1. Lack of emotional connection 2. Diminished personal growth 3. The man lacks masculine energy 4. You don’t respect or admire him 5. There is limited communication and expression 6. Compromise values and core beliefs 7. When you see unfulfilled potential in yourself/lack of support 8. When you live with resentment for unmet needs
I wish i never opened the door when he knocked on it...i don't even know how he knew where i lived when we was in college in apartments off campus...i didn't even really think about how creepy that was...but i see the creepy stalker behavior now when im trying to get him out of my life ☹️
I am a 54 year old widow. Happily married for 23 years. I stumbled into the dating scene TOTALLY unprepared for these dating shenanigans. Came across one of your videos one day this past summer and have been listening and subscribing to you ever since. As old as I am this advice is STILL relevant even for someone my age. One of your dating videos even made me cancel a date with a man I was having second thoughts about. I'm glad I did because I ended up finding out he had a long time girlfriend. You are sooo right that women need to follow their intuition. It can save us a lot of heartache. I would love to be married again someday to " my person" but as they say "I'll wait" on God🙏🏽😊
I pray that God brings you a man to love you unconditionally, throughout the good and the bad times, you’re a wonderful woman and you deserve the most beautiful things the love and relationship has to offer
I’m would really love to have a conversation with you ma’am, your comments has led my spirit on. And I feel deeply instructed to try and reach out to you
You are NOT old at all. You are at the peak of your best life my friend. If you don't believe me, ask an 80-year-old woman! Age is only a categorization of time spent on earth. As the years mature, you will reflect on this period of your life later on and realize that you were indeed at the pinnacle of your life. May God recharge your intuition so that you will make only decisions that will serve His purpose in your life!
I was 55 when I became single after over 25 years. I wasn’t prepared either! It’s taken me 6 years to figure the shenanigans out and basically who I am as a contemporary woman at this age. I had met a male right after my divorce and God made it clear…him being nice, have a modest retirement, and wanted me is not enough for me. Friends were telling me basically I was too old to be this picky. Some of these older guys are man boys. I wish Pastor Blake was around back then, but grateful for his teaching now.
9.When you feel yourself holding back ( you don't give your all to him) . 10. When you feel a sense of relief when you are apart ( a break up, travel etc. )
(1) (2) Deminished personal growth ( Jeremiah 29:11) (3) The man lacks masculinity (1 Peter 3:7) (4) You don’t respect or admire him (5) Limited communication or expressions. (Amos 3:3) (Isiah 1:18) (6) When you compromise your core values and beliefs. (2Corinthians 6:14) (7) Lack of support ( (8) When you’re living with resentment or unmet needs. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
1. Lack of emotional connection; 2. Diminished personal growth; 3. He lacks masculine energy; 4. You don't respect or admire him; 5. You are limited in your communication and expression; 6. You are compromising your values and your core beliefs; 7. When you look at yourself and see unfulfilled potential; 8. You are living with resentment for unmet needs
This is every relationship I’ve ever been in. Most of these even apply to my previous marriage. I don’t know what to do other than just to remain single because this is all I’m encountering.
On a Sunday morning, I attended a church where the 73 yr old Pastor said his mother told his sisters, “A piece of a man is better than no man.” He went on to talk about having a pair of britches at the table was better than not having a man at all. This was part of his sermon to a congregation predominantly single women; many of whom were single mothers. I was horrified. After service, I challenged him on that disruptive, ill, sabotaging advice. I pointed out how harmful such a message was especially considering the makeup of the congregation. I communicated many of the women struggled with low self awareness and value. The implications of such a message was physically dangerous to the vulnerable population entrusted to him. He stood on his advice. I was grieved when I thought of the life his mother and his own wife must have endured. I remember thinking God was merciful by not allowing them to conceive because he potentially ruined generations of other people’s children. I never trusted him again, lost complete respect for the other ministers and elders who did not have the courage to speak up. I recall feeling dreadful and physically ill Sunday mornings. I left and never returned to church.
I congratulate you for having the courage to stand up for the truth. And leaving. Dr Michael Brown ( Pensacola Revival) said be very careful whos teaching you sit under. The time is coming, is here, when satan will come in and twist the truth. Many will believe, be duped into believing false doctrine because they do not know or read the Word for themselves. Well done to you. Xx
You are amazing, brilliant, and I can relate. Too often some pastors are insensitive, and bizarre. It’s safer for us to be out of toxic churches and to connect with Jesus and our spirituality by finding balanced teachings and doing self-care.
I have literally gotten up and walked out of a church before because the pastor was preaching a similar sermon based on belittling women and how men are at an ADVANTAGE of women because men exist with power to control women. I upped and LEFT. NEVER went back ‼️
Accurate, I left a relationship with a man that hit all 8 points but now I've met a man that does the opposite of all 8 points....! Do not settle please please!
Or either they have deep rooted emotional issues. Many men are depressed and want a woman to avoid being lonely. Not all men are cheating, some just aren’t happy and they self sabotage as they are emotionally unavailable to themselves and can’t give to others. I’ve seen it happen. You can’t give what you don’t have for yourself.
Yessssssssss most times we do get a head of our personal growth with God and go pair up with people we're not ready for and end up in a hotttttttt messss.
"You have stopped growing since you been with this man" omg that was so me . I'm definitely back on track. He definitely put a pause on my life . But I have definitely pressed play again !
