I am so glad that I saw the comments, especially this one, this city has made me doubt I had some problem although I always was friendly and could make friends in multiple countries and different situations That said, I have made very few super nice friends, but the percent that accept a new friend here is too low... I am in Berlin if someone would say it is different there..
I think that we as Ausländer should try to be friends. I'm brazilian, but making Friendship with Arabians, Indians even chineses was 100 times easier than the natives....
Fábio Barbosa noooo :'( So true. I've never realized until after a couple of years living here, that my happiness (back at home in Chile) was so closely related to the social life i had and the simple joy of meeting my friends every week. It's definitely more important than having a great job or money. With this experience, if i were single, i wouldn't emigrate just to get better job opportunities.
@@civileng6076 like im, in Nova scotia, halifax, and like people is friendly and this stuff but, idk they can talk to you sometimes and then if you both are in the hallway, they act like they never met you, and not even look at you, and idk,no one gives a shit about you here😂 That's pretty cold.
I lived in Germany for almost 8 years. It was very hard to get to know anyone during the first 3 months. I was actually thinking of leaving and returning to the States with my 8-year-old son. At that very moment, the doorbell rang, and an older woman from the down the street said she had noticed I had a young son, and she thought he might like some books that her grandson liked. Shortly thereafter, another woman rang and said she noticed that I did not have curtains on the windows (new house; only Rolladen). She wanted to recommend a place where I could buy curtains. Actually, I am sure it was just bothering her that I was not conforming to the standard window treatment; however, instead of allowing myself to feel insulted, I decided to ask her to go with me. She did, and we became best friends! After a few years, I had many friends, and German friends are loyal, the best! Neighbors gave us the first strawberries from their gardens, shared fresh fruit from their trees. German friends are not easy to come by, but once you have them, it is forever.
I think they didn't want to insult you and the books and curtains weren't their Intention to ring your bell. They only wanted to help you "to arrive" and they wanted friendship as well. My 29 years old son lived in New York for approx. 5 years but he missed his friends in Germany so much. He left everything behind and returned. Best decision.
@@user-vn5ff1my6k I mean, how can you know if they were lonely? How can you judge other people not knowing anything about them at all? Sounds like some kind of next level of XIXth century psychoanalysis.
This is such a sad stream of comments to read. If I ever find myself in Germany I just may have to look you up, Cari. You seem like a kind, fun and friendly person : ) And thank you for speaking more slowing than others on your program do. I can follow you much better than I can the others.
I lived in Heidelberg for six months with two students. They were from Chile and all of their friends were from Chile, even though they had been there for years studying and had excellent German. One day they explained to me " It is like this. Germans are only allowed five friends each. They would sincerely like to be your friend, but if they did this? They would have to give away one of their other friends." YES ! They were only joking but I feel, like with all jokes, there is some truth. If you cannot make the 'small talk' they dislike so much, then you can never find what you have to share. I have since gone back to Germany many times. It is a very slow process to make a friend. Lots of silent train travel ! They have to owe you some favour or gratitude to let you into their lives. MAybe save someone's life or marry their children. Apart from this I love the few friends I have made :)
How did you like living in Heidelberg? I am (hopefully) going to study there for six months next year :) Did you manage to make some other friends, not necessarily German? Maybe you are, by chance, from France? I was living in the south for 2 months and although my French is pretty bad, I could still make some French friends :) Sometimes I think I should've invested all the time in French instead of German hahaha
@@wiktoro137 I made lots of South American friends. They were university students , the university was amazing! Cheap food nice place to hangout. See if they still sell cheap bicycles at the railway station... you'll need a bicycle there's 50 million bicycles in Heidelberg. You will love it.
I'm from Colombia, and I've been watching this Channel for 1 year and half. I want to say. Thank you for all the help, information, time. I have a lot of progressed speaking German.
Oh, guys... you are kind of breaking my heart here, reading your comments. I am german and I work with refugees. I met a lot of great people and I know how difficult it can be, even for germans. Here are a couple of tipps from me: 1: Try clubs, like sport clubs, music groups, clubs for board games, whatever peaks your interests. 2: If you find a german you find is friend material, in a club, at work or anywhere else: don't hesitate to strike up a conversation and make plans for another meetup in your spare time. Only because a lot of us are socially awkward dosn't mean we don't want to get to know new people. 3: Keep at it! It can be hard, I know, but we are not all just grumpy faces. I wish you all the best and hope you find great people. I wish I could reach out to all of you.
But what's your personal attitude towards making friends or at least acquaintances with foreigners? And how do your friends feel about that? As it was mentioned here for several times already, the Germans prefer not to make friends with immigrants, but with the Germans like they are themselves. Does it mean your countrymates avoid foreigners? Or just don't seek for such kind of friendship deliberately? By the way, I always believed that it's easy to tell if the person is socially awkward but he or she wants to communicate with you or he/she just have no interest to you.
@@helenivanova5440 For me? I have a couple of friends from Syria and Afghanistan. I think that there are great people everywhere so I have got no problems with that. I also am quite active in building a welcoming community where I live. Most of my friends see it very much the same way or I wouldn't want to be friends with them. The way I see it people from the Middle East (this ist the biggest group of immigrants I know of really) are a bit different when it comes to some aspects of social interactions, so this is sometimes a little harder for Germans to get their heads around, but as I said, there are always good and bad people everywhere.
ich habe als Deutscher in Deutschland auch nur schlechte Erfahrungen gemacht, wenn du in eine Stadt ziehst, wo keine Jugendfreunde mehr sind, hast du echt schlechte Karten, z.B. wenn du in einem Job arbeitest, der Kontaktaufbau zu Kollegen nicht ermöglicht oder vor allem auch wenn du arbeitslos bist. So viele Deutsche haben mir die kalte Schulter gezeigt, auch in Sportvereinen. Meistens habe ich nach kurzer Zeit gemerkt, die haben einfach schon so große Bekanntenkreise aus Kindheit, Arbeit und dann noch die Verwandtschaft, die brauchen und wollen einen Neuen einfach nicht mehr. Als Mitspieler beim Sport gerne, aber danach treffen und was zusammen machen, nein danke. So habe ich es jedenfalls erlebt, auch wenn es sicherlich wo anders andere Sportvereine gibt, wo das viel besser ist. Es war eine kleinere Stadt, nicht Berlin oder so. (Inzwischen lebe ich im Ausland) In Köln habe ich auch ein Jahr gelebt. Köln war auch schwierig, dieses positive Vorurteil, die wären so aufgeschlossen, habe ich dort nicht erlebt, denn auch die haben schon ihre geschlossenen, alten Freundeskreise bzw. vielerorts gibt es gar keine Einheimische mehr. Freundlich zu mir waren 90% immer nur die Ausländer von Chinesen bis Lateinamerikaner. Sehr verschlossen sind auch die Schwaben im ländlichen Bereich, wobei die entweder total verschlossen oder sehr nett sind, aber für letzteres braucht man eine Portion Glück.
As someone said down below, I have never been lonelier in my life after moving to Germany, sometimes i am even watching people at university while sitting alone and hoping for a miracle to happen someone just come and talk to me but that's never happening 😔 can't wait to end this and go back to home because there is no place like home.
As some people here have already written. Same story. I've been living in Germany for 6 years, and till this date I have no german friends. I have many times tried to have friends, invite them for dinner, try to make sport together, have a beer, go to movies, go for a drink etc etc. But always got incredible strange answers. Its very sad, but I don't care anymore. I know a old spanish woman she has been in germany for over 25 years, and she told me the same. Its very sad but as a foreigner I dont think i will ever be part of German society of have friends here.
To make German friends in Germany is hard, very very hard. What she mentioned about “cultivate a friendship”, actually means that you as an outsider must prove that you are good enough to befriend them, never the opposite (as they have enough friends from the kindergarten ages).To find friends inside the expat community is way easier though.
Nah that's just your hate speaking I think. Cultivating a friendship is beautiful only, it's about not letting loose of a friend. If you became actual friends with a German for once, you won't get rid of that person, because they'll be trying to keep the friendship for friendships sake, they'll even adjust their personality to you for that. That might even be a reason why it's hard for someone of a different culture to make friends with Germans, hmm.. But it's nothing about being "good enough" .. we're not that judgemental, we just consider if it's worth it to become friends with someone, because it means so much. I dodged many people whom I might have become friends with because I didn't want to change my lifes direction to theirs. I mostly wanted to become less German, that's why I have many friends from other countries now, so, quite the opposite in my case~
Deutschland Deutschland maybe you are right, it is “just my hate speech” 🙄 If it would be easy, it won’t make sense to have a video about that. Could you imagine a video “how to make friends in Italy”? 😂
@@deutschlanddeutschland7111 I think you overthink so much in Germany, why should I think so much about the possibility that someone could be a friend of mine, I let my self simply know new people I try to be my self and everything will go automatically, nothing can make me be a friend to someone I don't like..
@@deutschlanddeutschland7111 one year has passed, so I don't know whether you would answer or not, but I'm inquisitive about the reason for you to want to become "less German". And what do you mean by that? If you don't mind to tell about it.
I am a Chinese live in Nuremberg for 8 months with my German husband and two kids. Before we lived in Shanghai for 7 years. First of all, thanks EASY GERMAN, i love watching your program for language and just-for-fun two aspect of view. Here I like to talk about my very different experience of making friends before and after moving to Germany. In China: I have two best friends, one was my roommate, another was my colleague. In Shanghai I was single for 8 years and had very cool and fun job. I posted an ad to look for a roommate, then i interviewed 8 person until i found one. We become best friends; then i know a another cool girl from my job, we are best friends until now. Since i was kindergarten, I moved lot, so i don't have any best childhood friends, but i never have the problem to have friend where ever i was. All my roommates(from American, Japan, or other city of China) likes me, because i like cooking , cleaning and sharing, and have lots of interesting personal and job experience. I think i am a people person. And i know lots great German in Shanghai. In Germany: first, when we moved here , i am a mom with two little kids. I dont have chance to know any cool single female friends. Most woman I know here are from Russia, or Turkey or east Europe, who doesnt speak much English, and my poor Germany is not helpful either. I have my policy to select friends, I will be nice to invite people to my apt and cook nice food, then after i have done twice, or three-time, people will invite me back or we will know if we make further contact. However, it seem doesn't work here. I spend lots weekend to invite people who also has kids , arrange playing date and mom can talk and relax a bit. However, sadly, i seems become free-baby-sitter around, Kids love to come to my apt, moms love to drop their kids here and leave, all of them dont invite me back. My German husband said i should not have same expectation as when i am in China. In Asia, there is saying 礼尚往来 ， means One good turn deserves another; but here doesn't exist. It confused me bit, now i am just not expecting anything....... I know i should learn German as priority .
Its sad to read. My experience so far after 2y is that germans don't expect from a stranger much apart from a win-win situation or a personal gain. They are not genuinely interested in other cultures, rather are more comfortable with the "inside". Its a weird feeling.
@@EasyGermanofc I didn't mean that. Don't take me wrong, my mother is german and not really like that. However the great majority of germans are kinda closed - they are not generally showing interest in other cultures. I worked in an international environment in Germany and bad jokes about foreigners (syrians, italians, french, roumanians..) is common practice from germans. There is no way you can take it good, or reconciliate with them, as small talk or basic greetings are refused / not part of the culture
Oh wow. That's really sad. I am sorry that my people do not appreciate your efforts. :( but what you did is the absolute righg way to do in Germany also. You just had bad luck with the people. What I observed so far is that in Germany people reduce their social contacts to a minimum in the time they have little children. I don't know why. But maybe it's because they don't have as much time as before for themselves. You know work and childcare can be exhausting and if they have free time germans like to stay home or be alone with them or their partner. And when they feel the urge to see friends it's easier to meet people you know already. I know thats awful, but that's the way people like it in germany. I suggest that you keep on trying. And maybe you are lucky and you fins someone that is not like that. As I mentioned, you did everything correct 🙂
Ich wohne seit 4 Jahren in Deutschland und es fällt mir schwer neue Leute kennenzulernen. In meiner Heimat (Mexiko) sind die Menschen freundlicher. Es ist eigentlich schade, weil ich mir mein Auslandsstudium anders vorgestellt habe. Dieses Video hilft mir zu verstehen, wie die Leute da sind. Und man soll einfach respektieren und weiter machen. Danke fürs Video
Captured by the title, watched the whole video and read the comments. Very interesting. I live in Deutschland for 10 years now, Berlin. I'm fluent in German and I consider myself to have a wide range of interests. I have a pretty big circle of friends, I'm 45 yo. Still can't say that I have German friends. This is a topic my friends and I discuss quite often. I work mostly with German people and have great colleagues but sadly not German friends. :( I enjoy this channel's content very much. Thumbs up.
