Doctor REACTS to Fellow Travellers | Dr Elliott Analyzes Amazing LGBT+ Show | Dr Elliott
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This Doctor REACTS video is looking at the first episode of the wonderful new queer show, Fellow Travellers. Matt Bomer and Jonathan Bailey are very easy on the eye and tell a story rich in LGBTQ+ history and with lots of health concepts to break down. If you liked It's a Sin then you will definitely love this show. Did I mention they're both really hot?
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The line about God forgiving them but him never forgiving God for making him 'this way' really put words to the way religion plays into people's perception of queer people and really reminded me of my own internal struggle between religion and my own queerness 🏳️🌈. Very good video, please keep reacting to this!
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I felt so bad for these guys, having to hide their love. I'm a straight cis woman, and when i was about 10, in the early 1970s, my mom and I were talking about some spy scandal, where the main protagonist was gay, and had been blackmailed by a foreign power.
Mom said this was why government agencies didn't like hiring gay people. I said, well, if the person just told everyone they were gay, no one could blackmail them. After all, hadn't the psychologists just said there was nothing wrong with gay people?
Mom was at a loss for words, and finally blurted out, "Well, the church says homosexuality is wrong, so that's that,"
10-YO me had had to accept all my life that religion was full of rules that I found inexplicable, but I had been told that the theologians knew better than I did, so I was just supposed to accept it.
Two of my best friends in high school were gay, and I never understood how there could possibly be anything wrong with them. I eventually concluded that it was religion and society that were wrong, not gay people.
That’s impressive since you are right hope things are going well for you
@@neigeepierrot4694 I'm an old lady now, and I guess about 20% of my friends and acquaintances are LGBTQI. I'm still friends with my high school friends.
You're a smart one, recognising at 10 years old what many don't recognise in a lifetime.
@@Hello-hello-hello456 I don't know if it was me being smart so much as I thought it was unfair. I mean, as a straight girl, I liked boys. That felt natural to ME. Why was it weird that people would be attracted to their own gender? Wasn't that what was natural to THEM? We all like different things. What was the big deal?
🌈i just turned 70. I came out when I went off to college at 17 in 1971. My first year at college I went to the annual Gay Liberation Conference at Ohio State. It began a long decade of marching, protesting and partying. I lived in DC, so witnessed the closet-y nature of that town. I dated many "Hawk"s and other government types so what was portrayed was very accurate. I was a bit of a Tim. Idealistic and very judgemental of their hypocrisy. In the 80's I moved to NYC with a bisexual married actor friend. Within a year he was sick and returned to DC and was among the first Dr. Fauci's clients at NIH.
I was lucky. Having been very promiscuous in the 70's with multiple partners (some anonymous, as that was the way then in DC) I somehow managed to noy get infected.
Needless to say, as I lost more and more friends and acquaintances (New York was an epicenter of the deaths and infections) I became basically asexual. And for the next 4 decades, I remained politically Queer but sexually asexual.
So....this series hit me hard and I commend everyone involved with it's making. I watched and re-warched it 3 times. And I think I have followed every "reaction" available on UA-cam. I feel seen for the first time. Just remarkable!! And I am so glad to hear your reactions and look forward to the upcoming reactions.
Hey, I'm glad you survived. I saw so much survivor's guilt in people that were somehow forgotten by grim reaper. To see so much loss, and with all the (often vile) discourse must have been incredibly soul-shattering. To have seen people cheer in delight that the virus affected the ""undesirables""- homosexual men and sex workers + drug addicts completely rid me of all naivety regarding human nature. To cheer with glee at suffering - to KNOW that in people's minds people like us deserved to suffer,to die - changed me, and not for better. I live in countries where the culture is still mostly of silence, silent judgement and vile comments in private, with occasional bout of unprovoked violence against LGBTQ people, usually men, of course.. tolerance,a popular non-word, hastily glued on top to fit with the European neighbours.
