I’m starting hormones on Monday, which I thought I would never do, last night I told my sister and my mother about me and that something I thought I would never do
Please check out some stories from people that went ahead with it and suffered gravely from it, so they detransitioned. It is not all sunshine. There are pros and cons, and I find that these people never ask you to consider the cons.
Thank you for all your wonderful support. Your an amazing soul. I’m 61 years old and had breast surgery two months ago and GRS only three weeks ago! Only three years ago I swore I would never come out as transgender. I didn’t think that I was brave enough to live openly as a transgender woman and there was no way I would endure the cost or pain of transitioning! I’m happier now than I’ve ever felt before. Finally my body and my mind are at peace.
I've been on a 2 year deep dive into my gender identity and just recently discovered that I am autistic and have ADHD as well. I really thought my only issue was gender dysphoria but the social anxiety and other symptoms were too much to just be GD. Now I feel like I'm on the right track. But I need to be dealing with the other issues first because I believe they hold me back from moving forward in my gender transition. It's like everything is filtered through autism and ADHD. I got hit with a triple whammy!
I think one of the takeaways this episode is that it is possible to be your own therapist in a way. Now, hear me out... You are a psychologist, so you know how to help others. In deciding to get your veneers, you helped yourself. In order to do that, you had to "go outside" yourself. You had to analyse yourself from the perspective of a third person. If somebody cannot afford therapy, or for any other reason cannot attend therapy, I think a useful technique for them could be to ask themselves a slightly different question to the one that you asked yourself. You said, "If this was a patient of mine, how would I counsel them?" (in essence, anyway); Most people won't have the expertise to ask that, but they could ask themselves, "If this was a close friend of mine, how would I counsel them?" I bet they would arrive at the same answer! I haven't planned to do anything for myself today; I think I'm going to rest. I've spent a week looking into electronic wind instruments and I decided to buy one specific model after quite a lot of research. There are a lot of such instruments on the market, and they are all different. I take ages to make decisions such as these because I want to make the right decision for me! I'll probably do some variant Sudokus today; I enjoy such challenges.
Holy Cow! : ) I was praying for help to understand and I returned to your UA-cam Channel, found this podcast, and am so glad I did. I also ordered a book by a lama on keeping your heart open through all, my gift to myself. I loved hearing your voice like this, and it helped me make it personal. Oh, my god, thank you, Dr. ZA. Marta
So excited to join you on this journey! Thank you for all you do! I’m so happy this podcast gives you a place to be so personal about your story and experience
Thank you for this!! I literally just had a therapy session talking all about my core beliefs of not being deserving of good things. This episode was great confirmation of how much work I need to do. Thank you!!
i am so so happy that you started a podcast!!! I need that Dr. Z in my life, and a podcast helps with making sure I can streamline getting information easier.
This goes for any health issues. The long term costs of ignoring them can be immeasurable. Throughout my life I've had numerous health problems I decided to just tough out. This always comes back later to bite you, and these problems can accumulate and exacerbate each other. Take wisdom tooth surgery for example. If you put that off for too long, it can cause damage to your other teeth, infections, and a lot more pain, and it becomes much harder to remove them later on. The adage about prevention vs. cure is true.
1. Have you ever seen Repo: The Genetic Opera? In this campy sci-fi horror musical they reposess organs if people cannot pay. 2. Thank yoy for your content as always. In a future episode Could you offer some ideas to aid in self care that might be gender affirming that don't cost money? Many of us in the trans community are unemployed. 3. I have a gender affirming surgery consult in December!
Soooo, does valuing yourself and your health not mean that you should accept yourself? And doesn't accepting yourself mean not hacking off body parts and taking dangerous drugs to make you feel as though you *can* accept yourself? The stench of irony here is too overpowering.
Actually my way of seeing this, is if you are transgender, that part of yourself is the part of yourself that is most likely repressed and unaccepted. Sometimes, the process of transitioning is part of the path of self acceptance for some, and is not for others. Even if you wish to fully accept yourself as you are, perhaps, not always, you might be fighting the natural part within yourself that would like to express who you are. In addition to this, as I stated, every individual is different, and transitioning does not always involve 'hacking' away parts of your body as you put it :/
Hi. I am sorry to hear that empathy for those who struggle with gender dysphoria is something you have not yet mastered. Part of valuing oneself is also about being a person who doesn’t judge others or casts righteous remarks. I wish you all the best.