How to find friends in Germany? This is easy, during my Student Life in Germany, I lived in a studentenwohnheim(student dorm) and I was fortunate to become friends with people from across the continents and I am still in contact with them. If the question is: How to find German friends in Germany? Then the answer is: It's next to impossible. Living in Germany for almost 5 years, I found people are really "cold" when accepting an "outsider" into their core. Whereas in Canada or Ireland they will always ask you join them. Living in Austria as an internee, has also been a nice experience until I was in a student dorm there also. So no offence, but from my experiences, I found the German speaking belt(Germany, Austria and German speaking part Of Switzerland) people are next to approachable. One of the reasons being the language, but even if you try to speak the language there is no motivation from the other(with whom you communicate). For example: As per a Spanish girl(I have been in relationship with her) Spanish people do encourage you speak their language and also show their happiness even you make mistakes. Sorry for these negative aspects but it my opinions are from my experiences. Someone else can have positive experience and I totally agree with him/her.
Sorry, but I would like to disagree. Firstly, what I have experienced is the Germans they always encourage and motivate you to speak German. Secondly, From my personal experience last April I met a bunch of guys & girls playing Chess nearby a small canal and randomly I asked them if I could play with them and from that day on, we (like 5 or 6 mostly of us) always hangout together like going to bars, clubs, concerts, parties etc. And honestly I never felt any kind of discrimination (because of my religion or colour or language or anything) . I don't even remember how many times have I crashed at their place for the night and they were always cool with that or probably one can just say that I got lucky.
@@cccvvv630 you know that Bayern is totally different from the rest of Germany the culture, Dialect even politically as a matter of fact most of them don't even like other Germans and sorry to say but you didn't decide a friendly Bundesland. Most of them don't prefer speaking Hochdeutsch they prefer Bairisch and No Joke I can imagine things being tough for you there. But honestly that wasn't a smart selection. On the other hand, Berlin would have been a total different experience.
I love how Germans view friendship. I met my German friends in Uni in 2007 and we are still friends. Visiting each other, traveling together and writing letters in the post even. I think it's hard to make a German friend but once you do, you will have a friend for life.
Ich bin jetzt seit drei Jahren in Deutschland, und es fällt mir immer noch schwer, Freundschaften zu schließen - aber nur mit Deutschen. Ich habe Freunde aus vielen verschiedenen Hintergründen, aber nichts mit den Deutschen! Sie reden viel über Integration, aber fast niemand will mit einem Ausländer befreundet sein. Ich finde das komisch, weil ich in London gelebt habe und es wirklich keine Rolle spielt, woher man kommt. Naja vielleicht sind meine Erwartungen zu Hoch!
Ich glaube wirklich nicht, dass es damit zutun hat, dass du aus dem Ausland kommst. Wir Deutsche sind einfach generell reservierter. Auch zwischen Deutschen ist das nicht so leicht 🤷🏽♀️
@@leonoraauer2159 Ich habe einige Bekannte mit erkennbarem Migrationshintergrund, die Ähnliches berichten. Ich denke schon, dass das eine Rolle spielt. Studien in der Hinsicht sind ja auch einschlägig, leider.
Naja kommt halt auch immer darauf an wo man lebt im Land. London oder Berlin ist sowas kein Problem, aber Brandenburg und Wales im Hinterland ist sowas schon schwerer.
German here. Sadly this couldn't be more true. It's not like we don't want to make new friends. We are just very shy and stressed out. As someone who had to move around a lot I always struggled to find new friends as well. Even if you get to know people closer you will be an outsider. I'd argue it is even harder for Germans because foreigners at least have something interesting to them (different culture/language). I strongly suggest moving into a shared appartment. This helped me a lot. While I still wasn't able to find many German friends native to the respective region I at least managed to make some German friends who were 'foreign' like me. This usually works for most age groups nowadays. I'm 37 now and I still live in a shared appartment.
Its quite simple actually you just have to make wochenende plans 8 month ahead. If you meet someone for 3 weekends in a year they are your best friends .
I am in Germany since 5 years and I have 0 german friends, I actually got used to the fact that friends are always foreigners and Germans are people you work with or meet with in some occasions and then you hold only superficial and cautious talks with them.
I think it takes a lot of time to really have a German friend. Germans need a lot of time to be convinced that you are worthy of their friendship. They want to see you from all the perspectives of life and then perhaps you will have a friendly connection with them. Anyway, one of the biggest barriers is the language. Germans don't speak English very well. Only a few people do or are willing to speak in a foreign language. Only after I had German at level B1 or a bit further, could I establish more connections with German people. I got to know a lot of Germans when I moved to Germany, but it was after I could hold a conversation in German that the connection was strengthened. Then the other factor that may play a big role in finding friends in Germany is privacy. Germans mind their privacy a lot, and I hate it like hell. It seems as it is the most important and valuable thing they have. No wonder why a lot of people here experience a lot of stress. To me it's absolutely staggering how much is the privacy valued in Germany. Another thing I'd like to point out is: there undeniably exists a hierarchy between foreigners (Ausländer) in Germany. Usually people coming from countries such as Iran, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iraq, Egypt, Libya, partially Syria, an largely some countries in North Africa, are seen as OK at best and old-fashioned by and large, and foreigners with a Western or southern background are seen as cool, approachable, and sometimes fancy and very modern. I remember two scenarios that best demonstrate this. Firstly, I remember being in a party last year and I introduced myself to some German students who were sitting next to me and 3 of my friends. On a case of me being from Albania, the reaction was like cool, nice. On the case of my Brazilian friend, the reaction from Germans was amazing, (wunderbar!). The same went for my American friend, but it wasn't so for our Syrian friend. I also have had situations on the train where I was asked where I came from and still the reaction was cool, but it was only (schön) or very silently said (geht) for individuals from Syria or Kazakhstan or Pakistan or Iran and so on. By this, I'd like to say that besides the normal barriers that people have to face with regard to finding friends, some nationalities, due to their respective stereotypes and background, will face more difficulties establishing friendship or a normal connection at work or school or university. My tip for people moving to Germany is, try integrating as much as you can in the German society, especially with regard to acquiring the language and traditions, culture and some small social acts. And remember, as the saying goes, as it takes a German to change a lightbulb; it takes a beer to make a German happy. 😂
I've never been to Germany, but I have an awesome German friend. I hosted him through Couchsurfing in my home in Hungary, and we became friends. It turned out that we have many common intetests. He even invited me to Germany. Couchsurfing is a great way to make friendships.
I can not say how grateful I am to have your channel as a German studying reference. I've been following you since the very first day I learn German, and indeed, your videos are the motivation for me to keep up with the language that I once thought was impossible. Hopefully you will keep producing good videos like this, and gesund bleiben!!!
It's quite discouraging to hear how hard it is to befriend someone in Germany.....I'll still try learn the language and hopefully try to meet people open for a friend
Yes you will always feel the same here, so if you have job concentrate on your job. Even if you get a friend in here after when you don’t work there again they will not mind you again. Especially if you are a man. With women you will always find someone to date here and will keep the friendship going if not forget it. If you to have forever friends here then look for foreigners then you will always have some one to call a friend.
für mich es war anfangs schwer, ich habe versucht beim Sport, Tandemparnter/in (gut geklappt). Auch Veranstaltungen und konzerte, beim Studium an der Uni. und jetzt kann ich sagen, ich habe viele deutsche und internationale Freunde. Aber was nicht im Video genannt wurde, dass es auch von deine Offenheit und Flexibilität andere Kultur und Denkweise zu akzeptieren, respektieren und zu verstehen, abhängig. euer Freund Mo aus dem Sudan
Maybe travelling isn't actually a bad idea to try out new things and overcome some fears and obstacles. Whether Germany is the right country or another one... it's always worth it to try new things out. Lots of love from Berlin ❤️
For some realistic advice I'd say join a sports club. Or start a language course or some other course about anything. Germans are way easier to talk to when they're alone too. I say that as a German.
I joined a sports verein, try to enter a tennis class. teacher answered me after a month ("A MONTH") That she could make a test of how did I play. I said very politely, please I joined this club to try to meet people and play, and just after a month you contact me back. I went away. Its very sad to say it, but similar things have happened to me very often. Im sad that german society its so self centered and un-empathic. Im sad for German people that have never knew the warmth of having more social interaction or more family time. In my opinion lots of times you feel very alone in Gemany.
Ich habe einen Austausch in Deutschland gemacht und habe fast zwei Jahre dort gelebt. Ich muss es sagen, es war sehr schwierig deutsche Freunden zu finden. Ich habe ein Jahr an der Uni studiert und dort habe ich an einen Sportverein teilgenommen aber das war nicht sehr erfolgreich, weil fast jeder schon Teil einer kleinen Gruppe war. Wie jemand im Video gesagt hat, ist es sehr viel leichter Freunde, die auch fremd in Deutschland sind, zu finden und das war genau was mit mir passiert ist. Die schlechte Seite ist, dass ich viele Brasilianer kennengelernt habe und am Ende viel Portugiesisch gesprochen habe, anstatt nur Deutsch zu sprechen
Same here..the term einen Vertag abschließen was also very confusing at the beginning. So I was like do we want to terminate the contract or sign it🙄😁🤦♀️?
This could tell a lot about their way of thinking. Instead of being something open it turns into something that is limited and given with a good dose of prudence, one might say. Being friends here has maybe a much more meaningful connotation, that is why is not offered to the first girl/guy passing by. It is something that I appreciate but at the same time it makes things much more difficult.
What I found ironic living in Germany is, they complain that foreigners don't learn the language or try to integrate. I'm American with German grandparents. I speak fluent German, look German, dress German and really wanted to integrate with Germans, but when I moved back to a town in B-W, all I got was aggressive and impolite people everywhere I went. I would introduce myself in perfect German, but they had no interest in getting to know me. One person even accused me of "taking a job from a German". For 5 long years, I rode my bicycle a lot and enjoyed the scenery, but was not happy again, until I moved back to the U.S.A. where I make a point of befriending Germans who have moved to my city.
I used to make more German friends who were expats when I used to live in my hometown. Later on I moved to Germany and tried to reach some of them but nope - they don't have time. Maybe next month second Sunday... At the end of the day, I really do think about moving back to my country temporarily to make some German friends lol.
Ich muss sagen dass ich liebe deutsche Freunde habe, die so lieb zu mir sind und wenn ich nach Deutschland fliege sie zu besuchen, erlebe ich unvergessliche, liebevolle Momenten . Ich fuehle mich Teil ihres Leben auch wenn wir fern sind, da ich aus Peru bin. Wir kennen uns schoen lange, fast 20 Jahre und ich muss auch sagen, eine meiner Freundinnen hat mich regelmaessig geschrieben und dadurch ist die Freundschaft gehalten. Ich war Aupair-maedchen und war 1 Jahr in Berlin. Es war nicht einfach aber danke dieser Erfahrung habe ich immerwährende Freunden die mir wichtig sind. Sicherlich werde ich wieder reisen um sie zu besuchen. Was ich in Deutschland gemerkt habe ist dass fuer Deutsche der Privatraum wichtig ist. Abstand zu halten ist erforderlich und man sollte wissen wann nicht einzumischen. Deutschland hat ein Stuckchen meines Herzens. 🌹❤️
Having a German and Irish background from my grandparents and having Native American Chata (Choctaw) from my Father's side. German is definitely the hardest to learn
The comments made sad. I travelled to germany so many times and didn't notice coz I made friends with many locals. Visiting could be different than living of course. Whenever I travel around the world I find german travelers one of the coolest. I will open this subject with them next time and they will be straight giving me the answer :)
Es kommt darauf an, was für einen Mensch du bist, welche Menschen du triffst und einfach welche Umstände du gerade hast. Und natürlich ist es besser nicht viel zu hoffen, wirklich echte Freunde zu finden, wie du in deiner Heimat hattest, wenn du schon als Erwachsene nach Deutschland eingewandert bist.