I wish You the best. You survived, you owe it - to yourself, certainly - to live the best life possible. 🌈
@@margodphd thank you. I feel seen.
As the episodes go by, a lot of people start to really hate Hawk for his actions. But as an elder gay I fully understand him. I'm in the US and in the 1960s went to grade school and high school, the 1970s, college and graduate school. Then started my career in the 1980s. The trauma and hate for gays was strong enough to keep me in the closet at work. I am ashamed how I acted when my partner moved in with me in 1981 to a one bedroom apartment. No personal cell phones, no caller ID then. The phone (landline) would ring, and I would yell "DON'T ANSWER IT!!! It might be my work calling." Well, it worked out, we're still together 43 years later. Note: even today in the US, half the states have no protection, and an employer can fire someone for being gay. (Edit: I just looked up, and a supreme court decision in 2020 provided some protection nationwide. But, employers can always find reasons to terminate gays, if they want to.)
ehh at least you didn't blame him for turnign you gay
Definitely the "turns my stomach" thing had me feeling anger but also something like shame. Evokes feelings of people close to me saying homophobic things about others even after I came out to them.
This show means so much to me. I spent much of my teen years in hospitals with my friends and acquaintances with HIV and AIDS. Almost all of my family worked in the federal government during McCarthy, and were ardent supporters of his. Much love to my maternal grandma (who turns 94 this year) who was an ally to us queer people from within the federal government then, and would still be now if she could. Society demonizing queer people ruined so many lives. It forced people into relationships they didn't want so they could protect themselves- harming both the queer people and the unsuspecting straight people they used as shields. It took away people's livelihoods. It killed queer people through mental health crisis or inaction on illnesses like HIV. The series is better than the book, in my opinion. It's braver in so many ways.
I'm not a member of the LGBTQ+ community but I'm a huge supporter and I have learned so much from your channel. Thank you for everything you do, Dr. Carthy!
I‘m a 24 year old bisexual woman and grew up in pretty liberal household in east germany and didn’t came out to anyone until I had my first girlfriend when I was 16. nothing changed in the relationship with my parents and I’m grateful for that. Though they might think it was „a phase“ since I didn’t date women since that.
For the show, what really devastated me is how lgbt+ human beings were reduced to their sexuality. Hawk is a war hero, is doing a great job and the senator hes working for is almost like a father for him. But the moment anyone would find out about who he’s sleeping with they would see him as an completely different person. When in fact, someone’s sexuality doesn’t define or change their personality and character.
The show makes me really emotional and angry, all the homophobia is hard to watch but I’ll be forever grateful for the people who stood up and fought for the rights we have now even though there is still a lot of work to do.
I‘m existed for your upcoming reactions!
I’m not part of the LGBTQ + community but I loved this series . Everything is top quality , production values and of course fantastic acting. It’s so educational as well but it will break your heart more than once over the episodes ❤ Thanks for you reactions .
Ah please keep on reacting to fellow travellers! this series will definitely break you 😢
The final episode makes me cry like a baby every time so yeah you’ll cry trust me
oh, how this series has changed me. it's crushed me, but grounded me. i'm 23, identify as bisexual, live in canada, am proudly out on the internet, but will most likely never come out to my family. i cannot even begin to imagine what older generations - or queer people living in countries where homosexuality is still illegal - had to deal with. while queer trauma still haunts and affects many of us, we're fortunate to be standing on the shoulders of those who've lived through the atrocities portrayed on the show. a show that is so authentically written, so wonderfully acted, so carefully thought out and produced. and i love hawk, i love tim, i love frankie, i love marcus, i love mary. all had to make sacrifices to survive and/or live authentically. ❤️
🏳️🌈 🇭🇷 As someone who's older Gen Z but still living in a predominantly homophobic country, the senators "turns a mans stomach" comment just reminds me of so many situations (since my early childhood and to this day) where I would immediately feel a sense of disappointment with the person saying something like that, and a visceral feeling of danger/complete lack of safety.
