1 % emotions, 1% art. The rest plane luck.
I was thinking the same....why cant they drop the dress and say "Fuck Me Daddy?"
I totally agree with you bro
Once I had a talk with the creator and he granted me one wish. I told him to construct a bridge between Europe and America. He told me that's a lot of work, get another wish. I told him " a relationship with a woman who is not after money", he immediately told me, "How wide do you want your bridge, four lane or five lane"
That's some funny shit right there 😂
Bombo claat...This shot. I need to write it off and put it in my room. You're the real general.
That's funny 😆😂
hahahaha..should have gone for a double deck four lane bridge
@@smith-gk6hi Lol👍
*The emphasis on understanding women's desires and responding accordingly is so important. This approach feels much more authentic and respectful.*
Be a confident man
Respect her
Dont be possesive
Dont be so much available
Make her miss you
As far a physical goes: be in shape, be clean, smell nice and have some game!
Everytime I do that they leave.
@@Scorned405 you’re doing it wrong then
Sounds pretty easy.
@@realPuzzlingParanormal the shit in this video is basic relationship building. It's what guys do with their friends all the time. Just treat women like human beings because that's what they are. If you think simply listening when a woman talks, and not texting her all day every day is "work", you have issues.
Don’t make women so important in your life that you need to jump through all these hoops to attract them. Ignore them, do your own thing and a woman who is attracted to you for who you are will be with you without you driving yourself crazy by watching all these videos. Be a man. Be yourself.
Respect yourself.
💯💯💯👍
Your in the comments on the video dude!!!!!!
uh yeah that's the confidence she was mentioning dude
you are right.
This
I had a woman on a first date one time and she said, "i don't have sex on the first date, remember that!" I replied, "Don't worry, i have to determine if i like you before i can determine if i want to have sex with you." She was speechless. Guess she thought that all guys have no self control, which is nonsense.
This is good! I like this.
Well I think you shot yourself in the foot with your goodie-goodie reply. If a woman told me that on the first date, it would be a first but I would just smile and nod my approval and understanding instead of telling her basically that I don't know yet if I even like her.
What she said translates in my mind to, "We can have sex on the second date because I want to fuck you, but I don't want to seem easy." Your prudish and principled reply just made her realise that she should probably put the brakes on and wait till the 5th or more date, by which time she might have decided that she does not want to have sex with you any more. That's why she was looking at you like you had just said you were a monk.
What Apollonia failed to mention is that sometimes you will be lucky enough to date women who have already decided that they want you sexually, so it's important to recognise the physical and verbal hints that they give you, otherwise you will frustrate and even annoy them and maybe miss your opportunity.
Girl told me that on a date once and I had her spread eagle by midnight. Women throw that rule out there as a shit test. If you play it cool and act unfazed she will feel more secure about opening up to you. Act nonchalant but don't be a choir boy either. You want her to feel like you have options if she doesn't put out. If she's not fucking by the 3rd date...dump her.
That was really savage, damn
Unrelenting confidence, a positive attitude, a great physique, and being extremely goal-oriented works without fail literally 90% or more of the time.
But not arrogance. That's a big no-no! And please smell nice.
That 10% gap, is a hell of a lot of people
Yet we do all this and still no sex 😒
Ms. Apollonia, i started watching your video's due to my heart being broken. Dealing with the hurt and humiliation of opening my heart to someone only to be hurt, your video's have truly inspired me, really. I can't thank you enough for your insight, wisdom and lessons of how to really approach a woman in certain situations. I really wish i had watch these videos before i made the mistake that cost me a lot of pain, heartache and embarrassment. I am forever a fan. God bless and please keep doing this, we need you.
Never open up your a woman ever again...for your best interest
STOP being a "good man" and START being "good at being a man" ...the more you focus on becoming a man of excellence ..all of this other stuff goes away, including "the need to even WANT to turn a women on" ...a Man Of Excellence (not perfect but rather, in pursuit of) will attract quality women and ultimately this high school behavior/mentality of "chasing and attracting" women disappears. ...it just does
I was about to respond to this and saw your message. PERFECT
Jesus fuck this is so true...
Yup, some of my best experiences is when I stopped chasing. Good women enter your life
😂😂🔥👍
Dang, best comment I've seen bro. Thanks. I needed to see your comment. So true if u think about it.