What I dislike the most is the strong distinction between colleagues and friends. It's as if there is an unwritten rule that colleagues will stay colleagues and can never become friends.
I find it hard to make friends in my own country. I can only imagine what it would be like for me in Germany! It’s funny, though. While living in the UK my very best friend was a German girl I met at work. We never lost contact, even five years after I left.
Hallo zusammen! Ich war zweimal in Deutschland. Ich habe ein paar Freunden bei den Internetwebsites gefunden, mit denen ich z. B. in Nürnberg mich getroffen habe, und das war auf jeden Fall eine schöne und krasse Erfahrung! Als ich gesagt habe, war ich nur zweimal in Deutschland, so keine Ahnung, wie man anderewiese Leute kennen lernen kann. Ganz liebe Grüße and euch!
I must be pretty lucky to instantly befriend the first person I met in Berlin - my Airbnb host. And then his friends and friends of friends und so weiter. To me, Berlin seems a much friendlier place than my country (Belarus). And people greet their neighbours, so nice!
The problem is, you just run the conversation with german people. Could be better if you run conversation with foreigners. It's always more difficult to communicate and find friends when you are a foreigner.
Danke fuers Video. Ich finde das Thema sehr interessant. Ich vermute dass es in jedem Land schwierig ist, neue Leute kennenzulernen, besonders in kleinen Staedten. Ich bin Englaender und habe ein Jahr in Nuernberg studiert. Das ist schon zehn Jahr her aber ich muss zugeben, dass die Deutschen, mit denen ich in Kontakt gekommen bin, sehr freundlich und offen waren. Ich spiele gern Fussball und hab mich damals zu einem Verein angemeldet. Bei dem erstren Training habe ich 25 Jungs gettoffen, die dieselben Interessen wie ich teilten. Weil ich ziemlich gut spielen kann, haben mich die Jungs gut aufgenommen. Sie haben mich sofort zum Feiern eingeladen. Ich war damals der Englaender, der zu viel Abends trinkt. Ich glaube dass es ihnen interessant damals war, mit einen Englaender rumzuhangen. Daher bescliesse ich dass ich ueber den Verein sehr gute Freundschafte geschlossen habe. Ich wuerde empfehlen, einen Verein zu besuchen wenn man neu in Deutschland ist, da man auf gleichgessinte Leute treffen kann. An der Uni war es ein wenig schwieriger, weil die meisten Studenten aus Nuernberg kamen und sich schon kannten. Zum Glueck waren zwei Jungs von der Fussballmannscahft auch an der Uni. Ich bin Ihnen gefolgt damit ich im Saal nich alleine sitzen musste.
What works for me is becoming a „regular“ at a local coffee shop that I like. It takes a bit of time but you get to know the baristas/employees and in turn other regulars. Meeting them there and having long conversations opens up doors. Also, as a climber, I have met other climbers and become friends with them outside of the climbing gym. You can post a „looking for climbing partner“ ad and get things rolling that way, or some other hobby looking for people to ... on eBay Kleinanzeigen. Unfortunately this video was more of an example how difficult it is to make German friends than finding German friends 😕
Es scheint mir, dass der beste Weg, Freunde in einer neuen Stadt zu finden, darin besteht, ein Hobby zu machen und die Menschen dort kennenzulernen. Meine persönliche Erfahrung bestätigt dies, ich habe alle meine engen Freunde in Tanzkursen kennengelernt.
Since moving to Germany 6 years ago, and having lived in 4 countries previously, im happy to say that Ive never met so many people before in my life. Maybe Germans are a little more reserved than English or whatever, but they are definitely very engaged in activities - art political activism, music, sport... it is sososososo easy to find people to play sport with, play music, start bands, do something political, start a business. you just gotta go out there and do it! the more "risk" the more reward basically.
@@oGiygas yes plenty of real friends too... i personally find with Germans that after you get over the so-called "reserved" barrier you got a friend for life
Awesome! Nice to hear there is hope to for us foreigners to have German friends. I don't live in Germany (yet) but I'm learning German in case if in the future I decide to go there to live. I love culture of different countries and I often like to analyze how people live in other parts of the world.
@@oGiygas sounds good mate. positivity and getting out of your comfort zone were the main things for me (also avoiding big packs of English speakers who non-stop complain about Germans). good luck with it!
Yep I agree , like you know..... normal people just talk and pass the time, don´t judge every word or intonation, feel happy if another does something that is good for them..... and abracadabra!!! ....It all feels a little more friendly than applying for the Ausbildung of friendship in a nation of dorks.
Ich lebe seit über 50 Jahre in Michigan. Es ist immer leicht, hier neue Freunde zu finden, denn auch im Supermarkt fängt man gerne eine Unterhaltung an, wenn man mal länger Schlange steht. Auch sind hier die meisten Menschen religiös und dadurch gehen sie frei auf Neuankömmlinge in der Gemeinde zu. In Deutschland war es mir nur möglich, durch meine Arbeitsstelle Bekanntschaften zu schließen, aber niemals in der Bahn, auf dem Flugplatz oder in Restaurants.
I've also formed stronger friendships with fellow expats than I have with local Germans but, to be fair, it's hard to make local friends as a foreigner in any country, and harder still when you are not a student and don't have local housemates.
Ich habe ein Jahr in Düsseldorf gewohnt und am Anfang war es schwierig für mich neue Leute kennenzulernen, aber mit der Zeit habe ich Gruppe gefunden, die mich interessiert und danach war es einfacher gute Pläne am Wochenende zu haben,zB Gruppe für Hiking, Meetups über die Japanische Kultur (ich mag das sehr) Picnics, Grills, Partys und so weiter. Am Ende wollte ich nicht nach Mexiko wieder fahren, ich hatte auf jeden fall eine shöne Erfahrung in Deutschland und einige aber gute neue Freunden :)
I don't remember a lot of my german, I've been gone from Berlin for almost 30 years and miss it very much. I listen to your videos just to remember what it was like.
Ich freue mich darüber dass ihr auch zu Hause so interessante Videos dreht, als ob ihr auf der Straße wärt. :) Dieses Thema ist wichtig und ihr habt sehr nützliche Tipps gegeben. Viele Grüße aus Ungarn!
Estive na Alemanha duas vezes e notei que a dificuldade em fazer amizades na Alemanha é maior entre alemães que nunca saíram da Alemanha. Já aqueles que conhecem outros países são mais abertos ao contato com estrangeiros. Todavia, independente da quantidade, os poucos amigos que fiz já são o suficiente e gosto muito deles. Pelo menos são pessoas sinceras. Minha opinião...
Sie waren super Tipps. Ich habe auch eine Erfahrung dazu. Ich bin seit anderthalb Jahre in Deutschland und wohne mit meiner Familie in Hamburg. Zu Hause sprechen wir immer unsere Muttersprache. Aber ich möchte auch mit jemandem Deutsch sprechen. Auf diesem Grund habe ich die App nebenan verwandt. Vor einer Woche habe ich um Hilfe gefragt, ob jemand mir als Gesprächspartner helfen kann. Und dann haben viele gemeldet. Damit habe ich meine Nachbarn kennen gelernt. Wegen der aktuellen Situation können wir jetzt nur online. Aber ich hoffe, wenn corona vorbei wäre, können wir auch voreinander :) Vielen Dank.
@@AfroLinguo im in Canada, and i think Canadians are almost the same as germans hahah, they are all way too cold, i have some canadians friends, but not that much, im spanish btw.
I know it's an older video. But I've been thinking a few times about living in Germany. This video cured me from this idea. I imagine it is even worse now after all those lockdowns.
I really don’t know why ppl say it’s hard to find friends in Germany. I have so many, ppl are very open ... maybe is just me but making friends is very easy in Berlin!
@@mehdihussaini6932 How does that help? I'm sure she's still talking about actual friends rather than people who secretly (or not so secretly) want to screw her.
I am almost 70 years old. I have lived 50 years in Germany and I speak fluent German. I don't drink alcohol, I am not a millionaire, I have no interest in Fussball or Schlagermusik. For foreign men in my position, after age 55, if you don't already have a partner here, finding one is impossible. Sure, it's easy when you're 20!
I think that on Europe is much complicated to make friends than other parts of the world. Only one person spoke to me. It was an old man in the metro in Paris and he asked me about my backpack. People saw him as if he was a crazy man.
Ich wohne in HH seit 4 Jahren und ich würde sagen, dass die Sprache eine große Rolle spielt aber muss man auch nicht perfekt sprechen. Es reicht, wenn man sich ausdrücken kann. Geduldig soll man auch sein und auch verschiedene Wege ausprobieren. Ich habe jetzt mittlereweile viele Freunde gehabt sowohl Deutsche als auch Menschen, die aus dem Ausland sind und alle durch die Freizeitaktivitäten. Mein bester Kumpel kommt aus Schleswig-Holstein, also kühler sind sie nicht😊😊. Ich habe auch Freunde aus dem Süden, die hier arbeiten z.B. Mainz. Die Arbeit hilft auch natürlich z.B. was essen nach der Arbeit. Mein Tipp wäre: seid einfach mutig und denkt nicht an die Konsequenz. LG
I am german, and traveled to asia, US, spain, italy, england, and many other countries, and I find it always much more difficult to get in touch and build a connection with other germans. So sad about it here. I recommend sports Clubs, university cities and just try connecting, just calculate that you will fail some times
Ich bin Deutscher und habe 20 Jahre in Frankreich gelebt. Ich habe deutsche Freunde seit der Schulzeit. Es war für mich immer einfach Menschen und Freunde kennenzulernen - auch in Frankreich. Mein Rat: sei witzig! Sei interessant! Inspiriere andere! Erwarte nichts von anderen! Sei großzügig! Sei interessiert! Nimm dich nicht so wichtig! Lade andere zum Abendessen bei dir ein und warte auf die Gegeneinladung! Urteile nicht über andere... und stelle niemals die Frage: "wollen wir Freunde sein?". Freundschaft und Liebe kann man nicht erzwingen. Sie kommt, wenn man nicht damit rechnet. Bekannte und Buddies, mit denen man mal einen Kaffee trinken gehen kann, findet man überall - auch in Deutschland. Wenn man dann aber nicht interessant oder interessiert ist und nur von sich erzählt, dann wird nix draus.
Was du hier beschreibst (u.a. inspiriere andere ... interessiere dich für sie... lad sie zum Essen ein...) das gilt für die zweite Phase des Kontakte knüpfens. Die meisten Deutschen lassen aber schon die erste Phase nicht zu, reagieren nicht auf ein freundliches Hallo, erste Smalltalk-Sätze, um überhaupt eine Konversation zu beginnen, oder sind einfach unfreundlich. Und es gibt viele Jobs, da ist nichts anderes möglich, als nur ganz kurz Freundlichkeiten auszutauschen, wo nur direkt freundliche Antworten klar machen könnten, ob man sich auch mal für einen längeren Smalltalk irgendwo treffen könnte oder nicht. Wenn aber bei den kurzen Möglichkeiten schon gar keine Reaktionen kommen, sondern nur Desinteresse, dann hat man nie die Chance, Dinge umzusetzen, die du hier auflistest. Oder anderes Beispiel: Mit Kind auf Spielplatz: in England sind sofort sehr freundliche, offene und einladende Gespräche möglich, völlig ungezwungen, in Deutschland wird man oft blöd angeschaut, wenn man jemanden freundlich anspricht, ggf. wird man regelrecht verwundert angeschaut oder es kommt nur eine sehr knappe Antwort zurück, aber kein Gespräch. Anders natürlich bei den Einheimischen unter sich, die sich ggf. schon seit der Kindheit kennen.
