People Pleasers- a message for Indlovukazi ( Queens)

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  • Опубліковано 30 жов 2024

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  • @petuniataunyane2319
    @petuniataunyane2319 10 днів тому +12

    I graduated from people’s pleaser and learned the hard way. I now know my power as a woman, I invest my time in taking care my self, my children, growing plants and vegetables looking after Mother Nature 🤞🏽🤞🏽

  • @Poohhoneycup
    @Poohhoneycup 11 днів тому +11

    Beautiful, eye - opening and enlightening message, I definitely needed to hear this as a firstborn daughter that only gets attention whenever I do just great things but when things so south I'm all alone again, healing underway Thank you.💚❤

  • @relebogilemogale8161
    @relebogilemogale8161 7 днів тому

    Truth❤❤❤ appreciated 🙏 Love and light to you Ndlovukazi

  • @eleanorsmith3752
    @eleanorsmith3752 10 днів тому +9

    Celibacy for women can also be incredibly powerful ... if we use the energy for spiritual development 👏🏼🐚

  • @thulisaqangule
    @thulisaqangule 10 днів тому +4

    People-pleasing is the gateway to your energy being harvested. It is the foundation from which Narcissists take and take and leave you in tatters. Companies do it. Platonic friends do it. Families do it. Learn to first choose yourself and then program self to prioritise self, without fear of being branded as "selfish" and consider it "self-care". When broken, the same takers will discard and replace you for a newer juicy supply, leaving you unable to show up for anyone and/or anything.
    Ukuthanda ukubonwa nokuba good is no good sometimes. Thank you for this truth 🐆🌟💐

  • @gcarias2010
    @gcarias2010 10 днів тому +5

    "but who heals the Unpaid therapist?" 😔😖 That hit different!!! Thank you Gogo 🙏🏽

  • @charm387
    @charm387 11 днів тому +7

    Yoh Gogo, I am so triggered by the examples you make which I see myself clearly in. But I needed to hear this as I'm on a journey of unlearning to be able to heal

  • @khamakgatle5186
    @khamakgatle5186 8 днів тому

    I heard to learn this from my partner and thank you for giving this message even though it is intended for women I'm taking it because it speaks with my inner me. Ra leboga.

  • @chrisdike9205
    @chrisdike9205 10 днів тому +1

    I love TRUTH no matter how uncomfortable it is.

  • @happy2bfree_U2
    @happy2bfree_U2 7 днів тому

    Thanks for this topic. Women have had to carry this issue from the beginning of “that word GOOD” has been used against us!!! From childhood!!😢

  • @ammabeee7952
    @ammabeee7952 10 днів тому +1

    Timely message for me.. I was a people mostly family pleaser. I allowed many of them to take advantage of me. I seemed to be the go to person for cash help, somewhere to stay, helping hand, giving up my freetime even canceling my own plans to travel abroad to help family member. I had to learn the hard way that my efforts were quickly forgotten and I have been disrespected gossiped about & all the sacrifices made for them. I feel unappreciated and have had to learn the hard way as I have allowed it to happen too many times unchecked. I finally decided to stop letting them use me & take me for granted whether close family or friends. This message makes me realise that I don't need to feel guilty for putting myself 1st after decades of abuse. I am finally putting myself 1st, I don't care if they don't like the new me taking my kindness for weakness is over. They can stick around or leave me alone tis a liberating feeling to please myself instead of always wanting to please others. Thanks again Gogo for your timely message gives me the authority to embrace the new me without guilt or remorse...❤

  • @marionevans1595
    @marionevans1595 11 днів тому +3

    Sending you peace, L9ve and the healing green light my beautiful 9ether Nubian sister 𓋹💚𓋹💚𓋹💚𓋹💚𓋹

  • @zainabubakari319
    @zainabubakari319 9 днів тому

    Welcome back mama, it’s been a minute we miss you ❤❤

  • @penseal.
    @penseal. 9 днів тому

    Important conversation. Thank you sister ❤

  • @zinzimdedetyana1234
    @zinzimdedetyana1234 10 днів тому +1

    Key take way from this session is that People Pleaser = Umdlwembe kahle kahle, Gogo😢😢. This conversation is much needed at this time. Thank you Ndlovukazi for addressing this issue. I now innerstand, overstand, and understand why ibikushisa ngaphakathi lendaba.

    • @MikeHalhead
      @MikeHalhead 9 днів тому +1

      😮😮😮😮whaaaaaaaw I see I love her so much

  • @happyngulube1871
    @happyngulube1871 9 днів тому

    Thokozani Gogo, we have missed you ❤

  • @eleanorsmith3752
    @eleanorsmith3752 10 днів тому +1

    You are right Gogo...thay has to stop because it is not helping anybody least if all ...the family unity neither the larger community who needs the strength of the women.Break the curse of the women.We inherited that and through harsh experiences we have had to "let go" if that imprint.Thokozani👏🏼🐚🕊

  • @kitanakitty82
    @kitanakitty82 10 днів тому +1

    Gogo I teared up a little when you started talking about why people pleasing is so bad. Cause I lost friends because I chose not to overlook their 2 faces ways. Your words are truly needed in this time of society.