This message is helping someone.. God has NOT given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. Not every woman is afraid of being alone. God is a keeper. I trust God. Not afraid of this sick society’s judgement. I fear no one. Isolation is preparation. Praise the Lord! ✨🙏🏽✨
We settle because of fear of being alone the rest of our lives, not getting the help we need when we need it. Fear is the opposite of Faith. God is always with us and He understands everything about us. Women should be more concerned with taking care of their own needs, saving and investing for their futures, getting debt free. Saving and investing should be a priority for those in their 20s so that they will have financial security when they are old and sick. Trust in God, not man. People will come and go, but God will never leave us nor forsake us. Thank you so much for your awesome wisdom, Pastor Blakes. You are helping so many of us. God bless you, your family, your ministry.
Before we marry our spouse we must marry GOD. I tell my husband constantly I'm married to GOD, so he knows I'm gonna try to do the right thing at all times. We will make some mistakes, but it shouldn't be severe. My rings didn't just come from my earthly husband, but from my Heavenly Father who truly holds my heart 💖💖💖
Dear Lord how many relationships I have had where I was settling. 😳 They can say all the nice things though…I think if us women look deep inside..better alone single, we will achieve more in life. 🙏🏽💪🏼 Thank you Bishop, as always. ❤
I thank God for allowing me to accept what I couldn’t change in a relationship , many of these points were what led me to call-off my wedding. I knew I’d be settling if I followed through and the Holy Spirit wouldn’t let up that it wasn’t meant for me through hearing Him say, “No, not right now”
Ouch 😣…last week I realized he didn’t love me….this week I found out I was settling. But deep down I knew that. Thank you Unc for the lessons, and for pouring into us. I shall get this right and build on a beautiful godly foundation. Much love and respect ❤
I’m single and I’m learning why I had so many unsupportive relationships. It’s an eye opener for me. To reveal the truth that’s within you or others. God bless you Bishop R.C.Blake’s
I was born in Sierra Leone, and I thank our Heavenly Father that my parents were in Christ Jesus before I was born. I have known better all my life. I pray that at 65 a widow, NEVER go wrong with my Lord.
I know I settled. Married 13 years. Praying after I am open with him about my needs, he will hear it. If not, I will have to leave and work through the fear of being alone.
26 years old and settling. I just had our baby weeks ago and he already puts all of this sexual pressure on me. When i say im tired or just not up to it im "making excuses" . Im tired of being with a man that always wants me to prove something to him a man that is all about getting his needs met thru me no mattter how im feeling. Im tired of being with a man that makes me doubt my own ability to think and reason. I don't admite anything about him, I pursued him with I was lonely and desperate, now that I got him I want out. I smoke daily to numb myself from the reality that although its hard to let go We were never meant to be together. All he talks about is sex. My needs are unmet When you idolize a man so much you feel like you're so lucky to have him so much so you lose sight of your own worthiness. You lose sight of the fact that he wasn't even on your level or deserved a chance with you but he broke you down with intentional games to make you feel less than so you would accept his crumbs.
wow i have had moments of crying all day realizing how i have stopped growing since i have been with him. Got married and it got worse. he pretended to change for a while before we got married. fooled me for sure. idk, he tries but i'm so disconnected because of all the crap through the years. even though he is trying now i don't want it and it's probably just to get what he wants. Ladies please don't settle you will be miserable the entire time.
Wow! This message really spoke to me. I can relate every one of the points from past relationships. I’m so glad I finally learned and accepted the truth, so I could move on. Ladies: until you accept the truth about your situation and the relationship you’ll continue to stay stuck. Praying for everyone.
Always be polite and nice when a man is being polite and nice. I was in Wawa a few days ago when a man said, " excuse me, you have beautiful skin , I'll bet you hear that all the time ?" I smiled and said thank you, you have a beautiful complexion. Then his woman walked over and I kept it moving lol when you settle for the wrong man he makes you feel more lonely than when you are single. I've been single for a long time and it's the most content and peaceful 💙 I've ever been in my adulthood
Hello Queens, Chicago in the house, so glad to be here tonight, may God give us all discernment in these difficult times. May God continue to bless and keep you all safe as we strive to achieve our goals in life.🙏❤️☺️
I dated a man who did something I did not like. When I brought it up a few days later, not in the moment, he replied, " You know, a man should not even know you're that observant." I kid you not...I was so stunned that he was so blatantly bold and ignorant. Clearly, he was not only trying to bully me into silence but trying to cheapen me. I let that go.
The reason why we get up tight when a man or dude says hello… Is because it’s never just hello 👋🏾 They be wanting to get our number and they have a bad agenda. We’re tired of the bs. It always starts as a hello how you doing today but it doesn’t end well afterwards 😅😢 Ladies take your time and stop wasting your youthful self,energy, and time. You deserve so much better ❤
Bishop!! I needed this today. Took the steps to end a Marriage that I was not fulfilled in. I wish my Father had this talk with me growing up. I knew no better.