Last year when I visited Germany I tried to talk to people in a bar, no one would talk to me. Finally a man from Hungary would talk to me, this was in Berlin. In Munich I met a couple at Oktoberfest and they showed my husband and I around, they were very nice.
Don't expect many Germans to ask you if you want to do something interesting on the weekend.Because you will only get dissapointed.Make sure you have a good circle of friends who are non-Germans like yourself.People you can meet up with often.Then you can be fairly happy in Germany.
I grew up in Germany as a kid (to all those who say they should probably start from kindergarten to make friends) it still didn’t work out. I barely had friends until 4th grade when suddenly all my classmates became kinder and I don’t even know why that happened because I was the same person. I suddenly had 10 really good friends and things were awesome when suddenly in 5th grade as I had to go to a new school everything just went back to how it was and I had no friends again. Even then most kids knew each other from a previous school and hung up with the same people. It was extremely difficult to approach people. Most bullied me for being a foreigner although I spoke perfect German and some were just ok and kind but not really up to being friends. I spent most of my time in solitude and begged my parents to go back to my home country. We did. Living like that gave me such a big trauma as a kid I’ve never actually gotten over it. I never got any better. I did make tons of friends in my own country and got over depression and all that but the amount of self loathing and the feeling of not being good enough kind of always still pops up unconsciously. So fast forward to now. I’ve lived in a few other places including south Korea which is just the same as Germany only a bit better. I’ve realized through all of this that I’m no better than Germans. I only have a handful of friends and barely accept new people into my life. I talk to others but I start to ignore them when my messages get too much because if I spend time with a new person I will have less time with my old friends. I don’t know if this is called being racist but I usually don’t make foreigner friends at my uni either. Idk if Germany has rubbed off on me or if this is human nature but realizing I’m not better has helped me a lot with my childhood trauma. I’m 23 and I’ve decided to move back to Germany but reading the comments kinda scares the crap out of me and Idk what to do
In meinem Heimatland hab ich viele Freunde kennengelernt. Ich hab ein bester Freund, den ich als im Kindergarten gesehen habe. Meine Freundschaft dauert fast 19 Jahre. Aber in Deutschland glaube ich nicht so einfach wie meine Heimat. Und ich hoffe, dass ich bald nach Deutschlanf kommen kann, denn ich jetzt noch in Vietnam bin😊
I'm German, lived abroad for over 12 years in three different countries and recently moved back to Germany. I also find it difficult to make friends (again) in Germany, because if you live abroad you lose touch. So, I will try some of these things. However, I also wanted to point out what one person said in the video: My experience abroad was also that it is always difficult to immigrate into another country/culture and make friends to the "native" people. This is especially true if you are by yourself, if your partner is originally from the country you live in, I believe it might be a different story. So, another tip could also be to find a German partner better sooner than later. lol
Carina, I retested on a random German vocabulary quiz online a second time y received a 90 score. The certificate never printed that out but rather the first test to which I did which was 54/60 did. So much for electronics. Nevertheless, I appreciate, as well as others all your videos for educating peoples all over the world. Gott segne dich. You are klar y thorough. Danke schon.
I believe that Germans - like me - clearly differentiate between "friends" and "acquaintances". A friend is often a person that you are really close to, you trust a lot. A friend is often at least as close as family. So, I would say that "friend" and "Freund/Freundin" are linguistically "false friends". I would say that I only have about five real friends (or even less).
Eine kleine Hoffnung ergab sich in meinem Kopf als ich das Titel dieses Videos erstmal sah, und nachdem ich es angeschaut habe, .... die Hoffnung verschwindet
I can't be bored to beg for their friendship. They are extremely reserved and weird people no wonder you find many of them visiting periodically to a psychologist. I work here and my friends are foreigners. I'm planning to make some money and go back to my country or go somewhere else where I can just see happy faces. After this Coronaschieße and social distance no chance at all.
Seit ich in Österreich bin, schließe ich wegen meiner Kurse nur mit Ausländern Freundschaft , aber letztes Jahr habe ich mich mit Österreicherin befreundet. Ich bin sehr froh darüber, dass sie mit mir kennengelernt hat ❤️ Deshalb bekomme ich viel Spaß, wenn ich gleichzeitig Deutsch lernen kann und ich habe Seelenverwandte gefunden. Vorher war sie meine Fahrlehrerin und ich hatte mit ihr Übungen gemacht. Trotz dem Grund, dass ich aus einem anderen Land umgezogen bin und oft Fehler in unserem Gespräch mache, unterstützt sie mich. Ich wünsche allen Neuen, früher Freunde zu finden. Liebe Grüße Diana
Meiner persönlichen Erfahrung: hier ist obwohl nicht so einfach eine Freundschaft zu schließen, aber wenn man einen Kontakt geknüpft hat, kann man sicher sein dass sie richtige Freunde sind. Prost zu meinem Kumpeln in Berlin, Köln und Hannover.
I lived in Germany for a year and it's true I didn't make any German friends, which is a shame because I met a lot of nice people. Instead, the friends I did make (all foreign.... I was doing my Erasmus year and it's just easier to mingle in an international crowd), I still consider good friends even if we live in various countries and don't really see each other. I now live in Spain and I must say that it isn't any easier making friends here, despite having a very good grasp of the language. The two friends I did make are both foreign. I find Spanish people to have a particular kind of humor, conversation topics and way of speaking with people they just met. I've tried to emmulate this behavior to no avail.... I do take into consideration the fact that it might just be me, I'm just a bit weird. Making friends as an adult it's so freakin hard :(
Hallo easy German aus Georgien! Ich habe seit 20 Tagen diser Kanal gefunden und ich habe fast 200 Videos gesehen.✌ Vilen dank ❣ ihre Videos sind sehr sehr hilfreich! Besonders Cari ist cool 😁 ✌❤ Sie haben sehr schöne Augen und Lachen. 👀😁❤
I think the biggest obstacle is language. Although many Germans can speak fluent English, the conversation stucks at some point. The worst case is, when they have to switch to English only for you, that is totally embarrasing for me. Thanks to Easy German videos and podcasts, we learn a lot and break this barrier but for sure we need more and more :) Freundliche Grüße aus München
Ich habe einen deutschen engen Freund, den ich anhand des DRK(Deutsches Rotes Kreuz) kennengelernt habe. Ich hatte damals eine mündliche Sprachprüfung und war total schlecht beim Sprechen und habe ans DRK um die Hilfe gebeten, um einen Sprachpartner zu finden. Es dauerte nicht zu langer Zeit und ich habe den jetzigen Freund kennengelernt. Er hat mir bei der Vorbereitung so viel geholfen und mit Hilfe von seiner Unterstützung habe ich die sogenannte Prüfung bestanden und dann habe ich mich an der Uni eingeschrieben. Wir sind noch befreundet. Ich würde sagen, dass alle Deutsche nicht immer kühl sind. Das ist ein berühmtes Vorurteil. Um einen(eine)Sprachpartner(in) zu finden, empfehle ich euch absolut, dass ihr es versucht, nach den Hilfeorganisationen zu fragen.
Shortly, to make friends in Germany, you gotta sign up for a Kindergaten, no matter what age you are.
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All of them mentioned friends from kindergarten... I don't even remember my kindergarten years
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Hamza Kaan C. hahaha 🤣😅
After watching this video and living for 2 years in Germany I can say with confidence I am normal and there is nothing wrong with me.
True. So true. I have lived in Germany for three years and I used to think I was the problem too.
I am here since two years as well. I always thought I am a nice person to talk to and spend time with. Germany made me feel so bad about myself :(
@@agnieszkazak5602 Hopefully, it gets better with time
I am so glad that I saw the comments, especially this one, this city has made me doubt I had some problem although I always was friendly and could make friends in multiple countries and different situations
That said, I have made very few super nice friends, but the percent that accept a new friend here is too low...
I am in Berlin if someone would say it is different there..
I think that we as Ausländer should try to be friends. I'm brazilian, but making Friendship with Arabians, Indians even chineses was 100 times easier than the natives....
I've been living in Germany for almost 3 years now. Never been lonelier in my entire life.
Fábio Barbosa noooo :'( So true. I've never realized until after a couple of years living here, that my happiness (back at home in Chile) was so closely related to the social life i had and the simple joy of meeting my friends every week. It's definitely more important than having a great job or money. With this experience, if i were single, i wouldn't emigrate just to get better job opportunities.
Yea germans suck, that’s why I moved to Canada 🇨🇦 much better!
@@c.4059 Lmao0🤣
@@c.4059 im in Canada, im spanish, and I never met colder people than Canedians😂.
And my next step in this life is learn German, so wish me luck😂
@@civileng6076 like im, in Nova scotia, halifax, and like people is friendly and this stuff but, idk they can talk to you sometimes and then if you both are in the hallway, they act like they never met you, and not even look at you, and idk,no one gives a shit about you here😂
That's pretty cold.
I lived in Germany for almost 8 years. It was very hard to get to know anyone during the first 3 months. I was actually thinking of leaving and returning to the States with my 8-year-old son. At that very moment, the doorbell rang, and an older woman from the down the street said she had noticed I had a young son, and she thought he might like some books that her grandson liked. Shortly thereafter, another woman rang and said she noticed that I did not have curtains on the windows (new house; only Rolladen). She wanted to recommend a place where I could buy curtains. Actually, I am sure it was just bothering her that I was not conforming to the standard window treatment; however, instead of allowing myself to feel insulted, I decided to ask her to go with me. She did, and we became best friends! After a few years, I had many friends, and German friends are loyal, the best! Neighbors gave us the first strawberries from their gardens, shared fresh fruit from their trees. German friends are not easy to come by, but once you have them, it is forever.
I can totally relate.
I think they didn't want to insult you and the books and curtains weren't their Intention to ring your bell. They only wanted to help you "to arrive" and they wanted friendship as well. My 29 years old son lived in New York for approx. 5 years but he missed his friends in Germany so much. He left everything behind and returned. Best decision.
@@user-vn5ff1my6k I mean, how can you know if they were lonely? How can you judge other people not knowing anything about them at all? Sounds like some kind of next level of XIXth century psychoanalysis.
Hi please can we talk
@@alfredamoah8770 hello
This is such a sad stream of comments to read. If I ever find myself in Germany I just may have to look you up, Cari. You seem like a kind, fun and friendly person : ) And thank you for speaking more slowing than others on your program do. I can follow you much better than I can the others.
Lol, I've started lowering the speed to 0.75 just so I can practice re-reading and saying what they say.
How do you make friends in Germany?
Germans: A U S D E R S C H U L E
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Es wäre besser gewessen, wenn Sie diese Frage von den Ausländer, die schon lange Zeit in Deutschland sind, fragen hätten.
Sie könnten wahrscheinlich niemanden finden, der gut lügen kann.
@@YogiMystic :D
Exact!
Meiner Meinung nach werden Migranten nach einer Weile, wenn sie hier leben, ebenfalls wie die Deutschen. Kalt, unnahbar und distanziert.
No, it was better this way. Cause even people who had been living there for years don't know the reason 😅
I lived in Heidelberg for six months with two students. They were from Chile and all of their friends were from Chile, even though they had been there for years studying and had excellent German. One day they explained to me " It is like this. Germans are only allowed five friends each. They would sincerely like to be your friend, but if they did this? They would have to give away one of their other friends." YES ! They were only joking but I feel, like with all jokes, there is some truth. If you cannot make the 'small talk' they dislike so much, then you can never find what you have to share. I have since gone back to Germany many times. It is a very slow process to make a friend. Lots of silent train travel ! They have to owe you some favour or gratitude to let you into their lives. MAybe save someone's life or marry their children. Apart from this I love the few friends I have made :)
Hallo
How did you like living in Heidelberg? I am (hopefully) going to study there for six months next year :) Did you manage to make some other friends, not necessarily German? Maybe you are, by chance, from France? I was living in the south for 2 months and although my French is pretty bad, I could still make some French friends :) Sometimes I think I should've invested all the time in French instead of German hahaha
@@wiktoro137 I made lots of South American friends. They were university students , the university was amazing! Cheap food nice place to hangout. See if they still sell cheap bicycles at the railway station... you'll need a bicycle there's 50 million bicycles in Heidelberg. You will love it.
