I'm an older man. And I have a life that most can only dream of. This wasnt an accident. I made good choices. And I strongly agree with GenZ’s advice. Don’t waste your time and money on things that won’t further your goals or, even worse, are self-destructive. Before making any decision, one should always consider the long-term consequences to their health, finances, career and especially family.. If one wants a good life then they must do the things that produce a good life and avoid the things that don’t. It is as simple as that
I am not a young man in fact I will soon be 65. My Grandfather was raised to be a Scottish gentleman, in turn he raised me to be the same. In my 23 years on the internet I have never viewed a better and more concise video on the subject of being a Gentleman. Well done and I look forward to more of your content in the future.
A gentleman does not belittle or argue with service workers. Take matters up directly with management, but never make a scene in public, especially with hourly workers.
I completely agree with all of these points. I wish my parents restricted my video game habit back in high school. I wasted a lot of time gaming that could have been spent improving myself and spending quality time with friends. I haven't touched a video game in over a decade now, and I don't miss them at all.
Gotta take the opposite approach here. I got deep into Counter Strike in my teenage years. It led to my career in finance as it gave me a fundamental understanding of trading. It made me sociable as being the an in game leader when I played with friends thrust me into student leadership positions. It taught me self improvement as I always suspected the enemy of using cheats as a last resort - I always thought ‘if he’s legit, how would we pull that off?’. Even staying up at night for an objective to play so many matches taught me dedication - something I lean on in my part time law school at the moment. Ultimately, I don’t think its video games but rather how one approaches and makes sense of experiences - not just video games.
@@holdingspacetrue. I however do believe in dialing back a bit on online games. I think online games suck the soul out of me personally. Plus they are made on the same model as how addictions work. Which is why I believe story mode games are simply better.
Salutation, don't mind me too much maybe I'm too late but I will nevertheless say that every activity can bring good things for your improvement like abilities or knowledge or coordination like reflex, everything depends on how much time you dedicate to them as matter of speaking also keep lasting even for videogamess. But this games also can have effect on improving some kind of brain functions like imagination or 3d reasoning and memory and spark new passion in you that will you pursue new pathways and reflex like mind hand one as I was saying before about coordination. Though the equilibrium is key. As alwaus said it is the dose that makes the poison from an old chemistry professor. You can still play but do over waste money and time on it as yiu wouldn't do the same overtraining in gym maybe. Keep it sane and clean you're the one in control also try to avoid games online where there is a toxic chat environment. These are many masterpiece that now costs less than you think and I will suggest them cause they also bring in them valuable lessons of life. Told this have fun. Kind rewards my fellow gentlemen 😂😏
I have to respectfully disagree on video games. There is nothing ungentlemanly or wasteful about them per se. They are a form of art and entertainment, a leisure activity. In moderation there is nothing wrong with that. We often have a biased view towards them because they are a newer form of entertainment and especially because they are associated with young people. But let's make some comparisons. Watching movies is another form of art and entertainment. It is not ungentlemanly of itself. In fact, taking a healthy interest in cinema is regarded as cultured. If I were to spend thousands of £/$ on films annually, and spend hours and hours every week watching them, however, you would say that is unhealthy and even ungentlemanly. Another example, golf is often regarded as a healthy leisure activity. James even recommends taking it up on another video. It's a good way of keeping a level of fitness and is a good social activity. Otherwise though it does not serve a higher purpose unless you're playing PGA tours and feeding your family from it. If you have a family at home who are ignored and living in relative poverity while you spend thousands of £/$ on clubs and play for hours and hours every week then, clearly, again that is unhealthy and ungentlemanly. Video games are no different. I think Henry Cavill is a great example of a modern gentleman who shows that video games can be part of a gentlemanly lifestyle. Although well intentioned, I feel that James aspires to live in the world of Steve McQueen and Cary Grant where video games did not exist and is a little biased against them on that basis. Strip it back to the principles though and they are no more right or wrong than watching movies or playing golf. Healthy in moderation, unhealthy in excess. It is the habit of doing these things in excess that is ungentlemanly, not the activity.
Listen up and learn young gentleman. As a man in his 40. I find Gent Z very sound and comprehensive. Thank you for sharing and please expand on your ideas, it helps us all. Much appreciated
I am 70 and Gent Z is correct on every point. One of the main themes here is waste: of time, money, effort. It requires maturity and focus to stay on a path that may seem austere, in order to put everything you have and do in to achieving the goal of a gentleman. But it is worth.
Indeed; as I wish this lad would have been around with this content 45 years ago; could have saved me a lot of grief in life had I heard the things he mentioned here...! 🤨
Don't fall into the trap of "defining what is right" for others. For - defining an entire generation with the letter "Z" if in reality - the letter "F' would be way more appropriate. Since everything that this generation can be defined with starts with an F - starting from "failure", up the level of "F d up".
DO NOT BUY A 10YR OLD MERCEDES, you will spend more on maintenance than either leasing a new car or buying a non German used car. A 10 year old Lexus is a safe used luxury option and will last for years without any huge wallet breaking costs.
I agree but there are some Mercedes I recommend. C class or E class typically. And get the cheapest trim level. Less things to break after 10 years. Any Lexus is 🔥 tho. I still own my 02 GS300, best car Toyota ever made.
Concept artist here. I just restrict my game time to “study” time. I take notes on designs and ideas I like when I play games. I only buy 2-3 games a year.
@jamescornwell9502 same here, I only play on weekends for 1 or 2 ours a day maximum. But I do it to enjoy it as the piece of art the game is. Mostly single players with rich environments, good stories and wonderful art direction. I really enjoy it, it is like watching a good film for me
if you do gaming/development for work, i suspect you would do notably better with it if you designated some game-free time, ideally for a physical activity. and all the better so if for a team sport, ie soccer... even if it's just one day per week, or only a few hours on that day, it will reset your brain and make you ready to go back into the gaming world with a vastly sharper edge.
@Numantino312 yeah that's something I need actually, I love baseball but in the country I'm working sadly it is only possible to play it during 5 months a year due to the cold temperatures. Although I do every day some kind of mid or low intensity training to give my body and brain some activity during the cold seasons
@@esponru5602 recently fell in love with lacrosse. in my part of the states (north dakota has short summers too), it's not terribly popular, and 90% of it is done at high school level. at adult age, one has to be a super-organiser + persuasive personality to get a team sport going. 😐 sounds like you understand importance of physical activity regardless. hope you find a way to spend some time on the diamond.
I am 55 and am happy to hear such advice for young men. As regards video games, as a child the only electric devices in my room were a transistor radio and a reading lamp!
I’m happy to see the views and subscription numbers on your channel going up. It’s heartening to think that young men are watching and learning from you. It’s sorely needed.