@@DRZPHD I can see why you would say I haven't mastered empathy, and you wouldn't be incorrect, but I do have empathy. I lived in Palm Springs for several years before the transgender movement became what it is today. I knew many trans people there, and we got along great. But things have been taken out to the deep end in the last 5 or 6 years. We have to pretend that a trans woman is just as much a woman as an actual woman. If that were true, removing their male genitalia and replacing it with a wound that has to actively be kept open and calling it a vagina wouldn't be necessary. I feel for these people and I wish them the best in their journey. Its actually my empathy for them that is the reason why I don't want to see them sucked into the lie that they can become a real woman or vice versa. You are not a real woman just because you feel more like a woman on the inside. To say otherwise is a symptom of having contracted the virus of the mind that is a pandemic among our culture today. You cannot change your gender, and you especially cannot change your sex. I am sick of the lies, I am sick of the suicide and the anger thrown at the tens of thousands of detransitioners, and I am sick of the lies trickling down to our children and causing them to destroy their bodies with hormones, puberty blockers or worse. The trans culture used to be people struggling with gender dysphoria. Now it is an unhinged political movement hellbent on destroying the fabric of society.
I guess your against commonly accepted surgery such as: breast surgery, face lift, nose surgery, lip plumping, or liposuction, vasectomy, tube ligation. How about changes to one's appearances like tanning, waxing, or make up and nails. I suppose you're also against wigs and other hair surgery. Also, any medication can be dangerous if properly not taken correctly, while transgender hormones are doctor prescribed and regulated. And the fact that you refer to GRS or SRS as hacking off body parts really shows your ignorance of the medical procedures involved. No one needs your hate. Let people live their lives, no is asking or forcing you to accept it. 💞
@philycia1220 To equate fashion and medically necessary procedures with elective procedures is such a falsehood. If an adult wants to have a sex change, go right ahead. No hate here. But pets not pretend it's an actual change of gender. If gender truly had nothing to do with sex, nobody would feel the need to have the operation. As for hormones, let's also not pretend that people aren't getting cancer and all kinds of other issues from them. Where you'll see hate from me is when you give puberty blockers to children. That's sick and twisted. The real hatred comes when these people realize their mistakes and detransition, or when somebody dares to speak the truth that a so called "sex change" cannot change a man to a woman or vice versa. I will not refer to a man that has remove his sex organs and replaced it with a permanent wound that must be stretched and lubricated to keep it from closing. That's a man with gender dysphoria. Saying that is when you'll see the real hate come out. And it's not from my camp.
I am going to allow myself 30 min to have a cup of tea and some Oreos and play Donkey Kong Country in my game room before I commence the evening’s many chores 😌
I struggle with this myself. My suppressed feelings really punish my sense of self. Thank you so much Dr. Z. When I listen and watch it feels like we are in the same room and that I am finally visiting with someone who knows what I am dealing with.
I’m starting hormones on Monday, which I thought I would never do, last night I told my sister and my mother about me and that something I thought I would never do
Glad you did. Hope it felt great to finally open up.
Awesome ❤
Please check out some stories from people that went ahead with it and suffered gravely from it, so they detransitioned. It is not all sunshine. There are pros and cons, and I find that these people never ask you to consider the cons.
@@BureauATF i already have some cons, im separating from my wife of 23 years, and moving into an apartment.
@@Brian.8272 Is the separation a result of the transition? Are there children involved?
Thank you for all your wonderful support. Your an amazing soul.
I’m 61 years old and had breast surgery two months ago and GRS only three weeks ago! Only three years ago I swore I would never come out as transgender. I didn’t think that I was brave enough to live openly as a transgender woman and there was no way I would endure the cost or pain of transitioning!
I’m happier now than I’ve ever felt before. Finally my body and my mind are at peace.
