The SECRET To Finding LOVE & The PERFECT PARTNER Explained! | Jay Shetty

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  • @Sr20657
    @Sr20657 5 років тому +1286

    Someone once told me when I asked them how I would find true love ,
    “ don’t look for true love , look for love that seems good enough to be true “
    Man that stuck with me

    • @lesegopercyval7703
      @lesegopercyval7703 5 років тому +20

      Sassy Pohtato dont try to look for love let love find you.

    • @melissaannmagee27
      @melissaannmagee27 5 років тому +5

      This is so true, if it's hard to believe and seems to good to be real, its real...

    • @Emily-sf8wz
      @Emily-sf8wz 2 роки тому

      Do you mean that seems too good to be true but us true?

  • @bahaatamer1245
    @bahaatamer1245 5 років тому +7266

    1. They respect and value your dreams!
    2. They are present with you at the moment!
    3. That person is self aware and knows their own self worth!
    4. Trust!
    5. You dont always need someone to keep the chemistry between the two of you!
    6. You can spend time apart, but cant wait to be back!
    7. You can disagree!
    8. You dont have to like each others' friends!
    9. You can be your real self with them!
    10. You argue to get to a healthy conclusion!
    5 months later and I got 1.9k likes out of nowhere: thanks guys! :)

    • @mizyasmin26
      @mizyasmin26 5 років тому +12

      hey ,I agree but not with second one, your partner don´t need to be there anytime and anywhere (because work,school etc) but if you need him than he needs to be present.
      And the third ,i dont know what does it means.

    • @christinewright8670
      @christinewright8670 5 років тому +84

      @@mizyasmin26 the second one doesn't mean that they have to be with you all the time, it means that when they ARE with you they are ACTUALLY PRESENT in the moment; for example, not on their cell phone or looking around or not paying any attention to you at cetera. And the third one means that they have their own self worth and respect for themselves; because the only way someone can show respect for you is if they have respect for themselves.

    • @lianaint1178
      @lianaint1178 5 років тому +7

      So that means the guy i like is not the one its not love just hope

    • @oneten3754
      @oneten3754 5 років тому +1

      Explore17 🙏

    • @Cecigarcian_n
      @Cecigarcian_n 5 років тому

      8

  • @maygordon9019
    @maygordon9019 5 років тому +470

    If you've ever been hurt by someone you love and the relationship ends, please take time to to heal. Enjoy you, so you can enjoy someone else. Slow down, real love will not run off and leave you. Trust, respect each other and become friends first, because there will be times in your life when you'll need a Friend. That is your real love.

  • @hannabie_
    @hannabie_ 4 роки тому +700

    I can say that im lucky because after all the heartbreaks and failed relationships, God gave me my husband and im happily married for 7 years. We are bestfriends.

    • @summersunshineillusions2767
      @summersunshineillusions2767 4 роки тому +9

      Congratulations! I am yet to reach that point that I hope to get as lucky as you!

    • @tzdtuc-pd9yv
      @tzdtuc-pd9yv 4 роки тому +4

      Congrats, you deserve it in the end !

    • @ritikak2612
      @ritikak2612 4 роки тому

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    • @salmanmehar2613
      @salmanmehar2613 4 роки тому

      hy this for you dear now you can find you lover around the world viral481.com/srv.html?id=5498947&pub=1342606

    • @Mau2198
      @Mau2198 3 роки тому +1

      God bless you Dear🤗♥️

  • @clw6791
    @clw6791 7 років тому +593

    Best relationship advise I ever got....Your relationship doesn't have to make sense to everyone else, as long as it works in a healthy way for the two of you. That's why it's YOUR RELATIONSHIP and not anyone else's.

    • @Thisz026
      @Thisz026 6 років тому +3

      How you can deal with someone that lie constantly?

    • @teddynkwabi4502
      @teddynkwabi4502 6 років тому +2

      wilson wilson Amen to that!

    • @KJAlways
      @KJAlways 6 років тому +4

      sherlijn de windt I would eventually stop wasting my time on a person who is a liar and not trustworthy if they did not stop doing it. Jay say trust must be earned. How can you trust a liar?

    • @ShineVizzy
      @ShineVizzy 6 років тому +2

      I needed this

    • @treavam5653
      @treavam5653 6 років тому +2

      Loved "In a healthy way" -- most important. Otherwise nuclear disaster is just a matter of time.

  • @satarupaganguly8553
    @satarupaganguly8553 6 років тому +570

    When you feel u r not falling in love anymore, instead u are rising in love....Dear u have found the one ❤

  • @lebo5676
    @lebo5676 7 років тому +138

    You know you have found the one, when they can still respect (not excuse or enable) you when you are at your lowest of lows. Loosing your job, failing a course, fighting depression. Instead of tearing you down, they can call you to action/encourage you to change and develop. That’s deep love.

    • @kikiabdi3194
      @kikiabdi3194 6 років тому

      true indeed ❤❤❤❤

    • @KJAlways
      @KJAlways 6 років тому

      I love my best friend, who is my ex-boyfriend for 3.5 years now, through it all!

    • @Sheandmotherhood
      @Sheandmotherhood 6 років тому

      Lebo Selemela indeed!

    • @crazyleaf257
      @crazyleaf257 6 років тому

      Lebo Selemela ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @tanum7158
      @tanum7158 4 роки тому

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  • @hendyho3240
    @hendyho3240 4 роки тому +172

    You will know he is your true love when your mind and heart have the same agreement. No struggling, no questioning, no confusing.... Inside you just know

  • @alamasama
    @alamasama 6 років тому +886

    You already know the ONE, look in the mirror. It's you!!! Love you and the person you love is complementary to making your life meaningful

  • @TGIF82
    @TGIF82 5 років тому +2332

    I just realised I am The One for myself:-)

  • @KellieKellyCorner
    @KellieKellyCorner 6 років тому +789

    Some of my ways I knew my husband was the one are;
    1. We disagree openly and honestly without taking it personal that we have different opinions.
    2. We are completely opposite and because of that we help balance one another.
    3. We enjoy our differences because we see it as an opportunity to learn something new
    4. We ended up wanting to better ourselves because we could finally see ourselves through each others eyes and knew we deserved to be the best versions of ourselves without being forced.
    5. We challenge each other. We force each other to step outside our comfort zone in order to make ourselves acknowledge what we usually try to avoid.
    6. We helped each other find our strengths in our weakest moments.
    7. We validate each others feelings. We share our goals. We create our dreams and encourage each other along the way.