This one hit me hard. Thank you so much RC Blake’s, I’m eternally grateful for your wise words of wisdom. 2 and a half years on I’m free from unhappiness and resentment, no longer settling. God has open so many doors ever since.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Facts# Did this 37 years ago and you are 100% spot on. No emotional connection, he was always and still is emotionally connected to habitual tv watching. Day, night on the phone, it’s constant. From 1-8 sadly described my marriage of almost 38 years. If there is no emotional connection, move on. Sad to say, I’m not a cheater, but got involved with someone who was emotionally connected with me and PAID Attention a few years ago, never cheated before. From New Orleans with deep core values, attended catholic school and went to the Baptist Church every Sunday as a child and still went even into adulthood. Rev. Blakes, what a message🙏🏽 got married in my 20s when I should have waited for my King, someone who could be connected in every way, but “settled” so to say, I wanted children one day and not out of wedlock. He’s not a masculine man, etc. Amazing how this message explained every aspect of my wedlock situation. Unhappy and resentful😢
I'm in the process of divorcing this situationship. RC you're spot on. For 20 years I've settled on every point until this July when I finally woke up and God has been good. I will keep praising Him. Hallelujah
Whoo! Good word Pastor R.C. I'm not settling! Been there, done that! Not again. Just left me disappointed. Im waiting on God now to manifest my husband. I told God, you know where I'm at, the places i go, my morals, values and desires, so let us meet together at the same place. You are my matchmaker and you know the desires of my heart. I trust you completely, Lord, because you are all i have, right now! I dont care how much money he makes because I've met them and we had no emotionally or spiritual connection. Pastor, has the Lord spoke to you and Lisa about launching a Christ centered matchmaking company? I think you would be world-renowned! Ypu and Lisa are the true model for a God ordained marriage! I just love you two! Keep the wisdom coming Pastor. God is using you two mighty!
19 months I spent in the only relationship I’ve been in with an emotionally unavailable man. Throughout I kept saying “I don’t feel like we’re growing…” and a year with healing a growth under my belt, I know now it was due to the emotional gulf I was experiencing and his inability to fulfil me even in the basic things. Thanking God he got me out of that and I look forward to what he truly has for me.
I’m so excited to finally catch a LIVE video! Good evening Pastor! I’m the lady that Dr. Felix recorded at the gym in MS! I’m still watching your videos getting thru workouts! God bless you and your awesome wife and family! Keep helping us! ❤
I’ve been aware of 7 of those when I chose to marry my now ex husband. Ignored the very obvious signs (even on our first date!), operated from a masculine ‘fix it’ energy for a few years until I popped. I’ve learned, since then, to never ever ignore my intuition, stay true to myself, fix no one and dismiss/let go of men I would never ever be proud to be with. This was a great reminder lecture, ❤
I'm so guilty of these in so many ways it's embarrassing. Even when deep down in my soul, I knew it was not working, I stayed. I caused myself so much pain, which is hard to accept. God, please heal me from my past mistakes and poor decisions ❤🙏
Please like and share this video. Thank you in advance. Let's show our spiritual father our genuine appreciation for the wisdom and life lectures he effortlessly imparts to us every week. These lessons help us apply valuable attributes to our lives.We love you and Mrs. Blakes God bless you!
Dad, I'm so thankful you're covering your messages for both men and women..we all need spiritual guidance!! We love you ❤ for your obedience to the Word.
I BEEN THROUGH ALL THESE POINTS IN THE SITUATIONSHIP 😢. BUT I'VE FINALLY BACKED UP ALOT AND SET BOUNDARIES 😊. IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME, IT WILL BE COMPLETED ❤. THANKS YOU ARE ALWAYS ON TIME AT WORK CRYING 😭😭 SMH... FROM NORFOLK, VA
This is great reminder for women to understand their power. If a man is feminine in the relationship, the women is allowing it by bringing her masculine. We have to block our own limited beliefs about what’s available to us or what we can have in a relationship: marriage.
It's not easy to wait but is so worth it, to get it exactly what u've been waiting for, your whole life! Please belive me& trust in God, always! He knows u& knows what's best for each and everyone of us
Yes RC my big brother. Am a firstborn, what do you expect? Last week I saw all the signs he never loved me. Now I can't wait to see how I settled on a scale of 8. I feel bad and am sorry I stayed with a man who didn't love me. Am a woman with everything to love about her. Am glad he left me wish I left sooner
That was definitely me, settling for someone I knew wasn’t for me. I knew I didn’t want to even take him around my family, pants sagging 🤦🏽♀️ and I thought I was in love. 51 and thought, I’m getting older I better hold onto this. Thank God I’ve discovered these videos they have really opened my eyes and made me so much better.
I only settled once, it was nearly 20 years ago, but after that taxing experience, I promised myself that I would never do that again; however, here's what really sealed the deal to my commitment: During the time, I was in the midst of my settling, me and dozens of others witnessed someone yell out right in front of us AND the man she was talking about: "I DON'T WANT HIM!" Right then and there, I knew I would never 'EVA' settle for a Man. Plus, I come from a family of serial-settlers so witnessing that play over again and again, you may even want to consider to become a Nun (LOL). Speaking of play overs, THE LORD has shown me time and time again that what HE has for me is for me and therefore based on HIS splendid record, I already know that I don't have to settle for a Man because my HEAVENLY FATHER only dishes out the Best!
I’m so glad I found your channel! You have validated ALL of what I’d been feeling in my now former relationship!! Now time for healing and your videos are helping with that too. Thank you for these topics. Until I found your channel, I thought that these things were something I had made up in my head. Now I know that I should just follow my intuition because it comes from the Holy Spirit. Again, thank you thank you thank you! I thank God for you, Lisa and your ministry! ❤❤❤
Bishop, you give me more and more strength each day.. I love every bit of it. Can't wait for Queenolgy. That'll be my birthday present to myself in my favorite city.
