I can’t get my head around 375 being “small” for a Nigerian white wedding lol it’s baffling that we’ve adopted this mindset, that as a Nigerian your wedding must to be BIG! People then feel pressure to compete which further adds financial strain. Ask yourself why are you really celebrating? To show off and be the talk of the town? or to be recognised and featured on bellanaija? or is it truly about your love for one another? My sister had a small intimate white wedding of just 45 guests, AMAZING food & drinks (guests still rave about the food a year later) simple but sophisticated decor and overall a beautiful celebration. Brides easily get lost during the planning process of their “dream wedding” all thanks to social media. A lot of these BIG wedding end up looking the same, very predictable and nothing unique IMO. She wasn’t stressed at all on the day. Oh and she planned the whole thing herself in 3 months! Did I mention she is Nigerian too! 🇳🇬 I'm all for celebrating with your loved ones/friends etc but its really just you and your husband once the show is over. Don’t be fooled, a lot of these BIG weddings are paid for via a loan, the couple don’t even have a marital home to live in afterwards. Going into debt or breaking the bank is never a good idea. So much money dropped for a few hours than spent planning for their future. Priorities! Lets be guided and make smart financial decisions. SMH You'll be surprised that the couple who opted for a small close-knit wedding are living in a massive countryside home with land vs the couple who dropped £££££ on their day, are living in a tiny flat or renting. All that glitters is not gold people!
My friend of 15+ years, sent me a voice note saying that she didn’t ask to be a bridesmaid and for that reason I shouldn’t be asking her for any money to cover her bridesmaids expenses 1 month before the wedding. Ps: I broke down the full cost of everything when I proposed to each bridesmaids the year before and even gave them the option to say No without any issues. By the time she sent me the voicenote, I had already paid for most things for all the bridesmaids. I just needed them to send me the money before the wedding. So yeah, certain friends can move a bit weird when you are getting married.
Love this! If I ever get married again, I will focus on me not the opinions of others. I was disappointed left and right by everyone as I felt they didn't care. I was told years later that an ex friend cried after I told her I was engaged because she thought I wasn't pretty enough to be married before her. People are wicked sha.
That “friend” was probably jealous that she was getting married especially if there wasn’t any family emergency, financial difficulties or personal health issues.
Maybe it is a financial thing that’s what I thought as people find it hard to tell people when they are suffering alone out of embarrassment. Maybe because of my my job is why am thinking of that.
Adults struggle with communicating. If the friend messaged the following day after the first ceremony; The bride could’ve easily responded via text or telephone call once she was ready before the white ceremony. Being concerned then it turning into anger in that short period of time meant there was some animosity between the two. Secondly, the friend mentioning to the seamstress and not the bride that she won’t be participating in the wedding is so disrespectful. Disrespectful to the point, that I as a bride would think you not standing in my wedding & not informing me, has something to do with our friendship and that’s very personal. Women struggle with communicating in friendships. I wish it wasn’t so. Would actually love to know why the friend decided not to stand. I had an intimate wedding with 25 people and honestly it was the best decision I’ve made. It was hard to narrow it down, but if your family and friends love you they’ll support. We still had family that sent money and gifts even though they weren’t invited. We plan on having a 5 year anniversary party, Gods willing, that way people can celebrate with us.❤
Your first sentence contradicts itself. As an adult, you should know how to communicate, that's what separates you from being a child. You're not an adult if you can't communicate well. One can communicate well when it comes to ones job, going to the mall etc. But when it comes to female friendships all of a sudden, "adults can't communicate". No, that's childish and immature.
Loved this episode! For my trad I didn’t invite my friends only family and close family friends I grew up with and I made sure to invite them to the white wedding (destination wedding)instead. Also my trad planner (RIP) passed away a week before the trad and by the grace of God a lady came through for us 3 days before and for much cheaper 😅
Well well if it isn’t another jealous friend 🤨🤨, my best friend of 20+ years did the same to me…removed herself from the situation and stopped communicating when my marriage process started. Till this day idk why she did that , we’ve never spoken ever since.