    • @nafizfaruk19
      @nafizfaruk19 6 років тому +17

      This is beautiful, sad to say I thought I had a lot of these common with this woman I fell in love with and I could definitely feel her love for me too. But things got messed up between us and her past led to us ending before we even started, especially because we began as friends. But I'll still always be around her to support when I can from a respectable distance.
      Thanks for sharing Kelly. Beautiful insights that I agree with and feel are also true to what I would want a relationship with a partner for myself to be like. May Allah keep you guys happy and together.

    • @yukijkina-vargasaguirre6304
      @yukijkina-vargasaguirre6304 6 років тому +3

      This advice is quite helpful

    • @joanpashinsky-greve8760
      @joanpashinsky-greve8760 6 років тому +4

      Kellie Kelly Corner I get your comments my husband and I are same way

    • @RegumRai
      @RegumRai 6 років тому +7

      I always thought 'The One' should have common interest or opinions with you. But this is interesting.

    • @eighteror
      @eighteror 6 років тому +6

      @@RegumRai It's not that important! Similar values and morals are more important in the long term. I remember in high school still I would hope that my boyfriend would dress like this and listen to that, since I enjoyed those things and aesthetics. In my now relationship I don't see those things important at all. Surely it is nice if you have some common interest like excersise or traveling, but in grand picture much bigger things matter than what do you think about certain bad or food :)

  • @elenabalogova4592
    @elenabalogova4592 4 роки тому +21

    1. You respect and trust one another
    2. You both know how to make each other laugh
    3. Both of you want the other person to succeed
    4. You love each others flaws
    5. He/she makes you feel special

  • @beingthebestemmaicanbe3785
    @beingthebestemmaicanbe3785 7 років тому +2153

    Your eye colour skin colour combo is absolutely stunning! Very handsome.

    • @ClaireRachel
      @ClaireRachel 7 років тому +124

      I met him once at one of his talks and his eyes are mesmerizing! He makes you feel like you're the only person in the room of thousands!

    • @Gymnastzz
      @Gymnastzz 6 років тому +42

      Claire Rachel
      I bet! He seems like an amazing person. And anyone with eyes like that knows how to use them, myself included.😳😁

    • @juhishukla5667
      @juhishukla5667 6 років тому +7

      So true !!

    • @karishmak1170
      @karishmak1170 6 років тому +6

      Agreed

    • @queenvic83
      @queenvic83 6 років тому +4

      Jaemee Gasaway 😂😂😂 Woooord..lol 👍😉

  • @bthartneyx
    @bthartneyx 6 років тому +2145

    I met her (Shan) when I was sixteen. I was instantly attracted to her. We hung out for a week and I realised I could be myself around her. She made feel good about being me. I told her at the end of that week that I was going to marry her one day. She laughed. A few months later she left for Scotland to study aircraft engineering. She was away for 5 years and during that time I dated many girls. I was dead inside, I realised one day that it was because I was comparing these relationships to what I had with Shan (Nick name).
    She came back, we got back together, we got married. It still is amazing, but we have had to work hard at our marriage, sometimes more so than not. I can still be me, I don't have to pretend, I can say whatever I feel, whatever I fear and it's all okay. It's been a hell of a journey and I look forward to any more amazing years.

    • @chrissyisateehee._.4855
      @chrissyisateehee._.4855 6 років тому +33

      MrH im so glad u and her got a happy ending

    • @MatthewCSHughes
      @MatthewCSHughes 6 років тому +23

      MrH really beautiful Brother, thank you so much for sharing ❤️

    • @caitlyn8611
      @caitlyn8611 6 років тому +14

      that's so sweet! - happy for you! xo

    • @ajaykarthi7760
      @ajaykarthi7760 6 років тому +23

      MrH Happy for you brother as ya got the girl you like as your life partner , that is the most beautiful feeling and hardest task in life getting married to someone who you love, Wish me luck tooo

    • @KJAlways
      @KJAlways 6 років тому +3

      That is so awesome!! 💜💚🧡🙏🏽

  • @emansam1847
    @emansam1847 7 років тому +213

    "It's not about who's right and who's wrong,it's about getting to the right conclusion together"

    • @tom7083
      @tom7083 6 років тому

      eman mb "......and I have the right conclusion!" :P

    • @spriya7
      @spriya7 4 роки тому

      Agree

  • @omkarrevankar7605
    @omkarrevankar7605 4 роки тому +38

    There is an awsum line in the movie "before we go" which I still believe in - "No one is perfect, and there will be struggles, Its us who choose the person with whom we wanna struggle with". This blew my mind and I feel if both the individuals feel the same, then thats love.

    • @ashwanijha7695
      @ashwanijha7695 2 роки тому +1

      Unfortunately, these days people are so busy in finding the perfect partner, that they cheat on the present when the struggle begins. But the miss being in the journey together, and man that thrill and adventure is absolutely amazing!!. Anyone here felt the same?

  • @deanafromchicago6661
    @deanafromchicago6661 6 років тому +48

    when your souls connect. the sixth sense kicks in and you both feel each other’s everything like emotions, thoughts, etc.

  • @diharmony5532
    @diharmony5532 5 років тому +323

    Jay:"I am so grateful that you're watching my videos..."
    Me: "No man, it's me who's grateful for you putting out that wisdom here"
    Also me: Cries in gratitude 💖

    • @karenreyes8373
      @karenreyes8373 5 років тому +2

      I'm feeling confused about everything I've been through with the one I thought is the one

    • @playfulvisionary7255
      @playfulvisionary7255 5 років тому

      @@karenreyes8373 I'm sorry about the loss. I think they were confused cause that wasn't exactly a response to them either so here's mine

  • @2states881
    @2states881 5 років тому +387

    I guess the one thing I'm sure of is when you really are not looking for that someone is the time you actually find them!!