Congratulations!!!!
I've been on a 2 year deep dive into my gender identity and just recently discovered that I am autistic and have ADHD as well. I really thought my only issue was gender dysphoria but the social anxiety and other symptoms were too much to just be GD. Now I feel like I'm on the right track. But I need to be dealing with the other issues first because I believe they hold me back from moving forward in my gender transition. It's like everything is filtered through autism and ADHD. I got hit with a triple whammy!
Sending you a big hug!
For most of my life, I haven't valued myself at all.
It's been a challenge to overcome that.
So I'm glad this is your first topic.
Brilliant thankyou
I think one of the takeaways this episode is that it is possible to be your own therapist in a way. Now, hear me out...
You are a psychologist, so you know how to help others. In deciding to get your veneers, you helped yourself.
In order to do that, you had to "go outside" yourself. You had to analyse yourself from the perspective of a third person.
If somebody cannot afford therapy, or for any other reason cannot attend therapy, I think a useful technique for them could be to ask themselves a slightly different question to the one that you asked yourself. You said, "If this was a patient of mine, how would I counsel them?" (in essence, anyway); Most people won't have the expertise to ask that, but they could ask themselves, "If this was a close friend of mine, how would I counsel them?"
I bet they would arrive at the same answer!
I haven't planned to do anything for myself today; I think I'm going to rest. I've spent a week looking into electronic wind instruments and I decided to buy one specific model after quite a lot of research. There are a lot of such instruments on the market, and they are all different. I take ages to make decisions such as these because I want to make the right decision for me! I'll probably do some variant Sudokus today; I enjoy such challenges.
💯 agree and think often we are our best therapists if we take time to introspect.
I wish there was a Dr. Z for ftm folks. Amazing info all around!
Hi, I cover a lot of trans masculine subjects, see playlist, as well as a lot of subjets on dysphoria that affect all genders.
Holy Cow! : ) I was praying for help to understand and I returned to your UA-cam Channel, found this podcast, and am so glad I did. I also ordered a book by a lama on keeping your heart open through all, my gift to myself. I loved hearing your voice like this, and it helped me make it personal. Oh, my god, thank you, Dr. ZA. Marta
Welcome back!
So excited to join you on this journey! Thank you for all you do! I’m so happy this podcast gives you a place to be so personal about your story and experience
Thank you and thanks for being here.
Dr Z. Thank you again for your content. I needed this boost today.
Thank you for this!! I literally just had a therapy session talking all about my core beliefs of not being deserving of good things. This episode was great confirmation of how much work I need to do. Thank you!!
i am so so happy that you started a podcast!!! I need that Dr. Z in my life, and a podcast helps with making sure I can streamline getting information easier.
I'm so glad!
YOIOOOO OOAO this is so cool!!!! New format slaps!!!! Thank you for the effort you put into your youtube videos. You are a life saver
I'm in with the women's pact
This goes for any health issues. The long term costs of ignoring them can be immeasurable. Throughout my life I've had numerous health problems I decided to just tough out. This always comes back later to bite you, and these problems can accumulate and exacerbate each other. Take wisdom tooth surgery for example. If you put that off for too long, it can cause damage to your other teeth, infections, and a lot more pain, and it becomes much harder to remove them later on. The adage about prevention vs. cure is true.
I don't know if this counts, but my Shih Tzu likes to be picked up, and just for myself, I hug her when I do.
Great topic, thanks
Pumpkin spice lattes are good ❤thank you Dr Z love your pod cast
Love the content. 💞
Thank you so much for such supportung, warm and wise words☺💙 I love this new podcast formate of video so much
Mmmm podcast😮 hehe i kinda already listened to your videos as if they are a podcast.
Think you'll find tempo more soothing and more personal than in videos.
1. Have you ever seen Repo: The Genetic Opera? In this campy sci-fi horror musical they reposess organs if people cannot pay.
2. Thank yoy for your content as always. In a future episode Could you offer some ideas to aid in self care that might be gender affirming that don't cost money? Many of us in the trans community are unemployed.