I'm from Colombia, and I've been watching this Channel for 1 year and half. I want to say. Thank you for all the help, information, time. I have a lot of progressed speaking German.
Oh, guys... you are kind of breaking my heart here, reading your comments. I am german and I work with refugees. I met a lot of great people and I know how difficult it can be, even for germans.
Here are a couple of tipps from me:
1: Try clubs, like sport clubs, music groups, clubs for board games, whatever peaks your interests.
2: If you find a german you find is friend material, in a club, at work or anywhere else: don't hesitate to strike up a conversation and make plans for another meetup in your spare time. Only because a lot of us are socially awkward dosn't mean we don't want to get to know new people.
3: Keep at it! It can be hard, I know, but we are not all just grumpy faces.
I wish you all the best and hope you find great people. I wish I could reach out to all of you.
But what's your personal attitude towards making friends or at least acquaintances with foreigners? And how do your friends feel about that? As it was mentioned here for several times already, the Germans prefer not to make friends with immigrants, but with the Germans like they are themselves. Does it mean your countrymates avoid foreigners? Or just don't seek for such kind of friendship deliberately?
By the way, I always believed that it's easy to tell if the person is socially awkward but he or she wants to communicate with you or he/she just have no interest to you.
Hi, i am looking for my long lost german friend. Maybe you could help me locate him. :)
Could you be my friend? I am Benjamin and German is interesting
@@Molecleave245 are u talking about @dae?
@@helenivanova5440 For me? I have a couple of friends from Syria and Afghanistan. I think that there are great people everywhere so I have got no problems with that. I also am quite active in building a welcoming community where I live. Most of my friends see it very much the same way or I wouldn't want to be friends with them.
The way I see it people from the Middle East (this ist the biggest group of immigrants I know of really) are a bit different when it comes to some aspects of social interactions, so this is sometimes a little harder for Germans to get their heads around, but as I said, there are always good and bad people everywhere.
ich habe als Deutscher in Deutschland auch nur schlechte Erfahrungen gemacht, wenn du in eine Stadt ziehst, wo keine Jugendfreunde mehr sind, hast du echt schlechte Karten, z.B. wenn du in einem Job arbeitest, der Kontaktaufbau zu Kollegen nicht ermöglicht oder vor allem auch wenn du arbeitslos bist. So viele Deutsche haben mir die kalte Schulter gezeigt, auch in Sportvereinen. Meistens habe ich nach kurzer Zeit gemerkt, die haben einfach schon so große Bekanntenkreise aus Kindheit, Arbeit und dann noch die Verwandtschaft, die brauchen und wollen einen Neuen einfach nicht mehr. Als Mitspieler beim Sport gerne, aber danach treffen und was zusammen machen, nein danke. So habe ich es jedenfalls erlebt, auch wenn es sicherlich wo anders andere Sportvereine gibt, wo das viel besser ist. Es war eine kleinere Stadt, nicht Berlin oder so. (Inzwischen lebe ich im Ausland) In Köln habe ich auch ein Jahr gelebt. Köln war auch schwierig, dieses positive Vorurteil, die wären so aufgeschlossen, habe ich dort nicht erlebt, denn auch die haben schon ihre geschlossenen, alten Freundeskreise bzw. vielerorts gibt es gar keine Einheimische mehr. Freundlich zu mir waren 90% immer nur die Ausländer von Chinesen bis Lateinamerikaner. Sehr verschlossen sind auch die Schwaben im ländlichen Bereich, wobei die entweder total verschlossen oder sehr nett sind, aber für letzteres braucht man eine Portion Glück.
es ist wirklich so ! lol
du hast alles gesagt lol
leider aber das ist die Realität !
Perfekt beschrieben
Ganze genau.
Das stimmt zu 100 Prozent!!!
As someone said down below, I have never been lonelier in my life after moving to Germany, sometimes i am even watching people at university while sitting alone and hoping for a miracle to happen someone just come and talk to me but that's never happening 😔 can't wait to end this and go back to home because there is no place like home.
tuğçe çam ....where are you from?
By her name, i gues she's a turk
Yeap from Turkey
@@tgc97 hangi üniversite ? bende bir sonraki dönem başlıcam
Almanyada yalnız olmak çok zor olmali özellikle kimseyle konuşamamak birşeyler paylaşamamak 😔 Allah yardimciniz olsun.
As some people here have already written. Same story. I've been living in Germany for 6 years, and till this date I have no german friends. I have many times tried to have friends, invite them for dinner, try to make sport together, have a beer, go to movies, go for a drink etc etc. But always got incredible strange answers. Its very sad, but I don't care anymore. I know a old spanish woman she has been in germany for over 25 years, and she told me the same. Its very sad but as a foreigner I dont think i will ever be part of German society of have friends here.
Juan It's been 3 years do you have any friends now?
To make German friends in Germany is hard, very very hard. What she mentioned about “cultivate a friendship”, actually means that you as an outsider must prove that you are good enough to befriend them, never the opposite (as they have enough friends from the kindergarten ages).To find friends inside the expat community is way easier though.
Nah that's just your hate speaking I think. Cultivating a friendship is beautiful only, it's about not letting loose of a friend. If you became actual friends with a German for once, you won't get rid of that person, because they'll be trying to keep the friendship for friendships sake, they'll even adjust their personality to you for that. That might even be a reason why it's hard for someone of a different culture to make friends with Germans, hmm.. But it's nothing about being "good enough" .. we're not that judgemental, we just consider if it's worth it to become friends with someone, because it means so much. I dodged many people whom I might have become friends with because I didn't want to change my lifes direction to theirs. I mostly wanted to become less German, that's why I have many friends from other countries now, so, quite the opposite in my case~
Deutschland Deutschland maybe you are right, it is “just my hate speech” 🙄
If it would be easy, it won’t make sense to have a video about that. Could you imagine a video “how to make friends in Italy”? 😂
@@deutschlanddeutschland7111
I think you overthink so much in Germany, why should I think so much about the possibility that someone could be a friend of mine, I let my self simply know new people I try to be my self and everything will go automatically, nothing can make me be a friend to someone I don't like..
True
@@deutschlanddeutschland7111 one year has passed, so I don't know whether you would answer or not, but I'm inquisitive about the reason for you to want to become "less German". And what do you mean by that? If you don't mind to tell about it.
I am a Chinese live in Nuremberg for 8 months with my German husband and two kids. Before we lived in Shanghai for 7 years. First of all, thanks EASY GERMAN, i love watching your program for language and just-for-fun two aspect of view. Here I like to talk about my very different experience of making friends before and after moving to Germany.
In China: I have two best friends, one was my roommate, another was my colleague. In Shanghai I was single for 8 years and had very cool and fun job. I posted an ad to look for a roommate, then i interviewed 8 person until i found one. We become best friends; then i know a another cool girl from my job, we are best friends until now. Since i was kindergarten, I moved lot, so i don't have any best childhood friends, but i never have the problem to have friend where ever i was. All my roommates(from American, Japan, or other city of China) likes me, because i like cooking , cleaning and sharing, and have lots of interesting personal and job experience. I think i am a people person.
And i know lots great German in Shanghai.
In Germany: first, when we moved here , i am a mom with two little kids. I dont have chance to know any cool single female friends. Most woman I know here are from Russia, or Turkey or east Europe, who doesnt speak much English, and my poor Germany is not helpful either. I have my policy to select friends, I will be nice to invite people to my apt and cook nice food, then after i have done twice, or three-time, people will invite me back or we will know if we make further contact. However, it seem doesn't work here. I spend lots weekend to invite people who also has kids , arrange playing date and mom can talk and relax a bit. However, sadly, i seems become free-baby-sitter around, Kids love to come to my apt, moms love to drop their kids here and leave, all of them dont invite me back. My German husband said i should not have same expectation as when i am in China. In Asia, there is saying 礼尚往来 ， means One good turn deserves another; but here doesn't exist.
It confused me bit, now i am just not expecting anything.......
I know i should learn German as priority .
Its sad to read. My experience so far after 2y is that germans don't expect from a stranger much apart from a win-win situation or a personal gain. They are not genuinely interested in other cultures, rather are more comfortable with the "inside". Its a weird feeling.
@@racletteconsciente3949 I would be careful with speaking about " all Germans". We are not all the same.
@@EasyGermanofc I didn't mean that. Don't take me wrong, my mother is german and not really like that. However the great majority of germans are kinda closed - they are not generally showing interest in other cultures.
I worked in an international environment in Germany and bad jokes about foreigners (syrians, italians, french, roumanians..) is common practice from germans. There is no way you can take it good, or reconciliate with them, as small talk or basic greetings are refused / not part of the culture
Oh wow. That's really sad. I am sorry that my people do not appreciate your efforts. :( but what you did is the absolute righg way to do in Germany also. You just had bad luck with the people. What I observed so far is that in Germany people reduce their social contacts to a minimum in the time they have little children. I don't know why. But maybe it's because they don't have as much time as before for themselves. You know work and childcare can be exhausting and if they have free time germans like to stay home or be alone with them or their partner. And when they feel the urge to see friends it's easier to meet people you know already.
I know thats awful, but that's the way people like it in germany. I suggest that you keep on trying. And maybe you are lucky and you fins someone that is not like that. As I mentioned, you did everything correct 🙂
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Ich wohne seit 4 Jahren in Deutschland und es fällt mir schwer neue Leute kennenzulernen. In meiner Heimat (Mexiko) sind die Menschen freundlicher.
Es ist eigentlich schade, weil ich mir mein Auslandsstudium anders vorgestellt habe.
Dieses Video hilft mir zu verstehen, wie die Leute da sind.
Und man soll einfach respektieren und weiter machen.
Danke fürs Video
Captured by the title, watched the whole video and read the comments. Very interesting.
I live in Deutschland for 10 years now, Berlin. I'm fluent in German and I consider myself to have a wide range of interests. I have a pretty big circle of friends, I'm 45 yo. Still can't say that I have German friends. This is a topic my friends and I discuss quite often. I work mostly with German people and have great colleagues but sadly not German friends. :(
I enjoy this channel's content very much. Thumbs up.
I had been living in Berlin for one year, and now I live in a smaller German city for over 10 year. Not a single German friend.
As a man you can only make German male friends only if you drink a lot of alcohol and talk about cars the whole time.
How to find friends in Germany?
This is easy, during my Student Life in Germany, I lived in a studentenwohnheim(student dorm) and I was fortunate to become friends with people from across the continents and I am still in contact with them.
If the question is:
How to find German friends in Germany?
Then the answer is: It's next to impossible.
Living in Germany for almost 5 years, I found people are really "cold" when accepting an "outsider" into their core.
Whereas in Canada or Ireland they will always ask you join them.
Living in Austria as an internee, has also been a nice experience until I was in a student dorm there also.
So no offence, but from my experiences, I found the German speaking belt(Germany, Austria and German speaking part Of Switzerland) people are next to approachable.
One of the reasons being the language, but even if you try to speak the language there is no motivation from the other(with whom you communicate).
For example: As per a Spanish girl(I have been in relationship with her) Spanish people do encourage you speak their language and also show their happiness even you make mistakes.
Sorry for these negative aspects but it my opinions are from my experiences.
Someone else can have positive experience and I totally agree with him/her.
I made the same experiences, if you want, read my comment above (in German)
You are 100% right. I had also the same experience.
@@weldbled902 I can partially agree here, because French one level up in this regard :)
Sorry, but I would like to disagree. Firstly, what I have experienced is the Germans they always encourage and motivate you to speak German. Secondly, From my personal experience last April I met a bunch of guys & girls playing Chess nearby a small canal and randomly I asked them if I could play with them and from that day on, we (like 5 or 6 mostly of us) always hangout together like going to bars, clubs, concerts, parties etc. And honestly I never felt any kind of discrimination (because of my religion or colour or language or anything) . I don't even remember how many times have I crashed at their place for the night and they were always cool with that or probably one can just say that I got lucky.