Holy smokes. I too made the mistake of owning a vintage Jaguar in my twenties. It was a beautiful car and it looked amazing in the driveway, as it rarely ran. Eventually, it caught fire on the freeway. My next car was a lovely lightly used Honda Accord.
I had an S-type Jaguar that never gave problems while under warranty. When the warranty expired it cost me $8k that year in repairs. I drove it to the Toyota dealership and left it for an FJ Cruiser that I loved.
I purchased a 1973 Porsche 911 Tara that looked good in the driveway but rarely ran. I didn’t know much about fixing them back then so it was very expensive. Also, it was a cop magnet. Very expensive speeding tickets. It put a big hardship on my young family’s finances and I vowed to never make that mistake again and I haven’t. Now that I can really afford one, I choose not to.
Great video, I have to disagree on the video games point though. Games made by companies like Rockstar, Insomniac, and others make impactful and enjoyable interactive experiences that tell stories and teach lessons that would be too long and detailed for a movie format. There’s also nothing wrong with spending a couple hours on a good battle royal game every now and then to foster your sense of competition.
Great video. I agree with the list. I would add going on expensive first dates. It’s fine to spend money on a quality woman but don’t throw money away just trying to vet women on a first or even second date
It depends. Personally, I like nice restaurants, and going out to dinner is one of my favorite things. So I wouldn't downgrade my own experience of that just because it's a date
fair enough. I also like quality restaurants and spend good money on them as well but the problem is you don't know if they are good company yet so you may downgrade your experience just by not having the right vibe there@@Gent.Z
As a wise-learned middle aged man, I would caution a young man against purchasing any 10 year old car, including a Mercedes unless you can buy it outright and not feel the financial squeeze. If you finance a car that old, you'll be paying for the car AND the inevitable maintenance needed on any vehicle of that age (and Mercedes are not cheap to fix). My advice is to find a nice car that's a couple of years old with 50K or so miles. Someone else has already taken the depreciation, and you'll have a newer car that you can drive for several years while you build your wealth. THEN you can buy the Merc and impress your friends. A nice watch on the other hand, is a one time purchase, probably won't need servicing for several years. There's something about the low key IYKYK-ness of wearing an Omega Seamaster that just gives a man a boost. If you're going to splash out on a luxury item, a good watch will last more than a lifetime.
You make a great point, but most men don't have any watch at all, or have a piece of garbage. Seiko or, even better, Orient, is a great alternative to a $5-8K watch that you really can't afford. Notice that Orient only makes mechanical watches. I think a gentleman should never wear quartz OR a so-called designer watch.
Yeah, there's a rather un-gentlemanly element to how the bulk of this advice is about cultivating the perception of others rather than developing productive habits or anything useful. I far prefer Heinlein's definition of a gentleman being unafraid to try new things or get his hands dirty.
Agree My friend. I am 65 and I have only bought two new cars and regretted both. As you said buy used. Let the other guy take the depreciation. And never finance a watch. I really like the looks of your watch by the way. Best regards Ron
I am guilty of financing an Omega Speedmaster, but i didn't regret it. I have an excess money every month and already got the savings in. Its alright to finance as long as it is reasonable and you have thought it through like a 1000 times. It will be a family heirloom for my son. Not a regret. But on the other hand financing a expensive car, that is a bad decision, i have to agree.
The porn issue is a lot like the drugs issue where because the elite want it and are so capable of advocating for it, they don't care about the havoc it can wreak especially for those not in their class
Agree on everything apart from computer/video games. Sometimes you just need some way to completely zone-out from life and burn a few hours. And computer-games are a great way to just completely forget about everything and relax for a few hours and blow off some stress.
It is so shocking that most people think that designer clothes like Gucci, Louis Vuitton , supreme and etc are high quality clothes in reality it is the biggest scam in clothing history(by the way Gent Z keep up the good work)
@@jheagy1234567890even for a black person for it is a genuine waste of money but when you have a culture of splash and splurge especially you look at rappers that tell a story in my eyes
Hello, yes, you are really right! It is really alarming, that 80-90% of people are so stupid and blind to everything. Those designer brands are total scam for big money telling people "hey, give me 4000 USD for this bag, that was made with cheap materials and go away". I really can´t believe, that people give money for this!!! Such stupid herd supporting villains and destroying small traditional shop owners, who really deserve the money. Bunch of idiots people trully are.
@@sarahgodwin-xd1wr yeah I can agree with you saying but in my opinion stay away from mainstream designers who are more flashy walking billboard than high quality clothing
No smoking, no drinking, no porn, minimal/no gambling, buy a classic car big engines get respect - fix the body work, buy good quality clothing, be clean shaven, have associates that create networks, never go on package holidays, never eat at cheap franchises, wear lounge shirts daily with chino's, never wear jeans. never use public transport don't be flash live below your means etc
Almost had a heart-attack because I misread the second one as "Designer Legos". Us gentlemen should always consider investing in designer Legos for creativity, intelligence, joy, and a cooperative activity. Did lose me at video games though, these in moderation (an hour or two a day) can improve motor, intellectual, and social skills, though can get a lot of these for free. My wife, daughter, friends, and I spent hours grouping together on MMO's, I wouldn't trade those memories for the world. Excellent video, thank you for the tips!
Being more than old enough to be your Dad young man, I must commend your channel on its content, its class, its wisdom & its wit... As far as 'this' episode, you were str8 on point with everything, thank you very much for this presentation, and I look forward to your next content...! Just 'Real Tauk'...! 😎
I was raised with gentlemanly qualities, but have to confess that modernity has had a strong influence on me. Thanks to your videos I’m finding my way back to things that really matter.
I agree with every point. My only note is that video games can be a great and artistic hobby not all games are murder sims and even Grand Theft Auto is meant to be a critique of our culture. Even something like Pacific Drive is a nice way to relax. Like any hobby, it is up the the user to be responsible in terms of how much time they spend on it.
James, please keep the videos coming! I agree with you and love your videos! I'm 72 and admire the way you are bringing good sold advice to our younger generation! 😊
I’ve listened to a lot of finance stuff. But framing finance through the lens of being a gentleman really brings something new to the table. Thank you for bringing this perspective!
Thank you, sir. I also consume a lot of finance content but many of those guys miss out on a lot of the pleasures in life to save as much money as possible. I look forward to making more videos like this in the future
I've gotta attest to the video games. I still play some older, non addictive games just for a bit of fun, BUT I did waste many years of my life on the newer, far more addictive games from Xbox 360 and onward. I really did get hooked on the dopamine cycle of getting kills and achievement in the games. When I was out of the house, what could I not stop thinking about? Getting back to the Xbox and playing some more.
I really like these videos on being a gentleman. I am 75 and was a young adult in the '60's and '70's but felt out of place be 9:19 cause I have always subscribed to being a gentleman. I like women who like that and who like dressing up for a date. Thank you Gent Z.
