Jehovah’s Witness fathers: controlling or caring? 
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- Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
- What happens when Jehovah’s Witness fathers prioritize the cult over their own children? In this episode, Falon shares how her dad recently found out about our UA-cam channel-and instead of having a conversation, he chose to shun her. Jason reflects on his own experience, comparing his grandfather’s genuine interest in him with his father’s distant, rule-enforcing approach. We explore how Jehovah’s Witness dads often dismiss their children’s independent thoughts, reinforcing an environment of shame and control rather than love and understanding. Do Jehovah’s Witness fathers truly care, or are they just enforcers of the cult’s rules?
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Isn't it insane how the one organization your father has chosen over his own child(the person who loves him unconditionally and was willing to assist him in his poor health despite your "apostasy") is the one organization that does absolutely NOTHING to help out the same loyally dedicated members who are really struggling with age, physical health, mental health or financially??
You're the opposite of weak, Falon. It takes strength to be kind, and mild, during such a storm of feelings, of injustices, and of bullying. Stay strong!
Thank you sweet friend! (And thanks for watching! ) 😘 -Falon
@@DiffiCULTChildhoodIsaiah 8:10, 2Timothy 3:8-9.
Isaiah 8:10, 2Timothy 3:8-9.
Now that my dad is old and sick , he has reverted back to the nice guy he was before he became a jw and rose to PO of the congregation. They stole his true self for all of his formative years ( 25 -70 ) and now that hes in the late stages of his disease ( parkinsons) i am getting closer to him and its been awesome
I'm sorry to hear he's sick, but happy you're getting a second chance to be close with him. 😊 Thank you for watching! -Falon
I have had so many power plays from my mother over the 40+ years when I distanced myself from the org. Any help I got had strings attached. Now she is elderly like your dad. She knows that she needs me more than I need her so she has backed off quite a bit over the last 20 years. I am also the only child capable of helping her. I do not really know her congregation but have met some of her friends. I think they know that I step up for her and if she did not have me, I wonder if they would step up.
My dad did the same thing. At 21 I started developing feelings for a brother in the congregation who was also baptized. Our family knew each other for years. when I approached my dad to let him know we were thinking about dating, he gave me the same ultimatum. Before I moved out there was even a meeting set up for each of us separately with the elders. They told us because we weren’t evenly yoked(I was doing more in the congregation than him as a pioneer) they didn’t recommended us together. Added to that, another reason they gave was because my dad wasn’t on board with me dating at 21 I had to obey him.
Wow, what a difficult episode to listen to. My heart goes out to you Falon.
PS. Not a hint of weakness present in your kindness.
Thanks Mikey 😘
Controlling... to this day he's Controlling and I'm 50 years old. I don't engage anymore.
Oh this will be really good. My father was an elder so you already know how that went.
I am so sorry!
You are so strong. Thank you!!
Thank you too! 😘 -Falon
Great job as always guys. just tuning in.
Thanks, we appreciate you!
I’m so sorry Fallon that this happened!🤗❤️
They act like children, they pout and stop talking to you when they don't get their way
Feel this!!! Great episode!!
Thanks girl, can't wait to have you as our guest!
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I lost both of my parents a few years back ,a few months apart yes broken heart syndrome. I was blessed enough 2 be able 2 be their caregiver. The elders told my dad who was a then elder " You need 2 not have dealings with her" My dad said " this is my home you need 2 mind your business" 😂😂😂😂. Yet my pioneer sister and my elder brother wasnt putting their lives on hold
I fully believe you'll receive your reward for caring for them when they needed it most. Glad your dad spoke up for you! 🥰 -Falon
I was praticaly raised as a Jw by à narcisist Mother...i'm 60 years old now and still angry and bitter about all the verbal abuse and gaslighting i went through...i faded away 7 years ago and haven't had any contact with my parents since
“Jdubs identify with their captors”!
Yep... they'd rather have everyone live a lie INSIDE the org than live their truth OUTSIDE the org.
It's not that JW DADs didn't know us... my dad wasnt a JW... it's that JW parents don't. My mom didnt care to even know about the things I cared about, never took interest, and always said. "I just dont understand why you're this way or that" instead of realizing kids are different than their parents. It was always "Do what Jehova thinks is good, or right, or acceptable" "live for Jehova" "what will the elders say/think" "How will the elders/cong see me/think of me if you act this way" ... to this day, in my 50s, my mom would not be able to answer a single question about me, but will be more than able to relay any info about how I used to serve and how I dont now.....
sorry for the rant.
I'm so sorry Falon, I'm waiting for the same message from my mother. She already doesn't talk to me but she will go the extra mile and text me pretty much the same thing.
My dad actually knew me better thn my mom
Hey Falon’s dad… you got a GREAT daughter. You heard what she said. Give it a rest. Call her.
Falon im so sorry.
@mikegonzalez503 Thanks friend, to quote my dad (any time we got injured while playing as kids), "It will feel better once it stops hurting". 😉❤️
@@DiffiCULTChildhoodJust finally listening to this. I can't imagine how it is getting that text.
Disgusting that he forced you out of the house. “Unevenly yoked!” Bahaha. Have always wanted to ask a roomful of JWs, “Okay, who present here had sex before marriage?” They’d pretty much all have to raise their hands‼️
Those same parents will require backflips of absolute obedience from their own children.
You handled the rejection better than most. 👍
You two have made good choices. Any parent would and should be very proud of you.
Thanks friend 🥹🩷
Once my dad died. He wasn’t all in per se but, I had a dream that he asked me to forgive him.
We’ve had a better relationship since.
Just saying.
Awe Falon, I'm crying as I watch this! Love to you more so than ever! 💗🫂💗 I'm always here if you ever need a listening ear! 😉
And yes! As Jason mentioned, I have to really watch what I say around my Dad and be aware to the fact that he's completely indoctrinated at this point and has been for over 50 years. He really DOESN'T know me that well. He could tell you more about everyone in the congregation than me or my family, and that would stand true even if we had stayed active JWs. 😞
And couldn't agree with you more Falon... In the 80s when I was a teenager, if you can go out in service, you can probably auxiliary, if you can auxiliary, you could probably regular pioneer, if you can regular pioneer, you could get involved with unassigned territory, if that is possible, then bethel work SHOULD be a goal! If not gilead?
On... And on... And on! Getting married super young and having babies saved me from having to do all that shit! Isn't that sad? Not that I didn't want to get married and have a family, but not at 19/20. The organization is just so insidious... Forcing our hand at every turn. Even on the happier choices in life!