Problem with modern dating is that there's too much show of affection when people are courting so much that they even forget to ask the important questions i.e family background, money matters, religious matters etc. Then such issues pop up in the most inconvenient ways. One needs to investigate cultures because there are a lot of extremely weird cultures out there.
No they are not. It’s their culture she should have at least made an effort to find out what her own aunt was referring to when she asked her if she was sure of marrying into that culture. She needs to leave instead of making them seem cruel here. She knows there’s people like you that support anything you don’t know anything about.
They don't care about but what is important to them is the ritual.Leave that marriage before you regret because you'll never knew what follows after that
That's ritual and they don't stop. Meaning you will always required to renew that ritual. Remember if you don't stop this your kids will suffer the same.
They should have told you before you got married. Open a case of against your husband for denying you your conjugal rights, file for divorce and claim SPOUSAL ALLOWANCE.
@lillianchikondi... exactly he should have married a lady who is aware of that culture. If not he should have informed the lady of this wierd ritual before he got married to her. Who sleeps with their father in law as a cultural practice ? 😳😳
Besides ... what other cultural practices (read rituals) is this family hiding from the lady ? Rituals that they will continue informing her along the way ?
Girl run!!!! It takes one person to break a yoke. Will you want that for your daughter. Search inside your soul and the answer will come to you. Trust your instincts and do what’s best for you. Break the yoke and do a new thing.
Leave that evil family .Its a taboo to sleep with your father inlaw .just go and continue with your life . Go go go leave them .God will help you wherever you will go .
Wow! My sister if this part of the family traditions has been hidden from you until after your marriage then rest assured that after you perform this ritual then be prepared to have a rude awakening of anything else that follows that you haven't been told. Look deep inside yourself and trust in the All Mighty God, through Jesus Christ and ask for God's guidance and protection in this matter. You must trust God with all your mind and with all your soul. I knowing that it may be frightening, but trust God. You have already shown and proven your fortitude to resist this evilness. Take your strength one step further, walk away. I believe that God will be with you. Have no doubts. To these things, I pray.
Simple, If you don't want to follow that culture, then sign for divorce. What are you still doing there? Are you okey? If you dont want to lose your marriage then sleep with your father-in-law .. why don't you quit and go? Is your husband the only man who can marry you? You better be serious with what you want in your life. The reason why Christianity condemns culture and traditions is that, they involve alot of bad rituals that God warns us in the bible 😳..
This is scary what culture and country is this? Your husband lesson too much to his family not you he doesn't care about your feelings he wants you to do it. My question now it's why he did not tell you about this before you guys were dating? Why? I'm sorry to tell you this but your husband it's very selfish 😢
No, no, Do Not do it. Flee from sin. You will see as soon as you do it they hold you in captive and in bondage to do more abominable things. Run from evil..
Leave that Europe things sister run with your life let them find new wife for him now you want to do it bcz of Europe job what's real wrong with us women
That's crazy, I heard 0f a story just like this the girl agreed slept with the father in law but I guess he enjoyed it too much he kept coming back to her long story short he had other sons so he did the same thing to all the daughters in law,so somewhere HIV got into the mix so the whole family got wiped out
Dear Anonymous (the one behind this story) Please read this comment This is the advice you are looking for. Please flee before that old man infects you and the extended family with diseases
What happens if he sleeps with you and find out that you are not a Virgin?. You have the final say because that is their culture,the only mistake here is the fact that they didn't tell u earlier b4 you entered the marriage 😢
Amos 2 v 7 - "They pant after the dust of the earth which is on the head of the poor, and pervert the way of the humble. A man and his father go in to the same girl, to defile My holy name." Run for your life, young lady. Do not sin against God to please a human being. Proverbs 9 v 10. - “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." Do not be part of an unclean and unholy ritual just so you can stay married. Jesus Christ will give you your husband [Ephesians 5:28]
What culture is this am interested in knowing about it..Can u at least give us the country will do own research then....I think you the only 1 who can decide on what you should do gal..Xeim if only they told about his culture.😮
Mi dear this wickedness how they try to force to doing such an abominable insense u HV kept yoself pure till this far not Fr this ill-treatment u deserve to be celebrated not offered as burnt offering to their greediness yo husband should be the one taking yo flower off not his father Fr goodness'sake open yo eyes mi dear tht is a ritual at the end of the day it's God tht gives don't look at wat yo husband is abt to HV rather go to God ask Fr direction n leave those ritualist ...it is important ppl of God to investigate yo in-laws bfr permanently moving in Fr yo futures sake because they knw tht is evil thts no one told abt it bfr thts wat ritualist do Consult God Mam
If that is the culture. Tell your husband that you will do it on the condition that he stays in the same room while the sex is going on. Your husband has to watch his father maker love to you. He must see it with his eyes.