This is the thing. Guys, please start viewing this stuff with a new perspective. I know a lot of y'all been hurt and rejected. I have been too. It's alright to mention it and own up to it. Listen to the lady. Try to aproach everything. At least give it a try. If it don't work, then it don't. But I trust this lady on this stuff. Sounds right to me
Thank you. :)
@@ApolloniaPonti you're welcome, Apollonia. Keep doing what you do. We guys need this and keep it 💯
I love your reply bro
@@ApolloniaPonti Ms. Apollonia, i started watching your video's due to my heart being broken. Dealing with the hurt and humiliation of opening my heart to someone only to be hurt, your video's have truly inspired me, really. I can't thank you enough for your insight, wisdom and lessons of how to really approach a woman in certain situations. I really wish i had watch these videos before i made the mistake that cost me a lot of pain, heartache and embarrassment. I am forever a fan. God bless and please keep doing this, we need you.
@@ApolloniaPonti Question. if there was a guy u found physically attractive ,face ,teeth body ,social skills that u were work acquaintances and he asked u for ur number and u asked him y and he said honestly I find u very attractive and I just wanna have sex with u, would u be offended or would u take it as a compliment if hes being direct but respectful. Also is it a turn on for women when I cute guy has confidence like that only if u find him attractive? I would like ur honest opinion as I'm currently debating whether I should do this with this girl I'm physically attracted to. Please be honest with ur response, thanks👍❤
Notice how men have to literally do everything to advance the relationship.
Because women were not allowed to do much for about 2000 years now ...
Honestly, you just nailed it. It's all about how to please the woman, how to satisfy a woman.... etc
I believe this to be true most of the time..instinctually men are doers not thinkers...im not religious by any means but go back to the adam and eve story where eve knew about the apple and then proceeded to get adam to eat it....alot of times you can be all those things and more a woman first has to be submissive to give sex otherwise its rape not every woman will put out if your almost perfect in everyway...these tips are all subjective based on the woman not every woman is the same vice versa for the man...the best way to get sex is be yourself with the right woman...
And you know what happens to the personn who does the Most Amount of Work !!!!!
@@cristian.ilie.018 They die early
Ms. Ponti, thank you so much not only for making this video, but for all the relationship coaching you do. As a woman I thought, " how could men not know that they need to ' understand her values ' ? We're just human beings!" But then I read the comments and honestly kindof lost it at so many men thinking that this literal step by step TUTORIAL was somehow still "too complicated" for them. WE NEED YOU MS. PONTI. Keep on teaching these men out here that women just want them to treat us like HUMANS.
Thank you to all the guys who say it's all about the money, that it's easier to get a PhD, that there's no way to understand women, that you're fine the way you are, etc. You really make the few of us who do run the extra mile *stand out* and be valued by the women you all so dearly want
If by "extra mile" you mean treating women like human beings, then you're right on.
Incels probably
I never thought at 28 years old I'd be saying this, but I think I'm going to give up trying to find a relationship let alone sex. This video is beyond discouraging and when I reflect on my past failed relationships and dates, I begin to see a life alone without someone. Thanks for helping me choose between giving up or not.
I'm 30 and I'm on the same boat... I don't know how to not be a kind nice guy... I'm boring I can't create desire... I taught my self to cook play guitar Learn a new language work out and I still can't even get a text back...
Since I've started learning from Ms Apollonia, my wife, who wants a separation, has been more genial to me. Since I've accepted that a separation might be the best way to get myself back in track for myself, my wife, who said she couldn't stand for me to touch her, has accidentally held my hand in the car when driving home from work often. I don't know if she's a psychic, an empath, or if these lessons are already showing through, but I'm not afraid of her leaving anymore, I don't feel rejected anymore, I'm hopeful that we are right for each other, since we seriously rushed into our marriage, but if not, I'm hopeful that we can still be each other's best friends.
Thank you Ms Apollonia!
Thet only want what they can't have, it's toxic
Just be yourself around her fellaa, If she likes you then great if not then don't worry - find someone that does 👍
You have to be in a town with lots of women. Small town has too few.