Deminished personal life..🙋🏾♀️🤦🏽♀️guilty. Stip growing in all aspects. Ive been removed from that relationship, 2 years ago. Thank you God Almighty for that, but never make that miatake again.
Lol, man, this was spot on. My last relationship or whatever you want to call it was back in 2008-10ish. I had no respect for him. He was my son, and the only thing he led me to was the bedroom. Lord knows I had no business doing that.
Heeey 1st Lady❤️ Hellooo Bishop❤! I had the unique pleasure of meeting these 2 beautiful souls in person Sunday and when I tell you that they are genuine and love them some Jesus and people!!! I haven't stopped smiling 😁 and or talking about them. Thanks for welcoming me into your hearts and your home. Tekina A❤
Thank you for the teaching Pastor, in January this year I told myself i want to be the best version of myself and focus on building myself spiritual, physical .
Very true about when a woman doesn’t feel emotionally connected to a man. I had a man who I loved and we were aligned for marriage, but i became emotionally exhausted. I communicated my concerns often…not much changed. I suggested we meet w/ my Pastor- it didn’t work out. I suggested we do couples therapy- he wasn’t fully on board. I read books, watched vids, got back into therapy. I was exhausted and his efforts were minimal. Of course he was completely happy with me, but I wasn’t fulfilled. One day I thought: he checks so many of my boxes except for the emotional connection. For a moment, I imagined this may be the reason good women/married women end up having emotional affairs. It scared me to think about it. I did not want to put myself in that situation or him, so I ended it. I miss him, but I just can’t compromise on emotional connection. I place too high a premium on that. ❤
@@J-aiJ-ai Thank you for that Queen. ❤ I still think of him especially when I have exciting news, but I’ve chosen to trust myself and prioritize what’s important to me.
This is real talk, I've experienced this and thank God i had discernment to get out that relationship. Ladies hes on point with every word. Thank you Bishop RC Blakes just another reminder i made the right decision.
I have always enjoyed your messages and you have been a father indeed with your messages, but, this particular message is my best of you. It has helped me to fill in the blank spaces of questions unanswered. God bless you more sir!!
1. Lack of emotional connection
2. Diminished personal growth
3. The man lacks masculine energy
4. You don’t respect or admire him
5. There is limited communication and expression
6. Compromise values and core beliefs
7. When you see unfulfilled potential in yourself/lack of support
8. When you live with resentment for unmet needs
Thank you for the list. 🙏🏾
"Women settling for men who shouldn't have gotten a conversation" We're not doing this anymore ladies. So good ❤
Perfectly said! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I wish i never opened the door when he knocked on it...i don't even know how he knew where i lived when we was in college in apartments off campus...i didn't even really think about how creepy that was...but i see the creepy stalker behavior now when im trying to get him out of my life ☹️
Amen
@@lala5061 Praying for your safety as you break free. 💛
I am a 54 year old widow. Happily married for 23 years. I stumbled into the dating scene TOTALLY unprepared for these dating shenanigans. Came across one of your videos one day this past summer and have been listening and subscribing to you ever since. As old as I am this advice is STILL relevant even for someone my age. One of your dating videos even made me cancel a date with a man I was having second thoughts about. I'm glad I did because I ended up finding out he had a long time girlfriend. You are sooo right that women need to follow their intuition. It can save us a lot of heartache. I would love to be married again someday to " my person" but as they say "I'll wait" on God🙏🏽😊
I pray that God brings you a man to love you unconditionally, throughout the good and the bad times, you’re a wonderful woman and you deserve the most beautiful things the love and relationship has to offer
I’m would really love to have a conversation with you ma’am, your comments has led my spirit on. And I feel deeply instructed to try and reach out to you
You are NOT old at all. You are at the peak of your best life my friend. If you don't believe me, ask an 80-year-old woman! Age is only a categorization of time spent on earth. As the years mature, you will reflect on this period of your life later on and realize that you were indeed at the pinnacle of your life. May God recharge your intuition so that you will make only decisions that will serve His purpose in your life!
I was 55 when I became single after over 25 years. I wasn’t prepared either! It’s taken me 6 years to figure the shenanigans out and basically who I am as a contemporary woman at this age. I had met a male right after my divorce and God made it clear…him being nice, have a modest retirement, and wanted me is not enough for me. Friends were telling me basically I was too old to be this picky. Some of these older guys are man boys. I wish Pastor Blake was around back then, but grateful for his teaching now.
@@redeemed5906 Are you 80 years young?
9.When you feel yourself holding back ( you don't give your all to him) . 10. When you feel a sense of relief when you are apart ( a break up, travel etc. )
That sense of relief 🥲 woooh felt that
@@TheDaniMilan Yes girl. Those who know...know.
(1)
(2) Deminished personal growth ( Jeremiah 29:11)
(3) The man lacks masculinity (1 Peter 3:7)
(4) You don’t respect or admire him
(5) Limited communication or expressions.
