I graduated from people’s pleaser and learned the hard way. I now know my power as a woman, I invest my time in taking care my self, my children, growing plants and vegetables looking after Mother Nature 🤞🏽🤞🏽
Beautiful, eye - opening and enlightening message, I definitely needed to hear this as a firstborn daughter that only gets attention whenever I do just great things but when things so south I'm all alone again, healing underway Thank you.💚❤
People-pleasing is the gateway to your energy being harvested. It is the foundation from which Narcissists take and take and leave you in tatters. Companies do it. Platonic friends do it. Families do it. Learn to first choose yourself and then program self to prioritise self, without fear of being branded as "selfish" and consider it "self-care". When broken, the same takers will discard and replace you for a newer juicy supply, leaving you unable to show up for anyone and/or anything. Ukuthanda ukubonwa nokuba good is no good sometimes. Thank you for this truth 🐆🌟💐
Yoh Gogo, I am so triggered by the examples you make which I see myself clearly in. But I needed to hear this as I'm on a journey of unlearning to be able to heal
I heard to learn this from my partner and thank you for giving this message even though it is intended for women I'm taking it because it speaks with my inner me. Ra leboga.
Timely message for me.. I was a people mostly family pleaser. I allowed many of them to take advantage of me. I seemed to be the go to person for cash help, somewhere to stay, helping hand, giving up my freetime even canceling my own plans to travel abroad to help family member. I had to learn the hard way that my efforts were quickly forgotten and I have been disrespected gossiped about & all the sacrifices made for them. I feel unappreciated and have had to learn the hard way as I have allowed it to happen too many times unchecked. I finally decided to stop letting them use me & take me for granted whether close family or friends. This message makes me realise that I don't need to feel guilty for putting myself 1st after decades of abuse. I am finally putting myself 1st, I don't care if they don't like the new me taking my kindness for weakness is over. They can stick around or leave me alone tis a liberating feeling to please myself instead of always wanting to please others. Thanks again Gogo for your timely message gives me the authority to embrace the new me without guilt or remorse...❤
Key take way from this session is that People Pleaser = Umdlwembe kahle kahle, Gogo😢😢. This conversation is much needed at this time. Thank you Ndlovukazi for addressing this issue. I now innerstand, overstand, and understand why ibikushisa ngaphakathi lendaba.
You are right Gogo...thay has to stop because it is not helping anybody least if all ...the family unity neither the larger community who needs the strength of the women.Break the curse of the women.We inherited that and through harsh experiences we have had to "let go" if that imprint.Thokozani👏🏼🐚🕊
Gogo I teared up a little when you started talking about why people pleasing is so bad. Cause I lost friends because I chose not to overlook their 2 faces ways. Your words are truly needed in this time of society.
Incredibly enlightening and insightful message Gogo❤. I will continue working on my people please with my family because approval is really not love. Camagu 👏
Look at how we also reserve our best linen, outfits, and parts of our personalities for other people and never spare these for ourselves... This is another way that people-pleasing gets programmed or entrained in us. It teaches people to wear masks or to put on layers of personas for the outside world.
Mkhulu, your teaching really challenged one’s integrity, and it’s as if you were sent by the ancestors to address this people-pleasing plague. However, I’d like to ask- is people pleasing not part of shadow work?
I graduated from people’s pleaser and learned the hard way. I now know my power as a woman, I invest my time in taking care my self, my children, growing plants and vegetables looking after Mother Nature 🤞🏽🤞🏽
Beautiful, eye - opening and enlightening message, I definitely needed to hear this as a firstborn daughter that only gets attention whenever I do just great things but when things so south I'm all alone again, healing underway Thank you.💚❤
Truth❤❤❤ appreciated 🙏 Love and light to you Ndlovukazi
Celibacy for women can also be incredibly powerful ... if we use the energy for spiritual development 👏🏼🐚
People-pleasing is the gateway to your energy being harvested. It is the foundation from which Narcissists take and take and leave you in tatters. Companies do it. Platonic friends do it. Families do it. Learn to first choose yourself and then program self to prioritise self, without fear of being branded as "selfish" and consider it "self-care". When broken, the same takers will discard and replace you for a newer juicy supply, leaving you unable to show up for anyone and/or anything.
Ukuthanda ukubonwa nokuba good is no good sometimes. Thank you for this truth 🐆🌟💐
"but who heals the Unpaid therapist?" 😔😖 That hit different!!! Thank you Gogo 🙏🏽
Yoh Gogo, I am so triggered by the examples you make which I see myself clearly in. But I needed to hear this as I'm on a journey of unlearning to be able to heal
@@charm387 sending huge love♥️♥️♥️🙇🏾♂️🙏🏿
I heard to learn this from my partner and thank you for giving this message even though it is intended for women I'm taking it because it speaks with my inner me. Ra leboga.
I love TRUTH no matter how uncomfortable it is.