    • @naghamlvly6306
      @naghamlvly6306 5 років тому +5

      absolutely agree

    • @hearteusoftie9415
      @hearteusoftie9415 5 років тому +9

      👏👏👏😊wish this would happen to me too😀

    • @2states881
      @2states881 5 років тому +8

      @@hearteusoftie9415 For sure and the best part is you won't have to put unnecessary efforts for this 😊

    • @2states881
      @2states881 5 років тому +10

      @AnimusFlux I guess especially when u want someone to come in your life desperately u might choose the wrong person because all u need is someone and u don't care if that person is the One.😀

    • @Aryan-sw4ni
      @Aryan-sw4ni 5 років тому +1

      Couldn't agree more absolutely true

  • @bookwarmtee7750
    @bookwarmtee7750 4 роки тому +28

    I found my one. It's just simple. Nothing flashy. But without eachother we feel stagnant. It's just two people open to learn and grow together.

    • @geezerhull
      @geezerhull 4 роки тому +1

      avoid the "flashy" ones. Also....modest is hottest.

    • @wealthlibrary
      @wealthlibrary 4 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/DueEAH0Oq7w/v-deo.html ,,, love your self ,, love you

  • @mirla570
    @mirla570 6 років тому +81

    For me it’s loving myself and treating myself as the one first before “the one” appears .. I also don’t believe you can “find” the one ... I believe that when the right person comes into your life you will know .. and that you have to have an awareness that some people come into your life to teach you great lessons and mold you to who you are ultimately to become and prepare you for “ the one “ some of those experiences may hurt and feel as if it’s a set back or years wasted but in reality everything happens for a reason !

    • @axel7801
      @axel7801 6 років тому +4

      mirla570 Exactly! While I do miss my ex and hold a form of resentment or dismay to how we treated one another. Along witg how things ended to soon before we could've grew and worked on our issues... Im accepting that perhaps this was the best way. She's with someone else now and im on journey of self discovery and self love. The break up was truly painful but it has opened my eyes a lot on who I am and life in general

  • @mariasilva-ii8oy
    @mariasilva-ii8oy 5 років тому +125

    I am 2000 kms apart from him but I still think about it, missing him so much...and we been married for 20 years now...love is a powerful thing!

  • @sonyaiiis451
    @sonyaiiis451 5 років тому +44

    I found the One, 4 years ago.
    And you know that when you support each other in difficult times and good times. And what about Love between us? it is only growing stronger day by day.

  • @lilsahara8812
    @lilsahara8812 4 роки тому +48

    Just take care of yourself and you'll always be fine, my friend Greetings from Africa

  • @cantoscope8966
    @cantoscope8966 5 років тому +1946

    Stop looking for true love, just be true and love will find you. 😏

  • @nithinr3617
    @nithinr3617 5 років тому +415

    When you find the one, you don't really crave for a relationship with them, you just love them, respect them, care them. You wish for them to have whatever they want in life. You want them to be happy. You wouldn't be interested in someone else when you find the one. You wouldn't give up and move on even when the whole world says you to. Because if you do then that wouldn't be love.

    • @fairuzsalsabila9306
      @fairuzsalsabila9306 4 роки тому +2

      Exactly, the same thing does to me

    • @prilmac1329
      @prilmac1329 4 роки тому +1

      exactly..

    • @babypriya5602
      @babypriya5602 4 роки тому +5

      Nithin R exactly n thats scared the shit out of me if I found the "one", did every little effort to be together n then not end up together!! It's going to hurt so bad! 💔

    • @surajmishra3015
      @surajmishra3015 4 роки тому +1

      It's perfectly true! I can relate this very well!

    • @icecrystal3255
      @icecrystal3255 4 роки тому

      You are so right😌

  • @TheIheartweezyfbaby
    @TheIheartweezyfbaby 5 років тому +59

    1. They value/support your dreams
    2. They are present with you in the moment.
    3. They know their self worth/own person.
    4. Earn your trust
    5. You don't need anything to keep the fire burning
    6. You can spend time apart but can't wait to be together.
    7. You can disagree.
    8. You don't have to like their friends.
    9. You can be your real self.
    10. You argue but so you can come to a healthy conclusion together. It's more of a discussion

    • @wealthlibrary
      @wealthlibrary 4 роки тому +1

      love you self ua-cam.com/video/DueEAH0Oq7w/v-deo.html bless the year

  • @sinahjond7402
    @sinahjond7402 4 роки тому +44

    They respect your privacy, your feelings, and they respect themselves.

  • @angelahamlett8249
    @angelahamlett8249 5 років тому +121

    True love feels like a relaxing, soft, calm warm, cool breeze by the ocean. Open communication and earned trust. Not a blazing hot passionate crazy heart pounding fire!!! Holding back feelings and has you wondering, talking to other people is not it.

  • @xuanlam8095
    @xuanlam8095 5 років тому +176

    you found the one when you chose to love the person rather than fall in love with the person

  • @ywertz8800
    @ywertz8800 6 років тому +3139

    Video actually starts at 3:15
    You're welcome.

    • @spitzkopf2128
      @spitzkopf2128 6 років тому +1

      pradhan shrestha is _this_ the way to talk to someone?

    • @stha03
      @stha03 6 років тому +22

      @@spitzkopf2128 well i don't know but one thing is for sure that you are a pervert....