My sister, these are ritualists...what would they do with the blood that would come out after the breaking of hymem? Run for your life, don't allow yourself to be a sacrifice
This is too ridiculous. I cant help but laugh. If this story is true then Lady, you are the problem. You must be so desperate for a man that you waste your time analyzing this nonsense or as you call it a ritual. Run mara. Run. You already know the answer....
The father is very evil why can’t his son learn if his wife is a virgin himself what a demonic evil culture but that devil is a liar a unique way off generational curses 🤬 making sure the entire family is curse every daughter in law must be under their curse I wonder if the son in laws must be tested by the mother in law 😂 I hope that young lady show them she deserves more and leave them with their marriage certificate and run 🏃♀️ never look back for your are escaping hell
Let them dump you dear daughter It's better to live a life with no regrets than to do something that will haunt you for life Leave the marriage coz its not for you Mwari vachakupa wako and you will enjoy Zvekuenda kuEurope means nothing iwe uchizogara uine maregrets ngavaroorane vesame Culture
Divorce that guy and his stupid culture,your happiness comes first my sister. You can't take your life for such culture,you will still find someone to Mary you
Runnno my dear, spiritually you are entangling yourself with Your father in laws mistakes, problems, all his failers, run my dear I have never heard of such culture.
This is not true, which country is doing this, but if what you are saying is true, then i tell you that this man is not chosen for you by the father in heaven
I know of a tribe that practice the same ritual, Most of its population is based in MP SA. Unfortunately this is nothing but the truth, if you refuse, you won't be considered as a wife.
Leave that marriage your life is your priority,God will give you a man who will respect and love you, your husband is wrong he should have told you at first how their culture works ,he doesn't care about you he care the most about his father
Live him run u deserve better there's many man out there who want a wife life u leave this is Satanic hes not yr husband leave him divorced him leave him u will find the right hubby from God
The problem with us black women we have that mentality that a man has to provide for us.Dear sister leave this family it won't be the end of the world.What if you sleep with this father inlaw and later on you get divorced.
What is the use to fight for some one who does not fight for you . When i got married in my culture there are things that need to be done , but because my husband and I are christians I took a stand agains cultural practices , my husbands family was christian and they did not have any cultural things but my side has too many , but i took a stand I said No because there are spirutal implications after these things follow generations . My family is still angry but I and my family are safe under the Blood of Jesus Christ
This family is not the right family for you. This is generational, you need to think about your children also. You will find someone better that agrees with your values
From the look of things ... she was extremely desperate to get married Her auntie even asked her if she was going to agree with the cultural practices before she got married... she hurriedly got married ignoring her aunt’s advise And now since she is desperate to stay married... she has been forcing herself to that family for 4 months.... She is even bragging that she has the marriage certificate 😝😝😝 The things desperate women do to get married...SMH
@@annengei2885 😞😞😞 this is really sad... I'd be really glad that the guy hasn't touched me or given me a baby yet. I'd have shipped out the morning after the ritual proposal
Why did the guy marry a woman from outside his culture? Coz it's only logical to marry someone from within the culture who knows and would accept such practice. Cultures are not the same and thru shouldn't force you to practice their culture
My sister that is not marrige ...infact that is sin before man & God ..pray to God to help you & bring fourth to you the right man .u may never know what price comes with that ritual ...if i were you i would simply let go of that marrieg ...
Go! Run 🏃♂️ that ritual is bad, that family is demonic, go go please that's their own problem not yours..divorce you're young this world is full of love.
Where are this culture mu sister move out leave this man respect yourself if it was me i should have left the first time they told me to sleep with father in law walk away never turn back
They're mean people, you don't deserve that. There're many fish in the sea. Its so weird how like the bible says, wrong will become right and right will become wrong.
Just leave sis you should have made your research. As you said your aunt asked you if you’re sure and you said you are that one is on you. You can’t make other people’s culture seem horrible because you don’t agree with it. Just leave that’s it!
Sweetheart leave that life in the last days , you will be alone on a gudgement day there will be no father in law there will be no husband for you, you will be able, those things that they want you to do ,is against God will
Let him dump you sister, leave that wicked family... Run for your life
I was gonna do exactly the very same thing
Fact!