@@cccvvv630 you know that Bayern is totally different from the rest of Germany the culture, Dialect even politically as a matter of fact most of them don't even like other Germans and sorry to say but you didn't decide a friendly Bundesland. Most of them don't prefer speaking Hochdeutsch they prefer Bairisch and No Joke I can imagine things being tough for you there. But honestly that wasn't a smart selection. On the other hand, Berlin would have been a total different experience.
When she said "los gehts" i almost expected she would walk while the camera being followed, but then i remembered that this is a lockdown video haha.
LOL
Good times...
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I love how Germans view friendship. I met my German friends in Uni in 2007 and we are still friends. Visiting each other, traveling together and writing letters in the post even. I think it's hard to make a German friend but once you do, you will have a friend for life.
How to find German friends? Go and talk to foreigners, because you won't get a German friend xD
Exactly!
Absolutely correct. Many ex-pat UA-camrs have said this. They may have a few German acquaintances, but the people they call friends are other ex-pats.
😂😂
exactly, who needs German friends anyway!
Friends with spies?
So if I want to find a good friend I should just hang around at kidnergarten?
haha well played
ahaha creepy one
Yeah , you'll have some real good friends , in prison
Just don't give them any candy.
That might look dodgy
I always thought I make friends very easy and fast, until I moved to Germany a year and a half ago...
Hmm, I was wrong!
Hahaha I feel exactly the same 🤷🏻♀️
@@eugeniapretel7320 I also feel the same, lets be friends.........would you ?
Same
@@eugeniapretel7320 hiiiii
@sirLiridon where are you based in Germany
Now I can understand, why loneliness surrounds me in Germany all the time.
Ich bin jetzt seit drei Jahren in Deutschland, und es fällt mir immer noch schwer, Freundschaften zu schließen - aber nur mit Deutschen. Ich habe Freunde aus vielen verschiedenen Hintergründen, aber nichts mit den Deutschen! Sie reden viel über Integration, aber fast niemand will mit einem Ausländer befreundet sein. Ich finde das komisch, weil ich in London gelebt habe und es wirklich keine Rolle spielt, woher man kommt. Naja vielleicht sind meine Erwartungen zu Hoch!
Das gleiche hier
Ich glaube wirklich nicht, dass es damit zutun hat, dass du aus dem Ausland kommst. Wir Deutsche sind einfach generell reservierter. Auch zwischen Deutschen ist das nicht so leicht 🤷🏽♀️
@@leonoraauer2159 Ich habe einige Bekannte mit erkennbarem Migrationshintergrund, die Ähnliches berichten. Ich denke schon, dass das eine Rolle spielt. Studien in der Hinsicht sind ja auch einschlägig, leider.
Naja kommt halt auch immer darauf an wo man lebt im Land. London oder Berlin ist sowas kein Problem, aber Brandenburg und Wales im Hinterland ist sowas schon schwerer.
kann man wirklich nicht sagen. Ich habe einen sehr offensichtlichen Migrationshintergrund habe aber viele Bio-Deutsche Freunde.
German here. Sadly this couldn't be more true. It's not like we don't want to make new friends. We are just very shy and stressed out. As someone who had to move around a lot I always struggled to find new friends as well. Even if you get to know people closer you will be an outsider. I'd argue it is even harder for Germans because foreigners at least have something interesting to them (different culture/language).
I strongly suggest moving into a shared appartment. This helped me a lot. While I still wasn't able to find many German friends native to the respective region I at least managed to make some German friends who were 'foreign' like me. This usually works for most age groups nowadays. I'm 37 now and I still live in a shared appartment.
Its quite simple actually you just have to make wochenende plans 8 month ahead. If you meet someone for 3 weekends in a year they are your best friends .
Looooool. Best comment xD
🤣🤣🤣
Hahhah
I am in Germany since 5 years and I have 0 german friends, I actually got used to the fact that friends are always foreigners and Germans are people you work with or meet with in some occasions and then you hold only superficial and cautious talks with them.
Well said!😅
Und ich: 1. bin eine Polin die seit 7 Monaten in DE wohnt
2. hatte vorher schon überwiegend Deutsche Freunde, jetzt nur Deutsche😮
I think it takes a lot of time to really have a German friend. Germans need a lot of time to be convinced that you are worthy of their friendship. They want to see you from all the perspectives of life and then perhaps you will have a friendly connection with them.
Anyway, one of the biggest barriers is the language. Germans don't speak English very well. Only a few people do or are willing to speak in a foreign language. Only after I had German at level B1 or a bit further, could I establish more connections with German people. I got to know a lot of Germans when I moved to Germany, but it was after I could hold a conversation in German that the connection was strengthened.
Then the other factor that may play a big role in finding friends in Germany is privacy. Germans mind their privacy a lot, and I hate it like hell. It seems as it is the most important and valuable thing they have. No wonder why a lot of people here experience a lot of stress. To me it's absolutely staggering how much is the privacy valued in Germany.
Another thing I'd like to point out is: there undeniably exists a hierarchy between foreigners (Ausländer) in Germany. Usually people coming from countries such as Iran, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iraq, Egypt, Libya, partially Syria, an largely some countries in North Africa, are seen as OK at best and old-fashioned by and large, and foreigners with a Western or southern background are seen as cool, approachable, and sometimes fancy and very modern.
I remember two scenarios that best demonstrate this. Firstly, I remember being in a party last year and I introduced myself to some German students who were sitting next to me and 3 of my friends. On a case of me being from Albania, the reaction was like cool, nice. On the case of my Brazilian friend, the reaction from Germans was amazing, (wunderbar!). The same went for my American friend, but it wasn't so for our Syrian friend. I also have had situations on the train where I was asked where I came from and still the reaction was cool, but it was only (schön) or very silently said (geht) for individuals from Syria or Kazakhstan or Pakistan or Iran and so on. By this, I'd like to say that besides the normal barriers that people have to face with regard to finding friends, some nationalities, due to their respective stereotypes and background, will face more difficulties establishing friendship or a normal connection at work or school or university.
My tip for people moving to Germany is, try integrating as much as you can in the German society, especially with regard to acquiring the language and traditions, culture and some small social acts. And remember, as the saying goes, as it takes a German to change a lightbulb; it takes a beer to make a German happy. 😂
THIS!
Very well said.
I've never been to Germany, but I have an awesome German friend. I hosted him through Couchsurfing in my home in Hungary, and we became friends. It turned out that we have many common intetests. He even invited me to Germany. Couchsurfing is a great way to make friendships.
You’re doing an amazing job creating videos in this strange new environment we all find ourselves in. This worked really well! Thanks
I can not say how grateful I am to have your channel as a German studying reference.
I've been following you since the very first day I learn German, and indeed, your videos are the motivation for me to keep up with the language that I once thought was impossible.
Hopefully you will keep producing good videos like this, and gesund bleiben!!!
It's quite discouraging to hear how hard it is to befriend someone in Germany.....I'll still try learn the language and hopefully try to meet people open for a friend
I feel the same... 😏
Angel Starfire my bro don’t worry yourself just get yourself a job and that is besser.
@@doloalahalana316 a job in Germany? To make friends at my job?
Yes you will always feel the same here, so if you have job concentrate on your job. Even if you get a friend in here after when you don’t work there again they will not mind you again.
Especially if you are a man. With women you will always find someone to date here and will keep the friendship going if not forget it.
If you to have forever friends here then look for foreigners then you will always have some one to call a friend.
same, considering that i already have a huge problem making friends
für mich es war anfangs schwer, ich habe versucht beim Sport, Tandemparnter/in (gut geklappt). Auch Veranstaltungen und konzerte, beim Studium an der Uni. und jetzt kann ich sagen, ich habe viele deutsche und internationale Freunde. Aber was nicht im Video genannt wurde, dass es auch von deine Offenheit und Flexibilität andere Kultur und Denkweise zu akzeptieren, respektieren und zu verstehen, abhängig.
euer Freund Mo aus dem Sudan
I couldn't find any friend in my own country, guess I'll be alone in Germany too, no big deal ahhaah
Maybe travelling isn't actually a bad idea to try out new things and overcome some fears and obstacles. Whether Germany is the right country or another one... it's always worth it to try new things out. Lots of love from Berlin ❤️
@@EasyGerman danke ^^ ich war nie eine soziale Person... Das ist mein eigenes Problem :)
@@ileanamariani1538 I'd be glad to be your friend
Story of my life..
@@katiejka3438 I will be friend with all the Ausländer then :)
For some realistic advice I'd say join a sports club. Or start a language course or some other course about anything. Germans are way easier to talk to when they're alone too. I say that as a German.
nah its never a friendship. as soon as I stopped going to Verein, they stopped contacting
@@A-Wa "Aus den Augen, aus dem Sinn..."
I joined a sports verein, try to enter a tennis class. teacher answered me after a month ("A MONTH") That she could make a test of how did I play. I said very politely, please I joined this club to try to meet people and play, and just after a month you contact me back. I went away. Its very sad to say it, but similar things have happened to me very often. Im sad that german society its so self centered and un-empathic. Im sad for German people that have never knew the warmth of having more social interaction or more family time. In my opinion lots of times you feel very alone in Gemany.
accept that germans make peoples feel so lonely
Ich habe einen Austausch in Deutschland gemacht und habe fast zwei Jahre dort gelebt. Ich muss es sagen, es war sehr schwierig deutsche Freunden zu finden. Ich habe ein Jahr an der Uni studiert und dort habe ich an einen Sportverein teilgenommen aber das war nicht sehr erfolgreich, weil fast jeder schon Teil einer kleinen Gruppe war. Wie jemand im Video gesagt hat, ist es sehr viel leichter Freunde, die auch fremd in Deutschland sind, zu finden und das war genau was mit mir passiert ist. Die schlechte Seite ist, dass ich viele Brasilianer kennengelernt habe und am Ende viel Portugiesisch gesprochen habe, anstatt nur Deutsch zu sprechen
é verdade...
Ich Stimme dazu
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@@odonkor989 wieso ??
Du bist richtig, aber bitte versuchst du am besten. Viel Glück
Freundschaft schließen - I once thought this meant to fold or close a friendship.. to end it. But more like ‘close a deal’ it turns out
😂 I never really thought about this term! That's quite a good observation!
Ich auch 😅
It would seem more obvious to me to use the term "'Freundschaft öffnen" or "Freundscaft beginnen" rather than "'Freundschaft schliessen"
Same here..the term einen Vertag abschließen was also very confusing at the beginning. So I was like do we want to terminate the contract or sign it🙄😁🤦♀️?
This could tell a lot about their way of thinking. Instead of being something open it turns into something that is limited and given with a good dose of prudence, one might say. Being friends here has maybe a much more meaningful connotation, that is why is not offered to the first girl/guy passing by. It is something that I appreciate but at the same time it makes things much more difficult.
I don't even know how to find them in my country lol
AAHAHAAHA true story!
Hahahah
hahaha
Let’s be friends! ☺️
Exactly what I was about to write 😂😭
What I found ironic living in Germany is, they complain that foreigners don't learn the language or try to integrate. I'm American with German grandparents. I speak fluent German, look German, dress German and really wanted to integrate with Germans, but when I moved back to a town in B-W, all I got was aggressive and impolite people everywhere I went. I would introduce myself in perfect German, but they had no interest in getting to know me. One person even accused me of "taking a job from a German". For 5 long years, I rode my bicycle a lot and enjoyed the scenery, but was not happy again, until I moved back to the U.S.A. where I make a point of befriending Germans who have moved to my city.
Very mature and empathic of you to not hold a grudge and try to be kinder to foreigners in your city instead, I hope you're living a happy life now!
It is very difficult to come from an English speaking country where everyone is open and friendly to Germany.
yes ist true
I used to make more German friends who were expats when I used to live in my hometown. Later on I moved to Germany and tried to reach some of them but nope - they don't have time. Maybe next month second Sunday...