    • @tinastrouther3842
      @tinastrouther3842 6 років тому +1

      Brilliant

    • @salvekour4701
      @salvekour4701 6 років тому +1

      Thanks 🍁

    • @exclusivevocab8368
      @exclusivevocab8368 6 років тому

      Thnku

  • @dolphindeerwolf
    @dolphindeerwolf 4 роки тому +13

    I have the most amazing partner. I love him and feel truly blessed to have him in my life. What you said about our exposure to certain media influencing our ideas about love really hit home for me. As a young lady in my 20s I keep getting bombarded with the message (in subtle and not so subtle ways) to marry rich or find a sugar daddy... It's really bad. My partner is not rich but he treats me with so much kindness and love. The messages I have recieved have made me question my relationship and if I have chosen the right person. I have felt inner conflict from mixed messages and it's upsetting. I tuned into my heart more and am resting in gratitude for everything I have in my relationship and everything good my partner brings into my life even if it's not material wealth per say

    • @hanneliebremer7692
      @hanneliebremer7692 4 роки тому +1

      Also in my 20's and really relate and needed to hear this... thanks x

  • @jennifermwah6627
    @jennifermwah6627 5 років тому +419

    Me and my husband started dating when i was 12 and he was 14. We dated all the way until his Senior year and then we broke up for about 2 years. He ended up moving to a different state and I dated a few guys but it never turned out. Eventually we started talking and catching up and then we got married! Been married for 2 years now and its been amazing! We're now in our 20s and are happy together

    • @petrudejanecek586
      @petrudejanecek586 5 років тому +17

      12 and 14? 😬

    • @弥生月-d7b
      @弥生月-d7b 5 років тому +5

      Omg, what a nice story. I'm motivated by this.

    • @Amy-nq5wh
      @Amy-nq5wh 5 років тому +2

      @@petrudejanecek586 I know right😂

    • @truongtruong817
      @truongtruong817 5 років тому

      Jennifer Mwah why did you break up with him?

    • @HobeyDator
      @HobeyDator 5 років тому +1

      @@truongtruong817 Its Probably That Due To Growing Apart Scenario. So We Can Say They Break Up Mutually In Good Terms. And Thankfully, Their Destiny Is Wired To Each Other😍 After Years Of Growing They Found Out That They Are Indeed Worth At Each Other.

  • @michellemiddleton1661
    @michellemiddleton1661 6 років тому +51

    this isnt explainable its just an inner knowing . a soul deep feeling that brings ultimate clarity on unconditional love . you love this person with all of your being and everything they are and you dont wanna change a thing about them. your frequencies are the same. everything is energy and you just vibe you click you just KNOW.

  • @nouraklieb
    @nouraklieb 5 років тому +100

    Honestly... this helped me know how to *become* the one

    • @floreg1370
      @floreg1370 5 років тому +2

      👍😂
      Good point of view

    • @romanitza24
      @romanitza24 4 роки тому +1

      Exactly. I actually tried to check who have I been in my last relationship and I have found that unfortunately a lot of them where not my way of behaving with him. Now I do not know about the trust. I could not trust him at all, even from the 1st day, but if the person does not earn your trust, maybe is not only yiyr imagination. Nevertheless I guess he had more boxes checked.

  • @misspriss2482
    @misspriss2482 4 роки тому +23

    You know that you've found the one when you've been through all 4 seasons of life with them and they continue to show up and strive to put you first every day. Only time will tell you that.

  • @LizCalvert
    @LizCalvert 5 років тому +8

    I agree with you - and I would add that the ‘ONE’ stands up for my greatness and wont let me play ‘small’ in life...

  • @w47willrise
    @w47willrise 7 років тому +438

    You know when you've found the right one when you only need them to be happy. No money, no material, and nothing else but them.

    • @mano-1996
      @mano-1996 6 років тому +11

      that could be for a friend as well...platonic love for a guy friend

    • @jakefromaustria8096
      @jakefromaustria8096 6 років тому +29

      Need is never love but obsession

    • @afrozsharmin6049
      @afrozsharmin6049 6 років тому

      totally agree with you,you are the best

    • @marinangue9105
      @marinangue9105 6 років тому +27

      Why do you need someone to be happy?? Does your happiness depends on other people??????

    • @w47willrise
      @w47willrise 6 років тому +28

      You don't need anyone to be happy. Happiness is the deeper understanding of your consciousness. Placing happiness on an external object is bad because then you have no control over your own happiness.

  • @KelticLegend
    @KelticLegend 6 років тому +1724

    I should be studying for finals. And I’m single. Alright.

  • @Sarah.f2804
    @Sarah.f2804 4 роки тому +3

    i just realized that I've found the one !! omg, he's exactly everything you said plus our relationship is so healthy. omg, I hope we stay like this forever !!

  • @jenniferhansen7925
    @jenniferhansen7925 6 років тому +15

    I have been with my husband for 10 years and I absolutely agree with this list! We have been through plenty of bad times but we fully support and except each other and raise each other back up! 💕

  • @diipachuau4938
    @diipachuau4938 6 років тому +181

    When you talk .. I just stared at your beautiful eyes 😍 and I love your English accent 😘

    • @KK-bh2xx
      @KK-bh2xx 6 років тому

      I think so he's a Hindu and an Indian guy..

    • @lee-anndraghoender2387
      @lee-anndraghoender2387 6 років тому

      I love u😘😘😘😘😘😘

    • @nyasiae46
      @nyasiae46 6 років тому +1

      matei Pachuau I was just gunna comments the same way...his eyes and his accent are sexy

    • @tanum7158
      @tanum7158 4 роки тому

      Extra Marital Affairs, Why People fall in Love
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  • @caribbeanmermaid5535
    @caribbeanmermaid5535 6 років тому +56

    He never said “the only one for you ever in life” - I think the idea is “the one you can be in a healthy, loving relationship with”.

  • @lucyjames8818
    @lucyjames8818 4 роки тому +8

    Both are ready for each other. Both are ready for themselves. Time plays a great role in this.
    And definitely, a real chemistry.

    • @wealthlibrary
      @wealthlibrary 4 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/DueEAH0Oq7w/v-deo.html ,,, love your self ,, love you

  • @joyeblessed
    @joyeblessed 6 років тому +622

    i met her while i was 8th grade but we separated for a about 8 years but we met again and i'm not letting her go again!

  • @naturallawhealth9272
    @naturallawhealth9272 5 років тому +421

    I know I found the one when:
    1. they walk on four legs
    2. they are furry
    3. they cuddles and give lots of kisses
    4. they enjoy walks
    5. they just like being by my side (I don't have to prove anything to them)

    • @rukdogg
      @rukdogg 5 років тому +11

      You don't have to ever worry that they won't love you.