Problem with modern dating is that there's too much show of affection when people are courting so much that they even forget to ask the important questions i.e family background, money matters, religious matters etc. Then such issues pop up in the most inconvenient ways. One needs to investigate cultures because there are a lot of extremely weird cultures out there.
True
Leave this marriage God will be with you..
Mxm their cruel sis... do yourself a favor and run
No they are not. It’s their culture she should have at least made an effort to find out what her own aunt was referring to when she asked her if she was sure of marrying into that culture. She needs to leave instead of making them seem cruel here. She knows there’s people like you that support anything you don’t know anything about.
Don't do it what if they are sacrificing with u, after they will be asking for more things runaway because what they are doing its spiritual
My sister you can't lose yourself trying to please these people, just leave, the good Lord will give you strength.
Run 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ God has a husband waiting for you. One who will love you unconditional
Please run, no marriage is worth this abomination. You must love God above any other, he will direct your steps. Be strong and courageous
They don't care about but what is important to them is the ritual.Leave that marriage before you regret because you'll never knew what follows after that
That's ritual and they don't stop. Meaning you will always required to renew that ritual. Remember if you don't stop this your kids will suffer the same.
Run my sis,Run for your life,where on earth?
They should have told you before you got married. Open a case of against your husband for denying you your conjugal rights, file for divorce and claim SPOUSAL ALLOWANCE.
Divorce him, separate from him, leave him before he leaves you. He is not the only man in the world.
Why can't he marry his people who knows about their traditional and culture
@@lilianchikondi195 yes, exactly.
@lillianchikondi... exactly he should have married a lady who is aware of that culture.
If not he should have informed the lady of this wierd ritual before he got married to her.
Who sleeps with their father in law as a cultural practice ? 😳😳
Besides ... what other cultural practices (read rituals) is this family hiding from the lady ?
Rituals that they will continue informing her along the way ?
Girl run!!!! It takes one person to break a yoke. Will you want that for your daughter. Search inside your soul and the answer will come to you. Trust your instincts and do what’s best for you. Break the yoke and do a new thing.
That's witchcraft, devorce him now. He should have told you while you were dating, before marriage.
Leave that evil family .Its a taboo to sleep with your father inlaw .just go and continue with your life . Go go go leave them .God will help you wherever you will go .
Wow! My sister if this part of the family traditions has been hidden from you until after your marriage then rest assured that after you perform this ritual then be prepared to have a rude awakening of anything else that follows that you haven't been told. Look deep inside yourself and trust in the All Mighty God, through Jesus Christ and ask for God's guidance and protection in this matter. You must trust God with all your mind and with all your soul. I knowing that it may be frightening, but trust God. You have already shown and proven your fortitude to resist this evilness. Take your strength one step further, walk away. I believe that God will be with you. Have no doubts. To these things, I pray.
If you stay so it means your husband will sleep with your childrens wives , if you are blessed with kids 😮😮😮
Imagine
Simple,
If you don't want to follow that culture, then sign for divorce. What are you still doing there? Are you okey? If you dont want to lose your marriage then sleep with your father-in-law .. why don't you quit and go? Is your husband the only man who can marry you? You better be serious with what you want in your life. The reason why Christianity condemns culture and traditions is that, they involve alot of bad rituals that God warns us in the bible 😳..
This is scary what culture and country is this? Your husband lesson too much to his family not you he doesn't care about your feelings he wants you to do it. My question now it's why he did not tell you about this before you guys were dating? Why? I'm sorry to tell you this but your husband it's very selfish 😢
What other secret rituals is this selfish husband hiding from the lady ?
No, no, Do Not do it. Flee from sin. You will see as soon as you do it they hold you in captive and in
bondage to do more abominable things. Run from evil..
Sis please leave that marriage you don't loose anything protect your life. The moment you gave that away you will suffer 💔
Get out of that marriage now. I assure you you won't regret it
plz always give more background about this type of people doing this strange customs.
By the looks of things this was kept a secret on purpose .dont do this
Leave that Europe things sister run with your life let them find new wife for him now you want to do it bcz of Europe job what's real wrong with us women
That's crazy, I heard 0f a story just like this the girl agreed slept with the father in law but I guess he enjoyed it too much he kept coming back to her long story short he had other sons so he did the same thing to all the daughters in law,so somewhere HIV got into the mix so the whole family got wiped out
Dear Anonymous (the one behind this story)
Please read this comment
This is the advice you are looking for.
Please flee before that old man infects you and the extended family with diseases
They are after your destiny.