At the end of the day, I really do think about moving back to my country temporarily to make some German friends lol.
pmg, that sounds horrible. I don't like to put groups in a box, but B-Ws have a certain reputation also in Germany
summary of video: if you're eager to find german friends, go to kindergarden with your children.
Deutsche: ich habe meine Freunde kennengelernt als ich begoren bin, also im Krankenhaus 🤪🤐😁😁🤣🤣🤣
geboren oder begoren?
was bedeutet begoren? 🙈
Dass ist schon verrückte 😂😂
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Loooooool
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Ich muss sagen dass ich liebe deutsche Freunde habe, die so lieb zu mir sind und wenn ich nach Deutschland fliege sie zu besuchen, erlebe ich unvergessliche, liebevolle Momenten . Ich fuehle mich Teil ihres Leben auch wenn wir fern sind, da ich aus Peru bin. Wir kennen uns schoen lange, fast 20 Jahre und ich muss auch sagen, eine meiner Freundinnen hat mich regelmaessig geschrieben und dadurch ist die Freundschaft gehalten. Ich war Aupair-maedchen und war 1 Jahr in Berlin. Es war nicht einfach aber danke dieser Erfahrung habe ich immerwährende Freunden die mir wichtig sind. Sicherlich werde ich wieder reisen um sie zu besuchen. Was ich in Deutschland gemerkt habe ist dass fuer Deutsche der Privatraum wichtig ist. Abstand zu halten ist erforderlich und man sollte wissen wann nicht einzumischen. Deutschland hat ein Stuckchen meines Herzens. 🌹❤️
What lovely people all of these Germans appear to be! And what a pleasure to hear such beautiful spoken German.
Having a German and Irish background from my grandparents and having Native American Chata (Choctaw) from my Father's side. German is definitely the hardest to learn
The comments made sad.
I travelled to germany so many times and didn't notice coz I made friends with many locals. Visiting could be different than living of course. Whenever I travel around the world I find german travelers one of the coolest. I will open this subject with them next time and they will be straight giving me the answer :)
Because of my German roots, I feel obliged to partake in the pleasure of learning German. Auf Wiedersahen (or something close to that).
Es kommt darauf an, was für einen Mensch du bist, welche Menschen du triffst und einfach welche Umstände du gerade hast.
Und natürlich ist es besser nicht viel zu hoffen, wirklich echte Freunde zu finden, wie du in deiner Heimat hattest,
wenn du schon als Erwachsene nach Deutschland eingewandert bist.
What I dislike the most is the strong distinction between colleagues and friends. It's as if there is an unwritten rule that colleagues will stay colleagues and can never become friends.
I find it hard to make friends in my own country. I can only imagine what it would be like for me in Germany! It’s funny, though. While living in the UK my very best friend was a German girl I met at work. We never lost contact, even five years after I left.
Hallo zusammen!
Ich war zweimal in Deutschland. Ich habe ein paar Freunden bei den Internetwebsites gefunden, mit denen ich z. B. in Nürnberg mich getroffen habe, und das war auf jeden Fall eine schöne und krasse Erfahrung! Als ich gesagt habe, war ich nur zweimal in Deutschland, so keine Ahnung, wie man anderewiese Leute kennen lernen kann.
Ganz liebe Grüße and euch!
I must be pretty lucky to instantly befriend the first person I met in Berlin - my Airbnb host. And then his friends and friends of friends und so weiter. To me, Berlin seems a much friendlier place than my country (Belarus). And people greet their neighbours, so nice!
this made me sad because im looking forward to study in Germany and i already struggle a lot making friends in my own country :(
lets be friends
Im sure you will make friends at university! Just need the right mindset :)
Well... reconsider this maybe?
@@parasav989 wow i've never thought about this !!!!!!
no worries, you will make international friends. I came for studies in Germany over a year ago and the experience is worth it
The problem is, you just run the conversation with german people. Could be better if you run conversation with foreigners. It's always more difficult to communicate and find friends when you are a foreigner.
Danke fuers Video. Ich finde das Thema sehr interessant. Ich vermute dass es in jedem Land schwierig ist, neue Leute kennenzulernen, besonders in kleinen Staedten.
Ich bin Englaender und habe ein Jahr in Nuernberg studiert. Das ist schon zehn Jahr her aber ich muss zugeben, dass die Deutschen, mit denen ich in Kontakt gekommen bin, sehr freundlich und offen waren.
Ich spiele gern Fussball und hab mich damals zu einem Verein angemeldet. Bei dem erstren Training habe ich 25 Jungs gettoffen, die dieselben Interessen wie ich teilten. Weil ich ziemlich gut spielen kann, haben mich die Jungs gut aufgenommen. Sie haben mich sofort zum Feiern eingeladen. Ich war damals der Englaender, der zu viel Abends trinkt. Ich glaube dass es ihnen interessant damals war, mit einen Englaender rumzuhangen.
Daher bescliesse ich dass ich ueber den Verein sehr gute Freundschafte geschlossen habe. Ich wuerde empfehlen, einen Verein zu besuchen wenn man neu in Deutschland ist, da man auf gleichgessinte Leute treffen kann.
An der Uni war es ein wenig schwieriger, weil die meisten Studenten aus Nuernberg kamen und sich schon kannten. Zum Glueck waren zwei Jungs von der Fussballmannscahft auch an der Uni. Ich bin Ihnen gefolgt damit ich im Saal nich alleine sitzen musste.
What works for me is becoming a „regular“ at a local coffee shop that I like. It takes a bit of time but you get to know the baristas/employees and in turn other regulars. Meeting them there and having long conversations opens up doors. Also, as a climber, I have met other climbers and become friends with them outside of the climbing gym. You can post a „looking for climbing partner“ ad and get things rolling that way, or some other hobby looking for people to ... on eBay Kleinanzeigen.
Unfortunately this video was more of an example how difficult it is to make German friends than finding German friends 😕
Wow so ein nütlizliches Video!! 😊 Vielen Dank und liebe Grüße von einer Spanierin in Bremen die euch bewundere 💗💗💗
Es scheint mir, dass der beste Weg, Freunde in einer neuen Stadt zu finden, darin besteht, ein Hobby zu machen und die Menschen dort kennenzulernen. Meine persönliche Erfahrung bestätigt dies, ich habe alle meine engen Freunde in Tanzkursen kennengelernt.
Since moving to Germany 6 years ago, and having lived in 4 countries previously, im happy to say that Ive never met so many people before in my life. Maybe Germans are a little more reserved than English or whatever, but they are definitely very engaged in activities - art political activism, music, sport... it is sososososo easy to find people to play sport with, play music, start bands, do something political, start a business. you just gotta go out there and do it! the more "risk" the more reward basically.
Ok, what about real friends? You can "meet" anyone anywhere.
@@oGiygas yes plenty of real friends too... i personally find with Germans that after you get over the so-called "reserved" barrier you got a friend for life
Awesome! Nice to hear there is hope to for us foreigners to have German friends. I don't live in Germany (yet) but I'm learning German in case if in the future I decide to go there to live. I love culture of different countries and I often like to analyze how people live in other parts of the world.
@@oGiygas sounds good mate. positivity and getting out of your comfort zone were the main things for me (also avoiding big packs of English speakers who non-stop complain about Germans). good luck with it!
Hey all guys nice to listen all of your experiences about friendship in Germany. Thank you.
Thanks god I don't have to do any video on my channel on how to find Italian friends ahahahaha
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Haha so true.
Yep I agree , like you know..... normal people just talk and pass the time, don´t judge every word or intonation, feel happy if another does something that is good for them..... and abracadabra!!! ....It all feels a little more friendly than applying for the Ausbildung of friendship in a nation of dorks.
You would better do it actually. At least Germans have been more helpful to me while living in their country.
Maybe how not to 😅
Ich lebe seit über 50 Jahre in Michigan. Es ist immer leicht, hier neue Freunde zu finden, denn auch im Supermarkt fängt man gerne eine Unterhaltung an, wenn man mal länger Schlange steht. Auch sind hier die meisten Menschen religiös und dadurch gehen sie frei auf Neuankömmlinge in der Gemeinde zu. In Deutschland war es mir nur möglich, durch meine Arbeitsstelle Bekanntschaften zu schließen, aber niemals in der Bahn, auf dem Flugplatz oder in Restaurants.
I've also formed stronger friendships with fellow expats than I have with local Germans but, to be fair, it's hard to make local friends as a foreigner in any country, and harder still when you are not a student and don't have local housemates.
Ich habe ein Jahr in Düsseldorf gewohnt und am Anfang war es schwierig für mich neue Leute kennenzulernen, aber mit der Zeit habe ich Gruppe gefunden, die mich interessiert und danach war es einfacher gute Pläne am Wochenende zu haben,zB Gruppe für Hiking, Meetups über die Japanische Kultur (ich mag das sehr) Picnics, Grills, Partys und so weiter. Am Ende wollte ich nicht nach Mexiko wieder fahren, ich hatte auf jeden fall eine shöne Erfahrung in Deutschland und einige aber gute neue Freunden :)
I don't remember a lot of my german, I've been gone from Berlin for almost 30 years and miss it very much. I listen to your videos just to remember what it was like.
I loved this style of people answering because it is more audible and the answers look more interesting and well structured.
Ich freue mich darüber dass ihr auch zu Hause so interessante Videos dreht, als ob ihr auf der Straße wärt. :) Dieses Thema ist wichtig und ihr habt sehr nützliche Tipps gegeben. Viele Grüße aus Ungarn!
Estive na Alemanha duas vezes e notei que a dificuldade em fazer amizades na Alemanha é maior entre alemães que nunca saíram da Alemanha. Já aqueles que conhecem outros países são mais abertos ao contato com estrangeiros. Todavia, independente da quantidade, os poucos amigos que fiz já são o suficiente e gosto muito deles. Pelo menos são pessoas sinceras. Minha opinião...
Sie waren super Tipps. Ich habe auch eine Erfahrung dazu. Ich bin seit anderthalb Jahre in Deutschland und wohne mit meiner Familie in Hamburg. Zu Hause sprechen wir immer unsere Muttersprache. Aber ich möchte auch mit jemandem Deutsch sprechen. Auf diesem Grund habe ich die App nebenan verwandt. Vor einer Woche habe ich um Hilfe gefragt, ob jemand mir als Gesprächspartner helfen kann. Und dann haben viele gemeldet. Damit habe ich meine Nachbarn kennen gelernt. Wegen der aktuellen Situation können wir jetzt nur online. Aber ich hoffe, wenn corona vorbei wäre, können wir auch voreinander :) Vielen Dank.
making new friends around 30 is hard everywhere! : ) and I mean friends nicht Kollegen ; )
I am 20 and in a German University and speak perfekt German and have a lot of friends from other countries but just one from Germany haha.
@@AfroLinguo im in Canada, and i think Canadians are almost the same as germans hahah, they are all way too cold, i have some canadians friends, but not that much, im spanish btw.
@@miguelgt2002 I actually thought in Canada people would be different.
@@AfroLinguo nah, they same shit, pretty boring.
@@miguelgt2002 i thought canadians were warmer than germans and U.S people
I know it's an older video. But I've been thinking a few times about living in Germany. This video cured me from this idea. I imagine it is even worse now after all those lockdowns.
Yes. It is difficult to find German Friends. To add, I am Auslander und introvert.
Me too lol. Hard to find it in your own country, let alone in Germany
I LOVE these pronunciations !! Mainly the one from the presenting lady!! Vielen Danke fur das video
I really don’t know why ppl say it’s hard to find friends in Germany. I have so many, ppl are very open ... maybe is just me but making friends is very easy in Berlin!
Lola Who That’s because u r a woman
@@mehdihussaini6932 How does that help? I'm sure she's still talking about actual friends rather than people who secretly (or not so secretly) want to screw her.
@@JR-rf9sq it actually helps a lot, because german style of flirting is being nice and talkative, that's why you can get the impression of friendship
@@Zummota That makes no sense. Woman can flirt with men too and woman don't only make friends with males.