We have a similar story. My ex best friend of 15 years and maid of honour has not spoken to me since my wedding day. No argument, no drama, nothing (that I know of anyway). Just up and left with no explanation. I have to conclude that they are jealous and bitter to the core. Girls can be wicked ❤
Some brides are extremely rude and dismissive to their bridesmaids during the process. Some brides don't even consider their bridesmaids feelings or finances. some brides really think people got money to spend on everything dresses , shoes , hair, makeup , nails , Jewelry, outings. (Being a bridesmaid is expensive) I was a bridesmaid/ maid of honour for my friends wedding, I got so much abuse from her family members and the other bridesmaids because she had alot of issues with her family. I became the peace maker. I hated it. Alot of prayers during this process Dear brides ( including myself) Please please not everything is down to jealousy. Sometimes the issues of life is still happening.
That even till now there is no explanation?? At least the wedding has passed a phone call to talk things through but nothing. This is a friendship just gone into thin air.
@@kamogelo7505 well she managed to communicate to the other bridesmaid that she wasn’t going to the wedding well in advance, she cancelled her dress being made, without telling the bride again, sis had plenty of time to give the bride a heads up. She was selfish.
This story triggered me 🤣 I don’t understand why bridesmaids move mad… I swear it’s a different type of warfare surrounding bridal teams …I understand that people have a life outside your wedding but as a friend, a bridesmaid, a person… out of respect give the bride an explanation! Initially I had said to myself to have no bridal team…because of the stories I’ve heard about the stress they cause but my husband was adamant that I should have a team and I’d regret it. If anything I regretted having certain bridesmaids and I prayed that God removed the ones that weren’t for me and two ended up dropping out, i wasn’t disappointed but at peace with it.
I loved this episode! Jennifer went through it with that friend. I just thank God my friends came through for my destination wedding. Would love to hear more about yours Aisha ☺️
@@AuthenticAisha Yes I went to have a peak at Jennifer’s Instagram and both weddings looked stunning! 😍 Looking forward to your story. Your intro already shows how beautiful yours was.
I don't care what the bride supposedly did... You can ATLEAST call the bride to tell her you can't be a bridesmaid. Ofcourse Jennifer was initially pissed with she didn't attend the trad, agree entitled to those feelings
😮Aisha I can’t believe you only paid 2k. When I said I paid 4k vendors were acting like I was delusional for expecting an okay service. Considering what I got and the fact that I had less ppl is crazy.
My supposed to be best friend didn’t talk me on my wedding day, reason she didn’t communicate, the girl saw me crying and couldn’t even say a word to me. I was hurt But anyways we’re no longer friends
First off I love this platform and definetely enjoyed this episode! I’m not married yet but this right here definetely is prepping me for when I want to get married
I don't know the full story but what I want to know is why when the friend reached out to Jennifer why didn't she respond. And all till now Jennifer still doesn't know the real reason to why her friend dropped out last minute. I understand Jennifer reaction but as a friend wouldn't you reach out to find out what's up.
She’s hurt! She has every right to be . If the suppose brides maid could reach out to the seamstress and tell her to stop making her dress, why couldn’t she tell the bride why she can’t make it.