Another financial tip I’d offer is to be consistent with your income and overall wardrobe. As a student, I’ve made some large, impulsive purchases, as well as some well-thought-out ones. I once went to Suite Supply for a tailor-made suit, spending $2,000 without hesitation. On the other hand, at the same store, I bought a pair of trousers for around $450 with taxes, which was a frivolous expense. I understand that the fabric is likely high quality and will last a long time, but consistency is key. Wearing $400-$500 trousers doesn’t make sense with a $30-$40 shirt. It’s pointless to have one extremely expensive clothing item. You can find high-quality items that may not be Egyptian linen but are still durable and stylish, allowing you to economically own multiple pieces. For me, once I tried something on in the store, I felt bad backing out in front of the salesperson, partly due to my ego. We should also have a desire for consistency. Sometimes it’s beneficial to look for bargains and consider used items of good quality. If not used, it’s worth exploring alternatives while being mindful of the fabric. It might also be interesting to make a special video about fabric care, including cleaning processes and recommendations for maintaining high quality. After all, it would be a shame if an expensive garment looked worn or faded after just a year.
As an older traveled lady, I applaud you and your advice for a gentleman. You are right on all points. You are delightful! Thank you for sharing these life lessons with style!
That's a great video! I like the way you're building a community or a society here! We have to bring back the gentleman clubs, and what gentleman used to do right there. A video about it will be awesome!
Good advice. well made video and subject matter. A year ago I went in to an MB dealer to get a CLA45 and lease it. The dealer recommended a demo they had that they could give me cost on, a CLA35. It was cheap enough to pay cash and although both were within my means, the 35 was a much better deal since I've been going to that dealer for decades- this was a hook up. No car loans needed, well within my price range, still an epic car. I'm glad I settled. A few months ago I was in the market for my first Rolex. Instead I got a nicer Breitling for half the cost and with the money I saved I started making my own watches- another hobby, and a useful skill. Now, I'm not a watch snob, I am educated on the subject via first hand experience instead. Learn to do everything, find useful hobbies, be self made, a man with skills, not just money. People will treat you differently and look to you for answers. These were just two examples, it's time we all create our own as learned men of interest.
My gaming got my gentleman money… made me a senior software test engineer. Paid for my Porsche, Truck, Lexus, BMW motor cycle, and Harley… in cash. Paid for my house… in cash.
100% agree with buying a used (largely depreciated) Mercedes. Pay cash & then bank the car payment each month. You will then have the cash reserves for any maintenance & service items that come up and still be way ahead of the game.
When I watch the classic movies, look upon vintage photos and other reminders of better and elegant times I note how the men and women dress, groom, speak and more. Gentle Men don't use makeup, dye their hair, use botox or other cheats. Good health, self confidence, posture and gaze are all one needs.
I see nothing wrong with self improvements for men such as coloring your hair (usually to cover gray as women do ) . I am not suggesting that anyone color their hair wild and all different colors but a color close to your natural hair . Also, using botox or fillers to look younger is fine. I am not too crazy about botox but other fillers work well . Just because you are a male doesn't mean that you should not take advantage of looking your best by using new inventions.
I appreciate this video and the more you'll make. I'm turning 54 this year and I'd like to reinvent myself (a male version of Jane Fonda's Third Act lessons) and become that fabulous and glamorous gentleman that I've always wanted to be since I was a kid (James Bond but I don't have to kill anyone). Thank you and I look forward to the next video.
8:47 Agreed. Most old German luxury cars are money pits. However that operating cost can be mitigated by doing one’s own routine maintenance, careful model selection (I have an old CLK550) & subscribing to a proactive maintenance schedule. The motoring & ownership experience is delicious.
What an excellent display of the way of a gentleman👍🏻 Do you have any recommendations for books about beeing a gentleman? Maybe it would be also interesting for other aspiring gents like myself. Keep up the great work! Best wishes Max
Regarding wrist watches I was gifted a gorgeous vintage Tudor Submariner which I cherish to this day... but every few years you've got to crank out hundreds of dollars to maintain a watch of that Rolex Omega standard Etc. My watch box has some Seiko and Casio in it and tasteful pieces for not much money. It's nice to change up wrist straps are the spendier watches with a NATO strap or if you have some of the cheaper watches just change it up entirely.. good advice on the whole you always will provide and thanks for a great Channel
A gentleman doesn’t strategise their whole life to meet women - That’s pretty sociopathic and predatory If you’re happy and confident in your pursuits the rest will always take care of itself
Excellent list. Totally agree with the new or more recent video games. Only concession I would make would be to a retro system using carts, which is thereby limited, or a pinball machine, which has limitations as well. Both are more for show and conversation than endless time wasters.
25 minutes ago UA-cam suggested a video from you. Now I´ve watched three of your videos and subscribed. Thank you! Your channel and content are simply great!
Video games! You hit the nail!!! That's i'm guilty!!! But i only play campaign games. never liked multiplayer games. But nowadays i'm playing less than i used to.
I concur with the points raised in this video and extend my gratitude for the insightful discussion. In today's context, particularly within the United States, leveraging thrift stores has proven to be an effective strategy for acquiring high-quality attire such as suits, ties, and shoes at a commendable value. Location plays a significant role, and residing in proximity to affluent areas enhances the likelihood of finding premium items. Personally, frequenting Goodwill establishments situated in upper-middle-class neighborhoods has yielded favorable outcomes for me. I am keen to explore further avenues for prudent financial management. I welcome any additional insights or strategies from fellow viewers on effectively managing expenses.
Thank you for great content and a rather balanced, but clear approach. I almost agree with you with these advice. I do have a different view on the “video games” - I think a truly great game is an artistic masterpiece i.e. Kentucky Route Zero, which is a hallmark of modern scriptwriting, poetry and storytelling. I completely agree that seeking mindless rewards in online gaming is ridiculous, but the immersive storytelling possible through these more “Indy games”, which I would prefer to call “narrative” or plain “old school” is a whole different ballgame. Dismissing this would be like dismissing Beethoven in his time as being mindless, childish and a fad.
Good advice except for the part about buying a used Mercedes over a Jag. Jags are the best used luxury car value out there. But make sure to have a pre-purchase inspection done by a qualified mechanic (get referrals) who you can also trust to perform maintenance and repairs when the time comes. Independent shops are more reasonably priced than main dealers on both parts and labor. That said, if Jags don't do it for you, go with a used Lexus. Used BMWs are money pits and Audis are grenades just waiting to go off! Porsches are fun, of course, but very expensive to run.