Run for your life mama🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
What happens if he sleeps with you and find out that you are not a Virgin?. You have the final say because that is their culture,the only mistake here is the fact that they didn't tell u earlier b4 you entered the marriage 😢
My sister i think u should run for u'r life,put yourself first if you're husband really loves u he will respect your wish..
If you stay so it means your husband will sleep with his sons wives if you are blessed with children 😮😮😮
Marriage is nt the life, you hv smart things waiting for u out there.shift there man, that's nonsense
Leave him leave him divorce hom u deserve better run run run
Amos 2 v 7 - "They pant after the dust of the earth which is on the head of the poor, and pervert the way of the humble. A man and his father go in to the same girl, to defile My holy name." Run for your life, young lady. Do not sin against God to please a human being. Proverbs 9 v 10. - “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." Do not be part of an unclean and unholy ritual just so you can stay married. Jesus Christ will give you your husband [Ephesians 5:28]
Tell him it's not written in the Bible and it's a curse to sleep with your father in-law.
Girl, RUN. You have no business being subjected to this. What if they want to do a ritual by making you sleep with your Father in law? Nah sis. Run 😢
Keep praying to God Almighty and be saved all will be well
This madness. What if you are not a virgin? Will they nullify the marriage? What if you get impregnated by that old man? I wouldn't do that either.
Sista run for your life in that marriage worst is coming this is only the beginning.
What culture is this am interested in knowing about it..Can u at least give us the country will do own research then....I think you the only 1 who can decide on what you should do gal..Xeim if only they told about his culture.😮
Mi dear this wickedness how they try to force to doing such an abominable insense u HV kept yoself pure till this far not Fr this ill-treatment u deserve to be celebrated not offered as burnt offering to their greediness yo husband should be the one taking yo flower off not his father Fr goodness'sake open yo eyes mi dear tht is a ritual at the end of the day it's God tht gives don't look at wat yo husband is abt to HV rather go to God ask Fr direction n leave those ritualist ...it is important ppl of God to investigate yo in-laws bfr permanently moving in Fr yo futures sake because they knw tht is evil thts no one told abt it bfr thts wat ritualist do Consult God Mam
If that is the culture. Tell your husband that you will do it on the condition that he stays in the same room while the sex is going on. Your husband has to watch his father maker love to you. He must see it with his eyes.
The simple thing is to leave the so call busband.He is not your God.
My sister, these are ritualists...what would they do with the blood that would come out after the breaking of hymem?
Run for your life, don't allow yourself to be a sacrifice
Your auntie won't tell her own daughter to do that.
It's very normal in that culture for a father in law to sleep with the daughter in law.
live that man is not the end of the world you will find another man
Pls run a way and you will get someone that will appreciate you.
This is so evil my dear, run for ur life, life is spiritual
Good manner for what please lady run let them look other wife
I know which culture that is and there is a specific name for that. I was shocked and obviously disgusted.
Pls enlighten us,which country,which tribe,why do they do this?
I also know the culture, my aunty got married to a man from that tribe but she refused. That is why they rarely marry outside their culture/tribe.
@@Melissa-tr8el which country,province and tribe?
Please tell us more so that we run from this tribe ,because as you can see it's kept as a secret from those who are not of their tribe
Leave this nonsense of this marriage please
This is too ridiculous. I cant help but laugh. If this story is true then Lady, you are the problem. You must be so desperate for a man that you waste your time analyzing this nonsense or as you call it a ritual. Run mara. Run. You already know the answer....
It's very true, I thought it had stopped because of STDs.
The father is very evil why can’t his son learn if his wife is a virgin himself what a demonic evil culture but that devil is a liar a unique way off generational curses 🤬 making sure the entire family is curse every daughter in law must be under their curse I wonder if the son in laws must be tested by the mother in law 😂 I hope that young lady show them she deserves more and leave them with their marriage certificate and run 🏃♀️ never look back for your are escaping hell
That part of the husband getting a job opportunity in Europe could also be a lie ... to pressure her to give in to this ritual
But to be honesty this culture is not good at all. just image.
Khalanga hey😂😂😂
Quite marriage and get out it i can only telling you that just get out just right now because it's not marriage
Genesis 2-24-25
Run and never look back pulizi
Run for your own life my dear and never return 🏃♀️
Let them dump you dear daughter
It's better to live a life with no regrets than to do something that will haunt you for life
Leave the marriage coz its not for you
Mwari vachakupa wako and you will enjoy
Zvekuenda kuEurope means nothing iwe uchizogara uine maregrets ngavaroorane vesame Culture
Divorce that guy and his stupid culture,your happiness comes first my sister. You can't take your life for such culture,you will still find someone to Mary you
It is a spiritual exchange 💱 run away my Sisi it's not worthied
That is not the the will of God for your life.... No, no, no.. Get out of that marriage
That fami,y is wicked. Please go away fron them.