I just started highschool when my country held a referendum that made an amendment to the national constitution directly baning same sex marriage. Which made me feel even more despair about my future in my own homeland.
Luckily in the past 10 years since then there was a lot of legislation passed that equated gay marriage in all but name with traditional marriage. And through court decisions my country became the first former socialist state to legalize adoption for same sex couples. So at least that gave me some hope of a normal future; that I'll be able to start a family and have a normal life, which I thought was unimaginable within my lifetime.
Omg there are other criatians here☺️
🏳🌈 Awesome series. It represents two of the darkest eras in U.S. history--McCarthyism and the HIV epidemic which Reagan ignored. You are right--that "nobody wins."
🏴☠ When I think of Ronald Reagan and his response to AIDS I get so angry I lose reason.
On the other hand, we worked in Hollywood so he probably didn't know any gay people.
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🏳⚧ 🏳🌈 Luckily Dr. J. Everett Koop, Reagan's surgeon general, didn't. And, against political 'suggestions', deemed sexual health an important topic to be frank about. He publically advocated condom use and condoms went from something you whispered to the pharmacist or cashier if you wanted them to being openly displayed and available in the aisles. I remember watching Dr. Koop's offical speech on TV. "The most effective way to prevent the spread of AIDS, barring abstinence, is the use of a condom."
@@VMichaelLazar 🙂 I recall.
I developed a Jonathan Bailey crush when he did "Crashing" with Phoebe Waller-Bridge. Beyond cute.
My life wouldn't be the same after The fellow travelers
I'm glad you're reacting to this series. I can't to see & hear your reactions to future episode. I grew up in the 1970's in San Francisco. I came out in 1979. I saw the how AIDS impacted the gay community. In the height of AIDS in the 1980's, I saw my share of loss due to the epidemic. I can't wait for you to see & reaction on the depiction of AIDS is the US. Thanks.
OMG this show has so much emotional density and psychological richness, I cannot wait for your analysis of the rest of the episodes!!
Thank you for putting perspective on the historic elements of this. The humanity of the characters in this show is so touching and it's so important to not only shock but provoky empathy for queer people
🏳🌈I always enjoy your reactions, Dr. Elliott and I'm glad you are reacting to this. As a gay man of 61 I find it very important that there are shows that deal with these different eras of LGBTQ history so that younger people can see that things have not always been as they are now. (And that vigilance is needed so we don't get dragged backwards by forces today who are only too eager to return us to those times.) I did watch It's a Sin and your reaction to it--both excellent. For something similar from a U.S. perspective I highly recommend The Normal Heart, also with Matt Bomer and an entire cast of talented actors--but be forewarned, it's a tough watch.
One of the things that gave me a strong reaction watching the first episode was that one secretary who always makes judgy comments in passing and snoops around others offices; worst of all she seems to exude such a sense of entitlement and of "I'm better therefore I am allowed to and even should despise those who are less than"
I'd like to see your take on "All of Us Strangers". I'm still mulling it over in my head a week after seeing it.
My grandma worked in the U.S government in the 70s. I wish I could ask her about what it was like. This show would make me cry, but seems really informative and well done. I took a class on the AIDS epidemic in college and I learned so much about the way people were abandoned by their governments and how had to rely on community.
This is the exact reaction video I've been waiting for ❤
This show is so good. It’s beautiful and wonderful but infuriating and heartbreaking.
In my country it feels like we still livening in1950’s , that’s why I relate and like the show.
When I taught anti-discriminatory practice at BCU. I included as part of the course LGBTQ+ as one of the focus points on the course. Well of course I did. And, obviously I was supportive of gay people and drew attention towards the oppression they have faced throughout the ages and even today.
Now I'm a straight person. And every time, in every lesson, when I supported gay rights and did not support the abuse that LGTBQ+ people experience, I was always asked the same question by somebody at some point. "Are you gay then?". And it was always very quickly followed by, "It's OK if you are". These are the same sort of people who say things like, "I'm not racist, some of my best friends are black".