I do believe it can be possible to find enriching community, healthy competition, and real joy from playing video games. Obviously more solitary games are lacking in the social component but if you can control yourself and not binge entire days away in front of the screen or at the table, gaming in general can be a healthy, stable, and fulfilling way to develop a community at a “third place”-somewhat like being a regular at a bar or the like.
Disagree with buying and old Jaguar. I bought my 96 XJ6 with 80K miles about six years ago. I have since driven it across the country several times, and it now has 180K miles. I have always done all the maintenance myself and it has never left me stranded. One of the best purchases i ever made.
Completely agree on the older classy car vs new car. Saves a ton of money. Agree on every other point made except video games. My argument for this disagreement is if you can effectively limit your play time in video games, say to a couple hours a week, it’s not really taking away from other productive activities. Video games are an effective way to relax for many people and not everyone is going to be playing a high stress game like Call of Duty every time they pick up a controller. Video games can also help immensely with different mental aspects like motor function, memory and other cognitive skills, and emotional control and stability, and social skills if multiplayer. You even stated the importance of having your own alone time to live a life of luxury. You said you like to go sit outside and enjoy the weather and the view for a while to help relax and keep your mood high throughout the day. You did state it’s good to do this, preferably away from screens, but video games have those same effects on some people. Can they be addictive? Absolutely. Can they can be detrimental physically and mentally? 100%. But can they be a wonderful tool to mental health, stability, and social and cognitive skills? Definitely! I think as long as you can effectively limit yourself, as long as it never becomes a problem and you never use it to avoid self improvement; instead using it as a tool for self improvement, a gentleman can absolutely play video games.
I'm a bit older than you, and being a big fan of the super famicom back in thd day inspired me to learn Japanese. I think of games as another form of art, a lot of work goes into them. I appreciate the soundtracks especially on retro games. My son has learned aot from playing minecraft. I suppose it's a question of whether every hobby or interest should have a productive outcome or if it can be enjoyed from its own sake. Definitely agree nothing good comes from playing 8 hours a day! But you can let any hobby get out of hand I'm English and if people start talking about football my eyes glaze over. They can talk about it all day! Love your channel, you've inspired me to start dressing better after a bit of middle age dad Comfort wear.
Now there is some British humor at work here, I guess: #3 Telling people not to spend money on drugs with a cocktail bar in the background. But who am I to tell: You are absolutely on point with everything! And a good glass of wine or a decent cocktail is a blessing, not a curse. It all depends on your composure and drinking behavior. When I was in your age (30 years ago), I also had a cocktail bar. I have some great memories, throwing cocktails parties in the flat that I shared with two like-minded guys while studying. And a nice cigarillo or cigar once in a while doesn't hurt either. Just remember, that it is the dose that makes the poison. I really like your content and would love to join you in Chicago. I've been there just once and that was with a student exchange program in 1985. As I live in Munich, Chicago is just not around the corner. So I hope you have a great event over there.
Regarding cars that are nice but not expensive to own, I drive a 33 year old Mercedes. People now yell out, "Nice car!" to me like it's a classic. It's just my car.
I would add a couple more things: - gambling. A very occasional dabble (at a table not a machine) is ok I guess, but like with everything else in life, either you have it or it has you. The latter is never ok. - content subscriptions, big TV or hobbies that keep you indoors and alone consuming entertainment. (We're not talking writing or painting or compoding music here). It's fine to have an Amazon or Netflix subscription - again if you have it not if it has you for 3hrs every day or binging half a weekend. - fads of any kind (food supplements first & foremost, but also clothing etc. Planet's landfills are full of yesterday's "must-haves".
I'm an older man. And I have a life that most can only dream of. This wasnt an accident. I made good choices. And I strongly agree with GenZ’s advice. Don’t waste your time and money on things that won’t further your goals or, even worse, are self-destructive. Before making any decision, one should always consider the long-term consequences to their health, finances, career and especially family.. If one wants a good life then they must do the things that produce a good life and avoid the things that don’t. It is as simple as that
a gentleman never lauds or boasts about his success.
I am not a young man in fact I will soon be 65. My Grandfather was raised to be a Scottish gentleman, in turn he raised me to be the same. In my 23 years on the internet I have never viewed a better and more concise video on the subject of being a Gentleman. Well done and I look forward to more of your content in the future.
A gentleman does not belittle or argue with service workers. Take matters up directly with management, but never make a scene in public, especially with hourly workers.
I completely agree with all of these points. I wish my parents restricted my video game habit back in high school. I wasted a lot of time gaming that could have been spent improving myself and spending quality time with friends. I haven't touched a video game in over a decade now, and I don't miss them at all.
Good for you!
Gotta take the opposite approach here. I got deep into Counter Strike in my teenage years. It led to my career in finance as it gave me a fundamental understanding of trading. It made me sociable as being the an in game leader when I played with friends thrust me into student leadership positions. It taught me self improvement as I always suspected the enemy of using cheats as a last resort - I always thought ‘if he’s legit, how would we pull that off?’. Even staying up at night for an objective to play so many matches taught me dedication - something I lean on in my part time law school at the moment. Ultimately, I don’t think its video games but rather how one approaches and makes sense of experiences - not just video games.
@@holdingspacetrue. I however do believe in dialing back a bit on online games. I think online games suck the soul out of me personally. Plus they are made on the same model as how addictions work. Which is why I believe story mode games are simply better.
Salutation, don't mind me too much maybe I'm too late but I will nevertheless say that every activity can bring good things for your improvement like abilities or knowledge or coordination like reflex, everything depends on how much time you dedicate to them as matter of speaking also keep lasting even for videogamess. But this games also can have effect on improving some kind of brain functions like imagination or 3d reasoning and memory and spark new passion in you that will you pursue new pathways and reflex like mind hand one as I was saying before about coordination.
Though the equilibrium is key.
As alwaus said it is the dose that makes the poison from an old chemistry professor.
You can still play but do over waste money and time on it as yiu wouldn't do the same overtraining in gym maybe. Keep it sane and clean you're the one in control also try to avoid games online where there is a toxic chat environment.
These are many masterpiece that now costs less than you think and I will suggest them cause they also bring in them valuable lessons of life.
Told this have fun.
Kind rewards my fellow gentlemen 😂😏
I have to respectfully disagree on video games. There is nothing ungentlemanly or wasteful about them per se. They are a form of art and entertainment, a leisure activity. In moderation there is nothing wrong with that. We often have a biased view towards them because they are a newer form of entertainment and especially because they are associated with young people. But let's make some comparisons.
Watching movies is another form of art and entertainment. It is not ungentlemanly of itself. In fact, taking a healthy interest in cinema is regarded as cultured. If I were to spend thousands of £/$ on films annually, and spend hours and hours every week watching them, however, you would say that is unhealthy and even ungentlemanly.