    • @yash7223
      @yash7223 4 роки тому +3

      Aww❣️❣️

    • @LL-ht5yc
      @LL-ht5yc 4 роки тому +7

      That’s bestiality.

    • @nom5205
      @nom5205 4 роки тому +10

      they shit and you have to pick it up....

    • @livingforwhat2172
      @livingforwhat2172 4 роки тому +3

      a cuddly werewolf that enjoys walking ?

  • @qrzhang7426
    @qrzhang7426 5 років тому +42

    “Trust should be earned... layers of trust”

    • @salmanmehar2613
      @salmanmehar2613 4 роки тому

      try it now
      hy this for you dear now you can find you lover around the world viral481.com/srv.html?id=5498947&pub=1342606

  • @dollyrama1132
    @dollyrama1132 5 років тому

    In his eyes there will be the most beautiful deep compassion, not just for u...but for the world.

  • @siddharthpatel148
    @siddharthpatel148 7 років тому +28

    A true relationship is when your togetherness become more important than anything 😊
    Love is a feeling which can't explain in words it is just beyond the limit when u r in love with some 1 u don't need to always talk with them even when u sit with them quietly u feel an amazing joy 😊😊

  • @anewloveofficial9137
    @anewloveofficial9137 6 років тому +48

    You already know in yourself that you found the one if he supports and cares for you no matter what happen. If he accept your worst then he's also deserving to have you at your best.

    • @antoinitaviolette4140
      @antoinitaviolette4140 6 років тому +1

      A New Love Official for me is is Jesus says in my heart that this is the one, because not always does it seem like the one, and still knowing all are still growing and need to wait until baggage is gotten rid of, heart is healed, and having peace is a beautiful thing and to wait to experience.

    • @allananoynay8651
      @allananoynay8651 6 років тому +1

      ❤❤❤

  • @vinayhansda9846
    @vinayhansda9846 5 років тому +19

    Seems like when I started focusing on myself after several arguments, I changed my ways of relationship. When I saw this video, I already had all those qualities. I think I am in right direction now. Thanks for confirmation.

  • @ramone648
    @ramone648 4 роки тому +6

    True love comes from within you..You have to first love and accept your self to be loved in return

    • @wealthlibrary
      @wealthlibrary 4 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/DueEAH0Oq7w/v-deo.html ,,, love your self ,, love you

  • @sunprincipe4711
    @sunprincipe4711 6 років тому +142

    When I realized that I can't imagine my life without her, I knew that I had found the one.

  • @Luckee94
    @Luckee94 5 років тому +872

    An elderly man once told me
    “ Mary your best friend and it will be the best decision you’ve ever made”

    • @chiztruth21
      @chiztruth21 5 років тому +52

      What if your best friend has a girlfriend😥

    • @Tariqve
      @Tariqve 5 років тому +7

      Really? 🤔

    • @MaanChallan
      @MaanChallan 5 років тому +5

      Michael Clark if he or she is of opzt gender hahahahhabahahha

    • @trizawangu8752
      @trizawangu8752 5 років тому +12

      What if my best friend is a lesbian😭😅

    • @Luckee94
      @Luckee94 4 роки тому +1

      Triza Wangu haha good point 😆

  • @maimunatlasisi62
    @maimunatlasisi62 5 років тому +40

    I agree with all your points and I haven't met the one,keeping hope alive.

  • @Bee4Brendan
    @Bee4Brendan 5 років тому +11

    I think it's not always about finding the one, but more about making somebody (that you like) the one by working on yourself and vice versa. I think most of these things you can work on if you don't already possess these characteristics. It's about willingness to do better and get better. Some of these you can't create on your own, but some of these, I believe, "The One" will definitely want to get better at.

  • @CaliBabyCooks
    @CaliBabyCooks 6 років тому +320

    Oh my God, your eyes. They’re gorgeous.

  • @missiemaya
    @missiemaya 5 років тому +44

    when you feel inner peace

    • @williamsjames3002
      @williamsjames3002 3 роки тому

      I actually found that too
      True love is been hard to find
      I only Hope God Send to me a trustworthy partner
      Someone I could love and trust
      God fearing person
      I am open.. distance is not an issue

  • @ryangood4595
    @ryangood4595 5 років тому +398

    I was married to someone with which I had 0 of these 10. I guess that's why we're no longer married ;)
    Look here kids, don't do what your mom and dad did unless your mom and dad are doing these things - we gotta stop recreating the mistakes of our parents.

    • @olohialli9289
      @olohialli9289 5 років тому +4

      What made you fall for this person?

    • @unreal4u2
      @unreal4u2 5 років тому

      @@olohialli9289 99% certain it's an unplanned pregnancy

    • @gerzylcarano-o4847
      @gerzylcarano-o4847 5 років тому +3

      Arranged marriage

    • @mac9162
      @mac9162 5 років тому

      Oleohi Alli sex

    • @tanum7158
      @tanum7158 4 роки тому

      Extra Marital Affairs, Why People fall in Love
      ua-cam.com/video/B0fOPGGwQQY/v-deo.html

  • @tobylangdale95
    @tobylangdale95 2 роки тому

    My life partner and I were introduced and and knew very quickly that we had found the one and only true love of our lives in each other 💘❤️💘
    Neither of us even saw it coming, she at 48 an accomplished single mother of two wonderful daughters, and I at 57 living quietly in the countryside with my two canine companions were each ok with life and the world as it is. Even with the knowledge that neither of us had ever experienced being loved like we truly deserved, like everyone deserves to be loved. Unconditionally, honestly, forever and always with every fiber and force of our beings ❤️
    I hope and pray that we both have many years ahead of us to grow old together in happiness and contentment 💕❤️💕
    I love you Catherine, life and true love truly began for me at 57💘

  • @shaehanahussein4457
    @shaehanahussein4457 5 років тому +5

    After being married once. Now i know i found the one. Its not just about love. Its how well we get along and respect eachothers views on our individual lives.

  • @aiishasow3924
    @aiishasow3924 5 років тому +60

    Few minutes ago I had a doubt about if he is really he one, then after watching the video I can say that yes I can guarantee that he is definitely the one. Thank you so much jay for showing me a way out, I won’t let him go for sure

    • @mohamedadam8685
      @mohamedadam8685 5 років тому

      Hadda maguursatay mise xiriir ayaad wali wadaan ?