Unfortunately, prejudice is alive and well and still living amongst us.
"I'm not racist, some of my best friends are black".
"I'm not homophobic, some of my best friends are gay".
Might as well say: "I'm not a mass-murderer, some of my best friends are alive".
So, the point I'm trying to make, albeit, maybe very poorly. Is that prejudice is not only living amongst us, but hiding amongst us.
I really enjoyed this! Hope you’ll continue with the series :)
So glad you’re reviewing this show! I saw this during Winter Break and I was emotional from start to finish 🖤🖤
An amazing show to look at would be the Netflix Castlevania series
Dracula alone would be an interesting character to look at.
I would LOVE for you to react to The Bear, specifically episode 6 "Fishes" from Season 2. Much context is not needed to watch as it is a flashback episode happening around 5 years prior to the main events of the show. 'Fishes' is perhaps the most psychologically intense television I have ever seen in the form of a dysfunctional family christmas dinner. I would really, really love to see your take on it!
FINALLY someone else watches this and goes 'oh its the guy from W1A'
Thank you for this excellent review of an important look at look at our recent history.
I would like to recommend a very good film for you to watch, the name is "The Normal Heart". I don't know if you've seen it but this film is exciting and very interesting. It talks about the lives of queer people in the 80s in NY at the beginning of the AIDS crisis and talks a little more about this discovery and the struggle of these people to be seen by the government that at the time ignored the emergency situation
I remember once calling out my dad for using the word queer and he was genuinely confused about when my mother's union had representatives that described themselves as queer. It was the 90's so it was a little early in reclaiming the word.
I've fancied Jonathan since Crashing... Have you seen that?
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This mainly makes me sad, but homophobia has also confused me so much..why do people care who other people kiss? How can they hate love? Do they have nothing better to do? I wasn't confused about being gay, I was just confused why people cared.
Sadly I can relate a lot to this clip...homophobia exists to this day and I feel I've lived many lives, as a straight woman and a lesbian at the same time. Now I know the people I want in my life are the ones who want to actually be around ME...the whole thing, not just a part.
Thank you so so much Dr. Elliott for covering LGBTQ+ mental health and for everything else you do! It's so nice to have our own community here. We love you!
I am curious as to why you didn't continue with reactions to the rest of the series. This and "All of us Strangers" affected me deeply.
Yea you have to watch the whole thing now
🏳🌈 I've only seen the first episode of _Fellow Travelers_ on my own so far, but I'm really into it. We still have an anti-sodomy law on the books here in Florida making sex between men illegal and punishable by up to 20 years in prison. The US Supreme Court case of _Lawrence v. Texas_ that decriminalized sodomy nationwide in 2003 made this state law unenforceable, but it has never officially been repealed. So, if _Lawrence v. Texas_ goes the way of _Roe v. Wade,_ as suggested by at least one Supreme Court Justice, that state law goes back into effect. I'm glad we've reclaimed the word _queer,_ and I think anyone who wishes to identify as such should do so with pride, but I still have a visceral reaction to it. I was already in my twenties before I heard it used as anything but a slur. In regard to the AIDS crisis, I think I was 13 years old when I first heard a respected news anchor reporting on a fatal disease they were calling GRID that he said only affected gay men. That memory is burned into my brain, because what he was saying was both frightening and completely illogical. To me, it made about as much sense as saying there was an immune disease that was only affecting left-handed people or Spanish speakers. I could think of no scientific basis for such a claim. But I was just a kid, so what did I know?
I was in tenth grade when homosexuality was legalized in India, which is where I grew up, and I remember seeing that on the news and just feeling this weight off my back that I didn't even know was there. I moved to Canada a couple of years ago and I don't think I can ever fully explain how different it is for queer people here. I wear my pride pin on my jacket and no one ever even bats an eye. I wouldn't dare do any of that back home, even if it's technically legal now.