Another example, golf is often regarded as a healthy leisure activity. James even recommends taking it up on another video. It's a good way of keeping a level of fitness and is a good social activity. Otherwise though it does not serve a higher purpose unless you're playing PGA tours and feeding your family from it. If you have a family at home who are ignored and living in relative poverity while you spend thousands of £/$ on clubs and play for hours and hours every week then, clearly, again that is unhealthy and ungentlemanly.
Video games are no different. I think Henry Cavill is a great example of a modern gentleman who shows that video games can be part of a gentlemanly lifestyle. Although well intentioned, I feel that James aspires to live in the world of Steve McQueen and Cary Grant where video games did not exist and is a little biased against them on that basis. Strip it back to the principles though and they are no more right or wrong than watching movies or playing golf. Healthy in moderation, unhealthy in excess. It is the habit of doing these things in excess that is ungentlemanly, not the activity.
Listen up and learn young gentleman. As a man in his 40. I find Gent Z very sound and comprehensive.
Thank you for sharing and please expand on your ideas, it helps us all.
Much appreciated
Thank you very much, sir
Wel said here! And ps I’m 50 and a man
@@domi7171 I’m nearly 50 and everything he says here is true 👌🏻
I am 70 and Gent Z is correct on every point. One of the main themes here is waste: of time, money, effort. It requires maturity and focus to stay on a path that may seem austere, in order to put everything you have and do in to achieving the goal of a gentleman. But it is worth.
I also am enthousiast about your chanel, well done
Indeed; as I wish this lad would have been around with this content 45 years ago; could have saved me a lot of grief in life had I heard the things he mentioned here...! 🤨
Don't fall into the trap of "defining what is right" for others. For - defining an entire generation with the letter "Z" if in reality - the letter "F' would be way more appropriate. Since everything that this generation can be defined with starts with an F - starting from "failure", up the level of "F d up".
DO NOT BUY A 10YR OLD MERCEDES, you will spend more on maintenance than either leasing a new car or buying a non German used car. A 10 year old Lexus is a safe used luxury option and will last for years without any huge wallet breaking costs.
Talking from experience I reckon
I agree but there are some Mercedes I recommend. C class or E class typically. And get the cheapest trim level. Less things to break after 10 years.
Any Lexus is 🔥 tho. I still own my 02 GS300, best car Toyota ever made.
"Nothing is more expensive than a cheap Mercedes" (or any old german car really)
Maybe I'm the exception? Bought a 2009 Mercedes CLK 350 new and still driving it at 112k miles now. No problems.
Just got one from 2007 lmao
Man, I'm a game developer. I need to find a way to continue being a gentleman and test and enjoy the product of my work 😂
Concept artist here. I just restrict my game time to “study” time. I take notes on designs and ideas I like when I play games. I only buy 2-3 games a year.
@jamescornwell9502 same here, I only play on weekends for 1 or 2 ours a day maximum. But I do it to enjoy it as the piece of art the game is. Mostly single players with rich environments, good stories and wonderful art direction. I really enjoy it, it is like watching a good film for me
if you do gaming/development for work, i suspect you would do notably better with it if you designated some game-free time, ideally for a physical activity. and all the better so if for a team sport, ie soccer...
even if it's just one day per week, or only a few hours on that day, it will reset your brain and make you ready to go back into the gaming world with a vastly sharper edge.
@Numantino312 yeah that's something I need actually, I love baseball but in the country I'm working sadly it is only possible to play it during 5 months a year due to the cold temperatures. Although I do every day some kind of mid or low intensity training to give my body and brain some activity during the cold seasons
@@esponru5602 recently fell in love with lacrosse. in my part of the states (north dakota has short summers too), it's not terribly popular, and 90% of it is done at high school level.
at adult age, one has to be a super-organiser + persuasive personality to get a team sport going. 😐
sounds like you understand importance of physical activity regardless. hope you find a way to spend some time on the diamond.
I am 55 and am happy to hear such advice for young men. As regards video games, as a child the only electric devices in my room were a transistor radio and a reading lamp!
I Think Gambling is a big point to because some gambling like Blackjack on a table is fun but setting on a maschin burning money away is just wrong.
This guy is a gem.
I’m happy to see the views and subscription numbers on your channel going up. It’s heartening to think that young men are watching and learning from you. It’s sorely needed.
as a watch nerd, I can agree seiko is the best money for value brand there is. They're also highly customizable
I disagree, ORIS are the best value watch money can buy and it's Swiss.
@@sambadham1404 seiko has more history though
I am not a watch nerd but I swear by Casio watches.
@@Aurora-bv1ys those are good too, i just prefer the more classic look of seikos
I love my seiko samurai, and it beats paying 20k for a rolex
“A gentleman gets his drugs for free” I had to pause and laugh at that part, i like the jokes 😂😂
It's a line from the movie Love Actually
Thank you Malcolm for your time and efforts, this gamer appreciates it and finds joy in gaming an hour or two a day.
Holy smokes. I too made the mistake of owning a vintage Jaguar in my twenties. It was a beautiful car and it looked amazing in the driveway, as it rarely ran. Eventually, it caught fire on the freeway. My next car was a lovely lightly used Honda Accord.
Ouch! Yes, mine was very easy on the eyes. But the problems were never ending. Luckily, nothing as dramatic as catching fire, though
I had an S-type Jaguar that never gave problems while under warranty. When the warranty expired it cost me $8k that year in repairs. I drove it to the Toyota dealership and left it for an FJ Cruiser that I loved.
I purchased a 1973 Porsche 911 Tara that looked good in the driveway but rarely ran. I didn’t know much about fixing them back then so it was very expensive. Also, it was a cop magnet. Very expensive speeding tickets. It put a big hardship on my young family’s finances and I vowed to never make that mistake again and I haven’t. Now that I can really afford one, I choose not to.
I don't even need this advice, but I still enjoy watching your content because it is so refreshing and makes such good points
Great video, I have to disagree on the video games point though. Games made by companies like Rockstar, Insomniac, and others make impactful and enjoyable interactive experiences that tell stories and teach lessons that would be too long and detailed for a movie format. There’s also nothing wrong with spending a couple hours on a good battle royal game every now and then to foster your sense of competition.
Video games are a new form of art. Some of them at least.
Great video. I agree with the list. I would add going on expensive first dates. It’s fine to spend money on a quality woman but don’t throw money away just trying to vet women on a first or even second date
That's a nice piece of advice actually. I met my partner on a coffee date, and a nice summer walk :)
It depends. Personally, I like nice restaurants, and going out to dinner is one of my favorite things. So I wouldn't downgrade my own experience of that just because it's a date
fair enough. I also like quality restaurants and spend good money on them as well but the problem is you don't know if they are good company yet so you may downgrade your experience just by not having the right vibe there@@Gent.Z
"A gentleman gets his drugs for free." I was beginning to think this guy had no sense of humor.