    • @midheaven8991
      @midheaven8991 5 років тому +7

      If you need a video to confirm it, then he isn't.
      Our intuition is the most powerful weapon we have. And you need a random guy from youtube ?
      Not very solid dont you think ? You don't have to listen to me (of course) but what your intuition is telling YOU? Not your brain , nor your heart. Only your intuition.
      Best of luck.

  • @BarbaraMarieLouise
    @BarbaraMarieLouise 5 років тому +8

    Well, I think you realize that it’s the one when you feel freedom inside and you are so calm that you don’t know if you are in love at first but somehow you just want to spend time with each other. In fact, you don’t feel dependend on the other. And you know that you can build a life together. So, in fact, the total opposite of a toxic relationship.

  • @davidjohnpaul333
    @davidjohnpaul333 4 роки тому +12

    You have found 'the one' when they make you want to be the best person you can be, they make you want to be MORE, they add MORE to your life. You've found the one when you can't wait to talk to them/see them & when all you can do is think about them...Yes, I'm in love & she is beautiful inside & out 💕

    • @ilovemydog3542
      @ilovemydog3542 4 роки тому +1

      David John Paul hello can I be ur friend

    • @davidjohnpaul333
      @davidjohnpaul333 4 роки тому

      @@ilovemydog3542 I guess so...are you on Instagram or FB?

    • @ilovemydog3542
      @ilovemydog3542 4 роки тому

      David John Paul Instagram

    • @davidjohnpaul333
      @davidjohnpaul333 4 роки тому

      @@ilovemydog3542 Find me on Instagram..David John Paul....same photo, you can't miss it..

    • @tanum7158
      @tanum7158 4 роки тому

      Extra Marital Affairs, Why People fall in Love
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  • @yaanaxtha6945
    @yaanaxtha6945 5 років тому +9

    I always found myself motivated whenever I see your videos

  • @duneece
    @duneece 7 років тому +29

    It's hard to find "the one". But I won't give up!

  • @greenblood64
    @greenblood64 5 років тому +4

    Someone who loves you for exactly who you are and does not try to change you.
    Trust.
    Loyalty.
    Sense of humor.

  • @linelamothe8727
    @linelamothe8727 4 роки тому +8

    You have a mutual respect and understanding for each other's boundaries. And he says "Say what is on your mind, we're in this together".

    • @ilovemydog3542
      @ilovemydog3542 4 роки тому +1

      Line Lamothe I really appreciate this

    • @linelamothe8727
      @linelamothe8727 4 роки тому

      @@ilovemydog3542 Thank you. That really means a lot.

    • @ilovemydog3542
      @ilovemydog3542 4 роки тому +1

      Line Lamothe can I be your friend

    • @linelamothe8727
      @linelamothe8727 4 роки тому

      @@ilovemydog3542 Absolutely!

    • @ilovemydog3542
      @ilovemydog3542 4 роки тому

      Line Lamothe chat me on hangout ilovemydog466@gmail.com

  • @umaruaru7271
    @umaruaru7271 6 років тому +139

    My girl said she doesn't care I watch anime and read mangas and she said its kinda attractive on how I managed to be truth to myself by doing what i love even though people surrounding me ridiculed and belittled my interest on something, from when i was a 8 y/o toddler up until now (21), that moment when she said that i knew, she's the one and then started dating for a few years but....unfortunately she died from cancer few months ago.

    • @highmaple75
      @highmaple75 6 років тому +4

      Mr Songsong Well.. I’m sorry for that, but shit happens. Hope you can find a better one in the future 💪

    • @ellie2041
      @ellie2041 6 років тому +5

      Mr Songsong I hope you find peace and maybe love with another person if she loved you as much as you loved her I believe she’d want that for you and I wish you the best.

    • @jenkobruski3183
      @jenkobruski3183 6 років тому +4

      I'm sorry man. Good things are coming your way. Don't worry

    • @vsboardza
      @vsboardza 5 років тому +1

      Oh I'm sorry❤️

    • @mizzyuk8697
      @mizzyuk8697 5 років тому +3

      Oh man... Didn't expect that... Hope you're okay. Stay strong friend.

  • @kimhorne-fortner3938
    @kimhorne-fortner3938 4 роки тому +5

    Love finds you. Mind did at work 39 years ago. My best friend and love of my life. He passed 5 years ago. But I feel lucky to have had him in my life and hope others find what I was lucky to have.

  • @carotari4491
    @carotari4491 5 років тому +5

    Whenever I feel lonely and discouraged I always found myself watching you on UA-cam

  • @afrinchaugule2065
    @afrinchaugule2065 4 роки тому

    Your words.... They make sense... I believe that comes when you truly mean them... Thanks for sharing it with us...

    • @wealthlibrary
      @wealthlibrary 4 роки тому

      love you self ua-cam.com/video/DueEAH0Oq7w/v-deo.html bless the year

  • @Supernova-iz2qo
    @Supernova-iz2qo 5 років тому +121

    Love just happens dont make it complicated
    Just be careful with obsessions
    Obsession has nothing to do with love!

    • @wondercortney
      @wondercortney 5 років тому

      This is great!

    • @ivywang416
      @ivywang416 5 років тому

      agree

    • @tokn6114
      @tokn6114 5 років тому

      Agreeedd

    • @letisand3689
      @letisand3689 4 роки тому

      This is really great. ..