🏳🌈🌈 My husband Ron & I enjoy your channel and your reactions, observations and information you bring to us all. Much love.
unrelated but if you want a cry and to appreciate jonathan bailey watch his. audition video for the last 5 years
🌈 I have been a subscriber to your channel for a while now and am glad that you are now doing your reaction to Fellow Travelers. I will admit, I only watch your reactions to LGBTQIA+ content because as a gay man, that is what I relate to the most. I was born in 1961, so I actually lived through the 3 decades that are covered in this show and the history about our story at those times is spot on.
I don't know, I'm a middle aged transwoman, when I think about the past -- even the relatively recent past, I'm just bitter. Most of my life was taken from me, I'll never get over the scars, there isn't revenge, there isn't justice, there is just scars. Life goes on, at least far better then it used to be.
🏳🌈🏳🌈I loved this series! I had no idea about the lavender scare. McCarthy was such a hypocrite.
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I cried so much watching this show, and loved watching your reaction!
🏳️🌈 SPOILER for future episodes: The thing that made me more angry and stick to my stomach is how Hawkins treats Tim at moments Tim is vocal with him not being satisfied with the kind of relationship they have. Hawkins usually "manipulates" Tim with cute details of even doing something more explicit in public. It reminds me of an ex who didn't want to come out, but when I told him I wanted more public affection he gave it to me, at the moment, with promises of more.... But then we were back into his closet... It's so manipulative
You wanted to know about triggers and counter-transference we experienced in watching this video. I’ve always thought of the Lavender Scare in terms of the “security risk,” that we were discriminated against (here in Canada, too) because we could be blackmailed. And my response was, a bit fatuously, “so come out and no one can blackmail you.” But your video reminded me that it was also because our moral characters and mental stability were assumed to be compromised by our queerness. When you said that, I felt a hit of panic and anger, and felt like the dubious control I’d imposed on how I would have reacted in that situation was taken away.
I warched the show with a lot of anger. McCarthy and Roy Cohn were supposedly not straight themselves and they did this to their own community, how twisted internalised homophobia can get. And also I'm queer from Russia living in EU for many years now. Recent Russian anti LGBTQ laws look really alike McCarthyism. So the show was also a reminder that this not only history. For many countries today it's still reality and it's scary and it's horrifying.
🏳️🌈 leaving my flag first, editing in my comments after watching: 12:58 Oh, it would be that for me: My church experience and my rather broken relationship with the idea of God, creation, and purpose will always be the primary source of my Millennial angst. The idea that people somehow blame me for my own being but believe God is all powerful and somehow did not make me, but also God made people the way they are (supposedly). So the idea is God makes queer people (they claim as a test when you bring this up), but somehow did or didn't make someone a hateful person. Either you choose to be that or God made you that way and that doesn't sound you like an entity I want to follow.
🌈 - This was such an important show for me. And it never fails to make me cry, because it's gut wrenching, with very complicated characters and demands for you to hold on and have compassion even for people who might not behave as heroic or even well enough as you would expect them in modern depictions.
I have to be in the right state of mind to watch it because it just wrecks me. Being a lesbian in her 30s I'm lucky enough that I haven't lost anybody to HIV/AIDS but my parents, who work in the arts, lost many close friends.
Hey, I am very interested in becoming a Physiatrist. I was wondering what you did in order to get where you are. Just looking for some tips or advice ❤
🌈From an old queen in Sydney who lost so many friends in the 80's & 90's.
check the new inteview with the vampire series
I'd like to recommend Pretty pretty dresses from King of the Hill. It deals with suicide prevention, and moving on from a bad relationship. Although I understand if the subject matter is too dark.
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Can't wait to watch this series. Thanks for this reaction.
🏳🌈 Loved your reaction, I might have to start watching this as well :))
11:20 "turns a man's stomach" 😂😂😂😂 now that right there people is your "POSTER CHILD CLOSET CASE" 😊.