MAKE A WOMAN WANT YOU SEXUALLY
Confidence
Respect
Her values
Ask questions
Deeper questions
Committing
Pursue
Consistent
Safe ground
Connection
Intimate conversation
Her wants
Her likes
Her family
Impress
Be sexy not hot/swagger
Do little things
Hickey
Whisper
Playful/flirting
Don't be possessive
Give her space
Plan things
Don't over text( morning, night, midday)
Be spontaneous/ thrill
Be different
Don't be obvious
Suprise her
Make her miss you
Be open/upfront
Reciprocating
Pay attention to physical needs
Focus on how she responds it take two to tangle
Oh God did our father Adam go through this?
More commandments than the Bible, Jesus Christ. May God help us men.
Apollonia Thanks..
Bullshit this lady is here to make slaves out of men. The title is a trick for this purpose as well as the indirect purpose of this video (getting paid).
Guys be yourself, if it ain't this one its gonna be another one.
Guys focus on yourself, not on women.
Guys women are not princesses like they make us think. They aint holly. They do all kind of shit for less in the background. The exception confirns the truth.
So much BS on youtube, It is time for me to start my youtube channel?
Nice
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You're not satisfied with a direct step by step? Sounds like you just don't want to make an effort. Do you see how much constant effort women put into being attractive for men? We are literally trained for it as CHILDREN. All the way back to "cross your legs" and "don't be bossy".
Hahha I'm a strong believer in if you can listen to a woman's wants and needs and treat her well and kindly it's pretty simple after that. We're emotional creature and want to feel heard.
Pursuing her, yeah right then you do that and you’re doing too much.Problem is everything is like a big chess game today
There's so much ways to interpret things.
I think what she meant by that is that you show genuine attraction. And she's not talking about just simple sex friends or ONS, she's talking about stronger relationships.
then start to enjoy playing chess
I agree
Find a woman who wants to play checkers instead.
Exactly! Nothin' but Facts!
I am tired of casual relationships, I want to find a better relationships that will be longer lasting. Thanks for the better way of getting to a higher level.
It's high time we started making women work for us.
You mean like the whole history of human kind?
Me too movement had created a whole new game to dating and relationships. I have to say men need to be very careful!
We always have had to be.
No it hasn’t, shits been the same for thousands of years
careful? it’s really not hard to not sexually assault women.
men need to be careful.......not to ................. rape women ?????????????????????????????????????
Staying single and just avoiding women is much easier and less stressful.
Church
Amen brother. I don't agree with this video. Makes a man seem desperate in the eyes of today's woman.
Wow! That's what I do! It's true! I bring one over when I want, but, my cousin is telling me that prostitutes are still less stress and it would be an improvement. I am cool right here. Sleep with one every now and again and she goes home...
@@SkidCudi as a verb or a noun ?
@@particleconfig.8935 whatever you want there is no right or wrong.
Confidence is key! When she starts to fuck up show her you aren't scared to call her ass out. Show her you have other options and leave
I love Apollonia!! She's helped me for a long time now!! So smart!! I know what to do, but when I need a reminder I keep coming back since 2016. Thanks Apollonia 😊
I am a woman who values herself (Finally!) And I agree with every point Apollonia mentioned in this video!
Ok w good I like to chai with you
Fuck it I’ll just go ride a motorcycle, I’m in my forties and at some point it just isn’t even worth the effort anymore
Here here 😉🏍
That mortorcycle may end up being be the only thing you'll get to ride. I agree having to play all these games sucks!
Good advice. I've been with the same women for 22 year's. Women are special and would take much more than any quick UA-cam video can deliver. But a big help for a guy that has no clue how to go about it.
Sometimes I have watched your videos over and over to get more from them I'm not the smartest person in the world. It's to understand more. I love your videos Apollonia, great job thank you!
I matched with this girl on Hinge during the pandemic in Britain. We’ve been talking a month, I wanted to get her out quickly, but I was patient and waited until she was comfortable. So we began using voice notes and had a phone call and we agreed to meet last weekend.
Bearing in mind that she didn’t stop laughing on the phone or when we’ve been texting, we have also been flirting and teasing each other, making the interactions fun. So, we finally met, I took the train and she met me at the station in her car. Immediately I went for the physical so I said “come on let’s have a hug”.