As a wise-learned middle aged man, I would caution a young man against purchasing any 10 year old car, including a Mercedes unless you can buy it outright and not feel the financial squeeze. If you finance a car that old, you'll be paying for the car AND the inevitable maintenance needed on any vehicle of that age (and Mercedes are not cheap to fix). My advice is to find a nice car that's a couple of years old with 50K or so miles. Someone else has already taken the depreciation, and you'll have a newer car that you can drive for several years while you build your wealth. THEN you can buy the Merc and impress your friends.
A nice watch on the other hand, is a one time purchase, probably won't need servicing for several years. There's something about the low key IYKYK-ness of wearing an Omega Seamaster that just gives a man a boost. If you're going to splash out on a luxury item, a good watch will last more than a lifetime.
You make a great point, but most men don't have any watch at all, or have a piece of garbage. Seiko or, even better, Orient, is a great alternative to a $5-8K watch that you really can't afford.
Notice that Orient only makes mechanical watches. I think a gentleman should never wear quartz OR a so-called designer watch.
I've said it but this channel is freakin awesome
Thank you, sir
It is most refreshing to see someone like you being so mature and sensible at such a young age. I salute you.
Absolutely amazing video.
Im a middle-aged woman and sending this video to my nephews.
Its very much needed.
Pls make more if you can.
Thank you very much. I am producing videos every day
I would hate my aunt if she sent me this video
@@foolonthehill8410😂😂😂😂
Well done..Spot on without being pompous or arrogant. A true gentleman. Much respect from a boomer. Keep up the good work.
@foolonthehill8410 - Why would you hate her for that?🤔 She is helping you out.
Right on every count. Be real. Be prudent. Go with quality.
Cheers
Number 1 don't simp. There is nothing more un-gentlemanly.
I think author needs to learn this lesson first. Lad is obsessed with showing off and women - not very good compilation.
Yeah, there's a rather un-gentlemanly element to how the bulk of this advice is about cultivating the perception of others rather than developing productive habits or anything useful. I far prefer Heinlein's definition of a gentleman being unafraid to try new things or get his hands dirty.
Agree My friend. I am 65 and I have only bought two new cars and regretted both. As you said buy used. Let the other guy take the depreciation. And never finance a watch. I really like the looks of your watch by the way. Best regards Ron
Always second hand, for sure! And thank you, Ron
I am guilty of financing an Omega Speedmaster, but i didn't regret it. I have an excess money every month and already got the savings in. Its alright to finance as long as it is reasonable and you have thought it through like a 1000 times. It will be a family heirloom for my son. Not a regret. But on the other hand financing a expensive car, that is a bad decision, i have to agree.
The porn issue is a lot like the drugs issue where because the elite want it and are so capable of advocating for it, they don't care about the havoc it can wreak especially for those not in their class
Seiko is the best watch you can buy, price/quality 💯
Nice video once again! Loving to watch your channel! You deserve more subscribers!
I totally agree with all your suggestions for 100% . Be conscious, make sure you be the main character in your own life.
Agree on everything apart from computer/video games. Sometimes you just need some way to completely zone-out from life and burn a few hours. And computer-games are a great way to just completely forget about everything and relax for a few hours and blow off some stress.
I view video games as an extention of a book. I'll either read or play - usually open world games like AC or HZD. These have good story lines.
It is so shocking that most people think that designer clothes like Gucci, Louis Vuitton , supreme and etc are high quality clothes in reality it is the biggest scam in clothing history(by the way Gent Z keep up the good work)
@@jheagy1234567890even for a black person for it is a genuine waste of money but when you have a culture of splash and splurge especially you look at rappers that tell a story in my eyes
@@jheagy1234567890Just had to bring race into it. Not very gentlemanly.
Hello,
yes, you are really right! It is really alarming, that 80-90% of people are so stupid and blind to everything. Those designer brands are total scam for big money telling people "hey, give me 4000 USD for this bag, that was made with cheap materials and go away". I really can´t believe, that people give money for this!!! Such stupid herd supporting villains and destroying small traditional shop owners, who really deserve the money. Bunch of idiots people trully are.
I don't agree that all designer clothes are not worth paying more money because a few are such as Ralph Lauren.
@@sarahgodwin-xd1wr yeah I can agree with you saying but in my opinion stay away from mainstream designers who are more flashy walking billboard than high quality clothing
No smoking, no drinking, no porn, minimal/no gambling, buy a classic car big engines get respect - fix the body work, buy good quality clothing, be clean shaven, have associates that create networks, never go on package holidays, never eat at cheap franchises, wear lounge shirts daily with chino's, never wear jeans. never use public transport don't be flash live below your means etc
"Never use public transport" - I suppose you're an American?
No. @@fhujf
That sounds like an old joke… the punchline being the Doctor says “then what on Earth do you want to live to 100 for?”
Almost had a heart-attack because I misread the second one as "Designer Legos". Us gentlemen should always consider investing in designer Legos for creativity, intelligence, joy, and a cooperative activity. Did lose me at video games though, these in moderation (an hour or two a day) can improve motor, intellectual, and social skills, though can get a lot of these for free. My wife, daughter, friends, and I spent hours grouping together on MMO's, I wouldn't trade those memories for the world. Excellent video, thank you for the tips!
Being more than old enough to be your Dad young man, I must commend your channel on its content, its class, its wisdom & its wit... As far as 'this' episode, you were str8 on point with everything, thank you very much for this presentation, and I look forward to your next content...! Just 'Real Tauk'...! 😎
Thank you very much, sir
I was raised with gentlemanly qualities, but have to confess that modernity has had a strong influence on me. Thanks to your videos I’m finding my way back to things that really matter.
I agree with every point. My only note is that video games can be a great and artistic hobby not all games are murder sims and even Grand Theft Auto is meant to be a critique of our culture. Even something like Pacific Drive is a nice way to relax. Like any hobby, it is up the the user to be responsible in terms of how much time they spend on it.
James, please keep the videos coming! I agree with you and love your videos! I'm 72 and admire the way you are bringing good sold advice to our younger generation! 😊
I’ve listened to a lot of finance stuff. But framing finance through the lens of being a gentleman really brings something new to the table. Thank you for bringing this perspective!
Thank you, sir. I also consume a lot of finance content but many of those guys miss out on a lot of the pleasures in life to save as much money as possible. I look forward to making more videos like this in the future
Ramit Sethi is definitely the exception there! @ramitsethi However, even his content lacks that sense of gentlemanly virtue. Thanks again! @@Gent.Z
I've gotta attest to the video games. I still play some older, non addictive games just for a bit of fun, BUT I did waste many years of my life on the newer, far more addictive games from Xbox 360 and onward. I really did get hooked on the dopamine cycle of getting kills and achievement in the games. When I was out of the house, what could I not stop thinking about? Getting back to the Xbox and playing some more.