Runnno my dear, spiritually you are entangling yourself with Your father in laws mistakes, problems, all his failers, run my dear I have never heard of such culture.
Don't do it
Dump him simple
Leave that house.....what kind of tradition is that. Yuke yuke
Leave the marriage and run for your life
Leave this man,he does n't love you,he should have told you b4 getting married
Your destiny is not tied to his destiny.those culture are not of God.
Pray God will make a way
This is not true, which country is doing this, but if what you are saying is true, then i tell you that this man is not chosen for you by the father in heaven
Run while it is still early my Sister
I know of a tribe that practice the same ritual, Most of its population is based in MP SA. Unfortunately this is nothing but the truth, if you refuse, you won't be considered as a wife.
Mpumalanga, South Africa heeeeee aowa banna
Leave that marriage your life is your priority,God will give you a man who will respect and love you, your husband is wrong he should have told you at first how their culture works ,he doesn't care about you he care the most about his father
This man doesn't love you sister
Live him run u deserve better there's many man out there who want a wife life u leave this is Satanic hes not yr husband leave him divorced him leave him u will find the right hubby from God
The problem with us black women we have that mentality that a man has to provide for us.Dear sister leave this family it won't be the end of the world.What if you sleep with this father inlaw and later on you get divorced.
What is the use to fight for some one who does not fight for you . When i got married in my culture there are things that need to be done , but because my husband and I are christians I took a stand agains cultural practices , my husbands family was christian and they did not have any cultural things but my side has too many , but i took a stand I said No because there are spirutal implications after these things follow generations . My family is still angry but I and my family are safe under the Blood of Jesus Christ
This family is not the right family for you. This is generational, you need to think about your children also. You will find someone better that agrees with your values
Run cc for your life this is not the 1 only man
Mozotiudza part 2 kuti makazodii
Simply leave that household and go back home. They will never accept you if you are not willing to do this strange ritual.
Evil culture mximf!
Divorce that fooled do not do it
Leave this marriage while you're still intact and fresh... Why are you so desperate!???
From the look of things ... she was extremely desperate to get married
Her auntie even asked her if she was going to agree with the cultural practices before she got married... she hurriedly got married ignoring her aunt’s advise
And now since she is desperate to stay married... she has been forcing herself to that family for 4 months....
She is even bragging that she has the marriage certificate 😝😝😝
The things desperate women do to get married...SMH
@@annengei2885 😞😞😞 this is really sad... I'd be really glad that the guy hasn't touched me or given me a baby yet. I'd have shipped out the morning after the ritual proposal
Leave him.
Leave with half his stuff
Plz don't allow it they are sacrificing they will tell u once they done divorce that shit
Why did the guy marry a woman from outside his culture? Coz it's only logical to marry someone from within the culture who knows and would accept such practice. Cultures are not the same and thru shouldn't force you to practice their culture
My sister u must run dear your story is hurt breaking 😢😢😢
My sister that is not marrige ...infact that is sin before man & God ..pray to God to help you & bring fourth to you the right man .u may never know what price comes with that ritual ...if i were you i would simply let go of that marrieg ...
What if the father in law was no longer alive, who was going to perform the stupid ritual?
Divorce my sister, why would an olf man want to sleep with a uoumg lady? That's an evil retual go back home love
Go! Run 🏃♂️ that ritual is bad, that family is demonic, go go please that's their own problem not yours..divorce you're young this world is full of love.
If you are mentioning God, you already know it's wrong what are you waiting for?
Where are this culture mu sister move out leave this man respect yourself if it was me i should have left the first time they told me to sleep with father in law walk away never turn back
The fear of man brings a snare, obey God, in God's eyes its an abomination, leave him please.
You better leave and run for your life
Big no don't do it is evil
Sisi just leave
LEAVE!
They're mean people, you don't deserve that. There're many fish in the sea. Its so weird how like the bible says, wrong will become right and right will become wrong.
Just leave sis you should have made your research. As you said your aunt asked you if you’re sure and you said you are that one is on you. You can’t make other people’s culture seem horrible because you don’t agree with it. Just leave that’s it!
Sweetheart leave that life in the last days , you will be alone on a gudgement day there will be no father in law there will be no husband for you, you will be able, those things that they want you to do ,is against God will