We went for a good walk where we talked about life in general and I teased her a lot e.g. she knew the area, but one of the paths was incredibly muddy so I said “if it’s really bad I know who to blame”. She didn’t stop laughing at the things I was saying.
We went to the store to buy ingredients to cook that night and even that was fun. I made sure I led the way, taking the basket etc. We went back to hers where I cooked a spaghetti Bolognese and where we teased each other and it just genuinely felt like we knew each other already.
I went for the kiss, rubbed her nose before and gave her a quick kiss but she seemed shocked and went red so I pulled back. We ate dinner where she found out I liked country and she seemed really into it plus she didn’t stop asking me questions, had a game of scrabble where the banter was flying about how bad the other’s words were. We were making references about future plans. She said something like “well next time I’ll use my dictionary”. Anyway, I kept putting my leg on hers, initiating touch.
She took me to the station and before I left, we shared a few kisses where both of us leaned in. She even touched my chest saying “you’re really warm”. I thought bingo. Got home, sent her a jokey message about her car because she’s got her own personalized number plate and then I said “I enjoyed myself today, especially winning at Scrabble with a gooseberry gin” to which she replied “Gooseberry gin was good, Scrabble hmmm…Company wasn’t bad though” with a smiley, cheeks blushing emoji.
I replied “10/10 choice by me getting the gooseberry, bet you were sole destroyed at losing”. She’s a shoemaker so I always shoe puns with her to tease. But, she hasn’t replied. She did say she was meeting her friends the day after, but she read my message at 8:30am and was online for most of the day and I didn't get a reply. I truly thought I did everything right. Until she gave me the "let's just be friends" speech. Maybe I wasn't sexual enough or flirty enough, I don't know
I'm so confident, they call me arrogant! 🤷🏾♂️
That's how you know you're doing it right, bro.
Hmm...
Same here
I love how you state your purpose of this vid in the intro. ✨
So Ms. Ponti , let me ask you .... does this work for you ? I’m curious!!!
Good question
@Sage Oldmann She's taken.
I love seeing in the comment section just how smart and in tune men today really are.
“You dont have to be the most confident man to get that woman, all you need is confidence”
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Lol.... seriously that was funny.
HAHAHA!!! 😁😁😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣💀💀☠️☠️👻👻 Exactly!
To be fair, the inflection meant "You don't have to be the **most** confident man, all you **need** is confidence." That distinction makes a difference.
@Amit Patil self worth
At least someone has made a meaningful interpretation. That exactly what she meant. Thanks mate
Let me save you 11 minutes, just make a lot of money.
ever see a beautiful woman with a poor ugly guy? nope Ever see a beautiful woman with a rich ugly guy? Yep. Enough said.
.....problem solved.....
Money without attitude
Well I wasted my 11 mins, found your comment much more useful 👍👍👍
1) have a car
2) have a little money
3) have a criminal record
4) have tattoos
5) have a girlfriend / or kids
6) don't have a job
Guys this advice is right on! These are the things I do and it works. Many of these women have been dumped, cheated on and disrespected. They need to feel safe when with you and respected.
With in the first minute and a half. Exactly what I'm looking for. I want her to be mine, my partner, my lover, my friend, my family. My solace, my guilty pleasure. My equal and everything
Good things in life don’t come easily
Jason L I hope you’re not referring to females...
Just kinda weird how Ms. Ponti decides to like a comment that states a woman as a "good thing", in this quote. Women being a "thing" which can be gained by way of purchase with hard work and some time. Not the best quote to use in my opinion, but hey I'm just a guy
Agreed!
Hold my beer
Dude right, anything worth while is hard work in life
Seduction depends on many things in a man's personality ...and his smell 😍 is so important
And it's also important for the woman ..her smell and her way in speaking
Sounds like raising a child.
truth jackson😆🤣😂
😂😂😂
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Women are fucking children dude, they’re the most insecure, looking for a dad to buy them and provide everything for them. That’s a big turn off to me which is why I can walk by the prettiest women and be like, they’re not worth my time
haha
I somehow ended up in this channel due to my insomnia and i have to say that I actually learned something new this morning. This coach video is amazing and enjoyed the tips the host provided. Definitely will be giving it a try sometime soon.
Listen women and do exact opposite!