3. I have a gender affirming surgery consult in December!
Love the new format Dr. Z... looking forward to many more... 💕
Beautiful Cat 😻🔥
Soooo, does valuing yourself and your health not mean that you should accept yourself? And doesn't accepting yourself mean not hacking off body parts and taking dangerous drugs to make you feel as though you *can* accept yourself? The stench of irony here is too overpowering.
Actually my way of seeing this, is if you are transgender, that part of yourself is the part of yourself that is most likely repressed and unaccepted. Sometimes, the process of transitioning is part of the path of self acceptance for some, and is not for others. Even if you wish to fully accept yourself as you are, perhaps, not always, you might be fighting the natural part within yourself that would like to express who you are. In addition to this, as I stated, every individual is different, and transitioning does not always involve 'hacking' away parts of your body as you put it :/
Hi. I am sorry to hear that empathy for those who struggle with gender dysphoria is something you have not yet mastered. Part of valuing oneself is also about being a person who doesn’t judge others or casts righteous remarks. I wish you all the best.
@@DRZPHD I can see why you would say I haven't mastered empathy, and you wouldn't be incorrect, but I do have empathy. I lived in Palm Springs for several years before the transgender movement became what it is today. I knew many trans people there, and we got along great. But things have been taken out to the deep end in the last 5 or 6 years. We have to pretend that a trans woman is just as much a woman as an actual woman. If that were true, removing their male genitalia and replacing it with a wound that has to actively be kept open and calling it a vagina wouldn't be necessary. I feel for these people and I wish them the best in their journey. Its actually my empathy for them that is the reason why I don't want to see them sucked into the lie that they can become a real woman or vice versa. You are not a real woman just because you feel more like a woman on the inside. To say otherwise is a symptom of having contracted the virus of the mind that is a pandemic among our culture today. You cannot change your gender, and you especially cannot change your sex. I am sick of the lies, I am sick of the suicide and the anger thrown at the tens of thousands of detransitioners, and I am sick of the lies trickling down to our children and causing them to destroy their bodies with hormones, puberty blockers or worse. The trans culture used to be people struggling with gender dysphoria. Now it is an unhinged political movement hellbent on destroying the fabric of society.
I guess your against commonly accepted surgery such as: breast surgery, face lift, nose surgery, lip plumping, or liposuction, vasectomy, tube ligation. How about changes to one's appearances like tanning, waxing, or make up and nails. I suppose you're also against wigs and other hair surgery. Also, any medication can be dangerous if properly not taken correctly, while transgender hormones are doctor prescribed and regulated. And the fact that you refer to GRS or SRS as hacking off body parts really shows your ignorance of the medical procedures involved. No one needs your hate. Let people live their lives, no is asking or forcing you to accept it. 💞
@philycia1220 To equate fashion and medically necessary procedures with elective procedures is such a falsehood. If an adult wants to have a sex change, go right ahead. No hate here. But pets not pretend it's an actual change of gender. If gender truly had nothing to do with sex, nobody would feel the need to have the operation. As for hormones, let's also not pretend that people aren't getting cancer and all kinds of other issues from them. Where you'll see hate from me is when you give puberty blockers to children. That's sick and twisted. The real hatred comes when these people realize their mistakes and detransition, or when somebody dares to speak the truth that a so called "sex change" cannot change a man to a woman or vice versa. I will not refer to a man that has remove his sex organs and replaced it with a permanent wound that must be stretched and lubricated to keep it from closing. That's a man with gender dysphoria. Saying that is when you'll see the real hate come out. And it's not from my camp.
💕💕💕
Another first 🎉
Thank you Jen! Good to see you.
I am going to allow myself 30 min to have a cup of tea and some Oreos and play Donkey Kong Country in my game room before I commence the evening’s many chores 😌
Love!!!!!!!
I struggle with this myself. My suppressed feelings really punish my sense of self. Thank you so much Dr. Z. When I listen and watch it feels like we are in the same room and that I am finally visiting with someone who knows what I am dealing with.
Ohh so hear you on feelings and glad the podcast feels private.
This one really hits home for me! Thanks Dr. Z!