My view point of the having a working mom vs a stay at home mom. My mom when I as in elementary school she slept all day. at the time I didn't know why, but in the past few years she told me cause she worked overnight shifts. But at the time I hadn't a clue. dad spent time with my brother and me most, he worked, but he spent time with us more than mom. Later in high school after parents divorced and long story short mom ended with full custody cause dad just gave it up after winning first, but he gave it up. so mom was the full time worker. One thing I didn't like about it, at the time I always felt she didn't want to spend time with me. I didn't understand the whole concept why she had to be gone all day, but that's how I felt. I felt she didn't like me. now as an adult, I feel while it's important to show your kids it's good to work for what you want and leading the "i'm going to work to be an example" it's good in that light, but not if the kid(s) don't understand it. I think being there to be available for them is more important. If they need to talk or help with homework, or need quality time. I think that's more important. It shapes their self-esteem and how they see and value themselves. They'll think if their parent(s) aren't around for them they'll feel "well, I"m not worth anyone's time" cause that phsychological thinking starts with their relationship with their parents.
My view point of the having a working mom vs a stay at home mom. My mom when I as in elementary school she slept all day. at the time I didn't know why, but in the past few years she told me cause she worked overnight shifts. But at the time I hadn't a clue. dad spent time with my brother and me most, he worked, but he spent time with us more than mom.
Later in high school after parents divorced and long story short mom ended with full custody cause dad just gave it up after winning first, but he gave it up. so mom was the full time worker. One thing I didn't like about it, at the time I always felt she didn't want to spend time with me. I didn't understand the whole concept why she had to be gone all day, but that's how I felt. I felt she didn't like me.
now as an adult, I feel while it's important to show your kids it's good to work for what you want and leading the "i'm going to work to be an example" it's good in that light, but not if the kid(s) don't understand it. I think being there to be available for them is more important. If they need to talk or help with homework, or need quality time. I think that's more important. It shapes their self-esteem and how they see and value themselves. They'll think if their parent(s) aren't around for them they'll feel "well, I"m not worth anyone's time" cause that phsychological thinking starts with their relationship with their parents.