(Amos 3:3) (Isiah 1:18)
(6) When you compromise your core values and beliefs. (2Corinthians 6:14)
(7) Lack of support (
(8) When you’re living with resentment or unmet needs. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
1. You lack a commitment to personal vision. (Proverbs 29:18)
Starts at 19:20 1. Lack of emotional connection (no emotional availability or emotionally distant) (Proverbs 4:23)
Love that you included the scripture references
We thank you!! ❤❤
"Never be bullied into silence." That one hit strong!! Thank you Pastor. 👑
1. Lack of emotional connection;
2. Diminished personal growth;
3. He lacks masculine energy;
4. You don't respect or admire him;
5. You are limited in your communication and expression;
6. You are compromising your values and your core beliefs;
7. When you look at yourself and see unfulfilled potential;
8. You are living with resentment for unmet needs
This is every relationship I’ve ever been in. Most of these even apply to my previous marriage. I don’t know what to do other than just to remain single because this is all I’m encountering.
On a Sunday morning, I attended a church where the 73 yr old Pastor said his mother told his sisters, “A piece of a man is better than no man.” He went on to talk about having a pair of britches at the table was better than not having a man at all.
This was part of his sermon to a congregation predominantly single women; many of whom were single mothers. I was horrified.
After service, I challenged him on that disruptive, ill, sabotaging advice. I pointed out how harmful such a message was especially considering the makeup of the congregation. I communicated many of the women struggled with low self awareness and value. The implications of such a message was physically dangerous to the vulnerable population entrusted to him.
He stood on his advice.
I was grieved when I thought of the life his mother and his own wife must have endured. I remember thinking God was merciful by not allowing them to conceive because he potentially ruined generations of other people’s children.
I never trusted him again, lost complete respect for the other ministers and elders who did not have the courage to speak up.
I recall feeling dreadful and physically ill Sunday mornings.
I left and never returned to church.
I congratulate you for having the courage to stand up for the truth. And leaving. Dr Michael Brown ( Pensacola Revival) said be very careful whos teaching you sit under. The time is coming, is here, when satan will come in and twist the truth. Many will believe, be duped into believing false doctrine because they do not know or read the Word for themselves. Well done to you. Xx
You are amazing, brilliant, and I can relate. Too often some pastors are insensitive, and bizarre. It’s safer for us to be out of toxic churches and to connect with Jesus and our spirituality by finding balanced teachings and doing self-care.
I have literally gotten up and walked out of a church before because the pastor was preaching a similar sermon based on belittling women and how men are at an ADVANTAGE of women because men exist with power to control women. I upped and LEFT. NEVER went back ‼️
Accurate, I left a relationship with a man that hit all 8 points but now I've met a man that does the opposite of all 8 points....! Do not settle please please!
When the man starts checking out emotionally they usually have become interested in someone else
Or either they have deep rooted emotional issues. Many men are depressed and want a woman to avoid being lonely. Not all men are cheating, some just aren’t happy and they self sabotage as they are emotionally unavailable to themselves and can’t give to others. I’ve seen it happen. You can’t give what you don’t have for yourself.
Yessssssssss most times we do get a head of our personal growth with God and go pair up with people we're not ready for and end up in a hotttttttt messss.
I am still recovering from last week's message about That Man Doesn't Love You. Real talk there. I'm looking forward to tonight's message.
I'm ordering me mines an mine tomorrow
Thank you
Me too😅
Girl me too!!!!!!! So powerful. Thank you God, for this man. lol
yes , same here
"You have stopped growing since you been with this man" omg that was so me . I'm definitely back on track. He definitely put a pause on my life . But I have definitely pressed play again !
This message is helping someone.. God has NOT given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. Not every woman is afraid of being alone. God is a keeper. I trust God.
Not afraid of this sick society’s judgement. I fear no one. Isolation is preparation.
Praise the Lord!
✨🙏🏽✨
A lot of women fear being alone due to abandoned issues…it’s deeper than chasing a man. She is trying to fill a VOID 😢
This is true
We settle because of fear of being alone the rest of our lives, not getting the help we need when we need it. Fear is the opposite of Faith. God is always with us and He understands everything about us.
Women should be more concerned with taking care of their own needs, saving and investing for their futures, getting debt free. Saving and investing should be a priority for those in their 20s so that they will have financial security when they are old and sick.
Trust in God, not man. People will come and go, but God will never leave us nor forsake us.
Thank you so much for your awesome wisdom, Pastor Blakes. You are helping so many of us. God bless you, your family, your ministry.
Great advice!
Before we marry our spouse we must marry GOD. I tell my husband constantly I'm married to GOD, so he knows I'm gonna try to do the right thing at all times. We will make some mistakes, but it shouldn't be severe. My rings didn't just come from my earthly husband, but from my Heavenly Father who truly holds my heart 💖💖💖
Dear Lord how many relationships I have had where I was settling. 😳 They can say all the nice things though…I think if us women look deep inside..better alone single, we will achieve more in life. 🙏🏽💪🏼
Thank you Bishop, as always. ❤
I thank God for allowing me to accept what I couldn’t change in a relationship , many of these points were what led me to call-off my wedding. I knew I’d be settling if I followed through and the Holy Spirit wouldn’t let up that it wasn’t meant for me through hearing Him say, “No, not right now”
Ouch 😣…last week I realized he didn’t love me….this week I found out I was settling. But deep down I knew that. Thank you Unc for the lessons, and for pouring into us. I shall get this right and build on a beautiful godly foundation. Much love and respect ❤
I’m single and I’m learning why I had so many unsupportive relationships. It’s an eye opener for me. To reveal the truth that’s within you or others. God bless you Bishop R.C.Blake’s
I was born in Sierra Leone, and I thank our Heavenly Father that my parents were in Christ Jesus before I was born. I have known better all my life. I pray that at 65 a widow, NEVER go wrong with my Lord.