@@Chisom_gracey if u cry the 1st time n u knw she knws that u we’re crying n she chose to ignore you why keep reaching out?why not just deal with what u need to deal with? Things happen she could have had things happen to her
@@kamogelo7505 It’s the bride day .. What was she expecting ? For the bride to jump up and be happy she couldn’t make it. The bride was sad her own friend couldn’t make it . That isn’t the time to start counting her sins
@@Chisom_gracey your day doesn’t give u a pass to be a shitty friend like I said she could have had ppl bring her in so she can see 🤷🏽♀️she is a shitty friend herself for not checking up on her friend
Except you're paying for your guests to be transported and accommodated at your destination wedding you have no right to feel that their dropping out is cos they place your at some kinda place in their lives. It's alot of money for clothes, hair, makeup, hotel and transportation
I feel bad for the bridemaid that dropped out💔 26:48 your “friend” is crying n cancelling on the wedding n all u can say is “ohhh well I hope to see her next week I hope she is fine” n u are angry😭😭you don’t even ask why she is crying n why she feels how she feels ????but u wanna text her Hot???one sided stories are annoying because of this 🙅🏾♀️you didn’t care till u found out she pulled out fr n now u on the internet painting her as a horrible friend n person ?😭😭life happens
Could have asked someone to bring her to ur make up room n ask her if she was okay if you were a true friend 😭imagine going through something horrible n ur friend says “oh I hope she makes it next week bcs it’s important to me” 😭it’s not jealousy you would be sad too esp when a person heard u we’re crying n they did nothing
@@jackied6948 did u miss the part where she just broke down n was crying n ppl went to tell the bride n she knew that the bride has been informed n all the bride had to say was “opsie u better make it next week girl” not once did she ask for her to be brought in to her at least, if that’s ur friend regardless of what’s going on if they are upset to a point of crying infront of ppl you u getting atleast a hug🤷🏽♀️
Wow the decor 2k and 10k? Haa US decorators are really charging here ooh about 15k for flowers and table scape and we haven’t even talked about stage and lighting talkless. The way I ran away ehn
To every one in the comments saying her friend is jealous, let me step into the chat to shut all that down. As a past maid of honor, I WISH I dropped out of my best friend’s wedding! As stated in the video, your wedding is not the only major thing happening in other’s lives. I was 1 of 3 “maid of honors” with a team of 5 bridesmaids. Planning during Covid and right after Covid is brutal. I did all of my duties as a maid of honor, one thing my ex-bf will never be able to speak down about, from her very lips. Just for her to pick the absolute worst people to be in her bridal squad and tell me she didn’t want to know about what was happening with bridesmaids not picking up their weight. Little did she know, I was going through an abusive relationship. She knew I had troubles with him, but I never disclosed how badly it gotten and that I was trying to make an exit out of it. I expressed my concerns and was turned away aka a bandaid was put over the issues. 2 out of the 5 bridesmaids didn’t show up to the bachelorette party that I was left to plan - very minimal output/help from the other MOHs. I planned 85% of that bachelorette party by myself, including set up and breakdown. Those bridesmaids were told in advance about the bachelorette weekend and never communicated with me to say they weren’t coming or giving money towards the costs. Those same bridesmaids disrespected my ex-bf up until a week before her wedding. Me and the bride are not even friends now because she believes being demoted to a friend and us not being best friends, means we are acquaintances… I regret being apart of that wedding and going through a gruesome 2 years commitment for a crappy outcome. I wish I was like this bridesmaid who dropped out and ghosted so regardless of her lack of explanation, I commend her being the bad guy and not attending. Not every one is jealous! I gave my all for my ex-bf’s wedding as if it was my own and she will feel that guilt, every time she looks at those wedding pictures. Nice guys (and ladies) always finish last. And brides aren’t the victims all the time aka the reason they made Bridezillas the show.
Or maybe she lost her pregnancy. People go through serious things they can't talk about, it's not always malice. Can you imagine that pain? Then to have to stand up and smile or explain yourself.
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I can’t get my head around 375 being “small” for a Nigerian white wedding lol it’s baffling that we’ve adopted this mindset, that as a Nigerian your wedding must to be BIG!
People then feel pressure to compete which further adds financial strain. Ask yourself why are you really celebrating? To show off and be the talk of the town? or to be recognised and featured on bellanaija? or is it truly about your love for one another?
My sister had a small intimate white wedding of just 45 guests, AMAZING food & drinks (guests still rave about the food a year later) simple but sophisticated decor and overall a beautiful celebration.
Brides easily get lost during the planning process of their “dream wedding” all thanks to social media. A lot of these BIG wedding end up looking the same, very predictable and nothing unique IMO.
She wasn’t stressed at all on the day. Oh and she planned the whole thing herself in 3 months!
Did I mention she is Nigerian too! 🇳🇬
I'm all for celebrating with your loved ones/friends etc but its really just you and your husband once the show is over.