I really like these videos on being a gentleman. I am 75 and was a young adult in the '60's and '70's but felt out of place be 9:19 cause I have always subscribed to being a gentleman. I like women who like that and who like dressing up for a date. Thank you Gent Z.
Another financial tip I’d offer is to be consistent with your income and overall wardrobe. As a student, I’ve made some large, impulsive purchases, as well as some well-thought-out ones. I once went to Suite Supply for a tailor-made suit, spending $2,000 without hesitation. On the other hand, at the same store, I bought a pair of trousers for around $450 with taxes, which was a frivolous expense. I understand that the fabric is likely high quality and will last a long time, but consistency is key. Wearing $400-$500 trousers doesn’t make sense with a $30-$40 shirt. It’s pointless to have one extremely expensive clothing item. You can find high-quality items that may not be Egyptian linen but are still durable and stylish, allowing you to economically own multiple pieces. For me, once I tried something on in the store, I felt bad backing out in front of the salesperson, partly due to my ego. We should also have a desire for consistency. Sometimes it’s beneficial to look for bargains and consider used items of good quality. If not used, it’s worth exploring alternatives while being mindful of the fabric. It might also be interesting to make a special video about fabric care, including cleaning processes and recommendations for maintaining high quality. After all, it would be a shame if an expensive garment looked worn or faded after just a year.
Great video again, watching you every day.
Thanks, Tyler. I'm keeping new ones coming every day too
I've found Christopher Ward timepieces to be both elegant and affordable. Most of their models are made with high-quality Swiss perpetual movements.
Old Mercedes are expensive to repair. Ask me how I know . . .
Can be! Depends how old you go
You are a really good and positive influence. I appreciate you.
As an older traveled lady, I applaud you and your advice for a gentleman. You are right on all points. You are delightful! Thank you for sharing these life lessons with style!
That's a great video! I like the way you're building a community or a society here! We have to bring back the gentleman clubs, and what gentleman used to do right there. A video about it will be awesome!
Video dropping on this very topic today
can u pls check your dm once
@@Gent.Z
Love your outfit. I hate how these days I can’t find an Oxford at a store. Went to a Dillards and TWO Mens Wearhouses- NO oxford button downs. 😓
I am not usually a fan of Lifestyle videos but this one gives good advice for any young men at any level of income
A gentleman should never appear in an only fans video.
I’m trying to stop, I swear.
Great eyebrows. Oh, I bought that old Jaguar - 1989 british racing green XJS convertible.
Good advice. well made video and subject matter. A year ago I went in to an MB dealer to get a CLA45 and lease it. The dealer recommended a demo they had that they could give me cost on, a CLA35. It was cheap enough to pay cash and although both were within my means, the 35 was a much better deal since I've been going to that dealer for decades- this was a hook up. No car loans needed, well within my price range, still an epic car. I'm glad I settled.
A few months ago I was in the market for my first Rolex. Instead I got a nicer Breitling for half the cost and with the money I saved I started making my own watches- another hobby, and a useful skill. Now, I'm not a watch snob, I am educated on the subject via first hand experience instead.
Learn to do everything, find useful hobbies, be self made, a man with skills, not just money. People will treat you differently and look to you for answers. These were just two examples, it's time we all create our own as learned men of interest.
My gaming got my gentleman money… made me a senior software test engineer.
Paid for my Porsche, Truck, Lexus, BMW motor cycle, and Harley… in cash.
Paid for my house… in cash.
This is a fair point, but aren't you the huge exception?
100% agree with buying a used (largely depreciated) Mercedes. Pay cash & then bank the car payment each month. You will then have the cash reserves for any maintenance & service items that come up and still be way ahead of the game.
More like this!!
Sure thing!
When I watch the classic movies, look upon vintage photos and other reminders of better and elegant times I note how the men and women dress, groom, speak and more. Gentle Men don't use makeup, dye their hair, use botox or other cheats. Good health, self confidence, posture and gaze are all one needs.
I see nothing wrong with self improvements for men such as coloring your hair (usually to cover gray as women do ) . I am not suggesting that anyone color their hair wild and all different colors but a color close to your natural hair . Also, using botox or fillers to look younger is fine. I am not too crazy about botox but other fillers work well . Just because you are a male doesn't mean that you should not take advantage of looking your best by using new inventions.
I appreciate this video and the more you'll make. I'm turning 54 this year and I'd like to reinvent myself (a male version of Jane Fonda's Third Act lessons) and become that fabulous and glamorous gentleman that I've always wanted to be since I was a kid (James Bond but I don't have to kill anyone). Thank you and I look forward to the next video.
That Bill Nighy drugs quote caught me off guard 😂😂. He is a well dressed man who may be worth covering in a video :)
Oh I didn't know that was a Bill Nighy line 😅
@@Gent.Z ua-cam.com/video/luBk4VrMHNI/v-deo.htmlsi=M2rwynvIT8MHGj1v a classic lol
8:47 Agreed. Most old German luxury cars are money pits. However that operating cost can be mitigated by doing one’s own routine maintenance, careful model selection (I have an old CLK550) & subscribing to a proactive maintenance schedule. The motoring & ownership experience is delicious.
What an excellent display of the way of a gentleman👍🏻
Do you have any recommendations for books about beeing a gentleman?
Maybe it would be also interesting for other aspiring gents like myself.
Keep up the great work! Best wishes
Max
Absolutely, I will certainly do both fiction and non-fiction books in the future
Regarding wrist watches I was gifted a gorgeous vintage Tudor Submariner which I cherish to this day... but every few years you've got to crank out hundreds of dollars to maintain a watch of that Rolex Omega standard Etc. My watch box has some Seiko and Casio in it and tasteful pieces for not much money. It's nice to change up wrist straps are the spendier watches with a NATO strap or if you have some of the cheaper watches just change it up entirely.. good advice on the whole you always will provide and thanks for a great Channel
Very good advise.
A gentleman doesn’t strategise their whole life to meet women - That’s pretty sociopathic and predatory
If you’re happy and confident in your pursuits the rest will always take care of itself
"A gentleman gets his drugs for free" made me laugh out loud. Thanks! Thanks also for all the great advice.
Excellent list. Totally agree with the new or more recent video games. Only concession I would make would be to a retro system using carts, which is thereby limited, or a pinball machine, which has limitations as well. Both are more for show and conversation than endless time wasters.
Great video. Thx for sharing.
I agreed with everything, & am glad I have alignment. I have a hobby of deal-shopping, & being cheap. I splurge sometimes.
Yes, content applicable to every gentleman at every stage in his career would be great to watch!