I know I settled. Married 13 years. Praying after I am open with him about my needs, he will hear it. If not, I will have to leave and work through the fear of being alone.
Praying! Put Him first and He will make a way for your marriage and be renewed!
A burden was lifted...mixed emotions and I know God was speaking through you. 🙏🏽
My My My this was me 5 years ago. All Glory to God for setting me free and blessings to R.C Blakes for the wisdom and knowledge.
"The best thing is for a man who can be emotionally available, aka make love to your spirit, and mind 1st Not body!"
Excellent message sir . I’d rather be by myself than to settle for a relationship that’s not fulfilling and healthy. Thank you 🙏🏾.
26 years old and settling. I just had our baby weeks ago and he already puts all of this sexual pressure on me. When i say im tired or just not up to it im "making excuses" . Im tired of being with a man that always wants me to prove something to him a man that is all about getting his needs met thru me no mattter how im feeling. Im tired of being with a man that makes me doubt my own ability to think and reason.
I don't admite anything about him, I pursued him with I was lonely and desperate, now that I got him I want out.
I smoke daily to numb myself from the reality that although its hard to let go We were never meant to be together.
All he talks about is sex. My needs are unmet
When you idolize a man so much you feel like you're so lucky to have him so much so you lose sight of your own worthiness. You lose sight of the fact that he wasn't even on your level or deserved a chance with you but he broke you down with intentional games to make you feel less than so you would accept his crumbs.
❤❤❤sending much love your way. You deserve better and you deserve someone who sees your worth. I have been there before so I know how it feels❤
Using substances? You lost my sympathy.
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Kindly find something positive that will replace smoking. Something rejuvenating, healthy n not toxic like smoking.❤
*You smoking and still breastfeeding your child? Girl bye*
wow i have had moments of crying all day realizing how i have stopped growing since i have been with him. Got married and it got worse. he pretended to change for a while before we got married. fooled me for sure. idk, he tries but i'm so disconnected because of all the crap through the years. even though he is trying now i don't want it and it's probably just to get what he wants. Ladies please don't settle you will be miserable the entire time.
Wow! This message really spoke to me. I can relate every one of the points from past relationships. I’m so glad I finally learned and accepted the truth, so I could move on. Ladies: until you accept the truth about your situation and the relationship you’ll continue to stay stuck. Praying for everyone.
Spot on.
Always be polite and nice when a man is being polite and nice. I was in Wawa a few days ago when a man said, " excuse me, you have beautiful skin , I'll bet you hear that all the time ?" I smiled and said thank you, you have a beautiful complexion. Then his woman walked over and I kept it moving lol when you settle for the wrong man he makes you feel more lonely than when you are single. I've been single for a long time and it's the most content and peaceful 💙 I've ever been in my adulthood
Hello Queens, Chicago in the house, so glad to be here tonight, may God give us all discernment in these difficult times. May God continue to bless and keep you all safe as we strive to achieve our goals in life.🙏❤️☺️
Yesss Chicago
"When a woman doesn't feel emotional connection with her man, her heart 💔!"
So true. I've experienced "settling for wedlock." It was so unhealthy.
Bringing back bad memories. It was past time, and that why marriage happens sometimes. Biological, and societical clock was ticking SO lou😢d.
bless you. I did the same. I want my experience to be a lesson to others not to do the same.
I dated a man who did something I did not like. When I brought it up a few days later, not in the moment, he replied, " You know, a man should not even know you're that observant."
I kid you not...I was so stunned that he was so blatantly bold and ignorant.
Clearly, he was not only trying to bully me into silence but trying to cheapen me.
I let that go.
Congratulations on loving you more than the idea of the two of you
The reason why we get up tight when a man or dude says hello… Is because it’s never just hello 👋🏾 They be wanting to get our number and they have a bad agenda. We’re tired of the bs. It always starts as a hello how you doing today but it doesn’t end well afterwards 😅😢 Ladies take your time and stop wasting your youthful self,energy, and time. You deserve so much better ❤
Bishop!! I needed this today. Took the steps to end a Marriage that I was not fulfilled in. I wish my Father had this talk with me growing up. I knew no better.
Bishop said “grease his hair”, 😂🤣😅, I fell out, cause they are out here!!!! Many thanks for EDUCATING US, God Bless!!!
If I wore a wig, it’d be snatched off 😂! Thank you for TRUTH, sir.