Don’t be fooled, a lot of these BIG weddings are paid for via a loan, the couple don’t even have a marital home to live in afterwards. Going into debt or breaking the bank is never a good idea. So much money dropped for a few hours than spent planning for their future. Priorities! Lets be guided and make smart financial decisions. SMH
You'll be surprised that the couple who opted for a small close-knit wedding are living in a massive countryside home with land vs the couple who dropped £££££ on their day, are living in a tiny flat or renting. All that glitters is not gold people!
My friend of 15+ years, sent me a voice note saying that she didn’t ask to be a bridesmaid and for that reason I shouldn’t be asking her for any money to cover her bridesmaids expenses 1 month before the wedding.
Ps: I broke down the full cost of everything when I proposed to each bridesmaids the year before and even gave them the option to say No without any issues.
By the time she sent me the voicenote, I had already paid for most things for all the bridesmaids. I just needed them to send me the money before the wedding.
So yeah, certain friends can move a bit weird when you are getting married.
Loved this episode
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Love this! If I ever get married again, I will focus on me not the opinions of others. I was disappointed left and right by everyone as I felt they didn't care. I was told years later that an ex friend cried after I told her I was engaged because she thought I wasn't pretty enough to be married before her. People are wicked sha.
Oh wow! Sorry about that
WHAT?! am I even surprised anymore. Na crazy
😮😧😧😧
That “friend” was probably jealous that she was getting married especially if there wasn’t any family emergency, financial difficulties or personal health issues.
Probably. Especially as she hasn’t explained why. If it was an emergency she would’ve mentioned
Yeah, my thought too. That friend was jealous
Maybe it is a financial thing that’s what I thought as people find it hard to tell people when they are suffering alone out of embarrassment. Maybe because of my my job is why am thinking of that.
Adults struggle with communicating. If the friend messaged the following day after the first ceremony; The bride could’ve easily responded via text or telephone call once she was ready before the white ceremony. Being concerned then it turning into anger in that short period of time meant there was some animosity between the two.
Secondly, the friend mentioning to the seamstress and not the bride that she won’t be participating in the wedding is so disrespectful. Disrespectful to the point, that I as a bride would think you not standing in my wedding & not informing me, has something to do with our friendship and that’s very personal.
Women struggle with communicating in friendships. I wish it wasn’t so. Would actually love to know why the friend decided not to stand.
I had an intimate wedding with 25 people and honestly it was the best decision I’ve made. It was hard to narrow it down, but if your family and friends love you they’ll support. We still had family that sent money and gifts even though they weren’t invited. We plan on having a 5 year anniversary party, Gods willing, that way people can celebrate with us.❤
Your first sentence contradicts itself. As an adult, you should know how to communicate, that's what separates you from being a child. You're not an adult if you can't communicate well. One can communicate well when it comes to ones job, going to the mall etc. But when it comes to female friendships all of a sudden, "adults can't communicate". No, that's childish and immature.
Loved this episode! For my trad I didn’t invite my friends only family and close family friends I grew up with and I made sure to invite them to the white wedding (destination wedding)instead. Also my trad planner (RIP) passed away a week before the trad and by the grace of God a lady came through for us 3 days before and for much cheaper 😅
I love Jennifer she’s so beautiful and that friend of hers was a big hater !
Well well if it isn’t another jealous friend 🤨🤨, my best friend of 20+ years did the same to me…removed herself from the situation and stopped communicating when my marriage process started. Till this day idk why she did that , we’ve never spoken ever since.
We have a similar story. My ex best friend of 15 years and maid of honour has not spoken to me since my wedding day. No argument, no drama, nothing (that I know of anyway). Just up and left with no explanation. I have to conclude that they are jealous and bitter to the core. Girls can be wicked ❤
Some brides are extremely rude and dismissive to their bridesmaids during the process. Some brides don't even consider their bridesmaids feelings or finances. some brides really think people got money to spend on everything dresses , shoes , hair, makeup , nails , Jewelry, outings. (Being a bridesmaid is expensive) I was a bridesmaid/ maid of honour for my friends wedding, I got so much abuse from her family members and the other bridesmaids because she had alot of issues with her family. I became the peace maker. I hated it. Alot of prayers during this process
Dear brides ( including myself)
Please please not everything is down to jealousy. Sometimes the issues of life is still happening.