@@Zummota So then it would just be an Impression and not a real friendship.
I am almost 70 years old. I have lived 50 years in Germany and I speak fluent German. I don't drink alcohol, I am not a millionaire, I have no interest in Fussball or Schlagermusik. For foreign men in my position, after age 55, if you don't already have a partner here, finding one is impossible. Sure, it's easy when you're 20!
I think that on Europe is much complicated to make friends than other parts of the world. Only one person spoke to me. It was an old man in the metro in Paris and he asked me about my backpack. People saw him as if he was a crazy man.
haha had the same experience on metro in Frankfurt old man was super interested in my bicycle bag
Cari, danke für die Abwechslung von dem Corona! Obwohl wir einen Abstand halten sollen, wir sind herzlich eng zusammengekommen durch dieses Video.
Ich wohne in HH seit 4 Jahren und ich würde sagen, dass die Sprache eine große Rolle spielt aber muss man auch nicht perfekt sprechen. Es reicht, wenn man sich ausdrücken kann.
Geduldig soll man auch sein und auch verschiedene Wege ausprobieren.
Ich habe jetzt mittlereweile viele Freunde gehabt sowohl Deutsche als auch Menschen, die aus dem Ausland sind und alle durch die Freizeitaktivitäten. Mein bester Kumpel kommt aus Schleswig-Holstein, also kühler sind sie nicht😊😊. Ich habe auch Freunde aus dem Süden, die hier arbeiten z.B. Mainz.
Die Arbeit hilft auch natürlich z.B. was essen nach der Arbeit.
Mein Tipp wäre: seid einfach mutig und denkt nicht an die Konsequenz.
LG
Tue, was sollst du tun und lass es sein was passiert.
I am german, and traveled to asia, US, spain, italy, england, and many other countries, and I find it always much more difficult to get in touch and build a connection with other germans. So sad about it here. I recommend sports Clubs, university cities and just try connecting, just calculate that you will fail some times
Ich bin Deutscher und habe 20 Jahre in Frankreich gelebt. Ich habe deutsche Freunde seit der Schulzeit. Es war für mich immer einfach Menschen und Freunde kennenzulernen - auch in Frankreich. Mein Rat: sei witzig! Sei interessant! Inspiriere andere! Erwarte nichts von anderen! Sei großzügig! Sei interessiert! Nimm dich nicht so wichtig! Lade andere zum Abendessen bei dir ein und warte auf die Gegeneinladung! Urteile nicht über andere... und stelle niemals die Frage: "wollen wir Freunde sein?". Freundschaft und Liebe kann man nicht erzwingen. Sie kommt, wenn man nicht damit rechnet. Bekannte und Buddies, mit denen man mal einen Kaffee trinken gehen kann, findet man überall - auch in Deutschland. Wenn man dann aber nicht interessant oder interessiert ist und nur von sich erzählt, dann wird nix draus.
Was du hier beschreibst (u.a. inspiriere andere ... interessiere dich für sie... lad sie zum Essen ein...) das gilt für die zweite Phase des Kontakte knüpfens. Die meisten Deutschen lassen aber schon die erste Phase nicht zu, reagieren nicht auf ein freundliches Hallo, erste Smalltalk-Sätze, um überhaupt eine Konversation zu beginnen, oder sind einfach unfreundlich. Und es gibt viele Jobs, da ist nichts anderes möglich, als nur ganz kurz Freundlichkeiten auszutauschen, wo nur direkt freundliche Antworten klar machen könnten, ob man sich auch mal für einen längeren Smalltalk irgendwo treffen könnte oder nicht. Wenn aber bei den kurzen Möglichkeiten schon gar keine Reaktionen kommen, sondern nur Desinteresse, dann hat man nie die Chance, Dinge umzusetzen, die du hier auflistest. Oder anderes Beispiel: Mit Kind auf Spielplatz: in England sind sofort sehr freundliche, offene und einladende Gespräche möglich, völlig ungezwungen, in Deutschland wird man oft blöd angeschaut, wenn man jemanden freundlich anspricht, ggf. wird man regelrecht verwundert angeschaut oder es kommt nur eine sehr knappe Antwort zurück, aber kein Gespräch. Anders natürlich bei den Einheimischen unter sich, die sich ggf. schon seit der Kindheit kennen.
Who wants a new friend?? 😁
Ich brauche freunde!
Hope all of yall stay safe in this virus crisis & wash yall hands
Thank you Cari for this video...I'm planning to move to Deutschland after this pandemic finish and I hope to find a job and make new friends.
Pandemic situation won't finish so fast....
Viel Glück
Last year when I visited Germany I tried to talk to people in a bar, no one would talk to me. Finally a man from Hungary would talk to me, this was in Berlin. In Munich I met a couple at Oktoberfest and they showed my husband and I around, they were very nice.
Don't expect many Germans to ask you if you want to do something interesting on the weekend.Because you will only get dissapointed.Make sure you have a good circle of friends who are non-Germans like yourself.People you can meet up with often.Then you can be fairly happy in Germany.
Gut, dass sie Natalie Portman eingeladen haben. Ich habe nie gedacht, dass sie so toll auf Deutsch spricht.
I grew up in Germany as a kid (to all those who say they should probably start from kindergarten to make friends) it still didn’t work out. I barely had friends until 4th grade when suddenly all my classmates became kinder and I don’t even know why that happened because I was the same person. I suddenly had 10 really good friends and things were awesome when suddenly in 5th grade as I had to go to a new school everything just went back to how it was and I had no friends again. Even then most kids knew each other from a previous school and hung up with the same people. It was extremely difficult to approach people. Most bullied me for being a foreigner although I spoke perfect German and some were just ok and kind but not really up to being friends. I spent most of my time in solitude and begged my parents to go back to my home country. We did. Living like that gave me such a big trauma as a kid I’ve never actually gotten over it. I never got any better. I did make tons of friends in my own country and got over depression and all that but the amount of self loathing and the feeling of not being good enough kind of always still pops up unconsciously. So fast forward to now. I’ve lived in a few other places including south Korea which is just the same as Germany only a bit better. I’ve realized through all of this that I’m no better than Germans. I only have a handful of friends and barely accept new people into my life. I talk to others but I start to ignore them when my messages get too much because if I spend time with a new person I will have less time with my old friends. I don’t know if this is called being racist but I usually don’t make foreigner friends at my uni either. Idk if Germany has rubbed off on me or if this is human nature but realizing I’m not better has helped me a lot with my childhood trauma. I’m 23 and I’ve decided to move back to Germany but reading the comments kinda scares the crap out of me and Idk what to do
Hello
Yes you are racist
In meinem Heimatland hab ich viele Freunde kennengelernt. Ich hab ein bester Freund, den ich als im Kindergarten gesehen habe. Meine Freundschaft dauert fast 19 Jahre. Aber in Deutschland glaube ich nicht so einfach wie meine Heimat. Und ich hoffe, dass ich bald nach Deutschlanf kommen kann, denn ich jetzt noch in Vietnam bin😊
I'm German, lived abroad for over 12 years in three different countries and recently moved back to Germany. I also find it difficult to make friends (again) in Germany, because if you live abroad you lose touch. So, I will try some of these things.
However, I also wanted to point out what one person said in the video: My experience abroad was also that it is always difficult to immigrate into another country/culture and make friends to the "native" people. This is especially true if you are by yourself, if your partner is originally from the country you live in, I believe it might be a different story. So, another tip could also be to find a German partner better sooner than later. lol
yeah, someone introduce me to a bitter hard to get German guy , please 😂.
Thanks for the tip 😂
Carina, I retested on a random German vocabulary quiz online a second time y received a 90 score. The certificate never printed that out but rather the first test to which I did which was 54/60 did. So much for electronics. Nevertheless, I appreciate, as well as others all your videos for educating peoples all over the world. Gott segne dich. You are klar y thorough. Danke schon.
I believe that Germans - like me - clearly differentiate between "friends" and "acquaintances". A friend is often a person that you are really close to, you trust a lot. A friend is often at least as close as family. So, I would say that "friend" and "Freund/Freundin" are linguistically "false friends". I would say that I only have about five real friends (or even less).
Eine kleine Hoffnung ergab sich in meinem Kopf als ich das Titel dieses Videos erstmal sah, und nachdem ich es angeschaut habe, .... die Hoffnung verschwindet
I can't be bored to beg for their friendship. They are extremely reserved and weird people no wonder you find many of them visiting periodically to a psychologist. I work here and my friends are foreigners. I'm planning to make some money and go back to my country or go somewhere else where I can just see happy faces. After this Coronaschieße and social distance no chance at all.
It's always easier to make foreigner friends since they are looking for friendship as well, being the minority.
Seit ich in Österreich bin, schließe ich wegen meiner Kurse nur mit Ausländern Freundschaft , aber letztes Jahr habe ich mich mit Österreicherin befreundet. Ich bin sehr froh darüber, dass sie mit mir kennengelernt hat ❤️ Deshalb bekomme ich viel Spaß, wenn ich gleichzeitig Deutsch lernen kann und ich habe Seelenverwandte gefunden. Vorher war sie meine Fahrlehrerin und ich hatte mit ihr Übungen gemacht. Trotz dem Grund, dass ich aus einem anderen Land umgezogen bin und oft Fehler in unserem Gespräch mache, unterstützt sie mich. Ich wünsche allen Neuen, früher Freunde zu finden.
Liebe Grüße
Diana
Meiner persönlichen Erfahrung: hier ist obwohl nicht so einfach eine Freundschaft zu schließen, aber wenn man einen Kontakt geknüpft hat, kann man sicher sein dass sie richtige Freunde sind.
Prost zu meinem Kumpeln in Berlin, Köln und Hannover.
Ich stimme zu
I wish I had found this video decades ago.
I lived in Germany for a year and it's true I didn't make any German friends, which is a shame because I met a lot of nice people. Instead, the friends I did make (all foreign.... I was doing my Erasmus year and it's just easier to mingle in an international crowd), I still consider good friends even if we live in various countries and don't really see each other.
I now live in Spain and I must say that it isn't any easier making friends here, despite having a very good grasp of the language. The two friends I did make are both foreign. I find Spanish people to have a particular kind of humor, conversation topics and way of speaking with people they just met. I've tried to emmulate this behavior to no avail.... I do take into consideration the fact that it might just be me, I'm just a bit weird.
Making friends as an adult it's so freakin hard :(
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Hallo easy German aus Georgien! Ich habe seit 20 Tagen diser Kanal gefunden und ich habe fast 200 Videos gesehen.✌ Vilen dank ❣ ihre Videos sind sehr sehr hilfreich! Besonders Cari ist cool 😁 ✌❤ Sie haben sehr schöne Augen und Lachen. 👀😁❤
I think the biggest obstacle is language. Although many Germans can speak fluent English, the conversation stucks at some point. The worst case is, when they have to switch to English only for you, that is totally embarrasing for me. Thanks to Easy German videos and podcasts, we learn a lot and break this barrier but for sure we need more and more :)
Freundliche Grüße aus München
Ich habe einen deutschen engen Freund, den ich anhand des DRK(Deutsches Rotes Kreuz) kennengelernt habe. Ich hatte damals eine mündliche Sprachprüfung und war total schlecht beim Sprechen und habe ans DRK um die Hilfe gebeten, um einen Sprachpartner zu finden. Es dauerte nicht zu langer Zeit und ich habe den jetzigen Freund kennengelernt. Er hat mir bei der Vorbereitung so viel geholfen und mit Hilfe von seiner Unterstützung habe ich die sogenannte Prüfung bestanden und dann habe ich mich an der Uni eingeschrieben. Wir sind noch befreundet.
Ich würde sagen, dass alle Deutsche nicht immer kühl sind. Das ist ein berühmtes Vorurteil. Um einen(eine)Sprachpartner(in) zu finden, empfehle ich euch absolut, dass ihr es versucht, nach den Hilfeorganisationen zu fragen.
It's a very useful channel......