I recommend the movie Maestro. Leonard Bernstein had an interesting sexuality, and it caused a lot of turmoil in his marriage.
The unfortunate thing is, there are some groups and individuals out there who’ll always find ( make up ) any number of reasons and try to justifying their actions and reasons in discriminating against an individual or a group of people. Be it racism, be it Queer, be it misogyny or whatever else. Their hate is beyond pathological. Their sheer bloody minded narcissism and their need for utter control is beyond pathological. And until we can find a cure for it…… ⚛️☮️🌏
🏳🌈Love your channel and your reactions!
In W1A? I hated Jack! You have to go for Crashing!!
how r u?,outstandin . Dr! 👌
oh you are NOT ready for this show
Pls have tissues ready your not ready for the remaining episodes it’s going to be a very impactful bruising story🥲💔
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🏳️🌈 Thank you for reacting to such a great show!!! My husband and I loved watching it. ❤ We both related to this show for different reasons. He is older than me and could relate/remember how difficult being gay was in the 80s. While I (a US Military veteran that served during DADT) related to the difficulty of being professionally closeted in a government setting. 🫡
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🏳️🌈 thank you, doc for all your videos. Duluth Minnesota USA.
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I love your channel! 🏳️🌈
🏳🌈It's great how you contextualise your reactions.
I suggest reacting to Degrassi next generation and look at Marco's storyline (gay) or Adam's (trans)🏳🌈
speaking about anti descrimination laws...they made with best intentions,BUT when they are getting made the goverments around the world often by default makes critical mistakes...they forget that making laws in a way where it it would be as hard as possible to abuse is literaly just as important as it`s function to protect people...some anti social guy would not care what kind of loophole to abuse as long as it benefits him/her... that`s why i don`t like vague laws such as discrimination ones,cuzz vague by default means easy to abuse...
if someone attacked you then report that you got assulted,if someone threatened you then report someone threatenning you etc...what do you think DR Elliot?
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🏳️🌈🇲🇽 I cried my eyes out with this show
All I can say is stock up on tissues - you're gonna need them.
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🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ Love your videos!
🏳️🌈I always use the rainbow or progressive rainbow flags because I can't stand the lesbian flag. Why do we have the worst one??? It looks like someone vomited on a sunset. Nice commentary as always Dr M!!
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🏳🌈 I just love your videos.
🏴☠Okay so. I watched this whole show. I wanted to like it. It's beautifully shot and well-acted. I generally was alright with the story. But, like, I have so much experience with Dudes who are emotionally unavailable yet expect you to dedicate all of your emotions to them. For me, the primary character, Hawkins, had no redeeming qualities. And since tall, in-shape douchebags aren't my type, I spent the entire show wondering why anyone even cares about him. However, I was able to accept that Tim really loved him. I don't know, I have a lot to say about the show, but not enough space. I really liked Frankie as a character. Sigh, I guess it all makes sense for a time when being gay was illegal, and we were all being hunted like dogs.
😢 🏳️🌈 loved this show
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🏳️🌈There is a lot to unpack here. Not possible to give it justice in a short comment. I worked in a federal govt job exactly like Hawkins starting in 1984 at the tail end of discrimination and firings. Habitual hiding does not change your distrust of the hetero majority over night. You still know that you live at its sufferance.This show is vital - most people today don’t know the callous hypocrisy of hetero oppressors and their conservative, gay, closeted fellow travelers (hence double meaning of the show’s title). Nevertheless, it trafficks in gay male tropes that I find troubling. For example,Hawk is a top. As such, he is portrayed as cis male, dominant to the point of BDSM, and cruelly manipulative of a “boy” who is so desperate for love he will do anything to keep even a shred of emotional connection. To “top it off,” the gay African American character refuses Hawk’s advances, indignantly telling him, “I am not a bottom.” This ensures we know that this is a proud man not willing to be fu
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