That even till now there is no explanation?? At least the wedding has passed a phone call to talk things through but nothing. This is a friendship just gone into thin air.
Sis was jealous that’s why she couldn’t turn up to your wedding and told the other bridesmaids and excluded you.
People have lives I had a cousin who miscarried the week of n couldn’t talk abt it…it’s not always about you
@@kamogelo7505 well she managed to communicate to the other bridesmaid that she wasn’t going to the wedding well in advance, she cancelled her dress being made, without telling the bride again, sis had plenty of time to give the bride a heads up. She was selfish.
@@kamogelo7505are you the said friend? you’ve been coming to the friends defence on every comment 😂😂
@@jessopo as in! She has been doing the most in the comments looool
This story triggered me 🤣 I don’t understand why bridesmaids move mad… I swear it’s a different type of warfare surrounding bridal teams …I understand that people have a life outside your wedding but as a friend, a bridesmaid, a person… out of respect give the bride an explanation!
Initially I had said to myself to have no bridal team…because of the stories I’ve heard about the stress they cause but my husband was adamant that I should have a team and I’d regret it. If anything I regretted having certain bridesmaids and I prayed that God removed the ones that weren’t for me and two ended up dropping out, i wasn’t disappointed but at peace with it.
I loved this episode! Jennifer went through it with that friend. I just thank God my friends came through for my destination wedding. Would love to hear more about yours Aisha ☺️
I know but fortunately she still had a very beautiful wedding ❤️ I do plan on sharing more about my wedding soon xx
@@AuthenticAisha Yes I went to have a peak at Jennifer’s Instagram and both weddings looked stunning! 😍 Looking forward to your story. Your intro already shows how beautiful yours was.
My mouth has just been opened , wow
😂😂😂
I don't care what the bride supposedly did... You can ATLEAST call the bride to tell her you can't be a bridesmaid. Ofcourse Jennifer was initially pissed with she didn't attend the trad, agree entitled to those feelings
😮Aisha I can’t believe you only paid 2k. When I said I paid 4k vendors were acting like I was delusional for expecting an okay service. Considering what I got and the fact that I had less ppl is crazy.
I don’t know why I didn’t say the first time! Sorry 🤣🤣 but the game is an absolute mess!
My supposed to be best friend didn’t talk me on my wedding day, reason she didn’t communicate, the girl saw me crying and couldn’t even say a word to me. I was hurt
But anyways we’re no longer friends
First off I love this platform and definetely enjoyed this episode! I’m not married yet but this right here definetely is prepping me for when I want to get married
Glad you enjoy it!
We were really good with timing, so time focussed that we didn’t get enough pictures. Balancing time and activities is not easy I get it.
This is a good perspective!
I didn’t get pictures either. No full one alone with my wedding dress especially. Was trying to keep to time
I don't know the full story but what I want to know is why when the friend reached out to Jennifer why didn't she respond. And all till now Jennifer still doesn't know the real reason to why her friend dropped out last minute. I understand Jennifer reaction but as a friend wouldn't you reach out to find out what's up.
She’s hurt! She has every right to be . If the suppose brides maid could reach out to the seamstress and tell her to stop making her dress, why couldn’t she tell the bride why she can’t make it.
@@Chisom_gracey if u cry the 1st time n u knw she knws that u we’re crying n she chose to ignore you why keep reaching out?why not just deal with what u need to deal with?
Things happen she could have had things happen to her
She told the other bridesmaid that she wasn’t coming, so she should have told Jen too.