Thanks for this topic. Women have had to carry this issue from the beginning of “that word GOOD” has been used against us!!! From childhood!!😢
Timely message for me.. I was a people mostly family pleaser. I allowed many of them to take advantage of me. I seemed to be the go to person for cash help, somewhere to stay, helping hand, giving up my freetime even canceling my own plans to travel abroad to help family member. I had to learn the hard way that my efforts were quickly forgotten and I have been disrespected gossiped about & all the sacrifices made for them. I feel unappreciated and have had to learn the hard way as I have allowed it to happen too many times unchecked. I finally decided to stop letting them use me & take me for granted whether close family or friends. This message makes me realise that I don't need to feel guilty for putting myself 1st after decades of abuse. I am finally putting myself 1st, I don't care if they don't like the new me taking my kindness for weakness is over. They can stick around or leave me alone tis a liberating feeling to please myself instead of always wanting to please others. Thanks again Gogo for your timely message gives me the authority to embrace the new me without guilt or remorse...❤
Sending you peace, L9ve and the healing green light my beautiful 9ether Nubian sister 𓋹💚𓋹💚𓋹💚𓋹💚𓋹
I see you Goddess🙏🏿🙇🏾♂️♥️
Welcome back mama, it’s been a minute we miss you ❤❤
Important conversation. Thank you sister ❤
Key take way from this session is that People Pleaser = Umdlwembe kahle kahle, Gogo😢😢. This conversation is much needed at this time. Thank you Ndlovukazi for addressing this issue. I now innerstand, overstand, and understand why ibikushisa ngaphakathi lendaba.
😮😮😮😮whaaaaaaaw I see I love her so much
Thokozani Gogo, we have missed you ❤
You are right Gogo...thay has to stop because it is not helping anybody least if all ...the family unity neither the larger community who needs the strength of the women.Break the curse of the women.We inherited that and through harsh experiences we have had to "let go" if that imprint.Thokozani👏🏼🐚🕊
Gogo I teared up a little when you started talking about why people pleasing is so bad. Cause I lost friends because I chose not to overlook their 2 faces ways. Your words are truly needed in this time of society.
Ke utlwile❤
Mkhulu! Powerful message. It was a confirmation. Thank you
Book of Nature..
Thank of you Queen Gogo cauqe i 've understood why i 've Always loved elephant.,..my Favorite for ever
That is you ❤Ndlovukazi 🙇🏾♂️🙏🏿
@@africanspirituality-gogonk8709 kitoko
Came just right in time❤
Gogo I love how u went and traced the root cause of people pleasing🙌 oh please do a live on 1st born daughters❤
It is good to see you again ❤❤
Thank you for today
Hotep 🕯
Thanks 🙏🏾👏🏾🌈⚖️
Dear One, Thokozani GoGo.❤ You have been in My/OUR radiante thoughts.
THANK You TODAY
Sinceramente,🎉
I needed to hear this. Siyabonga Gogo🤍✨
Good to see you in the New Year. You look brand new. May the New Year bring abundance to the Family.
This was needed, thank you Gogo
Incredibly enlightening and insightful message Gogo❤. I will continue working on my people please with my family because approval is really not love. Camagu 👏
41:51 "Ai, I said it! Yooooooo" 😂😂😂😂😂
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#DayMade
@@KelaOaBogosing 😂😂😂😂
Welcome baaaaack😃👋🏽🐆🌸
Look at how we also reserve our best linen, outfits, and parts of our personalities for other people and never spare these for ourselves...
This is another way that people-pleasing gets programmed or entrained in us. It teaches people to wear masks or to put on layers of personas for the outside world.
Mama Africa ❤
Thokoza Mkhulu
You struck a cord today. Thank you for reminding us to stay in our power. I truly appreciate your message and will spread the message.
@@mo_lerumo ♥️♥️♥️
Great video 🔥🙏🏽🔥
❤ this was powerful queen thank you 🙏🏿
Habari ya asubuhi mama, I've heard you speaking kiswahili before and so I great you in my language kiswahili
@@ShaabanTambwe-v8h ♥️♥️♥️🙏🏿🙇🏾♂️
Mama a question pls if its okay. How to activate the ankh spiritually?
Gogo thank you for the message. Copper vessel (cup) looks good I’m curious where to buy
Beautiful 😍
Thokozani amaGogo👏🏼🐚🐚
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Mkhulu, your teaching really challenged one’s integrity, and it’s as if you were sent by the ancestors to address this people-pleasing plague. However, I’d like to ask- is people pleasing not part of shadow work?
We are great and how are you 👏🏿🕯️🙏🏽
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We need to vet men better.
Long time Gogo, how have you been. Hope you are well.
Have you heard of Princella the "Queen maker"?
Thokoza Ndlovukazi yami
Thokoza Ndlovukazi ❤❤❤
Mbote
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I needed to hear this. Siyabonga Gogo🤍✨