SVETOGOR 😂😂😂😂😂true
The famous saying: WATCH WHAT THEY DO! (observe.. even as a spectator)
Who taught you this?
Im only reading this comments below and now i understand your work Ponti. BRAVE WOMEN!!!✔️
Im embarrassed
You are confident, you are cute, you are not handsome but confident, you show respect, you show you are trying to pursue her, you are emotional. But if you show that you are too emotional and available and possessive, she doesn't like it. Sick and tired of this shit. Like I really don't wanna get married for a few good nights and then all this Bullshit. They are gonna sleep around and then act real disciplined and emotional. My head is aching
Woman's heart never break.
Women don't have heart.
Women simple go and find another man and leave you heart broken.
The heart of woman is money and material.
Then don't date women problem solved
Date men instead you will have a lot in common
@@bendover5975 Date no one.. why men?
@@bendover5975 🤣
Sound like you been hurt.
Wow you sound like the sister I never had giving advice! I love it!
Awesome. :)
@@ApolloniaPonti Reference to that Black Book seduction. I have to say, some women dont want to be romatically desired. Some sexual impulse are more driven. Plz, can you give a video on that department
My neighbour gave me the best advice, I asked him . Money makes a man look good !
The more I watch your videos Appolonia the more I really value them especially now I'm in a relationship that looks like it's coming to an end.🙄
Why do you think that your relationship is about to end? Is your woman arguing with you often?
Far better advice guys is this; keep it simple be honest, be yourself and don't tell lies. It will work a treat.
I will say that communication with different woman is different
Some woman expect to hear from you often and others it's more like what Ponti describes
Exactly!
I realized I must be confident first then Learn to be cocky, learn respect and so on before I approach ladies out there.
Absolutely. All good advice. Women want fulfillment - and they look for recognition - with the man they find interesting.
Confidence is the number one attraction that can draw the woman of your dreams into your life.
If you believe you need great riches, good looks, or some other quality or asset to draw a woman to you - then you've missed the overall message of the female mind.
Satisfy a woman (again - Mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually) and she'll find you nearly irresistible.
Of course, it's up to you to decide how not to be a jackass.
Loved the video.
With women, some information we men hear (no matter how many times we've been told before) is like looking at our watch - we do it often because in our world - some things need to be checked - rechecked - and checked again.
With us men, reminders that we need to "share" life with the women we find interesting is something we need reminding of constantly.
Knowing how to rock her world in bed - once you're in a committed relationship - is something every man should be a master of -with his particular woman. The more open and willing you are to please her - the more willing and joyful she'll be, to please you. (that goes for mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and "Physically" - as well.)
Again - loved the video. Keep them coming. Men always need to know more when it comes to attracting, meeting and maintaining the women we find interesting.
Hi Pontic, I have been listening to your Tips. I think you are the only one give very valuable and meaningful tips.
Very well said Apollonia, truly excellent. You look wonderful as always.
It's actually really important - because women often feel like they are losing something when they show and tell their man they want him, and would often rather not validate him - anyone had that experience?
Never but i wouldn't doubt
Translation Women need to wonder about, to develop sexual tension, over contact lowers sexual tension.
The Survivalist h
Wrong again.
Wrong. Abs required
Thanks for being authentic and not cliché
I can't believe *_"Pull down your pants, and do the helicopter",_* is not on the list.
A Florida Son lol
Hi florida 00962790991296 my WhatsApp no
Feel me?! And after 20 years together it’s also a great argument diffuser
Exactly! Who doesn't enjoy a helicopter ride?
LMAO! 😂😂
Apollonia I'm very grateful to u for this piece , I'm really fitting the missing links in my relationship as a hubby .
Thank you for your support!
Women: how tall are you? Because I don’t date men under 6 feet tall!
Men: how much do you weigh, because...
Women: reeeeeeeee!!!
Sounds fair to me! You get what you can bring to the table.
I'm 15 and im nearly 6 feet
Women: how tall you? Because I dont datę men under 6 feet tall !!
Men: lets meet me
YOU DONT GO INTO HER FRAME !!!!!!!
I have dated men as short as 5'4" , and I prefer men 6 feet or UNDER.
Whatever this height insecurity is for men, it's because of other MEN.
Public comment. Very good information. Respect and care and commitment in words and taught and deeds. Serving the true purpose. Moral values and self control and self reflection.
