maybe she is right. I think there are lots of burdens as an woman how to manage her career and how she is supposed to be perceived. girls grew up being told "be nice", but no one move up to the C-suite by playing nice. So, the general perception of being nice is rooted in everyone's perception. sure. is it still very chauvinistic in Taiwan? I don't know. but women can't afford being nice at this moment when men are struggling with the problem of "working poor" at work place. a lot of these problematic issues are rooted in how you are raised and what voices you have listened to. but, I like her analogy at the beginning. :-)
Being told to behave more manly and more womanly hurts both parties. here, the dr. is helping us to focus honestly on our own needs to soften the dissonance within. no matter how you are raised and what voices are around you, the act of growing up is allowing your own voice to come forth. you can always afford to be nice to yourself and express your true needs freely without judging yourself or the other person for trying to help or not help ;)
太精闢了！受益良多～ 謝謝整理！
感謝你唷，現在才明白自己也是一個愛逞強的人，而吸引到的女人也愛逞強，最後没結果……
Love Dr. Deng, she speaks the TRUTH all the time...damn I need someone with her level of understanding and wisdom in my life.
思考人性!!!好中肯壓~~~~感謝
鄧醫師真的太漂亮了
難得 荒謬大師錄節目這麼安靜 ....
這樣說……那有沒有逞強的男人……明知對方不適合自己的對象，也去娶？！
那人.......不論男女,在人一生裡,總有會逞強的時候吧!
男人其实特别简单，你需要什么，就稍微直接一点地告诉他。其实他就更容易理解了
那我的"外殼",算不算很逞強呢？！
又算是,又不算是。
但照鄧醫師說的,又還沒到那個程度。
但要我真的去找,一個非常照顧我的男人.......那個非常照顧我,那個感覺會讓我聯想到他是想要控制我........我家人就是長期都利用"照顧"我做幌子來控制我,我長大後才發現耶！
所以……在不知情或旳確碰上“不肯定因素”的話，而做下的決定，應該就不算叫做“逞強”了吧！
看來……是否“心甘情願”，就很關鍵了！就不會一邊逞強，又一邊罵……因為這樣做和這樣想的人，肯定懂啥是“後果自負”的啦！
maybe she is right. I think there are lots of burdens as an woman how to manage her career and how she is supposed to be perceived. girls grew up being told "be nice", but no one move up to the C-suite by playing nice. So, the general perception of being nice is rooted in everyone's perception. sure. is it still very chauvinistic in Taiwan? I don't know. but women can't afford being nice at this moment when men are struggling with the problem of "working poor" at work place.
a lot of these problematic issues are rooted in how you are raised and what voices you have listened to. but, I like her analogy at the beginning. :-)
Being told to behave more manly and more womanly hurts both parties. here, the dr. is helping us to focus honestly on our own needs to soften the dissonance within. no matter how you are raised and what voices are around you, the act of growing up is allowing your own voice to come forth. you can always afford to be nice to yourself and express your true needs freely without judging yourself or the other person for trying to help or not help ;)
我是努力。
但應該還不致於逞強吧？！
.......或許有一點點吧！
是不會不願意或是不懂?!