25 minutes ago UA-cam suggested a video from you. Now I´ve watched three of your videos and subscribed.
Thank you!
Your channel and content are simply great!
Thank you, I have been trying to articulate this point about clothing for some time.
Awesome video man, keep up the great work!
Thank you, sir
Video games! You hit the nail!!! That's i'm guilty!!! But i only play campaign games. never liked multiplayer games. But nowadays i'm playing less than i used to.
I am on the same page as you. Online games like League of Legends are cancer
Do whatever makes you happy.
Great video, would absolutley love to see the channel broaden out!
I concur with the points raised in this video and extend my gratitude for the insightful discussion. In today's context, particularly within the United States, leveraging thrift stores has proven to be an effective strategy for acquiring high-quality attire such as suits, ties, and shoes at a commendable value. Location plays a significant role, and residing in proximity to affluent areas enhances the likelihood of finding premium items. Personally, frequenting Goodwill establishments situated in upper-middle-class neighborhoods has yielded favorable outcomes for me. I am keen to explore further avenues for prudent financial management. I welcome any additional insights or strategies from fellow viewers on effectively managing expenses.
Yes , i think more videos like this one would be very beneficial .
Thank you for great content and a rather balanced, but clear approach. I almost agree with you with these advice. I do have a different view on the “video games” - I think a truly great game is an artistic masterpiece i.e. Kentucky Route Zero, which is a hallmark of modern scriptwriting, poetry and storytelling. I completely agree that seeking mindless rewards in online gaming is ridiculous, but the immersive storytelling possible through these more “Indy games”, which I would prefer to call “narrative” or plain “old school” is a whole different ballgame. Dismissing this would be like dismissing Beethoven in his time as being mindless, childish and a fad.
Great content!!! Well done!!
A lot of good points there!
Good advice except for the part about buying a used Mercedes over a Jag. Jags are the best used luxury car value out there. But make sure to have a pre-purchase inspection done by a qualified mechanic (get referrals) who you can also trust to perform maintenance and repairs when the time comes. Independent shops are more reasonably priced than main dealers on both parts and labor. That said, if Jags don't do it for you, go with a used Lexus. Used BMWs are money pits and Audis are grenades just waiting to go off! Porsches are fun, of course, but very expensive to run.
Just perfect, congratulations! Salute from Brazil.
I do believe it can be possible to find enriching community, healthy competition, and real joy from playing video games. Obviously more solitary games are lacking in the social component but if you can control yourself and not binge entire days away in front of the screen or at the table, gaming in general can be a healthy, stable, and fulfilling way to develop a community at a “third place”-somewhat like being a regular at a bar or the like.
Very good, essential knowledge for the teen/young man.
I agree. The money you could save by avoiding pornography and Only Fans can be used to purchase arms and ammunition. Bad times are ahead! LOL!
Disagree with buying and old Jaguar. I bought my 96 XJ6 with 80K miles about six years ago. I have since driven it across the country several times, and it now has 180K miles. I have always done all the maintenance myself and it has never left me stranded. One of the best purchases i ever made.
Completely agree on the older classy car vs new car. Saves a ton of money. Agree on every other point made except video games.
My argument for this disagreement is if you can effectively limit your play time in video games, say to a couple hours a week, it’s not really taking away from other productive activities. Video games are an effective way to relax for many people and not everyone is going to be playing a high stress game like Call of Duty every time they pick up a controller. Video games can also help immensely with different mental aspects like motor function, memory and other cognitive skills, and emotional control and stability, and social skills if multiplayer. You even stated the importance of having your own alone time to live a life of luxury. You said you like to go sit outside and enjoy the weather and the view for a while to help relax and keep your mood high throughout the day. You did state it’s good to do this, preferably away from screens, but video games have those same effects on some people. Can they be addictive? Absolutely. Can they can be detrimental physically and mentally? 100%. But can they be a wonderful tool to mental health, stability, and social and cognitive skills? Definitely! I think as long as you can effectively limit yourself, as long as it never becomes a problem and you never use it to avoid self improvement; instead using it as a tool for self improvement, a gentleman can absolutely play video games.
I'm a bit older than you, and being a big fan of the super famicom back in thd day inspired me to learn Japanese. I think of games as another form of art, a lot of work goes into them. I appreciate the soundtracks especially on retro games. My son has learned aot from playing minecraft. I suppose it's a question of whether every hobby or interest should have a productive outcome or if it can be enjoyed from its own sake. Definitely agree nothing good comes from playing 8 hours a day! But you can let any hobby get out of hand I'm English and if people start talking about football my eyes glaze over. They can talk about it all day! Love your channel, you've inspired me to start dressing better after a bit of middle age dad Comfort wear.
Age 52 from Greece. Amazing Chanel, great tips, awesome fellow, congratulations!!!
As a personal finance professional I will say this is an excellent video on the subject of money. Right on all points
Budgeting tips, including how to set and live within a budget, would be useful. Spending choices affect so much of the quality of life.
Now there is some British humor at work here, I guess: #3 Telling people not to spend money on drugs with a cocktail bar in the background. But who am I to tell: You are absolutely on point with everything! And a good glass of wine or a decent cocktail is a blessing, not a curse. It all depends on your composure and drinking behavior. When I was in your age (30 years ago), I also had a cocktail bar. I have some great memories, throwing cocktails parties in the flat that I shared with two like-minded guys while studying. And a nice cigarillo or cigar once in a while doesn't hurt either. Just remember, that it is the dose that makes the poison. I really like your content and would love to join you in Chicago. I've been there just once and that was with a student exchange program in 1985. As I live in Munich, Chicago is just not around the corner. So I hope you have a great event over there.
Regarding cars that are nice but not expensive to own, I drive a 33 year old Mercedes. People now yell out, "Nice car!" to me like it's a classic. It's just my car.
I learn a lot to become a gentleman thanks to your channel.
Thank you 🙏
Excellent advice loved your sense of humour here 😂
Rule of thumb-buy the best you can afford while never forgetting the importance of style and understatement.
Another great video with some top tips thank you keep them coming
What an excellent video, especially the first two points.If men waste money on adult content,he has the wrong priorities.
I would add a couple more things:
- gambling. A very occasional dabble (at a table not a machine) is ok I guess, but like with everything else in life, either you have it or it has you. The latter is never ok.
- content subscriptions, big TV or hobbies that keep you indoors and alone consuming entertainment. (We're not talking writing or painting or compoding music here). It's fine to have an Amazon or Netflix subscription - again if you have it not if it has you for 3hrs every day or binging half a weekend.
- fads of any kind (food supplements first & foremost, but also clothing etc. Planet's landfills are full of yesterday's "must-haves".
All blatantly obvious, but so brilliantly presented. Nice job.
great content from a gentlemen;) best regards from Zürich...