Thanks for watching :)
Gotta say I roll this way...on a 7yr relationship and none of this works anymore....
So true!!!!! Made these mistakes but learning and keeping the girl I want
I appreciate your teachings combined with Value and Respect towards the woman, versus her being just a sexual object to conquer!
Apollonia, you remind me so much of my step mom. You look a lot like her and have similar beautiful personality. You are both awesome. Appreciate you, much respect.
you had crush
Great advice but why is it so much work when it comes to women,
Mel,
Ugh, great question! Once you understand how they operate it gets better. But trust me both male and females feel this way. I mean at the end of the day when you find the one that is supposed to be yours it's not always this hard. These are the lessons before you get "the one". :)
Best,
Apollonia
Apollonia Ponti I remember when my smile was enough to attract them, now I have to put in so much work
Apollonia Ponti it really works thank you !
Women think on emotions , basically no logic when emotions are involved. Us men are logical , so it’s often a communication barrier that gets lost in translation. So it’s more do about communicating with them.
A woman needs a reason to have sex , all us men need is a place to have sex.
Stay on your grind , don’t argue with women , get your point across without actually telling her , do it through action and if she ain’t for you , keep that shit moving until you find the woman for you . It ain’t really complicated
karma is real brother becareful it doesnt come back to get you
Confidence comes with a good pyhisic and reasonable maturity
Financially good and that's it
How do you seduce a woman who is hurt from a previous relationship and is scared to get into another one?
PurdueGrad 4Life I want to know this aswell
Just show consistency of what u truly love doing..this shows you r a potential partner commitment into the relationship
She’s speaking 80% facts if you guys would listen. It’s not about money, it’s more so about being different from all other guys. Be a great communicator, be spontaneous, be confident, be observant of her, be funny and fun, smell good, and have good hygiene, be neat, and don’t be too nice or passive. Compliment her, but don’t be thirsty. You can take her on a cheap date but be creative. Be different. Do theses few things and a woman will return it back to u ten fold. Don’t talk about sex if she hasn’t introduced you to the conversation of sex. It will happen if she likes you. Women are not complicated. I’m financially stable, but there were times when I wasn’t and still got baddies by being honest and showing them my potential and drive to get back to stable or well off. They will lead you, help you, guide you and more if you show you have their best interest as a friend or lover. Be 100 - be honest. Don’t boast about yourself or money. Some of you guys set yourself up for a woman to dig into your gold cus you talk like you got gold and ready to spend. FACTS.
Again, initial confidence and conversation turns the key or not. Then what you do after will or will not keep her intrigued. Most of the time it’s a man’s conversation or approach that turns a woman off.
"Mental stimulation is more important than physical penetration." I was amazed how I was able to achieve this through "intellectually stimulating" conversation. One of a woman's need is conversation. They want to be led on sightseeing mental journey. They want a man who knows how a story goes. This is a dangerous weapon to use. Lead her on a journey and you provide the guidance. Ask leading questions and let her lead, and you follow. This means a brother must know some info to share. This one tool only, if you master, you unlock the door to her heart. This is what I've experienced. It worked like magic
Very true. I used to do this very well. I then got in an 8 yr relationship, and after 5/6 yrs in I began to lose what made me, became insecure, cared way too much, and became needy. She left, and I'm left feeling like I lost myself and shes constantly on my mind meanwhile shes already dating someone else. Makes me enraged but I need to do me. Any tips on how to get back to form?
@@iinrodwetrust how you doing by now ?
InRod WeTrust Look up codependency
@@iinrodwetrust enjoy her, but know when you're too emotionally deep. Make her fiend for you.
@@iinrodwetrust this is stupid man.This way you are not your self. Stay in form you get paid , loose your form you loose the contract. You are not in the NBA. Or another top sport.
Love your sincere and genuine advise Apollonia..tnk you very much
too much hassle and insanity for nothing (I signed off especially when she was saying how she recommended one of her clients to arrange a horseback riding on a beach for a girl ..... ) The relationships these days have become a one way street, and women feel they are automatically entitled to all these without reciprocating; not much value in relationships for men anymore than just sex.
Avalanche first they must ride the cowboy 🤠
Then we spend, A little.