@@kamogelo7505 It’s the bride day .. What was she expecting ? For the bride to jump up and be happy she couldn’t make it. The bride was sad her own friend couldn’t make it . That isn’t the time to start counting her sins
@@Chisom_gracey your day doesn’t give u a pass to be a shitty friend like I said she could have had ppl bring her in so she can see 🤷🏽♀️she is a shitty friend herself for not checking up on her friend
Lemme get my snacks ready for this one 😅🍿
Except you're paying for your guests to be transported and accommodated at your destination wedding you have no right to feel that their dropping out is cos they place your at some kinda place in their lives. It's alot of money for clothes, hair, makeup, hotel and transportation
Loool Aisha really isn’t hearing it with forgiving 😭😂
I am! I promise 😂😂😂
I feel bad for the bridemaid that dropped out💔 26:48 your “friend” is crying n cancelling on the wedding n all u can say is “ohhh well I hope to see her next week I hope she is fine” n u are angry😭😭you don’t even ask why she is crying n why she feels how she feels ????but u wanna text her Hot???one sided stories are annoying because of this 🙅🏾♀️you didn’t care till u found out she pulled out fr n now u on the internet painting her as a horrible friend n person ?😭😭life happens
Could have asked someone to bring her to ur make up room n ask her if she was okay if you were a true friend 😭imagine going through something horrible n ur friend says “oh I hope she makes it next week bcs it’s important to me” 😭it’s not jealousy you would be sad too esp when a person heard u we’re crying n they did nothing
maybe the friend should of texted her what was going on instead of telling everybody else
i get what you mean tho
@@jackied6948 did u miss the part where she just broke down n was crying n ppl went to tell the bride n she knew that the bride has been informed n all the bride had to say was “opsie u better make it next week girl” not once did she ask for her to be brought in to her at least, if that’s ur friend regardless of what’s going on if they are upset to a point of crying infront of ppl you u getting atleast a hug🤷🏽♀️
Thank you
Need to know why our friend ghosted us😂
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Wow the decor 2k and 10k? Haa US decorators are really charging here ooh about 15k for flowers and table scape and we haven’t even talked about stage and lighting talkless. The way I ran away ehn
Omggg! Don’t get me wrong I am definitely one of the lucky ones, I know UK decor prices can get crazyyy too 😭
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To every one in the comments saying her friend is jealous, let me step into the chat to shut all that down. As a past maid of honor, I WISH I dropped out of my best friend’s wedding!
As stated in the video, your wedding is not the only major thing happening in other’s lives. I was 1 of 3 “maid of honors” with a team of 5 bridesmaids. Planning during Covid and right after Covid is brutal. I did all of my duties as a maid of honor, one thing my ex-bf will never be able to speak down about, from her very lips. Just for her to pick the absolute worst people to be in her bridal squad and tell me she didn’t want to know about what was happening with bridesmaids not picking up their weight. Little did she know, I was going through an abusive relationship. She knew I had troubles with him, but I never disclosed how badly it gotten and that I was trying to make an exit out of it. I expressed my concerns and was turned away aka a bandaid was put over the issues. 2 out of the 5 bridesmaids didn’t show up to the bachelorette party that I was left to plan - very minimal output/help from the other MOHs. I planned 85% of that bachelorette party by myself, including set up and breakdown. Those bridesmaids were told in advance about the bachelorette weekend and never communicated with me to say they weren’t coming or giving money towards the costs. Those same bridesmaids disrespected my ex-bf up until a week before her wedding. Me and the bride are not even friends now because she believes being demoted to a friend and us not being best friends, means we are acquaintances… I regret being apart of that wedding and going through a gruesome 2 years commitment for a crappy outcome. I wish I was like this bridesmaid who dropped out and ghosted so regardless of her lack of explanation, I commend her being the bad guy and not attending. Not every one is jealous!
I gave my all for my ex-bf’s wedding as if it was my own and she will feel that guilt, every time she looks at those wedding pictures. Nice guys (and ladies) always finish last. And brides aren’t the victims all the time aka the reason they made Bridezillas the show.
Lol they don’t replicate Uk vendors
Another jealous friend wow. Pathetic I hope he keeps her far away
Maybe the bridesmaid was pregnant
Or maybe she lost her pregnancy. People go through serious things they can't talk about, it's not always malice. Can you imagine that pain? Then to have to stand up and smile or explain yourself.
As a decorator that has run late before, Omg - so many reasons why we may be late 😭 we really don’t mean to be
Nice to know but it literally has to be perfect every time! 😭