    • @shyamaliroy4081
      @shyamaliroy4081 4 роки тому

      Tough to make a difference early in a relationship. By the time you realise the difference the damage already done

  • @aliyabarter
    @aliyabarter 6 років тому +48

    Jey , all of the things you said above . They are all true ! So thank you for another lovely truthful and wise video ! Love watching it !
    I knew I found the one , almost instantly , from the moment he walked through the doors. Like in movies !
    I was in hospital for 2 days and - He was the last doctor to see me. He was like my angel . And from the moment I saw him I felt something small like fire , butterflies
    I took a risk and in the last minute gave him my number . And from there on we never stopped talking every day , and I knew after one week , he is the one . Like all the things that you say , they enhance you , they respect you , they make you grow , they mentally challenge you but also make you laugh when you are annoyed and irritated and kiss you to make you feel calm again. Be with you in the moment and know how to be silly and make fun with you , but also know how to be vulnerable and talk deep with you / cry with you .talking about the bad as much as you talk about 5e good ! When they are exited about life as much as you are , and you find it irresistible to be around them , and literally can’t stop smiling feeling the butterflies ! But also know how to be quite and do your own thing and come back even more exited about him. And every day it gets stronger and stronger !
    It just feels like you can be 100% yourself with them and they are with you , and like you found a reflection of you , but still very different from you ... like YING AND YANG
    Love your videos ! Never stop being your beautiful self !

    • @LevityBrevity
      @LevityBrevity 6 років тому +2

      Trust earned. Be wary time tells all. A lot of doctors are narcs/egomaniacal not all. But some. Time tells all.

    • @aliyabarter
      @aliyabarter 6 років тому

      @@LevityBrevity you are right. Time tells all .
      Have you had experiences with doctors ? Any warnings to look for ?

    • @LevityBrevity
      @LevityBrevity 6 років тому +1

      @@aliyabarter trust your instincts! I work at a group practice so yes I have tons of contact with doctors. Narcs are so charming at first it can be difficult to tell if you're dealing with one. Just be observant, you'll know if something is amiss. The key is to not talk yourself out of it if alarm bells ring from deep within. It's all good love. Relax and enjoy this lovely time, let him earn your trust. You're worth it 💓

    • @RegumRai
      @RegumRai 6 років тому

      only one week? thats was quick. Took me a year

  • @royalveofficial
    @royalveofficial 5 років тому +127

    Last point: you have to be attracted to them? Otherwise they’re just your bestie

  • @amayapadilla_
    @amayapadilla_ 2 роки тому

    When you find the one you just know and your love for them is constantly growing and expanding

  • @MariCornell
    @MariCornell 2 роки тому +4

    I think love is simple. In the beginning. The more time it has to grow and develop, it becomes complex and beautiful.

  • @Rugratt_
    @Rugratt_ 7 років тому +6

    🤣🤣🤣🤣 I loved it all.. couldn't stop smiling and nodding my head and agreeing literally on everything you've said because that's exactly how I feel. It's very true.. and when having a disagreement or discussing its def. About understanding each other and having an open mind.. loved it all thank you!!

  • @distant4eva101
    @distant4eva101 5 років тому +29

    When he said they respect your dreams,
    Am I the only one that thought of Princess and the frog?

  • @gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489
    @gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489 2 роки тому +1

    One who has good heart is the sweetest heart making life sweet forever.

  • @lemiemonteverde6400
    @lemiemonteverde6400 5 років тому +4

    You found the one when connection and feeling inseparable.they never leave you in every steps of the way.

  • @vaishalivaidya7978
    @vaishalivaidya7978 2 роки тому +6

    True...someone who is as interested and invested in your growth as their's. Someone who doesnt require you to make them.feel complete or vice versa bcoz then its just a void thats devoid of Self Love. Trust with vulnerability is so so essential...and yes its earned and built with time. Agreeing to disagree on some aspects is equally important. Most importantly one needs to be in peace, experience peacefulness most days with the other person.

  • @kiz-ichooselovenotfear5106
    @kiz-ichooselovenotfear5106 6 років тому +10

    Your idea of trust levels is what I call the shelf pyramid. A few if not a single person at the top whom you trust without question & so on down through the layers. I like your points and would only add, I think "the one" is the person who you feel utterly safe with. Safe in terms of expression, emotions, truth, dreaming, goals, support, reliability, personal growth & changes, etc. You just *know* they have your back no matter what. Also, I think "the one" is a person who actively seeks to bring you closer to your true self & is open to receiving guidance from you in return. I think that's the one point that's the clincher for me: my partner & I are committed to gaining self-awareness and self-healing and despite the changes we have undergone through this everlasting process we are still, in fact, probably more so than ever, 100% committed to each other. When someone is *real* and not pretentious, they will inevitably change as they evolve, and "the one" will be by your side throughout this, no question. I feel really lucky to have found "the one" - not that I was looking 😊 (I was walking along a footpath once and my shoe broke. Kneeling down trying to fix it I glanced up and there he was... He asked me "are you ok?" AND THE REST IS HISTORY 🤗☺

  • @sashapaule7372
    @sashapaule7372 4 роки тому +1

    It is just super how you really give details on what you have seen about each category, and most of all, you make us see the slit differences of each, and on what we actually mistake.

  • @christian8657
    @christian8657 5 років тому +11

    Finding the one takes time.
    People thing they know they’ve found the one instantly
    But it is realised overtime

  • @TECHTalker619
    @TECHTalker619 4 роки тому +16

    'You don't have to find love, love finds you'
    Someone.

    • @wealthlibrary
      @wealthlibrary 4 роки тому

      love you self ua-cam.com/video/DueEAH0Oq7w/v-deo.html bless the year

    • @aaronpanachikal7546
      @aaronpanachikal7546 3 роки тому

      No way,it doesn't work for me

  • @jennifercurzi4440
    @jennifercurzi4440 4 роки тому +72

    I am fortunate that I have found “the one” 💓- I am from Australia and my boyfriend was born in Estonia and we live in Australia together. We were friends first and fell in love accidentally!
    For us, we both acknowledge our differences and embrace it as there is so much to learn from each other 🙂🙂
    We are each other’s biggest cheerleaders and always support and respect each other’s dreams and goals - no matter what! I want to see him succeed and be his best and he wants the same for me. We talk to each other and find solutions rather than fight.
    We are both constantly working on our individual self growth and learning each other’s love languages and still growing and learning more each day and it’s so fun and exciting 🥰
    We definitely don’t always agree but that’s ok... we love that lol
    Thanks Jay!! I appreciate all you do and i’m so grateful that you keep sharing these videos 🙏🙏☺️

    • @PRIYAJAY-SHETTY
      @PRIYAJAY-SHETTY 4 роки тому

      MUJHE JAY JI SE PYAR HAI🙏💯💐💐🙏🙏💝💝💥💖💖💓💓😍💕💕❣️🌹🌷😘💞😇

    • @greatnesskpuke9948
      @greatnesskpuke9948 4 роки тому

      Hello Jennifer

  • @jillwylie6767
    @jillwylie6767 3 роки тому +2

    A perfect relationship is Love Trust and Respect in it . They do 💗

  • @sahilgangwar3687
    @sahilgangwar3687 7 років тому +186

    Hey Jay ..it's Sahil here.. and let me tell your content is just.. best !