Take the sex out , and what do women have to offer? Not a damn thing but headaches
Tip 2 is really helpful! Respecting her and asking those questions is a great way to get her to invest into you little by little.
This is an ambitious subject! But you've tackled it brilliantly. Great video. Catch you on YT4B. I have already subscribed to your channel. Deirdre. X
Thank you Deirdre.
I think that this is probably all GREAT advice, it's coming from a woman with significant experience and emotional intelligence as well as anecdotal evidence and a read on her clients.
I think what is lost in translation with the rendering of this advice is the fact that Apollonia isn't a man, so she can and does feel compelled to give advice that suggests EVERYTHING a woman would want without having to, being inclined to or even knowing what men think about all of these female desires.
I'd urge her to consider if the roles were reversed, if she'd be willing to work so hard for a man. The truth is that the only men who are going to endure this are men who are looking for primarily sexual relationships with women who they view as trophies, but don't expect or even want anything long term.
You look beautiful in that dress Apollonia
@Apollonia Ponti, please do a podcast with James Marshall. The conversation would be really really educational
ladies love body signals more than talking, actions have great impact than speaking
True ! 👏👌😎
When the girl you like asks when can I see you or I miss you man does that feel good 😌
This is one of my fave videos ...i love your thinking and the way you present words ,they're classy .. also, you are v Beautiful 😊
Man u are rite on it i feel the same way u alrite wit me sir. Mad respect!!
Looking forward 😄
I like Caitlyn V’s approach and delivery better. She’s better explaining herself too.
Lol so what I need to do is find a stray cat and teach it to walk on a leash smh
I give you credit for such a big job because it seems like you understand more men thinking 🤔 than women . Every body is so unique and God say love you wife or you woman not understand you woman? And the rest will be easier .
1. Be confident
2. Be respectful
3. Be sexy
4. Don't be possessive
5.
Thanks, Apollina, What Good Advice. Every Time I Learn More And More.
Once you have already had sex with a woman it’s okay to loosen your purse strings and spend money on dating activities like Skydiving etc... but men NEVER do extravagant dates like this until you have slept with a woman. She will put in a provider box if you do this the other way around. I can speak from many years of personal experience
Hey Apollonia, can you make a posting about how to manage to secure a long distance relationship? That can be hard :) would love some pointers on that subject. Great channel by the way 🕺
I have a video on long distance relationship, just go to my website and check for my videos and you will find it.
Simple cash is king 💰 💸
No. Plenty of wealth guys Are barf material.
Cannot buy a quality woman.
Yes and no if your plan is to be beta provider cash is king
This is profound, thumbs up Apollonia.
The answer is have a lot of money
True,
But not all the time,
Some times they want all youre money and put you in the bullshit just Friend spot and sleep around with the cheap ass people with not much money.some times when you have money,just they use you for their next steps.women can be very shady.
I am very excited listening to you. Your points are awesome
I appreciate that!
Thk u again, your info that you give is really good. Its helping me a lot.
1love God bless.
Got damn apollonia ponti is the goat!!
Hey Apollonia I've been following your videos and I find them extremely helpful. I was trying to download the 20 questions manual and I can't seem to able to get it sent through to my email. Thanks
Married nearly 35 years. I remember my grandfather telling me the worst part of being a grandfather is having to sleep with a grandmother. Too true. Probably 1st 10 years were the best. Downhill from there. Very painful living with women because most I know are locked in a time warp. They never improve themselves by never learning any new talents. It is like living with a child that never grows up. If you are lucky you might get one that can cook and clean. Most won't even do that anymore. You end up stuck with a lifelong dependent.
Brother I just split 40 years worth of work with one. Now on the payments monthly for life if she dont remarry. Dont think that her not being intimate is she dont want it. Mine has put out more the last year trying to come back than any year of the last 35 they will turn up the wick and shine. I would have stepped out all alongif I had known she played me from the first date
Sorry but why are you watching this video at first 😂
That texting part I needed to hear that. I could’ve been started leaving her on seen... lol
Money is the only way to a track and made them love you, money talk is the most power to overcome everything
Much easier to build 25 story building than to build a single woman relationship. Building a lady relationship requires, your time, your money, your attention and more than common sense
no actually, it literally is ALL common sense.
you an expert!!! following you right away