This one hit me hard. Thank you so much RC Blake’s, I’m eternally grateful for your wise words of wisdom. 2 and a half years on I’m free from unhappiness and resentment, no longer settling. God has open so many doors ever since.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Facts# Did this 37 years ago and you are 100% spot on. No emotional connection, he was always and still is emotionally connected to habitual tv watching. Day, night on the phone, it’s constant. From 1-8 sadly described my marriage of almost 38 years. If there is no emotional connection, move on. Sad to say, I’m not a cheater, but got involved with someone who was emotionally connected with me and PAID Attention a few years ago, never cheated before. From New Orleans with deep core values, attended catholic school and went to the Baptist Church every Sunday as a child and still went even into adulthood. Rev. Blakes, what a message🙏🏽 got married in my 20s when I should have waited for my King, someone who could be connected in every way, but “settled” so to say, I wanted children one day and not out of wedlock. He’s not a masculine man, etc. Amazing how this message explained every aspect of my wedlock situation. Unhappy and resentful😢
I'm in the process of divorcing this situationship. RC you're spot on. For 20 years I've settled on every point until this July when I finally woke up and God has been good. I will keep praising Him. Hallelujah
Whoo! Good word Pastor R.C. I'm not settling! Been there, done that! Not again. Just left me disappointed. Im waiting on God now to manifest my husband. I told God, you know where I'm at, the places i go, my morals, values and desires, so let us meet together at the same place. You are my matchmaker and you know the desires of my heart. I trust you completely, Lord, because you are all i have, right now! I dont care how much money he makes because I've met them and we had no emotionally or spiritual connection. Pastor, has the Lord spoke to you and Lisa about launching a Christ centered matchmaking company? I think you would be world-renowned! Ypu and Lisa are the true model for a God ordained marriage! I just love you two! Keep the wisdom coming Pastor. God is using you two mighty!
I pray I can one day bless RC and Lisa Blake's the way they blessed my life💯 this is a priceless platform 💗
Thank God for you! Any time I start to get off track I open up my Bible, pray, then watch one of your videos ! 🙏🔥🔥
19 months I spent in the only relationship I’ve been in with an emotionally unavailable man. Throughout I kept saying “I don’t feel like we’re growing…” and a year with healing a growth under my belt, I know now it was due to the emotional gulf I was experiencing and his inability to fulfil me even in the basic things. Thanking God he got me out of that and I look forward to what he truly has for me.
A woman needs to feel safe to feel emotionally connected to a man.
I’m so excited to finally catch a LIVE video! Good evening Pastor! I’m the lady that Dr. Felix recorded at the gym in MS! I’m still watching your videos getting thru workouts! God bless you and your awesome wife and family! Keep helping us! ❤
It’s true that if you don’t admire the man then He isn’t it!! 🎉
I’ve been aware of 7 of those when I chose to marry my now ex husband. Ignored the very obvious signs (even on our first date!), operated from a masculine ‘fix it’ energy for a few years until I popped. I’ve learned, since then, to never ever ignore my intuition, stay true to myself, fix no one and dismiss/let go of men I would never ever be proud to be with. This was a great reminder lecture, ❤
Always listen to you yourself. You can sometimes give yourself good answers. We just sometimes ignore it especially when it comes to men.
I'm so guilty of these in so many ways it's embarrassing. Even when deep down in my soul, I knew it was not working, I stayed. I caused myself so much pain, which is hard to accept. God, please heal me from my past mistakes and poor decisions ❤🙏
Been on that road for 12 years I just literally woke up
@@joannenaggayi8727 Prayers that you find healing. Sending love ❤️
Please like and share this video. Thank you in advance. Let's show our spiritual father our genuine appreciation for the wisdom and life lectures he effortlessly imparts to us every week. These lessons help us apply valuable attributes to our lives.We love you and Mrs. Blakes God bless you!
Thanks, I appreciate you & your, thanking God for sharing you’ll gifts and love ❤️ to humanity.
From Concord, NC 4:50
Will share 🌸💕
Don't settle girls, is better to be alone, happy& fulfilled then with men,unhappy&stuck.
Wait on God and the men he has for you!
Dad, I'm so thankful you're covering your messages for both men and women..we all need spiritual guidance!! We love you ❤ for your obedience to the Word.
I BEEN THROUGH ALL THESE POINTS IN THE SITUATIONSHIP 😢. BUT I'VE FINALLY BACKED UP ALOT AND SET BOUNDARIES 😊. IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME, IT WILL BE COMPLETED ❤. THANKS YOU ARE ALWAYS ON TIME AT WORK CRYING 😭😭 SMH... FROM NORFOLK, VA
You are right on time with this message!!! Pastor, thank you so much!❤!
RECOVERING?😂😂😂♥️
Speaking to me Pastor...Oh Lord
That message left a ringing in my ear because it was so real!!
Bishop Blakes you are Hitting the Nail on the HEAD & BATTING A HUNDRED ❤. Keep Teaching.
This is where i am,i stopped growing, for me to accommodate him in my life,but now im wiser after this video
This is great reminder for women to understand their power. If a man is feminine in the relationship, the women is allowing it by bringing her masculine. We have to block our own limited beliefs about what’s available to us or what we can have in a relationship: marriage.
It's not easy to wait but is so worth it, to get it exactly what u've been waiting for, your whole life! Please belive me& trust in God, always! He knows u& knows what's best for each and everyone of us
Yes RC my big brother. Am a firstborn, what do you expect? Last week I saw all the signs he never loved me. Now I can't wait to see how I settled on a scale of 8. I feel bad and am sorry I stayed with a man who didn't love me. Am a woman with everything to love about her. Am glad he left me wish I left sooner
That was definitely me, settling for someone I knew wasn’t for me. I knew I didn’t want to even take him around my family, pants sagging 🤦🏽♀️ and I thought I was in love. 51 and thought, I’m getting older I better hold onto this. Thank God I’ve discovered these videos they have really opened my eyes and made me so much better.