  • @jillyoung1282
    @jillyoung1282 6 років тому +6

    I agree! Love listening to your videos. They’re meaningful, make me think on a deeper level, and fun. Thank you for your hard work.

  • @Nadiahope7
    @Nadiahope7 5 років тому +4

    This is really good once you get into the top 10. The biggest thing I've found is I feel inner peace with my partner, I'm ok with is being apart as I know we're both completely on the same page as each other.

  • @zin82e98
    @zin82e98 4 роки тому +2

    It is so hard for me to accept our differences. Thanks for saying it’s unlikely to find someone who agrees with you on everything. I really need to wrap my head around that it’s okay we’re different.

  • @sheilatischler2197
    @sheilatischler2197 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you for sharing these tips Jay.
    It is very level-headed advise. There is no such thing as perfection and we can't expect another human being to be responsible to "complete us." If two healthy, responsible, mature people are fortunate to find each other, just keep individually growing and encourage your partner in their growth as well and let life lead the way. ♥️

  • @hehe2819
    @hehe2819 5 років тому +132

    And if the one hurts you continuously then he/she is not the one.

  • @justbrowsing8162
    @justbrowsing8162 5 років тому +210

    There is something about Jay Shetty, he is very attractive...When I first laid eyes on him, I thought he was "the one"!

    • @corneliacraciun5784
      @corneliacraciun5784 5 років тому +26

      He's married and although a person might be attractive (physically, mentally) it will not work anyway if you don't know how to love yourself first, be independent and then love and support that one person unconditionally.

    • @MandySam13
      @MandySam13 5 років тому +16

      Just Browsing Jay is married! :) But you’re right he is very attractive. Not just to look at, but his personality and what he stands for!

    • @leahsimiyu3042
      @leahsimiyu3042 5 років тому +5

      😂😂😂😂this is literally funny.

    • @easterjamir7420
      @easterjamir7420 5 років тому

      @@corneliacraciun5784 yesyessssss

    • @julietflores4279
      @julietflores4279 5 років тому

      😄😄😄

  • @lycaluriaga548
    @lycaluriaga548 4 роки тому +1

    We are so grateful that we have you in YT channel,so interesting❤️

  • @HL-yb6jt
    @HL-yb6jt 6 років тому +255

    Idk...I was 17y when I meet the love of my life. we started dating when I was 18y he was 22 we got married a year later.. now 18y later we still going strong!! Anyway I believe we start with nothing...we were just kids...after my 2 beautiful girls was born..he encourage me to go back to school..I became a nurse... I work really hard for 4y so my husband can go back to school...we made each other grow as individuals! Of course nothing is perfect!! But he is my one and only.. n he said “I’m his end n his beginning” Lol I don’t need a man to take care of me! We both are financially independent! Lol we both are kinda attractive ppl...😊n he is smart n kind.. I’m sure if I let him go any girl will snatch him away 😜

    • @yasmintuuhe
      @yasmintuuhe 6 років тому +12

      H L then don’t let him go 🤣🤣🙏 god bless your family

    • @raiyaanhusain3529
      @raiyaanhusain3529 5 років тому +3

      WAO that's beautiful

    • @creatorsgroup7337
      @creatorsgroup7337 5 років тому +4

      Thts nice happy to know a successful love story in which both have their individual identity too..good luck guys may god gift u many more such amazing years together 😊

    • @MagicWandsTarot
      @MagicWandsTarot 5 років тому +1

      H L yay congratulations 🥰🥰

    • @scarletheart2766
      @scarletheart2766 5 років тому +1

      That’s a successful and sweet love story of you two. Don’t ever let him go and May god bless the two of you😊😊. We people on YT don’t know each other but reading your comment made me happy and while I was reading I was like’ this is so sweet😍’ .
      I have never been in any relationships but love stories really fascinate me.

  • @waldensiansylph4869
    @waldensiansylph4869 5 років тому +8

    Everyone, just be perfect! Is that so hard? lol. Kidding, obviously. Very good vid! You're right, there's so much advice out there.
    I know this elderly couple at church (60 yrs married), Helen and John, beautiful people, they live in the country, have their children (all professionals, down-to-earth) and grandchildren (all in college) surrounding them during gatherings. We sometimes go out to eat, or they invite me to their house and I ask, how do they make a marriage last, what's the secret?
    But I never asked how they met- the granddaughter recently told me: convenience. Back then, if you weren't married by a certain age, you knew it was time, and they were both compatible and their family approved.
    I think in a way, we could use a little bit more of that in our culture. And you work it out with the person you choose. You can fall in love/ infatuation with almost anyone, just spend alone time and share your feelings, there's bound to be a connection (that's why you stay more reserved when you're married, unless you want to risk trouble). But to have a meaningful life and connection, there's nothing like sharing a similar lifestyle in compatibility- the love grows, is consistent, stronger than any infatuation could ever last. Maybe we've lost something. So much good advice out there, but really there's no blueprint, just principles.
    "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Cor 13
    If Both people are pretty much those things when you insert their name there, you can work things out through life. Remember, no one is perfect, but if you strive for what is right, it will be beautiful.

  • @michaelschneider1351
    @michaelschneider1351 5 років тому +26

    Basically you are saying: you can be together with anyone who knows how fulfilling relationships work

  • @reinettesteynberg8432
    @reinettesteynberg8432 4 роки тому

    Agree 100% with him... Need to be supportive . Respect each others dreams ... and the rest of it...It comes naturally to want to be of value for the one person we love.. I love you .. Great video clip Thank you