  • @tlhalefontoe7238
    @tlhalefontoe7238 9 днів тому

    Ke utlwile❤

  • @Rrashestone
    @Rrashestone 9 днів тому

    Mkhulu! Powerful message. It was a confirmation. Thank you

  • @TraditionMoussalyKongo
    @TraditionMoussalyKongo 11 днів тому +2

    Book of Nature..
    Thank of you Queen Gogo cauqe i 've understood why i 've Always loved elephant.,..my Favorite for ever

  • @tlhalefontoe7238
    @tlhalefontoe7238 10 днів тому +1

    Came just right in time❤

  • @khonayenkohla6178
    @khonayenkohla6178 10 днів тому +1

    Gogo I love how u went and traced the root cause of people pleasing🙌 oh please do a live on 1st born daughters❤

  • @tamarahamid4805
    @tamarahamid4805 11 днів тому +1

    It is good to see you again ❤❤
    Thank you for today
    Hotep 🕯

  • @AnnMarieFeveck-bc6zw
    @AnnMarieFeveck-bc6zw 10 днів тому +1

    Thanks 🙏🏾👏🏾🌈⚖️

  • @aimajeffresswood8702
    @aimajeffresswood8702 10 днів тому

    Dear One, Thokozani GoGo.❤ You have been in My/OUR radiante thoughts.
    THANK You TODAY
    Sinceramente,🎉

  • @HloniNomakhosiMatla-Tshabs
    @HloniNomakhosiMatla-Tshabs 9 днів тому

    I needed to hear this. Siyabonga Gogo🤍✨

  • @chrisdike9205
    @chrisdike9205 10 днів тому

    Good to see you in the New Year. You look brand new. May the New Year bring abundance to the Family.

  • @nerilendz
    @nerilendz 10 днів тому

    This was needed, thank you Gogo

  • @makaziwemabona7658
    @makaziwemabona7658 10 днів тому

    Incredibly enlightening and insightful message Gogo❤. I will continue working on my people please with my family because approval is really not love. Camagu 👏

  • @KelaOaBogosing
    @KelaOaBogosing 10 днів тому

    41:51 "Ai, I said it! Yooooooo" 😂😂😂😂😂
    🤣🤣🤣
    #DayMade

  • @thulisaqangule
    @thulisaqangule 10 днів тому

    Welcome baaaaack😃👋🏽🐆🌸

  • @thulisaqangule
    @thulisaqangule 10 днів тому

    Look at how we also reserve our best linen, outfits, and parts of our personalities for other people and never spare these for ourselves...
    This is another way that people-pleasing gets programmed or entrained in us. It teaches people to wear masks or to put on layers of personas for the outside world.

  • @philanishinga2152
    @philanishinga2152 9 днів тому

    Mama Africa ❤

  • @mo_lerumo
    @mo_lerumo 10 днів тому

    Thokoza Mkhulu
    You struck a cord today. Thank you for reminding us to stay in our power. I truly appreciate your message and will spread the message.

  • @Iameboniirose
    @Iameboniirose 10 днів тому

    Great video 🔥🙏🏽🔥

  • @yvettelazare7439
    @yvettelazare7439 10 днів тому

    ❤ this was powerful queen thank you 🙏🏿

  • @ShaabanTambwe-v8h
    @ShaabanTambwe-v8h 11 днів тому

    Habari ya asubuhi mama, I've heard you speaking kiswahili before and so I great you in my language kiswahili

  • @samanthaastrustee986
    @samanthaastrustee986 9 днів тому

    Gogo thank you for the message. Copper vessel (cup) looks good I’m curious where to buy

  • @GodsFavourite2024
    @GodsFavourite2024 10 днів тому

    Beautiful 😍

  • @eleanorsmith3752
    @eleanorsmith3752 10 днів тому

    Thokozani amaGogo👏🏼🐚🐚

  • @dailessbanda7006
    @dailessbanda7006 10 днів тому

    ❤❤

  • @suzanmarutla1470
    @suzanmarutla1470 9 днів тому

    Mkhulu, your teaching really challenged one’s integrity, and it’s as if you were sent by the ancestors to address this people-pleasing plague. However, I’d like to ask- is people pleasing not part of shadow work?

  • @boniwemakhathini512
    @boniwemakhathini512 11 днів тому

    We are great and how are you 👏🏿🕯️🙏🏽

  • @healthygreenlifestyle690
    @healthygreenlifestyle690 10 днів тому +1

    We need to vet men better.

  • @smileylady485
    @smileylady485 10 днів тому

    Long time Gogo, how have you been. Hope you are well.

  • @healthygreenlifestyle690
    @healthygreenlifestyle690 10 днів тому

    Have you heard of Princella the "Queen maker"?

  • @boniwemakhathini512
    @boniwemakhathini512 11 днів тому

    Thokoza Ndlovukazi yami

  • @TraditionMoussalyKongo
    @TraditionMoussalyKongo 11 днів тому

    Mbote

  • @HloniNomakhosiMatla-Tshabs
    @HloniNomakhosiMatla-Tshabs 9 днів тому

    I needed to hear this. Siyabonga Gogo🤍✨