I only settled once, it was nearly 20 years ago, but after that taxing experience, I promised myself that I would never do that again; however, here's what really sealed the deal to my commitment: During the time, I was in the midst of my settling, me and dozens of others witnessed someone yell out right in front of us AND the man she was talking about: "I DON'T WANT HIM!" Right then and there, I knew I would never 'EVA' settle for a Man. Plus, I come from a family of serial-settlers so witnessing that play over again and again, you may even want to consider to become a Nun (LOL). Speaking of play overs, THE LORD has shown me time and time again that what HE has for me is for me and therefore based on HIS splendid record, I already know that I don't have to settle for a Man because my HEAVENLY FATHER only dishes out the Best!
I’m so glad I found your channel! You have validated ALL of what I’d been feeling in my now former relationship!! Now time for healing and your videos are helping with that too. Thank you for these topics. Until I found your channel, I thought that these things were something I had made up in my head. Now I know that I should just follow my intuition because it comes from the Holy Spirit. Again, thank you thank you thank you! I thank God for you, Lisa and your ministry! ❤❤❤
Bishop, you give me more and more strength each day.. I love every bit of it. Can't wait for Queenolgy. That'll be my birthday present to myself in my favorite city.
Have a great time Queen!👑🙂
Thank you
Deminished personal life..🙋🏾♀️🤦🏽♀️guilty. Stip growing in all aspects. Ive been removed from that relationship, 2 years ago. Thank you God Almighty for that, but never make that miatake again.
I can’t believe I’m catching a live! I already hit the like button and took a seat 😂
RC Blakes you have completely changed my life , you’re amazing . I admire you and your wife and appreciate the knowledge and love ❤️
Pastor Blakes giving the word💯 surprised to see him chopping down trees on IG with a young King 👑
Lol, man, this was spot on. My last relationship or whatever you want to call it was back in 2008-10ish. I had no respect for him. He was my son, and the only thing he led me to was the bedroom. Lord knows I had no business doing that.
Heeey 1st Lady❤️ Hellooo Bishop❤! I had the unique pleasure of meeting these 2 beautiful souls in person Sunday and when I tell you that they are genuine and love them some Jesus and people!!! I haven't stopped smiling 😁 and or talking about them. Thanks for welcoming me into your hearts and your home. Tekina A❤
My third go round and shared many times. This one is some fire🔥
This is a very necessary message.
This Man never misses with his messages!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Get me together I needed this wow I need prayer
Hello Pastor and First Lady Blakes Jr.
Hello New Homes Ministries.
Hello Everyone.😊
This intro is everything!!!!!!🙏🏿
Did not settle because there were changes for happiness to abide so I got out and am very happy.
A woman that WORKS HARDER THAN her husband SMH SMH SMH ,Thank you for THIS
I am 44 years old, nice advice.
Thank you Bishop. You have truly delivered me. You were sent to deliver us women for a time such as this. May God richly bless and increase you.
If the man doesn't believe he's great when he looks in the mirror its a lost cause.
Oh my! You just answered a thousand questions for me concerning my current situation. Thanks a million! 🙌💯
Thank you for the teaching Pastor, in January this year I told myself i want to be the best version of myself and focus on building myself spiritual, physical .
Looking forward to tonight’s word Bishop Blakes. God Bless You🙏🏽
Very true about when a woman doesn’t feel emotionally connected to a man. I had a man who I loved and we were aligned for marriage, but i became emotionally exhausted. I communicated my concerns often…not much changed. I suggested we meet w/ my Pastor- it didn’t work out. I suggested we do couples therapy- he wasn’t fully on board. I read books, watched vids, got back into therapy. I was exhausted and his efforts were minimal. Of course he was completely happy with me, but I wasn’t fulfilled. One day I thought: he checks so many of my boxes except for the emotional connection. For a moment, I imagined this may be the reason good women/married women end up having emotional affairs. It scared me to think about it. I did not want to put myself in that situation or him, so I ended it. I miss him, but I just can’t compromise on emotional connection. I place too high a premium on that. ❤
You did well!!
@@J-aiJ-ai Thank you for that Queen. ❤ I still think of him especially when I have exciting news, but I’ve chosen to trust myself and prioritize what’s important to me.
Thank you so much, Pastor RC Blakes, for bringing these subjects about relationships to the Light 🙏🏽 🙌🏽!!
This is so true I’ve wasted years because my father never spoke on this
Respect for your work! Very important to hear all that from a man!
Wow. You hit this out of the park!
This is real talk, I've experienced this and thank God i had discernment to get out that relationship. Ladies hes on point with every word. Thank you Bishop RC Blakes just another reminder i made the right decision.
Bishop your teachings always hit hard!
When are you coming to Los Angeles California?
As always, such great wisdom shared. Thank you, Pastor!
I have always enjoyed your messages and you have been a father indeed with your messages, but, this particular message is my best of you. It has helped me to fill in the blank spaces of questions unanswered. God bless you more sir!!
God bless you and your ministry this was very informative and much needed content. God bless you and yours!!!
Everything he said was Absolutely Truth
Good Evening Pastor, Lady Lisa and everyone! ❤️❤️❤️
Very Auxillirating And So True Thank You BROTHER MINISTER
I enjoy listening to you. Always makes me laugh